Matthew Hussey is just another conman that exploits the fact that it is more profitable to tell women what they want to hear rather than what they need to hear. But I won’t lie he hit the nail on the head on this one. You know what they say, a broken clock is right at least twice a day.
@@playingwithballsack1533 In my experience, after seeing a lot of his videos, he's been right more than wrong. I know Aba and Preach think he's a con man, but I think they misunderstood him on that issue and pointed too broad a stroke.
He's Matt Husey, former PUA Training teacher back in the day. He knows his shit and dated lots of quality women over the years. Hence why he gets paid big money to help teach Women how to meet Quality Men they desire.
My wife of 14 years now - when we were dating, on the third date, she offered to pay for everything. I honestly thought it was a test and I refused. EVERY woman I dated before her rarely offered to pay - most NEVER offered to pay. I was just expected to pay as the man. So when this amazing woman grabbed the bill and paid for not only dinner, but the movie as well, I knew I found a unicorn. The very next date she came over and cooked me an amazing meal. She did all this because she was trying to impress me as much as I was trying to impress her. An actual equal relationship! And that strong relationship is now entering its 15th year 🙂 (Add-in) Thank you and respect to all of you who have extended best wishes to me, my wife and our family. I really hope fellow men find happiness and that one true woman who appreciates who you are. I'm thinking on adding videos to my channel about relationships after reading the responses. I understand the frustrations so many of you have - I was there before I met my wife. There is hope, brothers. Stay true to yourself! Respect 🤜🏾💚🤛🏾
@@jakobmalki8972 Depends . Before I met my wife i went out with different women they always payed. They did it only because I am good looking that's it. So it really depends.
I feel that if a man asks a woman out to dinner, of course he should pay. Even maybe three or four more dates if he asks her out should pay. But after that I think A woman should definitely try to contribute. Obviously she likes him or she wouldn’t be going out with him that often, so what does she want to help him ? Before I was married my friends used to think I was crazy because when I went out to dinner with a man I would always order the cheapest thing, because I didn’t know his financial situation. I know things are expensive so as a friend why not offer to help ? I think it’s just the right thing to do .
In my 12 year relationship I actually started out like a bit of a crazy bitch, but I've become waaaay nicer and more normal. However that was my original demeanor I had as a kid. I think I was just struggling with literal mental illness lol
"grown women".... We live in an age when women (men too) were raised by the television. Seldom these days to young people have role models or mentor to help guide them through life. It's mostly trial and error. Sadly for women, trial and error means accumulating a high body count.
The guy alluded to it in his speech; essentially she was raised wrong. Whether that be by her parents, peers, TV, school or a combination of those and more. The fact is that expectation was taught to her
This guy is great, he’s not even sexist in saying this. He’s being genuine and respectful. World would be a better place if things were talked about like that.
I especially love the line “if you go on a date, and he doesn’t pay, he wasn’t raised right”. He’s not arguing that the woman should pay, he’s arguing that, in a healthy relationship, everyone contributes
No shit he’s not sexist lmao, he’s using common fucking sense, which the world as whole could use a lot more of 😂. I swear we’re so busy running around with our heads cut off that we don’t even stop to try to put 2 and 2 together, instead we glance at them pick the 2 that’s more appealing in the moment and chuck everything else in the trash 🤦.
I had a female friend years ago, a highly qualified doctor who was a single parent. She listed the (expensive) restaurants she likes to be taken out to on dates. Immediately I knew why she's been single for nearly 10 years.
You didn't get it sweat heart, in the moment you had a side of receiving and a side of giver you fckup, you should only have one side, WE, when you understand is We then you are contributing as much as you can, as a partner, watch yourself you are doing great 💪🏽💛
@@kyumazu1926 you need something? Maybe a lesson or two? Sorry but i make no discount for multiple classes and i only give for free this kind of easy advices. Let me know👌🏽
@@EmilyGloeggler7984no he's not. It's the truth. Women need to contribute as well. Don't put it all on the guy. A healthy relationship is teamwork and both male and female need to contribute to one another.
As a woman I was already cringing at the whole "you're the gentleman here, you're suppose to pay" and then seeing that the 90% of the women in the room agree to that statement is worrying. And those are the same women that claim to be feminist and wanting same equal rights and wanted to be treated the same as men. Bill burr was right!
A woman who does not offer to pay even on the 2nd date is not worth a man's consideration as even a girl friend, let alone a wife! A woman like that is not a man's equal and is selfish as well!
Why should any man be a gentleman to these unladylike buffoons? You gain nothing except the privilege of being taken advantage of and implied access to a used orifice.
@@evorider3689 exactly yk she doesn't even have to pay just the though counts of "hey let me pay this time" lets me know ur not just here for my money ur here to spend some genuine time with me
As a girl, I always thought that splitting the bill is the most responsible thing you can do and a healthy start to a relationship. I would feel very bad if I ever made anyone pay full for my food only my parents are allowed to do that for me and I for them.
Maybe it's different if your just dating around with different people but me and my last girlfriend, whenever we went out, I paid. However, now take into account all the times she came over to my place and brought pizza, or burgers, or Chinese food, or a bag of groceries wanting to make me something. If your decent people and genuinely like each other eventually it all evens out.
@@johnfriday5169 yeah but its give and take at that point. as long as the scale isnt overly tipped in one direction, id say thats a relatively healthy way of going about things.
@@BaneSIlvermoon I am confused. You're suggesting that in the 1920s, people had less moral fiber and a less calibrated moral compass than they do... now?
@@NicholasBrakespear in the 1920s, women had just earned the right to vote and couldn't open bank accounts or have credit in their name. The relationship balance was incredibly different.
Older guy here, I ALWAYS paid, she NEVER paid. What did she do? "You like spaghetti? Come on over for a plate of spaghetti and we can spend some time chatting." I remember that "date" vividly, one of the best we had and it still warms my heart almost 30 years later. Married her, had a family, hold her close as often as I can and love her completely. She's still the most beautiful woman I've ever met and I look forward to many many years with her still.
@@christopher152 Yeh but as evidenced by the video, a majority of women have this mindset. Plus, theres no way the op would ruin his comment by putting (There are different types of women with different opinions and this doesn't apply to them) stfu ;-;
@@Rabid_Ferret They are not a proper sample most likely. Probably from a geographically similar area, potentially already linked by a common desire/mindset. Although it was an overwhelming majority who shared that opinion so there is probably something to it.
@@Rabid_Ferret I don't know what type of inbred culture you come from to think that a majority of women think these way. Or maybe it's a generational thing and you're on the end of the spectrum where people are getting ready to wave goodbye to this world. Either way, I was never suggesting to improve his comment. I was simply pointing out how retarded his point of view is. No parentheses would help that. Now, you obviously on a whole different level of special and/or belong to some type of stagnated culture, so we better just leave that at that.
This is exactly what I think so too. This problem comes from the wrong education where everything is due or in other words they have been spoilt. It's normal that I try to impress her but she has to impress me as well! That man in my opinion not only he's a genius but also fair...
Son, they’re silent because you’re educating them on how to disguise to the next level, you’re helping women and hurting men… Good job 👏🏻 #motherraisedbeta
It's honestly imo just social programming, girls are raised to expect to be treated like a princess and it's being perpetuated by a lot of guys, groveling at their feet and worshiping them it's really sad
I met my ex on Tinder - yes, I know... and when we went on our first date, she chose the restaurant - a very expensive restaurant, I might add. When the bill came, and I was about to pay, she said: "I chose the restaurant, I'm paying". And this was in Mexico City, where women are still more conservative than in the US. After that, and without even "talking about it", every time we did something, whoever chose the activity or the place, paid for it. It was the most comfortable and fair unspoken rule I've ever had in a relationship.
sounds like a keeper to me, really. My ex and I never really talked about who is paying what, it was just clear that both of us pay half of the time. It worked. Even when we went on vacation, we had a list with personal expenses, like when she wanted to buy herself a nice dress, we would pay it out of our common money but she would put it on the list and finally we would add up all the personal stuff and balance the check. Turns out, in the end we both spent nearly the same ;)
It’s like the guy in the bottom left corner said. Men are usually willing, but it shouldn’t be expected. It shouldn’t be a standard. I’ve been expected and even demanded to pay for things. From when I was broke and then even worse when I started making real money. The guy in stage is 100% right about it being about the lack of gesture and feeling used when there’s only expectation and no contribution. Dating is NOT one sided, no one is a “prize”. It’s a partnership.
@@Kipchoge475 Mhm. And even stuff like chasing and playing hard to get can be fine, so long that you’re expressing real care for the other person, and not just using them
Don't act like this dude gave any sort of insight all he did was mooch off of a guy doing better than him, like just look up this exact title and there's 50 vids with only that title and they're all reactions. They don't give a f
@SilverGhost no one's saying he gave special insight or that he's a saint, I'm just quoting his summary of an important topic that's undervalued in today's society. Stop playing dumb and get off the internet if you have nothing productive to say.
He is so well spoken, articulates his point and provides excellent reasoning. Without being able to do all of those, he risks losing an argument even though the point he is making is 100% truth.
This sounds ridiculous but it's the truth, I married my wife because she bought me a sandwich. We were in school not dating but in a pretty stressful group project together I'll spare you the details but picture a 4-month project with 4 people and hundreds of hours. I happened to be the best editor in our group so I stayed in the lab till 10pm one night and she showed up to bring me a sandwich. Men really don't need much to feel valued, just make an effort. **Update, I'm really surprised this got so much attention. Comments are actually pretty wholesome for the most part. Not sure why but a lot of people asking about the sandwich? It was an end-of-day clubhouse from a Tim Hortons chain, it was stale and it didn't taste very good. I had to soften up the bread with hot chocolate. It's been a long time since then, we have a son now and my wife is a fantastic mother. I know marriage and monogamy aren't what everyone wants out of life. But if it is what you want, try not to let all the negativity and bad statistics stop you from looking. Someone told me you have to slay some dragons before you find your princess and man did I find a dragon or two on the way (That's a whole other story). Be smart, protect yourself but keep looking, she is out there.
Im my mind, this story ends with you proposing immediately after taking the first bite of the sandwich. One because of the gesture and two because it tasted that good 😂
Very well spoken. We guys also deserve respect, dignity & appreciation for what we go through. We don't need much else. Thank goodness I've never been surrounded by gold diggers.
One of the duties of a husband is to financially support his wife in marriage. He has to pay for meals during the dates, which are interviews for compatibility.
Some dates should be more than a meal, such as going to a museum where they can discuss what's in the museum. The man has to pay the museum entrance fees.
I'm a young man and my girlfriend and I started dating at around 16. In high school before college I had a lot more money to spend on food and dates and started the relationship off paying for everything, spoiling this girl with everything that I could afford, not driving myself broke by any means. When we were in college together and things were harder if she wanted to go out to eat and I told her I couldn't afford it she understood and would offer to pay for me instead. This is how a relationship works. She doesn't owe me for what was done before and I don't owe her for that time, but you do what you can and you're together in things.
Only because she was a keeper. Many would have lost it when you said you couldn't afford it, call it an excuse and bitch about you. You got lucky, that's an important factor
My boyfriend and I always split equally. Of course paying for one's ice cream when we're taking a walk isn't a big matter, that's what we'll for sure do without hesitation. But like real meals are always split. Or cinema tickets, gas price, and and and. Right now he is more financially stable than I am because I am only a student. I do work, yeah, but I have cost of living still yk. I will pay my part but I can't sadly offer him to pay tickets for him. But when I received my first ever big pay check a month ago I wanted to pay for the cinema for him. We sadly couldn't meet because he ditched me twice and now, after having had a 3 day vacation, my money is sadly empty.
Sorry to break it to you man but you lost her the first time you let her pay for you......her protected and provided for instinct would have come up that very moment ...and now emotionally she doesn't belong to you anymore.... she'll hang around as long as someone more dominant and assertive and loaded moneywise comes along and dump you for him.......and that will happen very soon if she isn't an unattractive fatty...there is no equal partnership between man and woman...
I once dated a girl for around 3 months and paid for every meal, parking expense, gas, everything you could think of during that period. I once forgot my wallet in the car and asked her to buy me a drink, she literally hesitated with an offended face and said, "let me check my bank account real quick." At that moment I knew it was going to be over soon.
@@clashoflions7339 If she doesn't pay the second date, how would you take the conversation to break it off? Would you say "I don't want to date you because you didn't pay on the second date? And that probably means you aint contributing?" Thanks
Couldn’t agree more with this guy! There is definitely a double standard here. Some women say they want to be treated as equals with men, but when “equal” doesn’t benefit them in some way they get mad. As a woman, I find this infuriating!
Staying single, working on your dreams and let other people experience the mistake of getting with these women is literally the best thing you can do in this century.
@@Kiruma_Tatsuki true. I get what this speaker is saying but if he has to point this out on a date, why go on another date? Just pay the bill and end the association there and then. That's the advice i would given myself back in the day. And my younger self would of ignored that advice lol
Him saying “this is the most polite that they will be” is the absolute truth. A lot of people just don’t realize that. What we all have to remember is that most people aren’t trying to be rude, they just haven’t thought things through. On the same point though, most people won’t gaf about being a better person
That is true, that's a good point most should know, but at the same time, I doubt most of those women wanted to think that through. I bet that's thought train they leave untouched in their subconscious cause they won't like the answer they reach and he just shoved it in their face.
I always told myself that dating should be the EASIEST part of a relationship, if dating is hard wait till you have to talk about bills and the future lmao
@@ericwitt4359 what, were women somehow amazing at some other point in history? I seriously doubt a single woman helped stack the pyramids or lay down the great wall. The closest women have come to measuring up to what men are simply expected of was the 800,000 female red army volunteers in ww2, compared to the 14 million male red army conscripts...
@@cpob2013 I don't understand what you are saying something I never said? I only think they were better than today. And who cares if they didn't stack a pyramid. They kept the home nice and clean and raised children. They did their part. Even in the 1980s and 1990s when many worked they tended to expect a lot more of themselves than they do now.
How did this man get a woman, let alone a whole room of women, to listen to him... especially when he is telling them they're wrong? Mans a wizard. Edit: It baffles me how many people can't see a joke right in front of them. My comment was 5 months ago. Leave me alone. So many comments of people not understanding it. It's a comment on the internet. Don't take it seriously. Please. Dear lord.
I love how proudly and confidently these women show their entitlement & abusive attitude. Society needs to be more comfortable calling them out on their bullshit.
When my husband and I were dating (we were both poor working college students), I still offered to, and did, pay at least half of the time. I gave him the money to have his alternator fixed in his car, he hated my paying for it; but, it had to be done. We always have operated as a team, kinda "us against the world". We celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary last December.....still a team!
@Miriam Svenson ofc men are people, but it’s an issue that “affects” men, and not commonly other “types” of people, obviously when it comes to the relationship between men and women, I wonder how Gay men treat each other in this regard! 🤔
It's an American thing. They have a culture of simps. My partner still pays for some of the meals we enjoy out after beeing for 9 years together. To the women i would ask. Why would you treat a partner like that? To the men. Why would you allow someone to treat you like a atm ??? This is not ok.
Searching for mind improvement is só important and Basic,but our generation managed to turn It into a super out of normal thing,but before knowing the truth you should ask yourself If you are able to carry the burden of truth for the rest of your days.
They were only there to drool over that one hot guy, who they would all be content with sharing. They all listen and respect his words, because they are attracted to him. If a guy of average looks came with the same statements, he'd be booed off stage.
"Let me tell you what means something to a guy: trying" The most easy, basic, and most true statement about relationships between men and women that will ever be spoken.
Out of everything that guy said, the one thing that made the most impact on them is the "I would always treat my partner how I would my best friend, you don't expect your friend to pay for everything everytime you go out" part. No more chuckling from the audience after that.
Exactly! Every time a woman complainns about her man, or says things like "Well, I'm going out, I shouldn't have to tell him, he can deal with it!" etc... I think well, that shows a complete lack of respect, and it makes you sound like a silly teenager; if you wanted that life, you could've stayed single. No man, or woman should have to put up with being treated like that. Then there's the moods, and ignoring him because "He won't do.... and I want him to" their friends wouldn't tolerate being treated how they treat the men in their lives. Mutual respect, consideration, honesty (but politely) and trust etc... are paramount. Is it any wonder there are so many divorces? People lack humility, the ability to acknowledge they're wrong, they can't say sorry, they manipulate to get their own way etc... It's a tragedy.
In the past, when we in the west had clear gender roles and a nuclear family setup, it made sense for the man to pay. Usually, the woman was home with child, but now, things have changed so much and women still expect the man to pay, even when they themselves earn their own money. Equality is only wanted when its a net positive for the woman usj.
MylilPwny@ I do not agree with you. Today every "beautiful" woman has many men she can choose more than ever. So why would she choose you? A man who is average and not the other successful men? Paying this is one of a man's courtship ways to get the woman and stand out from other competitors and show that you have wealth and confidence. No one is forcing men to pay on a date. They pay because they want the "beautiful" girl while the girl wants money and wealth in return because she knows what she is worth. That's why men pay because they are "interested in a beautiful woman" and they are They are afraid that a woman will throw them away if they do not pay and they will not find someone like her anymore. But when it comes to a girl who looks bad with a good heart. Men are in no hurry to woo And say emphatically that they prefer not to pay. Every man has the right to choose the girl he goes out with if you are dating someone just because of looks then do not be surprised that she also has requirements. If you are a handsome man then a woman will even want to pay for you and even take money from her wallet. It's all a matter of how everyone sees their status in a relationship whether you are top or bottom. If you are in the groove then you will have to work harder to get a beautiful woman. The women in the audience agreed with him because he looked good. And if he looked less good then they would say he's resentful. And also what he said about me so that he "looks at a woman on a date as if she were his friend" is hypocrisy in my eyes. After all, I'm sure he does not mean to kiss his friend in the mouth. (Not gay). Just as he wants a "beautiful girl" so the beautiful girls have the right to choose. There is no such thing as truly love and especially love and grace. Love is something you have to achieve especially that you do not look good. After all this is not class or trip this is battel
I met a girl when I was 24 who like me had very little money. She also had some difficult times in her life. On our first date I watched her dig through her purse for as much as she could when the check came. Then I realized she ordered very little because she couldn’t afford much. Even despite my encouragement to get what she wanted. I found it heart warming and of course paid the entire bill as was always my intentions. I married that girl. 14 years later I can’t imagine my life without her. Men should be gentlemen and women should be ladies. This is not “traditional “, it is natural. And in this way you will find happiness.
it plays out here perfectly coz the man's on a podium which exemplifies his status.And any knowledgable man knows what that means to fml psych. No gurl would give a shet if he said the same on the streets
@@oussovzzz3100 true,partly.They care more about your height than you ever care about their weight. It is just not sold at a premium when men like to try out many sauces. Hierarchial power rests above on the priority list.They would fight over a lanky guitarist among the band of sisterhood .Step back and recollect ,no man has not witnessed it happen.
For real, I invited a female friend out to dinner once, it was technically a date as we hadnt seen each other in years, and she came all dressed up. No discussion about money or who's paying for what - I invited her, so I was happy to pay. But even as I said "Dont worry, ive got this", she said "Are you sure?" - Just the fact she asked me that was a gesture in itself to make me feel like she wasn't expecting a free meal. That's all it takes! I was happy to pay, but that one question she asked me made me feel even more happy to pay. Ladies, it's that simple, I promise you.
Beware of being manipulated that way. There are enough women around who know this move gives them the highest chance of gettlng free meals (on a continuous basis, if the can pretend to be interested well enough)]
This reminds me of the author years ago whom became prominent largely from his phrase, "everything I need to know I learned in kindergarten". Such sanctimony. Everything you need to know you learned in 7th grade: 'it's a compromise'. If you want to stand on purity and the lessons you were taught in kindergarten, you can claim moral superiority. But it's the priggish, self-encomium of the moral, immature midget. YES...you do have to give up things to get things, and pious, self-aggrandizing holier-than-thou phoniness is one. If she's so insanely hot that they're standing in line by the millions, and they're out there, you do what's necessary or join the queue: OUT THE DOOR... (not directed at you individually)
Well is simple really they wanna go after the most muscular brad pitt looking dude possible yet they feel like its an obligation to them to get things like that cause 90% of them feel like disney princesses who need to be catered to
I will never forget this. I had no money or real income for a long time, especially during the college/dating years, and the girl I crushed on must have really crushed back on me. On our first lunch together I barely had enough on me to pay for my own meal, which I inevitably had to reveal to her by the end. She was intuitive and perceptive enough to realize that I liked her so much that I was literally spending my very last dime on me to be with her. She laughed and paid for her meal and the tip for the waiter. We dated for 4.5 years before getting married, and are now 7 years married still going strong as ever...I don't know why I felt compelled to tell this story here, but well...there it is. I'm one of the luckiest men on the planet.
You feel like one of the luckiest men on the planet because in that one afternoon she showed you without a doubt, she valued YOU!, not what you could buy her, not what you could do for her, just You. And that is the greatest treasure you can find in life, a true partner.
You know that "joke" about how only women, children and dogs are loved inconditionally cause men are only loved if they bring value? She showed you that you trully are loved inconditionally. You are indeed one of the luckiest in the world. Good for you man!
You felt compelled to write this because you wanted to share with people how good it can be It may be a long time before a guy finds Mrs. Right, but stories like yours gives us hope for the future
I'm a middle-aged widow with 3 cats. I believe feminism ruined women's lives! I reject everything feminists stand for and truly believe they are only a small group of women. MOST women don't agree with their bitter, resentful, harmful, and toxic rhetoric!
I was on a date with a lady and she ordered butterfly steak. She made a point of telling me she'd ordered butterfly steak. I'd never heard of butterfly steak and I wondered how did they get a steak from a butterfly? I asked her - "do you enjoy butterfly steak?" She replied: "It's the most expensive thing on the menu, I wanted to see your reaction." I asked a lady on a date and she said she couldn't afford it as a single mum. I said I'd be happy to pay, and she agreed after persuasion. I asked her to pick where, she picked a Korean self-serve buffet. It included self-serve soft drinks and when I finished mine ( more than once ) she grabbed the glass and refilled for me. I got a bit annoyed at that as I felt I was interfering with her meal and enjoyment. Her explanation? "I can't afford the meal but I can afford to show you consideration." Guess which one touched my heart?
I don't know any woman who would expect her date to pay for everything. Maybe it's a culture thing. I'm in the UK and certainly the person who asks the other out on a date usually offers to pay. I would perhaps have accepted that if I knew there would be a second date when I would assume it was my turn to pay. I would never assume someone is going to pay for me!
@@maxineallen5673 then you and the women you surround yourself with are decent people. I am not in the UK so you may be right about the cultural thing, but a lot of (I won't say most because I don't know most) women do expect men to pay for everything and treat them like princesses. At the same time they wonder why men don't respect them.
Also if a woman likes you she will flirt to the point to try and get you to ask her out. Rather then doing the asking herself. That in itself also sets the tone for unequal treatment. She is setting you up to guess and act based on her wants.
They only listened because he's attractive, most women go off feelings and superficiality, not the actual value of something. Regardless of his words, if this guy was ugly, they'd have thrown him off stage
@@chico9805 exactly plus they all looked on the older side too early-mid 30’s or above much more desperate to find a man….if they were in their 20’s they would’ve been screaming and yelling back with their usual feminist talking points
I hear ya - Glukhar_Agapov! If you take a girl out - you pay, only if it’s a first date. Now after that, if you keep on going out to eat - that’s a whole different story, and I don’t think you can just keep on paying, unless you’re wealthy and can afford it. Having said that, just go out for a cup of coffee, if it’s someone you’re just getting to know - don’t waste your hard-earned cash on just anyone! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
I’m in total agreement with what this guy. It’s plain and simple. No guy wants to be taken advantage of. This idea of entitlement has gone way out of context. Women should always find a way to contribute in a relationship.
I mean a relationship isn't a relationship if there aren't two people actively in it. So yes naturally women do contribute into the relationship. Or else it wouldn't be called a relationship
In my mind the whole framing is off. First, the title of the video: "Man Humbles A Room Full Of Women" - does not convey respect. It conveys dominance and superiority. Second, the question was honestly very simplistic and prescriptive. There isn't ONE way to deal with others (whether you are on a date or not). Third, the response was more nuanced than the question, but it still was prescriptive. Certainly there are general expectations of the woman and the man (or with just women or with just men), but the key is communication. The two people can work out these issues amongst themselves.
Why don’t we call things the way they are? Women want men who can best provide for potential future offspring. That is why men pay- it’s a heartwarming love story as old as tyme. Here’s the thing, whatever you believe about being a man or a wohman, I promise you the amount of effort the average woman puts into looking beautiful to secure a mate, as well as the amount of financial resources and just plain old time, would blow men’s minds. Not figuratively, literally ;). Now you can raise your picket signs and tear down the wall- the picket fence ideology, but the truth is if you like a high quality woman and you’re competing against some other dooder who can shell out the roo and you make the case that you won’t. You will lose Mates, mate, it’s a biological weapon of fact. Now posy on down to crysville, jk stay toasty rabbit woasty!
The only reason he succeeded in getting his point across, is because he had a microphone. If it was one on one, the vast majority of them would have crucified him before he could finish.
@@ThatWhichObserves stay at home wives + mothers contribute so much to society, it’s priceless. Of course there are other factors, but we are now experiencing the consequences of this being taken away from our society (by godless commies).
Not feminism, the government. By not barring them from working the government is actually requiring them to work. Slave masters do that. We are slaves.
@@ThatWhichObserves you have it backwards. Their contribution to wealth and to society is staying at home to raise her children. A beautiful gift every man should try to give his wife.
He didn't help them because none of them wanted the help. They all sat there stunned a man would call them out on their double standards. They all look like he slapped them.
He's doing both but it won't work. They're paying for a quick fix to apply to men being the problem, not to change their own behavior. Their silence speaks volumes.
I was in a 12 year relationship and then married her. The best thing about my wife is that during our dating period she always asked me to split the bill, and even if I didn't she made sure that she paid the next time, even when I did not demand anything. That showed how she was raised.
Most women aren't traditional now, so.if a woman still expects the man to pay I automatically assume she tries to use men to gain experiences at certain restaurants/venues at the men's expense.
Stop dating women who belive in total equality, including yourself. I don't belive in total equality because it doesn't exist naturally. Biological we are all different with different strength, so we have different task. There are still women who are independent strong intelligent, without believing the bullshit from today. Look at more traditional women who will accept your duties as a men.
when any woman tries this bullshit on me, I simply ask how many years did she live as a man to feel comfortable about to talk about how a man should be, it works every single time for me.
@@TheStraightestWhitest sounds like a you problem. Just cause you have zero expectations of them doesn't mean they aren't allowed to have any expectations or preferences. Kinda stupid analogy you're using here. And if both you and your girl don't have any expectations then what's the meaning of having relationship?? You're just there for benefits lol. You're already predetermined that every woman isn't worth it and yet y'all are whining about not finding"the one". Y'all sounds like some hypocritical feminist. And bruh you really have over 4 comments on this video alone as early as 5 minutes. Maybe try to interact with girls in real life instead of forming your opinions based on girls you see on the internet lol
It's really incredible, how some women certain things still take for granted and at the same time yell "equal rights, equal rights!" There is still a lot of work to do, and thank god there are men like this guy...
@@bysscanna Then it should also be unbelievable to you that 60 % of women make more than men now and they are actually the breadwinners. I thought a date meant you found interest in someone, not because politics is involved
@@bysscanna Men work longer hours, are more likely to be and die alone, are far more likely to be judged harshly by women for a lack of good looks or income (rather than vice versa), we live shorter lives than women, are more likely to suffer from depression, drug abuse, and homelessness, are more likely to suffer from physical ailments and mental illness, and are more likely to commit suicide. Oh, and we are more likely to work physically demanding jobs (like building the house you live in or the highways you drive on). And we're more likely to die in war. That's some privilege us men have. The gender pay gap is a myth by the way. Men work longer hours. My own life experience showed me that. It's rarely the women who work overtime, or work off the clock, or come to work when they're sick, or sacrifice their weekends and vacation time to come to work.
Honestly being raised by a feminist family, I never knew such kind of stuff existed. Like I grew up learning that we gotta split our bills, pay our part...both the man and the woman are doing the work... Why should only the man pay? Where's the equality in it? Love my parents for raising me like that.
It's awesome that you consider that a feminist family. Hearing that word sparks almost complete opposite in my mind by this point because of how many people misuse it put themselves up on a pedestal. This is what the word should mean. Advocating for equal status and equal respect.
@@rryumi Well, the terminology is completely correct. Feminism advocates the equality of woman to that of men within societies. Not female supremacy - unfortunately that is an ideology. Worse still, it is associated with the term 'feminism'. Hence, it is an egalitarian ideology - both sexes are equal, and as a result this, it would dictate both parties, within a relationship, providing an equal contribution to sustain said relationship.
@@AshanBhatoa That technically IS the definition, im aware. Its just that feminism has changed so much and become so unclear that I kinda forget people CAN still follow the original ideology
I keep saying this as a older man, married, people dating need to wake up and realize, no matter how much you have monetarily, if you enter a relationship with these sort of crazy ideas and don't approach relationships like your part of a team where you both work to help each other best you can, then you are doomed to fail, life is too big and too tough and will wreck you if you think otherwise.
As soon as he said "confident and self-respecting" guys feel taken advantage of if she doesn't try to contribute.....BOOM! His point landed like a ton of bricks! The type of men that women want most will walk away from them for the reason he stated. Awesome.
It's pretty scary! People sometimes need the red flags pointing out. If you're dating someone look for how they treat people, not just you, who they're trying to impress, but people who serve you in restaurants, shops, and other places. When I met my husband, sometimes I'd go into work with him, and we'd have lunch with his bosses, bosses, boss, and sometimes we have lunch with Lee, the janitor. My husband and I met online (I don't recommend it, as there are crazy people out there 😄) so I had to rely on my visits to see him to see how he was with other people. I also think how people treat their parents is a good tell. I loved it when he said about the way you treat your best friend, because I say it too. People don't seem to have any humility anymore. They can't accept when they're wrong, can't apologize, can't see the other person's point of view etc.... There are still lots of amazing people out there, you just need to be careful ❤️
I was with a girl for a little while a few years back like 3 or 4 years ago, anyway up till then and even a little bit after we went our separate ways, I remember whenever we went out to dinner she always offered to pay and it eventually got to the point where we fought on who was supposed to pay. It was insane cuz yah I offered to pay and she’d tell me “nope I’m paying this one” eventually we made the deal of if one of us paid for dinner then the other paid for the movies for example. It was a very eye opening experience and let’s me know that there’s women out there that chose not to fall into the “a man is supposed to pay” way of thinking my wife is the same way
Honestly, those women are as rare as hen's teeth! Many women who DO offer to pay, are simply testing the guy, and if he let's them pay, then they will not go out with him ever again!
I was dating a person like that but they lost attraction to men and lost the probably best relationship I’ll ever have we were so compatible and are still friends since this was the second time we dated but man if it doesn’t hurt like hell that I can’t have them
@@evorider3689 I like that video of the guy talking to the woman on his left with his body turned towards her. When the check comes he slides it across the table over to the woman sitting across from him (which I assumed was his date). She has the look of "Oh, no he jus didn't" as well as the look of "I cant afford this".
What I find shocking is that in the USA people in 2022 say "men are here to provide" but if you ever say "women are here to take care of the home" you are called a sexist.
The teammate / bestfriend analogy is on point. A lady has the right to be courted but let's not forget it's an old fashioned trope which used to also entail ownership of the woman by the man, so if you are a modern "independent", feminist woman, you can't really have both. You have to chose. No double standard.
Too true. But you're forgetting that feminists want it both ways. And they want rights, where men have obligations: they want to right to join the military, but not the obligation (draft). They complain about a "wage gap" but never consider the "death gap".... men dying in the workplace more than women. Is this death gap 20%? No. 30%, 40%, 100%, 500%? No it's well over 800%. Men die over 9 times more than women. I think that when the death gap is equalized then women can expect to have their total earnings equal that of men's total earnings. It's disgusting that they disregard the death of thousands of men whilst in pursuit of pay they haven't earned... and they'd earn it by working the dangerous, filthy, physically demanding jobs. Do men complain about the death gap? No. Men provide, feminists whine.
@@mjstow the wage gap is also because women have only been working 80 years, companies pay higher premiums for women for insurance on a regular rate, have some level of maternity leave pay and of course the built in premise that men are paying for everything
@@mjstow I tend to think those are female clowns and not feminist but i wouldn't know i'm not an expert on feminism. I'm happily an ally for actual genuine feminist though. Edit: some women want to do more hazardous work traditionally occupied by men. They are just not the majority. People should do what they want to do as long as they know what to expect.
Guys need to just stay away from modern “ independent” feminist woman.. don’t even entertain it or one night stand it, it’s just not worth the hassle. Men are the ones in control, we always will be, we just need to understand this and make better choices with the women we date. Start thinking with your big head an not the One between your legs.
These women are clueless. Regardless of the logic and common sense this guy throws at them they will leave thinking "This guy is a jerk and a misogynist . The man should always pay for me".
Actually they know that it's unfair, selfish, and irresponsible of them to insist that the man pay their way. They just figure that if they can guilt him into paying, then great! The truth of the matter is: Most women today have no shame and no conscience when it comes to taking advantage of men financially!
Agreed. When my wife and I went on our first date at 18 (me) and 17(her) I planned a movie and dinner. After the show I asked her if she wanted to go to sizzlers because it’s was closer or Dennys. I’ll always remember her answer, “isn’t sizzlers more expensive? We can go to Dennys” right there and then I knew she was considerate and respectful. We’ve. Been together 6 years, married 3 years, and parent a 2 year old. It’s the small things we have to be mindful of.
It also shows a kind of practicality that is essential in a wife - to manage the household (which in the past was often as complicated as a business) with good judgement.
Look at them all nodding when he says if the man doesn't pay fully he wasn't raised right, not a single nodding face when he says if she didn't even offer, she wasn't raised right. Second of all, merely offering is just another BS excuse to never contribute, because they're banking on the man to pay anyway, so they're taught to make a fake gesture of paying but knowing they won't have to. It's not genuine.
@@ararune3734 That's not what he meant. He was trying to tell them that it's not their birthright to be fed. If they want respect, they should be willing make an effort and if the man is raised right he wouldn't allow them to pay anyway but atleast they should offer to pay. That's basic courtesy
@@saisatyamishra Are you just making my point but with different words? If you set the paradigm that the man will pay anyway if he's raised right, and the woman is merely supposed to offer, you are teaching women that all they have to do is fake offer. Because the assumption is he will pay, or there won't be a second date because he wasn't raised right. You're not the sharpest tool in the shed. Basic courtesy? No, basic courtesy is paying for the stuff you consume. You're not entitled to anything, put your big girl panties on and work. It's 2022, women are all about equality now.
honestly, that’s exactly it. the entitlement. we already pay for our own lives. nobody gives guys free shit. paying isn’t the problem, it’s feeling like a doormat that is
"If a girl doesn't offer to pay for their part, they weren't raised right" No one laughed "If a guy doesn't pay for his part. They weren't raised right" Females laugh
I think he phrased it very nicely and didn't get mad, he's a cool dude and hopefully the women understood it that way. The example with the best friend is a very good one 👌🏻
TRUE!!!!My best friend, God rest his soul, when I was having a hard time money wise, would ask me hey lest go fishing, and I said I was busy , he knew what was up. That is why he suggested fishing is fairly cheap, just some bait and brews. He knew even though I was low in the wallet, he never made me feel like a broke ass loser. When things turned around for me, I told him I really appreciated how he kept my spirits up and he said, "Bro, you would have done the same for me." THAT is a friend!!!
@@DanTuber brainwashed into thinking she should be treated special and that they don’t have the same responsibility to contribute to a relationship in the same ways that a man would. Not only is it expected that a man pay for dates, he also has to get gifts for Christmas, and her birthday, and Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day if they’re married, and on their anniversary. They should all be great gifts that make her feel special. Every single year. Women do not spend as much on men as men do on women when in a relationship, not even when you take into account what they can contribute proportionately.
What gets me about young women today is all their talk about equality, then they give you a list of everything men should do and yet they aren’t willing to do any of the things they expect from men. I met my husband 24 years ago, he was old school thought he had to pay for everything, our first date was to a concert I bought the tickets he paid for dinner and then he wanted to know how much the tickets were worth so he could pay me back. I told him no he paid for dinner I’ve got the tickets covered. There were other times I had to grab the bill first so I could pay. These women need to get off their high horses and start acting like responsibility adults if they want have a lasting relationship with a decent man.
You are a Unicorn and your husband a very lucky man. The MAJORITY of women are exactly as you've stated and there is NO saving this situation...it will take at least a generation which will include a major decline in births and the younger portion of the female population seeing / learning from the older generations UTTER Failures.
Im definitely more a traditional type, so Im rather persistent about paying for things like meals and drinks and such. But this dudes 100% right. I've never given my time to a girl who didnt at least try. Ive had my fair share of partners but after hearing what he said and looking back, all of them at least offered to cover their half at the very least, and they did it consistently. I always appreciated it too. Dont waste your time on women who arent at least willing to consider you. Even if youre more than able to be giving, dont concern yourself with women who can only take.
Well 95% of human existence is tribal hunter gatherers where men hunted and women did their bit by gathering fruits and vegetables. Teamwork Then we became farmers and invented property and women and children became property and marriage was invented. This involved men purchasing the sexuality of women in exchange for security so they can be best assured that they are passing their farm lands down their own blood lines. This new invention of marriage represents less than 5% of human history. So no you are not traditional if your behaviour (paying for things) represents less than 5% of human history. Teamwork is the tradition which is what I do. So I am the traditional one and your are merely following modern convention about creating your partner as your sexual property in exchange for $$$.
@@PizzaLord LMAO! Where did you get your info from? Marriage existed in the hunter gatherer society too. It's most probably almost as old as Homosapiens themselves and maybe even before that. There is a high probability that marriage was practiced even in some other homo species.
@@mathewjose4753 Nope. 2350 B.C., in Mesopotamia was first recorded marriage. Hunter gather era was mostly all of the last 200,000 years up until about 8,000 BC when we went though the agricultural revolution, became farmers, invented property and started living a sedentary lifestyle including founding the first cities and countries.
For any women watching this video,the GESTURE to a man means SO much because it makes us feel appreciated,not even just a dinner but in life in general.99.999% of the time a man will play his role not because we have to but because we want to.The tiniest things can mean so much to us sometimes which inturn makes us play our role even more.
and it can be a flaw for sure. sometimes i take the smallest gesture as the biggest thing but it meant nothing to the lady. on the other hand.. sometimes they make a small gesture to me and im clueless it was a gesture in the first place but this is where mature communication comes into play and being able to say "hey.. whats up with this?" or "whats not up with this?"
I took this girl out to a vegan restaurant (i'm not vegan but she is so I compromised) after we were done, I ask the waiter for the check. He doesnt ask if we were paying separate or together, he doesnt even just place the bill on the table. He hands it right to me. Obviously I was going to pay for the date, but the fact that it was just assumed and expected that I pay was just baffling. Atleast allow her to offer. Losing benefits to being a man but damn sure not losing the responsibilities huh...
Slightly playing devil's advocate here but in the waiters defense "you" did ask for the check. Don't know if you may have phrased it as "May we have the check please?" or not and moved accordingly but your point is taken.
My friend and I always contributed and paid our own way. It's respectful and puts you on an even keel with no expectations. Friendship only, which is just streetwise and common sense to me.
When he say: if a woman don't pay she wasn't taught right (the room in silence 🤐) if he doesn't pay he wasn't taught right (all the room "yeeeeah"). I can't believe that in 2022 women haven't understood human nature.
Men are supposed to provide, if you dont want to do so, then don't expect a woman to respect you. Personally if on a first date the guy doesn't at least offer to pay the bill I cut him off very quickly.
Like I get soo embarassed asking for money Be it date with someone or hanging out with friends, all of us divide the shares equally and we pay for our own part , and nobody ever complains, like idk the thought of letting someone else pay for me is embarrassing
@ globe1987 You are a rare woman, indeed ! Kudos to you for being an adult ( unlike these women ), and a woman deserving of respect! ( again, unlike these women! )
@@daleweiss9507 It's amazing to know such great women still exist in this world of women who think they're queens and men are there to worship them. I wish you two a great life ahead
I just love his reasoning. I was expecting a ‘man DESTROYS room of women,’ kind of video, but this was very refreshing. A lot of this stuff seems obvious, but I hadn’t considered it before, and he seems like a bloke who’s leading with love, who genuinely wants to give advice where he can. I have some very wealthy friends who I’m sometimes uncomfortable navigating this kind of dynamic with when they want to be generous. I’ll be checking this guy out more, for sure!
It is obvious but women in general are always looking for ways to not contribute to a relationship. They're not looking to put any work in for love. They're looking for a way to coast through life on easy mode at mens expense.
“If you don’t offer to pay, you weren’t raised right.” SILENCE “If HE doesn’t offer to pay, HE wasn’t raised right.” LAUGHTER The hypocrisy is palpable; I’m guessing not one woman in that room would admit that being lesser (even by somebody else’s actions…’not being raised right’) was even a possibility…but it’s highly likely that the man is…and “…what a predicament womankind is in to try and find ‘a good man’…”
This is the problem with modern society. It used to be that you could use slick comparisons like that, where you give a little slack and tell them something they want to hear, to get them on your side and they'll be more accepting of your belief. But women these days will take all the slack they get, "oh yeah men ain't shit if they don't offer to pay", but there's deadpan silence with the alternative. I'm willing to bet out of that room of ~250 women, not even 10 of them thought about that comparison with any sort of depth and introspection. And I think that's because they're raised their whole life being told they're pretty, perfect little princesses who deserve only the best, and anything lesser is not worth their precious time, so they haven't learned empathy and compassion. Ironic since we're always told women are the more emotional, empathetic gender, yet they can't understand why we'd feel like crap having to pay for everything all the time, lol
This is by far the best explanation and illustration of the whole "man should always pay" myth. He absolutely nailed it. Especially, the whole "if you're not even TRYING to contribute, he's going to feel used or taken advantage of". This simple reality is the crux of most toxic relationships .... and a lot of women don't see it. Then, they wonder why their guys will disappear or find someone else.
@liz blanco My guy friends looked out for MUCH more than ANY woman I EVER dated! Period. Besides ruining my financial health and take my piece of mind... most ladies add little to NO value to a man. Until that changes...there will be a continued decline in the male dating pool. That wasn't the case with my parents and grandparents...but it is surely the case today. The few that add value are quickly picked up. Most ladies I know DON'T cook, clean or take care of emotional needs of a man AT ALL. That's why men aren't getting married... and why we have 2 generations of single women right now Liz.
@liz blanco You've never cooked for friends or see to any emotional needs? Are you sure they think of you as a friend? What value do you add to a relationship then? Dating or otherwise? I've offered to and have helped to clean my friends' homes after they've hosted or help to get food ready or whatever else. It's what a good friend does. I guess adding nothing to a relationship is part of being a female.
@@renmes2636 Yes, I noticed the crowd reaction. I've seen a few of his videos, etc. And he genuinely spits out some good OBJECTIVE relationship advice. Based on realistic issues .... not the "make-believe, romantic, perfect-world, based on a romcom movie" version. I think, a lot of his followers (primarily a female audience) make the mistake of assuming "He's a champion for us women. He'll take our side". Aaaaaand this is why a lot of the female audience in this video clip were taken aback by his reply. What I want to know is, how many of the hardline "the man must pay always" types in his audience / fan base will actually take onboard what he said, consider the logic of the point he's making and maybe change their way of thinking. Or totally ignore him, don't change, continue to expect all men to pay for everything always ...... and later wonder why their guys don't want a relationship with them because they feel unappreciated and used.
I think exactly like this (as a woman myself). I am someone who is making her career in Engineering and have seen financial adversity as a teen and other traumatic events while living with a single mother. But even when I keep to myself, respect everyone around me, do not belittle anyone at all, I keep hearing belittling comments from the men around me (the classmates I had during my undergrad). I belong to Pakistan and a lot of hatred stems from the fact that women started becoming capable while they wanted to keep them at homes and not make them capable of any thing at all. For some women here, it really is difficult to receive an education. You just get transferred from one home to another and there is no surety how your husband might be and for most of the married women, no returning to their parents home cause they shame you this much. Hence the reason of low divorce rates here. Apart from the priveleged girls, sports is not common for us. It is a taboo. And if any girl IS in sports, they hate her. There is one strata of society, mostly the conservatives that actively bar you from receiving any education, support and enforce early marriages, think of women as only child-bearing individuals and hate those of us getting educated and making our careers. Then there is another strata of our society, where young guys are equating our society to West as if we have got the same problems and as if the women here are doing the same things Western women are doing and in all this, they project hatred toward us who have done nothing to them, pass sexist comments like women are dumb, go back to kitchen etc. So my question is to the guys here in the comment section: How do I survive in an environment where the guys start generalising everyone? And hate you and belittle you? I am honestly intimidated by how much hatred is only increasing against women among men and do not know how will I get to make my place in industry if everyone out there hated me just because of my gender. Also, during my first semester, one of the workshop instructors at my university remarked: "Larkion ka kaam wese bhi safai hota hai" which can be roughly translated to "Women are supposed to only do cleaning work". And I received it while I was clearing chips off the bed of milling machine. Before joining University, I was not aware of how much hatred my society had for women and yes, we are not much different from Afghanistan. Plus I am not a feminist at all. All I say is let us get an education, and let us enjoy life too. Cause they bar you from sports and literally every thing here. The existence for an average woman in Pakistan is mundane and miserable.
Saw ur comment thought I'd say stg. Be secure and confident. I uds pakistan is still a very backward country w ppl still w old fashioned mindsets. Understand it's not you, it's them. People are insecure and quick to judge. Do not take it to heart. As a daughter to a single mother I'd advise you to really ask yourself what you want from a man. You're engineer just like my sister. You are capable and know your boundaries. Im going to generalise when I say this, there's three types of women that come from a broken family, one that chooses a husband that is abusive and doesnt put in effort. Another who is single and unhappy because she rejected the right capable person in her early years. Last one is my own mother. She focused on herself only until my dad came along told her he wanted to marry her (my dad studied hard had masters and js very capable). It comes down to figuring what you want exactly so just take the time to ask yourself what you deserve. Someone who can commit. You can only ignore what other people say to you. They're insecure. Don't worry about them. You must be sure of what you want. Also if you're gay and into women, same thing applies
@@rsolo9294 Thank you for your words and your perspective! yes, you are right about choosing the right man at the right time. What really bothers me mainly is the hatred for ALL women out there. Cause so many us are not gold diggers, are simply working for their ownselves or for their families, choose STEM fields because it made us curious too! or we were simply curious about it as kids, want to do sports cause we need that adrenaline rush too, want to travel cause we need to set aside mental burdens too. It is the affect of hating all women on to the women who don't actually do bad to anyone that I am concerned about and which has affected my mental health real bad. But guess I cannot change people's views and would just have to bear the brunt of it. Thank you again for your reply by the way!
U have to understand that u will not be valued for ur career but by ur family so its important that u do find a husband especially when ur educated and working. Women instinctively want a man in their lives that's just how u are.
Honestly, you're in a rough situation because the culture and society you're in is hostile to women. What feminists in the west pretend is happening to them, is actually happening in Pakistan. There's no quick fix or simple answer, all anyone can really say is ignore anyone that views you as less than an individual. Anyone that generalises you or anyone else is projecting their ignorance. If possible, maybe you could try moving to the west? I'm in the UK and the irony is we get many ultra conservative Pakistani men immigrating here bringing the ideas you're talking about and they get protected because they act like they're refugees or asylum seekers, when it's the women in PK that we should be helping. I wish you the best, genuinely. I don't just mean that in a dismissive sense, but truly hope you find the life you are working for.
Yep. I remember a breaking point when I was about 21 and this girl I was dating assumed I paid for EVERYTHING. She was spoiled rotten by her mom, told she should never have to pay for anything, etc etc and I finally told her "You bring nothing to the table. Your entire contribution in all this is I get to have sex with you. My time and my money are more valuable than that." And I dumped her. I don't think I can even convey the look on her face, and it was the most liberating feeling in the world to finally be able to say that. Ever since then, I made it clear that if we date, we both contribute when we can, where we can. Since then, I've had the healthiest relationships I've ever had and am now happily married to my best friend, who I get to now call my wife. Stay safe Kings.
@@benndarayta9156 Yeah more and more women are dating sugar daddies because they pay for everything. Many of my female friends in university dated oldermen who had lots of cash and paid for everything. It was so good.
That shit is sooo true, every girl I dated that offered to pay were long lasting relationships. The point is at least offer to pay, respect is a Big thing for us men. Look how those women all shut the f@#k up. Total silence in the room
Goodluck out there, but like I always try to help men understand, dating, marrying or even casual sex with western females is like playing with fire... Sadly you're looking at false accusations, liabilities, divorce, alimony, child support, and or even death... An argument at a club with your gf can lead to a simp coming to her aid and killing you over arguing with YOUR GF!! But unfortunately many men in the west have to learn the hardway! The worlds a big place come travel like the rest of us! Non feminist countries are paradise for straight men!
Here's how I feel about dating: if I ask someone out on a date, I'm willing to pay for it. If a woman asks me out on a date, I expect her to pay. Equality shouldn't just be a feel-good, political term---it should be based on mutual respect between two people.
@@Edithae not sure if this is sarcasm but that's mostly false. When if the guy was a chad most of them wouldn't still not ask him out. At most the would be in his vicinity until the he ask her. Not saying all women does this but it's majority over minority.
IMO it doesn’t matter who asks out who, they should split the check no matter what, if me and a friend decide to go out to dinner I don’t expect either one of us to pay the full meal, no matter who asked to go eat, because we both agreed to going out together, this argument shouldn’t change when a relationship is romantic.
He's right about the gesture thing. That's really all we want. Hell, a lot of the times when my girlfriend offers to pay half or pay for the whole thing, I always refuse and pay for it myself, or I give in to her nice gesture. That kind of gesture tells a man that you will be a great partner who will be worth being with long-term, because it tells us that you're willing to help out if things ever got bad, that you're trustworthy. If you offer to pay, the man will almost always refuse and pay for everything while appreciating your gesture. However, if you expect a man to pay, he will never want to pay for you nor date you again.
Exactly this. I am the type of guy who will pay for things (when feasibly possible due to potential money constraints) mainly because that's how I was raised. However, it means something to me when you offer to pay vs not saying shit. In the end I'm still going to end up paying but it's the little things that make a huge impact
GOOD stuff here!!! Thank you for sharing! My wife and I were friends before we started dating. We carried are friendship into our dating relationship, we shared paying on our dates. Married almost 24 years now. A lot of our dates involved walking and talking to save money.
The response about treating the man you are dating like you would treat your best friend was one of the best explanations i’ve ever heard. How can any woman dispute that is the way both parties should enter into dating?
@@es-rh8ooi mean, you said it....who knows, but i aint gonna be there for it. i been good on all this stuff man...i got focused on my money and just got people out my life in generala. People in general aint that great these days so i figured i would go the solo route until im financially chillin' and not working or having to deal with anyone or anything of my own choice. Most people aint worth trust i literally got 1 handful of those people...so im good and where i go they come with me.
@@es-rh8oo have you ever watched Love and Friendship, with Kate Beckinsale? I told my boys, and my girl they have to watch it, to show them what to avoid.
I can't believe this has to be explained to women. Like he said, it's not about the money., It's the principal, the entitlement, the expectation that's the problem. Serious question, do women ever stop and ask themselves if they'd want to date someone who acted like they do?
They are there to get advice from it you idiot so yes woman aren't dumb if they want to be better and have a more open mind. Don't shame them for being there asking advices no matter how dumb it is we shouldn't shame those who want to learn for the better even if they were dumb before. No one starts smart
@Polygon you're the only one judging others looks. I've seen alot of "average" looking people give advice on stage and people listened. Heck there's Ted talks with disabled man giving great advices and people cheering for them. Stop the senseless projection and judgements
The concept of a man automatically paying for dinner came from a time when we had very clearly defined and delineated gender roles and tradition. Women don't get to unilaterally decide which traditions they want to throw out while dictating to men which ones that they have to keep. As the late, great Kevin Samuels used to say, "They want a traditional man but they don't want to be traditional women."
It's the opposite. Men always want a High value woman. Majority. I'd say 80%. However, I would say 20-30% expect a high value man. In aspects of relationship views especially about tradition, women are always more humble 100%. A woman would consider herself successful if she bagged a man that does half of the chores, Has average to good looks, earns a good income (not necessarily high), isn't narcissistic, isn't sexist, doesn't have disgusting views on women, isn't a cheater, respects his mom, doesn't have an inflated ego, doesn't think women owe him s#s, and just genuinely have respect towards women, and lastly isn't a cheater. How rare is that? even though it's the standard it's very rare. What do men want in a woman? Nice looks, has an hourglass body, does all the chores, pays equally in a relationship, isn't materialistic, expects her to satisfy all his needs (if not he cheats on her), and expects her to still look young and have that hourglass body all her life. Now I don't think that is considered even remotely humble. Stop with the "humble women" it's always the materialistic men who go for materialistic women and get unhappy when they're being used. You attract the same type of energy you put out. You're superficial guess what? You'll attract another superficial person. It's simple really. Men expect high expectations of women and when they get that high value woman they get surprised that those women expect the same high standards. How funny. Men tea.
@@RolaAshrafAbbas Huh? Men's standards for women are objectively lower - this is statistically verifiable. Look at response rates on dating apps and hookup apps, its not even remotely close to being at parity. So there goes that assumption, secondly, men will happily forego an hourglass body etc. for fundamentally good traits (why on earth you think not being materialistic is somehow a reach speaks volumes about your character). It would seem superficiality is inherent to the decision making process of finding a mate, at least it is for many men and women, evolutionarily women have been incentivised to find high value men and men have been incentivised to BE high value men. I would argue the most important factor in attracting a partner is personality, yet if you are socially withdrawn or insular you will need to workout, get a high paying STEM degree and mitigate whatever "apparent" lack of confidence and personality you may or may not have - otherwise your chances of finding a partner is lower. I hardly think the club scene or bar pick-up culture is really the best metric for evaluating relationships, but it still serves as a good snapshot of the societal standards as to how relationship-forming as a whole is going. "A woman would consider herself successful if she bagged a man that does half of the chores, Has average to good looks, earns a good income (not necessarily high), isn't narcissistic, isn't sexist, doesn't have disgusting views on women, isn't a cheater, respects his mom, doesn't have an inflated ego, doesn't think women owe him s#s, and just genuinely have respect towards women, and lastly isn't a cheater." - You mentioned cheater, multiple times... which makes me think you might not be coming at this from a blank slate (i.e; you're coming from a broken relationship). Cheating is at parity, men ADMIT to cheating more than women, although apparently even that statistic is now reaching an equilibrium point, so as far as the pool of available partners goes in that regard its about the same. Sexism, narcissism, average to good looks etc. are ALL criterion that are shared by men too - men don't expect bombshell wives lol, that would be isolating the potential partners to like 0.5% of the total population, it would be self-defeating. As a matter of fact, men don't even care how much you earn - so using your own criterion for evaluation I can already tell you men have lower standards than women. My girlfriend is a kinder-prep grade teacher, I'm a M/A engineer - the income wasn't remotely a part of how we came to be. I think social media, channels like this and the female equivalents of it are all utterly corrupting, deluding and creating internal narratives that will ultimately lead to unfulfilled relationships. I'm sorry you've dealt with a cheater, as am I sorry for anyone of any gender who's dealt with infidelity - I just hope that you don't use that to ruin any chances you have of ever building a fulfilling relationship again. Maybe use your past experience to better inform you about your future partners.
I assume you will use your wife's last name when you get married? Or will you let your children use your wife's last name? traditionalism does apply in that
@@bilbonob548 Though it's a late reply, thank you for having a respectful argument with me. Interesting analysis, no I haven't been cheated on. However, most of my close friends have experienced that a lot in their relationships, which is why I was specifically focusing on that point as you can already tell. I do agree that superficiality is both common in men and women when looking for mates, but most of my male friends and men I've met in general expected a high standard woman but won't give as much in return. I know that this is my experience and should not be generalized, but I was just speaking from experience. Though I can tell I might've worded it wrong. I never said superficiality is wrong all I said was that you cannot have very high standards when you can't even abide by the same standard yourself. Yes, men are not usually money oriented. Yet it has been reported that men do in fact care about a woman's look four times more than women on average. Anyway, my argument stemmed from the humble women comments. Men complain about having to pay on first dates and request equality but when it comes to chores et cetera there is no longer equality? They want the woman to do all the chores even though 90% of women have jobs and work if not more. Which further proves my point. How does that make men more humble?? In your earlier statement, you stated that on average men and women are almost on the same level of superficiality which might be true (in combination of multiple factors from each side) in general which just shows that the humble women comments do not make sense what so ever.
@@janehopper8840 Why take a last name at all? There's tradition in that too. I'm not interested that you can find exceptions to common practice or prevailing tradition. You ignored the entire gist of my comment which was about modern women *unilaterally dictating* how they wanted to act and then how they expect men to act (though I am not suggesting that men are listening). Change doesn't happen in a vacuum. When you ham-fistedly wrench society and culture in one direction, you lose the right to complain about the second and third order effects that you create.
You gotta offer to pay. And you gotta be okay with actually paying if he takes you up on the offer. A man who pays only his share was raised with good self esteem.
![[DRAGON BALL LEGENDS REVEALS ＆ STUFF] LEGENDS FESTIVAL 2024 Special Edition Part 1](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/mV5bGIswTtQ/mqdefault.jpg)
This man is so calm and concise it’s actually legendary!
@@lionelhutz5137 yup,, that's because women are big kids,, they follow behind other women instead of standing out
Matthew Hussey is just another conman that exploits the fact that it is more profitable to tell women what they want to hear rather than what they need to hear. But I won’t lie he hit the nail on the head on this one. You know what they say, a broken clock is right at least twice a day.
@@playingwithballsack1533
In my experience, after seeing a lot of his videos, he's been right more than wrong.
I know Aba and Preach think he's a con man, but I think they misunderstood him on that issue and pointed too broad a stroke.
The audience was also amazing, nice and quite. Just adsorbing what he was saying in the moment, even if they did or didn’t like it.
He's Matt Husey, former PUA Training teacher back in the day. He knows his shit and dated lots of quality women over the years. Hence why he gets paid big money to help teach Women how to meet Quality Men they desire.
My wife of 14 years now - when we were dating, on the third date, she offered to pay for everything. I honestly thought it was a test and I refused. EVERY woman I dated before her rarely offered to pay - most NEVER offered to pay. I was just expected to pay as the man. So when this amazing woman grabbed the bill and paid for not only dinner, but the movie as well, I knew I found a unicorn. The very next date she came over and cooked me an amazing meal. She did all this because she was trying to impress me as much as I was trying to impress her. An actual equal relationship! And that strong relationship is now entering its 15th year 🙂
(Add-in) Thank you and respect to all of you who have extended best wishes to me, my wife and our family. I really hope fellow men find happiness and that one true woman who appreciates who you are. I'm thinking on adding videos to my channel about relationships after reading the responses. I understand the frustrations so many of you have - I was there before I met my wife. There is hope, brothers. Stay true to yourself! Respect 🤜🏾💚🤛🏾
When a woman spends money on you, she really likes you. Women and their money are really close.
Good for you man hope you're doing well!
@@jakobmalki8972
Depends . Before I met my wife i went out with different women they always payed.
They did it only because I am good looking that's it.
So it really depends.
Does she have a sister?
Man u hit the jackpot 🎊
Best line: "This is the most polite they're ever going to be." Too much truth for a room full of women.
Said with right attitude from handsome guy and they listen, they may not like the message but at least they're listening.
I feel that if a man asks a woman out to dinner, of course he should pay. Even maybe three or four more dates if he asks her out should pay. But after that I think A woman should definitely try to contribute. Obviously she likes him or she wouldn’t be going out with him that often, so what does she want to help him ? Before I was married my friends used to think I was crazy because when I went out to dinner with a man I would always order the cheapest thing, because I didn’t know his financial situation. I know things are expensive so as a friend why not offer to help ? I think it’s just the right thing to do .
@@sunnydaze2359 If you invited a dude to eat, you would pay for him ? gtfo
In my 12 year relationship I actually started out like a bit of a crazy bitch, but I've become waaaay nicer and more normal. However that was my original demeanor I had as a kid. I think I was just struggling with literal mental illness lol
@@Aypeross I don't see how that is hard to believe lol
The fact that he has to explain this to grown women is almost mind-boggling.
"grown women".... We live in an age when women (men too) were raised by the television. Seldom these days to young people have role models or mentor to help guide them through life. It's mostly trial and error. Sadly for women, trial and error means accumulating a high body count.
The guy alluded to it in his speech; essentially she was raised wrong. Whether that be by her parents, peers, TV, school or a combination of those and more. The fact is that expectation was taught to her
Those aren't women there immature girls.
Not Really, Modern Women eat the poisonous Mushrooms Mindset
The only reason they actually listen (or at best silent) is because he is Attractive to most in that audience.
This guy is great, he’s not even sexist in saying this. He’s being genuine and respectful. World would be a better place if things were talked about like that.
I especially love the line “if you go on a date, and he doesn’t pay, he wasn’t raised right”. He’s not arguing that the woman should pay, he’s arguing that, in a healthy relationship, everyone contributes
No shit he’s not sexist lmao, he’s using common fucking sense, which the world as whole could use a lot more of 😂. I swear we’re so busy running around with our heads cut off that we don’t even stop to try to put 2 and 2 together, instead we glance at them pick the 2 that’s more appealing in the moment and chuck everything else in the trash 🤦.
Ofcourse it's not sexist. It's sexist the other way around.
Yes, but in the years like these where snowflakes dominate, telling the truth and having common sense are not allowed.
ahh the goto S word
I had a female friend years ago, a highly qualified doctor who was a single parent. She listed the (expensive) restaurants she likes to be taken out to on dates. Immediately I knew why she's been single for nearly 10 years.
hahaha and she will stay single for another 10 probably
😂😂
😂😒
Who knew even having certain tastes men could make into a misogynistic insult
Wow, now people can't have their own taste…
I'm a woman and I agree 100% to what that man said. Relationship is about teamwork; don't always be at the receiving end, but also be a 'giver'.
When’s our marriage?
@liz blanco No better than what?
You didn't get it sweat heart, in the moment you had a side of receiving and a side of giver you fckup, you should only have one side, WE, when you understand is We then you are contributing as much as you can, as a partner, watch yourself you are doing great 💪🏽💛
@@JonyMSalomon the hell
@@kyumazu1926 you need something? Maybe a lesson or two? Sorry but i make no discount for multiple classes and i only give for free this kind of easy advices. Let me know👌🏽
He’s helping them not hurting them. He’s speaking facts.
Okay
So true. But a lot of women are emotionally hurt by facts, which shows that they live life on emotion mode
He’s inaccurate.
@@EmilyGloeggler7984no he's not. It's the truth. Women need to contribute as well. Don't put it all on the guy. A healthy relationship is teamwork and both male and female need to contribute to one another.
@@EmilyGloeggler7984please don't date someone
As a woman I was already cringing at the whole "you're the gentleman here, you're suppose to pay" and then seeing that the 90% of the women in the room agree to that statement is worrying. And those are the same women that claim to be feminist and wanting same equal rights and wanted to be treated the same as men.
Bill burr was right!
A woman who does not offer to pay even on the 2nd date is not worth a man's consideration as even a girl friend, let alone a wife! A woman like that is not a man's equal and is selfish as well!
Why should any man be a gentleman to these unladylike buffoons? You gain nothing except the privilege of being taken advantage of and implied access to a used orifice.
@@evorider3689 exactly yk she doesn't even have to pay just the though counts of "hey let me pay this time" lets me know ur not just here for my money ur here to spend some genuine time with me
He picked the nicest way possible and it still came out harsh.
*Equality dictates women are just as responsible to earn money the same hourly rate and to PAY THE SAME.* 😉😉😉
As a girl, I always thought that splitting the bill is the most responsible thing you can do and a healthy start to a relationship.
I would feel very bad if I ever made anyone pay full for my food only my parents are allowed to do that for me and I for them.
Maybe it's different if your just dating around with different people but me and my last girlfriend, whenever we went out, I paid. However, now take into account all the times she came over to my place and brought pizza, or burgers, or Chinese food, or a bag of groceries wanting to make me something. If your decent people and genuinely like each other eventually it all evens out.
@@johnfriday5169 yeah but its give and take at that point. as long as the scale isnt overly tipped in one direction, id say thats a relatively healthy way of going about things.
you a rare one
In my homeland men must pay and do all the stuff women are treated like queens , but womem are modest and clean not like the feminists
@@unknownaccount8411 where you from?
Funny how we've reached a point in modern society where grown adults have to be told "Be nice."
And have to have basic empathy explained to them.
Humans are f*cked up lol
So true
I mean, based on history that's a huge step up. Compare it to the balance 100 years ago.
@@BaneSIlvermoon I am confused.
You're suggesting that in the 1920s, people had less moral fiber and a less calibrated moral compass than they do... now?
@@NicholasBrakespear in the 1920s, women had just earned the right to vote and couldn't open bank accounts or have credit in their name. The relationship balance was incredibly different.
Older guy here, I ALWAYS paid, she NEVER paid. What did she do? "You like spaghetti? Come on over for a plate of spaghetti and we can spend some time chatting." I remember that "date" vividly, one of the best we had and it still warms my heart almost 30 years later. Married her, had a family, hold her close as often as I can and love her completely. She's still the most beautiful woman I've ever met and I look forward to many many years with her still.
Was it actually spaghetti….? Guess the old tricks still work 🤣
"I find the tasted of D on my holes mouth to be delicious"
@@parishapeach yea the old tricks work on fools that like dk taste xD not for other men who know how much you fk and suck to get what you want XDDD
Amen
MY kind of man. Old fashioned and pure.
Women in this generation: "there should be no gender roles"
Also them: "men are supposed to pay" 🤡🤡🤡
It's almost as if there are different types of women with different opinions. Hmm, mindboggling 🧐
@@christopher152 I was thinking and was about to comment the EXACT same thing
@@christopher152 Yeh but as evidenced by the video, a majority of women have this mindset. Plus, theres no way the op would ruin his comment by putting (There are different types of women with different opinions and this doesn't apply to them) stfu ;-;
@@Rabid_Ferret They are not a proper sample most likely. Probably from a geographically similar area, potentially already linked by a common desire/mindset. Although it was an overwhelming majority who shared that opinion so there is probably something to it.
@@Rabid_Ferret I don't know what type of inbred culture you come from to think that a majority of women think these way. Or maybe it's a generational thing and you're on the end of the spectrum where people are getting ready to wave goodbye to this world. Either way, I was never suggesting to improve his comment. I was simply pointing out how retarded his point of view is. No parentheses would help that. Now, you obviously on a whole different level of special and/or belong to some type of stagnated culture, so we better just leave that at that.
This man needs a medal for his articulate analysis of basic relationship issues of the modern day couple. Cheers to you sir 🍻
This is exactly what I think so too. This problem comes from the wrong education where everything is due or in other words they have been spoilt. It's normal that I try to impress her but she has to impress me as well! That man in my opinion not only he's a genius but also fair...
Son, they’re silent because you’re educating them on how to disguise to the next level, you’re helping women and hurting men… Good job 👏🏻 #motherraisedbeta
True! But it’s sad to think all those women need to be explained something so simple and logical
It's honestly imo just social programming, girls are raised to expect to be treated like a princess and it's being perpetuated by a lot of guys, groveling at their feet and worshiping them it's really sad
And a pair of socks unless it's no posh boy for the polar bear thing ? Bless him
I met my ex on Tinder - yes, I know... and when we went on our first date, she chose the restaurant - a very expensive restaurant, I might add. When the bill came, and I was about to pay, she said: "I chose the restaurant, I'm paying". And this was in Mexico City, where women are still more conservative than in the US. After that, and without even "talking about it", every time we did something, whoever chose the activity or the place, paid for it. It was the most comfortable and fair unspoken rule I've ever had in a relationship.
This is amazing
sounds like a keeper to me, really.
My ex and I never really talked about who is paying what, it was just clear that both of us pay half of the time. It worked. Even when we went on vacation, we had a list with personal expenses, like when she wanted to buy herself a nice dress, we would pay it out of our common money but she would put it on the list and finally we would add up all the personal stuff and balance the check. Turns out, in the end we both spent nearly the same ;)
@@jemand8462 there's more to relationships than who's paying for bills you know? idk if she's a keeper or not
This is my rule. Seriously. Unless we both agree on going Dutch whoever does the inviting to the activity pays.
No bro, that’s a real Mexican chick you got there. Kudos
Women will always tell men that "effort is sexy", all while making zero effort. Sorry ladies, spreading your legs isn't enough.
If the woman didn't really like you, she isn't even going to do that.
😂😂😂😂😂
It’s like the guy in the bottom left corner said. Men are usually willing, but it shouldn’t be expected. It shouldn’t be a standard. I’ve been expected and even demanded to pay for things. From when I was broke and then even worse when I started making real money. The guy in stage is 100% right about it being about the lack of gesture and feeling used when there’s only expectation and no contribution. Dating is NOT one sided, no one is a “prize”. It’s a partnership.
Brialliantly said.some women usually think they're a prize, playing hard to get and all that.
@@Kipchoge475
Mhm.
And even stuff like chasing and playing hard to get can be fine, so long that you’re expressing real care for the other person, and not just using them
Don't act like this dude gave any sort of insight all he did was mooch off of a guy doing better than him, like just look up this exact title and there's 50 vids with only that title and they're all reactions. They don't give a f
All he did was reword it in his own phrase. Stop acting like he's a saint
@SilverGhost no one's saying he gave special insight or that he's a saint, I'm just quoting his summary of an important topic that's undervalued in today's society. Stop playing dumb and get off the internet if you have nothing productive to say.
He is so well spoken, articulates his point and provides excellent reasoning. Without being able to do all of those, he risks losing an argument even though the point he is making is 100% truth.
It's not fair! He's attractive AND charismatic?!?!? I'm lucky to even have a smiggen of the latter on my best days!
Agreed. It did get a little tense for a minute in there. I thought he was going to have to call security. Lol.
I mean if the dude was ugly, the women would just say that he has no bitches.
Tbf that’s true for most argument
That goes for every single argument one tries to make.
This sounds ridiculous but it's the truth, I married my wife because she bought me a sandwich. We were in school not dating but in a pretty stressful group project together I'll spare you the details but picture a 4-month project with 4 people and hundreds of hours. I happened to be the best editor in our group so I stayed in the lab till 10pm one night and she showed up to bring me a sandwich. Men really don't need much to feel valued, just make an effort.
**Update, I'm really surprised this got so much attention. Comments are actually pretty wholesome for the most part. Not sure why but a lot of people asking about the sandwich? It was an end-of-day clubhouse from a Tim Hortons chain, it was stale and it didn't taste very good. I had to soften up the bread with hot chocolate. It's been a long time since then, we have a son now and my wife is a fantastic mother.
I know marriage and monogamy aren't what everyone wants out of life. But if it is what you want, try not to let all the negativity and bad statistics stop you from looking. Someone told me you have to slay some dragons before you find your princess and man did I find a dragon or two on the way (That's a whole other story). Be smart, protect yourself but keep looking, she is out there.
So sweet of u: she offering you the sandwich and you keeping this memory.
Also: that woman made you a sandwich🤣🤣 /jk
Amen
Im my mind, this story ends with you proposing immediately after taking the first bite of the sandwich. One because of the gesture and two because it tasted that good 😂
Congrats bro....
Must have been a good ass sandwich 😂
Very well spoken. We guys also deserve respect, dignity & appreciation for what we go through. We don't need much else. Thank goodness I've never been surrounded by gold diggers.
Especially when males suic*e rate is higher than females
Unfortunate fact
"Gold diggers" means women marrying a very wealthy unattractive man for his money without being in love with him.
If you want to go on a date, that's a job interview for the job of being a husband and job of being a wife.
One of the duties of a husband is to financially support his wife in marriage. He has to pay for meals during the dates, which are interviews for compatibility.
Some dates should be more than a meal, such as going to a museum where they can discuss what's in the museum. The man has to pay the museum entrance fees.
"You are the gentleman"
Yes, but are you a lady? You can't demand a traditional man when you are not a traditional lady.
If they’re not a virgin, they’re not traditional
Edit: well in most cases
They can demand it, because enough simps out there keep accommodating their bullshit
Facts.
Definitely
based + redpilled + ratioed + touched grass + touched iron + haipy (hairy and happy instead of mad and bald(mald(hahahahah!!!11 get it?)))
I'm a young man and my girlfriend and I started dating at around 16. In high school before college I had a lot more money to spend on food and dates and started the relationship off paying for everything, spoiling this girl with everything that I could afford, not driving myself broke by any means. When we were in college together and things were harder if she wanted to go out to eat and I told her I couldn't afford it she understood and would offer to pay for me instead. This is how a relationship works. She doesn't owe me for what was done before and I don't owe her for that time, but you do what you can and you're together in things.
Only because she was a keeper. Many would have lost it when you said you couldn't afford it, call it an excuse and bitch about you. You got lucky, that's an important factor
My boyfriend and I always split equally. Of course paying for one's ice cream when we're taking a walk isn't a big matter, that's what we'll for sure do without hesitation. But like real meals are always split. Or cinema tickets, gas price, and and and.
Right now he is more financially stable than I am because I am only a student. I do work, yeah, but I have cost of living still yk. I will pay my part but I can't sadly offer him to pay tickets for him. But when I received my first ever big pay check a month ago I wanted to pay for the cinema for him. We sadly couldn't meet because he ditched me twice and now, after having had a 3 day vacation, my money is sadly empty.
Sorry to break it to you man but you lost her the first time you let her pay for you......her protected and provided for instinct would have come up that very moment ...and now emotionally she doesn't belong to you anymore.... she'll hang around as long as someone more dominant and assertive and loaded moneywise comes along and dump you for him.......and that will happen very soon if she isn't an unattractive fatty...there is no equal partnership between man and woman...
W gf
What you thought you was inspiring somebody🤣
I once dated a girl for around 3 months and paid for every meal, parking expense, gas, everything you could think of during that period. I once forgot my wallet in the car and asked her to buy me a drink, she literally hesitated with an offended face and said, "let me check my bank account real quick." At that moment I knew it was going to be over soon.
If she doesn't offer to pay on second date she is not the right one. You don't have to let her pay. But she has to offer.
3 months?
Dude, look in the mirror, you'l find the problem there
@@Bubbles99718 I was young and dumb. I'm happily married now and everything worked out.
@@clashoflions7339 If she doesn't pay the second date, how would you take the conversation to break it off?
Would you say "I don't want to date you because you didn't pay on the second date? And that probably means you aint contributing?"
Thanks
was she super hot?
Couldn’t agree more with this guy! There is definitely a double standard here. Some women say they want to be treated as equals with men, but when “equal” doesn’t benefit them in some way they get mad. As a woman, I find this infuriating!
As a woman, I agree with you!!!
Glad to hear you can see the logic here. I know many women who would freak out even when it’s true
Staying single, working on your dreams and let other people experience the mistake of getting with these women is literally the best thing you can do in this century.
💯
These woman? Most women.
@@quaid667 most women? All women
@@Kiruma_Tatsuki nah just most women. There are still some humble people out here in this world.
@@Kiruma_Tatsuki true. I get what this speaker is saying but if he has to point this out on a date, why go on another date? Just pay the bill and end the association there and then. That's the advice i would given myself back in the day. And my younger self would of ignored that advice lol
Him saying “this is the most polite that they will be” is the absolute truth. A lot of people just don’t realize that. What we all have to remember is that most people aren’t trying to be rude, they just haven’t thought things through. On the same point though, most people won’t gaf about being a better person
That is true, that's a good point most should know, but at the same time, I doubt most of those women wanted to think that through. I bet that's thought train they leave untouched in their subconscious cause they won't like the answer they reach and he just shoved it in their face.
I always told myself that dating should be the EASIEST part of a relationship, if dating is hard wait till you have to talk about bills and the future lmao
You mean most women TODAY (not in the recent past) don't care about being a better person.
@@ericwitt4359 what, were women somehow amazing at some other point in history? I seriously doubt a single woman helped stack the pyramids or lay down the great wall.
The closest women have come to measuring up to what men are simply expected of was the 800,000 female red army volunteers in ww2, compared to the 14 million male red army conscripts...
@@cpob2013 I don't understand what you are saying something I never said? I only think they were better than today. And who cares if they didn't stack a pyramid. They kept the home nice and clean and raised children. They did their part. Even in the 1980s and 1990s when many worked they tended to expect a lot more of themselves than they do now.
How did this man get a woman, let alone a whole room of women, to listen to him... especially when he is telling them they're wrong? Mans a wizard.
Edit: It baffles me how many people can't see a joke right in front of them. My comment was 5 months ago. Leave me alone. So many comments of people not understanding it. It's a comment on the internet. Don't take it seriously. Please. Dear lord.
cos he's good-looking. if he was 300 lbs. saying this they would flip out
@@qarcon3247 My comment was satire, but you're not wrong.
@@qarcon3247 😂 I was saying the same thing
He's fit, good looking, and makes a good point using psychology not bravato.
It’s the accent 😂
I love how proudly and confidently these women show their entitlement & abusive attitude. Society needs to be more comfortable calling them out on their bullshit.
When my husband and I were dating (we were both poor working college students), I still offered to, and did, pay at least half of the time. I gave him the money to have his alternator fixed in his car, he hated my paying for it; but, it had to be done. We always have operated as a team, kinda "us against the world". We celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary last December.....still a team!
That’s beautiful. I’m happy for you! God bless you!
Stories like these give me hope. Thanks for sharing.
It’s the only way! A belated happy anniversary. He’s a very lucky man 🌹
Congratulations! You are a great example of what men want in a woman. I'm sure he is a happy man
Awesome to hear congratulations
As a woman I've always offered to pay half, it's absolutely shocking to see what people have gone through in the comments
Not ppl, men
Yes, not people, its men. You should be cloned btw.
@Miriam Svenson ofc men are people, but it’s an issue that “affects” men, and not commonly other “types” of people, obviously when it comes to the relationship between men and women, I wonder how Gay men treat each other in this regard! 🤔
@Miriam Svenson it's just being more specific lol
It's an American thing. They have a culture of simps. My partner still pays for some of the meals we enjoy out after beeing for 9 years together. To the women i would ask. Why would you treat a partner like that? To the men. Why would you allow someone to treat you like a atm ??? This is not ok.
The fact women are in this seminar to learn the man's side is a miracle in and of itself
Searching for mind improvement is só important and Basic,but our generation managed to turn It into a super out of normal thing,but before knowing the truth you should ask yourself If you are able to carry the burden of truth for the rest of your days.
Come on...what women do is primarely to satisfy them
Are they really there to learn it from men's side? It feels like there must be something else other than that but I don't know what it is.
They were only there to drool over that one hot guy, who they would all be content with sharing.
They all listen and respect his words, because they are attracted to him. If a guy of average looks came with the same statements, he'd be booed off stage.
Yea to gather more Intel on us men
"Let me tell you what means something to a guy: trying"
The most easy, basic, and most true statement about relationships between men and women that will ever be spoken.
Out of everything that guy said, the one thing that made the most impact on them is the "I would always treat my partner how I would my best friend, you don't expect your friend to pay for everything everytime you go out" part. No more chuckling from the audience after that.
Exactly! Every time a woman complainns about her man, or says things like "Well, I'm going out, I shouldn't have to tell him, he can deal with it!" etc... I think well, that shows a complete lack of respect, and it makes you sound like a silly teenager; if you wanted that life, you could've stayed single. No man, or woman should have to put up with being treated like that.
Then there's the moods, and ignoring him because "He won't do.... and I want him to" their friends wouldn't tolerate being treated how they treat the men in their lives.
Mutual respect, consideration, honesty (but politely) and trust etc... are paramount.
Is it any wonder there are so many divorces? People lack humility, the ability to acknowledge they're wrong, they can't say sorry, they manipulate to get their own way etc... It's a tragedy.
In the past, when we in the west had clear gender roles and a nuclear family setup, it made sense for the man to pay. Usually, the woman was home with child, but now, things have changed so much and women still expect the man to pay, even when they themselves earn their own money. Equality is only wanted when its a net positive for the woman usj.
@@MylilPwny85 totally.
That part resonates with me too
MylilPwny@
I do not agree with you. Today every "beautiful" woman has many men she can choose more than ever. So why would she choose you? A man who is average and not the other successful men?
Paying this is one of a man's courtship ways to get the woman and stand out from other competitors and show that you have wealth and confidence.
No one is forcing men to pay on a date. They pay because they want the "beautiful" girl while the girl wants money and wealth in return because she knows what she is worth.
That's why men pay because they are "interested in a beautiful woman" and they are
They are afraid that a woman will throw them away if they do not pay and they will not find someone like her anymore.
But when it comes to a girl who looks bad with a good heart. Men are in no hurry to woo
And say emphatically that they prefer not to pay.
Every man has the right to choose the girl he goes out with if you are dating someone just because of looks then do not be surprised that she also has requirements.
If you are a handsome man then a woman will even want to pay for you and even take money from her wallet.
It's all a matter of how everyone sees their status in a relationship whether you are top or bottom. If you are in the groove then you will have to work harder to get a beautiful woman.
The women in the audience agreed with him because he looked good. And if he looked less good then they would say he's resentful.
And also what he said about me so that he "looks at a woman on a date as if she were his friend" is hypocrisy in my eyes. After all, I'm sure he does not mean to kiss his friend in the mouth. (Not gay).
Just as he wants a "beautiful girl" so the beautiful girls have the right to choose.
There is no such thing as truly love and especially love and grace.
Love is something you have to achieve especially that you do not look good.
After all this is not class or trip this is battel
I met a girl when I was 24 who like me had very little money. She also had some difficult times in her life. On our first date I watched her dig through her purse for as much as she could when the check came. Then I realized she ordered very little because she couldn’t afford much. Even despite my encouragement to get what she wanted. I found it heart warming and of course paid the entire bill as was always my intentions. I married that girl. 14 years later I can’t imagine my life without her. Men should be gentlemen and women should be ladies. This is not “traditional “, it is natural. And in this way you will find happiness.
Beautiful, I'm sure you both will be happy together forever🤗
You blessed mother f'r glad you know what you got. And you got what you got. God bless.
Such a woman is quite rare nowadays. I'm not playing such an uneven game.
One of the few actually based comments here
You make me cry vro 🥺, such a beautiful story ❤️
This man single-handedly described what I have been trying to convince my friends of doing in the most eloquent and emotionally detailed way
it plays out here perfectly coz the man's on a podium which exemplifies his status.And any knowledgable man knows what that means to fml psych.
No gurl would give a shet if he said the same on the streets
They ain’t yea friends pal 🤣🤣💀💀💀🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀
@@otakuhunter4817 Except they would. Because guess what? Women care about looks too.
@@oussovzzz3100 true,partly.They care more about your height than you ever care about their weight.
It is just not sold at a premium when men like to try out many sauces.
Hierarchial power rests above on the priority list.They would fight over a lanky guitarist among the band of sisterhood .Step back and recollect ,no man has not witnessed it happen.
As a woman I can't believe that a whole room of women think men should be paying for everything. No shame
For real, I invited a female friend out to dinner once, it was technically a date as we hadnt seen each other in years, and she came all dressed up. No discussion about money or who's paying for what - I invited her, so I was happy to pay. But even as I said "Dont worry, ive got this", she said "Are you sure?" - Just the fact she asked me that was a gesture in itself to make me feel like she wasn't expecting a free meal. That's all it takes! I was happy to pay, but that one question she asked me made me feel even more happy to pay. Ladies, it's that simple, I promise you.
Beware of being manipulated that way. There are enough women around who know this move gives them the highest chance of gettlng free meals (on a continuous basis, if the can pretend to be interested well enough)]
This guy is brilliant, very well balanced, honest, and giving these women some perspective, but he does it politely and nicely.
This reminds me of the author years ago whom became prominent largely
from his phrase, "everything I need to know I learned in kindergarten".
Such sanctimony. Everything you need to know you learned in 7th grade:
'it's a compromise'. If you want to stand on purity and the lessons you were taught in kindergarten, you can claim moral superiority. But it's the priggish, self-encomium of the moral, immature midget. YES...you do have to give up things to get things, and pious, self-aggrandizing holier-than-thou phoniness is one.
If she's so insanely hot that they're standing in line by the millions, and they're out there,
you do what's necessary or join the queue: OUT THE DOOR...
(not directed at you individually)
does it politely and nicely, not something kevin samuel can do 😉
@@chrisathian5450 that is absolutely correct 👍
@@chrisathian5450 race plays a huge part into who's willing to listen on both ends.
@@Area51beatz indeed
"when you are not even trying to contribute, then he feels used"
not a SINGLE nodding face
Its amazing you caught that . Can't believe I am so unobservant.
Cuz that’s what they do, they wanna use guys
Well is simple really they wanna go after the most muscular brad pitt looking dude possible yet they feel like its an obligation to them to get things like that cause 90% of them feel like disney princesses who need to be catered to
Wow not a single nodding face!
I'm really disappointed and I'm apologising on behalf of the disgusting women in that room😔
When they use us it's fine, but if we use them it's a violation. These double standards dude.
I will never forget this. I had no money or real income for a long time, especially during the college/dating years, and the girl I crushed on must have really crushed back on me. On our first lunch together I barely had enough on me to pay for my own meal, which I inevitably had to reveal to her by the end. She was intuitive and perceptive enough to realize that I liked her so much that I was literally spending my very last dime on me to be with her. She laughed and paid for her meal and the tip for the waiter. We dated for 4.5 years before getting married, and are now 7 years married still going strong as ever...I don't know why I felt compelled to tell this story here, but well...there it is. I'm one of the luckiest men on the planet.
You feel like one of the luckiest men on the planet because in that one afternoon she showed you without a doubt, she valued YOU!, not what you could buy her, not what you could do for her, just You. And that is the greatest treasure you can find in life, a true partner.
You know that "joke" about how only women, children and dogs are loved inconditionally cause men are only loved if they bring value? She showed you that you trully are loved inconditionally.
You are indeed one of the luckiest in the world. Good for you man!
This was a sweet story. Thanks for sharing!
She saw you as a human. Not as an ATM machine.
Call it empathy, love, friendship or all combined, she is the one for you. I'm happy for both of you
You felt compelled to write this because you wanted to share with people how good it can be
It may be a long time before a guy finds Mrs. Right, but stories like yours gives us hope for the future
inside every feminist is a future middle-aged cat lady.
stil better than living with a man child
I'm a middle-aged widow with 3 cats. I believe feminism ruined women's lives! I reject everything feminists stand for and truly believe they are only a small group of women. MOST women don't agree with their bitter, resentful, harmful, and toxic rhetoric!
This man clearly is not a cat lover. If he was, he wouldn't be telling these women how to avoid being a cat lady.
Relationship goals is being a cat couple.
😼😂
🙀
Sure he would! He wants all those cats for himself! If they become cat women, then he can't have them!
Only the most undesirable of women get that fate, the rest just find a betabux loser to settle down with lol.
"It's not about the money,it's about the GESTURE" well said brother🍻
I was on a date with a lady and she ordered butterfly steak. She made a point of telling me she'd ordered butterfly steak. I'd never heard of butterfly steak and I wondered how did they get a steak from a butterfly? I asked her - "do you enjoy butterfly steak?" She replied: "It's the most expensive thing on the menu, I wanted to see your reaction."
I asked a lady on a date and she said she couldn't afford it as a single mum. I said I'd be happy to pay, and she agreed after persuasion. I asked her to pick where, she picked a Korean self-serve buffet. It included self-serve soft drinks and when I finished mine ( more than once ) she grabbed the glass and refilled for me. I got a bit annoyed at that as I felt I was interfering with her meal and enjoyment. Her explanation? "I can't afford the meal but I can afford to show you consideration." Guess which one touched my heart?
Daamnn bruh
That's a fantastic line! Women don't even have to contribute money, but just SOMETHING positive back.
Man are simple creature to be pleased with..but still they dont understand that.
Women who show maturity and consideration are huge ass turn ons! And not even the sexual kind, but the kind that truly matters in a relationship.
Not gonna lie, when I read the last part, my eyes started to sweat a little bit…
4 or 5 months, and not paying a share! Mind boggling!
The fact that this is a “news flash” to so many women is mind boggling.
I don't know any woman who would expect her date to pay for everything. Maybe it's a culture thing. I'm in the UK and certainly the person who asks the other out on a date usually offers to pay. I would perhaps have accepted that if I knew there would be a second date when I would assume it was my turn to pay. I would never assume someone is going to pay for me!
@@maxineallen5673 then you and the women you surround yourself with are decent people. I am not in the UK so you may be right about the cultural thing, but a lot of (I won't say most because I don't know most) women do expect men to pay for everything and treat them like princesses. At the same time they wonder why men don't respect them.
@@maxineallen5673 but since it's common that the man ask out and not the other way around , usually the man pays aha but I agree with what you say
Also if a woman likes you she will flirt to the point to try and get you to ask her out. Rather then doing the asking herself. That in itself also sets the tone for unequal treatment. She is setting you up to guess and act based on her wants.
@@maxineallen5673 As another European I think this is mostly an american thing. At least when talking about the west.
I will say, respect to the women for listening and not talking/booing him.
They only listened because he's attractive, most women go off feelings and superficiality, not the actual value of something. Regardless of his words, if this guy was ugly, they'd have thrown him off stage
@@chico9805 exactly plus they all looked on the older side too early-mid 30’s or above much more desperate to find a man….if they were in their 20’s they would’ve been screaming and yelling back with their usual feminist talking points
they are in shock, and there was plenty of quiet nagging.😂🤣
I hear ya - Glukhar_Agapov!
If you take a girl out - you pay, only if it’s a first date.
Now after that, if you keep on going out to eat - that’s a whole different story, and I don’t think you can just keep on paying, unless you’re wealthy and can afford it.
Having said that, just go out for a cup of coffee, if it’s someone you’re just getting to know - don’t waste your hard-earned cash on just anyone!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Of course their mindset is a bit different than the norm just for showing up to his talk 😁
I’m in total agreement with what this guy. It’s plain and simple. No guy wants to be taken advantage of. This idea of entitlement has gone way out of context. Women should always find a way to contribute in a relationship.
I mean a relationship isn't a relationship if there aren't two people actively in it.
So yes naturally women do contribute into the relationship.
Or else it wouldn't be called a relationship
In my mind the whole framing is off.
First, the title of the video: "Man Humbles A Room Full Of Women" - does not convey respect. It conveys dominance and superiority.
Second, the question was honestly very simplistic and prescriptive. There isn't ONE way to deal with others (whether you are on a date or not).
Third, the response was more nuanced than the question, but it still was prescriptive. Certainly there are general expectations of the woman and the man (or with just women or with just men), but the key is communication. The two people can work out these issues amongst themselves.
@@wd4440 no they don't. That's why this is a hot topic. Women are recievers. Expecting and rarely ever do anything.
Why don’t we call things the way they are?
Women want men who can best provide for potential future offspring. That is why men pay- it’s a heartwarming love story as old as tyme.
Here’s the thing, whatever you believe about being a man or a wohman, I promise you the amount of effort the average woman puts into looking beautiful to secure a mate, as well as the amount of financial resources and just plain old time, would blow men’s minds. Not figuratively, literally ;).
Now you can raise your picket signs and tear down the wall- the picket fence ideology, but the truth is if you like a high quality woman and you’re competing against some other dooder who can shell out the roo and you make the case that you won’t. You will lose Mates, mate, it’s a biological weapon of fact.
Now posy on down to crysville, jk stay toasty rabbit woasty!
Women were never meant to lead. It was to stand behind their man. woMAN. She was made out of a man. God made woman for men.
Can we applaud this "guru" for how well he handles this question in a group full of women? That was class.
The only reason he succeeded in getting his point across, is because he had a microphone. If it was one on one, the vast majority of them would have crucified him before he could finish.
Lol like shit we dont like logic
And also because he looks quite good.
very based
Underrated comment. Unfortunately 😢
Truth!!!!
The “men should pay” thing would still apply if feminism didn’t obligate all women to join the workforce
Because their contribution to wealth is miniscule without working, in this much I agree
@@ThatWhichObserves stay at home wives + mothers contribute so much to society, it’s priceless. Of course there are other factors, but we are now experiencing the consequences of this being taken away from our society (by godless commies).
Not feminism, the government. By not barring them from working the government is actually requiring them to work. Slave masters do that. We are slaves.
@@ThatWhichObserves you have it backwards. Their contribution to wealth and to society is staying at home to raise her children. A beautiful gift every man should try to give his wife.
Facts. If you don't earn you don't pay the bills. You earn you help your spouse with the bills. Simple as that.
He’s not humbling them. He’s helping them have better relationships. And that comes across.
Well, they needed to be humbled anyways
this guy gets it^
He didn't help them because none of them wanted the help. They all sat there stunned a man would call them out on their double standards. They all look like he slapped them.
@@ABC-sc2ip I would slap them ngl
He's doing both but it won't work. They're paying for a quick fix to apply to men being the problem, not to change their own behavior. Their silence speaks volumes.
I was in a 12 year relationship and then married her. The best thing about my wife is that during our dating period she always asked me to split the bill, and even if I didn't she made sure that she paid the next time, even when I did not demand anything. That showed how she was raised.
That’s a gem. I’m happy for you
Women... "Its about EQUALITY"
Men: "So its cool if we split the check"
Women: "Not that type of EQUALITY... you can have that one"
Lol
Well put, and says it all.
Most women aren't traditional now, so.if a woman still expects the man to pay I automatically assume she tries to use men to gain experiences at certain restaurants/venues at the men's expense.
Stop dating women who belive in total equality, including yourself. I don't belive in total equality because it doesn't exist naturally. Biological we are all different with different strength, so we have different task. There are still women who are independent strong intelligent, without believing the bullshit from today. Look at more traditional women who will accept your duties as a men.
😅😅😅 The craziness of it...
when any woman tries this bullshit on me, I simply ask how many years did she live as a man to feel comfortable about to talk about how a man should be, it works every single time for me.
Of course it does because it’s a great analogy, hit them where it hurts with logic 💪🏽✌🏽
Goes both ways. A woman can say the same to man lol
@@lolong5976 obviously likes of us can't lecture women on how to be a woman.
If anyone claims can, then lmao.
@@lolong5976 Yeah, which is why we have zero expectations of women. Can we get the base courtesy of not having to meet expectations in return?
@@TheStraightestWhitest sounds like a you problem. Just cause you have zero expectations of them doesn't mean they aren't allowed to have any expectations or preferences. Kinda stupid analogy you're using here. And if both you and your girl don't have any expectations then what's the meaning of having relationship?? You're just there for benefits lol.
You're already predetermined that every woman isn't worth it and yet y'all are whining about not finding"the one". Y'all sounds like some hypocritical feminist.
And bruh you really have over 4 comments on this video alone as early as 5 minutes. Maybe try to interact with girls in real life instead of forming your opinions based on girls you see on the internet lol
It's really incredible, how some women certain things still take for granted and at the same time yell "equal rights, equal rights!" There is still a lot of work to do, and thank god there are men like this guy...
How many of those women in the ground do you think he banged tho just sayin
🤔🤔🤨🤨
Months of dates and paying for them all is a lot of money
Ukraine and algorithms. That is all😂
u must be real stupid if u think paying for smth is the same as having no rights or being discriminated at stfu
I am a woman and never understood why a man would have to pay it all 💀
Expectations
because men set the system that they are the providers but when they need to provide suddenly they want to split 50/50
@@adapadada3546 50/50 is fair because if u don’t hit it off there’s no reason to pay for someone you’re not going to see again that’s crazy
@@adapadada3546 I'm a man and i didn't set anything
Humbling is the reason I’m smiling
I love the way all these uggo women are oogling over this Chad guy and probably not listening to a single word he says.
A wide ass genuine smile indeed.
No way, it's the real Borzah. Nice to see you here brother, glad you're good mentally as well, keep your head with the right ideas homie
Years of feminism and all women in the audience still shouted 'MEN PAY!'
Many women want equality, but not the accountability or responsibility that comes with it.
@@thehighllama8101 Exactly... They should've called it Female Greedism instead 😂
yeah they have to because of the gender pay gap .. the amount of privilege and dismissiveness in this comment is unbelievable
@@bysscanna Then it should also be unbelievable to you that 60 % of women make more than men now and they are actually the breadwinners. I thought a date meant you found interest in someone, not because politics is involved
@@bysscanna Men work longer hours, are more likely to be and die alone, are far more likely to be judged harshly by women for a lack of good looks or income (rather than vice versa), we live shorter lives than women, are more likely to suffer from depression, drug abuse, and homelessness, are more likely to suffer from physical ailments and mental illness, and are more likely to commit suicide. Oh, and we are more likely to work physically demanding jobs (like building the house you live in or the highways you drive on). And we're more likely to die in war. That's some privilege us men have. The gender pay gap is a myth by the way. Men work longer hours. My own life experience showed me that. It's rarely the women who work overtime, or work off the clock, or come to work when they're sick, or sacrifice their weekends and vacation time to come to work.
Honestly being raised by a feminist family, I never knew such kind of stuff existed. Like I grew up learning that we gotta split our bills, pay our part...both the man and the woman are doing the work... Why should only the man pay? Where's the equality in it? Love my parents for raising me like that.
It's awesome that you consider that a feminist family. Hearing that word sparks almost complete opposite in my mind by this point because of how many people misuse it put themselves up on a pedestal. This is what the word should mean. Advocating for equal status and equal respect.
That is what true feminism is
Not what i expected to read with the word feminism in the first sentence
@@rryumi Well, the terminology is completely correct. Feminism advocates the equality of woman to that of men within societies. Not female supremacy - unfortunately that is an ideology. Worse still, it is associated with the term 'feminism'.
Hence, it is an egalitarian ideology - both sexes are equal, and as a result this, it would dictate both parties, within a relationship, providing an equal contribution to sustain said relationship.
@@AshanBhatoa That technically IS the definition, im aware. Its just that feminism has changed so much and become so unclear that I kinda forget people CAN still follow the original ideology
I keep saying this as a older man, married, people dating need to wake up and realize, no matter how much you have monetarily, if you enter a relationship with these sort of crazy ideas and don't approach relationships like your part of a team where you both work to help each other best you can, then you are doomed to fail, life is too big and too tough and will wreck you if you think otherwise.
As soon as he said "confident and self-respecting" guys feel taken advantage of if she doesn't try to contribute.....BOOM!
His point landed like a ton of bricks! The type of men that women want most will walk away from them for the reason he stated.
Awesome.
Bro he said “this is the most polite they are ever gonna be and they aren’t trying to pay now” that’s fricking real
It's pretty scary! People sometimes need the red flags pointing out. If you're dating someone look for how they treat people, not just you, who they're trying to impress, but people who serve you in restaurants, shops, and other places. When I met my husband, sometimes I'd go into work with him, and we'd have lunch with his bosses, bosses, boss, and sometimes we have lunch with Lee, the janitor. My husband and I met online (I don't recommend it, as there are crazy people out there 😄) so I had to rely on my visits to see him to see how he was with other people.
I also think how people treat their parents is a good tell.
I loved it when he said about the way you treat your best friend, because I say it too.
People don't seem to have any humility anymore. They can't accept when they're wrong, can't apologize, can't see the other person's point of view etc.... There are still lots of amazing people out there, you just need to be careful ❤️
I was with a girl for a little while a few years back like 3 or 4 years ago, anyway up till then and even a little bit after we went our separate ways, I remember whenever we went out to dinner she always offered to pay and it eventually got to the point where we fought on who was supposed to pay. It was insane cuz yah I offered to pay and she’d tell me “nope I’m paying this one” eventually we made the deal of if one of us paid for dinner then the other paid for the movies for example. It was a very eye opening experience and let’s me know that there’s women out there that chose not to fall into the “a man is supposed to pay” way of thinking my wife is the same way
Honestly, those women are as rare as hen's teeth! Many women who DO offer to pay, are simply testing the guy, and if he let's them pay, then they will not go out with him ever again!
@Joetoy90 Exactly, that's how you route out the ones who aren't worth your time!
I was dating a person like that but they lost attraction to men and lost the probably best relationship I’ll ever have we were so compatible and are still friends since this was the second time we dated but man if it doesn’t hurt like hell that I can’t have them
@@evorider3689 I like that video of the guy talking to the woman on his left with his body turned towards her. When the check comes he slides it across the table over to the woman sitting across from him (which I assumed was his date). She has the look of "Oh, no he jus didn't" as well as the look of "I cant afford this".
@Hunchoz no they just aren’t into men anymore that’s it
This man speaks wisdom, truth, and just what should be implemented.
When a woman expects a guy to pay for her stuff because "he is supposed to" that's a major red flag! Emancipation goes both ways ladies.
If I have to pay for your meals when we go you you have to make my meals at home.
You should tell feminists that
What I find shocking is that in the USA people in 2022 say "men are here to provide" but if you ever say "women are here to take care of the home" you are called a sexist.
Dems da rules*
(* not actually the rules)
As a woman, I would agree!
The teammate / bestfriend analogy is on point. A lady has the right to be courted but let's not forget it's an old fashioned trope which used to also entail ownership of the woman by the man, so if you are a modern "independent", feminist woman, you can't really have both. You have to chose. No double standard.
As a mom (51) with two daughters, I agree with you and this speaker. (Guess I raised them right!).
Too true. But you're forgetting that feminists want it both ways. And they want rights, where men have obligations: they want to right to join the military, but not the obligation (draft). They complain about a "wage gap" but never consider the "death gap".... men dying in the workplace more than women. Is this death gap 20%? No. 30%, 40%, 100%, 500%? No it's well over 800%. Men die over 9 times more than women. I think that when the death gap is equalized then women can expect to have their total earnings equal that of men's total earnings. It's disgusting that they disregard the death of thousands of men whilst in pursuit of pay they haven't earned... and they'd earn it by working the dangerous, filthy, physically demanding jobs. Do men complain about the death gap? No. Men provide, feminists whine.
@@mjstow the wage gap is also because women have only been working 80 years, companies pay higher premiums for women for insurance on a regular rate, have some level of maternity leave pay and of course the built in premise that men are paying for everything
@@mjstow I tend to think those are female clowns and not feminist but i wouldn't know i'm not an expert on feminism. I'm happily an ally for actual genuine feminist though.
Edit: some women want to do more hazardous work traditionally occupied by men. They are just not the majority. People should do what they want to do as long as they know what to expect.
Guys need to just stay away from modern “ independent” feminist woman.. don’t even entertain it or one night stand it, it’s just not worth the hassle. Men are the ones in control, we always will be, we just need to understand this and make better choices with the women we date. Start thinking with your big head an not the One between your legs.
These women are clueless. Regardless of the logic and common sense this guy throws at them they will leave thinking "This guy is a jerk and a misogynist . The man should always pay for me".
Who cares what they think
Actually they know that it's unfair, selfish, and irresponsible of them to insist that the man pay their way. They just figure that if they can guilt him into paying, then great! The truth of the matter is: Most women today have no shame and no conscience when it comes to taking advantage of men financially!
i dont wanna be a pussy slave lol
They only listened to him because he's handsome.
we've got a mind reader here
I always went 50-50 on a date as I would buy my own if I was alone...being with a guy/girl does not mean they pay. This man is on point!!!
Agreed. When my wife and I went on our first date at 18 (me) and 17(her) I planned a movie and dinner. After the show I asked her if she wanted to go to sizzlers because it’s was closer or Dennys. I’ll always remember her answer, “isn’t sizzlers more expensive? We can go to Dennys” right there and then I knew she was considerate and respectful. We’ve. Been together 6 years, married 3 years, and parent a 2 year old. It’s the small things we have to be mindful of.
It also shows a kind of practicality that is essential in a wife - to manage the household (which in the past was often as complicated as a business) with good judgement.
bro sizzlers sounds good ngl is it only in your city or naw
But which one did you end up going to?
@@roeffcf1169 I never been to sizzlers.
Nice man
This is one of the best talks on this subject I've ever heard. Reciprocity is key and often, actions speak louder than words.
Always pay attention to the actions. Not the words. Everyone talks but only a small percentage actually follow through.
Being a woman I'm offended that they even had to ask such a question. Disgusting.
Look at them all nodding when he says if the man doesn't pay fully he wasn't raised right, not a single nodding face when he says if she didn't even offer, she wasn't raised right. Second of all, merely offering is just another BS excuse to never contribute, because they're banking on the man to pay anyway, so they're taught to make a fake gesture of paying but knowing they won't have to. It's not genuine.
@@ararune3734 That's not what he meant. He was trying to tell them that it's not their birthright to be fed. If they want respect, they should be willing make an effort and if the man is raised right he wouldn't allow them to pay anyway but atleast they should offer to pay. That's basic courtesy
@@saisatyamishra Are you just making my point but with different words?
If you set the paradigm that the man will pay anyway if he's raised right, and the woman is merely supposed to offer, you are teaching women that all they have to do is fake offer. Because the assumption is he will pay, or there won't be a second date because he wasn't raised right.
You're not the sharpest tool in the shed. Basic courtesy? No, basic courtesy is paying for the stuff you consume. You're not entitled to anything, put your big girl panties on and work. It's 2022, women are all about equality now.
SATYA+ OK MS ENTITLED
@@leelunk8235 She literally just explained what the dude said in the vid, how is that entitled?
honestly, that’s exactly it. the entitlement. we already pay for our own lives. nobody gives guys free shit. paying isn’t the problem, it’s feeling like a doormat that is
"If a girl doesn't offer to pay for their part, they weren't raised right"
No one laughed
"If a guy doesn't pay for his part. They weren't raised right"
Females laugh
Exactly!!....i observed that...lol
That's why all these women are still single and spent 1000 dollars on seminars like this.
@@lightdragon5821 lmao
@@lightdragon5821 don't tell the truth everytime 🤣
@@lightdragon5821 Women☕☕☕
That was dead on accurate. It's not the money. It's the effort. Period
I think he phrased it very nicely and didn't get mad, he's a cool dude and hopefully the women understood it that way. The example with the best friend is a very good one 👌🏻
TRUE!!!!My best friend, God rest his soul, when I was having a hard time money wise, would ask me hey lest go fishing, and I said I was busy , he knew what was up. That is why he suggested fishing is fairly cheap, just some bait and brews. He knew even though I was low in the wallet, he never made me feel like a broke ass loser. When things turned around for me, I told him I really appreciated how he kept my spirits up and he said, "Bro, you would have done the same for me." THAT is a friend!!!
You can already hear the hamster wheels going " dusty misogynistic pig "
Should be common sense but I agree. She not a sex worker so why I paying for her time xD. Should be equal.
I think a lot of them would hear but still reject it. They've been brainwashed for a lifetime into thinking a guy pays.
@@DanTuber brainwashed into thinking she should be treated special and that they don’t have the same responsibility to contribute to a relationship in the same ways that a man would. Not only is it expected that a man pay for dates, he also has to get gifts for Christmas, and her birthday, and Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day if they’re married, and on their anniversary. They should all be great gifts that make her feel special. Every single year. Women do not spend as much on men as men do on women when in a relationship, not even when you take into account what they can contribute proportionately.
What gets me about young women today is all their talk about equality, then they give you a list of everything men should do and yet they aren’t willing to do any of the things they expect from men. I met my husband 24 years ago, he was old school thought he had to pay for everything, our first date was to a concert I bought the tickets he paid for dinner and then he wanted to know how much the tickets were worth so he could pay me back. I told him no he paid for dinner I’ve got the tickets covered. There were other times I had to grab the bill first so I could pay. These women need to get off their high horses and start acting like responsibility adults if they want have a lasting relationship with a decent man.
You are a Unicorn and your husband a very lucky man. The MAJORITY of women are exactly as you've stated and there is NO saving this situation...it will take at least a generation which will include a major decline in births and the younger portion of the female population seeing / learning from the older generations UTTER Failures.
Im definitely more a traditional type, so Im rather persistent about paying for things like meals and drinks and such. But this dudes 100% right. I've never given my time to a girl who didnt at least try. Ive had my fair share of partners but after hearing what he said and looking back, all of them at least offered to cover their half at the very least, and they did it consistently. I always appreciated it too. Dont waste your time on women who arent at least willing to consider you. Even if youre more than able to be giving, dont concern yourself with women who can only take.
Totally agree! And love the gesture of what you do.
Well 95% of human existence is tribal hunter gatherers where men hunted and women did their bit by gathering fruits and vegetables.
Teamwork
Then we became farmers and invented property and women and children became property and marriage was invented.
This involved men purchasing the sexuality of women in exchange for security so they can be best assured that they are passing their farm lands down their own blood lines.
This new invention of marriage represents less than 5% of human history.
So no you are not traditional if your behaviour (paying for things) represents less than 5% of human history.
Teamwork is the tradition which is what I do. So I am the traditional one and your are merely following modern convention about creating your partner as your sexual property in exchange for $$$.
@@PizzaLord ooga booga
@@PizzaLord
LMAO! Where did you get your info from? Marriage existed in the hunter gatherer society too. It's most probably almost as old as Homosapiens themselves and maybe even before that. There is a high probability that marriage was practiced even in some other homo species.
@@mathewjose4753 Nope. 2350 B.C., in Mesopotamia was first recorded marriage. Hunter gather era was mostly all of the last 200,000 years up until about 8,000 BC when we went though the agricultural revolution, became farmers, invented property and started living a sedentary lifestyle including founding the first cities and countries.
For any women watching this video,the GESTURE to a man means SO much because it makes us feel appreciated,not even just a dinner but in life in general.99.999% of the time a man will play his role not because we have to but because we want to.The tiniest things can mean so much to us sometimes which inturn makes us play our role even more.
Beware some women now trick men with unsincere gestures, doing minimum efforts.
@@tshaolin971 women have been doing that since the dawn of time
My last girlfriend got me flowers for valentines day
It was honestly touching, I never even knew I wanted flowers.
and it can be a flaw for sure. sometimes i take the smallest gesture as the biggest thing but it meant nothing to the lady. on the other hand.. sometimes they make a small gesture to me and im clueless it was a gesture in the first place but this is where mature communication comes into play and being able to say "hey.. whats up with this?" or "whats not up with this?"
Ladies... ^--This.
There's your secret trick to men feeling you're special. Just be a decent and respectful human being, and not a financial abuser.
I took this girl out to a vegan restaurant (i'm not vegan but she is so I compromised) after we were done, I ask the waiter for the check. He doesnt ask if we were paying separate or together, he doesnt even just place the bill on the table. He hands it right to me. Obviously I was going to pay for the date, but the fact that it was just assumed and expected that I pay was just baffling. Atleast allow her to offer. Losing benefits to being a man but damn sure not losing the responsibilities huh...
That's what it is homie. Society is one-by-one taking away the benefits of being a man, while keeping and even piling on the responsibility.
Slightly playing devil's advocate here but in the waiters defense "you" did ask for the check. Don't know if you may have phrased it as "May we have the check please?" or not and moved accordingly but your point is taken.
That's not a compromise, that's a concession
@@l5lmgtlink well I always wave at the waiter and use the check signing gesture
You asked for the check man, of course they’re gonna bring it to you. If you’re splitting it you gotta let them know before they bring it
My friend and I always contributed and paid our own way. It's respectful and puts you on an even keel with no expectations. Friendship only, which is just streetwise and common sense to me.
When he say: if a woman don't pay she wasn't taught right (the room in silence 🤐) if he doesn't pay he wasn't taught right (all the room "yeeeeah").
I can't believe that in 2022 women haven't understood human nature.
I imediately noticed this. And was looking for this comment. They really are self-absorved hypocrites.
They understand human nature well enough to feel they are entitled to finesse stuff out of men.
Ding ding ding
Men are supposed to provide, if you dont want to do so, then don't expect a woman to respect you. Personally if on a first date the guy doesn't at least offer to pay the bill I cut him off very quickly.
@@tatianannar1065 no one is going to respect a woman that uses a man financially and you are definitely not traditional based on that pfp
I offer to go Dutch from the first date. If he insists on paying, I'll get the next one. These women are so entitled.
Like I get soo embarassed asking for money
Be it date with someone or hanging out with friends, all of us divide the shares equally and we pay for our own part , and nobody ever complains, like idk the thought of letting someone else pay for me is embarrassing
When my wife and I went on our first date she offered to pay for the movie, after I had paid for the meal. I knew she was a keeper right then.
@ globe1987 You are a rare woman, indeed ! Kudos to you for being an adult ( unlike these women ), and a woman deserving of respect! ( again, unlike these women! )
@@daleweiss9507 It's amazing to know such great women still exist in this world of women who think they're queens and men are there to worship them. I wish you two a great life ahead
I just love his reasoning. I was expecting a ‘man DESTROYS room of women,’ kind of video, but this was very refreshing. A lot of this stuff seems obvious, but I hadn’t considered it before, and he seems like a bloke who’s leading with love, who genuinely wants to give advice where he can. I have some very wealthy friends who I’m sometimes uncomfortable navigating this kind of dynamic with when they want to be generous. I’ll be checking this guy out more, for sure!
"man DESTROYS room of women"
Saw a hentai like that once
It is obvious but women in general are always looking for ways to not contribute to a relationship. They're not looking to put any work in for love. They're looking for a way to coast through life on easy mode at mens expense.
@@Flesh_Wizardlmao
Hi James O’Connor. I’m also James O’Connor.
He's a great dating coach who is intelligent and knows people well. I use some of his advice in my relationship even now.
Expect nothing get everything. Expect everything get nothing.
“If you don’t offer to pay, you weren’t raised right.”
SILENCE
“If HE doesn’t offer to pay, HE wasn’t raised right.”
LAUGHTER
The hypocrisy is palpable; I’m guessing not one woman in that room would admit that being lesser (even by somebody else’s actions…’not being raised right’) was even a possibility…but it’s highly likely that the man is…and “…what a predicament womankind is in to try and find ‘a good man’…”
What do you expect from a room filled with worms 😂
Typical whamen
Pathetic even for simple as first world problem
This is the problem with modern society. It used to be that you could use slick comparisons like that, where you give a little slack and tell them something they want to hear, to get them on your side and they'll be more accepting of your belief. But women these days will take all the slack they get, "oh yeah men ain't shit if they don't offer to pay", but there's deadpan silence with the alternative. I'm willing to bet out of that room of ~250 women, not even 10 of them thought about that comparison with any sort of depth and introspection. And I think that's because they're raised their whole life being told they're pretty, perfect little princesses who deserve only the best, and anything lesser is not worth their precious time, so they haven't learned empathy and compassion. Ironic since we're always told women are the more emotional, empathetic gender, yet they can't understand why we'd feel like crap having to pay for everything all the time, lol
@@eren69marley damn Eren I didn’t know the founding titan had Internet installed
This is by far the best explanation and illustration of the whole "man should always pay" myth. He absolutely nailed it.
Especially, the whole "if you're not even TRYING to contribute, he's going to feel used or taken advantage of". This simple reality is the crux of most toxic relationships .... and a lot of women don't see it. Then, they wonder why their guys will disappear or find someone else.
He crushed it Geoff. If you look at the crowd the ladies look bewildered. "You mean I should treat a man like my friend? Why?"
@liz blanco who hurt you
@liz blanco My guy friends looked out for MUCH more than ANY woman I EVER dated! Period. Besides ruining my financial health and take my piece of mind... most ladies add little to NO value to a man. Until that changes...there will be a continued decline in the male dating pool. That wasn't the case with my parents and grandparents...but it is surely the case today. The few that add value are quickly picked up. Most ladies I know DON'T cook, clean or take care of emotional needs of a man AT ALL. That's why men aren't getting married... and why we have 2 generations of single women right now Liz.
@liz blanco You've never cooked for friends or see to any emotional needs? Are you sure they think of you as a friend? What value do you add to a relationship then? Dating or otherwise? I've offered to and have helped to clean my friends' homes after they've hosted or help to get food ready or whatever else. It's what a good friend does. I guess adding nothing to a relationship is part of being a female.
@@renmes2636 Yes, I noticed the crowd reaction.
I've seen a few of his videos, etc. And he genuinely spits out some good OBJECTIVE relationship advice. Based on realistic issues .... not the "make-believe, romantic, perfect-world, based on a romcom movie" version. I think, a lot of his followers (primarily a female audience) make the mistake of assuming "He's a champion for us women. He'll take our side". Aaaaaand this is why a lot of the female audience in this video clip were taken aback by his reply.
What I want to know is, how many of the hardline "the man must pay always" types in his audience / fan base will actually take onboard what he said, consider the logic of the point he's making and maybe change their way of thinking. Or totally ignore him, don't change, continue to expect all men to pay for everything always ...... and later wonder why their guys don't want a relationship with them because they feel unappreciated and used.
He kept it real 100%
We need more men like him
Technically we need more women like him
@@jonathan45564 agreed.
@@jonathan45564 We need more women who like him!
I think exactly like this (as a woman myself). I am someone who is making her career in Engineering and have seen financial adversity as a teen and other traumatic events while living with a single mother. But even when I keep to myself, respect everyone around me, do not belittle anyone at all, I keep hearing belittling comments from the men around me (the classmates I had during my undergrad).
I belong to Pakistan and a lot of hatred stems from the fact that women started becoming capable while they wanted to keep them at homes and not make them capable of any thing at all. For some women here, it really is difficult to receive an education. You just get transferred from one home to another and there is no surety how your husband might be and for most of the married women, no returning to their parents home cause they shame you this much. Hence the reason of low divorce rates here. Apart from the priveleged girls, sports is not common for us. It is a taboo. And if any girl IS in sports, they hate her.
There is one strata of society, mostly the conservatives that actively bar you from receiving any education, support and enforce early marriages, think of women as only child-bearing individuals and hate those of us getting educated and making our careers. Then there is another strata of our society, where young guys are equating our society to West as if we have got the same problems and as if the women here are doing the same things Western women are doing and in all this, they project hatred toward us who have done nothing to them, pass sexist comments like women are dumb, go back to kitchen etc.
So my question is to the guys here in the comment section: How do I survive in an environment where the guys start generalising everyone? And hate you and belittle you? I am honestly intimidated by how much hatred is only increasing against women among men and do not know how will I get to make my place in industry if everyone out there hated me just because of my gender.
Also, during my first semester, one of the workshop instructors at my university remarked: "Larkion ka kaam wese bhi safai hota hai" which can be roughly translated to "Women are supposed to only do cleaning work". And I received it while I was clearing chips off the bed of milling machine. Before joining University, I was not aware of how much hatred my society had for women and yes, we are not much different from Afghanistan.
Plus I am not a feminist at all. All I say is let us get an education, and let us enjoy life too. Cause they bar you from sports and literally every thing here. The existence for an average woman in Pakistan is mundane and miserable.
Saw ur comment thought I'd say stg.
Be secure and confident. I uds pakistan is still a very backward country w ppl still w old fashioned mindsets.
Understand it's not you, it's them. People are insecure and quick to judge. Do not take it to heart. As a daughter to a single mother I'd advise you to really ask yourself what you want from a man. You're engineer just like my sister. You are capable and know your boundaries.
Im going to generalise when I say this, there's three types of women that come from a broken family, one that chooses a husband that is abusive and doesnt put in effort. Another who is single and unhappy because she rejected the right capable person in her early years. Last one is my own mother. She focused on herself only until my dad came along told her he wanted to marry her (my dad studied hard had masters and js very capable).
It comes down to figuring what you want exactly so just take the time to ask yourself what you deserve. Someone who can commit. You can only ignore what other people say to you. They're insecure. Don't worry about them. You must be sure of what you want. Also if you're gay and into women, same thing applies
@@rsolo9294 Thank you for your words and your perspective! yes, you are right about choosing the right man at the right time.
What really bothers me mainly is the hatred for ALL women out there. Cause so many us are not gold diggers, are simply working for their ownselves or for their families, choose STEM fields because it made us curious too! or we were simply curious about it as kids, want to do sports cause we need that adrenaline rush too, want to travel cause we need to set aside mental burdens too.
It is the affect of hating all women on to the women who don't actually do bad to anyone that I am concerned about and which has affected my mental health real bad. But guess I cannot change people's views and would just have to bear the brunt of it.
Thank you again for your reply by the way!
U have to understand that u will not be valued for ur career but by ur family so its important that u do find a husband especially when ur educated and working. Women instinctively want a man in their lives that's just how u are.
Honestly, you're in a rough situation because the culture and society you're in is hostile to women. What feminists in the west pretend is happening to them, is actually happening in Pakistan. There's no quick fix or simple answer, all anyone can really say is ignore anyone that views you as less than an individual. Anyone that generalises you or anyone else is projecting their ignorance.
If possible, maybe you could try moving to the west? I'm in the UK and the irony is we get many ultra conservative Pakistani men immigrating here bringing the ideas you're talking about and they get protected because they act like they're refugees or asylum seekers, when it's the women in PK that we should be helping.
I wish you the best, genuinely. I don't just mean that in a dismissive sense, but truly hope you find the life you are working for.
Yep. I remember a breaking point when I was about 21 and this girl I was dating assumed I paid for EVERYTHING. She was spoiled rotten by her mom, told she should never have to pay for anything, etc etc and I finally told her "You bring nothing to the table. Your entire contribution in all this is I get to have sex with you. My time and my money are more valuable than that." And I dumped her. I don't think I can even convey the look on her face, and it was the most liberating feeling in the world to finally be able to say that. Ever since then, I made it clear that if we date, we both contribute when we can, where we can. Since then, I've had the healthiest relationships I've ever had and am now happily married to my best friend, who I get to now call my wife.
Stay safe Kings.
Thats a baller move bro, I respect it
I respect you sir *does sigma appreciation face*
Bet she’s making someone completely miserable now
I dated few Russian I always paid, the last One we go Dutch. Russian and Asian women are also like this they Don't know go Dutch
Go Dutch?!?!?!
As a woman myself, I agree with everything he said.
Why? I’ve seen a lot of oldermen dating young beautiful women and they always pay. It’s only the young guy that want the 50/50
@@YouYou-sm8tf sugar daddy🤣
@@benndarayta9156 Yeah more and more women are dating sugar daddies because they pay for everything. Many of my female friends in university dated oldermen who had lots of cash and paid for everything. It was so good.
@@YouYou-sm8tf u need some new friends.
@@YouYou-sm8tf Older men with money. Are you really that dense?
The reaction of the audience about being raised right shows it all; silence when it’s on the women clapping when it’s on the men. No accountability
Supposed to pay is crazy
That shit is sooo true, every girl I dated that offered to pay were long lasting relationships. The point is at least offer to pay, respect is a Big thing for us men. Look how those women all shut the f@#k up. Total silence in the room
RESPECT is huge for a man. To the Ladies: Give us respect and don't demand anything, and you'll not only get a man, but you'll keep him as well.
let's pray you don't have kids
Goodluck out there, but like I always try to help men understand, dating, marrying or even casual sex with western females is like playing with fire... Sadly you're looking at false accusations, liabilities, divorce, alimony, child support, and or even death... An argument at a club with your gf can lead to a simp coming to her aid and killing you over arguing with YOUR GF!! But unfortunately many men in the west have to learn the hardway! The worlds a big place come travel like the rest of us! Non feminist countries are paradise for straight men!
@@JOEL00111 LMAO wEsTerN fEMaLeS
@@greynotchristian shit.....i see no lies. Western civilization is fawked up on every level, not just relationships
Here's how I feel about dating: if I ask someone out on a date, I'm willing to pay for it. If a woman asks me out on a date, I expect her to pay. Equality shouldn't just be a feel-good, political term---it should be based on mutual respect between two people.
Let's be honest though most times you gonna be asking her, but understand what you mean though.
Like the other guy said, most time she's not going to be the one asking you out. 9/10 you'd be making the first move even if she is willing to pay.
Women don't ask Men out unless he's a Chad
@@Edithae not sure if this is sarcasm but that's mostly false. When if the guy was a chad most of them wouldn't still not ask him out. At most the would be in his vicinity until the he ask her. Not saying all women does this but it's majority over minority.
IMO it doesn’t matter who asks out who, they should split the check no matter what, if me and a friend decide to go out to dinner I don’t expect either one of us to pay the full meal, no matter who asked to go eat, because we both agreed to going out together, this argument shouldn’t change when a relationship is romantic.
He's right about the gesture thing. That's really all we want. Hell, a lot of the times when my girlfriend offers to pay half or pay for the whole thing, I always refuse and pay for it myself, or I give in to her nice gesture. That kind of gesture tells a man that you will be a great partner who will be worth being with long-term, because it tells us that you're willing to help out if things ever got bad, that you're trustworthy. If you offer to pay, the man will almost always refuse and pay for everything while appreciating your gesture. However, if you expect a man to pay, he will never want to pay for you nor date you again.
Exactly this. I am the type of guy who will pay for things (when feasibly possible due to potential money constraints) mainly because that's how I was raised. However, it means something to me when you offer to pay vs not saying shit. In the end I'm still going to end up paying but it's the little things that make a huge impact
Exactly. It gives you a feeling of being taken advantage of and once the advantage is gone we can expect nothing in return.
GOOD stuff here!!! Thank you for sharing! My wife and I were friends before we started dating. We carried are friendship into our dating relationship, we shared paying on our dates. Married almost 24 years now. A lot of our dates involved walking and talking to save money.
The response about treating the man you are dating like you would treat your best friend was one of the best explanations i’ve ever heard. How can any woman dispute that is the way both parties should enter into dating?
Oh trust, those type of women will find a way to flip it. They are trained in the fine arts of manipulation....
@@doof000 maybe Succubi were based on real life creatures after all
@@es-rh8ooi mean, you said it....who knows, but i aint gonna be there for it. i been good on all this stuff man...i got focused on my money and just got people out my life in generala. People in general aint that great these days so i figured i would go the solo route until im financially chillin' and not working or having to deal with anyone or anything of my own choice. Most people aint worth trust i literally got 1 handful of those people...so im good and where i go they come with me.
@@es-rh8oo have you ever watched Love and Friendship, with Kate Beckinsale? I told my boys, and my girl they have to watch it, to show them what to avoid.
No . No such thing as a best friend or a friend in the first place.
I am with my wife.
I can't believe this has to be explained to women. Like he said, it's not about the money., It's the principal, the entitlement, the expectation that's the problem. Serious question, do women ever stop and ask themselves if they'd want to date someone who acted like they do?
Too much tiktok burns their heads
As a woman I can tell you… they usually don’t think of it like that. Seriously.
They are there to get advice from it you idiot so yes woman aren't dumb if they want to be better and have a more open mind. Don't shame them for being there asking advices no matter how dumb it is we shouldn't shame those who want to learn for the better even if they were dumb before. No one starts smart
principle* .....I'll see myself out.
@Polygon you're the only one judging others looks. I've seen alot of "average" looking people give advice on stage and people listened. Heck there's Ted talks with disabled man giving great advices and people cheering for them. Stop the senseless projection and judgements
The concept of a man automatically paying for dinner came from a time when we had very clearly defined and delineated gender roles and tradition. Women don't get to unilaterally decide which traditions they want to throw out while dictating to men which ones that they have to keep. As the late, great Kevin Samuels used to say, "They want a traditional man but they don't want to be traditional women."
It's the opposite. Men always want a High value woman. Majority. I'd say 80%. However, I would say 20-30% expect a high value man. In aspects of relationship views especially about tradition, women are always more humble 100%. A woman would consider herself successful if she bagged a man that does half of the chores, Has average to good looks, earns a good income (not necessarily high), isn't narcissistic, isn't sexist, doesn't have disgusting views on women, isn't a cheater, respects his mom, doesn't have an inflated ego, doesn't think women owe him s#s, and just genuinely have respect towards women, and lastly isn't a cheater. How rare is that? even though it's the standard it's very rare. What do men want in a woman? Nice looks, has an hourglass body, does all the chores, pays equally in a relationship, isn't materialistic, expects her to satisfy all his needs (if not he cheats on her), and expects her to still look young and have that hourglass body all her life. Now I don't think that is considered even remotely humble. Stop with the "humble women" it's always the materialistic men who go for materialistic women and get unhappy when they're being used. You attract the same type of energy you put out. You're superficial guess what? You'll attract another superficial person. It's simple really. Men expect high expectations of women and when they get that high value woman they get surprised that those women expect the same high standards. How funny. Men tea.
@@RolaAshrafAbbas Huh? Men's standards for women are objectively lower - this is statistically verifiable. Look at response rates on dating apps and hookup apps, its not even remotely close to being at parity. So there goes that assumption, secondly, men will happily forego an hourglass body etc. for fundamentally good traits (why on earth you think not being materialistic is somehow a reach speaks volumes about your character). It would seem superficiality is inherent to the decision making process of finding a mate, at least it is for many men and women, evolutionarily women have been incentivised to find high value men and men have been incentivised to BE high value men. I would argue the most important factor in attracting a partner is personality, yet if you are socially withdrawn or insular you will need to workout, get a high paying STEM degree and mitigate whatever "apparent" lack of confidence and personality you may or may not have - otherwise your chances of finding a partner is lower. I hardly think the club scene or bar pick-up culture is really the best metric for evaluating relationships, but it still serves as a good snapshot of the societal standards as to how relationship-forming as a whole is going. "A woman would consider herself successful if she bagged a man that does half of the chores, Has average to good looks, earns a good income (not necessarily high), isn't narcissistic, isn't sexist, doesn't have disgusting views on women, isn't a cheater, respects his mom, doesn't have an inflated ego, doesn't think women owe him s#s, and just genuinely have respect towards women, and lastly isn't a cheater." - You mentioned cheater, multiple times... which makes me think you might not be coming at this from a blank slate (i.e; you're coming from a broken relationship). Cheating is at parity, men ADMIT to cheating more than women, although apparently even that statistic is now reaching an equilibrium point, so as far as the pool of available partners goes in that regard its about the same. Sexism, narcissism, average to good looks etc. are ALL criterion that are shared by men too - men don't expect bombshell wives lol, that would be isolating the potential partners to like 0.5% of the total population, it would be self-defeating. As a matter of fact, men don't even care how much you earn - so using your own criterion for evaluation I can already tell you men have lower standards than women. My girlfriend is a kinder-prep grade teacher, I'm a M/A engineer - the income wasn't remotely a part of how we came to be. I think social media, channels like this and the female equivalents of it are all utterly corrupting, deluding and creating internal narratives that will ultimately lead to unfulfilled relationships. I'm sorry you've dealt with a cheater, as am I sorry for anyone of any gender who's dealt with infidelity - I just hope that you don't use that to ruin any chances you have of ever building a fulfilling relationship again. Maybe use your past experience to better inform you about your future partners.
I assume you will use your wife's last name when you get married? Or will you let your children use your wife's last name? traditionalism does apply in that
@@bilbonob548 Though it's a late reply, thank you for having a respectful argument with me. Interesting analysis, no I haven't been cheated on. However, most of my close friends have experienced that a lot in their relationships, which is why I was specifically focusing on that point as you can already tell. I do agree that superficiality is both common in men and women when looking for mates, but most of my male friends and men I've met in general expected a high standard woman but won't give as much in return. I know that this is my experience and should not be generalized, but I was just speaking from experience. Though I can tell I might've worded it wrong. I never said superficiality is wrong all I said was that you cannot have very high standards when you can't even abide by the same standard yourself. Yes, men are not usually money oriented. Yet it has been reported that men do in fact care about a woman's look four times more than women on average. Anyway, my argument stemmed from the humble women comments. Men complain about having to pay on first dates and request equality but when it comes to chores et cetera there is no longer equality? They want the woman to do all the chores even though 90% of women have jobs and work if not more. Which further proves my point. How does that make men more humble?? In your earlier statement, you stated that on average men and women are almost on the same level of superficiality which might be true (in combination of multiple factors from each side) in general which just shows that the humble women comments do not make sense what so ever.
@@janehopper8840 Why take a last name at all? There's tradition in that too. I'm not interested that you can find exceptions to common practice or prevailing tradition. You ignored the entire gist of my comment which was about modern women *unilaterally dictating* how they wanted to act and then how they expect men to act (though I am not suggesting that men are listening). Change doesn't happen in a vacuum. When you ham-fistedly wrench society and culture in one direction, you lose the right to complain about the second and third order effects that you create.
You gotta offer to pay. And you gotta be okay with actually paying if he takes you up on the offer. A man who pays only his share was raised with good self esteem.