"Unoffendable"....my daughter loaned it to me a year ago and am finally reading it. I need everyone, everywhere to read it!!! It will change your life and you will want everyone's lives to be changed too.❤️
Hard to work against human nature? No way and no need, Brother. According to my Romanian Bible from Romans 6:6 “we know that OUR OLD SELF WAS CRUCIFIED WITH HIM so that the body ruled by sin might be DONE AWAY WITH” - Halleluiah! And this is in a such a way “that we no longer should live the rest of his time in the flesh” (1 Peter 4:2). We can’t “work against our human nature to take offense and hold grudges”. But in stead we must accept our death with Christ that we can live with Christ (Romans 6:7-8). But nevertheless, I love and respect immensely your love for Christ and living with Him and for Him.
This wonderful talk is more relevant now than ever. Almost four years have passed since Mr. Hansen spoke these words (right before the 2016 election). Since then, our country has increasingly been torn apart by rage and ravaged by the absence of forgiveness. Our hearts have increasingly closed to each other. Indeed, injustice must be fought, now more than ever--but what state of mind are we bringing to our activism? Divisiveness and "righteous anger" reign and Mr. Hansen is correct that they are not vanquishing injustice. If we allow compassion and forgiveness to inform our actions, they were be that much more powerful and will bring peace rather than divisiveness. As Martin Luther King said, "Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that."
I dont mean to be so offtopic but does anybody know of a method to log back into an Instagram account..? I somehow forgot my login password. I appreciate any help you can give me.
@Carson Alijah i really appreciate your reply. I got to the site through google and I'm waiting for the hacking stuff atm. Looks like it's gonna take quite some time so I will get back to you later when my account password hopefully is recovered.
I just wanted to say that I listen to your radio show every morning on my way to work. It usually makes me laugh. You are awesome. I just thought I'd let you know. You and Sherry are a great team.
This is speaking to me, my neighbourhood is a mess now, little did I know my neighbours were holding grudges against me since I was a teenager running around. And it all exploded in a violent action. Now I’m living with constant tension and cannot sleep. I’m going to move. But I’m definitely gonna have a better outlook in my new neighborhood. I still have thoughts all the time of getting revenge on my neighbors. But my life is too short and too great to let them into it again
my goodness. This guy is the first I've heard anyone mention Robert Sapolsky - Stress Portrait of a killer. Watch it. We are wonderfully and fearfully made.
Hatred is the absence of Love. In the presence of Love hatred is extinguished. At the same time I think its ok to be angry, so long as we work through the reasons why and then bring it to a positive conclusion (one which I think must, at the very least, include something about forgiveness) and then move on. And we will be stronger for it. Else remaining angry with the faults of another, is to revenge their faults upon ourself.
While I realize that Hansen's message here was not targeted at Christians, I don't consider the Scriptural commands he cited here to be a "theory". Oh, BTW, last year, Hansen's wife was attacked. He forgave. To my shame, I say that there's no way that I could have done that.
Angers been very hard for me to deal with for sure and it's destroyed my life. However, because I cant forgive myself I can't forgive others. I can't forgive the people who took everything from me. I believe they call themselves Christians. They call themselves righteous. They act on assumptions with no proof. They look at my past and prey on my mistakes. How can people not be angry in this world when cruelty is thier happiness.
Unless you first accept God's free gift of forgiveness of you and all your faults then you won't have the power to forgive others. John 3:16 God so loved the world that he gave his only son so that whoever believes in him will not perish but have eternal life I have struggled with this topic too and I have only overcame the anger bitterness etc until I realized how much God has forgiven me and then also realizing God is I control and he is the final judge and not me. My anger is not righteous. God's is. I'll leave the anger up to God and just be thankful he has had and continues to have mercy on my soul.
@@petesbees so when will God forgive me? Him letting me be homeless is not forgiveness and it's not mercy either... it's wrath and frankly if God can't be an example and he allows Christians to be the way they are towards me then I can't see why a person I should forgive either. I don't have to. God gave choice as a free gift and I'll serve him like he treats me. I am a believer but God is cruel.
@@travisdevoid535 Is God cruel or the world we live in? The same world that nailed Jesus to the cross, when he was never found guilty of any wrongdoing? “In this world you will have trouble, but take heart, because I have overcome the world”. Everyone will experience horrible things in this world, but Jesus experienced worse on the cross, for us to experience unimaginable love. God bless you.
@@travisdevoid535 You say you are a believer so I'll assume you'll consider this: When we are born, our Creator God bestows each one of us with five gifts. Each of us, no matter what race, color, social status, etc. -- we all start out with the same gifts, which are Life, Free-will, Grace, Mercy, and Time. What most of us fail to grasp is that these gifts are not for our own consumption. They are only manifest in our lives once we are of a mind to freely lavish these gifts on other people in our lives -- all the other people in our lives, especially the ones who we are in conflict with. Jesus is the model for this, not the human race. An honest and true relationship with Him is what works. He loved us first, even before we were knit in our mother's womb, and he loves you and me still.
So I actually researched the British Columbia social media activism research and he doesn't fully explain it. "Slactivism" is when they like, join a group, or sign a online petition for (mostly) a charity organization. Not so much for a broad injustice subject matter. "In a series of studies, researchers invited participants to engage in an initial act of free support for a cause - joining a Facebook group, accepting a poppy, pin or magnet or signing a petition. Participants were then asked to donate money or volunteer. They found that the more public the token show of endorsement, the less likely participants are to provide meaningful support later. If participants were provided with the chance to express token support more privately, such as confidentially signing a petition, they were more likely to give later." I think Bryant needed to express this better in his speech because social media has become the new soap box. The "post something" wasn't exactly correct. I, for example, just ended a friendship because 2 people (on Facebook) refused to acknowledge the issues of sexual assault/abuse. I think it's important to remember exposure and acknowledgment IS taking action. Especially when the injustice is too uncomfortable so people ignore it.
Forgiving someone who has shown no remorse and no desire to change, especially someone who hasn’t even acknowledged their offense is to invite abuse and enable a monster. The idea that you should unconditionally forgive someone is social conditioning.
Yes, we need to be careful with how we define forgiveness. Forgiving does not mean no consequences for the offender, or that you continue to allow the behavior. It's just letting go of your anger and not allowing it to define and impact you. Your valid concerns are discussed in much more detail in his book Unoffendable.
Exactly. We gotta fight without anger, imagine a police officer angry, they can and have killed and prosecuted the inocent Justice requires reason, knowledge, not anger.
there are some situations whereby forgiving invites a continuation of the offensive behaviour, domestic abuse for example however, forgiveness primarily is for the offended party, it's for the victim.
I'm listening to this 8 years later, and it's what I needed to hear. Thanks.
I can’t like this enough. My generation needs to absorb the truth taught in this lecture.
To be fair and real-I need to absorb this!
"Unoffendable"....my daughter loaned it to me a year ago and am finally reading it. I need everyone, everywhere to read it!!! It will change your life and you will want everyone's lives to be changed too.❤️
If you like this talk you will LOVE his book, UNOFFENDABLE. So simple yet so hard to work against our human nature to take offense and hold grudges.
Jeremy Overstreet I’ll check it out
Hard to work against human nature? No way and no need, Brother. According to my Romanian Bible from Romans 6:6 “we know that OUR OLD SELF WAS CRUCIFIED WITH HIM so that the body ruled by sin might be DONE AWAY WITH” - Halleluiah! And this is in a such a way “that we no longer should live the rest of his time in the flesh” (1 Peter 4:2).
We can’t “work against our human nature to take offense and hold grudges”. But in stead we must accept our death with Christ that we can live with Christ (Romans 6:7-8).
But nevertheless, I love and respect immensely your love for Christ and living with Him and for Him.
His book is really good.
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@@miguelvanetta1485 Yes, this is me, Ernest Herman. But what it is about?
This wonderful talk is more relevant now than ever. Almost four years have passed since Mr. Hansen spoke these words (right before the 2016 election). Since then, our country has increasingly been torn apart by rage and ravaged by the absence of forgiveness. Our hearts have increasingly closed to each other. Indeed, injustice must be fought, now more than ever--but what state of mind are we bringing to our activism? Divisiveness and "righteous anger" reign and Mr. Hansen is correct that they are not vanquishing injustice. If we allow compassion and forgiveness to inform our actions, they were be that much more powerful and will bring peace rather than divisiveness. As Martin Luther King said, "Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that."
I'm shocked. This 10 minute Ted talk just changed my way of thinking about years of held onto anger. Its time to let go
I'm with you on this one. Everyone says like, defend yourself, fight, rage, violence. I'm gonna follow this road too. See you down there.
I dont mean to be so offtopic but does anybody know of a method to log back into an Instagram account..?
I somehow forgot my login password. I appreciate any help you can give me.
@Zyaire Nixon Instablaster :)
@Carson Alijah i really appreciate your reply. I got to the site through google and I'm waiting for the hacking stuff atm.
Looks like it's gonna take quite some time so I will get back to you later when my account password hopefully is recovered.
read the book, it's even better
Thank you, Brant! You're a blessing to many.❤️
Perfect timing for me to find and hear this. Praise the Lord!
Fantastic! Why does this only have 87K views? So well done, so kindly and generously spoken.
Well said, Brant. Thank you for sharing with us, brother.
this is the most serious I've seen Bryant be. still great. always.
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I just wanted to say that I listen to your radio show every morning on my way to work. It usually makes me laugh. You are awesome. I just thought I'd let you know. You and Sherry are a great team.
yep! you nailed it... difficult message to take in and so simply laid out. thank you!
What a great discussion. Brant has a very deep understanding of this topic. Thanks Brant.
I have a saying, "when people show you who they are, we need to believe them." No surprises, going forward... always forgive
This is speaking to me, my neighbourhood is a mess now, little did I know my neighbours were holding grudges against me since I was a teenager running around. And it all exploded in a violent action. Now I’m living with constant tension and cannot sleep. I’m going to move. But I’m definitely gonna have a better outlook in my new neighborhood. I still have thoughts all the time of getting revenge on my neighbors. But my life is too short and too great to let them into it again
You are not nuts you are a very wise man
I'm currently reading an advanced review copy of his book "Blessed are the Misfits," and it is awesome!
Ani Ani me too! :)
Where's the "Love" button?
Anne King I was thinking the same exact thing.
This speech should be more popular
Enjoying your book. So glad a friend recommended it to me. Thank you for posting.
Wow! This was so brilliant and very timely!
Excellent! Thanks for sharing.
Great talk. Third point was a great perspective
Great talk!😁
my goodness. This guy is the first I've heard anyone mention Robert Sapolsky - Stress Portrait of a killer. Watch it. We are wonderfully and fearfully made.
Very thoughtful talk. Thank you.
Brant is awesome!!!
Love this, thank you for sharing your viewpoint.
Great job, Brant! And I forgive you for giving this Ted talk on my birthday and forgetting to send me a baby sloth as a present. ;-)
great advice..
In an age of anger? When has there not been a year without human anger and hostility?
I think it’s become more loudly broadcast because of social media.
Hatred is the absence of Love. In the presence of Love hatred is extinguished. At the same time I think its ok to be angry, so long as we work through the reasons why and then bring it to a positive conclusion (one which I think must, at the very least, include something about forgiveness) and then move on. And we will be stronger for it. Else remaining angry with the faults of another, is to revenge their faults upon ourself.
Excellent. Like the book.
Yay Brant!
Thank you.
I love this so much!!! ♥️
Ted talks are like Sunday sermons without the inconvenience of having to quote scripture.
Jonathan Grandt He did quote some scripture, and I’m wondering what you mean by “inconvenience”?
:) Beautifully explained!
Go Brant!
I'm here to let go of anger
Yes!
His book is excellent.
There are presently 3 thumbs down for this video. They must be angry about something.
While I realize that Hansen's message here was not targeted at Christians, I don't consider the Scriptural commands he cited here to be a "theory".
Oh, BTW, last year, Hansen's wife was attacked. He forgave. To my shame, I say that there's no way that I could have done that.
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A wise Heavy once said:
"Mad in not true path to peace.
Also, don't feed trolls."
;) thanks for sharing
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Volume too low in. iPad :(
Angers been very hard for me to deal with for sure and it's destroyed my life. However, because I cant forgive myself I can't forgive others. I can't forgive the people who took everything from me. I believe they call themselves Christians. They call themselves righteous. They act on assumptions with no proof. They look at my past and prey on my mistakes. How can people not be angry in this world when cruelty is thier happiness.
Unless you first accept God's free gift of forgiveness of you and all your faults then you won't have the power to forgive others.
John 3:16 God so loved the world that he gave his only son so that whoever believes in him will not perish but have eternal life
I have struggled with this topic too and I have only overcame the anger bitterness etc until I realized how much God has forgiven me and then also realizing God is I control and he is the final judge and not me. My anger is not righteous. God's is. I'll leave the anger up to God and just be thankful he has had and continues to have mercy on my soul.
@@petesbees so when will God forgive me? Him letting me be homeless is not forgiveness and it's not mercy either... it's wrath and frankly if God can't be an example and he allows Christians to be the way they are towards me then I can't see why a person I should forgive either. I don't have to. God gave choice as a free gift and I'll serve him like he treats me. I am a believer but God is cruel.
@@travisdevoid535 Is God cruel or the world we live in? The same world that nailed Jesus to the cross, when he was never found guilty of any wrongdoing? “In this world you will have trouble, but take heart, because I have overcome the world”. Everyone will experience horrible things in this world, but Jesus experienced worse on the cross, for us to experience unimaginable love. God bless you.
@@keinname212 perhaps both.
@@travisdevoid535 You say you are a believer so I'll assume you'll consider this: When we are born, our Creator God bestows each one of us with five gifts. Each of us, no matter what race, color, social status, etc. -- we all start out with the same gifts, which are Life, Free-will, Grace, Mercy, and Time. What most of us fail to grasp is that these gifts are not for our own consumption. They are only manifest in our lives once we are of a mind to freely lavish these gifts on other people in our lives -- all the other people in our lives, especially the ones who we are in conflict with. Jesus is the model for this, not the human race. An honest and true relationship with Him is what works.
He loved us first, even before we were knit in our mother's womb, and he loves you and me still.
So I actually researched the British Columbia social media activism research and he doesn't fully explain it. "Slactivism" is when they like, join a group, or sign a online petition for (mostly) a charity organization. Not so much for a broad injustice subject matter.
"In a series of studies, researchers invited participants to engage in an initial act of free support for a cause - joining a Facebook group, accepting a poppy, pin or magnet or signing a petition. Participants were then asked to donate money or volunteer.
They found that the more public the token show of endorsement, the less likely participants are to provide meaningful support later. If participants were provided with the chance to express token support more privately, such as confidentially signing a petition, they were more likely to give later."
I think Bryant needed to express this better in his speech because social media has become the new soap box. The "post something" wasn't exactly correct. I, for example, just ended a friendship because 2 people (on Facebook) refused to acknowledge the issues of sexual assault/abuse. I think it's important to remember exposure and acknowledgment IS taking action. Especially when the injustice is too uncomfortable so people ignore it.
Glory to Jesus Christ!
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Forgiving someone who has shown no remorse and no desire to change, especially someone who hasn’t even acknowledged their offense is to invite abuse and enable a monster. The idea that you should unconditionally forgive someone is social conditioning.
Yes, we need to be careful with how we define forgiveness. Forgiving does not mean no consequences for the offender, or that you continue to allow the behavior. It's just letting go of your anger and not allowing it to define and impact you. Your valid concerns are discussed in much more detail in his book Unoffendable.
Exactly. We gotta fight without anger, imagine a police officer angry, they can and have killed and prosecuted the inocent
Justice requires reason, knowledge, not anger.
Forgive does not mean trust
It means letting go of bitterness and anger
In some cases that MUST include walking away.
there are some situations whereby forgiving invites a continuation of the offensive behaviour, domestic abuse for example however, forgiveness primarily is for the offended party, it's for the victim.
@@brittkelly6326 brilliantly put ! ❤️🙏
That Hulk comment did not age very well
Good stuff stealing your art and sharing it😜