Hey Aaron, my name is Shaun, i’ve been adding spanish captions to your videos but RUclips hasn’t made them available, do you know why this is happening? I just want your channel to reach a wider audience. God bless you all!
Hi Aaron...last video of urs on magic of deattachment..that means letting of my desire..first I wanted my friend...then after watching ur video,I let it go..not bothered..I started hating my friend...thus practising deattachment ,will it make me hate that person and now I seek revenge on him...first i wanted,loved him and attached..now after practising deattachment, am hating him and seek revenge...wats happening? Plz help Aaron
Aaron Doughty thank you so much 🙏🏼for sharing your story and giving some really concrete examples . I did not know that definition of psychopath or Narcissistic behaviors at all. Now I understand and will be forwarding this video to my mom who Im always trying to have conversations with to no avail. Many blessings 💐❤️🙏🏼
I am an empath. I was married to the most horrid person on Earth. Now, I know what he is. You can never be right even though that does not matter to be right, it is all ways your fault even when there is no fault to be had... He spoiled me from ever wanting another relationship as I could never bear to go through anything like that again.
When you raise your frequency or go through a spiritual awakening where your vibrational field changes, it changes what you attract. Focus on raising your frequency and toxic relationship will naturally fall away. Follow your intuition, this is your internal guidance that has read the whole book of your life. Dont let your mind stop you and more importantly dont allow someone elses 👽👁
That is so true) I kept raising my vibration till I took action and went on a 10 mile hike today) Found a sweet spot in nature for making videos and met some girls on the beach! Universe rewarded my brave heart today)
Truth, but I must pass along a personal observation. Narcissists watch with eagle eyes and will do all that they can to prevent others from rising. They don't want to share their space at the top of the food chain. Their biggest rivals are bright and beautiful young people. Children caught up in these dysfunctional systems are routinely punished for adopting positive behaviors that help them to raise their vibration. As the child grows up, s/he unwittingly attracts relationships with familiar entities, who simply employ more covert strategies of abuse but have the same agenda: Your energy exists only to feed my ego! After years of being criticized and ridiculed for meditating, improving dietary practices, going to Church, going to work, going to college, seeking counseling, having friends, and MAKING the team? It is difficult to remain positive or even keep trying! We live in a world that rewards success, self confidence, and the outward appearance of health & beauty. Hard work, integrity, compassion and yes, even startling natural beauty and ability can lead to hideous bullying of the unsuspecting and unprotected. Aaron Doughty's existence and success is deeply encouraging. because today fewer people fall into this category. Moving forward into a higher vibration doesn't occur magically, it requires effort. People who, like Doughty, and probably you too, transmute these energies on a personal level and teach others to recognize and stop rewarding this behavior, are THE revolutionary thinkers of this age. With so much at stake, with so much negativity and fear energy clouding the future of all earthly creatures, in you I forsee the meek inheriting the earth.
It's about the way you communicate when in the knowing of things and seeing of ways and being able to explain who they are and why they are saying and doing whatever. It makes them run forest run🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
Yes Im an empath and I have had nothing but horrible relationships and people in my life. Finally now at the age of 35 I know exactly what to look for and who not to give my energy to. Its a life lesson and only makes you a stronger person if you learn how to not let them take your energy and power away :)
Wish me luck, 31 going thru this right now. Taking my power back from the controlling relationships ive kept myself in (ex girlfriend and my mother both nuts) going thru homelessness during a pandemic, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Stay humble
Brian LaRocco Good luck to you. I understand, I ended up homeless as a young woman after confronting my narcissistic abuser family and then went through a ‘second wave’ of relationship purging in the past 4 years, after making more narcissistic connections unwittingly into adulthood. Only 1 narc left now and I’ve a good handle on my situation at last. You can do it!
@@Tweak203 Good thing is that there is no pandemy. This i fake, so you need not to worry about it. Concentrate to solve your homelessness, ignore this collective "pandemy" histery. Good luck man.
My mom is a major narcissist, my childhood was stressful because I’d have to walk on eggshells 24/7. She’d break furniture, hit me with random things, yet be confused on why I would lash out occasionally. I’d be ordered to look for an item and if I don’t find it in a split second, I’d have to hear countless insults until I’m so broken down that I’m in tears. She’s always been incredibly draining towards me. Every night she would always get drunk, yell at me for hours, argue with her boyfriend, cops would be called. Then she’d dump all the chores, making dinner, laundry, babysitting my little sister all on me. She’ll bring up how I’m a failure and wanted an abortion with me. I couldn’t bring friends over, she’d make focusing on school impossible. I’d constantly be blamed for all her problems. So glad I’ve avoided contact for 2 years. It was the healthiest decision of my life. Now I’m focused on finding my purpose and what makes ME happy. I hear now supposedly she’s “changed”. Yeah right. My guess is that she’s targeted someone else to take her rage out on. 🙄 My sisters got punished sometimes, but didn’t get the same treatment I always had. So of course, they’re brainwashed to believe I’m the bad guy. Of course, I was jealous and bullied them sometimes. I had some anger issues in the past, but can you really blame me?? At least my dad knows the truth so I’m not alone.
my Narcissist boyfriend dumped me last week because he said he doesnt have time for a relationship and he doesn't see a future with me and tbh im sooooo happy he left me because i was too weak to leave him. when he did i ddint even try or beg him to come back. i just accepted it. in the whole 8 day no contact he called me on the 5th day but i ddint pick up.
@@claireregan3357 i know he wil be back because he still has my intials in his instagram bio even though were not together lol but idk maybe hes lazy to remove it but i am ready to say no when he comes back lol
All part of the game mate. They don't forget and know exactly what they're doing. I mean you're still checking it. Wouldn't even respond at all if I were you. Thing they cannot stand the most, I've found... Is not being acknowledged at all 👌
As an empath and someone who struggled with boundaries and self esteem I have attracted a plethora of narcissists in the past 5 years or so. Within the past year or so I’ve just begun to learn how to actually leave these relationships and detach from these while still maintaining integrity and compassion as best as I can. A few hours before I came across your new upload- this video- I realized someone I’ve been getting close to for a while has been using me and this just confirmed my instincts and abilities to create a boundaries and take back my power in a healthy way. It was just a great reminder and confirmation- thank you, Aaron! You are so appreciated and loved!
My father was a Malignant Narcissist. Met the most amazing man in my late 20's we got married.....turned out to be a Narcissist......got divorced. Met another amazing man about 3 years later and eventually got married. He turned out to be an even worst, almost pathological...he was terrifying.... almost as bad as my father. I got divorced. 3 Narcissists in one lifetime is enough for me. I'm done. Breaking this cycle
My father was such a sociopath....we had 6 little dogs in our yard...all pets whom we loved affectionately. One time over a period of a few days my father poisoned all of them. There was even a dog with puppies ....all dead. He was jealous that we were showing the animals so much love. My heart broke for all of them. While our family mourned. he sat there with a smirk on his stupid face. Gosh I hated that I feared him so much back then. He was so very wicked!
Bless you 🙏💖 just stay away protect yourself and surround your self with love and joy from within and without. Friends are my companions now and myself 🙏
@@artemisthehuntress1076 That's fucked man, my Girlfriend's stepdad is a total Narcissist too and like there was a stray cat that entered their house and he took pride in telling his family that he cemented the cat, like plastered it in cement and killed it. How in the world do these pricks get away with doing theee things?
I love it when you do these videos on narcissists Aaron. I have a narcissist channel of my own, but your perspectives are definitely something I resonate with.
I’ve watched a few of your videos. The problem I have is the victim mentality. Narcs aren’t the way they are on a conscious level. It came about usually due to extreme child abuse, neglect, or narc parents. I was abused and have my own problems. Having said that I was on the receiving end of a narc, but instead of the victim mentality I feel sorry for her. She could be an amazing person without that. She was molested, raped, and had a monster of a step mom. She also lost an infant 6 ago. Drank from the age of 9. 29 now. I can see why she is the way she is. I hate what happened. It hurt me a lot. The damage they do is real, but I hate the way people portray them as evil people that woke up one day and decided to be pricks. Instead of being a “victim” I just learned from it so I recognize it it again. There are ways to deal with them. In fact I’m waiting for her to finish her current fling to see if she comes back my way. I’m armed now with knowledge that I’m dying to try out to see what happens. In her case she does know something is wrong with her. She admits that. I don’t think she knows what however
I love his vids too ( and Narc survivor vids - great music background). I have a youtube channel too but hardly any views hahaha. Great the word is getting out about narc.
Your Channel is sOoOoO awesome Narc survivor. You have helped me so much in understanding what was happening To me, how To avoid hoovers, the discard phase and so much more!! Keep going please!! ❤ 56 days NC :)
i was in a manipulative friendship with a narcissist and in a relationship with a narcissist. I'm so glad i left both of them in the past and am more firm with my boundaries
So sad how emotional abuse effects you..I was walking on eggshells for years never knew what would make my husband mad. Stupid stuff, silent treatment big punishment-trying to get out..he drains my energy. Thank you
Melanie Dobson .. I’m trying to not make my husband mad.. but he even gets mad at me when honestly it was out of my control and it was not my fault .. GE still believes it’s my fault .. he is very controlling and his ego makes even our grown kids to never speak their minds..
The part about us drawing this person or experience to us to learn boundaries and how to say no with compassion made me cry... I just kicked out my narc and it was like vanquishing a demon.. once I was strong enough to say, I will endure no more, he vanished...
you should make a video about the narcissistic mother - daughter relationship that you mentioned. Also how to deal with the repercussions of feeling like your manipulative due to having to navigate your life around their mind-games your whole life. This all hits super close to home lol!! Idk just some suggestions:) LOVE YOUR CHANNEL!
I’m so sorry you went through this 💔This makes me so angry 😡 and so sad at the same time 🤬I’m so glad you’re here and you are absolutely a beautiful soul❤️🙏
Funny, I was at my wits end with a family member and went for a short walk n prayer about it and came back in the house and your alert popped up. Talk about timing and spiritual/physical sequence wow! Thank You Aaron
I respect your ability to share your story with confidence as this is not easy information to express. You’re a leader and a role model for all of us💫✨
You are a Great Beautiful Soul.. I was in a 12yr narcissistic relationship.. and all u say it's true. I took back my power.. I have my power.. and I won't let it go no more.
Very insightful and I believe that I have been put with narcissists in order to build a sense of myself and because I was looking for certainty outside myself
Having a narcissist in my life for 12 years I understand the havoc they can reek. What I’ve come to know is this - to move on and have the advantages that these experiences bring YOU MUST FORGIVE THAT PERSON AND YOURSELF. For me, learning to understand we are all connected was the key. Aaron’s videos have shown me what that looks like. I am not the same person I was last April when I went home from the hospital after suffering a series of stress-related strokes. I believe that was my kick in the pants to get my awakening started and the catalyst was my relationship with this person (and all the fall-out it brought with it). Today, in the midst of these world-wide happenings, I am AMAZED to actually feel gratitude for all that has occurred; I’m amazed that fear no longer touches me. I’m amazed that I’m at peace.
Excellent perspective. Thank you. I have been married to a narc for 24 years. The past 9 have been a great awakening. I have healed, learned and now teach empathetic women how to heal from narcissistic relationships and get their 2 feet on the ground and their light turned on like I had to do. I will use this video as a resource. I'm sorry for those years, yet I understand the power that comes as a result. I say I help you become the 💎 as they try so hard to keep you as coal! Awesome job! Thanks again
Hi, I left a narsists and now he's stalking me, getting a restraining order mite anger him or wouldn't work as he can be as silent as a cat. Not only do I feel/see his energy near my windows and smell his cigeret smoke I also have heard gravel shift and twigs snap very close by, to clarify this even more a dog hear has been on edge looking at where the noses have come from, growled and barked. He also has a history of tracking people down with no known addresses. Any advise on how to keep me and the others I live with safe? I seam to still be bate to him even when I don't speak to him over the phone. Authorities couldn't help this is energetic I feel and I am not face to with him in person so yes Arron is right on many things but energetically I think other stratigys apply but I'm not sure what they are yet. Any ideas on energetic strategy's that could be used as protection against a narsists? I am already using the fear not strategy.
Both of my parents and some of my siblings are narcissistic to the point where I have been no contact for over a decade... It’s so fucked. The part about you pretending to not wanna go to band/debate club in order to go really hit hard. IM SO HAPPY TO SEE HOW FAR YOU’VE COME :) an inspiration✨❤️🌸
Love this channel. I feel it’s no coincidence that I’ve finally found this channel to help free me from the shackles of this modern slave system. Thanks, Aaron. Keep doing what you’re doing.
I’m so sorry this happened to you ♥️ my mother and exhusband were both narcissistic - I recently realized that because I had associated this type of relationship with love I rejected real, unconditional love. The work I have done on myself has saved me and I am grateful that I continue to unravel and cut these cords leading to deeper gratitude and appreciation 💗thank you for the work you do, much love and light 🙏
Dealing with one of these people as we speak. We've only been seeing each other for a month or so and I'm already burned out on her. Everything is always my fault and I'm told to find a way to fix things that I was never aware were even an issue. She just wants control and has already told me that she is more important than I am in the relationship. Her and people like her really suck.
@@luckychic she told me yesterday that she had been talking to her ex while we were together. I dropped her and she messaged me happy bday this morning. Only in a narcissist will you find that level of audacity
That person is drawing energy from you rather from the quantum field, that’s why you feel drained. Not recommended but most people are like that nowadays sadly
I'm trying to get a divorce from a verbally abusive narcissist and boy is it hard. I needed this video. Hang in there everyone! Thank you so much Aaron!
Spot on ... I've been studying this subject for two years. I finally had an epiphany that every one of my friendships and marriage involved a narcissist, this wasn't by accident, it is meant for me to learn and grow into a stronger human being. In fact, I truly believe that by not feeding into their negative energy, they can change as well. Which is what the human experience is about.
I just ended a relationship with a narcissist that I loved so deeply for 6 years. We have a house we were remodeling. Now I’m left without his expertise and his ego is basking in the reality that this house remodel would go easier with him that without and is using the opportunity to mentally abuse me like he did for years making me feel not good or smart enough to pull this off without him. It’s horrible but empowering. I will never allow another person to make me feel small.
Thank you Aaron, for your story, your pain... and your Love. I’ve been targeted for many years, been learning the last few years on how to protect myself. To anyone reading this: YOU ARE HERE FOR A REASON!! The universe is reaching out to help andLove you. STAY STRONG!!
Thank you Aaron.🙏 I’ve been hearing that, “setting boundaries and taking back your power with compassion and love” quite a bit lately. It seems on a global level. It was explained if approached in a negative manner the universe will send more of the same back to you. I believe because of the law of attraction, it will return to you. “These negative people are here to teach us” was the most important take away for me today, so should we thank them and then say “no thank you”? It’s very hard for people to comprehend but I think “yes”. I’m sorry you had to experience that but so glad that you now can share your understanding. 🙏❤️🕯
Hi Aaron, my relative is going through a tough time. I told him to check out your videos. When he asked me why, I told him (using your same hand gestures), "It's to Expand..... Your...... Consciousness!" 😄 FYI, he is now glued to your videos. Much love Aaron! 🙂🙏✨💕
Thank you Aaron for this video. I too was in that situation of the step child. From day one, I knew my step father did not like me or my sister. Fast forward, I ended up in a relationship with a narcissist who treated my three sons like pack mules! My sons, who are now grown men had to heal from his "treatment "! Now I'm in the place where I'm am separating me and our two children from this madness! I no longer give into his abuse! Thank you Aaron! Thank you for sharing your experience!
Thanks for telling your story aaron! I had a similar childhood and it is really nice to recognize some things, like being forced to lie that you did something. Terrible feeling. My parents often said that they wouldn’t talk to me/recognize me (at all) until I confessed. Once they acted like I didn’t exist for 2 weeks until i lied about the mistakes i made.
Thank you for this! Been gang stalked by multiple narcs and sociopaths since I was a kid and wish I would have known this earlier. This will help so many people! 👏💖
Aaron, I am so sorry! I was raised by narcissists. And married 3. One thing that I learned is you cannot meditate nor coparent with a narcissist. I suppose they teach us a great deal. Most of all did not carry my abuse into the next generation. My children were parented- by me- with total love and acceptance and ZERO physical, psychological, and emotional abuse- mixed with neglect. I am so very happy that you came out on the other side, a loving and compassionate human being. Me too! Thank you for ALL of your videos. They are an enormous source of help to me always.
the 3rd chakra is our power center. Claim your power by reaffirming your worth and training the subconscious mind to create the reality where your higher self is first above all else
Much love to your inner child 🤗🧡 Thank you for this video🙏 I too was a child of a narcissist. A narcissist who was also not that present. I “compensated” this by getting into a long term relationship with someone very... affectionate. At least initially. Something felt very off from the beginning but he adored me so much, was always there for me (khm khm codependent) that I didn’t realize this. He manipulated me into giving up my dreams.also, I couldn’t finish college. I was stuck living in a foreign country where I couldn’t speak the language. Because he wanted to work in his home country. Without getting into further of this deep dysfunctional mess. I consider to have 2 birthdays - one of my actual birth & second when I got this toxic waste out of my life. I have never felt a greater relief! If you have someone like this in your life - please be strong, you can get through this! Heal your inner child & love yourself to the max. 💪🧡 Take the lessons & never look back! Much love 🙌
I'm so sorry for what you went through. I went through something similar in my childhood and I have been working on taking my power back ever since I became free again as a teenager. It's easy for me to feel sorry for people and letting them control our relationship and me as a result of my experience.
Both of my parents were screwed up like this and then because it was familiar I ended up in alot of other situations with same energy. You're right about all this thank you for sharing
Im in the height of my awakening. Just let go of a relationship with one that did not serve me. Stepping into my power now more than ever. Still a little shaken up so thank you for this video...it helps me keep my head on straight bc as an empath, omg its ripped my heart out. As this person is still on the defense, i can take all ive learned, all my tools, and let go w love. I wish this person well. I pray he heals. And thank God i love myself enough to know my worth and importance and that i didnt ever deserve to be disregarded the way i was. Its been 10 yrs since i had a narcissistic person in my life and even though, i have to admit, im a little pissed at myself for allowing that back in to my life but wowwww ive learned so much through this and im much wiser in how to protect myself in the future. I appreciate your openness Aaron. You and Victor and my amazing friends have helped me step into my power so much and im eternally grateful!
This was such a powerful video! I have been associated with this mentality in my family and with a few of my “friends” and often thought what could I do to make things right and would burn out. I have felt that so strongly with my ex in conflict resolution and I lost my happy self in the process. Ever since I have broken away from those people I am drawn to what serves me the best 🌈 It’s ironic that a lot of people feel the same. I feel bad for the narcissistic people and hope they find peace within. Namaste 🙏
Very enlightening. I recently discovered that one of my close family members is a narcissist. That discovery explaned so much and answered a lot of questions.
I’ve learned to recognize flags by trusting myself knowing my worth self love n respect myself to not tolerate/ accepts bs.. not to be soo flowing with things people do learn to remove myself SELF LOVE AND BOUNDAIRES NO MORE CO DEPENDENCY PEOPLE PLEASING NOT OVER EXTENDING MYSELF !!!
Hey Aaron, my name is Shaun, i’ve been adding spanish captions to your videos but RUclips hasn’t made them available, do you know why this is happening? I just want your channel to reach a wider audience. God bless you all!
My spirit really helped me dealing with my mother. When she throws her tantrums I don’t argue back instead I focus on my peace. Before I’d fight back then she’d have something to hold against NOT ANYMORE I’m now more aware of it. Thank you for this video Aaron ❤️✨❤️✨
I usually don't like to comment on any videos because -sometimes- it can be redundant to praise the RUclipsrs but this man deserves praises. Thank you, Aaron, for explaining the key aspect to deal with a narcissist: never, never feed their energy. Thank you for this precious and timely information because, right now, I'm playing an isolation game over the quarantine since I'm severing all communications with those that feed on my need to please. I'm still working with my, incredibly repetitive, pack of narcissists. They're not the violent kind; they're the manipulative and self-centered kind. How to deal with them? How to turn off the "complacency mode" and regain my power? Compassionate energy might be the answer.
Thank you, Aaron. I have been involved in a similar relationship. These are the precise lessons (boundaries, compassion, realizing my own self worth) that I have finally learned after being in this situation for the last 20 years. The universe is always seeking to teach us what we need to learn the most.
So sorry you had to deal with that monster. I’ve known people like that and it’s horrible when you cannot remove them from your life. The blessing is now you have compassion for others and are a great teacher to teach people how to take their power back. Thank you Aaron ❤️.
Food for thought: a soul may have perfectly healthy ego going into this dynamic in a relationship and slowly that erodes away. The lesson I needed to learn was the abundance of energy I KNEW was mine COULD actually be depleted to deficit by the "energy sink". (That was how I thought of him, like a heat-sink you attach to an electronic component. I recognized he didn't consume my energy with conscious intent; & the more energy I gave him the more energy he needed in an unhealthy addict-like tolerance ratio. So this situation was as dysfunctional for him as for me). I had to "see" I could be drained dry to believe it was possible (I was a person who could dance until dawn and then work a 24-hour shift, sleep straight 6 and do it all again). I also had to learn that propping him up with my energy was the opposite of help to him. His depression, dysfunction and self-absorption became all consuming. This is another lesson to be learned from those who siphon the energy of others. I don't like the labels, especially negative labels. You love them and want to offer relief, but if relief doesnt actually relieve, instead it creates appetite, you're not helping. To say he was very resistant to being denied my energy first when it was simply too depleted for me to have any to "share" and later when I stepped away and actively broke the conduit, well resistant is a deliberate understatement. My resolve and reasoning had to be reinforced and repaired by my guides and guardians countless times. If I ever doubted their existence or power... anyway, love and light and maybe another lesson that resonates a little differently for those who don't see themselves in the scenarios mentioned in the vid.
This is a much needed topic, even though I despise re-living it. I have been through a lifetime of this crap. I am in my fifty's and over the last couple of years I have removed these people from my life. Including in the workplace, quit that job. I can't handle their self entitlement, self seeking, other destroying personalities. I currently have an immediate family member who is a psychopath narcissist and she is abusing her family, children & my mom who bought into her lies that she would be cared for.( My mom has alzheimers) And this person has been nothing but a money sucking sponge her entire life and has also isolated my mom, so that no one else can see her or talk to her. Authorities refuse to listen to the truth. It is hard for me to have compassion in my heart for anyone so abusive. I have dreams of taking her out for real. But doing my best to raise my vibration in hopes of a positive outcome somehow. Thanks for sharing Aaron.
Got to love the synchronicity of this video. Very well-timed indeed. I have been on a spiritual journey and have been trying to use loA for a while to get rid of the Narcissist and I couldn't understand why he is still in my life. This question has been in my mind over and over again. It finally made sense now. So thank you, Aaron, for taking up this subject, and for shedding light on it. Much love to you.
I’ve always loved your videos , but I feel so much more connected to you after hearing all of this. You give me hope that my daughter will come through her experience strong like you. My narcissistic ex boyfriend legally (through courts and lies and manipulative games) ‘stole’ my youngest daughter. He severely punished her if she showed love or loyalty to me - attacked my life to the point that I had to walk away from the fight and that meant her. I have not seen her since she was 6 and she just turned 15. She’s an angel. She was the most perfect baby and little girl. My family misses her every day. The woman he married who became her stepmom is worse than him. Ive struggled with why.. why does nothing bad ever happen to him? He was rich and has become richer.. years of him getting away with torturing her -me -and my whole family. I don’t dwell- I stay positive I manifest forward - and hope to reunite with her one day. I have learned to have boundaries- and to read that narcissistic pedophile energy immediately. I’ve shared this video in the hope that all the givers -the sweet ones -the empaths- will learn to take our power BACK! 🙏🏻 Aaron ✨
Especially when there are children are involved. Leaving is so frightening. It took me 15 years to leave and I never thought I would have the courage to do it. After I left, I had so many women open up to me just in passing and tell me how afraid they were to leave their husbands. It was pretty odd but amazing also.
My mother is narcissistic person,she criticize me and love to control me.Thats right that i have to love and value myself,set boundaries.Thank you for video
Thank you Aaron!!! This is really helpful. My mom is a narcisist and you described her exactly. Thank you for your advices. Keep up the good work, you are doing really well!
Aaron, how did you manage to get where you are? Did you get therapy? I had a narcissistic mother and I now have CPTSD. I have flashbacks that can last days :(
Wowww firmer ego and how to say no and have compassion for yourself. I’m having epiphanies. Take your power back, they do feed and if there ain’t no food they walk away!! I see narcissists as laying down board games to trigger you and I don’t play the game, I don’t roll the dice
Aaron, this is one of he best videos you’ve made in a while. it’s literally spot on. I know you prob get some flack for repeating the same story about yourself but I would to hear some more stories that maybe you haven’t shared yet , Thx!
My x wife is a Narcissus and we have two kids together. We have been separated for 10 years now and I am only just beginning to feel things are easier. But she is exactly like you are describing here. I have felt powerless and lost so many years to her, I wish I'd known all this back then. I have huge empathy for your father. There should be a help group for the victims of these people. Good job Aaron.
It's really amazing to learn about that, this video came exactly when I needed advice on how to deal with narcissists. Even going through a spiritual awakening I often face toxic people. But now I am going to apply this to my life. Thank you, Aaron! Your videos are always powerful and inspirational! Much Love :)
Wow! What a childhood. I can't believe a parent would give power to a partner that is not the parent of their child/children to someone else. Energy never lies. Even as a child you picked up on her energy. Glad you went through what you went through to get that life experience 🙏🥰
A lot of parents give away their power to someone else. Because the narc makes them feel safe, like they can rely on em in the difficulty of raising a child, because the narc seems strong and in charge. It s a double wound for the child : the abuse of the stepmom or stepdad and the betrayal of the parent who could not protect the child from the narc. You love your parent but you are also so angry at them. And then you forgive...because at the end of the day, we are all deeply the same: the parent, the narc, the child. All wounded. And where there is a wound there is Strength and Healing ;0)) 🌻✊ blessed be
hey everyone! here's one of the videos I mentioned above! much love :) ruclips.net/video/GE9kRDIE9sE/видео.html
Hey Aaron, my name is Shaun, i’ve been adding spanish captions to your videos but RUclips hasn’t made them available, do you know why this is happening? I just want your channel to reach a wider audience.
God bless you all!
Hi Aaron...last video of urs on magic of deattachment..that means letting of my desire..first I wanted my friend...then after watching ur video,I let it go..not bothered..I started hating my friend...thus practising deattachment ,will it make me hate that person and now I seek revenge on him...first i wanted,loved him and attached..now after practising deattachment, am hating him and seek revenge...wats happening? Plz help Aaron
Aaron Doughty thank you so much 🙏🏼for sharing your story and giving some really concrete examples . I did not know that definition of psychopath or Narcissistic behaviors at all. Now I understand and will be forwarding this video to my mom who Im always trying to have conversations with to no avail. Many blessings 💐❤️🙏🏼
It's No Contact the end
Your dad sounds like a great guy is he single!! 😉😘
Empaths tend to attract narcissists 👁🌟 thank you Aaron ⚡️Sending love to all of you, you’re not alone on your awakening. 🌊🐬
I'm an empath and my daughters dad is a narcissist .. Hard 4 years of my life, still struggling with the connection now
I am an empath. I was married to the most horrid person on Earth. Now, I know what he is. You can never be right even though that does not matter to be right, it is all ways your fault even when there is no fault to be had... He spoiled me from ever wanting another relationship as I could never bear to go through anything like that again.
Thank u
I'm an empath. My ex wife has Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Oh god you are so right! I’m dealing now with one. A friend of mine. I thought we were on the same level but she is too toxic
When you raise your frequency or go through a spiritual awakening where your vibrational field changes, it changes what you attract. Focus on raising your frequency and toxic relationship will naturally fall away. Follow your intuition, this is your internal guidance that has read the whole book of your life. Dont let your mind stop you and more importantly dont allow someone elses 👽👁
That is so true) I kept raising my vibration till I took action and went on a 10 mile hike today) Found a sweet spot in nature for making videos and met some girls on the beach! Universe rewarded my brave heart today)
Monika Trajanoska it purifies your focus more being around them and makes you clearer on your own truths
Truth, but I must pass along a personal observation. Narcissists watch with eagle eyes and will do all that they can to prevent others from rising. They don't want to share their space at the top of the food chain. Their biggest rivals are bright and beautiful young people.
Children caught up in these dysfunctional systems are routinely punished for adopting positive behaviors that help them to raise their vibration. As the child grows up, s/he unwittingly attracts relationships with familiar entities, who simply employ more covert strategies of abuse but have the same agenda: Your energy exists only to feed my ego!
After years of being criticized and ridiculed for meditating, improving dietary practices, going to Church, going to work, going to college, seeking counseling, having friends, and MAKING the team? It is difficult to remain positive or even keep trying!
We live in a world that rewards success, self confidence, and the outward appearance of health & beauty. Hard work, integrity, compassion and yes, even startling natural beauty and ability can lead to hideous bullying of the unsuspecting and unprotected. Aaron Doughty's existence and success is deeply encouraging. because today fewer people fall into this category.
Moving forward into a higher vibration doesn't occur magically, it requires effort. People who, like Doughty, and probably you too, transmute these energies on a personal level and teach others to recognize and stop rewarding this behavior, are THE revolutionary thinkers of this age. With so much at stake, with so much negativity and fear energy clouding the future of all earthly creatures, in you I forsee the meek inheriting the earth.
It's about the way you communicate when in the knowing of things and seeing of ways and being able to explain who they are and why they are saying and doing whatever. It makes them run forest run🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
Suzy Anderson Wow I felt that deep! Thank you 💗 gives clarity on a situation I’m going thro now
Yes Im an empath and I have had nothing but horrible relationships and people in my life. Finally now at the age of 35 I know exactly what to look for and who not to give my energy to. Its a life lesson and only makes you a stronger person if you learn how to not let them take your energy and power away :)
Well done all. Me too. All the narcs gone but one who I’m well on the road to extricating myself from.
Yep I'm 35 too and have worked this out also 💕
Wish me luck, 31 going thru this right now. Taking my power back from the controlling relationships ive kept myself in (ex girlfriend and my mother both nuts) going thru homelessness during a pandemic, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Stay humble
Brian LaRocco Good luck to you. I understand, I ended up homeless as a young woman after confronting my narcissistic abuser family and then went through a ‘second wave’ of relationship purging in the past 4 years, after making more narcissistic connections unwittingly into adulthood. Only 1 narc left now and I’ve a good handle on my situation at last. You can do it!
@@Tweak203 Good thing is that there is no pandemy. This i fake, so you need not to worry about it. Concentrate to solve your homelessness, ignore this collective "pandemy" histery.
Good luck man.
My mom is a major narcissist, my childhood was stressful because I’d have to walk on eggshells 24/7. She’d break furniture, hit me with random things, yet be confused on why I would lash out occasionally. I’d be ordered to look for an item and if I don’t find it in a split second, I’d have to hear countless insults until I’m so broken down that I’m in tears. She’s always been incredibly draining towards me. Every night she would always get drunk, yell at me for hours, argue with her boyfriend, cops would be called. Then she’d dump all the chores, making dinner, laundry, babysitting my little sister all on me. She’ll bring up how I’m a failure and wanted an abortion with me. I couldn’t bring friends over, she’d make focusing on school impossible. I’d constantly be blamed for all her problems. So glad I’ve avoided contact for 2 years. It was the healthiest decision of my life. Now I’m focused on finding my purpose and what makes ME happy. I hear now supposedly she’s “changed”. Yeah right. My guess is that she’s targeted someone else to take her rage out on. 🙄 My sisters got punished sometimes, but didn’t get the same treatment I always had. So of course, they’re brainwashed to believe I’m the bad guy. Of course, I was jealous and bullied them sometimes. I had some anger issues in the past, but can you really blame me?? At least my dad knows the truth so I’m not alone.
Wow the part where he said you have a narcissist in your life because you need to learn boundaries and a sense of self...that resonated to my core!
my Narcissist boyfriend dumped me last week because he said he doesnt have time for a relationship and he doesn't see a future with me and tbh im sooooo happy he left me because i was too weak to leave him. when he did i ddint even try or beg him to come back. i just accepted it. in the whole 8 day no contact he called me on the 5th day but i ddint pick up.
Tim Tam You should be so proud of yourself for not contacting him and not picking up. He has done you a huge favour 🙏😊
Tim Tam don’t give in please.. do yourself a favour, cut the ties completely!!! you deserve better!!!!❤️
Discard phase 🙄 be strong mate... The "hoovering" gets pretty intense when they can't find another supply. Best of luck xx
@@claireregan3357 i know he wil be back because he still has my intials in his instagram bio even though were not together lol but idk maybe hes lazy to remove it but i am ready to say no when he comes back lol
All part of the game mate. They don't forget and know exactly what they're doing. I mean you're still checking it. Wouldn't even respond at all if I were you. Thing they cannot stand the most, I've found... Is not being acknowledged at all 👌
As an empath and someone who struggled with boundaries and self esteem I have attracted a plethora of narcissists in the past 5 years or so. Within the past year or so I’ve just begun to learn how to actually leave these relationships and detach from these while still maintaining integrity and compassion as best as I can. A few hours before I came across your new upload- this video- I realized someone I’ve been getting close to for a while has been using me and this just confirmed my instincts and abilities to create a boundaries and take back my power in a healthy way. It was just a great reminder and confirmation- thank you, Aaron! You are so appreciated and loved!
Sending you lots of love healing energy 🙏💚🙏
My father was a Malignant Narcissist. Met the most amazing man in my late 20's we got married.....turned out to be a Narcissist......got divorced. Met another amazing man about 3 years later and eventually got married. He turned out to be an even worst, almost pathological...he was terrifying.... almost as bad as my father. I got divorced. 3 Narcissists in one lifetime is enough for me. I'm done. Breaking this cycle
I feel your story, almost the same as mine. A lifetime of narcissists :..(
i hate narcs... both my parents are narcissists. This world is infested with them.
My father was such a sociopath....we had 6 little dogs in our yard...all pets whom we loved affectionately. One time over a period of a few days my father poisoned all of them. There was even a dog with puppies ....all dead. He was jealous that we were showing the animals so much love. My heart broke for all of them. While our family mourned. he sat there with a smirk on his stupid face. Gosh I hated that I feared him so much back then. He was so very wicked!
Bless you 🙏💖 just stay away protect yourself and surround your self with love and joy from within and without. Friends are my companions now and myself 🙏
@@artemisthehuntress1076 That's fucked man, my Girlfriend's stepdad is a total Narcissist too and like there was a stray cat that entered their house and he took pride in telling his family that he cemented the cat, like plastered it in cement and killed it. How in the world do these pricks get away with doing theee things?
"you can heal. along with our capacity for suffering is our commensurate capacity to heal." you are loved. ❤
On point!!! I have been a people pleaser for years and met a narcissist who has thought me about boundaries 🙏❤️
Good for you! These people enter our lives for a reason and that's to teach us a lesson.
Congrats on 900k Aaron, can't wait to see you hit 1m!😁 Keep up the great work💪
thank you!
I love it when you do these videos on narcissists Aaron. I have a narcissist channel of my own, but your perspectives are definitely something I resonate with.
I’ve watched a few of your videos. The problem I have is the victim mentality. Narcs aren’t the way they are on a conscious level. It came about usually due to extreme child abuse, neglect, or narc parents. I was abused and have my own problems. Having said that I was on the receiving end of a narc, but instead of the victim mentality I feel sorry for her. She could be an amazing person without that. She was molested, raped, and had a monster of a step mom. She also lost an infant 6 ago. Drank from the age of 9. 29 now. I can see why she is the way she is. I hate what happened. It hurt me a lot. The damage they do is real, but I hate the way people portray them as evil people that woke up one day and decided to be pricks. Instead of being a “victim” I just learned from it so I recognize it it again. There are ways to deal with them. In fact I’m waiting for her to finish her current fling to see if she comes back my way. I’m armed now with knowledge that I’m dying to try out to see what happens. In her case she does know something is wrong with her. She admits that. I don’t think she knows what however
I watch your videos too, great job. Keep it up
I love his vids too ( and Narc survivor vids - great music background). I have a youtube channel too but hardly any views hahaha. Great the word is getting out about narc.
Your Channel is sOoOoO awesome Narc survivor. You have helped me so much in understanding what was happening To me, how To avoid hoovers, the discard phase and so much more!! Keep going please!! ❤ 56 days NC :)
i was in a manipulative friendship with a narcissist and in a relationship with a narcissist. I'm so glad i left both of them in the past and am more firm with my boundaries
So sad how emotional abuse effects you..I was walking on eggshells for years never knew what would make my husband mad. Stupid stuff, silent treatment big punishment-trying to get out..he drains my energy. Thank you
Melanie Dobson .. I’m trying to not make my husband mad.. but he even gets mad at me when honestly it was out of my control and it was not my fault .. GE still believes it’s my fault .. he is very controlling and his ego makes even our grown kids to never speak their minds..
I feel you.
It’s a horrible way to exist.
The part about us drawing this person or experience to us to learn boundaries and how to say no with compassion made me cry... I just kicked out my narc and it was like vanquishing a demon.. once I was strong enough to say, I will endure no more, he vanished...
you should make a video about the narcissistic mother - daughter relationship that you mentioned. Also how to deal with the repercussions of feeling like your manipulative due to having to navigate your life around their mind-games your whole life. This all hits super close to home lol!! Idk just some suggestions:) LOVE YOUR CHANNEL!
Yes! I know I seem suspicious because I carry guilt for lying for survival. I want to get over it
Bonafide Bloom it’s a real thing!! or just like thinking 5 steps ahead and stuff. just how it works 😂😂 idek but yeah i feel you!
I know, it’s like your ‘normal’ is being a psychological ninja. Mental.
I needed to see this, thank you Aaron.. My daughters dad is a narcissist and its been an exhausting 4 years, i feel drained when i'm around him.
Thank you for explaining this. I’ve attracted narcissists for my entire life. I’m awake now. You are right. I learned boundaries.
I’m so sorry you went through this 💔This makes me so angry 😡 and so sad at the same time 🤬I’m so glad you’re here and you are absolutely a beautiful soul❤️🙏
He had a heavy life, but a light soul' really sad.
Funny, I was at my wits end with a family member and went for a short walk n prayer about it and came back in the house and your alert popped up. Talk about timing and spiritual/physical sequence wow! Thank You Aaron
I respect your ability to share your story with confidence as this is not easy information to express. You’re a leader and a role model for all of us💫✨
I have him tattooed because I was abused just like him...
You are a Great Beautiful Soul.. I was in a 12yr narcissistic relationship.. and all u say it's true. I took back my power.. I have my power.. and I won't let it go no more.
I had so many people with narcissistic/sociopathic tendencies in my life...
To all people out there; youre protected, loved and worth it.
Ira • 💗🙏🏻👏🏻
Thank you 🙏🏽 so are you 🤍
Me too. Thanks for nice comment
Very insightful and I believe that I have been put with narcissists in order to build a sense of myself and because I was looking for certainty outside myself
Having a narcissist in my life for 12 years I understand the havoc they can reek. What I’ve come to know is this - to move on and have the advantages that these experiences bring YOU MUST FORGIVE THAT PERSON AND YOURSELF. For me, learning to understand we are all connected was the key. Aaron’s videos have shown me what that looks like. I am not the same person I was last April when I went home from the hospital after suffering a series of stress-related strokes. I believe that was my kick in the pants to get my awakening started and the catalyst was my relationship with this person (and all the fall-out it brought with it). Today, in the midst of these world-wide happenings, I am AMAZED to actually feel gratitude for all that has occurred; I’m amazed that fear no longer touches me. I’m amazed that I’m at peace.
Similar experience with a similar personality type, know that feeling of having to pretend you weren’t interested in something just to play their game
Survival of their image/ identity. Great point! The most important thing is Your compassion for yourself. Yes!!!
Excellent perspective. Thank you. I have been married to a narc for 24 years. The past 9 have been a great awakening. I have healed, learned and now teach empathetic women how to heal from narcissistic relationships and get their 2 feet on the ground and their light turned on like I had to do. I will use this video as a resource. I'm sorry for those years, yet I understand the power that comes as a result. I say I help you become the 💎 as they try so hard to keep you as coal! Awesome job! Thanks again
Hi, I left a narsists and now he's stalking me, getting a restraining order mite anger him or wouldn't work as he can be as silent as a cat. Not only do I feel/see his energy near my windows and smell his cigeret smoke I also have heard gravel shift and twigs snap very close by, to clarify this even more a dog hear has been on edge looking at where the noses have come from, growled and barked. He also has a history of tracking people down with no known addresses.
Any advise on how to keep me and the others I live with safe? I seam to still be bate to him even when I don't speak to him over the phone. Authorities couldn't help this is energetic I feel and I am not face to with him in person so yes Arron is right on many things but energetically I think other stratigys apply but I'm not sure what they are yet. Any ideas on energetic strategy's that could be used as protection against a narsists? I am already using the fear not strategy.
Both of my parents and some of my siblings are narcissistic to the point where I have been no contact for over a decade... It’s so fucked. The part about you pretending to not wanna go to band/debate club in order to go really hit hard. IM SO HAPPY TO SEE HOW FAR YOU’VE COME :) an inspiration✨❤️🌸
900k!? So close to a mill! A video a day pays off for sure! You've grown so fast in comparison to most RUclipsrs! Congrats
What a wonderful person you turned out to be! Go bless you.
Love this channel. I feel it’s no coincidence that I’ve finally found this channel to help free me from the shackles of this modern slave system. Thanks, Aaron. Keep doing what you’re doing.
Omg this is exactly what I am dealing with, in court and all. They literally twist the truth so much it's mind blowing.
I’m so sorry this happened to you ♥️ my mother and exhusband were both narcissistic - I recently realized that because I had associated this type of relationship with love I rejected real, unconditional love. The work I have done on myself has saved me and I am grateful that I continue to unravel and cut these cords leading to deeper gratitude and appreciation 💗thank you for the work you do, much love and light 🙏
Dealing with one of these people as we speak. We've only been seeing each other for a month or so and I'm already burned out on her. Everything is always my fault and I'm told to find a way to fix things that I was never aware were even an issue. She just wants control and has already told me that she is more important than I am in the relationship. Her and people like her really suck.
Run. Runrunrunrun. You will have to eventually. Might as well not waste time.
@@luckychic she told me yesterday that she had been talking to her ex while we were together. I dropped her and she messaged me happy bday this morning. Only in a narcissist will you find that level of audacity
That person is drawing energy from you rather from the quantum field, that’s why you feel drained. Not recommended but most people are like that nowadays sadly
Thank you. I like it that this is not a blame game. Instead we can learn of the experience.
I act like a grey rock around them... this is super boring to the Narc😂
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I'm trying to get a divorce from a verbally abusive narcissist and boy is it hard. I needed this video. Hang in there everyone! Thank you so much Aaron!
Spot on ... I've been studying this subject for two years. I finally had an epiphany that every one of my friendships and marriage involved a narcissist, this wasn't by accident, it is meant for me to learn and grow into a stronger human being. In fact, I truly believe that by not feeding into their negative energy, they can change as well. Which is what the human experience is about.
Aaron loads of love bro I'm caught in one toxic relationship an here comes ur video universe is listening to me ❤️
I just ended a relationship with a narcissist that I loved so deeply for 6 years. We have a house we were remodeling. Now I’m left without his expertise and his ego is basking in the reality that this house remodel would go easier with him that without and is using the opportunity to mentally abuse me like he did for years making me feel not good or smart enough to pull this off without him. It’s horrible but empowering. I will never allow another person to make me feel small.
Thank you Aaron, for your story, your pain... and your Love. I’ve been targeted for many years, been learning the last few years on how to protect myself.
To anyone reading this:
YOU ARE HERE FOR A REASON!! The universe is reaching out to help andLove you. STAY STRONG!!
Your story always breaks my heart -how can anyone be so mean to a child?!!! I’m so glad you overcame it all - how’s your brother?😢
Thank you Aaron.🙏 I’ve been hearing that, “setting boundaries and taking back your power with compassion and love” quite a bit lately. It seems on a global level. It was explained if approached in a negative manner the universe will send more of the same back to you. I believe because of the law of attraction, it will return to you. “These negative people are here to teach us” was the most important take away for me today, so should we thank them and then say “no thank you”? It’s very hard for people to comprehend but I think “yes”. I’m sorry you had to experience that but so glad that you now can share your understanding. 🙏❤️🕯
16:05 Pure gold. Much respect.
Hi Aaron, my relative is going through a tough time. I told him to check out your videos. When he asked me why, I told him (using your same hand gestures), "It's to Expand..... Your...... Consciousness!" 😄
FYI, he is now glued to your videos. Much love Aaron! 🙂🙏✨💕
After all that abuse you have grown into a well-adjusted & obviously caring man - good for you… and thanks for sharing your knowledge & experience
Thank you Aaron for this video. I too was in that situation of the step child. From day one, I knew my step father did not like me or my sister. Fast forward, I ended up in a relationship with a narcissist who treated my three sons like pack mules! My sons, who are now grown men had to heal from his "treatment "! Now I'm in the place where I'm am separating me and our two children from this madness! I no longer give into his abuse! Thank you Aaron! Thank you for sharing your experience!
Thanks for sharing! It is sad that you had to go through this narcissistic experience. You transcended this though...bless you!
Thanks for sharing. Its important for people that are just realizing this has happened to them. Blessings 🙏
Thanks for telling your story aaron! I had a similar childhood and it is really nice to recognize some things, like being forced to lie that you did something. Terrible feeling. My parents often said that they wouldn’t talk to me/recognize me (at all) until I confessed. Once they acted like I didn’t exist for 2 weeks until i lied about the mistakes i made.
Thank you for this! Been gang stalked by multiple narcs and sociopaths since I was a kid and wish I would have known this earlier. This will help so many people! 👏💖
Aaron, I am so sorry! I was raised by narcissists. And married 3. One thing that I learned is you cannot meditate nor coparent with a narcissist. I suppose they teach us a great deal. Most of all did not carry my abuse into the next generation. My children were parented- by me- with total love and acceptance and ZERO physical, psychological, and emotional abuse- mixed with neglect. I am so very happy that you came out on the other side, a loving and compassionate human being. Me too! Thank you for ALL of your videos. They are an enormous source of help to me always.
My sister is a narcissist. Growing up with her was hell! Boundaries!
Yoxi Maly amen I feel that
the 3rd chakra is our power center. Claim your power by reaffirming your worth and training the subconscious mind to create the reality where your higher self is first above all else
You have suffered alot mate ... Wish god will bless you and give you life you desere. Amen .
Much love to your inner child 🤗🧡
Thank you for this video🙏
I too was a child of a narcissist. A narcissist who was also not that present. I “compensated” this by getting into a long term relationship with someone very... affectionate. At least initially. Something felt very off from the beginning but he adored me so much, was always there for me (khm khm codependent) that I didn’t realize this. He manipulated me into giving up my dreams.also, I couldn’t finish college. I was stuck living in a foreign country where I couldn’t speak the language. Because he wanted to work in his home country.
Without getting into further of this deep dysfunctional mess. I consider to have 2 birthdays - one of my actual birth & second when I got this toxic waste out of my life. I have never felt a greater relief! If you have someone like this in your life - please be strong, you can get through this! Heal your inner child & love yourself to the max. 💪🧡
Take the lessons & never look back! Much love 🙌
I didnt even finish the video before commenting... This was definitely an answer I've been needing!! This resonated completely!! THANK YOU!!!
I'm so sorry for what you went through. I went through something similar in my childhood and I have been working on taking my power back ever since I became free again as a teenager. It's easy for me to feel sorry for people and letting them control our relationship and me as a result of my experience.
Both of my parents were screwed up like this and then because it was familiar I ended up in alot of other situations with same energy. You're right about all this thank you for sharing
Im in the height of my awakening. Just let go of a relationship with one that did not serve me. Stepping into my power now more than ever. Still a little shaken up so thank you for this video...it helps me keep my head on straight bc as an empath, omg its ripped my heart out. As this person is still on the defense, i can take all ive learned, all my tools, and let go w love. I wish this person well. I pray he heals. And thank God i love myself enough to know my worth and importance and that i didnt ever deserve to be disregarded the way i was. Its been 10 yrs since i had a narcissistic person in my life and even though, i have to admit, im a little pissed at myself for allowing that back in to my life but wowwww ive learned so much through this and im much wiser in how to protect myself in the future. I appreciate your openness Aaron. You and Victor and my amazing friends have helped me step into my power so much and im eternally grateful!
A fool/narc is the best teacher because it teaches you what not to do
This video came at just the right time. Thank you so much 🙏🏽
you're welcome :)
My mother was just like the step mother that you are speaking about. Can't even imagine how someone else could have gone through the same thing....
This was such a powerful video! I have been associated with this mentality in my family and with a few of my “friends” and often thought what could I do to make things right and would burn out. I have felt that so strongly with my ex in conflict resolution and I lost my happy self in the process. Ever since I have broken away from those people I am drawn to what serves me the best 🌈 It’s ironic that a lot of people feel the same. I feel bad for the narcissistic people and hope they find peace within. Namaste 🙏
Very enlightening. I recently discovered that one of my close family members is a narcissist. That discovery explaned so much and answered a lot of questions.
I’ve learned to recognize flags by trusting myself knowing my worth self love n respect myself to not tolerate/ accepts bs.. not to be soo flowing with things people do learn to remove myself
SELF LOVE AND BOUNDAIRES NO MORE CO DEPENDENCY PEOPLE PLEASING NOT OVER EXTENDING MYSELF !!!
Hey Aaron, my name is Shaun, i’ve been adding spanish captions to your videos but RUclips hasn’t made them available, do you know why this is happening? I just want your channel to reach a wider audience.
God bless you all!
Thank you, you too!
RUclips could be back logged with stuff ?
Shaun Bernal wow that’s great! I’ll start watching with those on. Thank you so much for doing that! Estoy aprendiendo español, así eso me ayudará.🙏🏾
Thank you
Oh wow, great job Shaun! 😊✌
Thank you for helping to awaken humanity! This video is full of truth and reality. 🙌💚💎
So sorry for the things you went through but as you said- it made you into the person you are today!! 💙
My spirit really helped me dealing with my mother. When she throws her tantrums I don’t argue back instead I focus on my peace. Before I’d fight back then she’d have something to hold against NOT ANYMORE I’m now more aware of it. Thank you for this video Aaron ❤️✨❤️✨
I usually don't like to comment on any videos because -sometimes- it can be redundant to praise the RUclipsrs but this man deserves praises.
Thank you, Aaron, for explaining the key aspect to deal with a narcissist: never, never feed their energy. Thank you for this precious and timely information because, right now, I'm playing an isolation game over the quarantine since I'm severing all communications with those that feed on my need to please.
I'm still working with my, incredibly repetitive, pack of narcissists. They're not the violent kind; they're the manipulative and self-centered kind. How to deal with them? How to turn off the "complacency mode" and regain my power? Compassionate energy might be the answer.
Thank you, Aaron. I have been involved in a similar relationship. These are the precise lessons (boundaries, compassion, realizing my own self worth) that I have finally learned after being in this situation for the last 20 years. The universe is always seeking to teach us what we need to learn the most.
So sorry you had to deal with that monster. I’ve known people like that and it’s horrible when you cannot remove them from your life. The blessing is now you have compassion for others and are a great teacher to teach people how to take their power back. Thank you Aaron ❤️.
Food for thought: a soul may have perfectly healthy ego going into this dynamic in a relationship and slowly that erodes away. The lesson I needed to learn was the abundance of energy I KNEW was mine COULD actually be depleted to deficit by the "energy sink". (That was how I thought of him, like a heat-sink you attach to an electronic component. I recognized he didn't consume my energy with conscious intent; & the more energy I gave him the more energy he needed in an unhealthy addict-like tolerance ratio. So this situation was as dysfunctional for him as for me). I had to "see" I could be drained dry to believe it was possible (I was a person who could dance until dawn and then work a 24-hour shift, sleep straight 6 and do it all again). I also had to learn that propping him up with my energy was the opposite of help to him. His depression, dysfunction and self-absorption became all consuming. This is another lesson to be learned from those who siphon the energy of others. I don't like the labels, especially negative labels. You love them and want to offer relief, but if relief doesnt actually relieve, instead it creates appetite, you're not helping. To say he was very resistant to being denied my energy first when it was simply too depleted for me to have any to "share" and later when I stepped away and actively broke the conduit, well resistant is a deliberate understatement. My resolve and reasoning had to be reinforced and repaired by my guides and guardians countless times. If I ever doubted their existence or power... anyway, love and light and maybe another lesson that resonates a little differently for those who don't see themselves in the scenarios mentioned in the vid.
It was a lesson that taught me to love myself first!!! And with this I broke the pattern.
Oh wow! Thanks for this video! This subject is so important, there are so many destroyed souls from this individuals
Aaron you are such a light and wonderful presence.
This is a much needed topic, even though I despise re-living it. I have been through a lifetime of this crap. I am in my fifty's and over the last couple of years I have removed these people from my life. Including in the workplace, quit that job. I can't handle their self entitlement, self seeking, other destroying personalities. I currently have an immediate family member who is a psychopath narcissist and she is abusing her family, children & my mom who bought into her lies that she would be cared for.( My mom has alzheimers) And this person has been nothing but a money sucking sponge her entire life and has also isolated my mom, so that no one else can see her or talk to her. Authorities refuse to listen to the truth. It is hard for me to have compassion in my heart for anyone so abusive. I have dreams of taking her out for real. But doing my best to raise my vibration in hopes of a positive outcome somehow. Thanks for sharing Aaron.
Wow! Good stuff! I wish I had this back when I was married to my narcissist ex husband! I’m still healing from him!
Got to love the synchronicity of this video. Very well-timed indeed. I have been on a spiritual journey and have been trying to use loA for a while to get rid of the Narcissist and I couldn't understand why he is still in my life. This question has been in my mind over and over again. It finally made sense now. So thank you, Aaron, for taking up this subject, and for shedding light on it. Much love to you.
I feel the most connected to this video, and your story speaks to me in a big way. Thank you!!
Your Ex Step Mother was insane, my biological mother is like that. However, you somehow turned out perfect Aaron
Thank you! You’re really good at using your words in explaining energy!!! Great job 👍🏻
Much needed video for me especially today. I will stop feeding the energy. Thank you.
I’ve always loved your videos , but I feel so much more connected to you after hearing all of this. You give me hope that my daughter will come through her experience strong like you. My narcissistic ex boyfriend legally (through courts and lies and manipulative games) ‘stole’ my youngest daughter. He severely punished her if she showed love or loyalty to me - attacked my life to the point that I had to walk away from the fight and that meant her. I have not seen her since she was 6 and she just turned 15. She’s an angel. She was the most perfect baby and little girl. My family misses her every day. The woman he married who became her stepmom is worse than him. Ive struggled with why.. why does nothing bad ever happen to him? He was rich and has become richer.. years of him getting away with torturing her -me -and my whole family. I don’t dwell- I stay positive I manifest forward - and hope to reunite with her one day. I have learned to have boundaries- and to read that narcissistic pedophile energy immediately. I’ve shared this video in the hope that all the givers -the sweet ones -the empaths- will learn to take our power BACK! 🙏🏻 Aaron ✨
Thank you Aaron I really needed this to deal with a narcissist.
Always 🔥. We share so much similarities from childhood. Except mine was with my dad.
Especially when there are children are involved. Leaving is so frightening. It took me 15 years to leave and I never thought I would have the courage to do it. After I left, I had so many women open up to me just in passing and tell me how afraid they were to leave their husbands. It was pretty odd but amazing also.
My mother is narcissistic person,she criticize me and love to control me.Thats right that i have to love and value myself,set boundaries.Thank you for video
Thank you Aaron!!! This is really helpful. My mom is a narcisist and you described her exactly. Thank you for your advices. Keep up the good work, you are doing really well!
Aaron, how did you manage to get where you are? Did you get therapy? I had a narcissistic mother and I now have CPTSD. I have flashbacks that can last days :(
Thank you for the video, it is very helpful. I have been needing to learn this lesson my whole life. It's hard but doable.
Thank you for all that you’ve been thro because look at all of us being uplifted by you from you uplifting the you of then
And love how you spelled narcissistic 🙃
Wowww firmer ego and how to say no and have compassion for yourself. I’m having epiphanies. Take your power back, they do feed and if there ain’t no food they walk away!! I see narcissists as laying down board games to trigger you and I don’t play the game, I don’t roll the dice
thank you truly! This video came at the exact right moment.
Aaron, this is one of he best videos you’ve made in a while. it’s literally spot on. I know you prob get some flack for repeating the same story about yourself but I would to hear some more stories that maybe you haven’t shared yet , Thx!
My x wife is a Narcissus and we have two kids together. We have been separated for 10 years now and I am only just beginning to feel things are easier. But she is exactly like you are describing here. I have felt powerless and lost so many years to her, I wish I'd known all this back then. I have huge empathy for your father. There should be a help group for the victims of these people. Good job Aaron.
It's really amazing to learn about that, this video came exactly when I needed advice on how to deal with narcissists. Even going through a spiritual awakening I often face toxic people. But now I am going to apply this to my life. Thank you, Aaron! Your videos are always powerful and inspirational! Much Love :)
Wow! What a childhood. I can't believe a parent would give power to a partner that is not the parent of their child/children to someone else. Energy never lies. Even as a child you picked up on her energy. Glad you went through what you went through to get that life experience 🙏🥰
A lot of parents give away their power to someone else. Because the narc makes them feel safe, like they can rely on em in the difficulty of raising a child, because the narc seems strong and in charge. It s a double wound for the child : the abuse of the stepmom or stepdad and the betrayal of the parent who could not protect the child from the narc. You love your parent but you are also so angry at them. And then you forgive...because at the end of the day, we are all deeply the same: the parent, the narc, the child. All wounded. And where there is a wound there is Strength and Healing ;0)) 🌻✊ blessed be