The man I’m in love with popped back up into my life after a year. While he’s been gone I’ve been growing in faith. We met for dinner, his words were good, but all I could sense was pain and uncertainty in my spirit. I had to walk away from the man I deeply loved. It’s by far the hardest and most painful thing I’ve ever had to do. I knew in my heart that I deserved better then what he was about to give me. I’m not sure why I’m sharing this personal story, but Tony’s advice is wise.
100% facts. It takes a strong woman to walk away. And if you walk away it’s another woman who can replace you just like that. Men know this and that’s why they don’t care.
Yep! Mr Gaskins is speaking nothing but facts! Men will replace a woman in 1.5 milliseconds bc they know a lot of women these days are desperate to say they have somebody or simply just want companionship. Even if that means losing their dignity.. smh. It takes a strong woman in God who can walk away from a man. Like Mr Gaskins said, you get what you settle for in life.
It breaks my heart sometimes when I see woman stay with a no good low down dirty grown boy just to say they have someone. At my old job the women used to throw salt in other women's faces, "saying ha ha ha, I took you man" and they used to fight in the store in front of customers. I used to just shake my head in disbelief and this was before I started watching Tony's videos. I pray one day all women have the strength to love themselves and move on and stop settling!
Yessssss! I have said “Got to go” endless times to men.. Also, Ive learned that a man can be a good man but not good at relationships.. I have zero regrets. Our intuition is never wrong..
To me it’s really not hard to walk away from most of these men. If they dont have anything to offer anyways you aren’t losing anything when you leave. That’s the way I see it
Tony You are TOTALLY CORRECT as usual. That’s why we are called “ helpmeet” in the Bible. I was married to a man I was totally in love with. He never cheated on me. He wasn’t that kind of man. But, he was a horrible husband. He put everything and everyone before me, except at bedtime, if you know what I mean. I PRAYED and STAYED, trying to show him I was there for him, had his back and so on and so on. Well, when I saw that he wasn’t going to change, I left. He took my kindness for weakness. Now, he’s texting me, sending me kissy faces and basically trying to keep in touch with me. HE PLAYED HIMSELF. I don’t go BACKWARDS.
Well you aint wrong sistah. The Word says infidelity is an acceptable cause to divorce. Sorry to hear it, but I think you're going to be more than just alright! ❤ 💎
It does take strength to walk away. I stayed way too long thinking that being patient would make him love me more; it actually backfired. Now I’m a single mom of 7. I use my RUclips channel, books, and coaching to warn other ladies, and to teach them self-love.
The last "man" who told me "we need a break!" is still on break.😭 lol If, you don't care about or love me as much as I care about and love me, hit the bricks. I've got pride, too. And, I love my Self. Living single 'til further notice. That's that. Thanks, Uncle Tony lol 🥰
I woke up one very early morning out of the blue and put my very disrespectful ex right out the door, along with all his stuff and his 2 dogs, 2 weeks after discovering Tony Gaskin.That was 2 years ago and I have been at peace and healing ever since. Iam not lonely and definitely not disparate for anything and anyone. I still can't believe I was putting up with his verbal and emotional abuse for as long as I was. I get triggered sometimes, even after 2 years later.
Tony, please don’t retire YET! Some of us do listen and apply your advice. I sensed a bit of frustration in this video because you might be tired of telling us (women) the same thing over and over 😫
❤️❤️There is lack of leadership in some men. And as a woman it's hard to teach a man how to lead, so I take the leadership role. And it has failed dismally. Preach my brother!
Unfortunately, we have to teach them how to lead without them realizing they're being taught women do it everyday. It's a lot to do with how/when we talk to them.
@@thelmathomas8414 exactly! Women today think they’re teaching a man to lead when in reality because they are so masculine they only attract feminine men who don’t lead. Real masculine men are repulsed by these manly masculine women. Masculine men only deal with feminine women.
A man shouldn't compete with his woman or make his woman feel inferior in the relationship, but the woman shouldn't participate in a relationship where there is constant opposition, feuding, and belittling either. Nobody wins when the family feuds! We are teammates not opponents! Women should be helping their men dominate and be fruitful here on the earth. Men should be eager and excited to have a teammate, partner, right-hand-woman, ally and a friend to support them. At the end of the day, it's about helping the team win! When the team wins, God wins!
Some of these men , though, are pawns of Satan. That's why they can't work as a team and let God win. To hell with them. Be selective , very selective, about the choices you make as a woman.
Single mom right now but I have peace. Put God first and everything will fall in place. Don’t settle for being treated any kind of way just be in a relationship!
Right there with you love! We are God’s until he is ready to Give us away to who he has chosen for us. I’m loving the single Mom life walking in faith with the Lord.
It's just a thing of standing your ground in the Lord. Once you experience the love of God, you won't be able to deal with anything less. I can look at "couple goals" and see they're not my goals. Yes it comes with a cost. Yes the wait is real and yes you barely can date because you don't tolerate a boy.... It's a lonely road even to have girlfriends question your devotion. It's better than dealing with these demons disguise as men.
This is a mighty word! If women are to be honest (me included), every time we end up in a situation where it’s less than what God desired we either operated in the spirit of lack, desperation, or fear (sometimes all three).. Bless you for this!
I never really experienced or felt those feelings but I operated from a strong spirit of lust and asked questions later lol 😂 which wasn’t good at all. Lawd 🤦🏾♀️ I have learned my lesson as soul ties ain’t no joke
@@inovermyhead3947 whew chile lol 😂 it would take a while boom for me to answer that but really if you find yourself attached to a person in such a way that its hard for you to get over them and everything about that person constantly consumes you mentally and emotionally or any way internally you have encountered a soul tie with that person …. certain habits , spirits and even entities and demons start to show up in your life and attach themselves to you that you never had to deal with or dealt with before you got with that person etc …
After years of mind games and manipulation. I finally see through all the confusion. This message today confirms that I have made the right decision to block and change my number and no longer deal with any nonsense. I have no regrets, only that I wasted so much time on the wrong individuals.
Trust me when I say, They are not All the same, If that were true, We as Women are defeated.....@tonygaskins is a good man but he is not the only good man.... The right man will find you Sis.....💗💗💗
Takes a real relationship with Jesus to break free of that weakness we have with men. Holy Spirit literally told me one night after kissing my boyfriend “WHY ARE YOU KISSING TRASH?!!Princesses don’t kiss TRASH.” 😭😭 I dropped my boyfriend like a bad habit real quick. We’re married now. I knew this was the man I would marry. But Jesus knew that his son was a BOY AND MISSING THE MARK. It took many scriptures and dreams to get me to understand why I needed to let go. It hurt at the time but now in marriage I have a man. Mr.Gaskin is telling the truth I started watching at 18 in regards to my relationship my husband and I aren’t perfect. In and out of sin. I always wanted to be obedient but it was difficult. but now he has a backbone and I have the ability to make him come up to standard or basically say No Im Not Dealing With Your Trash 🗑.
I think God rewards us in the long run if we take the high road. Trust yourself, know your worth and don't bend to make it easy for a man, because he wants you right now. Thank you so much, Tony, the world needs more men like you.
I’m always thinking I’m the only woman that is single, going on 2 years, ended my relationship with my ex/son father almost 3 years ago our son will be 5 years old in December
Well said. God blesses men who marry. He who finds a wife finds a good treasure & obtains blessings/favor from the Lord. Keep preaching it Tony👍 Godspeed to you & yours
It kills me the number of women who think they know men better THAN a man. Anyone in these comments resisting what he is saying is probably miserable in their singleness. Women CRAVE headship because we were created that way. ANY woman who says differently, lacks humility and does not view her God given role as a complement, NOT compliment, to her mate.
“Men know that we have the code to a woman’s heart. We have the cheat code...” TG. Tony, I’m praying that God continues to give you strength to do this. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
well I'm actually one of the few women who listens and chooses to do better. I refuse to be heartbroken and make the same foolish mistakes again with a man.
Fascinating that women just choose to stay... ive never been that way, but it fascinates me that so many women are; & that they dont just stay for a while, but stay for YEARS of destruction
Thank you! Somebody finally said it. Many will often settle and CHOOSE to stay and keep saying they were “tricked”. I’m a woman that’s just not built for bs and won’t play with my peace like that
Just walked away from a 15 yr on and off relationship, and it hurts me to my core but I realized my worth, and im not looking back!! I am my biggest advocate, someone that loves you will not put you through hell and back!!
Tony, you have outdone yourself with this video. Wow. This is the one EVERY man and woman needs to hear and take to heart. The message is powerful. How heavenly when we can view our man as the capable and watchful captain of our ship.
Tony I have been a racist all my life, honestly. I am a white girl born into an elite family from a town that did not allow blacks or jews. I have only dated white guys. I have been taught early on to avoid black people. But you have changed my entire life for the better. I see how closed off and how abused I was, being taught to avoid black people. You have healed me so much with your videos, you are a genius and I will forever never again be racist and closed off to black people again!
Whew! Tony you kept it RAW on this one!! But one thing… You ARE stopping some things!! Lol. Your words have changed many lives!!! Blessed Tribe Tap in!!! 💖💖💖
Very true Tony. My friends who are blessed and genuinely happy in marriage all went thru “trial by fire” while dating but did not compromise their integrity and beliefs and God blessed them with good husbands.
Okay but the accuracy was on point. We women are desperate for any man to take us in. I hate to say it but I've seen SO MANY examples of women doing this - myself included. It never made sense until you explained it through this video. 💯. This is embarrassing. What have we come too? I just wanna move to a whole new planet at this point.
P.s Im not in any relationship or dealing with any situation but I still listen so I know what standards I need to hold up to and what not to accept in my life 🤍
Not only have I never dreamt of marriage or a wedding, but I have zero desire for a relationship right now, especially after watching a lot of your videos (I don't mean it in a bad way). The way men have been "marketed" vs the reality of the nightmare that they are......makes me want to remain single. Again, I'm not saying that there aren't any good men in the world. But why do women have to go through world war 4 to find one? Why do men have to come with so much fuckery and bullshit? Why don't they (trash men) just stay confined to the women out there who really are trash and leave all the rest of the good women alone? I've actually never been more happy to be single, not entertaining any men and working on myself/my 3 B's.
It can be good to hear and still depressing and discouraging. The one thing that I'm sure of no matter my desires is that it BEHOOVES me to wait on the Lord. Compliments to my mother for that vocabulary word she'd threaten me with, lol. Ahh childhood memories.
Right! Feeling more at peace with being single for now. Too much bs out there and Tony is exposing them! Wish I had watched these kinds of videos year ago.
I always felt I’d rather be single than put up with foolery since I was a child. I don’t know if it’s because I watched other women constantly deal with the bs or because I’m a Virgo. I could go on one date then be done with that bs for the next five years I swear. Fell in love once and only then did I ever have physical desires for somebody. And it’s extremely rare anyone I meet is even someone I fall in love with because I just take my sweet time and let them show me who they really are before I decide I even like them, 99% don’t pass.
Young man may the Lord God Almighty cover and protect you! You Sir ARE preaching God’s TRUTH! ONLY God Himself have revealed this truth to you! I am sitting here fighting back tears as this truth is bringing healing to my spirit, soul and body!!!!!! 😭😢😭😢😭☮️😇🙏🏽
Us as women need to realize that power that we actually have. We can’t control other peoples reactions but we certainly can’t control what we allow and what we settle for. Instead of complaining about all the “no good men” out here, I shifted the focus on myself so I could figure out why I was entertaining the so-called no good men. By doing that, I automatically saved myself from wasting my time and started having more time to deal with men of a higher caliber of character.
Tony praises be to God Almighty. You’re so right! I was that woman once before that accepted from my husband the cheating & forgiveness. The abuse the nonsense. For the 10,15 years that I stayed even after the divorce I still would deals with him. Then one day I said enough was enough. And I said I would rather not have another person in my life I would rather raise my children & after that be single because I said I would never go through what I went through before. So I stuck to my word & 2yrs later the Lord has blessed me with my Love My Protector My Provider. He’s so good . So good to me to the children whom he calls his children. This love that I experience with him was worth the wait….. Love is out there just trust believe have faith and know what you are worth… you’re worth more than you think
It’s takes strength to walk away. I waisted my whole collage life with a guy only for him to leave me with a woman with two kids. He’s married now and they share a baby together. Best bullet I’ve dodged. Do your self a favor pay attention to the read flags and leave..... most of the time the upgrade is not better and you can find much better out there.
Oh my goodness. I am that woman! I will cry myself to sleep time and time again before I ever let a man see me sweat or hear me breakdown. I cannot chase a man or lower my worth. Its lonely a lot of days but I will stay single before I sell myself short.
This is a much needed message that men need to hear also ✨✨✨Also a man said today If a man really like a woman she don’t have to constantly correct him 🟥He will correct hisself 🟥✨
Women have to learn that your love is not about how much you can endure, this narrative need to change, ladies you and only YOU have this power. Just like your strength is not about how much you can endure, but how much you can let go! My friends get annoyed when I told them”it all starts within you, you teach people how they can treat you”;doing the same things other and other again and expecting different result is called insanity. Heal, love yourself first period, it’s not selfishness it’s necessity. You will attract the frequency you are align with. Be align with yourself you will attract someone who is in the same path.
Thank you Tony for never overediting your videos. I love this sit down and talk type of content. You help fill a void in women that haven’t had this kind of interaction or info from their own father. You are truly a blessing🙏🏽💕
Tony is a real one, he stay putting us up on game, I've learnt so much about men and their M.O from Tony and I've seen how they react and how I annoy them when they see that they can't manipulate/run game on me cos I know too much. It's a shame that instead of a man leading, loving and protecting a woman, they will rather run game on her. GOD bless good men
Sadly this is the truth~ me included Tony. After listening and reading all of these lessons... I have ended up going right back into the same type situation. I have been beating myself up for it. Thank you Tony for shari ng that this is common and why. Your words in this message encourages me to get back up and try again to do it right .
Do the work Sis. Yes it’s hard. But, trust me, when you finally get tired and leave for good, You will regret ALL the TIME you wasted and cheated yourself out of. You are also delaying the growth you need to reset, and get yourself in position to receive what God has for you. I pray you will choose YOU instead of him.
Jesus is Lord !!! Brother Tony Gaskins you are wise, mature, courageous, sincere and very much needed to teach us women and men that would dare to get your wisdom and to God be all the Glory. Sincerely written Continue to give the Lord Jesus Christ your yes .
Thank you Tony I got my fiancé to read your book he actually read it twice. He actually tried to get me to stop listening to you. But when I told him if you don’t want me to grown I can’t be with you,& he hasn’t said nothing ever sense. I appreciate you a lot. Keep up the good work…
Tony , Tony, Tony. Thank God for Mrs Sheri Gaskin for making you step up. Keep telling that truth. I was broken, and didn’t know my worth. I will NEVER reinforce toxic behaviour again. Amen and thank you. Your a blessing.🙏🏽
Praise God for this message. I have been contemplating something serious about my life, and this has confirmed the decision I made. Thank you for obeying God's calling, Tony.
I'm adapting to being single since my husband of 14yrs died 2yrs ago...life with him was a real circus, he seemed to have this ' women are disposable ' thing going on. He was a true cheater to his heart 💜, no more drama just peace....
I know it was spirit that led me to your videos Tony and I thank God for that. Watching these other so-called men on their platforms kind of discouraged me and then I came across you. Thank you for speaking the truth.
I haven’t listened to your content in awhile BUT….. You preaching today! May God continue to bless you and Mrs. Gaskins and your family and your healthy godly relationship ministry. We NEED MORE HEALTHY GODLY marriages. The Lord knows we do! He is our standard and He set the standard. Thank you Mrs. Gaskins for having a standard and sticking to it. You are the wind beneath Tony’s wings and his rib.
This is sooooo GOOD and 100% TRUTH!! The way you have explained this is EXACTLY the way I believe God created men and women to be in a relationship/marriage! Come on now!! There are boys and then there are MEN. I’m 38, single, been single for a long time, because I WILL not settle for anything less than God’s best! I’m thankful for parents who have shown what a Godly, long lasting, loving, balanced, continually growing in love, respect, and friendship. NEVER settle! If you’re praying for a relationship, ask God to keep guard your heart, eyes, mind, and spirit from all others. Only opening your hearts and eyes to the Man God has for you!!
This video is real!!! I love it. Man in leadership in marriage and it's a team not domination and controlling! A real marriage is full of peace and love!
Wow, and was going through this.. Very similar to my problem. I walked away too. And I cried it out that night. I realized men are selfish most of them, they just don't care. They have women throwing themselves at them, so I won't be that woman to beg a man. A man knows how to treat a woman, but nowadays they act too cool. Like our world revolves around them. A man that would need me, and see the woman I am, what I bring into his life. That's what I'd find but not now.. I'm patient. I'm not rushing God's timing is always right.
Tamar I couldn’t agree more. Like once I realized these men really don’t give a fuck I just have up. It’s too many women out here for them to care about us walking away and leaving
Tony, I've listened to you for years and take heed to what you say. The second I see red flags, I address it in a conversation. The second time I see it, it's a wrap because once is a mistake, twice is a decision and I don't have time for foolishness. I'm a happy, successful single woman and if God has a spouse for me, great. If not, great. I thank God for your work. Thank you!
Say it in the comments, "I am one of those women!" if you are no longer settling for less and are not afraid to be alone until you receive the type of love you are ready to give and deserve. ❤ If you're not there yet, as Mr.Tony said, hit the reset button🕹 and be intentional about what you want. Set the boundaries and he will either have to get with it or get lost! This is real life! Not a scripted fairytale. You can't be afraid to be alone. Know your worth and what you deserve. Don't settle!!! Set the standard for your life and family. Become one of those women!!
Make a very long story short I felt after listening to Tony for a while I truly believe God put this man in my life to change my mindset relationships well I listened and followed tony advice even though I went threw some challenges i am happily getting married next year. The path to follow Jesus the road is narrow but if u stay in the fight and don't give up a prize is waiting at the end the man of your dreams.
The man I’m in love with popped back up into my life after a year. While he’s been gone I’ve been growing in faith. We met for dinner, his words were good, but all I could sense was pain and uncertainty in my spirit. I had to walk away from the man I deeply loved. It’s by far the hardest and most painful thing I’ve ever had to do. I knew in my heart that I deserved better then what he was about to give me. I’m not sure why I’m sharing this personal story, but Tony’s advice is wise.
Me too
Love that for you hun !
Your spirit will always guide you. There is no lack in God✨..
I did the same as you. I’m still hurting; but I know I did the right thing. His loss!!
You took action like a grown woman should. You know your worth. Congratulations!! Your King will come.
I refuse to settle...I would rather be alone than to be someone's fool.
Girl same here. I’ll be just fine if it was my call to be apostle Paulina 🤗
Same!!!!!!
Same x 3 and heavy on that.
It’s horrible being w the wrong person! I’d rather be alone too and have been alone for awhile
Never be desperate for a man. It will never end well. I tell my coaching clients to take time to heal and learn to love yourself.
Yess!!!!🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰❤❤❤❤❤💯💯💯💯☺☺☺☺🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💪💪💪💪💪
100% facts. It takes a strong woman to walk away. And if you walk away it’s another woman who can replace you just like that. Men know this and that’s why they don’t care.
The worst feeling ever
@@janayewill3883 it’s worth it though to walk away trust me!
@@marilynking527 temporary pain is better than a lifelong pain
@@janayewill3883 exactly!
Replacements, need to be put into perspectives because 95% of the time they’re not better.
Me blocking my situation ship while listening to TonyG🤦🏾♀️😁
Yay sis...good for you. Take your self-love back 🔥🙌💯
DO IT GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!
Proud of you
I’m in a situationship it’s so emotionally draining
❤️🙌
Yep! Mr Gaskins is speaking nothing but facts! Men will replace a woman in 1.5 milliseconds bc they know a lot of women these days are desperate to say they have somebody or simply just want companionship. Even if that means losing their dignity.. smh. It takes a strong woman in God who can walk away from a man. Like Mr Gaskins said, you get what you settle for in life.
It breaks my heart sometimes when I see woman stay with a no good low down dirty grown boy just to say they have someone. At my old job the women used to throw salt in other women's faces, "saying ha ha ha, I took you man" and they used to fight in the store in front of customers. I used to just shake my head in disbelief and this was before I started watching Tony's videos. I pray one day all women have the strength to love themselves and move on and stop settling!
Yessssss! I have said “Got to go” endless times to men.. Also, Ive learned that a man can be a good man but not good at relationships.. I have zero regrets. Our intuition is never wrong..
He’ll replace a woman in 1.5 milliseconds when he doesn’t give a fvck about you. *fixed*
To me it’s really not hard to walk away from most of these men. If they dont have anything to offer anyways you aren’t losing anything when you leave. That’s the way I see it
Tony You are TOTALLY CORRECT as usual. That’s why we are called “ helpmeet” in the Bible. I was married to a man I was totally in love with. He never cheated on me. He wasn’t that kind of man. But, he was a horrible husband. He put everything and everyone before me, except at bedtime, if you know what I mean. I PRAYED and STAYED, trying to show him I was there for him, had his back and so on and so on. Well, when I saw that he wasn’t going to change, I left. He took my kindness for weakness. Now, he’s texting me, sending me kissy faces and basically trying to keep in touch with me. HE PLAYED HIMSELF. I don’t go BACKWARDS.
Amen don't go back ♥️
Well you aint wrong sistah. The Word says infidelity is an acceptable cause to divorce. Sorry to hear it, but I think you're going to be more than just alright! ❤ 💎
I prayed and stayed describes so many toxic relationships. Prayer is good but sometimes leaving is the right answer.
That's right! So glad you had the strength to leave. Keep moving forward!
There is more than 1 way to cheat....he cheated you out of being treated like you should have been treated....equally wrong".....Good for you"
It does take strength to walk away. I stayed way too long thinking that being patient would make him love me more; it actually backfired. Now I’m a single mom of 7. I use my RUclips channel, books, and coaching to warn other ladies, and to teach them self-love.
👏🏽💖just subscribed
How can you and I connect?
God bless you Krystle 🌷🌷🌷
Same, I stayed way too long and funny thing is I KNEW BETTER and still didn't trust my own self. 🤦🏾♀️😔🤷🏽♀️ No More tho! I stay prayed up.
Good for you! I'm a mom of 4 and was thinking about starting a youtube channel to help women as well.
This man and the power of Jesus saved me from a lot of heartbreak
Me too!!! I was able to dodge abusive men because of Tony and I am so thankful for him
Same here 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Amen!!!! Me tooooooo!!!!!❤️🙏
Amen
Facts same here 🙏🏽
The last "man" who told me "we need a break!" is still on break.😭 lol If, you don't care about or love me as much as I care about and love me, hit the bricks. I've got pride, too. And, I love my Self. Living single 'til further notice. That's that. Thanks, Uncle Tony lol 🥰
I woke up one very early morning out of the blue and put my very disrespectful ex right out the door, along with all his stuff and his 2 dogs, 2 weeks after discovering Tony Gaskin.That was 2 years ago and I have been at peace and healing ever since. Iam not lonely and definitely not disparate for anything and anyone. I still can't believe I was putting up with his verbal and emotional abuse for as long as I was. I get triggered sometimes, even after 2 years later.
I would’ve kept the dogs 🤣 but I’m glad you freed yourself and have been at peace and healing
@@sphinxkitty4951 Chile she said Rufus and Fido have to go too!!! Anything connected to him had to go!!
@@healed2011 You know it. They were disrespectful too😂😂😂
@Sasha M ... Praise God!!
Good for you! I love your strength
Tony, please don’t retire YET! Some of us do listen and apply your advice. I sensed a bit of frustration in this video because you might be tired of telling us (women) the same thing over and over 😫
Tony givin’ out the CHEAT CODE to life. You pickin’ it up?🤣👏🏽
picking ALL👏🏾 OF👏🏾 IT👏🏾 UP👏🏾
Yup😄
Yep he like y'all don't miss it
❤️❤️There is lack of leadership in some men. And as a woman it's hard to teach a man how to lead, so I take the leadership role. And it has failed dismally. Preach my brother!
Exactly. Which causes us as women to take on a masculine role in our relationships unintentionally.
Unfortunately, we have to teach them how to lead without them realizing they're being taught women do it everyday. It's a lot to do with how/when we talk to them.
Women are so masculine these days they will not allow a man to lead them.
@@thelmathomas8414 Agreed.
@@thelmathomas8414 exactly! Women today think they’re teaching a man to lead when in reality because they are so masculine they only attract feminine men who don’t lead. Real masculine men are repulsed by these manly masculine women. Masculine men only deal with feminine women.
A man shouldn't compete with his woman or make his woman feel inferior in the relationship, but the woman shouldn't participate in a relationship where there is constant opposition, feuding, and belittling either. Nobody wins when the family feuds! We are teammates not opponents! Women should be helping their men dominate and be fruitful here on the earth. Men should be eager and excited to have a teammate, partner, right-hand-woman, ally and a friend to support them. At the end of the day, it's about helping the team win! When the team wins, God wins!
BOOM!
Amen👏🏾👏🏾
Some of these men , though, are pawns of Satan. That's why they can't work as a team and let God win. To hell with them. Be selective , very selective, about the choices you make as a woman.
@@ak-47intelligence75 I agree
Single mom right now but I have peace. Put God first and everything will fall in place. Don’t settle for being treated any kind of way just be in a relationship!
Right there with you love! We are God’s until he is ready to Give us away to who he has chosen for us. I’m loving the single Mom life walking in faith with the Lord.
It's just a thing of standing your ground in the Lord. Once you experience the love of God, you won't be able to deal with anything less. I can look at "couple goals" and see they're not my goals. Yes it comes with a cost. Yes the wait is real and yes you barely can date because you don't tolerate a boy.... It's a lonely road even to have girlfriends question your devotion. It's better than dealing with these demons disguise as men.
Amen Sis!!!!
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
"God didn't make a (wo)man's heart for a man to be shared with other women". Whoah.
What about a homan? Lol
@@icbratbrattz7909 they are definitely out there.
This is a mighty word! If women are to be honest (me included), every time we end up in a situation where it’s less than what God desired we either operated in the spirit of lack, desperation, or fear (sometimes all three).. Bless you for this!
Yesss Ma’am 👏🏽!
I never really experienced or felt those feelings but I operated from a strong spirit of lust and asked questions later lol 😂 which wasn’t good at all. Lawd 🤦🏾♀️ I have learned my lesson as soul ties ain’t no joke
@@Mindful.Movement.01 lol I like your honesty. How do soul ties work? How you know you got them?
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whew chile lol 😂 it would take a while boom for me to answer that but really if you find yourself attached to a person in such a way that its hard for you to get over them and everything about that person constantly consumes you mentally and emotionally or any way internally you have encountered a soul tie with that person …. certain habits , spirits and even entities and demons start to show up in your life and attach themselves to you that you never had to deal with or dealt with before you got with that person etc …
We are way more powerful than what we know and are told and have been taught!! We represent so much! You can never loose by betting on yourself!!!!
True 👸🏾
After years of mind games and manipulation. I finally see through all the confusion. This message today confirms that I have made the right decision to block and change my number and no longer deal with any nonsense. I have no regrets, only that I wasted so much time on the wrong individuals.
Better late than never! Kudos to you!😉👏💋
That’s exactly how I felt. I didn’t regret leaving, I REGRETTED I had WASTED so much time dealing with him.
@Coach GloriAnn the good thing is we LEARNED the lesson, and won’t make THAT mistake again.
Empress im feeling the same way about the men and lovers I’ve had in the past
Amen!! The invention of block does wonders. That person will never have access to you again. Good for you ❤️🙏🏽
Tony these 2021 men don’t want to lead, don’t want 1 woman, don’t want a household and don’t want a family.
Trust me when I say, They are not All the same, If that were true, We as Women are defeated.....@tonygaskins is a good man but he is not the only good man....
The right man will find you Sis.....💗💗💗
@Coach GloriAnn they are narcissists
Because most of these males are gay
@@amerokeewiya1320 EXACTLY & they mamas know it too
@@amerokeewiya1320 most of them have daddy issues (maybe mommy issues too)
There is a special anointing on this message. It is time for us women to wake up for real❗❗❗ thank you Tony.
Takes a real relationship with Jesus to break free of that weakness we have with men.
Holy Spirit literally told me one night after kissing my boyfriend
“WHY ARE YOU KISSING TRASH?!!Princesses don’t kiss TRASH.” 😭😭
I dropped my boyfriend like a bad habit real quick.
We’re married now. I knew this was the man I would marry. But Jesus knew that his son was a BOY AND MISSING THE MARK.
It took many scriptures and dreams to get me to understand why I needed to let go.
It hurt at the time but now in marriage I have a man.
Mr.Gaskin is telling the truth I started watching at 18 in regards to my relationship my husband and I aren’t perfect. In and out of sin. I always wanted to be obedient but it was difficult.
but now he has a backbone and I have the ability to make him come up to standard or basically say No Im Not Dealing With Your Trash 🗑.
I think God rewards us in the long run if we take the high road. Trust yourself, know your worth and don't bend to make it easy for a man, because he wants you right now. Thank you so much, Tony, the world needs more men like you.
I won't never take him back. Single for 5 yrs. He has not touch me Lol
I’m always thinking I’m the only woman that is single, going on 2 years, ended my relationship with my ex/son father almost 3 years ago our son will be 5 years old in December
me too 5 lol
Same here🙋🏾♀️
Me too 🙋 But, my singleness came through the death of my boyfriend so it's been a year for me.
I been single for 3 as well
Well said.
God blesses men who marry.
He who finds a wife finds a good treasure & obtains blessings/favor from the Lord.
Keep preaching it Tony👍
Godspeed to you & yours
It kills me the number of women who think they know men better THAN a man. Anyone in these comments resisting what he is saying is probably miserable in their singleness. Women CRAVE headship because we were created that way. ANY woman who says differently, lacks humility and does not view her God given role as a complement, NOT compliment, to her mate.
“Men know that we have the code to a woman’s heart. We have the cheat code...” TG.
Tony, I’m praying that God continues to give you strength to do this. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
well I'm actually one of the few women who listens and chooses to do better. I refuse to be heartbroken and make the same foolish mistakes again with a man.
You’re not the only one. I’ll be damned.
Uncle Tony your work is not in vain.
I agree “step up or step out” we have to be one of those woman who break the code.
COME ON TONYYYYYY PREACH 😩👏🏽
Fascinating that women just choose to stay... ive never been that way, but it fascinates me that so many women are; & that they dont just stay for a while, but stay for YEARS of destruction
Exactly.....I wishhh I would.....smh
Very fascinating
It’s not in me to tolerate BS!!!
Its crazy! I nvr have and nvr would. I'd rather die alone
Thank you! Somebody finally said it. Many will often settle and CHOOSE to stay and keep saying they were “tricked”. I’m a woman that’s just not built for bs and won’t play with my peace like that
Just walked away from a 15 yr on and off relationship, and it hurts me to my core but I realized my worth, and im not looking back!! I am my biggest advocate, someone that loves you will not put you through hell and back!!
"He will prey on your weaknesses, if he has any weakness in him" - TG ... WOW 😳🙌🏾
Tony, you have outdone yourself with this video. Wow. This is the one EVERY man and woman needs to hear and take to heart. The message is powerful. How heavenly when we can view our man as the capable and watchful captain of our ship.
Tony I have been a racist all my life, honestly. I am a white girl born into an elite family from a town that did not allow blacks or jews. I have only dated white guys. I have been taught early on to avoid black people. But you have changed my entire life for the better. I see how closed off and how abused I was, being taught to avoid black people. You have healed me so much with your videos, you are a genius and I will forever never again be racist and closed off to black people again!
I've listened to this over 10 times already, I never want to forget!
Whew! Tony you kept it RAW on this one!! But one thing… You ARE stopping some things!! Lol. Your words have changed many lives!!!
Blessed Tribe Tap in!!! 💖💖💖
Very true Tony. My friends who are blessed and genuinely happy in marriage all went thru “trial by fire” while dating but did not compromise their integrity and beliefs and God blessed them with good husbands.
Angelic message. God is speaking through this man. Grateful for the message.
Okay but the accuracy was on point. We women are desperate for any man to take us in. I hate to say it but I've seen SO MANY examples of women doing this - myself included. It never made sense until you explained it through this video. 💯. This is embarrassing. What have we come too? I just wanna move to a whole new planet at this point.
Tony you’re on a roll with these powerful messages! Thank you!
Yes!!
Yes ! I felt this in my soul today. Thank you, Tony.
P.s Im not in any relationship or dealing with any situation but I still listen so I know what standards I need to hold up to and what not to accept in my life 🤍
Not only have I never dreamt of marriage or a wedding, but I have zero desire for a relationship right now, especially after watching a lot of your videos (I don't mean it in a bad way).
The way men have been "marketed" vs the reality of the nightmare that they are......makes me want to remain single.
Again, I'm not saying that there aren't any good men in the world. But why do women have to go through world war 4 to find one?
Why do men have to come with so much fuckery and bullshit? Why don't they (trash men) just stay confined to the women out there who really are trash and leave all the rest of the good women alone?
I've actually never been more happy to be single, not entertaining any men and working on myself/my 3 B's.
isn’t it sad how these videos make you NOT want a relationship? 🤦🏾♀️
It can be good to hear and still depressing and discouraging. The one thing that I'm sure of no matter my desires is that it BEHOOVES me to wait on the Lord. Compliments to my mother for that vocabulary word she'd threaten me with, lol. Ahh childhood memories.
@@danyelgarcia3689 its my favorite one to use!!! 🤣🤣
Right! Feeling more at peace with being single for now. Too much bs out there and Tony is exposing them! Wish I had watched these kinds of videos year ago.
I always felt I’d rather be single than put up with foolery since I was a child. I don’t know if it’s because I watched other women constantly deal with the bs or because I’m a Virgo. I could go on one date then be done with that bs for the next five years I swear. Fell in love once and only then did I ever have physical desires for somebody. And it’s extremely rare anyone I meet is even someone I fall in love with because I just take my sweet time and let them show me who they really are before I decide I even like them, 99% don’t pass.
Happy Tuesday blessed tribe
Same to you!
Happy Tuesday 😊😊😊
Happy Tuesday!! 😎🙌🙏🏻
@@BrittnePtheBestGirl ❤
@@ericacrayton8615 ❤
Young man may the Lord God Almighty cover and protect you! You Sir ARE preaching God’s TRUTH! ONLY God Himself have revealed this truth to you! I am sitting here fighting back tears as this truth is bringing healing to my spirit, soul and body!!!!!!
😭😢😭😢😭☮️😇🙏🏽
Amen
Us as women need to realize that power that we actually have. We can’t control other peoples reactions but we certainly can’t control what we allow and what we settle for. Instead of complaining about all the “no good men” out here, I shifted the focus on myself so I could figure out why I was entertaining the so-called no good men. By doing that, I automatically saved myself from wasting my time and started having more time to deal with men of a higher caliber of character.
Tony praises be to God Almighty. You’re so right! I was that woman once before that accepted from my husband the cheating & forgiveness. The abuse the nonsense. For the 10,15 years that I stayed even after the divorce I still would deals with him. Then one day I said enough was enough. And I said I would rather not have another person in my life I would rather raise my children & after that be single because I said I would never go through what I went through before. So I stuck to my word & 2yrs later the Lord has blessed me with my Love My Protector My Provider. He’s so good . So good to me to the children whom he calls his children. This love that I experience with him was worth the wait….. Love is out there just trust believe have faith and know what you are worth… you’re worth more than you think
Thanks for the great message. Currently single and living my best life with no drama. 😊😊😊
No drama is priceless!!!!!
Every woman, especially single women needs to hear this video! Let’s share this with our sistas
It’s takes strength to walk away. I waisted my whole collage life with a guy only for him to leave me with a woman with two kids. He’s married now and they share a baby together. Best bullet I’ve dodged. Do your self a favor pay attention to the read flags and leave..... most of the time the upgrade is not better and you can find much better out there.
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Me: PREACH!
Oh my goodness. I am that woman! I will cry myself to sleep time and time again before I ever let a man see me sweat or hear me breakdown. I cannot chase a man or lower my worth. Its lonely a lot of days but I will stay single before I sell myself short.
Yes Sir, l'm still focus on God l'm still waiting on God.
they sure don't change for themselves
You're amazing. I will never settle again! Periooodt.
This is a much needed message that men need to hear also ✨✨✨Also a man said today If a man really like a woman she don’t have to constantly correct him 🟥He will correct hisself 🟥✨
Tony gang here 👀🙌🏾
Blessed tribe in the building
Women have to learn that your love is not about how much you can endure, this narrative need to change, ladies you and only YOU have this power. Just like your strength is not about how much you can endure, but how much you can let go! My friends get annoyed when I told them”it all starts within you, you teach people how they can treat you”;doing the same things other and other again and expecting different result is called insanity. Heal, love yourself first period, it’s not selfishness it’s necessity. You will attract the frequency you are align with. Be align with yourself you will attract someone who is in the same path.
You know everything. I respect you a lot. You are a true Christian which is very rare.
Tony some of us are listening and learning from you.
Never fails with coming through with a message and a WORD! Thank you Brotha Tony ✊🏾
Thank you Tony for never overediting your videos. I love this sit down and talk type of content. You help fill a void in women that haven’t had this kind of interaction or info from their own father. You are truly a blessing🙏🏽💕
Amen 💯
You don’t hear this message on any other channel!! Thank you 🙏 So grateful to have found this channel 🙏
Tony is a real one, he stay putting us up on game, I've learnt so much about men and their M.O from Tony and I've seen how they react and how I annoy them when they see that they can't manipulate/run game on me cos I know too much. It's a shame that instead of a man leading, loving and protecting a woman, they will rather run game on her. GOD bless good men
PREACH son!!! Will not enforce negative behavior. Your wise beyond your years!!
My #1 Game/Knowledge 🔌
whewwww!! Nothing but the TRUTH 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Tony...thanks for being so real
Wow! God bless you for delivering us (women) from a lot of happenings😀🙏🏻
Speaking facts always
🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️🔥🔥 You were one of the reasons I changed Tony. I am so grateful for you. This was powerful and you are absolutely correct!
I'm sorry, but this was beautiful.
Go TONY ! You are truly a blessing to us ALL🙏
Sadly this is the truth~ me included Tony. After listening and reading all of these lessons... I have ended up going right back into the same type situation. I have been beating myself up for it. Thank you Tony for shari ng that this is common and why. Your words in this message encourages me to get back up and try again to do it right .
It’s okay sis. From one woman to another you’re human. You’re worth it and I pray you have the strength to not go back again
Do the work Sis. Yes it’s hard. But, trust me, when you finally get tired and leave for good, You will regret ALL the TIME you wasted and cheated yourself out of. You are also delaying the growth you need to reset, and get yourself in position to receive what God has for you. I pray you will choose YOU instead of him.
Thank you for another message of truth and wisdom. God bless you and your family.
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JUNE 2021
Feel like I need to watch it again!
It’s a must for me!!!
Jesus is Lord !!!
Brother Tony Gaskins you are wise, mature, courageous, sincere and very much needed to teach us women and men that would dare to get your wisdom and to God be all the Glory.
Sincerely written
Continue to give the Lord Jesus Christ your yes .
Thank you Tony I got my fiancé to read your book he actually read it twice. He actually tried to get me to stop listening to you. But when I told him if you don’t want me to grown I can’t be with you,& he hasn’t said nothing ever sense. I appreciate you a lot. Keep up the good work…
Tony , Tony, Tony. Thank God for Mrs Sheri Gaskin for making you step up. Keep telling that truth.
I was broken, and didn’t know my worth. I will NEVER reinforce toxic behaviour again. Amen and thank you. Your a blessing.🙏🏽
We be stuck on stupid🤦🏽Gotta wake up!
*THEY. *fixed*
Praise God for this message. I have been contemplating something serious about my life, and this has confirmed the decision I made. Thank you for obeying God's calling, Tony.
I'm adapting to being single since my husband of 14yrs died 2yrs ago...life with him was a real circus, he seemed to have this ' women are disposable ' thing going on. He was a true cheater to his heart 💜, no more drama just peace....
I know it was spirit that led me to your videos Tony and I thank God for that. Watching these other so-called men on their platforms kind of discouraged me and then I came across you. Thank you for speaking the truth.
This needs to be played on a huge speaker across the world! SO much truth and common sense here - thank you!!!!
I haven’t listened to your content in awhile BUT….. You preaching today! May God continue to bless you and Mrs. Gaskins and your family and your healthy godly relationship ministry. We NEED MORE HEALTHY GODLY marriages. The Lord knows we do! He is our standard and He set the standard. Thank you Mrs. Gaskins for having a standard and sticking to it. You are the wind beneath Tony’s wings and his rib.
I appreciate these PSA's to us Ladies.
Back to back preaching!! All true and AMEN
Thanks Tony. I forgot my value for a second. Thanks for reminding me I am beautifully made.
This is sooooo GOOD and 100% TRUTH!! The way you have explained this is EXACTLY the way I believe God created men and women to be in a relationship/marriage! Come on now!!
There are boys and then there are MEN. I’m 38, single, been single for a long time, because I WILL not settle for anything less than God’s best! I’m thankful for parents who have shown what a Godly, long lasting, loving, balanced, continually growing in love, respect, and friendship.
NEVER settle! If you’re praying for a relationship, ask God to keep guard your heart, eyes, mind, and spirit from all others. Only opening your hearts and eyes to the Man God has for you!!
This video is real!!! I love it. Man in leadership in marriage and it's a team not domination and controlling! A real marriage is full of peace and love!
I listened to this twice. I got this in my spirit!
This message right here! 🔥🔥🔥👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Thanks so much Toni!🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿 This is such a powerful on time message!
I needed to hear this because I’ve been slipping. Thank you 🙏
Your worth so much more👍🏾remember that
Yesss 👏🏾👏🏾 I'm single but I will not settle even if I have to start over...I love it here ❤
You are the truth, may God continue to bless you and your family
Wow, and was going through this..
Very similar to my problem.
I walked away too.
And I cried it out that night.
I realized men are selfish most of them, they just don't care. They have women throwing themselves at them, so I won't be that woman to beg a man. A man knows how to treat a woman, but nowadays they act too cool. Like our world revolves around them.
A man that would need me, and see the woman I am, what I bring into his life. That's what I'd find but not now.. I'm patient. I'm not rushing God's timing is always right.
Tamar I couldn’t agree more. Like once I realized these men really don’t give a fuck I just have up. It’s too many women out here for them to care about us walking away and leaving
Tony, I've listened to you for years and take heed to what you say. The second I see red flags, I address it in a conversation. The second time I see it, it's a wrap because once is a mistake, twice is a decision and I don't have time for foolishness. I'm a happy, successful single woman and if God has a spouse for me, great. If not, great. I thank God for your work. Thank you!
Brilliant message!!! Keep preaching the truth Tony!! God bless you!!
Say it in the comments, "I am one of those women!" if you are no longer settling for less and are not afraid to be alone until you receive the type of love you are ready to give and deserve. ❤
If you're not there yet, as Mr.Tony said, hit the reset button🕹 and be intentional about what you want. Set the boundaries and he will either have to get with it or get lost!
This is real life! Not a scripted fairytale. You can't be afraid to be alone. Know your worth and what you deserve. Don't settle!!! Set the standard for your life and family. Become one of those women!!
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Make a very long story short I felt after listening to Tony for a while I truly believe God put this man in my life to change my mindset relationships well I listened and followed tony advice even though I went threw some challenges i am happily getting married next year. The path to follow Jesus the road is narrow but if u stay in the fight and don't give up a prize is waiting at the end the man of your dreams.