My mom always used to say "when something feels too good to be true, it usually is". Narcissists always come on strong in the beginning (love bombing) so that's a huge red flag which should never be ignored.
it easy to say, but if it is part of your life and it takes 2 years - then if feels real. Remember that it took 2 years. How careful a woman can be? Should all women hire prive detecvives before marrying or dating - seems so.
Narcissistic men are so dangerous and clever. Anyone can get conned by them no matter how intelligent. It happened to someone I know...a very smart career woman who fortunately got out of the relationship.
She gets hate because she makes the story about herself. When what Paolo was doing to those patients is what should be getting attention. Who cares if he was a cheater. He was a murderer which is worse
So much hate for this woman for no reason. She did the right things and stayed strong after for her daughter. She came out, faced the humiliation and shame, just so she can try and help others. I think she is a strong woman and deserves applause.
@@primeparadox9796 There was no wedding food, catered food.....he never ordered a damn thing or a place .....wonder what would have occurred If it got to the date and all showed up for nothing
Finally I got to hear the whole story ,WOW !!! What a classy woman and all she wanted was love ...but ... I’m glad she let the world know !!! Wish her all the best !!!
Just watched the documentary. This is classic Narcissistic Personality Disorder and sociopathy. I love that she did this...I love that she allows herself to be vulnerable about the trauma and the confusing feelings that are left in the aftermath. I would love to see her connect the dots with NPD and take the show one step further documenting stories of other women who have endured similar experiences. Her crazy, over-the-top story isn’t the norm, but there are many of us out here who can share stories of lies, future-faking, pretending, posing, masking...and the emotional fall-out that comes with that. Paolo is a complete narcissist. Plain and simple.
Amber Heard is another case of toxic narcissistic personality disorder. She has systematically set out to destroy Johnny Depp life without any conscience. She isn’t a surgeon who has human lives in her hands but she is extremely toxic and tells very elaborate lies which has ruined him.
Such a strong woman - I'm so sorry you went through such an unimaginably painful ordeal. Please know that *you* are the victim and there is no shame to speak of (in your address). All the responsibility lies solely with him because he chose to swindle you while you were genuinely opening your heart to him. Sending healing vibes and warmest wishes for a bright, peaceful, and fulfilling future! ❤
I just don't understand to be honest with you. I mean didn't he know that eventually everyone would find out when the imaginary wedding never transpired? Didn't he know it was going to be a bad outcome? So why even give her a ring and propose? Obviously the man is a sociopath 😟
Controlling her, keeping her interested until he was caught! That's all narcissistic men do... Been there over this! This poor woman! Lost her hubby, trusted this azz... UGH! Prayers Benita and her daughter
My mother is going through a very similar thing 😪😥 xx he's a covert narcasist lied about everything embasseled money his lies and deceit have gone so far she could even go to prison fot his crimes xx please pray for us xxx
This story shows us that we must be very careful about who we allow in our lives as friends, and who we date and/or marry. People should do a complete background check on any person they may want to date - before they go on a date with ANY person - to try to weed out evil, dangerous, crazy, serial lying demonic con artists and/or criminals.
Especially when they tell you the Pope is coming to the wedding. At least think, wow, how many are coming with his security detail? Do we need to feed them? Lots of cops at the house? Roof top snipers? So much to do. We are going to need extra plates
Many years ago while visiting Puerto Rico I befriended a young lady I met on a beach. She met a pilot that swept her off her feet. He asked her to marry him. Gave her money for a dress., etc. after a while he just dropped out of sight. She asked me to go to the little airport he worked out of and find out what happened to him. After inquiring, I was informed that he was home (in another town) with his wife, and five children. Hardest thing I’ve ever had to do at that time. She was crushed! Till this day, I cannot wrap my brain around his reasons for his deception. Benita’s story is 10x’s worse. So many were dragged into this man’s delusions! Thanks for the courage in sharing it!
The daughter will have major trust issues, with her mom and with other men. If your mom’s proven that her judgment is shit, you’re more likely to rebel against any attempts at parenting from her.
You are brave one journalist ,he didn't lie to you he lied to himself. You are free woman and beautiful. That's a good example for others .You are a model for many woman they keep silence for the man they loved because they are embraced, to tell their story.
Also call and visit them at their workplace, even if it's just to confirm that they do work where they say they work. Meeting the parents or siblings is also important.
Yeah that’s an invasion of privacy. If someone I just started dating called my job, that would be a huge red flag and definitely a reason for me to end the relationship.
@@bellezanegra0206 The call to the workplace is to speak with the person to establish that he works there; the call is not to speak to someone else to inquire that he works there. What is wrong with that? How much heartache would have been spared if she had done something as simple as that. If you know of a better way, please let me know.
My dear Benita, I am extremely sorry to hear what you had been through that coward. I truly admire your courage and resilience shown to overcome this. You are one of the superwomen I have ever seen. So much love to you and your daughter.
Here after watching the netflix documentary. THIS 'SURGEON' SHOULD BE IN JAIL FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE. He straight up murdered 7 people! Rip to all victims
I have been conned by men more than once, I am not a stupid woman either and incredibly strong and independent yet I have attracted and been seduced by con men multiple times. Thank you for your story Benita❤️
On 21 June 2023, Paolo was sentenced in the court of appeal in Sweden to prison for two years and six months for three cases of maltreatment. The patients had synthetic trachea's transplanted and died soon after.
It's truly sad people do this all the time.No one deserves to be lied to and I pray you and your daughter has a Beautiful life filled with truth.I have so much respect for you to share your story.You will help the people who has given up on life because of this
I watches the series on RUclips but 20/20 didn't post part 6...leaving me hanging lol. So I went on their website and was excited to find the whole documentary. But it's only available to US citizens. And I live in Europe. I felt disappointed. Luckily I found this video interview on RUclips. I finally know the whole story. Very heart breaking what that horrible man did to this wonderful woman. Looks like he is a narcissist. Benita went through a lot. But glad she is doing okay now. Thank you for uploading this interview.
Hope you get your job back, you are so honest and open Benita, this is absolutely not your fault, a con artist will tell you all you want to hear and you would believe them, thank you for airing your story it could happen to the best of us, hope your beautiful daughter is striving well, you are a strong and intelligent woman, Bravo to you.
Great podcast . l am so sorry this happened to you .But the worst thing that he is lying and cheating his way through his so called medical career just a vile person with no morals or compassion .
Thank you ♡ your story has helped me not feel so alone, my brother died and a guy like this really pushed me to stay with him, I got stuck with lockdown. He gas lit me, shamed me and took money from me. He really messed with my heart and my mind. So thanks for sharing your story ♡
Great way to put your name out there again for job opportunities! She seems to have gotten out ahead of this catastrophe, kudos to her for at least attempting to pick up the pieces once everything became clear
I can tell she’s really talented with PR. Very natural, well spoken, and relatable. She also repeats the catchy sticking points she said in the documentary- in the same exact wording. She probably broke this whole thing down and wrote important points to really resonate with the audience. I’m not saying I don’t believe her story, she is just really good at telling it.
Thanks for this upload. Benita is such a strong graceful lady. She has the most awesome supportive friends and family. I really admired that. All the best to her and her daughter 💖❤️
Thank you both for this! I was just watching different things on RUclips and ran across her story, found a video of him being interviewed/side stepping, which lead me to this. GOD BLESS YOU BOTH!🙏🙏
Great woman, so interesting. She has really assessed the whole situation well. How does he afford his life. It's amazing how he has so much time and effort to go to such lengths. Again well done and I am sure it was tough to go public with all of this, the shame is his not hers.
Now that is the Million Dollar question! I'm curious too...Sociopaths / Narcissists are usually clever enough to persuade and manipulate their victims to pay it forward... as they drain their accounts. Some habits are just so obvious.
@@spectacularrichbeautybrilli that's true... I watched it twice on Roku, they have it on discovery channel the full story., have you watched it there as well? There are more details, been said that she started saying she was living with him an extravagant life she never imagined, she will never lived and she like it. Then she continued going on...
I think shes incredibly brave. Idk how anyone would make it thru all this with their dignity and pride still intact.... my god... shes actually amazing. She fell for things all of us truly want and might have fallen for as well.
I’m grateful that I’ve lived to see a survivor helping so many expose such dangerous soulless creatures. There were family members who knew the clout chaser/stalker who tricked me into a quickie marriage over 37 years ago, yet they never divulged details about him. The difference is he terrorized me, I had no interest in him. He’s a gleefully successful con, whose escaped any consequences for his untold destruction of lives and families.
Way to bounce back and recover. You are a very healthy person, who endured being lied to, grew through the suffering and betrayal, and turned it around. Your strength and courage will benefit your daughter, and many others and deliver hope, and reassurance to others, including men.
It's one insane story. I have a question. I get, to a certain extent, why he kept going with his botched medical technique but why did he go through this whole marriage, wedding charade? I guess I don't understand what satisfaction he got from watching you and yours turn your life inside out.
Considering what her background is, I think he wanted/thought she would catch him much sooner than she did. I can understand why she trusted him, he had all the trappings. It is so important to not let someone make you keep secrets or not share full details about their life, and a upcoming wedding. She should have been part of the planning of Everything. He probably wouldn't have shown up at the wedding had she not caught on and cancelled it. She threw away so much without verification of everything this man told her. THERE IS NO PRINCE CHARMING. HE NEVER EXISTED LADIES.
Psychopath, exciting game, eventually would have been the big discard, humiliating for her-he reinforces his superiority. Not bothered by lies, because incapable of caring.
I admire your strength Bonita, you're a wonderful person! I love the relationship your daughter and yourself have. You will both be happy and humble above ground, I just know it. Much love and respect from katrinka in the San Francisco Bay Area
Benito you too could have demanded to see where he lived. As much as you traveled together i was an obvious lie. My heart breakers for you. You and your daughter deserve the best. Thank God your alive to tell the story. Some women die. Stay strong🌷
Yes.... He has this Jackle and Hyde personality. He was prepared to kill the patients he experimented on to pursue his lies as a medical professional to keep up a facade. God knows what he is capable of in his romantic pursuits to maintain the facade he created.
Such a brave lady to speak up as she did. It is so hurtful to be conned by anyone. I am sure the pain increases exponentially when you add love into the mix. It is great that other people in similar situations can connect and not feel so alone.
The same thing happened to me. He told me he was going to marry me and we were going to live in a house in miorca. I loved him so much. He talked me into walking away from my 28 year marriage. Breaking up my children's childhood home. They were 18 and 20 at the time but the divorce still hurt them both deeply and my daughter doesn't talk to me to this day. He told me I didn't need to fight for any money in the divorce.. that I didn't need it. He would take care of me. So I walked away from everything that was rightfully mine and Today have nothing. A life I had worked night and day to create for 28 years...i left behind because of a promise ....a lie. I was so stupid. And my ex husband feels like he got away with stealing everything from me. I am 56 years old and cleaning houses to support myself on less than 30K a year. All because I loved this guy when he said he loved me. I am heartbroken to this day and that was 4 years ago.
Narcassist... gaslighting... lying... had am answer for everything. I would love to contact Benita. I find the topic of narcassism fascinating. Once you know how they work, you never ignore the signs again.
First, I think it’s unfortunate for her to have experienced the lie her fiancé projected to her. Second, I hope she looked at the up side of their romance - remember the romantic gesture he did for her. He is gorgeous. And he did lavish her with cheap gifts and good memories. He did it just for fun. He didn’t do it to cheat for her money. I think it’s alright. He is not the only liar. Men lie. Period.
I feel for her, myself was led to a world of Lies and deceit!! I’m NOW happily single and Been Born again and Jesus Changed me and healed me completely 🙏😍🥰🔥
He told her that the Pope was going to marry them, that he was going to give them Holy Communion even though they were both divorced. He told her that the Clintons and Obamas would be guests at their wedding. For a successful and intelligent woman she sure let her common sense desert her.
same thing goes for the phony piano playing ! one tiny point in the program but speaks volumes ! I play piano and can't believe that she could not tell he wasn't really playing ???
Yes totally agree,even watching the ABC doco there was a clip on him supposedly playing the piano ,I wondered myself if it had prerecorded music on,when she sold it ,the women that bought it told, benita,surely being supposedly intelligent she would look at the electric piano ,she didnt,I think she was just swept up with the money and lifestyle,who would actually believe the Pope is going to marry you?pleeeease
I met a guy online, he lied about his name, age, work, and of course being single. He used me for sex and money, then one day I found out that he moved a girl In with him. I was so hurt that I almost took my life, and I consider myself a very strong woman. He still blamed me or had excuses AND he would still come knocking on my door! He wanted me to be friends with his girlfriend. She left him after a couple of months, he never stopped online dating.
I feel so sorry how this lady was so set up! But I know that no one who knows her would look at her in a bad way !I really don't think anybody would have not understood how she felt ! I fact I really do feel that every one would have loved her more,all her friends and family and even strangers all feel so heart broken you were treated like that but every one loves you so please don't feel bad ! Don't hold on to the sadness don't let your self hold on to the horrific shock and and disappointment you deserve to be free of that episode and be happy in your life 💖 x
Peacock series Dr death brought me here. But as I’ve said before, I don’t know anything about medicine, other than what I’ve learned watching Grey’s Anatomy, and ER. Lol. But even I know that you cannot take a plastic object, bathe it with stem cells and expect it to begin living???? OMG! If someone like ME is aware that can’t be done then how is it that all of these world renowned doctors, from the Karolinska institute - mind you -didn’t stop this guy way sooner??? Or better yet how did they allow him to even do this surgery in the first place? Lol Smh…..world renowned doctors buying into this nonsense. Wow.
After watching (in horror) the 20/20 episode I'm a bit confused on the timeline. The New York Times shows Betina Alexander-Noel had a subsequent marriage, in 2012, to a gentleman named Edson Jeune, who I presume was NOT the father of her daughter, since the NYT wedding announcement indicates Betina was already divorced. Therefore she'd had TWO marriages prior to meeting the sociopath doctor. I note the 20/20 episode curiously does not mention this second 2012 marriage, nor does Ms. Alexander allude to it here. It must have been a brief/hasty marriage since Macchiarini was already proposing to her at Christmas 2013. If Ms. Alexander were my sister or a friend, I would encourage her to seek out major rounds of therapy, in addition to retribution, to address deeper issues.
I have to admire her for making this public and shouldering the negativity. I think she hit the nail on the head when she said she was manipulated during a time when she was very vulnerable.
She had a good traveling life with him after she ignored her intuition to avoid him. 🤷🏽 You’d think an investigative reporter would know better. Good for her to be doing better.
Benita thanks for telling your story and spreading awareness. What he did to patients was horrendous. What he did you was horrendous too but at least you survived it. I can't believe what narcissists get away with in professions such as medicine
He's the kind of man that can never be a real man but he thinks he can be by lying. He is a facade he is a fake and he definitely a see-through. He'll never find a good woman that will stay with him because eventually his game will end just like the game of life. He deserves everything he gets miserably and the company that he goes with. Thank God that woman didn't marry him and I told her so good riddance
When you love someone it's really easy to believe that they are telling you the truth and not what they think you want to hear. It's like your child you know there on drugs but you want to believe them when they look you straight in your eyes and lie it's disheartening
Girl u r a human being and I am proud of you for being so open and vulnerable but yet strong and bad ass and you know how to handle this tough shit good for you ❤️
If the Roman Catholic Church never recognized Princess Caroline of Monaco's divorce how on earth would you continue believing a mere doctor at this point? Come on Benita. Also the Pope wanted to marry them to be his poster couple yet it had to be under wraps. Wow what an oxymoron.
All the classic signs of Narcisism was there. Like so many of us, we have no knowledge of these type of people and our vulnerability makes us perfect targets for them. Believe me, they are great actors and this can happen to the best of us. There's light at the end of the tunnel though. Take care of yourself and seek healing.
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My mom always used to say "when something feels too good to be true, it usually is". Narcissists always come on strong in the beginning (love bombing) so that's a huge red flag which should never be ignored.
Thanks for the comment 👍
it easy to say, but if it is part of your life and it takes 2 years - then if feels real. Remember that it took 2 years. How careful a woman can be? Should all women hire prive detecvives before marrying or dating - seems so.
Narcissistic men are so dangerous and clever. Anyone can get conned by them no matter how intelligent. It happened to someone I know...a very smart career woman who fortunately got out of the relationship.
She gets hate because she makes the story about herself. When what Paolo was doing to those patients is what should be getting attention. Who cares if he was a cheater. He was a murderer which is worse
@@just4now492exactly! “ her love haze” apparently overshadowed her brains.
So much hate for this woman for no reason. She did the right things and stayed strong after for her daughter. She came out, faced the humiliation and shame, just so she can try and help others. I think she is a strong woman and deserves applause.
For some reason, I read this as, “she deserves applesauce “. 😅
I’m hungry lol
@@dewilew2137 maybe she deserves applesauce tooo after all that cancelled wedding food 🤣
@@primeparadox9796 There was no wedding food, catered food.....he never ordered a damn thing or a place .....wonder what would have occurred If it got to the date and all showed up for nothing
@@dewilew2137 lol
@@primeparadox9796 yikes lol
So angry that 20/20 didn’t post the whole series so I luckily came across this.
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Same here. I was left hanging. Also came across this one. 🙏
Same!!!!
Same here. I've unsubscribed from them because they always leave you hanging. Subscribed to this channel instead.
Same here.....thank u
Skip to 26:15 to if you came here from that unfinished 20/20 ABC RUclips series.
Thanks for checking it out!
Thank you
Thank you for the heads-up
Thank you so much !!!
Thank you!!!!
20/20 brought me here, they wouldn't tell the whole story on youtube so I had to look it up.
Same here!!
Me tooo!
Yes!!!!!
Me too
Lol same here, damn ABC reels you in just to leave you in the mud wonder how it ends
I am from Russia, his medical crimes are terrible, his patients died slow torturous deaths. Thank you for the interview!
thanks for listening
Finally I got to hear the whole story ,WOW !!!
What a classy woman and all she wanted was love ...but ...
I’m glad she let the world know !!!
Wish her all the best !!!
thanks for the well wishes and comment
Prayers for Benita and her daughter.
Just watched the documentary. This is classic Narcissistic Personality Disorder and sociopathy. I love that she did this...I love that she allows herself to be vulnerable about the trauma and the confusing feelings that are left in the aftermath. I would love to see her connect the dots with NPD and take the show one step further documenting stories of other women who have endured similar experiences. Her crazy, over-the-top story isn’t the norm, but there are many of us out here who can share stories of lies, future-faking, pretending, posing, masking...and the emotional fall-out that comes with that. Paolo is a complete narcissist. Plain and simple.
I agree and thank you for checking out the interview. Benita was a fantastic guest for sharing her story.
where did you watch documentary, id love to see it
Amber Heard is another case of toxic narcissistic personality disorder. She has systematically set out to destroy Johnny Depp life without any conscience. She isn’t a surgeon who has human lives in her hands but she is extremely toxic and tells very elaborate lies which has ruined him.
@@alexmullen8127 it is here on YT for $2 - "He Lied About Everything"
@@alexmullen8127 Investigation Discovery is where I initially found Benita
His scam in Sweden was very big news for years and a big eye opener for us working in the research sector.
I like what she said be hyper vigilant.. and when a guy tend to move very fast 💨 that i experienced and that is a red flag 🚩 you shouldn’t ignore 🔍
Yep red flags
ur right
Yes, lovebombing. And promising the world. Straight away. Utter bullshit to hook you in and keep you.
Such a strong woman - I'm so sorry you went through such an unimaginably painful ordeal. Please know that *you* are the victim and there is no shame to speak of (in your address). All the responsibility lies solely with him because he chose to swindle you while you were genuinely opening your heart to him. Sending healing vibes and warmest wishes for a bright, peaceful, and fulfilling future! ❤
Sunday .. 14 February.. Valentine’s Day and am searching for the end part😂 Been watching 20/20 ..
Benitha Oaes you are my twin
@@chrismissfit 😂😂😂Find his interview and am watching that. Single live 😊
If you find it please post link!
Benitha Oaes same here.. watched the 20/20 part 1 to 4 and searching for the end part 😅 and found this vid.
@@bernieunice6729 please do share if you find the end part😊👍
I just don't understand to be honest with you. I mean didn't he know that eventually everyone would find out when the imaginary wedding never transpired? Didn't he know it was going to be a bad outcome? So why even give her a ring and propose? Obviously the man is a sociopath 😟
That's what is really strange
They beLIEve their own lies
Sounds strange, i guess she must have transcripts to proof that he did it all.
Yes, some kind of a detachment from reality. Definitely some psychological issues there. It's more than just narcissism.
Controlling her, keeping her interested until he was caught! That's all narcissistic men do... Been there over this! This poor woman! Lost her hubby, trusted this azz... UGH! Prayers Benita and her daughter
Dinner, movie, and a background check - best advice I've ever received!
I don’t understand how such a wonderful person can have haters.
really the hate and anger is on him.... Benita is an amazing person.
Yes Benita you're such a brave one.. teaching women not to be embarrassed in the situations.. but more to analyze the guy for others !! very well said
Thanks for the comment 👍
Hooray! I have been waiting for a video on this topic for a long time! Thank you :)
glad you liked it
My mother is going through a very similar thing 😪😥 xx he's a covert narcasist lied about everything embasseled money his lies and deceit have gone so far she could even go to prison fot his crimes xx please pray for us xxx
Take to jail and be careful he can kill you !
Thanks for the comment 👍
Update she is in prison and it’s been really tough ❤️ please pray for us and continue to educate yourself of people like this to protect yourself x
@@starsigngirl9789 your mom or he's in prison?
@@NewTheoryMagazine both xx he got 12 years she got 3 😞
I wish Benita well and know she will continue to grow from this. Here’s hoping something great goes her way 💕
thanks for the kind words as Benita is a class act in my opnion!
This story shows us that we must be very careful about who we allow in our lives as friends, and who we date and/or marry. People should do a complete background check on any person they may want to date - before they go on a date with ANY person - to try to weed out evil, dangerous, crazy, serial lying demonic con artists and/or criminals.
exactly!
PEOPLE THAT IS COMING FROM OTHERS COUNTRIES THEY ALWAYS YOU HAVE TO INVESTIGATE, NO EXCEPTION PLEASE!
I wonder what his excuse would have been why the wedding would not happen if Benita did not cancel first? Interesting
Very...
This...I still wanna know what was on his mind. How he'd pull it off.
I'm sure he'd just pile on a series of unfortunate issues that continued to postpone the nuptials, related to his work.
@@twincherry4958 he has to have some serious issues!
@@ClueSign yes, like kicking the can!
SO many red flags! But I understand because I went through something like that last year. When they move too fast, be suspicious!
huge Red Flag!
Especially when they tell you the Pope is coming to the wedding. At least think, wow, how many are coming with his security detail? Do we need to feed them? Lots of cops at the house? Roof top snipers? So much to do. We are going to need extra plates
Many years ago while visiting Puerto Rico I befriended a young lady I met on a beach. She met a pilot that swept her off her feet. He asked her to marry him. Gave her money for a dress., etc. after a while he just dropped out of sight. She asked me to go to the little airport he worked out of and find out what happened to him. After inquiring, I was informed that he was home (in another town) with his wife, and five children. Hardest thing I’ve ever had to do at that time. She was crushed! Till this day, I cannot wrap my brain around his reasons for his deception. Benita’s story is 10x’s worse. So many were dragged into this man’s delusions! Thanks for the courage in sharing it!
When you lock eyes and get chills up spine you better run and don’t look back😂😂😂
What a bummer
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I think people confuse fear with love chemistry. The narcissist's stare should be a danger warning
Wish he had asked how her daughter is doing. She went through so much disappointment too.
We had a lot to unpack, maybe we should do a part 2
@@NewTheoryMagazine Yes, definitely!
The daughter will have major trust issues, with her mom and with other men. If your mom’s proven that her judgment is shit, you’re more likely to rebel against any attempts at parenting from her.
You are brave one journalist ,he didn't lie to you he lied to himself. You are free woman and beautiful. That's a good example for others .You are a model for many woman they keep silence for the man they loved because they are embraced, to tell their story.
Also call and visit them at their workplace, even if it's just to confirm that they do work where they say they work. Meeting the parents or siblings is also important.
exactly, great point
Yeah that’s an invasion of privacy. If someone I just started dating called my job, that would be a huge red flag and definitely a reason for me to end the relationship.
@@bellezanegra0206
The call to the workplace is to speak with the person to establish that he works there; the call is not to speak to someone else to inquire that he works there. What is wrong with that? How much heartache would have been spared if she had done something as simple as that. If you know of a better way, please let me know.
Thanks for this , brilliant interview, it actually covered the whole story 👏👏🇬🇧
My dear Benita, I am extremely sorry to hear what you had been through that coward. I truly admire your courage and resilience shown to overcome this. You are one of the superwomen I have ever seen. So much love to you and your daughter.
Such a brave and strong woman
Here after watching the netflix documentary. THIS 'SURGEON' SHOULD BE IN JAIL FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE. He straight up murdered 7 people! Rip to all victims
Yep
I have been conned by men more than once, I am not a stupid woman either and incredibly strong and independent yet I have attracted and been seduced by con men multiple times.
Thank you for your story Benita❤️
On 21 June 2023, Paolo was sentenced in the court of appeal in Sweden to prison for two years and six months for three cases of maltreatment. The patients had synthetic trachea's transplanted and died soon after.
Thanks for the update
Plastic tubes inserted into a human, absolute agony and tortuous death 😢
It's truly sad people do this all the time.No one deserves to be lied to and I pray you and your daughter has a Beautiful life filled with truth.I have so much respect for you to share your story.You will help the people who has given up on life because of this
very true! Thanks for the comment!
I watches the series on RUclips but 20/20 didn't post part 6...leaving me hanging lol. So I went on their website and was excited to find the whole documentary. But it's only available to US citizens. And I live in Europe. I felt disappointed. Luckily I found this video interview on RUclips. I finally know the whole story. Very heart breaking what that horrible man did to this wonderful woman. Looks like he is a narcissist. Benita went through a lot. But glad she is doing okay now.
Thank you for uploading this interview.
m.ruclips.net/video/jWJ2uWZ-lQk/видео.html
I remember watching the documentary on tv and It was a crazy story and you’re a great host! I’m glad benita is doing well
I was shocked by the documentary as Benita is amazing person and an excellent guest on the show!
Hi, I watched twice cause I couldn't believe the story...
@@juvega2877 insane righ?
@@NewTheoryMagazine totally,
Hope you get your job back, you are so honest and open Benita, this is absolutely not your fault, a con artist will tell you all you want to hear and you would believe them, thank you for airing your story it could happen to the best of us, hope your beautiful daughter is striving well, you are a strong and intelligent woman, Bravo to you.
great comment, thank you
Oh my gosh! 20/20 strung me along. But I’m so happy I got to see this interview. This interview, I got to see her as a hero, not a victim!
exactly, we're small media and do not have an agenda
Great podcast . l am so sorry this happened to you .But the worst thing that he is lying and cheating his way through his so called medical career just a vile person with no morals or compassion .
What an amazing, brave, strong woman...using her bad experience to save other women from predators....such an inspiration!!!
I completely agree
Thank you ♡ your story has helped me not feel so alone, my brother died and a guy like this really pushed me to stay with him, I got stuck with lockdown. He gas lit me, shamed me and took money from me. He really messed with my heart and my mind. So thanks for sharing your story ♡
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Great way to put your name out there again for job opportunities! She seems to have gotten out ahead of this catastrophe, kudos to her for at least attempting to pick up the pieces once everything became clear
I agree
Impressive empathic interviewer
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Better interview than the 20/20 piece.
Love this interview. Appreciate how Benita was very open and candid about everything. Great job!
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I can tell she’s really talented with PR. Very natural, well spoken, and relatable. She also repeats the catchy sticking points she said in the documentary- in the same exact wording. She probably broke this whole thing down and wrote important points to really resonate with the audience. I’m not saying I don’t believe her story, she is just really good at telling it.
20/20 sucks!!! My respects for Benita she is a strong beautiful woman. Thank you for finishing this story. 🙏🏽
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Thanks for this upload. Benita is such a strong graceful lady. She has the most awesome supportive friends and family. I really admired that. All the best to her and her daughter 💖❤️
Couldn't agree more! We just did an updated Benita interview
@@NewTheoryMagazine can I have the link for your other video?
Agree with the comments about not giving us full coverage. Glad I found this.
Hope you enjoyed it. We just did a recent interview with her
Thank you both for this! I was just watching different things on RUclips and ran across her story, found a video of him being interviewed/side stepping, which lead me to this. GOD BLESS YOU BOTH!🙏🙏
Our pleasure!
Great woman, so interesting. She has really assessed the whole situation well. How does he afford his life. It's amazing how he has so much time and effort to go to such lengths. Again well done and I am sure it was tough to go public with all of this, the shame is his not hers.
Finally, listen to the whole story. Thank you for sharing ❤️😊
So how much money did he actually spend to create this illusion/lies?
That's what I thought....
Now that is the Million Dollar question! I'm curious too...Sociopaths / Narcissists are usually clever enough to persuade and manipulate their victims to pay it forward... as they drain their accounts. Some habits are just so obvious.
@@spectacularrichbeautybrilli that's true... I watched it twice on Roku, they have it on discovery channel the full story., have you watched it there as well? There are more details, been said that she started saying she was living with him an extravagant life she never imagined, she will never lived and she like it. Then she continued going on...
a ton....
Bernie Madoff shares this profile. Charismatic, altruistic, a total con.
Don’t let wealth, success and “perfection” fool you.
exactly
I think shes incredibly brave. Idk how anyone would make it thru all this with their dignity and pride still intact.... my god... shes actually amazing. She fell for things all of us truly want and might have fallen for as well.
I completely agree with you!
It’s the progressive nature of the lies that deceived her.
Agreed
I agree with you Benita. Thank you so much for speaking out about this ❤️ you are right. It's so important to talk about this 💗
Not only horrible how he duped Benita and her daughter, but even more horrible how he duped and killed his patients.
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I’m grateful that I’ve lived to see a survivor helping so many expose such dangerous soulless creatures. There were family members who knew the clout chaser/stalker who tricked me into a quickie marriage over 37 years ago, yet they never divulged details about him. The difference is he terrorized me, I had no interest in him. He’s a gleefully successful con, whose escaped any consequences for his untold destruction of lives and families.
Way to bounce back and recover. You are a very healthy person, who endured being lied to, grew through the suffering and betrayal, and turned it around. Your strength and courage will benefit your daughter, and many others and deliver hope, and reassurance to others, including men.
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Thanks for the release, the video is on top)
why thank you
GOD BLESS THIS LADY ✌❤👍🍷
If something sounds too good to be true, it usually is.....
That is correct
I think Benita is very clever and smart. Cool lady
Errrrr
Not in her romantic life
I have so much respect for her strength. What a creep that man was. Expose him to the world.
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20/20 brought me here while searching for continuation of this story.
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My hubby died of a glioblastoma...so sorry for your loss.
sorry for your loss as well
It's one insane story. I have a question. I get, to a certain extent, why he kept going with his botched medical technique but why did he go through this whole marriage, wedding charade? I guess I don't understand what satisfaction he got from watching you and yours turn your life inside out.
absolutely!
It gave him excitement and pleasure even if makebelieve.
Considering what her background is, I think he wanted/thought she would catch him much sooner than she did. I can understand why she trusted him, he had all the trappings. It is so important to not let someone make you keep secrets or not share full details about their life, and a upcoming wedding. She should have been part of the planning of Everything. He probably wouldn't have shown up at the wedding had she not caught on and cancelled it. She threw away so much without verification of everything this man told her. THERE IS NO PRINCE CHARMING. HE NEVER EXISTED LADIES.
Psychopath, exciting game, eventually would have been the big discard, humiliating for her-he reinforces his superiority. Not bothered by lies, because incapable of caring.
@@vickiepaul8258 he's quite disturbing
I admire your strength Bonita, you're a wonderful person!
I love the relationship your daughter and yourself have.
You will both be happy and humble above ground, I just know it.
Much love and respect from katrinka in the San Francisco Bay Area
I agree! Thanks for the positive comments.
Benito you too could have demanded to see where he lived. As much as you traveled together i was an obvious lie. My heart breakers for you. You and your daughter deserve the best. Thank God your alive to tell the story. Some women die. Stay strong🌷
Yes.... He has this Jackle and Hyde personality. He was prepared to kill the patients he experimented on to pursue his lies as a medical professional to keep up a facade. God knows what he is capable of in his romantic pursuits to maintain the facade he created.
Such a brave lady to speak up as she did. It is so hurtful to be conned by anyone. I am sure the pain increases exponentially when you add love into the mix. It is great that other people in similar situations can connect and not feel so alone.
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The same thing happened to me. He told me he was going to marry me and we were going to live in a house in miorca. I loved him so much. He talked me into walking away from my 28 year marriage. Breaking up my children's childhood home. They were 18 and 20 at the time but the divorce still hurt them both deeply and my daughter doesn't talk to me to this day. He told me I didn't need to fight for any money in the divorce.. that I didn't need it. He would take care of me. So I walked away from everything that was rightfully mine and Today have nothing. A life I had worked night and day to create for 28 years...i left behind because of a promise ....a lie. I was so stupid. And my ex husband feels like he got away with stealing everything from me. I am 56 years old and cleaning houses to support myself on less than 30K a year. All because I loved this guy when he said he loved me. I am heartbroken to this day and that was 4 years ago.
wow, very sorry to hear
May God heal your your mind, body and spirit!
I’m sorry this has happened to you. Keep moving forward.
Really good interview. Thank you for sharing this story so we can all learn from it.
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I salute to this woman,brave enough to tell her story ... My FULL RESPECT!!!
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Narcassist... gaslighting... lying... had am answer for everything. I would love to contact Benita. I find the topic of narcassism fascinating. Once you know how they work, you never ignore the signs again.
There should be LEGAL some accountabilities for his devious deceptive action. Horrible!
Great having found this as part 6 she's an inspiration. Watching from Kenya
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First, I think it’s unfortunate for her to have experienced the lie her fiancé projected to her. Second, I hope she looked at the up side of their romance - remember the romantic gesture he did for her. He is gorgeous. And he did lavish her with cheap gifts and good memories. He did it just for fun. He didn’t do it to cheat for her money. I think it’s alright. He is not the only liar. Men lie. Period.
Please subscribe as I'm having Benita on again next week for a follow-up interview.
She had never been to his house and she was marrying him. I would be thinking where does he actually live?
U tube left us on the scene . I’m glad now I can hear the whole story. About this spinderalla story . I feel so bad for this lady .
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I feel for her, myself was led to a world of Lies and deceit!! I’m NOW happily single and Been Born again and Jesus Changed me and healed me completely 🙏😍🥰🔥
He told her that the Pope was going to marry them, that he was going to give them Holy Communion even though they were both divorced. He told her that the Clintons and Obamas would be guests at their wedding. For a successful and intelligent woman she sure let her common sense desert her.
😂😂 the comment though
same thing goes for the phony piano playing ! one tiny point in the program but speaks volumes ! I play piano and can't believe that she could not tell he wasn't really playing ???
Yes totally agree,even watching the ABC doco there was a clip on him supposedly playing the piano ,I wondered myself if it had prerecorded music on,when she sold it ,the women that bought it told, benita,surely being supposedly intelligent she would look at the electric piano ,she didnt,I think she was just swept up with the money and lifestyle,who would actually believe the Pope is going to marry you?pleeeease
This was a great interview!
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I met a guy online, he lied about his name, age, work, and of course being single. He used me for sex and money, then one day I found out that he moved a girl In with him. I was so hurt that I almost took my life, and I consider myself a very strong woman. He still blamed me or had excuses AND he would still come knocking on my door! He wanted me to be friends with his girlfriend. She left him after a couple of months, he never stopped online dating.
@Verdad Hurts Sorry you went through this…continued wellness to you.
He's a narcissist.
ya think...lol
I feel so sorry how this lady was so set up! But I know that no one who knows her would look at her in a bad way !I really don't think anybody would have not understood how she felt ! I fact I really do feel that every one would have loved her more,all her friends and family and even strangers all feel so heart broken you were treated like that but every one loves you so please don't feel bad ! Don't hold on to the sadness don't let your self hold on to the horrific shock and and disappointment you deserve to be free of that episode and be happy in your life 💖 x
Peacock series Dr death brought me here.
But as I’ve said before, I don’t know anything about medicine, other than what I’ve learned watching Grey’s Anatomy, and ER. Lol.
But even I know that you cannot take a plastic object, bathe it with stem cells and expect it to begin living????
OMG! If someone like ME is aware that can’t be done then how is it that all of these world renowned doctors, from the Karolinska institute - mind you -didn’t stop this guy way sooner???
Or better yet how did they allow him to even do this surgery in the first place? Lol Smh…..world renowned doctors buying into this nonsense. Wow.
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After watching (in horror) the 20/20 episode I'm a bit confused on the timeline. The New York Times shows Betina Alexander-Noel had a subsequent marriage, in 2012, to a gentleman named Edson Jeune, who I presume was NOT the father of her daughter, since the NYT wedding announcement indicates Betina was already divorced. Therefore she'd had TWO marriages prior to meeting the sociopath doctor. I note the 20/20 episode curiously does not mention this second 2012 marriage, nor does Ms. Alexander allude to it here. It must have been a brief/hasty marriage since Macchiarini was already proposing to her at Christmas 2013. If Ms. Alexander were my sister or a friend, I would encourage her to seek out major rounds of therapy, in addition to retribution, to address deeper issues.
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Good point, Benita narrative sounds fragmented.
Yep ! agree !!
How awful to lie so blatantly to Benita, her daughter, her friends, family and colleagues. 🤨
It’s good that the notification has come, it’s really on time
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I have to admire her for making this public and shouldering the negativity. I think she hit the nail on the head when she said she was manipulated during a time when she was very vulnerable.
great point. we did another 2 part interview with her
@@NewTheoryMagazine link for part 2 please
She had a good traveling life with him after she ignored her intuition to avoid him. 🤷🏽
You’d think an investigative reporter would know better. Good for her to be doing better.
not always that easy
Benita thanks for telling your story and spreading awareness. What he did to patients was horrendous. What he did you was horrendous too but at least you survived it. I can't believe what narcissists get away with in professions such as medicine
I did a follow up interview recently seeki how she is doing a year later…
@@NewTheoryMagazine have you uploaded it yet?
@@uyoebyik here is the link: ruclips.net/video/HHlSWDS8EeU/видео.html Please check it out. Also feel free to subscribe to my channel.
He's the kind of man that can never be a real man but he thinks he can be by lying. He is a facade he is a fake and he definitely a see-through. He'll never find a good woman that will stay with him because eventually his game will end just like the game of life. He deserves everything he gets miserably and the company that he goes with. Thank God that woman didn't marry him and I told her so good riddance
When you love someone it's really easy to believe that they are telling you the truth and not what they think you want to hear. It's like your child you know there on drugs but you want to believe them when they look you straight in your eyes and lie it's disheartening
He had at least 3 other families with kids 😆😆
Yeah, that insane.
Girl u r a human being and I am proud of you for being so open and vulnerable but yet strong and bad ass and you know how to handle this tough shit good for you ❤️
Benita is amazing!
So pleased I found how it ended, she is a really strong for bringing this out in the open, good for you girl. Good luck for you and your daughter.
I agree
Great interview. Respect
If the Roman Catholic Church never recognized Princess Caroline of Monaco's divorce how on earth would you continue believing a mere doctor at this point? Come on Benita.
Also the Pope wanted to marry them to be his poster couple yet it had to be under wraps. Wow what an oxymoron.
It's a stretch, but remember con men build CONfidence.
Right? Like come on.. I don’t get how all these obvious red flags were missed, especially with her knowledge and access to information...
Very insightful and wise recording.
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All the classic signs of Narcisism was there. Like so many of us, we have no knowledge of these type of people and our vulnerability makes us perfect targets for them. Believe me, they are great actors and this can happen to the best of us. There's light at the end of the tunnel though. Take care of yourself and seek healing.
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