It’s pretty obvious it was a front. I mean when Jeanie talked about her singleness and loving being alone, I believed her but when Loni would I knew it was bs. Everyone is different but when people talk about loving their singleness too much I start to feel like they’re overcompensating and I always felt like that about Loni. 🤷🏾♀️
I dont know about that. You can be satisfied and single and not be lonely. You have different phases in your life and we should learn to enjoy each phase. Loni seemed like she had alot of fun dating and now she has a lot of fun in a relationship. You dont always need to be with somebody.
Lord knows she has me crying. I've definitely struggled with this and I definitely felt like she was talking to me. I've had people literally say I'm not black enough because of who my friends are and my dating preference.
I’m not a black woman (I’m Italian and half Turkish) but when I heard Lonnie talking to your community (I don’t know how to explain it without offending anyone) I felt it! Everyone deserves love and there’s no racial limit that can break down love! You’ll find someone ❤️
"I feel like I'm turning my back on them." But....black men are always dating non-black women and constantly talk about how they prefer non-black women...
I remember a time when black women want to be with a man with good hair, light skinned, we never gripe or complain about it, or made it a commercial for the nation to see.Date who you want to date we not mad.
@@b.w4969 no, it's a reply to a specific comment that is not the previous comment. It isn't 80% of black women having kids out of wedlock. It's 80% of black women who have kids having kids out of wedlock, it's a fact that is correcting the other persons "facts".
Hello, This is so true and I tell people this all the time. Love is love it doesn't matter where you get it. Us black women are some of the most beautiful women you can find. However it is not our fault that some black men choose to date outside of the race. It is their perrogative to date who ever they choose to. Please just keep one thing into consideration, CHARACTER, HAPPINESS, RESPECT, LOVE is all that matter. Let us all look past colorism and be with who ever we choose.
I am a black woman and my husband is Mexican and we are going on 22 years of marriage. I give all Glory to God for this. I have never let anyone tell me who I should date nor will I ever. I put it this way ladies if the man you are with treats you good hold on to him no matter what race is he is.
So you’re a black woman who was never called a racial slur by Mexicans? Wow must be nice… I’m a black woman who gets violent racist treatment from them which completely turns me off to even interact with them
Onur Bb Idk why there a beautiful couple, and I’m a white girl. She doesn’t need to listen to what people say, because there opinions don’t matter... 💯
@@mckayladanielle251 you just said your a girl this is an educated black woman almost fifty years old ..... she's spent several years alone romantically to pursue her career and sometimes when your counterparts aren't ambitious like you will end up single
I met 17 years ago a white German man and married him 11 years ago. Not only a different race but a totally different country and culture, of course I am African American. I let myself open my eyes and walk out of my comfort zone. It was the best decision of my life! I married my best friend, best fan and the love of my life because I let myself think outside the box and different from what everyone was telling me to do. He is lying beside me now as I write this and here next to him is where I belong.
@ Macon Reid I hope you receive what I'm about to say in no way derogatory. You are very fortunate to find Love, your best friend, and Love in your spouse. But, are you saying previous experiences led you to look outside of your comfort zone? I'm bi- racial myself and by your look (You are a very. Beautiful woman) appear to be bi-racial or multi racial, as Am I. So, I can see why your husband fell hard for you. You know what men find attractive, regardless of race. A woman that is amazingly attractive but, in that space where she is ready for something definitive and real but, at the same time willing to reciprocate the exact same things she desires for herself. I'm from the U.K. South London, Brixton Exactly So, although we have our share of the exact issues here finding interracial couples is very common. And, quite frankly why I exist. I can only guess you are saying you found Love and looked beyond race and saw your spouse for who he was and not solely who he was at first appearance. That is worthy and completely different than saying I married my spouse because he is opposite my race, innit? Peace & Blessings 📿💯
Darkman Xavier I never said I married my husband because he was outside my race. I had dated white men as well as black men before. It was more that he was German and I was American. That was out of my comfort zone. And the fact that I knew I would have to move to Germany for the rest of my life.
@ Macon Reid Yes, of course I conceded that point. I think it's wonderful you were able to meet someone that values you for who you are. And, also appreciates you for the things you do no matter how big or small. Moving to Germany was a huge sacrifice but, it proved to be a tremendous blessing for you. 🙏
Exactly. People are people and we all need to choose someone who is best for us and that might not be someone in our own race. The sooner Black women learn that as a whole, the whole lot less lonely you all will be.
Sharon Pope if you are dont agree to see it its a advice never Come In France . Here its so horrible all black men who was born In France are dating whites and arabs. Thé black girls for a lot of them are single until thé day when an african native accept them for wedding. Here In France there is only 3 black couples of célébrités thé others are always with non black women. So dont feel bad in France its so horrible for us sisters
There is so much pain emanating from this planet because we are not acting as One. We separate, measure and categorize one another. Mankind refuses to seek the purpose of creation. So therefore, the variety of difficulties and catalysts on planet Earth continues. “All parts are designed to help and aid all other parts.”
Many black women were not taught that it's ok to want to love and be loved by a good man or be vulnerable if we do. Most of us WERE taught to "get your education and leave those boys alone."
@Pham Femininity & Feminism are not one in the same. Men not boys, We admire a woman's ability to be feminine, classy, nurturing, family oriented. The stay home mom and wife, is just as appealing as the CPA, Doctor, etc. 🔝We actually see the strength women exhibit in doing these things and this is also incredibly sexy. Peace & Blessings 📿💯
Pham I think I stated my points implicitly clearly for all to read. It doesn't require further clarification. Now in reading your response you said.....and, I quote: and your point is?''' II paid a compliment. But, I'm sensing some form of pontificating in your response with regards to what I said. But, thank you for basically validating the reason many men feel the way they do. Have a Good 1....
If I’m being honest I get approached more by guys out side of my race. Black men don’t really approach me nearly as much as other races. So I just feel like why wouldn’t I be open to dating outside of my race if the men in my own race don’t even really approach me. As long as they love and treat me well that’s all that really matters to me in my opinion but, I just don’t understand why a lot of black women in my experience get hate for dating outside of our race I feel like everyone wants and deserves love so who cares about the race.
Leah Michelle Because if black women understand we got dogged and rejected so many times, we eventually gave up on approaching a black woman, there’s plenty of times I just spoke or gave a good adult compliments (Hello, love your hair, or like how you dress today and get a very low thank you or sometimes nothing at all.) and I came at them in a old school gentleman fashion. Good black men are tired and won’t approach because we felt that as being a smack in the face
Can’t forget about holding the door open telling the black wombs “Ladies first” don’t get a thank you or nothing. Mutual respect in the black community is crucial
lovemeloveyou011 entitlements seem to be looking one way, because if someone holding the door or compliment something about me, I’m quick to say thank you, I find black men are way more humble than black women. Many of us don’t complain about our complexion just to be excepted. To back up what I’m saying check out how many black women are using skin creams or bleaching their skin or wearing hair that’s not even theirs just to be excepted in society. Talking about a frail ego? See some black women want to play this victim role and I find it to be bologna, because how one (black woman) are strong at one time but play victim next? But they continue to date the same type of man over and over again making the same mistake. Many nice successful black men out there but they jumping ship going to other melanated countries to date or just clearly dating outside their race because of the dysfunctional mindset many black women have. I read your paragraphs and it clearly shows that black women expect too much from the black man, but don’t want to give nothing in return.
lovemeloveyou011 Oh and black women want us to care about who we date, which we really don’t care because black women been dating white men for the longest, but in the black women eyes there’s to many black men dating outside their race now so it’s a big issue. Loving versus Virginia case made it the 14TH amendment when a white man married a black woman, yet you black women criticize black men for dating a white women or other besides his race? You got to be kidding me
David Sauce I think it’s okay for a black man or women to date outside of there race I feel as though maybe there’s just a lot of Mis communication between black men and women? I actually never have heard a black mans perspective on this issues so I find it very insightful and interesting. It makes sense on why black men would choose to branch out to other races especially if you guys don’t feel appreciated. I think it goes both ways that black women also don’t feel appreciated though. I honestly don’t understand why there is such a wedge in our community as a whole till this day. It’s just that I always wondered why a lot of black men would never approach me and I found it both interesting and frustrating at the same time especially when it comes down to things like you said such as saying thank you when someone holds the door open. I say thank you all the time because it’s respectful as for skin bleaching and the hair issues that’s always going to be a problem I think because a lot of black women have it ingrained in their brains that we aren’t good enough no matter what. I think that most women take it personal because sometimes it seems like no one wants to date black women not our own race and while people outside of our race are more willing sometimes it’s just a sense of who am I good enough for. I don’t bleach my skin though and I wear my own hair now like a lot of black women do now. A lot more black women are being more natural but, sometimes women want to switch up their looks. I will say this though I’ve never heard about a black men hate on a black women for dating outside of their race and there may be some but, I’ve mostly only seen hate from other black women about dating outside of my race. I don’t see dating outside of ones race as a form of self hatred (which is what I’ve heard) if you actually truly love and except yourself and you genuinely love someone for them and not because of their race then I say it ok
jagir You can be independent without being a pain in the ass. You can be strong without being mean. Being feminine is not synonymous with being weak. A lot of sistas forget that.
Black women are always bombarded with criticism when they do date/marry outside their race. There’s always this pressure to be with Black men, even when Black men prefer non-black women. My Mom got upset with me the other day when I told her that a majority of Black men in this day-n-age don’t want us Black women, asking me where I got that mindset from. I got it from what I’ve experienced, and what I’ve seen and heard online and offline over the last 2 decades.
I mean there's reasons for that but bw are not the type to take criticisms as constructive. I'll be frank men do share the problem but nothing will get fixed if you don't acknowledge the fact that you are part of the problem too. Y'all need accountability because you're too proud and never embrace your faults.
I’m a black man & I date women that I like... wether that’s black, white, Asian, Indian or any other race. Black (and all) women are beautiful. But they need to expand their horizon and stop that idea of loyalty to “black men” rather loyalty to their man.
@@agfromdai.e3806 how many times have you seen a non-black man check for a black woman? cause I haven't seen many, if any at all. Plenty of black women are open to date outside our race, it's just that NON BLACK MEN are NOT into us. We don't have many options out here.
Oh you mean u love Loni for faking emotions on tv and telling black women to go for whitemen cos most black men are in prison...Promoting inter-racial relationship..Despite our history.
@@seyramkulewosi4611 it's a repeat history......not just history. These aren't the times when I was coming up. This isn't for all black men because there are some outstanding black men but hell we tied of "holding men down" or "help a brotha out " or showing him this or that and molding him. If we gotta do all that we might as well have more kids and raise them alone. Hell where the men who understand what a family is, willing to stay outta trouble, hold down a job, focus on your kids whether they're all in the house or a few outside the home. Hell why white women not crying saying it's ok to date black men like loni is. Why can't black men be amongst the majority. Black men can turn this thing around. Odd thing is they have all the answers to why black men struggle with this or that but haven't made a change yet. I haven't dated outside my race but I'm not against it. You talk about my comment but quick to say something about the black woman. You ain't no better and I never said anyone is perfect.
t r Lmao the fact that your majority view of black men is “can’t hold a job or stay out of trouble” is telling of your own environment. When in reality and statistically the majority of black men are thriving 😂. And y’all like to act like black women are just perfect in relationships and don’t do any wrong. It’s hilarious to see 😂
I was in tears watching this. I literally texted my Man and said “ Baby I just want to sleep In Your arms tonight.” Having a good man after a nasty toxic divorce is refreshing. I too was scared for almost three years. I dated myself and even going out with him wasn’t easy but once I realized how kind this man was and how he was genuine with me. I learned to accept it even after feeling so unworthy of love for years. And one thing I tell myself is I won’t make him pay for past bad examples. I love you Loni boo. And I hope Tisha finds love at its best. And may the unions continue to be blessed! Thanks again!
This struck me, a woman as strong as Loni, weeping for loneliness, and the loneliness of her sisters. As a white guy, I never had a racial choice when I was looking for a wife. They just never came along. Having said that, I don't see how a barrier formed from a skin colour could block a love of two souls for each other. I have met women for whom I felt no physical attraction at all, only to find out that they were beautiful in countless ways once I spoke to them. If attraction can punch past that, how can it not be victorious over melanin? Each of the women on this panel is gorgeous, but so vulnerable. A simple thing like being met at the airport, having a man be loyal to her moved that poor woman to tears. What? Isn't that supposed to be how it works? I am monogamous to the core. I am literally incapable of cheating on my wife, and of course I do things for her, I love her. Married for 31 years, we own each other. Loni is right, everybody deserves to be loved like this and certainly skin colour should not be any sort of barrier to finding it for anybody.
I was in a relationship with a black man and most of his family and him thought I wasn’t “good enough” to be with him because I’m not mixed or just another race all together. One of his female friend’s mom who is mixed if another race told him that he should only be dating “mixed women”. According to their logic, it wasn’t the fact that I wasn’t “good enough”, it was the she’s not “pretty enough “. At the time he was someone who received disability due to being shot when he he was a teen 9 times, no GED or diploma and bad credit. But, wasn’t good enough for him😂 I’ve taken accountability for my bad decisions.
@@flawlessvictory6254 Your story struck me. Love is a gift from God. If we look at the family structure, it cannot be improved by any change from mankind. The one child policy in China for example, was evil to the core. They tried to make change in their population without applying love, but instead, some weird philosophy derived from communism, to the immense pain of all involved. Just as mankind could not improve on the gift of family from God, so can no one improve upon the most basic of relationships, man with woman. It either works or it doesn't, and cannot be forced. As a man who has been married for over thirty years, I have come to a few conclusions. Race means nothing, it's a human construct and over emphasized. Marriage, after the initial attraction, is more a meeting of the minds enhanced by the physical and spiritual sides of the people involved. Cultural differences may well be a cause of failure for a relationship and are more important than skin colour. Also, there are a lot of people in the world, your guy is out there. And how do we know that the love we feel is genuine and worth the effort of developing? Read 1 Corinthians, 13 in the New Testament and ask yourself, does the way I feel in love match up to the standard that God has set out for his people? It is easy to conform to the patterns of this world and think you aren't as pretty as the standard of the day, but the man who wants you will be the one who looks much deeper than your skin. To him, you are the finest gift he could ever receive. He will be the one who sees your heart and says, "This woman and no other. No woman even comes close to her." The signature of God on his creation, is the beauty that we see. Look at yourself and see the handwriting of God.
Loni keeps telling Tisha she doesn't want her to end up alone but did they all forget she was with the same person for 30 years. Let her date herself, the right one will come along trust.
As an Asian (Filipino-British)Male living in American, I know my community hasn’t always been as outspoken to helping and standing in solidarity with the Black Community, but I have nothing but the utmost love and support for Black Women. You’ve all been strong for too long and I wish absolute love, joy and prosperity to each and every one of you
Wow! This just popped up in my feed and I clicked on it. I don’t watch this show very often but I can relate to this clip on so many levels. It is so refreshing to see black women set aside pride and ego, and just be real about wanting love and solid companionship. My mother was that woman who gave up on finding a partner and by the time she realized that’s what she really wanted, it seemed like a daunting problem to remedy. As a son I felt almost powerless because I had a very full life and I couldn’t jump in and help mend her broken heart. We need more of these conversations and we need more love, light, and vulnerability between men and women. Thank you for this.
Wow. I liked how you expressed yourself from the view point of a son watching his mother go through this. It was very powerful and insightful. Thank you.
Though I am not against interracial relationships, many of us Black Women feel there is already a shortage of available good Black Men in our community, and when a massive number of Hispanic Women raced to sleep with Black Men upon arriving to this Country, that deeply hurt us emotionally! 😒 It also hurt Hispanic Men who risked their lives to get these Women to America. It probably wouldn’t have hurt as much if it had happened gradually. Also, when a large number of Black Men were willing participants, we felt betrayed by them, especially since we have always stuck by, and supported Black Men, even when we had complaints about some of their behaviors.
@@Blossom-gf3kx I think the problem is wasting time over feeling betrayed, albeit a valid feeling. It’s true that it’s a betrayal to an extent, but it’s a lesson that you too can broaden your options. Let them do them, Black women can’t make them love us, you go and find love if that’s what you need. Focus on needs and less on race. Black women do not owe Black Men loyalty at the expense of our finding the things we need to not only survive but also be happy. I choose singleness due to not wanting to deal with the issues that come with marriage, but many Black women actually need someone. So, go ahead and meet men outside of your race. As far as Hispanic men and women, I think all of that is irrelevant. Black Women need to focus on healing, learning, and exploring.
@@Blossom-gf3kx come on now their are plenty of good blk men who were either friend zoned or rejected....let's be real a vast majority look over the good guy for the top 20% of men who can sleep with multiple women because they got swag while the good guy is the educated lame y'all don't want fyi a minority of bm men started dating interracially not the majority
That moment at 5:44 when the white and black woman smile and console each other is adorable and is what this show is all about . ALL women empowerment and diversity
This is so sad when I started dating outside my race I was called a sale out..it’s a shame how some not all black men can fix their face to say this..but don’t seem to have an issue when they do it.
As a man, i can honestly say this segment was too real, raw, & vulnerable. I like this type of content, Dudes stop tryna run game & be honest with yourself. Women stop trying to be a hot girl/ city girl. At the end of the day we all want someone that is there for us, wants to be with us & love us unconditionally and thats what it is.💯
And they shouldn't lol as long as they love that human for who they are. I keep telling ladies go with the man who loves you and treats u right, stop worrying about color. God might have something else in mind besides what you think you want for yourself and when you get HIS blessing trust and believe u will be 10x more fulfilled and happy.
And that's what I keep saying. All my friends & family members have only dated and married black women. Yet I keep hearing from all these shows that black men don't want to be with black women. Really pisses me off BIG TIME!!!!
@@nanakay6030 I agree with you 100% Nana. All the black men in my family are married to black women as well and take good care of them. I forgot to mention my best friend who is a black female just got married to her soul mate last November a brotha. My coworker just married her husband last year in July who is also a black man. Some people on this thread have a screwed up way of thinking that black men don't love black women. Or that black love doesn't exist which is so untrue.
Like Tisha, me too I miss being in the arms of a man and laying my head on his chest. I also think Tisha should have been the 5th co-host instead of Amanda, they have a better chemistry.
I was too. This is real life. Especially if you have been hurt by someone who you loved deeply or if you don't have a large support system of friends or family. Why do you think depression is so rampant. Life is hard and people are lonely and hurting.
I tried dating out of my race couple of times didn’t work out nice men beautiful careers just was not for me to different cultures it just wasn’t for me but I’m happily married to a beautiful black💪🏾man 10 years and going👍🏾
That's great, I get asked by family members if I would marry someone out my culture. Im open to it but its more important to me to find someone who can communicate with my family and understand the struggles in a very real way. Im sure there are guys who could do that outside my group but I have yet to find someone who isn't part of my community who could do that.
@@user-dh5rb4xi7t when did she say that? are you talking about her saying that she keeps her dark meat on the side? years ago. people change, you dont have everything about you that you used to the same. ALL of us have ideologies, interests, opinions about us that change. I used to feel many different ways but they have changed. I used to hate myself as a black woman, thinking I am ugly by being black. Hey even didn't want to like black men, I will admit I was a bit of a colorist. Things change, so please dont hold what this woman said years ago over her head forever.
I felt it was highly strange that Tamara got SO much backlash for dating a black man. But. Loni got the complete opposite. Loni's relationship was so accepted but, Tamara's isnt. 🤔🤔
Yes!! It doesn't matter. I'm in a interracial relationship and I love it. I knew I was gonna be with another race other than my own. I love when love over powers everything else.
But Temera is half white, her father is white why would anyone criticize her for being with a white man. Just be with who makes you happy sisters whatever their race is
Yeah I didn't get it either. I especially hated how people began to take to Tia more and act like she was the "better" twin because she decided to marry a black man. It doesn't matter!
charmaine jangano I don’t think that a lot of their fans knew they were half white. You have to remember when they were coming up, it was at a time when social media wasn’t around so if you didn’t want people to know something about you, they didn’t. As long as their show ran, they only mentioned being mixed once when their real father showed up. I’m now beginning to understand why they gave them adoptive parents to begin with. They just wanted to target a black audience.
I am African from Zambia. I am married for 13 years with a loving amazing man and he is Danish. I recently made a new friend in a language school who is Black American,when he saw my husband he said ' Ain't you guilty marrying outside your race. ? That was a shocker for me, because Africans we never really look at things like that.
Hold up I generally would by pass comments like this but, 99% of the rhetoric you spew African Amecian this and Stay away that. I'm from the UK but, I have members that live in the U.S. and they all are Doctors, military men, Engineers, etc. Before telling women to stay away from a group of men, try Telling your sister. Cousin, friend to Make a very defined choice in terms of who she as a woman chooses to date and be a part of her life as a as a romantic interest. As if being a degenerate is exclusive only to or synonymous with Black men in the U.S. I find it comical yet sad you say this because you fail to acknowledge a very poignant matter at hand. You said the ones you encountered: yet you and all women have the choice to choose. Now refute this point....You Can Not. As an Afican Born one would think you would uplift and educate, inform those whom you seem to take great pleasure in belittling. You may be an African woman married to a white man but, your experiences do not validate Nor do you speak for all women. And, your parents told you to stay away from Black men U.S. Born. Wow.....pure madness indeed.
So true, black woman are so loyal to black men. that many will stay single out of hope that one will come along for her but black men are out here dating and marrying all races... my loyalty is for me.
This topic is adressing a real issue we are facing, be open for love and stop disciminating. It's important to note that black women do not NEED to look for love from other races but we have to be open. A lot of successful, beautiful and complete women are out here looking for love but are scared of love like they mentioned and sometimes we end up self sabotaging when we meet good men because of this feeling of being scared. We need to deal with our emotions first and be open for love anywhere but still know our worth!
I love my husband but I have already told him that if something happened to him and I had to remarry I know my next husband 9 times out of 10 would not be of african descent...
Emotional show for sure! 100! I love the realness, openness and honesty of these 4 women right here! They have brought more tears, smiles and laughs since starting this show than I ever could have imagined! I love THE REAL! They are women you’d love to hang with!
Loooove Loni- real talk there! And I love that she wasn't interrupted but was able to be a source of healing for many women who needed to hear those words (Love the other women too)
It’s so sad. So many black women don’t value themselves! Mass incarceration is real yes. But black women are being loyal to men who do not value us! A lot of black men don’t second guess marrying white women. But we beat ourselves up about being happy! Love is love. God brings people to you because that’s your person. We need to open up our hearts to that. Loni just has me in tears over here. Because you can see the pain but also the amount of happy in her eyes.
I’m black and I’d do it in a heartbeat. When it comes to falling in love, I don’t see color. I see your personality and the way you carry yourself and treat other people. Y’all can criticize me all you want, it’s not going to change the fact that I’m attracted to white men and would rather date them. They’re just the racial group I find most attractive, and I can’t help how feel.
There's nothing wrong of what racial group you're attracted to. The problem is this and a lot of people especially black women tend to belittle. The men that you're attracted to (white men) aren't into black women on a collective. Out of all the ethnic groups in america, white people stick to their own the most. Even when they do go outside their race which is rare, they predominantly go for Asians and Hispanics. Take Loni Love, if we're going to be brutally honest here, her white man is only with her to boost up his career as an actor. Look at their Instagram followers, loni has 1.7 million followers while her white man has 42 thousand. Come on now! We all know what's going on. We have no problem calling out non black women when they're being sneaky with their black male partners. Let's call this out as well. Not just white men but non black men in general aren't waiting in line for black women. Non black men stick to their own women on a mass level. When they do marry or date outside their race, most of them aren't with black women. The reality is that, barely 1% of black women will find true love from a non black man. While the rest of 99% will have to find a way to make it workout with a black man or buy a dog so at least you'll have someone with you when it's your turn to leave this world. I know it may sound harsh from what I'm saying but this is the reality and truth of our situation as black people. Everything I said about black women, this also applies to black men as well.
@@hailoweenhailoween5264 Ah. Okay good. I’m not too particular. Blondes and redheads are at the top of my list, with other hair colors being further down.
It's not about that, it's not about the color. It's disloyalty to our ancestors or elders. You have to think of everything black women endured and still do when it come to society. Society would you make think all black women act like Cardi B. Like there's no Tisha, Loni, and Tamera in the world.
@@belovedannie So Tamera is a living breathing disappointment? Her mother is black and her father is white. So Jeannies boyfriend is being disloyal to the race? Loni is dating a white man, so she is a traitor to the race? Adrienne is married to a man of a different race and planning on children, that makes any child they have a disappointment? Sorry.
Beloved Beauty More black women are harmed by black men then by white men in this day and age. Black women have more trauma from dealing with black men then from any other group. So what’s your point? It should be based on the individual when dealing with any men black, white, or Asian, etc.
Dearest Loni Love is a national treasure. Her strength in being able to bring the difficult conversations about race, race relations and systemic racist infrastructures is INVALUABLE in mass media, and in sure in her community. Blessing, love and support from your hippy mountain mommas in NorCal. (Loni/ Producers- if you possibly get to read this personally; You got me, and we still stand. DM me for local contact in fighting the good fight.)
Beautiful !! I loved this so much and It’s so refreshing to listen to mature and intelligent woman talking about this in such a sensitive manner. This so absolutely true and love has no color, race, or preference. Just be open to someone who will treat you right, who loves and respects you.
Why do people blame Janie for what she likes?? So what she likes black men, shes always been respectful and loving towards that culture, no reason to hate.
@Roena Skates So...Loni "Ms. Sassy" Love found a man but for how LONG? Ask Michelle Williams from Destiny's Child and everyone SAW what happened to that relationship😏🍵
This was too real 😭. A lot of times we’re shamed for saying we’re lonely but what’s so wrong about wanting to feel loved. You can have the best paying job , the nicest house , luxury items and still not be truly happy because you’re missing a void. Nothing wrong with wanting a relationship that doesn’t make you dependent it’s more like a companionship
That's real... Oooouie thas real. Financial success does not equate happiness. A degree does not equal happiness. We as humans were created to procreate. We're not meant to be alone. It is unpopular to say that. Realistically we're social creatures who need love, affection and attention.
And yet there’s Jeanne who is literally married and pregnant by a black man who is basically the same ones that black women are oppressed by. Threatens his black son, refuse to pay child support for his previous children who are black hmmmm
Y’all I feel this I’m so tired of the expectation of being a “strong black woman”. I literally had this conversation with this guy about dating out and he was like I can’t see myself without a strong black woman. I just sighed, because although we may go through things other women my not be able to relate to doesn’t mean we can handle all of it that comes to us. We are black but human and we have weak moments just like any other woman.
I send you lot of lots of hugs. Cause I'm asian and my mom also expects me to be rich and independent. But sometimes i really want to bring out bowls for someone else during the dinner. I always eat alone, but i never want to admit it. I pray for you sister.
A man will be a man, regardless of the race. It’s about their values and how they were raised. It is terrible and hurtful that we receive the most awful treatment from our men who are supposed to protect us.
Cece Giles it does start at home, but it’s a cycle unfortunately. A cycle of broken women being hurt and taken advantage of by men. That type of cycle creates a “I’d rather be alone than to get hurt again” or “play before you get played” type of mindset.
@@brownskinnbeaute black women hurt black men and women. Yall even hate each other to the point to where yall can be 80 years old and still hate the other black women that didn't like your potato salad... stop playing the victim
True Believer Smh do you know why God put Adam on this Earth FIRST and then gave him Eve? Everyone has different beliefs, but then again it’s about how you were raised. I was fortunate enough to be in a family of structure and two people balancing each other out. Seeing a man work for his family outside and the woman working for her family inside. That’s balance. Seeing an Alpha male lead, protect and provide for his family will make a woman more feminine and soft, heck she may even be comfortable enough to let her guard down and submit. My opinion and views 🤷🏽♀️
I married an Asian man, but all Asian men are not the same. Depends on what part of Asia. I have a Philippines/ Guam Asian, they are way to Americanized, and lack goals. So let's be clear, what part of Asia first
I’m 21 and I’ve always been taught to be a “strong black woman” and it’s so draining. I get called weak, lazy and unrealistic by black people overall for embracing my femininity . Every women doesn’t want the lifestyle of being a independent woman/ boss chick or “not needing a man for nothing”. The first man it doesn’t work out with gets thrown in your face and is used as a reason why you should be independent and not desire a man. Or when we do get a man we are taught to always have to “keep up” with black men, always look our best and be on our man’s toes. Yes men are men but other races allow you to relax and just be yourself, allow you to love without all the pressure. If it works great, if not someone else is meant for you.
Lol is your name Jasmine too, I think there is probably less mixing going on in Britain, still not rare, but less. People tend to be from a particular country and tend to want to find someone that comes from the same place
SoulStyleBeauty As long as your happy then that’s all that matters. Don’t listen to them, because there probably just jealous. You keep doing you girl. 💞
@Lauren Exactly, it's dumb . If they did their research, Puerto Ricans got African in them ... forget what the say hunny. As long as you are happy, he's happy that's all that matters . I'm Half Black and Portuguese. And I love Latino Men myself ♥️
Happiness in life isn't only about being in a relationship. If you decide to share your life with someone, hopefully they are compatible, loving, and respecting of all you are, no matter their race, nationality, or ethnicity.
Ladies I understand as I’ve been single and celibate for 2 1/2 years. I miss the intimacy BUT my peace of mind is priceless and non negotiable! I’ll die alone before I deal with any of the bs I see these women putting up with! Ain’t no glory in being a doormat! ❤️
Stacey Williams I’ve been single and celibate for 2 yrs now and I too would rather be alone than settle. I’m not lonely or looking. I’m waiting on God for the man that He has ordained for me and living my life in peace in the meantime. I want no parts of struggle love.
No internet I don’t know what to make of your comment, but u throwing 6 figures in ? That’s not what makes a good person, the content of your heart , your values your character those of just few of what makes a decent human.
The average black woman does not respect the black man and the stereotypes of a black woman as being difficult is true. Men are realizing instead of fighting with the black woman leave her alone and go find marriage and relationships outside your race. It’s happening for real and this is not what we wanted. Take responsibility as well for choosing Tyron and the damage that came with it.
I am surprised that they didn't discuss public perceptions of beauty -- a lot of times black women aren't considered beautiful so it's not that they don't want to date outside their race, it's that people don't want to date black women. I think Michelle Obama did a lot to change people's perception of black women, being strong and feminine.
Absolutely!! It's rare for men of other races to approach black women. Plus, the standard of beauty is culturally different and we have to fight social stigmas.
@Ashtree Yes!! I watched a video of I think they were East Asian males and they said they love black women but feel inferior to black males so they don't try to date us. They were like if they have black men, why would they want us. Some couldn't date us because of family issues that would arise. Smh.
FIDELIS TASSAH thanks you I have been single for 8yrs but I'm not unhappy I have a full life a man isn't going to define me, but if someone comes along great! He can join with me in my full life..
All my BEAUTIFUL sisters out there find your happiness!! I’d never want to see y’all do anything thing different. I’m proud to have y’all in our corner😭😍!!!!
I love loni’s reaction! It was real tea ☕️ ( you aren’t turning your back on brothas by dating outside of your race) we are lonely 😞 it’s so nice that she’s happy and he’s loyal
Penny Dang you have to look for divine example love from God...we are here on earth to love each other especially in romantic relationships ...it’s very much a spiritual journey
Penny Dang: That's a tough one and I'm curious about that. Now that your an adult woman and observe a loving couple, what feelings are provoked in you? Honest question.
Black celebrity females dont seem to have a problem with marrying outside. And neither does black males butt would they marry us if we didn't have the names or cash
@@mauriceboykin4422 I've seen one of my black girlfriend's get in a relationship with a white man and she was just starting out in life so she had nothing to offer him but her heart... So it's possible hun, I hope you find the man of ur dreams no matter what race he may be 💜
I’m sad that I’ve spent so much of my life assuming “he probably dnt like black girls” so I would have never tried it. I always assumed I had to have a Black King and have been so disappointed in my choice of them that I fell into the “lonely pool” myself. Would be nice to meet a real genuine man because it’s really comforting to know that just someone is there !!!
This is one of the best conversations I’ve heard on the interracial topic. It was honest, genuine and it touched on the “Truths” that a lot of other conversations have left out. I’m Loving It !!! ❤️🥰🙏🏼💪🏽
Black men definitely do get criticized as well. Remember for a while black men was side eyed for bringing home "white women". I believe the difference is that men do not care as much about scrutiny as women do so black men just aren't talking about it because they don't like to talk. Some black men will occasionally mention though that they do indeed get it too.
I can't generalize for all but most black men I know don't care at all when we see a black woman with a white man. Several of my female friends have white partners and aside from a few soft jokes its really not a big deal for black men.
Are you insane? Nobody has received more hatred/violence for going outside their race than black men, people are beyond delusional truth is nobody really cares who black women date but the world has always been obsessed with who black men date, get a clue
I agree for the most part but this conversation has me torn. it sounds like there is an insinuation that dating outside of your race is some sort of golden ticket for black women. For me it doesn’t matter the race just if you are being treated right. There are bad relationships of every race, they just go about it differently. So to equate being happy and less lonely with dating another race sounds like your coming from a hurt place. Though I agree with most point and can relate, Being relatable Isn’t always the same as being positive.
When she started crying, I did too. The pain and loneliness is so real and I'm not black. I feel like a ghost when it comes to relationships, no matter the race. It's like I'm just passing through with no where to go 😭
To All my Ladies of Color.for every 1 woman is 2 or more man .being loneliness is a miserable life.i pray every woman find true love.not fake love.happy 2020.🙏🙏🙏💞
Loni is right! My boyfriend is white and he’s the kindest person on earth, he defends me or our relationship in any situation.. We deserve love like everybody else, black women deserve love too! ❤️❤️
yes, but you are from south africa, if only the white people think like that when they were stealing your land and making the blacks in south africa starve.
Loving Without Boundaries Congratulations to you and boyfriend love is love, regardless of race, gender, sexuality. Tamera spoke it so well and pointedly. I date all races and cultures often...💗
@john smith I live in a country where men still haven't gone their own way and feminism isn't hijacked by many for their own personal gain so...Men date plenty, just not me 😂
Watching this gets me emotional. This topic goes beyond race; it is about having a man who respects, adores and takes care of you irrespective of race. We all deserve that kind of love✨✨✨
I’m happy for my sistas & I for allowing love to win over all things. I’m so happy he never gave up pursuing me & we will be getting married later this year.
MODEL KEE funny enough Adrienne is included. She is Puerto Rican and Ecuadorian where as her husband is definitely not Latino he has a black (possibly Jamaican) dad and white mother.
Actually ,it's no ones business who your dating, marrying etc. If you date outside your race its your own business. Also, just because your single does not mean your unhappy.
Black men.are not loyal,not responsible as well ,black women are single parents .This is a huge problem in our society .I am single mother of 1 ,she's a daughter .black men need to grow up and be serious .otherwise we will look for meaningful relationship outside of our race.
Aww Loni basically just told us that when she was in that “I don’t need no man” club, she was actually just lonely and putting up a front 😢
I knew she was lonely and that was a front it was obvious. 🌹
It’s pretty obvious it was a front. I mean when Jeanie talked about her singleness and loving being alone, I believed her but when Loni would I knew it was bs. Everyone is different but when people talk about loving their singleness too much I start to feel like they’re overcompensating and I always felt like that about Loni. 🤷🏾♀️
I dont know about that. You can be satisfied and single and not be lonely. You have different phases in your life and we should learn to enjoy each phase. Loni seemed like she had alot of fun dating and now she has a lot of fun in a relationship. You dont always need to be with somebody.
Kavita8 It's natural for ALL humans to want love and companionship, not just black women. It's not about depending on a man.
I knew it. She would always says she's happy....yet no body asked her. She talked about being single way to much.
I'm happy she found someone ❤️
when Loni said "I see you, sister" I felt like she was talking directly to me... the tears y'all
God has someone special for you 😊
juju Be with who makes you happy 💖
girl the water works happening to me now! lordt
Lord knows she has me crying. I've definitely struggled with this and I definitely felt like she was talking to me. I've had people literally say I'm not black enough because of who my friends are and my dating preference.
I’m not a black woman (I’m Italian and half Turkish) but when I heard Lonnie talking to your community (I don’t know how to explain it without offending anyone) I felt it!
Everyone deserves love and there’s no racial limit that can break down love!
You’ll find someone ❤️
"I feel like I'm turning my back on them."
But....black men are always dating non-black women and constantly talk about how they prefer non-black women...
Some.... Some
👏👏👏. Thank you. Black men always want to date non-black women and then criticize black women for dating outside their race.
Zac preston a lot....a lot
Preach sister.
I remember a time when black women want to be with a man with good hair, light skinned, we never gripe or complain about it, or made it a commercial for the nation to see.Date who you want to date we not mad.
Black women: date whoever brings you happiness. There's nothing more important than your happiness. I swear, you won't regret it.
Same for black men
@@hombrenegro7612 y'all already do
@@euclidredpill7277 it isnt 80% of black women.. its 80% of black women who have children.
Nico Vargas Stfu this has no correlation to the previous comment
@@b.w4969 no, it's a reply to a specific comment that is not the previous comment. It isn't 80% of black women having kids out of wedlock. It's 80% of black women who have kids having kids out of wedlock, it's a fact that is correcting the other persons "facts".
That moment in the audience when those two women shared a moment...beautiful.
That actually made me cry
Read this comment as I saw it. Beautiful.
I was just about to comment that. That was so beautiful and what we need so much more of😍
I'm crying...😭 some days we just need a reassuring smile, a kind word or gesture...😭😭💖💖💖
🙌❤
loni’s passion for love is so beautifully refreshing. i love her.
Me too ❤
Right?! ❤
Love her so much and she made me cry again and again.
Loni LOVE
Lol
Go head Black women, dont be afraid to date outside your race, it's about love and respect at the end of the day!!!! Love all
Thank you sir Duke!!
Hello, This is so true and I tell people this all the time. Love is love it doesn't matter where you get it. Us black women are some of the most beautiful women you can find. However it is not our fault that some black men choose to date outside of the race. It is their perrogative to date who ever they choose to. Please just keep one thing into consideration, CHARACTER, HAPPINESS, RESPECT, LOVE is all that matter. Let us all look past colorism and be with who ever we choose.
Yessss
@Danny Viking THATS A LIE, OTHER RACES OF WOMEN TREAT BLACK MEN BETTER THAN BLACK WOMEN.
You are a strong brother!!!! Thank you!!!
I am a black woman and my husband is Mexican and we are going on 22 years of marriage. I give all Glory to God for this. I have never let anyone tell me who I should date nor will I ever. I put it this way ladies if the man you are with treats you good hold on to him no matter what race is he is.
So you’re a black woman who was never called a racial slur by Mexicans? Wow must be nice… I’m a black woman who gets violent racist treatment from them which completely turns me off to even interact with them
I feel that Loni has to defend her boyfriend. Ppl give her so much hate for dating a white man...
Mainly comes from her own race which is sad.
@@LC-yi6uz yes and people need to be real that a lot of black men were not checking for her.
Onur Bb Idk why there a beautiful couple, and I’m a white girl. She doesn’t need to listen to what people say, because there opinions don’t matter... 💯
Its deeper than what people think it's also about her whole experience of being single and being without love
@@mckayladanielle251 you just said your a girl this is an educated black woman almost fifty years old ..... she's spent several years alone romantically to pursue her career and sometimes when your counterparts aren't ambitious like you will end up single
"I miss being in the arms of a man."
I felt that.
dimple pascua You’ll find someone 💞
Im here
Girl, me too. I knew EXACTLY what she was talking about.
girl same! smh..i just going back to dating after a 25 year marriage ended! scared but willing to take that leap of faith!
@@hyacinthp4882 I hope everything works out for you😊
I met 17 years ago a white German man and married him 11 years ago. Not only a different race but a totally different country and culture, of course I am African American. I let myself open my eyes and walk out of my comfort zone. It was the best decision of my life! I married my best friend, best fan and the love of my life because I let myself think outside the box and different from what everyone was telling me to do. He is lying beside me now as I write this and here next to him is where I belong.
🤗
😭 im crying
@ Macon Reid
I hope you receive what I'm about to say in no way derogatory. You are very fortunate to find Love, your best friend, and Love in your spouse.
But, are you saying previous experiences led you to look outside of your comfort zone? I'm bi- racial myself and by your look (You are a very. Beautiful woman) appear to be bi-racial or multi racial, as Am I. So, I can see why your husband fell hard for you.
You know what men find attractive, regardless of race. A woman that is amazingly attractive but, in that space where she is ready for something definitive and real but, at the same time willing to reciprocate the exact same things she desires for herself.
I'm from the U.K. South London, Brixton Exactly So, although we have our share of the exact issues here finding interracial couples is very common. And, quite frankly why I exist.
I can only guess you are saying you found Love and looked beyond race and saw your spouse for who he was and not solely who he was at first appearance.
That is worthy and completely different than saying I married my spouse because he is opposite my race, innit?
Peace & Blessings 📿💯
Darkman Xavier I never said I married my husband because he was outside my race. I had dated white men as well as black men before. It was more that he was German and I was American. That was out of my comfort zone. And the fact that I knew I would have to move to Germany for the rest of my life.
@ Macon Reid
Yes, of course I conceded that point. I think it's wonderful you were able to meet someone that values you for who you are. And, also appreciates you for the things you do no matter how big or small. Moving to Germany was a huge sacrifice but, it proved to be a tremendous blessing for you.
🙏
Black men marry outside their race why can’t our sisters we need love too
Exactly. People are people and we all need to choose someone who is best for us and that might not be someone in our own race. The sooner Black women learn that as a whole, the whole lot less lonely you all will be.
Sharon Pope if you are dont agree to see it its a advice never Come In France . Here its so horrible all black men who was born In France are dating whites and arabs. Thé black girls for a lot of them are single until thé day when an african native accept them for wedding. Here In France there is only 3 black couples of célébrités thé others are always with non black women. So dont feel bad in France its so horrible for us sisters
Sharon Pope no one is stopping y’all 😒
UltimateFireCracker to be honest I love my brothers I wish we could stay together with each other but the brothers are straying
Truth Hurts yea out of the 20% of blk men that actually get married! Huh get on with that stat!
“The reason why this nation is hurting is because we don’t have the love we need” is a fact! We need more love in all of our spaces in our lives.
Agreed
Good question
Austin Martín Hernández That’s because they took out the men so the women could welcome the state.
There is plenty of love in this world..Problem is there is no place to put it.
There is so much pain emanating from this planet because we are not acting as One. We separate, measure and categorize one another. Mankind refuses to seek the purpose of creation. So therefore, the variety of difficulties and catalysts on planet Earth continues.
“All parts are designed to help and aid all other parts.”
Many black women were not taught that it's ok to want to love and be loved by a good man or be vulnerable if we do. Most of us WERE taught to "get your education and leave those boys alone."
You can thank feminism for that one. Lying to you women about joining the work force. Yall got played
@@FEARth3Change You can have a career and still be a feminine woman. It's abour balance
@Pham
Femininity & Feminism are not one in the same.
Men not boys, We admire a woman's ability to be feminine, classy, nurturing, family oriented.
The stay home mom and wife, is just as appealing as the CPA, Doctor, etc.
🔝We actually see the strength women exhibit in doing these things and this is also incredibly sexy.
Peace & Blessings 📿💯
@@darkmanxavier252 And your point is?
Pham
I think I stated my points implicitly clearly for all to read. It doesn't require further clarification. Now in reading your response you said.....and, I quote: and your point is?''' II paid a compliment. But, I'm sensing some form of pontificating in your response with regards to what I said. But, thank you for basically validating the reason many men feel the way they do. Have a Good 1....
If I’m being honest I get approached more by guys out side of my race. Black men don’t really approach me nearly as much as other races. So I just feel like why wouldn’t I be open to dating outside of my race if the men in my own race don’t even really approach me. As long as they love and treat me well that’s all that really matters to me in my opinion but, I just don’t understand why a lot of black women in my experience get hate for dating outside of our race I feel like everyone wants and deserves love so who cares about the race.
Leah Michelle Because if black women understand we got dogged and rejected so many times, we eventually gave up on approaching a black woman, there’s plenty of times I just spoke or gave a good adult compliments (Hello, love your hair, or like how you dress today and get a very low thank you or sometimes nothing at all.) and I came at them in a old school gentleman fashion. Good black men are tired and won’t approach because we felt that as being a smack in the face
Can’t forget about holding the door open telling the black wombs “Ladies first” don’t get a thank you or nothing. Mutual respect in the black community is crucial
lovemeloveyou011 entitlements seem to be looking one way, because if someone holding the door or compliment something about me, I’m quick to say thank you, I find black men are way more humble than black women. Many of us don’t complain about our complexion just to be excepted. To back up what I’m saying check out how many black women are using skin creams or bleaching their skin or wearing hair that’s not even theirs just to be excepted in society. Talking about a frail ego? See some black women want to play this victim role and I find it to be bologna, because how one (black woman) are strong at one time but play victim next? But they continue to date the same type of man over and over again making the same mistake. Many nice successful black men out there but they jumping ship going to other melanated countries to date or just clearly dating outside their race because of the dysfunctional mindset many black women have. I read your paragraphs and it clearly shows that black women expect too much from the black man, but don’t want to give nothing in return.
lovemeloveyou011 Oh and black women want us to care about who we date, which we really don’t care because black women been dating white men for the longest, but in the black women eyes there’s to many black men dating outside their race now so it’s a big issue. Loving versus Virginia case made it the 14TH amendment when a white man married a black woman, yet you black women criticize black men for dating a white women or other besides his race? You got to be kidding me
David Sauce I think it’s okay for a black man or women to date outside of there race I feel as though maybe there’s just a lot of Mis communication between black men and women? I actually never have heard a black mans perspective on this issues so I find it very insightful and interesting. It makes sense on why black men would choose to branch out to other races especially if you guys don’t feel appreciated. I think it goes both ways that black women also don’t feel appreciated though. I honestly don’t understand why there is such a wedge in our community as a whole till this day. It’s just that I always wondered why a lot of black men would never approach me and I found it both interesting and frustrating at the same time especially when it comes down to things like you said such as saying thank you when someone holds the door open. I say thank you all the time because it’s respectful as for skin bleaching and the hair issues that’s always going to be a problem I think because a lot of black women have it ingrained in their brains that we aren’t good enough no matter what. I think that most women take it personal because sometimes it seems like no one wants to date black women not our own race and while people outside of our race are more willing sometimes it’s just a sense of who am I good enough for. I don’t bleach my skin though and I wear my own hair now like a lot of black women do now. A lot more black women are being more natural but, sometimes women want to switch up their looks. I will say this though I’ve never heard about a black men hate on a black women for dating outside of their race and there may be some but, I’ve mostly only seen hate from other black women about dating outside of my race. I don’t see dating outside of ones race as a form of self hatred (which is what I’ve heard) if you actually truly love and except yourself and you genuinely love someone for them and not because of their race then I say it ok
Honestly, I'm scared to date anyone because I feel like when they see me they see a stereotype instead of ME, you know?
Me too, I used to be worried about being someone's only irl representation of a black woman. Now I just live as an individual
Why? Don't you have a personality?
Nah you’re trying to be “race loyal” to men that don’t like you…… wake up
Act like a woman then
They want YOU not the stereotype ❤️
The two women in the crowd supporting each other LORDDDD! THANK GOD for this show.
I know ♥
Omg
Where?
Aleksander Korbeci Thanks
Rachel D 5:46
I finally admitted to my best friend how i am tired of always having to be " strong". I want someone to lean on sometimes
made with love vincygirl
Here I am 💨💨💨💨😎
Never try to be “ strong” as a woman. It’s unnecessary.
Alexis Massey chill why do you want women dependent on men 🤔 male egos are pathetic, men are NOT hard to find
made with love vincygirl FACTS! IT’s hard sometimes. Strength shouldn’t be measured by how much abuse we take.
jagir
You can be independent without being a pain in the ass. You can be strong without being mean. Being feminine is not synonymous with being weak.
A lot of sistas forget that.
Black women are always bombarded with criticism when they do date/marry outside their race. There’s always this pressure to be with Black men, even when Black men prefer non-black women. My Mom got upset with me the other day when I told her that a majority of Black men in this day-n-age don’t want us Black women, asking me where I got that mindset from. I got it from what I’ve experienced, and what I’ve seen and heard online and offline over the last 2 decades.
I mean there's reasons for that but bw are not the type to take criticisms as constructive. I'll be frank men do share the problem but nothing will get fixed if you don't acknowledge the fact that you are part of the problem too. Y'all need accountability because you're too proud and never embrace your faults.
Stop it it isn't a vast majority of bm that aren't with bw as bm marry/date more bw than non blk wm what you're saying is a MYTH.
The opposite lol
I’m a black man & I date women that I like... wether that’s black, white, Asian, Indian or any other race. Black (and all) women are beautiful. But they need to expand their horizon and stop that idea of loyalty to “black men” rather loyalty to their man.
Oh, honey... You just don't get it.
TOMISHA HARPER What don’t I get?
Exactly lmao, just date what makes you happy it’s not that hard
@@tomishaharper4704 explain
@@agfromdai.e3806 how many times have you seen a non-black man check for a black woman? cause I haven't seen many, if any at all. Plenty of black women are open to date outside our race, it's just that NON BLACK MEN are NOT into us. We don't have many options out here.
i'm so happy they didn't break this clip into like three different ones
I love her for wanting to others what’s she has
Oh you mean u love Loni for faking emotions on tv and telling black women to go for whitemen cos most black men are in prison...Promoting inter-racial relationship..Despite our history.
@@seyramkulewosi4611 it's a repeat history......not just history. These aren't the times when I was coming up. This isn't for all black men because there are some outstanding black men but hell we tied of "holding men down" or "help a brotha out " or showing him this or that and molding him. If we gotta do all that we might as well have more kids and raise them alone. Hell where the men who understand what a family is, willing to stay outta trouble, hold down a job, focus on your kids whether they're all in the house or a few outside the home. Hell why white women not crying saying it's ok to date black men like loni is. Why can't black men be amongst the majority. Black men can turn this thing around. Odd thing is they have all the answers to why black men struggle with this or that but haven't made a change yet. I haven't dated outside my race but I'm not against it. You talk about my comment but quick to say something about the black woman. You ain't no better and I never said anyone is perfect.
@@lr4353 You worded that perfectly. I had to screen shot it.
huh???🤣
t r Lmao the fact that your majority view of black men is “can’t hold a job or stay out of trouble” is telling of your own environment. When in reality and statistically the majority of black men are thriving 😂. And y’all like to act like black women are just perfect in relationships and don’t do any wrong. It’s hilarious to see 😂
I was in tears watching this. I literally texted my Man and said “ Baby I just want to sleep In Your arms tonight.” Having a good man after a nasty toxic divorce is refreshing. I too was scared for almost three years. I dated myself and even going out with him wasn’t easy but once I realized how kind this man was and how he was genuine with me. I learned to accept it even after feeling so unworthy of love for years. And one thing I tell myself is I won’t make him pay for past bad examples. I love you Loni boo. And I hope Tisha finds love at its best. And may the unions continue to be blessed! Thanks again!
Nenka Apple your words are saying a lot about who you really are❤️❤️
Text him? If he's your man.. I take it you're married to him then..so why you weren't already sleeping in his arms?
This struck me, a woman as strong as Loni, weeping for loneliness, and the loneliness of her sisters. As a white guy, I never had a racial choice when I was looking for a wife. They just never came along. Having said that, I don't see how a barrier formed from a skin colour could block a love of two souls for each other. I have met women for whom I felt no physical attraction at all, only to find out that they were beautiful in countless ways once I spoke to them. If attraction can punch past that, how can it not be victorious over melanin? Each of the women on this panel is gorgeous, but so vulnerable. A simple thing like being met at the airport, having a man be loyal to her moved that poor woman to tears. What? Isn't that supposed to be how it works?
I am monogamous to the core. I am literally incapable of cheating on my wife, and of course I do things for her, I love her. Married for 31 years, we own each other. Loni is right, everybody deserves to be loved like this and certainly skin colour should not be any sort of barrier to finding it for anybody.
She isnt strong. She is a fat chick that got hooked up with an older white dude.
You get it! 😁
I was in a relationship with a black man and most of his family and him thought I wasn’t “good enough” to be with him because I’m not mixed or just another race all together. One of his female friend’s mom who is mixed if another race told him that he should only be dating “mixed women”. According to their logic, it wasn’t the fact that I wasn’t “good enough”, it was the she’s not “pretty enough “. At the time he was someone who received disability due to being shot when he he was a teen 9 times, no GED or diploma and bad credit. But, wasn’t good enough for him😂 I’ve taken accountability for my bad decisions.
@@flawlessvictory6254 Your story struck me. Love is a gift from God. If we look at the family structure, it cannot be improved by any change from mankind. The one child policy in China for example, was evil to the core. They tried to make change in their population without applying love, but instead, some weird philosophy derived from communism, to the immense pain of all involved. Just as mankind could not improve on the gift of family from God, so can no one improve upon the most basic of relationships, man with woman. It either works or it doesn't, and cannot be forced. As a man who has been married for over thirty years, I have come to a few conclusions. Race means nothing, it's a human construct and over emphasized. Marriage, after the initial attraction, is more a meeting of the minds enhanced by the physical and spiritual sides of the people involved. Cultural differences may well be a cause of failure for a relationship and are more important than skin colour. Also, there are a lot of people in the world, your guy is out there. And how do we know that the love we feel is genuine and worth the effort of developing? Read 1 Corinthians, 13 in the New Testament and ask yourself, does the way I feel in love match up to the standard that God has set out for his people? It is easy to conform to the patterns of this world and think you aren't as pretty as the standard of the day, but the man who wants you will be the one who looks much deeper than your skin. To him, you are the finest gift he could ever receive. He will be the one who sees your heart and says, "This woman and no other. No woman even comes close to her." The signature of God on his creation, is the beauty that we see. Look at yourself and see the handwriting of God.
this is... 7 MINUTES wow
Rightttt. I'm shook
I think it depends on how intense the topic is
Yea when they speaking that REAL the videos get longer lmao
Christmas came earlyy this year 🤣
We are being FED😂😂😂
Loni keeps telling Tisha she doesn't want her to end up alone but did they all forget she was with the same person for 30 years. Let her date herself, the right one will come along trust.
I don't think they forgot. They love and respect her and want nothing the the best to come her way. You can really see that with this group of women.
She's giving her good advice and trust me no one has forgotten. She's just helping a good friend
Yes but Loni also said it gets harder when you get older, because most men are already married.
As an Asian (Filipino-British)Male living in American, I know my community hasn’t always been as outspoken to helping and standing in solidarity with the Black Community, but I have nothing but the utmost love and support for Black Women. You’ve all been strong for too long and I wish absolute love, joy and prosperity to each and every one of you
Wow. Very sweet! Thank you & likewise 🥰 God bless.
Very sweet comment. Thank You 💕
Thank you! That's real talk. 😊
❤️Lovely lovely sentiments... Thank you!
As an African male. I see what you did there boy. Nicely done
Wow! This just popped up in my feed and I clicked on it. I don’t watch this show very often but I can relate to this clip on so many levels. It is so refreshing to see black women set aside pride and ego, and just be real about wanting love and solid companionship. My mother was that woman who gave up on finding a partner and by the time she realized that’s what she really wanted, it seemed like a daunting problem to remedy. As a son I felt almost powerless because I had a very full life and I couldn’t jump in and help mend her broken heart. We need more of these conversations and we need more love, light, and vulnerability between men and women. Thank you for this.
Amin Jai such a powerful comment.
Wow. I liked how you expressed yourself from the view point of a son watching his mother go through this. It was very powerful and insightful. Thank you.
Though I am not against interracial relationships, many of us Black Women feel there is already a shortage of available good Black Men in our community, and when a massive number of Hispanic Women raced to sleep with Black Men upon arriving to this Country, that deeply hurt us emotionally! 😒 It also hurt Hispanic Men who risked their lives to get these Women to America. It probably wouldn’t have hurt as much if it had happened gradually. Also, when a large number of Black Men were willing participants, we felt betrayed by them, especially since we have always stuck by, and supported Black Men, even when we had complaints about some of their behaviors.
@@Blossom-gf3kx I think the problem is wasting time over feeling betrayed, albeit a valid feeling. It’s true that it’s a betrayal to an extent, but it’s a lesson that you too can broaden your options. Let them do them, Black women can’t make them love us, you go and find love if that’s what you need. Focus on needs and less on race. Black women do not owe Black Men loyalty at the expense of our finding the things we need to not only survive but also be happy. I choose singleness due to not wanting to deal with the issues that come with marriage, but many Black women actually need someone. So, go ahead and meet men outside of your race.
As far as Hispanic men and women, I think all of that is irrelevant. Black Women need to focus on healing, learning, and exploring.
@@Blossom-gf3kx come on now their are plenty of good blk men who were either friend zoned or rejected....let's be real a vast majority look over the good guy for the top 20% of men who can sleep with multiple women because they got swag while the good guy is the educated lame y'all don't want fyi a minority of bm men started dating interracially not the majority
I like that Tamera is supporting her friend brand by wearing Adrienne’s XIXI earrings
I peeped that too. They are lovely earrings.
Wow! I didn’t know that. That are so so cute!!
It's also the fact that they inspired by her movie Twitches
I know riiiiiiiiiiiiiight.... When you actually like your friends' products
You saw it too😍
That moment at 5:44 when the white and black woman smile and console each other is adorable and is what this show is all about . ALL women empowerment and diversity
Mya Parks 💙
Yessssss
Aww, I missed that originally. Thanks for pointing it out! ❤️❤️❤️
I love that 😢😢😢
YAAAASSSS
With everything I been through, I dont care what color a man is I just want respect and loyalty.🤷♀️😎🤣
This is so sad when I started dating outside my race I was called a sale out..it’s a shame how some not all black men can fix their face to say this..but don’t seem to have an issue when they do it.
Exactly, how many black men are married to white women????? Love is love Girl....go for it
Jennifer Lindsay exactly
@@LocsNmore you are nothing more than a white man's nut rag!
Yeh or get called a bedwench , so sad
@@lovelyt.3392 f u fix yourself before u cime for other ppl
As a man, i can honestly say this segment was too real, raw, & vulnerable. I like this type of content, Dudes stop tryna run game & be honest with yourself. Women stop trying to be a hot girl/ city girl. At the end of the day we all want someone that is there for us, wants to be with us & love us unconditionally and thats what it is.💯
Amen Scott 👏🏾
You seem like a good man! I agree with you.
Thank you for this! 🙏🏽💯💯💯
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Hot girls/city girls deserve love too
Black men have absolutely no problem dating women of other races though.
Yea I wonder why black men don't have an issue but black women its a different story
And they shouldn't lol as long as they love that human for who they are. I keep telling ladies go with the man who loves you and treats u right, stop worrying about color. God might have something else in mind besides what you think you want for yourself and when you get HIS blessing trust and believe u will be 10x more fulfilled and happy.
That's because they're tired of black women's bull crap
@12th man
Tell that to your black mother. You're a disgrace.
@@thman-cj4sk what bull crap black woman are good to all men
I'm a black man and I've always loved black women., but no one wants to hear about that.
Good for you!! Your black Queen needs you!
And that's what I keep saying. All my friends & family members have only dated and married black women. Yet I keep hearing from all these shows that black men don't want to be with black women. Really pisses me off BIG TIME!!!!
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@@nanakay6030
I agree with you 100% Nana. All the black men in my family are married to black women as well and take good care of them. I forgot to mention my best friend who is a black female just got married to her soul mate last November a brotha. My coworker just married her husband last year in July who is also a black man. Some people on this thread have a screwed up way of thinking that black men don't love black women. Or that black love doesn't exist which is so untrue.
I just love black men, doesn't have anything to do with loyality
Like Tisha, me too I miss being in the arms of a man and laying my head on his chest. I also think Tisha should have been the 5th co-host instead of Amanda, they have a better chemistry.
Aïssata SY nah Yvette should’ve been the 5th co-host
I honestly didn’t like Amanda on the show😩 it literally became a nightmare IMO
When Loni said “I see you sister” I felt like she threw onions right at my face.. 😭🤣
Dee babes 😂 you got me weak lol
Bra😭😭
sammmmeeeeee
I hadn't understood this comment until my eyes started watering...and I made the link😂.
😂
That lady in the crowd was really crying
I know I'm sending her a virtual hug 🤗💗
She wants a white man so bad 😂
I was too. This is real life. Especially if you have been hurt by someone who you loved deeply or if you don't have a large support system of friends or family. Why do you think depression is so rampant. Life is hard and people are lonely and hurting.
Maybe they are not attracted to men of other races some women love their black man. If you’re open fine but everybody is not
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they never said anything was wrong with that 🙄
Exactly!
Amen
Exactly
I tried dating out of my race couple of times didn’t work out nice men beautiful careers just was not for me to different cultures it just wasn’t for me but I’m happily married to a beautiful black💪🏾man 10 years and going👍🏾
That's great, I get asked by family members if I would marry someone out my culture. Im open to it but its more important to me to find someone who can communicate with my family and understand the struggles in a very real way. Im sure there are guys who could do that outside my group but I have yet to find someone who isn't part of my community who could do that.
Least you can say you tried sis !
U have good and bad in all races
At least you tried😭. Some girls to scared to even try Atleast you gave it a try proud you found a loving husband black or not
Love you queen you're not evil liks these other black women constantly lying saying they couldn't find a real black man while ignoring most black men.
Tamara , Loni , and Jeannie all got so much hate for dating outside of their race. People really need to wake up and stop being so ignorant.
@john smith why do you feel that way? Jeannie actually loves the man.
@@tiffanybarnes8286 because she said out of her own mouth she prefer white over black. But now....
@@user-dh5rb4xi7t when did she say that? are you talking about her saying that she keeps her dark meat on the side? years ago. people change, you dont have everything about you that you used to the same. ALL of us have ideologies, interests, opinions about us that change. I used to feel many different ways but they have changed. I used to hate myself as a black woman, thinking I am ugly by being black. Hey even didn't want to like black men, I will admit I was a bit of a colorist. Things change, so please dont hold what this woman said years ago over her head forever.
I felt it was highly strange that Tamara got SO much backlash for dating a black man. But. Loni got the complete opposite. Loni's relationship was so accepted but, Tamara's isnt. 🤔🤔
Yes!! It doesn't matter. I'm in a interracial relationship and I love it. I knew I was gonna be with another race other than my own. I love when love over powers everything else.
But Temera is half white, her father is white why would anyone criticize her for being with a white man. Just be with who makes you happy sisters whatever their race is
Like how they're attacking Doja Cat....African american men
Amun Malak and yet I've seen a ton of comments saying she shouldn't be with Adam and oh she's probably just a fetish etc etc. it's sad really.
Yeah I didn't get it either. I especially hated how people began to take to Tia more and act like she was the "better" twin because she decided to marry a black man. It doesn't matter!
@@dreyasim I was shocked by that also... Seeing that they're dad is a white man, it would only be natural for her
charmaine jangano I don’t think that a lot of their fans knew they were half white. You have to remember when they were coming up, it was at a time when social media wasn’t around so if you didn’t want people to know something about you, they didn’t. As long as their show ran, they only mentioned being mixed once when their real father showed up. I’m now beginning to understand why they gave them adoptive parents to begin with. They just wanted to target a black audience.
I am African from Zambia. I am married for 13 years with a loving amazing man and he is Danish. I recently made a new friend in a language school who is Black American,when he saw my husband he said ' Ain't you guilty marrying outside your race. ? That was a shocker for me, because Africans we never really look at things like that.
As you Said He is american and they have a lot of issues!!!!
Hold up
I generally would by pass comments like this but, 99% of the rhetoric you spew African Amecian this and Stay away that.
I'm from the UK but, I have members that live in the U.S. and they all are Doctors, military men, Engineers, etc.
Before telling women to stay away from a group of men, try Telling your sister. Cousin, friend to Make a very defined choice in terms of who she as a woman chooses to date and be a part of her life as a as a romantic interest.
As if being a degenerate is exclusive only to or synonymous with Black men in the U.S.
I find it comical yet sad you say this because you fail to acknowledge a very poignant matter at hand.
You said the ones you encountered: yet you and all women have the choice to choose.
Now refute this point....You Can Not.
As an Afican Born one would think you would uplift and educate, inform those whom you seem to take great pleasure in belittling.
You may be an African woman married to a white man but, your experiences do not validate Nor do you speak for all women.
And, your parents told you to stay away from Black men U.S. Born. Wow.....pure madness indeed.
Yes we do.
@@theman9048 Unless if you are from South Africa but the rest we don't care honey 😂
YOUR FROM ZAMBIA .......... HE'S FROM AMERICA ......... OUR HISTORY IS DIFFERENT
This is one of the most honest conversation among women I’ve ever heard. 🥰
So true, black woman are so loyal to black men. that many will stay single out of hope that one will come along for her but black men are out here dating and marrying all races... my loyalty is for me.
NiQ NaQ you are so right I’m still trying to keep that hope alive for my black 🤴 king
FACTS!!!
froberson41 I hope you find a black man, but don't beat yourself up about it. You're too beautiful to hold yourself back ❤️
I feel like after 30 u should date all races if youre still single.
JoMoe G. Oh lord 😂
This topic is adressing a real issue we are facing, be open for love and stop disciminating.
It's important to note that black women do not NEED to look for love from other races but we have to be open. A lot of successful, beautiful and complete women are out here looking for love but are scared of love like they mentioned and sometimes we end up self sabotaging when we meet good men because of this feeling of being scared. We need to deal with our emotions first and be open for love anywhere but still know our worth!
I love my husband but I have already told him that if something happened to him and I had to remarry I know my next husband 9 times out of 10 would not be of african descent...
The only existing discrimination I've experienced is black women being excluded as women.
The black community isnt even that bad- ever date an Asian man? Was the only time I've ever been told
"I cant bring you home, you're not Chinese....."
@@ajwilliam7703 ohh yah date an Asian man.
@@RainyRunningRiver why would I date someone who rejects me ? 😂
Emotional show for sure! 100! I love the realness, openness and honesty of these 4 women right here! They have brought more tears, smiles and laughs since starting this show than I ever could have imagined! I love THE REAL! They are women you’d love to hang with!
Loooove Loni- real talk there! And I love that she wasn't interrupted but was able to be a source of healing for many women who needed to hear those words (Love the other women too)
It’s so sad. So many black women don’t value themselves! Mass incarceration is real yes. But black women are being loyal to men who do not value us! A lot of black men don’t second guess marrying white women. But we beat ourselves up about being happy! Love is love. God brings people to you because that’s your person. We need to open up our hearts to that.
Loni just has me in tears over here. Because you can see the pain but also the amount of happy in her eyes.
black king shut up
Y'all just say whatever you can think of...black men don't value black women?!?...man stfu!
@Amor Ankh where exactly are they?
Blaçk ameriçan culture is so scary
Color shouldn't matter.
I love that Loni acknowledged the woman in the audience. This was sweet!
I hate that woman Loni be with a passion!
Real talk Black women need good men regardless of race
@@ginowilliams5752 what?
That was so sweet
I’m black and I’d do it in a heartbeat. When it comes to falling in love, I don’t see color. I see your personality and the way you carry yourself and treat other people. Y’all can criticize me all you want, it’s not going to change the fact that I’m attracted to white men and would rather date them. They’re just the racial group I find most attractive, and I can’t help how feel.
Wht men dont want blk women. Hell blk men dont want blk women either
There's nothing wrong of what racial group you're attracted to. The problem is this and a lot of people especially black women tend to belittle. The men that you're attracted to (white men) aren't into black women on a collective. Out of all the ethnic groups in america, white people stick to their own the most. Even when they do go outside their race which is rare, they predominantly go for Asians and Hispanics. Take Loni Love, if we're going to be brutally honest here, her white man is only with her to boost up his career as an actor. Look at their Instagram followers, loni has 1.7 million followers while her white man has 42 thousand. Come on now! We all know what's going on. We have no problem calling out non black women when they're being sneaky with their black male partners. Let's call this out as well. Not just white men but non black men in general aren't waiting in line for black women. Non black men stick to their own women on a mass level. When they do marry or date outside their race, most of them aren't with black women. The reality is that, barely 1% of black women will find true love from a non black man. While the rest of 99% will have to find a way to make it workout with a black man or buy a dog so at least you'll have someone with you when it's your turn to leave this world. I know it may sound harsh from what I'm saying but this is the reality and truth of our situation as black people. Everything I said about black women, this also applies to black men as well.
@@hailoweenhailoween5264 Yeah, I know most of this. I’m pretty sure it’ll take me forever to find a boy/girlfriend.
@Don’t mind me. I’m just afraid of everything. No it won't take you forever. Unless you're very particular on looks.
@@hailoweenhailoween5264 Ah. Okay good. I’m not too particular. Blondes and redheads are at the top of my list, with other hair colors being further down.
This was powerful. Many lives are being changed a a result of the topics discussed on this show. Kudos to them!
I’d be mad if they kept putting the camera on me when I was crying looool
Grace x 😂
Same!! I'm an ugly crier so I would not appreciate that lol
Lol I kept thinking that
I'D BE MAD IF THEY PUT THE CAMERA ON ME PERIOOOD CRYING OR NOT!!!
Right like leave me alone 😩
Loni is in love.
When youre in love you want everyone to find that.
It is sad when you find color as a barrier. We are all human
Gigi Dodson So very true.
It's not about that, it's not about the color. It's disloyalty to our ancestors or elders. You have to think of everything black women endured and still do when it come to society. Society would you make think all black women act like Cardi B. Like there's no Tisha, Loni, and Tamera in the world.
@@belovedannie So Tamera is a living breathing disappointment? Her mother is black and her father is white.
So Jeannies boyfriend is being disloyal to the race?
Loni is dating a white man, so she is a traitor to the race?
Adrienne is married to a man of a different race and planning on children, that makes any child they have a disappointment?
Sorry.
Gigi Dodson: What you just said ain't going to stop black women from loving black men!
Beloved Beauty More black women are harmed by black men then by white men in this day and age. Black women have more trauma from dealing with black men then from any other group. So what’s your point? It should be based on the individual when dealing with any men black, white, or Asian, etc.
Dearest Loni Love is a national treasure. Her strength in being able to bring the difficult conversations about race, race relations and systemic racist infrastructures is INVALUABLE in mass media, and in sure in her community. Blessing, love and support from your hippy mountain mommas in NorCal. (Loni/ Producers- if you possibly get to read this personally; You got me, and we still stand. DM me for local contact in fighting the good fight.)
Beautiful !! I loved this so much and It’s so refreshing to listen to mature and intelligent woman talking about this in such a sensitive manner.
This so absolutely true and love has no color, race, or preference. Just be open to someone who will treat you right, who loves and respects you.
love that they're all in interracial relationships. never realized that til now !
Are you in an interracial relationship too?
All of them?
uff . if it wasNt for
interacial relationships
maaaaaan ..
this wrld wuld be sooo boring .n stuff
Well, Tamera's husband is white like her dad, so their relationship is like half-interracial.
D Tellafone it’s still interracial. Biracial and white are still two different races.
I want Tisha to just stay on the show permanently
Please no
Noooooooooooooooo
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Why? Just curious
Inspector Gadget Amanda loves to hear herself talk, she’s biased and annoying. No thanks.
I totally feel you sister, I swear that was deep and real! God bless you all! 💖💖😢
Lonni: There’s not many compatible black men.
Jeanni: Because we’re taking them.
@Roena Skates r u black or white girl/guy
You’re black aren’t you
Why do people blame Janie for what she likes?? So what she likes black men, shes always been respectful and loving towards that culture, no reason to hate.
@Roena Skates So...Loni "Ms. Sassy" Love found a man but for how LONG? Ask Michelle Williams from Destiny's Child and everyone SAW what happened to that relationship😏🍵
I honestly never been attracted to rappers like Jeezy and them. They can have that
Tisha is more comfortable with the show now. Her personality is coming out. I love it!
This was too real 😭. A lot of times we’re shamed for saying we’re lonely but what’s so wrong about wanting to feel loved. You can have the best paying job , the nicest house , luxury items and still not be truly happy because you’re missing a void. Nothing wrong with wanting a relationship that doesn’t make you dependent it’s more like a companionship
Kay Kay 💯 💯
That's real... Oooouie thas real. Financial success does not equate happiness. A degree does not equal happiness. We as humans were created to procreate. We're not meant to be alone. It is unpopular to say that. Realistically we're social creatures who need love, affection and attention.
Shardae Randolph yeah exactly you worded it so much more beautifully than I did 👏🏿
And yet there’s Jeanne who is literally married and pregnant by a black man who is basically the same ones that black women are oppressed by. Threatens his black son, refuse to pay child support for his previous children who are black hmmmm
Y’all I feel this I’m so tired of the expectation of being a “strong black woman”. I literally had this conversation with this guy about dating out and he was like I can’t see myself without a strong black woman. I just sighed, because although we may go through things other women my not be able to relate to doesn’t mean we can handle all of it that comes to us. We are black but human and we have weak moments just like any other woman.
I hope the guy leaves u
2000 baby we not together but okay🤷🏾♀️😂
I send you lot of lots of hugs. Cause I'm asian and my mom also expects me to be rich and independent. But sometimes i really want to bring out bowls for someone else during the dinner. I always eat alone, but i never want to admit it. I pray for you sister.
Meeeeeeeeeeeeee TOO!
AaaaaaaaaaaaaaMen!
I love this moment from Loni. She's found true love and he's touching her heart and soul.
A man will be a man, regardless of the race. It’s about their values and how they were raised. It is terrible and hurtful that we receive the most awful treatment from our men who are supposed to protect us.
BrownSkinn Beauté im sure u know it starts at home.
What happened to the strong independent black woman?? Can't have both js
Cece Giles it does start at home, but it’s a cycle unfortunately. A cycle of broken women being hurt and taken advantage of by men. That type of cycle creates a “I’d rather be alone than to get hurt again” or “play before you get played” type of mindset.
@@brownskinnbeaute black women hurt black men and women. Yall even hate each other to the point to where yall can be 80 years old and still hate the other black women that didn't like your potato salad... stop playing the victim
True Believer Smh do you know why God put Adam on this Earth FIRST and then gave him Eve? Everyone has different beliefs, but then again it’s about how you were raised. I was fortunate enough to be in a family of structure and two people balancing each other out. Seeing a man work for his family outside and the woman working for her family inside. That’s balance. Seeing an Alpha male lead, protect and provide for his family will make a woman more feminine and soft, heck she may even be comfortable enough to let her guard down and submit. My opinion and views 🤷🏽♀️
I wish black women were opened to dating Asian men!!! omg black women are so damn fine!!! ❤️❤️❤️😍😍🥰🥰👑
Tony Nguyen They are. But sometimes Asian men are afraid to approach in fear of being turned down.
Please take these mfs
We are open, but Asian Men don’t chose us.
I married an Asian man, but all Asian men are not the same. Depends on what part of Asia. I have a Philippines/ Guam Asian, they are way to Americanized, and lack goals. So let's be clear, what part of Asia first
Tony Nguyen lol
I’m 21 and I’ve always been taught to be a “strong black woman” and it’s so draining. I get called weak, lazy and unrealistic by black people overall for embracing my femininity . Every women doesn’t want the lifestyle of being a independent woman/ boss chick or “not needing a man for nothing”. The first man it doesn’t work out with gets thrown in your face and is used as a reason why you should be independent and not desire a man. Or when we do get a man we are taught to always have to “keep up” with black men, always look our best and be on our man’s toes. Yes men are men but other races allow you to relax and just be yourself, allow you to love without all the pressure. If it works great, if not someone else is meant for you.
Blk men want wht women
Not just black American women that go through this. Black British women too 😢
Wow smh
Hectic. 🙈
Lol is your name Jasmine too, I think there is probably less mixing going on in Britain, still not rare, but less. People tend to be from a particular country and tend to want to find someone that comes from the same place
Count us South African black women too!
So true
A lot of people criticize me and my fiancé is Puerto Rican. It’s soooo ridiculous! Over the hate!
Fawk them! As long as you’re happy sus ❤️
SoulStyleBeauty As long as your happy then that’s all that matters. Don’t listen to them, because there probably just jealous. You keep doing you girl. 💞
Lauren that’s what I always say! Word lol!
McKayla Danielle amen ❤️
@Lauren Exactly, it's dumb . If they did their research, Puerto Ricans got African in them ... forget what the say hunny. As long as you are happy, he's happy that's all that matters . I'm Half Black and Portuguese. And I love Latino Men myself ♥️
I felt this on so many levels. Great show ladies.
Happiness in life isn't only about being in a relationship. If you decide to share your life with someone, hopefully they are compatible, loving, and respecting of all you are, no matter their race, nationality, or ethnicity.
Can Tisha stay on the real? Love her.
yaol used to feel that way about Amanda seals now nobody wants her!lol...
“I miss being in the arms of a man” 😩😩😩😭
Stacey Williams I thought I was fine being alone until she said that!
Tania me too
Ladies I understand as I’ve been single and celibate for 2 1/2 years. I miss the intimacy BUT my peace of mind is priceless and non negotiable! I’ll die alone before I deal with any of the bs I see these women putting up with! Ain’t no glory in being a doormat! ❤️
Stacey Williams I’ve been single and celibate for 2 yrs now and I too would rather be alone than settle. I’m not lonely or looking. I’m waiting on God for the man that He has ordained for me and living my life in peace in the meantime. I want no parts of struggle love.
Stacey Williams that part
When black men feel disloyal for dating out their race then we black women will feel bad
I don't think I ever will. I'm making six figures I date who I want but as a black man I was always told by the women that I was never needed.
No internet I don’t know what to make of your comment, but u throwing 6 figures in ? That’s not what makes a good person, the content of your heart , your values your character those of just few of what makes a decent human.
I don't even look at white women like that because I love black women way too much!
@@mpalmer7800 I agree. good luck to the woman who winds up the that dude
The average black woman does not respect the black man and the stereotypes of a black woman as being difficult is true. Men are realizing instead of fighting with the black woman leave her alone and go find marriage and relationships outside your race. It’s happening for real and this is not what we wanted. Take responsibility as well for choosing Tyron and the damage that came with it.
I am surprised that they didn't discuss public perceptions of beauty -- a lot of times black women aren't considered beautiful so it's not that they don't want to date outside their race, it's that people don't want to date black women. I think Michelle Obama did a lot to change people's perception of black women, being strong and feminine.
I totally agree with this statement. I've been telling people this for the longest
Absolutely!! It's rare for men of other races to approach black women. Plus, the standard of beauty is culturally different and we have to fight social stigmas.
I agree with you ✊🏾
@Ashtree Yes!! I watched a video of I think they were East Asian males and they said they love black women but feel inferior to black males so they don't try to date us. They were like if they have black men, why would they want us. Some couldn't date us because of family issues that would arise. Smh.
Boyd Stewardship I so glad someone said it!
A lot of us are also missing parental love.
butyoucancallmesam 💯💯
🎯💯💯
This.
True👀😭😭
TALK ABOUT IT.
I appreciate the honesty and realness of loni, that’s one thing that makes her beautiful and shine!
Awww Bless the lady in the audience heart!! Wow.. Loni is ministering realness! I love it!!❤️🥰
Being alone does not mean you are unhappy.
SAY IT AGAIN!!! I SEE YOU, BROTHA!! LOL!! I thought it was just me....THANK-YOU!!
FIDELIS TASSAH thanks you I have been single for 8yrs but I'm not unhappy I have a full life a man isn't going to define me, but if someone comes along great! He can join with me in my full life..
YES !!!
Thank you :)
They are talking about women women that are hiding that they are lonely.....
The two women in the crowd sharing a moment 🙌🏾
Yes🙌
i know right. i felt sis' tears and glad someone reached out.
Awwwwwwhie 😍😍
All my BEAUTIFUL sisters out there find your happiness!! I’d never want to see y’all do anything thing different. I’m proud to have y’all in our corner😭😍!!!!
I love loni’s reaction! It was real tea ☕️ ( you aren’t turning your back on brothas by dating outside of your race) we are lonely 😞 it’s so nice that she’s happy and he’s loyal
That’s what happens when your strong and independent
I never grew up with an example of a loving couple. It's easy to talk about "your dream love" but hard to recognize the right love.
Penny Dang you have to look for divine example love from God...we are here on earth to love each other especially in romantic relationships ...it’s very much a spiritual journey
So damn true. How do you know what love looks like from a man? If your dad was a piece of trash or not even there?
@@ineedhoez victims
Penny Dang: That's a tough one and I'm curious about that. Now that your an adult woman and observe a loving couple, what feelings are provoked in you? Honest question.
Same asf. So well said.
I started tearing when Loni started speaking to the woman in the audience.
Black celebrity females dont seem to have a problem with marrying outside. And neither does black males butt would they marry us if we didn't have the names or cash
Maurice Boykin depends. Life is never a guarantee for anyone.
That "You deserve love like everybody else" got me 😭
@@mauriceboykin4422 I've seen one of my black girlfriend's get in a relationship with a white man and she was just starting out in life so she had nothing to offer him but her heart... So it's possible hun, I hope you find the man of ur dreams no matter what race he may be 💜
Yeah...that was sad. SMH
I’m sad that I’ve spent so much of my life assuming “he probably dnt like black girls” so I would have never tried it. I always assumed I had to have a Black King and have been so disappointed in my choice of them that I fell into the “lonely pool” myself. Would be nice to meet a real genuine man because it’s really comforting to know that just someone is there !!!
This is one of the best conversations I’ve heard on the interracial topic. It was honest, genuine and it touched on the “Truths” that a lot of other conversations have left out. I’m Loving It !!! ❤️🥰🙏🏼💪🏽
Why is it stigma for black woman to date outside their race/culture but not for black men?
Stephanie Ryans say it LOUDER plz. Go put this in part one where I commented👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾
Black men definitely do get criticized as well. Remember for a while black men was side eyed for bringing home "white women". I believe the difference is that men do not care as much about scrutiny as women do so black men just aren't talking about it because they don't like to talk. Some black men will occasionally mention though that they do indeed get it too.
I can't generalize for all but most black men I know don't care at all when we see a black woman with a white man. Several of my female friends have white partners and aside from a few soft jokes its really not a big deal for black men.
Are you insane? Nobody has received more hatred/violence for going outside their race than black men, people are beyond delusional truth is nobody really cares who black women date but the world has always been obsessed with who black men date, get a clue
Stephanie Ryans it’s a stigma for all women to date outside their race. This is not exclusive to black men
I loved how open everyone was this episode. So touching.
I agree for the most part but this conversation has me torn. it sounds like there is an insinuation that dating outside of your race is some sort of golden ticket for black women. For me it doesn’t matter the race just if you are being treated right. There are bad relationships of every race, they just go about it differently. So to equate being happy and less lonely with dating another race sounds like your coming from a hurt place. Though I agree with most point and can relate, Being relatable Isn’t always the same as being positive.
When she started crying, I did too. The pain and loneliness is so real and I'm not black. I feel like a ghost when it comes to relationships, no matter the race. It's like I'm just passing through with no where to go 😭
To All my Ladies of Color.for every 1 woman is 2 or more man .being loneliness is a miserable life.i pray every woman find true love.not fake love.happy 2020.🙏🙏🙏💞
Loni is right! My boyfriend is white and he’s the kindest person on earth, he defends me or our relationship in any situation.. We deserve love like everybody else, black women deserve love too! ❤️❤️
yes, but you are from south africa, if only the white people think like that when they were stealing your land and making the blacks in south africa starve.
@@jyde50 lolz, stalker much?
Loving Without Boundaries that is great that he defends you bc some don’t. It shows that he cares for you and respects you.
Loving Without Boundaries Congratulations to you and boyfriend love is love, regardless of race, gender, sexuality. Tamera spoke it so well and pointedly. I date all races and cultures often...💗
Cringe af
Honestly I would date anyone, no matter the race. My problem is just no one wants to date me 🤣🤣
Christina Kae same Lol
Awww 😂😂 He’s coming. 🥰
Girl fr tho!!
Mood
@john smith I live in a country where men still haven't gone their own way and feminism isn't hijacked by many for their own personal gain so...Men date plenty, just not me 😂
Watching this gets me emotional. This topic goes beyond race; it is about having a man who respects, adores and takes care of you irrespective of race. We all deserve that kind of love✨✨✨
I’m happy for my sistas & I for allowing love to win over all things. I’m so happy he never gave up pursuing me & we will be getting married later this year.
I just noticed every single host is in an interracial relationship
ValliVon except Adrienne
@Carolyn its not agenda.
Carolyn facts!
MODEL KEE funny enough Adrienne is included. She is Puerto Rican and Ecuadorian where as her husband is definitely not Latino he has a black (possibly Jamaican) dad and white mother.
A Google User if everyone was the same race there would be no racist people so what’s the issue
Actually ,it's no ones business who your dating, marrying etc. If you date outside your race its your own business. Also, just because your single does not mean your unhappy.
Angela McElroy I just found it a lil bit hypocrite when someone says they don't need anyone in their lives 🙄
no pets?sure hope you like yourself cause its just you and your thoughts if you dont like other people
I Thank you Ladies for talking about this because love is Love. And Yes I so tired of being alone and I miss laying of his arms.
Ramona Mouton me too
That audience moment at 5:47 ... that brought the tears
Black men.are not loyal,not responsible as well ,black women are single parents .This is a huge problem in our society .I am single mother of 1 ,she's a daughter .black men need to grow up and be serious .otherwise we will look for meaningful relationship outside of our race.