The way my wife got over her divorce from her ex was interesting. She prayed that God would give her his heart of compassion towards him. It worked. You can't hold anger toward someone after that. She now views him as a soul in desperate need of help.
The pattern follows in most women during separation time period. Face it. He has someone & was already involved initially. Having faith is not enough. Develop a relationship with the Lord. New boyfriend, bring him 2 church. Let him mix around too.
@Chris Thank you for sharing this. It was the best advice I saw so far. Your wife is a wise woman. And a strong one too. Because what she managed to do is one of the hardest things to achieve.
Getting divorce while you don’t have any family around and when you haven’t working for good time and have 2 little ones it’s one of the most horrible feelings
@@veiledworkersartclub7240 I have no kids but have similiar situation.I'm doing intern showing everyone nothing happening or I'm strong... ending my night crying.... I should work on my resumee I should find work... I
It’s so sad when you 100% want to fight for someone but he doesn’t The thing is never give up on yourself even he does, Love yourself the most when he doesn’t love you❤️
My mom was not supportive at all. When I confessed I was being physically, financially and emotionally abused, she never spoke to me again. My friends took off, too. People only want to be your friend when things are great. But the main thing that helped me was God and a counselor I had at my university. Without God, I don't think I would have made it through at all.
I absolutely connected with your comment and how those who you thought would be the most supportive became aliens. I'm so sorry to have read how you were affected. I hope that after 3 years since you posted your comment that you are in a much better place of healing and love. 💕
Julie, I have been happily married for nine years and have never been through divorce, but I have been through a very bad breakup so I could relate in that way. Everything you said was spot on and so helpful, and pretty much the same way I got through my terrible breakup. I think this will be an amazing video for anyone currently struggling. If you're reading, like Julie said in the video, things WILL get better. Keep hanging in there. I thought my world ended with that breakup... now I've been married to the man I love for almost a decade, we have two precious kids, our own cozy little house, and thank you Jesus I couldn't be more grateful. Keep hanging in there.
Writing this I feel like my world is falling apart. My husband is wanting a divorce after 5 years, we’ve been together since 17 years old. 2 kids..... my daughter is about to be 2 and my son is 3 months old tomorrow. It’s the hardest time of my life and I just want to thank you for this.
It feels like it’s suppose to feel. But I promise you next year this time you won’t feel as bad as you do or did. I didn’t realize I was making my ex husband God thought I couldn’t live without him. He left me actually he freed me and all the promises he made me that he didn’t do I am now doing for myself God will take care of you Yes he will
May the good Lord comfort you. I have been separated for two years, our divorce will be some time next year. We never had any children together. He betrayed me terribly and later married my friend traditionally. It was a hard time, I was depressed and nothing made sense. At the moment am at peace. God has healed me. When it hurts the most, God heals us.
I separated 3 months ago. After a 9 year relationship. We never got married nor kids. Still it's like a divorce and you helped me so much today. Thank you
Thanks so much for doing this video. My husband and I have been separated for 5 months and it has been very rough for me. When you said that you can’t change how a person feels about you, that really clicked for me. Thank you. Love all your videos.
I'm in the exact same situation. I'm the one being dumped after 18yrs of marriage and 2 kids later. I'm now in acceptance and looking forward to planning my new life. I begged and pleaded too it just put him off more. Better single and happy with my kids and my pets and no more walking on egg shells. Thank you for your video. It resonated with me alot.
My husband came home from work just before Christmas, he told me he wanted a divorce after 17 years...I had no idea and now I am living your ordeal.Thank you for giving me hope, your video is a good sign :)
It's not what other people will think that bothers me, it's the fact that my husband still loves me but yet doesn't want to work through it and is insistent on moving on.
I got married after I graduate from high school and im only 18. I feel drained, exhausted. He doesn’t help me to be better and felt like forcing him with everything we need to do. Im thinking about getting a divorce. I just want to be happy
@Keana Santos Oh sorry 💔 I understand your feelings I am Donald Smith and also a sea engineer If you use google hangouts send me an invite I will truly accept it quickly my email is donaldsmithas01@gmail.com just send me an invite please I promise never to break your heart ❤️ let's talk and know where life will lead us to
Be patient with your husband and stay with him . These single women are going through hell and stop nagging him. My wife was like you almost wanted to divorce. But now she's happy she didn't . After 10 years of she being the breadwinner my life changed and loads of opportunities came now I told her she no longer needs to work.
I've never been divorced because I've never gotten married. But I've been through several bad breakups. I've been single now for over 4 years and haven't dated anyone because I'm pretty sure I have trust issues. And I just don't have the patience to deal with the bullcrap anymore!! Also, I don't "need" a man but I would love to have someone to share things and do things with. Because I can take care of myself. I already own a house, have my own car and pay all my own bills. Thank goodness for my kitty cats who keep me company. Great video!! Thanks for sharing.
Why you need to marrage because you don't know what is going to happen tomorrow in your life, you need someone with great care of you, your cat would not be able to take care of you.
AMEN ! I'm single, I have trust issues, been through bad breakups, never been married and I enjoy being alone. As long as your content who cares about others :D YES ! Cats/pets are always great company.
I was married for 29 years and have known my x husband for 34 years in total. One day he came home and told me that he did not love me anymore and then I found out he was cheating behind my back for 2 years with one of my friends. I feel betrayed by both and felt very hurt. I now live alone and enjoy my own company and I got myself a pet to keep me company. Letting go of someone you love is heart breaking but it must be done to move forward. Have fund listen to some music dance spend time with friends and do not think of the past just the futures
Carmen Walker lets see if those cats help you up the stairs when you get frail because you dont know how to coexist with the other gender so you resort to animals lol its so sad i pray i never end up like you
Hi Julie My husband left me 15years back when my kids were really small after 7yrs of marriage. After that my boyfriend with whom I had a relationship for 10years left me last year. My two kids are in their teens and I put up a brave front for them but I live in excruciating pain. I don't hate anyone but it still hurts. Thank you for this video
You're welcome! I can relate to you on the divorce it is so painful going through it but don't give up hope things will get better :-) I know that doesn't help much when you are going through it but it is the truth! Hang in there God is with you!
The same happened to me, I went through a divorce the first time with my kids small, then another when they are teenagers, it's tough but I know I've got this, time is a healer and I will come out of this stronger, keep doing what you love doing and have faith in God x
I'm getting married next month. I've seen a bunch of my friends go through some bad breakups and even divorce. I take these videos as educating myself to not to do the wrong things after I get married. Thanks for sharing your story.
Don’t take advice based on failure! Find a couple who’s been together for 15plus years and ask how they do it. Even ask an older successful couple. Don’t ask divorced people they don’t know!
Daniel, believe it or not, many divorced people actually will have good advice as there were lessons to be learned from it. Also keep in mind that many people who are/ were married together for even 30 years could be miserable. Consider the source and don’t just rely on the “years”.!
I used to say time would heal things. Not this time. Before I had people. Friends, family and my children. Then, married 18 years, my sons are grown with families of there own and living 1200 miles from me. I was always a strong confident woman but having my boys to take care of gave me a purpose. July 2nd 2020 my husband of 18 years sends me a text message saying not in love with me anymore. Ok, I dealt with over a year of isolation during the pandemic. Went through counseling. Now, it's been 2 years and I am still stuck in isolation. No point, no purpose. I am not angry nor do I hate him. I am 58 and I don't know how to live. I go to the office 3 days a week and then lock myself in my house the rest of the week.
I've been watching your channel for about three years. I'm so glad you're in a good place now, that you got through the crisis of divorce, and that you ended up a happier and more fulfilled person. Thank you for having the heart to share what you've learned in order to help others. I think you touched on just about everything. If I could add just one thing, it would be: Take recovery one day at a time. Healing takes time, and when you're just starting down that road the horizon seems so far away you'll never reach it. But you can reach the end of one day. And then another. All those single days add up, and one day you look up and realize how far you've come.
Julie, I can't relate to what you've been through in regards to getting a divorce. However, I appreciate you being so open and honest with your audience on what you've been through. You've always been such a positive person and I admire your strength :) I wish you nothing but love and eternal happiness !
My ex-husband and I are still friendly. We weren’t good as partners, but are ok as friends. I’m married to an amazing man now. I didn’t want to get divorced, but I had to. I had a wonderful friend who helped me every step of the way. If you can just have one person there for you, really helps.
I don’t want to get a divorce, but I feel I need to. I think it’s because I’m afraid of the unknown... and scared of being alone, though it excites me at the same time.
I did not want my divorce either. It was one of the darkest times of my life. I have a son and grew up in a divorced family, I did not want that for my son. I am also a teacher and I was worried about what people would think about having a divorced teacher with a son. I still am not dating yet because I am scared of heartbreak and focused on improving myself. It took awhile to get used to my new normal. I still get pangs of sadness when we are out doing things and I see Moms and Dads together with their children. Thank you for your video. Sorry this comment was so long. Have a great day!
Nicole Darr I pray so much and cry at times. I did not want to get divorced it was such a mess. It is something that he did not want to go to therapy and left I could NEVER have thought it was just not going to go forward. I am sick and cannot help it. Lord.
Nicole Darr Please hang in there it does get better. My wife left me after 10 years for one of her coworkers. She refused to go to counseling or stop the affair. I lost 40 lbs and moved in with my mom for awhile after giving her the house. It took me 2 years to get thru the depression but I had to realize caring for her also meant I should want her to be happy even if it wasn’t with me. I met my current wife at church and we’ve been married 14 years. I’m ashamed to say I wasn’t a very good husband the first couple of years. I was still healing and over reacted to many things she did. I’m thankful she never gave up on me and took her marriage vows so seriously! I don’t know what I would have become if not for her patience and understanding! So please remember the pain does pass even if the memories linger.
Well, I grew up without a dad and so did my siblings. ;) Our mum struggled financially in Germany in our childhood and early youth, but did give us love and a good education and we all turned out good; very good in school, good university students, humble and nice and with healthy relationships and lots of friends. When growing up with a dad isn't an option your kids are just as well-off as ones with a dad close-by if you give the right care. And if you are divorced you can (and should!) still let your son have some dad-time, that will be good for him and makes the dad living with you non necessary for dadtime any more.
Divorce is hard. I recently uploaded a video to my channel sharing how I found my happiness again and I agree with you on so many levels. Thanks for sharing ❤️!
I and my husband were together for 9years and two months. Divorce came in i couldn't resist it because of love i started sharing tears day and night until I meant a man who brought back my husband with fasting and prayer.
I’m on the edge of divorce and I has me going crazy I have so many mood swings my head is everywhere i feel like I can’t breathe at times I haven’t ate in 3 days I have this love / hate for him I do love him I know it’s for the best to leave the marriage but why is it so hard we have 2 kids together years 4 and 5 I think it makes it harder on me because they always ask for him . I want to work things out but he don’t want to so all there is left to do is pray he changes his mind 😢 I just found you in time of need and I’m glad you I did thanks for the help you give to others . Thank you so much and god bless
I've watched a few of your videos this week about your divorce. Your story is almost exactly the same as mine. Seeing this video of you after the fact gives me hope. I'm a Christian man and have had that fear of being thrown into the world alone. Thinking of starting over terrifies me. I haven't lost faith but it's still scary. Thank you for these videos. We aren't getting divorced for a few more months so I'm going to be feeling this for a while, but your story has given me hope for a better tomorrow.
yes I feel the same after23 years marriage. I am now all alone miles away from family, and it is lonely and scary. But be encouraged God will help us all.
Props to you for being willing to be vulnerable on RUclips. I feel like we need more vulnerability in the RUclips Beauty community space. I've never been divorced however, I have been broken up with - it completely shattered my heart. I'll never forget it. We were supposed to be going on a trip to visit his parents in Europe over Christmas in a couple of days. I was talking to my boyfriend who was in a different room about where to go for dinner. He said, "I can't do this" and I was confused and responded, "You can't have Chinese for dinner?". "No," he responded, "I can't do us". It was hard for some time. Though we had only been together for three years, I thought we would get married soon. I felt like he was my family and was so hurt when he did not want to have any contact with me. Now that time has passed, I am so glad we broke up because it allowed me to meet my husband. My husband and I have been married happily for seven years! Thanks for sharing your experience Julie xoxox
Same thing happened to me after 27 years of marriage. He just says he does not want to married anymore. Still going through the divorce. He doesn’t want to work it out. I am truly heartbroken. We worked together. We did everything together. All of a sudden he wanted to sneak out to hang out with some of the young women in our office. He swears he isn’t cheating. Raised in a very religious household so divorce is something we just don’t do. It’s been so hard so thank you for this video.
You are so wise. A friend of mine's wife left him. Two years in, he's still having a difficult time. He's too proud to forgive his ex-wife. He holds so much hate & bitterness. What's sad is he's a functioning alcoholic & refuses to seek help. Again, too proud to reach out. His focus is @ all the wrong places. I wish he would get the help he desperately needs. :(
Going through a divorce. 27 years married. 30 years together. 4 children (young adults) all have moved out. There biggest worry is the living on my own. And how I will afford it.
I made it through it. Got the house and guess who moved back in. Yes, my ex. I was diagnosed with breast cancer and he is her to help. Funny thing is he had been living with his parents. I have cancer but I am winning,😄
In the middle of it: It feels so unbearable to be the one who wants to work on it, but the other wants to throw you away. After all the times, shared moments, and promises of loving through all. It’s feels like your just thrown away and like you don’t matter. And we have a son together.
Thank you for being so courageous and sharing your experience. I know how it is to feel so confused and alone during this time. Julie, you are proof that God will bring you through. I’m so proud of you for making this video to help other women!
I wish i could hug you right now. I feel like your stories is so so similar to what I’m going through, but im going through it right now. I really wish i could fast forward and be where you’re at right now (mentally, physically, spiritually) but i know i have to ride the waves. All the best to you and to everyone who’s going through a similar situation right now. You are loved and you are enough. 💗💕🌸
Hi 💢, sending you a lot of love and positive energy. The Relationship restorer(Dr Steve) who helped me with my divorce situation can help you out. He can help you with your divorce problems and restore your Relationship. I will advise you seek his help thanks....🙏💓
Two months post a divorce I didn’t want. Like you I encouraged working it out and believed in staying. It wasn’t an option. Thank you for such honest hope for a seriously painful season.
My divorce changed me in ways I didn't realise and there were definite feelings of hopelessness that I had a hard time getting through. It has left me feeling that I won't be able to find someone else, or even that I wouldn't want to. The one bright spot has been that my daughter lives with me Monday to Friday and she has become my world and we do so much together. I truly think that if I didn't have her then I would have struggled with getting through things by myself. I feel that I have gotten through feeling anger towards my ex wife even though she was the unfaithful one I was able to let that go because I felt like I needed to so my relationship with my daughter wasn't affected.
Thank you for sharing this. I am in the middle of a divorce situation and am a person of deep faith which makes it hard because I was also brought up to believe divorce is not an option. What you said about anger is sooo true and thanks for reminding me. All of your tips are invaluable and I know opening up like this isn’t easy so thank you again. God bless you.
Don't give up on the power of God to restore. Dare to believe in the power of prayer. Honor your covenant to God and your husband (even if your husband is violating that covenant currently) and watch what God will do for you! Prayers 💜
I recently read a great memoir about a young (Christian) man and woman going through divorce (and a celibate marriage). It's heartbreaking but a great read: www.amazon.com/Celibate-Marriage-Memoir-Ian-Grell-ebook/dp/B08FZV9F56/ref=sr_1_5?dchild=1&keywords=a+celibate+marriage&qid=1599429695&sr=8-5
Yesterday was our 3 years anniversary and he told me it was working and he doesn't want to work on anything. Hes not in love with me anymore. While im devastated, imma take you advice. Thank you for putting this up. This is amazing
Thank you so much for this video. I'm at the beginning stages of a divorce I don't want and I feel totally overwhelmed. I'm sure I'll watch this daily until I start to feel better 😢❤️
As a man, I totally enjoy your positivism. Staying positive and surrounding yourself with positive people and energy will turn you into a possible awesome future wife!. Stay strong my girl!.
I can’t hold on to someone who stop loving me after 18years. she started getting into spiritual awaking and now she’s a star seed who’s searching for her twin flame true love soul mate. This reallly crushed me bcuz I love her with all my heart & thought we would grow old together. Now I must learn to start all over again. Trust in god and move forward
I am in the same boat. He doesn't want to work it out and I do because there isn't a reason for the divorce and I don't belive in divorce. At first I wore shame like a coat because we are Christians and I was worried about what others think. That was in April. God and therapy has brought me to this point to where I am at peace and accepted it and it has been filed and just waiting for it to be done next month. We don't have any kids. We do have a daughter that passed when I was 20 weeks. Pre this I didn't open up to ppl and now I talk my head off to my circle who deserve to hear my story and will help me through this. I have a great support system.
Thanks for this video! I can relate I too got an unwanted divorce. I was married for 17 years and we was together for 19 years. We did everything together and i was devoted Christian and loved my husband and being married. We didn’t have any children we was trying and was having complications. He started having affairs after ten years of marriage I forgave and took him back. He stopped and started back and right before 17 year anniversary he decided to start having an affair with an women I knew left and moved in with her got her pregnant I was recasted traumatized. I couldn’t understand why this would happen to me when all I did was love him and support and be there for him with everything. It’s been an year since I been divorced and two half years we been separated but I’m still single. I’m starting to feel like does God have someone for me and all this pain I endured did it mean anything. It would be great to meet the right man but he still have not showed up and I’m wondering will he ever.
This is the exact video i have been looking for. The fears of starting all over again? thinking how you've wasted your time. I'm just holding on to my faith in God and believing in his guidance. I'm still believing my husband will have a change of heart. I want to hate and curse him, but my heart justcant😭😭. The pain of rejection is terrible. Currently staying with my parents, taking it one day at a time and believing God for an expected end.🙌🙌
Yes, you need to keep the faith that things will work out. You have the right attitude; let go and forgive that person. You need all your energies to learn how to be independent and settle into a whole new routine. Best Wishes!
Divorce changes the direction of life forever. My wife left me and had no desire to work things out so I understand. My salvation was the only light. I never saw this happening. Thanks for the openness to share the hurt. I know how real it is.
Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.
I've been following you forever, and all of a sudden this video pops up in my suggestions! My ex husband left me in the exact same way. It was years ago, so I've pretty much healed from that, but it was nice to hear how you handled things. I did pretty much the same thing. When he told me over the phone that he wasn't comin back, when I got off the phone with him I sat down and prayed for him. That was the hardest prayer I've ever prayed. I didn't want to pray for him. I wanted to punch him in the face. But praying for him was the best thing and the right thing to do. I haven't gotten into another relationship and I doubt I ever will, but that's God's plan for me I guess. I have my pickup truck, so I'm a happy girl. 😁 So glad you found Josh! ❤️
It is nice to hear honest divorce stories; because I think I weeded through about 15 different channels of people claiming to be as divorced, and ends up a lot of them are these chicks who are still obviously in college or nearing to be out of college, or in their late 20's who are in some kind of acting class or what, making a living off of playing with people's emotions on you tube. I am a script writer and what and hate actors. I create words for a living; I don't need to hear a bunch of what there introspective morons placating tears to me. I appreciate your honest video. You are a sweet heart. I hope that you found someone that God gave you. What a nice girl. You are pretty neat. And you made it pretty well out of your hardship.
I wish it only took me 9 months to find someone else..I got out of a bad relationship about a year and a half ago and I'm still single. Losing hope that I'll ever find a guy...I know God has a plan but it's hard in the time of waiting ya know?
I happened to just run into this video. It's been 9 months since my separation from my wife and will be going into divorce soon. It's been a nightmare but I am braced every single emotion. Your video was right on. I spent a lot of time beating myself up of things I could have changed but I've come to realize is.. I had nothing to change although some light was shed on some things about myself. I was made to feel inferior of who I was. And I feel as if I was misunderstood the whole time. Everything I said or did was used against me in the end and I guess that was the day that really hurt the most thinking about it. This video actually shed more light on my situation thank you.
One thing I did want to say is sometimes you end up on the side where you truly don’t want to get a divorce, but you have to for the sake of your mental health and the sake of not wasting your own time. My husband did not want the divorce, but was unable to work on the marriage in any way and showed me that he didn’t care. So I wasn’t willing to sit around and waste my precious time pondering how to make things work while he continued on with whatever he wanted to do as “he’s not going to put his life on pause” as he said. So although I didn’t want the divorce and exhausted all means to make things work, it couldn’t. I still had to go through with the divorce to break patterns that weren’t going to change. Life.
Thank you for your words. I'm married for 32 years and now my husband got in love for the wife of a friend. It's being too hard on me. He was my only boyfriend ever. I don't believe on divorce but he's his mind made. I pray to God to help me because I feel like my life is ending.
I just seen your other video, facing divorce..I watched it after this one. Julie, you are such a pillar of strength. I don't know how in the world you delt with that..I went through a breakup that was so horrible it felt equal to a death but somehow I got through it. I didn't handle it well but looking back on it, I know 1i will Never allow myself to go through that again, 2 I know now how I got through it.. And like you.. It was God. You are the sweetest hearted person and thank you for being transparent. I'm so happy for your happy beginning.. Just thank you🙏..p.s... It's funny you mentioned in your other video that the right Preston would eventually come along and now in this video 2 years later your making memories with that person. You deserve all the happiness in the world, thank you, love you💕
This was so encouraging, you’re video is such an answer to prayer. My divorce situation is incredibly, incredibly similar to yours so is nice to know I won’t feel awful forever.
Bless you, Julie. I’m going through this currently. Scared and anxiety filled sleeping on the couch at my mom’s. All stability gone. The person you believe you can trust with your life abandoning you. It’s awful. Thank you for the encouragement
Thank you for sharing your experience. I am sure others going through divorce can benefit from what you’ve shared. I just love listening to you and watching your videos. You have such a soothing voice. You come across as such a sweet, genuine person. ❤️👏
Thank you so much for this. My husband told me 2 months ago that he wants a divorce. We have been together for 7 years, married for 3, but he left to Italy on deployment right after we got married and I couldn't join him. We were supposed to be moving together this summer to his next post but he said he can't be with me anymore. And it's so hard to accept that, specially since we haven't even enjoyed being married together, just apart. He doesn't wanna try therapy or anything, even after knowing that long distance relationships are hard and things might be better once we move in together. It's also rough because we are young too, 29 and 26, and I feel like if you're divorced at that age, you're rotten goods. But I'm glad to see I'm not the only young person to go through this, and we are definitely not rotten goods! Your video has given me hope that things will get better, but it really is hard to just wait on time to do the healing. Some days are rougher than others.
You are very young. Get 37 years under your belt and have a neighbor 2 doors down try to take your husband, all the benefits from his job, leave you without any benefits, no health care, retirement, income, especially after giving up my career, etc. Bitter is all that is left. He did die, prior to the final divorce and I took all and she got nothing. I earned it.
God pls strengthen everyone who are in despair and remove their sadness and fill their hearts joy peace and hope for their future! This phase too shall pass! Good days are ahead❤
I am also a woman of faith, and God has gotten me through so much in my life. At this time I am going through my second (and FINAL) divorce. I am a Veteran, as is he, and I moved to NC to marry and be with him, and my sons...who are not his. It was a rough marriage from the beginning, especially in terms of how he never cared for or was kind to my boys, who are truly great kids with special needs. He brought me here, knowing I have no friends or family here, and now after almost 9 yrs of marriage, he left us last Friday, 7 May...Mother’s Day wked and the month of my birthday, wow! He seems determined to rush this, so I will not get any assets that I am entitled to. I am praying right now, at every moment. No matter how awful and lost and overwhelmed I feel inside, I have to stay strong in the Lord, especially for my teen sons. Thank you for this video. God bless.
That's so aweful & cruel what your husband did to you & your children. I do hope things are much better for you all today & that God delivered you all through this in victory. Can you please give an update? Christ ' many blessings to you & your children. ✨💖✨
Thankyou for this video, I'm going through a divorce myself, I had to file for a divorce as my husband lost interest in trying and started cheating, but your video was so real and you didn't miss out on giving everyone out there in different circumstances the right advice accordingly to there situation, really appreciate the truth in your videos keep up the good work 👏
Hi, get help from Dr Steve to bring your ex back and attract your (SP) someone you love to you, you might have try others Spellcasters and they disappoint you, but I can assure you 100% and also staking my life on it that Dr Steve can help you and make your ex beg you for a second chance because he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. I will advise you seek his help now thanks.
So true. The angriness and hate is so CORROSIVE to YOURSELF. Im amazed how much its helped me towards my ex-wife. Its been 4 years for me almost. I still haven't dated which is embarrassing, and I don't even understand myself why I haven't wanted to but it has gotten alot better.
Hi 💢, sending you a lot of love and positive energy. The Relationship restorer(Dr Steve) who helped me with my divorce situation can help you out. He can help you with your divorce problems and restore your Relationship. I will advise you seek his help thanks....🙏💓
Going through this now... my husband doesn’t want to try. I’m terrified to start my life over. Some days I feel like I can’t keep going but I’m trying to push through everyday. It’s just so painful.
Hey! Someone else who is more powerful and provide a faster way to restore broken relationship helped me bring my ex back within 48hours and he can help you too
I came across your channel only recently, and I want to say, you're stronger than you think you are. I'm very proud of you. Thank you for making this video and all other videos.
Julie, I really appreciate this video. I am going thru difficult times. You are absolutely right about that! you can't control other people. Anger only make it worse. I will keep that in mind. Thanks for the video.
My grands was married for 60 years and my parents 48 . We stayed married for 22 years and together 25 . It’s scary but my children are grown now and they’ve had amazing examples of what a good marriage is . I tried to stick it out because it’s what I’ve seen growing up but I had a toxic marriage and even after everything I went though it’s still the hardest thing I’m going through in life . I walked away from everything. Thank God for my parents and my children and the kids . My kids are definitely angry with their father but I continue to tell them he’s the only father they have
I went through the same thing. Except we weren’t married. It was hard but God got me through it too. 2 1/2 years later it’s still a little difficult but I’m in a much better place emotionally! Everything you said I can relate 100%!
I’m filing for divorce. It’s a very toxic marriage. I’m shattered but I have no choice. I need to provide a peaceful environment for my son. I’m praying constantly for god to help me through this.
You have know idea how much I needed this!!! Right before this I was praying and asking God for some encouragement so I searched for videos and I stubbled upon yours 😍 Thank you so much girl!!!!!!
@@sandramusi7222 I'm sorry to hear that, God will give you the strength you need. He will provide everything and He will be your husband! Trust him!! He promised he will never leave you nor forsake you!! ❤️🙏🏼
I am completely devastated. My husband of almost 20 years (3/1/23) said for the second time he doesn’t want the marriage. It’s hard, my emotions are involuntary. I’m trying so hard to keep it together. I don’t want the divorce, but I cannot make someone stay with me. I don’t want anyone else.
We had a year long relationship over the phone and then moved in together for about 6 months and then I realized she could be too domineering and I wasn't a very good communicator. When I got angered by her,I'd just withdraw into a cocoon and when I did try to talk,she always found a way of making everything about herself. I couldn't put up with all that. Plus,knowing she had been pregnant for someone else when we were chatting over a distance ,changed how I saw her and even when we made love,I kept imagining she was doing the same thing with the other fellow. I just couldnt love her the same way I wanted. I'm 28 and now I feel that I may only ever find love well into my 30s.
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You are so sweet..I have been married for 25 years..That being said, both people have to want for the marriage to work..No marriage is perfect..I believe that my husband and I were meant to be..You either grow together or grow apart..Thank you for sharing..So happy for you and Josh..
Julie, I watched this video because my niece is going through this . She is a mess but I will share this with her, I think it will help her. Well done. I am happy you are doing so good. God Bless, Barbara
Divorce is the MOST painful thing to go through. I'm working on forgiving myself. I had the opportunity to save it and didn't. I'm just taking it one day at a time.
I and my husband were together for 9years and two months. Divorce came in i couldn't resist it because of love i started sharing tears day and night until I meant a man who brought back my husband with fasting and prayer.
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How do you know? If he wanted a divorce then that is a red flag because no man in his right mind would want a divorce . Man will lose there ass in divorce court .
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I needed this today. I was married for 21 years and told him I would move heaven and earth to salvage what we had and he didn’t want to. We have 2 girls together too. He ended up getting together with his best friend and my heart is still broken.
My future ex is saying that I will never see my son again etc. he’s going to disappear because I’m not a good enough mom. But I’m good enough for our son when he wants to be with me. Etc. thank you for making this and being so open. My parents are dead so I’m in this alone.
Thanks for this video...going through a divorce after 13 years .. my story is just like yours, we had no kids and lived at my parents and he decided to leave... I felt like such a fool believing that he would always be there for me, since he always told me that.
It takes courage to open up and allow yourself to be vulnerable, especially on the internet for strangers to judge, so you are a hero to many. XOXO ❤❤❤
Omg I can relate to all of this. This hurt me so much. I now feel so much stronger. My parents have also been married for so long and I was scared of the embarrassment. I’m so thankful I had my parents and my best friend Anna helped so much. I believe God has a plan and I feel totally strong and happy now. Also, this doesn’t define you at all! Life can be great after once you healed.
I went through a divorce after 20 years and it was very difficult. But when I met someone a year after, I thought I would be happy. We never married and he just chose a woman he was cheating with over me. Now over 65 years old, I'm alone again. I'm really struggling to deal with all the hurt. And hopeless for the future. (I've been disappointed for 7 years too)
The worst part is im not with my 2 year old daughter. My ex wife was with me 13 years and then was cheating on me and divorced me. It's been 8 months and i can say time has not helped me at all.
7.5 years together, married for 4. She told me 2 days ago that she's filing. Long story short, I pleaded with her to give us more time in therapy. But she's right. This is the best thing for both of us BUT my world is shattered. I LOVE her so deeply. I feel broken and can't get her smile out of my face but it is true that Love is not enough. You have to be completely compatible. I hope to God I'm able to move forward and grow to become a better person after this.
Julie, even though my religious views aren't the same as yours, I completely agree with everything that you said in the video. I found myself just sitting here nodding along with what you were saying lol. Such great advice and I hope it helps some of your viewers out with the problems that they're going through 💜💙
Thank you so much and I am so glad to hear that! I hope my video helps everyone who watches it too! Have a great day and thank you for your support :-)
The way my wife got over her divorce from her ex was interesting. She prayed that God would give her his heart of compassion towards him. It worked. You can't hold anger toward someone after that. She now views him as a soul in desperate need of help.
Lmao your wife is delusional, but if those thoughts make her happy so be it!
You can't "fix" or change a person. Only they have to be willing to change.
I left a toxic marriage.
The pattern follows in most women during separation time period. Face it. He has someone & was already involved initially. Having faith is not enough. Develop a relationship with the Lord. New boyfriend, bring him 2 church. Let him mix around too.
@Chris Thank you for sharing this. It was the best advice I saw so far. Your wife is a wise woman. And a strong one too. Because what she managed to do is one of the hardest things to achieve.
Thanks for this advice. I'll start praying this for the ex husband.
Getting divorce while you don’t have any family around and when you haven’t working for good time and have 2 little ones it’s one of the most horrible feelings
Hey hun!It's going to be alright I promise ❤☺I am here for you 💝
My prayers and love to you dear ❤️you will be happy again ,start your personal healing journey
Im literaly in the same situation right now
I’m so sorry, I hope you’re in a better place now
@@veiledworkersartclub7240 I have no kids but have similiar situation.I'm doing intern showing everyone nothing happening or I'm strong... ending my night crying.... I should work on my resumee I should find work... I
It’s so sad when you 100% want to fight for someone but he doesn’t The thing is never give up on yourself even he does, Love yourself the most when he doesn’t love you❤️
U r rite
Or when she does!
How to forgive Yourself for loving someone who don't even give a damn about U?
I needed this. Thank you. I feel so sad and rejected because I want to fight for us and he doesnt care at all...
You are right I was patient enough for him... 😥😥😥
I don't think anyone truly "gets over" a divorce. It changes you on a deep level.
Right, when you do not want to divorce and were still fully committed 30 years in, it shatters you. I am now 5.5 years happily remarried.
EVERY significant incident changes you on a deep level. From a traffic accident to a severe illness to the bullying that happened at school.
Seriously.
Yeah i disagree. Its the best thing thats happening to me worst was getting married to begin with
I barely remember being married to my first husband. It will be good x
My mom was not supportive at all. When I confessed I was being physically, financially and emotionally abused, she never spoke to me again. My friends took off, too. People only want to be your friend when things are great. But the main thing that helped me was God and a counselor I had at my university. Without God, I don't think I would have made it through at all.
How are you doing today?
God and therapy! Amen!!🙌
I absolutely connected with your comment and how those who you thought would be the most supportive became aliens. I'm so sorry to have read how you were affected. I hope that after 3 years since you posted your comment that you are in a much better place of healing and love. 💕
Divorce is hard even if you are the one filing. And the person you marry is not the one you divorce
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Young Victor How do you know that she got any of that? What if she didn’t even have kids with her ex? So much projection in your comment.
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Julie, I have been happily married for nine years and have never been through divorce, but I have been through a very bad breakup so I could relate in that way. Everything you said was spot on and so helpful, and pretty much the same way I got through my terrible breakup. I think this will be an amazing video for anyone currently struggling. If you're reading, like Julie said in the video, things WILL get better. Keep hanging in there. I thought my world ended with that breakup... now I've been married to the man I love for almost a decade, we have two precious kids, our own cozy little house, and thank you Jesus I couldn't be more grateful. Keep hanging in there.
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Writing this I feel like my world is falling apart. My husband is wanting a divorce after 5 years, we’ve been together since 17 years old. 2 kids..... my daughter is about to be 2 and my son is 3 months old tomorrow. It’s the hardest time of my life and I just want to thank you for this.
G M You are not alone💕
My divorced me when i was pregnant
It feels like it’s suppose to feel. But I promise you next year this time you won’t feel as bad as you do or did. I didn’t realize I was making my ex husband God thought I couldn’t live without him. He left me actually he freed me and all the promises he made me that he didn’t do I am now doing for myself
God will take care of you
Yes he will
You need that God given strength to be strong especially for ur daughter
May the good Lord comfort you. I have been separated for two years, our divorce will be some time next year.
We never had any children together. He betrayed me terribly and later married my friend traditionally. It was a hard time, I was depressed and nothing made sense.
At the moment am at peace. God has healed me. When it hurts the most, God heals us.
I separated 3 months ago. After a 9 year relationship. We never got married nor kids. Still it's like a divorce and you helped me so much today. Thank you
Thanks so much for doing this video. My husband and I have been separated for 5 months and it has been very rough for me. When you said that you can’t change how a person feels about you, that really clicked for me. Thank you. Love all your videos.
I'm in the exact same situation. I'm the one being dumped after 18yrs of marriage and 2 kids later. I'm now in acceptance and looking forward to planning my new life. I begged and pleaded too it just put him off more. Better single and happy with my kids and my pets and no more walking on egg shells. Thank you for your video. It resonated with me alot.
We have similar issues, I've been divorced for 2years now
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My husband came home from work just before Christmas, he told me he wanted a divorce after 17 years...I had no idea and now I am living your ordeal.Thank you for giving me hope, your video is a good sign :)
stay strong and you will get through this.
Same here. It was January 3rd. 17 years
they love to break up with you just before the holidays....its epidemic.
It's not what other people will think that bothers me, it's the fact that my husband still loves me but yet doesn't want to work through it and is insistent on moving on.
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I got married after I graduate from high school and im only 18. I feel drained, exhausted. He doesn’t help me to be better and felt like forcing him with everything we need to do. Im thinking about getting a divorce. I just want to be happy
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Be patient with your husband and stay with him . These single women are going through hell and stop nagging him. My wife was like you almost wanted to divorce. But now she's happy she didn't . After 10 years of she being the breadwinner my life changed and loads of opportunities came now I told her she no longer needs to work.
I've never been divorced because I've never gotten married. But I've been through several bad breakups. I've been single now for over 4 years and haven't dated anyone because I'm pretty sure I have trust issues. And I just don't have the patience to deal with the bullcrap anymore!! Also, I don't "need" a man but I would love to have someone to share things and do things with. Because I can take care of myself. I already own a house, have my own car and pay all my own bills. Thank goodness for my kitty cats who keep me company. Great video!! Thanks for sharing.
Why you need to marrage because you don't know what is going to happen tomorrow in your life, you need someone with great care of you, your cat would not be able to take care of you.
AMEN ! I'm single, I have trust issues, been through bad breakups, never been married and I enjoy being alone. As long as your content who cares about others :D YES ! Cats/pets are always great company.
Amen! I'm about to go through a divorce and hve trust issues due to my husband. I feel like I would be happy with my dogs and cats forever.
I was married for 29 years and have known my x husband for 34 years in total. One day he came home and told me that he did not love me anymore and then I found out he was cheating behind my back for 2 years with one of my friends. I feel betrayed by both and felt very hurt. I now live alone and enjoy my own company and I got myself a pet to keep me company. Letting go of someone you love is heart breaking but it must be done to move forward. Have fund listen to some music dance spend time with friends and do not think of the past just the futures
Carmen Walker lets see if those cats help you up the stairs when you get frail because you dont know how to coexist with the other gender so you resort to animals lol its so sad i pray i never end up like you
Hi Julie
My husband left me 15years back when my kids were really small after 7yrs of marriage. After that my boyfriend with whom I had a relationship for 10years left me last year. My two kids are in their teens and I put up a brave front for them but I live in excruciating pain. I don't hate anyone but it still hurts. Thank you for this video
You're welcome! I can relate to you on the divorce it is so painful going through it but don't give up hope things will get better :-) I know that doesn't help much when you are going through it but it is the truth! Hang in there God is with you!
The same happened to me, I went through a divorce the first time with my kids small, then another when they are teenagers, it's tough but I know I've got this, time is a healer and I will come out of this stronger, keep doing what you love doing and have faith in God x
I'm getting married next month. I've seen a bunch of my friends go through some bad breakups and even divorce. I take these videos as educating myself to not to do the wrong things after I get married. Thanks for sharing your story.
Don’t take advice based on failure! Find a couple who’s been together for 15plus years and ask how they do it. Even ask an older successful couple. Don’t ask divorced people they don’t know!
Daniel, believe it or not, many divorced people actually will have good advice as there were lessons to be learned from it. Also keep in mind that many people who are/ were married together for even 30 years could be miserable. Consider the source and don’t just rely on the “years”.!
You can do everything right and this can still happen if your partner falls to a selfish path.
You can be the best wife and it could still happen to you. We can never truly know everything other people are thinking deep down inside.
I used to say time would heal things. Not this time. Before I had people. Friends, family and my children. Then, married 18 years, my sons are grown with families of there own and living 1200 miles from me. I was always a strong confident woman but having my boys to take care of gave me a purpose. July 2nd 2020 my husband of 18 years sends me a text message saying not in love with me anymore. Ok, I dealt with over a year of isolation during the pandemic. Went through counseling. Now, it's been 2 years and I am still stuck in isolation. No point, no purpose. I am not angry nor do I hate him. I am 58 and I don't know how to live. I go to the office 3 days a week and then lock myself in my house the rest of the week.
I've been watching your channel for about three years. I'm so glad you're in a good place now, that you got through the crisis of divorce, and that you ended up a happier and more fulfilled person. Thank you for having the heart to share what you've learned in order to help others. I think you touched on just about everything. If I could add just one thing, it would be: Take recovery one day at a time. Healing takes time, and when you're just starting down that road the horizon seems so far away you'll never reach it. But you can reach the end of one day. And then another. All those single days add up, and one day you look up and realize how far you've come.
Julie, I can't relate to what you've been through in regards to getting a divorce. However, I appreciate you being so open and honest with your audience on what you've been through. You've always been such a positive person and I admire your strength :) I wish you nothing but love and eternal happiness !
Are you married
My ex-husband and I are still friendly. We weren’t good as partners, but are ok as friends. I’m married to an amazing man now. I didn’t want to get divorced, but I had to. I had a wonderful friend who helped me every step of the way. If you can just have one person there for you, really helps.
I'm very about that, it seems we had similar issues
I don’t want to get a divorce, but I feel I need to. I think it’s because I’m afraid of the unknown... and scared of being alone, though it excites me at the same time.
Nelz S. I feel the same! the scare of the unknown is so scary to me...but sometimes we have to do these choices for our own good
I'm single I want one beautiful heart woman I'm 30 years old.
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I did not want my divorce either. It was one of the darkest times of my life. I have a son and grew up in a divorced family, I did not want that for my son. I am also a teacher and I was worried about what people would think about having a divorced teacher with a son. I still am not dating yet because I am scared of heartbreak and focused on improving myself. It took awhile to get used to my new normal. I still get pangs of sadness when we are out doing things and I see Moms and Dads together with their children. Thank you for your video. Sorry this comment was so long. Have a great day!
Nicole Darr I pray so much and cry at times. I did not want to get divorced it was such a mess. It is something that he did not want to go to therapy and left I could NEVER have thought it was just not going to go forward. I am sick and cannot help it. Lord.
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Please hang in there it does get better. My wife left me after 10 years for one of her coworkers. She refused to go to counseling or stop the affair. I lost 40 lbs and moved in with my mom for awhile after giving her the house. It took me 2 years to get thru the depression but I had to realize caring for her also meant I should want her to be happy even if it wasn’t with me. I met my current wife at church and we’ve been married 14 years. I’m ashamed to say I wasn’t a very good husband the first couple of years. I was still healing and over reacted to many things she did. I’m thankful she never gave up on me and took her marriage vows so seriously! I don’t know what I would have become if not for her patience and understanding! So please remember the pain does pass even if the memories linger.
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Well, I grew up without a dad and so did my siblings. ;)
Our mum struggled financially in Germany in our childhood and early youth, but did give us love and a good education and we all turned out good; very good in school, good university students, humble and nice and with healthy relationships and lots of friends.
When growing up with a dad isn't an option your kids are just as well-off as ones with a dad close-by if you give the right care.
And if you are divorced you can (and should!) still let your son have some dad-time, that will be good for him and makes the dad living with you non necessary for dadtime any more.
I’m with you honey ❤️ I feel your pain 😕
Divorce is hard. I recently uploaded a video to my channel sharing how I found my happiness again and I agree with you on so many levels. Thanks for sharing ❤️!
Wow, I just went through a divorce after multiple years. Your ex was a fool for leaving a beautiful person like you.
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I’m on the edge of divorce and I has me going crazy I have so many mood swings my head is everywhere i feel like I can’t breathe at times I haven’t ate in 3 days I have this love / hate for him I do love him I know it’s for the best to leave the marriage but why is it so hard we have 2 kids together years 4 and 5 I think it makes it harder on me because they always ask for him . I want to work things out but he don’t want to so all there is left to do is pray he changes his mind 😢 I just found you in time of need and I’m glad you I did thanks for the help you give to others . Thank you so much and god bless
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I've watched a few of your videos this week about your divorce. Your story is almost exactly the same as mine. Seeing this video of you after the fact gives me hope. I'm a Christian man and have had that fear of being thrown into the world alone. Thinking of starting over terrifies me. I haven't lost faith but it's still scary. Thank you for these videos. We aren't getting divorced for a few more months so I'm going to be feeling this for a while, but your story has given me hope for a better tomorrow.
Same here.facing this world is very scary😢
yes I feel the same after23 years marriage. I am now all alone miles away from family, and it is lonely and scary. But be encouraged God will help us all.
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Props to you for being willing to be vulnerable on RUclips. I feel like we need more vulnerability in the RUclips Beauty community space. I've never been divorced however, I have been broken up with - it completely shattered my heart. I'll never forget it. We were supposed to be going on a trip to visit his parents in Europe over Christmas in a couple of days. I was talking to my boyfriend who was in a different room about where to go for dinner. He said, "I can't do this" and I was confused and responded, "You can't have Chinese for dinner?". "No," he responded, "I can't do us". It was hard for some time. Though we had only been together for three years, I thought we would get married soon. I felt like he was my family and was so hurt when he did not want to have any contact with me. Now that time has passed, I am so glad we broke up because it allowed me to meet my husband. My husband and I have been married happily for seven years! Thanks for sharing your experience Julie xoxox
Same thing happened to me after 27 years of marriage. He just says he does not want to married anymore. Still going through the divorce. He doesn’t want to work it out. I am truly heartbroken. We worked together. We did everything together. All of a sudden he wanted to sneak out to hang out with some of the young women in our office. He swears he isn’t cheating. Raised in a very religious household so divorce is something we just don’t do. It’s been so hard so thank you for this video.
You are so wise. A friend of mine's wife left him. Two years in, he's still having a difficult time. He's too proud to forgive his ex-wife. He holds so much hate & bitterness. What's sad is he's a functioning alcoholic & refuses to seek help. Again, too proud to reach out. His focus is @ all the wrong places. I wish he would get the help he desperately needs. :(
Going through a divorce. 27 years married. 30 years together. 4 children (young adults) all have moved out. There biggest worry is the living on my own. And how I will afford it.
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Same here
I made it through it. Got the house and guess who moved back in. Yes, my ex. I was diagnosed with breast cancer and he is her to help. Funny thing is he had been living with his parents. I have cancer but I am winning,😄
In the middle of it: It feels so unbearable to be the one who wants to work on it, but the other wants to throw you away. After all the times, shared moments, and promises of loving through all. It’s feels like your just thrown away and like you don’t matter. And we have a son together.
Thank you for being so courageous and sharing your experience. I know how it is to feel so confused and alone during this time. Julie, you are proof that God will bring you through. I’m so proud of you for making this video to help other women!
Yes, God will bring you through! He will never leave you :-) Thank you so much!
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I wish i could hug you right now. I feel like your stories is so so similar to what I’m going through, but im going through it right now. I really wish i could fast forward and be where you’re at right now (mentally, physically, spiritually) but i know i have to ride the waves. All the best to you and to everyone who’s going through a similar situation right now. You are loved and you are enough. 💗💕🌸
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Two months post a divorce I didn’t want. Like you I encouraged working it out and believed in staying. It wasn’t an option. Thank you for such honest hope for a seriously painful season.
My divorce changed me in ways I didn't realise and there were definite feelings of hopelessness that I had a hard time getting through. It has left me feeling that I won't be able to find someone else, or even that I wouldn't want to. The one bright spot has been that my daughter lives with me Monday to Friday and she has become my world and we do so much together. I truly think that if I didn't have her then I would have struggled with getting through things by myself. I feel that I have gotten through feeling anger towards my ex wife even though she was the unfaithful one I was able to let that go because I felt like I needed to so my relationship with my daughter wasn't affected.
Abusive marriage and four years of absolute hell and now I find myself totally stifled. I forgot how to be happy.
Thank you for sharing this. I am in the middle of a divorce situation and am a person of deep faith which makes it hard because I was also brought up to believe divorce is not an option. What you said about anger is sooo true and thanks for reminding me. All of your tips are invaluable and I know opening up like this isn’t easy so thank you again. God bless you.
Don't give up on the power of God to restore. Dare to believe in the power of prayer. Honor your covenant to God and your husband (even if your husband is violating that covenant currently) and watch what God will do for you! Prayers 💜
I recently read a great memoir about a young (Christian) man and woman going through divorce (and a celibate marriage). It's heartbreaking but a great read:
www.amazon.com/Celibate-Marriage-Memoir-Ian-Grell-ebook/dp/B08FZV9F56/ref=sr_1_5?dchild=1&keywords=a+celibate+marriage&qid=1599429695&sr=8-5
Yesterday was our 3 years anniversary and he told me it was working and he doesn't want to work on anything. Hes not in love with me anymore. While im devastated, imma take you advice. Thank you for putting this up. This is amazing
Thank you so much for this video. I'm at the beginning stages of a divorce I don't want and I feel totally overwhelmed. I'm sure I'll watch this daily until I start to feel better 😢❤️
You're welcome! Hang in there, sending you lots of love and positivity!
As a man, I totally enjoy your positivism. Staying positive and surrounding yourself with positive people and energy will turn you into a possible awesome future wife!. Stay strong my girl!.
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I can’t hold on to someone who stop loving me after 18years. she started getting into spiritual awaking and now she’s a star seed who’s searching for her twin flame true love soul mate. This reallly crushed me bcuz I love her with all my heart & thought we would grow old together. Now I must learn to start all over again. Trust in god and move forward
I am in the same boat. He doesn't want to work it out and I do because there isn't a reason for the divorce and I don't belive in divorce. At first I wore shame like a coat because we are Christians and I was worried about what others think. That was in April. God and therapy has brought me to this point to where I am at peace and accepted it and it has been filed and just waiting for it to be done next month. We don't have any kids. We do have a daughter that passed when I was 20 weeks.
Pre this I didn't open up to ppl and now I talk my head off to my circle who deserve to hear my story and will help me through this. I have a great support system.
Thanks for this video! I can relate I too got an unwanted divorce. I was married for 17 years and we was together for 19 years. We did everything together and i was devoted Christian and loved my husband and being married. We didn’t have any children we was trying and was having complications. He started having affairs after ten years of marriage I forgave and took him back. He stopped and started back and right before 17 year anniversary he decided to start having an affair with an women I knew left and moved in with her got her pregnant I was recasted traumatized. I couldn’t understand why this would happen to me when all I did was love him and support and be there for him with everything. It’s been an year since I been divorced and two half years we been separated but I’m still single. I’m starting to feel like does God have someone for me and all this pain I endured did it mean anything. It would be great to meet the right man but he still have not showed up and I’m wondering will he ever.
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This is the exact video i have been looking for. The fears of starting all over again? thinking how you've wasted your time. I'm just holding on to my faith in God and believing in his guidance. I'm still believing my husband will have a change of heart. I want to hate and curse him, but my heart justcant😭😭. The pain of rejection is terrible. Currently staying with my parents, taking it one day at a time and believing God for an expected end.🙌🙌
Yes, you need to keep the faith that things will work out. You have the right attitude; let go and forgive that person. You need all your energies to learn how to be independent and settle into a whole new routine. Best Wishes!
Divorce changes the direction of life forever. My wife left me and had no desire to work things out so I understand. My salvation was the only light. I never saw this happening. Thanks for the openness to share the hurt. I know how real it is.
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I've been following you forever, and all of a sudden this video pops up in my suggestions! My ex husband left me in the exact same way. It was years ago, so I've pretty much healed from that, but it was nice to hear how you handled things. I did pretty much the same thing. When he told me over the phone that he wasn't comin back, when I got off the phone with him I sat down and prayed for him. That was the hardest prayer I've ever prayed. I didn't want to pray for him. I wanted to punch him in the face. But praying for him was the best thing and the right thing to do. I haven't gotten into another relationship and I doubt I ever will, but that's God's plan for me I guess. I have my pickup truck, so I'm a happy girl. 😁 So glad you found Josh! ❤️
It is nice to hear honest divorce stories; because I think I weeded through about 15 different channels of people claiming to be as divorced, and ends up a lot of them are these chicks who are still obviously in college or nearing to be out of college, or in their late 20's who are in some kind of acting class or what, making a living off of playing with people's emotions on you tube. I am a script writer and what and hate actors. I create words for a living; I don't need to hear a bunch of what there introspective morons placating tears to me. I appreciate your honest video. You are a sweet heart. I hope that you found someone that God gave you. What a nice girl. You are pretty neat. And you made it pretty well out of your hardship.
I wish it only took me 9 months to find someone else..I got out of a bad relationship about a year and a half ago and I'm still single. Losing hope that I'll ever find a guy...I know God has a plan but it's hard in the time of waiting ya know?
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I happened to just run into this video. It's been 9 months since my separation from my wife and will be going into divorce soon. It's been a nightmare but I am braced every single emotion. Your video was right on. I spent a lot of time beating myself up of things I could have changed but I've come to realize is.. I had nothing to change although some light was shed on some things about myself. I was made to feel inferior of who I was. And I feel as if I was misunderstood the whole time. Everything I said or did was used against me in the end and I guess that was the day that really hurt the most thinking about it. This video actually shed more light on my situation thank you.
One thing I did want to say is sometimes you end up on the side where you truly don’t want to get a divorce, but you have to for the sake of your mental health and the sake of not wasting your own time. My husband did not want the divorce, but was unable to work on the marriage in any way and showed me that he didn’t care. So I wasn’t willing to sit around and waste my precious time pondering how to make things work while he continued on with whatever he wanted to do as “he’s not going to put his life on pause” as he said. So although I didn’t want the divorce and exhausted all means to make things work, it couldn’t. I still had to go through with the divorce to break patterns that weren’t going to change. Life.
Thank you for your words. I'm married for 32 years and now my husband got in love for the wife of a friend. It's being too hard on me. He was my only boyfriend ever. I don't believe on divorce but he's his mind made. I pray to God to help me because I feel like my life is ending.
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I just seen your other video, facing divorce..I watched it after this one. Julie, you are such a pillar of strength. I don't know how in the world you delt with that..I went through a breakup that was so horrible it felt equal to a death but somehow I got through it. I didn't handle it well but looking back on it, I know 1i will Never allow myself to go through that again, 2 I know now how I got through it.. And like you.. It was God. You are the sweetest hearted person and thank you for being transparent. I'm so happy for your happy beginning.. Just thank you🙏..p.s... It's funny you mentioned in your other video that the right Preston would eventually come along and now in this video 2 years later your making memories with that person. You deserve all the happiness in the world, thank you, love you💕
This was so encouraging, you’re video is such an answer to prayer. My divorce situation is incredibly, incredibly similar to yours so is nice to know I won’t feel awful forever.
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Bless you, Julie. I’m going through this currently. Scared and anxiety filled sleeping on the couch at my mom’s. All stability gone. The person you believe you can trust with your life abandoning you. It’s awful. Thank you for the encouragement
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Thank you for sharing your experience. I am sure others going through divorce can benefit from what you’ve shared. I just love listening to you and watching your videos. You have such a soothing voice. You come across as such a sweet, genuine person. ❤️👏
Thank you so much for this. My husband told me 2 months ago that he wants a divorce. We have been together for 7 years, married for 3, but he left to Italy on deployment right after we got married and I couldn't join him. We were supposed to be moving together this summer to his next post but he said he can't be with me anymore. And it's so hard to accept that, specially since we haven't even enjoyed being married together, just apart. He doesn't wanna try therapy or anything, even after knowing that long distance relationships are hard and things might be better once we move in together. It's also rough because we are young too, 29 and 26, and I feel like if you're divorced at that age, you're rotten goods. But I'm glad to see I'm not the only young person to go through this, and we are definitely not rotten goods! Your video has given me hope that things will get better, but it really is hard to just wait on time to do the healing. Some days are rougher than others.
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You are very young. Get 37 years under your belt and have a neighbor 2 doors down try to take your husband, all the benefits from his job, leave you without any benefits, no health care, retirement, income, especially after giving up my career, etc. Bitter is all that is left. He did die, prior to the final divorce and I took all and she got nothing. I earned it.
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I am also a woman of faith, and God has gotten me through so much in my life. At this time I am going through my second (and FINAL) divorce. I am a Veteran, as is he, and I moved to NC to marry and be with him, and my sons...who are not his. It was a rough marriage from the beginning, especially in terms of how he never cared for or was kind to my boys, who are truly great kids with special needs. He brought me here, knowing I have no friends or family here, and now after almost 9 yrs of marriage, he left us last Friday, 7 May...Mother’s Day wked and the month of my birthday, wow! He seems determined to rush this, so I will not get any assets that I am entitled to. I am praying right now, at every moment. No matter how awful and lost and overwhelmed I feel inside, I have to stay strong in the Lord, especially for my teen sons. Thank you for this video. God bless.
That's so aweful & cruel what your husband did to you & your children. I do hope things are much better for you all today & that God delivered you all through this in victory. Can you please give an update? Christ ' many blessings to you & your children. ✨💖✨
Needed this today as I struggle going through divorce. Thank you.
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Thankyou for this video, I'm going through a divorce myself, I had to file for a divorce as my husband lost interest in trying and started cheating, but your video was so real and you didn't miss out on giving everyone out there in different circumstances the right advice accordingly to there situation, really appreciate the truth in your videos keep up the good work 👏
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Nice video. It’s been 2 years and I am still crushed. The pain comes and go.
So true. The angriness and hate is so CORROSIVE to YOURSELF. Im amazed how much its helped me towards my ex-wife. Its been 4 years for me almost. I still haven't dated which is embarrassing, and I don't even understand myself why I haven't wanted to but it has gotten alot better.
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Going through this now... my husband doesn’t want to try. I’m terrified to start my life over. Some days I feel like I can’t keep going but I’m trying to push through everyday. It’s just so painful.
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I came across your channel only recently, and I want to say, you're stronger than you think you are. I'm very proud of you. Thank you for making this video and all other videos.
Julie, I really appreciate this video.
I am going thru difficult times.
You are absolutely right about that! you can't control other people.
Anger only make it worse. I will keep that in mind.
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My grands was married for 60 years and my parents 48 . We stayed married for 22 years and together 25 . It’s scary but my children are grown now and they’ve had amazing examples of what a good marriage is . I tried to stick it out because it’s what I’ve seen growing up but I had a toxic marriage and even after everything I went though it’s still the hardest thing I’m going through in life . I walked away from everything. Thank God for my parents and my children and the kids . My kids are definitely angry with their father but I continue to tell them he’s the only father they have
I went through the same thing. Except we weren’t married. It was hard but God got me through it too. 2 1/2 years later it’s still a little difficult but I’m in a much better place emotionally! Everything you said I can relate 100%!
I’m filing for divorce. It’s a very toxic marriage. I’m shattered but I have no choice. I need to provide a peaceful environment for my son. I’m praying constantly for god to help me through this.
How are you now? I’m in a very similar situation and filed for divorce, due to a bad marriage as well. Did you find happiness again?
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I just watched your video. The part when you said, you can't change the other person, is totally true and describe so well my situation.
You have know idea how much I needed this!!! Right before this I was praying and asking God for some encouragement so I searched for videos and I stubbled upon yours 😍 Thank you so much girl!!!!!!
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I am completely devastated. My husband of almost 20 years (3/1/23) said for the second time he doesn’t want the marriage. It’s hard, my emotions are involuntary. I’m trying so hard to keep it together. I don’t want the divorce, but I cannot make someone stay with me. I don’t want anyone else.
We had a year long relationship over the phone and then moved in together for about 6 months and then I realized she could be too domineering and I wasn't a very good communicator. When I got angered by her,I'd just withdraw into a cocoon and when I did try to talk,she always found a way of making everything about herself. I couldn't put up with all that. Plus,knowing she had been pregnant for someone else when we were chatting over a distance ,changed how I saw her and even when we made love,I kept imagining she was doing the same thing with the other fellow. I just couldnt love her the same way I wanted. I'm 28 and now I feel that I may only ever find love well into my 30s.
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You are so sweet..I have been married for 25 years..That being said, both people have to want for the marriage to work..No marriage is perfect..I believe that my husband and I were meant to be..You either grow together or grow apart..Thank you for sharing..So happy for you and Josh..
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Divorce is the MOST painful thing to go through. I'm working on forgiving myself. I had the opportunity to save it and didn't. I'm just taking it one day at a time.
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My faith is weak I think that's my problem. I feel like my marriage is falling apart and I feel so lost and lonely. Thanks for sharing.
Same going with me right now. How are you doing by the way?
Hey, im in the brink of a divorce. I just want to say thank you of how much your video has helped me.
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I’m so glad you and Josh found each other. ❤️ You deserve the best! We all do!
Thank you and yes we all do deserve the best!! :-)
How do you know? If he wanted a divorce then that is a red flag because no man in his right mind would want a divorce . Man will lose there ass in divorce court .
Divorce is so hard on children. My twin boys have really suffered. They were 13 when we divorced. They are 25 now and the ramifications remain.
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Thank you so much for being open and honest. This truly has helped me get clarity and hope.
I needed this today. I was married for 21 years and told him I would move heaven and earth to salvage what we had and he didn’t want to. We have 2 girls together too. He ended up getting together with his best friend and my heart is still broken.
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My future ex is saying that I will never see my son again etc. he’s going to disappear because I’m not a good enough mom. But I’m good enough for our son when he wants to be with me. Etc. thank you for making this and being so open. My parents are dead so I’m in this alone.
Thanks for this video...going through a divorce after 13 years .. my story is just like yours, we had no kids and lived at my parents and he decided to leave... I felt like such a fool believing that he would always be there for me, since he always told me that.
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I went through a divorce after 20 years and it was very difficult. But when I met someone a year after, I thought I would be happy. We never married and he just chose a woman he was cheating with over me. Now over 65 years old, I'm alone again. I'm really struggling to deal with all the hurt. And hopeless for the future. (I've been disappointed for 7 years too)
you give me a way .how can can deal with my divorce pain .and how i can be normal like before.
The worst part is im not with my 2 year old daughter. My ex wife was with me 13 years and then was cheating on me and divorced me. It's been 8 months and i can say time has not helped me at all.
7.5 years together, married for 4. She told me 2 days ago that she's filing. Long story short, I pleaded with her to give us more time in therapy. But she's right. This is the best thing for both of us BUT my world is shattered. I LOVE her so deeply. I feel broken and can't get her smile out of my face but it is true that Love is not enough. You have to be completely compatible. I hope to God I'm able to move forward and grow to become a better person after this.
I wasn’t even looking for a video like this and I saw it come up in my feed..... total God thing. ❤️ needed to hear much of this
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Thanks for this video , going through a 8 year relationship breakup , with two kids , and no job due to covid 😕😭
Julie, even though my religious views aren't the same as yours, I completely agree with everything that you said in the video. I found myself just sitting here nodding along with what you were saying lol. Such great advice and I hope it helps some of your viewers out with the problems that they're going through 💜💙
Thank you so much and I am so glad to hear that! I hope my video helps everyone who watches it too! Have a great day and thank you for your support :-)