How To Make Sensitivity Your Superpower | Laura Karasinski | TEDxModulUniversity
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- Опубликовано: 14 июн 2024
- How To Make Sensitivity Your Superpower
I am Laura Karasinski, Art Directrice, Designer & the Owner of Atelier Karasinski, a design agency based in Vienna, Austria. Atelier Karasinski creates visual identities, photos & films, printed matter, commercials, websites and interior design for clients worldwide. Our diverse roster of clients includes Yves Saint Laurent, Campari, Absolut Vodka, Sony & Warner Music Entertainment, Ströck Brot, André Heller, Red Bull, various shops, restaurants like Motto and clubs around Vienna, Left Boy & Shopikon. After 5 years actively in the business, our work got nominated for several awards and won a handful of competitions through clients. Besides Dr. Auma Obama, Katherine Schwarzenegger & many more outstandning individuals, I got awarded with the Viennese ,Woman Of The Year Award‘ for my ‚outstanding life and work achievements as a woman’ last year and belong to the FORBES 30 under 30 awardees of Austria, as one of the 30 most influential business leaders under the age of 30.
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She was was nervous, anxious and definitely had stage fright, but she still killed it up there. I want to be as brave as her.
You will ❤
Instablaster...
She doesn’t appear nervous to me but I’m a HSP. 😌
Thank you for helping me to accept that I'm worthy of love. I never forget when people shy away cause I'm to sensitive, I manage how to be opposite and sabotage my life. You're a leader I'll always remember when I'm feeling unappreciated
I cry alot and everyone tells me to stop showing weakness. If I bottle it up I explode and can't stop.
You’re not alone💜
I understand. The same happens to me. You're not alone.
Me too. Actually, it is only the strong people that cry... It takes vulnerability and courage to be such a feeling person 💗
That’s toxic positivity and helpful to absolutely NO ONE! Lol
She is presenting like me. She show anxiousness, nervousness, and even be honest that she want to run away from the start. Thank you for your hard work, your speech had calmed me down from my anxiety after a bad day ❤
Same, there are so many thoughts, sensory inputs, things to remember, etc. when presenting. You're trying to read the audience while you try to remember your speech (and hope you don't forget something), figure out how loud your voice should be, where you should look, what weird body language you're unconsciously doing, and trying not to look anxious all at once. For me, it's very overwhelming. She did well and was very relatable!
And she seems so sweet! I love her accent! 😃
i've recently been going through a depressive phase and i sleep for at least 10 hours every night.
it seems selfish but i'm just trying to listen to what my body needs me from me.
sensitivity is misunderstood in so many ways.
Not selfish at all
Yes you are right
I don't know if sleeping 10 hours is a long term solution or short term solution?
Jenna G.
Why?
What makes you feel selfish dear Jenna? I wonder if family members or friends misunderstood :(
I am highly criticised not rewarded, I'm put down and not uplifted EVERYDAY for being "too sensitive", "too emotional", "too introverted", "too anxious" and "too much for anyone".
It means absolutely everything to other humans, highly sensitive or not... to show genuine kindness, empathy and compassion for others who do not see, feel or experience the world the same way as you do.
Just put yourself in others shoes and ask yourself how they get by, before you label them "weird" or "strange" when they are only children.
I've been bullied my entire life, purely for my existence.
It is not fair.
My sensitivities are my armour and it's who I am. It makes me a better person, friend and is a artists strength.
🌿 Thank you for sharing a glimpse into your world, and having the strength to tell it. It means a lot to so many who are struggling... feeling isolated and alone. 🌿
I’m highly sensitive and autistic. Everyone is, at the same time, fascinating and terrifying. When I was growing up I was made fun of because of gender stereotypes (guys are not supposed to have feelings). In my professional life I am frequently taken advantage of because I trust people when they pretend to be my friend.
How great that she has realized already to not work with certain people. I worked 2 years in my business before I realized I had to "dump" all my clients I really didn't want to work with. I don't make that much money because of it, but I'm not totally stressed out dealing with people that create anxiety in me. I was in my 50's before I even realized I WAS an HSP.
I am 52 and just finding out what an HSP IS AND that I am an HSP!!!
Thank you for sharing, I’m in my 60’s & just finding out !
I was in my forties and I dumped some people and set boundaries. I waited until it was to late before I realized I was different and had to let some people go. They still call and I've learned to answer their calls every third or fourth call. A hsp is a target for negative people. Just my observation. Blessing to you 😊
Hi Abby I'm in my 50s also in HSP nice to meet you can you tell me what kind of work you were able to do to support yourself? I've struggled all my life to hold jobs. I realize we all have different childhoods and/or support that we had, or lack of in my case.
@@MardeeSteuber715 me too. How are you getting along? Have you been able to work? I have always struggled with this. But I also had a chronic illness my whole life and Add as a kid.
Thank you for putting how i feel on a daily basis into words. I really struggle sometimes to communicate my feelings because its all so overwhelming its like i need that space away to process and heal and after that can be more logical. Also i know working with people who are negative eats me up inside i honestly get so anxious and down and always expect the worst around these people, they are energy drainers!
I really enjoyed her talk, it was insightful and I think she made some interesting points.
Here's what I took away from it:
- Being a HSP means things relating to emotions can be much harder for you to process.
- HSP can be or is caused by a genetic trait which is inherited, and causes us to process sensory information differently.
- HSPs during childhood are often regarded as: shy, cold, anxious, neurotic, dramatic etc. and often told to "toughen up"
- Outside world feels overwhelming and we create our own bubbles to escape this sensory overload.
- The key is to accept the way you are as it cannot be changed by force. Try not to expend energy running after something you cannot achieve.
- We are affected by the moods of people around us, good or bad, but this eventually makes us exhausted, so remember to give yourself time to recharge.
- Downtime is crucial. Accomplish this however you want. (sleep, go out, travel, explore etc.)
- Care about your bubble (aka apartment or home) as much as you care about yourself as the energies you let in will come out and affect you, especially over time.
- HSPs can make good leaders because they notice everything.
- Have a room where you can withdraw.
- Surround yourself with people that have good energies when possible.
- Be careful trying to achieve something that just isn't mean to work out, as it can really break you inside as a HSP.
- Not all HSPs are introverts, 30% are extroverts.
Remember, "sensory processing sensitivity" can be your superpower if you take the time to understand it and embrace it.
Samuel O'Dell I used to see it as a weakness.
@@juliacalismusic8572 same. not anymore though, feels much better to be open about it.
Samuel O'Dell Yeah that’s very true! :)
Well, being an HSP is neither good nor bad in itself. But being conscious of it and managing one's environment is key to using it to one's advantage. Being an HSP is a big disadvantage in certain professions n situations, like working in the cut throat corporate sector where nobody cares for your 'feelings'. HSPs tend to do well mainly in creative fields as that's where being highly sensitive is appreciated. So, HSPs can make life easier for themselves by being in situations which enable them to be themselves, yet not be manipulated or exploited, which is usually the case with such people.
As a hsp, it's hard for me to stay truly focused on my grad school studies. I am keep on finding ways to express my true self (through music and writing)
My dream is to become an author here in Korea. Im not sure if I should just take a break from grad school. I just wanna write. I just want to finish writing a book so that I can live as a full time author here.
@@kaiyi6568 Yes, HSPs tend to be introverts, so it's important to vent your extreme emotions thru some means. Writing is a good way to express oneself and it will make you a more compassionate n sensitive writer. Use your HSP self to your advantage, to motivate yourself to achieve your goals. Good luck !
@@rameshiyer1 I am doing that. However I was not able to fully focus on writing my book after I got to grad school. I don't know if I should take a break from school to achieve my real dream.
Im so scared what people will think o fme. My family do not support my dream. Though I am running for my dream anyway
I'm highly sensitive introvert and studying medicine 😭 I don't know how I'm going to deal with emergency patients or surgery 😢 any advice?
@@medicallife3486 I believe medical professionals are trained to attend to patients with empathy, but without being emotionally involved with them. That's why medical doctors in many countries are barred from treating their own kith n kin, as the emotional attachment can affect their professional judgement n hence adversely affect treatment. It's a major challenge for all professionals attending to people in distress. Set boundaries n you'll be fine. Good luck !
why am I crying!!!! Thank you for doing this TED Talk, it was really helpful!
the speech makes you crying, because the speaker is so sincere and ready to shed some tears while talking
thank god she has put words to this..I feel like people in my life could learn from this if I showed them...because sometimes my words don't seem to have any effect. oh and I'm an extrovert...with videos on here even. I'm in that 30%
i would like for people in my life to learn from this too, because explaining and explaining and explaining has drained me too much and they think it's funny....
me too
I am same like you
I feel like most "normal" people I know, especially in my family, are just so set in thinking I'm just too sensitive, they wouldn't even really hear this. If they already don't listen to me, their family they claim is 'everything' to them, then they're not going to treat me any differently after watching a video... that's if they were even willing to sit through the whole thing.
I feel my life experiences have taught me that anyone I'd have to show this video to try to help them understand me, probably shouldn't be in my life anyways. I dont know. It's rough out here..
You’re my HERO!!! I don’t think I could have done that… and so much more information about highly sensitive people needs to be brought to the publics attention… So many of us are understood or looked down on 🥺
Imagine being a highly sensitive Attorney. We exist in all arenas. It is my super power, but you really have to pick your clients carefully.
...all professions like yours benefit from you being a humanized HSP💓
@@stephaniea.d.1791 Indeed, I will not let others tell what I can and cannot do. I am a HSP and I am studying to become an engineer. I heard horrifying stories about engineering jobs. People being very harsh to each other and having burn-outs. But I still want to become an engineer.
Ok, you just described literally every aspect of my life. One thing I was like “Yes” on was “sleeping”. My mom use to poke fun of me in front of people about how I slept so much. She never respected my differences. I could go on an on but wanted to say thank you so much for this Ted Talk.
A sensitive eccentric is not a negative thing. We just process everything at once. In a matter of moments./moment. Thanks🌷
I realized very lately that I was highly sensitivity . I have gone through a hard time all these years. My family calls me crazy .i was so tensed . And now I’m trying to put myself togather. And this video was amazingly helpful . Thank you . I needed this . :,)
i realised that I am HSP just a month ago.I am 28. how old are you ?
anyways never too late. better than never.
high Hopes I’m 19 . It’s hard to understand my own feeling towards another ! I mess up very bad! I always end up crying when somebody scolds me for a very simple reson. I end up looking like a kid if front of all and they mock at me . But I have learned from my mistakes . I’m glad that I atleast got to know that I’m HS. What’s your story?
Priyanka Jena thank god I’m finding out abt my hsp at 15 lol
@@1234DKFN Hi I m HSP. From india too. Need to talk with you
38 F. Found out 3 months ago.
I’ve been feeling guilty when I treat myself. If I suffered from over work, somehow it’d made me relieved. I guess it was from my background too.
I live in a country where people believe that effort is the first priority. It means you’ll gain people’s credit if you work hard whether it doesn’t result good or not. (That indicates working extra hours as you know...) When I took two week holiday, some coworkers got very offensive to me, they were saying ‘Everyone else is not taking holiday that long, why can’t you work like us?’. It was their choice and all the employees can get 21 days off per year, it’s a employee ‘s right. Well, I needed to rest from those kind of people too, lol. I wasn’t comfortable with a working environment where I hear people yelling, phone keeps ringing, and even I smell people sweating.
I didn’t want to admit I was too sensitive, but I will take care of myself as HSP. Her speech gave me courage to live as HSP and making it an advantage. Thank you!
Yes, we need to be taught to embrace our sensitivity, and not to take on board the criticizers, who think we should be just like them. I love this talk.
Bravo you captured the essence of empathy on the deepest level of definition in such a short speech through you just being you and explaining how you feel . 🙏🏻
I loved this speech so much despite her fumbling. She's so honest, sweet and clearly a valuable person. Thank you for putting in the effort to give us this speech, a fellow HSPis sending a hug ❤️ also that pulli rocksss
Just realised to day that I an a HSP, never realised this existed before. I am 71 ..better late than never I guess. Explains why I couldn't do public speaking and needed to get a break from gatherings.
thank. you so much. for putting words to what I perceive and so many of us be and have been made wrong for.. thank you for being that voice...
I completely understand her short shaky breaths. I feel that way every time I speak publicly.
Thank you Laura, I am 52 and have never understood what was going on until now.
I've always quietly k nown that my hsp traits...
(and I'll use this acronym to describe myself now because people LOVE to hear u have a 'condition' with an official Name, and they even respect you more!)......
...are a sign of my body's intellegance and self care impulses...like w sleeping.., diet, and setting boundaries w others.
It's a Blessing to be a HSP!!🥰
this is my superpower too...thank you for sharing your knowledge..so brave..so blessed..
This is incredibly inspiring. Thankyou for your bravery and wisdom xx
Simple and honest - totally resonates! 🤗🤗 hugs
Amazing and Wonderful message,I love it...Thanks for being kindness and share it with us...Receive a warm regard and many Blessings for you and your family! :)
Omg it’s so nice to hear someone explain me while describing their self, I am not alone!!!!❤💕💕💕
Are HSP's clingy ( in a good way)?
I try not to be since I don’t want to be labeled as such
Loving it and listening again and again and again
Absolutely brilliant!
Thank you for sharing this. So much
thank you thank you thank You .
This was great, thank you.
Beautiful talk. Thank you
this was so accurate!, It is really hard for others to understand it, this video is a great reference
Thank you so much for sharing ❤
I understand you very well. I have generalized anxiety disorders and I am so exhausted.
Thank you for this video.
E-(energy in)motion, Intuition and compassion are high vibrations, which science is discovering together with the health benefits for the body. When HSP persons learn to balance and ground their nature it is definitely a superpower! the thinking type of persons with less feeling should stop viewing it is a weakness and start using these natural given gifts they also have, just like we got logic aswell so we can work together and complement each other. So we can fix this system,society and the planet.
Thanks for sharing this with us.
Thank you.
So helpful and enjoyable! I could really relate to the things she said! Inspiring (:
Its so good to see that we are not alone...I am also a highly sensitive person..
Thank you
She is beautiful inside and out
She did amazing! Thanks for speaking up on this topic and raising awareness!!!
And yes I wish these r the things we are actually taught in school. I just found out I’m an HSP and I’m 31!! I wish I had known and embraced this earlier on in life!
Thanks for the Ted talk!!
And agree there should be a better environment for presentations! Something more comfortable then being in front of bright lights! Lol like something outdoors in the sun
Great talk!! Really helped. 😊
Gratitude 💗🤍✨
Great job!.
I work with children that present as HSP and I do it successfully because I leaned into my own HSP and made it my super power!! 🙏🏻☺️🔥
Love this! Can I ask in what capacity? 😊
her voice is shaking exactly the way mine does everytime I have to face a crowd
Me too - It’s terrifying
Anytime I am passionate about anything my voice shakes. Then I worry about trying to control that and not to care so much, but that just makes it worse.
5:26 I can literally hear the dust fall.
Lol, so funny, wish the loud obnoxious truck in my neighborhood sounded like dust falling.
I enjoyed this thank you! I have thought to myself many times that it was my superpower as well. Thank you Laura.
I’ve had to resort to meds over the years, intermittently until several years ago when I found one that worked extremely well for me. I had to...I couldn’t function to my full potential because my sensitivity affected me and in a sense, incapacitated me. I suppose I have surrendered my superpower but for the better good. I have a resilience I never knew I possessed, can stand up for myself, tell people NO, leave a job if it’s not serving my mental health well, I can spot toxic people and not invest my time in them. I have a wonderful family and that’s where I’m happiest. I finally understand myself, and if being on meds to bring my senses down, to make me see situations for what they are instead of feeling them so intensely, then that for me is a very good thing.
Wow I can relate to everything she said about her own experience, this is definitely my favourite TED talk!
And it is really cool to see that she can be so successful despite needing so much sleep. People around me always gasp when I tell them I need 10 hours, they usually just do 6 / 7 hrs
4:54 man I can relate so much to just freezing mid sentence like that, but she did better than I would’ve, it would’ve taken me 5 minutes to prepare for that speech with the audience staring at me as I stand there awkwardly. This is why I hate presentations.
Love it
That's brave, my dear!
Great video, it really helps
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How enlightening and insightful as a fellow HSP myself
Cynthia, the honest truth is that all this is pure narcissism. Stop thinking the universe exists for you and to make you 'happy' and you will be a much happier person. The world is what it is. Much of it doesn't suit us - not me, not you. But the world will continue to do what it does - it really doesn't care about you or me, and why should it?
Thank u 🫂
she feels like a long lost sister
Watching this video, was like watching myself, like a mirror
Well done. I'm a HSP too. Love your sweater :)
Are HSP's clingy (in a good way)?
I completely understand where she is coming from , I myself am an HSP
great, thanks! I havebeen working as trekking guide nearly 20 years in china, some of the clients 4-6 days 24-7, of course I have to be picky, many people think my work is very hard, acturally most of people on the road, you only see their sunny side. after a few days having some good time together, Bye--bye, haha......
I have now understood why it is a super power for me. My hyper sensitivity makes me compassionate, empathize with people who are going through rough times. But at the same time it is so painful to be with negative people. My body just observes it makes me miserable.
I always saw it as a weakness
Well done! :)
Great speech!! Thank you!
Even though if ı don't see the caption, ı would immediately be like: "something is just like me with this girl, is this the way she talks?" Now ı know we both went through similar things and have common personality traits. I didn't be diagnosed with high sensitivity since ı have never taken therapy, but ı feel like if ı went to a psychologist, ı would be diagnosed. Life is just so hard when you think, feel, sense everything but being too reserved to express it, or if you express your intense emotions, you'll be seen as an awkward kid.
I am an ENFP HSP and quite extroverted. Its very interesting compared to how I understand and experience the introverted HSPs. I do not get to talk about this much with other HSPs.
All my life I had to sleep 10 to 12 hours that is normal for some people. We are not machines, we are all different.
Imagine being an HSP living in a highly toxic/stressful environment which supports "trough/aggressive" people, and also where the living conditions are so chaotic that you are not able to sleep because of the noises coming up from everywhere. That is why I have lost 10 kg for the last 2 years and I'm constantly tired and the smallest inconvenience makes me miserable. Now you may say, "Just change the environment?" Well, change is something that TERRIFIES an HSP who will also overthink everything! I just want to rest man! I just need to sleep!
Blessed to sleep 10hr n m hsp people need to hearr
Finally I am realising..I am not alone
In the Christian world it’s called prophetic. :) I am this way my whole life. It’s a gift. You can discern things that others may not. You can smell, feel sense many things. You cry with people because you feel their emotion.
Angry intense people make you feel like you wanna crawl inside yourself or even feel angry and intense yourself.
When you don’t realize that it is a prophetic gift it can be tormenting because people think there’s something wrong with you.
Wow I’m a Christian and a HSP and I’ve never thought of it this way.
Me either, I am a Christian with HSP, this help me understand why I care some much about other people's feelings.
As an HSP and empath, I got extremely anxious perceiving her anxiety 😂 it’s like being with her on the stage…
I am sensitive and I have known this ever but getting boxed under a label HSP is new to me. And yes this sensitivity is more of a social hurdle when you are trying to fit into the world. You are not able to be aggressively ambitious and run in the stampede race of world. This sensitivity is never seen as a strength let alone being a power. Sensitive people are often seen being stepped upon and to spare themselves the pain they often corner themselves. Now I am reaching 40 n I still don't know how to get ahead with it. But yes this talk is suggesting me to atleast embrace my sensitivity and stop seeing it as a weakness and start seeing it as just a trait which does not need to be suppressed or eliminated but just lived and carefully nurtured.
What if it's not a label, what if it's a gift ?
Exactly my thoughts. My parents always knew I was sensitive but never knew it was a trait until quite recently. It explains so many things about my life and it’s nice to know I’m not actually depressed, I just have severe highs and lows in my mood because that’s just who I am. I react to pain more because that’s who I am. I react a certain way and hate change because that’s who I am. And it’s nice to know. 👍
I tried to read all the comments & see if anyone mentioned this. Bear in mind that not only are there HSPs but there are also people with SPD - Sensory Processing Disorder. & for both groups, it manifests differently for each individual. When it's extreme, it leans into the territory of SPD. I don't mean that in any derogatory way. All it means is that the way you process things having to do with your senses may not only make you more sensitive but may actually impede how you function unless & until you learn coping mechanisms.
This confuses me because I am very highly sensitive but was never shy. I have always been very extroverted but I identify with the highly sensitive person
Yes Vincent. I am both introvert and extrovert HSP. the introvert and extrovert parts doesn't make you less or more of an HSP.
Laura: it's just 10 times harder to deal with
Les personnes hypersensitives: 👁*👄👁*
haha comment tu respires trop fort, et je ne peux qu'imaginer à quel point ton coeur bat en presentant ton exposé... j'aime comment tu dis qu'on n'est pas 'weak' mais 'exhausted' et les gens ne comprennent pas us being THAT expauseted. J'ai beau expliquer en long, en large, si t'es pas hypersensitive, tu peux difficilement comprendre. Et merci un million de fois pour sensibiliser les gens sur cette "confition" (and yeah, if you're asking, we can hear the dust fall... and we wish we didn't...).
Read Elaine Aron's book
i don't like to sleep much but i do take frequent mini - breaks....
I'm just like her 😸😽 ...
🥰
I always told I'm highly sensitive person, but i ignored it till today the 19th of august 2018 age of 34
Hope we (hsps) can cope well in this life, coz sometimes I really heart people's feelings with my attitude
Abdullah Almadhi
I also hsp l
we are the same HSP
I have this lol. I like it though 😊
Cool!
I might be an HSP and I'm trying to find a use for my "talents" , after this talk I'm not sure what she meant was her superpower. It seemed it wasn't about her powers , but more about how people should treat her and how she had to adapt. Sure empathy and sensitivity is great , but how can I sell that at my workplace ?!
thats quite a sweater
It's a protective shield....can't understand it any other way.
@d b wow what smart women if its the cases
15-20% of the poulation are HSP'S... so is alot more than 1.2 million. Roughly 1.2 billion of the population...
Yeah it's a big percentage
I am 13 years old girl name Malaika I am also highly sensitive person and believe me that life of highly sensitive person is 10 times difficult than a normal person
can everybody who is HSP (highly sensitive person) tell the age at which they realised that they are HSP. Also please mention your gender in comment section. I hope other people also want to know, to give them relief that they are not the only one. Also hope that they will find someone who is late in this realisation:
I am 28, M. I realised I am HSP just a month ago
i was 14, F
At 21
have you heard of adrenal fatigue..i think its quite related to being HSP
Adrenal fatigue?what's that?
21
When I was around 10, my best friends told me they didn't want to be friends with me anymore. I was crying all day at school after that... Then the new "friends" I made gave me an intervention with the teacher. After a while, one of them said that she thought I was very sensitive, and so, very stupidly suggested that to stop the crying I should just breath and stop myself... Since then I haven't cried as easily as I used to. But I kind of miss it. I was just a little girl hurting badly and they made me sensitive to the fact that people were uncomfortable whenever I expressed my emotions. Little did I know that I was developing codependency, CPTSD, depression, and anxiety partly because I never learned how to deal with so much feeling in a healthy way. Now I realize how much strongly I seem to feel things than other people, and it might just be because I had this special trait all along. This video was very helpful, and a few years ago I started thinking that way about my sensitivity. It's kind of awesome to think that we feel things so intensely. It's like anything you do can feel like an adventure.
I can totally relate to this. Can anyone recommend the perfect career for a HSP?
I think HSPs make great writers, therapists, counsellors, designers, musicians, etc.