I was going to marry a kitabi women but something happened and Alhamdulillah that it happened so I can marry a muslimah Insha'Allah. My Rabb has His ways of guiding us
I’m a convert and I know a lot of sisters who will benefit from this jazakallah khair for your break down May Allah help us have a better understanding 🙌🏻
Wallahi I love YQ. Balanced: strict when needed, flexible when needed. All according to Sunnah and Quran and without sugarcoating. That's YQ. May Allah bless ALL our Ulama. May Allah make it easy to us all to obey Him and to love what He loves and hate what He doesn't love. May Allah put in our hearts the thirst to obey His Commandments and avoid the things He forbade us. Salam alaykum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuhu.
A momin's heart "knows" what's right and wrong. It feels uneasy, restless if doing wrong.... but we are all at different stages of emaan and so should dig deep into Quran, sunnah etc like YQ. He does this really well. MashaAllah. Not many people understand the minute subtleties of some ayats and the depth of research and thinking one has to try and reach before attempting to grasp a single point even. SubhanAllah. Reminds me programming...a very complex flow chart with multiple decision boxes, if then else conditions and go tos etc... May Allah Guide us, Give us the wisdom to delve deeper and also understand from others who have done that and are able to pass on their knowledge to us with Taqwa and Sincerity to Allah. Ameen. Jazak Allah Khairan.
Also I would like to hereby declare that if anyone decontextualises this sheikh and attributes falsehoods to him, I will stand beside him in Allah’s court and testify against those people. I’m so sick and tired of people’s egos being so fragile as to disregard the truth in favour of their nafscentric desires! May Allah guide us to accept truth no matter how unpalatable it may be to our “desires” and may our desire to please Him and follow Haqq be greater than our individualistic desires, Ameen!
Assalamu Alaykum. I am so glad I came across this video SubhanAllah. I've never heard a more logical and realistic explanation to this question Masha Allah. May Allah bless you Sheikh, with good health and increased knowledge so you may remain in Allah's service for many years, Aameen.🤲
Thank you for your reasonable and reasoned stance. I'm an atheist with a Muslim girlfriend. 'Hurt Love' is what I'm expecting should we progress to the next stage and marry. I feel that your video has helped me understand the situation better. I appreciate hearing your point of view rather than more conservative preachers who just say that such unions as may be in my future simply can't happen. When I know that they can, and do.
@Obvious Incel As I said above, I feel that I have looked into Islam. In my situation, the most important thing for me is to understand Islam as it is practiced by modern moderate Muslims such as my girlfriend (and future wife?)
Everytime I've had this type of discussion with non muslims Ive had success with getting them to see things from our perspective. The people you are going to be talking to are almost always secular, semi-religious or atheist. Ive always said: "your saying this because you dont believe in a God to even believe in a literal heaven or hell. To you its just opinions or stories" . At this point they usually stay silent with agreement or vocally agree with you. Then you say. "For you this will be hypothetical, but imagine for a second that there is a God and a heaven and a hell and nobody doubts it because they've seen it for themselves, and everyone knows the rules of life so to speak. Would you then say "go and live your life as you please knowing for a fact where your friend/relative will end up?" This usually stops them dead in their tracks. They know they would never knowingly want harm for someone else. You can see in their eyes for the first time the severity of how muslims see the world and for that one moment they fear hell with you, and at the very least you got them to believe in something for a moment.
@@mplsridah your right in this sense... this usually works with males. Women are different so it usually works better if you use women's topics as a starting point. In order to give the best tailored dawah you would need to know more abt the persons personality/ current beliefs and lifestyle habits, also how they make decisions would help determine how they think.
With the same intensity and similar logic Jews, Christians, Hindus, other faiths and atheists may say to you and would you then see things from their perspective? Your logic is flawed!
not just muslimahs, muslim men who now believe it is acceptable and holds his wife accountable for their livelihood and are being dismissive about committing zinaa saying things like "every man does this" "a man is a man at the end of the day" using fake socially constructed ideologies in order to justify or downplay major sins. It's both genders.
I don't need any non Muslim, even if every Muslim women perished from this universe..I will be single until the day of judgement..Alhamdulillah i am Muslim
What a mindless comment! Your bigotry is showing and there is nothing Islamic about your view! You are the kind of muslims that have given a bad name to Islam! The Saudi Wahabbi Jahaliyah thinking has made Islam the most disliked religion in the world!
A psychiatrist mentioned how we must have a connection with people in order to influence them, & this goes in line with what Shaykh is saying about how ideally we will not cut off family members. And Allah swt knows best
It literally doesn't say anywhere in the Qur'an that a Muslim woman must marry a Muslim man, only that the man must believe in Allah as well. Before you criticize me, read 2:221 and 60:10 in the Qur'an.
In Islamic jurisprudence, there are other sources along with the Qur'an, such as the Sunnah, Ijma', Qiyas, and 'Urf. As a layman, we need to follow the opinion of reliable ulema. Beware to follow our mere desires without knowledge. May Allah guide us all.
@@cinto1394 The Word of your Lord has been completed, in truth and justice. 6:115 The claim of the pro-hadith writers that God inspired to Muhammad a revelation other than the Quran, or what they call 'hadith qudsi' (Holy hadith) is in clear violation of 6:115. It is also in violation of 17:73 and 69:43-47 where God warns the prophet not to attribute to God anything other than the Quran
@@skonka8503 The same Quran also says to look at the lifr of Prophet, and what's the life of Prophet?? Ermm Hadith? And Quran says Muhammad is a perfect men, erm Quran only talks about Muhammad (PBUH) 5 times with his name, and his life is not mentioned in so much detail in Quraj then how r u gonna follow the Perfect men whome Quran says to follow?
Exactly, that's what i say too all the time but the people keep finding excuses that it's not true and that quran does ban muslim women from marrying non-muslim men without any proof. They believe anything these scholars say, It's double standards.
Fundamentally there're 5 big questions that are... 1, Where did I come from? (cosmological) 2, How do we know everything? (epistemological) 3, Who am I? (ontological) 4, Why am I here? (do I serve a purpose, do I have any intrinsic value, and what am I worth) 5, When we died what's going to happen? (Eschatological) How you answer this questions determine how you see the world and how you treat the world. Because you are a part of the world, how you see the world also determines how you see and treat yourself. So, it's important that we resolve these fundamental questions. And it's important that we discover the honest truth. Wrong answers to important questions aren't helpful. Where do we begin in our search for the truth we begin at the beginning. Perhaps the most fundamental question is!does God exist? It's fundamental because I answers to the other “big questions” is actually hinge on how we answer this significant question. I'm offering a suggestion to all of you brothers and sisters that if you can try to read book of scripture like Holy Qur'an! Am very sure it can help us all out to these five must biggest or help us solve the ultimate problem regarding Where..., How..., Who..., Why..., and Eschatological?
Dear Sheikh, thank you for this. This is a very sensitive topic and you've dealt with this quite well. You've not compromised the fiqh or tried to sugarcoat it, but you understand the reality and what has contributed to the reality. May Allah swt bless you for that. I think you're right about Muslim men should not marry non-Muslim or Kitabi women. I was tempted to explore this at uni, but there was a voice in the back of my mind telling me: "seriously? Are you really going to entertain this over Muslim women who cannot marry a non-Muslim?" Alhamdulillah! My humble suggestion to you is that you also explore why a Muslim (especially a Muslim woman) marrying a non-Muslim is a bad idea. Not just the practical consequences of raising kids, coming closer to Allah vs going away from Him, but also the divorce fiqh of other religions.
I think is halal for muslim women to marry non Muslim men in non Muslim lands the risks of only allowing marrying within the faith are a lot we become a ethnoreligious group that would be easy pickings for genocide like what can happen in France China etc and muslim lands with other minorities also the muslim marriage process is super complicated with parents blocking their children marriages beacuse he's not from Lahore Pakistan and the expensive weddings remember muslim weddings are more expensive than non Muslim weddings thank the Desi comunnity for that. Inshallah in the next generation we could be more strict with muslim women marring non Muslim men because this generation conditions for marriage is that the man is a good Muslim that's it none of the nonsense that plagues us today remember parents have a veto on the marriage
*My English teacher a non-Muslim looked at me tenderly & said "You remind me of the story of Shakespeare's Sister* Meaning your brothers intellect will be Nurtured!! but who will nurture your logical brain?* *The non-Muslims are ACUTELY aware of the SMART MUSLIMAH who has a dead end in INTELLECTUAL sphere!!* *Allah will ask the entire Muslim Ummah as to what you DID TO ME?* *I hope justice in Aakhira!!*
I have heard from some scholars from hanafi fiqh and shafi fiqh madhabs , they say if any muslim believes any marriage without nikah is a marraige, they are out of islam ...and i believe these interpretation
'The number 1 source that's the strongest source of Islamic law is ijma' Allah tells us: So do not fear the people; fear Me! Nor trade my revelations for a fleeting gain. And those who do not judge by what Allah has revealed are ˹truly˺ the disbelievers. 5:44 Nowhere does it say judge according to what men agree on (ijma)
Mens are mentioned to be qawam and protectors of their wives, also quran says to muslims that don't take christian and jews as protectors, since they are protectors to one another not to you. Do you know what that means? Islamically a men is in charge of his family, and is having a decree over his wife, now let me clear it isn't to show that women are inferior, although the prophet saww repeatedly said to respect and love your wife, but who is head would remain the head, now ALLAH says in quran that he wouldn't allow any other religion prevail over islam, do you know what that means? Let me tell you one more thing, hazrat umer RA stopped Muslim mens in his rule to marry non muslims, why he stopped them was because he said that if you married women of book, than who will marry our women? Will you plzz tell me that why he would say that if it was allowed for muslim women too? Also the scholars who made the ijmah didn't looked or thought of a one life, they thought of every life attached to that person, you may better know it too that what happens to the faith of the children of such a mother, they most probably don't follow islam, also those scholars pondered over every verse of quran, they didn't assumed anything by themselves which some scholars do nowadays. I myself too don't appreciate men marrying women of book, mens should only marry muslims because the category of women of book which is allowed (chaste) is very negligible nowadays, even if they are present, still they should only marry muslims. If surah maidah-5 wasn't revealed by ALLAH SWT then all the previous verses prohibited men too, it is just an exception made only for mens. But that exception is not encouraged
You make some very good points bro. We do worship our desires nowadays, but whys that a bad thing? We have been gifted life for a reason, to pursuit what we desire (passion, work, love, etc) Your saying what we need. But morality is subjective.
Biggest issue here should be not to criticize the other party but if a Muslim is so far gone as to want to marry a non-believer or a kitabi, it's likely they're the ones that need the most help in coming back to the Path.
I don’t disagree with the law obviously, I’m Muslim. But we have deep social issues going on, and the community that the Dr. speaks of barely exists. My family community has shrunk from the traditional definition to just my parents and brothers. It’s unfortunate. We used to have a strong support but it slowly dismantled for many reasons (immigration, age, problems, etc.). I’ve been having issues finding a husband for some time. To be honest with you, the Muslim men I’m seeing are Muslims on paper. They have the label, they have the deep cultural expectations on women, but they don’t behave like Muslims or live by those values. The world today is very murky. Things are no longer clear, to me at least.
Actually the Quran allows Muslim men to marry women of the book, and it does not specifically forbid Muslim women from doing the same! Do not ascribe to the Quran what it does not say! It is you who is trying to change the Quran according to your views!
Good answer, but he is guiding the family not the muslimah. Thats a problem. He is right. I know if men marry non-muslim kitabi in a country where there is only 2% muslims. Then she will marry someone outside the religion. These things can happen. But it will not be a marriage but zina only. Sad reality. 😢
"O you who believe! When believing women come to you as emigrants, examine them; Allah knows best as to their faith, then if you ascertain that they are true believers, send them not back to the disbelievers. They are not lawful for the disbelievers nor are the disbelievers lawful for them. ..." [Quran 60:10] The Believing Woman is prohibited from marrying a kafir/ mushrik. Allah's statement in 60:10, (They are not lawful for the disbelievers nor are the disbelievers lawful for them.) This Ayah forbids Muslim women for idolators/disbelievers.
This applied during the prophets time nowadays women are more independent even if you go the strict way most Muslims in the usa are Pakistanis people want to marry their own kind and also Pakistani and Indians demand way too much during marriage
Look at the comment section...there is not a single woman...supporting to Yasir Qadhis advice...women belongs to our ummah became hypocrites.if there is someone who supports his view ,I appreciate them
The problem is if the sister during a divorce in USA doesn't care what the shariah says you will have the same problem. Most times people are angry so the shariah goes right out the door. They will use American laws against the brother.
Slam alkum shak I love ur lectures and with the help of ur lectures alha helped my Iman get stronger.. but IAM have trouble finding Muslim spose what should I do
Please can someone explain what is the difference between a mushrikin and a kitabi in this context? I am confused because he said the Quran explicitly says neither men nor women can marry mushrikin period (in Muslim land and outside Muslim land) and he adds that believing in Jesus as the son of God is a form of shirk. A kitabi includes Christian women, who worship Jesus, so how is it permissible even on Muslim land??
The fact that you attend the wedding or even have some what normal contact with a Muslim woman who marries a non Muslim man shows acceptance to the younger generation and this is the danger that YQ failed to address. For that reason it would be very hard for me to have normal family functions with that person because this person’s actions can in their long run lead other muslimahs astray.
At the end of the day we will all be judged for our actions. No one else will be held responsible. So if one of my children marries a non Muslim then I would let them know about Islam's views on such a marriage. But if they still persist, and they are of age, then surely as a parent I will not end my relationship because of this action! With an adult you show your disapproval once and then move on!
This whole video is offensive to non-Muslims. According to this video, I am a mushrik because I worship my ego. How do you know that I worship my ego? What a cruel generalisation. What does it even mean to worship your own ego? I’m not a big-headed person and nobody who knows me thinks that about me. And then there’s the generalisation that if somebody is a liberal then by definition they have no respect for any religious belief. I am respectful of all religious beliefs and religious believer’s right to free worship so that’s not correct. My message to Muslims watching this video. Are you sure you want to receive religious wisdom from a person who preaches such unfair generalisations?
@Cam so if we’re willing to allow that not all non-Muslims worship their ego but many non-Muslims devote themselves to leading a good life, then we can no longer use the verse in the Quran forbidding Muslim women from marrying idol worshippers as evidence that they cannot marry non-Muslims because not all non-Muslims are idol worshippers. In which case, if he wants to forbid Muslim women marrying non-Muslim men from an Islamic perspective he will need to find some other scriptural basis.
@Cam Thank you for your extensive and thoughtful replies Cam (and considering English isn’t your first language you certainly did a better job than many for whom English is their first language!) I think the points you make about the man being the head of the household both financially and spiritually were certainly more relevant 1400 years ago and I’m glad that you yourself recognise that times are changing and both the mother and the father are beginning to have more of an equal influence in a child’s life today. In fact, in the West it could even be argued that the mother has more influence over the child’s upbringing although the father’s rights movements is on the increase. I’m glad that you also recognise that trying to think of novel and difficult situations that could arise in an interfaith marriage is extremely hypothetical to the point where we can’t say anything about what will happen with enough conviction to be able to form hard and fast rules placing harsh restrictions on interfaith marriage. Ultimately, the 2 partners themselves are best placed to figure out whether a future together is viable or not and how they would go about raising their children. I’m not sure if I mentioned that I was in this situation personally but if I didn’t then you are right in your assumption! Unfortunately, we had to bring things to an end. But I have been interested in discussing religion generally all my life so I’m still interested in this topic. Perhaps the speaker in this video has said things elsewhere that you have been impressed by. I can’t judge him on all of his content because I have not seen his other videos. But I think I’m right in my criticism of him because whether he believes deep down that all non-Muslims are ego-worshippers or not, he’s still trying to make the argument in this video that it’s forbidden for Muslim women to marry non-Muslim men in ALL cases BECAUSE it says in the Quran that Muslim women can’t marry idol worshippers AND non-Muslims idolise their egos. Imagine if a Catholic priest said Christian women can’t marry Muslim men because Muslims are terrorists. It’s a horrible and untrue generalisation. The fact that nobody is perfect isn’t enough of an excuse for why he’s spreading such ill advice. Have you heard of Mike Ghouse? He has written a book called American Muslim Agenda inside which he argues for interfaith marriage and himself performs nikkahs between Muslim women and non-Muslim men. Clearly, he is not an orthodox Muslim but a reformist and his ideas go against the grain of how Islam is commonly practised at large but his work is a valuable effort in making Islam and its core principles and practices attractive and relevant in the modern age.
@@sheikhmessi3622 yes it is offensive for the reasons I stated above. If you disagree then address the points I made. What do you mean by we are trying to normalise haraam and how are we doing that?
I respect my Muslim girlfriend's decision not to sleep with a man outside marriage, and do not love her any less because we are not doing that. (Or anything even remotely close to that.)
@Obvious Incel I don't understand what you mean. My Muslim girlfriend keeps on saying she's repeatedly surprised how much I know about Islam - though I don't think I'm that expert. However, I think I can justifiably claimed that I have looked into Islam.
Everything in the Quran has wisdom behind it. So what is the wisdom behind a Muslim man being allowed to marry a woman of the book but vice versa not being true? Because I can't find a reason that does not play into the mirage of a male dominant world where the man is the head of the household and sets the rules and if he wants the wife to make him pork, she has to disrupt her faith and do it. It sounds silly when those types of explanations are given. If that's the dynamic between two people they shouldn't get married. There's no respect or love in a relationship like that. In my house my mom was the breadwinner, she taught us Quran, she taught us to pray. Not my dad. The muslim woman was the Islamic force in the house, not the Muslim man. So I'm not questioning the legitimacy of the ruling, I'm asking, what is the logic? If the spouses have respect for each other's faiths and allow each other to practice their faith, then who cares which gender is Muslim and which is Christian or Jewish?
I have a similar question. I don’t know if I am missing the point because of how this concept was first introduced to me and with the aggression I first encountered it but I also don’t get it. I believe that Allah doesn’t favor men just because. There has to be a meaning behind this ruling and I would love to understand it. I also want to say that I don’t disagree with it but I desperately want to understand it.
@@shukriabdi4271 Men are more dominant and controlling towards their wives in general and make women to follow their way while women on the other hand are a weaker gender. If a Muslim woman marries a non-muslim man then often she has to surrender herself to his ways. She has to work hard to maintain her marriage by always accepting and obeying her husband's demands and this thing will drive her away from her religion. I am not saying that this could be the case with everyone but there is a possibility that this could happen. On the other hand the children always look at their father as their role model. Such children will be brought up as confused children and they will have no dimension in their lives. If mother believes in something else and father believes in something else will never set children on ONE right path. It is better that both parents work together to raise their kids with similar ideals. It is a known fact that when one parent has a different style of parenting than the other then the one who suffers most are the kids. Such kids often turn out to be sociopaths, narcissists or Psychopaths. The main purpose of this ruling in Islam that a Muslim woman should not marry a non muslim man is for the sake of next generation i.e, the kids. If you want to save your children from destruction then set ONE path for them. If people with different belief system will marry each other then there will always be clashes between them or there will be a clash between them at some point which will impact the Psychology of a child.
Loving your partner, having mutual respect for each other is a different thing than having different ideals. A narcissist is also a very loving person in the beginning of a relationship but only being loving and having mutual respect is not enough. What will be the impact on the children if one parent has a mandir (temple with various idols) in the house and the other parent is talking about only one God ? Who the children going to follow ?
The following is just my personal opinion, even though I can see and understand the opposing perspective. I am not a scholar and my words are not a fatwa. I disagree that attending the ceremony is "tacit approval". It can be made clear that someone disapproves of the marriage but is attending because they care about and love the person who is getting married. Not attending just seems to do unnecessary harm to the relationship btwn the newlywed and the family. I know people who (immaturely) would not listen to another word from a family member who adamantly refused to attend their wedding. More mature people may understand and just brush it off, but why risk the resentment? A family member can make their opinion clear -- that even though they do not agree with this particular action, they still love the person and, because they love them, they will support their decision even though they disagree with the action, and even though they wish the bride/groom would change their mind and make a different decision. An analogy may be made for attending LGBT friend's wedding. Just because you attend, does that mean you support the action? I would argue otherwise. I would argue that you are there in support of a friend. Otherwise we are implying that we cannot be friends with someone who is LGBT. Good friendship requires a person to be supportive when their friend has made a decision, even if they disagree with it. On the other hand, I am sure there is an opinion that actually does say Muslims can't be friends with LGBT people. I am not a scholar. It just seems that to maintain a tie of kinship, or a friendship, the very least someone can do is respect another person's decision even while making their own opinions clear. "There is no compulsion in religion." (2:256). People are entitled to make their own decisions. Could their decisions lead them to hellfire? Yes, that is possible. May Allah guide us and forgive us all. Conservative Muslims are absolutely entitled to their opinions regarding a liberal's actions. Everyone is free to have an opinion and make their own decisions. However conservative Muslims must be careful not to push people away from Islam through harshness and what comes across as self-righteousness. When a person is faced with this, they may associate the harshness with Islam, which then pushes them away further. Instead, the correct way to call someone to Islamic values is through empathy, care, and respect.
Lol LGBT friends wedding! Lol you got me there. Both would be Haram. Leave this conservative vs liberal crap it does not exist in Islam but only in your colonized brain
According to Qur'an (5:5)[4],: "This day [all] good foods have been made lawful, and the food of those who were given the Scripture is lawful for you and your food is lawful for them. And [lawful in marriage are] chaste women from among the believers and chaste women from among those who were given the Scripture before you, when you have given them their due compensation, desiring chastity, not unlawful sexual intercourse or taking [secret] lovers. And whoever denies the faith - his work has become worthless, and he, in the Hereafter, will be among the losers". From this verse, it can be understood that Muslim men are allowed to marry women from the People of the Book (i.e. the Jews and Christians). The Quran (2:221)[5] also states: "And do not marry Polytheist women until they believe, And a believing slave woman is better than a Polytheist women, even though she might please you. And do not marry Polytheist men [to your women] until they believe. And a believing slave is better than a Polytheist men, even though he might please you. Those invite [you] to the Fire, but Allah invites to Paradise and to forgiveness, by His permission. And He makes clear His verses to the people that perhaps they may remember". No where in the Qur'an does it state that a Muslim woman CANNOT marry a mumin which is a non-Muslim believing Christian or Jew. It states for both Muslim men and women to not marry mushriks, polytheists. Islam has gender equality and a mumin according to Arabic includes believers of oneness of God which is Christian and Jew called People of the Book, which is clear in the Qur'an. From the above surahs Qur'an is silent on Muslim women marrying People of the Book so Islamic scholars back in the day decided that meant Muslim women are prohibited. This unanimous consensus comes from a time where it was thought that Muslim women may be coerced to leave their religion or raise children non-Muslim if they married Christians or Jews and so it was to protect her and honestly control her independence to ensure propagation of the faith. But that is not the case now and Muslim women are independent in many countries dictating how their marriages will go and how they will raise their children as Muslims. We can only go by what is in the Qur'an and sunnah. Before there was Hannafi, Maliki, Shafi there was just Muslims, with one law which is the Qur'an and the guidance of the Prophet pbuh. The sunnah does not forbid Muslim women from marrying people of the book and neither does the Qur'an. They are silent on the matter and actually specific for Muslim men. Perhaps because Allah and His Prophet, pbuh, know how sensible women are anyway and so do not need instructions on this? Did that ever occur to our scholars? We can have multiple interpretations of the Qur'an if the words used are confusing but it is clearly stated what is a mumin so how is it ok for a Muslim man to marry the kitabi but not Muslim women? Doesn't make sense and that is why classical Islamic interpretations need a reformation to how it applies now and go back to the source, the Qur'an, which is silent on this case. Unanimous consensus of MALE scholars does not mean unanimous if it does not include Muslim women. We're in a different time and Islam is a religion for all times as it is a prophetic faith which means it looked way ahead into the future and knew that women would gain financial and physical independence from men and will be able to dictate their own lives. That is why the Qur'an did not forbid Muslim women to marry believing men of the book, the classical male Muslim scholars came to their conclusion and forbid it. Do we take the silence of Allah and His Prophet, pbuh, to mean prohibition and forbidding? Allah knows best.
Mens are mentioned to be qawam and protectors of their wives, also quran says to muslims that don't take christian and jews as protectors, since they are protectors to one another not to you. Do you know what that means? Islamically a men is in charge of his family, and is having a decree over his wife, now let me clear it isn't to show that women are inferior, although the prophet saww repeatedly said to respect and love your wife, but who is head would remain the head, now ALLAH says in quran that he wouldn't allow any other religion prevail over islam, do you know what that means? Let me tell you one more thing, hazrat umer RA stopped Muslim mens in his rule to marry non muslims, why he stopped them was because he said that if you married women of book, than who will marry our women? Will you plzz tell me that why he would say that if it was allowed for muslim women too? Also the scholars who made the ijmah didn't looked or thought of a one life, they thought of every life attached to that person, you may better know it too that what happens to the faith of the children of such a mother, they most probably don't follow islam, also those scholars pondered over every verse of quran, they didn't assumed anything by themselves which some scholars do nowadays. I myself too don't appreciate men marrying women of book, mens should only marry muslims because the category of women of book which is allowed (chaste) is very negligible nowadays, even if they are present, still they should only marry muslims.
@@shahaanbabar2297 So you're against the rule set by Allah MUSLIM men from marrying CHRISTIANS and Jews women? What the hell wrong with your brain!! Fanaticism is killing you!
@@Ceasefirerightnow Quran first explicitly ordered men and women not to marry non believers( Surat Al‑Mumtahanah 10) and then it made an exception for men(Al Maidah 5:5).
All is true said, ya sheik Yasir Q, it's very interesting subject. Allso the race also another problem, almost all Pakistanis families they want their families to get married between them, they don't want the children marrying another muslims sister. I saw the boys are having hard time because the parents are very ignorant when it's comes in marriage, or making decisions because they want them to hook them up what's in their mind instead of asking the boys first if he has someone in mind. just saying 🤨
May Allah give me courage,I get out from this marriage that I think it doesn’t even exist 🙏🏽am Muslim married to a non Muslim ,I knew what I was getting myself into but now am scared of telling my family , no one will understand me once am out of this marriage 😭
Doesnt come to attend wdding doesnt mean cutting of relationship this is different topic. Anything to do with this wedding us as a muslim must not attend. Another day if she got other kind of clelbration which is not against islam ...feel free to come .
Salams everybody. I am a Muslim lady in my 40s. I have never been married, don’t have children, and have severe mental illness. I had abusive upbringing as well. I pray my Salah and constantly pray for guidance and comfort from Allah swt. Allah put a non-Muslim man in my life recently. He approached me and kept pursuing me to the point where I agreed to “halal date” him eventually bc he didn’t give up and I could not withstand him. It was impossible for me to say “no” to him bc I have extreme people-pleasing tendencies which were engrained in me by my parents’ abuse. I just want to say that as much as these various (also imperfect) scholars say one thing or another, only Allah knows what each of us has the capability of doing and what we don’t. Now that I am in a relationship with this man, I can’t hurt him by leaving him, even if it hurts me too. And Allah knows this, knows how difficult my life has been, and I believe He will forgive me. This is not a license for every woman to go and marry a non-Muslim. But I could swear on the Quran that I had ZERO CHOICE in this matter. I was absolutely and unequivably unable to say “no” to this man’s advances. I don’t hang out with him alone and keep our dating to public places only. I involved my parents right away. I’ve talked to him s about Islam. I pray Allah will forgive me my weakness.
Sister that's not a choice or excuse. This is still Zina. It's Allah's Test for all of us and you're not alone. I suggest to work on his religion and beliefs and do not give up. This is just a sin
Assalamu aleykum. Marriage within the muslim community is a good things. Let's take the fact that community is divided into to NATIONALISM nowadays.. I am talking from my own and a friend experience that come from the same country, living in the community with majority people come from a different country.. Honestly! I never try because knowing the kind of community I was living in.. I will have not tolerated if I was rejected by the women relatives because of where i am from and I end up marrying and convert. For my friend and as a member of the masjid board have tried for almost 10 years in that community and no success. imagine that . NATIONALISM is dividing Muslim in the WEST and that is becoming a sensitive topic for our ulamah to discuss.. may Allah forgive me if I said some wrong and may Allah unite our hearts. Assalamu aleykum
La illaha il Allah! May God bless Yasir Qadhi and preserve him for this Ummah. This problem of marriage is a frequent one and I know of plenty of women who married non muslims because of problem with finding someone within the own community. However, it must be said that some muslim women and their families do not really make it easy for brothers to marry them. Just look at an average Lebanese or Iraqi mahar (dowry) and wedding expenses and you will know what I am talking about.
Salamualaikum, please, don't be despair of the RAHMAH of Allah swt. Must pray for the couple. Whoever cuts them off in their prayers and cuts off relationships with them is despaired of the RAHMAH of ALLAH SWT. Only ALLAH SWT Is perfect and we all have our own disobeydiences of ALLAH SWT.
@@mplsridah If he said so then idk but if nothing about his intentions is clear then we would assume he is a true revert. If he reverts for real its all good, if he says he is doing it for her then ask a scholar because I honestly don't know about that.
We can only assume, but we're allowed to examine people's intention. That could be said about marriage with women of the Book since we can't read minds, do you agree?
Sorry moreover it does not mean I am for it , may be I will advise my daughter if something similar happens to me . But to issue ruling base on nothing is dangerous.
You have contradicted yourself sir... Don't marry a mushrikun and mushrikat that is the lay down rule... And you said that the title mushrikun can be applied to all that associate partners or a partner with Allah... The contradiction comes in now when Allah permits men to marry from among the CHRISTIANS and Jews... CHRISTIANS believe in Trinity as you all claim all CHRISTIANS without an exception are mushriks_ now why would the Quran command again to marry mushriks(especially CHRISTIANS)? Is that not a pure contradiction from your explanation? Only if we agree that not all CHRISTIANS are mushriks else you can talk and talk on this matter and biasly and wrongly still present it to the people
I was going to marry a kitabi women but something happened and Alhamdulillah that it happened so I can marry a muslimah Insha'Allah. My Rabb has His ways of guiding us
Good for you and good for those who have married kitabi men and women!
I’m a convert and I know a lot of sisters who will benefit from this jazakallah khair for your break down May Allah help us have a better understanding 🙌🏻
Wallahi I love YQ. Balanced: strict when needed, flexible when needed. All according to Sunnah and Quran and without sugarcoating. That's YQ. May Allah bless ALL our Ulama. May Allah make it easy to us all to obey Him and to love what He loves and hate what He doesn't love. May Allah put in our hearts the thirst to obey His Commandments and avoid the things He forbade us. Salam alaykum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuhu.
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Amine.
What a beautiful message. !!!!
Mash Allah .
The Sabu
He is not a scholar.
Rather his own teacher a real scholar has warned against him
Very moderate and balanced view.
Great Lecture Mr. Qadhi, from a teenage Muslim who wants to become an academic like you.
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Lol I'm sure he will be proud of "moderate" and "balanced" certificate from you
I don't see anything wrong with being balanced tho, you shouldn't be too extreme in your religion. Extreme meaning too liberal or too radical.
@@mplsridah Islam will always be extreme according to western Liberalism-dominated culture
Bdtourism western liberalism has no say in our deen
A momin's heart "knows" what's right and wrong. It feels uneasy, restless if doing wrong.... but we are all at different stages of emaan and so should dig deep into Quran, sunnah etc like YQ. He does this really well. MashaAllah. Not many people understand the minute subtleties of some ayats and the depth of research and thinking one has to try and reach before attempting to grasp a single point even. SubhanAllah. Reminds me programming...a very complex flow chart with multiple decision boxes, if then else conditions and go tos etc...
May Allah Guide us, Give us the wisdom to delve deeper and also understand from others who have done that and are able to pass on their knowledge to us with Taqwa and Sincerity to Allah. Ameen. Jazak Allah Khairan.
A very realistic issue, question answered very well. May Allah protect our youth and guide us all Aameen
Ameen.
Also I would like to hereby declare that if anyone decontextualises this sheikh and attributes falsehoods to him, I will stand beside him in Allah’s court and testify against those people. I’m so sick and tired of people’s egos being so fragile as to disregard the truth in favour of their nafscentric desires! May Allah guide us to accept truth no matter how unpalatable it may be to our “desires” and may our desire to please Him and follow Haqq be greater than our individualistic desires, Ameen!
Me too.
New words to learn from Dr Yasir Qadhi and from H N
Ameen. I'll do the same.
Me too
Allah does not need your evidence as He is All Knowing and All Seeing!
I love the way he explains
@E. Postbode He is not a scholar. He is still a Talib : )
Tam Tam when and how do you become a scholar ?
True
Yes. He's also very honest, I can't say the same for many sheikhs!
Such an eye opening video! I loved the way you explained everything in this detailed mashaAllah!
Assalamu Alaykum. I am so glad I came across this video SubhanAllah. I've never heard a more logical and realistic explanation to this question Masha Allah. May Allah bless you Sheikh, with good health and increased knowledge so you may remain in Allah's service for many years, Aameen.🤲
You know that still many womens marry non muslims regardless of the fact that it isn't allowed.
@@shahaanbabar2297 May Allah guide our ummah, Aameen.🤲
Thank you for your reasonable and reasoned stance. I'm an atheist with a Muslim girlfriend. 'Hurt Love' is what I'm expecting should we progress to the next stage and marry. I feel that your video has helped me understand the situation better. I appreciate hearing your point of view rather than more conservative preachers who just say that such unions as may be in my future simply can't happen. When I know that they can, and do.
@Obvious Incel As I said above, I feel that I have looked into Islam. In my situation, the most important thing for me is to understand Islam as it is practiced by modern moderate Muslims such as my girlfriend (and future wife?)
May Allah give you guidance towards Islam so you can marry her
Everytime I've had this type of discussion with non muslims Ive had success with getting them to see things from our perspective. The people you are going to be talking to are almost always secular, semi-religious or atheist. Ive always said: "your saying this because you dont believe in a God to even believe in a literal heaven or hell. To you its just opinions or stories" . At this point they usually stay silent with agreement or vocally agree with you. Then you say. "For you this will be hypothetical, but imagine for a second that there is a God and a heaven and a hell and nobody doubts it because they've seen it for themselves, and everyone knows the rules of life so to speak. Would you then say "go and live your life as you please knowing for a fact where your friend/relative will end up?" This usually stops them dead in their tracks. They know they would never knowingly want harm for someone else. You can see in their eyes for the first time the severity of how muslims see the world and for that one moment they fear hell with you, and at the very least you got them to believe in something for a moment.
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Was the non Muslim a male? Then at least males can be reasoned with. I could see why you had a success.
@@mplsridah your right in this sense... this usually works with males. Women are different so it usually works better if you use women's topics as a starting point. In order to give the best tailored dawah you would need to know more abt the persons personality/ current beliefs and lifestyle habits, also how they make decisions would help determine how they think.
With the same intensity and similar logic Jews, Christians, Hindus, other faiths and atheists may say to you and would you then see things from their perspective? Your logic is flawed!
@@ahmedakhan1Quite the contrary, that's exactly what we expect from them on this issue. We believe in the Golden Rule!
Thanks to my nikkah to a muslim, i became muslim myself, so sometimes it’s a good thing Alhamdulillah
Al hamdulillah mashaAllah sister!
Well, that was stupid.
Alhamdulillah best news
Is there a way to contact you privately? About it
May Allah bless 🙌 your marriage 💑
Mashaa Allah such a clear, concise and logical lecture! Outstanding
5:00 thank you for exposing neo-liberal militant hypocrisy! A lot of our Muslimahs seem to hold the same view strongly!
Trump supporters know these very well
not just muslimahs, muslim men who now believe it is acceptable and holds his wife accountable for their livelihood and are being dismissive about committing zinaa saying things like "every man does this" "a man is a man at the end of the day" using fake socially constructed ideologies in order to justify or downplay major sins. It's both genders.
And muslim men don't? I love how all the blame is always put on women 😂
MAASHAALLAH MAY ALLAH BLESS YOU SHAIKH
Very comprehensive and balanced answer mashaAllah
Ma’sha’Allah 😭😭😭 ameen to the du’aa at the end also 🤲🏽
Quran doesn’t prohibit muslim women from marrying non-muslim men. Where did you all get that from?
“Kindness goes a longer way than hashness”
MashaAllah ...
May Allah swt reward Shaykh YQ for his knowledge, insight, compassion and his ability to guides us.
I don't need any non Muslim, even if every Muslim women perished from this universe..I will be single until the day of judgement..Alhamdulillah i am Muslim
What a mindless comment! Your bigotry is showing and there is nothing Islamic about your view! You are the kind of muslims that have given a bad name to Islam! The Saudi Wahabbi Jahaliyah thinking has made Islam the most disliked religion in the world!
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Masha'allah he is such a cleaver man !
Thank you, for the interpretations and the prayer at the end. Praise Be.
A psychiatrist mentioned how we must have a connection with people in order to influence them, & this goes in line with what Shaykh is saying about how ideally we will not cut off family members. And Allah swt knows best
May Allah bless and increase you in beneficial knowledge. HikmahInDeliveringDawahParExcellence
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It literally doesn't say anywhere in the Qur'an that a Muslim woman must marry a Muslim man, only that the man must believe in Allah as well. Before you criticize me, read 2:221 and 60:10 in the Qur'an.
In Islamic jurisprudence, there are other sources along with the Qur'an, such as the Sunnah, Ijma', Qiyas, and 'Urf. As a layman, we need to follow the opinion of reliable ulema. Beware to follow our mere desires without knowledge. May Allah guide us all.
@@cinto1394 The Word of your Lord has been completed, in truth and justice. 6:115
The claim of the pro-hadith writers that God inspired to Muhammad a revelation other than the Quran, or what they call 'hadith qudsi' (Holy hadith) is in clear violation of 6:115. It is also in violation of 17:73 and 69:43-47 where God warns the prophet not to attribute to God anything other than the Quran
@@skonka8503 The same Quran also says to look at the lifr of Prophet, and what's the life of Prophet?? Ermm Hadith? And Quran says Muhammad is a perfect men, erm Quran only talks about Muhammad (PBUH) 5 times with his name, and his life is not mentioned in so much detail in Quraj then how r u gonna follow the Perfect men whome Quran says to follow?
Exactly, that's what i say too all the time but the people keep finding excuses that it's not true and that quran does ban muslim women from marrying non-muslim men without any proof. They believe anything these scholars say, It's double standards.
May Allah increase us in knowledge, great explanation.
Beautifully explained. جزاكم الله خيرا
Mashallah. Very clear explanation
Fundamentally there're 5 big questions that are...
1, Where did I come from? (cosmological)
2, How do we know everything? (epistemological)
3, Who am I? (ontological)
4, Why am I here? (do I serve a purpose, do I have any intrinsic value, and what am I worth)
5, When we died what's going to happen? (Eschatological)
How you answer this questions determine how you see the world and how you treat the world. Because you are a part of the world, how you see the world also determines how you see and treat yourself. So, it's important that we resolve these fundamental questions. And it's important that we discover the honest truth. Wrong answers to important questions aren't helpful.
Where do we begin in our search for the truth we begin at the beginning. Perhaps the most fundamental question is!does God exist? It's fundamental because I answers to the other “big questions” is actually hinge on how we answer this significant question.
I'm offering a suggestion to all of you brothers and sisters that if you can try to read book of scripture like Holy Qur'an! Am very sure it can help us all out to these five must biggest or help us solve the ultimate problem regarding Where..., How..., Who..., Why..., and Eschatological?
The right to legislate halal and haram is for none but ALLAH supana wata ALLAH supana llah
Jazakallah Khair Shaikh for talking about this issue.
Dear Sheikh, thank you for this. This is a very sensitive topic and you've dealt with this quite well. You've not compromised the fiqh or tried to sugarcoat it, but you understand the reality and what has contributed to the reality. May Allah swt bless you for that.
I think you're right about Muslim men should not marry non-Muslim or Kitabi women. I was tempted to explore this at uni, but there was a voice in the back of my mind telling me: "seriously? Are you really going to entertain this over Muslim women who cannot marry a non-Muslim?" Alhamdulillah!
My humble suggestion to you is that you also explore why a Muslim (especially a Muslim woman) marrying a non-Muslim is a bad idea. Not just the practical consequences of raising kids, coming closer to Allah vs going away from Him, but also the divorce fiqh of other religions.
I think is halal for muslim women to marry non Muslim men in non Muslim lands the risks of only allowing marrying within the faith are a lot we become a ethnoreligious group that would be easy pickings for genocide like what can happen in France China etc and muslim lands with other minorities also the muslim marriage process is super complicated with parents blocking their children marriages beacuse he's not from Lahore Pakistan and the expensive weddings remember muslim weddings are more expensive than non Muslim weddings thank the Desi comunnity for that. Inshallah in the next generation we could be more strict with muslim women marring non Muslim men because this generation conditions for marriage is that the man is a good Muslim that's it none of the nonsense that plagues us today remember parents have a veto on the marriage
Knowledgeable, legal and just much more
Jazakumulahu khair. What a beautiful explanation.
Jazakh Allah al khairun Shaykh for the explosions.
*My English teacher a non-Muslim looked at me tenderly & said "You remind me of the story of Shakespeare's Sister*
Meaning your brothers intellect will be Nurtured!! but who will nurture your logical brain?*
*The non-Muslims are ACUTELY aware of the SMART MUSLIMAH who has a dead end in INTELLECTUAL sphere!!*
*Allah will ask the entire Muslim Ummah as to what you DID TO ME?*
*I hope justice in Aakhira!!*
Muslim women are the second most college educated group of women after Jewish women in the US.
Masha Allah that's a beauty of Islam allahmdullah
Pls keep up your good work.. I really like the way you explain.. May Allah guide you..
I have heard from some scholars from hanafi fiqh and shafi fiqh madhabs , they say if any muslim believes any marriage without nikah is a marraige, they are out of islam ...and i believe these interpretation
Masha Allah
Very well explained
May Almighty Allah swt reward all the people who helped in the message
'The number 1 source that's the strongest source of Islamic law is ijma'
Allah tells us:
So do not fear the people; fear Me! Nor trade my revelations for a fleeting gain. And those who do not judge by what Allah has revealed are ˹truly˺ the disbelievers. 5:44
Nowhere does it say judge according to what men agree on (ijma)
Mens are mentioned to be qawam and protectors of their wives, also quran says to muslims that don't take christian and jews as protectors, since they are protectors to one another not to you. Do you know what that means?
Islamically a men is in charge of his family, and is having a decree over his wife, now let me clear it isn't to show that women are inferior, although the prophet saww repeatedly said to respect and love your wife, but who is head would remain the head, now ALLAH says in quran that he wouldn't allow any other religion prevail over islam, do you know what that means?
Let me tell you one more thing, hazrat umer RA stopped Muslim mens in his rule to marry non muslims, why he stopped them was because he said that if you married women of book, than who will marry our women? Will you plzz tell me that why he would say that if it was allowed for muslim women too?
Also the scholars who made the ijmah didn't looked or thought of a one life, they thought of every life attached to that person, you may better know it too that what happens to the faith of the children of such a mother, they most probably don't follow islam, also those scholars pondered over every verse of quran, they didn't assumed anything by themselves which some scholars do nowadays. I myself too don't appreciate men marrying women of book, mens should only marry muslims because the category of women of book which is allowed (chaste) is very negligible nowadays, even if they are present, still they should only marry muslims.
If surah maidah-5 wasn't revealed by ALLAH SWT then all the previous verses prohibited men too, it is just an exception made only for mens. But that exception is not encouraged
You make some very good points bro. We do worship our desires nowadays, but whys that a bad thing? We have been gifted life for a reason, to pursuit what we desire (passion, work, love, etc)
Your saying what we need. But morality is subjective.
That introduction was beautiful
What if we marry non muslims with intention of getting them reverted?
Or
Each party agree to be practicing their religion separately ?
Biggest issue here should be not to criticize the other party but if a Muslim is so far gone as to want to marry a non-believer or a kitabi, it's likely they're the ones that need the most help in coming back to the Path.
I don’t disagree with the law obviously, I’m Muslim. But we have deep social issues going on, and the community that the Dr. speaks of barely exists. My family community has shrunk from the traditional definition to just my parents and brothers. It’s unfortunate. We used to have a strong support but it slowly dismantled for many reasons (immigration, age, problems, etc.). I’ve been having issues finding a husband for some time. To be honest with you, the Muslim men I’m seeing are Muslims on paper. They have the label, they have the deep cultural expectations on women, but they don’t behave like Muslims or live by those values. The world today is very murky. Things are no longer clear, to me at least.
Mam still a believer is better than them.
@TheStonesQT93 I understand your problem. And i agree.
@@shahaanbabar2297A believer can also be a jew and christian. Not just muslim.
Great Advice
A very educational lecture.
Very interesting 🤔
Quran clearly says not marry a non Muslim but again some Muslims try to change Quran according to their needs.. hypocritic 😤😤
Actually . You talked to the point . It seems that they are changing their words on the basis of their observation around them .
Actually the Quran allows Muslim men to marry women of the book, and it does not specifically forbid Muslim women from doing the same! Do not ascribe to the Quran what it does not say! It is you who is trying to change the Quran according to your views!
@@ahmedakhan1 💯 exactly
A non-muslim as in polytheists not those who believe in one god!
May Allah perfect our ways
Good answer, but he is guiding the family not the muslimah. Thats a problem. He is right. I know if men marry non-muslim kitabi in a country where there is only 2% muslims. Then she will marry someone outside the religion. These things can happen. But it will not be a marriage but zina only. Sad reality. 😢
"O you who believe! When believing women come to you as emigrants, examine them; Allah knows best as to their faith, then if you ascertain that they are true believers, send them not back to the disbelievers. They are not lawful for the disbelievers nor are the disbelievers lawful for them. ..." [Quran 60:10]
The Believing Woman is prohibited from marrying a kafir/ mushrik.
Allah's statement in 60:10,
(They are not lawful for the disbelievers nor are the disbelievers lawful for them.) This Ayah forbids Muslim women for idolators/disbelievers.
This applied during the prophets time nowadays women are more independent even if you go the strict way most Muslims in the usa are Pakistanis people want to marry their own kind and also Pakistani and Indians demand way too much during marriage
The people of the book aren't kafirs of polytheism. Not for men. Not for women.
@@bintbint1316 anyone who rejects Prophet Muhammad salallahu alaihi wassalam is a kafir. Regardless if they're people of book or not
Look at the comment section...there is not a single woman...supporting to Yasir Qadhis advice...women belongs to our ummah became hypocrites.if there is someone who supports his view ,I appreciate them
Brother, don't care about those womens !!!
My dad wasn't born muslim, my mother was born Muslim.so my father did the shahada.
takbir bro. allah saved your mom
PLEASE CAN SOMEONE MAKE THE SAME VIDEO WITH TURKISH SUBTITLES
PLEASE YASIR QADHI
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Turkish subs or he will SMESH you
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The problem is if the sister during a divorce in USA doesn't care what the shariah says you will have the same problem. Most times people are angry so the shariah goes right out the door. They will use American laws against the brother.
Slam alkum shak I love ur lectures and with the help of ur lectures alha helped my Iman get stronger.. but IAM have trouble finding Muslim spose what should I do
Please can someone explain what is the difference between a mushrikin and a kitabi in this context? I am confused because he said the Quran explicitly says neither men nor women can marry mushrikin period (in Muslim land and outside Muslim land) and he adds that believing in Jesus as the son of God is a form of shirk. A kitabi includes Christian women, who worship Jesus, so how is it permissible even on Muslim land??
I agree. I think Jewish women and unitarian Christian women (don't believe Jesus is God) might be the allowed Kitabi that can be married
The Quran being silence in the women's place does not mean impermissibility...
The fact that you attend the wedding or even have some what normal contact with a Muslim woman who marries a non Muslim man shows acceptance to the younger generation and this is the danger that YQ failed to address. For that reason it would be very hard for me to have normal family functions with that person because this person’s actions can in their long run lead other muslimahs astray.
At the end of the day we will all be judged for our actions. No one else will be held responsible. So if one of my children marries a non Muslim then I would let them know about Islam's views on such a marriage. But if they still persist, and they are of age, then surely as a parent I will not end my relationship because of this action! With an adult you show your disapproval once and then move on!
Tough for us religious folks. Many people conflate things for love. :l
I agree, VGameL0v3e12sF012Ree
This whole video is offensive to non-Muslims. According to this video, I am a mushrik because I worship my ego. How do you know that I worship my ego? What a cruel generalisation. What does it even mean to worship your own ego? I’m not a big-headed person and nobody who knows me thinks that about me. And then there’s the generalisation that if somebody is a liberal then by definition they have no respect for any religious belief. I am respectful of all religious beliefs and religious believer’s right to free worship so that’s not correct.
My message to Muslims watching this video. Are you sure you want to receive religious wisdom from a person who preaches such unfair generalisations?
nah but everyone is gonna make mistakes. no ones perfect
He is also describing why the USA has so many covid cases even if was made when covid was just in whuan China.
@Cam so if we’re willing to allow that not all non-Muslims worship their ego but many non-Muslims devote themselves to leading a good life, then we can no longer use the verse in the Quran forbidding Muslim women from marrying idol worshippers as evidence that they cannot marry non-Muslims because not all non-Muslims are idol worshippers. In which case, if he wants to forbid Muslim women marrying non-Muslim men from an Islamic perspective he will need to find some other scriptural basis.
@Cam Thank you for your extensive and thoughtful replies Cam (and considering English isn’t your first language you certainly did a better job than many for whom English is their first language!) I think the points you make about the man being the head of the household both financially and spiritually were certainly more relevant 1400 years ago and I’m glad that you yourself recognise that times are changing and both the mother and the father are beginning to have more of an equal influence in a child’s life today. In fact, in the West it could even be argued that the mother has more influence over the child’s upbringing although the father’s rights movements is on the increase. I’m glad that you also recognise that trying to think of novel and difficult situations that could arise in an interfaith marriage is extremely hypothetical to the point where we can’t say anything about what will happen with enough conviction to be able to form hard and fast rules placing harsh restrictions on interfaith marriage. Ultimately, the 2 partners themselves are best placed to figure out whether a future together is viable or not and how they would go about raising their children.
I’m not sure if I mentioned that I was in this situation personally but if I didn’t then you are right in your assumption! Unfortunately, we had to bring things to an end. But I have been interested in discussing religion generally all my life so I’m still interested in this topic.
Perhaps the speaker in this video has said things elsewhere that you have been impressed by. I can’t judge him on all of his content because I have not seen his other videos. But I think I’m right in my criticism of him because whether he believes deep down that all non-Muslims are ego-worshippers or not, he’s still trying to make the argument in this video that it’s forbidden for Muslim women to marry non-Muslim men in ALL cases BECAUSE it says in the Quran that Muslim women can’t marry idol worshippers AND non-Muslims idolise their egos. Imagine if a Catholic priest said Christian women can’t marry Muslim men because Muslims are terrorists. It’s a horrible and untrue generalisation. The fact that nobody is perfect isn’t enough of an excuse for why he’s spreading such ill advice.
Have you heard of Mike Ghouse? He has written a book called American Muslim Agenda inside which he argues for interfaith marriage and himself performs nikkahs between Muslim women and non-Muslim men. Clearly, he is not an orthodox Muslim but a reformist and his ideas go against the grain of how Islam is commonly practised at large but his work is a valuable effort in making Islam and its core principles and practices attractive and relevant in the modern age.
@@sheikhmessi3622 yes it is offensive for the reasons I stated above. If you disagree then address the points I made. What do you mean by we are trying to normalise haraam and how are we doing that?
Now the Muslim women think like .....oh we cannot marry non Muslim but hooray.....we can sleep with them without merriage
I respect my Muslim girlfriend's decision not to sleep with a man outside marriage, and do not love her any less because we are not doing that. (Or anything even remotely close to that.)
Okay fine ask your mother or sister to sleep with a muslim man.
@Obvious Incel I don't understand what you mean. My Muslim girlfriend keeps on saying she's repeatedly surprised how much I know about Islam - though I don't think I'm that expert. However, I think I can justifiably claimed that I have looked into Islam.
@Obvious Incel I am aware of many of these, yes. I am not fully conversant with all of them.
@Obvious Incel I'm not a Muslim. That's the point of me commenting here.
Everything in the Quran has wisdom behind it. So what is the wisdom behind a Muslim man being allowed to marry a woman of the book but vice versa not being true? Because I can't find a reason that does not play into the mirage of a male dominant world where the man is the head of the household and sets the rules and if he wants the wife to make him pork, she has to disrupt her faith and do it. It sounds silly when those types of explanations are given. If that's the dynamic between two people they shouldn't get married. There's no respect or love in a relationship like that. In my house my mom was the breadwinner, she taught us Quran, she taught us to pray. Not my dad. The muslim woman was the Islamic force in the house, not the Muslim man. So I'm not questioning the legitimacy of the ruling, I'm asking, what is the logic? If the spouses have respect for each other's faiths and allow each other to practice their faith, then who cares which gender is Muslim and which is Christian or Jewish?
I have a similar question. I don’t know if I am missing the point because of how this concept was first introduced to me and with the aggression I first encountered it but I also don’t get it.
I believe that Allah doesn’t favor men just because. There has to be a meaning behind this ruling and I would love to understand it. I also want to say that I don’t disagree with it but I desperately want to understand it.
@@shukriabdi4271 Men are more dominant and controlling towards their wives in general and make women to follow their way while women on the other hand are a weaker gender. If a Muslim woman marries a non-muslim man then often she has to surrender herself to his ways. She has to work hard to maintain her marriage by always accepting and obeying her husband's demands and this thing will drive her away from her religion. I am not saying that this could be the case with everyone but there is a possibility that this could happen. On the other hand the children always look at their father as their role model. Such children will be brought up as confused children and they will have no dimension in their lives. If mother believes in something else and father believes in something else will never set children on ONE right path. It is better that both parents work together to raise their kids with similar ideals.
It is a known fact that when one parent has a different style of parenting than the other then the one who suffers most are the kids. Such kids often turn out to be sociopaths, narcissists or Psychopaths.
The main purpose of this ruling in Islam that a Muslim woman should not marry a non muslim man is for the sake of next generation i.e, the kids. If you want to save your children from destruction then set ONE path for them. If people with different belief system will marry each other then there will always be clashes between them or there will be a clash between them at some point which will impact the Psychology of a child.
Loving your partner, having mutual respect for each other is a different thing than having different ideals. A narcissist is also a very loving person in the beginning of a relationship but only being loving and having mutual respect is not enough. What will be the impact on the children if one parent has a mandir (temple with various idols) in the house and the other parent is talking about only one God ? Who the children going to follow ?
Ameen ya rabbi to the Dua
The following is just my personal opinion, even though I can see and understand the opposing perspective. I am not a scholar and my words are not a fatwa.
I disagree that attending the ceremony is "tacit approval". It can be made clear that someone disapproves of the marriage but is attending because they care about and love the person who is getting married. Not attending just seems to do unnecessary harm to the relationship btwn the newlywed and the family.
I know people who (immaturely) would not listen to another word from a family member who adamantly refused to attend their wedding. More mature people may understand and just brush it off, but why risk the resentment?
A family member can make their opinion clear -- that even though they do not agree with this particular action, they still love the person and, because they love them, they will support their decision even though they disagree with the action, and even though they wish the bride/groom would change their mind and make a different decision.
An analogy may be made for attending LGBT friend's wedding. Just because you attend, does that mean you support the action? I would argue otherwise. I would argue that you are there in support of a friend. Otherwise we are implying that we cannot be friends with someone who is LGBT. Good friendship requires a person to be supportive when their friend has made a decision, even if they disagree with it.
On the other hand, I am sure there is an opinion that actually does say Muslims can't be friends with LGBT people. I am not a scholar.
It just seems that to maintain a tie of kinship, or a friendship, the very least someone can do is respect another person's decision even while making their own opinions clear.
"There is no compulsion in religion." (2:256).
People are entitled to make their own decisions. Could their decisions lead them to hellfire? Yes, that is possible. May Allah guide us and forgive us all.
Conservative Muslims are absolutely entitled to their opinions regarding a liberal's actions. Everyone is free to have an opinion and make their own decisions. However conservative Muslims must be careful not to push people away from Islam through harshness and what comes across as self-righteousness. When a person is faced with this, they may associate the harshness with Islam, which then pushes them away further. Instead, the correct way to call someone to Islamic values is through empathy, care, and respect.
Lol LGBT friends wedding! Lol you got me there. Both would be Haram. Leave this conservative vs liberal crap it does not exist in Islam but only in your colonized brain
According to Qur'an (5:5)[4],: "This day [all] good foods have been made lawful, and the food of those who were given the Scripture is lawful for you and your food is lawful for them. And [lawful in marriage are] chaste women from among the believers and chaste women from among those who were given the Scripture before you, when you have given them their due compensation, desiring chastity, not unlawful sexual intercourse or taking [secret] lovers. And whoever denies the faith - his work has become worthless, and he, in the Hereafter, will be among the losers".
From this verse, it can be understood that Muslim men are allowed to marry women from the People of the Book (i.e. the Jews and Christians).
The Quran (2:221)[5] also states: "And do not marry Polytheist women until they believe, And a believing slave woman is better than a Polytheist women, even though she might please you. And do not marry Polytheist men [to your women] until they believe. And a believing slave is better than a Polytheist men, even though he might please you. Those invite [you] to the Fire, but Allah invites to Paradise and to forgiveness, by His permission. And He makes clear His verses to the people that perhaps they may remember".
No where in the Qur'an does it state that a Muslim woman CANNOT marry a mumin which is a non-Muslim believing Christian or Jew. It states for both Muslim men and women to not marry mushriks, polytheists. Islam has gender equality and a mumin according to Arabic includes believers of oneness of God which is Christian and Jew called People of the Book, which is clear in the Qur'an. From the above surahs Qur'an is silent on Muslim women marrying People of the Book so Islamic scholars back in the day decided that meant Muslim women are prohibited. This unanimous consensus comes from a time where it was thought that Muslim women may be coerced to leave their religion or raise children non-Muslim if they married Christians or Jews and so it was to protect her and honestly control her independence to ensure propagation of the faith. But that is not the case now and Muslim women are independent in many countries dictating how their marriages will go and how they will raise their children as Muslims.
We can only go by what is in the Qur'an and sunnah. Before there was Hannafi, Maliki, Shafi there was just Muslims, with one law which is the Qur'an and the guidance of the Prophet pbuh. The sunnah does not forbid Muslim women from marrying people of the book and neither does the Qur'an. They are silent on the matter and actually specific for Muslim men. Perhaps because Allah and His Prophet, pbuh, know how sensible women are anyway and so do not need instructions on this? Did that ever occur to our scholars?
We can have multiple interpretations of the Qur'an if the words used are confusing but it is clearly stated what is a mumin so how is it ok for a Muslim man to marry the kitabi but not Muslim women? Doesn't make sense and that is why classical Islamic interpretations need a reformation to how it applies now and go back to the source, the Qur'an, which is silent on this case. Unanimous consensus of MALE scholars does not mean unanimous if it does not include Muslim women. We're in a different time and Islam is a religion for all times as it is a prophetic faith which means it looked way ahead into the future and knew that women would gain financial and physical independence from men and will be able to dictate their own lives. That is why the Qur'an did not forbid Muslim women to marry believing men of the book, the classical male Muslim scholars came to their conclusion and forbid it. Do we take the silence of Allah and His Prophet, pbuh, to mean prohibition and forbidding? Allah knows best.
Mens are mentioned to be qawam and protectors of their wives, also quran says to muslims that don't take christian and jews as protectors, since they are protectors to one another not to you. Do you know what that means?
Islamically a men is in charge of his family, and is having a decree over his wife, now let me clear it isn't to show that women are inferior, although the prophet saww repeatedly said to respect and love your wife, but who is head would remain the head, now ALLAH says in quran that he wouldn't allow any other religion prevail over islam, do you know what that means?
Let me tell you one more thing, hazrat umer RA stopped Muslim mens in his rule to marry non muslims, why he stopped them was because he said that if you married women of book, than who will marry our women? Will you plzz tell me that why he would say that if it was allowed for muslim women too?
Also the scholars who made the ijmah didn't looked or thought of a one life, they thought of every life attached to that person, you may better know it too that what happens to the faith of the children of such a mother, they most probably don't follow islam, also those scholars pondered over every verse of quran, they didn't assumed anything by themselves which some scholars do nowadays. I myself too don't appreciate men marrying women of book, mens should only marry muslims because the category of women of book which is allowed (chaste) is very negligible nowadays, even if they are present, still they should only marry muslims.
@@shahaanbabar2297 So you're against the rule set by Allah MUSLIM men from marrying CHRISTIANS and Jews women? What the hell wrong with your brain!! Fanaticism is killing you!
Preach 👏🙌 very well said but unfortunately these people don't do any research and just follow "scholars" blindly.
@@shahaanbabar2297Marriage is teamwork, nobody is in charge of the other. Give sources to as why women are not allowed to marry non-muslims please.
@@Ceasefirerightnow Quran first explicitly ordered men and women not to marry non believers( Surat Al‑Mumtahanah 10) and then it made an exception for men(Al Maidah 5:5).
All is true said, ya sheik Yasir Q, it's very interesting subject. Allso the race also another problem, almost all Pakistanis families they want their families to get married between them, they don't want the children marrying another muslims sister. I saw the boys are having hard time because the parents are very ignorant when it's comes in marriage, or making decisions because they want them to hook them up what's in their mind instead of asking the boys first if he has someone in mind. just saying 🤨
maybe these *boys* need to grow up and be men. just saying
@@Als1822 & I Agreed
What's wrong with pakistanis wanting to get married between them? I'm not Pakistani but they should be able to do what they wanna do!
@@mplsridah agreed but its the parents and family dictating what THEY want basically
Als I see. I wouldn't even consider marrying someone of a different nationality, but that's just me.
May Allah give me courage,I get out from this marriage that I think it doesn’t even exist 🙏🏽am Muslim married to a non Muslim ,I knew what I was getting myself into but now am scared of telling my family , no one will understand me once am out of this marriage 😭
is he hindu ??
@@bullseye9723 no pagan
@@imcggh7654 thank you very much 🙏🏽Am so gratefull for this massage
@@raulasuphi8916 sister can u respond to me
@Muteeb Mujtaba Amin inshaAllah 🙏🏽brother
What is they claim that the guy is a Muslim or converted for her? Do we accept that argument?
Assalamu alaikum wa rahamatullahi wa barkatuh
Walaaikumsalam
wa alaykumusalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
So many Muslim Sisters in America, but none of them want to marry me. What am I supposed to do?
Do more sujood. Allah has good things waiting for you.
I honestly don't blame them! Asian men are least desired group
Surely you haven't asked them all! And have you asked Allaah (AWJ) for His Help {Dua)?
Aameen 🤲🏽
I mind my cousin doing cocaine because it's proven to be harmful to him unlike marrying a non Muslim
Doesnt come to attend wdding doesnt mean cutting of relationship this is different topic. Anything to do with this wedding us as a muslim must not attend. Another day if she got other kind of clelbration which is not against islam ...feel free to come .
can a atheist man marry a muslim woman if he respects her beliefs and agrees to practice all her rituals?
Salams everybody. I am a Muslim lady in my 40s. I have never been married, don’t have children, and have severe mental illness. I had abusive upbringing as well. I pray my Salah and constantly pray for guidance and comfort from Allah swt. Allah put a non-Muslim man in my life recently. He approached me and kept pursuing me to the point where I agreed to “halal date” him eventually bc he didn’t give up and I could not withstand him. It was impossible for me to say “no” to him bc I have extreme people-pleasing tendencies which were engrained in me by my parents’ abuse. I just want to say that as much as these various (also imperfect) scholars say one thing or another, only Allah knows what each of us has the capability of doing and what we don’t. Now that I am in a relationship with this man, I can’t hurt him by leaving him, even if it hurts me too. And Allah knows this, knows how difficult my life has been, and I believe He will forgive me. This is not a license for every woman to go and marry a non-Muslim. But I could swear on the Quran that I had ZERO CHOICE in this matter. I was absolutely and unequivably unable to say “no” to this man’s advances. I don’t hang out with him alone and keep our dating to public places only. I involved my parents right away. I’ve talked to him s about Islam. I pray Allah will forgive me my weakness.
Sister that's not a choice or excuse. This is still Zina. It's Allah's Test for all of us and you're not alone.
I suggest to work on his religion and beliefs and do not give up. This is just a sin
True, *who* is going to marry us?
non muslim who want to please their lust and desires. also non muslims make fake accounts and say they married muslim women but they really havent
@@messikhan5100 As if muslims do not want to please their lust! I have seen more of that in Arab muslim countries than in the west!
@@ahmedakhan1 If many muslims do it then it doesn't mean few muslims left will also do it, got it?
so my man is up in the sky...
Assalamu aleykum.
Marriage within the muslim community is a good things. Let's take the fact that community is divided into to NATIONALISM nowadays.. I am talking from my own and a friend experience that come from the same country, living in the community with majority people come from a different country..
Honestly! I never try because knowing the kind of community I was living in.. I will have not tolerated if I was rejected by the women relatives because of where i am from and I end up marrying and convert.
For my friend and as a member of the masjid board have tried for almost 10 years in that community and no success. imagine that . NATIONALISM is dividing Muslim in the WEST and that is becoming a sensitive topic for our ulamah to discuss.. may Allah forgive me if I said some wrong and may Allah unite our hearts.
Assalamu aleykum
What? You couldn't marriage in 10 years from another community? what's wrong with your own community?
@@mplsridah yes! a friend of mine.. we are very very few in the state and the country in general .. the masjid and his surrounding were our community.
I don't get it, you were looking for marriage in your own community or other communities? You didn't answer my 2nd question!
if anyone can tell me who the reciter is in the opening introduction of this video, I will be very grateful
هزاع البلوشي Haza Albalooshi
La illaha il Allah! May God bless Yasir Qadhi and preserve him for this Ummah. This problem of marriage is a frequent one and I know of plenty of women who married non muslims because of problem with finding someone within the own community. However, it must be said that some muslim women and their families do not really make it easy for brothers to marry them. Just look at an average Lebanese or Iraqi mahar (dowry) and wedding expenses and you will know what I am talking about.
Is it called a nikah if a believer in Islam marries a non believer ?
Salam shaykh. You said believing that God has a son is shirk, so why is it ok for men to marry Christian women?
That is why many say marrying Christians is not allowed. And many Christians do not believe in jesus as son of God.
Ali Hyder really? Every Christian I have ever met believes that.
@@mgelle4711 you are right. But that exception is just made for men. Men too should marry only muslims btw
hello sheikh KADHI
أدع لي ولعامة المسلمين
وجزاك الله خيرا
WHATS THE EMAIL OF SHAYKH YASIR???
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Salamualaikum, please, don't be despair of the RAHMAH of Allah swt. Must pray for the couple. Whoever cuts them off in their prayers and cuts off relationships with them is despaired of the RAHMAH of ALLAH SWT. Only ALLAH SWT Is perfect and we all have our own disobeydiences of ALLAH SWT.
if the non muslim partner to be accepts islam before marraige, it is then allowed, yes ?
obviously because then they are both muslim
What if he reverts to Islam because he wants her? hmm
@@mplsridah If he said so then idk but if nothing about his intentions is clear then we would assume he is a true revert. If he reverts for real its all good, if he says he is doing it for her then ask a scholar because I honestly don't know about that.
We can only assume, but we're allowed to examine people's intention. That could be said about marriage with women of the Book since we can't read minds, do you agree?
@@mplsridah Then that's for Allaah SWT {al Aalim} to judge.
Who was here during premier?
Comment!
Can a Muslim lady marry a man who converted to Islam????
Yes
Can anyone tell me, Who is the kari?
Do anybody know who is the reciter at the beginning of the video is it the one speaking please let me know
Sounds like Hazza Al Balushi.
May Allah reward you Mufti for you response Ameen
Sorry moreover it does not mean I am for it , may be I will advise my daughter if something similar happens to me . But to issue ruling base on nothing is dangerous.
*Yasir Qadhi:* True Love is unconditional. It doesn't frown upon anything.
Which is absolute love, and isn't God absolute?
08:02 which Sura verse ?
You have contradicted yourself sir... Don't marry a mushrikun and mushrikat that is the lay down rule... And you said that the title mushrikun can be applied to all that associate partners or a partner with Allah... The contradiction comes in now when Allah permits men to marry from among the CHRISTIANS and Jews... CHRISTIANS believe in Trinity as you all claim all CHRISTIANS without an exception are mushriks_ now why would the Quran command again to marry mushriks(especially CHRISTIANS)? Is that not a pure contradiction from your explanation?
Only if we agree that not all CHRISTIANS are mushriks else you can talk and talk on this matter and biasly and wrongly still present it to the people
There is no contradiction here, we all know that muslim men can only marry Unitarian Christians, not triniterian Christians
@@roxanne2749 So you mean Unitarian Christians are not mushrik? 🤣🤣
@@planettwitch2257 Unitarian Christians are worshipers of one God only they belive Jesus was a Prophet and follow the bible and the old testament.