I'm tired of a lot of women looking the same...big behinds..crazy looking lashes...Dolly Madison lookin' "baby hair"🙄 If that's the way to look feminine...they can have it 💯💯 I love when a woman has her own authentic style...and nobody else in the room looks like her❤ Great video!
There are so many ups & downs to life, however ONE of the greatest ups as a woman is becoming secure in who you are & getting out of the rat race of comparing/being like someone else. It’s so freeing to just simply be who you were born to be. I loved this vid…❤ Thx for sharing 🌸
The balance of femininity is important. I have no desire to be a damsel in distress, and I know how to ask for help. I like the outdoors, putting my hands in soil while wearing my red lipstick. I enjoy makeup and swinging in my hammock while my lipgloss is popping. I'm me unapologetically, and it irritates me when people think i will show up differently. Thank you for doing this video.
As you described yourself, I felt like you were talking about me. I'm hyper-independent, strong, capable, and not afraid to get my hands dirty. I also don't like to waste my time on things that don’t really add to MY life. The term "femininity" makes me bristle. I'm a woman, therefore whatever I do is feminine. That’s just how I feel.
I’m 27 and living in the UK but grew up in East Africa. I’ve noticed in the west féminity is centered around men and the male gaze… what to wear, what to do, where to go, it’s all in the pursuit of being attractive and meeting men. Qualities like what you’ve described of strength, leadership, autonomy, etc. Are not associated with “fine feminine character”. Whereas where I’m from (and the women are extremely feminine) these are the exact things that are celebrated. You are very feminine Miss Eva, in many cultures what you’ve described is exactly the ideal - to be self sufficient, self aware and caring of the things you love. While I’m young it’s really sad to see how many girls and women live a life centered around men. Once you hit a certain age and stop being the ideal standard or beauty it seems only then women are willing to explore themselves beyond what they’re told they are or “desired to be”. I love delving into beauty practices of indigenous women from different cultures of the world to see just how they celebrate their womanhood within the context of the society they live in. Things like perfumes, creams, hair are things women enjoy around the world. Hobbies like gardening, hosting, care taking, etc also! Womanhood goes beyond the male gaze ladies - we have way more personality and that’s what makes the beauty of it all. Loved this video
I’ve met African women just as male center as any American woman I’ve known. The culture for black women seems to be marriage and attaining a man thus everything else is centered around that.
You seriously caught my attention. I am sitting in my car watching, listening to the rain and loving it. It feels good to shed the weight and just being me.
You’ve have always appeared so classy and sophisticated to me watching all your videos . Love watching your videos, so enlightening. In all honesty your videos teaches me self love
Eva, I’m so sorry that you had your heart broken in such a treacherous and duplicitous way. I can’t even imagine the emotions that would come from such a revelation. I pray that you are healing/healed from that betrayal. Step parent relationships remind me a lot of co parenting situations in the sense that oftentimes it’s easy to step in and be amazing when they’re not the primary parental figure. My sister is going through this currently because my neice’s step mom buys extravagant gifts and takes her out and talks about boys and all the fun stuff. Mind you they live in a different state abs only see her a few weeks out of the year. Meanwhile, my sister is dealing the schooling aspect, her daughters mental health and therapy, her daughter being bullied at school, after school activities… all the day to day stuff that’s stressful and hard. It makes it especially difficult when my niece is ungrateful and disrespectful to her mom, while revering her step mom. I hope one day my niece realizes how much her mom does for her and sacrifices because right now it’s falling on deaf ears.
Girl you look tf gooodt!!! This hair is it!!! And it’s such a reflection of you, because you are such an authentic, true to yourself person that it’s only right you had the hair to match. Real & authentic. 😊
I’m glad you spoke on femininity. A lot of content I see these days has a very contrived version of what femininity is, what it looks like, feels like, etc… I’ve come to believe true femininity is a very unique and individual experience. Perhaps, it’s simply a woman who is comfortable with who she is and loves herself for it. Awesome video. P.S. My name is Eva as well❤❤❤
@thesummeraesthetic2045 In most parts of the world, femininity means the same thing. Only in the US do many women think it’s an “individual experience” as if it’s some subjective idea. This mindset is creating a culture of women who don’t know how to coexist with a man and ultimately not fit for marriage.
This video is so on time, I locked my hair 2 years ago and have been feeling awkward about it so I wear wigs over them because I wanted the "look". For the past month, I haven't been wearing any wigs and am having withdrawals because am not feeling "feminine" enough with my locs and I was planning on getting a new wig to throw on. Then Eva's video came thru. Now am sitting here thinking, you know what this is me, why do I want to go back to look like every other woman out here? why am I so insecure? yes it's hard getting that Kardashian look out of my head but I am THAT GIRL, I am HER! Thanks Eva for coming back and knocking some sense into me.
I feel you . I’m going on 2 years and sometimes I missed the polished look but I’m still embracing them . My hair is an extension of me and not the sole representation of myself. I’m building my style and just doing my best to enjoy this journey.
Ladies if it’s your thing. You can add extensions to your locks. It’s like a braiding/crochet technique. I love it for the in between stages of growth. It still give the natural look but with more styling options.
@@FrenchCocoa369 my sister in law got those and they did some damage. Granted that’s not the case with everyone but my hair has grown pretty significantly. It’s just the sleekness I miss when I would do buns, but that frizziness is nice sometimes.
Hey pretty sis, do what makes you FEEL prettiest! Feeling beautiful is important to a woman’s soul. If your locs don’t make you FEEL pretty, take them out. And that’s okay!!! The only thing that matters is how good you FEEL.
bong. This is Eva’s journey; where she is in her life at the moment. IMO, be about your own journey; maybe you’re not where is Eva is right now and that’s fine. Consider taking it slowly to really discover who you are as a person as a woman. I know you’ll work it out in time! ❤
Girl I get you ! Iam 72 and I grow up being like a tomboy, my father wanted boys and we grew up not being to needy, I am a people pleaser cause I was made to feel like I was never good enough. Well it’s taken me years to realize just to love myself first. I only wish I was stronger to do more stuff that I want done. I can clean up and look beautiful, I have met women who depend on the man to do things and that’s not me. I at my age don’t have time for stupid. I get you, just cause you can do stuff doesn’t mean you are not feminine, you are a feminine beauty on RUclips and I am grateful I found your channel. ❤
I agree completely - 59 years old and I always joke that the only good thing about menopause is that you don't give a &$%^ about what others think. I speak my mind, confidently and securely. I love your style, Eva and am happy I just discovered you!
Ms. Eva, your stories are always inspiring! I'm 58 yrs young and in my journey I had to learn to embrace my life's reality versus the pictures I had in my head! Those pictures will mess you up! What some call Feminine; I am not! I am not a dansel in distress!l LoL I can't wait to hear your next story.❤
Thank you so much Eva for being real and vulnerable. While I missed you, your self-journey was an important next step. So glad to see you. Be blessed.❤️
There are multiple facets to femininity. Femininity is about being and creating. You actually embody many flavors of femininity. Knowing what you want, valuing yourself and your time, expressing your creativity, you embrace nature , you enjoy beautiful things ( clothes, fragrances, environments) , you create an experience ( on your channel, in your home, in your garden, at your party, your outfits). You are different than the women who put out " femininity content" because of your authenticity . From what I observed, you have a healthy balance of light feminine, dark feminine and masculine energy. These women typically are following some steps that they read or saw somewhere.The practice of robotically following prescribed steps is actually masculine. They are presenting as feminine ( which varies by culture, age, location etc) but they truly don't understand it because they are not embodying it. Like you, mentioned we are not all supposed to be the same the way.
The step-mother and your daughter are very spiteful. Not consenting you on that issue was a very malicious and hurtful thing to do. All i can say is, keep on keeping on and protect your peace!! #AtAllCost BTW, you look absolutely gorgeous!
Ohh Eva, I would have been heartbroken as well if my child gets anyone else to adopt them. For me, that would be the biggest betrayal. I'm so sorry you went through this. I really feel you about being a mother is one of the most thankless forms of slavery ever. God bless you. You will get through this as well.❤
I’m a new mom (almost 2 years) and this experience has been so life changing. Honestly I never knew what moms went through until I had my own. You just want the best for them no matter what. Plus I get the evolution of the relationship you would have with your kids. I know I have with my mom, I had to get to know her through my adult eyes. I pray for healing between you and your baby because yes, it is hurtful! I agree with being the best you, thanks for getting me through my workout!
That forced femininity is centered around the European standards of Femininity...black women are not the same as white women and we shouldn't be trying to model thier standards of beauty and behaviors. Who you are Eva is Feminine...you are tapping into creativity (sewing), productivity and nurturing(gardening) and whatever else your heart wants to do❤
I am white, and appreciate all skin colors. I don’t think that our behaviors are so different. I am creative, I am a designer and physically rip out kitchens and baths, I sew and I bead embroider very detailed jewelry. I love to try new makeup, thrift shop, enjoy creating my own trends for clothing, jewelry and accessories. I grew up in the middle of a forest, without many modern conveniences. I am a mother of two, married 29 years to a smoking hot husband (younger James Garner). I am Feminine.
"I'm over it," exactly Eva. We're not rugs for people to wipe their shoes on, subservient for whom? And there is so much copycat-ing with the AI that they're snatching people's souls and claiming original thoughts for profits with the ChatGPT. We were/are people who knew/know how to do for ourselves without gaslighting. The problem we have been dealing with in society is the lies and erasure of our identity. There's nothing that a "Martha Stewart" does that our ancestors didn't do first. Eva Monroe, cheers to you, BAD BIA Extraordinaire🥂🎉
I clicked on this title so quickly! I’ve been saying this in my head. I have no desire to be “more feminine”. I am a women, I don’t need to watch a video on how to be naturally me. However I am is feminine enough….And it’s so funny because you’re saying that you’re not feminine but you are describing feminine attributes, making things beautiful, being creative, keeping your home in good condition, all feminine attributes. You’re feminine enough. As black women we are more masculine but to me that’s what makes us so great. We really are everything.
You’re not more masculine you’re just naturally tougher than other women and that because your genetics are stronger , you’re designed different . There’s the black panther cat , the leopard cat and the Lioness cat , all tough cats but they all conduct themselves differently and there is a genetic hierarchy
@mobellescorner9702 I disagree with most of what you said. While you might be “feminine enough”, many women in society are not. If you seriously think that by being more masculine that makes you/y’all great, you are terribly mistaken. To be clear, there is nothing wrong with being competent in certain areas, but there is a fine line between that and being masculine. This is NOT an attractive thing for women to possess.
First, thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your deepest feelings and thoughts. This video was EVERYTHING a girl, lady, and woman needs! I too have experienced things with my child that are un heard of and I stand ten toes down in my true feelings because I know I did the absolute best I could. I had to learn my best isn’t good enough for EVERYBODY AND I’m not for everybody. Family or whom ever it maybe.
Congratulations! You’ll abandon some more ‘shoulda’ things when you hit 60+! You are freeing yourself and guiding your followers to do the same and it’s ok. Thanks😃
Yup... when I hit my forties (now 47) I hit my "F**k You" years hard. It's never anything personal at all. I've just seen the light and want to be on the same boat as everyone else in my life. It's just recognizing that I'm no longer interested in doing, pleasing, accommodating, acknowledging, recognizing, or considering other people who feel free to dump their wants and needs, opinions and ideas on me as I hold off on my own needs and wants because I've used my resources for others. NO...because believe me, once they get on their feet and even take off into a better situation than before, and YOU'RE in need as life can take a turn, they certainly won't take the last meat from their pot to serve it to you irrelevant to all you've done to assist them... they'd accommodate THEIR needs and families' needs first and rightfully so... that's what I've come to realize. After all, whatever was given to them by me (or my husband) wasn't by force. Hence, it's high time I learned how to play the same game. If my husband and I cannot part with it, there is no "making up for it later" and starting back at square one, or even frankly, whether we can or not, why should we always? If I simply JUST DON'T WANT TO, I WON'T.
I love your channel and your perspective. I am a 37 year old black woman and ive learn that when you working on yourself like you said doing you, getting yourself together, be everything you need to be for you and those things that are not suppose to be a part of your life, will fade away. You don't stress about the other person or thing. You just let it be. It's good to learn this as early in life as possible. ❤ i was fortunate to have older women of a mature age in my life to teach me the ropes. 😊
Love this conversation! And missed you sooo much in these RUclips streets!! You look absolutely REGAL ✨ I’m glad you are enjoying your journey. Thank you for sharing
Eva, you are definitely your own version of feminine and I agree that everyone wants to the the same person. Being feminine isn't restricted to being a helpless, lispy damsel clad in Chanel. I have no problem with girly girls, but I think because of social media Gen Z girls are sooo confused and think that being anything less than a Ms. Bey-type is cause to question their gender. Being feminine should be foremost about the invaluable internal qualities of womanhood. Healthy women are generally more emotionally intelligent, open-minded, relationship cultivators, intuitive, nuturing, resilient, and naturally alluring than men. We are the vessels of life. The superficial stuff is a tiny part of true feminity. When I was 30 I dropped the charade of always looking like I was ready to meet my future husband whenever I set foot outside my house. I will wear joggers, sneakers, a ponytail, and no make-up to run errands with very little consciousness. It's also fun to dress up, do my hair and make-up so I'll do that when I feel like it and enjoy the extra attention. Either way I'm feminine because it's so much more than clothes, hair, and a soft demeanor.
To me , femininity is in the way you carry yourself. Every video I’ve watched of yours- I’ve always thought how articulate, poised, and ladylike you are. FACTS . Keeping doing you, it’s working friend😊
I am glad that you have done the work so well! You, Eva Monroe, know who you are! Teach it to us. Cuz sometimes I’ve got to step back and ask myself who I am!
I love this Eva! I also tried the “femininity” thing and it was an epic fail. I felt like I’m simply just not being myself and I hated it. But what I learnt is that femininity does not come in one particular form. We’re all feminine in different ways and no way is better than the other. I think you’re actually very feminine, just in your own unique way and it makes you special just the way you are. We can’t all be these soft spoken damsels and that’s ok. Let’s all embrace our uniqueness❤️
Lorrrd!!! I could not have went to that shower. Yes, children can be so manipulative. You have to stand your ground. She's having a child and she'll understand soon.
Yes....sista, oh yes, she will....it's definitely going to be an eye opener, especially once the cuteness wears off and the child begins to demonstrate their own will and thoughts....oooooo, my dear!!! These young ones are not really ready for being a real woman
Oooh yes! Researching the Kibbe types really unlocked stuff for me. We each are so unique and have different bone structure and shape. Learning about my true essence and the structure and shape God created me to be, has helped me dial in to what sparks joy for me regarding my wardrobe, and color, -the style of the TRUE me. This was priceless for understanding my 25 yr old daughter’s style as well. She is much taller and feels best in more substantial shoes. We used to argue over her shoes all through the years. Now I understand her Kibbe type vs. mine and I finally know how to shop and gift her things that are right for her, not me! Mamas and daughters… if you know, you know! I’m now 54 and I learned this at 50! I also learned I’m a full 2” shorter in my torso, making petites fit me so much better in blazers, coats, fitted tops, dresses. This was life changing! I’m 5’5 1/2” with long legs,but have a petite torso. I get funny looks shopping among these cute little 4’11 and 5’ women for petites🤣. But I’ve never had sheath dresses and blazers fit me like a glove before!! A Lands End employee had me properly measure for a swimsuit and she said I needed their “short” version of the suit I’d selected. I said, honey-I’m almost 5’6 I’m not short! She said it’s all about the measurement from your inseam to your shoulder and she said I was a petite because of that measurement! So, if you’ve struggled with finding your style, try looking into Kibbe, and if the fit of your clothes is always “off” measure and see if you need a specific cut that’s better for YOU!! ❤❤❤
And being a woman looks as different as there are varieties of flowers in the garden. We are all beautiful in our own way. You’ve got it right- being our authentic self, and finding contentment makes us confident and beautiful. The verse that has become the blueprint for good mental health through 32 years of marriage, 4 kids, cancer battles… Be joyful always, pray without ceasing, and in everything give thanks. 1 Thess 5:16-18 Eliminating grumbling and complaining, choosing joy, talking to God about everything and feeling my feelings to Him, and practicing gratefulness-living out these verses has changed my life and helped me be the warrior chick God created me to be. We are free to be all that He created us to be. I have no need to be someone I’m not created to be. Imagine a world where we all are walking in our true identities, understanding our gifting, our callings, we would be glorious. I’m all about it!❤
I loved this video and I'm a few years older than you so I see you stepping into! A members group may be great but one thing that I encourage you to do before you do the video is have a heart to heart with your adult child(ren). When we say that our children had everything that they needed, as parents we have a very different meaning of what that is and like you mentioned, it's mostly the " logistics" of child rearing-less emotional, intangibles. Talk to your adult children about what kind of person they think you are ( or were) and how they receive love vs how you show it. Just like us, adult children can love their parents but not like us and many people simply can't process the thought that our children felt that we lacked in some area that's a blind spot as a parent. I think that it would be a great conversation starter and maybe provide clarity in areas where it may be needed.
You are definitely being yourself and being your best beautiful you. I too would choose to be uniquely you instead of the standard carbon copy female of the day. It should be illegal to adopt a child without parental consent unless there was abuse involved. What a bold and hurtful thing to do. It wasn't hurting you though as a secret so she waited for the right time, the best year of your life to lay it on you. I'm glad you pushed it aside and went to the shower, looking beautiful I'm sure and as my son said when he walked in and saw your video "I bet she smells good."♥
Great share and insight! I briefly followed a femininity coach, the focus was EVERYTHING outside of self, which didn't resonate with me. Like you, I turned away from false femininty and instead turned inward and worked on limiting beliefs that were the true blocks to me being me! Also, everything you described about yourself is what true femininity is!
I stumbled onto your channel because RUclips recommended you. GIRRLLLL, I love it. It's almost midnight, and I was starting to doze off when you started doing Anna, and I woke my husband up laughing loudly. You are such a breath of fresh air. I'm so sick of everyone trying to look a like (long weave, part down the middle, can't see with catapillars on the eye lids.) or same white sofa and home excessories. It is just nice to see and hear a mature woman that if I saw on the street without makeup, I could still recognize. Nice to see a woman just be and comfortable. Keep doing your thing. I'm so glad to have found you ❤
I am almost 60 always been and will stay a natural feminine lady.... Praise Jesus!!! I love and will continue to look and stay feminine, as Jesus requires of me.
Thank you!!! I adore you and I find you very inspiring for so many reasons. I have loved watching your creative journey, your gardening, and now your "eff femininity" journey.
All of your videos are great. This one is has an effect I can’t explain. Sometimes I felt like you were telling my story. Several times over the years people and neighbors have offered to help us when they see me and my husband struggling to carry a load. My husband would refuse the help because he has me. Luckily I would respond with thanks, we need your help. If my husband doesn’t care that I may break my back, thank god, I do. He watch me do stuff by myself but calls me to help him with everything he does. I have been mowing the backyard lawn for the last 23 years, the only woman on my street that does that and I do it with my red lipstick, cowboy hat, garden boots and feel very feminine doing it. It’s very heartbreaking to hear about your daughter’s situation. I can’t imagine how you feel, but you are strong, you are invincible and the epitome of what a woman ought to be. I truly admire your honesty and transparency. I hope that you can find a little bit of comfort from your subscribers.
Ooh, baby, I have been missing your videos. You have me hooked on Tom Ford and Mancera fragrances. And yes, this background is Very nostalgic for me. LOVE YOUR HAIR❤❤❤❤❤❤
Love your channel! So on the same page. You ARE feminine. You are your kind of feminine. YOU are feminine because you are a woman. Girl.....I hate that the culture defines attitudes and we fall into it. NO. I am who I am and I'm happy with that. I enjoy being feminine my way😊
I'm so happy to see you having these girl talks again, Eva! I missed this. Love this message. It's something that I have to free myself of as well so I can just be completely comfortable, and present in everything that I do knowing that it is a true reflection of how I want to be and live.
It's all about being authentic! You hit the nail on the head. Some of us are naturally dainty and others present in a different way. All of that is OK if it isn't performative. We are all women!
The impersonation was on point… I consider you a classy example of black excellence.. we need our own representation and I love Beyoncé but let’s be fr we don’t have to follow under the bee hive.. I honestly love Judge lynn toler as an unapologetic black phenomenal woman.
Happy Leo Season sister! I'm turning 55 (the double nickel) next week & just getting started too!! I've been following you for awhile and you are THE BEST at reinvention!! Keep doing YOU Eva!! sending love and blessings and more life!!!🥳
Hello Ms Eva, I love your encouragement to be yourself ❤. Like the Bible says, all is lawful for me but not all things are expedient for me. We😊 ARE very feminine because we are fearfully and wonderfully made. Our strength comes from our identity being in, The Lord Jesus Christ. God bless you and your family you have a beautiful personality. ❤❤❤
For some reason, your videos haven’t been showing up in my feed- and today, I was looking through RUclips and wanting some intelligent content and thought to myself, I am going to rewatch some old Eva Monroe videos, not thinking you put out any new content. Much to my surprise, I could you have! It’s so nice to see you again. A lot has transpired since I last visited your channel! Life moves so fast! It will be great to see what has been going on with you! Your channel makes me feel like I am visiting with a friend and I appreciate the content so much!
I'm tired of a lot of women looking the same...big behinds..crazy looking lashes...Dolly Madison lookin' "baby hair"🙄 If that's the way to look feminine...they can have it 💯💯 I love when a woman has her own authentic style...and nobody else in the room looks like her❤ Great video!
I feel like that is the instagram baddie look
Some described the baby hair as a forehead curtain…lol
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I have a big behind and I'm tired of seeing them.
Us older women knew you would reach this space sooner or later. And the inner peace that brings is UNMATCHED ❤.
This is why I love you 😚 The Femininity Olympics get on my nerves.
There are so many ups & downs to life, however ONE of the greatest ups as a woman is becoming secure in who you are & getting out of the rat race of comparing/being like someone else. It’s so freeing to just simply be who you were born to be. I loved this vid…❤ Thx for sharing 🌸
Yes!!
The balance of femininity is important. I have no desire to be a damsel in distress, and I know how to ask for help. I like the outdoors, putting my hands in soil while wearing my red lipstick. I enjoy makeup and swinging in my hammock while my lipgloss is popping. I'm me unapologetically, and it irritates me when people think i will show up differently.
Thank you for doing this video.
I loveeee lip gloss too!! It feels good when you find that balance
Love it ! We can be friends lol
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As you described yourself, I felt like you were talking about me. I'm hyper-independent, strong, capable, and not afraid to get my hands dirty. I also don't like to waste my time on things that don’t really add to MY life.
The term "femininity" makes me bristle. I'm a woman, therefore whatever I do is feminine. That’s just how I feel.
I’m 27 and living in the UK but grew up in East Africa. I’ve noticed in the west féminity is centered around men and the male gaze… what to wear, what to do, where to go, it’s all in the pursuit of being attractive and meeting men. Qualities like what you’ve described of strength, leadership, autonomy, etc. Are not associated with “fine feminine character”. Whereas where I’m from (and the women are extremely feminine) these are the exact things that are celebrated. You are very feminine Miss Eva, in many cultures what you’ve described is exactly the ideal - to be self sufficient, self aware and caring of the things you love. While I’m young it’s really sad to see how many girls and women live a life centered around men. Once you hit a certain age and stop being the ideal standard or beauty it seems only then women are willing to explore themselves beyond what they’re told they are or “desired to be”. I love delving into beauty practices of indigenous women from different cultures of the world to see just how they celebrate their womanhood within the context of the society they live in. Things like perfumes, creams, hair are things women enjoy around the world. Hobbies like gardening, hosting, care taking, etc also! Womanhood goes beyond the male gaze ladies - we have way more personality and that’s what makes the beauty of it all. Loved this video
Im American and I've always felt like African women were the most feminine women.
I’ve met African women just as male center as any American woman I’ve known. The culture for black women seems to be marriage and attaining a man thus everything else is centered around that.
You're comparing "femininity" to "feminism". Strength, autonomy, etc are "feminism".
This comment is so refreshing
Well said ❤
You seriously caught my attention. I am sitting in my car watching, listening to the rain and loving it. It feels good to shed the weight and just being me.
You’ve have always appeared so classy and sophisticated to me watching all your videos . Love watching your videos, so enlightening. In all honesty your videos teaches me self love
I agree.
Eva, I’m so sorry that you had your heart broken in such a treacherous and duplicitous way. I can’t even imagine the emotions that would come from such a revelation. I pray that you are healing/healed from that betrayal.
Step parent relationships remind me a lot of co parenting situations in the sense that oftentimes it’s easy to step in and be amazing when they’re not the primary parental figure. My sister is going through this currently because my neice’s step mom buys extravagant gifts and takes her out and talks about boys and all the fun stuff. Mind you they live in a different state abs only see her a few weeks out of the year. Meanwhile, my sister is dealing the schooling aspect, her daughters mental health and therapy, her daughter being bullied at school, after school activities… all the day to day stuff that’s stressful and hard. It makes it especially difficult when my niece is ungrateful and disrespectful to her mom, while revering her step mom.
I hope one day my niece realizes how much her mom does for her and sacrifices because right now it’s falling on deaf ears.
Many step-parents aren't allowed to "parent" or "discipline" their step-children, so that's often the role they play
She will realize and respect her Mom for all she does. It might take her getting into her 20’s but it will happen.
Girl you look tf gooodt!!! This hair is it!!! And it’s such a reflection of you, because you are such an authentic, true to yourself person that it’s only right you had the hair to match. Real & authentic. 😊
I’m here for the members only club. This has got to be the best topic I’ve ever heard you talk about. Thanks for being so transparent.
I’m glad you spoke on femininity. A lot of content I see these days has a very contrived version of what femininity is, what it looks like, feels like, etc… I’ve come to believe true femininity is a very unique and individual experience. Perhaps, it’s simply a woman who is comfortable with who she is and loves herself for it. Awesome video. P.S. My name is Eva as well❤❤❤
@thesummeraesthetic2045 In most parts of the world, femininity means the same thing. Only in the US do many women think it’s an “individual experience” as if it’s some subjective idea. This mindset is creating a culture of women who don’t know how to coexist with a man and ultimately not fit for marriage.
This video is so on time, I locked my hair 2 years ago and have been feeling awkward about it so I wear wigs over them because I wanted the "look". For the past month, I haven't been wearing any wigs and am having withdrawals because am not feeling "feminine" enough with my locs and I was planning on getting a new wig to throw on. Then Eva's video came thru. Now am sitting here thinking, you know what this is me, why do I want to go back to look like every other woman out here? why am I so insecure? yes it's hard getting that Kardashian look out of my head but I am THAT GIRL, I am HER! Thanks Eva for coming back and knocking some sense into me.
I feel you . I’m going on 2 years and sometimes I missed the polished look but I’m still embracing them . My hair is an extension of me and not the sole representation of myself. I’m building my style and just doing my best to enjoy this journey.
Ladies if it’s your thing. You can add extensions to your locks. It’s like a braiding/crochet technique. I love it for the in between stages of growth. It still give the natural look but with more styling options.
@@FrenchCocoa369 my sister in law got those and they did some damage. Granted that’s not the case with everyone but my hair has grown pretty significantly. It’s just the sleekness I miss when I would do buns, but that frizziness is nice sometimes.
Hey pretty sis, do what makes you FEEL prettiest! Feeling beautiful is important to a woman’s soul. If your locs don’t make you FEEL pretty, take them out. And that’s okay!!! The only thing that matters is how good you FEEL.
bong. This is Eva’s journey; where she is in her life at the moment. IMO, be about your own journey; maybe you’re not where is Eva is right now and that’s fine. Consider taking it slowly to really discover who you are as a person as a woman. I know you’ll work it out in time! ❤
Girl I get you ! Iam 72 and I grow up being like a tomboy, my father wanted boys and we grew up not being to needy, I am a people pleaser cause I was made to feel like I was never good enough. Well it’s taken me years to realize just to love myself first. I only wish I was stronger to do more stuff that I want done. I can clean up and look beautiful, I have met women who depend on the man to do things and that’s not me. I at my age don’t have time for stupid. I get you, just cause you can do stuff doesn’t mean you are not feminine, you are a feminine beauty on RUclips and I am grateful I found your channel. ❤
I agree completely - 59 years old and I always joke that the only good thing about menopause is that you don't give a &$%^ about what others think. I speak my mind, confidently and securely. I love your style, Eva and am happy I just discovered you!
Ms. Eva, your stories are always inspiring! I'm 58 yrs young and in my journey I had to learn to embrace my life's reality versus the pictures I had in my head! Those pictures will mess you up!
What some call Feminine; I am not! I am not a dansel in distress!l LoL
I can't wait to hear your next story.❤
Good to see you, Eva. You look radiant! 👋🏼😁💕
Eva, praying for your peace regarding the situation with your daughter and her stepmom. That is gut wrenching to hear.
Wow. You sound so much like me when I was aw 45. I’m now 66 and I’m even more in love with my tomboy self. You are who you are. Beautiful 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿❤️
What a pleasure to see that backdrop 😂😂
Thank you so much Eva for being real and vulnerable. While I missed you, your self-journey was an important next step. So glad to see you. Be blessed.❤️
There are multiple facets to femininity. Femininity is about being and creating. You actually embody many flavors of femininity. Knowing what you want, valuing yourself and your time, expressing your creativity, you embrace nature , you enjoy beautiful things ( clothes, fragrances, environments) , you create an experience ( on your channel, in your home, in your garden, at your party, your outfits). You are different than the women who put out " femininity content" because of your authenticity . From what I observed, you have a healthy balance of light feminine, dark feminine and masculine energy.
These women typically are following some steps that they read or saw somewhere.The practice of robotically following prescribed steps is actually masculine. They are presenting as feminine ( which varies by culture, age, location etc) but they truly don't understand it because they are not embodying it. Like you, mentioned we are not all supposed to be the same the way.
She’s indeed all of those things you mentioned, she’s the perfect blend ❤
Incredible insight ❤
The step-mother and your daughter are very spiteful. Not consenting you on that issue was a very malicious and hurtful thing to do. All i can say is, keep on keeping on and protect your peace!! #AtAllCost
BTW, you look absolutely gorgeous!
That’s what I’m saying! The father as well; the state would need his input. They all had to conspire for this to go down.
Ohh Eva, I would have been heartbroken as well if my child gets anyone else to adopt them. For me, that would be the biggest betrayal. I'm so sorry you went through this. I really feel you about being a mother is one of the most thankless forms of slavery ever. God bless you. You will get through this as well.❤
I did not know that someone else can legally adopt a child whose parents is in their life… it’s strange!
amazing! I am 59 and I have said that if it does not add value to my life or makes me feel good, I am not doing it. Good for you!!
Self-love is a beautiful thing! Thank you, Eva!
I’m a new mom (almost 2 years) and this experience has been so life changing. Honestly I never knew what moms went through until I had my own. You just want the best for them no matter what. Plus I get the evolution of the relationship you would have with your kids. I know I have with my mom, I had to get to know her through my adult eyes. I pray for healing between you and your baby because yes, it is hurtful! I agree with being the best you, thanks for getting me through my workout!
That forced femininity is centered around the European standards of Femininity...black women are not the same as white women and we shouldn't be trying to model thier standards of beauty and behaviors. Who you are Eva is Feminine...you are tapping into creativity (sewing), productivity and nurturing(gardening) and whatever else your heart wants to do❤
CAN I GET AN AMEN!!!!🎉❤
I concur
I am white, and appreciate all skin colors. I don’t think that our behaviors are so different. I am creative, I am a designer and physically rip out kitchens and baths, I sew and I bead embroider very detailed jewelry. I love to try new makeup, thrift shop, enjoy creating my own trends for clothing, jewelry and accessories. I grew up in the middle of a forest, without many modern conveniences. I am a mother of two, married 29 years to a smoking hot husband (younger James Garner). I am Feminine.
@@mimimalone548You sound like a character in a novel or movie. Sounds like good livin.😊
"I'm over it," exactly Eva.
We're not rugs for people to wipe their shoes on, subservient for whom?
And there is so much copycat-ing with the AI that they're snatching people's souls and claiming original thoughts for profits with the ChatGPT.
We were/are people who knew/know how to do for ourselves without gaslighting.
The problem we have been dealing with in society is the lies and erasure of our identity.
There's nothing that a "Martha Stewart" does that our ancestors didn't do first.
Eva Monroe, cheers to you, BAD BIA Extraordinaire🥂🎉
I clicked on this title so quickly! I’ve been saying this in my head. I have no desire to be “more feminine”. I am a women, I don’t need to watch a video on how to be naturally me. However I am is feminine enough….And it’s so funny because you’re saying that you’re not feminine but you are describing feminine attributes, making things beautiful, being creative, keeping your home in good condition, all feminine attributes. You’re feminine enough. As black women we are more masculine but to me that’s what makes us so great. We really are everything.
You’re not more masculine you’re just naturally tougher than other women and that because your genetics are stronger , you’re designed different . There’s the black panther cat , the leopard cat and the Lioness cat , all tough cats but they all conduct themselves differently and there is a genetic hierarchy
@mobellescorner9702 I disagree with most of what you said. While you might be “feminine enough”, many women in society are not. If you seriously think that by being more masculine that makes you/y’all great, you are terribly mistaken. To be clear, there is nothing wrong with being competent in certain areas, but there is a fine line between that and being masculine. This is NOT an attractive thing for women to possess.
@@LB-kr5ku I don’t care what you disagree with or find attractive 🥴.
@@mobellescorner9702 That’s fine, it’s all your choice. Buy a dog……🤣
@@LB-kr5ku got two of them 🤷🏽♀️
First, thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your deepest feelings and thoughts. This video was EVERYTHING a girl, lady, and woman needs! I too have experienced things with my child that are un heard of and I stand ten toes down in my true feelings because I know I did the absolute best I could. I had to learn my best isn’t good enough for EVERYBODY AND I’m not for everybody. Family or whom ever it maybe.
Congratulations! You’ll abandon some more ‘shoulda’ things when you hit 60+! You are freeing yourself and guiding your followers to do the same and it’s ok. Thanks😃
Agree 💯
Yup... when I hit my forties (now 47) I hit my "F**k You" years hard. It's never anything personal at all. I've just seen the light and want to be on the same boat as everyone else in my life. It's just recognizing that I'm no longer interested in doing, pleasing, accommodating, acknowledging, recognizing, or considering other people who feel free to dump their wants and needs, opinions and ideas on me as I hold off on my own needs and wants because I've used my resources for others. NO...because believe me, once they get on their feet and even take off into a better situation than before, and YOU'RE in need as life can take a turn, they certainly won't take the last meat from their pot to serve it to you irrelevant to all you've done to assist them... they'd accommodate THEIR needs and families' needs first and rightfully so... that's what I've come to realize. After all, whatever was given to them by me (or my husband) wasn't by force. Hence, it's high time I learned how to play the same game. If my husband and I cannot part with it, there is no "making up for it later" and starting back at square one, or even frankly, whether we can or not, why should we always? If I simply JUST DON'T WANT TO, I WON'T.
I love your channel and your perspective. I am a 37 year old black woman and ive learn that when you working on yourself like you said doing you, getting yourself together, be everything you need to be for you and those things that are not suppose to be a part of your life, will fade away. You don't stress about the other person or thing. You just let it be. It's good to learn this as early in life as possible. ❤ i was fortunate to have older women of a mature age in my life to teach me the ropes. 😊
Love this conversation! And missed you sooo much in these RUclips streets!! You look absolutely REGAL ✨ I’m glad you are enjoying your journey. Thank you for sharing
Eva, you are definitely your own version of feminine and I agree that everyone wants to the the same person. Being feminine isn't restricted to being a helpless, lispy damsel clad in Chanel. I have no problem with girly girls, but I think because of social media Gen Z girls are sooo confused and think that being anything less than a Ms. Bey-type is cause to question their gender. Being feminine should be foremost about the invaluable internal qualities of womanhood. Healthy women are generally more emotionally intelligent, open-minded, relationship cultivators, intuitive, nuturing, resilient, and naturally alluring than men. We are the vessels of life. The superficial stuff is a tiny part of true feminity. When I was 30 I dropped the charade of always looking like I was ready to meet my future husband whenever I set foot outside my house. I will wear joggers, sneakers, a ponytail, and no make-up to run errands with very little consciousness. It's also fun to dress up, do my hair and make-up so I'll do that when I feel like it and enjoy the extra attention. Either way I'm feminine because it's so much more than clothes, hair, and a soft demeanor.
“Happy Born Day, Eva!!!! 🥂 to further Expansion”💕
Damn, that woman adopting you daughter was the ultimate revenge.😳
Yes it was, and I believe that’s exactly what it was meant to be😢
Nothing wrong with not being girly I’m well rounded I can do both when required I love this topic
Just got to the end of the video. You made it through without burning the world down and came out better. I'm proud of you 😊😊😊
Great comment! A lot of us would have burned the bridges and live to regret it.
👏👏👏👏👏You're saying it ALLLL here! I'm with you 100 percent on EVERYTHING you said!
Woooo chile! That certainly needs to be talked about how taking the high road backfires
To me , femininity is in the way you carry yourself. Every video I’ve watched of yours- I’ve always thought how articulate, poised, and ladylike you are. FACTS . Keeping doing you, it’s working friend😊
I am glad that you have done the work so well! You, Eva Monroe, know who you are! Teach it to us. Cuz sometimes I’ve got to step back and ask myself who I am!
I love this Eva! I also tried the “femininity” thing and it was an epic fail. I felt like I’m simply just not being myself and I hated it. But what I learnt is that femininity does not come in one particular form. We’re all feminine in different ways and no way is better than the other. I think you’re actually very feminine, just in your own unique way and it makes you special just the way you are. We can’t all be these soft spoken damsels and that’s ok. Let’s all embrace our uniqueness❤️
🥳🎉💃🏽 HAPPY BIRTHDAY EVA!!! ♌️
I love this video. At 47 I realize that I am who I am. Some days I’m girly and others days I’m not and that should be okay.
Funny, I see you as class and walking feminity. You are good😊
Sista to sista, I have nothing but respect for you❤ I always listen to everything you have to say, you should write a book!
Amen. Your wisdom is appreciated. Thank you and Happy Birthday. You are more than enough.🎉
Lorrrd!!! I could not have went to that shower. Yes, children can be so manipulative. You have to stand your ground. She's having a child and she'll understand soon.
Yes....sista, oh yes, she will....it's definitely going to be an eye opener, especially once the cuteness wears off and the child begins to demonstrate their own will and thoughts....oooooo, my dear!!! These young ones are not really ready for being a real woman
The short afro is cute.
Oooh yes! Researching the Kibbe types really unlocked stuff for me. We each are so unique and have different bone structure and shape. Learning about my true essence and the structure and shape God created me to be, has helped me dial in to what sparks joy for me regarding my wardrobe, and color, -the style of the TRUE me. This was priceless for understanding my 25 yr old daughter’s style as well. She is much taller and feels best in more substantial shoes. We used to argue over her shoes all through the years. Now I understand her Kibbe type vs. mine and I finally know how to shop and gift her things that are right for her, not me! Mamas and daughters… if you know, you know! I’m now 54 and I learned this at 50! I also learned I’m a full 2” shorter in my torso, making petites fit me so much better in blazers, coats, fitted tops, dresses. This was life changing! I’m 5’5 1/2” with long legs,but have a petite torso. I get funny looks shopping among these cute little 4’11 and 5’ women for petites🤣. But I’ve never had sheath dresses and blazers fit me like a glove before!! A Lands End employee had me properly measure for a swimsuit and she said I needed their “short” version of the suit I’d selected. I said, honey-I’m almost 5’6 I’m not short! She said it’s all about the measurement from your inseam to your shoulder and she said I was a petite because of that measurement!
So, if you’ve struggled with finding your style, try looking into Kibbe, and if the fit of your clothes is always “off” measure and see if you need a specific cut that’s better for YOU!! ❤❤❤
And being a woman looks as different as there are varieties of flowers in the garden. We are all beautiful in our own way. You’ve got it right- being our authentic self, and finding contentment makes us confident and beautiful. The verse that has become the blueprint for good mental health through 32 years of marriage, 4 kids, cancer battles…
Be joyful always, pray without ceasing, and in everything give thanks. 1 Thess 5:16-18 Eliminating grumbling and complaining, choosing joy, talking to God about everything and feeling my feelings to Him, and practicing gratefulness-living out these verses has changed my life and helped me be the warrior chick God created me to be. We are free to be all that He created us to be. I have no need to be someone I’m not created to be. Imagine a world where we all are walking in our true identities, understanding our gifting, our callings, we would be glorious. I’m all about it!❤
I love when you poor your heart out the way you do!!! So passionate!!!
Always appreciate you and your amazing transparency ❤❤❤
I loved this video and I'm a few years older than you so I see you stepping into!
A members group may be great but one thing that I encourage you to do before you do the video is have a heart to heart with your adult child(ren).
When we say that our children had everything that they needed, as parents we have a very different meaning of what that is and like you mentioned, it's mostly the " logistics" of child rearing-less emotional, intangibles. Talk to your adult children about what kind of person they think you are ( or were) and how they receive love vs how you show it.
Just like us, adult children can love their parents but not like us and many people simply can't process the thought that our children felt that we lacked in some area that's a blind spot as a parent.
I think that it would be a great conversation starter and maybe provide clarity in areas where it may be needed.
You are definitely being yourself and being your best beautiful you. I too would choose to be uniquely you instead of the standard carbon copy female of the day.
It should be illegal to adopt a child without parental consent unless there was abuse involved. What a bold and hurtful thing to do. It wasn't hurting you though as a secret so she waited for the right time, the best year of your life to lay it on you. I'm glad you pushed it aside and went to the shower, looking beautiful I'm sure and as my son said when he walked in and saw your video "I bet she smells good."♥
She been waiting and plotting 18years to pay you back for having a baby with her man. She is still bitter about the situation.
I agree.
I agree as well
Has to be, I have heard some wild stuff about these situations but this takes the cake.
Whatever your beliefs are just pray about it, am 46 this year and am on a healing journey because I don’t want to go to jail
Great share and insight! I briefly followed a femininity coach, the focus was EVERYTHING outside of self, which didn't resonate with me. Like you, I turned away from false femininty and instead turned inward and worked on limiting beliefs that were the true blocks to me being me!
Also, everything you described about yourself is what true femininity is!
I stumbled onto your channel because RUclips recommended you. GIRRLLLL, I love it. It's almost midnight, and I was starting to doze off when you started doing Anna, and I woke my husband up laughing loudly. You are such a breath of fresh air. I'm so sick of everyone trying to look a like (long weave, part down the middle, can't see with catapillars on the eye lids.) or same white sofa and home excessories. It is just nice to see and hear a mature woman that if I saw on the street without makeup, I could still recognize. Nice to see a woman just be and comfortable. Keep doing your thing. I'm so glad to have found you ❤
I love your channel because of the growth. Please bring back the fragrance videos absolutely love those!!!
We love you Eva. Do a membership I will join I so resonate with a lot of what you shared. Miss this side of you.
Because someone had to say it!!!! Lol I’m feeling you!
I am almost 60 always been and will stay a natural feminine lady.... Praise Jesus!!! I love and will continue to look and stay feminine, as Jesus requires of me.
I just appreciate you so much. I miss you and love your authenticity!
Thank you!!! I adore you and I find you very inspiring for so many reasons. I have loved watching your creative journey, your gardening, and now your "eff femininity" journey.
I needed this!!! You hit every point I have been focusing on in my life. Great video!
Preach. The beauty is You choose how you present your femininity. Dresses and makeup dont make u feminine
ALL of This was GOLD Eva❤ I felt it all. Thank you for sharing ❤
Yassss!!!🎉. Freaking be your authentic self equals femininity at it’s highest level.
I just ran this back. Definitely needed to hear this word today
All of your videos are great. This one is has an effect I can’t explain. Sometimes I felt like you were telling my story. Several times over the years people and neighbors have offered to help us when they see me and my husband struggling to carry a load. My husband would refuse the help because he has me. Luckily I would respond with thanks, we need your help. If my husband doesn’t care that I may break my back, thank god, I do. He watch me do stuff by myself but calls me to help him with everything he does. I have been mowing the backyard lawn for the last 23 years, the only woman on my street that does that and I do it with my red lipstick, cowboy hat, garden boots and feel very feminine doing it. It’s very heartbreaking to hear about your daughter’s situation. I can’t imagine how you feel, but you are strong, you are invincible and the epitome of what a woman ought to be. I truly admire your honesty and transparency. I hope that you can find a little bit of comfort from your subscribers.
That’s why I love watching you-. You just keep it real!!!!!!! Thanks for this!!!
Ooh, baby, I have been missing your videos. You have me hooked on Tom Ford and Mancera fragrances. And yes, this background is Very nostalgic for me. LOVE YOUR HAIR❤❤❤❤❤❤
EVA! You spoke to my soul! I’m 50 and I swear, ur right about all of that! Mic drop!!
Ms Eva came to PREACH!!! Ladies ALWAYS be true to yourself
Love your channel! So on the same page. You ARE feminine. You are your kind of feminine. YOU are feminine because you are a woman. Girl.....I hate that the culture defines attitudes and we fall into it. NO. I am who I am and I'm happy with that. I enjoy being feminine my way😊
Finally somebody said it, I hate the salon because too much time is wasted 😂
I'm so happy to see you having these girl talks again, Eva! I missed this. Love this message. It's something that I have to free myself of as well so I can just be completely comfortable, and present in everything that I do knowing that it is a true reflection of how I want to be and live.
I learned to sew at 45, too! And I’m still loving it at nearly 47. Also, same… my femininity is solely mine and personal.
Thumbs up for the mic🥰😍🤩
Amen! Be the unique women God has created you to be! Then love will come! Be you n learn you. Give to others you want be so needy!
This video is sooo GOOD, Ive watched it twice in deep reflection.
Looking forward to the Fall clothes line!!!
Hi Eva. It’s always good to see you. Stunning as always.
Happy Birthday, Eva!!
You are very in touch with your dark feminine energy! ❤❤❤ I love your authenticity, a rare trait on social media these days. Blessings to you always!
I haven’t seen any of your videos in so long and I’ve been subscribed to your channel for years. This was such a great, eye opening video.
It's all about being authentic! You hit the nail on the head. Some of us are naturally dainty and others present in a different way. All of that is OK if it isn't performative. We are all women!
The impersonation was on point… I consider you a classy example of black excellence.. we need our own representation and I love Beyoncé but let’s be fr we don’t have to follow under the bee hive.. I honestly love Judge lynn toler as an unapologetic black phenomenal woman.
Happy Leo Season sister! I'm turning 55 (the double nickel) next week & just getting started too!! I've been following you for awhile and you are THE BEST at reinvention!! Keep doing YOU Eva!! sending love and blessings and more life!!!🥳
Hello Ms Eva, I love your encouragement to be yourself ❤. Like the Bible says, all is lawful for me but not all things are expedient for me. We😊 ARE very feminine because we are fearfully and wonderfully made. Our strength comes from our identity being in, The Lord Jesus Christ. God bless you and your family you have a beautiful personality. ❤❤❤
You are quite a Lady! ❤ Thanks for sharing! ❤
Omg ... I died each time you said Anna Bey.....😂😂😂
This was the best conversation that have ever been had. Mothers need to have this conversation openly about kids!
UGGGGGG Mrs. Eva,🥰🥰 I MISSSED YOU. WE CAN'T SAY WORDSIN THE DICTIONARY. SHE CRAZY
You are a force!
This video is longggggg and a very good GEM 💎 ❤ truth !
Great to see you, Eva!
For some reason, your videos haven’t been showing up in my feed- and today, I was looking through RUclips and wanting some intelligent content and thought to myself, I am going to rewatch some old Eva Monroe videos, not thinking you put out any new content. Much to my surprise, I could you have! It’s so nice to see you again. A lot has transpired since I last visited your channel! Life moves so fast! It will be great to see what has been going on with you! Your channel makes me feel like I am visiting with a friend and I appreciate the content so much!