I like how the man did not move or waver in his resolution despite the feminist attempted mockery and shaming. He didn't raise his voice, or swear as she did. Just stuck by his convictions like a rock. A good example for us all.
That’s how you do it. No need arguing and getting all worked up with someone who is delusional. My grandma always said “don’t argue with a fool”. The proverbial wall still remains undefeated and is coming for her. It’s just a matter of time before she realizes her BS ideology didn’t serve her well. The Bible says in Proverbs that “he who finds a wife finds a good thing”. So you must be a wife maternal first and foremost to be found. I pity a woman like this. Stay focused guys. Peace ✌🏿
Absolutely, know what you want and know what is not negotiable for you. Compromising on your non-negotiables is a sure-fire way to kill the relationship early. Being upfront about expectations is how you set up a quality long-term relationship, no pop surprises after more emotions have developed. On a side note, if you're dating a girl that insists on going to clubs, I doubt she's ready to be serious. If you really like her, maybe just be friends. Stay in touch, and wait until she grows out of it. I think it's good to have a couple friends of the opposite sex that you havn't gotten hot with.
What’s funny is that by sticking to his convictions and not getting angry he becomes attractive to the other women in the room. It’s just how humans are wired.
If you look at her as a 15 year old teenager everything makes sense. A lot of people never grow up past 15, despite being much older they still behave, think and react as a teenager would
I'm 38 and I swear to god I really enjoy being a grownup and maturing and learning more, and it feels like I'm alone out here, everyone is pretending to be a teenager, forever, no one is enjoying the aging process I've noticed. Paradoxically, I look in my mid to late 20's and women my age get enraged when they find out my age LMAO
I heard a theory once. Not saying it is true, or false. That many women are stuck at what every age they were when they realized men (boys) wanted to have sex with them.
MY-PHILOSOPHY:"INNER-STRENGTH" I have found that simply "loving myself" (inner-child) is a powerful tool against most types of social-dependency/vulnerability. ............................ EDIT ............................. "Evil" is the antithesis to the virtue: 'humanity'. Humanity is the characteristic that defines the human spirit. Humanity is symbiosis across humans and society. 'Humanity' exceeds 'social-darwinism'. ............................. NEURO-PERSONALITY ............................. "SENSORY-FEELERS" ARE LARGELY RESPONSIBLE FOR SPREADING DISINFORMATION AND HATE TOWARDS ENTJ/INTJ (AGAINST "THINKERS" IN GENERAL)-BOTH IRL AND ON THE INTERNET; DESPITE THOSE NEURO-PERSONALITY TYPES BEING A BLESSING TO SOCIETY AND ALL OF MANKIND! THEY DESERVE BETTER! 😤 'ESFJ', 'ESFP', ISFP and 'ISFJ' are a pathogen to humanity, and 'then' Cluster-B (depending on their neuro-personality). THEIR "FEELINGS 'IS' THEIR REALITY", THEY ALSO HAVE A MALICIOUS-MIND BY DEFAULT (low 'mirror-neurons' results in "SOCIOPATHIC-FEELER"; full of pathological hate, and highly chaotic). WHAT'S MORE, DESPITE HAVING MALICIOUS INTENT THEY ARE ALL EMOTIONALLY-WEAK AND PRONE TO COVERT/VULNERABLE-NARCISSISM (ISFJ especially; they impersonate and spread hate towards genuine INFJs). ............................... Also... To intelligent readers (who do 'not’ have a ‘pathological disregard for rationality and reality'). I recommend researching 'narcissistic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissist'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)! European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!! They are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-r@pe, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim/damsel in distress, creating "flying-monkeys", and 'bribing' others (with money or BJ) to attack, or at times, kill someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Emmett Till. xSFP and ISFJ (2W1) are the most complicit, narcissistic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependents' (look up the definition). Like ESFJ, XSFP's "feelings 'is' their reality." Most are covert/vulnerable-narcissists. ISFJ often perceive things only on the surface level (even by sensor standards), are suckers for a “pretty face", and their neuro-psychology makes them the ideal narcissitic-codependent and pawn to the ESFJ (blind-loyalty, surface level perception, susceptibility to covert-narcissism). Lastly, ISFJ are notorious for impersonating other people's identities IRL and on the internet; while ESFJ-9W1 superficially appears like an ENFJ, they have different 'neurology' and psychology. Both XSFJ are superficial by nature and perceive reality at face-value/surface level. SUMMARY Evil personality: 'ESFJ' (ALL), ESTJ (Cluster-b), ISFJ-2W1 (covert-narc/enabler). ESFJ-9W1 superficially resembles ENFJ; different 'neurology' and psychology. [Secretly] Evil and narcissist-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP (ALL), ESFP (ALL), and ISFJ (2W1 enable ESFJ). ☝️ALL of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict as a distraction (at other people's expense, truly evil). Spread the word! Thank you. ___________ Research ref: Raudha Athif, Ghislaine Maxwell, Marilyn Monroe, Karen, ESFJ-narcissists, ESFJ-neurology, Gaslighting, Amber Heard, Fake feminism, Rising of a shield hero (Malty-'ESFJ'; XSFX spread disinformation online. ISFJ is the main culprit, i.e. ISFJ largely perceive things on the surface level, and with malicious intent ISFJ impersonate others). Please research 'Brood-parasitism’- XSFJ natural psychology. /End
My sister is very argumentative and combative with me over everything. I try to tell her in a nice way “this is why your 36 and never been married” You all can guess how well she takes that
sister: "why thank you Jon for pointing that out to me, it was in my blindspot. if you see me being a b*tch again just give me a handsign and i will dial it back" THATS MY GUESS AND I AM STICKING TO IT !!!
MY-PHILOSOPHY:"INNER-STRENGTH" I have found that simply "loving myself" (inner-child) is a powerful tool against most types of social-dependency/vulnerability. ............................ EDIT ............................. "Evil" is the antithesis to the virtue: 'humanity'. Humanity is the characteristic that defines the human spirit. Humanity is symbiosis across humans and society. 'Humanity' exceeds 'social-darwinism'. ............................. NEURO-PERSONALITY ............................. "SENSORY-FEELERS" ARE LARGELY RESPONSIBLE FOR SPREADING DISINFORMATION AND HATE TOWARDS ENTJ/INTJ (AGAINST "THINKERS" IN GENERAL)-BOTH IRL AND ON THE INTERNET; DESPITE THOSE NEURO-PERSONALITY TYPES BEING A BLESSING TO SOCIETY AND ALL OF MANKIND! THEY DESERVE BETTER! 😤 'ESFJ', 'ESFP', ISFP and 'ISFJ' are a pathogen to humanity, and 'then' Cluster-B (depending on their neuro-personality). THEIR "FEELINGS 'IS' THEIR REALITY", THEY ALSO HAVE A MALICIOUS-MIND BY DEFAULT (low 'mirror-neurons' results in "SOCIOPATHIC-FEELER"; full of pathological hate, and highly chaotic). WHAT'S MORE, DESPITE HAVING MALICIOUS INTENT THEY ARE ALL EMOTIONALLY-WEAK AND PRONE TO COVERT/VULNERABLE-NARCISSISM (ISFJ especially; they impersonate and spread hate towards genuine INFJs). ............................... Also... To intelligent readers (who do 'not’ have a ‘pathological disregard for rationality and reality'). I recommend researching 'narcissistic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissist'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)! European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!! They are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-r@pe, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim/damsel in distress, creating "flying-monkeys", and 'bribing' others (with money or BJ) to attack, or at times, kill someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Emmett Till. xSFP and ISFJ (2W1) are the most complicit, narcissistic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependents' (look up the definition). Like ESFJ, XSFP's "feelings 'is' their reality." Most are covert/vulnerable-narcissists. ISFJ often perceive things only on the surface level (even by sensor standards), are suckers for a “pretty face", and their neuro-psychology makes them the ideal narcissitic-codependent and pawn to the ESFJ (blind-loyalty, surface level perception, susceptibility to covert-narcissism). Lastly, ISFJ are notorious for impersonating other people's identities IRL and on the internet; while ESFJ-9W1 superficially appears like an ENFJ, they have different 'neurology' and psychology. Both XSFJ are superficial by nature and perceive reality at face-value/surface level. SUMMARY Evil personality: 'ESFJ' (ALL), ESTJ (Cluster-b), ISFJ-2W1 (covert-narc/enabler). ESFJ-9W1 superficially resembles ENFJ; different 'neurology' and psychology. [Secretly] Evil and narcissist-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP (ALL), ESFP (ALL), and ISFJ (2W1 enable ESFJ). ☝️ALL of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict as a distraction (at other people's expense, truly evil). Spread the word! Thank you. ___________ Research ref: Raudha Athif, Ghislaine Maxwell, Marilyn Monroe, Karen, ESFJ-narcissists, ESFJ-neurology, Gaslighting, Amber Heard, Fake feminism, Rising of a shield hero (Malty-'ESFJ'; XSFX spread disinformation online. ISFJ is the main culprit, i.e. ISFJ largely perceive things on the surface level, and with malicious intent ISFJ impersonate others). Please research 'Brood-parasitism’- XSFJ natural psychology. /End
It truly does, unless you're into a destructive lifestyle of hookup culture, alcohol and drugs. There is absolutely nothing of value in the club scene for both men and women.
So many women are like this girl though. Combative from the get-go. You can’t even discuss the topic because she’s busy arguing with the preamble to the topic. This didn’t used to be commonplace but now it is.
@@Primitive_Code My ex was like this, wasn’t because of a control freak. Though it was likely due to mental problems, she used to hear a voice that she had a name for. And slept around like crazy, when her ex cancelled their engagement, she ran through her phone and slept with every guy friend she had.
@@Primitive_Code It doesn't matter who is to blame for it, she could have always been that way or she could have trauma. EITHER WAY it's no one else's problem but hers. Being traumatized doesn't excuse someone from being a petulant asshole.
Well said, Courtney. being 35, I'm was always one of those as well - almost never drink, never go to clubs, almost never put on makeup and I like dressing in loose-fitting jeans, and if I wear a skirt or a dress, I make sure to wear leggings and either flats or boots. My go-to for "fun", - by myself, is to a bookstore. I love reading books - especially about history...and the adjacent coffee shop - especially on days there's hardly anybody present.
It's all about the difference between disagreeing and fighting: My GF and I both hold different views regarding political discourse, yet we don't fight about it, we talk and listen to each other's POV, and if we don't reach a consensus we agree to disagree. And then we just go back to watching a movie or playing videogames or whatever we were doing. Healthy love is not that hard... is peaceful.
Girls who want to keep clubbing aren't ready to be a wife. You'll never get a clearer signal than that. You put your faith and trust in someone when you make them your wife. Don't marry someone who doesn't respect that. Courtney, I want to thank you for your channel. I know many wonderful women who very much wish they had understood the traditional men in their lives and treated them better. I am old and overweight, maybe a 5 in the market place, but I'm a 9 or a 10 to my wife and children. Sometimes you have to treat a 5 like a 9 to get a 9.
What is there to find in the club these days? Getting drunk, overwhelmingly loud music where you can't even hear what anybody is saying on top of being mad expensive. Clubbing is a massive waste of time and resources.
I’ve been watching your content for about 6 months now and I will say, my dating life has significantly improved. Appreciate all the advice. Subscribed!
I don’t know why, but I’m not a fan of the term “make her my wife.” Maybe that’s what the woman was reacting to. However, I don’t like the comments about doing her makeup and going to the club either.
I've went to a club a grand total of zero times. I'm 32, I don't regret it. Loud environments, wasting money on alcohol, dealing with troublesome females....and competing with chads...waste of my time.
To me, it's weird that the first thing out of the feminist's mouth was about control. It wasn't about the concept of marriage, or about how highly a man would have to see a woman to want to wife her up. The first thing out of her mouth was complaining about how he would "make her his wife" instead of verbally acknowledging that she is a human being with her own life; as if something like that would ever even need to be said. No shit the woman has her own life... Why would that EVER need to be said? I swear, it always comes down to control with these people. This is exactly why men avoid feminists. It has nothing to do with equality. Can you imagine how frickin exhausting it would be to deal with someone who is so legalistic that she feels the need to correct you in every conversation because you didn't explicitly throw in all the little caveats and disclaimers so she can be sure a valid, enforceable verbal contract has been formed and upheld?
Personally I don’t usually waste my time arguing with women like that as I can tell it’s already very draining. And also why does she seem so offended when the guy is giving a hypothetical situation of what he’s looking for in a potential wife of his as it’s his personal preference? This girl got alot of issues man
The "make her my wife," could easily be perceived as the speaker treating the target of his affection as an object to be possessed. It is JUST an expression, but the key words are 'make' and 'my.' MAKE implies lack of agency, and MY implies taking possession. So it was just an expression and does not mean the above, but the choice of words in this day and age could be difficult to hear.
I have been to a club, and it does suck especially when fights breakout! Also, if your partner is with you it feels like you have to stand close if you know what I mean!
When one bases one’s arguments on feelings instead of facts, it’s impossible to win without using emotion-based tactics. Hence the arguing, picking apart, verbal bullying, justifying, cursing… the only way to deal with the ranting and raving is to be more cold and logical.
Agree 100% ! Wife and I married 10yrs now, we have our disagreements with certain stuff but we share a lot of common interests and goals. She understands my side and I understand hers. At the end of the end, as long as I dont cheat then we gucci xD
Way I see it, who’s going to be better at their job. Someone who has been a watch maker at a company for 40 years or someone who keeps jumping to other companies? Which person would you rather have to employ? Point being they may be great at dating with all the practice but terrible at relationships they never had any experience with
What’s crazy is how she jumped through what the actual process of a man “making her my wife” means. It means establishing communication, forming a relationship, and after a period of time “ASKING” (proposing) if she’d be his wife. She heard the term “make her my wife” and immediately thought that it was a one way street, but that’s not the case. A man can only make a woman his wife if she says yes. It’s in the ceremony, both parties are asked “Do you take…” So it’s two things going on simultaneously, he’s making her his wife, and she’s making him her husband
I'm an older man (40s). I think what people need to realize is that if your mindset is that you just want to be able to do whatever you want to do, whenever you want to do it, you will probably never have a functional long-term relationship. It doesn't work that way. You have to take into account the feelings and opinions of your significant other. If you're not willing to do that, you should probably just stay single.
The problem was she was attracted to him, then he said something that she felt lowered her value in her own mind. Finally, she was triggered when he rejected her based on the clubbing and then she became defensive because her flirting was rejected by her habbits.
@@MikeyP109 I think that this is a bot. I mean, "Let's Go Brandon" as a profile pic, meaning that he's a right winger and "I cried" watching a non-emotional video? Things do not add up, it would be like a leftist quoting a biology book... If it ever happened, hypothetically, you'd know instantly something is up.
Girl, I can't understand it, why you want to hurt me After all the things I've done for you I buy you champagne and roses, put diamonds on your finger And still, you hang out all night What am I to do? My girl wants to party all the time Party all the time Party all the time My girl wants to party all the time Party all the time She parties all the time -Eddie Murphy
As for me and my upbringing, I have no interest at all in "casual dating". If I'm going to bother spending any energy on a relationship, it will be because I see marriage as a future likelihood. Yes it is highly limiting, but I guarantee that girl would never wish me luck. I doubt she would even stay in the room after I said anything.
2:20 I don't think there's anything wrong or special about not wanting to go to clubs. I don't particularly like them myself and I am a guy. I like to live a healthy life and alcohol has zero proven health benefits so why would I be interested in it? And for what I've seen, the people that go to drink every night instead of studying, exercising, or just relaxing are having way tougher time staying focused and awake on lessons or learning anything.
She was being so rude to that guy; totally putting him down because he wants a wife who doesn’t really want to go out and drink in a nightclub. I think it’s a sign of insecurity in her part and almost picking apart his words. She jumped on the first word he said that she didn’t like and misconstrued what he was saying. You are correct about finding that person who shares your values. I know couples who have the same values who are very happy in their marriage, even though they have different personalities. Even my husband and I are two very different people but we ultimately have the same goals in life and the same values. I also have a friend who married someone that goes out nearly every night even though my friend doesn’t like to. It was like that before they got married but I think that she thought he would change. It’s a huge point of contention in their marriage and everyone around them can see that their values are misaligned. So yeah, I would say values are a huge thing in picking a compatible partner.
I don’t like going out to clubs, I don’t wear makeup (I just take care of my skin and whatever), pretty introverted But saying “make her my wife” DOES feel a bit…controlling If a guy said that, I would just be as quiet as I could until I could get away Her reaction to his statement was aggressive, but his statement was pretty gross
Some people get really upset over active voice. Look at the offense over "colored people" vs the new "people of color." She applied a lot of assumptions from him using active voice that the future wife would have this thrust upon her against her will if necessary. I was taught to rarely use passive voice in school as it denotes weakness in English.
I think a lot of couples tend to discuss their future together before the man makes the proposal but in reality, she is signalling her willingness before he asks. It isn't the man deciding and the woman being passive. My son is certainly spending a lot of time discussing his future with his girlfriend and she is doing the same. They probably won't get married for a while until they have both finished training in their professions. My wife and I did it that way and we have been together 40 years.
She broke down the " make her my wife." Part and turned it into a sexist comment. Even though his figure of speech is not meant to be harmful. She somehow weaponized it for no reason. I like to go to the pub not the club. In pubs you can relax , talk , and have a drink. I think theres nothing wrong with that. I was once called an afghan muslim for saying that I want a woman that doesnt go to the club. Then I was told me going to the pub is the same thing as women going to the club. I dont get activily hit on at a pub restaurant. So thats why its not the same.
Hey Courtney, most likely (at least from my inference) is that she took “I’ll make her my wife” as a declaration of controlling her, and her being the “submissive” one, etc - rather than the woman being “in charge”. …and there’s so many holes and red flags in that, by itself.
That chubby girl who was offended with the young gentleman’s “make her my wife” comment, SHE will someday make some poor, unlucky guy so miserable that I feel sorry for him in advance.
I find it *so interesting* that, while their delivery, temperaments, attitudes, and personas are entirely different, Courtney Ryan and Kevin Samuels (RIP) came to the exact same conclusions and basically made the same observations.
Courtney, I have been married over 30 yrs and I can tell you that there are no women who agree with everything their husband says. Now I love my wife and recognize she has been a tremendous blessing to me. She has given me four children and 2 grandchildren. But she has freedom to agree or disagree with what I say. I did not marry a robot. And there are times I end up being wrong.
I hate drinking, I would never date a woman that went to the club or bars. I’ve broken up with quite a few woman for wanting to go to the bar more and more rather than work on things that matter or go do something that’s actually fun and productive. I find cleaning my house and yard work funner than going to a bar.
i mean it's more so telling that if a woman gets triggered by a man saying that he wants a woman that he can call his wife, like really would she still be triggered if a woman said the exact same thing about wanting a man that she can call her husband? it's a normal thing to have someone private to you that you can call your own.
The only thing I disagree with is that here in KY, land of bourbon and moonshine, drinking is on the rise. The state is pushing their marketing of bourbon and distillery tours and the such.
The guy saying that it is non-negotiable isn't much better honestly. Probably why I got ghosted after 13 years. So my thoughts don't really matter I guess.
The “making her my wife” is just language that some feminists want to attack and I kinda get the wording of it, but it’s so small to argue. The guy does take the initiative, the decision to ask, pays for the ring which is kinda a gift for doing something. Those are all actions to have an engagement to marry… but yes, it’s still two people making a choice together. I think we earn that wording, ladies, if we have to be the one to take these initial steps. You can ask us and offer something of high monetary value for saying yes… please do. I want a motorcycle lol.
What these chicks don’t like is the idea that a guy she would want, a guy she sees as high value and attractive, would want qualities in a woman that she doesn’t have. If a guy she finds unattractive or low value says he wants qualities she doesn’t possess, she won’t get offended. I’ve seen this phenomenon a lot. Women get offended at the idea that they don’t meet the standards of a man they see as high value. She’s attracted to this guy, and can’t believe he’s saying he wouldn’t want her. This is a modern woman phenomenon. They become this way due to the absurd levels of simping any girl above a 4 has had since high school. Because these girls are constantly simped on by thirsty low value betas (and some higher value guys too), the idea that they don’t meet a man’s standards is so foreign to them. When Gen Z girls get past age 30, it’s going to hit them harder than any other generation of women. Even millennial women who have hit 30 have not had this level of simping in their prime years. I’m an 80s baby millennial. I was like 25 when instagram came out, and social media was in its primitive stages in my high school/college years, so women my age weren’t simped on even close to as much. But the girls who have had instagram since they hit puberty, basically any girl 25 and younger, has been endlessly simped over for years. They have not hit the wall yet, but when they do, it’s going to be bad, because being simped over is all they know. They don’t know what life is like without having dozens of simps worshipping them. For any female born in the late 90s or later, who is a 5 or higher, the idea that any man could want something she doesn’t have is foreign and offensive to her, due to pathetic simping by modern men. Yes, there are some young women who are self-aware, but generally they’re not. So when they hear that they aren’t what a man wants, it hits them like a ton of bricks, and they react like this girl. Also, they haven’t reached the age where any of the men in their lives are looking for wife material, so they don’t understand the difference, because up to this point, they get endless praise and validation (even if she’s a 5) just by posting mediocre social media pics.
Two things with that young lady. She is caught up smack in the middle of college life and clubbing is her number one thing to do. So much so, that she can’t see life past it. She’s also an extreme feminist! So much so, she doesn’t even want the man to ask a women to be his wife lol! So I guess they have to split the question 50/50😂. Anyway, there are plenty of women that don’t club, or if they do find themselves in clubs, it was peer pressure from friends during the younger years. I have sisters that never clubbed and my own wife was never into it at all. She is very similar to Courtney. A lot of women do it for a period of time and simply grow out of it. This young lady doesn’t realize this yet.
Love, love, love that you said you don't like drinking or going clubbing. A lot more people need to make it known they don't care about those things. Modern society pushes so hard that all women should be drunks, hoes, and clubbing every weekend.
Just a communication problem. She took his, "make her my wife" comment as, the ol' caveman clubbing the woman over her head and dragging her off to his cave, type thing. I believe she thought, well what if she doesn't want to be your wife? She has a brain, free will, and a choice. I fully get what the guy was saying. Perhaps if he worded it, "if I find a girl that I'd like to ask to marry me" instead of "make my wife," the confusion may have been avoided. It's just a shame the the woke culture requires us to have the word police standing by during our conversations to avoid miscommunication or hurt feelings.
"Shoot for the Stars!" 😂🤣 Honestly, dating in this day and age is cringe worthy a lot of the time. Interesting view I heard yesterday about the pool of men who are at or above women career wise is drastically shrinking, so more good men who know how to treat a woman are being passed up, because many women focus on the wrong things. Wish everyone luck in their search. Stay true to yourself.
She seemed to almost think that a relationship and fun are mutually exclusive. A woman that can't wrap her mind around the benefits of being with a man is never more than a free agent looking for a better offer that will never come. Her toxic 304 addiction will guarantee that.
She's reacting to his "make her my wife". She's like, "you can't make her your wife". He blew it with his phrasing. The rest is all her being in reactive mode, no progress possible in reactive mode.
Wonderful to actually hear a woman say, "They don't want to go to the club. or Want to be with a man that wants to go to the club" Your perspective is sadly becoming very rare.
I think it really depends on the frequency: I would never mind if a lady associated with me would go to a club with her female friends every other month or so. Obviously it’s a no-go if she wants to do this every week.
When I meet young women like this, I tell them to think about where their feminist choices have taken them when they reach their 40th birthday. They either shut up or get really mad. Either way, I laugh.
"Make her my wife" sounds extremely wrong to me. As if only one party has a choice. Maybe it's a US thing but I've heard of women proposing a number of times, Europe might be slightly less weird about it. But their argument made both of them unattractive in the end. Just say "marry her", it's enough.
I'm 54 and was never into club or bar scenes but I do know that any woman who makes the argument for doing those things, especially when dating or after marriage, is simply looking for male attention and approval. The same goes for social media. It's like a drug they are addicted to and she will never be satisfied with the attention and love from only one man no matter what he does for her. Yes, it's fine that she has female friends just as a man has male friends, but when the activity is to get dressed up as sexy as possible to go into an environment known for male/female interaction, she's not going JUST to spend time with her friends.
Tbh...I have never been to a club, growing up until I was 18 yrs old never of them. But I also barely drink but I still enjoy it socially. I don't know why some getting extreme migraines or nauseous is worth it....nah I want to have my own clear head and avoid being nauseous thank you. :P
Hey Courtney! I love the channel! You give great advice. I am 47 years old … a lot older then most of your audience I am assuming. I still find your content very fascinating. What are your thoughts on grown woman talking with a little girls voice. What I mean is if you were talking to her on the phone you would think you were talking to an 8 year old girl. I have always taken this as a red flag and ran for the hills. Do you think I am wrong in that? Keep up the great work.
It's pretty clear she was immediately attracted to that guy and interpreted that as him saying "no" to her so she subconsciously thought he was rejecting her.
She got triggered when he used the words "make her---" my wife. People can't seem to get over semantics and it's really really obnoxious. Obviously he's not going to "make" anyone do anything, it's a figure of speech. It used to be a very endearing figure of speech as well.
I'm at the point in my life now where I just can't "hook up" anymore. I used to be all about it in my 20's and early 30's. But real dating is tough when you actually chase personality. Once the looks/sex blinders come off, you start to realize how brutal women today are. You cringe just listening to them speak hardcore feminist rhetoric or observing their hookup culture actions and demeanor. I always sing my current GF's praises because she's genuinely a good woman. But to find one true genuine connection where it all aligns, you have to deal with hundreds of women just like the ones on the Whatever podcast. It's truly brutal. 💯
Something I found quite profound about sexual dynamics between men and women is the coping that men do in the friend zone, and women do in the sex zone. Women don't realize that the men who put them into a situationship or end up ghosting them is really just the same dynamic of women putting men in the friend zone. Men get to use you for what they want when they put you in the sex zone; low effort sex. While women get what they want when they put men in the friend zone; endless validation from men that don't require any degree of reciprocation. These two dynamics are really just immature ways the genders use their power to manipulate people to fulfill an emptiness they have in themselves.
It's just a gender power dynamic. It's not anything people consciously do, it just happens. If the man is higher value than the woman, sex zone happens. If the woman is higher value, friend zone happens.
@@smarmypapsmears634 Well it's true that the value is perceived as you mentioned, therefore that outcome mentioned is typical. However because these behaviors are manipulative by default through using someone without reciprocation, it's a reflection of the individual using their power as such. Which is fine because I understand the human condition is not typically morally sound. But it's absolutely worth realizing intentionality. Seeing these types of behaviors are very important if you ever plan to vet someone for long term relationships.
I agree that these are the same dynamics except that it's worse that men use women for sex because it adds to the women's sex partner count. Which is something that some dudes care about. There is no "friend zone" count. Haha.
@@Gnomesmusher If she's not used by one guy she'll be used by another. She wants to be used because she is intentionally choosing men who will use her.
@@jth_printed_designs This doesn't change my point whatsoever. And your point doesn't even apply to all women anyway. There are men who lie to get sex. To pretend that there isn't is just laughable.
She is the type of girl that is always looking for a fight. If she doesn't change her mentality, in 15 years she will be going to the clubs alone and wondering why no guy approaches her. I could see her responding to a potential boyfriend's "You look really pretty today" with "What do you mean?! Don't I look pretty every day!? Are you saying I'm ugly!?" No guy wants to deal with that!
Had a gf like that. She shut up real quick when I told her I didn’t play that stupid game. Broke up later anyway. Only woman I dated that I’d call crazy.
@@Minotaur-ey2lg I did, too. She actually broke up with me. Did me a huge favor! That was my first crazy girl experience. Can't say it was my last, but the 2nd one was a different sort of crazy. Both hairstylists. Now I run from hairstylists, lol!
Yeah I have said for a while now that women are more disagreeable with men than other men are. It’s because they know they’re not going to get punched in the face lol
I like how the man did not move or waver in his resolution despite the feminist attempted mockery and shaming. He didn't raise his voice, or swear as she did. Just stuck by his convictions like a rock. A good example for us all.
A solid man who knows what he wants, knows what he has to offer and knows his own worth!
That’s how you do it. No need arguing and getting all worked up with someone who is delusional. My grandma always said “don’t argue with a fool”. The proverbial wall still remains undefeated and is coming for her. It’s just a matter of time before she realizes her BS ideology didn’t serve her well. The Bible says in Proverbs that “he who finds a wife finds a good thing”. So you must be a wife maternal first and foremost to be found. I pity a woman like this. Stay focused guys. Peace ✌🏿
Absolutely, know what you want and know what is not negotiable for you. Compromising on your non-negotiables is a sure-fire way to kill the relationship early. Being upfront about expectations is how you set up a quality long-term relationship, no pop surprises after more emotions have developed. On a side note, if you're dating a girl that insists on going to clubs, I doubt she's ready to be serious. If you really like her, maybe just be friends. Stay in touch, and wait until she grows out of it. I think it's good to have a couple friends of the opposite sex that you havn't gotten hot with.
There's no need for him to waiver, he's right and knows it. There's nothing to "debate" there, he knew he was dealing with club trash.
What’s funny is that by sticking to his convictions and not getting angry he becomes attractive to the other women in the room. It’s just how humans are wired.
If you look at her as a 15 year old teenager everything makes sense. A lot of people never grow up past 15, despite being much older they still behave, think and react as a teenager would
I'm 38 and I swear to god I really enjoy being a grownup and maturing and learning more, and it feels like I'm alone out here, everyone is pretending to be a teenager, forever, no one is enjoying the aging process I've noticed. Paradoxically, I look in my mid to late 20's and women my age get enraged when they find out my age LMAO
She acts and talks like a narcissistic toddler. No surprise there.
I heard a theory once. Not saying it is true, or false. That many women are stuck at what every age they were when they realized men (boys) wanted to have sex with them.
Some people peak at 15 and forever yearn to be 15 again.
Thanks for reacting Courtney! COURTESANS should Courtney come on the dating podcast?
Absolutely but with her boyfriend/fiance
It would be awesome to see Courtney there.
Yea, for sure, but at the same time, don't make her suffer with the typical bimbos.....hahaha, jk, much love brian.
MY-PHILOSOPHY:"INNER-STRENGTH"
I have found that simply "loving myself" (inner-child) is a powerful tool against most types of social-dependency/vulnerability.
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"Evil" is the antithesis to the virtue: 'humanity'. Humanity is the characteristic that defines the human spirit. Humanity is symbiosis across humans and society. 'Humanity' exceeds 'social-darwinism'.
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NEURO-PERSONALITY
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"SENSORY-FEELERS" ARE LARGELY RESPONSIBLE FOR SPREADING DISINFORMATION AND HATE TOWARDS ENTJ/INTJ (AGAINST "THINKERS" IN GENERAL)-BOTH IRL AND ON THE INTERNET; DESPITE THOSE NEURO-PERSONALITY TYPES BEING A BLESSING TO SOCIETY AND ALL OF MANKIND! THEY DESERVE BETTER! 😤
'ESFJ', 'ESFP', ISFP and 'ISFJ' are a pathogen to humanity, and 'then' Cluster-B (depending on their neuro-personality).
THEIR "FEELINGS 'IS' THEIR REALITY", THEY ALSO HAVE A MALICIOUS-MIND BY DEFAULT (low 'mirror-neurons' results in "SOCIOPATHIC-FEELER"; full of pathological hate, and highly chaotic).
WHAT'S MORE, DESPITE HAVING MALICIOUS INTENT THEY ARE ALL EMOTIONALLY-WEAK AND PRONE TO COVERT/VULNERABLE-NARCISSISM (ISFJ especially; they impersonate and spread hate towards genuine INFJs).
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Also... To intelligent readers (who do 'not’ have a ‘pathological disregard for rationality and reality').
I recommend researching 'narcissistic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissist'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)!
European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!!
They are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-r@pe, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim/damsel in distress, creating "flying-monkeys", and 'bribing' others (with money or BJ) to attack, or at times, kill someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Emmett Till.
xSFP and ISFJ (2W1) are the most complicit, narcissistic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependents' (look up the definition). Like ESFJ, XSFP's "feelings 'is' their reality." Most are covert/vulnerable-narcissists.
ISFJ often perceive things only on the surface level (even by sensor standards), are suckers for a “pretty face", and their neuro-psychology makes them the ideal narcissitic-codependent and pawn to the ESFJ (blind-loyalty, surface level perception, susceptibility to covert-narcissism).
Lastly, ISFJ are notorious for impersonating other people's identities IRL and on the internet; while ESFJ-9W1 superficially appears like an ENFJ, they have different 'neurology' and psychology. Both XSFJ are superficial by nature and perceive reality at face-value/surface level.
SUMMARY
Evil personality: 'ESFJ' (ALL), ESTJ (Cluster-b), ISFJ-2W1 (covert-narc/enabler). ESFJ-9W1 superficially resembles ENFJ; different 'neurology' and psychology.
[Secretly] Evil and narcissist-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP (ALL), ESFP (ALL), and ISFJ (2W1 enable ESFJ).
☝️ALL of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict as a distraction (at other people's expense, truly evil).
Spread the word! Thank you.
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Research ref: Raudha Athif, Ghislaine Maxwell, Marilyn Monroe, Karen, ESFJ-narcissists, ESFJ-neurology, Gaslighting, Amber Heard, Fake feminism, Rising of a shield hero (Malty-'ESFJ'; XSFX spread disinformation online. ISFJ is the main culprit, i.e. ISFJ largely perceive things on the surface level, and with malicious intent ISFJ impersonate others). Please research 'Brood-parasitism’- XSFJ natural psychology.
/End
YES
My sister is very argumentative and combative with me over everything. I try to tell her in a nice way “this is why your 36 and never been married”
You all can guess how well she takes that
Lol
sister: "why thank you Jon for pointing that out to me, it was in my blindspot. if you see me being a b*tch again just give me a handsign and i will dial it back"
THATS MY GUESS AND I AM STICKING TO IT !!!
MY-PHILOSOPHY:"INNER-STRENGTH"
I have found that simply "loving myself" (inner-child) is a powerful tool against most types of social-dependency/vulnerability.
............................
EDIT
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"Evil" is the antithesis to the virtue: 'humanity'. Humanity is the characteristic that defines the human spirit. Humanity is symbiosis across humans and society. 'Humanity' exceeds 'social-darwinism'.
.............................
NEURO-PERSONALITY
.............................
"SENSORY-FEELERS" ARE LARGELY RESPONSIBLE FOR SPREADING DISINFORMATION AND HATE TOWARDS ENTJ/INTJ (AGAINST "THINKERS" IN GENERAL)-BOTH IRL AND ON THE INTERNET; DESPITE THOSE NEURO-PERSONALITY TYPES BEING A BLESSING TO SOCIETY AND ALL OF MANKIND! THEY DESERVE BETTER! 😤
'ESFJ', 'ESFP', ISFP and 'ISFJ' are a pathogen to humanity, and 'then' Cluster-B (depending on their neuro-personality).
THEIR "FEELINGS 'IS' THEIR REALITY", THEY ALSO HAVE A MALICIOUS-MIND BY DEFAULT (low 'mirror-neurons' results in "SOCIOPATHIC-FEELER"; full of pathological hate, and highly chaotic).
WHAT'S MORE, DESPITE HAVING MALICIOUS INTENT THEY ARE ALL EMOTIONALLY-WEAK AND PRONE TO COVERT/VULNERABLE-NARCISSISM (ISFJ especially; they impersonate and spread hate towards genuine INFJs).
...............................
Also... To intelligent readers (who do 'not’ have a ‘pathological disregard for rationality and reality').
I recommend researching 'narcissistic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissist'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)!
European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!!
They are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-r@pe, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim/damsel in distress, creating "flying-monkeys", and 'bribing' others (with money or BJ) to attack, or at times, kill someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Emmett Till.
xSFP and ISFJ (2W1) are the most complicit, narcissistic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependents' (look up the definition). Like ESFJ, XSFP's "feelings 'is' their reality." Most are covert/vulnerable-narcissists.
ISFJ often perceive things only on the surface level (even by sensor standards), are suckers for a “pretty face", and their neuro-psychology makes them the ideal narcissitic-codependent and pawn to the ESFJ (blind-loyalty, surface level perception, susceptibility to covert-narcissism).
Lastly, ISFJ are notorious for impersonating other people's identities IRL and on the internet; while ESFJ-9W1 superficially appears like an ENFJ, they have different 'neurology' and psychology. Both XSFJ are superficial by nature and perceive reality at face-value/surface level.
SUMMARY
Evil personality: 'ESFJ' (ALL), ESTJ (Cluster-b), ISFJ-2W1 (covert-narc/enabler). ESFJ-9W1 superficially resembles ENFJ; different 'neurology' and psychology.
[Secretly] Evil and narcissist-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP (ALL), ESFP (ALL), and ISFJ (2W1 enable ESFJ).
☝️ALL of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict as a distraction (at other people's expense, truly evil).
Spread the word! Thank you.
___________
Research ref: Raudha Athif, Ghislaine Maxwell, Marilyn Monroe, Karen, ESFJ-narcissists, ESFJ-neurology, Gaslighting, Amber Heard, Fake feminism, Rising of a shield hero (Malty-'ESFJ'; XSFX spread disinformation online. ISFJ is the main culprit, i.e. ISFJ largely perceive things on the surface level, and with malicious intent ISFJ impersonate others). Please research 'Brood-parasitism’- XSFJ natural psychology.
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Jonny you are hilarious lol
*5 years later* these men are terrible they still won't date me or have a commitment with me. Still ain't learning your lesson huh?
"...the club sucks." lol thank you for saying it
It truly does, unless you're into a destructive lifestyle of hookup culture, alcohol and drugs.
There is absolutely nothing of value in the club scene for both men and women.
“The club sucks.” -Courtney Ryan 2023. 😂 Agreed 100% girl. It’s disgusting and I’m pretty sure you can catch the bad stuff there. 😬
So many women are like this girl though. Combative from the get-go. You can’t even discuss the topic because she’s busy arguing with the preamble to the topic. This didn’t used to be commonplace but now it is.
That's because she ran into too many control freak dudes it traumatized her. I don't blame her.
On tik tok they are.
@@Primitive_Code sounds more like she is the control freak, mate.
@@Primitive_Code My ex was like this, wasn’t because of a control freak. Though it was likely due to mental problems, she used to hear a voice that she had a name for. And slept around like crazy, when her ex cancelled their engagement, she ran through her phone and slept with every guy friend she had.
@@Primitive_Code It doesn't matter who is to blame for it, she could have always been that way or she could have trauma. EITHER WAY it's no one else's problem but hers. Being traumatized doesn't excuse someone from being a petulant asshole.
Well said, Courtney. being 35, I'm was always one of those as well - almost never drink, never go to clubs, almost never put on makeup and I like dressing in loose-fitting jeans, and if I wear a skirt or a dress, I make sure to wear leggings and either flats or boots. My go-to for "fun", - by myself, is to a bookstore.
I love reading books - especially about history...and the adjacent coffee shop - especially on days there's hardly anybody present.
It's all about the difference between disagreeing and fighting:
My GF and I both hold different views regarding political discourse, yet we don't fight about it, we talk and listen to each other's POV, and if we don't reach a consensus we agree to disagree.
And then we just go back to watching a movie or playing videogames or whatever we were doing.
Healthy love is not that hard... is peaceful.
Feminism goes to far when it morphs into mockery and insulation. Thanks for shining a light on this😊
Girls who want to keep clubbing aren't ready to be a wife. You'll never get a clearer signal than that.
You put your faith and trust in someone when you make them your wife. Don't marry someone who doesn't respect that.
Courtney, I want to thank you for your channel. I know many wonderful women who very much wish they had understood the traditional men in their lives and treated them better.
I am old and overweight, maybe a 5 in the market place, but I'm a 9 or a 10 to my wife and children.
Sometimes you have to treat a 5 like a 9 to get a 9.
Girls who goes clubbing are not wife material. They are always searching for something.
Courtney has the funniest face when ever she hears a curse word
It's too cute when she does it.
so you're into white gurls...
What is there to find in the club these days? Getting drunk, overwhelmingly loud music where you can't even hear what anybody is saying on top of being mad expensive.
Clubbing is a massive waste of time and resources.
I’ve been watching your content for about 6 months now and I will say, my dating life has significantly improved. Appreciate all the advice. Subscribed!
You have no idea how happy this makes me. Thank you for sharing 🥹 I’m so glad you’re here!!
I don’t know why, but I’m not a fan of the term “make her my wife.” Maybe that’s what the woman was reacting to. However, I don’t like the comments about doing her makeup and going to the club either.
Nice, in what way has your dating life improved
really? hmmm i came away with a different message and that's to avoid women like the plague
@@andrewpinkham9904 reminds me of an old joke. I hate using clichés. I avoid them like the plague! 😀
I've went to a club a grand total of zero times. I'm 32, I don't regret it. Loud environments, wasting money on alcohol, dealing with troublesome females....and competing with chads...waste of my time.
To me, it's weird that the first thing out of the feminist's mouth was about control. It wasn't about the concept of marriage, or about how highly a man would have to see a woman to want to wife her up. The first thing out of her mouth was complaining about how he would "make her his wife" instead of verbally acknowledging that she is a human being with her own life; as if something like that would ever even need to be said. No shit the woman has her own life... Why would that EVER need to be said?
I swear, it always comes down to control with these people. This is exactly why men avoid feminists. It has nothing to do with equality. Can you imagine how frickin exhausting it would be to deal with someone who is so legalistic that she feels the need to correct you in every conversation because you didn't explicitly throw in all the little caveats and disclaimers so she can be sure a valid, enforceable verbal contract has been formed and upheld?
Personally I don’t usually waste my time arguing with women like that as I can tell it’s already very draining. And also why does she seem so offended when the guy is giving a hypothetical situation of what he’s looking for in a potential wife of his as it’s his personal preference? This girl got alot of issues man
The "make her my wife," could easily be perceived as the speaker treating the target of his affection as an object to be possessed. It is JUST an expression, but the key words are 'make' and 'my.' MAKE implies lack of agency, and MY implies taking possession.
So it was just an expression and does not mean the above, but the choice of words in this day and age could be difficult to hear.
I have been to a club, and it does suck especially when fights breakout! Also, if your partner is with you it feels like you have to stand close if you know what I mean!
When one bases one’s arguments on feelings instead of facts, it’s impossible to win without using emotion-based tactics. Hence the arguing, picking apart, verbal bullying, justifying, cursing… the only way to deal with the ranting and raving is to be more cold and logical.
Agree 100% ! Wife and I married 10yrs now, we have our disagreements with certain stuff but we share a lot of common interests and goals. She understands my side and I understand hers.
At the end of the end, as long as I dont cheat then we gucci xD
Clubs are for hook ups why would you want to go to a hook up place when you are married ? Or even in a committed relationship
Way I see it, who’s going to be better at their job. Someone who has been a watch maker at a company for 40 years or someone who keeps jumping to other companies? Which person would you rather have to employ?
Point being they may be great at dating with all the practice but terrible at relationships they never had any experience with
What’s crazy is how she jumped through what the actual process of a man “making her my wife” means. It means establishing communication, forming a relationship, and after a period of time “ASKING” (proposing) if she’d be his wife.
She heard the term “make her my wife” and immediately thought that it was a one way street, but that’s not the case. A man can only make a woman his wife if she says yes. It’s in the ceremony, both parties are asked “Do you take…”
So it’s two things going on simultaneously, he’s making her his wife, and she’s making him her husband
I'm an older man (40s). I think what people need to realize is that if your mindset is that you just want to be able to do whatever you want to do, whenever you want to do it, you will probably never have a functional long-term relationship. It doesn't work that way. You have to take into account the feelings and opinions of your significant other. If you're not willing to do that, you should probably just stay single.
i just wanna say Courtney's hair is so beautiful its literally
_Loreal Paris 'because its worth it!'😭_
"I lost some brain cells". Absolute gold.
The problem was she was attracted to him, then he said something that she felt lowered her value in her own mind. Finally, she was triggered when he rejected her based on the clubbing and then she became defensive because her flirting was rejected by her habbits.
This video was making me tear up. Thank you for this 🥲
Thanks for being here ❤️
Why tear up when things on tik tok aren't even real?
@@MikeyP109 I think that this is a bot.
I mean, "Let's Go Brandon" as a profile pic, meaning that he's a right winger
and "I cried" watching a non-emotional video?
Things do not add up, it would be like a leftist quoting a biology book... If it ever happened, hypothetically, you'd know instantly something is up.
Girl, I can't understand it, why you want to hurt me
After all the things I've done for you
I buy you champagne and roses, put diamonds on your finger
And still, you hang out all night
What am I to do?
My girl wants to party all the time
Party all the time
Party all the time
My girl wants to party all the time
Party all the time
She parties all the time
-Eddie Murphy
As for me and my upbringing, I have no interest at all in "casual dating". If I'm going to bother spending any energy on a relationship, it will be because I see marriage as a future likelihood. Yes it is highly limiting, but I guarantee that girl would never wish me luck. I doubt she would even stay in the room after I said anything.
2:20 I don't think there's anything wrong or special about not wanting to go to clubs. I don't particularly like them myself and I am a guy. I like to live a healthy life and alcohol has zero proven health benefits so why would I be interested in it? And for what I've seen, the people that go to drink every night instead of studying, exercising, or just relaxing are having way tougher time staying focused and awake on lessons or learning anything.
She was being so rude to that guy; totally putting him down because he wants a wife who doesn’t really want to go out and drink in a nightclub. I think it’s a sign of insecurity in her part and almost picking apart his words. She jumped on the first word he said that she didn’t like and misconstrued what he was saying. You are correct about finding that person who shares your values. I know couples who have the same values who are very happy in their marriage, even though they have different personalities. Even my husband and I are two very different people but we ultimately have the same goals in life and the same values. I also have a friend who married someone that goes out nearly every night even though my friend doesn’t like to. It was like that before they got married but I think that she thought he would change. It’s a huge point of contention in their marriage and everyone around them can see that their values are misaligned. So yeah, I would say values are a huge thing in picking a compatible partner.
they're grown kids
I don’t like going out to clubs, I don’t wear makeup (I just take care of my skin and whatever), pretty introverted
But saying “make her my wife” DOES feel a bit…controlling
If a guy said that, I would just be as quiet as I could until I could get away
Her reaction to his statement was aggressive, but his statement was pretty gross
Having a party girl as a girlfriend is fun. But after a short while it gets really stale and consuming, so get it, and leave it where you find it.
Some people get really upset over active voice. Look at the offense over "colored people" vs the new "people of color." She applied a lot of assumptions from him using active voice that the future wife would have this thrust upon her against her will if necessary. I was taught to rarely use passive voice in school as it denotes weakness in English.
I think a lot of couples tend to discuss their future together before the man makes the proposal but in reality, she is signalling her willingness before he asks. It isn't the man deciding and the woman being passive. My son is certainly spending a lot of time discussing his future with his girlfriend and she is doing the same. They probably won't get married for a while until they have both finished training in their professions. My wife and I did it that way and we have been together 40 years.
She broke down the " make her my wife." Part and turned it into a sexist comment.
Even though his figure of speech is not meant to be harmful. She somehow weaponized it for no reason.
I like to go to the pub not the club. In pubs you can relax , talk , and have a drink. I think theres nothing wrong with that.
I was once called an afghan muslim for saying that I want a woman that doesnt go to the club.
Then I was told me going to the pub is the same thing as women going to the club. I dont get activily hit on at a pub restaurant. So thats why its not the same.
My grandfather used to tell me this. "The only people who get triggered are the exact same people you described in your statement!".
Hey Courtney, most likely (at least from my inference) is that she took “I’ll make her my wife” as a declaration of controlling her, and her being the “submissive” one, etc - rather than the woman being “in charge”.
…and there’s so many holes and red flags in that, by itself.
yep you are right
“Good luck finding that” amen to that. I’ve seen shitty customer service reps use a similar justification “everybody does it”. Bad minds think alike
That chubby girl who was offended with the young gentleman’s “make her my wife” comment, SHE will someday make some poor, unlucky guy so miserable that I feel sorry for him in advance.
I find it *so interesting* that, while their delivery, temperaments, attitudes, and personas are entirely different, Courtney Ryan and Kevin Samuels (RIP) came to the exact same conclusions and basically made the same observations.
Courtney, I have been married over 30 yrs and I can tell you that there are no women who agree with everything their husband says. Now I love my wife and recognize she has been a tremendous blessing to me. She has given me four children and 2 grandchildren. But she has freedom to agree or disagree with what I say. I did not marry a robot. And there are times I end up being wrong.
Too many people don’t have enough self awareness to have values
Who does not like to go dancing? Having fun. With husband or with friends. Or do the clubs in America suck that much?
I hate drinking, I would never date a woman that went to the club or bars. I’ve broken up with quite a few woman for wanting to go to the bar more and more rather than work on things that matter or go do something that’s actually fun and productive. I find cleaning my house and yard work funner than going to a bar.
The fact that that woman interpreted "make my wife" as force doesn't surprise me she is an OF model. 🤦♂️
i mean it's more so telling that if a woman gets triggered by a man saying that he wants a woman that he can call his wife, like really would she still be triggered if a woman said the exact same thing about wanting a man that she can call her husband? it's a normal thing to have someone private to you that you can call your own.
Not all woman fantasize about a ring. I personally never have
The only thing I disagree with is that here in KY, land of bourbon and moonshine, drinking is on the rise. The state is pushing their marketing of bourbon and distillery tours and the such.
In my experience, women need no reason to argue. They simply argue.
The guy saying that it is non-negotiable isn't much better honestly. Probably why I got ghosted after 13 years. So my thoughts don't really matter I guess.
The “making her my wife” is just language that some feminists want to attack and I kinda get the wording of it, but it’s so small to argue. The guy does take the initiative, the decision to ask, pays for the ring which is kinda a gift for doing something. Those are all actions to have an engagement to marry… but yes, it’s still two people making a choice together. I think we earn that wording, ladies, if we have to be the one to take these initial steps. You can ask us and offer something of high monetary value for saying yes… please do. I want a motorcycle lol.
What these chicks don’t like is the idea that a guy she would want, a guy she sees as high value and attractive, would want qualities in a woman that she doesn’t have. If a guy she finds unattractive or low value says he wants qualities she doesn’t possess, she won’t get offended. I’ve seen this phenomenon a lot. Women get offended at the idea that they don’t meet the standards of a man they see as high value. She’s attracted to this guy, and can’t believe he’s saying he wouldn’t want her.
This is a modern woman phenomenon. They become this way due to the absurd levels of simping any girl above a 4 has had since high school. Because these girls are constantly simped on by thirsty low value betas (and some higher value guys too), the idea that they don’t meet a man’s standards is so foreign to them.
When Gen Z girls get past age 30, it’s going to hit them harder than any other generation of women. Even millennial women who have hit 30 have not had this level of simping in their prime years. I’m an 80s baby millennial. I was like 25 when instagram came out, and social media was in its primitive stages in my high school/college years, so women my age weren’t simped on even close to as much. But the girls who have had instagram since they hit puberty, basically any girl 25 and younger, has been endlessly simped over for years. They have not hit the wall yet, but when they do, it’s going to be bad, because being simped over is all they know. They don’t know what life is like without having dozens of simps worshipping them.
For any female born in the late 90s or later, who is a 5 or higher, the idea that any man could want something she doesn’t have is foreign and offensive to her, due to pathetic simping by modern men. Yes, there are some young women who are self-aware, but generally they’re not. So when they hear that they aren’t what a man wants, it hits them like a ton of bricks, and they react like this girl. Also, they haven’t reached the age where any of the men in their lives are looking for wife material, so they don’t understand the difference, because up to this point, they get endless praise and validation (even if she’s a 5) just by posting mediocre social media pics.
She was triggered because of her own guilty conscience and knows she wouldn't be "picked" to get married.
👍 You *can't* change anyone who doesn't see an issue in his/her actions. Keep smiling, take care and be happy.
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Two things with that young lady. She is caught up smack in the middle of college life and clubbing is her number one thing to do. So much so, that she can’t see life past it. She’s also an extreme feminist! So much so, she doesn’t even want the man to ask a women to be his wife lol! So I guess they have to split the question 50/50😂. Anyway, there are plenty of women that don’t club, or if they do find themselves in clubs, it was peer pressure from friends during the younger years. I have sisters that never clubbed and my own wife was never into it at all. She is very similar to Courtney. A lot of women do it for a period of time and simply grow out of it. This young lady doesn’t realize this yet.
A continual dropping in a very rainy day And a contentious woman are alike.
Proverbs 27:15
Watching paint dry would be infinitely more enjoyable than dating that woman. Besides, the paint holds no grudges. Only smudges.
A woman’s value isn’t in her ability to get with guys, but in her ability to keep him around.
Great video response. I was hoping for more than one review.
Wow you’re voice is so soft and soothing and calming. ❤😊 I feel less stress while hearing you.
Love, love, love that you said you don't like drinking or going clubbing. A lot more people need to make it known they don't care about those things. Modern society pushes so hard that all women should be drunks, hoes, and clubbing every weekend.
THIS GIRL IS HOPE. Honestly.
Just a communication problem. She took his, "make her my wife" comment as, the ol' caveman clubbing the woman over her head and dragging her off to his cave, type thing. I believe she thought, well what if she doesn't want to be your wife? She has a brain, free will, and a choice. I fully get what the guy was saying. Perhaps if he worded it, "if I find a girl that I'd like to ask to marry me" instead of "make my wife," the confusion may have been avoided. It's just a shame the the woke culture requires us to have the word police standing by during our conversations to avoid miscommunication or hurt feelings.
Courtney said a guy in his late 20s shouldnt go to the club.. Im 30 and still party.. Im hurt😂😂
She has her moments of taking a moral high ground.
"Shoot for the Stars!" 😂🤣
Honestly, dating in this day and age is cringe worthy a lot of the time. Interesting view I heard yesterday about the pool of men who are at or above women career wise is drastically shrinking, so more good men who know how to treat a woman are being passed up, because many women focus on the wrong things. Wish everyone luck in their search. Stay true to yourself.
It is the thing "my wife" that makes her defensive.
She was triggered by „making her my wife“ because she has never been asked herself!
She seemed to almost think that a relationship and fun are mutually exclusive. A woman that can't wrap her mind around the benefits of being with a man is never more than a free agent looking for a better offer that will never come. Her toxic 304 addiction will guarantee that.
Its actually 04. Hoe is a garden tool. Ho is the word you're looking for.
She's reacting to his "make her my wife". She's like, "you can't make her your wife". He blew it with his phrasing. The rest is all her being in reactive mode, no progress possible in reactive mode.
Wonderful to actually hear a woman say, "They don't want to go to the club. or Want to be with a man that wants to go to the club" Your perspective is sadly becoming very rare.
I don't need to avoid any types of red flags, because I have purposed not to date or marry. It's just who I am.
I understand going to the club but all the time??? That period of life will pass, eventually. Then what?
I think it really depends on the frequency: I would never mind if a lady associated with me would go to a club with her female friends every other month or so. Obviously it’s a no-go if she wants to do this every week.
When I meet young women like this, I tell them to think about where their feminist choices have taken them when they reach their 40th birthday. They either shut up or get really mad. Either way, I laugh.
Why do women hate women? I see this now and it took me a long time to see it. Why do women hate marriage and children?
The counter for that chick could easily have been "she makes him her husband"...man, these chicks are ridiculous
She liked him, he rejected her, and she tried to flip the script and reject him.
"Make her my wife" sounds extremely wrong to me. As if only one party has a choice. Maybe it's a US thing but I've heard of women proposing a number of times, Europe might be slightly less weird about it. But their argument made both of them unattractive in the end. Just say "marry her", it's enough.
I'm 54 and was never into club or bar scenes but I do know that any woman who makes the argument for doing those things, especially when dating or after marriage, is simply looking for male attention and approval. The same goes for social media. It's like a drug they are addicted to and she will never be satisfied with the attention and love from only one man no matter what he does for her. Yes, it's fine that she has female friends just as a man has male friends, but when the activity is to get dressed up as sexy as possible to go into an environment known for male/female interaction, she's not going JUST to spend time with her friends.
Tbh...I have never been to a club, growing up until I was 18 yrs old never of them. But I also barely drink but I still enjoy it socially. I don't know why some getting extreme migraines or nauseous is worth it....nah I want to have my own clear head and avoid being nauseous thank you. :P
True wisdom from a classy woman
The fact that you have to explain all this and spell it out is crazy to me. LOL Great content!
Hey Courtney! I love the channel! You give great advice. I am 47 years old … a lot older then most of your audience I am assuming. I still find your content very fascinating. What are your thoughts on grown woman talking with a little girls voice. What I mean is if you were talking to her on the phone you would think you were talking to an 8 year old girl. I have always taken this as a red flag and ran for the hills. Do you think I am wrong in that? Keep up the great work.
I agree.
I went to the club once and I’ve never been back sense. Same for strip clubs.
You are high value women 100%❤.Respect
It's pretty clear she was immediately attracted to that guy and interpreted that as him saying "no" to her so she subconsciously thought he was rejecting her.
Sad they call you a pic me just because you’re right and you speak the truth
She got triggered when he used the words "make her---" my wife. People can't seem to get over semantics and it's really really obnoxious.
Obviously he's not going to "make" anyone do anything, it's a figure of speech. It used to be a very endearing figure of speech as well.
I'm at the point in my life now where I just can't "hook up" anymore. I used to be all about it in my 20's and early 30's. But real dating is tough when you actually chase personality.
Once the looks/sex blinders come off, you start to realize how brutal women today are. You cringe just listening to them speak hardcore feminist rhetoric or observing their hookup culture actions and demeanor.
I always sing my current GF's praises because she's genuinely a good woman. But to find one true genuine connection where it all aligns, you have to deal with hundreds of women just like the ones on the Whatever podcast. It's truly brutal. 💯
Women aren't brutal. Just stay off of social media and dating apps.
My feels tell me that she was attracted to him and she put herself in contention to be his wife, therefore that list was all about her.
The way she views is as "making her my wife" like if you make her a wife, he now owns her. She becomes property, that is her thought process.
What many of us had to deal with many times, or at least until that good girl fell into our social circle, woo-hoo!
Alcohol is definitely the new cigarette, 1960s era smoking. You look cool, it's awsome and is pretty good for you.
Something I found quite profound about sexual dynamics between men and women is the coping that men do in the friend zone, and women do in the sex zone. Women don't realize that the men who put them into a situationship or end up ghosting them is really just the same dynamic of women putting men in the friend zone. Men get to use you for what they want when they put you in the sex zone; low effort sex. While women get what they want when they put men in the friend zone; endless validation from men that don't require any degree of reciprocation. These two dynamics are really just immature ways the genders use their power to manipulate people to fulfill an emptiness they have in themselves.
It's just a gender power dynamic. It's not anything people consciously do, it just happens.
If the man is higher value than the woman, sex zone happens. If the woman is higher value, friend zone happens.
@@smarmypapsmears634 Well it's true that the value is perceived as you mentioned, therefore that outcome mentioned is typical. However because these behaviors are manipulative by default through using someone without reciprocation, it's a reflection of the individual using their power as such. Which is fine because I understand the human condition is not typically morally sound. But it's absolutely worth realizing intentionality. Seeing these types of behaviors are very important if you ever plan to vet someone for long term relationships.
I agree that these are the same dynamics except that it's worse that men use women for sex because it adds to the women's sex partner count. Which is something that some dudes care about. There is no "friend zone" count. Haha.
@@Gnomesmusher If she's not used by one guy she'll be used by another. She wants to be used because she is intentionally choosing men who will use her.
@@jth_printed_designs This doesn't change my point whatsoever. And your point doesn't even apply to all women anyway. There are men who lie to get sex. To pretend that there isn't is just laughable.
She is the type of girl that is always looking for a fight. If she doesn't change her mentality, in 15 years she will be going to the clubs alone and wondering why no guy approaches her. I could see her responding to a potential boyfriend's "You look really pretty today" with "What do you mean?! Don't I look pretty every day!? Are you saying I'm ugly!?" No guy wants to deal with that!
Had a gf like that. She shut up real quick when I told her I didn’t play that stupid game. Broke up later anyway. Only woman I dated that I’d call crazy.
She won’t be alone… she will have her 🐈 😂
@@Minotaur-ey2lg I did, too. She actually broke up with me. Did me a huge favor! That was my first crazy girl experience. Can't say it was my last, but the 2nd one was a different sort of crazy. Both hairstylists. Now I run from hairstylists, lol!
Yeah I have said for a while now that women are more disagreeable with men than other men are. It’s because they know they’re not going to get punched in the face lol
@@stanleynjoes2332 And ice cream possibly. Mint ice cream preferably.