How Dating Apps Work In 2024
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Dating apps are meant to keep you from dating.
Using them has an affect of appearing to scratch the itch of doing something about your loneliness, that is in actual practice a worthless act that also diminishes your self-esteem and dignity.
The companies that make them also have a vested interest in your continued failure. If they worked, they wouldn't make money.
It's all about keeping you on the app
The game is rigged from the start
Real they have to make money somehow and someway
Dating apps aren't that bad especially for introverts as they don't have energy to socialize with a larger group. It gives them a good platform to meet like minded people.but I agree that it is biased towards good looks and pics
No picture is not everything the thing is it doesn't matter being beutiful or not nice or not. You need to be the type of the man girls want. Same as if I am searchimg a diamond but I only can find gold and even if the gold is beautiful it's still not going to work since I am only looking for diamond.
All I heard was we should make a dating app based on League rank.
copyright that shit right now because somebody's going to make it at some point.
@@Raptor_Ren Gamer instead of Tinder. There is also Gaymer.
I will be submitting my application for the team, boss. 😂
Lol😂
we already have third party access to all the data required, this could be reasonably doable
It just sounds like things are getting worse and worse. Dating apps are a broken system which hurts the individual and just makes the loneliness epidemic worse. This channel explains those things sure, but how do we actually solve this rather than just coping? How can we actually fix things in our society/culture?
Get off the dating apps and approach people in real life. Let society sort itself out while you deal with what you can
Just live life and let things happen organically… I think
I mean if you're getting all your information online, yeah. All algorithms look for your interaction with what you're being shown. All interaction is greater towards negative things because it's a survival response so you can remember the bad things more easily than good things so you can avoid the bad things after 1 interaction.
How the internet works basically hijacks that function of your brain, which is why it gets harder to focus on real life. Real life isn't as bad
It works for some people, if it doesnt for you then it means you gotta try elsewhere or be patient. Its unfortunate how common it is now but it doesnt mean its impossible elsewhere
The full video answers these questions. Just click on it, it’s right there on the screen. He’s only talked about dating tons of times and has multiple videos specifically about dating.
Stop using dating apps. Go outside. Have conversations. It’s that simple
Also, I think we all make a terrible mistake by judging performance on dating apps based on NUMBERS of matches/dates. Because most of us only need one person in the end. So, goal wise, it is much more advantageous to get 2-3 quality matches rather than 100 poor ones, because we have actually more chances to end up in a satisfying relationship in the first case.
Yeah, but unfortunately the matches are only first step in the process. After that, you still have to go on a date, and most women on dating apps are not interested in going on dates. I had about 20 matches in total in my app and I got 1 date out of those 20 matches.
It's also worth noting that women use them less than men. You have more competition than in more "natural" environment like, idk, some kind of knitting club. And obviously the kind of women who use those apps tend to care about your looks. That's why they use them
Solution: join a some kind of organisation where you can become friends with bunch of people. You might find a partner among them or through them. Because you spend a lot time with them they no longer see you through simply aesthetics but rather through your personality
Another important tipp - you're not competing against just other men. You're also competing against women's peace. If you can't bring anything good to their lives they'll more likely to stay single. Why get involved in a relationship when it only brings more mess to deal with?
I've never seen that described as competing against someone's peace, great way of putting it.
💯 You said it!
My recommendation would be joining a choir. Joint creativity activity and you have to work as a team in perilous situarions (think hanging bridge date, but it's just weekend performances). Next on the list: pottery classes, preferably where you build a wood firing kiln together. Always create together. It's THE social glue.
@@lupeters213Yes! Learning a language together is another great option.
Couldn't be explained any better
I actually had decent success with dating apps and I'm not an attractive person. That wall of text, helps. It helps when you're able to actually put down interests, hobbies, musical tastes, general views about things, and let whoever is reading get an idea as to who you are so they can decide as to whether or not you might get along.
Plus, I only attempted to contact women who also had a wall of text for me to go over so I could tell whether or not we'd get along.
And even if most didn't last past the initial conversation, sometimes they did, and those times were good. I dunno. I think the best chances will come from exploring and trying all avenues.
I think there's still some usefulness for apps if you go for niches. I recieve very few likes but those come from people I'm actually very interested in. Be it for humour, similar vibes... Things I had in my bio that actually reflect my personality, even if that makes me a weirdo for most. I ALSO had good pictures, though that came from starting to want to look nice to myself first, which was a whole other story. Still, apps are hard and they definitely kill your mental health if used carelessly...
@@agapitoliria Agreed. There's honestly so much about it, I need to write a book lol
But I see most things as chance, relationships being one of them, and while we can make barely anything a 100% guarantee we can do a lot to increase the chances of things happening, and all those things from the good pictures to the self improvement to trying dating apps and bars and clubs and hobby groups and literally everything else you can think of all increase those chances.
Basically just try everywhere you can lol The more exposure you have, the more people know you exist, and the more people you meet, the higher your chances will be of finding someone.
But it didn't work out long term did it
As a contrarian that makes terrible first impressions but becomes more likeable as people learn to understand me, my honest bio is a Disaster on dating apps. So it really depends.
Im glad theres at least one of these responses made it here, I was confused like Dr K was almost implying it wouldnt matter to have info on yourself but I know he probably wasnt. It can be interpreted as assurance or just feeding the bias that we shouldnt try which isnt true at all, the people who arent picky on looks are usually the best because theyll actually care about what you want vs what they are looking to get from a relationship. That being said idk if Id recommend dating apps lol, its a bit dicey even if its not impossible to get something from it.
And not enough people learn to play the game with dating apps. Poses, cleaning up, play to your intended audience. That is if you intend to use them to find a match.
Making a life for yourself, finding hobbies that you enjoy, and meeting people that are compatible through that. Figure out your goals, what you want, can't live without, can't live with, and what you are willing to compromise on.
This is something that (typically) straight men don't get -- the women they want, want a guy with ambitions, hobbies, and activities that improve themselves (listening to Dr K) and their lives. For the women you are looking for, a cool personality is not enough and honestly I think that's entirely reasonable. A relationship is a partnership -- what do you bring to the table besides a fun personality? Why should this woman spend her life or a portion of her life with you?
I feel I should preemptively say that my comment is made without malice or annoyance (I have no skin in the game, I have no interest in straight men for anything other than helping my friends who do date straight men). I'm not dissing anybody.
But that's the problem though. Dating apps are basically "how great are you at having your picture taken," which is about as helpful in figuring how attracted you would be as knowing their DOTA rank. Even in terms of physical appearance, I've heard plenty of stories of women thinking differently of a man as soon as they meet them in person. So if you're someone whose not great at taking selfies (i.e. a ton of guys) or don't have means of getting good pictures, you're at a disadvantage despite that you might be a better partner than those who are not.
@@quiethusky I don't disagree with you on that. I got lucky but that doesn't mean everyone will. Plus, I do take good photos. I was using dating apps purely for pleasure and found a partner, which is not the typical experience. I am not advocating using dating apps to find a partner but I do think people can help their chances of finding someone in general if they improve themselves and have goals.
You know what's hot? A guy that will learn Mandarin with you.
@@quiethusky most definitely, I agreed. There are some ways to improve picture taking abilities and some dating apps might be better than others, but I don't think dating apps are a great option for finding a good long-term match for the majority of people, especially the guys. I don't claim to have personal experience from the guy's perspective, but I have seen what is being spoken of.
@@Ty-no8hh very true! For the majority of straight men (of course talking generalization) most women are looking for competence. They want someone that has built a life for himself, that actually has a personality of his own and wants, desires, and goals beyond getting her (I know that I particularly hate being lied to/ manipulated by guys saying whatever they think I want to hear).
This is not only how it works in 2024, this is also how it worked 10 years ago :D. Personally I like reading profiles and see what that person is actually about, but many only link their IG these days.
Don't post my League rank to dating apps
dating apps are thrash, and the older you become the worst it gets
Reduce yourself to pic , whole social media
On one hand, I get what's being said here. On the other, the whole "nice guys don't get dates" is much older than any dating app.
It’s such bullshit though. Most guys in long term relationships only keep them because they are kind and actually good guys. Assholes may get dates but it won’t last. Trust me, I’ve been on both sides🤣🤣just be a kind and good man and you’ll find a good woman but don’t plant good seeds in bad soil
@TheGreatWasian_
Honestly, I'm both single and haven't been in the dating scene for a very long time... there's a number of reasons for this, but regardless, the result is the same; I'm pretty convinced that I'm going to die alone and I have found peace with this fact long ago.
That said, my point was more along the lines of Dr. K's statement is not pointing out a new format, as it existed when the internet was merely a fantasy...it's only changed format.
cathy o’neil wrote a book on the societal impact of imperfect algorithms. It’s called Weapons of Math Destruction
I wouldn't completely stop using dating apps, at least the free ones. It's a boost of encounter rate for meeting introverts or people who aren't local but are just a few cities away
True, but how many introverts have dating apps? And how many of them are successful? As an introwert I had a dating app for a week and it gave me anxiety, the notifications and chatting about nothing was too much 😂 I prefer meeting peeps in person even if at some point I get tired of interacting
Any you'd recommend?
If dating apps were ranked by League/Dota rating, I'd be still low on the list 😂
@@DecimusXP 😂😂😂
This what I’ve been saying. A lot of men don’t know how to take the best pictures of themselves, they don’t know about lighting and angles. I’ll see a ton of guys with poor quality pics and I bet they’re hardly getting swipes. The fact is-quality pictures means everything with this apps. It’s the first step!
Attractiveness is really relative though. There have been studies that someone who is smiling in their photos gets more matches, even if theyre less attractive by other measures. I think the "staging" matters a lot too. If you hug a dog or have a boat in the photo it doesn't matter how symmetrical your face is or w/e
What you said doesnt show attractiveness is relative, more so that having money makes you more attractive.
with Ai getting better and better, using dating apps will make things a lot harder for everyone.
So, in essence, the natural animal characteristic of "who looks more attractive?"
The "natural animal characteristic" is that men historically bring bring more to the table than just looks. Dating apps do not give room for that.
Appearance is the first filter we use to disqualify unsuitable mates. What's new?
Exactly!
It is………and it isn’t. Photos are one dimensional and seeing someone in the flesh you get a much fuller picture of them (pun intended). You get to see body language and check their “vibe”.
@@rejectionisprotection4448 yeah, but you ain't dating anyone with an ugly pic just to see if they have a great vibe, now are you?
It must be a fascinating subject to study for the psychology and psychiatry circles.
Dating apps select based on pictures because that's what everyone really wants as a primary way to filter people. There is a reason why every single dating app out there makes pictures so prominent in every profile. Datings apps are shitty because people are shitty, in a way society deserves this.
I wouldn't exactly call being attracted to attractive people "shitty." If there were 2 girls into you that you knew nothing about, but you found one much more attractive than the other, which would you pursue?
You're no better. None of us are. All of us have lust and desire. People typically call something shitty when it's worse than usual, but this IS the usual. Always has been.
The way to fix this seems to be to just prevent any photos on all dating apps, so you're truly judging someone based on their personality (or at least, how well they can reduce themselves to 300 characters). But that's unlikely.
We have too much freedom for our own good. Making such a change would be impeding on the app developers' freedom, and oh boy do we value freedom in the West.
@@khaledyasser8293I like the way you put it
@@khaledyasser8293if 2 women liked me and I knew nothing about them other than how they looked and that they liked me I would get to know them first before making a choice.
Basing who you choose to enter romantic relationships with based on purely physical attraction will inevitably lead to disaster. It’s much too shallow, there’s no deep connection to sustain the relationship through the difficult times. Also what is the point of a romantic relationship without a deep connection and understanding of each other? At that point you may as well be fucking a stranger. Yes sexual attraction to the other person is fundamental in a romantic relationship but so are other things like emotional connection and love.
Also also getting to know someone makes them more attractive to you.
wrong. okcupid and match used to work based on searching bios and filters first, then sorting pictures. tinder changed it to the “swipe” game. people didn’t ask for it!
@@plasmabat718 Of course. Who would you ask out first though? Who would you get to know first? Assume they’re both against you seeing multiple people at once.
That’s the situation with dating apps. If you have 10 matches, anyone would go after the one they deem most attractive first. And it’s only logical to do so.
I dunno man.. I felt the same way 15 years before dating apps existed.
Dr just called us ugly
isnt that just about priorities? I always read the texts. Dont really care about how they look, you cant tell who the person is by their looks.
I've been on dating apps for an embarrassing amount of time and nothing has ever come from it. Perhaps it's time to just delete them all and hope something comes naturally IRL, lol...
This man explains the simplest concepts like we didn't already know them....
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🥰…and he still looks hott.
I think grey hair can come and go sometimes. After I got divorced I got some, then the next year they were much fewer by the time I had learned how to manage stress
@@MezmerKaiser725 Yeah. I wonder why there are some older people that can keep most of their dark hair naturally?
And the most attractive people get flooded with messages which puts them off too
Poor attractive people 😢
Awh, that's so unfortunate for them 😢
Sweaty, don't worry they can get over it!
So is the any dating app i can shine with my skills playing ELC AMX from WOT?😀
This discounts the fact that humans use visual cues to select healthy and desirable mates. The apps aren't inventing the dynamic, they're simply maximizing it.
What I got out of this short: I'm hideous.
Physical attractiveness will help you do better anywhere. 🤷🏾♂️ No woman is dating a dude based on his rank in a video game. 😅
As someone who was never successful in bars etc but was much more successful on dating sites. I don’t fully agree. Tinder and the likes are based on looks but others, girls go for words more often. Also a fun tip if you want to make your profile more interesting and stand out or be funny, write your profile while drunk, edit it when you are sober
It’s just your play style isn’t the meta in dating apps
I actually read the bios and care about what they say.. not just the pictures.
I'm a guy and I agree. If your bio is blank or just says "idk" or "hey" I'm swiping left
Thanks!
Problem with this theory is that "nice guys finish last" is a proverb faaaaaar older than any dating app
In person attractiveness largely correlated to good photos, why is he coping so hard???
attractive people do significantly better in person as well
If you actually ask a girl on a date in the first three messages, usually she’ll be interested. In 2024 no one wants the pen pal type thing anymore. Save that for in person
Somebody please make a datingapp that showes your stats in Video games. PLEASE
Sounds to me like there'd be a market for a gaming-based dating site that makes money via merch rather than on how dates go, so it's not predatory like every other dating site.
people underestimate how much they can do to improve their attracriveness. They have arbitrary standards when there are attractive people of ALL body types and appearances. It is a mixture of appearance and confidence, healthiness, etc.
You gotta work for it though... I know I worked hard for my appearance!!!
If only I cared about dating!!! lol I would get a ton of DMs but dating just isn't a priority in my life at all.
Follow a natural interest. 90% of people on dating apps are not worth a second date. If someone geeked out over something they were creating they were cool to hang out with. Thats how i met my husband.
Now I just want a dating app for gamers where they schedule to play a game together
Idk why gamer dating apps aren't more common. It just makes sense
there’s also articles released that found that a decent chunk of women are not on the app to find a relationship but for an ego boost
@@jamesdorsey5503 yea the narcissistic ones that you shouldnt go for anyway. Men are just there to hook up or honestly its mainly scammers
and bots
im so glad i got out of dating before most modern dating began. (met her 17 years ago our 10 year anniversary is next month!) I would be so screwed taking a picture of myself then talking myself up on an app XD
No picture is not everything the thing is it doesn't matter being beutiful or not nice or not. You need to be the type of the man girls want. Same as if I am searchimg a diamond but I only can find gold and even if the gold is beautiful it's still not going to work since I am only looking for diamond.
My biggest complaint when i use dating apps (37 f ) is when men would not put effort into the text on the bio! Like yeah looks are great but i want to see personality! One person i resonded to bc he had a photo of obi wan and annikan stripping, hysterical and badly photoshopped.
Yes, looks are still probably the most important, specially on there, but i wont chat with someone that seems lacking of passion and personality. I also look for signs of self awarness and personal growth.
Granted, i stopped using apps bc i felt like it kept showing me the same type of person over and over again.
Dating apps always felt like a cattle show to me, for that exact reason. We're just looking at pictures for who's the prettiest.
Hold up Dr. K... I think you're cooking. Someone get a dating app based on the games you play asap xD
Dating apps are absolutely WORTHLESS! Don't waste your time! Even if you do end up going on dates with someone from there, chances are they are fucked up in the head and not a person that will be good for you! Good relationships happen organically
Pictures, Bio, First Message, Chat - that‘s the Prio.
And if we replace the hair in the picture by the Dr.'s glorious mane with that silver supervillain streak... 😻
its a message for all of you gamers - if you want to be good in MOBA you have to be meta slave. Same as dating, you have to know meta and be slave to it to date your OF crush
Never once used a dating app. I always thought the concept was way too stupid yet it became so popular 🤣
I don't really think this is very helpful. "Oh, here is why this thing doesn't work. Just do what people used to do. :) "
My guy. It's literally referred to as a crisis. The stuff people used to do is all but gone. Unless you're at work or have a reason to get out, people stay in. The last time a solitary stranger walked up and talked to me while I was eating somewhere was like 2016. And I don't look that different from then lol
Yes, people are probably more reserved than they used to be. You said that the last time someone walked up to you was in 2016, but when was the last time you walked up to someone for a chat? If you’re amongst a bunch of shy strangers then it’s really up to you to be the social one. I don’t doubt it’s harder, but what else can you do but the thing that isn’t working!
Why are you expecting strangers to walk up to you? Go join a social club or environment if you want social interaction.
How did you know I play mid in League?
...oh he was talking about the lane...
i may be a gamer, yea, but i wouldnt dare to try dating with a random game rank picture. I'm more than gaming n stuff. Like perhaps with everybody else, i have some sweet things that can happen if met irl in a kinda sunny day etc
Never used a dating app. Never will. Feels too sad
Dating apps arent making the matches though. The two involved parties are making the match. People are just too vain. Descriptions exists in dating apps but usually people dont want to spend their whole lives with a super cool successful person they arent actually physically attracted to, so they dont bother clicking on it or reading it.
Apps should start with a description of the person and then click to show an image or only show it if the two parties match, but even then people are just gonna match with everyone just to decline when they see the picture, making it a less time effective version of the old app
Guys really do be out here playing adc in a world of khazix and rengar mains 😔
I'm very decent at playing mid in lol, I will let you know
And now dating apps just charge you to even to just chat with them
Imagine dating apps where the only metric is your league rank 😂
I never have and never will use one of those. It seems like most cases are for casual sex, no dating, and I don't like casual sex, it seems like sex isn't an intimate and exclusive thing anymore
Forget Casual, it's time to go Ranked
There are decent people on dating apps, but it takes a lot of sifting. It took a year before I found someone who actually wanted to make a connection
@@smallbutdeadly931speedrunning
This gives me an app idea…
Imagine a dating app that takes your total trophies / achievements score as the main information in making online matches..... Man I would be swimmin in women....
What you don't say is that outside dating apps things are exactly the same
And so, we learn that we have to "select" and "look" for things whenever we're dating
I've been told all my life that I'm physically attractive. I still get zero matches on dating apps
I realized im ugly more than anything else, i regret downloading hinge lol
gotta disagree on that. if you are not super ugly and unkempt and your text is funny and your pictures got some personality you're gonna have a pretty good chance. if it's just a pic of you in front of your bathroom mirror and you just write what everyone else writes, yea too bad.
Hmm, probably part of this is what "doing better" is? I don't get a ton of matches as an unattractive wlw on the ace spectrum, but I still get more than I could actually talk to, and talk to more than I would want to actually date. And the ones I've actually been on dates with have had a lot in common with me, for better and worse. I'm not sure getting a ton of matches if everyone thought I was attractive would actually improve the pool or if it would just be overwhelming and provide more superficial people (which might be find if you're looking for hookups, but work against finding a meaningful connection).
(I also usually look at the text before the photos, so, not a typical user. But Hinge kinda encourages you to find something about the person you like besides just photos imo.)
(I would not say I do well on the apps but that's because I can't get past the first few dates, not because of the matches or the photos.)
Sure, but what is the alternative? Talking randomly with people is frowned upon these days. People have no sense of community, and if you approach some random girl you dont know thats considered socially inappropriate, so we are left with these gordfosaken dating apps as the only option
I recently read data was collected from all the major dating apps and what it showed was when it came to straight women and men, around 80% of women were only matching with around 2% of men. So yay 🥲🥳
That’s because there’s only 20% of women on the apps. The rest are bots and dormant accounts. Dating apps often hold back matches in order to get people to go for the premium account.
News flash - it doesn't mean that women are too picky, it just means that men aren't. As a women, in a room of men I can't imagine being attracted to even half of them, probably closer to 10% I would think. Men just go for it and match with many women to have more choices.
I had a friend that couldn't get matches meanwhile I'm just getting likes. So I pretended to be the same - now I get it.
Even attractive people don't get anything on dating apps,, I'm 6'5" I run and work out every day, and after years of getting maybe 1 match a month after spending hours a day on the app, I finally gave up
Don't give up! It took me a year of no matches whatsoever before I finally started talking with someone. I used Facebook Dating
Women looking for relationships won't look for them on Tinder. It's not that surprising that women who seek superficial sexual encounters are superficial in choosing their sexual partners.
lol imagine they showed my gaming rank I rather show my looks
The concept of a "nice guy" is seriously overrated. It appears when the self-proclaimed "nice guy" critisizes women for going for looks (which men do even more) and implies that his personality is somehow superior, which it usually isn't, since he's complaining that he's unpopular. Women are wrong and we somehow owe him attention. Very problematic. I've never heard an actual nice guy call himself that.
Solution: join a running club
Use a professional photographer.
They should really add rank to dating apps based on how many matches/response you get
I only date guys with Dating ELO >1600
I like mathematics. I'm also an alcoholic. Date me?
Simple, they dont.
Time to make an app that dates on your League ranks. I’ll first: bronze.
Yea guys, just change your face
is anyone even real on dating apps anymore? AI seems to have taken over and scammers everywhere.
It's all so superficial
I had a dog on my profile. My partner wanted to meet her.
If you have a pet, ALWAYS include them in your profile. It's just extra points for animal lovers
If you are a man, loose some weight, work out, lift weights, you will look better and get more matches. E=Mc2
I assume dating apps are for losers. Biased assumption. I just get the feeling this is for a different crowd.
Maybe but ???
Resorting to dating apps when you're not finding romantic connections is like resorting to drugs when your life is in turmoil imo.
It is a bit desperate. Most people should learn to be ok with being alone.
Dating apps are part of modern times, it's not desperate it's a tool for some. I don't know what is wrong with someone using everything at their disposal because they simply want to find a good relationship.
Wrong. Face is everything
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This completely ignores the massive gender difference in outcome. Men are significantly more balanced in who they choose on dating apps. The data is there for everyone to see. Men give even below average women far more chances on dating apps than women give below-average or average men. It’s an enormous difference in who gets swiped right on between men and women. Who men swipe on is very evenly spread between the women on there.
The best looking men get exponentially (at least one order of magnitude, literally) more matches than the average dude, while all but the least physically attractive women have some matches.
It seems to be much more about physical attraction for women. They are way more selective in who they swipe on, AND get way more matches.
(And yes, there are more men than women on Tinder, but it’s only 2:1. Not like 10:1)
And let's not forget the biological imperative of pickers vs pickees as well. We are so quick to distance ourselves from our great ape cousins. We are barely any "better" than them.
I would note that there's also data that a ton of men on dating apps don't fill out the profile and also don't even have a photo. This helps explain some of the selectivity of women on dating apps - if women reject 25-80% (depends on site/app) of all possible matches due to this issue, then the data looks lopsided.
Men might swipe on basically every woman - BUT that doesn't mean they are actually interested in meeting them / having a relationship instead of casual sex (if that's what the woman wants). Women select by swiping while men select after matching. Swiping is more honest, at least, compared to the approach of wasting people's time by trying to match every person. What you call "giving a chance" means too often wasting the time of a woman they are actually not interested in (or who they only want for sex).
"men give average woman a chance" meaning spamming them with unsolicited *** pic or other vulgar messages. I'd rather not get that 'chance'.
Dr. K,
What's your take on encouraging people to put their MBTI or Emmegram types in their dating profile or social media bios? Since matching with someone is a an exhaustive process of assessing/prospecting with compatability. Just to waste time realizing personality types don't mesh after endless texts back and forth.
Overall, the 8 cognitive functions are pseudoscience but are useful in getting a general understanding of someone.
I hate the dating apps, cause it's wow. You are attractive. But man, your personality is not for me. Next.
As an ENFJ, dating and connecting behind a screen doesn't work for me.
why are you explaining this basic thing