I’m five minutes into your video and I want to make it clear: never once have I thought “pick a better man” or “why didn’t you just leave?” It makes me sick that there are people who blame the survivors and excuse the perpetrators. I’m here, I hear you, I’m sending you all the love. If anyone disagrees with me, respectfully shut up.
agreed. I had to pause the video and was going to say the same thing. You can't blame yourself for bad people in the world. It sucks that they are there, but that reality. It's not the fault of the victim for them to find themselves in the situation. Alot of the time , we love bombed and think things will be different or the person is different. unfortunately, people like these never change and, in turn, change us into a shell of a person.
Yeah I hate people who say that sh!t. Pick a better man? Be a better man! A lot of those dudes don't show their true colors until well into the relationship.
Everything is easier said than done…….I used to say “I would never stay” and fast forward I did end staying when I was in the same situation, actually twice it happened to me
I’m a high risk DV social worker and it’s my job to safety plan with victims and connect them with proper resources. I’m sorry that you had that experience as you navigated this horrific experience through the criminal justice system. I am so proud of you and how you’ve remained resilient. Thank you for your voice. There are many women out there that don’t have the opportunity to be seen and heard. 💜
It should NEVER be ‘pick better partners’-- where is the outpouring of people saying ‘Men, BE better partners- don’t abuse women.’ Where is their accountability???
Your dad was with you, giving you the strength to escape. He'd be so proud of you and what you've overcome. One day you'll have created your own safe place, your own internal walls you've had to build will come down and you will allow all the love and light in. Your strength to share your story to help others is nothing short of inspiring. Keep one foot going in front of the other, one day at a time sweet angel. One day at a time. 🤍🤍🤍
Former family magistrate here - People who don’t sign are control freaks unaware of how law works. You don’t NEED him to sign anything. It merely makes it faster. You can get a divorce whether he cooperates or not so don’t fret. Your lawyer will know what to do
It is so messed up that in 2024 a man can try to kill his wife and all he gets it’s a couple of months in jail waiting for trial. Is that all a woman’s life is worth? You can bet that if he tried to kill a man, he’d be in jail. I am so sorry.
Just found your channel. Whew! DV survivor here. I made it through the process, had kids, too, with the help of friends and family. In my area, there are DV support groups now. There weren't any back when I went through it. My advice...empower yourself...take a self defense class, have ways to protect yourself, have a "safe room", have an extra phone, and make alternate plans like a safe house to go to if you need it. My neighbors were great and watched out for me for years.
Commenting to help the algorithm. Also, I think the idea of building a support community outside of the legal system (like social work for DV survivors) is a fantastic idea
This is heartbreaking. What’s even more heartbreaking is all the women in the comments like “oh, this happened to me too” it’s way too common. KEEP TELLING YOUR STORY. WE LOVE YOU. ❤
The granularity of the break down of the plea terms makes me physically ill. I have been in this situation. It was attempted murder. Institutions fail women.
Mallory, please start a go fund me so we can donate. Thank you for sharing this. Please forgive yourself. Cycles of abuse are difficult to break. You did nothing wrong. He's a monster and you deserve so much better in life than this.
Anyone saying "choose better men".. Have they heard of liars? Love bombing? Victim blaming sucks. Even people who weren't abused as children have fallen victim to abusers.
Hi Mallory, I would like to share a prayer with you. Almighty God, we pray for all victims of abuse. We ask you to surround them with Your care and protect them by Your loving might and permit them to enjoy health and healing, wholeness and strength, calmness and peace and love. Most of all, we pray that they feel Your presence and be confident in You. In Jesus’ name. Amen. - big hugs to you and remember you are never alone ♥
Please continue to be careful. Too many of us have learned the hard way that a protective order is just a piece of paper. I would highly suggest an alarm system and cameras because the multiple times that my protection order was violated, my ex could not be arrested because it was my word against his. Not being able to prove the violations made him more arrogant & culminated in him being able to burn down my home in the middle of the night knowing my child was asleep inside (she is an amazing, strong, loving 31 yo woman now). Domestic violence laws are in the dark ages still and heavily favor the abusers rights. My heart breaks just thinking of all the men and women who were not lucky enough to walk away.
I am so sorry to hear about what you have gone through, Mallory. I have watched you for years and did not know about the abuse as a child. You have been through so much. You are stronger than you think. You are so brave for testifying against him in court. His actions are not your fault. People are so disgusting to victim blame. Sending you love. Give yourself some grace.
I can’t believe he got out after only a month and a half in jail especially since he had malicious intent. That makes me so angry. The system is so broken.
Can i just say I love the women in you comment section 💕. The amount of amazing women who are so supportive, loving and compassionate makes me so proud to be a woman . We are stronger together 💞♀️💖
I have never commented on YT before and this is the second time I have seen you through the logarithm. Both videos are your last two and I can't tell you how broken my heart is, even though I don't know you. At the same time, I am so impressed by you! I have a lot of respect for you for sharing this and I am so sure that you are helping others with it! But you are first in line! I would love to invite you to Germany... there are women's shelters here, treatments aimed at dealing with domestic violence and air to breathe! I don't know why, I have never had to experience such abuse, but I wish you all the strength and every success in dealing with it. And I hope that you experience true and unconditional love at some point. From the bottom of my Heart 🫶🏻 You are a survivor! a fighter!
They look for women with huge hearts who are sweet, and generous. They manipulate her and make her believe she’s found her Prince Charming and then it’s like a switch flips once he has her, and holy shit, he turns into the devil. I’m so sick of these Neanderthals! Mother’s of sons need to raise them to respect women, be kind to women, and look at women as their equal.
You are worthy ❤❤❤. I lived your nightmare as a child & adult. I became a truck driver and disappeared for 10 yrs from all people i knew. I found myself. I met my best friend and now we are married ( I was 36 and finally worthy of happiness). Sending anyone who needs to hear this: YOU ARE WORTHY 💕💕💕!
I think people fail to realize that these people don't start like this. They start nice and kind and likeable and wait till everyone in your life thinks they are great so when they abuse you they can convince everyone your the problem. Then they have the power of everyone else turning against you too. Its evil. My ex convinced the cops he was a good guy by talking nice and calm. Just could change personality in the snap of a finger to keep up face. So scary. I use to have to post on fb and tell people if I disappear he did it. Dont let him have my baby. 😢
It is evil. I’ve had people from the courtroom reach out to me telling me they felt evil when he walked in… I am so sorry you had to go through the same thing❤️
That's what happened to me. You can't know at the begining that you are seeing mentally sick person. Until it's too late. It is not over me yet. This nightmare had continued over two years after break up. Police just wait something "serious" happend, then they can do something. Stalking etc. is a crime here and max. two years prison. Waiting for that.. I pray for you Mallory, that everything goes well and you can get out of that fear and you can have a happy life❤
It always pisses me off when people say, "You need to pick better partners." No, these Mf'ers need to stop flipping the script. I, too, have a narcissistic mother, and unfortunately, because of my health and financial issues, I live with her. I promise you are not alone, I know it feels like it. I'm sending so much love your way. And anyone going through it too.❤
Oh Mal I cried along with you watching this, my heart is broken for you for all you've been put through 🫂 I'm so proud of you and your bravery. Its easy for people who have never lived these traumas to victim blame and pick fault in your choices, but the only people to blame are abusers. Sending so much love your way 🤍
My heart broke with the telling of your story. I have never been through anything close to what you have, but there are so many victims of all kinds of abuse. I think you have such a wonderful idea of a group of people to support those in trauma, even if it is grocery shopping or taking them out for a coffee to help normalize their life again. You hit on something you would have such passion for and a platform to reach out and do it. BUT, you do what you need to to heal yourself first. I have daughters your age and wish I could tuck you under my momma wing - so I will send hugs virtually - you are a strong brave beautiful soul - your dad would be proud of you, and I know he is loving you from above,
Thank you for being vulnerable enough to share your story! Your words may save a life or a few. Im so sorry you went through this, but Im so happy you are here still. Sending you much love and a giant hug. ❤
Absolutely bawling my eyes out over this. I’ve been following you for years and I need you to know that this community is here for you and sending you all the healing energy.
Hello beautiful! This is my first time watching your videos, and I want to tell you that I’m truly inspired by your strength. I too went through the same thing with my husband of 9 years, and I have trial in August. I never in a million years thought my husband would do what he did to me, and I went through the same thing with my first husband who almost killed me, so you’re correct about finding the same toxic men. I’m so glad you’re ok, and I know you will get through this, because from the little I’ve seen, I can see how much of a fighter you are, and after everything you have gone through, you will prevail & find your happiness & safety again ♥️ I too have wanted to speak to other victims about my story in hopes it will save lives and help others find the strength to get out, but I don’t even know where to begin. I’m keeping you in my heart & prayers and I know we don’t know one another, but I’m here if you ever need someone to listen that knows exactly what you’re going through. Much love 💕
You don't ever need to justify ending up in an abusive relationship; it's SO easy to victim blame until you find yourself in a toxic relationship. I wish it was as easy as just walking away; if only people knew how much harder and more complicated it is than that. I am so glad you're ok
Not for a second did I think "pick better men". Having toxic parents and bad life experiences make you vulnerable, and bad men know how to choose vulnerable victims. It is entirely purposeful from them, and never ever the victim's fault - it was never your fault. I hope you're healing 💖.
Ok, I’m a new subscriber, but I just want to say I love you so much and I wish I could hug you, my heart is with you right now. Please please don’t stop talking about your story, this isn’t “informal” this is exactly how it’s supposed to be. I’m honored to be here with you in this time of our lives. I can see you have so many wonderful friends here subscribed and follow you, we are here with you all the way! 🙌💝
Sending so much love to you, Mallory. "Pick better men" is not at all what I was thinking while hearing this story. These boys need to learn to be men and not batter women. You are not in any way at fault for this, you don't deserve it, and you are worthy.
I was close to your situation just three years ago. It didn’t get as far as yours but it was getting close. I’m so happy to know you made it out ❤ take all the time you need to heal. You’re coming out of this so much stronger than you were before and I know everyone is proud of you for that.
The thing about abusers is that they are really good chameleons. They prey on good people and the break them down. You are a good soul and thought you found a partner. That’s what they do. I almost died at the hands of someone just like that. You will survive and you will prevail. You are strong and you have a whole community behind you. Big hugs, and lots of love to you!
Having a mother with toxic behaviours is like grief. Absolute grief. Make sure you take your time to deal with it x & I'm sorry to hear what happened x
The bailiff is a literal angel 😇 protect him at all cost ❤ but seriously, I’m glad you’re okay and that had to be the most traumatic and terrifying experience. I’m so sorry!!
You really shouldn’t be in any home if he knows the address. You need to max out whatever credit cards u need to and just disappear. List the house with a realtor and explain the situation, I think there are handyman groups that can help and get things fixed for the sale. You need to get out of there and tell no one where you are. Keep moving. Take this very seriously. Your safety is all that matters. Go to a woman’s shelter, whatever it takes. I don’t feel like you are safe where you are. There are groups that already do what you describe. Call for help. I think you need to take this much more seriously. Please protect yourself. Hugs and love.
Mallory, I've never commented before and have followed you for years now. This morning out of nowhere... you crossed my mind, jumped on here to watch this video. Im a total stranger. However, you are covered in prayers. You have a calling my friend. We all are rooting for you!!
I’m sure you don’t remember me , I met you once through Nyky . I have been in your position in 2019 my husband at the time tried to choke me to death and punched me in the face . I survived and had to rebuild my life with my 3 small young children . It was hard but you got this . I also have no family either . If you ever need anything feel free to reach out to me . I stand with you ❤
Oh girl. I'm so sorry that you went through that. ❤ You should be so proud of yourself for getting away and out of that situation. Also, if anyone says you should pick a better man, screw them! You're not the problem, those men are! Why do people blame women in these situations? It is not your fault. PERIOD. You will come through this stronger, I believe in you❤
Mallory, this breaks my heart that you had to go through this. Sending you all my love and if there’s anything we can do as a community to help support you during this time, please let us know. ❤❤❤ we got your back.
Your an amazing survivor of perpetual abuse. Continue to drive into your therapy and healing. Stolls are everywhere dont pay them no mind. May the Lord cover you in this time. Surround your self with people of light and love.
You are brave. You are strong. You are loved. You are missed when you are gone. Thank you for sharing your story. You are worthy of all the goodness in this world. We love you!!! ❤
Indoor alarms and indoor videos, RING cameras outdoors and in backyard. Give a friend your phone passcode and VM passcode. Don't just have it fingerprint or facial recognition. If phone is ever left behind, someone needs to access it ASAP who is physically close to you.
Girl, I’m so so sorry you had to go through that! I’m amazed by your strength… I wish I could just come over and hug you long and strong to give you some positive energy back. You’re on your path to healing and freedom, hold on to that strength, keep going, one day at a time. You’re beautiful in and out and we’ll support you however we can. Lots of love! ❤️
I’m sorry you’ve been through this terrifying experience by yourself! You are stronger than you probably feel! There’s a light inside you and it’s fighting alongside you to make the life you really deserve! You deserve all love and support and happiness ❤. Be well! Keep speaking out….you are not alone 🙏🏻
I’m so glad you survived Mallory. My heart goes out to you. So many of us have been through similar situations and we are lucky to be alive, and have another chance after everything they tried to take. Stay safe
Let me add to my previous comment... By you speaking out, you're helping others to be brave and reach out for help. 🙏💜PLEASE move to a new and safe location.) I love you.
People have got to start understanding children don’t cut off parents easily. The “you only have 1 mother” comments are ridiculous. Mothers do better. You don’t have to be perfect but you do need to be loving to your damn kids. As for “picking better men” that’s not on you either. When you’ve been in survival mode your whole life (I understand because I have been myself) we don’t see people the way undamaged people do. I’ve only realized this myself. We don’t realize what “normal” is. No amount of therapy can help that. It’s ingrained in us. I was an abused child. I became used to people I love hurting me mentally, physically, and emotionally.
Mercy sakes my sweet girl! I don’t understand why you are going through all this crap but God has his hand on you. He is using you to be an advocate for others. You continue to stay strong and courageous! I am praying for you. ❤🙏🙌🏻.
Girl, absolutely no fucking person chooses this abuse-no one chooses to be hurt or scared-you, miss ma’am, are not responsible for this man’s heinous crimes-I don’t give a fuck, nothing you did, no lack of judgment or poor judgement or anything you did or didn’t do resulted in this harm-he is responsible & you entered into a relationship in good faith, never imagining or assuming such a choice could kill you. And no, a partner is not a reflection of what you think of yourself. Sending big love your way❤️🫶🏼❤️
Mal, I am shaking with rage. But that is not a story of you making bad choices. That is a story of fucking survival. He messed with the wrong one. He had no idea you are as strong as you are. Does he know where you live? Are you safe? I hate that your support system is so small. I know you have some friends that check in on you. I was curious how the Mom thing was going when I saw some content with her in it. I’m sorry she blew it. You deserve so much better and I believe wholeheartedly that better is coming. The suffering you’ve endured in your life will not be for nothing. I don’t know if there’s ever any business you’ll have in Houston, but if I can handle anything locally so that you don’t have to be here, I’m happy to. Ooo girl. If I meet him in a dark H-Town alley. 🤬
I’ll be sure to pray for sweetheart. I was a victim of domestic abuse for 11 years and my girls witnessed some of it. Theres a special place in hell for animals like this. Please be careful honey. 😢
God bless that bailiff. There are good people out there, despite the horrible things you have endured. You deserve so much better. Sending you strength on your healing journey.
Girl please stay on the Internet 🙏. You are helping so many people fr. I am following you with all notifications on because you are real about the good and bad in your life. Those people need to focus on themselves and run their own life! Your story is so familiar like way too familiar if you know what I mean. Love you girl,❤️ please stay safe ❤️❤️❤️.
I’m so proud of you for getting out and recognizing what your next steps need to be so you can get to a happy and healthy place. It isn’t easy to break the cycle, and well-adjusted people don’t go around telling victims to make better choices. You can do this, Mal. You survived, you’re here, and you can do this. 💜
It still confuses me how our abusers get to have a fresh start unscathed and we’re dropped like an animal at a shelter with no resources and expected to go back to life with all this added fear and stress with no help.
you poor girl i am so so sorry this happened to you, this is horrible to hear, you deserve so much better!!! im so glad you are still here and i hope this will all be over soon. i hope you have good friends around you who can support you. please take good care of yourelf!!
I have never and will never think for a second that you should just pick a better partner. It’s disgusting that anyone thinks that’s an okay thing to say. This is NOT your fault. I’m in tears listening to your story and am just so glad that you made it out of the situation. You are supported, believed, and loved. You are not alone and we are all here for you. Sending you all the love in the world 💗💗
Thank you for sharing your story and thank God you got away! Too many people don’t. Sending love and positivity! 💖 Never commented on here, but your story hit me personally.
I hope you’re strong enough to not “give him another chance.” Because you will be killed. I couldn’t get through to someone once before, and that made the funeral so much more painful.
He tried to kill you! He should be put away for years! Unbelievable! I'm so sorry you had to experience such a wicked person. Wishing you a safe wonderful life from now on 🧡
This. Is. Not. Your. Fault. Fuck any and everyone who blames any of this on you. I weep with you my friend. I’m only partway through and I’m wrecked for you. You don’t deserve this. Like I said on Instagram…this world doesn’t deserve you. You are a gift. I’m glad you are safe. Please take care of yourself. You deserve safety and happiness and peace.
Hey, im not a member, but i can see that you posted that you were making this video members only -- but i can still see it. Just letting you know, since you obviously wanted to keep this a little more intimate with your membership. Im a survivor also, and i didnt have a support system either (moms a diagnosed narcissist), so your message resonates so hard for me. 🫂 setting boundaries with her changed my life. I hope so much that you're doing a little more okay today than you were last week... sometimes thats all we can aim for.
Also, be kind to yourself. Being raised by a narcissist sets us up to be exponentially easier for others to latch onto and victimize. It is SO. HARD. to break through that brainwashing, but you can do it. I believe in you.
Oh Mallory… I am SO so sorry to hear you went through this 😞 I’ve been there and it’s beyond angering to hear people say “why didn’t you just leave???” Abusers are SMART and know how to manipulate and emotionally abuse first so you feel it’s you and not them. It’s not easy to just leave also when your life is in danger Please stay hidden from him in any way possible and heal ❤ Sending you the biggest hugs and all the love. Xoxoxoxo
It’s a yak snack. Once it gets really chewed down, throw it in the microwave for about 10 sec or so and it turns into a “cheese puff”. Two snacks in one. I can absolutely relate to your trauma. When you have no idea what a healthy relationship is, and you have no personal agency because of how you were raised, “choosing” the right one is near impossible. Be well Sister.
Sometimes RUclips or a channel you are currently subscribed to recommends a video to you that makes you really appreciate the power and possibilities of social media. That is what has happened here for me. I genuinely and wholeheartedly hope that you are able to heal from what you went through. I believe a door is opening for you that will far exceed what you had in mind and hoped for! Sending you love from small town Louisiana 💞
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I went through something very similar 20 years ago, but in my case my abuser committed suicide. The aftermath of my situation was an extremely difficult time. Even the ability to concentrate seemed like too much at the start - precisely because of the things you mentioned, about being expected to navigate the mess you're left with, not feeling certain about almost everything, and really needing help. A tremendous burden could be lifted if there was someone or something that could help in guiding victims of interpersonal violence in taking the necessary steps to recover their life (and sanity). So, I love your idea of creating a social service with that framework in mind! I believe a LOT of people would benefit from that. Wishing you peace and well-deserved moments of joy in your future. 💕
Please, Go into hiding - do not disclose where you are living - take a self defense course - get protection for yourself and have an instructor teach you how to use/handle. Please stay safe!!!
Yes! 💯 This is very serious and terrifying and I agree with everything you said. I am very scared for her. I really want to set up a network of women to come together to provide protection for women going through abuse. I'm sure I'm not the first to think of it. And it might even exist, I just don't know if any besides at a women's shelter maybe? I just know how terrifying it is to be alone in a situation like this. No one should have to do this alone.
@@The_green_zebra Yes, Women's Shelters do offer Shelter in this situation BUT we (the Women) can still be found by the Assailant. An "underground" system is the best - established by Women for Women and their Children in a Fleeing Situation.
And also there are many situations where a shelter can't really help. What are you going to do if you have more than one pet? I just think there are so many women all over the world who have either gone through it or are currently going through it that need help but also can help at different stages. And women who have gone through it know and understand the difficulties of life after abuse. Women helping women is the way to go. I have ADHD so my thoughts are all coming out at once and I'm rambling lol. But I appreciate you and your comment ❤️😊
I’m so sorry this happened, Mallory. I have a friend who suffered abuse while in the passenger seat multiple times. She always has to drive now. The PTSD is unreal and I hope you heal. Eff the criticism. Please make the content YOU want to make. When creators and artists enjoy what they are doing, it comes through. ❤
Honestly, I would prefer just straightforward discussion all the time. Don’t feel like you have to put on makeup or do anything else to entertain us. You can just talk. We’re here because we like you and care about you. ❤
Oh Mallory, I’m so sorry you have been through this dv. I’m old enough to be your Mother, and if someone did this to my daughter, they’d be in the hospital without a clue of how they got there. I’ve been in two abusive relationships and I know how you feel, one was plotting my murder. I got out as quick as I could. You are a very strong woman and I know you will heal from all this trauma and pain. I admire your courage and strength. We are all here for you Mallory, we support you. I’m praying for you. Take care honey, love you ✝️🛐🙏🏻❤️
I got chills when you were describing the program/resources you were wanting to create for those attempting to put their lives back together. That might be it babygirl. We all have a deeper purpose than the cards we've been delt, and thinking of the lives you could change 🙏🏽 Sending more hugs 🤗❤ You truly are an inspiration Mal.
“It’s a new day.” “It’s a new day.” “It’s a NEW DAY!” I am just at a loss of words for what has happened to you. You are so incredibly strong and brave to have endured all that you have, persevered through the case, and want to advocate for other victims. This community loves you and I hope you know how worthy of love and happiness you are! Keep healing and give yourself grace. You are such a beautiful soul and I know there are such incredible things to come for you, Mallory, because it’s a new day! ❤
First and foremost, your strength and determination to make it through this difficult time in your life is an inspiration to say many women going through the same thing but unsure how to get out of the situation, I’m so proud of you! I continue to pray for you and believe that you will get through this and we will all be here to support you. I love the fact that you want to start an advocacy movement for others and help support them and give them hope and encouragement to get through the tough times in domestic relationships. Love you girlie! ❤❤❤
I am so sorry this happened to you. I love that you are thinking of turning this into an “advocacy project” to help others in your position. As someone in a “security related” job, I think including some sort of home surveillance recommendations would be helpful too. Having a person come to your home and tell you where cameras and lightning could be added to capture things on camera.
I’m five minutes into your video and I want to make it clear: never once have I thought “pick a better man” or “why didn’t you just leave?” It makes me sick that there are people who blame the survivors and excuse the perpetrators. I’m here, I hear you, I’m sending you all the love. If anyone disagrees with me, respectfully shut up.
THIS!! ALL of this! ♥️
AGREED, with my whole chest.
agreed. I had to pause the video and was going to say the same thing. You can't blame yourself for bad people in the world. It sucks that they are there, but that reality. It's not the fault of the victim for them to find themselves in the situation. Alot of the time , we love bombed and think things will be different or the person is different. unfortunately, people like these never change and, in turn, change us into a shell of a person.
Yeah I hate people who say that sh!t. Pick a better man? Be a better man! A lot of those dudes don't show their true colors until well into the relationship.
Everything is easier said than done…….I used to say “I would never stay” and fast forward I did end staying when I was in the same situation, actually twice it happened to me
To the people telling her to ”pick better men”, how about telling the men to stop being abusive.
AMEN!
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Preach!
I’m a high risk DV social worker and it’s my job to safety plan with victims and connect them with proper resources.
I’m sorry that you had that experience as you navigated this horrific experience through the criminal justice system.
I am so proud of you and how you’ve remained resilient.
Thank you for your voice. There are many women out there that don’t have the opportunity to be seen and heard.
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Which state are you in?
I’m in Texas
It should NEVER be ‘pick better partners’-- where is the outpouring of people saying ‘Men, BE better partners- don’t abuse women.’ Where is their accountability???
You gotta get some protection!! Alarms on all doors, windows, doors, like everything! And cameras!!
Your dad was with you, giving you the strength to escape. He'd be so proud of you and what you've overcome.
One day you'll have created your own safe place, your own internal walls you've had to build will come down and you will allow all the love and light in.
Your strength to share your story to help others is nothing short of inspiring. Keep one foot going in front of the other, one day at a time sweet angel. One day at a time.
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Former family magistrate here - People who don’t sign are control freaks unaware of how law works. You don’t NEED him to sign anything. It merely makes it faster. You can get a divorce whether he cooperates or not so don’t fret. Your lawyer will know what to do
Correct. You can still get a divorce, it just may take a bit longer. Hang in there, sweetie
It is so messed up that in 2024 a man can try to kill his wife and all he gets it’s a couple of months in jail waiting for trial. Is that all a woman’s life is worth? You can bet that if he tried to kill a man, he’d be in jail. I am so sorry.
@@loril1121 It’s surreal how they just get to walk
Just found your channel. Whew! DV survivor here. I made it through the process, had kids, too, with the help of friends and family. In my area, there are DV support groups now. There weren't any back when I went through it. My advice...empower yourself...take a self defense class, have ways to protect yourself, have a "safe room", have an extra phone, and make alternate plans like a safe house to go to if you need it. My neighbors were great and watched out for me for years.
You are going through so much. Your community is here for you to support you.
Commenting to help the algorithm.
Also, I think the idea of building a support community outside of the legal system (like social work for DV survivors) is a fantastic idea
This is heartbreaking. What’s even more heartbreaking is all the women in the comments like “oh, this happened to me too” it’s way too common. KEEP TELLING YOUR STORY. WE LOVE YOU. ❤
The granularity of the break down of the plea terms makes me physically ill. I have been in this situation. It was attempted murder. Institutions fail women.
@@anastasiabeaverhausen5467 Absolutely. I am hoping she gets enough donations to move so he doesn’t know where she is! That is my wish!
Mallory, please start a go fund me so we can donate. Thank you for sharing this. Please forgive yourself. Cycles of abuse are difficult to break. You did nothing wrong. He's a monster and you deserve so much better in life than this.
I will gladly donate
I will donate as well. ❤
Oh honey, I’m so sorry you went through this. Healing is a process. Sharing this will help so many other women, you have no idea. God bless you💖
Anyone saying "choose better men".. Have they heard of liars? Love bombing? Victim blaming sucks. Even people who weren't abused as children have fallen victim to abusers.
Hi Mallory, I would like to share a prayer with you. Almighty God, we pray for all victims of abuse. We ask you to surround them with Your care and protect them by Your loving might and permit them to enjoy health and healing, wholeness and strength, calmness and peace and love. Most of all, we pray that they feel Your presence and be confident in You. In Jesus’ name. Amen. - big hugs to you and remember you are never alone ♥
Please continue to be careful. Too many of us have learned the hard way that a protective order is just a piece of paper. I would highly suggest an alarm system and cameras because the multiple times that my protection order was violated, my ex could not be arrested because it was my word against his. Not being able to prove the violations made him more arrogant & culminated in him being able to burn down my home in the middle of the night knowing my child was asleep inside (she is an amazing, strong, loving 31 yo woman now). Domestic violence laws are in the dark ages still and heavily favor the abusers rights. My heart breaks just thinking of all the men and women who were not lucky enough to walk away.
I am so sorry to hear about what you have gone through, Mallory. I have watched you for years and did not know about the abuse as a child. You have been through so much. You are stronger than you think. You are so brave for testifying against him in court. His actions are not your fault. People are so disgusting to victim blame. Sending you love. Give yourself some grace.
I can’t believe he got out after only a month and a half in jail especially since he had malicious intent. That makes me so angry. The system is so broken.
Makes me scared for her and any other women he dates or is around. He obviously has some real issues.
Can i just say I love the women in you comment section 💕. The amount of amazing women who are so supportive, loving and compassionate makes me so proud to be a woman . We are stronger together 💞♀️💖
YESSS!!! I love you all so much!
@@ImMalloryBrooke We all love you too girlie 💞
I have never commented on YT before and this is the second time I have seen you through the logarithm. Both videos are your last two and I can't tell you how broken my heart is, even though I don't know you. At the same time, I am so impressed by you! I have a lot of respect for you for sharing this and I am so sure that you are helping others with it! But you are first in line! I would love to invite you to Germany... there are women's shelters here, treatments aimed at dealing with domestic violence and air to breathe! I don't know why, I have never had to experience such abuse, but I wish you all the strength and every success in dealing with it. And I hope that you experience true and unconditional love at some point.
From the bottom of my Heart 🫶🏻 You are a survivor! a fighter!
Cleanse your space, stay strong. I'm so sorry you went through that. You're so brave to share your story. Sending good vibes and hugs 🫂
You don't pick them, they pick you. They like to get married quick, the love bombing, they look for women in a tough place
They look for women with huge hearts who are sweet, and generous. They manipulate her and make her believe she’s found her Prince Charming and then it’s like a switch flips once he has her, and holy shit, he turns into the devil. I’m so sick of these Neanderthals! Mother’s of sons need to raise them to respect women, be kind to women, and look at women as their equal.
You are worthy ❤❤❤. I lived your nightmare as a child & adult. I became a truck driver and disappeared for 10 yrs from all people i knew. I found myself. I met my best friend and now we are married ( I was 36 and finally worthy of happiness). Sending anyone who needs to hear this: YOU ARE WORTHY 💕💕💕!
I'm so sorry this happened to you Mallory! ❣ You are a survivor!❣ You deserve better!!❣ Give yourself grace - Be Well!! ❣
I think people fail to realize that these people don't start like this. They start nice and kind and likeable and wait till everyone in your life thinks they are great so when they abuse you they can convince everyone your the problem. Then they have the power of everyone else turning against you too. Its evil.
My ex convinced the cops he was a good guy by talking nice and calm. Just could change personality in the snap of a finger to keep up face. So scary. I use to have to post on fb and tell people if I disappear he did it. Dont let him have my baby. 😢
It is evil. I’ve had people from the courtroom reach out to me telling me they felt evil when he walked in…
I am so sorry you had to go through the same thing❤️
That's what happened to me.
You can't know at the begining that you are seeing mentally sick person. Until it's too late.
It is not over me yet. This nightmare had continued over two years after break up. Police just wait something "serious" happend, then they can do something.
Stalking etc. is a crime here and max. two years prison. Waiting for that..
I pray for you Mallory, that everything goes well and you can get out of that fear and you can have a happy life❤
It always pisses me off when people say, "You need to pick better partners." No, these Mf'ers need to stop flipping the script.
I, too, have a narcissistic mother, and unfortunately, because of my health and financial issues, I live with her. I promise you are not alone, I know it feels like it. I'm sending so much love your way. And anyone going through it too.❤
Oh Mal I cried along with you watching this, my heart is broken for you for all you've been put through 🫂 I'm so proud of you and your bravery. Its easy for people who have never lived these traumas to victim blame and pick fault in your choices, but the only people to blame are abusers. Sending so much love your way 🤍
My heart broke with the telling of your story. I have never been through anything close to what you have, but there are so many victims of all kinds of abuse. I think you have such a wonderful idea of a group of people to support those in trauma, even if it is grocery shopping or taking them out for a coffee to help normalize their life again. You hit on something you would have such passion for and a platform to reach out and do it. BUT, you do what you need to to heal yourself first. I have daughters your age and wish I could tuck you under my momma wing - so I will send hugs virtually - you are a strong brave beautiful soul - your dad would be proud of you, and I know he is loving you from above,
Thank you for being vulnerable enough to share your story! Your words may save a life or a few. Im so sorry you went through this, but Im so happy you are here still. Sending you much love and a giant hug. ❤
Absolutely bawling my eyes out over this. I’ve been following you for years and I need you to know that this community is here for you and sending you all the healing energy.
Thank you Brandy, I need you guys ❤️ Love u so much
It's disgusting that he isn't sitting in jail for a long, LONG time.
Hello beautiful! This is my first time watching your videos, and I want to tell you that I’m truly inspired by your strength. I too went through the same thing with my husband of 9 years, and I have trial in August. I never in a million years thought my husband would do what he did to me, and I went through the same thing with my first husband who almost killed me, so you’re correct about finding the same toxic men. I’m so glad you’re ok, and I know you will get through this, because from the little I’ve seen, I can see how much of a fighter you are, and after everything you have gone through, you will prevail & find your happiness & safety again ♥️ I too have wanted to speak to other victims about my story in hopes it will save lives and help others find the strength to get out, but I don’t even know where to begin. I’m keeping you in my heart & prayers and I know we don’t know one another, but I’m here if you ever need someone to listen that knows exactly what you’re going through. Much love 💕
You don't ever need to justify ending up in an abusive relationship; it's SO easy to victim blame until you find yourself in a toxic relationship. I wish it was as easy as just walking away; if only people knew how much harder and more complicated it is than that. I am so glad you're ok
Not for a second did I think "pick better men". Having toxic parents and bad life experiences make you vulnerable, and bad men know how to choose vulnerable victims. It is entirely purposeful from them, and never ever the victim's fault - it was never your fault. I hope you're healing 💖.
Ok, I’m a new subscriber, but I just want to say I love you so much and I wish I could hug you, my heart is with you right now. Please please don’t stop talking about your story, this isn’t “informal” this is exactly how it’s supposed to be. I’m honored to be here with you in this time of our lives. I can see you have so many wonderful friends here subscribed and follow you, we are here with you all the way! 🙌💝
Sending so much love to you, Mallory. "Pick better men" is not at all what I was thinking while hearing this story. These boys need to learn to be men and not batter women. You are not in any way at fault for this, you don't deserve it, and you are worthy.
I was close to your situation just three years ago. It didn’t get as far as yours but it was getting close. I’m so happy to know you made it out ❤ take all the time you need to heal. You’re coming out of this so much stronger than you were before and I know everyone is proud of you for that.
This was a tough watch. I am so sorry you went through this. Your ideas about helping others in the same situation are really admirable.
The thing about abusers is that they are really good chameleons. They prey on good people and the break them down. You are a good soul and thought you found a partner. That’s what they do. I almost died at the hands of someone just like that. You will survive and you will prevail. You are strong and you have a whole community behind you. Big hugs, and lots of love to you!
Having a mother with toxic behaviours is like grief. Absolute grief. Make sure you take your time to deal with it x
& I'm sorry to hear what happened x
The bailiff is a literal angel 😇 protect him at all cost ❤ but seriously, I’m glad you’re okay and that had to be the most traumatic and terrifying experience. I’m so sorry!!
I'm so, so, so sorry this happened to you. You are so strong.
You really shouldn’t be in any home if he knows the address. You need to max out whatever credit cards u need to and just disappear. List the house with a realtor and explain the situation, I think there are handyman groups that can help and get things fixed for the sale. You need to get out of there and tell no one where you are. Keep moving. Take this very seriously. Your safety is all that matters. Go to a woman’s shelter, whatever it takes. I don’t feel like you are safe where you are. There are groups that already do what you describe. Call for help. I think you need to take this much more seriously. Please protect yourself. Hugs and love.
Mallory, I've never commented before and have followed you for years now. This morning out of nowhere... you crossed my mind, jumped on here to watch this video. Im a total stranger. However, you are covered in prayers. You have a calling my friend. We all are rooting for you!!
I’m sure you don’t remember me , I met you once through Nyky . I have been in your position in 2019 my husband at the time tried to choke me to death and punched me in the face . I survived and had to rebuild my life with my 3 small young children . It was hard but you got this . I also have no family either . If you ever need anything feel free to reach out to me . I stand with you ❤
Oh girl. I'm so sorry that you went through that. ❤ You should be so proud of yourself for getting away and out of that situation.
Also, if anyone says you should pick a better man, screw them! You're not the problem, those men are! Why do people blame women in these situations? It is not your fault. PERIOD.
You will come through this stronger, I believe in you❤
Mallory, this breaks my heart that you had to go through this. Sending you all my love and if there’s anything we can do as a community to help support you during this time, please let us know. ❤❤❤ we got your back.
Your an amazing survivor of perpetual abuse. Continue to drive into your therapy and healing. Stolls are everywhere dont pay them no mind. May the Lord cover you in this time. Surround your self with people of light and love.
You are brave. You are strong. You are loved. You are missed when you are gone. Thank you for sharing your story. You are worthy of all the goodness in this world. We love you!!! ❤
Indoor alarms and indoor videos, RING cameras outdoors and in backyard. Give a friend your phone passcode and VM passcode. Don't just have it fingerprint or facial recognition. If phone is ever left behind, someone needs to access it ASAP who is physically close to you.
Girl, I’m so so sorry you had to go through that! I’m amazed by your strength… I wish I could just come over and hug you long and strong to give you some positive energy back. You’re on your path to healing and freedom, hold on to that strength, keep going, one day at a time. You’re beautiful in and out and we’ll support you however we can. Lots of love! ❤️
I’m sorry you’ve been through this terrifying experience by yourself! You are stronger than you probably feel! There’s a light inside you and it’s fighting alongside you to make the life you really deserve! You deserve all love and support and happiness ❤. Be well! Keep speaking out….you are not alone 🙏🏻
I’m so glad you survived Mallory. My heart goes out to you. So many of us have been through similar situations and we are lucky to be alive, and have another chance after everything they tried to take. Stay safe
Sending so much love Mallory. We’ll be here for you during your healing journey. ❤
We are not responsible for the actions of others. Wishing you a gentle healing journey ❤
Let me add to my previous comment... By you speaking out, you're helping others to be brave and reach out for help. 🙏💜PLEASE move to a new and safe location.) I love you.
People have got to start understanding children don’t cut off parents easily. The “you only have 1 mother” comments are ridiculous. Mothers do better. You don’t have to be perfect but you do need to be loving to your damn kids.
As for “picking better men” that’s not on you either. When you’ve been in survival mode your whole life (I understand because I have been myself) we don’t see people the way undamaged people do. I’ve only realized this myself. We don’t realize what “normal” is. No amount of therapy can help that. It’s ingrained in us. I was an abused child. I became used to people I love hurting me mentally, physically, and emotionally.
Mercy sakes my sweet girl! I don’t understand why you are going through all this crap but God has his hand on you. He is using you to be an advocate for others. You continue to stay strong and courageous! I am praying for you. ❤🙏🙌🏻.
It’s tempted murder though? Why is he out?? He is dangerous. Soo sorry you had to go through that. Xx
Girl, absolutely no fucking person chooses this abuse-no one chooses to be hurt or scared-you, miss ma’am, are not responsible for this man’s heinous crimes-I don’t give a fuck, nothing you did, no lack of judgment or poor judgement or anything you did or didn’t do resulted in this harm-he is responsible & you entered into a relationship in good faith, never imagining or assuming such a choice could kill you. And no, a partner is not a reflection of what you think of yourself. Sending big love your way❤️🫶🏼❤️
Needed this❤️❤️❤️❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
Mal, I am shaking with rage. But that is not a story of you making bad choices. That is a story of fucking survival. He messed with the wrong one. He had no idea you are as strong as you are.
Does he know where you live? Are you safe?
I hate that your support system is so small. I know you have some friends that check in on you. I was curious how the Mom thing was going when I saw some content with her in it. I’m sorry she blew it. You deserve so much better and I believe wholeheartedly that better is coming. The suffering you’ve endured in your life will not be for nothing.
I don’t know if there’s ever any business you’ll have in Houston, but if I can handle anything locally so that you don’t have to be here, I’m happy to.
Ooo girl. If I meet him in a dark H-Town alley. 🤬
Mallory I have never wanted to put my arms through a screen and hug someone so much in my life .
Stay strong , we love you xxxx
I'm am so sorry you dealt with/are dealing with all that. You are so strong for telling your story.
I’m disgusted by our legal system. I’m so so sorry. It feels like such a cop out, and so incredibly dangerous for women! I’m so so sorry
Sending you love, healing, and prayers❤
I’ll be sure to pray for sweetheart. I was a victim of domestic abuse for 11 years and my girls witnessed some of it. Theres a special place in hell for animals like this. Please be careful honey. 😢
God bless that bailiff. There are good people out there, despite the horrible things you have endured. You deserve so much better. Sending you strength on your healing journey.
Girl please stay on the Internet 🙏. You are helping so many people fr. I am following you with all notifications on because you are real about the good and bad in your life. Those people need to focus on themselves and run their own life!
Your story is so familiar like way too familiar if you know what I mean. Love you girl,❤️ please stay safe ❤️❤️❤️.
I’m so proud of you for getting out and recognizing what your next steps need to be so you can get to a happy and healthy place. It isn’t easy to break the cycle, and well-adjusted people don’t go around telling victims to make better choices. You can do this, Mal. You survived, you’re here, and you can do this. 💜
I am so very sorry you have had to go through this.
It still confuses me how our abusers get to have a fresh start unscathed and we’re dropped like an animal at a shelter with no resources and expected to go back to life with all this added fear and stress with no help.
Mal, come as you are. ❤ You don't deserve blame, you deserve to heal. Your dad was with you that night. Lots of love to you, sweet girl.
Sending you lots of love and prayers Mallory! ❤
So, so proud of you Mallory!! Sending a hug your way!
you poor girl i am so so sorry this happened to you, this is horrible to hear, you deserve so much better!!! im so glad you are still here and i hope this will all be over soon. i hope you have good friends around you who can support you. please take good care of yourelf!!
I have never and will never think for a second that you should just pick a better partner. It’s disgusting that anyone thinks that’s an okay thing to say. This is NOT your fault. I’m in tears listening to your story and am just so glad that you made it out of the situation. You are supported, believed, and loved. You are not alone and we are all here for you. Sending you all the love in the world 💗💗
I support anything you put on your channel ❤
Thank you for sharing your story and thank God you got away! Too many people don’t. Sending love and positivity! 💖 Never commented on here, but your story hit me personally.
I hope you’re strong enough to not “give him another chance.” Because you will be killed. I couldn’t get through to someone once before, and that made the funeral so much more painful.
I hate when crimes like this get a slap on the wrist. You are a survivor and I’ll be praying for you ❤🦋🙏🏼
He tried to kill you! He should be put away for years! Unbelievable! I'm so sorry you had to experience such a wicked person. Wishing you a safe wonderful life from now on 🧡
I know…this world and its justice system is insane. I knew it before, but I know first hand now.
This. Is. Not. Your. Fault.
Fuck any and everyone who blames any of this on you. I weep with you my friend. I’m only partway through and I’m wrecked for you. You don’t deserve this. Like I said on Instagram…this world doesn’t deserve you. You are a gift. I’m glad you are safe. Please take care of yourself. You deserve safety and happiness and peace.
Hey, im not a member, but i can see that you posted that you were making this video members only -- but i can still see it. Just letting you know, since you obviously wanted to keep this a little more intimate with your membership. Im a survivor also, and i didnt have a support system either (moms a diagnosed narcissist), so your message resonates so hard for me. 🫂 setting boundaries with her changed my life. I hope so much that you're doing a little more okay today than you were last week... sometimes thats all we can aim for.
Also, be kind to yourself. Being raised by a narcissist sets us up to be exponentially easier for others to latch onto and victimize. It is SO. HARD. to break through that brainwashing, but you can do it. I believe in you.
Oh Mallory… I am SO so sorry to hear you went through this 😞 I’ve been there and it’s beyond angering to hear people say “why didn’t you just leave???” Abusers are SMART and know how to manipulate and emotionally abuse first so you feel it’s you and not them. It’s not easy to just leave also when your life is in danger
Please stay hidden from him in any way possible and heal ❤ Sending you the biggest hugs and all the love. Xoxoxoxo
It’s a yak snack. Once it gets really chewed down, throw it in the microwave for about 10 sec or so and it turns into a “cheese puff”. Two snacks in one. I can absolutely relate to your trauma. When you have no idea what a healthy relationship is, and you have no personal agency because of how you were raised, “choosing” the right one is near impossible. Be well Sister.
Thank you for being open and honest with us 🖤
Sometimes RUclips or a channel you are currently subscribed to recommends a video to you that makes you really appreciate the power and possibilities of social media. That is what has happened here for me. I genuinely and wholeheartedly hope that you are able to heal from what you went through. I believe a door is opening for you that will far exceed what you had in mind and hoped for! Sending you love from small town Louisiana 💞
Praying for you Mallory. It’s a process. You’re stronger than you think. ❤
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I went through something very similar 20 years ago, but in my case my abuser committed suicide. The aftermath of my situation was an extremely difficult time. Even the ability to concentrate seemed like too much at the start - precisely because of the things you mentioned, about being expected to navigate the mess you're left with, not feeling certain about almost everything, and really needing help. A tremendous burden could be lifted if there was someone or something that could help in guiding victims of interpersonal violence in taking the necessary steps to recover their life (and sanity). So, I love your idea of creating a social service with that framework in mind! I believe a LOT of people would benefit from that.
Wishing you peace and well-deserved moments of joy in your future. 💕
Please,
Go into hiding - do not disclose where you are living - take a self defense course - get protection for yourself and have an instructor teach you how to use/handle.
Please stay safe!!!
Yes! 💯 This is very serious and terrifying and I agree with everything you said. I am very scared for her.
I really want to set up a network of women to come together to provide protection for women going through abuse. I'm sure I'm not the first to think of it. And it might even exist, I just don't know if any besides at a women's shelter maybe? I just know how terrifying it is to be alone in a situation like this. No one should have to do this alone.
@@The_green_zebra
Yes, Women's Shelters do offer Shelter in this situation BUT we (the Women) can still be found by the Assailant. An "underground" system is the best - established by Women for Women and their Children in a Fleeing Situation.
@@pyewacket7883 yes I agree with you 💯!
And also there are many situations where a shelter can't really help. What are you going to do if you have more than one pet? I just think there are so many women all over the world who have either gone through it or are currently going through it that need help but also can help at different stages. And women who have gone through it know and understand the difficulties of life after abuse. Women helping women is the way to go. I have ADHD so my thoughts are all coming out at once and I'm rambling lol. But I appreciate you and your comment ❤️😊
I’m so sorry this happened, Mallory. I have a friend who suffered abuse while in the passenger seat multiple times. She always has to drive now. The PTSD is unreal and I hope you heal. Eff the criticism.
Please make the content YOU want to make. When creators and artists enjoy what they are doing, it comes through. ❤
Honestly, I would prefer just straightforward discussion all the time. Don’t feel like you have to put on makeup or do anything else to entertain us. You can just talk. We’re here because we like you and care about you. ❤
💯 agree
Oh Mallory, I’m so sorry you have been through this dv. I’m old enough to be your Mother, and if someone did this to my daughter, they’d be in the hospital without a clue of how they got there. I’ve been in two abusive relationships and I know how you feel, one was plotting my murder. I got out as quick as I could. You are a very strong woman and I know you will heal from all this trauma and pain. I admire your courage and strength. We are all here for you Mallory, we support you. I’m praying for you. Take care honey, love you ✝️🛐🙏🏻❤️
Your darkest hour is just before dawn. You are going to shine ✨️
I got chills when you were describing the program/resources you were wanting to create for those attempting to put their lives back together. That might be it babygirl. We all have a deeper purpose than the cards we've been delt, and thinking of the lives you could change 🙏🏽 Sending more hugs 🤗❤ You truly are an inspiration Mal.
Don't listen to nasty comments. It isn't your fault, just a bad situation. I wish everything good for you.❤
“It’s a new day.” “It’s a new day.” “It’s a NEW DAY!”
I am just at a loss of words for what has happened to you. You are so incredibly strong and brave to have endured all that you have, persevered through the case, and want to advocate for other victims. This community loves you and I hope you know how worthy of love and happiness you are! Keep healing and give yourself grace. You are such a beautiful soul and I know there are such incredible things to come for you, Mallory, because it’s a new day! ❤
First and foremost, your strength and determination to make it through this difficult time in your life is an inspiration to say many women going through the same thing but unsure how to get out of the situation, I’m so proud of you! I continue to pray for you and believe that you will get through this and we will all be here to support you.
I love the fact that you want to start an advocacy movement for others and help support them and give them hope and encouragement to get through the tough times in domestic relationships.
Love you girlie! ❤❤❤
I am so sorry this happened to you.
I love that you are thinking of turning this into an “advocacy project” to help others in your position. As someone in a “security related” job, I think including some sort of home surveillance recommendations would be helpful too. Having a person come to your home and tell you where cameras and lightning could be added to capture things on camera.