Original prayer is: O God, give us the serenity to accept what cannot be changed, the courage (cor ‘heart' in Latin, 'denoting the heart as the seat of feelings') to change what can be changed, and the wisdom to know the one from the other. It talks about Us, connected. The "me" can be useful but also does not expand our consciousness beyond the "me". The original prayer is "us." Also, courage, comes from your feelings of the heart.
Acceptance = acknowledgement that something is real, valid, true. Acceptance does not imply approval, tolerance, or that you like the thing. That's very helpful Teal I used to conflate acceptance with approval but then I realized "it is what it is".
I am Briggs. Once I accepted, I couldn't commit to things too far ahead because I didn't know how I'll feel the day of, I started saying either no or maybe to plans. It relieved alot of pressure on me to force myself to do things I didn't want to do just to please others. Pleasing others while you suffer is the worst.
You’re a phenomenal teacher! I saw some interview with you yesterday. It was life-changing perspective. Please know you are helping others in a very real way
@@Francesmurphy-h5c That is not word salad. There is a topic, lenghty examples sure, but she stays on topic from start to finish, and the point she's making about acceptance here is both, in my opinion, quite clear and valid.
I have a hard time accepting that have left and am leaving so many people, I tend to feel responsible for the way things go. I always have to remind myself that if people really would have wanted to be in my life, they would be ❤️
Yes I investigated my shadow a lot this year, and there was one part of me that was so dormant that I literally had to stop my entire life and sense of self to start bringing up the embers and it did not feel good and there was a lot of cognitive dissonance, I say it didn’t feel good, it felt felt better than nothing though By the way I have some comedy skits on my channel about taking spiritual concepts to there extremes that you might like too 🏋️♂️🔥😈🎸💪
Yes I investigated my shadow a lot this year, and there was one part of me that was so dormant that I literally had to stop my entire life and sense of self to start bringing up the embers and it did not feel good and there was a lot of cognitive dissonance, I say it didn’t feel good, it felt felt better than nothing though By the way I have some comedy skits on my channel about taking spiritual concepts to there extremes that you might like too 🏋️♂️🔥😈🎸💪
Oh man. I've been grieving for the longest time about having CPTSD and mental illness and not being able to make x amount of money so I can heal to the point where I can be as "normal" as possible, achieve my long list of dreams...so much anger and sadness especially towards my family of origin. I don't understand why my soul would choose such a difficult life especially if I won't remember the lessons in my next life (and am likely to have an equally if not more difficult life!!!)
@@jessica0321 It is ever good to throw away your old (family) stories, that no longer serve to you. But how it will help to this guy ? He need health and money. Without health and chance to mage money, is life here nothing but hell. If you do not have al least fair health, your possibilities are ZERO. "healthy man have hundreds wishes, sick man have only one"
Yes I investigated my shadow a lot this year, and there was one part of me that was so dormant that I literally had to stop my entire life and sense of self to start bringing up the embers and it did not feel good and there was a lot of cognitive dissonance, I say it didn’t feel good, it felt felt better than nothing though By the way I have some comedy skits on my channel about taking spiritual concepts to there extremes that you might like too 🏋️♂️🔥😈🎸💪
Radical acceptance brought me out of a drug addiction that lasted half of my life. I still have issues with accepting the unworkability of my significant other so the first example is perfect for me. Thanks Teal for giving teachings that are exactly what I need, when I need them. It's perfect for the mind loops that have been playing most recently!
Thank you for your good advice about the importance of accepting. In my experience, when I recognised and accepted at heart the Truth that my mother and father truly gave me life, and therefore both lived inside all of me, in every cell of my body--I began to say "thank you" and this was the beginning of healing...of forgiveness; bringing release and freedom. Now, giving thanks to them and to all my ancestors is part of my daily practice. Makes me smile! may all beings be free 🙏🏼
My mother passed last year. I have now accepted that every member of my family will pass, and I have no clue as to when that will happen. (Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans.)
Accepting situations or events is hard for me because it makes me feel powerless and small on the fact that I cannot change them. It also makes me think that it should not be this way and therefore I need to fix it no matter what it takes. Accepting makes me feel stuck, because it was not supposed to be like this, because if something goes wrong I blame myself and then I want to fix it. I can't leave it like that. What does not let me accept things is the fear that if I let it slide it might get worst later on or I might start becoming a lazy person or etc. Because when I am on the process of finally accepting something, intrusive thoughts come to my mind making me believe that I did not try hard enough and that I am giving up too easily.
Thank you Teal! I already know what I’m not accepting 3 things actually. Spirit is in my face making sure I accept what I’m not accepting. My kids are so patient.
SPOILER ALERT!!! I recommend Girl, Interrupted, a movie from 1999. Main character Susanna realizes in the end that she’s not so disorderly or “borderline” after all. She embraces the side of herself that is considered a disorder, and liberates herself from societal expectations and pressures. Whether we like to accept it or not, women are still expected to conform in such a way that they are considered “sick” if they don’t. The point that I’m trying to make is that there is no such thing as Borderline. Personality is neither disorderly or permanent. Women have been called all sorts of things since who knows when for simply having certain reactions to certain events. You mentioned consequences of certain traumas. Being misdiagnosed by money-hungry psychiatries is a consequence. But that’s just my two cents. Not even using the term “borderline” is a radical step to change.
I did not accept the idea of loneliness and coped in equal intensity. Having accepted the idea, I feel like I cope less but I will also feel what it really feels like to be truly alone. I think these are steps in the right direction even if it hurts.
Yes I investigated my shadow a lot this year, and there was one part of me that was so dormant that I literally had to stop my entire life and sense of self to start bringing up the embers and it did not feel good and there was a lot of cognitive dissonance, I say it didn’t feel good, it felt felt better than nothing though By the way I have some comedy skits on my channel about taking spiritual concepts to there extremes that you might like too 🔥🥩💥🏋️♂️🎸😈🎯🎭
When Teal Swan speaks in this video her words temporarily quiet the noise of the mind because you know it is the resounding Truth. Watching this video was the easy part, now the hard part - honestly recognizing what I am resistant to accept and why, then hopefully ACCEPTANCE.
@@DonaldAMisc nice to see someone in the comments who is aware & paying attention 😉🤔 seems to be many who have only recently found Teal & don't know who Carl Jung is. Bless your ♥️
@@amandacalhoun3965 you absolutely should not accept this, what you accept is the challenge before you you to correct this! You have a task at hand and there are people (like me) who would love to help you heal your relationship with your babies! 🥰 You're not alone!
@@amandacalhoun3965there's more to the issue... it's like accepting reality the way it is. You can not allow your kids to abuse you. Have you heard of human design? It's helped me understand my kids so much.
One of the biggest mistakes I used to make around accepting what is was to unconsciously equate accepting what is with accepting that it will stay that way. I even had this belief that by accepting how things are right now I would perpetuate them into the future. When I found out that the opposite is true and that I'm only able to take ownership of my "now" AND the future by accepting things how they are in this very moment, everything changed. It's like I discovered that what I always thought would be a door that keeps me stuck in fact was a door to the freedom I couldn't find before.
Yes I investigated my shadow a lot this year, and there was one part of me that was so dormant that I literally had to stop my entire life and sense of self to start bringing up the embers and it did not feel good and there was a lot of cognitive dissonance, I say it didn’t feel good, it felt felt better than nothing though By the way I have some comedy skits on my channel about taking spiritual concepts to there extremes that you might like too 🏋️♂️🔥🥩👍🎸💥🎭☀️💦🌈😈
Absolutely agree, this example should have been developed further ... Maybe the mother should accept she is a mother and take steps to heal her wounds and fears, learn how to be responsible and find harmony within herself..why can't she at least try before her husband gives up on her?
I got so much stuff to fill in that blank with. Thanks, you've made the most sense to me from all of these tubers. Feeling like a whole new person now. Great.
Teal 🙏🏼 por favor🙏🏽 Could you leave a "SUGGESTED VIDEOS" list for us in your drop-down menus, with the links to your recommended vids for that topic? *So we can go directly to the next video you suggest to supplement the current video? 🙏🏽 This would be so very helpful! 🙏🏽
This does NOT mean accepting something like "I'm a loser and no one will ever love me." In this case, loser would an opinion of yourself, not an objective truth. And "no one will ever" is a prediction about the future that we cannot know for certain.
Accept, surrender by being in the present moment , and what someone mentioned, what you resist persist..as Teal conveyed and these are concepts of Eckhart Tolle… it takes a lot of practice, but once you can do it, you feel more at peace with whatever it is that is challenging you whether it be a person or a situation…. It doesn’t have the control of the effect of your thoughts as it did, if you keep resisting or being reactive to it.
Oh heavens, I am the wife in the first example. Only difference is that I left because I was suicidal. Life is much better now. My ex is going to marry again and she will be a much better stepmother than I ever was a mother.
In my case accepting what I am not accepting would look something like - I accept that I will never experience true or meaningful connection with another human being. This is painful because connection is something I (and all humans) need to feel safe, happy, supported, loved, accepted in the world. To be unable experience those things is to be unable to meet ones human social/emotional needs. Therefore life is, and will continue to be, to some degree or another indefinite suffering. Ok, so if I accept that, what changes? - I stop actively trying to meet people, date people, engage with people via interest based groups etc. Because by doing do I am pushing against "what is" (I am alone in the world) and getting nowehere anyway. So I no longer actively attemp to create any new connections or actively pursue any person or relationship. This results in - The few low-quality friendships/relationships I DID have disolve (they were not fulfilling anyway) and I spend even more of my life in empty solitude... So, what DO I persue, if it is not trying (and failing endlessly) to create new connections? The best I can come up with is perhaps there is a way I can distract myself from the misery, or perhaps add "sweeteners" to my life (?) Since I cannot "fix" this issue by pushing against it, I can go in another direction and pursue....career success? Material wealth? Superficial admiration by others? If I focus all my enegry on what I CAN do - Have a successful business, a good income, maybe a nice car and decent place to live....and still just be alone in the world? Hmmm. I have to assume I am doing this wrong/have missed something because that doesn't seem a terribly attractive or enlightened prospect... Do I flip it round and say that suffering, unmet needs and lack of good connections is actually...GOOD..?
Maybe you need to look at what it was that you were actually accepting/not accepting. This is gonna get confusing to explain I'm sure, but it sounds like you have always (or for a very long time) accepted the notion that you will never truly connect with anyone, but on the outside you appear to act in defiance to disprove your own myth. There is a difference between 'not believing' something and 'not wanting to believe' something and I think you believe you won't meet anybody but at the same time you don't want to believe it. So in fact you are refusing to accept that you don't want to believe something that you've told yourself. If I may say it in an easier and more cohesive way, you have a core belief about yourself that you are possibly don't realise, but if you learnt what it was you probably wouldn't disagree. I think the video already mentions the laddering technique where you ask yourself if that thing were true then what does it say about you. I would expect that questioning technique would eventually bring you to the core belief that you are not worthy of love and affection. It's a very common core belief and one that is at the root of so many moments where people become unexplainably angry or sad or frustrated or offended following a particular event, interaction, fight, or even a passing comment that they overanalyse and/or ruminate over to uncover a threat or an insult. The video is telling you to accept what you won't accept. And that is that you won't accept that you CAN connect with people in a deep and meaningful way. You may want to question your methods of connection, whether you actually want to connect with people because you value them as an individual or just because they're available, if you think you have to win someone over by people pleasing and ignoring your own needs and boundaries, and whether you even know yourself. I can't emphasise the last point, because what's the point of trying to make a connection with somebody if you don't really know yourself first. Maybe you were born to walk this earth alone, or maybe you weren't. Neither reality should really matter because we're just as valid either on our own or when connected with others. I'm not advocating living alone, but it's wrong to go on believing that being alone means that you've failed at life. That's just myth.
Accepting is about that what is NOW, not about accepting that what WILL BE. Because future is still opened and uncertain. In this case you are accepting your powerlessness, even in future, and that is pretty bad idea.
whats next is pursuing what sparks joy with complete abandon. another part is learning to enjoy the ephemeral nature of connections. you're still human. millions of years of evolution has wired you for connection. when i pursue my interests, I'm happy. that happiness shines through my person and people are drawn to it. however i know those connections are transient and fleeting. So i enjoy those brief moments and then continue on doing things that spark joy. Just because someone isn't going to be my bosom friend, doesn't mean I can enjoy that cup of coffee with them. All you have to hold onto is the here and now.
I don't know why, I always depict that acceptance and being okay are correlated , like if accept something , I should be happy about it and my anger or frustration became invalid
Yes I investigated my shadow a lot this year, and there was one part of me that was so dormant that I literally had to stop my entire life and sense of self to start bringing up the embers and it did not feel good and there was a lot of cognitive dissonance, I say it didn’t feel good, it felt felt better than nothing though By the way I have some comedy skits on my channel about taking spiritual concepts to there extremes that you might like too 🏋️♂️🔥🥩👍🎸💥🎭☀️💦🌈😈
This touch me deeply, accepting in process. It is something I have experienced through my life in several occasions, I am aware there has been repetitive cycles with it, it's time to end it once for all. This video it is bringing so much clarity to understanding acceptance from another perspective, I just love this one, it is like I finally got it, EUREKA. Thank you Teal. 💯🙏❤️🌈
Wow!! I'm getting in with you on your emotions on this!! And as a person who goes to church. Sees the horrific dysfunction and fd updness in this and other scenarios. I'm also a bit of that type of person too.
Yes you want to create a FLOW in your life. If you don't accept what is and you resist it, then the flow stops. You need to let go of the old to allow the new. Accepting does not mean you agree with it. It just means that you are now willing to let it run its course. Acceptance creates peace.
The problem is I accept I am surrounded by people with alot of mental issues that impacts me. I love these people and I don't want them out of my life. So is it ok to accept they are mentally ill and they make me feel bad yet continue to have them in my life?
@@carly582 They can't make you feel bad unless you believe that what they are saying is true about you. You are buying into their beliefs and it is dragging you down. Imagine wearing a blue dress and someone tells you that he hates the yellow dress you are wearing. It would not affect you in a negative way because what he said wasn't true. Instead focus on your love. Stay centered. Then you can offer compassion instead of judgment.
Teal you are absolute Magic. I saw your video released yesterday but I was in the middle of doing the very thing your video suggests: I finally stopped resisting something I have resisted for at least 7 years, something that could and now is actually making me feel better and recover lost parts of myself, especially my self love. Your timing is Magic. I am always glad I found you. Thank you for everything you give to the world.
I have followed you for years, and I am truly grateful that you are still teaching. Please don't stop, I know it's tough but it's very needed. Thank you again for being you
Yes I investigated my shadow a lot this year, and there was one part of me that was so dormant that I literally had to stop my entire life and sense of self to start bringing up the embers and it did not feel good and there was a lot of cognitive dissonance, I say it didn’t feel good, it felt felt better than nothing though By the way I have some comedy skits on my channel about taking spiritual concepts to there extremes that you might like too 🔥🥩💥🏋️♂️🎸😈🎯🎭
Problems that can't be solved are not even Problems .. Just a harsh Reality to be accepted 😁 .. Wanna change the World ..? Change yourself to be the absolutely best version of YOU .. 🌞
Yes I investigated my shadow a lot this year, and there was one part of me that was so dormant that I literally had to stop my entire life and sense of self to start bringing up the embers and it did not feel good and there was a lot of cognitive dissonance, I say it didn’t feel good, it felt felt better than nothing though By the way I have some comedy skits on my channel about taking spiritual concepts to there extremes that you might like too 🔥🥩💥🏋️♂️🎸😈🎯🎭
The hardest reality kicked me dead in my ass today. I accepted its existence as true and real but the hard part was accepting the role I played in creating the experience. Ego death
I accept, Teal, I am very sad inside. I accept that people used me as a doormat. And I don't accept that I should live longer. There is no lie. Too much betrayed, can't take anymore. You know my stories. I am your subscriber for 9 years.
Yes I investigated my shadow a lot this year, and there was one part of me that was so dormant that I literally had to stop my entire life and sense of self to start bringing up the embers and it did not feel good and there was a lot of cognitive dissonance, I say it didn’t feel good, it felt felt better than nothing though By the way I have some comedy skits on my channel about taking spiritual concepts to there extremes that you might like too 🏋️♂️🔥🥩👍🎸💥🎭☀️💦🌈😈
TEAL'S SUGGESTED VIDEOS: 💙to supplement this topic💙 1. "Reality" 2. "Why You Should Know & Accept the Truth~ even ifnit hurts" 3. "The Truth About Accepting Someone for Who They Are" 4. "Are You Pushing Against the Past?" 5. "The Secret to Overcoming Your Problems"
At the beginning of this year, the man whom I revered as my best friend, abandoned and betrayed me. In an instant, just like that, out of the blue... He discarded and replaced me. I guess it wasn't real friendship. I'd like to say it must have been love... But really, it must have been a trauma bond. It's been over 8 months, and I'm still healing... REMINDER TO SELF: Life/LOVE is just trying so hard, doing its very best to wake you up, out of the prison cell... You don’t even know you're in!
Man this came at the perfect time... I was just thinking about having to accept something that is / might be and worrying I may not be able to face it. Your timing is perfectly divine Teal! Synchronicity at its finest ✨️
Teal, I much prefer your delivery now compared to the past, you seem more natural and sincere and I am no longer distracted by your expressions and way of speaking. This makes it easier to focus on your brilliant content. Sending much love and gratitude.
The more big way for not resist acceptance, for me, is believing the bible in Ro. 8: 28 "everything is for the best for those who love God", because only then the full ones blessings of Universe can reach you. Thanks Teal, you go too deep
In the past many people did not accepted me for the way I am.....Control freaks...... This is why today I have difficulty in accepting others flaws. I don't know I have been forced to be accepting when no one else did it for me, How do you think I am gonna feel about it??!
What about when the thing you can't accept is something you can't do anything about. Such as knowing you'll never have a family because you're barron. And you tried adoption and found that system certainly isn't always on the up and up?
I loved this new tool. I love your videos and I usually make notes while I listen to them. Now, that the the video is in a text format, it will help me to review the info later on. Thank you, Teal!
Teal 🙏🏼 por favor🙏🏽 Could you leave us a list and the links to the videos you recommend, in the drop-down menus of your current video? So we can go directly to the next video you suggest to supplement the current topic? This would be so very helpful! 🙏🏼🙏🏽🙏 Thank you for your dedication and practice, with so much respect.
Yes I investigated my shadow a lot this year, and there was one part of me that was so dormant that I literally had to stop my entire life and sense of self to start bringing up the embers and it did not feel good and there was a lot of cognitive dissonance, I say it didn’t feel good, it felt felt better than nothing though By the way I have some comedy skits on my channel about taking spiritual concepts to there extremes that you might like too 🔥🥩💥🏋️♂️🎸😈🎯🎭
The way man is and it's ignorance to the endless possibilities. Man resists what could be yet feels it in the moment just to deny it's truth in their hearts ad i continue to feel.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference,
Original prayer is: O God, give us the serenity to accept what cannot be changed, the courage (cor ‘heart' in Latin, 'denoting the heart as the seat of feelings') to change what can be changed, and the wisdom to know the one from the other.
It talks about Us, connected. The "me" can be useful but also does not expand our consciousness beyond the "me". The original prayer is "us." Also, courage, comes from your feelings of the heart.
Acceptance = acknowledgement that something is real, valid, true.
Acceptance does not imply approval, tolerance, or that you like the thing.
That's very helpful Teal I used to conflate acceptance with approval but then I realized "it is what it is".
People misuse the words acceptance and forgiveness too often when something bad happens.
Yes, it is essentially stopping fighting against that thing
I am Briggs. Once I accepted, I couldn't commit to things too far ahead because I didn't know how I'll feel the day of, I started saying either no or maybe to plans. It relieved alot of pressure on me to force myself to do things I didn't want to do just to please others. Pleasing others while you suffer is the worst.
You’re a phenomenal teacher! I saw some interview with you yesterday. It was life-changing perspective. Please know you are helping others in a very real way
@@meditativewanderer251 I don't believe we need to compare them. The more phenomenal teachers there are, in their own right, the merrier.
It is just word salad. she sounds clever yes. She is not.
@@Francesmurphy-h5c That is not word salad. There is a topic, lenghty examples sure, but she stays on topic from start to finish, and the point she's making about acceptance here is both, in my opinion, quite clear and valid.
I have a hard time accepting that have left and am leaving so many people, I tend to feel responsible for the way things go. I always have to remind myself that if people really would have wanted to be in my life, they would be ❤️
Welk, have you Talked to them about what's not working for you and how you would Ike things to go?
Yes I investigated my shadow a lot this year, and there was one part of me that was so dormant that I literally had to stop my entire life and sense of self to start bringing up the embers and it did not feel good and there was a lot of cognitive dissonance, I say it didn’t feel good, it felt felt better than nothing though
By the way I have some comedy skits on my channel about taking spiritual concepts to there extremes that you might like too 🏋️♂️🔥😈🎸💪
... what NEEDS to be accepted, that's the key, the verb.✌💙
Yes I investigated my shadow a lot this year, and there was one part of me that was so dormant that I literally had to stop my entire life and sense of self to start bringing up the embers and it did not feel good and there was a lot of cognitive dissonance, I say it didn’t feel good, it felt felt better than nothing though
By the way I have some comedy skits on my channel about taking spiritual concepts to there extremes that you might like too 🏋️♂️🔥😈🎸💪
Oh man. I've been grieving for the longest time about having CPTSD and mental illness and not being able to make x amount of money so I can heal to the point where I can be as "normal" as possible, achieve my long list of dreams...so much anger and sadness especially towards my family of origin. I don't understand why my soul would choose such a difficult life especially if I won't remember the lessons in my next life (and am likely to have an equally if not more difficult life!!!)
Lol you think you know everything and it's trapped you in a box hasn't it
@@jessica0321 😏
@@jessica0321 It is ever good to throw away your old (family) stories, that no longer serve to you. But how it will help to this guy ? He need health and money. Without health and chance to mage money, is life here nothing but hell. If you do not have al least fair health, your possibilities are ZERO. "healthy man have hundreds wishes, sick man have only one"
Teal your examples are always so humorously specific😂 you have a great way of explaining these topics and thank you for sharing.
I suspect they are all of real people she knew / worked with.
@@oceanwonders I’d say so😁 better learn from their mistakes.
Please dont take this stupid womans advice
Yes I investigated my shadow a lot this year, and there was one part of me that was so dormant that I literally had to stop my entire life and sense of self to start bringing up the embers and it did not feel good and there was a lot of cognitive dissonance, I say it didn’t feel good, it felt felt better than nothing though
By the way I have some comedy skits on my channel about taking spiritual concepts to there extremes that you might like too 🏋️♂️🔥😈🎸💪
Radical acceptance brought me out of a drug addiction that lasted half of my life. I still have issues with accepting the unworkability of my significant other so the first example is perfect for me. Thanks Teal for giving teachings that are exactly what I need, when I need them. It's perfect for the mind loops that have been playing most recently!
Thank you for your good advice about the importance of accepting. In my experience, when I recognised and accepted at heart the Truth that my mother and father truly gave me life, and therefore both lived inside all of me, in every cell of my body--I began to say "thank you" and this was the beginning of healing...of forgiveness; bringing release and freedom.
Now, giving thanks to them and to all my ancestors is part of my daily practice. Makes me smile!
may all beings be free 🙏🏼
Thank you Teal! I'll journal to get clarity about this today!
My mother passed last year. I have now accepted that every member of my family will pass, and I have no clue as to when that will happen. (Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans.)
I could never get enough of Teal’s wisdom! Thank you Teal!💜💜💜
Accepting situations or events is hard for me because it makes me feel powerless and small on the fact that I cannot change them. It also makes me think that it should not be this way and therefore I need to fix it no matter what it takes. Accepting makes me feel stuck, because it was not supposed to be like this, because if something goes wrong I blame myself and then I want to fix it. I can't leave it like that. What does not let me accept things is the fear that if I let it slide it might get worst later on or I might start becoming a lazy person or etc. Because when I am on the process of finally accepting something, intrusive thoughts come to my mind making me believe that I did not try hard enough and that I am giving up too easily.
Thank you Teal! I already know what I’m not accepting 3 things actually. Spirit is in my face making sure I accept what I’m not accepting. My kids are so patient.
Dear Teal please please make video on Borderline ❤ maybe dont call it borderline but talk of a certain consequences of certain traumas?
she does touch on it in safety the root of all mental illness (:
SPOILER ALERT!!!
I recommend Girl, Interrupted, a movie from 1999. Main character Susanna realizes in the end that she’s not so disorderly or “borderline” after all. She embraces the side of herself that is considered a disorder, and liberates herself from societal expectations and pressures. Whether we like to accept it or not, women are still expected to conform in such a way that they are considered “sick” if they don’t.
The point that I’m trying to make is that there is no such thing as Borderline. Personality is neither disorderly or permanent. Women have been called all sorts of things since who knows when for simply having certain reactions to certain events.
You mentioned consequences of certain traumas. Being misdiagnosed by money-hungry psychiatries is a consequence. But that’s just my two cents. Not even using the term “borderline” is a radical step to change.
@@mathildaa2996❤ I like it
@@jessica0321thanks ❤
I really look forward to that video❤
I did not accept the idea of loneliness and coped in equal intensity.
Having accepted the idea, I feel like I cope less but I will also feel what it really feels like to be truly alone.
I think these are steps in the right direction even if it hurts.
Yes I investigated my shadow a lot this year, and there was one part of me that was so dormant that I literally had to stop my entire life and sense of self to start bringing up the embers and it did not feel good and there was a lot of cognitive dissonance, I say it didn’t feel good, it felt felt better than nothing though
By the way I have some comedy skits on my channel about taking spiritual concepts to there extremes that you might like too 🔥🥩💥🏋️♂️🎸😈🎯🎭
When Teal Swan speaks in this video her words temporarily quiet the noise of the mind because you know it is the resounding Truth. Watching this video was the easy part, now the hard part - honestly recognizing what I am resistant to accept and why, then hopefully ACCEPTANCE.
What you resist, persists. -Teal Swan
To be fair, that quote is from Carl Jung. 🙌
@@DonaldAMisc nice to see someone in the comments who is aware & paying attention 😉🤔 seems to be many who have only recently found Teal & don't know who Carl Jung is. Bless your ♥️
I don't know what to do with this. My kids abuse me just like their dad did, I don't want to accept this.
@@amandacalhoun3965 you absolutely should not accept this, what you accept is the challenge before you you to correct this! You have a task at hand and there are people (like me) who would love to help you heal your relationship with your babies! 🥰 You're not alone!
@@amandacalhoun3965there's more to the issue... it's like accepting reality the way it is. You can not allow your kids to abuse you. Have you heard of human design? It's helped me understand my kids so much.
It’s the thing that you don’t want to have be the reality even though it keeps haunting you from the inside 💙
Oh no, I'm scared on the inside.
*THANK YOU, TEAL* 🤗💖 for continuing to share such *POWER-FULL* reminders!🔥🔥🔥
Thank you so much for beeing here for us.
One of the biggest mistakes I used to make around accepting what is was to unconsciously equate accepting what is with accepting that it will stay that way. I even had this belief that by accepting how things are right now I would perpetuate them into the future. When I found out that the opposite is true and that I'm only able to take ownership of my "now" AND the future by accepting things how they are in this very moment, everything changed.
It's like I discovered that what I always thought would be a door that keeps me stuck in fact was a door to the freedom I couldn't find before.
Yes I investigated my shadow a lot this year, and there was one part of me that was so dormant that I literally had to stop my entire life and sense of self to start bringing up the embers and it did not feel good and there was a lot of cognitive dissonance, I say it didn’t feel good, it felt felt better than nothing though
By the way I have some comedy skits on my channel about taking spiritual concepts to there extremes that you might like too 🏋️♂️🔥🥩👍🎸💥🎭☀️💦🌈😈
And that mother needs to accept that she is in fact a mother.
Agreed , but I think it had more impact to just hear the story from the dad's point of view.
Absolutely agree, this example should have been developed further ... Maybe the mother should accept she is a mother and take steps to heal her wounds and fears, learn how to be responsible and find harmony within herself..why can't she at least try before her husband gives up on her?
Thanks
Timing here is absolutely perfect for this video. 13 year relationship I just can't release even though it's obviously now a dead end
You just made my very complicated problem simple!! Thank you🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️
What a grandious master. Thank you!❤
You help me in so many ways I’m so very grateful for your energy and videos of self improvement and self growth.
I got so much stuff to fill in that blank with. Thanks, you've made the most sense to me from all of these tubers.
Feeling like a whole new person now. Great.
Great video. Some with men in the west trying to have relationships with femenist women. Not accepting they don't want that.
Teal 🙏🏼 por favor🙏🏽
Could you leave a "SUGGESTED VIDEOS" list for us in your drop-down menus, with the links to your recommended vids for that topic?
*So we can go directly to the next video you suggest to supplement the current video? 🙏🏽
This would be so very helpful! 🙏🏽
This does NOT mean accepting something like "I'm a loser and no one will ever love me."
In this case, loser would an opinion of yourself, not an objective truth. And "no one will ever" is a prediction about the future that we cannot know for certain.
Exactly.
Accept, surrender by being in the present moment , and what someone mentioned, what you resist persist..as Teal conveyed and these are concepts of Eckhart Tolle… it takes a lot of practice, but once you can do it, you feel more at peace with whatever it is that is challenging you whether it be a person or a situation…. It doesn’t have the control of the effect of your thoughts as it did, if you keep resisting or being reactive to it.
Oh heavens, I am the wife in the first example. Only difference is that I left because I was suicidal. Life is much better now. My ex is going to marry again and she will be a much better stepmother than I ever was a mother.
In my case accepting what I am not accepting would look something like - I accept that I will never experience true or meaningful connection with another human being. This is painful because connection is something I (and all humans) need to feel safe, happy, supported, loved, accepted in the world.
To be unable experience those things is to be unable to meet ones human social/emotional needs. Therefore life is, and will continue to be, to some degree or another indefinite suffering.
Ok, so if I accept that, what changes? - I stop actively trying to meet people, date people, engage with people via interest based groups etc. Because by doing do I am pushing against "what is" (I am alone in the world) and getting nowehere anyway. So I no longer actively attemp to create any new connections or actively pursue any person or relationship. This results in - The few low-quality friendships/relationships I DID have disolve (they were not fulfilling anyway) and I spend even more of my life in empty solitude...
So, what DO I persue, if it is not trying (and failing endlessly) to create new connections?
The best I can come up with is perhaps there is a way I can distract myself from the misery, or perhaps add "sweeteners" to my life (?) Since I cannot "fix" this issue by pushing against it, I can go in another direction and pursue....career success? Material wealth? Superficial admiration by others?
If I focus all my enegry on what I CAN do - Have a successful business, a good income, maybe a nice car and decent place to live....and still just be alone in the world? Hmmm. I have to assume I am doing this wrong/have missed something because that doesn't seem a terribly attractive or enlightened prospect...
Do I flip it round and say that suffering, unmet needs and lack of good connections is actually...GOOD..?
Maybe you need to look at what it was that you were actually accepting/not accepting. This is gonna get confusing to explain I'm sure, but it sounds like you have always (or for a very long time) accepted the notion that you will never truly connect with anyone, but on the outside you appear to act in defiance to disprove your own myth. There is a difference between 'not believing' something and 'not wanting to believe' something and I think you believe you won't meet anybody but at the same time you don't want to believe it. So in fact you are refusing to accept that you don't want to believe something that you've told yourself.
If I may say it in an easier and more cohesive way, you have a core belief about yourself that you are possibly don't realise, but if you learnt what it was you probably wouldn't disagree. I think the video already mentions the laddering technique where you ask yourself if that thing were true then what does it say about you. I would expect that questioning technique would eventually bring you to the core belief that you are not worthy of love and affection. It's a very common core belief and one that is at the root of so many moments where people become unexplainably angry or sad or frustrated or offended following a particular event, interaction, fight, or even a passing comment that they overanalyse and/or ruminate over to uncover a threat or an insult.
The video is telling you to accept what you won't accept. And that is that you won't accept that you CAN connect with people in a deep and meaningful way. You may want to question your methods of connection, whether you actually want to connect with people because you value them as an individual or just because they're available, if you think you have to win someone over by people pleasing and ignoring your own needs and boundaries, and whether you even know yourself. I can't emphasise the last point, because what's the point of trying to make a connection with somebody if you don't really know yourself first.
Maybe you were born to walk this earth alone, or maybe you weren't. Neither reality should really matter because we're just as valid either on our own or when connected with others. I'm not advocating living alone, but it's wrong to go on believing that being alone means that you've failed at life. That's just myth.
Accepting is about that what is NOW, not about accepting that what WILL BE. Because future is still opened and uncertain.
In this case you are accepting your powerlessness, even in future, and that is pretty bad idea.
@@petrklic7064 100% true , plus they are completely overthinking it in a negative loop
@@petrklic7064This is what I came here to say. Acceptance of the present moment is key.
whats next is pursuing what sparks joy with complete abandon. another part is learning to enjoy the ephemeral nature of connections. you're still human. millions of years of evolution has wired you for connection. when i pursue my interests, I'm happy. that happiness shines through my person and people are drawn to it. however i know those connections are transient and fleeting. So i enjoy those brief moments and then continue on doing things that spark joy.
Just because someone isn't going to be my bosom friend, doesn't mean I can enjoy that cup of coffee with them. All you have to hold onto is the here and now.
I don't know why, I always depict that acceptance and being okay are correlated , like if accept something , I should be happy about it and my anger or frustration became invalid
Yes I investigated my shadow a lot this year, and there was one part of me that was so dormant that I literally had to stop my entire life and sense of self to start bringing up the embers and it did not feel good and there was a lot of cognitive dissonance, I say it didn’t feel good, it felt felt better than nothing though
By the way I have some comedy skits on my channel about taking spiritual concepts to there extremes that you might like too 🏋️♂️🔥🥩👍🎸💥🎭☀️💦🌈😈
This touch me deeply, accepting in process. It is something I have experienced through my life in several occasions, I am aware there has been repetitive cycles with it, it's time to end it once for all. This video it is bringing so much clarity to understanding acceptance from another perspective, I just love this one, it is like I finally got it, EUREKA. Thank you Teal. 💯🙏❤️🌈
Off topic, but this color looks soooo good on you, Teal!!
You're great! Thanks
Wow!! I'm getting in with you on your emotions on this!! And as a person who goes to church. Sees the horrific dysfunction and fd updness in this and other scenarios. I'm also a bit of that type of person too.
Wholeness and balanced vibrations 🎼🍃🌠💡👏🔥
Thank you.
Acceptance IS everything! Transforms everything
Hello Teal!🥰 Thank you for another great video!!❤
Yes you want to create a FLOW in your life. If you don't accept what is and you resist it, then the flow stops. You need to let go of the old to allow the new. Accepting does not mean you agree with it. It just means that you are now willing to let it run its course. Acceptance creates peace.
The problem is I accept I am surrounded by people with alot of mental issues that impacts me. I love these people and I don't want them out of my life. So is it ok to accept they are mentally ill and they make me feel bad yet continue to have them in my life?
@@carly582 They can't make you feel bad unless you believe that what they are saying is true about you. You are buying into their beliefs and it is dragging you down. Imagine wearing a blue dress and someone tells you that he hates the yellow dress you are wearing. It would not affect you in a negative way because what he said wasn't true.
Instead focus on your love. Stay centered. Then you can offer compassion instead of judgment.
Teal you are absolute Magic. I saw your video released yesterday but I was in the middle of doing the very thing your video suggests: I finally stopped resisting something I have resisted for at least 7 years, something that could and now is actually making me feel better and recover lost parts of myself, especially my self love. Your timing is Magic. I am always glad I found you. Thank you for everything you give to the world.
6:15 Flakey 😤
7:45 Acceptance
9:05 Waking Up
11:00 Get Unstuck
12:00 👌👌👌
13:00 Ask Yourself
So greatful for your extreme commitment to teaching this. Absolutely life changing 💗
Very good point
Thank you.
I have followed you for years, and I am truly grateful that you are still teaching. Please don't stop, I know it's tough but it's very needed. Thank you again for being you
Yes I investigated my shadow a lot this year, and there was one part of me that was so dormant that I literally had to stop my entire life and sense of self to start bringing up the embers and it did not feel good and there was a lot of cognitive dissonance, I say it didn’t feel good, it felt felt better than nothing though
By the way I have some comedy skits on my channel about taking spiritual concepts to there extremes that you might like too 🔥🥩💥🏋️♂️🎸😈🎯🎭
thank you
Thoughts deeper than the oceangate submarine 🫡
Problems that can't be solved are not even Problems ..
Just a harsh Reality to be accepted 😁 ..
Wanna change the World ..?
Change yourself to be the absolutely best version of YOU .. 🌞
Thank you as always for your insight, Teal. I hope you have a blessed day ❤️🙏
❤
Yes I investigated my shadow a lot this year, and there was one part of me that was so dormant that I literally had to stop my entire life and sense of self to start bringing up the embers and it did not feel good and there was a lot of cognitive dissonance, I say it didn’t feel good, it felt felt better than nothing though
By the way I have some comedy skits on my channel about taking spiritual concepts to there extremes that you might like too 🔥🥩💥🏋️♂️🎸😈🎯🎭
The hardest reality kicked me dead in my ass today. I accepted its existence as true and real but the hard part was accepting the role I played in creating the experience. Ego death
I accept, Teal, I am very sad inside. I accept that people used me as a doormat. And I don't accept that I should live longer. There is no lie. Too much betrayed, can't take anymore. You know my stories. I am your subscriber for 9 years.
she does not read your stories bro/sis.
Yes I investigated my shadow a lot this year, and there was one part of me that was so dormant that I literally had to stop my entire life and sense of self to start bringing up the embers and it did not feel good and there was a lot of cognitive dissonance, I say it didn’t feel good, it felt felt better than nothing though
By the way I have some comedy skits on my channel about taking spiritual concepts to there extremes that you might like too 🏋️♂️🔥🥩👍🎸💥🎭☀️💦🌈😈
Perfect timing, again 💜🙏🏻
TEAL'S SUGGESTED VIDEOS:
💙to supplement this topic💙
1. "Reality"
2. "Why You Should Know & Accept the Truth~ even ifnit hurts"
3. "The Truth About Accepting Someone for Who They Are"
4. "Are You Pushing Against the Past?"
5. "The Secret to Overcoming Your Problems"
Thank you, I was looking for this! :)
@@gill426 i hope they will post them with links in the drop-down menus 🙏🏽🦋
At the beginning of this year,
the man whom I revered as my best friend,
abandoned and betrayed me.
In an instant, just like that, out of the blue...
He discarded and replaced me.
I guess it wasn't real friendship.
I'd like to say it must have been love...
But really, it must have been a trauma bond.
It's been over 8 months,
and I'm still healing...
REMINDER TO SELF:
Life/LOVE
is just trying so hard, doing its very best
to wake you up, out of the prison cell...
You don’t even know you're in!
Thank you, Teal! 🙏 As always, timely and immensely helpful.
Good words Teal. I had to remember to live in the moment, everything else is just a story. Namaste
Ive been resisting ending a friendship that doesn't want me anymore
Hey, dont cry. I am on your side
I was needing this one SO MUCH ... THANK YOU Teal. Also thank you for your videos recommandation to deepen the subject.
Thank you Teal 🙏
I’ve listened to this many times. Thank you. 🙏🏼 ❤
Beautifully explained. Thank you!!
Wonderful advise, again. Thank you for being a teacher of these things. You are very good at this. 🌷
Always, always perfect synchronicity (the timing of your videos/topics). ❤
I need this today , thank you
Man this came at the perfect time... I was just thinking about having to accept something that is / might be and worrying I may not be able to face it. Your timing is perfectly divine Teal! Synchronicity at its finest ✨️
YOUR timing is divine 🧚♀️ @katierodgers8231
@@georgettejoubert2997 🌠💙💫
This is again exactly what is going on in my life. Thank you for all the guidance from source
Teal, I much prefer your delivery now compared to the past, you seem more natural and sincere and I am no longer distracted by your expressions and way of speaking. This makes it easier to focus on your brilliant content. Sending much love and gratitude.
I found this very helpful. And I feel your video came at the right time for me. Thank you.
Thank you Teal. Your videos are really helping me !❤
The more big way for not resist acceptance, for me, is believing the bible in Ro. 8: 28
"everything is for the best for those who love God", because only then the full ones blessings of Universe can reach you. Thanks Teal, you go too deep
wow that video came in the exact right timing for me. Thank you Teal 🙏🏼
A nice video topic would be "What happens after Death". The whole process of death and what to expect as soon as you leave your body.
thank u teal swan ❤ love to see you still dropping the knowledge!
This was one of my dreams. We were inside the shop though, it sank.. though slowly :)
In the past many people did not accepted me for the way I am.....Control freaks...... This is why today I have difficulty in accepting others flaws. I don't know I have been forced to be accepting when no one else did it for me, How do you think I am gonna feel about it??!
Girl you better preach. Ty.🫂
Just realize the listing another videos we should watch part is like Teal is giving us a doctor's receipt what medicine we should take
Thank you, you´re the best Teal ♥
Isn’t it real, valid, and true that Maryn had kids? Where was her role in accepting them and with them, her moral responsibility a mother?
Sometimes it's accepting the non accepted, accept that you do not accept something
What about when the thing you can't accept is something you can't do anything about. Such as knowing you'll never have a family because you're barron. And you tried adoption and found that system certainly isn't always on the up and up?
Amazing
Told to go one way,
Told to go another way,
Gotta tell my heart,
It's ok, my way.
(Silver hair would suit you nicely btw Teal).
Incase You'd Rather Read About It Instead: tealswan.com/resources/articles/accept/
I loved this new tool. I love your videos and I usually make notes while I listen to them. Now, that the the video is in a text format, it will help me to review the info later on.
Thank you, Teal!
Teal 🙏🏼 por favor🙏🏽
Could you leave us a list and the links to the videos you recommend, in the drop-down menus of your current video?
So we can go directly to the next video you suggest to supplement the current topic?
This would be so very helpful!
🙏🏼🙏🏽🙏
Thank you for your dedication and practice, with so much respect.
Teal, thank you for all you do, you have millions of supporters always remember that. love Linda
Yes I investigated my shadow a lot this year, and there was one part of me that was so dormant that I literally had to stop my entire life and sense of self to start bringing up the embers and it did not feel good and there was a lot of cognitive dissonance, I say it didn’t feel good, it felt felt better than nothing though
By the way I have some comedy skits on my channel about taking spiritual concepts to there extremes that you might like too 🔥🥩💥🏋️♂️🎸😈🎯🎭
That color looks amazing on you teal
hi teal could you upload divine masculine and energetic protection im not sure if youtube removed it buts its not on your channel anymore
Just did it today.
She's good
Me mindful of the difference between accepting something as existing or having existed, and accepting something into your life.
❤ Teal
I am total resistance itself 😅
Thank you so much ❤
Thank you!!
Those examples 🤌🏻
The way man is and it's ignorance to the endless possibilities. Man resists what could be yet feels it in the moment just to deny it's truth in their hearts ad i continue to feel.