Gender Dysphoria | Dr. Mark Yarhouse

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  • Опубликовано: 17 ноя 2024

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  • @darkknightsds
    @darkknightsds Год назад +1

    I'm ngl, when I pulled this up I was expecting to get a hate-filled diatribe against trans people. But this is spoken with compassion and love. Let's not forget the New Testament highlights the conversion of the Ethiopian eunuch - and eunuchs were considered a gender minority in those days.

  • @merryquantagency2731
    @merryquantagency2731 3 года назад +6

    I am terribly moved by his speech. I now have a better understanding of the transgender community. God bless.

  • @monicadaniels784
    @monicadaniels784 2 года назад +7

    If you are watching this, maybe you are a bit open minded and interested in learning. I am trans. I can tell you that being trans is not a moral issue good or bad. It just is! It is not asked for or chosen consciously. It is not a mental illness. I truly believe it is a medical condition. The theory of hormonal effects in utero makes sense to me. For one thing, if you were to expose the fetus to high levels of estrogen, it would affect brain formation. This has actually happened by mistake. In the 50's and 60's a medicine called DES was given to some pregnant women to stop them from miscarrying. It was basically a big dosing of estrogen. It seems there is evidence that this did cause many to end up with gender dysphoria also as a result. I don't know if there are studies on this but I have heard this frequently from many trans people. There are not many studies done on trans people.
    What does dysphoria feel like? I describe it as feeling as though you are wearing burlap bags all your life. Instead of it being a physical sensation of itchiness from the burlap, it is a mental irritation, always there. It is constant, yet at times it gets so strong you want to put your head through a wall because you are so frustrated. You try everything you can not to feel it and you feel horrible guilt and shame. But it comes on and you can do nothing to shed it. You try to distract yourself. Many sadly turn to bad distractions like alcohol or drugs. Many consider self harm.
    Can you run from it successfully? You can run, but it never goes away. I ran from it 50 years, trying to do what everyone expected of me. It made me miserable. Finally, I lost any ability to patiently deny it and I transitioned. It was the best decision and hardest I have ever made. It cured my dysphoria and for the first time in my life I felt like a whole happy person. Now imagine yourself as suddenly being dropped in a different sex than what you were yesterday, but your sense of self stays the same. Imagine how wrong that would feel. Then imagine people telling you you are sinful, mentally ill, a joke, a weirdo, not worthy of being spoken to, or worthy of the least bit of respect. Family, friends might suddenly disown you. On top of that feeling, no one wants to employ you, rent apartments to you or even let you use the proper bathroom because they call you a pedophile. It used to be, if you came out, you faced being sent to a mental hospital. You are seeing more people coming out now because people feel more free not to keep the secret. Those people were always there, but a ton were in hiding.
    I write these things because if people actually hear from a trans person, talk to them, they may see we are just people. Most are kind and caring, some religious, some not. We are not what many would have you believe for their own political ends. Most folks just want to blend in and no trans person wants to recruit anyone. That is a bold faced lie. If we have any 'agenda' it is to not be singled out to lose our rights. What we go through, I wouldn't wish on anyone. I never tell anyone they should transition or take any course of action but what is right for them. So, please, be kind, make an effort to understand and maybe seek someone with knowledge to learn from. The world has too much hate. Good night!

    • @robindz8502
      @robindz8502 2 года назад +3

      Your message is is correct, being transgender is a condition, we fight all our lives, it's a fight you cannot win, but if you succeed, you come to realize you destroyed your life.
      I simply don't understand why there is so much hate against us, if we turn out to be pretty, even beautiful they call us tramps, if we turn out androgynous, then we are rapists and child molesters.
      Narrow minded people ( which there's a lot) come out giving lectures like this when they're not even informed, or simply don't care.
      What most of us want is to find balance in our lives, to be part of a society like most people, that takes a lot of exposure and puts a target on our back however, and just as a reminder, LGBTQ people appear everywhere, regardless religious values, race, ethnicity or "gender"

    • @monicadaniels784
      @monicadaniels784 2 года назад +1

      @@robindz8502 Thanks Robin! I take the attitude of trying to fight for understanding by others in my little corner of the world. I have had some success. It is hard to look around and see the needless hate and judgment. I wish you all the happiness you can find.

    • @theJellyjoker
      @theJellyjoker 10 месяцев назад

      I read so many sad stories from so many people. I hope people sharing their experiences brings more attention to the issue. The world needs more compassion.

    • @monicadaniels784
      @monicadaniels784 10 месяцев назад +1

      @@theJellyjoker You are correct about the need for compassion. Thank you for your comment. There is actually a lot of happiness to be found if people would withhold judgments before they know the facts. It is possible for happy outcomes. Happy Holidays!

  • @almsthvn
    @almsthvn 7 лет назад +12

    Thank you for so succinctly discussing this diverse and complicated topic with grace and love.

  • @lesleyalegria7283
    @lesleyalegria7283 9 месяцев назад

    I am a Christian mother of a 24 year old son who just told me he has been struggling with gender dysphoria since he/she was in second grade. She only recently figured out why she was so uncomfortable with her male body.
    As she shared with me she broke down crying and I held her with acceptance and the love that I know our heavenly Father has for her despite this gender struggle. Father I pray that the church gains a better understanding and more compassion regarding this very challenging issue.🙏🙏
    My son felt tormented for many years and is still suffering despite coming out to me.😢

  • @sueoconnor12
    @sueoconnor12 2 года назад

    Thank you for this compassionate and thoughtful presentation.

  • @thesearchofkings6453
    @thesearchofkings6453 7 лет назад +4

    I'm confused by the continual reiteration of "transgender Christians." It my opinion, this moves beyond his initial thesis of Gender Dysphoria.

    • @krs2711
      @krs2711 5 лет назад +2

      The Search of Kings, "Continual reiteration"? He spoke the term only once @23:16 where he mentioned a study he and his colleagues did some years ago on 'transgendered Christians'. He did say words like "gender dysphoria", "transgender", "gender identity" and "Christian" numerous times because he's a Christian, speaking at a Christian College on the topic of "gender dysphoria" and how to better handle this topic from the Christian perspective.

    • @ronlanter6906
      @ronlanter6906 4 года назад +1

      Don't be confused, there is no such thing as a Christian who is gender confused. I'm sure there are those who consider themselves Christians but have weak of false doctrine and theology but they are not Christians in the Biblical, Christ-centered, Lordship-salvation sense.
      We are all born in sin, and if one says they were born an adulterer and proceeds to live their live out as an adulterer, they cannot claim to be a Christian any more than anyone who does not repent, turn away from their sin, and pray for God's help. Regeneration is part of the sanctification process. Jesus always said, ... and sin no more.

    • @averithrower3274
      @averithrower3274 3 года назад +9

      @@ronlanter6906 Did you even watch the video? Your comment suggests that you didn't, at all.

    • @biruss
      @biruss 10 месяцев назад

      ​@@ronlanter6906thoughts aren't sin per se

  • @untilIgetbackHome
    @untilIgetbackHome Год назад

    I too appreciate having heard this talk. I will listen at least another 2xs so I get more understanding of what all was said. The video was shared to me from my very close friend whom I love, I believe that my friend is IN Christ. My friend was born male but CHOOSES to live as female. He shared with me a short version of his life story after our meeting 20+ yrs ago. I met him when he was early in his transition to female. I will admit though that I have never appreciated his choice (or anyone else's) to exchange the Gender God gave him, for the other. I have compassion for everyone that is delt a difficult burden to carry in life. But after everything I recall hearing Dr. Yarhouse say about Gender Dysphoria it added to my opinion that it is a 'condition'. I believe a person would honor God best by 'fighting' the condition, not giving in to it. I would compare it to that of Addiction, which the Medical Establishments now determine it as a 'condition' not a 'choice'. Certainly, no Christian would believe we are to embrace or give in to Alcoholism, Drug use, Eating Disorders or Sexual Addiction! I love my friend and am glad he is happy in his life. But I believe what is going on in our Society is bigger and more dangerous than many are letting themselves realize. Dr. Yarhouse put no 'caution' on what is happening to CHILDREN at an alarming rate! Instead, I took him to be encouraging 'youth' who may be dealing with Gender issues to 'go with it'. I think he was irresponsible in this. I wish he would have encouraged young people to seek GOD with counseling and suggest slow playing any final decision about their Gender. Even when addressing an adult struggling with this 'issue', it would seem to me to be more Christ-like to help them resist becoming someone as un-natural as a man in a womans body or a woman in a mans body, which is not the Gender HE created them in. I have condensed much for the sake of less lengthy comment. I do have love in my heart towards ALL. Shalom

    • @theJellyjoker
      @theJellyjoker 10 месяцев назад

      You don't heal a wound by ignoring and doing nothing about it, get and accept help. Living with this condition untreated is not healthy. The earlier it can be treated, the better quality of life a person will have, especially if the can be supported by their friends, families and communities.

    • @untilIgetbackHome
      @untilIgetbackHome 10 месяцев назад

      @@theJellyjoker I don't understand your comment to (me)...can you please try again to express what you want to say to me, I want to understand. Shalom

  • @DonswatchingtheTube
    @DonswatchingtheTube 6 лет назад +2

    If some argue that it might be down to your biological condition (nature), I can't think of any traits that this argument don't apply to, from kindness to violent. Are things what the mind determine them to be?
    Like everyone else the transgender person wants acceptance:
    1. From God, If they have a desire for religion.
    2. Of themselves. They are dissatisfied with themselves.
    3. From family.
    4. From Christians. Though they can't make the Christian's response a scapegoat.
    5. From the secular society. Real acceptance by the opposite sex in dating situations.
    6. Protected by civil law. This can involve an activist element that compels acceptance. Issues can arise when others are asked to participate in the issue if they don't agree with the conclusions. i.e. how you address someone.
    7. Scientifically. This can cross over from transgender to transsexual.
    Everyone should be seeking to remove all stumbling blocks from the salvation of others while keeping their own salvation safe. John the Baptist made straight paths for the first advent of Jesus Christ, the church today has the same task for his second advent.

  • @NotABushFan1
    @NotABushFan1 2 года назад +3

    In the new wake of today, what if in the morning you knew what out a shadow of dought that your conservative religious (Christian) views, lifestyle was wrong - dead wrong! The only thing you could do is drop your Christian beliefs/life. You now have to transition into one of the following, The Church of Latter-Day Saints, an Orthodox Jew, or a Jehovah's Witness. Could you? Sometimes I think what Jesus says has a lot of merits - we see the small stick in others' eyes failing to see or understand the log in our own eye. The hardest thing I had to learn is to love myself and that is what many transgender people have to do or live to see the happiness in cis-gender people.
    God also made about 2 percent that are Intersex. Even Jesus talks about eunuchs from birth. Why do Christians want to forget what Jesus says?

  • @denniscokley9651
    @denniscokley9651 5 лет назад +4

    Totally correct

  • @hopperdustin4492
    @hopperdustin4492 2 года назад

    This was good. It did me good to listen to this.

  • @richardbedford8120
    @richardbedford8120 4 года назад +2

    Are these facts? Each person contains both male and female parts? The conscious ego normally expresses its sexually congruent persona? This expressed persona restricts its sexual counterpart to the subconscious mind. The subconscious communicates feeling states symbolically to the conscious ego persona as GD. This is perceived by the male ego's persona as the feeling it wants to be female?

    • @aphradite321
      @aphradite321 4 года назад

      You know emotions go BEYOND science, try not to compare these types of things to science or you'll only confuse yourself further.

    • @richardbedford8120
      @richardbedford8120 4 года назад +2

      @@aphradite321 Did I sound emotional or scientific? Am I confused? Emotions are feelings. GD is a feeling. Feelings are personal measurements taken by the self. It is useful information for self understanding. Medical "remedies" are all bogus "Science" that do nothing but cover up the real problem. BTW I am grounded and not confused.

  • @r-platt
    @r-platt 3 года назад

    So what do we do when Christians won't heal, God won't heal and the pain causes MASSIVE psychological damage?

    • @foxbox2879
      @foxbox2879 3 года назад

      What do you mean won't heal ?

    • @r-platt
      @r-platt 3 года назад +2

      @@foxbox2879 Gender dysphoria is a conflict between mind and body. My body is all male but my mind (my conscious self) is all woman.
      That conflict is permanently stuck in our heads like an itch you can't scratch. It takes time and effort to push it to the back of the mind - but it never ever stops.
      The slightest thing can remind us of that conflict, bringing with it an endless cycle of regret, longing, desire, envy, self-loathing and more.
      As time passes it gets harder and harder to push away that conflict.
      Eventually we can think of nothing else. It's a torture beyond your worst nightmare because it NEVER STOPS. Not for 1 minute.
      Eventually we can't handle it any more. The mind _snaps_ destroying a part of the brain and resetting the dysphoria back to every few hours.
      And the cycle repeats again, only it's worse.
      Eventually the mind ShAttErS. That is terror beyond words.
      When we transition the conflict ends and the downward spiral stops.
      It's that simple.
      And that complex.

    • @foxbox2879
      @foxbox2879 3 года назад

      @@r-platt I've been on HRT for a little over three months now. I understand all that, but don't understand what you meant by Christians and God not healing.
      Also, idk if transitioning is an absolute fix for dysphoria. It just changes it.

    • @r-platt
      @r-platt 3 года назад +2

      @@foxbox2879 A Christian that offers healing and acceptance for transgender people is exceedingly rare.
      Most want to tell you about ALL your sins first and why you cannot do what you are doing.
      God is awesome. But he rarely fixes problems of this world. I prayed every day for years. Thousands of times in a thousand ways I begged God for help, support, anything.
      And God did nothing for my dysphoria.
      Eventually my mind broke and I lost my ability to cope.
      I agree that transitioning isn't an instant cure-all. But telling people who can't grasp the basics that the treatment is mostly effective will only make them that much more stubborn.

    • @biruss
      @biruss 10 месяцев назад

      This person said the mind broke​@@smadadys

  • @spongmongler6760
    @spongmongler6760 6 лет назад +3

    am I in the christian side of youtube or is it just Americans?

    • @Ben-li9zb
      @Ben-li9zb 2 года назад

      You're on the Christian side, don't go deeper, this is the good part

    • @spongmongler6760
      @spongmongler6760 2 года назад

      @@Ben-li9zb Christians want me dead so...

    • @Ben-li9zb
      @Ben-li9zb 2 года назад

      @@spongmongler6760 some of them want us both dead lol. This is generally the nicer side where people don't want that

    • @theJellyjoker
      @theJellyjoker 10 месяцев назад

      There are Christians in America, they have the right to speak. I what to hear what they have to say.

    • @spongmongler6760
      @spongmongler6760 10 месяцев назад

      @@theJellyjoker then go ask, what's any of that got to do with me?

  • @reapthewhirlwind4166
    @reapthewhirlwind4166 2 года назад

    Wish the church spoke out more about the grooming and mutilation of children by the trans community

  • @Snafuski
    @Snafuski 2 года назад

    I wish. I am praying that more secular doctors step up to the plate, because the moment I hear "God did this and that" I switch off, because I am combating for the health and safety of a child, who's being "affirmative.cared" all the way to a life of misery, and I'd love to show her these clips, but the moment SHE hears this evangelical stuff, like me, she switches off.
    But I admire your courage for taking this stance. I merely get viciously attacked by the transgender online Brown Shirts. .

    • @thomaslewis5187
      @thomaslewis5187 2 года назад

      Seriously intellectuals both religious and secular who ignore biology and believe the current trends of this emotional debate regarding how one feels about oneself, no matter how honest, caring, and sophisticated it all sound. It's wrecking hundreds of children.
      1. We don't like pedophiles for the harm that they do to children, because they are cruel, destructive.
      2. We don't like charlatans when they tell us to wear mask, when they in fact don't do a thing for your health.
      3. Feelings about fearfulness does not mean that you should become a Martial Artist to overcome it.
      4. Feelings of the fear of black teenagers does not mean that you should denounce your white, brown, or yellow skin color.
      5. Feelings of failure having gotten an F in High School doesn't mean that you should drop out to avoid those feelings.
      A false sense of reality occurs if you have been taught the following...
      "If I feel it it must be True."
      or
      "Love is affirming everything I feel."
      or
      "You are the one that you have been waiting for. "
      or
      "A good God wouldn't Judge."
      or
      "Follow your heart."
      Compassion for such false statements will lead one to believe in this Gender subjectivity.
      Pope Francis constantly DEFIES Jesus Christ. He is a secularist, not a religious. A chemist first!
      This Charlatan is Trending towards a massive destruction of human children.

  • @robindz8502
    @robindz8502 5 лет назад +5

    I could only watch 5 minutes of this nonsense, where you talked about nothing

    • @ThatReadingGuy28
      @ThatReadingGuy28 5 лет назад

      Robin Dz nothing?

    • @jbw6823
      @jbw6823 3 года назад +4

      learn more

    • @monicadaniels784
      @monicadaniels784 2 года назад +1

      A closed mind is a terrible thing to open right Robin?

    • @robindz8502
      @robindz8502 2 года назад

      @@monicadaniels784 I think you can read the replies I got to a serious comment. I am not sure about ignorance, but close mindedness is definitely an issue

  • @robertconrad8005
    @robertconrad8005 5 лет назад +4

    Very interesting!!! He couldn't provide scripture to support any of his nonsense.

    • @ThatReadingGuy28
      @ThatReadingGuy28 5 лет назад +3

      Robert Conrad nonsense?

    • @jbw6823
      @jbw6823 3 года назад +2

      learn more

    • @monicadaniels784
      @monicadaniels784 2 года назад +3

      Some people might say that you believing in an invisible man in the sky is nonsense. How rude and dismissive that would be. There are intersex people, how hard is it to believe that gender isn't always A or B? Don't be hurtful in your beliefs, especially if you are claiming to try to be morally good.

    • @giraffelover2738
      @giraffelover2738 2 года назад

      You believe in an imaginary friend….

    • @monicadaniels784
      @monicadaniels784 2 года назад

      @@giraffelover2738 No, but I do try to respect that some people do!

  • @p.l.larose3851
    @p.l.larose3851 4 года назад

    "Helping people walk through this" . . .
    'Going through' ultimately means there is an end or conclusion of some kind.
    Navigating . . . hopefully means that a clear way comes into sight.
    Jesus healed thousands of people . . . of ALL manner of sickness and dis-ease.
    He even spent hours 'under the cover of night' ministering healing to people who were hidden during the day.
    I believe Scripture clearly teaches truth from untruth . .including gender issues.
    Untruth is NOT to be celebrated. In fact, why are we expected to celebrate ourselves anyway??
    Our culture is changing rapidly . . . yes . . and sadly . . we are reverting to heathen beliefs and practises. 😢

    • @Ben-li9zb
      @Ben-li9zb 2 года назад +4

      That scripture clearly shows compassion and accommodation for all people, yet you come to the conclusion that acceptance of others is bad? That helping others is bad? How do you misinterpret the point so much?