Hey everyone! This one may be a bit of a downer for some people but it doesn’t need to be! We’ve all been there, when someone just doesn’t like you back, but it’s important to accept it so you can move on and invest your energy on other things/other people. We’re thinking of doing another video on how to get over someone - let us know if you have any other requests!
Yes!!!! Thank you for this video Alexis & Lilian. These are all on point and a lot if it I think are being taken for granted. You are correct in always injecting the possibility that there is such a thing as “mind games” but as true as it is, once someone says it outright, all ambiguity comes crashing down and it needs to be taken as it is.. this is a really really good reminder. And yes, please do the video on how to get over someone.. I know Ill be on the lookout for that (and I do have the “bell” turned on) having have just come from a recently ended 10yr relationship and could really use your tips and advice as I am still in that grieving/healing period. Thank you both in advance! I am very new to your channel but your videos have been a daily theraputic habit! Enjoy the weekend, both! See you in your next video.. please dont make us wait too long for it! 😊💞 Tschüss😘
Please do a video about how to get over broken and a cheating relationship on u.cos of that am so much afraid of believing that there is still some love.
I recently had a crush on a girl and talked with her when I would have a chance to see her. I thought she liked me too! But, then after a while she asked me what my name was again! Ouchhhh
man that happeneed to me too like we were out and we had been known each other for a month i guess and she was like "whats your last name anyway?" but then we started to date and she was the one who kept chasing me
aaaaah I feel bad because I do have a goldfish brain and forget things easily, mostly names and dates as well as street names! So I've done that multiple times and even more with important days like birthdays. I sometimes cant process my own. Though, I've been trying to improve my memory with those things with a planner and repeating things a bunch! Thus far, it is a bit better
i love you guys, thanks for giving me hope for finding a truly good relationship and more than college hookups and first dates. i hope you keep making videos! :)
Thanks for the tips. I want what you two have that's hard to come by. I hate iam always having to put in effort it's like nobody wants to get to know me . Dating is definitely hard .
Saaammeee I have a crush on my roommate, and she doesn't do any of these things, and we're really good friends and I think she might like me back, but I'm too scared to make a move bc I dont want to ruin our relationship ughh
I don't know. When i text her sometimes she use terms like baby, hone, darling and she is very kind. She ask me some questions... hold my hands when we pass street and don't leave it even when we passed... she smiles a lot... but sometimes when i text her out of sudden, she is cold! And she don't text me first that much...
its very sad and confusing that she literally fits all the 10 signs a girl is not into you and ALSO the signs that a girl is into you, so i really dont know
I really need some advice I like a girl at a conditioning gym I go to who is always flirting with me and making eye contact and starting conversation in a bunch of other stuff when I think she's trying to feel me out and because I was so attracted to her I would keep it short and avoid eye contact and now I'm worried that I might have made myself seem like I wasn't interested can you please tell me how I can redeem myself
It was a cultural shock for me because before it wasn't in case of boys, there was yes or no and there was that. But women are concerned about not hurting anyone by their words and choose to ignore you which(unpopular opinion) is even more hurtful.
Most of these are more "she's not worth it" than "she's not into you". There are just some rude people who might like you but who are selfish and toxic and don't know how to share their time and energy fairly.
I had a girl tell me she wasn't into me like that because she is straight, and then she asked me on a platonic Taco Bell date. We have been good friends since.
Well i was into a straight girl and caught fellings, then I tell her how I felts, said she was straight and not interested, then changed her mind and told me she had a crush on me also and didn’t know how to handle it. Ended up in a beautiful two year relationship 😊
So happy for you! I experienced the first part of your story too, but then she said I misunderstood her signals. But still, I felt as if she totally played with my feelings.
I liked this german girl that i met and always asked her a lot of questions i was so interested in her life, but then i realize that everytime we talk seemed like an interview, she didnt ask me shit :(
I know a German girl who is like the contrary of this…She asked me lots of personal questions and it almost feels like an interview because she didn't share much? She probably thinks I'm not interested idk…
Definitely just came here to break my own heart and humble myself into thinking realistically after watching all your tips and hints about being with her :D
In a situation where I thought I was straight but then met a girl (she's gay) who made me question everything. Realized that I liked her, thought that the two of us had great chemistry but then she told me that she doesn't see me in that way. Part of me wants to respect that and believe her, but another part of me feels like she sees something between us but doesn't want to say it because of the fact that I'm "straight". Not to mention that straight girls have hurt her in the past.
it's quite possible lol. it kinda happened to me, but it was also complicated because i personally (and i'm not the only one) make a very clear separation between female friends and "something else" because i really don't want to mess up or disrepect my female friends. and when i "declare" a girl a female friend in my mind it's really hard to change that. but it's possible. many friends have gone throught that, queer or straight. you'll just have to figure it out.
Honestly I didn't have a crush on anyone for more than four years but I think I do now (don't know though since it's been such a long time 😭🤡) but she came when I least expected it so don't you worry, there's someone out there for you!
I needed this but it’s so hard - I’ve been in love with this girl for 6 years. I managed to not think about her for ages, but now it’s almost constant. I’ve had crushes on other girls and even dreamed about kissing some, but when I think about a relationship, I want to be with her, but we aren’t friends anymore. Please make a video about how to get other someone!
I need advice: She is 70 years of age, and she is straight. I am 62 years of age and lesbian. She accepts my orientation. We have been spending a lot of time together. We are both looking for an apartment and she said we can look for a one bedroom if we need to because our lease is ending with our individual apartments. I said to her "where will I sleep?" She said we can share a bed. When she drives her car as I am talking with her, she twirls her hair a lot. I find myself automatically falling into a male role such as picking up the heavy things, opening door for her, paying for meals when we go out. I have told her I am not attracted to her she is not my type. Her response was "Oh gee thanks." She often asks me if I want to go grocery shopping with her, to the dog park with her, cafe around the corner with her, shopping, and apartment hunting together. I respect her. I enjoy her company and feel a draw towards her which I do not understand. Would someone like to give me some behavioral body language hints because I am not sure, but my gut feeling says she wants to take things slow, but she is interested.
She needs/likes the company, but not interested in physical intimacy perhaps? Going through similar dilemma, I am also 62 and still youngish, I am spellbound by a woman I met 3 months ago, feel so free to be myself with her and feel crushed when I am not with her her, but I just don't think she is into me romantically and sometimes doesn't answer my text messages for a week later, so to be content with being just someone she occasionally thinks of you/wants to hang with, or move on is the question in my mind..it sucks sorry I couldn't help.
i find that when someone leads me on making me believe we are developing a close friendship, and then suddenly they are gone, that hurts just as much. it hits even harder than with a crush sometimes
OMG. She got all signs mentioned above, but I still confessed my feelings to her. You know the result- She said we should be friends. But I didn't regret what I did because I least I was able to release my pent-up emotions. Now, I find it quite difficult to move on, but the only way to move on is to move on. I hope I can find another girl soon ^^
@@libratran7396 I tried to reply to you for 2 times, but my comments are not visible. We can be friends. My contact info is in the tab "ABOUT" on my channel. ^^ Nice to meet you ^^
spot on! i came out when i was 32 and i would have liked to have had a lovely couple to ask questions about lesbian life. I am 65 now and met the love of my life in 2015. We were married in 2018 and we are going strong. She was a widow and had meet her wife in college. They were together for 45 years until her wife passed away from breast cancer. She dated a few people which I am so grateful for. Then she met me. My family and i are crazy about her. i care very much for her family and they care for me. We have friends that support us on both sides. It is never too late for the real deal.
so applicable, you guys are so amazing. i’ve never watched such a secure, knowledgeable, and helpful couple. this one hit home for sure and you guys helped me so much. love you guys so much💖
When I clicked on this video I expected some hurtful truth and facts which tell me, that my crush doesn’t love me. But instead this video just left me more confused. Couldn’t respond to any of these facts with a clear no or yes. I always get mixed feelings of my crush. There are days she puts real effort into listening to me, keeping conversations, paying attention to me, making me talk, making up one-on-one dates, laughing about my worst jokes and stuff. And there are days I feel like she finds everything more interesting than me and only wants to do stuff in a group. There are days she remembers every little thing about me and there are days she just fcking forgets to wait for me. She never texts me first and she’s a freaking inactive texter. But then she sends me those voice-messages where she’s laughing about funny things I wrote. Our hugs last longer from day to day. But she never has time to pick up the phone when I call her. I know she’s pan. I just don’t fucking know.
SelfAwarenessX I’m not totally sure tbh because I’m rarely consistent enough to really distance myself from her. I feel like sometimes she’s more interested in me, when I’m absolutely not focused on her and sometimes she’s showing a lot of affection when I’m REALLY and only fixated on her. This makes it somehow hard for me to know what I should do.
Omg how is your situation now? Exactly same to you. People say mixed signals can be seen as a no. But it still feels something somehow. Even though my crush is not so affectionate and enthusiastic as your crush lol.
@@jamiephinn3356 oh, believe me, you don’t wanna know the whole story😅 I confessed my feelings to them and they couldn’t handle it. We’ve tried rebuilding the friendship but her trust was broken & it turned superficial. I wanted to talk last month, because my overthinking and my insecurities concerning this just ate me. but she couldn’t handle it anymore/didn’t want to talk and blocked me and we’re no longer friends. “they need to protect themselves” okay. she completely goes out of my way and I’m trying hard to not let it hurt me/to still be friendly and polite towards her at any chance. I’ve had my first therapy session today. We probably won’t see each other ever again when school ends in july. It’s..well. hard.
"Lesbian problem: while trying to flirt with girl they thought that you're being nice to them or complementing them" 😫🤣 I'm so in love with my crush but I don't know if she loves me or not I know she likes me but i can't even make eye contact with her properly cuz I get shy & my heart beating so fast but I don't have her phone number let alone texting 😫😫😭
the fact that my ex girlfriend was acting like this throughout the time we'd dated lmfaoo i wish i saw this video earlier.. now i know she was just pity dating me
This video was good for and helpful. I wish I had this reference when I was interacting with someone who was clearly not into me, but I moved on. Lesbian dating can be rough.
Im honestly so confused, shes pretty dry on texting like i full on stopped txting her cus the convos were always short (like asking for hw or a short joke) but irl she acts REALLYY gay around me and likes to flirt with me alot. What does that even mean? Idek if shes gay or not but i heeard from a friend shes bi so idrk Edit:she texted me at like 1am last night for the 1st time in like 2 months💀
I think a "straight" girl likes me because she has said before that she did and she thought she was bi and she keeps going back between straight and bi, I'm just confused. I guess this'll point me in the right direction. I'll edit this and say what I've learned in the end. Lol. Edit: She doesn't like me. But who knows. Thats up to her. ;-;
Thanks so much for this well done video. I am just experiencing a complicated situation like that with a woman. It can be really hard to understand the signals in the right way, to realize and move on. But I can relate to everything you said. Especially with you saying that its important and a good thing that you know it for sure if she doesnt like you. Its hard at first but then it helps you to move on properly. So thanks Lilian and Alexis for your videos on this topic. Its really exactly what I am preoccupied with at the moment. And your thoughts help me a lot understanding the situation. Love from Germany to Toronto 😊
Sad to hear the reasons for flirting a lot; as none matched my experiences. Some have high anxiety & flirting helps relaxing the brain from over rational thinking. Others show their true self without inhibitions in party environments. Some other's gain finally some new confidence after loosing weight, and or getting a make over & are trying to catch up for lost time being the social butterfly they could have never been before a change. Another's are coming out for the first time & even so they have the look like they belong & are trying to fit in etc... & many more!.
Might as well just give up now:( this is the hardest to navigate my feelings to. Ive always been dating guys but im srsly attracted to this girl now. Im beating myself up for it
I am just so confused. I’m Inlove with my bff, she’s pan sexual, and for the couple months of our friendship she was really clingy, and it was obvious she liked me, but now, she isn’t like that at all but she still touches me and gives off a flirty energy sometimes. Idk what to do, this girl has me going crazy and she’s the whole reason why I’ve been questioning my sexuality
I was relieved until the part when you say she doesn't care about looking good for you. I'm texting this girl and she always sends me pics but like with facemask on, or not really posing or smiling, that sort of thing. Shit, I'm in the friendzone
When you are older I thought the development of a relationship might be different. And in someways it is, as you know yourself that bit more. Then along comes HOPE and wishful thinking. We have very little in common but travel, then even that has now become an obstacle of late. She says she loves me but there is no real intimacy other than games. I feel like I have found someone who wants to play the game of gay rather than being in a real relationship. She is a person wanting to be needed and then tries to gain control through guilt ‘You made a decision and spent your money without my consent.’. She is a controlling loving person and she is genuinely a warm person wanting to wanted. I am a person who will commit without being needed. I want a relationship with love and mutual respect. Then I am in 100%. I do not want to hurt this lonely wanting woman.
I met a girl on dating app we know each other for a while and met several time we were having a really good time together so I decided to told her how I really feel but I didn't expect her to like me back or else just want to tell her that's all and at first I seem to turn out in a good way cause she told me maybe we can be a good friend I'm also happy with that and then she changed she not the same anymore that make me quite disappointed btw wish her the best and I have to move on
I'm bi, but I've always preferred women romantically. However every woman I've ever had strong feelings for ends up ghosting or rejecting me. I don't know why I'm so undesirable.... help :(
Yes! How about: how to reject someone who isn't picking up these signals? How / when to break up (sad, but needed for soooo many people)? You get the idea... the world needs sound advice LOL.
I’m talking to a girl in my newer friend group, she’s not straight, she’s single, she accepted when I asked her to hoco, she got excited when I said I was doing something bigger to re ask (I wanted her to not feel pressure the first time on Friday so I asked with just me are her I’ve now made a sign), we talked for 2 hours texting back and forth learning more about each other tonight and I wanted to know if she liked me or if she doesn’t and just sees me as a friend. Halp! (Also she called me pretty yesterday and that she was happy I asked her to hoco)
1. “Conversation killer” Always you that are asking questions, or tryna keep the conversation going. U the one putting the effort. 2. “No text back” do i have to explain? If u dont getting any respons, barely getting any respons or have to Wait very very long before getting a respons. 3. “She’s flakey” Someone that always cancels plans. 4. “Doesn’t pay attention” if shes into u shes gonna pay attention and remember the story u were telling. 5. “Group hangers” Its never two of you, she doesnt want to spend time alone with u, she just wants to friendszone u. 6. “Crush flaunter” she mentioned she likes other ppl. Theyre into someone else. Method of showing u that shes not into u instead of being rude. 7. “She just loves to flirt” when ppl gives u mixed signals, shes flirting w you, BUT shes also doing this with everyone. 8. “ Shes straight” she talks bout guys. If shes straight she snot into u, specially not in a serious way. 9. “She tells you” duh which is good because u dont have to put any effort in this girl.
It is my story how crap I was in silly situation. I crush on the trainee at work. She was the one whom I felt in love at first sight and she was also the only one who made me got fired from the company. She reported me to HR that I did harashment action on her just because I kissed her cheek once. At the time she enjoyed it, nothing bad things happened even she asked me to hang up again on the other days. I just realized she just used me, what a gold digger. I never hate her might be I still put heart on her. I am happy now, feeling peaceful stay away from toxic people. Karma does exist 😂
I know how I want to be loved. How I want to be treated. So if someone isn't giving me the attention that I LIKE, I don't even want to be with them. Chasing someone feels ICK!
Again if there is real Chemistry you will know, they will know and things will just start happening. If it doesn't start happening then there is a reason behind this... don't proceed with this person... If you really don't care if there is chemistry or not, well... I would tend to think thats Not Healthy! Keep it Healthy!!!
I met a lesbian as a "straight asexual" woman. Spent some time with her letting her know I am straight asexual. Now I can't stop thinking about her and now she was a girlfriend. 😞
lol, she's not into you sign - she's married to man. xD totally not speaking from experience! No, actually, you suddenly were not into her, too. Of course.
5 months ago I was in denial. 4 or 3 months later I finally accepted that im bisexual (only my 2 best friends and my crush know about my sexuality). I even have a huge crush on a girl and I recently found out she is bisexual too!!
I have a girlfriend since yesterday!! We met at college but started talking the 16 of August, the 19 I told her I loved her and now she is my girlfriend (since the 27 of August). Im so excited but afraid, we are both pretty inexperienced so that eases my anxiety a bit. Nonetheless, IM SO HAPPY!!
I really like this girl, and whenever we text it mostly goes on for well over an hour if neither of us has anything to get to. But both of us are extremely busy with exams and other issues. And we both flirt with each other as a joke for both of us. But i flirt with her more intensely lmao. It might be because she's like my closest friend.
I'm a little unsure bc my friend and I were talking abt crushes one time and we both revealed (well, I revealed a name and she gave clues but I couldn't guess) our crushes, but I secretly have had a more serious longer term crush on her, so in theory she could also be bluffing, it could be a not very serious crush, and she could also secretly have a crush on me... idek tbh
Hi. Today i split up from my fiancee because i finally came out as lesbian. Im 49 and single and literally clueless. Ive been hiding away for years and spent most of my years trying to conform to a straight relationship. Ivenever felt so free but at the ame time scared. Ill probably stay single for awhile but do you have any advice for a late bloomer?. Ps i love your videos 😀.
❌ she sometimes asks but not always ✅ we never texted ✅ very flaky flake ✅ she doesn't by attention ✅ she hates being alone with me I think? ✅ she likes other people ❌ she doesn't flirt with anybody ✅ she is straight ❌ well she doesn't know that yet that I like her.. 👀 ❌ she doesn't even try to follow me on social meida okay I'm done she officially doesn't like me...
What if they just not a big texter and responses short because they prefer other ways of communicating but it kind of a turn off already because all these brief replies don’t tell me they wanna have “get together”. 😢
Hey everyone! This one may be a bit of a downer for some people but it doesn’t need to be! We’ve all been there, when someone just doesn’t like you back, but it’s important to accept it so you can move on and invest your energy on other things/other people. We’re thinking of doing another video on how to get over someone - let us know if you have any other requests!
Thank u I appreciate that it has help
Yes!!!! Thank you for this video Alexis & Lilian. These are all on point and a lot if it I think are being taken for granted. You are correct in always injecting the possibility that there is such a thing as “mind games” but as true as it is, once someone says it outright, all ambiguity comes crashing down and it needs to be taken as it is.. this is a really really good reminder. And yes, please do the video on how to get over someone.. I know Ill be on the lookout for that (and I do have the “bell” turned on) having have just come from a recently ended 10yr relationship and could really use your tips and advice as I am still in that grieving/healing period. Thank you both in advance! I am very new to your channel but your videos have been a daily theraputic habit! Enjoy the weekend, both! See you in your next video.. please dont make us wait too long for it! 😊💞 Tschüss😘
Yeah please do a vidoe about getting over someone! I really could use some advice
Please do a video about how to get over broken and a cheating relationship on u.cos of that am so much afraid of believing that there is still some love.
It would be nice if you make a video about or just include getting over someone you never even got serius with
I recently had a crush on a girl and talked with her when I would have a chance to see her. I thought she liked me too! But, then after a while she asked me what my name was again! Ouchhhh
Ugh.. yeah, not cool.
Nobody got time for dat'
That's messed up.
Girls are the best players
man that happeneed to me too like we were out and we had been known each other for a month i guess and she was like "whats your last name anyway?" but then we started to date and she was the one who kept chasing me
aaaaah I feel bad because I do have a goldfish brain and forget things easily, mostly names and dates as well as street names! So I've done that multiple times and even more with important days like birthdays. I sometimes cant process my own. Though, I've been trying to improve my memory with those things with a planner and repeating things a bunch! Thus far, it is a bit better
watching this to bring myself to reality 😵💫
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Thank you for mentioning the "bell". I never even noticed it before!
i love you guys, thanks for giving me hope for finding a truly good relationship and more than college hookups and first dates. i hope you keep making videos! :)
♥️
Thanks for the tips. I want what you two have that's hard to come by. I hate iam always having to put in effort it's like nobody wants to get to know me . Dating is definitely hard .
My crush does not do any of these and I am still too scared to make a move because I don’t want to loose her
Same! I feel like my crush likes me back but isn't ready for a relationship.
Saaammeee I have a crush on my roommate, and she doesn't do any of these things, and we're really good friends and I think she might like me back, but I'm too scared to make a move bc I dont want to ruin our relationship ughh
I know this feeling as well!!
First confess your feelings u will feel better after that
Suppressing feelings are not good
Yes to video about getting over someone please!! And how to get over heartbreak please
I see myself in Lilian and that inspires me a lot😀❤
Love you guys!❤
Lilian....she's really attractive, i like alexis so much but i love lilian, i wish i had a girlfriend like lilian 😉
Please continue being an inspiration to people A+L ❤❤..big support from the Philippines ❤❤..nonskipping on ads for all your vids 😁😁
Haha aww thanks so much ♥️ Sending love to the Philippines, hopefully we’ll get to visit soon!
I don't know. When i text her sometimes she use terms like baby, hone, darling and she is very kind. She ask me some questions... hold my hands when we pass street and don't leave it even when we passed... she smiles a lot... but sometimes when i text her out of sudden, she is cold! And she don't text me first that much...
its very sad and confusing that she literally fits all the 10 signs a girl is not into you and ALSO the signs that a girl is into you, so i really dont know
This was very use ful
I really need some advice I like a girl at a conditioning gym I go to who is always flirting with me and making eye contact and starting conversation in a bunch of other stuff when I think she's trying to feel me out and because I was so attracted to her I would keep it short and avoid eye contact and now I'm worried that I might have made myself seem like I wasn't interested can you please tell me how I can redeem myself
when she doesn't apply to any of these... ❤❤❤
painful but needed
Yes.af 😥
😭😭😭
Yes…
Yes 😕
This makes me wonder why someone can't just say I'm not feeling this?Be mature and don't waste other people's time
MaeB fr 💯
Because they don't want to make you uncomfortable or/and hurt your feelings
they usually dont know for sUre that u like them so they dont want to look like an idot
Anxiety maybe
It was a cultural shock for me because before it wasn't in case of boys, there was yes or no and there was that. But women are concerned about not hurting anyone by their words and choose to ignore you which(unpopular opinion) is even more hurtful.
Most of these are more "she's not worth it" than "she's not into you". There are just some rude people who might like you but who are selfish and toxic and don't know how to share their time and energy fairly.
This
I needed to hear this. I was half-ghosted, but see half interest…probably just not worth it if the other person just isn’t as into me.
I had a girl tell me she wasn't into me like that because she is straight, and then she asked me on a platonic Taco Bell date. We have been good friends since.
aw that’s amazing how it turned from something that may have seen negative at first to something so great!
Ugh, straight girlfriend...nah
felt
@Army TaeKooker u can ask to just be friends and not lead her on
lol almost all my relationships started like this … adamant they are straight but always ended up with me … one lasted 13 years
Well i was into a straight girl and caught fellings, then I tell her how I felts, said she was straight and not interested, then changed her mind and told me she had a crush on me also and didn’t know how to handle it. Ended up in a beautiful two year relationship 😊
@Army TaeKooker You need to break up with her if you don’t like her in a romantic and/or sexual way. It’s fucked up to lead someone on.
U r lucky
Y two years
I’m in love with a straight girl aka my best friend and idk I think she might be in the closet and like me but I’m not sure
So happy for you! I experienced the first part of your story too, but then she said I misunderstood her signals. But still, I felt as if she totally played with my feelings.
it’s so hard to understand anything when the person im dealing with naturally has a flirty personality & acts the same with almost everyone💀
Omg tell me about it I’m in the same situation 😫😫🤣🤣🤣
I'm in the same situation 💀(I like a girl who is estp)
I love the color of the wall in the background
Same
@Alessia A me talking to my crush
Lmao
I liked this german girl that i met and always asked her a lot of questions i was so interested in her life, but then i realize that everytime we talk seemed like an interview, she didnt ask me shit :(
Libia Ramirez so sorry for you. By the way I‘m a german girl too 🙋🏻♀️
@@liarunaway nice to meet you Lia :)
Libia Ramirez hehe thanks. Ditto
I know a German girl who is like the contrary of this…She asked me lots of personal questions and it almost feels like an interview because she didn't share much? She probably thinks I'm not interested idk…
@@zoez6761 that is so funny , many Ways an interview can be taken
Definitely just came here to break my own heart and humble myself into thinking realistically after watching all your tips and hints about being with her :D
LITERALLY ME
Same here!
In a situation where I thought I was straight but then met a girl (she's gay) who made me question everything. Realized that I liked her, thought that the two of us had great chemistry but then she told me that she doesn't see me in that way. Part of me wants to respect that and believe her, but another part of me feels like she sees something between us but doesn't want to say it because of the fact that I'm "straight". Not to mention that straight girls have hurt her in the past.
it's quite possible lol. it kinda happened to me, but it was also complicated because i personally (and i'm not the only one) make a very clear separation between female friends and "something else" because i really don't want to mess up or disrepect my female friends. and when i "declare" a girl a female friend in my mind it's really hard to change that. but it's possible. many friends have gone throught that, queer or straight. you'll just have to figure it out.
DAMN. I'M RIGHT NOW IN THAT EXACT SITUATION.
Oh but then since ur liked her...didn't u bend ?
OMFG 😭
The left girl looks so much like shawn Mendes im shook
lukey hemmings she does!!! She looks like the female veesion
Yup she does !
Once you see it you can’t unsee it 😂
More like Millie Bobby Brown
Low key
😢I feel so stupid. I recognize all of them! You really perfectly describe the person I love. Unfortunately. Aaaarrrgggh. And still love her of course.
Scrolling the comments and at least y’all have someone to crush on.
i don't know what's worst, ha, have someone to crush on but realising that is not into you ir not having anyone
Honestly I didn't have a crush on anyone for more than four years but I think I do now (don't know though since it's been such a long time 😭🤡) but she came when I least expected it so don't you worry, there's someone out there for you!
I needed this but it’s so hard - I’ve been in love with this girl for 6 years. I managed to not think about her for ages, but now it’s almost constant. I’ve had crushes on other girls and even dreamed about kissing some, but when I think about a relationship, I want to be with her, but we aren’t friends anymore. Please make a video about how to get other someone!
there's a ted talk called how to fix a broken heart by guy winch and honestly it's the best on that subject that i have ever seen. really. go see it.
Yeah you should definitely make a video on how to get over someone, straight girl crushes suck!💔
Perlafut10 they really do! Here if you ever wanna talk 💜
Perlafut10 there’s also this ted talk:
ruclips.net/video/k0GQSJrpVhM/видео.html
how to get over someone will be posted tomorrow 💪🏻
Ahh now i know that my teacher is not into me🤣🤣
Ouu teacher crushes! We’ve been there too 😄
Haha I had a crush on my student. But she said we should be friends T.T
been there
Me too
I need advice: She is 70 years of age, and she is straight. I am 62 years of age and lesbian. She accepts my orientation. We have been spending a lot of time together. We are both looking for an apartment and she said we can look for a one bedroom if we need to because our lease is ending with our individual apartments. I said to her "where will I sleep?" She said we can share a bed.
When she drives her car as I am talking with her, she twirls her hair a lot. I find myself automatically falling into a male role such as picking up the heavy things, opening door for her, paying for meals when we go out. I have told her I am not attracted to her she is not my type. Her response was "Oh gee thanks."
She often asks me if I want to go grocery shopping with her, to the dog park with her, cafe around the corner with her, shopping, and apartment hunting together. I respect her. I enjoy her company and feel a draw towards her which I do not understand. Would someone like to give me some behavioral body language hints because I am not sure, but my gut feeling says she wants to take things slow, but she is interested.
Sounds like she’s into the attention, but not into you
She needs/likes the company, but not interested in physical intimacy perhaps? Going through similar dilemma, I am also 62 and still youngish, I am spellbound by a woman I met 3 months ago, feel so free to be myself with her and feel crushed when I am not with her her, but I just don't think she is into me romantically and sometimes doesn't answer my text messages for a week later, so to be content with being just someone she occasionally thinks of you/wants to hang with, or move on is the question in my mind..it sucks sorry I couldn't help.
I feel like at this point I'll die alone :(
i find that when someone leads me on making me believe we are developing a close friendship, and then suddenly they are gone, that hurts just as much. it hits even harder than with a crush sometimes
Yes! I totally get it. Losing a potential friend -or an actual friend- hurts me way more than losing someone I have a crush on
sameeeeee
About being flakey I actually do that but is not on purpose is due to my anxiety, so it's not always bs
That's cool
OMG. She got all signs mentioned above, but I still confessed my feelings to her. You know the result- She said we should be friends. But I didn't regret what I did because I least I was able to release my pent-up emotions. Now, I find it quite difficult to move on, but the only way to move on is to move on. I hope I can find another girl soon ^^
I'm Vietnamese...so....can i make friend with u?
@@libratran7396 I tried to reply to you for 2 times, but my comments are not visible. We can be friends. My contact info is in the tab "ABOUT" on my channel. ^^ Nice to meet you ^^
@@anhthule4167 nice to meet you too 😊
spot on! i came out when i was 32 and i would have liked to have had a lovely couple to ask questions about lesbian life. I am 65 now and met the love of my life in 2015. We were married in 2018 and we are going strong. She was a widow and had meet her wife in college. They were together for 45 years until her wife passed away from breast cancer. She dated a few people which I am so grateful for. Then she met me. My family and i are crazy about her. i care very much for her family and they care for me. We have friends that support us on both sides. It is never too late for the real deal.
I would love to see more videos about this! Like about how to get over someone etc.
Omg the flirty girl 😒 she was straight but knew I was into girls and kinda acted weird and ambiguous! I mean got get a pet
so applicable, you guys are so amazing. i’ve never watched such a secure, knowledgeable, and helpful couple. this one hit home for sure and you guys helped me so much. love you guys so much💖
thanks so much for the kind words! 💕
I wish i saw this before i made a fool of myself💀
Oh I'm tired from this hoping game... :( my best friend...
When I clicked on this video I expected some hurtful truth and facts which tell me, that my crush doesn’t love me. But instead this video just left me more confused. Couldn’t respond to any of these facts with a clear no or yes.
I always get mixed feelings of my crush.
There are days she puts real effort into listening to me, keeping conversations, paying attention to me, making me talk, making up one-on-one dates, laughing about my worst jokes and stuff.
And there are days I feel like she finds everything more interesting than me and only wants to do stuff in a group.
There are days she remembers every little thing about me and there are days she just fcking forgets to wait for me. She never texts me first and she’s a freaking inactive texter. But then she sends me those voice-messages where she’s laughing about funny things I wrote. Our hugs last longer from day to day. But she never has time to pick up the phone when I call her.
I know she’s pan.
I just don’t fucking know.
Something 123 are we crushing on the same girl? 😂
I mean I don’t think so but some of those things you said - man they are nearly the same ...
Maybe she's doing a push-pull thing... does she get more into you when you back away?
SelfAwarenessX I’m not totally sure tbh because I’m rarely consistent enough to really distance myself from her. I feel like sometimes she’s more interested in me, when I’m absolutely not focused on her and sometimes she’s showing a lot of affection when I’m REALLY and only fixated on her. This makes it somehow hard for me to know what I should do.
Omg how is your situation now? Exactly same to you. People say mixed signals can be seen as a no. But it still feels something somehow. Even though my crush is not so affectionate and enthusiastic as your crush lol.
@@jamiephinn3356 oh, believe me, you don’t wanna know the whole story😅 I confessed my feelings to them and they couldn’t handle it. We’ve tried rebuilding the friendship but her trust was broken & it turned superficial. I wanted to talk last month, because my overthinking and my insecurities concerning this just ate me. but she couldn’t handle it anymore/didn’t want to talk and blocked me and we’re no longer friends. “they need to protect themselves” okay. she completely goes out of my way and I’m trying hard to not let it hurt me/to still be friendly and polite towards her at any chance.
I’ve had my first therapy session today.
We probably won’t see each other ever again when school ends in july. It’s..well. hard.
I make my crush hang out with me in a group cuz im too scared to be alone with her 😂
"Lesbian problem: while trying to flirt with girl they thought that you're being nice to them or complementing them" 😫🤣
I'm so in love with my crush but I don't know if she loves me or not I know she likes me but i can't even make eye contact with her properly cuz I get shy & my heart beating so fast but I don't have her phone number let alone texting 😫😫😭
ORIN Blink does she has any social media? could you ask them her @ or even number?
@@redmug3 aghhh let's date then lol hence we have so much in common!!!lol😌btw it's completely ok to felt like that 🥰🖤
I feel like every girl i ever liked doesnt love me back, even if shes not straight. it feels so terrible, i just dont know what is wrong with me
You will be alright
Same 😒 pain
it’s so hard to try and realise when people are just being kind or whether she likes me. it’s so hard😂
i felt so called out when you said that only 15% of us have your notifications on i immediately clicked the bell lmao
hahaha aww thank you! ♥️
the fact that my ex girlfriend was acting like this throughout the time we'd dated lmfaoo i wish i saw this video earlier.. now i know she was just pity dating me
When she mentions liking other people... that's a damn sledgehammer, as hints go. Subtle as a brick. hahaha
This video was good for and helpful. I wish I had this reference when I was interacting with someone who was clearly not into me, but I moved on. Lesbian dating can be rough.
I fucking wish I was straight
Im honestly so confused, shes pretty dry on texting like i full on stopped txting her cus the convos were always short (like asking for hw or a short joke) but irl she acts REALLYY gay around me and likes to flirt with me alot. What does that even mean? Idek if shes gay or not but i heeard from a friend shes bi so idrk
Edit:she texted me at like 1am last night for the 1st time in like 2 months💀
Very confusing my crush barely texts but she acts differently in person and on social media she's the first to see and like my posts so idk
I think a "straight" girl likes me because she has said before that she did and she thought she was bi and she keeps going back between straight and bi, I'm just confused. I guess this'll point me in the right direction. I'll edit this and say what I've learned in the end. Lol.
Edit: She doesn't like me. But who knows. Thats up to her. ;-;
This video kinda hurt but it was needed:P
love u two so much
I accidentally sometimes do these things to my crush oh no 😭😭😭
Thanks so much for this well done video. I am just experiencing a complicated situation like that with a woman. It can be really hard to understand the signals in the right way, to realize and move on. But I can relate to everything you said. Especially with you saying that its important and a good thing that you know it for sure if she doesnt like you. Its hard at first but then it helps you to move on properly.
So thanks Lilian and Alexis for your videos on this topic. Its really exactly what I am preoccupied with at the moment. And your thoughts help me a lot understanding the situation.
Love from Germany to Toronto 😊
Sad to hear the reasons for flirting a lot; as none matched my experiences. Some have high anxiety & flirting helps relaxing the brain from over rational thinking. Others show their true self without inhibitions in party environments. Some other's gain finally some new confidence after loosing weight, and or getting a make over & are trying to catch up for lost time being the social butterfly they could have never been before a change. Another's are coming out for the first time & even so they have the look like they belong & are trying to fit in etc... & many more!.
Let's see if she is not into me. I am afraid of the results. Love from Turkey you cuties
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I got all the signs. I guess i am just stupid. I had to cut ties with her
You are not stupid, maybe just too nice to confront her, scared of scaring her off probably, maybe she did not want to hurt your feelings?
Me spending 2 years liking someone I never speak to
Knowing that you need to talk to your crush to get them 🤯
Might as well just give up now:( this is the hardest to navigate my feelings to. Ive always been dating guys but im srsly attracted to this girl now. Im beating myself up for it
Gotta compliment you here. Your vids are always fun and smart to the point. You just know what moves us😉 Important work. Keep it up♥️
Thanks so much! Happy to hear that 😊
Doesn’t pay attention: I never do I have adhd so
I am just so confused. I’m Inlove with my bff, she’s pan sexual, and for the couple months of our friendship she was really clingy, and it was obvious she liked me, but now, she isn’t like that at all but she still touches me and gives off a flirty energy sometimes. Idk what to do, this girl has me going crazy and she’s the whole reason why I’ve been questioning my sexuality
Awesome, lots more protips for those of us still sailing the murky waters of the dating apps! Much appreciated.
The good lady on the right sounds like someone from Deutschland 🇩🇪
Sometimes all these doesn't actually happen my side ___ reverse is always the case.
I always find it difficult knowing when a girl is straight or gay.
5:25 Could be also seen as a sign of social anxiety.
7:35 just about all the girls I liked are either celebrities or straight
Ok I need you to make a video about "breadcrumbing", I know you two would get it. Oh and btw, I love you, both of you. I am so grateful for you videos
I’m definitely getting breadcrumbed lmao
Great video, and the advice is relevant for any kind of relationship. I think you two are fantastic.
I was relieved until the part when you say she doesn't care about looking good for you. I'm texting this girl and she always sends me pics but like with facemask on, or not really posing or smiling, that sort of thing. Shit, I'm in the friendzone
with the group thing, i like someone but i always want to hang out with them in a group setting because i’m nervous about being with them
When you are older I thought the development of a relationship might be different. And in someways it is, as you know yourself that bit more. Then along comes HOPE and wishful thinking. We have very little in common but travel, then even that has now become an obstacle of late. She says she loves me but there is no real intimacy other than games. I feel like I have found someone who wants to play the game of gay rather than being in a real relationship. She is a person wanting to be needed and then tries to gain control through guilt ‘You made a decision and spent your money without my consent.’. She is a controlling loving person and she is genuinely a warm person wanting to wanted. I am a person who will commit without being needed. I want a relationship with love and mutual respect. Then I am in 100%. I do not want to hurt this lonely wanting woman.
I met a girl on dating app we know each other for a while and met several time we were having a really good time together so I decided to told her how I really feel but I didn't expect her to like me back or else just want to tell her that's all and at first I seem to turn out in a good way cause she told me maybe we can be a good friend I'm also happy with that and then she changed she not the same anymore that make me quite disappointed btw wish her the best and I have to move on
I'm bi, but I've always preferred women romantically. However every woman I've ever had strong feelings for ends up ghosting or rejecting me. I don't know why I'm so undesirable.... help :(
Is her drunk texting a sign she likes me?
so what if I'm into an introvert ... fml
edit: who has presumably no social skills whatsoever
letting go and moving on is so hard sometimes...
Really hard ... especially if u deeply love the bitch
It’s hard when you can tell they at least are enthusiastic about wanting to be friends 😩
Yes! How about: how to reject someone who isn't picking up these signals? How / when to break up (sad, but needed for soooo many people)? You get the idea... the world needs sound advice LOL.
great ones, put them on the list, thanks!
I’m talking to a girl in my newer friend group, she’s not straight, she’s single, she accepted when I asked her to hoco, she got excited when I said I was doing something bigger to re ask (I wanted her to not feel pressure the first time on Friday so I asked with just me are her I’ve now made a sign), we talked for 2 hours texting back and forth learning more about each other tonight and I wanted to know if she liked me or if she doesn’t and just sees me as a friend. Halp! (Also she called me pretty yesterday and that she was happy I asked her to hoco)
But, like, what if she likes you but only as a friend. How do you tell?
gosh thanks for saying that it's not a negative thing
1. “Conversation killer” Always you that are asking questions, or tryna keep the conversation going. U the one putting the effort.
2. “No text back” do i have to explain? If u dont getting any respons, barely getting any respons or have to Wait very very long before getting a respons.
3. “She’s flakey” Someone that always cancels plans.
4. “Doesn’t pay attention” if shes into u shes gonna pay attention and remember the story u were telling.
5. “Group hangers” Its never two of you, she doesnt want to spend time alone with u, she just wants to friendszone u.
6. “Crush flaunter” she mentioned she likes other ppl. Theyre into someone else. Method of showing u that shes not into u instead of being rude.
7. “She just loves to flirt” when ppl gives u mixed signals, shes flirting w you, BUT shes also doing this with everyone.
8. “ Shes straight” she talks bout guys. If shes straight she snot into u, specially not in a serious way.
9. “She tells you” duh which is good because u dont have to put any effort in this girl.
It is my story how crap I was in silly situation. I crush on the trainee at work. She was the one whom I felt in love at first sight and she was also the only one who made me got fired from the company. She reported me to HR that I did harashment action on her just because I kissed her cheek once. At the time she enjoyed it, nothing bad things happened even she asked me to hang up again on the other days. I just realized she just used me, what a gold digger. I never hate her might be I still put heart on her. I am happy now, feeling peaceful stay away from toxic people. Karma does exist 😂
I know how I want to be loved. How I want to be treated. So if someone isn't giving me the attention that I LIKE, I don't even want to be with them. Chasing someone feels ICK!
Ok ill go listen to king princess and cry.
Mysteries solved by the lowest-value women in the female Hierarchy (aka L es), next up : the string theory.
Again if there is real Chemistry you will know, they will know and things will just start happening. If it doesn't start happening then there is a reason behind this... don't proceed with this person... If you really don't care if there is chemistry or not, well... I would tend to think thats Not Healthy! Keep it Healthy!!!
I met a lesbian as a "straight asexual" woman. Spent some time with her letting her know I am straight asexual. Now I can't stop thinking about her and now she was a girlfriend. 😞
lol, she's not into you sign - she's married to man. xD totally not speaking from experience! No, actually, you suddenly were not into her, too. Of course.
5 months ago I was in denial. 4 or 3 months later I finally accepted that im bisexual (only my 2 best friends and my crush know about my sexuality). I even have a huge crush on a girl and I recently found out she is bisexual too!!
Omg I’m here again. I meet my crush and she is the prettiest girl I’ve ever seen
I have a girlfriend since yesterday!! We met at college but started talking the 16 of August, the 19 I told her I loved her and now she is my girlfriend (since the 27 of August). Im so excited but afraid, we are both pretty inexperienced so that eases my anxiety a bit. Nonetheless, IM SO HAPPY!!
Anyone have advice on how to get a girls number without making it awkward? Pls help 😭😩😊
lol I’m straight n watching this. 😅 I don’t think I play games. I was just willing to make an exception for one girl
I really like this girl, and whenever we text it mostly goes on for well over an hour if neither of us has anything to get to. But both of us are extremely busy with exams and other issues. And we both flirt with each other as a joke for both of us. But i flirt with her more intensely lmao. It might be because she's like my closest friend.
I'm a little unsure bc my friend and I were talking abt crushes one time and we both revealed (well, I revealed a name and she gave clues but I couldn't guess) our crushes, but I secretly have had a more serious longer term crush on her, so in theory she could also be bluffing, it could be a not very serious crush, and she could also secretly have a crush on me... idek tbh
Hi. Today i split up from my fiancee because i finally came out as lesbian. Im 49 and single and literally clueless. Ive been hiding away for years and spent most of my years trying to conform to a straight relationship. Ivenever felt so free but at the ame time scared. Ill probably stay single for awhile but do you have any advice for a late bloomer?. Ps i love your videos 😀.
❌ she sometimes asks but not always
✅ we never texted
✅ very flaky flake
✅ she doesn't by attention
✅ she hates being alone with me I think?
✅ she likes other people
❌ she doesn't flirt with anybody
✅ she is straight
❌ well she doesn't know that yet that I like her.. 👀
❌ she doesn't even try to follow me on social meida
okay I'm done she officially doesn't like me...
What if they just not a big texter and responses short because they prefer other ways of communicating but it kind of a turn off already because all these brief replies don’t tell me they wanna have “get together”. 😢
Thanks for this! Can you guys do a video on mind games in dating why people play them