I loved finding out that Claudia is the "fun parent" and Jessica is the "rules parent" to the dogs, because I would've assumed it's the other way around. But it makes total sense now that I think about it!
Same! 😂 I think my assumption arrived there because Jessica is so bubbly and seems to carefree, and even though Claudia isn’t particularly serious or stern, I just assumed Jessica would be the more fun parent by comparison.
I can't pick my daughter up at all, due to scoliosis and chronic pain, and when she was a baby I spent whole days sitting on the couch with her lying on me because I couldn't get up. Low-energy moms and disabled moms are valid! You are valid, Jessica. You are a smart, loving, emotionally stable person, and you will make a great mom even if you can't pick your child up all the time, or ever. You and Claudia will make the greatest mommies ever, your family will be the most loving and stable, and that's more than a lot of non-disabled people can attest to.
@@naseerahvj I did try and carry her when she was younger, I even used a baby carrier, but that only made things much worse. Now the most I can do is lift her slightly off the ground for a few seconds, we've made it into a game and it's all good. You make do 😅
That phase is so short, soon enough they will be cuddling YOU! Your mummy is always your mummy, and love is all that really matters, everything else you can make up as you go along, you will find your own way. You are both going to be amazing parents.
Our 2 -yr-old granddaughter launched herself at me from the landing when I was 2 steps down! I had to lean forward and almost fall to keep from having us all tumble down the stairs!
when you mentioned your problem with reading with your eye, my first thought was "i wonder if she's tried audiobooks?" because despite being partially deaf MYSELF, i somehow forgot deafness existed...
I was thinking that large print books might be easier for Jessica. I don't hear very well, although no technically deaf (it's more the severe tinnitus distorting the sounds and requiring extra energy to decode), and I have poor vision, and I don't like audio books. But large print, YAY!!
I can’t wait one day the books will be able to send you words telepathically ... so, eyes, ears and mind. As a Deaf person myself, I would love if this happens so I can just close my eyes and “listen” to the book without needing to hear it.
It hurts my heart that Claudia feels pressured to wear noticable makeup! I've always loved how she can go from charmingly natural to a smokey-eyed femme fatale when you guys go out. Don't change a thing, honey! 💚
I have zero desire to have biological children, and hope to build my family through adoption. But I've never understood why people ask same sex couples who want biological children why they're not adopting instead. None of my straight friends with kids have ever been asked why they didn't adopt. "I want the experience of carrying a child" or "I want to have a blood tie with my children" are completely valid reasons to have a biological child instead of adopting, regardless of orientation or marital status.
Meldred Jay From what I’ve seen from personally experiencing fertility stuff versus my sister adopting a child, as far as the United States, it’s far easier to just get pregnant. It’s shameful the hoops that you have to jump through in order to try to adopt a child versus fertility or “Oops”. As for people asking you validate your choice to adopt? 🙄 Bless their hearts. (Thats a polite way of saying “F them”)
In my opinion it is strange that there is a difference in the topic of adoption, depending on whether a couple is heterosexual or homosexual. I also find it rude to ask questions about a couple's family planning, which is very private topic. I believe that many couples do not consider the possibility of adoption or foster children at all. That's why there are still so many children in children's homes that don't have a family that loves them and I find that sad.
My oldest brother and his wife have been asked by her family if they are going to adopt since she suffers from severe endometriosis. They were caught off guard with that how blunt that was! They had already been talking about it before that though so they knew how to respond. I don't think the question should be asked to anyone. If someone wants to talk to you about it great!
I just hate when people’s response to not wanting to adopt is “I want my own children” as though adopted children are someone else’s and therefore undeserving of love
TuckerFearnBentley um no have you ever heard of something called child abuse, being unable to have an abortion, being physically or mentally challenged and not being able to raise a child or simply being too financially unstable to afford to have a child ! Social workers are people who go to homes where children aren’t safe or can’t/aren’t being cared for. They don’t just TAKE children, that’s illegal. If a child is unsafe at its home, the government put them into foster care or they go straight to another family that has had been through extensive testing and checking to see if they are now fit to raise this child. Some people who don’t want to get an abortion will have set family’s who will adopt their child from birth. There is such thing as illegal adoption but the people who adopt don’t know it’s illegal, the ‘workers’ take/abduct kids from their home and put them up for adoption.
JESSICA: "Disabled people aren't here to be a thesaurus or an encyclopedia." Thank you, Jessica! It truly is a novel concept: Disabled people are ... PEOPLE!! As always, an entertaining, fun, and rather quite revealing video. Hearing your stories of how your love grew & blossomed is so heartwarming. You two are adorable! Take care Jessica and Claudia!! Lovely as always 👍🤟💝
There are so many great disabled RUclipsrs and influencers (such as Jessica) who talk about their disabilities so it's actually super easy to learn without putting the burden on someone and being rude.
@@JudyCZ Absolutely! If others would put just a little time & effort into finding information that is now easily accessible, they would think twice before taking the easy aka rude way out.
I think everyone realizes that (or at least the vast majority of people), but they don't always realize when they're treating someone as "lesser" (for want of better phrasing).
In that specific story, Jessicas excitement is the way In would feel inside if something like that happened to me, Claudias coolness is the way I act outside
When Jessie said 'I have a lot of love to give' I think that that was the most genuine and sincere thing I've ever heard. I can't wait to watch Mum Jessie and Mum Claud! ;DD
I never held a newborn till I had my son. I remember being horrified walking out of the hospital that I would drop him or trip. I think it’s normal. And no I never dropped him, he survived to be a well adjusted adult in spite of me.
I think everyone has that fear. Many keep that fear even after they have their own children and don’t feel comfortable holding other people’s newborns.
My wife and I recently adopted a baby! I have to say, I find the, "why don't you just adopt?" question so incredibly ignorant and frustrating. Adoption is beautiful and wonderful, but it's also difficult, expensive, and painful. There should be no shame in saying that it isn't the right path to parenthood for someone. I'm very excited for your family to grow, in whatever fashion and at whatever time is right for you! Your future child(ren) will be so loved! ❤️
I have no experience in the adoption process. Are the children to be adopted in foster care or state care? Is state care keeping all the children in one building not in homes? The reason I ask is if they are not being cared for by families (foster care) I think the system needs to be improved in regard to speed of adoption approval as the children need to be adopted as quickly as possible for their own well being. So many stories start with he/she was neglected by their parents then put into state care then ended up on the streets/in jail.
@@superfluityme I think it varies by country, and I do believe the trend is toward foster care over group homes when possible, as group homes are associated with worse outcomes for the kids who spend significant time there. That said, I think where children are placed depends on a lot of circumstances, and some might end up in group homes because they've had difficulties with multiple foster families, or there aren't enough foster families available, or maybe fewer foster parents are accepting teens, etc. I think it varies greatly. That said, it's important to remember that the main goal of foster care is to reunite kids with their biological families if it's safe and reasonable to do so - meaning kids might spend time in foster care but not be available for adoption got years as the courts and civil services give the parents opportunities to get back on their feet, correct unsafe behaviors, etc. Obviously reuniting the family isn't always in the best interest of the child (for example if there's violence, drugs, abuse, etc.) but the point remains that the foster care period may be very long before termination of parental rights (TPR here in the US) occurs and children become available for adoption. It's complicated.
Thank you for talking about these awkward topics! I'm a closeted lesbian and I feel like people will see me very differently once I come out, much less "innocent" if that makes sense. Hearing you two talk about stuff helps me get over that feeling a bit, and reminds to that there's nothing wrong with me. 💞💞
I second this! 🥰 Jessica, you and claud help me feel normal, I’m a closet bisexual and I don’t think my family will be very supportive. So it’s so lovely to see videos of you too together being such gay icons and sharing quality information and support to disabled, and lgbtq+ people :) you lovely ladies give me hope for a good future where people are supportive and not judgmental
You should just answer that you are way to fabulous, intelligent and witty so it unfortunately scares away all potential partners because they just can't live up to it. That's what I did and the look on peoples faces when I said that was hilarous XD
"I love Claudica the most" ow my HEART. I'm a disabled mom and can 100% attest that children are perfectly fine knowing mom needs to rest, as long as the love is there (which, obviously it is with you two). It's honestly the perfect time to watch Disney movies and read books to each other. I think a big part of why my daughter is reading multiple levels above average is because we spent a lot of days in my bed reading everything we could find.
How do you let young kids know you need more rest than the average person? I'm an older sibling who has to pretty much raise my younger sister (she's 6) due to our shitty parents, and she never understands my boundaries, and constantly questions why I'm always tired when I'm "not doing anything" (I study every day and have to do chores and stuff and talk to friends and recover from parental abuse and more...) :( Thank you!
@@franksonatra I lucked out and my daughter is super understanding. I explained spoon theory to her (actually, I showed her Jessica's video on it) and explained that everyone's bodies are different, and different things are more tiring to some people. There are times when she's disappointed, but I make up for it later when I have more spoons. I'm sorry you have to take on that role when you already have so much on your plate. I hope you can find the right balance and you can both be the support you need for each other. ❤️
I didn't realize it at the time, but I grew up with a mother suffering from severe, at times debilitating, depression. She hid most of the signs from me until I was old enough to understand, but looking back I can see that she did spent far more time sleeping than "most" parents. I can safely say it never bothered me as a child or in hind site. I learned to entertain myself, enjoy reading, play quietly, and all in all "give mom a bit of time". As you say, the love was there, and that was enough.
@@franksonatra I think there is some difference between the mother and a sibling - your sister is missing her mother's love, so she'd be clingier and more needs than you can fulfill as a sister at your age. And as the OP said, kids will be disappointed at times - as long as I'm loving and patient and do my best to make up for it it's worked out so far (and our baby is only months old) - kids sense so much. It isn't/shouldn't be your job to offset your parents' doings for your sister on top of everything. It's hard enough as an adult at times. ❤
Jessica Kellgren-Fozard i told my mom i was a lesbian and my mom said “no you aren’t. have you even been with a girl?? how would you know??? you’re too young to know! i know you like guys...” i am fully lesbian, trust me mom
I use a walker for balance, which helps me not get so dizzy so I don’t fall. It also has a seat so if I feel a fall coming (it’s weird, it’s all neurological) I can sit to avoid a fall & my endurance is terrible so I can sit for a rest. But I CAN stand up and walk, so I’ve been accused of faking. The rest of my disability are all invisible. Well, the doc gave me a handicapped sign for parking close (my driver, I can’t drive) can help me inside faster, especially this time of year in Midwest USA there’s ice and snow and things that make falls a bigger risk.
1. "Do you sacrifice animals?" Im a wiccan and this comes up a lot. No! I do not sacrifice animals! I am sad when animals die! 2. "Why are you so lazy?" / "Are you faking?" I have chronic pain and a bleeding disorder so my blood pressure is low and I am constantly tired. I hate being "lazy" and sitting down a lot at work to the point that I push myself too hard.
please look into ergonomic slings, wraps and carriers. babywearing allows the wearer to hold the baby securely while in a wheelchair or scooter, or when using crutches. it could also help reserve energy because the sling supports the baby you can let your arms relax (for example)
Also sometimes just the added weight is too much. I did babywearing for two of my kids, but my body wasn't strong enough to with my last child. My kids just know I can not carry them much, if at all. I can hold them sitting, but not long while standing. I also just can't play certain physical games the play with their father.
Babywearing helped my scoliosis (similar to physical therapy), but I could not use soft structured carriers (Ergo, etc. I tried multiple & they all hurt like crazy). I found that a Christina's Ruckless (a paticular way to use/tie a woven wrap) is the best for me (with less mobility, it is getting harder to do but my spouse has learned how to help me). It distributes the weight very well & does not hurt me like many ties do. However, I can also do a FWCC (woven or stretch wrap tie) & a BWCC (woven wrap tie) rather well, they just don't distribute weight as well (but a FWCC has the lovely benefit of being able to be 'pre-tied' so that all you have to do when it comes time to wear baby is tighten it all & retie the knots).
@FearnTuckerBentley I would agree that we can hold/carry babies too much; if that's all they've ever known, it can be difficult to transition into not being held/carried as they get older. Also, yes, carriers can be very dangerous if done incorrectly (not just for the infant, but for the caretaker as well). However, that does not make holding a child or using a carrier [properly] inherently wrong or dangerous. If you're going to use a carrier, learn how to do it first. Make sure the child is 'close enough to kiss', make sure they are not in a position that would close off their airway (bent neck or something covering their airway), make sure the carrier is safe for wearing (like osnaburg cotton=safe wrap vs quilting cotton=unsafe wrap. And not damaged or recalled), etc.
Jessica and Claude talking over each other in the beginning has me HOWLING. It so perfectly shows off their personalities (Jessica all wistful and romantic and Claude all practical) 😂😂😂
0:46 Jessica: "it doesn't matter, who cares what they say, You're perfect just the way you are" Claudia: "Yeah" (the way she says it like a little girl is so cute)
Oh I hate that thing with the "legally disabled". I'm disabled whether the government gives me a card for it or not. I'm disabled just not disabled enough yet to qualify for that card but my body is still not healthy and hurts.
Right? I understand the bureaucratic need for a set dividing line, but how many people suffer needlessly because they fall just short of it? It's not quite the same, but I fall right around the point of meeting the diagnostic criteria for an eating disorder--as in, it'd basically be a judgment call for any particular professional whether or not it "counts." And while it's great that I'm not more significantly impacted, it's also made it really difficult to get help, and it's really hard not to feel like I'm lying when I talk about it. But in reality, what matters is that it DOES impact my life, frequently and substantially, and I shouldn't need to suffer *more* to have a right to get support.
My doctor says I'm disabled but I don't get any help because I work. I'm permanently skint because of the increased cost of living so I'm always behind my able bodied friends.
Being declared legally disable is just a recognition of an already existing disability. It not like people is perfectly healthy and the moment they get the card, they get "cripple". Sadly that recognition doesn't always takes place, for several reasons, but to say that if you're not recognize as legally disable, you don't have a disability, it's a nonsense.
I will say that sometimes having the "legally" title does help a lot though. My mother is "legally" blind, meaning that she has lost enough vision to not be totally blind but enough that she's considered disabled in certain aspects of her life. When she says she's blind, most people treat her as if she's totally blind, which she's not and doesn't want to be treated like she is. She still has some vision and does her best to make sure people realize that, yes, she needs a cane, and yes, she does qualify for special care because of it, but that no, you don't have to baby her. The point is to show that she only needs certain things but doesn't want to be treated as a child. Just thought I'd share that because it's pretty interesting to some people I've known. Lmao.
Just a heads up, Jessica says "inspiring and *othering*" somebody is a bad thing, but the CC reads "inspiring and *adoring*". I was confused until I played over that part and heard her say "othering". I'm not deaf or HoH, I just turn on the CC when I'm watching at night. But for anyone who only gets the content through CC -- I just thought I'd point out the error since it really confuses what's being said. I've been enjoying your videos! Informative and entertaining. Stay safe and take care.
I'm sorry that's what you have to deal with! I'm not sure what the rest of your relationship with your mother is like, but our real families aren't the one we're born into ❤️
When you feel comfortable, if she questions you ask her why she believed you were straight? It always annoys me how people assume another's orientation to be straight by default. You be you. And congrats on your lovely lady.
To echo what people said, there’s a quote from Midnight Blue-Light Special by Seanan McGuire (who is also queer and disabled and a fantastic author) that goes “Blood is thicker than water, but family isn’t just about blood. Family is about faith, and loyalty, and who you love. If you don’t have those things, I don’t care what the blood says. You’re not family.” All the best and best of luck to you
My kiddo adopted me (and I accepted gladly) and she's the apple of my eyes and heart. It's heartwarming to be called Mom when their own Mum is (censored but you get the idea) and they have no contact with the biological parents because of LGBT+ issues. She has been and is worth every second given unconditionally.
As the days feel darker, thank you for bringing your sunshine! I experience pure joy watching you beautiful, intelligent, loving, positive young women together. I'm a 63 year old grannie, and just know the world is a better place for having you gals in it!
For the "asking about disability" thing, my rule of thumb that I tell people is "Don't make it the first thing you ask about." Definitely don't stop a stranger on the street and ask what's wrong with them, and when getting to know someone, ask about their life/interests/background/etc before asking about their disability. If you're probably going to only meet someone once, you don't need to know at all. I don't mind telling people about my disability, but it's extremely obvious when they're asking just to satisfy their own curiosity vs asking because they care.
I don't want to be rude but... I'm imagining Jessica wearing an eyepatch and am curious; does keeping that eye closed or otherwise blocked out make it harder or easier to see out the other one? Bonus pts you can look like the most proper British pirate ever.
@@Sarandib22 ...RIGHT, SO I'M GOING TO DROP THAT HABIT IMMEDIATELY. i had six months between surgery on each of my eyes and one remains MUCH weaker than the other AND reading is My Life, essentially, so i was devastated at struggling with paperbacks & reading titles off spines at thr library... so began relying on my phone & maximum zoom and... just. uh. casually? closing one eye (due to pain/frustration, initially, now by habit) while simultaneously squinting with the other. or, rather, squinting with my ENTIRE FACE. so. uh, beyond the medical disadvantages i am now Hyper Aware of (!!!), having one eye closed will, unless you can manipulate your face individually with extreme precision and little effort, tends to affect how the rest of your face "rests"? so, for example, my mouth turns up on the "closed" side, my other eye squints "intuitively", your cheeks tense & puff somewhat, your forehead creases... it's really not that flattering? it's a combined effort borne of my squinting with one eye & closing the other and by "effort" i mean TENSION HEADACHES AND FACIAL PAIN. plus it makes people fixate on you because you become REALLY OBVIOUS and i was barely safe to leave my bed for much of my post-surgery recovery because of how unaccustomed i was to such restricted vision (and the increased balance issues borne of a lack of depth perception). so. uh. keeping the weak/blind eye closed? STRONGLY UNRECOMMENDED.
Sarandib22 I had to patch my child’s dominant eye for a few hours a day especially while she was reading to strengthen her weak eye. She hated it, I hated it, but it did help a great deal.
@@BattyButtercup As an avid reader that just found I lacked time to read nowadays between adulting and all that jazz... I love audiobooks now and will even listen to them while just sitting in bed getting ready to sleep. That or at work while doing repetitive and boring work which makes the time much more enjoyable. Though I often get distracted even without any distractions so I find myself relistening to parts once I catch that I forgot I was listening to an audiobook xD Though I also listen at double speed which ends up being about as fast as I would read normally (though I tend to omit words as I read just because I'm used to speed reading things and will naturally ignore adjectives and adverbs and other fluff). That last part actually means I've caught things I missed before by listening to the book instead.
Oh my god, the way Jessica looks at you with such love and admiration, with that twinkle in her eyes is amazing! ✨This is my first time seeing your channel. You guys make a beautiful couple 😊
Jessica, what you said about emotional stability is PERFECT. Obviously, I've only seen a glimpse of your life, but you genuinely seem to be pretty good at coping in healthy ways and being open about feelings and struggles, and it's so important for a child to see that. So many kids, if not most, end up trying to make sense of their feelings on their own because their parents simply don't know how to help them. We tend to focus a lot on the physical fragility of babies, so it's understandable that people would be curious how having a disability would affect parenting, but honestly, it's so much easier to meet a child's physical needs than it is to meet their emotional needs, especially as they grow, and it seems like you're in a good position to be able to do both.
As a disabled parent of a 5 yo at age 53, there are days when I am sad about what I cannot do with my (very) physically active son. But then, he constantly tells me that I am the one he wants to snuggle with, the one who calms him, the one who cooks the things he likes, etc. Having a disabled parent has also made him more caring, both emotionally and physically than many children his age. He helps with my physical therapy with joy and a sense of fun (which makes it easier, more engaging and more consistent), and has developed patience because mommy sometimes needs mobility aides or cannot go as fast as he would like. In this way, he and I learn constantly from each other and he is the best motivation I could have to care for my health as best I can. Happy parenting!
Hi! I grew up with a chronically ill mum (lyme) and a dad mostly working in another country, but I can attest that anyone can grow up happy and harmoniously with an abundance of love & communication :)
Claudia, I feel your struggle. I once worked really hard on my makeup only to have someone say, all perky like, “So you’re a natural no-makeup girl, right?” Um, sure. 🤣 Happy anniversary to you both.
Just gotta say as someone who has one parent with a disability, it's only weird/sad/strange to other people and I wouldn't change a thing about my mom!
Jessica, I have a lot of similar physical issues and I've dropped just about everything, but the only time I've dropped a baby was when I was 9 (and I've held a lot of babies- I was fulltime caretaker for 6+ kids, there was usually always a baby). It helps that babies generally are held close to the body, and there are all sorts of baby carriers that are easy enough to put on and off so you don't have to use your arm/ hands to constantly hold the baby when you need to carry them. Also, they now have all sorts of easily available adaptive equipment for disabled parents- baby seats that attach to your chair, wheelchair strollers, baby lifters, cribs that are easy to access sitting/ that don't require you to bend over the bars, and all other sorts of things I would have killed for when I was taking care of babies day in and day out.
Aww, Claud should know she’s just so skilled at a natural look makeup that some people are fooled. Very good with making makeup choices that just enhance and showcase her beautiful face.
You two are so cute I can’t cope!!! Also the story of Claudia surprising you with a goodnight kiss is so cute and sooo romantic!! It’s like you are characters in a romance film!! ❤️ xx
I've just started watching this channel fairly recently and I'm addicted! You give so much hope with your amazing attitude and outlook on life. Both you and Claud make me (and I'm sure I'm not alone in this) believe in soulmates. You help so many people, not only people with disabilities but also people like me with mental health problems, by being this glorious ray of positivity! Your videos are truly inspiring and they've definitely helped me have a more positive outlook on life :) I can't wait to see what's coming in the future for you two
You have inspired me to improve my nursing practice. When I hear someone so frustrated with not being understood I can see the connective tissue disease behind the complaints and advocate for them better because you’ve been so informative. It has helped me to see hidden disabilities better. I have also directed a few people to your videos so that they won’t feel so isolated.
I’d love for you to address accepting and not feeling guilty about resting because you are feeling physically ill. I struggle with fatigue from anxiety and occasional migraines and as a mom of 6 I feel like I just have to suck it up and deal with it.🤷♀️🙄
You are justified, anxiety exhaustion is real and you need to rest. You are putting the pressure on yourself as part of your anxiety. I'd say if you could try to explain it to your older of the 6 that mummy needs a nap and it can be a family nap time or it's the time for the older children to help with the younger. I'm all about the nap life with my anxiety and depression and I know how hard it is for that aspect but you being a mother to 6 is incredible. Please be kinder to yourself. Your health is important to be able to provide for the little ones so denying yourself the sleep you need hurts you and them. You are wonderful and your children are lucky to have you.
Kiki 7 you are too sweet! I am fortunate that three of them are over 18 now and the youngest are 11, 13, 16. It has only been in the last few years I have let myself nap though. We homeschool because as a former teacher I despise the US system now. But since they older they can do most work without me
Thank you for being so comfortable talking about the more intimate things. It makes me feel like it's more normal and I can be comfortable with my future person ❤
I'm very introverted and have problems with social anxiety and so, I have often gotten the lovely question, "do you talk?!" Like, yup, good job making me feel more comfortable 😂
I spend a good time to myself but I really like good conversation too. Trouble is I'm a poorer listener and feel that I have lapsed into boredom. In short don't step out of your comfort zone for a dope and be sure to take care of you.
Would you consider having an adoption advocate and/or an adopted adult on your channel to discuss the real truth of adoption on your channel? I am adopted and the societal ideas around adoption don't tend to relate much to the reality of the adoption experience. You are so lovely about bringing awareness to the issues that effect your life, and adoption is something most people don't want to talk or hear about. I think it would be incredible to open up that discussion on your channel.
You two are literally the sweetest couple. I find you "inspirational" only because you two are such genuinely lovely people, with so much love for yourselves & each other, and that's definitely something I aspire to.
The rudest question I ever got was "What are those brown spots on your arm?" from a resident at a home. I had to explain to him that they were freckles and he had some as well! XD
I love you guys, you have taught me so much about other lives. I’m disabled mentally(autism and BPD) and have ptsd. I’m old, a tomboy and struggle with chronic fatigue. You have helped me be cooler about all that too! You are so gorgeous Jessica and when you talk I could listen to you forever! Love the history talks too. Thanks guys
Love is the only definition of mother, you both will be amazing mothers! Your baby adapts to you, and all babies fit perfectly into their family if loved. ❤️❤️❤️
@@EmmeChatterton I smoke it daily! (it's illegal in the UK, but sh). I've wanted to make a move onto CBD based medicinal products such as topicals but they're just not in my budget right now unfortunately (and thank you) 💖
I Rev myself up with toys cuz romping with my partner with foreplay exhausts my energy the most. Lots of fantasizing about my partner prior gives me that connection I need without physically wearing out. Then we go for it!
And Jessica? You inspire me because I see what you can do, and it helps me believe that I can do something worthwhile despite a hodgepodge of diagnoses that I am struggling to figure out how to manage. I keep seeing all the things I'm not doing well--or at all-- (job, housekeeping, activities with my daughter, getting dressed every day), and I'm starting to look more for the things I *am* doing, and can do.
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“really sucks that you’ve got that bald patch mate” i love Claudia so much
becca moses hi me to . Nice profile picture.❤️❤️
such a great example!
'does it hurt you soul?' broke me😂
My bald patch does not hurt my soul. I feel very fortunate that it does not, for I know it takes quite a toll on some folks.
@@MrDanimal42 😂🙏
I loved finding out that Claudia is the "fun parent" and Jessica is the "rules parent" to the dogs, because I would've assumed it's the other way around. But it makes total sense now that I think about it!
I love that it reminds me that our assumptions are dangerous.
Actually it makes 100% sense to me haha
Kelwyn YNWA I picked up on this cause Claudia walks them and the younger one always runs over to her playfully 🤔
Sam Probably more likely due to her chronic illness, ya know?
Same! 😂 I think my assumption arrived there because Jessica is so bubbly and seems to carefree, and even though Claudia isn’t particularly serious or stern, I just assumed Jessica would be the more fun parent by comparison.
I can't pick my daughter up at all, due to scoliosis and chronic pain, and when she was a baby I spent whole days sitting on the couch with her lying on me because I couldn't get up. Low-energy moms and disabled moms are valid! You are valid, Jessica. You are a smart, loving, emotionally stable person, and you will make a great mom even if you can't pick your child up all the time, or ever. You and Claudia will make the greatest mommies ever, your family will be the most loving and stable, and that's more than a lot of non-disabled people can attest to.
Yes with some of my kids I could only pick them up to move them, not hold them standing up for any length of time
@@naseerahvj I did try and carry her when she was younger, I even used a baby carrier, but that only made things much worse. Now the most I can do is lift her slightly off the ground for a few seconds, we've made it into a game and it's all good. You make do 😅
Thank you for saying this. ❤️❤️❤️
That phase is so short, soon enough they will be cuddling YOU! Your mummy is always your mummy, and love is all that really matters, everything else you can make up as you go along, you will find your own way. You are both going to be amazing parents.
Our 2 -yr-old granddaughter launched herself at me from the landing when I was 2 steps down! I had to lean forward and almost fall to keep from having us all tumble down the stairs!
Not to be rude but, Jessie's hair is SO BEAUTIFULLY DONE UP that I am jealous and a little mad at her out of pure envy.
I love this
I know! I can’t stop admiring it.
Why would that be rude?
Hannah Rymill I was just trying to go with the flow of the video
Damn since I got dyspraxia I'm starting to wish I could learn to style hair like she does! where would you even begin tho lol
when you mentioned your problem with reading with your eye, my first thought was "i wonder if she's tried audiobooks?" because despite being partially deaf MYSELF, i somehow forgot deafness existed...
same!
I was thinking that large print books might be easier for Jessica. I don't hear very well, although no technically deaf (it's more the severe tinnitus distorting the sounds and requiring extra energy to decode), and I have poor vision, and I don't like audio books. But large print, YAY!!
runeshadowbeth she said it happens when she's reading and she gets tired or her eyes get tired
I can’t wait one day the books will be able to send you words telepathically ... so, eyes, ears and mind.
As a Deaf person myself, I would love if this happens so I can just close my eyes and “listen” to the book without needing to hear it.
@@runeshadowbeth large print is the best thing to happen honestly
It hurts my heart that Claudia feels pressured to wear noticable makeup! I've always loved how she can go from charmingly natural to a smokey-eyed femme fatale when you guys go out. Don't change a thing, honey! 💚
I agree....Claudia is naturally a very pretty woman, even without makeup. 😏
I have zero desire to have biological children, and hope to build my family through adoption. But I've never understood why people ask same sex couples who want biological children why they're not adopting instead. None of my straight friends with kids have ever been asked why they didn't adopt. "I want the experience of carrying a child" or "I want to have a blood tie with my children" are completely valid reasons to have a biological child instead of adopting, regardless of orientation or marital status.
Meldred Jay
From what I’ve seen from personally experiencing fertility stuff versus my sister adopting a child, as far as the United States, it’s far easier to just get pregnant. It’s shameful the hoops that you have to jump through in order to try to adopt a child versus fertility or “Oops”.
As for people asking you validate your choice to adopt? 🙄 Bless their hearts. (Thats a polite way of saying “F them”)
In my opinion it is strange that there is a difference in the topic of adoption, depending on whether a couple is heterosexual or homosexual.
I also find it rude to ask questions about a couple's family planning, which is very private topic.
I believe that many couples do not consider the possibility of adoption or foster children at all.
That's why there are still so many children in children's homes that don't have a family that loves them and I find that sad.
My oldest brother and his wife have been asked by her family if they are going to adopt since she suffers from severe endometriosis. They were caught off guard with that how blunt that was! They had already been talking about it before that though so they knew how to respond. I don't think the question should be asked to anyone. If someone wants to talk to you about it great!
I just hate when people’s response to not wanting to adopt is “I want my own children” as though adopted children are someone else’s and therefore undeserving of love
Yes, I’m bi and want to adopt children, regardless of who I end up doing that with
13:28 imagining a vulnerable lgbt child in the care system being taken in and raised by their loving moms makes my HEART WARM
@FearnTuckerBentley ...what?
FearnTuckerBentley ??????
FearnTuckerBentley what the fuck does that mean adopting is not legally abducting
TuckerFearnBentley um no have you ever heard of something called child abuse, being unable to have an abortion, being physically or mentally challenged and not being able to raise a child or simply being too financially unstable to afford to have a child ! Social workers are people who go to homes where children aren’t safe or can’t/aren’t being cared for. They don’t just TAKE children, that’s illegal. If a child is unsafe at its home, the government put them into foster care or they go straight to another family that has had been through extensive testing and checking to see if they are now fit to raise this child. Some people who don’t want to get an abortion will have set family’s who will adopt their child from birth. There is such thing as illegal adoption but the people who adopt don’t know it’s illegal, the ‘workers’ take/abduct kids from their home and put them up for adoption.
Umm... I am 2 years late and I am kind of an adult BUT I WANT TO BE UP FOR ADOPTION IF THEY WANT ME🤩
JESSICA: "Disabled people aren't here to be a thesaurus or an encyclopedia."
Thank you, Jessica! It truly is a novel concept: Disabled people are ... PEOPLE!!
As always, an entertaining, fun, and rather quite revealing video. Hearing your stories of how your love grew & blossomed is so heartwarming. You two are adorable!
Take care Jessica and Claudia!!
Lovely as always 👍🤟💝
There are so many great disabled RUclipsrs and influencers (such as Jessica) who talk about their disabilities so it's actually super easy to learn without putting the burden on someone and being rude.
@@JudyCZ Absolutely! If others would put just a little time & effort into finding information that is now easily accessible, they would think twice before taking the easy aka rude way out.
I think everyone realizes that (or at least the vast majority of people), but they don't always realize when they're treating someone as "lesser" (for want of better phrasing).
@@J624 You are correct. Perhaps one day we can change that 'vast majority' to everyone. It's going to take all of us, but I think it can be done 👍🤟
Richard Velez hi remember me?
the way jessica looks at claudia when they were talking about their best kiss/first kiss 🥺🥺
In that specific story, Jessicas excitement is the way In would feel inside if something like that happened to me, Claudias coolness is the way I act outside
Jessica I love how your hair looks in this video omg.
This hairstyle is amazing!! Can you do a tutorial!!? Xxx
I was going to like but the 666 likes made me too happy
So cute!
When Jessie said 'I have a lot of love to give' I think that that was the most genuine and sincere thing I've ever heard. I can't wait to watch Mum Jessie and Mum Claud! ;DD
Saffron Granger Ye, they have to adopt, I hope they do one of these days !
@Viktor Sligo but can adopt..
@Viktor Sligo if you're that homophobic why do you even watch lesbians on youtube? get a life
oml i can’t believe how soon we’ll get to see that loveliness 🥰
they became moms earlier in June on my birthday!
I don't have any disabilities or anything and I'm still worried I'd drop a baby
My aunt dropped my brother in a trash bin.
I never held a newborn till I had my son. I remember being horrified walking out of the hospital that I would drop him or trip. I think it’s normal. And no I never dropped him, he survived to be a well adjusted adult in spite of me.
I think everyone has that fear. Many keep that fear even after they have their own children and don’t feel comfortable holding other people’s newborns.
Didn't mean to laugh at this but....lol
That comment was for Just a Nerd
My wife and I recently adopted a baby! I have to say, I find the, "why don't you just adopt?" question so incredibly ignorant and frustrating. Adoption is beautiful and wonderful, but it's also difficult, expensive, and painful. There should be no shame in saying that it isn't the right path to parenthood for someone. I'm very excited for your family to grow, in whatever fashion and at whatever time is right for you! Your future child(ren) will be so loved! ❤️
Maaya O so expensive. Wildly expensive here in Canada.
Congratulations on your new family-member! ❤😃
Congratulations on your new child! That's wonderful.
I have no experience in the adoption process. Are the children to be adopted in foster care or state care? Is state care keeping all the children in one building not in homes? The reason I ask is if they are not being cared for by families (foster care) I think the system needs to be improved in regard to speed of adoption approval as the children need to be adopted as quickly as possible for their own well being. So many stories start with he/she was neglected by their parents then put into state care then ended up on the streets/in jail.
@@superfluityme I think it varies by country, and I do believe the trend is toward foster care over group homes when possible, as group homes are associated with worse outcomes for the kids who spend significant time there. That said, I think where children are placed depends on a lot of circumstances, and some might end up in group homes because they've had difficulties with multiple foster families, or there aren't enough foster families available, or maybe fewer foster parents are accepting teens, etc. I think it varies greatly. That said, it's important to remember that the main goal of foster care is to reunite kids with their biological families if it's safe and reasonable to do so - meaning kids might spend time in foster care but not be available for adoption got years as the courts and civil services give the parents opportunities to get back on their feet, correct unsafe behaviors, etc. Obviously reuniting the family isn't always in the best interest of the child (for example if there's violence, drugs, abuse, etc.) but the point remains that the foster care period may be very long before termination of parental rights (TPR here in the US) occurs and children become available for adoption. It's complicated.
Can we just take a moment to appreciate Jessica’s hair in a ponytail??? It’s so pretty!!
Thank you for talking about these awkward topics! I'm a closeted lesbian and I feel like people will see me very differently once I come out, much less "innocent" if that makes sense. Hearing you two talk about stuff helps me get over that feeling a bit, and reminds to that there's nothing wrong with me.
💞💞
There is absolutely, 100% nothing wrong with you 😘
I second this! 🥰 Jessica, you and claud help me feel normal, I’m a closet bisexual and I don’t think my family will be very supportive. So it’s so lovely to see videos of you too together being such gay icons and sharing quality information and support to disabled, and lgbtq+ people :) you lovely ladies give me hope for a good future where people are supportive and not judgmental
@@kenziewenzieasmr9800 listen if ur family isn't supportive i legally become ur gay dad and that's the rules
@@kenziewenzieasmr9800 My kids are all bi and they were all surprised when I did not care a hoot when they came out.
lion man you’re a lovely person thank you so much 🥰
The rudest question I get is why are you still single?
You should just answer that you are way to fabulous, intelligent and witty so it unfortunately scares away all potential partners because they just can't live up to it. That's what I did and the look on peoples faces when I said that was hilarous XD
Antje Gui Great answer! Stealing it. Thanks
Yes that and "why don't you have any kids". Makes me sad and angry every time 😖
I recently got recommended to polyamorous relationships. I replied that I couldn’t find the one person so where the heck was I going to get a group. 🤣
A Girl and Her Passport interesting username
claudia, i think natural makeup is very hard to do. you look flawless and are naturally stunning
"I love Claudica the most" ow my HEART.
I'm a disabled mom and can 100% attest that children are perfectly fine knowing mom needs to rest, as long as the love is there (which, obviously it is with you two). It's honestly the perfect time to watch Disney movies and read books to each other. I think a big part of why my daughter is reading multiple levels above average is because we spent a lot of days in my bed reading everything we could find.
How do you let young kids know you need more rest than the average person? I'm an older sibling who has to pretty much raise my younger sister (she's 6) due to our shitty parents, and she never understands my boundaries, and constantly questions why I'm always tired when I'm "not doing anything" (I study every day and have to do chores and stuff and talk to friends and recover from parental abuse and more...) :( Thank you!
@@franksonatra I lucked out and my daughter is super understanding. I explained spoon theory to her (actually, I showed her Jessica's video on it) and explained that everyone's bodies are different, and different things are more tiring to some people. There are times when she's disappointed, but I make up for it later when I have more spoons.
I'm sorry you have to take on that role when you already have so much on your plate. I hope you can find the right balance and you can both be the support you need for each other. ❤️
I didn't realize it at the time, but I grew up with a mother suffering from severe, at times debilitating, depression. She hid most of the signs from me until I was old enough to understand, but looking back I can see that she did spent far more time sleeping than "most" parents. I can safely say it never bothered me as a child or in hind site. I learned to entertain myself, enjoy reading, play quietly, and all in all "give mom a bit of time". As you say, the love was there, and that was enough.
@@franksonatra I think there is some difference between the mother and a sibling - your sister is missing her mother's love, so she'd be clingier and more needs than you can fulfill as a sister at your age.
And as the OP said, kids will be disappointed at times - as long as I'm loving and patient and do my best to make up for it it's worked out so far (and our baby is only months old) - kids sense so much.
It isn't/shouldn't be your job to offset your parents' doings for your sister on top of everything. It's hard enough as an adult at times. ❤
Thank you so much for watching! What's the funniest/rudest question someone has ever asked you...?
It seems so normal watching your videos
I dont even recognise you being deaf
Jessica Kellgren-Fozard i told my mom i was a lesbian and my mom said “no you aren’t. have you even been with a girl?? how would you know??? you’re too young to know! i know you like guys...” i am fully lesbian, trust me mom
Some guy once asked me how big my breasts were whilst staring at them. I was 15
I use a walker for balance, which helps me not get so dizzy so I don’t fall. It also has a seat so if I feel a fall coming (it’s weird, it’s all neurological) I can sit to avoid a fall & my endurance is terrible so I can sit for a rest. But I CAN stand up and walk, so I’ve been accused of faking. The rest of my disability are all invisible. Well, the doc gave me a handicapped sign for parking close (my driver, I can’t drive) can help me inside faster, especially this time of year in Midwest USA there’s ice and snow and things that make falls a bigger risk.
1. "Do you sacrifice animals?" Im a wiccan and this comes up a lot. No! I do not sacrifice animals! I am sad when animals die!
2. "Why are you so lazy?" / "Are you faking?" I have chronic pain and a bleeding disorder so my blood pressure is low and I am constantly tired. I hate being "lazy" and sitting down a lot at work to the point that I push myself too hard.
please look into ergonomic slings, wraps and carriers. babywearing allows the wearer to hold the baby securely while in a wheelchair or scooter, or when using crutches. it could also help reserve energy because the sling supports the baby you can let your arms relax (for example)
sarah shaw it may be difficult for her back because of her scoliosis.
Also sometimes just the added weight is too much. I did babywearing for two of my kids, but my body wasn't strong enough to with my last child. My kids just know I can not carry them much, if at all. I can hold them sitting, but not long while standing. I also just can't play certain physical games the play with their father.
Babywearing helped my scoliosis (similar to physical therapy), but I could not use soft structured carriers (Ergo, etc. I tried multiple & they all hurt like crazy).
I found that a Christina's Ruckless (a paticular way to use/tie a woven wrap) is the best for me (with less mobility, it is getting harder to do but my spouse has learned how to help me). It distributes the weight very well & does not hurt me like many ties do. However, I can also do a FWCC (woven or stretch wrap tie) & a BWCC (woven wrap tie) rather well, they just don't distribute weight as well (but a FWCC has the lovely benefit of being able to be 'pre-tied' so that all you have to do when it comes time to wear baby is tighten it all & retie the knots).
@FearnTuckerBentley I would agree that we can hold/carry babies too much; if that's all they've ever known, it can be difficult to transition into not being held/carried as they get older. Also, yes, carriers can be very dangerous if done incorrectly (not just for the infant, but for the caretaker as well).
However, that does not make holding a child or using a carrier [properly] inherently wrong or dangerous. If you're going to use a carrier, learn how to do it first. Make sure the child is 'close enough to kiss', make sure they are not in a position that would close off their airway (bent neck or something covering their airway), make sure the carrier is safe for wearing (like osnaburg cotton=safe wrap vs quilting cotton=unsafe wrap. And not damaged or recalled), etc.
@FearnTuckerBentley with that line of thinking, an infant should never be picked up, held, or carried for any reason, and that's just daff.
"so you're bald, does that hurt your soul?" I adore you both so much, always informative and amusing when you two make videos
I don’t want to be rude...so I won’t.
You two are wonderful people.
Joe Harris best comment
this.
I feel the same.
Jessica and Claude talking over each other in the beginning has me HOWLING. It so perfectly shows off their personalities (Jessica all wistful and romantic and Claude all practical) 😂😂😂
LKAW 12 it’s because Jessica is deaf
0:46 Jessica: "it doesn't matter, who cares what they say, You're perfect just the way you are"
Claudia: "Yeah" (the way she says it like a little girl is so cute)
Oh I hate that thing with the "legally disabled".
I'm disabled whether the government gives me a card for it or not.
I'm disabled just not disabled enough yet to qualify for that card but my body is still not healthy and hurts.
Right? I understand the bureaucratic need for a set dividing line, but how many people suffer needlessly because they fall just short of it?
It's not quite the same, but I fall right around the point of meeting the diagnostic criteria for an eating disorder--as in, it'd basically be a judgment call for any particular professional whether or not it "counts." And while it's great that I'm not more significantly impacted, it's also made it really difficult to get help, and it's really hard not to feel like I'm lying when I talk about it. But in reality, what matters is that it DOES impact my life, frequently and substantially, and I shouldn't need to suffer *more* to have a right to get support.
My doctor says I'm disabled but I don't get any help because I work. I'm permanently skint because of the increased cost of living so I'm always behind my able bodied friends.
Being declared legally disable is just a recognition of an already existing disability. It not like people is perfectly healthy and the moment they get the card, they get "cripple". Sadly that recognition doesn't always takes place, for several reasons, but to say that if you're not recognize as legally disable, you don't have a disability, it's a nonsense.
I will say that sometimes having the "legally" title does help a lot though. My mother is "legally" blind, meaning that she has lost enough vision to not be totally blind but enough that she's considered disabled in certain aspects of her life. When she says she's blind, most people treat her as if she's totally blind, which she's not and doesn't want to be treated like she is. She still has some vision and does her best to make sure people realize that, yes, she needs a cane, and yes, she does qualify for special care because of it, but that no, you don't have to baby her. The point is to show that she only needs certain things but doesn't want to be treated as a child.
Just thought I'd share that because it's pretty interesting to some people I've known. Lmao.
And then there’s the whole issue of while you haven’t got a diagnosis yet
Jessica’s face at the “three-way kiss” 😂💀
So freaking adorable
Jessica's laugh should be bottled and sold as an antidepressant...everytime I hear her laugh I can't help smiling ❤️❤️❤️
I usually only wear makeup if someone I like is wed or dead.
Y'all Ain't Right 😂😂
bruhhhhh
Yknow what-
Same 😂
Just a heads up, Jessica says "inspiring and *othering*" somebody is a bad thing, but the CC reads "inspiring and *adoring*". I was confused until I played over that part and heard her say "othering". I'm not deaf or HoH, I just turn on the CC when I'm watching at night. But for anyone who only gets the content through CC -- I just thought I'd point out the error since it really confuses what's being said.
I've been enjoying your videos! Informative and entertaining. Stay safe and take care.
Jessica's and claudia's videos are like a warm blanket in the cold space that is RUclips sometimes.
Claud's hair is super cute, too. That's a great messy bun!
you guys are so inspirational to me. i have a secret gf of like 5 months and my mom doesn’t believe that i’m a lesbian haha.
I'm sorry that's what you have to deal with! I'm not sure what the rest of your relationship with your mother is like, but our real families aren't the one we're born into ❤️
Isobel Higgs aw thank you so much 💓
When you feel comfortable, if she questions you ask her why she believed you were straight? It always annoys me how people assume another's orientation to be straight by default. You be you. And congrats on your lovely lady.
To echo what people said, there’s a quote from Midnight Blue-Light Special by Seanan McGuire (who is also queer and disabled and a fantastic author) that goes “Blood is thicker than water, but family isn’t just about blood. Family is about faith, and loyalty, and who you love. If you don’t have those things, I don’t care what the blood says. You’re not family.”
All the best and best of luck to you
The most beautiful relationship I have ever seen.
Claudia seems like such a stable and sage woman. I can very much appreciate why Jessica loves her so much!
I want that green shirt so badly, it's so distractingly beautiful 🥺❤️
Its a dress from Hearts & Found on Etsy!
Ah so cute... I’m loving the little rainbow lights that come across the screen when talking about their love
My kiddo adopted me (and I accepted gladly) and she's the apple of my eyes and heart. It's heartwarming to be called Mom when their own Mum is (censored but you get the idea) and they have no contact with the biological parents because of LGBT+ issues. She has been and is worth every second given unconditionally.
FearnTuckerBentley idk who hurt you for you to be so mean on such a positive comment. please leave this person alone.
@FearnTuckerBentley wtf 😱😱😱
@@bellamartinez5671 They're just a troll. Their life must be incredibly sad
I’m not sure why but “even when I’m on the days when I’m really, really awful, I’m still...me,” really resonated with me.
I love the way they look at each other while the other is talking
As the days feel darker, thank you for bringing your sunshine!
I experience pure joy watching you beautiful, intelligent, loving, positive young women together. I'm a 63 year old grannie, and just know the world is a better place for having you gals in it!
"I was very.. happy" "you can use that adjective" I AM SCREAMING THAT WAS SO FUNNY FOR SOME REASON
yeah, emotional stability is so important, and is what i'm also striving to provide for my child
For the "asking about disability" thing, my rule of thumb that I tell people is "Don't make it the first thing you ask about." Definitely don't stop a stranger on the street and ask what's wrong with them, and when getting to know someone, ask about their life/interests/background/etc before asking about their disability. If you're probably going to only meet someone once, you don't need to know at all. I don't mind telling people about my disability, but it's extremely obvious when they're asking just to satisfy their own curiosity vs asking because they care.
I don't want to be rude but...
I'm imagining Jessica wearing an eyepatch and am curious; does keeping that eye closed or otherwise blocked out make it harder or easier to see out the other one?
Bonus pts you can look like the most proper British pirate ever.
@@Sarandib22 ...RIGHT, SO I'M GOING TO DROP THAT HABIT IMMEDIATELY.
i had six months between surgery on each of my eyes and one remains MUCH weaker than the other AND reading is My Life, essentially, so i was devastated at struggling with paperbacks & reading titles off spines at thr library... so began relying on my phone & maximum zoom and... just. uh. casually? closing one eye (due to pain/frustration, initially, now by habit) while simultaneously squinting with the other. or, rather, squinting with my ENTIRE FACE.
so. uh, beyond the medical disadvantages i am now Hyper Aware of (!!!), having one eye closed will, unless you can manipulate your face individually with extreme precision and little effort, tends to affect how the rest of your face "rests"? so, for example, my mouth turns up on the "closed" side, my other eye squints "intuitively", your cheeks tense & puff somewhat, your forehead creases... it's really not that flattering? it's a combined effort borne of my squinting with one eye & closing the other and by "effort" i mean TENSION HEADACHES AND FACIAL PAIN.
plus it makes people fixate on you because you become REALLY OBVIOUS and i was barely safe to leave my bed for much of my post-surgery recovery because of how unaccustomed i was to such restricted vision (and the increased balance issues borne of a lack of depth perception).
so. uh. keeping the weak/blind eye closed? STRONGLY UNRECOMMENDED.
Sarandib22 I had to patch my child’s dominant eye for a few hours a day especially while she was reading to strengthen her weak eye. She hated it, I hated it, but it did help a great deal.
@@BattyButtercup As an avid reader that just found I lacked time to read nowadays between adulting and all that jazz... I love audiobooks now and will even listen to them while just sitting in bed getting ready to sleep. That or at work while doing repetitive and boring work which makes the time much more enjoyable.
Though I often get distracted even without any distractions so I find myself relistening to parts once I catch that I forgot I was listening to an audiobook xD Though I also listen at double speed which ends up being about as fast as I would read normally (though I tend to omit words as I read just because I'm used to speed reading things and will naturally ignore adjectives and adverbs and other fluff). That last part actually means I've caught things I missed before by listening to the book instead.
I was thinking this too, but the most elegant and beautifully decorated eye patch to suit each outfit.
I don't use an eyepatch but have been used to just shutting one eye when reading since I noseread and you can't use both eyes when doing that.
Oh my god, the way Jessica looks at you with such love and admiration, with that twinkle in her eyes is amazing! ✨This is my first time seeing your channel. You guys make a beautiful couple 😊
I have become my swoony, silly self after that best kiss story - ADORABLE!!!!
Claudia doesn't even need makeup. Shes stunning. You both are. Makeup or not.
Thank you both so much for making me feel better about my sexuality
Jessica, what you said about emotional stability is PERFECT. Obviously, I've only seen a glimpse of your life, but you genuinely seem to be pretty good at coping in healthy ways and being open about feelings and struggles, and it's so important for a child to see that. So many kids, if not most, end up trying to make sense of their feelings on their own because their parents simply don't know how to help them.
We tend to focus a lot on the physical fragility of babies, so it's understandable that people would be curious how having a disability would affect parenting, but honestly, it's so much easier to meet a child's physical needs than it is to meet their emotional needs, especially as they grow, and it seems like you're in a good position to be able to do both.
As a disabled parent of a 5 yo at age 53, there are days when I am sad about what I cannot do with my (very) physically active son. But then, he constantly tells me that I am the one he wants to snuggle with, the one who calms him, the one who cooks the things he likes, etc. Having a disabled parent has also made him more caring, both emotionally and physically than many children his age. He helps with my physical therapy with joy and a sense of fun (which makes it easier, more engaging and more consistent), and has developed patience because mommy sometimes needs mobility aides or cannot go as fast as he would like.
In this way, he and I learn constantly from each other and he is the best motivation I could have to care for my health as best I can. Happy parenting!
From not kissing until the end of the second date to sleeping together on the third date 😂🙈y’all did move fast!!
i mean... 3rd date's pretty common i find, at least among the other lesbians i know and my gf and I as well lol.
Hi! I grew up with a chronically ill mum (lyme) and a dad mostly working in another country, but I can attest that anyone can grow up happy and harmoniously with an abundance of love & communication :)
same for the chronically ill mum part and agreed!
I love how CLAUDIA answered the one about Jessica's blind eye.
Claudia, I feel your struggle. I once worked really hard on my makeup only to have someone say, all perky like, “So you’re a natural no-makeup girl, right?”
Um, sure. 🤣
Happy anniversary to you both.
Tiah Beautement That’s actually kinda a compliment! You blended your makeup so well that people thought it was real. That’s goals honestly🙃
@@Maya-ht9tm - I'll pretend that was the reason, then. 😂
Just gotta say as someone who has one parent with a disability, it's only weird/sad/strange to other people and I wouldn't change a thing about my mom!
You are the sweetest.
Claudia’s cute facial expressions and sounds she makes bring me joy ☀️
Jessica, I have a lot of similar physical issues and I've dropped just about everything, but the only time I've dropped a baby was when I was 9 (and I've held a lot of babies- I was fulltime caretaker for 6+ kids, there was usually always a baby). It helps that babies generally are held close to the body, and there are all sorts of baby carriers that are easy enough to put on and off so you don't have to use your arm/ hands to constantly hold the baby when you need to carry them. Also, they now have all sorts of easily available adaptive equipment for disabled parents- baby seats that attach to your chair, wheelchair strollers, baby lifters, cribs that are easy to access sitting/ that don't require you to bend over the bars, and all other sorts of things I would have killed for when I was taking care of babies day in and day out.
Aww, Claud should know she’s just so skilled at a natural look makeup that some people are fooled. Very good with making makeup choices that just enhance and showcase her beautiful face.
You two are so cute I can’t cope!!! Also the story of Claudia surprising you with a goodnight kiss is so cute and sooo romantic!! It’s like you are characters in a romance film!! ❤️ xx
I've just started watching this channel fairly recently and I'm addicted! You give so much hope with your amazing attitude and outlook on life. Both you and Claud make me (and I'm sure I'm not alone in this) believe in soulmates. You help so many people, not only people with disabilities but also people like me with mental health problems, by being this glorious ray of positivity! Your videos are truly inspiring and they've definitely helped me have a more positive outlook on life :) I can't wait to see what's coming in the future for you two
I have to admit my faith in true love has faltered greatly recently, but seeing these two absolutely made for each other makes me want to believe. 💕
The way Jessica looks at Claudia makes my heart melt
You have inspired me to improve my nursing practice. When I hear someone so frustrated with not being understood I can see the connective tissue disease behind the complaints and advocate for them better because you’ve been so informative. It has helped me to see hidden disabilities better. I have also directed a few people to your videos so that they won’t feel so isolated.
Sickening or not, I love how sweet and loving you are to each other. 💕💖💓
Relationship goals
The hairdo is absolutely adorable! Just as you two are
Jessica’s face when she described the best kiss 😭😭😭❤️
"building the foundations of our love" is the best euphemism XD
I’d love for you to address accepting and not feeling guilty about resting because you are feeling physically ill. I struggle with fatigue from anxiety and occasional migraines and as a mom of 6 I feel like I just have to suck it up and deal with it.🤷♀️🙄
Girl, I feel you! It's worse if you have a partner who insists you just suck it up and that whatever is wrong with you is make believe. ❤️❤️❤️
You should send me a message! I have C-PTSD and 3 kids who are 2, 4, and 7
You are justified, anxiety exhaustion is real and you need to rest. You are putting the pressure on yourself as part of your anxiety. I'd say if you could try to explain it to your older of the 6 that mummy needs a nap and it can be a family nap time or it's the time for the older children to help with the younger. I'm all about the nap life with my anxiety and depression and I know how hard it is for that aspect but you being a mother to 6 is incredible. Please be kinder to yourself. Your health is important to be able to provide for the little ones so denying yourself the sleep you need hurts you and them. You are wonderful and your children are lucky to have you.
Kiki 7 you are too sweet! I am fortunate that three of them are over 18 now and the youngest are 11, 13, 16. It has only been in the last few years I have let myself nap though. We homeschool because as a former teacher I despise the US system now. But since they older they can do most work without me
@@kadamowicz68 you have done an incredible job and should be proud. Also I agree with you on the US education system. You deserve nap life 😘
I LOVE Jessica's hair in this. Truly an artist with her hair and makeup. And Claudia is an absolute gem
Claudia being such a romantic in those kiss stories is the best! 🙌❤
Thank you for being so comfortable talking about the more intimate things. It makes me feel like it's more normal and I can be comfortable with my future person ❤
Those floating bokeh dots at 11:12. Legit thought I was getting a migraine for a sec. 😱😂🤦🏼♀️
Lol i thought i was hungry again.
Same. I was like, "Hmm. This is different than my normal migraine aura. Oh. It's just in the video. Thank goodness. "
I love you two ladies!! You make me laugh and smile with your back and forth banter. How precious you are. You go girls!!!!!
You two are so adorable! Ah, if I ever fell for someone the way you two have for each other, I'd want to spend every minute with them too. :)
"Making the foundations of our love" is the most romantic phrase I've heard in an age!
I'm very introverted and have problems with social anxiety and so, I have often gotten the lovely question, "do you talk?!" Like, yup, good job making me feel more comfortable 😂
I spend a good time to myself but I really like good conversation too. Trouble is I'm a poorer listener and feel that I have lapsed into boredom. In short don't step out of your comfort zone for a dope and be sure to take care of you.
The slow zoom in @ 2:07 was excellent!
7:24 THE most British "NO!" I have ever heard.
Oh my goodness, you guys are an absolute pleasure! Thank you for sharing your love and light as individuals and as partners!
Would you consider having an adoption advocate and/or an adopted adult on your channel to discuss the real truth of adoption on your channel? I am adopted and the societal ideas around adoption don't tend to relate much to the reality of the adoption experience. You are so lovely about bringing awareness to the issues that effect your life, and adoption is something most people don't want to talk or hear about. I think it would be incredible to open up that discussion on your channel.
You two are literally the sweetest couple. I find you "inspirational" only because you two are such genuinely lovely people, with so much love for yourselves & each other, and that's definitely something I aspire to.
The rudest question I ever got was "What are those brown spots on your arm?" from a resident at a home. I had to explain to him that they were freckles and he had some as well! XD
I’m a disabled mom of a 16 and 19 y/o and I think it made my kids better humans!! Disabled people have kids all the time. ❤️❤️❤️
compleatley dropped my novel editing to watch this! love ittttt!!!
Good luck with your novel editing after this!
I love you guys, you have taught me so much about other lives. I’m disabled mentally(autism and BPD) and have ptsd. I’m old, a tomboy and struggle with chronic fatigue. You have helped me be cooler about all that too! You are so gorgeous Jessica and when you talk I could listen to you forever! Love the history talks too. Thanks guys
Oh my god, the story about about how Claudia came to give Jessica a good night kiss🙈🥰 the feels!
Oh my dear God I love you two so much. Aspirational levels of cheesiness and love.
I don’t know what to call it, but I love the high-up ponytail on you.
I love how Claudia is always moving about. She's like a cute little puppy
I've had a difficult day and this video made me really happy :)
Thank you for always bringing a smile to my face
Love is the only definition of mother, you both will be amazing mothers! Your baby adapts to you, and all babies fit perfectly into their family if loved. ❤️❤️❤️
This made me so happy after a sad day of uni 💜
I LOVE the story of your first kiss.
I’m not so much “angry” about your relationship- I’m jealous!!! 💜💕
I'm so happy for you two! There's nothing greater in this life than being able to share every day with your best friend/lover
Ah! Chronic fatigue and sex! Such a difficult situation. My joint pains affect me too. I really struggle. Has anyone got any tips?
Not sure what country but cannabis is a miracle treatment for many things and can give a lot of respite and even healing. 💕
@@EmmeChatterton I smoke it daily! (it's illegal in the UK, but sh). I've wanted to make a move onto CBD based medicinal products such as topicals but they're just not in my budget right now unfortunately (and thank you) 💖
I Rev myself up with toys cuz romping with my partner with foreplay exhausts my energy the most. Lots of fantasizing about my partner prior gives me that connection I need without physically wearing out. Then we go for it!
@@CrystalMouse1 my main problem is my hips seizing up and my joints becoming sore to be honest
@@kezkai that part I've made a choice to push through those symptoms but I'm not sure how much longer I can do so 🙁
And Jessica? You inspire me because I see what you can do, and it helps me believe that I can do something worthwhile despite a hodgepodge of diagnoses that I am struggling to figure out how to manage. I keep seeing all the things I'm not doing well--or at all-- (job, housekeeping, activities with my daughter, getting dressed every day), and I'm starting to look more for the things I *am* doing, and can do.
Makeup/no makeup...still gorgeous. 💙and yes, you two are ridiculously adorable 😆
Claudia seems so cool and calm, but she's a big softie inside AND I'M HERE FOR THAT
I ship u guys so much