Future video idea: Would you _please_ talk about how, once upon a time fashion _undergarments_ were _thee_ ONLY way that women could "appear" to be instyle & on trend? Maybe, talk about how for _centuries_ throughout history we managed to live _very_ active lives (compared to those of many today). YET we'd _still_ insist that we use stays & corsets to shape our bodies _unnaturally_ to achieve proper fashion. We used the actual _bones_ of whales to create shapewear, underneath _all_ of our garments. YET, ever since we got rid of those layers, such as corsets, stays, NOW we demand ourselves to workout to get these ever changing desired "stylish" looks in our fashion. Why?? Isn't it much _more_ dangerous to our health to try to be some BODY that many of us aren't? Why not use modern shapewear to get the trendy looks AND eat better & exercise for our _own_ personal health benefits?? These are a few ladies (fellow seamstresses) that I follow That have talked on the subject. Rachel Maksy, Bernadette Banner & Karolina Zebrowska. I can send you direct links to those videos if you like just lemme know. Love you Michelle XOXXOO 🤗😘💕💕
As an epileptic who can't drive because the world is so filled with triggers, people need to calm down. The world can not cater to everyone's sensitivities.
Fellow epileptic here. I think we have to start to require shutting down all the bright lights in the world because flashing lights can trigger seizures. Also whole society needs to become less hectic and all social media must be forbidden from all people because stress can trigger seizures. Tell me if you have more ideas 😉
@@piraattipupu but in seriousness, there are some theaters and public spaces that have started to have a sensory sensitive day which I do think is pretty cool for people like us, folks with autism, or other problems with sensory sensitivity.
'We are tired of thin people.' Translation: "We are tired of seeing people that remind us that it's possible to control our own weight with a little bit of discipline, diet and exercise.'
Preach!! As a biggin’ myself. working on their journey to being healthy. It’s so true discipline discipline discipline!! And can be done!! Of course everybody’s healthy looks different but 400 lbs and over. It’s scientifically proven you are more prone to get sicker at that weight
I am eating less than my thinner friends yet I am not thinner than them. I am active and go to the gym while they hate any sort of physical acitivity whatsoever. I am not overwieght though, but pretending that it's 100% in the control of the person is ludicrous. Also, many fat people usually have some mental health issues. It's far from simply being a matter of discipline, exercise, and diet. I actually pity fat people, I was fat myself (82kg on 163cm) and only when I sorted out my life issues and mental health did I manage to lose weight (up to 53kg at one point). I was dealing with insomnia and extremely low self-esteem for years, and I would put on more and more weight and almost never leaving the house.
@@NoctLightCloud So it's not within your control, but you got down to 53kg so it is within your control? What did you do to get down to 53kg if it wasn't diet, exercise and discipline?
@@vikingshark2634 After studying and applying for programs, I was lucky and priviledged enough to go abroad (get away from my toxic home) for some time, start anew and learn about what it feels like to have normal friends and be appreciated by society. Not everyone has the priviledge to start all over again or experience those things. It was pure luck I got the scholarship - not within my control. After some months abroad, I realized I wasn't sad even 1 single day there. It had changed me and I suddenly appreciated my body and my soul/personality that I used to detest only some months prior.
As a psychologist who specializes in treatment for trauma this constant need for “trigger warnings” horrifies me. Research indicates that trigger warnings not only don’t work to decrease anxiety, it may actually lead to an increased level of anxiety in those who avoid exposure to specific content. I support things like violence and sexuality being a part of the ratings system, but the seemingly infinite rise in anxiety and panic attacks in the US is real-world evidence the research is correct. It is NORMAL to experience distress, anger, grief, disgust, sorrow, happiness, etc. I have transitioned to death doulaship and people are no longer prepared for death in any way. As soon as our cognition allowed as a species we have portrayed the drama and related feelings of life in re-enactments, stories, plays, and folklore. After 200,000 years of practicing this trait it has become a way to expose and desensitize ourselves. Between avoidance practices and increased social isolation (even before COVID) we are creating a MASSIVE mental health pandemic we are no where near prepared for. I hope someone reads this post and reconsiders requesting trigger warnings. If you are someone who is reacting so strongly to media regarding particular topics, please seek therapy. The trigger warning hasn’t helped your anxiety, and it may have worsened it. It’s a sign your body is using to tell you that you could use some help. I am in no way suggesting you flood yourself with media that causes you anxiety, but total avoidance is not a method that will help. It has been my lifelong goal to reduce suffering in my fellow man, and I only want what is best for you. And you ARE strong enough to endure these small exposures. Mental health treatment is likely available on a sliding scale through your local community agency through the department of health. www.psychologicalscience.org/news/releases/trigger-warnings-fail-to-help.html www.newyorker.com/news/our-columnists/what-if-trigger-warnings-dont-work journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2167702620921341
as someone who is in therapy for PTSD manifesting with anxiety and agoraphobia primarily, I 100% agree and have had the same feedback in therapy. There needs to be some sort of balance, otherwise you just stop being functional. It does take time , you are allowed to give yourself leniency, but you should keep trying to lessen the anxiety. Hardship is normal, discomfort is also normal, avoidance, anxiety& dopamine dependence are a very real issue more of us should be informed about
Absolutely! I'm not a psychologist by any means, but I am involved with film. As you said, we have the rating system. It isn't perfect by any means, but it is basically the trigger warning everyone is asking for. It rates a film or show based upon content that can be objectively triggering due to it's negative nature (like violence and such, not things like a character having cancer or Pixar and all of their sad moments). Ironically, the rating system was made so that content could be seen and not policed and shut down by the government (films had to be screened to make sure it met approval, and if it didn't, they would have to cut the "problematic" parts of the film out or not have it be released. That's a very simple explanation, but ratings were Hollywood's solution to sort of regulate itself). The ratings system implies people wanted to see this content. Ratings exist to tell you who is probably mature enough to handle the content. Even if it ends up bothering them, they should be mentally developed enough to stop watching and/or process their feelings about the content. Even more ironically, it seems like people just aren't using the ratings system. I was looking at Sweeny Todd: the Demon Barber of Fleet St., and in the reviews online, I think it came pretty close to every 4th review being a parent complaining they turned it on for their kids and the movie is not appropriate for kids. I can absolutely tell you it's not, and it never claimed to be. The rating says so. The description of the movie says so. The promotional image says so. Everything pointed towards this movie being a bloody horror movie, and yet because the parents saw it was also a musical, they assumed it was safe for their kids. It is not Elmo: the Demon Barber of Sesame St. And yet so many parents got mad and gave it a 1 star review because they were mad because their kids saw red liquid (implied to be blood) on gears and such in the opening. Then they realized it was never intended for a younger audience that had not deleloped the skills to process the content of the film. Trigger warnings definitely don't work if you won't even listen to them. Aside from everything you pointed out (very interesting, by the way), that alone is enough for me to say adding more trigger warnings won't do a thing to help. At this point, just watch the movie and tell me how you feel about it afterwards.
I have a respiratory desease and I've known since I am 10y old that it will require a lung transplant in a few years. So I used to have panic attacks whenever lung transplant or related content was brought up (at school or in a tv documentary, since my parents were researching that matter). I've been exposing myself to it for a few years, one step at a time, already so that I don't break down hyperventilating in tears anymore. I'm still really uncomfortable watching the procedure though (Others transplant, I watch while eating cereals ^^).
I have such intense entomophobia that I'm working on exposure therapy. I'm going slow but it's actually better than asking for arthropod trigger warnings
I’m an amateur in the realm of psychology, but I consider learning about it to be valuable, and I absolutely agree about exposing oneself to things that give them anxiety. Cognitive behavioral therapy is a very valuable tool, and I’d consider trigger warnings to be a form of avoidance of CBT-like experiences, although people may not recognize it as such. Have you caught any of Dr Georgia Ede’s lectures on mental health, or read any of the studies she’s been a part of? If so, what are your thoughts on her?
As a teen who had cancer, we need to have more of a conversation about the realities of the disease and in my opinion a trigger warning just puts a stigma and shame around talking about this.
Exactly! If you're triggered so easily, it is your responsibility to know how to avoid your triggers and how to handle triggering situations. These people weren't forced to watch a storyline that involved cancer 🙄
I just looked at the rotten tomato website and it's rated pg-13. Why do those people expect it to be g rated by their standards? Don't they realize that the big companies that made that movie aren't going out of their way to be activists for them?
Me too. And I’m fat. But I lost 30 pounds within the last 6 months and I hope that’s not all I’ll be losing. I don’t wanna be unhealthy and hurt all the time and have my feet and legs falling asleep every time I get on a bar stool or toilet or cross cross apple sauce more than a few minutes. Or be out of shape when I walk a few feet it hurts too much. Not to mention the blood sugar and cholesterol and heart beat and oxygen levels are way too dangerously out of wack.
@@kellokelloggs5302 good for you, girl. I had a baby LAST YEAR and I still haven't lost the weight. In fact I weigh 18lbs more than I did right before delivery. I'm ashamed of myself, I really assumed I'd be the mom jogging around with my little one in her stroller, but instead I sit around and play with her at home, and sort of wallow. I'm not obese (yet), but I'm right in the line of overweight... And I was very naturally thin and fairly active and fit before my pregnancy. So it's just so bizarre looking in the mirror and seeing a body that isn't mine... Knowing it is. I generally don't find people's bodies unattractive, fat/thin thicc/skinty...whatev, UNLESS they are literally close to death (severely morbidly obese/emaciated). However, I look at myself and I feel like I wouldn't think anything weird at all about another girl, it's just not me. I want me back, but I'm too lazy right now. So long story long I'm on my struggle bus. And, Good for you, seriously! It makes me feel inspired to hear when people are happier and healthier. Keep it up!! 💞
I had a close family member die from an aggressive cancer - and I was the primary caregiver as this was happening. While the death still haunts me daily, the cancer part in the movie did not trigger me at all. In fact,I appreciated seeing it. More attention needs to be brought to the realities of cancer so that more can be done to fight it - and one day, cure it. People who have or had cancer are truly superheroes - because the amount of strength it takes to battle it is otherworldly.
I've also had an immediate family member die from cancer, and I agree with you. I think it's good to include it in storylines. I want to see things that remind me of her, especially if they portray her struggle in a heroic way. It's stupid to expect the world to shield you from sadness, especially at the movies. All that will do is make you more fragile and less equipped to work through events when they happen in the real world.
I am so sorry for your loss, and to anyone else reading this comment who has lost a loved one to cancer. It's a pain I have experienced myself. I lost my mother to cancer a few years ago, at first I have to admit I couldn't handle watching a show/movie where a character had cancer, I didn't expect a trigger warning though. I simply would leave the room or change the channel if I was alone. Nowadays I can watch shows/movies about it and even talk about it but for a long time I couldn't.
Being diagnosed with cancer is a sudden slap to the face that almost everyone did not expect. Since we didnt expect this from the movie, it’s actually realistic how cancer patients and their families go through from normal living to battling it. Im sorry for your loss. I also almost lost my mother to breast cancer, but we managed to get her a masectomy. Some patients arent so lucky or early in the diagnosis to do something about it, and its terrible
Yes! Everyone feels so entitled with all of the “my trauma” “my truth” stuff. It is YOUR responsibility to come to grips with your “triggers” so that you can be a functioning member of society. It is not reasonable to expect strangers to walk on eggshells for you. The world does not owe you understanding. 🤷🏽♀️🙄
@@amanda4768 Both conservative and liberals do this but it is common to just be bigoted against conservative and critique what the other side does.Ben Shapiro made a big fuss about wap song not being child friendly.Who cares just do not make them watch it and boycott Wap.
Its like the first thing people learn in most partial psychiatric care programs, ED recovery clinics, and drug/alcohol rehabilitation centers: you can only control your own actions, not those of others; in other words, you are responsible for your own triggers.
Exactly - it’s part of life, and life has upsetting aspects. There will almost always be something in a movie that could cause someone who relates to that topic to have some negative memories and/or feelings. To list every possible topic would lead to numerous trigger warnings.
The woman with the horse drives me crazy. I grew up on a horse ranch riding horses my entire life and it’s called animal cruelty when you put someone on a horse that is not the right ratio from their weight to the horses weight. I don’t know how come the stupid person doesn’t understand that.
I agree! I used to be a lot larger than I am, now, and the place I went riding had a draft horse cross that was the only one I was allowed to ride. She hurt her leg and couldn’t be ridden for several months, so I sat and waited while my daughter rode. It never once occurred to me to be offended, complain, disagree, etc. - Bailey’s health was infinitely more important than my ability to do a fun activity. Anyone who is upset that they are too large to ride a horse can use that as motivation to lose enough weight to do so. The person in this story was acting entitled, selfish and disgusting - infuriating.
It's funny she even signed an agreement to go that has the weight limit of the horses on it like ever horse camp ive ever gone to has and posted on the front gate as well so it's not like she didn't have warning....
@@queenpinkysfamily1618 Right, they always give weight warnings prior to you paying. Be it a carnival ride or riding a horse. She probably saw it and just decided to ignore it because it's "fatphobic" and won't apply to her. I once saw a very large woman and her husband riding on a carriage being dragged by ONE horse. I felt so fucking terrible because I couldn't even begin to imagine how exhausting it must've been for that horse.
I had so much fun horse riding as a kid, but only for the first ten minutes before finding out I am seriously allergic to horses and landing in the hospital lmao. Forcing a horse to carry too much weight to me seems comparable to forcing me to spend time with an animal that causes me medical harm. I still enjoy horses (as I do most animals), just from afar at a safe distance. I don't see any reason why she can't do that too
I feel a good way to guise if trigger warnings necessary is to think about if directly seeing the scene can cause tangible harm. I am flash sensitive but not epileptic, although I know that people who are epileptic could be sent into a medical emergency just by seeing the flashing lights so it is necessary to have that kind of trigger warning. I have had many people in my family have cancer, but in no way could seeing cancer on screen cause someone to have cancer. It makes no sense to me to require a warning for that.
Too loud of noise can also cause seizures...but nobody puts on a warning on movie theatres. LOL [I say this as someone with epilepsy that got seizures from watching LOUD marvel movies in theatres...] Baby day fixes the noise part though. But yeah, if something causes physical harm then most deffiantly there should be a warning....however stuff like PTSD I feel falls into a similar category since THAT is bad. But for stuff like that it'd be more serious stuff like SA, war movies, abuse, etc. not illnesses seeing as nobod really gets PTSD from losing someone to cancer.
The first time I remember ever seeing a trigger warning outaide epilepsy was saving private ryan. I guess that d-day scene was so damn close to the real thing combat vets were sent into flashbacks. And if youve never seen a true blue flashback (not simply bringing up memories) they are INTENSE.
@@starr2shine738 As someone who lost someone to terminal cancer after they fought that battle for four years, it definitely gave me PTSD. It's traumatic to watch someone battle with cancer and it can definitely leave someone with trauma when all is said and done. I sincerely hope you never have someone you love go through that, or even yourself, because it absolutely is terrifying and scary. While most trigger warnings are not necessary, I don't want to see a movie that includes cancer as a main storytelling beat because I never want to experience that again.
My only "triggers" are seeing women get beat or seeing DV bruises and wounds. I think it's fair... I'd rather see the blurred out image instead of being shown someone's bloody and beaten face. It was so hard to get over what happened to me that when I was at my lowest, seeing things like that meant another day of depression and not being able to do anything.
@@starr2shine738 Well losing someone due to cancer is triggering and can induce some form of trauma but, that doesn’t mean a trigger warning necessary. Someone’s clinical illness shouldn’t be your trigger, that’s a whole different kind of selfishness to me
One thing I find interesting about the “Fatness Spectrum” is that they use clothing sizes. A system they all deem unreliable. Wouldn’t it just be easier to go by body measurements, or is math too objective?
Yeah but when you have fat influencers who are as wide as they are tall. They don't want to believe that; because in their mind weight/body measurements are evil and a construction of the patriarchy and THE THIN AGENDA.
You covered the topic of trigger warnings incredibly well in this video. I have PTSD and actually suffer from psychogenic seizures due to my PTSD. This means I can and do have physical reactions when triggered by certain subjects. Unfortunately it is out of my control but I can’t expect the world to have a trigger warning for every single thing that triggers me, especially when some of my triggers are quite obscure. I’ve had to learn over time what is safe for me to watch, to read, or just expose myself to in general. I also love that you used such a great example re: trans representation.
I kid you not a saw a video on tiktok saying that the word 'special' is an ableist slur and the trigger warnings included: bunny hat, size 7 font, stripes, nails and pink hair. What the eff.
I used to like seeing trigger warnings as a sign of empathy (I'm not talking about epilepsy, it's necessary period), but then people started demanding them all the time, even for bodies of creators. And that's disgusting and awfully offensive to these and everyone else who has scars and other 'triggering' parts of themselves.
I feel like so many of these people are brainwashed to believe just because someone is thin or pretty their life is perfect, my mother was beautiful, but she still went through a lot of hardship which included losing a child and a horribly abusive marriage. It always pissed me off when people would say she was 'so lucky'.
Generally speaking, thin and pretty women do have it easier than someone who is average and fat or just average and thin. Of course that’s not the case for every thin and pretty woman.
Yep . I realized this when I found out my model gorgeous friend was suffering from violence at home and poverty. But because she looked so good a plain tee shirt and thrift shop jeans look great . People assume she's rich , healthy , happy .... it's crazy
I used to think this . But the fading of looks , the creepy attention from guys and the amount of people who automatically assume your a bitch . Idk ... it's helpful sometimes but defnetly not a walk in the park
As a nonfat person, I get told to my face that I'm triggering, and they resent my existence (in a "jokingly" manner). I even had a friend stop being my friend because she didn't like that I complimented her while being skinny. I blame the body positivity movement for that one because she got sucked into the rabbit hole.
I had the same experience 💀🤚 (For clarity: I live in Germany) I have a disease which makes it hard to put on some weight so I look very skinny. Some random girl came up to me while I was shopping and told me that I shouldn't wear revealing clothes because it triggers her and her friend because it reminded them of their high school bullys 🤦🏼♀️ Like girl, I'm sorry you got bullied for your weight in school but that's not my problem to solve bc I'm not the one who has to cater to your triggers
I've had this same experience. People use body positive as an excuse not to improve themselves and just blanket everybody who disagrees with them as haters and bigots. And the people who agree with that shit don't give a fuck about the person who is literally going to die at 42 cuz they're eating McDonald's 5 days a week. All cuz they wanna be seen as inclusive nice people. It's sad
@@db7499 nah, I really loved her. She is the sweetest. I would low-key beg her to talk to me because I don't be reading hints and didn't recognise I was being dropped. She eventually told me she didn't like how she felt around me and that I was a trigger, so I had to take the L. They convinced her (despite it not being remotely a reality) that all thin people like having a DUFF (designated ugly fat friend), so you can tell that this ish isn't new, but more rampant. That was about 2016 ish, and I'm still upset about it. I really deeped her though.
If anything, I just instantly relate when I see a cancer story on the big screen because that's a reality for me and my family. Acknowledging reality and finding the dark humor in it is way more helpful and cathartic than pretending that it doesn't exist. This feels like one of those things where people just want to pretend nothing bad ever happens to anybody under the guise of protecting the feelings of cancer patients. We never asked them to do that.
Damn girl! I loveee these videos. You are funny and honest and so confident with your opinion. Im not fat but Im not thin and Im in the middle realm trying to work with my doctors to get on a better path. You are an inspiration to me and I just wanted to say thank you for always keeping it fun and positive!
The trigger warning thing reminds me of one of the things I don't agree with the fat acceptance movement: this absolute refusal to ever be in a slightly uncomfortable position for even the smallest amount of time, which I think is a very unrealistic way of looking at life.
Agreed, I also noticed that during the pandemic. People refused to wear masks because it was uncomfortable, they had glasses allergies, etc. I actually have terrible pollen allergies (I'm almost always sneezing, coughing, have a sore throat, or all three) I also have glasses. Wearing masks is awful and I hate it. But I wear them anyway because I'd much rather protect myself and other people and be uncomfortable than possibly be the cause of someone else's death. I've gotten covid twice, and I didn't get it too badly (I'm currently recovering actually) but I still wear a mask, because I'm also protecting OTHER people from my germs. I find it very funny how these people automatically assume a mask is for their safety only. It's for yours and other people as well. If you cough into the mask, it's not going to freely fly around the room and be inhaled by other people, and those other people will also be covered, so it's double protection. It's also PROTECTION, not 100% reliable prevention. My point is, they'd rather go out in public and be comfortable instead of being uncomfortable but keeping people safe.
Honestly it’s why they made the community site DoesTheDogDie it has every trigger you could check for and context provided by people who saw it. I can’t handle even the illusion of animal cruelty and that site is where I go before watching anything. I don’t expect the actual production companies to do this for me .::
As a cancer survivor, I think it's absolutely asinine to want/demand a trigger warning. I don't need that commenter to speak for me. She can speak for herself all she wants, but trying to speak for survivors as a whole, when she isn't even a survivor herself, seems super disingenuous and demanding of validation.
I learned what trans was when I was in elementary I was playing with my toys in the living room while my mom watched TV and one of the characters said they was trans I asked my mom what it ment and all she said was they were born in the wrong body and I was like ok and went back to my toys.. kids are satisfied with simple answers and will just move on
What does it mean to be born in the "wrong body"? You get the body you're supposed to be in. Trans people are people who are unhappy with their body, that doesn't mean they're born in the wrong body. They have a mental illness. That's the problem with putting trans people in children's cartoons, they aren't ready for the real answer because it's an adult issue they can't understand. If they hear there are people who are born in the wrong body they might think they were born in the wrong body, when that's simply not a thing.
I went from working at a very active, always on my feet, go-go-go type job to a desk job recently and I’ve been steadily gaining weight as my calorie intake is the same but I’m burning like none of it. So I’m still relatively thin for now, but I know I’m going to get chubbier if I don’t do something about my sedentary lifestyle. Honestly, I really appreciate your words of “get up and put in the work!” This is kind of unrelated to the video at hand, but I wanted to let you know that you’re inspiring me to find ways to get healthier :)
Dude, watching the episode of Bojack called "Stupid Piece of Shit" is what helped me realize I was severely depressed and needed to see a doctor before things got worse. I had literally taken out a life insurance policy on myself so my parents could have money for a funeral after I took my permanent vacation from life. Maybe the people who are so sensitive need to realize that some of us can cope with our trauma better when relating to what we see in the media. Also, as a thin bitch, I'm glad everyone is so tired of me😘 Wonderful video as always!
I am so happy you feel better sis ! I also undetstood that I have a problem by watching bojack because I can relate to so many things he does. And I will seek professional help as soon as I can afford it. But at least I know now that my mental health isn't okay and that I have many problems and toxic behaviors I should fix.
@@anyametref5176 I hope you are able to get help soon. I know what it's like as far as the financials go. When I first suspected I had depression, my health insurance deductible was super high and wouldn't cover mental health services. But because I had health insurance, I wasn't allowed to use any of the free mental health programs offered by my state. I highly recommend contacting someone in your local department of mental health and asking them what options are available to you. Also, if you ever feel overwhelmed, you can call the suicide hotline. They will still listen to you and try to offer solutions, even if you aren't technically suicidal ☺️
@@katherineyarborough8546 Thank you, you're kind. The thing is I live in North Africa where there's no suicide hotline or even any kind of facilities that take care of these kimds of issues. People here simply don't belive in mental health problems other than depression, schizophrenia or bipolar ( the big ones ) which isn't my concern. I pretty much think I have a personality disorder, because as I said I have very toxic behaviors for myself and others. Last time I went to a doctor he told me it's a lack of faith and I should pray more ( like what lol )
I watched Disney's Brave in theatres and I went in without any knowledge of the premise. The main theme revolved around a complicated relationship between mother and daughter, and my mom had recently died. We had a complicated relationship too and some of the scenes hit a sore spot, it was unexpected, and I burst into tears in the theatre. Not once did I feel angry at the movie, these things exist in the world and they won't disappear because I have a lot of baggage around them. It was a me issue, and it showed me the things that I needed to work through.
this happened to me when i watched A Silent Voice for the first time. 😭 I was at home though and that movie made me burst into tears from the themes of bullying because someone is different. Love that movie
As a person that was in shape and got out of shape and now getting back in shape. I can generally say it’s easy to be out of shape. It’s hard to get back into shape and stay there. All it takes to not be in shape is way, not move and that’s easy with no real work put in. Some folks can lie to themselves all day but being out of shape to thin or big most of the time will have adverse on your body(joints, organs, etc) So just because some of these folks say healthy at every size that isn’t reality. 🤷🏽♂️🫡🥴🙃✌🏾✊🏾
It’s choosing your hard. It’s hard to be heavier than normal and out of shape. It’s hard to be in shape and requires discipline and dedication. I would take that hard. I understand though. I’ve had multiple times where health and other life events lead to me having to start the journey to athleticism and health all over again. It’s worth it though. I still have about 20lbs from the lockdowns and some severe health issues but I’m prioritizing my health and looking at it more from an aesthetics perspective.
I agreed with what you said. Over the past couple years things happened in my life and I really couldn't deal with any heavy topics in media. Had to get off a lot of social media (body image issues) and just watch a bunch of things for kids and avoid most adult stuff. Even now I find that I still can't watch too many heavy things or I'll start to feel down again so I just keep away from it. I've never thought that someone needed to warn me about these things though. I always felt it was my responsibility to get away from it.
I honestly feel so bad for people who are so mentally stuck on being “body positive” they’ll never get to experience how genuinely loving your body and caring about it creates such a different quality in life. It’s so sad.
I appreciate trigger warnings for a small number of things; s*x ass***t, self-harm, and depictions of extreme, graphic violence or abuse. Things that are legitimately very upsetting! Since when did that idea turn into warnings for everything?
@@smol-one Sexual violence and self harm isn’t in a shows warning. You can look at the parent’s guide though because parents will usually mention if something like sexual assault, self harm, child abuse, animal abuse, etc. happens in a movie. Usually guides only warn about sex/nudity (not saying whether there’s consent involved), violence/gore, and cursing.
You’ve inspired me to leave that toxic ass group and become a better me(not like that group excepted my thin mint ass anyways lmao they always told me I wasn’t allowed to have insecurities bc im thin although the last time I checked, anorexia wasn’t the standard)and I want to Thank you! I was extremely underweight and now I’m at a healthier size and am continuing to gain. Love you💜
The problem is, sometimes they discriminate even people who are fat by medical standards. It's weird, this happens to me whenever I get sent to the obesity clinic in the hospital I go to. The have morbidly obese people and they look at me like I offend them for being "thin". And I am obese by medical standards, some people are insane.
I’m so happy you’re feeling better! Don’t let anyone tell you that you don’t meet their criteria to be insecure. I hope you are able to continue living that fantasy you deserve! ❤️❤️
A good compromise might be more awareness of websites like "Does the dog die" where you can look up specific movies to see what kind of content warnings it has. This way nothing is spoiled for the movie by including a CW in the beginning, and people who are sensitive to that content can be better prepared.
Thing about the word Trigger is that it's supposed to be used for people who can get physically alarmed by an action or word, like hyperventilating, flashbacks, vomiting, etc. It bothers me that people use it when they are slightly uncomfortable about whatever, it lost its meaning and I believe it should be used carefully instead of people just adding onto the list just because they felt a negative emotion about it for like 2 seconds. Seriously guys, some of yall need to calm down and stare at a cow or something
I’m so glad my mother taught me at a young age that no one can “make you feel” anything. How you feel and act in response to something is all from yourself, either because it’s true and you feel ashamed of yourself, or because it’s not true, in which case it shouldn’t bother you anyway. I didn’t grow up thinking my every feeling & reaction to things were everyone else’s fault or responsibility. No one can make you feel bad for being fat. You either feel bad because it’s true and you’re unhappy about it, or you’re happy about it so comments shouldn’t bother you. There should be no trigger warnings besides seizure risks.
There should always be trigger warnings for assault because ptsd is a real illness and will cause a serious physical response in the body. It can cause fainting, puking and panic attacks. I understand that not every trigger can have a warning because some are very personal but assault should always have a warning.
@@katybee3891 There is! Program rating are there for a reason. "Rated M for mature audiences as this movie contains scenes of violence and course language." I remember that from the 80s
"It doesn't affect me at all; but I'm very nosy." I RELATE sistah, I relate!!! It's one of the tires on my strugglebus, as I find my nosiness can get me in trouble. 🤷♀️😂🤣
Girl me too! My mom, sister and cousin will regularly call me for chisme (gossip). We don’t spread peoples business but we are all nosy for no good reason 😂.
I watched Thor twice in the cinema. My mum died from cancer a couple of years ago and I did not feel “triggered”. I knew the storyline from the comics and it didn’t stop me watching it. There was a scene where it showed a gravestone of another character with the name Elaine, which was my mums name. When I saw that I got a little jab in the heart and tear in the eye. I wiped it away and carried on with the film.
I used to watch King of the Hill when I was having bad anxiety and it actually helped me to the degree I later described to others as it had a anti anxiety med affect on me back then lol. So I liked how Michelle talked about watching adult cartoons makes people feel better. I love Bob’s Burgers too….totally get the grown up watching cartoons as I’m an adult who’s always loved cartoons……peace and blessings everyone ✌️❤️😊
as someone who was 270 at my highest and 110 at my lowest, you are a good balance here, teaching about both sides of eating disorders, im recovering from bulimia at the moment but i love your commentary, over eating isnt cute - and its more triggering to me than anything else, i hope anyone struggling with weight learns its not about "society" but about being HEALTHY, loving yourself comes with feeling good!!!
You're right on the money with watching cartoons when you're anxious. I did that last night when I had an ED trigger and calmed down within one episode of SpongeBob 😂
Considering the triggers: I have epilepsy and am very sensitive to light effects. It is very helpful for me to have a trigger warning because that literary helps me preventing seizures and I appreciate that a lot. However I know this isn't always possible in everyday life. I consciously inform myself prior to public events etc. to know whether I should go or avoid it. I always look up descriptions and warnings of films online before watching. And in scenarios in which I suddenly get triggered I walk out asap. Just leave and avoid it. It is always nice of people to be considerate but I know in the end this is an issue that I need to take care of and be cautious of myself. Nobody can be looking out for me 24/7. Nobody is obligated to. PS: Thank you for the videos! They are always very entertaining and your work and determination are being very appreciated! :D
Texas girl here! I got so excited when you showed HEB 😂 that’s how much of a Texan I am. Also, my husband’s mom died from cancer and he was not bothered by Thor, but neither of us have ever needed a trigger warning. Different stroke for different folks 🤷🏻♀️
Hi Michelle! New to your channel, love you, officially in a binge (watch) now. Regarding the woman “too fat to ride a horse,” I’m a lifelong equestrian/horse lover, and this is far, far too common. It is ABUSE to put a heavy person on a horse. It’s been scientifically proven that a human who weighs 20% or more of the horse’s weight damages the horse at the skeletal level. These animals can’t defend themselves, they rely on us to treat them with care and respect. That’s it, rant over, just had to get it out because this drives me crazy
I get triggered by a lot, and I take it upon myself to look up triggers prior to watching any media. (Diagnosed severe CPTSD) It's my job, not the world's. Would I prefer not to be triggered by everything? Absolutely! But its my problem. Not everyone elses. Trauma is a part of many peoples lives, we all react differently and it's up to you to keep yourself safe.
But that would mean you’re responsible for yourself (an adult?) and take accountability for yourself and your potential reactions :/ The internet ™ can’t do that!!
I knew someone who helped people with PTSD through EFT tapping. NOT saying only do that, but there's no harm in adding it along with professional help. Just look here on youtube, you'll probably find some videos. I like Brad Yates, I'd suggest checking his channel first. It's free and easy, you might be pleasantly surprised by results.
@@w1975b thanks for the suggestion! I did EMDR for about a year which helped me get stable enough to work at my dream job. My therapist has mentioned EFT, maybe I'll look into that more too!! Appreciate the tip :)
I went to a theatre last month and the plot was very close to home. There was a scene that was so freaking intense for me and "triggering" that I started crying and recalling bad memories. I didn't expect a trigger warning because you cannot expect to accommodate everyone and everyone's trauma. You are responsible for yourself. We need these uncomfortable/sad experiences to shape us cause life is not a "safe space".
There's literally a site for trigger warning called does the dog die? I use it for horror movies cause there's things I'm uncomfortable with and like to know ahead of time.
Yes! I'm definitely not fat, but i could shave off a few pounds, and this is just cringy. These people call themselves "plus-size", when they are actually morbidly obese. There's a difference between plus-size and fat/obese.
To be fair though, clothing comes in regular sizes and plus sizes. I’m in the obese category currently (working on it though !!) and shop in the plus size section and do refer to myself as plus-size sometimes
There's actually not a difference between being "plus size" and being fat/obese. "Plus size" is the fashion industry's term for the clothing size range for fat/obese women. Plus size clothing usually starts at a size 10W, which is cut more like a size 12 in non-plus ("straight") sizes. If you wear plus size clothing, you are fat/obese.
@@fitfatty211 I agree with you, but a lot of muscular people could be considered plus size based on sizes. And also, a lot of people are curvy (and i mean this in the actual meaning, not the size 2902179086 curvy) and can be considered "regular" in tops but when they go to buy pants, they're plus sized. I haven't weighed myself in a while but I'd estimate myself as a solid 150-ish lbs, and I'm a size 6 or 8 in tops but when it comes to pants, I'm a size 12 just because I have wide hips. Plus size doesn't neccesarily mean fat/obese. For your average woman, sure. But if you're muscular and have large bones, you could be considered plus size. But take this with a grain of salt, this is only from my opinion and I should do a bit of research, as I do work out but I'd consider myself more toned than muscular.
@K Marie I agree, but a 10/12 isn't always what you think it is. Sizing in fashion is just bad. For example, I bought a size S (4-6) tank top from one brand, and it was too big for me. I bought one in a size M (6-8) from another brand, and it was too small. We shouldn't force the notion that those sizes are obese, because 1. you could have a taller muscular person who is a size 10 and they are in no way obese, and 2, it can cause distorted self image for people. I know this since a few years ago I was a size 14, and I got bullied so much for being said size I developed a case of disordered eating and lost weight unhealthily until I was a size 6-8.
I have been SA'd before so movies with scenes revolving around SA can be pretty triggering for me depending on how my mental health is doing that day. It is a personal issue that I deal with and if there is a new piece of content I want to see that I think MAY have a scene that will upset me in it I wait until other people have seen it so that I can avoid it if necessary. I don't expect every piece of content to have warnings for every potentially upsetting topic because what triggers me may not necessarily trigger someone else. Even other people with similar experiences may not react in the same way. One example of this is with Game of Thrones. I waited until I could look up timestamps online and skip the SA scenes that I knew I couldn't handle. It sucks to have to wait but it is my responsibility to take care of my own mental health.
I absolutely agree with you. It is very paradoxical that we live in very violent societies for the most part where ruthless things happen in the world every day and are massively mediatised and yet, trigger warnings are now attached to everything. In law school we had a trigger warning that our course on personal injury contained legal cases with descriptions of injury in it. The thing that makes me curious is how these warnings came about, as they seem to have suddenly gone into fashion but none of the people I was studying with cared about them. It feels like something other people thought young people would seek, and now people not directly affected by any issue start blindly taking the stance that there should be trigger warnings everywhere. It is nice to hear a critical and educated opinion on these, as I am shocked at how blindly and widely used they now are.
Hello Michelle, I've been watching your videos for years now and I still really enjoy your content and find it very entertaining. You seem like a very confident person. I was wondering if you could make a video about how you became confident and if you have insecurities. Also if you have any tips on how to be more confident.
After a certain age, unless you live on another planet, it's pretty much impossible to not know at least one person who had/has cancer. How they even turned this into a thing to get offended about is beyond me.
Necessary warnings: Sexual context, Graphic violence, Flashing lights that could effect epileptics Anything else would be for extreme wienies They can hide under their security blankets
I think suicide is a necessary warning too. People who are dealing with suicidal feelings can be motivated by content that deals with that, so I would put it on the same level as flashing lights.
@@wheeliebin1791 I disagree. If someone is that unstable, they shouldn't watch any kind of TV or movie. They need to go get help asap and start reading books.
@@hotpotts dude people can both have help and watch tv. Those are t mutually exclusive things. Suicide is definitely one of the things you warn people about before springing it on them.
@@hotpotts ?? Reading books because of mental illness will help more than watching tv?? As someone who was been in the hospital multiple times due to suicide attempts, suicide is such a necessary warning probably level to graphic violence. A lot of people are affected by suicide, not just the people who want to commit it, but also people who struggle with losing someone and many more types of people. Suicide is such a dark topic and would definitely need a warning. (Yes I know my English isn’t the best)
i had stage 4 cancer & went thru very invasive chemotherapy for about two years & my boyfriend was by my side & he saw the movie & said it didn’t do anything actually horrible it was the bare basics they showed. can you imagine if they actually showed everything chemo does?
There *is* a trigger warning in place at the beginning of every theatrically released film, though. The MPA has a film rating system based on what general age range is appropriate for watching the film, and watch is included in the film that may make it inappropriate for some audiences. However, "Does the dog die?" is a very good online resource for more specific instances that may upset people, including more than just animal death. Great place to go for people who want a heads up!
Someone told me I should put a trigger warning when I talked about my weight. My average, 150lb weight. And all I said was how certain body features are genetic, like dimples, and your weight won't matter... and someone wanted a trigger warning for that. Like bruh
The problem with, yes I'll say it, (mostly) Americans, especially Gen Z, is they blame the trigger.... They feel the need to have to blame something or someone for not feeling positive/happy. But not one second wille they think why they feel that way. They rather play the blame game. And so the world needs adjusting and therefore the triggerwarning needs to be placed everywhere. It's absolutely ridiculous.
I see death a lot at work as I work in the ER. A lot of the times I can compartmentalize and separate myself from what happens at work when I go home. I had a teen die pretty horrifically last week and was unable to totally do so. I turned on frozen and had to turn it off when the parents died. I put on something a little more light hearted. You have to manage your own triggers.
My mother died of cancer years ago, it was a horrible time and the grief was so terrifiedly deep. Still cancer in movies or other media doesn’t trigger me. If it would it meant that I had not let myself mourn, deal with the loss and move on. The world does not roll around the people who get ”triggered” or others should not tip-toe because that-and-that thing is sooo hard to deal. Cancer is common these days, sadly.
Loved this one!!! Butters is too cute!!!! Also, given how everyone is triggered these days, the warnings would be longer than the program or movie. Just stay home in the dark with complete silence if you don't want to risk it. It's far less stressful.
The whole trigger warning thing is WAY outta control. Some girl stood up at the end of The Black Phone at the theater and (loudly) said “this movie should have had a trigger warning about C.A..”….. that is literally what the movie is about. Like what??
Granted not all trailers are like this, but if they really wanted a trigger warning they could have used the trailer for this movie as such. The main emphasis (from what I remember at least) in it is Ethan Hawke’s character taking the main character and him ending up in the basement. With all the promos out out there, I wouldn’t think trigger warnings are needed.
I’m so confused on “straight” size. Did I hear that right? Are they trying to claim queer as a plus size only thing? Cause as someone who is in the queer community, I know a lot of gays who are thin, a lot of gays who are fat, trans people on either side, swinging whatever body size. Heck, I’m queer with a fairly in shape body shape - “skinny like a chicken wing” my mamma likes to say. Am I not queer then? Because I’m staring shaped? Probs just heard that wrong, but I can definitely see someone on the internet making this claim. Edit: I meant straight shape but staring shape cracks me up so it’s staying.
Apparently, "straight sized" has something to do with designers having to adjust their patterns to make them fit sensibly on overweight bodies. But I agree, it comes across as trying to appropriate LGBT issues, which is how I interpreted it (and still do with how some people use the term) before someone told me otherwise.
I love that robe Also with the Marvel film - It was a major plot point years ago. I read comics and can miss things or not look them up before watching something, but a quick Google search would have the cancer info. And there would be articles out there all about it. Trigger warnings for me, are for discussions around SA, murder, child abuse, or possible epilepsy triggers. Shit that be heavy, triggering, or otherwise have aa real potential negative consequence for people consuming it.
I highly reccomend the website "does the dog die", as it lists a bunch of topics/potential triggers for all kinds of media. SA can trigger me so I always have to spoil myself first haha. Luckily I don't mind spoilers! I guess the Thor trailers could have mentioned Jane's cancer? Especially as they bring it up in the first fifteen minutes. That's about all I can think of minus explicitly stating it during the opening credits.
Honestly I think this generation is just afraid to feel real emotions and just want to avoid something beyond just a little tear sliding down your cheek. The only trigger warnings should be for epilepsy or warning that there's going to be some graphic depictions of certain topics. Cause we all know how to use the internet and look up reviews or someone complaining about certain things in a movie or TV show.
Watch out, Michelle-I'm still working out!! You are still my motivation. Even went so far as to incorporate weights again. lol .Block you or your content? Never! You made me take a long look at myself. Early Onset Parkinson's. Systemic Lupus and RA. Got up to 220. Even at 5'10, I was overweight and miserable. Not to mention had quite the opiate addiction. Still 5'10. Still have the above medical issues, obviously. Clean from opiates now. Yoga. HIIT,etc. Plus walking a 1.5 year old Chorkie all the time. Nana to an active 8 year old grandson, who recently diagnosed with Alopecia Areata( not letting it slow him down at all, from his football practice last night) and a silly, funny 1 year old granddaughter. Thank you for inspiring me. Be 47 Sunday, and have never felt this good! Through it all, I gained back what I needed and lost what ALL needed to go! Have a great day. all! edit- currently 153 lbs. woohoo!
I'm a photosensitive Epileptic who also has an ED lol so i can speak on this. In my 11yrs of having an ED i have never once been triggered by something i see in the media pertaining to weight loss/calories, if anything i'm more gonna be triggered by obese girls showing off their body with captions like "this is what happens when you let go/stop caring". I think most countries have restrictions on the speed of strobe lights shown in media anyways so often isn't needed but is appreciated. They actually have to be really fast, almost imperceptible, to cause seizures in most Epileptics. And most Epileptics aren't photosensitive only like 5% them have that trigger & only 2% of the general population is epileptic. In short i think a lot of ppl want something to be offended about / too sensitive.
I’ve dealt with almost everything that bojack as a character deals with especially his relationship with his mom. And watching it the first time around did trigger me but Im on my like fifth or sixth rewatch and it’s just such a well written show that when I actually understood the plot more than just what’s on the surface it actually helped me cope and process all the abuse I went through.
This girl is THE BEST because she literally has no filter when it comes to the foolishness. And.. I’m here for it. Sometimes I can’t stop laughing at all the haters who don’t stand a chance. lol. 😂 👏🏼
I watched this video and all I can think of is "What the hell happened to resilience in people?" Have people become so incapable of watching a movie or documentary without having a minor meltdown or something?! It's like someone asking me to put a trigger warning on my wheelchair because their best friend's grandma's cousin used one before dying! My scary gothmother, what in the Emet-Selch is going on with humanity?!
I was bullied so bad for being naturally thin and I was a distance runner until the age of 25 (6'1 145 pounds) with no diet whatsoever. Now, im 33 years old and have a nice body (ive gained weight and muscle) with low maintenance. I think about all the body shaming and it still bothers me sometimes but if you work hard and dont follow the crowd, you will always win in the end.
My baby passed away right before I gave birth to her....and ever since I've had the hardest time going around babies, and especially pregnant women. Both circumstances absolutely kill me inside. So now I mentally prepare myself for such occasions. And if a movie is about a pregnant woman, or a stillbirth, I just walk out or change the channel. I cannot expect the world to change based on my triggers. Life is very harsh, and traumas follow us.....but that is for us to work on, or avoid. But it's still our job however we go about it
@@Tacobellcramps Thank you so very much. And I'm also sorry you had to go through such an awful experience. My heart goes out to you. Life is so harsh. I guess I never realized how harsh life actually is until losing my baby. I never thought something so devastating could happen to me. I felt immune for some reason. It's just crazy. And yes, I also would appreciate trigger warnings on things, I just don't expect them...you know. Anyway, thank you again for your response and thank you for such kind words. I truly appreciate them🌹
As far as Marvel is concerned… I understand that everyone hasn’t read comics growing up, but as someone who grew up doing this, people need to understand that storylines for a Marvel movie come from the comics… (imagine that 😏) On a another note… Michelle, your hair is f*cking gorgeous. Thanks for the vids!
I was on dressage team in high school and a lot of my teammates were very…large. There were zero issues with what horses they could ride, even when visiting other schools’ stables. To not be allowed to ride a horse that influencer must be insanely, irresponsibly heavy!
Also the horses at their ranch could have been a different breed that weighs less. I was at a festival recently and I don't know the breeds names but the houses they had were huge!
My abuela went through alot as a young woman, saw her father get shot by military, witnessed the downfall of her country, fled with my mother after my Abuelo got out of jail. She does NOT watch anything she knows may upset her, sometimes she has to turn off the local news (Philly) because it's too much. If someone is watching zombie and war movies, she goes upstairs when they are on. She moves on with her life and accepts reality is harsh, but lives each day to the fullest without complaining. She goes to church everyday, and is more badass than I'll ever be.
They actually do have websites all about triggers in movies. I remember my exes brother committed suicide and his mom would go on this website and check the movies for triggers first without spoiling the plot
The Thor movie cancer warning reminded me when I was hanging out with my aunt and she said she wished movies had divorce trigger warnings lmao so like you said there’s just lots of personal stuff for movies that can be triggering and places like RUclips and tiktok offer wayyy more trigger warnings than legal cinema does. It’s like they assume adults should be able to handle the content wether they like it ir not hahaha
My daughter is epileptic and photosensitive. I like when a warning is included, but there's been many times where I either cover her eyes, or remove her from the environment.
We are all responsible for our own triggers and working through them to process and heal whenever possible. It does not help to put that responsibility on strangers. No stranger is ever going to take your triggers for you. It doesn’t work that way-and trying to make it just makes life even more impractical to even try to live both for the traumatized and for people just trying to enjoy life.
Bobs burgers is literally my comfort show! It got me through some really bad anxiety where i was having daily panic attacks and now im over that hurdle i get a little serotonin boost when i hear the jingle at the beginning of the intro like it literally makes my brain tingle 😄
My father died from COPD 3 years ago. I still cry when I watch emotional daddy/daughter moments on tv or social media and sometimes it hurts a lot, but I have never ONCE thought that someone should have to warn me of those moments. It's a normal part of life and we have to stop being afraid of things that we are going to encounter.
I have a normal weight, maybe on the skinny side, but I was fat in my teen. Now that I am tinner people can't stop complaining about my body, my prominent collar bone (that I had even when I was fat), how much I eat, what I eat. Ultimately I had an interaction with a fat positive woman who was "offended" about my existence, I think. Last year I dropped a bit of fat due to health problems, and my clothes doesn't fit right anymore, but I am not really ready to accept my new body, it is complicated. So I usually use a belt or wear oversize, and this girl spoke with a mutual friend about how I flaunt my skinniness, and when we where in the same room she always would made jokes about only dogs likes bones. It was so infuriating that at some point I confronted her with sarcasms. For me my weight, my body, food are problems right now. I have a strange relationship regarding food/weight/health and the last thing I want is to be bashed about it.
I remember in one of my darkest hours I watched Ouran High School Host Club. It was hilarious, and I dislike over the top comedy animes. I’m more slice of like person. But it helped me tremendously. Love the locks and as a person with straight hair, that stays straight no matter what I do, I am jealous.
I love this RUclipsr. If she ever reads this I want her to know she inspired me to run everyday. 🏃♀️ I can now run for 30 minutes. I like watching this person. She gets you thinking and putting things in perspective
I’m actually counting my calories today for the first time!! I thought I ate a lot and felt super guilty but I’m seeing I really don’t.. and I feel healthy knowing where I sit with my calories, and where to go from here, thank you for the inspiration!
I'm still working on getting into shape and am so confused by how that is infuriating for some people. Yes, it's for a lot of health benefits, and because there's risks in my family, and also because I want to feel good and move easily.
Maybe I’m a weird parent. But I don’t let my kids watch movies/tv that I haven’t researched first. It’s my responsibility to make sure whatever they watch is age appropriate. The “trigger warnings” are always available online.
A cartoon NOT to watch if you're sad is Steven Universe. It's the first cartoon that actually made me cry. It's not a bad show by any means (it's actually pretty damn good imo) but it can get very emotional at times. A cartoon that I DO recommend to watch when you're sad is The Owl House, which is INCREDIBLE (and also LGBTQ+ friendly)! It's on Disney+, highly recommend it.
Follow me on tiktok so you can see people get mad that I call myself a thin mint....
www.tiktok.com/@michellemcdaniel3
You're the best troll out there. Period. End of story! And I am here for it!!!
You said you save your "protos" for the end of the day. What are those? Thank you!
I like your video
Future video idea: Would you _please_ talk about how, once upon a time fashion _undergarments_ were _thee_ ONLY way that women could "appear" to be instyle & on trend? Maybe, talk about how for _centuries_ throughout history we managed to live _very_ active lives (compared to those of many today). YET we'd _still_ insist that we use stays & corsets to shape our bodies _unnaturally_ to achieve proper fashion. We used the actual _bones_ of whales to create shapewear, underneath _all_ of our garments. YET, ever since we got rid of those layers, such as corsets, stays, NOW we demand ourselves to workout to get these ever changing desired "stylish" looks in our fashion. Why?? Isn't it much _more_ dangerous to our health to try to be some BODY that many of us aren't? Why not use modern shapewear to get the trendy looks AND eat better & exercise for our _own_ personal health benefits??
These are a few ladies (fellow seamstresses) that I follow That have talked on the subject. Rachel Maksy, Bernadette Banner & Karolina Zebrowska. I can send you direct links to those videos if you like just lemme know. Love you Michelle XOXXOO 🤗😘💕💕
I’m so excited to see your new hair products! That piece is beautiful, and some easy shoulder length pieces would be great.
As an epileptic who can't drive because the world is so filled with triggers, people need to calm down. The world can not cater to everyone's sensitivities.
Fellow epileptic here. I think we have to start to require shutting down all the bright lights in the world because flashing lights can trigger seizures. Also whole society needs to become less hectic and all social media must be forbidden from all people because stress can trigger seizures.
Tell me if you have more ideas 😉
@@piraattipupu completely agree, lets go back to the dark ages again where we ended up being executed for being possessed
@@piraattipupu but in seriousness, there are some theaters and public spaces that have started to have a sensory sensitive day which I do think is pretty cool for people like us, folks with autism, or other problems with sensory sensitivity.
I demand that concerts no longer have flashing lights or disco balls or loud speakers regardless of what the majority of the concert goers think! /s
Fellow epileptic here, ohno. Fully agree with you.
'We are tired of thin people.'
Translation: "We are tired of seeing people that remind us that it's possible to control our own weight with a little bit of discipline, diet and exercise.'
Amen!
Preach!!
As a biggin’ myself. working on their journey to being healthy. It’s so true discipline discipline discipline!! And can be done!! Of course everybody’s healthy looks different but 400 lbs and over. It’s scientifically proven you are more prone to get sicker at that weight
I am eating less than my thinner friends yet I am not thinner than them. I am active and go to the gym while they hate any sort of physical acitivity whatsoever.
I am not overwieght though, but pretending that it's 100% in the control of the person is ludicrous. Also, many fat people usually have some mental health issues. It's far from simply being a matter of discipline, exercise, and diet. I actually pity fat people, I was fat myself (82kg on 163cm) and only when I sorted out my life issues and mental health did I manage to lose weight (up to 53kg at one point). I was dealing with insomnia and extremely low self-esteem for years, and I would put on more and more weight and almost never leaving the house.
@@NoctLightCloud So it's not within your control, but you got down to 53kg so it is within your control? What did you do to get down to 53kg if it wasn't diet, exercise and discipline?
@@vikingshark2634 After studying and applying for programs, I was lucky and priviledged enough to go abroad (get away from my toxic home) for some time, start anew and learn about what it feels like to have normal friends and be appreciated by society. Not everyone has the priviledge to start all over again or experience those things. It was pure luck I got the scholarship - not within my control. After some months abroad, I realized I wasn't sad even 1 single day there. It had changed me and I suddenly appreciated my body and my soul/personality that I used to detest only some months prior.
As a psychologist who specializes in treatment for trauma this constant need for “trigger warnings” horrifies me. Research indicates that trigger warnings not only don’t work to decrease anxiety, it may actually lead to an increased level of anxiety in those who avoid exposure to specific content. I support things like violence and sexuality being a part of the ratings system, but the seemingly infinite rise in anxiety and panic attacks in the US is real-world evidence the research is correct. It is NORMAL to experience distress, anger, grief, disgust, sorrow, happiness, etc. I have transitioned to death doulaship and people are no longer prepared for death in any way. As soon as our cognition allowed as a species we have portrayed the drama and related feelings of life in re-enactments, stories, plays, and folklore. After 200,000 years of practicing this trait it has become a way to expose and desensitize ourselves. Between avoidance practices and increased social isolation (even before COVID) we are creating a MASSIVE mental health pandemic we are no where near prepared for. I hope someone reads this post and reconsiders requesting trigger warnings.
If you are someone who is reacting so strongly to media regarding particular topics, please seek therapy. The trigger warning hasn’t helped your anxiety, and it may have worsened it. It’s a sign your body is using to tell you that you could use some help. I am in no way suggesting you flood yourself with media that causes you anxiety, but total avoidance is not a method that will help. It has been my lifelong goal to reduce suffering in my fellow man, and I only want what is best for you. And you ARE strong enough to endure these small exposures. Mental health treatment is likely available on a sliding scale through your local community agency through the department of health.
www.psychologicalscience.org/news/releases/trigger-warnings-fail-to-help.html
www.newyorker.com/news/our-columnists/what-if-trigger-warnings-dont-work
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as someone who is in therapy for PTSD manifesting with anxiety and agoraphobia primarily, I 100% agree and have had the same feedback in therapy. There needs to be some sort of balance, otherwise you just stop being functional. It does take time , you are allowed to give yourself leniency, but you should keep trying to lessen the anxiety. Hardship is normal, discomfort is also normal, avoidance, anxiety& dopamine dependence are a very real issue more of us should be informed about
Absolutely! I'm not a psychologist by any means, but I am involved with film. As you said, we have the rating system. It isn't perfect by any means, but it is basically the trigger warning everyone is asking for. It rates a film or show based upon content that can be objectively triggering due to it's negative nature (like violence and such, not things like a character having cancer or Pixar and all of their sad moments). Ironically, the rating system was made so that content could be seen and not policed and shut down by the government (films had to be screened to make sure it met approval, and if it didn't, they would have to cut the "problematic" parts of the film out or not have it be released. That's a very simple explanation, but ratings were Hollywood's solution to sort of regulate itself). The ratings system implies people wanted to see this content.
Ratings exist to tell you who is probably mature enough to handle the content. Even if it ends up bothering them, they should be mentally developed enough to stop watching and/or process their feelings about the content. Even more ironically, it seems like people just aren't using the ratings system. I was looking at Sweeny Todd: the Demon Barber of Fleet St., and in the reviews online, I think it came pretty close to every 4th review being a parent complaining they turned it on for their kids and the movie is not appropriate for kids. I can absolutely tell you it's not, and it never claimed to be. The rating says so. The description of the movie says so. The promotional image says so. Everything pointed towards this movie being a bloody horror movie, and yet because the parents saw it was also a musical, they assumed it was safe for their kids. It is not Elmo: the Demon Barber of Sesame St. And yet so many parents got mad and gave it a 1 star review because they were mad because their kids saw red liquid (implied to be blood) on gears and such in the opening. Then they realized it was never intended for a younger audience that had not deleloped the skills to process the content of the film.
Trigger warnings definitely don't work if you won't even listen to them. Aside from everything you pointed out (very interesting, by the way), that alone is enough for me to say adding more trigger warnings won't do a thing to help. At this point, just watch the movie and tell me how you feel about it afterwards.
I have a respiratory desease and I've known since I am 10y old that it will require a lung transplant in a few years. So I used to have panic attacks whenever lung transplant or related content was brought up (at school or in a tv documentary, since my parents were researching that matter). I've been exposing myself to it for a few years, one step at a time, already so that I don't break down hyperventilating in tears anymore. I'm still really uncomfortable watching the procedure though (Others transplant, I watch while eating cereals ^^).
I have such intense entomophobia that I'm working on exposure therapy. I'm going slow but it's actually better than asking for arthropod trigger warnings
I’m an amateur in the realm of psychology, but I consider learning about it to be valuable, and I absolutely agree about exposing oneself to things that give them anxiety. Cognitive behavioral therapy is a very valuable tool, and I’d consider trigger warnings to be a form of avoidance of CBT-like experiences, although people may not recognize it as such.
Have you caught any of Dr Georgia Ede’s lectures on mental health, or read any of the studies she’s been a part of? If so, what are your thoughts on her?
As a teen who had cancer, we need to have more of a conversation about the realities of the disease and in my opinion a trigger warning just puts a stigma and shame around talking about this.
Thank you as a fellow survivor I agree
To be fair, if you're really sensitive to some topics, checking reviews or summaries is an easy way to know what you're getting into.
Exactly. It’s everyone’s individual responsibility to look out for themselves, not to expect the world to look out for them.
Isn’t there a section for that on the “Does the Dog Die?” site? They should use that.
This!!
Exactly! If you're triggered so easily, it is your responsibility to know how to avoid your triggers and how to handle triggering situations. These people weren't forced to watch a storyline that involved cancer 🙄
I just looked at the rotten tomato website and it's rated pg-13. Why do those people expect it to be g rated by their standards?
Don't they realize that the big companies that made that movie aren't going out of their way to be activists for them?
I like this woman. Her voice is nice, and all her takes are good.
I agree :) I don’t listen to podcasts, but I’d listen to one if she made it - she has the best voice
Love her too ❤️
Me too. And I’m fat. But I lost 30 pounds within the last 6 months and I hope that’s not all I’ll be losing. I don’t wanna be unhealthy and hurt all the time and have my feet and legs falling asleep every time I get on a bar stool or toilet or cross cross apple sauce more than a few minutes. Or be out of shape when I walk a few feet it hurts too much. Not to mention the blood sugar and cholesterol and heart beat and oxygen levels are way too dangerously out of wack.
@@kellokelloggs5302 good for you, girl. I had a baby LAST YEAR and I still haven't lost the weight. In fact I weigh 18lbs more than I did right before delivery. I'm ashamed of myself, I really assumed I'd be the mom jogging around with my little one in her stroller, but instead I sit around and play with her at home, and sort of wallow. I'm not obese (yet), but I'm right in the line of overweight... And I was very naturally thin and fairly active and fit before my pregnancy. So it's just so bizarre looking in the mirror and seeing a body that isn't mine... Knowing it is. I generally don't find people's bodies unattractive, fat/thin thicc/skinty...whatev, UNLESS they are literally close to death (severely morbidly obese/emaciated). However, I look at myself and I feel like I wouldn't think anything weird at all about another girl, it's just not me. I want me back, but I'm too lazy right now. So long story long I'm on my struggle bus. And, Good for you, seriously! It makes me feel inspired to hear when people are happier and healthier. Keep it up!! 💞
@@kellokelloggs5302 good work xxx
I had a close family member die from an aggressive cancer - and I was the primary caregiver as this was happening. While the death still haunts me daily, the cancer part in the movie did not trigger me at all. In fact,I appreciated seeing it. More attention needs to be brought to the realities of cancer so that more can be done to fight it - and one day, cure it. People who have or had cancer are truly superheroes - because the amount of strength it takes to battle it is otherworldly.
@@Raya-ir4tm I haven't seen the movie but from what I know of the storyline it is based on, cancer is a pretty important part of the story.
I've also had an immediate family member die from cancer, and I agree with you. I think it's good to include it in storylines. I want to see things that remind me of her, especially if they portray her struggle in a heroic way.
It's stupid to expect the world to shield you from sadness, especially at the movies. All that will do is make you more fragile and less equipped to work through events when they happen in the real world.
I am so sorry for your loss, and to anyone else reading this comment who has lost a loved one to cancer. It's a pain I have experienced myself.
I lost my mother to cancer a few years ago, at first I have to admit I couldn't handle watching a show/movie where a character had cancer, I didn't expect a trigger warning though. I simply would leave the room or change the channel if I was alone. Nowadays I can watch shows/movies about it and even talk about it but for a long time I couldn't.
Being diagnosed with cancer is a sudden slap to the face that almost everyone did not expect. Since we didnt expect this from the movie, it’s actually realistic how cancer patients and their families go through from normal living to battling it. Im sorry for your loss. I also almost lost my mother to breast cancer, but we managed to get her a masectomy. Some patients arent so lucky or early in the diagnosis to do something about it, and its terrible
Yes! Everyone feels so entitled with all of the “my trauma” “my truth” stuff. It is YOUR responsibility to come to grips with your “triggers” so that you can be a functioning member of society. It is not reasonable to expect strangers to walk on eggshells for you. The world does not owe you understanding. 🤷🏽♀️🙄
Fax!!
@@amanda4768 Both conservative and liberals do this but it is common to just be bigoted against conservative and critique what the other side does.Ben Shapiro made a big fuss about wap song not being child friendly.Who cares just do not make them watch it and boycott Wap.
People dont understand that the World owes them nothing. Not even staying alive
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Its like the first thing people learn in most partial psychiatric care programs, ED recovery clinics, and drug/alcohol rehabilitation centers: you can only control your own actions, not those of others; in other words, you are responsible for your own triggers.
"we are tired of thin people" = "we are tired of not being the thin people"
EXACTLY!!!
Asking for a trigger warning for cancer is like someone asking someone to hide their pregnancy because they have infertility issues
Exactly - it’s part of life, and life has upsetting aspects. There will almost always be something in a movie that could cause someone who relates to that topic to have some negative memories and/or feelings. To list every possible topic would lead to numerous trigger warnings.
Person has terminal cancer and is feeling unwell.
Other person: Could you stop having cancer in my vicinity. It is triggering me.
@@DocBree13 Amen
@@nova_supreme8390 that part!
I’m willing to bet someone has actually said and done your example 😂 probably on tiktok
The woman with the horse drives me crazy. I grew up on a horse ranch riding horses my entire life and it’s called animal cruelty when you put someone on a horse that is not the right ratio from their weight to the horses weight. I don’t know how come the stupid person doesn’t understand that.
Probably would if they were more active in life. Probably first time theyve tried to ride
I agree! I used to be a lot larger than I am, now, and the place I went riding had a draft horse cross that was the only one I was allowed to ride. She hurt her leg and couldn’t be ridden for several months, so I sat and waited while my daughter rode. It never once occurred to me to be offended, complain, disagree, etc. - Bailey’s health was infinitely more important than my ability to do a fun activity. Anyone who is upset that they are too large to ride a horse can use that as motivation to lose enough weight to do so. The person in this story was acting entitled, selfish and disgusting - infuriating.
It's funny she even signed an agreement to go that has the weight limit of the horses on it like ever horse camp ive ever gone to has and posted on the front gate as well so it's not like she didn't have warning....
@@queenpinkysfamily1618 Right, they always give weight warnings prior to you paying. Be it a carnival ride or riding a horse. She probably saw it and just decided to ignore it because it's "fatphobic" and won't apply to her. I once saw a very large woman and her husband riding on a carriage being dragged by ONE horse. I felt so fucking terrible because I couldn't even begin to imagine how exhausting it must've been for that horse.
I had so much fun horse riding as a kid, but only for the first ten minutes before finding out I am seriously allergic to horses and landing in the hospital lmao. Forcing a horse to carry too much weight to me seems comparable to forcing me to spend time with an animal that causes me medical harm. I still enjoy horses (as I do most animals), just from afar at a safe distance. I don't see any reason why she can't do that too
I feel a good way to guise if trigger warnings necessary is to think about if directly seeing the scene can cause tangible harm. I am flash sensitive but not epileptic, although I know that people who are epileptic could be sent into a medical emergency just by seeing the flashing lights so it is necessary to have that kind of trigger warning. I have had many people in my family have cancer, but in no way could seeing cancer on screen cause someone to have cancer. It makes no sense to me to require a warning for that.
Too loud of noise can also cause seizures...but nobody puts on a warning on movie theatres. LOL
[I say this as someone with epilepsy that got seizures from watching LOUD marvel movies in theatres...] Baby day fixes the noise part though.
But yeah, if something causes physical harm then most deffiantly there should be a warning....however stuff like PTSD I feel falls into a similar category since THAT is bad. But for stuff like that it'd be more serious stuff like SA, war movies, abuse, etc. not illnesses seeing as nobod really gets PTSD from losing someone to cancer.
The first time I remember ever seeing a trigger warning outaide epilepsy was saving private ryan. I guess that d-day scene was so damn close to the real thing combat vets were sent into flashbacks. And if youve never seen a true blue flashback (not simply bringing up memories) they are INTENSE.
@@starr2shine738 As someone who lost someone to terminal cancer after they fought that battle for four years, it definitely gave me PTSD. It's traumatic to watch someone battle with cancer and it can definitely leave someone with trauma when all is said and done. I sincerely hope you never have someone you love go through that, or even yourself, because it absolutely is terrifying and scary. While most trigger warnings are not necessary, I don't want to see a movie that includes cancer as a main storytelling beat because I never want to experience that again.
My only "triggers" are seeing women get beat or seeing DV bruises and wounds. I think it's fair... I'd rather see the blurred out image instead of being shown someone's bloody and beaten face. It was so hard to get over what happened to me that when I was at my lowest, seeing things like that meant another day of depression and not being able to do anything.
@@starr2shine738 Well losing someone due to cancer is triggering and can induce some form of trauma but, that doesn’t mean a trigger warning necessary. Someone’s clinical illness shouldn’t be your trigger, that’s a whole different kind of selfishness to me
One thing I find interesting about the “Fatness Spectrum” is that they use clothing sizes. A system they all deem unreliable. Wouldn’t it just be easier to go by body measurements, or is math too objective?
Yeah but when you have fat influencers who are as wide as they are tall. They don't want to believe that; because in their mind weight/body measurements are evil and a construction of the patriarchy and THE THIN AGENDA.
Did you just tear their fat logic to shreds?
Then they'd have to get real and measure themselves. Denying reality is their whole thing.
This is a really good point. I never even thought about this until you brought it up.
This would never work. I have a clothing business and women who are larger sizes are always in denial about what their size is even with measurements.
You covered the topic of trigger warnings incredibly well in this video. I have PTSD and actually suffer from psychogenic seizures due to my PTSD. This means I can and do have physical reactions when triggered by certain subjects. Unfortunately it is out of my control but I can’t expect the world to have a trigger warning for every single thing that triggers me, especially when some of my triggers are quite obscure. I’ve had to learn over time what is safe for me to watch, to read, or just expose myself to in general. I also love that you used such a great example re: trans representation.
I kid you not a saw a video on tiktok saying that the word 'special' is an ableist slur and the trigger warnings included: bunny hat, size 7 font, stripes, nails and pink hair. What the eff.
I'm sorry
*SIZE 7 FUCKING FONT?*
I really wanted to know the story of anyone who are triggered by size 7 font
@@wouldntyouliketoknow644 Maybe it's satire?
@@Trankuiru Maybe they're triggered by the non-metric unit (points)?
@@Anonymous-df8it unfortunately it was not satire
I used to like seeing trigger warnings as a sign of empathy (I'm not talking about epilepsy, it's necessary period), but then people started demanding them all the time, even for bodies of creators. And that's disgusting and awfully offensive to these and everyone else who has scars and other 'triggering' parts of themselves.
I feel like so many of these people are brainwashed to believe just because someone is thin or pretty their life is perfect, my mother was beautiful, but she still went through a lot of hardship which included losing a child and a horribly abusive marriage. It always pissed me off when people would say she was 'so lucky'.
Occasionally being too pretty Can have problems, as in someone thinking ur dumb bc ur pretty. But I hate when ppl assume things abt random ppl
Generally speaking, thin and pretty women do have it easier than someone who is average and
fat or just average and thin. Of course that’s not the case for every thin and pretty woman.
Yep . I realized this when I found out my model gorgeous friend was suffering from violence at home and poverty. But because she looked so good a plain tee shirt and thrift shop jeans look great . People assume she's rich , healthy , happy .... it's crazy
I used to think this . But the fading of looks , the creepy attention from guys and the amount of people who automatically assume your a bitch . Idk ... it's helpful sometimes but defnetly not a walk in the park
All God's creatures have their troubles.
The way Michelle described Gravity Falls as two twins fighting the triangle sent me 😭😭
Where are you now?
😂😂
the perfect explanation 😂😂
As a nonfat person, I get told to my face that I'm triggering, and they resent my existence (in a "jokingly" manner). I even had a friend stop being my friend because she didn't like that I complimented her while being skinny. I blame the body positivity movement for that one because she got sucked into the rabbit hole.
I had the same experience 💀🤚 (For clarity: I live in Germany)
I have a disease which makes it hard to put on some weight so I look very skinny. Some random girl came up to me while I was shopping and told me that I shouldn't wear revealing clothes because it triggers her and her friend because it reminded them of their high school bullys 🤦🏼♀️
Like girl, I'm sorry you got bullied for your weight in school but that's not my problem to solve bc I'm not the one who has to cater to your triggers
She did you a favor. Managing friends is a lot of work, let the troubled ones excuse themselves.
I've had this same experience. People use body positive as an excuse not to improve themselves and just blanket everybody who disagrees with them as haters and bigots. And the people who agree with that shit don't give a fuck about the person who is literally going to die at 42 cuz they're eating McDonald's 5 days a week. All cuz they wanna be seen as inclusive nice people. It's sad
Complimented her while skinny?! 🤦🏽♀️ I’m sure she’d be upset if you never complimented her either
@@db7499 nah, I really loved her. She is the sweetest. I would low-key beg her to talk to me because I don't be reading hints and didn't recognise I was being dropped. She eventually told me she didn't like how she felt around me and that I was a trigger, so I had to take the L. They convinced her (despite it not being remotely a reality) that all thin people like having a DUFF (designated ugly fat friend), so you can tell that this ish isn't new, but more rampant. That was about 2016 ish, and I'm still upset about it. I really deeped her though.
If anything, I just instantly relate when I see a cancer story on the big screen because that's a reality for me and my family. Acknowledging reality and finding the dark humor in it is way more helpful and cathartic than pretending that it doesn't exist.
This feels like one of those things where people just want to pretend nothing bad ever happens to anybody under the guise of protecting the feelings of cancer patients. We never asked them to do that.
Damn girl! I loveee these videos. You are funny and honest and so confident with your opinion. Im not fat but Im not thin and Im in the middle realm trying to work with my doctors to get on a better path. You are an inspiration to me and I just wanted to say thank you for always keeping it fun and positive!
The trigger warning thing reminds me of one of the things I don't agree with the fat acceptance movement: this absolute refusal to ever be in a slightly uncomfortable position for even the smallest amount of time, which I think is a very unrealistic way of looking at life.
Yep! Folks don't want to be uncomfortable, but it's not up to everyone else to accommodate. Accommodate yourself!
Just a bunch of adult children that never were forced to grow up and mature emotionally.
fr , the world isnt centered on keeping you comfortable and happy, the entitlement is crazy
Agreed, I also noticed that during the pandemic. People refused to wear masks because it was uncomfortable, they had glasses allergies, etc. I actually have terrible pollen allergies (I'm almost always sneezing, coughing, have a sore throat, or all three) I also have glasses. Wearing masks is awful and I hate it. But I wear them anyway because I'd much rather protect myself and other people and be uncomfortable than possibly be the cause of someone else's death. I've gotten covid twice, and I didn't get it too badly (I'm currently recovering actually) but I still wear a mask, because I'm also protecting OTHER people from my germs. I find it very funny how these people automatically assume a mask is for their safety only. It's for yours and other people as well. If you cough into the mask, it's not going to freely fly around the room and be inhaled by other people, and those other people will also be covered, so it's double protection. It's also PROTECTION, not 100% reliable prevention. My point is, they'd rather go out in public and be comfortable instead of being uncomfortable but keeping people safe.
Honestly it’s why they made the community site DoesTheDogDie it has every trigger you could check for and context provided by people who saw it. I can’t handle even the illusion of animal cruelty and that site is where I go before watching anything. I don’t expect the actual production companies to do this for me .::
Let fat people be fat.
Let skinnies be skinnies.
Let thicke be thicke.
So tired of people being offended by which way the wind blows. Get over it!
Thank you!👏
Right! Always something to critique sadly :(
Thicke...hmm, I like that word
They arem't offended only "offended for clout on socail media"
Amen 😆
As a cancer survivor, I think it's absolutely asinine to want/demand a trigger warning. I don't need that commenter to speak for me. She can speak for herself all she wants, but trying to speak for survivors as a whole, when she isn't even a survivor herself, seems super disingenuous and demanding of validation.
I learned what trans was when I was in elementary I was playing with my toys in the living room while my mom watched TV and one of the characters said they was trans I asked my mom what it ment and all she said was they were born in the wrong body and I was like ok and went back to my toys.. kids are satisfied with simple answers and will just move on
What does it mean to be born in the "wrong body"? You get the body you're supposed to be in. Trans people are people who are unhappy with their body, that doesn't mean they're born in the wrong body. They have a mental illness.
That's the problem with putting trans people in children's cartoons, they aren't ready for the real answer because it's an adult issue they can't understand. If they hear there are people who are born in the wrong body they might think they were born in the wrong body, when that's simply not a thing.
Fr, I was like 10 and saw a short film on RUclips abt a girl born in a boys body and I was like oh okay slay ig and moved on
That's because kids are stupid and believe everything they're told.
I went from working at a very active, always on my feet, go-go-go type job to a desk job recently and I’ve been steadily gaining weight as my calorie intake is the same but I’m burning like none of it. So I’m still relatively thin for now, but I know I’m going to get chubbier if I don’t do something about my sedentary lifestyle. Honestly, I really appreciate your words of “get up and put in the work!” This is kind of unrelated to the video at hand, but I wanted to let you know that you’re inspiring me to find ways to get healthier :)
Dude, watching the episode of Bojack called "Stupid Piece of Shit" is what helped me realize I was severely depressed and needed to see a doctor before things got worse. I had literally taken out a life insurance policy on myself so my parents could have money for a funeral after I took my permanent vacation from life. Maybe the people who are so sensitive need to realize that some of us can cope with our trauma better when relating to what we see in the media.
Also, as a thin bitch, I'm glad everyone is so tired of me😘 Wonderful video as always!
wtf i was just watching bojack horseman we literally live in a simulation
I am so happy you feel better sis !
I also undetstood that I have a problem by watching bojack because I can relate to so many things he does.
And I will seek professional help as soon as I can afford it.
But at least I know now that my mental health isn't okay and that I have many problems and toxic behaviors I should fix.
@@anyametref5176 I hope you are able to get help soon. I know what it's like as far as the financials go. When I first suspected I had depression, my health insurance deductible was super high and wouldn't cover mental health services. But because I had health insurance, I wasn't allowed to use any of the free mental health programs offered by my state. I highly recommend contacting someone in your local department of mental health and asking them what options are available to you. Also, if you ever feel overwhelmed, you can call the suicide hotline. They will still listen to you and try to offer solutions, even if you aren't technically suicidal ☺️
@@katherineyarborough8546 Thank you, you're kind.
The thing is I live in North Africa where there's no suicide hotline or even any kind of facilities that take care of these kimds of issues.
People here simply don't belive in mental health problems other than depression, schizophrenia or bipolar ( the big ones ) which isn't my concern.
I pretty much think I have a personality disorder, because as I said I have very toxic behaviors for myself and others.
Last time I went to a doctor he told me it's a lack of faith and I should pray more ( like what lol )
@@anyametref5176 That sounds awful. I'm so sorry, where in North Africa do you live?
I watched Disney's Brave in theatres and I went in without any knowledge of the premise. The main theme revolved around a complicated relationship between mother and daughter, and my mom had recently died. We had a complicated relationship too and some of the scenes hit a sore spot, it was unexpected, and I burst into tears in the theatre. Not once did I feel angry at the movie, these things exist in the world and they won't disappear because I have a lot of baggage around them. It was a me issue, and it showed me the things that I needed to work through.
this happened to me when i watched A Silent Voice for the first time. 😭 I was at home though and that movie made me burst into tears from the themes of bullying because someone is different. Love that movie
i cried watching brave too
As a person that was in shape and got out of shape and now getting back in shape. I can generally say it’s easy to be out of shape. It’s hard to get back into shape and stay there.
All it takes to not be in shape is way, not move and that’s easy with no real work put in. Some folks can lie to themselves all day but being out of shape to thin or big most of the time will have adverse on your body(joints, organs, etc) So just because some of these folks say healthy at every size that isn’t reality. 🤷🏽♂️🫡🥴🙃✌🏾✊🏾
It’s choosing your hard. It’s hard to be heavier than normal and out of shape. It’s hard to be in shape and requires discipline and dedication. I would take that hard.
I understand though. I’ve had multiple times where health and other life events lead to me having to start the journey to athleticism and health all over again. It’s worth it though.
I still have about 20lbs from the lockdowns and some severe health issues but I’m prioritizing my health and looking at it more from an aesthetics perspective.
they act like they are the only ones who struggle with their body, eating and weight.
I agreed with what you said. Over the past couple years things happened in my life and I really couldn't deal with any heavy topics in media. Had to get off a lot of social media (body image issues) and just watch a bunch of things for kids and avoid most adult stuff. Even now I find that I still can't watch too many heavy things or I'll start to feel down again so I just keep away from it.
I've never thought that someone needed to warn me about these things though. I always felt it was my responsibility to get away from it.
I honestly feel so bad for people who are so mentally stuck on being “body positive” they’ll never get to experience how genuinely loving your body and caring about it creates such a different quality in life. It’s so sad.
I appreciate trigger warnings for a small number of things; s*x ass***t, self-harm, and depictions of extreme, graphic violence or abuse. Things that are legitimately very upsetting!
Since when did that idea turn into warnings for everything?
I'm pretty sure that stuff is covered in movie/TV ratings. Like something's rated TV14 because of violence or sexual situations or the like.
@@smol-one Sexual violence and self harm isn’t in a shows warning. You can look at the parent’s guide though because parents will usually mention if something like sexual assault, self harm, child abuse, animal abuse, etc. happens in a movie. Usually guides only warn about sex/nudity (not saying whether there’s consent involved), violence/gore, and cursing.
Still trying to decipher “ass***t”. Lmao good choice of censoring.
@@picklepirate assault
@@ijornhribrudkrvir oh no, I blindly wrote this comment. I'm now the assh*t. (hat)
You’ve inspired me to leave that toxic ass group and become a better me(not like that group excepted my thin mint ass anyways lmao they always told me I wasn’t allowed to have insecurities bc im thin although the last time I checked, anorexia wasn’t the standard)and I want to Thank you! I was extremely underweight and now I’m at a healthier size and am continuing to gain. Love you💜
The problem is, sometimes they discriminate even people who are fat by medical standards. It's weird, this happens to me whenever I get sent to the obesity clinic in the hospital I go to. The have morbidly obese people and they look at me like I offend them for being "thin". And I am obese by medical standards, some people are insane.
Really proud of you, that's super hard to do for people struggling with ED's, to let yourself be healthy, please keep it up 😁😁😁👍👍
Proud of you beautiful stranger!
I’m so happy you’re feeling better! Don’t let anyone tell you that you don’t meet their criteria to be insecure. I hope you are able to continue living that fantasy you deserve! ❤️❤️
A good compromise might be more awareness of websites like "Does the dog die" where you can look up specific movies to see what kind of content warnings it has. This way nothing is spoiled for the movie by including a CW in the beginning, and people who are sensitive to that content can be better prepared.
Thing about the word Trigger is that it's supposed to be used for people who can get physically alarmed by an action or word, like hyperventilating, flashbacks, vomiting, etc. It bothers me that people use it when they are slightly uncomfortable about whatever, it lost its meaning and I believe it should be used carefully instead of people just adding onto the list just because they felt a negative emotion about it for like 2 seconds. Seriously guys, some of yall need to calm down and stare at a cow or something
@Lalogue agreed! Same as toxic and gaslighting. Literally therapy words that's supposed to be taken seriously. It's so sad
I’m so glad my mother taught me at a young age that no one can “make you feel” anything. How you feel and act in response to something is all from yourself, either because it’s true and you feel ashamed of yourself, or because it’s not true, in which case it shouldn’t bother you anyway. I didn’t grow up thinking my every feeling & reaction to things were everyone else’s fault or responsibility. No one can make you feel bad for being fat. You either feel bad because it’s true and you’re unhappy about it, or you’re happy about it so comments shouldn’t bother you. There should be no trigger warnings besides seizure risks.
Couldn't have said it better!
There should always be trigger warnings for assault because ptsd is a real illness and will cause a serious physical response in the body. It can cause fainting, puking and panic attacks. I understand that not every trigger can have a warning because some are very personal but assault should always have a warning.
I don’t think it’s always that simple.
@@katybee3891 There is! Program rating are there for a reason. "Rated M for mature audiences as this movie contains scenes of violence and course language." I remember that from the 80s
THIS! People always play victims and never take any accountability for their own feelings...
"It doesn't affect me at all; but I'm very nosy." I RELATE sistah, I relate!!! It's one of the tires on my strugglebus, as I find my nosiness can get me in trouble. 🤷♀️😂🤣
😂😂 I am she and she is we!!😂😂 This is so me!!
Girl me too! My mom, sister and cousin will regularly call me for chisme (gossip). We don’t spread peoples business but we are all nosy for no good reason 😂.
as an official Thin™, I just wanted to say your videos are great! Thank you for fighting against disinformation 💪
As an official Small Fat ™, I support your comments 😁
I watched Thor twice in the cinema. My mum died from cancer a couple of years ago and I did not feel “triggered”. I knew the storyline from the comics and it didn’t stop me watching it. There was a scene where it showed a gravestone of another character with the name Elaine, which was my mums name. When I saw that I got a little jab in the heart and tear in the eye. I wiped it away and carried on with the film.
I used to watch King of the Hill when I was having bad anxiety and it actually helped me to the degree I later described to others as it had a anti anxiety med affect on me back then lol. So I liked how Michelle talked about watching adult cartoons makes people feel better. I love Bob’s Burgers too….totally get the grown up watching cartoons as I’m an adult who’s always loved cartoons……peace and blessings everyone ✌️❤️😊
as someone who was 270 at my highest and 110 at my lowest, you are a good balance here, teaching about both sides of eating disorders, im recovering from bulimia at the moment but i love your commentary, over eating isnt cute - and its more triggering to me than anything else, i hope anyone struggling with weight learns its not about "society" but about being HEALTHY, loving yourself comes with feeling good!!!
You're right on the money with watching cartoons when you're anxious. I did that last night when I had an ED trigger and calmed down within one episode of SpongeBob 😂
Considering the triggers:
I have epilepsy and am very sensitive to light effects. It is very helpful for me to have a trigger warning because that literary helps me preventing seizures and I appreciate that a lot. However I know this isn't always possible in everyday life.
I consciously inform myself prior to public events etc. to know whether I should go or avoid it. I always look up descriptions and warnings of films online before watching. And in scenarios in which I suddenly get triggered I walk out asap. Just leave and avoid it. It is always nice of people to be considerate but I know in the end this is an issue that I need to take care of and be cautious of myself. Nobody can be looking out for me 24/7. Nobody is obligated to.
PS: Thank you for the videos! They are always very entertaining and your work and determination are being very appreciated! :D
Texas girl here! I got so excited when you showed HEB 😂 that’s how much of a Texan I am.
Also, my husband’s mom died from cancer and he was not bothered by Thor, but neither of us have ever needed a trigger warning. Different stroke for different folks 🤷🏻♀️
Hi Michelle! New to your channel, love you, officially in a binge (watch) now. Regarding the woman “too fat to ride a horse,” I’m a lifelong equestrian/horse lover, and this is far, far too common. It is ABUSE to put a heavy person on a horse. It’s been scientifically proven that a human who weighs 20% or more of the horse’s weight damages the horse at the skeletal level. These animals can’t defend themselves, they rely on us to treat them with care and respect. That’s it, rant over, just had to get it out because this drives me crazy
I get triggered by a lot, and I take it upon myself to look up triggers prior to watching any media. (Diagnosed severe CPTSD) It's my job, not the world's. Would I prefer not to be triggered by everything? Absolutely! But its my problem. Not everyone elses. Trauma is a part of many peoples lives, we all react differently and it's up to you to keep yourself safe.
But that would mean you’re responsible for yourself (an adult?) and take accountability for yourself and your potential reactions :/
The internet ™ can’t do that!!
I knew someone who helped people with PTSD through EFT tapping. NOT saying only do that, but there's no harm in adding it along with professional help. Just look here on youtube, you'll probably find some videos. I like Brad Yates, I'd suggest checking his channel first. It's free and easy, you might be pleasantly surprised by results.
@@w1975b thanks for the suggestion! I did EMDR for about a year which helped me get stable enough to work at my dream job. My therapist has mentioned EFT, maybe I'll look into that more too!! Appreciate the tip :)
@@eclectiic you're welcome. I hope it does help you. Many people swear by it for all types of issues.
I went to a theatre last month and the plot was very close to home. There was a scene that was so freaking intense for me and "triggering" that I started crying and recalling bad memories. I didn't expect a trigger warning because you cannot expect to accommodate everyone and everyone's trauma. You are responsible for yourself. We need these uncomfortable/sad experiences to shape us cause life is not a "safe space".
I one time was told that I’m “lucky” for being thin and in shape…. Like yes. I’m so lucky that I put in all this work for YEARS to get like this. 😒
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@@Pizzashakesyep. Difference between people getting it wrong and you letting them remain ignorant, at your own expense, too.
bro if someone said "you can't put the fork down" when i was really insecure i would've lost my MIND HAHAHA
There's literally a site for trigger warning called does the dog die? I use it for horror movies cause there's things I'm uncomfortable with and like to know ahead of time.
Yes! I'm definitely not fat, but i could shave off a few pounds, and this is just cringy. These people call themselves "plus-size", when they are actually morbidly obese. There's a difference between plus-size and fat/obese.
To be fair though, clothing comes in regular sizes and plus sizes. I’m in the obese category currently (working on it though !!) and shop in the plus size section and do refer to myself as plus-size sometimes
I swear if they are called "plus-size" then i would be a strand of hair.
There's actually not a difference between being "plus size" and being fat/obese. "Plus size" is the fashion industry's term for the clothing size range for fat/obese women. Plus size clothing usually starts at a size 10W, which is cut more like a size 12 in non-plus ("straight") sizes. If you wear plus size clothing, you are fat/obese.
@@fitfatty211 I agree with you, but a lot of muscular people could be considered plus size based on sizes. And also, a lot of people are curvy (and i mean this in the actual meaning, not the size 2902179086 curvy) and can be considered "regular" in tops but when they go to buy pants, they're plus sized. I haven't weighed myself in a while but I'd estimate myself as a solid 150-ish lbs, and I'm a size 6 or 8 in tops but when it comes to pants, I'm a size 12 just because I have wide hips. Plus size doesn't neccesarily mean fat/obese. For your average woman, sure. But if you're muscular and have large bones, you could be considered plus size. But take this with a grain of salt, this is only from my opinion and I should do a bit of research, as I do work out but I'd consider myself more toned than muscular.
@K Marie I agree, but a 10/12 isn't always what you think it is. Sizing in fashion is just bad. For example, I bought a size S (4-6) tank top from one brand, and it was too big for me. I bought one in a size M (6-8) from another brand, and it was too small. We shouldn't force the notion that those sizes are obese, because 1. you could have a taller muscular person who is a size 10 and they are in no way obese, and 2, it can cause distorted self image for people. I know this since a few years ago I was a size 14, and I got bullied so much for being said size I developed a case of disordered eating and lost weight unhealthily until I was a size 6-8.
I have been SA'd before so movies with scenes revolving around SA can be pretty triggering for me depending on how my mental health is doing that day. It is a personal issue that I deal with and if there is a new piece of content I want to see that I think MAY have a scene that will upset me in it I wait until other people have seen it so that I can avoid it if necessary. I don't expect every piece of content to have warnings for every potentially upsetting topic because what triggers me may not necessarily trigger someone else. Even other people with similar experiences may not react in the same way.
One example of this is with Game of Thrones. I waited until I could look up timestamps online and skip the SA scenes that I knew I couldn't handle. It sucks to have to wait but it is my responsibility to take care of my own mental health.
I’m so sry that happened to u but I’m glad ur helping urself with ur triggers
For people who are supposedly so confident about their fat situation, they certainly get talk a lot about hating thin people...
I absolutely agree with you. It is very paradoxical that we live in very violent societies for the most part where ruthless things happen in the world every day and are massively mediatised and yet, trigger warnings are now attached to everything. In law school we had a trigger warning that our course on personal injury contained legal cases with descriptions of injury in it. The thing that makes me curious is how these warnings came about, as they seem to have suddenly gone into fashion but none of the people I was studying with cared about them. It feels like something other people thought young people would seek, and now people not directly affected by any issue start blindly taking the stance that there should be trigger warnings everywhere. It is nice to hear a critical and educated opinion on these, as I am shocked at how blindly and widely used they now are.
Hello Michelle,
I've been watching your videos for years now and I still really enjoy your content and find it very entertaining. You seem like a very confident person. I was wondering if you could make a video about how you became confident and if you have insecurities. Also if you have any tips on how to be more confident.
After a certain age, unless you live on another planet, it's pretty much impossible to not know at least one person who had/has cancer. How they even turned this into a thing to get offended about is beyond me.
Necessary warnings:
Sexual context, Graphic violence, Flashing lights that could effect epileptics
Anything else would be for extreme wienies
They can hide under their security blankets
I think suicide is a necessary warning too. People who are dealing with suicidal feelings can be motivated by content that deals with that, so I would put it on the same level as flashing lights.
@@wheeliebin1791 I disagree.
If someone is that unstable, they shouldn't watch any kind of TV or movie. They need to go get help asap and start reading books.
@@wheeliebin1791 yes I agree but they should also get help for their problems
@@hotpotts dude people can both have help and watch tv. Those are t mutually exclusive things. Suicide is definitely one of the things you warn people about before springing it on them.
@@hotpotts ?? Reading books because of mental illness will help more than watching tv?? As someone who was been in the hospital multiple times due to suicide attempts, suicide is such a necessary warning probably level to graphic violence. A lot of people are affected by suicide, not just the people who want to commit it, but also people who struggle with losing someone and many more types of people. Suicide is such a dark topic and would definitely need a warning. (Yes I know my English isn’t the best)
Ahhh *grabs tea for the tea* reading our comments makes me happy that you pay attention. ♡ 😊
i had stage 4 cancer & went thru very invasive chemotherapy for about two years & my boyfriend was by my side & he saw the movie & said it didn’t do anything actually horrible it was the bare basics they showed. can you imagine if they actually showed everything chemo does?
There *is* a trigger warning in place at the beginning of every theatrically released film, though. The MPA has a film rating system based on what general age range is appropriate for watching the film, and watch is included in the film that may make it inappropriate for some audiences.
However, "Does the dog die?" is a very good online resource for more specific instances that may upset people, including more than just animal death. Great place to go for people who want a heads up!
I am thin, but I am not fit. Michelle has inspired me to start working out =*
Someone told me I should put a trigger warning when I talked about my weight. My average, 150lb weight. And all I said was how certain body features are genetic, like dimples, and your weight won't matter... and someone wanted a trigger warning for that. Like bruh
Is 150lbs average. Just wondering bc I am around that and 5’6”
@@slimeyolo it's within the healthy range for your height
@@slimeyolo yeah, generally.
The problem with, yes I'll say it, (mostly) Americans, especially Gen Z, is they blame the trigger.... They feel the need to have to blame something or someone for not feeling positive/happy.
But not one second wille they think why they feel that way. They rather play the blame game. And so the world needs adjusting and therefore the triggerwarning needs to be placed everywhere. It's absolutely ridiculous.
The "nanny state" is in turbo mode now.
5 year olds graduating from kindergarten. Participation trophies...
@@w1975b ...I mean...I was raised by Boomers, so...if you want to blame somebody for the always the Millennials turned out...
I see death a lot at work as I work in the ER. A lot of the times I can compartmentalize and separate myself from what happens at work when I go home. I had a teen die pretty horrifically last week and was unable to totally do so. I turned on frozen and had to turn it off when the parents died. I put on something a little more light hearted. You have to manage your own triggers.
My mother died of cancer years ago, it was a horrible time and the grief was so terrifiedly deep. Still cancer in movies or other media doesn’t trigger me. If it would it meant that I had not let myself mourn, deal with the loss and move on. The world does not roll around the people who get ”triggered” or others should not tip-toe because that-and-that thing is sooo hard to deal. Cancer is common these days, sadly.
Loved this one!!! Butters is too cute!!!! Also, given how everyone is triggered these days, the warnings would be longer than the program or movie. Just stay home in the dark with complete silence if you don't want to risk it. It's far less stressful.
The whole trigger warning thing is WAY outta control. Some girl stood up at the end of The Black Phone at the theater and (loudly) said “this movie should have had a trigger warning about C.A..”….. that is literally what the movie is about. Like what??
Granted not all trailers are like this, but if they really wanted a trigger warning they could have used the trailer for this movie as such. The main emphasis (from what I remember at least) in it is Ethan Hawke’s character taking the main character and him ending up in the basement.
With all the promos out out there, I wouldn’t think trigger warnings are needed.
maybe she got a call on her black telephone
@@era157 I’m guessing child abuse but I donno
@@era157 i think child abduction or child abuse
I think CA is child abduction or child abuse, but yeah the trailers made it pretty clear
The chapters are so helpful thank you 🙏
You're such an inspiring person! I hope your hair business does well! 💛
I’m so confused on “straight” size. Did I hear that right? Are they trying to claim queer as a plus size only thing?
Cause as someone who is in the queer community, I know a lot of gays who are thin, a lot of gays who are fat, trans people on either side, swinging whatever body size. Heck, I’m queer with a fairly in shape body shape - “skinny like a chicken wing” my mamma likes to say. Am I not queer then? Because I’m staring shaped?
Probs just heard that wrong, but I can definitely see someone on the internet making this claim.
Edit: I meant straight shape but staring shape cracks me up so it’s staying.
Apparently, "straight sized" has something to do with designers having to adjust their patterns to make them fit sensibly on overweight bodies. But I agree, it comes across as trying to appropriate LGBT issues, which is how I interpreted it (and still do with how some people use the term) before someone told me otherwise.
Also aren’t lgbt people way more likely to have an eating disorder? Lmao
I love that robe
Also with the Marvel film - It was a major plot point years ago.
I read comics and can miss things or not look them up before watching something, but a quick Google search would have the cancer info. And there would be articles out there all about it.
Trigger warnings for me, are for discussions around SA, murder, child abuse, or possible epilepsy triggers. Shit that be heavy, triggering, or otherwise have aa real potential negative consequence for people consuming it.
I highly reccomend the website "does the dog die", as it lists a bunch of topics/potential triggers for all kinds of media. SA can trigger me so I always have to spoil myself first haha. Luckily I don't mind spoilers! I guess the Thor trailers could have mentioned Jane's cancer? Especially as they bring it up in the first fifteen minutes. That's about all I can think of minus explicitly stating it during the opening credits.
@@makilawhite1144 I love does the dog die. Such a useful website.
Honestly I think this generation is just afraid to feel real emotions and just want to avoid something beyond just a little tear sliding down your cheek. The only trigger warnings should be for epilepsy or warning that there's going to be some graphic depictions of certain topics. Cause we all know how to use the internet and look up reviews or someone complaining about certain things in a movie or TV show.
Watch out, Michelle-I'm still working out!! You are still my motivation. Even went so far as to incorporate weights again. lol .Block you or your content? Never!
You made me take a long look at myself. Early Onset Parkinson's. Systemic Lupus and RA. Got up to 220. Even at 5'10, I was overweight and miserable. Not to mention had quite the opiate addiction.
Still 5'10. Still have the above medical issues, obviously. Clean from opiates now. Yoga. HIIT,etc. Plus walking a 1.5 year old Chorkie all the time. Nana to an active 8 year old grandson, who recently diagnosed with Alopecia Areata( not letting it slow him down at all, from his football practice last night) and a silly, funny 1 year old granddaughter.
Thank you for inspiring me. Be 47 Sunday, and have never felt this good! Through it all, I gained back what I needed and lost what ALL needed to go!
Have a great day. all!
edit- currently 153 lbs. woohoo!
I'm a photosensitive Epileptic who also has an ED lol so i can speak on this. In my 11yrs of having an ED i have never once been triggered by something i see in the media pertaining to weight loss/calories, if anything i'm more gonna be triggered by obese girls showing off their body with captions like "this is what happens when you let go/stop caring". I think most countries have restrictions on the speed of strobe lights shown in media anyways so often isn't needed but is appreciated. They actually have to be really fast, almost imperceptible, to cause seizures in most Epileptics. And most Epileptics aren't photosensitive only like 5% them have that trigger & only 2% of the general population is epileptic. In short i think a lot of ppl want something to be offended about / too sensitive.
I’ve dealt with almost everything that bojack as a character deals with especially his relationship with his mom. And watching it the first time around did trigger me but Im on my like fifth or sixth rewatch and it’s just such a well written show that when I actually understood the plot more than just what’s on the surface it actually helped me cope and process all the abuse I went through.
"I'm tired of thin people" smh, I'm just tired
This girl is THE BEST because she literally has no filter when it comes to the foolishness. And.. I’m here for it. Sometimes I can’t stop laughing at all the haters who don’t stand a chance. lol. 😂 👏🏼
I feel like she says all the things I think...but don't say out loud to anyone but my boyfriend. 🥰
I watched this video and all I can think of is "What the hell happened to resilience in people?" Have people become so incapable of watching a movie or documentary without having a minor meltdown or something?! It's like someone asking me to put a trigger warning on my wheelchair because their best friend's grandma's cousin used one before dying! My scary gothmother, what in the Emet-Selch is going on with humanity?!
I was bullied so bad for being naturally thin and I was a distance runner until the age of 25 (6'1 145 pounds) with no diet whatsoever. Now, im 33 years old and have a nice body (ive gained weight and muscle) with low maintenance. I think about all the body shaming and it still bothers me sometimes but if you work hard and dont follow the crowd, you will always win in the end.
My baby passed away right before I gave birth to her....and ever since I've had the hardest time going around babies, and especially pregnant women. Both circumstances absolutely kill me inside. So now I mentally prepare myself for such occasions. And if a movie is about a pregnant woman, or a stillbirth, I just walk out or change the channel. I cannot expect the world to change based on my triggers.
Life is very harsh, and traumas follow us.....but that is for us to work on, or avoid. But it's still our job however we go about it
@@Tacobellcramps Thank you so very much. And I'm also sorry you had to go through such an awful experience. My heart goes out to you. Life is so harsh. I guess I never realized how harsh life actually is until losing my baby. I never thought something so devastating could happen to me. I felt immune for some reason. It's just crazy. And yes, I also would appreciate trigger warnings on things, I just don't expect them...you know.
Anyway, thank you again for your response and thank you for such kind words. I truly appreciate them🌹
As far as Marvel is concerned…
I understand that everyone hasn’t read comics growing up, but as someone who grew up doing this, people need to understand that storylines for a Marvel movie come from the comics… (imagine that 😏)
On a another note… Michelle, your hair is f*cking gorgeous.
Thanks for the vids!
I was on dressage team in high school and a lot of my teammates were very…large. There were zero issues with what horses they could ride, even when visiting other schools’ stables. To not be allowed to ride a horse that influencer must be insanely, irresponsibly heavy!
Eh, fair point, actually 🤷🏼♀️
Also the horses at their ranch could have been a different breed that weighs less. I was at a festival recently and I don't know the breeds names but the houses they had were huge!
The green screen and your hair look flawless! Seeing you doing well and hustling really inspires me to get up and move
My abuela went through alot as a young woman, saw her father get shot by military, witnessed the downfall of her country, fled with my mother after my Abuelo got out of jail. She does NOT watch anything she knows may upset her, sometimes she has to turn off the local news (Philly) because it's too much. If someone is watching zombie and war movies, she goes upstairs when they are on. She moves on with her life and accepts reality is harsh, but lives each day to the fullest without complaining. She goes to church everyday, and is more badass than I'll ever be.
They actually do have websites all about triggers in movies. I remember my exes brother committed suicide and his mom would go on this website and check the movies for triggers first without spoiling the plot
The Thor movie cancer warning reminded me when I was hanging out with my aunt and she said she wished movies had divorce trigger warnings lmao so like you said there’s just lots of personal stuff for movies that can be triggering and places like RUclips and tiktok offer wayyy more trigger warnings than legal cinema does. It’s like they assume adults should be able to handle the content wether they like it ir not hahaha
My daughter is epileptic and photosensitive. I like when a warning is included, but there's been many times where I either cover her eyes, or remove her from the environment.
We are all responsible for our own triggers and working through them to process and heal whenever possible. It does not help to put that responsibility on strangers. No stranger is ever going to take your triggers for you. It doesn’t work that way-and trying to make it just makes life even more impractical to even try to live both for the traumatized and for people just trying to enjoy life.
Bobs burgers is literally my comfort show! It got me through some really bad anxiety where i was having daily panic attacks and now im over that hurdle i get a little serotonin boost when i hear the jingle at the beginning of the intro like it literally makes my brain tingle 😄
My father died from COPD 3 years ago. I still cry when I watch emotional daddy/daughter moments on tv or social media and sometimes it hurts a lot, but I have never ONCE thought that someone should have to warn me of those moments. It's a normal part of life and we have to stop being afraid of things that we are going to encounter.
I have a normal weight, maybe on the skinny side, but I was fat in my teen. Now that I am tinner people can't stop complaining about my body, my prominent collar bone (that I had even when I was fat), how much I eat, what I eat. Ultimately I had an interaction with a fat positive woman who was "offended" about my existence, I think. Last year I dropped a bit of fat due to health problems, and my clothes doesn't fit right anymore, but I am not really ready to accept my new body, it is complicated. So I usually use a belt or wear oversize, and this girl spoke with a mutual friend about how I flaunt my skinniness, and when we where in the same room she always would made jokes about only dogs likes bones. It was so infuriating that at some point I confronted her with sarcasms. For me my weight, my body, food are problems right now. I have a strange relationship regarding food/weight/health and the last thing I want is to be bashed about it.
I remember in one of my darkest hours I watched Ouran High School Host Club. It was hilarious, and I dislike over the top comedy animes. I’m more slice of like person. But it helped me tremendously. Love the locks and as a person with straight hair, that stays straight no matter what I do, I am jealous.
I love this RUclipsr. If she ever reads this I want her to know she inspired me to run everyday. 🏃♀️ I can now run for 30 minutes. I like watching this person. She gets you thinking and putting things in perspective
“Courage” gave me intense nightmares when I was a child, still feels scary
No, million times
I’m actually counting my calories today for the first time!! I thought I ate a lot and felt super guilty but I’m seeing I really don’t.. and I feel healthy knowing where I sit with my calories, and where to go from here, thank you for the inspiration!
I'm still working on getting into shape and am so confused by how that is infuriating for some people. Yes, it's for a lot of health benefits, and because there's risks in my family, and also because I want to feel good and move easily.
Maybe I’m a weird parent. But I don’t let my kids watch movies/tv that I haven’t researched first. It’s my responsibility to make sure whatever they watch is age appropriate. The “trigger warnings” are always available online.
That’s because you are a good parent.
@@katemiller7874 thank you, I try my best. My goal isn’t to shelter them. But I want to keep things age appropriate.
@@brookew2403 Be careful of the woke nonsense that many kids have been brainwashed to believe. God loves you. ✝️
I am unable to drive due to epilepsy, so seeing people driving is a trigger for me.
People need to stop driving! 😂
A cartoon NOT to watch if you're sad is Steven Universe. It's the first cartoon that actually made me cry. It's not a bad show by any means (it's actually pretty damn good imo) but it can get very emotional at times. A cartoon that I DO recommend to watch when you're sad is The Owl House, which is INCREDIBLE (and also LGBTQ+ friendly)! It's on Disney+, highly recommend it.