He Made Her Unfollow All Her Mentors On Instagram - David & Donni
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The episode serves as a candid discussion on the challenges of personal growth, the impact of relationships on one's journey, and the importance of recognizing and standing up against controlling behavior. The hosts advocate for self-awareness, personal development, and the courage to seek help and support when facing adversity.
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00:00:00 - Introduction
00:05:30 - Unfollowing Incident
00:15:00 - Relationship Dynamics
00:26:42 - Entrepreneurship and Personal Development
00:37:42 - Seeking Help and Getting Out of Toxic Situations
00:46:25 - Overcoming Challenges and Finding Hope
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Please share this episode!!!🙏🏼
He is a hypocrite and a narc. I do wish you and Donnie block him both on social media, block him from events, and also block him from coming to the social proof building.
This is narcissistic abuse right in front of our face, Donni and David I really hope you see this message. The last thing you want is for this man to prey on women that are attach to your brand. What I mean is literally use the Social Proof Podcast as a pool to access and prey on certain women to only lower them into relationship that can HIGHLY potentially lead to a narcissistic abuse.
He is religious and does things a certain way but hates the advice Donni gives to filter and preserve herself before tieing herself sexuallu with him. So, someone please explain to me a religion that exist where they encourage people to just go around and casually engage in sexual activity in the talking phase of a relationship. That is in the incubation period of a relationship.
MAKE THAT SHIT MAKE SENSE!!!
10 minutes in and I don’t see what y’all are saying about dude.His girl is clearly easily influenced by their thoughts over his and that is a conflict of interest. Anyone who speaks outside of that it’s not their place. If she for it,then it’s great he should of been for direct about it
Be careful accepting stuff from people. Even if you know them. People are out here doing witchcraft like never before. Ask God/JESUS about that hat.
Please share which religion you rock with on Saturday. I was thinkin SDA this entire time fam! Im not looking to bash, Im intellectually interested.
@@jonreelwilkins9346 I wish you were right, but this is not the case. If he wanted her to think for herself, he wouldn’t have any interest in influencing her decisions on who to follow. He is a liar and a manipulator just based on that comment he made alone. Never mind the other excuses he made for his controlling patterns of behavior.
The most dangerous man is the one that really thinks he's a great guy while doing his damage.
The most!! 💯
facts!
Big facts!!!
Facts... That's what bothered me about that dude....
Yes!! 🤯
This type of behavior goes unchecked because it isn't aggressive. Its extremely subtle. But it is definitely intentional and deliberate
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I LOVE how they "ended" the conversation with him but spoke indirectly to him and about him for the next 30min!!😅❤🔥
And Donni with the constant side eyes/glares the entire time 😂
😂😂
As a man with a daughter im very concerned about males like this character. I will tighten up💯
If ya daughter has a man why is she looking for other men to lead her who’s not you or her man? Why is she with him if she feels he can’t lead or is she being rebellious bcuz she see he ain’t got much n since she can’t see the other guy she can’t see that he’s lying
@Yourealoser1 lead yourselves out of poverty! Males without vision looking to lead intelligent women to doom just to feel like a man.
@Yourealoser1 so out of the billions of people on the planet, a woman can only learn from her father and her husband?? No one else? 😂😂😂
What???? @@Yourealoser1
My husband is like this and I made excuses. I've been mentally, emotional and physically abused for 24 years. I finally got out and got my own apartment for me and my son this January. I had to get therapy to be able to make the shift and change.
So happy that you made that decision for you and your son. Thanks for watching.. Please share!
So proud of you
Grateful you were able to do this. That's a long time, please continue to work on yourself mentally and don't give up.
How are you saying that she shoukd think for herself when you're thinking for her? He doesn't like the fact that she values someone else's opinion over his. I feel like he wants to follow Dave so he can use his advice as if it was his and the girlfriend will admire him instead. Dude is weird. I don't understand how he even tickles her fancy with this foolishness. Girl throw that fish back in the sea and be great as you were before that disruption walked into your life!!!
Congratulations and keep moving forward
I love Donni, her response to being led was 😙👌🏾 *chef’s kiss*
Thank you!! ☺️
Wasn’t it!!! But the man had way more ?’s then answers. Which was a 🚩 and prime example of someone being manipulative
Absolutely
And it WAS!!!
The head shake and okay at the end when she was like that’s all you took from this. She was ready to slap him!
If any young lady is looking at these comments, I want to say that the other side of you leaving a toxic environment will release a level of happiness you never experienced before. That hard feeling on your chest with feeling unsafe will be lifted and you will be able to live again. We really love you and you will not be alone ❤️
Truth!
How can so many people see someone who appears intelligent but is really a psychopath and does not have a clue. He is textbook psychosis behavior! He really believes he has it together. Damn! Scary! Sis “Get Out” and “Get Out” NOW! And then he adds religion to it but he is having sex with lady but he is not committed! What religion? He is groping. Truly lost!
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"A man understands that he never has to say 'I lead you', he just shows up, and its leadership"
maaaaaaaaan yal tore his ass up!
Thank you for holding this guy accountable and calling him out too many times this behavior is ignored. This was literally unbelievable
Thank You for watching!
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I’ve had friends that this has happened to & I’m always surprised that they don’t know it’s these small things like this that can be the stairway to potential abuse.
Someone tag the goofy... I gotta see something 👀
He doesn’t want any male competition plain and simple. Like he said he can’t fight so he’s not willing to put HIMSELF in a position where he has to fight with a man mentally, physically, intellectually or in any other capacity. RUN SIS RUN!!!!🏃🏽♀️ 🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️
Exactly this!! 🎉
The accuracy here!!💯💯
Thank You. Please Share!
Exactly! That's exactly what it is.
Narcissistic personality
He has an abusive mindset. The fact that he saw everything you both said as pessimistic is a problem. He may not have physically abused her yet but I bet the verbal abuse has started. Thank you both for having this hard conversation.
This guy is DANGEROUS! He doesn’t want her influenced because he wants to control her.
Also, he’s literally the example of people with bad intentions. Why was he around yall and had these type of feelings towards yall? That’s so weird and scary
THATS WHAT I SAID!!!
Yup
Facts!!!
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Scary for sure
The scariest thing was that he was confident enough to share this. Like he sees no issue with this
And thats the part rite there. There are so many men n women like thus. It's wild.
People like that have nothing going for them.
that is scary
The same way you’re confident in sharing the baby you made with Pookie with every man you date 😂
My wife asked me to watch this video, and I realized it wasn’t the typical content so I asked why am I watching this. She asked me to keep watching and the realness of this conversation and the way it was handled was truly professional. I’m proud of the leadership you two displayed and I believe that seeing him for who he is and operating from a place of love was amazing. Pushing beyond discomfort and speaking directly to the young lady who is in emotional danger was classic signs of a real #BossMove
One of the warning signs of abuse is isolation. The way he's intellectually isolating her.... is horrifying 😳
He’s also discrediting her. By challenging the knowledge she’s gaining and saying “think for yourself” he can create a different standard for her chase and remove all of the information and logic she’s currently working with from the table. And the basis for all of it is emotions. It’s intellectual warfare when you can’t “win” with integrity.
We need an update with the girl on the podcast, PLEASE! ❤❤❤
Yes!! Please share
@@RealSocialProof most definitely!
Yes, have her own.
This was actually crazy to see this thinking in real time 😭😭 that man needs real help .
Hopefully he does get the help he needs. Thanks for watching. please share
I know an abuser when I hear one. I can see it in his eyes. It's usually in the eyes. I've been there. Glad I tuned in and subscribed.
Here from IG - didn't even wait to get the link for this episode, I came and FOUND IT. 😂 She ATE and I had to come see the buffet 😂🔥👏🏾👏🏾
Me too, saw a clip on IG and came to YT searching.
Okay!? Me too 😆
Same here!!! I came w my plate 🍽️
Same!
This sound like the sequel to “Who TF did I marry” 😂😂😂
She need to run!
Definitely serious
😂😂😂😂😂 this man is stressing everybody out then he acting confused meanwhile he’s confusing everybody!!
I really just wanted him to form one complete sentence 🤦🏾♀️
This sounds WORST!
Moral of the story.. There was no logical reasoning, just a lot of hypotheticals & control. Bro middle name must be Legion.
1:03:47 “to be able to think for yourself, you have to disconnect.” YES. From YOU. She needs to disconnect from your influence.
Yoooo when Donnie said “Lead by who? You can’t lead me” 😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Clutch my pearls then concluded the statement with “ I can be lead but I will not be controlled “ I was screaming “ preach”
I’m not gonna lie… I thought Donni was gonna jump up out that chair on this man 🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
Every time he said something I was nervous!
I really hope this girlfriend watches this and if what they talked about is the case… I Pray she receives this message and moves on it immediately
Facts not even laughing. She was ready
ON MEEEE! I thought this episode was gone be short!
Babee donni was doing all she could to do to knock this dude out and cussing him out!
He's "very religious" but has a problem with someone telling his girlfriend not to have sex with him if he's not serious.
Which religion???
This the question!!
Exactly! Thanks for tuning in with us! 🎉
Clock it!!
I was 👀for this comment. -- Bingo, he has selective Christianity meaning, he pick & choose what he wants to abide by 🤡clown activity for sure
This is the one! 🎯🎯🎯
It was him asking questions off topic to deflect what was originally being asked. My heart was racing the whole episode and if I was her I would RUN. Also, asking Donnie, “does she feel she is able to be led” tells so much. I would not be shocked if that is the leading convo to his girlfriend as the “religious” (as he stated) husband that leads and she follows him as a sign that she knows how to be led “listening to his advice”. I could say more, but this was so good! Look at the signs sis!
When Donnie started to tear up , I felt her spirit through the screen , because she went back to that place of fear when she was in that dangerous situation. I’m glad that I am now out of my controlling toxic narcissistic relationship with a woman who happens to mother my kids , I stayed for the kids but it started to cost my peace which is outside of my emotional budget
I don’t even know where to start. I have gained so much FREAKING respect for both Donnie and Dave. Literally I don’t know how yall didn’t jump out of your seats. I went from anger to shedding a tear to literally being proud of Donnie all in 1 minute … I am praying for this dudes girl as well.
Hopefully she reaches out 💗🙏🏾…
Thank You. Please Share
Donni was definitely ready to get up our seat, but she's at “work”. Lol
Part of me wanted to give the guy some grace to explain himself.
Like there was just something we were missing that’s actually a really deep lesson. But what I got was just some of the weirdest most unabashed narcissism I’ve ever seen.
It’s not just what he’s saying it’s that he actually fully allowed ya’ll to dig deeper and sat there smug, like it was logical. Like he couldn’t even read how uncomfortable he was making the room (except David who seemed slightly amused 😂) jk, you two really brought home the seriousness of his behavior.
Donni peeped the game from jump. This man is dangerous. He needs a therapist instead of asking questions like he is one. He spent this whole interview gaslighting and trying to bait y’all.
Appreciate ya’ll walking through that I think it was good for women (or men) to hear who are in a controlling situation, but there may be some ppl more controlling than they realize who need to hear this to say “Is that me?”
Naw but fr this man is far gone.
Thank You. Please Share
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Kudos to Dave and Donni to have the patience with this conversation because I was done with it the first 5 minutes.
The lady is NOT SAFE! Please reach out to her and do a wellness check. He’s not even denying or clarifying anything
Donnie I want to tell you you were so gracious in your responses during this interview. This was definitely an unexpected topic but a relevant one nonetheless. Y'all will help a lot of men/women with this one.
Sis held her composure
This is definitely an emotional and real life episode. I believe wholeheartedly that this will help someone. David and Donni, THANK YOU for taking the weight on your shoulders, and not letting people keep you from serving the world❤
Thank You
Thank you very much! 🎉
What a cray-cray 😢
Simply put, he feels that the men like David will positively influence his GF in a direction that will take her away from him. That's what he meant when he said it's not positive for everyone, bc it'll be positive for her growth and life, but negative for him because he won't fit in that future version of her life.
Girl leave! I already know how that cookie crumbles 😢
For every David, there is a Derrick Jaxn.
The composure that they both kept the entire interview is commendable.
Yall see the lady in black trying hard not to laugh?....😂😂😂
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I was cracking up everytime the camera panned over to her. 😂😂
Why I 🏃🏾♀️ to the comments looking for this comment! 😂 I knew I couldn't be the only one!!
right
Ayo - They did everything but say, “if you meet someone like THIS guy sitting with us today, get help!” 😂😂😂
Dude said David make sense so he told his girl to unfollow him 😂😂😂
Insane
I’m flabbergasted
He saw the hypergamy in her eyes…..I’m not mad at bro. Y’all think y’all slick 😂😂😂
@@DominantBlackMaleLeaderNo. Nothing about this was okay or makes sense. I don’t know the logic for controlling someone so much that they have no choice but to choose you (aka being forced) instead of giving your partner free range to choose you because you’re who they actually want and their feelings for you are genuine.
Lol fuckin clown forreal
the Adidas slides tell you everything you need to know
I can be lead but I can’t be manipulated-🎯
Heard this on Apple podcast and had to come watch this episode to see this guy I really hope this young lady run as far as possible from this clown
Thanks for watching.. feel free to share!
Same here. I had to see who was speaking.
Ditto. I’m a trauma therapist and own my own private practice. I’m like I got to see this Narc
Same here.
Donni is a great follower by the way. That’s why she is indeed a great leader. Some men watching seem to believe she’s “too outspoken”. However, good leaders are good followers. AND GOOD MEN LEADERS are good at what they do and don’t have to force it.
Thank you kindly! 😊
❤. Donnie’s comments was 🔥🔥🔥🔥
I love how strong & stern Donnie is. My inner self is more stern but I’ve struggled expressing it outwardly lately because people have mentioned I’m too harsh. While trying to find balance it’s changed me from speaking up so firmly. I’ll be back shortly because life makes you realize you have to stay tru to self.
@donniwiggans
Amen
Dave, I applaud you for maintaining a calm, collected energy/space. Donni I applaud you for gathering him so gracefully. Y’alls dynamic is so powerful! Thank you for sharing with the world, yet another enlightening, inspiring, uplifting, powerful episode.
He’s not going to publicly declare that he hits her but it’s totally evident. Abusers have a pattern, a behavior and a language. His calmness and his way of trying to throw it back on y’all is a clear indication.
I don’t think he was scared of Donni and David at the end but for people that know of him
Now. I am just in awe, would have been hard to be on set
He’s a classic GASLIGHTER ‼️
Every word that came out of his mouth was gaslighting
@@quaneshiah.2608
I actually think it’s the opposite. He asked his girlfriend to unfollow 4 men on social media, one of the men had a financial incentive by the way. And in exchange he receives a lecture about abuse. I think Donni and David were gaslighting this man. Y’all can’t pimp me 😂
@@DominantBlackMaleLeaderthey were gaslighting him bro lol , she basically lookin for other men to lead her while u work n give whatever little u can give and help watch the kids.. she doesn’t even know if he’s living the life he’s flexing about.
@problackbetamale @yourealoser1 yall are weird af in agreement with whatever the guy was saying. You need to look inward and talk to someone about your thoughts.
@@Yourealoser1yall weird. She isn’t married. Argument over.
Donnie is just so brilliant!! This conversation was so necessary! I’ve never seen David elevated, but it was so great to see this side of him in such a serious circumstance. Y’all are just fantastic the way you both handled this individual.
Donni. The grace of your delivery is ADMIRABLE. This episode is timely and necessary! This is real. This is transformative. Unplanned but ON BEAT. Real service. Keep up the great work. Dave thank you for keeping your composure and having compassion for this young man. You’ve journeyed through and been initiated into self hood. Person hood. MAN hood. You being who you are is the much needed example some of these guys coming up, desperately need. Great work guys. Inspiring
My heart has been beating so fast this entire interview because this young lady is in a dangerous relationship. This young man needs help. Donni and David, you two are a class act. The way you handled this conversation was too notch.
Saaaaame!!!! That young lady needs help! I hope she leaves him because my God
But if she was with a thug y’all wouldn’t bat an eyelash. She’s with a mature, caring and supportive beta male who tried to assert himself for the first time and he’s getting slaughtered 😂
i thought it was only me!! My heart was literally in my throat the whole time! Jheez that man was a piece of work!
That dude is psycho. He wants to come across as a pseudo intellectual but he's an extreme narcissist.
He had a Freudian slip… Dave: have you ever hit her?
Teddy: Yep
I thought I was the only one that heard that 🤯
Yes, that "yeah" was him flashing back to it in his mind.
Am I crazy? I feel like the end was a confession.
I heard that and I was hoping they’d speak to the matter. This was a powerful episode.
Yoooo I thought the same thing!
Donnie and David deserve so much respect for this episode. This stuff isn’t easy but they immediately stood up to a very real problem.
Absolutely 💯
This is a Powerful powerful episode. I love the wayDonni ate him up at the end too. “For your safety.” 😒 Cause who face you think you gone play in? This ain’t that!
Love how real yall are and call people out with no problem. Sis, run!
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Thank you for tuning in with us! 😊
When he proudly had his legs crossed with the adidas sandals you wear to the swimming pool.. a 🚩should have popped up then.
I’m crying! 😭
Played himself
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This comment made me laugh!! lol...yes
this plus as soon as hearing his voice - i knew it was about to be some bs
"Be clear, I'LL FIGHT!" Me too girl!!
Came here from @Themis&Thoth and immediate followed you! Wow...this episode was ...WOW. As a young lady who once was in HS and had a boyfriend like hers, THANK YOU FOR SPEAKING UP. It's so validating to victims and I bet money on t hat fact that you were the first people to speak on her abuse and validate what she felt - partners like him definitely isolate their partners and bully them in the dark. I know his girlfriend wanted to thank you both. One day and hopefully soon she will have the courage to run and never look back.
This was a powerful and emotional episode. I pray that her family and friends hear this conversation and immediately create a safe presence and space for the young lady to leave him. Someone needs to share this episode with them.🙏🏾
Everybody, please share!
Donni preached a whole sermon. She needs an offering! I went from laughing to from the confusion to 😳 This topic is so taboo. I’m so glad you didn’t dismiss the conversation but instead decided to unpack it. Love yall!
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A satanic sermon, because women not supposed to preach according to the Apostle Paul himself 😂😂😂
Agreed. I was praising the Lord and saying thank you Jesus and all! Tears and more
I seen this episode for the first time ever and it triggered everything in my past, I am so thankful to not have been in the room, but super proud of Donnie for allowing God to Release that story! Sis your advice, story and compassion is going to set so many people free, when you started to cry I wanted to just hug you and be like sis we made it!! I am so proud of the women you are and the women your becoming! Keep allowing God to use you, PLEASE NEVER STOP TELLING YOUR STORY. My brother David thank you for showing the anger of a man that loves his wife and daughters and the women in his life, you tried to remain claim, but the devil can’t come into a protected kingdom and reign! Thank you for shining the light on the signs of abuse. This episode had me in tears and I really am just proud of you both. But on a serious note maybe your community members need to all be virtual. Safety always first!
This right here is one of the BEST episodes. I’m sure this was unplanned, and that’s what makes these two great.
This guy is a complete nut narcissist with a control drama of interrogator if anybody's ever read The Celestine prophecy, hope she gets OUT🙏🏾
DAT even yo got damn wife ! Do she not know that’s not her husband she don’t hv to listen to/ submit to him or nothing like that ! Tf
Yes I said Run! From experience this gets really dark.
facts'
Just ordered another 2 copies. Straight up interrogator CD. Ask question to confuse and feed off of the others desire to figure out how to make you “get it” good call
@@stylzgohardvipthat’s how yall think? Then wonder why divorce rates so high yall don’t practice what you preach lol can’t beat facts
Thank you David for standing up and checking This man for his bad behavior, and bad decisions.
Thank you Donnie and David for putting a lifeline out for those who are struggle and need help. This guy was crazy. Thank you for checking him. We need more of that in our society.
Yall handled that really well! The closure of the don't come back was needed. Glad to see it.
“For your safety”.
The fact that they held this conversation in his face? 😭 God is Good. 🙌🏿🙏🏾
37:44 @Donnie, you handled this response so well.
Yes! Got him together real good!!
Because he definitely tried it. He thought he had got under her skin when she said she couldn’t stay in the conversation. Nah bruh her spidey senses were tingling
Because he definitely tried it. He thought he had got under her skin when she said she couldn’t stay in the conversation. Nah bruh her spidey senses were tingling
He wants his lady to be a stay at home lady? He doesn't want her to be more successful than him. He doesn't want her to have any freedom so he can control her.
You are not tripping. He is not being direct about how he feels. He despises you. Keep an eye on that man, seriously. You are a threat to his existence.
Donnie just went up so many points in my book when she told dude she’ll stomp him out. lol
Seriously please run away from him as fast as you can. That man is highly insecure and doesn’t want any other man to have a positive influence on her because he’s whack.
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Talk about having to speak up for those that can’t while possibly in front of a person that could be controlling someone like you once were. Donnie is showing strength in such a major way.
I just watched this with my daughter and this was such an eye opener . What was disappointing was the update, it appeared ahead of time was making excuses for her man’s behavior. I hope she’s safe.
I desperately seek the kinda of discipline that Donnie and Dave have when they were discussing the topic at hand with this guest because I woulda been lost it on him😂😂😂 this is a example of confronting a person to get transparency and getting nothing 💯
Yeap
I loved it! The open ended questions! And he kept sounding insane!
Dave was bout to light into him toward the end but kept his composure 😅
I wasn’t expecting this episode at all. Listening in the car yelling “ run girl”. I pray that woman is able to see a way out of that relationship. You guys did an amazing job keeping your cool and informing of the dangers of this form of “love”
The fact that this was recorded in real time. This is a living case study. This man is highly underdeveloped and his lack of awareness is a danger to that woman.
This hit home so much because I lived this. I was young and naively led. Control, mental abuse, and physical abuse came with it, and his mindset is what starts this cycle. Get out! Sounds crazy to start over, but the peace that comes after you heal. Donnie, thank you🙏🏾
Something that stood out from jump is that he described himself as very religious. People who lead with that belief about themselves are often more prone to being rigid in influence and alignment. In the way David’s religious views came up, and clear wrong assumptions were made, there’s a good chance that the overall influence was based on invalid understandings and unreliable sources. But again if you’re a man/woman who has not experienced healthy leadership vs unhealthy gaslighting or manipulation it all probably looks the same. Praying everyone gets the help they need.
The first way that I got out of an abusive situation is that I told people. Even when I was ready to leave. I just KEPT sharing it. I had to tell people EVEN when embarrassed. It took me getting stomped in front of my friend to realize that it was okay to tell people.
I wasn’t ready for a long time. I was ready to leave for a LONG time. But I acted like I was. I even broke up with him. Eventually, we went on to get pregnant while trying to “work on the relationship”. We shouldn’t have worked on the relationship. I’m thankful for my son. I would be even more thankful if I gave my son a good father. I loved my ex. But I didn’t love me. This was obvious to everyone but me.
I got tired of hearing ridicule and “advice” from my friends that I confided in. But I kept telling them with hopes of it changing something. I couldn’t change him.
Eventually, we moved to Philly. It got worse. Eventually, I made the decision to move away.
That move was necessary.
He eventually moved as well. We reunited. Eventually, I began therapy. That therapy helped me to leave the relationship.
Eventually, I rented a room from someone that I was able to live in.
I took time for myself so I wouldn’t get in anymore abusive relationships.
Recap:
Step 1: Tell people. And keep telling them over time.
Step 2: Work to slowly leave the relationship without telling the abuser.
Step 3: Surround yourself with people who are going to influence you and help you in a positive way.
- Surround yourself with Christians that actively pursue Christ.
- Surround yourself with people and influences who have very healthy marriages and mindsets.
- Find people who can help you move. Find people who can Help with: a home, finances, counseling, childcare, food, transportation, gas, clothes.
Step 4: Get therapy. Find a free or cheap resource. Mine was free at my university. Your university may have free counseling/ therapy.
Step 5: Change Cities or States. If possible. (If not possible, maybe change the side of town COMPLETELY) If you can change your city or state, it makes a huge difference. But MOVE either way.
Step 6: Repeat Step 3.
****Surround yourself with people who are going to influence you and help you in a positive way.
- Surround yourself with Christians that actively pursue Christ.
- Surround yourself with people and influences who have very healthy marriages and mindsets.
- Find people who can help you move. Find people who can Help with: a home, finances, counseling, childcare, food, transportation, gas, clothes.
Thanks for sharing
Wow!!! Thank you for sharing this!
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‼️‼️‼️ you are amazing.
😮 wow.
I watched this episode 3 times. I’m not sure if it was because the first time I was confused the second time furious and the third time I watched and loved how Donni and David handled this young man with their words. Thank you King and Queen for being authentic.❤️
Thank you for having the patience to have this conversation AND to share.
David and Donni, you handled this so well! This one was hard to sit through but you both offered some constructive insights and great perspectives. One of the most important decisions we all have to make is to protect our peace and never give our personal power away!
Facts! Please share!
This was well needed and received. I have a few consultations for therapy today. My first time ever taking therapy in my 29 years and I'm nervous but excited. This brought up somethings for me. Donni stood on bizness in this and I'm so glad she did.
Congrats to you.. And yes Donni did.. Thanks for watching. Please share!
So proud of you! As a therapist I want to encourage you to search until you find the right fit for you. Every therapist isn't for everyone. Best wishes on your journey!
Very much appreciated!
What business did she stand on exactly? Black feminism?
As soon as he said “I was here if something happens….I was here” @1:08 I was like yep…final confirmation! HE IS A RED FLAG!!! Girl RUN!!! Then she clocked it also. I’m so glad they called him out….
I’ve never seen Dave so passionate, THANK YOU DAVID I hope this young lady sees this and it allllllllllll clicks……
For EVERY EXAMPLE, he provides NO EXAMPLE 🤦🏾♂️
That part. I was really hoping for an example.
This was annoying and infuriating 😂
This is so scary! 😱 I can feel the anxiety & concern in Donni's face.🚨 I'm glad that you both asked him head on for the actual issue/ reason for the isolation suggestion.
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Thanks. please share
How does unfollowing 4 people on social media equate to isolation. Y’all are crazy 😂😂😂
@@DominantBlackMaleLeaderyou feel me????😂😂😂😂😂😂 like she obviously has some attachment n that’s why she can’t let go, basically these dudes give advice that anyone who had a smart mom, dad or uncle coulda taught them.. they make people who don’t have much pay for this info n obviously anyone who does any work in any field will win but the issue lies where folks are lying about making 100k a month yet still on social media begging n tryn to get “mentees” neo Davis basically finesses women with kids to pay for his shit while they earn nothing especially since it’s saturated all online
This was an unexpected conversation. but NEEDED and conveyed in a way that's recieveable and thought-provoking. I appreciate the duality!
I'm actually praying for his gf because she needs to GET OUT! I commend you David & Donni for maintaining your composure AND for his safety, requesting that he never comes back. For his safety of course. WOW
This channel is powerful in soooo many ways. Dave & Donni I absolutely love what you all submit to us here in this space but especially how you both have shown up today and have advocated for those that needed to hear this dynamic dissected the way it was today. My prayer is that those that needed this be drawn here with open eyes, ears and hearts to receive it and have the much needed support to move forward in their healing.
🙏🏽THANK YOU. Please share the episode.
Donni your heart is golden. I know someone is going gain the courage to leave a dangerous domestic situation because they heard this. Much love!
I ABSOLUTELY adore Donni & Dave for this valuable conversation. You two showed up in a real way during this conversation. I salute the two of you wholeheartedly!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!!! ❤🙏🏾
I can relate. Both My son and daughter were in toxic relationships. I made it a point to stay connected and checking on them, even when their spouses bad-mouthed me. I let both abusers know that I was not going away and if needed I would show up. Both of my kids were adults and I couldn't force them to leave their situations but I continued to let them know I supported them and would do whatever was needed to ensure their safety. I believe this gave them the courage to figure it out and remove themselves from their situations. Please don't dish out empty words when someone asks you for help-but help in any way that you can. Help is not always convenience but necessary!
I never seen Donni this vulnerable, real heartfelt content 🔥🔥🔥 Social Proof for the people 🏆
I normally dont post but this episode hit some real triggers. I was in an abusive relationship from 2014-2019. I had three kids with my abuser. This is that start of an extremely abusive relationship.
It starts with the isolation. Little steps made to make sure they have the most control over how you think. First it seems reasonable (what are you follwoing those guys for?), you dont wanna fight and it doesnt seem to do any harm so you unfollow, then its your friends that you hang out with, then its your family, until the only voice in your ear is HIM.
At that point, when there's nothing else to blame, it will just be you who is the problem. One day, you are dressing too well to go grocery shopping and the next you dont get yourself together enough for him to be attracted to you. To be clear : These relationships are just succubus-like in nature. It will never give to you, it will just take and when there is nothing else to take or conquer they will leave ( in the best case scenario). The goal is to ruin you and your confidence. Run for your life my good sis. Go no contact and put people around you who will hold you accountable.
THIS!!!!!
3 kids with an abuser now you want a beta male to protect and provide. #NEXT 😂
☝🏾 and you eventually lose yourself and become so disillusioned not realizing you've slowly but surely being isolated and setup for faulire. It's never enough. Men/women train yourself to recognize the signs, DO NOT Ignore the signs, and leave immediately. Exit right cuz these are the type of ppl who end up on Dateline or impregnating you only to make your life hell for the next 18 years thru your children. Ask me how I know. Small things are signs of much bigger problem. Classic gaslighting..asking questions with question. Never arriving to the answer. Run sis
“Had 3 kids with my abuser” you people claim abuse but still remain in the situation because you know you were part of the issue
No one wakes up n say “let’s ruin her” y’all dumbass can’t think for y’all selves lol
Mama in the green hat is sending me!
😂😂😂😂😂 i thought i was the only one peeping sis.
I looked right at her when I read this comment 😂😂😂😂
She was shaking her head and side eyeing lol
😂😂😂 I know she wanted to jump.
This episode hit sooo hard for me. I’m in tears 😢from Donni words of encouragement. To David’s words aspiration I’m currently in a situation and im stressing myself to find a way out. Following the wrong person from ATL to Chicago has me in a state with children where I don’t know a soul. 😢😢😢but when there is a will this is a way. Gratitude for this episode❤
Just caught the end. THANK YOU Donni & Dave for disconnecting from him! Let him take his issues somewhere else, hopefully to a therapist because that’s the couch time he needs!
For sure
Wheeew this episode was so uncomfortable in a good way for sure! My hair clip ins are literally snatched out. I was so stressed out watching this. It was so releasing and well NEEDED because I was once one of those women in a relationship with a guy like that in college. and to hear Donni speak up for us just meant so much. Men like that believe thats love and thats the even scarier part about it. He manipulating himself out of the truth of what he is actually saying that its not making sense.
Absolutely 💯
Wow, Donni!! Thank you for sending me this link... I could write a book on this. My divorce was recently finalized back in January, I stayed I'm my marriage well beyond the time I should've. I was abused in so many ways, mentally, physically and emotionally. It took so much strength for me to say I wanted out, it enraged him, and made things so much worse for me. I had to pretend I didn't want it anymore until I could no longer pretend. His manipulative ways were to evil and demented. I nearly died at the hands of this man. He's so twisted that he in his mind had to be the one to "WIN" in the divorce, he maliciously did a quick divorce in a different county in our state, purposely provided incorrect contact information for me, which, in turn allowed him to "WIN" everything, including full custody of our minor children, I have to pay child support to him and he dictates how/when I get to see or spend time with them. It's only by God's grace that I'm still here today. This is so tough for me right now. God is getting me through this day by day, minute by minute.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I'm so happy you survived sis❤❤❤and may you continue to live, thrive and enjoy your life❤
I have been binge watching y’all’s podcasts and for some reason I didn’t click this one until today. I recently got out of a situation where I was completely isolated from my family and friends due to my ex-husband. The words Donni said touched my heart, and I understand her frustration of this conversation. My business stayed in the same spot for too long due to this situation, IT GOT DEEP. I am now out of this situation, and I have been wanting to get mentorship from Donni. I was hesitant for a moment because I didn’t think she would understand the unpacking and healing process I have been going through. It is refreshing to know that’s not the case; I want to join actionable ceo even more now.
I’m glad he didn’t bring her so he could be embarrassed alone. Prayerfully, she’ll disconnect. This is a problem that maybe she loves him too much to notice or feels she’s too connected to pull away from. Please ma’am, disconnect from this guy. Manipulation is a form of abuse.
Thank you. Please share!
This was a tough watch!! I want to echo what someone else said, that this behavior usually goes unchecked. Thank you for standing for love and truth by using your voice!!
I hope this episode reaches everyone in need. There’s always a way out 🙏🏽
Bless you both for this interview. This is going to save someone’s life. I pray she is okay and gets out because he is controlling and is probably abusive. These are real conversations that need to happen more.