Thanks HG for inventing a nice name for it. That's exactly what I felt this year when my former best friend's mask started to slip. This... exactly this! And that's exactly the feeling... like this person is a stranger, and that you are treated like a stranger. Luckily I knew what was going on. I used cold logic and decided to make an experiment and directly confront her about that sudden change of behaviour. I also I told her that if she's going to treat me like that, I'm done with her. Aaaaand then hell broke loose. This time I was ready for it. Her reaction only confirmed what I expected. It was a huge outburst of rage, guilt tripping, blaming, shaming, gaslighting... whoa. So I blocked, deleted and went GOSO. Problem solved! Next time someone goes "stranger mode", I will go GOSO immediately. What a time saver!
Great observation! That's exactly how I could describe my former best friend... That's also something my Mom noticed, that my former best friend was collecting people. She (friend) was meeting new people, chasing people, do things for people... but there was no substance in it. AT ALL.
I experienced the Stranger Zone, although at the time, I didn't realise what it was. I actually thought the relationship was just levelling out, little did I know what was to come. Invaluable insight HG. Thank you ❤
😳 holy crap! My sister is a covert narc. She seems split personality, to me and not empty inside so hearing stuff like this and thinking that she is this way freaks me out because it’s hard to believe.
I've recognised a narcissist in my life while listening to this video on your other channel four years ago... Listening to your videos makes me aware of narcissism, and how to leave toxic narcissistic people... GOSO... Get out and stay out... Thanks a lot velvety voice HG ❤❤️🔥
When I experienced this, it was quite confusing. Now, as I look back on that time, i realize that I mirrored the behavior and that lead to the discard. I'm curious to know if it's because I'm a contagion empath that caused me to mirror their behavior. 10:47
It's something more than that. More like "Out of sight, out of mind". You are treated like an unwanted burden. When you try to talk about it with that person, you can clearly feel hostility and unwillingness to communicate with you. It's a major switch in this person's presented persona. They literally start to behave like a different person. It's not just avoidance.
Thanks HG for inventing a nice name for it. That's exactly what I felt this year when my former best friend's mask started to slip. This... exactly this! And that's exactly the feeling... like this person is a stranger, and that you are treated like a stranger. Luckily I knew what was going on. I used cold logic and decided to make an experiment and directly confront her about that sudden change of behaviour. I also I told her that if she's going to treat me like that, I'm done with her. Aaaaand then hell broke loose. This time I was ready for it. Her reaction only confirmed what I expected. It was a huge outburst of rage, guilt tripping, blaming, shaming, gaslighting... whoa. So I blocked, deleted and went GOSO. Problem solved!
Next time someone goes "stranger mode", I will go GOSO immediately. What a time saver!
My daughter when in middle school once described my eldest narcissist sibling as “she collects people”
She discribed a narcissist.
Great observation! That's exactly how I could describe my former best friend... That's also something my Mom noticed, that my former best friend was collecting people. She (friend) was meeting new people, chasing people, do things for people... but there was no substance in it. AT ALL.
A very Explanatory Analysis, answer’s many Questions. Thankyou HG.❤️🌻
I experienced the Stranger Zone, although at the time, I didn't realise what it was.
I actually thought the relationship was just levelling out, little did I know what was to come.
Invaluable insight HG. Thank you ❤
Very illuminating, the stranger zone seems to be the calm before the storm. Definitely had this before.
Thank you, HG! 💜
The description of the Stranger Zone is disturbing. But, hopefully victims will recognize it from this video.
I did and left four years ago... HG is a genius ❤
So when a "lovely man" you're dating starts pulling away and goes cold it's time to get out snd stay out.
Got and will Stay Out 🥹
I think this phase is more frustrating than the devaluation, but I suppose it's even more so when one knows what comes next.
Love when the real nature of the narc comes out. An empty 🐚 reflecting back
😳 holy crap!
My sister is a covert narc. She seems split personality, to me and not empty inside so hearing stuff like this and thinking that she is this way freaks me out because it’s hard to believe.
Yes l can totally relate to the Stranger Zone…..Thanks HG❤
I've recognised a narcissist in my life while listening to this video on your other channel four years ago... Listening to your videos makes me aware of narcissism, and how to leave toxic narcissistic people... GOSO... Get out and stay out...
Thanks a lot velvety voice HG ❤❤️🔥
I have experienced this also but had no idea what was going on. Thank you for explaining this. It´s creepy as hell when they do this, it´s just awful.
As you say "the calm before the storm" better to go down to the bunker for it to pass - if you can!
When I experienced this, it was quite confusing. Now, as I look back on that time, i realize that I mirrored the behavior and that lead to the discard. I'm curious to know if it's because I'm a contagion empath that caused me to mirror their behavior. 10:47
I knew it well …..
The stranger zone sounds a lot like being bored and grey rocking.
It's something more than that. More like "Out of sight, out of mind". You are treated like an unwanted burden. When you try to talk about it with that person, you can clearly feel hostility and unwillingness to communicate with you. It's a major switch in this person's presented persona. They literally start to behave like a different person. It's not just avoidance.
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Not really. Because at the whim of the narcissist you’re hoovered back in
In the process of being painted black? A good heads up nonetheless.