Black Women, normalize QUITTING! I quit my job to preserve my mental peace. You are worth it!
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- Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
- My channel is for Black women who feel stuck and are ready to risk it all by QUITTING!
Quit that job, toxic relationship, fear, doubt, etc……so that you can savor the true taste of happiness!
Stephanie Perry’ You Tube Video
How to Say No l For Black Women Who Do Too Much
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Congratulations! I quit my job June of 2021 and moved to Mexico to live a soft and easy going lifestyle as a digital nomad. I couldn't be happier!
I love it! Live your best life!
Blessings to you Ginna for choosing "ease".
@@elkay18 thank you. I wake up every morning and I still cant believe it. I am extremely thankful for this life
@@YahsLittleFlock Ditto! I am loving this journey
Good for you and congratulations!
Clearly this is a movement amongst BW. I quit my job on February 4, 2022 and have not looked back. I was pushed to a point where I had to make a decision. My freedom and peace of mind was more important to me than that job. I feel much freer and am working on my mental health and rediscovering me and my femininity. What a blessing to have the clarity of mind to know when enough is enough. I found Stephanie Perry about two weeks ago and was glad to see I am not alone in my journey. Thank you, Dahlia for contributing to this topic.
I’m 47 and will be quitting my job in November of this year! I’m moving to Jamaica 🇯🇲
I've been working since 17, I'll be 37 this year and this is EXACTLY how I feel!
yes, it's the time for us to quit the hamster wheel...for whatever reason, the ancestors are calling for us to be free...they allowed us to see that what we thought we valued was taught to us by a system that values money over people...teaching us to work, at a job we hate, to buy things we can't afford to live a sick lifestyle until we die...we are choosing to say NO!!! right on sistar...
ALL OF THIS! ❤️
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Amen! This message is timely. After ending up in the hospital again (2x's in less than 10 months) due to stress and being overwhelmed at work... I'm resigning tomorrow. A job is not worth my mental and physical health. Jesus, thank you for your grace, mercy and guidance in Jesus name amen.
I applaud you for putting yourself first! You absolutely deserve wellness! ❤️
Praying for your healing. I made it to 50 just by the grace of God. I retired and moved from California to Texas. I have never been healthier and happier! We only get this one life. Let’s not waste it!
@@Lee-ks1en Thank you. Blessings to you. 😊
Love this! I have my resignation letter ready (dated for March 2023). I’m believing in great things happening in 2023 and beyond.
I quit my toxic, well paying corporate job in September 2020. It was the best decision ever!!! I did plan my quit through with lots of savings and I am completely debt free!! I say that because people need to plan their way out financially so they can take a break as long as they need to without stressing about paying their bills!!! Yes, quit by all means.......however do it with wisdom so you won't hurt yourself IMO!!!!!!! PS: I found Stephanie Perry back in 2020.......great RUclips channel!!!!
Wow! Cheers sis! I agree, planning to be debt free makes it so much easier! Outside of student loans I am also debt free. What have you been doing since you quit?
@@dahliainbloom5223 Thanks for your reply. I have been resting, saying NO, watching TV, eating better, exercising, and I substitute teach when I feel like it!!! I actually love substitute teaching. I only do Elementary schools. The flexibility is the best IMO!!! I also started a LLC that I plan to get off the ground gradually. I wish you all the best with your RUclips channel and everything else you plan to do!!!! Enjoy your freedom and your life!!!!!!!!!!
@@tiffanycherry6483 I LOVE it! I’m doing the same (minus the teaching). I’m actually prepping for a bikini competition in July. It’s so nice to have the time to do the things I love to do! I wish you continued joy, happiness and FREEDOM!
This is the one. For the last year I have been planning my exit by saving money. It’s been one - H E double hockey stick - year of stress but I am almost at my goal this coming February.
I "quit" in 2016 at 47 yrs old. I was working Corporate America had a decent paying job. I'm a disabled Air Force Veteran. I took an FMLA mental health break from corporate job. Pursued buying a home using my Real Estate license. Lender told me I needed to go back to work before closing on home. So I went back for a few weeks closed on my house (used the job for my goals). Stressors at work persisted. I went back out on FMLA. HR DEMANDED I return to work or be terminated. 😒 I did not need that level of stress in my life. I'd rather hustle up my coins and be happier than deal with management and "leadership" that doesn't care about my health. Six years later my home investment has great equity. I have savings and 1099 income and work temp jobs periodically for 6-12 months, on my terms. YOLO!
Yes honey! I love all of this! Thank you for sharing! We CAN do it on our own!
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I'm 52 years old too and quit my job on April 29th. Looking forward to this freedom journey! Congratulations to you and everyone else who has made this decision.
Congratulations to you! That freedom feels good right? ❤️
I have been learning how to day trade for almost 5 years now because I knew my Job as a registered nurse (24 years)was burning me completely out physically and mentally. On Friday, I completed a 7 day work week. When I got off, I put in my resignation. They ask could I stay prn. I said no. I’m breaking free and I will embrace my journey as a full time day-trader. I pray I NEVER have to work as a nurse again. I love nursing but not the politics, stress, and craziness of it.
THIS IS MY STORY! How are you holding up day trading omg! WOW
I did the same. Trading has been a blessing for real.
So happy I came across your video. I love the idea of black women normalizing quitting. Many of us have been programmed to force ourselves to "tough it out," "stick with it," and endure situations that don't serve us for way too long. These jobs are extremely toxic. What upsets me most is corporate does not care about work-life balance but pretend too. For example, offering pto but only allowing employees to use it based on "business needs." I'm quitting my 6 figure job to be a stay at home wife, unapologetically.
I love Stephanie. I’ve been following her for several years. I support BW living a life of leisure. We’ve earned it. And we deserve it!
This really resonates with me. I quit a FT independent contractor gig without another one lined up yesterday. As a Black woman in my 40s I realized that I will ALWAYS stay in roles where I am marginalized, not valued, and sidelined, if I don’t pivot now for my mental health and overall well-being, I walked away. I have been screaming with my heart that Black women need to reclaim JOY, FREEDOM, And FLEXIBILITY. This journey has been exhausting for us as a collective. Your message is powerFULL! Wishing you well in your journey! 🌻🌻🌻🌻New subscriber 💯
Thank you so very much lady Dahlia. I needed to hear this. I am with you, lets get freedom. I gave my 2 week notice on May 2, 2022. I have no plans to go to another job. I worked as an RRT in the hospital for 17 years, worked all my life and now I am soooo done. 56 and Freedom is looking good right now.
Yay! Let’s get this FREEDOM! ❤️
That's awesome! Freedom at 56 - you're still young now it's time to do something YOU love. Congrats.
@@giveyouabreakwithcoachmoni2333 That’s the plan! Thank you so much!
I went to jury duty for 2 1/2 weeks, out in my resignation, returned to work for my last 3 days then left; I quit. Not looking back, but moving on to what I really like to do and that's cosmetology. Training starts in 4 weeks and I'm signed up.
I just don't have the money saved up. No house, no collateral, etc. Currently facing health issues where I need benefits.
Freedom is the new American Dream!!
YES!
I'm not there yet with feeling OK to quit...but I'm approaching. Like many of the women in the comments, I've been working all my life. I grew up on a farm down south. I am my mom's only child and was my dad's youngest child and the only child living in the home at the time so I started working at 8. (Can we pause for a moment and think about how the adultifucation of black girls has robbed so many of us of childhood?) By the time I was 13, I was running my parent's store/produce stand by myself after school, had household chores, outdoor chores...and still trying to maintain my grades because I dreamed of higher ed. By the time I turned 17, I worked at Walmart, left for college and worked multiple jobs at a time to get myself through college. And I've been working in corporate America since college. I'm 51 and I feel that I do not understand how to feel joy. My elderly parents now rely on me. My dad is deceased but my stepdad is battling cancer and my mom's health is not as good as it could be so I support them as best I can. I'm at a point where I need a break. I may not be at a point where I feel cool to quit but I've changed radically enough already that I know that's where I am heading. I stepped up my prayer/spiritual life to the point that I've been experiencing synchronicities that are helping me manifest more peace/protect my peace most of the time. I am debt free (but not yet a minimalist...working toward that but not sure yet how I will find time to purge the mountain of personal belongings I've accumulated while still working. I've been trying to toss or give away a little here and there but it hasn't made a dent). I made radical changes to my diet to I can get out of the metabolic disease/syndrome trap that so many of us fall into. Down 20 pounds. I found a wfh job even prior to covid and that has helped but tbh, I still want out. I still work in a stressful, deadline driven field and have to be on camera every day, multiple times a day "wearing a corporate mask). I just don't have to do the daily commute on top of it which I am grateful for. Other people who don't feel that deep down tired on the inside feeling don't get why I would ever want out of such a great gig so I don't talk about my dream of freedom because I'm tired of being judged and I'm tired of people just expecting black women to sacrifice joy their entire lives. I may not be there with some of you yet but I hear you, I applaud 👏🏽 you...and I'm following close behind.
- How do I want to feel (Free!)
- who I want to be & why-
- what really upsets me
Then do the opposite of that!
Your message is right on point. I left a toxic workplace in December 2021. Never felt better 😎
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I ain't quitting my job because of pressure I will stand up to all the bullies and let them know what the position is.I was pressured in my job alot and I failed to buckle under pressure I was doing all of the people's work and still I had to do mine.It put me in a better position because I since had two promotions and I can do any job now in my organization .Quitting for me was not an option .It wasn't that I couldn't afford to quit but I stood up to some of the BEST BULLIES. I know who I am and who's I am . I don't have those struggles again.It is 10 yrs now I am still there.Now I am in a position to create change and that's what I do in people's lives daily now.Everybody has to know what they want and whats best for them.For me sticking to the task and speaking up for myself was what worked and is still working. Someone has got to be different .
I love it! You QUIT being bullied…..which has worked for you and I applaud that! Thanks for sharing your perspective as it will surely help others in the same situation! All the best sis! ❤️
I am seriously thinking about quitting. I submitted my resignation twice and was promoted but I'm so over my job now. I have to have an operation so I'm staying until after that for the insurance but while I'm healing I will be looking for something part time and eventually give my one month notice and sticking to it this time. The stress is ridiculous I'm 51 living on a beautiful island will be 52 soon and I don't pay rent car payment only water and power so I can take time to heal and find something I really can enjoy.
You have a plan that makes sense so roll with it! All the best on your operation! What beautiful island are you blessed to live on?
@@dahliainbloom5223 Turks and Caicos Islands
@@blackstallion4857 Oh that’s amazing ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing your story and those 4 questions. I just left my extremely abusive corporate job a few weeks ago without having a backup position. Although I don't yet have a source of income, I'm working on some projects that I hope will allow me to never have to go back to working for a company again. I have no regrets with leaving, so much of my chronic pain has disappeared or been significantly reduced even after a week of leaving. I want to live free and feel free.
Omgosh thx so much for sharing.. Resigned from my job/ career in corrections last month.. Scariest most awesome decision I ever made...Why are we as women made to feel like we got it, no problem while anxiety and depression keep us up at night..No more..Team Freedom ❤️
I’m 52yrs old as well, just quit a toxic corporate job making good money 3 days ago and today your video pops up! Your video is definitely timely and helped to further validate how I feel. Thank You!!
Yes! God is ALWAYS RIGHT ON TIME- If you don’t believe anything else, believe that. Pray - present your issue to the Universe & Wait…. The Answers always come- exactly when you need them. I’m about to quit my job as an RN & I’m good & going for it- Thanks for being a vessel to encourage us all to Live our Best Life!
I am Tiiiirrrreeeeddddddd...... .....!
I know the feeling!
I am so proud of you for being transparent about your journey. Much success on your steps to total FREEDOM!
Thanks Selena! 😘
We are on the same page! I also quit my job in April and then started another job in June and guess what? I’m back in a deep depression and have to call off every week. Not sure what I’m gonna do.
I'm a white woman, but feeling the same way and relate 100%! Thanks for the inspiration!
For some of us , we stay longer than we should because of debt. For some it is frustrating because they have dreams to fulfill but the resources aren’t in place to fulfill it.
I’m currently going through this. Can’t really afford to quit. Sick and tired of not being valued, the micro aggressions, being the only blk female in the building it’s takes a toll on a person mental health. This is something I’ve thought about these past few years now since the pandemic. Thanks for sharing your story ❤
Excited to join you on the journey. Selling my house and planning to quit my job and take a sabbatical!
Perhaps keep your house long or short-term rent it out to allow it to pay foe your otherblofe leisure. Plus it's always good to keep an investment especially real estate as a black person in this society.
I am the only black person in my department. There's a lot of microaggression. I've been in an entry level position for seven years. People hired after me are being promoted to positions I told my boss I wanted to learn; positions he said nobody would want to take the time to train me in. I am ready to quit but I'm going back and forth about it because I'm thinking I don't have enough savings and the whole nine. I'm really scared to quit and I'm scared not to quit. I pray I will be brave enough to make the decision soon.
Pray for direction. In the meantime consider “quiet quitting” and making an exit plan.
@@dahliainbloom5223 Sounds like a plan.😃
I’m definitely going to quit my job, because I don’t like some of the people in the area and on the job!!
Speaking of asking! The fact that you have to ask dang near to go to the restroom at almost 50. What kinda mess?! Nah
My last day is today (theyre throwing me a party), had an unexpected loss of a loved one this summer and prioritizing mental is everyyyything! thx
Great video! Freedom is important.
I will be joining you soon! I'm starting over with many things. Just trying to remember who I am and what I love. I'm anti other people's work after working since I was 15...I'm 46 now. Over it and ready for freedom to reign! Wishing you Good fortune with everything you do!
Im thinking about quitting my job but idk. Im already financially struggle and in the hole as a result of working there. I enjoy my coworkers and the pleasant customers that come in. Ive been a pharm tech for 7 months now and I have never had a job take such a mental toll on me as this one has. I dread going to work so much I show up late every day. It’s depressing honestly. Im 25 with a whole college degree and sometimes it feels like this is what the rest of my life is going to be.
Thank for this.... it’s so inspiring. I’m 29 and have been in the post office for 9 years. God is aligning me and I love this new version of me. I already have my resignation letter ready. I just need the confidence to walk out on faith. Thank you so much for this and good luck on your future endeavors Queen 👑
I have been going through this and it's crazy your video popped up! I feel exactly like this and Im 38. I find my self changing jobs every few yrs because I hate it! Im in a field where we are the lowest and over worked. I need freedom, it's nothing like going to a job everyday and you dnt even like it but you have to pay bills! It's like torture. I want out so bad and spend more time on things more meaningful like my family. What do you do about 401k, retirement money, and having a savings for down the line??
I’m noticing a lot women are feeling the same way in their 30’s. That’s a sign that there is a REAL shift happening. I rolled my 401K over to a brokerage company, it’s just not getting a company match anymore. Savings are being invested also. My expenses are minimal so my money can go further. But I’m also working on other streams of income.
@@dahliainbloom5223 thank you for the information
Yes sis! Stephanie Perry is the truth! Been listening to her for a while and she validated a lot of things I was feeling at the time I found her! Good luck on your journey! 🌻
So proud of you! Way to go Sistah!
Thank you so much!
I have done this sooo many times down the years due to bullying or pay or both.
Hi. I watch Stephanie Perry also sometimes. I feel the same way. I have been wanting to quit for so long. But for some reason felt obligated to this job.
This summer I am done. I have a whole business but no clients because I'm working for someone else. I can't hang on anymore. Mid August it's over!!!
Congratulations!!! I look forward to following your journey.
I want to quit my job and current way of life and take a solo trip to discover myself and create the type of life that just feels my spirit up.
Yes, I can relate. I just made found your channel great video. I made a video on on quiet quitting. So many people are feeling this way and don’t want to be on these companies jobs because they don’t value people at all. Nice video
Thanks for subscribing! Yes, these companies ain’t loyal! I’m going to watch your video about quiet quitting!
@@dahliainbloom5223 welcome honey💗
want to be free and flexible - you seem very joyful, rebirth, enthused - good for you Girlfren. I'm doing the part-time thing, not the worse work in the world but I feel there's more and certainly am a new advocate of more ease........ as our Sister Stephanie promotes👌🏾
I just put in my three week notice today. phew!
I relate so much. My mental health is fried and I've told my manager many times and as you said, you have to prove it to them. I am in therapy and on anti depressents now because of my job and they wanted a letter from my doctor with details of my health. I am absolutely miserable and have lived with the fight or flight feeling 24/7 for over 2 and a half years now. I truly welcome death over this misery day after day.
I quit my relationship two years and now I working on my side business and working no quitting my job. I'm working with a business coach now and they are helping me to slowly transition.
Awesome Video 💕
Thank you! 😊
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my RUclips channel 8 months ago about self development. Now I have 937 subs and > 800 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
❤️ u popped up on my feed... #SIGN
Alright now!
Yes ma'am! I want to quit my job. This came up in my feed. Confirmation! I'm out!
I put in Mr LOA request yesterday for 30 days! Girl I had to I was burned out, exhausted and depleted! I watch Stephanie too and she was my inspiration also!
You got yourself a new subbie I love your content it hits home.
Thanks for hanging with me!
House note, rent due, car note, food, clothes, insurance etc.... How do you have all these things without having a job? Can you please tell me?
Love this Dahlia! In the same boat, and I am not looking back. We are worthy and deserve so much better 🙌🏾 Thanks for sharing ❤️
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This video is on point! Glad it popped up on my feed.
Dahlia,
Here's my situation. I am also stressed out. I needed to request a transfer. I could not handle the site anymore.
Waiting for my boss to find me a new site. I had to leave the lawfirm account. Too much drama, too much politics. Putting a dead mouse inside my security blazer with an attached threatening post-it message is the straw that broke the camel's back. It is a toxic environment.
I worked there for almost 2.5 years. The silent treatment became unbearable but the dead mouse and threatening note did it for me. Monday night was my last day. I am now a man without a site anxiously waiting to start working at a new location.
People are really mean which is the main reason why I love to be alone. Thank God I have enough sense to save money for a rainy day. I hope to be at a site in the next few days.
You say?
I’m almost 30 and have to ask mommy management to take a pee
I feel like doing this too im trying to wait
When you’re ready you will know!
I need to go so bad!😪
Thanks sis. I needed this. ❤
I wanna travel and not be stressed and tired to a job state etc
How is this going after a few years? Would love to hear an update!
Hello gurl...Well The universe sent your video my way. My situation is similar but different. I actually have a dream new career only began end of April.. Seriously it would be worth it but it is just not enough pay when im supporting others in complex situations for minimal pay.
After childcare costs here in UK rising cost of living for all. I'm left with not much time to enjoy living... and bills i cant pay as debts rise....So im worse off financially working full time...and now more mentally I'm seeing the draining damage.
As a single mom of 8year old son..I have to think twice or more lol he needs a happy mom rich in peace not just the pocket!
I have left jobs and let others go many times before... and when i put my time into me first and not working like a slave despite my passion to support others I Am Totally Happy And Free!!
Gonna trust my divine intuition and the universe as it hasnt let me down yet 🙏🏾
Focusing on the beautiful things ive achieved now and to come.
Thank you for sharing dear I definitely resonate with it all 🙏🏾
Looking forward to being free to touch others with my singing performances again as I'm fulfilled wayy more just doing this once or so a month as an awesome hobbie with abit of meaningful work on the side 🤣🌻
I don’t need approval! Say something!
I love this! 👏🏽
Great video!
So clear, so kind, wise, and open… love your voice Sis! Honestly your voice and all of the above make me want go listen! Also I’m thinking of quitting but bills so much flack from my mom son I want to be free and I wanna quit too. What are you doing for money?
I quit too! It’s my only video lol
That one video is enough! Lol! Kudos to you!
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Thank you for subscribing!
I feel you sis!
Great video🎉 new subbie❤
Thank you so much! 😊
How are you doing a year later? I quit my job 4 months ago
NORMALIZE IT!!!!!!!!
Were they shocked when you quit?
Did people save enough for bills etc, applied for another job and how long did it take you to plan and save before quitting ??
Did you quit yet?
Stephanie who?
A lot of people in this comment section are quitting. But, no real speak of how you intend to pay for your life until you die... Many of you are depending on a man to provide for you, which is perfectly fine, but why are we not including that part in your comments? Encouraging black women to quit without also encouraging marriage is a set up for poverty long term. I find it quite interesting that part is being left out...
Love this! I have my resignation letter ready (dated for March 2023). I’m believing in great things happening in 2023 and beyond.