This thought just occurred to me: The demand on self to be self-reliant and independent (even when sick or injured) is the epitome of separation consciousness. For in the reality of existence, accepting help from another is, in fact, helping yourself through another aspect of you that you put in place for the express purpose of helping you help yourself. You are the other person. They are you. So when we accept or deny help from someone, we are effectively accepting or denying the help we offer ourselves. Likewise if we offer or deny something to another, we are in purest essence offering or denying it to ourselves. When we give, we give to ourselves. When we accept, we accept what is given from ourselves. This is why, especially in TF pairings, the giving and receiving wound is so challenging and often frustrating. The one soul knows its worth through the offering twin, but the ego mind trips over its own programming in accepting that it's worthy.
Yes, my father made it known to me and my sister that we needed to stand up for ourselves since we come from a relatively conservative family. And that makes me feel guilty in receiving love from anyone. We were also taught not to express our emotions openly hence though we were sure that our parents loved us, there was never any physical exhibition of love...that is how we(our families consider ourselves high class with high status) were meant to live. In my younger days, when I compared myself to my friends, I felt sad about it...and when questions were asked as to who loved us more- mother or father...it used to be that both loved us, yet didn't love us...bcos at that time we didn't know about love being soul deep...it is only once I energetically connected with my twin, I understood that love needed to be exhibited but the love he exhibited was overwhelming...it wasn't the healthy love from a healed individual...and he expressed it every few minutes...and that used to turn me off...but his love wasnt unconditional, it was from an anxious attachment wound...and hence he went back to the karmic who satisfied tht attachment wound that he suffered from... hence, I feel that he needed to heal, and me too, in order that we meet midway...
Wow! This is so powerful. Thank you for sharing. I wanted to open an opportunity to you if you are interested. Very soon I will begin a podcast where I bring on fellow twin flames to share their stories. Would you be interested in coming on for me to interview you?
I was listening with headphones, and At 3 mins 20 secs, I turned my head to look around because I heard a child in the room, then realised she was in your room, in my headphones, but she sounded like she was on my right and it made me jump. Heard but not seen 🥰
@@LifeAfterUnion Thanks SiStar, it actually warmed my heart with joy momentarily, because she actually sounds like my Granddaughter who is around the same age, so it was an instinctive turn, that made me smile instantly when I realised it was my headphones. I have not seen them for a month now (I live 300 miles away south coast uk), so I enjoy your family setting when you share your content. Keeping it real. Namaste you beautiful souls, you generosity of spirit is appreciated 💖
Do you not believe effect of planets on twin flames behavior? Because I had effects on me but I do not see the planetory effect on my DM. Kindly explain. Also, many videos say "you should not have missing energy for your twin. It may delay your union." But I feel if you are missing ur twin, ur soul is truely desiring ur twin and u r authentic with ur soul. Please throw some light on this also.
These are two VERY important questions and I hope I do a good job explaining this: As to the planets... each twin is responsible for their own belief system, and as such, if ones twin strongly believes in astrology they will be effected by astrology. If the other twin is less into things like astrology, spirituality, etc they will not experience the same reality that the other twin does. This is why free will is so I important on the twin flame path. Your beliefs create your reality. And while many twins share similar thoughts/feelings/values... it's not always true that they will be 100% aligned. This is where the growth of the relationship comes in because we have to allow space for them to experience reality in a way that makes sense and is fulfilling to them without doubting and sacrificing our own reality. It can be a great challenge. But when you lean into love for your twin that will help give them the freedom they need to feel fully supported by you. Now... as to the second question: I'm not exactly sure what is being referenced so to give the greatest answer I would need a little more detail or perhaps asking the question in a different way so I can make sure I am understanding you properly! Thanks so much for watching our channel and if you need more guidance feel free to reach out!
@@LifeAfterUnion Thank you so much for taking time out for the reply and being so considerate. And for second question, I now realise that I am not clear with interdependency and co-dependency. Can you guide me .TIA. Also, may your channel grow and wish you both all the best for your journey. Blessings.
Thank you! Yes, interdependence and co-dependence can have some overlap, but the intention is very different. Co-dependency says: I am not okay if other people around me are not okay. This can look like people pleasing or sacrificing your needs in order to keep others happy. It can also look like needing to help/fix your partners in order to feel worthy or valuable in the relationship. There might also be significant fear and feel the need to prove your worthiness for love to the other partner. Also the other end of the spectrum is being so independent that you don't need or want anyone else's help. This is another form of codependency because you are still unable to create security in the relationship so you need to protect yourself. Being interdependent looks like you have the freedom to be yourself without fear that your partner will withhold their love. It also means you have the security within the relationship to know you can rely on this person without blaming or making your problems theirs. So this can be like you recognize and take responsibility for your triggers and wounds but still ask your partner to show up and help you work through your shadows. This is a very brief explanation and there can be many more facets to this! I hope it helps!❤
Thank you so much. This helps me with the concepts for sure. I feel like reading it again and again. Such a simple explanation for such a difficult on-the- surface topic. It is very difficult to estaiblish a healthy communication in this journey even without talking to each other and just by setting boundries. Thanks like zillion times. Gave me clarity.
This thought just occurred to me: The demand on self to be self-reliant and independent (even when sick or injured) is the epitome of separation consciousness. For in the reality of existence, accepting help from another is, in fact, helping yourself through another aspect of you that you put in place for the express purpose of helping you help yourself. You are the other person. They are you. So when we accept or deny help from someone, we are effectively accepting or denying the help we offer ourselves. Likewise if we offer or deny something to another, we are in purest essence offering or denying it to ourselves.
When we give, we give to ourselves. When we accept, we accept what is given from ourselves.
This is why, especially in TF pairings, the giving and receiving wound is so challenging and often frustrating. The one soul knows its worth through the offering twin, but the ego mind trips over its own programming in accepting that it's worthy.
Lol I love this! This comment alone is probably enough to help all of us through this wound!
Beautifully put
Thanks so much for watching! Let us know what you think below! How has this showed up in your life?
Yes, my father made it known to me and my sister that we needed to stand up for ourselves since we come from a relatively conservative family. And that makes me feel guilty in receiving love from anyone. We were also taught not to express our emotions openly hence though we were sure that our parents loved us, there was never any physical exhibition of love...that is how we(our families consider ourselves high class with high status) were meant to live. In my younger days, when I compared myself to my friends, I felt sad about it...and when questions were asked as to who loved us more- mother or father...it used to be that both loved us, yet didn't love us...bcos at that time we didn't know about love being soul deep...it is only once I energetically connected with my twin, I understood that love needed to be exhibited but the love he exhibited was overwhelming...it wasn't the healthy love from a healed individual...and he expressed it every few minutes...and that used to turn me off...but his love wasnt unconditional, it was from an anxious attachment wound...and hence he went back to the karmic who satisfied tht attachment wound that he suffered from... hence, I feel that he needed to heal, and me too, in order that we meet midway...
Wow! This is so powerful. Thank you for sharing. I wanted to open an opportunity to you if you are interested.
Very soon I will begin a podcast where I bring on fellow twin flames to share their stories. Would you be interested in coming on for me to interview you?
Oh nooo I enjoyed your daughter’s singing and cooing, please don’t snip her audio the next time
Haha awww! Thank you for the suggestion!!
I was listening with headphones, and At 3 mins 20 secs, I turned my head to look around because I heard a child in the room, then realised she was in your room, in my headphones, but she sounded like she was on my right and it made me jump. Heard but not seen 🥰
Hahaha sorry to startle you! Could also be a bit creepy at the wrong moment lol thanks for watching!
@@LifeAfterUnion Thanks SiStar, it actually warmed my heart with joy momentarily, because she actually sounds like my Granddaughter who is around the same age, so it was an instinctive turn, that made me smile instantly when I realised it was my headphones. I have not seen them for a month now (I live 300 miles away south coast uk), so I enjoy your family setting when you share your content. Keeping it real. Namaste you beautiful souls, you generosity of spirit is appreciated 💖
@@dreamdemolitionfactory1304 thank you! Lots of love to you ❤️
@@LifeAfterUnion Ditto! My Granddaughter is a Sunshining Leo like you. Just the break of her smile brings rays of sunshine on a cloudy day 🌈
Do you not believe effect of planets on twin flames behavior? Because I had effects on me but I do not see the planetory effect on my DM. Kindly explain.
Also, many videos say "you should not have missing energy for your twin. It may delay your union." But I feel if you are missing ur twin, ur soul is truely desiring ur twin and u r authentic with ur soul. Please throw some light on this also.
These are two VERY important questions and I hope I do a good job explaining this:
As to the planets... each twin is responsible for their own belief system, and as such, if ones twin strongly believes in astrology they will be effected by astrology. If the other twin is less into things like astrology, spirituality, etc they will not experience the same reality that the other twin does.
This is why free will is so I important on the twin flame path.
Your beliefs create your reality. And while many twins share similar thoughts/feelings/values... it's not always true that they will be 100% aligned. This is where the growth of the relationship comes in because we have to allow space for them to experience reality in a way that makes sense and is fulfilling to them without doubting and sacrificing our own reality. It can be a great challenge. But when you lean into love for your twin that will help give them the freedom they need to feel fully supported by you.
Now... as to the second question:
I'm not exactly sure what is being referenced so to give the greatest answer I would need a little more detail or perhaps asking the question in a different way so I can make sure I am understanding you properly!
Thanks so much for watching our channel and if you need more guidance feel free to reach out!
@@LifeAfterUnion Thank you so much for taking time out for the reply and being so considerate.
And for second question, I now realise that I am not clear with interdependency and co-dependency. Can you guide me .TIA. Also, may your channel grow and wish you both all the best for your journey. Blessings.
Thank you!
Yes, interdependence and co-dependence can have some overlap, but the intention is very different.
Co-dependency says: I am not okay if other people around me are not okay. This can look like people pleasing or sacrificing your needs in order to keep others happy. It can also look like needing to help/fix your partners in order to feel worthy or valuable in the relationship. There might also be significant fear and feel the need to prove your worthiness for love to the other partner. Also the other end of the spectrum is being so independent that you don't need or want anyone else's help. This is another form of codependency because you are still unable to create security in the relationship so you need to protect yourself.
Being interdependent looks like you have the freedom to be yourself without fear that your partner will withhold their love. It also means you have the security within the relationship to know you can rely on this person without blaming or making your problems theirs. So this can be like you recognize and take responsibility for your triggers and wounds but still ask your partner to show up and help you work through your shadows.
This is a very brief explanation and there can be many more facets to this!
I hope it helps!❤
Thank you so much. This helps me with the concepts for sure. I feel like reading it again and again. Such a simple explanation for such a difficult on-the- surface topic. It is very difficult to estaiblish a healthy communication in this journey even without talking to each other and just by setting boundries. Thanks like zillion times. Gave me clarity.
My pleasure ❤ I'm glad it helped! Thank you for sharing your perspective and experience 🙏