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  • Опубликовано: 2 фев 2025

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  • @Jynxxy13ravedoll
    @Jynxxy13ravedoll 11 месяцев назад +239

    I know part of you will always love him because he is forever part of your family and that's ok. It is also ok to love someone from a distance and not support their tomfoolery. He gave you your children but he isn't a child. It is ok to let him lay in the bed he made for himself. He is an adult, and although the consequences of his actions may suck you are not responsible for them. You are free to be as involved or pulled back as you want to be on his path going forward. But I encourage you to ensure that your cup is full before you start pouring much out for others (aside from your kids, obviously). You have 2 kids, yourself, a household, and a career to manage, don't take on more than feels right for you.

  • @leighy69
    @leighy69 11 месяцев назад +277

    You are not in any way responsible for his actions! You are only responsible for your own and right now for your children. He alone is responsible for his choices. You certainly did not appear to be doing anything to indicate that you approved of his behavior which is the only way that it would involve you at all.

    • @juliemcafee2251
      @juliemcafee2251 11 месяцев назад +15

      I agree...I really like Steven but if he feels as if he needs to apologies he can do so on his own podcast don't be moved by quilt it is okay to live your life it is okay you met someone..you are both very wise and good people and as a family I am certain all your hopes will be obtained but let yourself off the hook and from now on don't do things that make you uncomfortable ...love and light

    • @maryriseling209
      @maryriseling209 11 месяцев назад +2

      People say nasty things when their hurt so let him apologize also People do change that was last year! Also two sides to every situation

    • @susie_q1
      @susie_q1 11 месяцев назад

      She’s not listening. It is well over a year, nearer to 2 years. People have tried consistently to help her and she has been unable to take any sound advice from anyone on here. Why would she keep doing things with her ex in the most recent videos as of late? I can’t believe she really loves him as she still says over and over again after all he has done and said to her at every turn. And still embarrassing and diminishing her near to every time he comes near. And giving an ex a key to your home? She definitely needs to change all the locks on every single door of her home.

    • @TaFb8286
      @TaFb8286 11 месяцев назад

      Yes! ❤

    • @BRI.With.Da.FACTS3
      @BRI.With.Da.FACTS3 11 месяцев назад +2

      @@susie_q1 you can’t believe someone who has had children with this person who has saw him rise and fall who has spent time with him privately who has loved him who has married him who had an entire life you can’t believe she could still have love for him….. weird

  • @rebeccalincoln8782
    @rebeccalincoln8782 11 месяцев назад +64

    You are not only doing the right thing for your kids but you are in no way responsible for his actions. As a fan I’m here in the comments to support everything you say and do. You are an amazing human and a wonderful mother. Thank you for all your positive affirmations and positive energy. Just thank you. 🙏

    • @ThirstyBacon
      @ThirstyBacon 10 месяцев назад

      You support everything she says and does? I don't even support everything my kid says and does. To blindly say that to someone you have never met is crazy. She's an internet personality who lives in CALIFORNIA. Who hardly ever lets anyone speak without interrupting. To be honest I hate that she popped back up on my feed.

  • @DebbieBlatt0816
    @DebbieBlatt0816 11 месяцев назад +52

    Omg, I LOVE Chris. Hearing him talk that way BREAKS MY HEART! He is probably one of the sweetest Humans on RUclips. So gentle and caring; He’s guarded for sure- because, even his tone is different in this video. 😢
    LOVE YOU CHRIS!!

  • @kattunja
    @kattunja 11 месяцев назад +66

    Chris is the sweetest and I have to admit that I did a quick inhale audibly when, after seeing Chris' reaction and reading his body lanuage in the studio area while you were prepping with him, that when Stephen came in with arms outstretched looking for a hug hello from him... I hope Chris was ok with that. I'm sure I'm not up to date with everything between you all, but I do hope Stephen had a great birthday and you all feel good about the day overall. I look forward to the podcast. Wishing everyone the best.

    • @MissNikkiDawson
      @MissNikkiDawson 11 месяцев назад +4

      Yes we all need to know if Chris hugged Stephen LoL

    • @MonstehDinosawr
      @MonstehDinosawr 11 месяцев назад +14

      @@MissNikkiDawson I am convinced he didnt and thats why the footage cuts XD

    • @purpledragonfly4
      @purpledragonfly4 11 месяцев назад +19

      Laura shouldn't have EVER put Chris in a situation where he was with Stephen. Knowing the hate he spewed, if she has any respect for Chris, she would stop trying to fix Stephen, he's shown us who he really is.

    • @shadowpuppet0312
      @shadowpuppet0312 11 месяцев назад +1

      He didn't hug Stephen and that is fine. He rejected Stephen's amends and that should have been fine since this is all supposedly for Stephen's sobriety and Step 8. However, Stephen went straight to TikTok live to say awful things about Chris and to tell anyone listening he gave Chris his career. Stephen and Chris, according to Stephen, had some private beef and Chris is gay so he was very hurt by things Stephen said to him personally about gay people and being gay. Chris doesn't owe Stephen anything.

    • @kattunja
      @kattunja 11 месяцев назад

      ​@shadowpuppet0312 thanks for your comment. I didn't realize Stephen said anything about Chris like that after this. How disappointing. 😞

  • @Thethomasclan99
    @Thethomasclan99 11 месяцев назад +35

    This makes me feel happy, Laura. I know the podcast was so hard - but I do see the joy in his face with the kids. He’s still in there somewhere and coming back so he can be a good co-parent and dad. You’re doing amazing, mama!

  • @Thomas-w5g-f8c
    @Thomas-w5g-f8c 11 месяцев назад +62

    Also, he showed his new girlfriend on TikTok Live today. He basically told her the camera wasn't pointed at her, but it was at an optimal angle and broadcasted them on a video call with her best friend. He mumbled that he was on live, but after the camera comment I'm not sure if she knows what was happening. Then when people asked him about it, he said she knew and then ignored it.
    He was all riled up at the time from the comments on the "I'm a cheater" video at the time. He is a loose cannon with anyone he is close to for if he will use them. Her today, arguing with you on live, using Poppy to say "I want my family back" for Christmas while he was already courting this new girl..... It's just a lot.

    • @Emily-jb3ei
      @Emily-jb3ei 11 месяцев назад +8

      It is alot. He may be grabbing at straws. When there are non left people tend to make some more. It's disgusting to see the lengths people will go to not have anymore control at all. In any way ever again. Went through it with my ex. It shows in their behavior afterwards even more when they finally blow their gasket at the realization of control lose.

    • @Teebee300
      @Teebee300 11 месяцев назад +5

      Oh wow that is so sad using his kids to get his agenda across.

  • @queenoftheecouch-alysad7002
    @queenoftheecouch-alysad7002 11 месяцев назад +195

    Let him make his amends on his own Laura. Stay out of it. It's okay to love him and love things about him but you gotta live your life and have your peace. Steven is not all bad but you don't owe him anything. Showing him respect, compassion and compromise is plenty. Let him navigate life on his own and if it doesn't pertain to the kids or their immediate well being then let it be. Not your monkey, not your circus.

    • @sasthesasquatch
      @sasthesasquatch 11 месяцев назад +7

      this!

    • @lndz3089
      @lndz3089 11 месяцев назад +5

      Yes! Amen!

    • @AstrologicalTools
      @AstrologicalTools 11 месяцев назад +2

      But 'amends' for what? What specific words or phrases did he use to present his views and where can this be confirmed? NO ONE can say. Why is that?

    • @Liz-ly1yw
      @Liz-ly1yw 11 месяцев назад

      @@AstrologicalToolsgo look at his “hate” page. All the receipts are there. I think you are too blinkered to see the truth though.

    • @mandag1984
      @mandag1984 11 месяцев назад +1

      ​@AstrologicalTools if he feels he owes an Amends clearly he knows he has done or said something that wasn't right

  • @Staceysprobablycrying
    @Staceysprobablycrying 11 месяцев назад +38

    I really like Chris, he seems like a kind and genuine person, and I hope he got the apologies he deserves.

  • @ritacastro5632
    @ritacastro5632 11 месяцев назад +45

    He is an adult. He made his choices. Let the consequences if his actions work. Women always feel responsable for the mens fails. Stop. You are not his mom. He must face the consequences by himself. Period.

  • @rachelrieken6843
    @rachelrieken6843 11 месяцев назад +10

    Your HP “grants” you the serenity to accept things you cannot change, the courage to change the things you can, and the wisdom to know the difference. (Don’t do for them, what they can do for themselves.) You’re a rockstar, Laura.

  • @oliveherklozoff9398
    @oliveherklozoff9398 11 месяцев назад +14

    Girl, your feelings are spot on. Love is crazy and complicated. You're absolutely allowed to continue to love Stephen while still disagreeing with his words and actions. You built a family, and spent many years together, and that's a super difficult, if not impossible, relationship to just cut out.
    From what I've seen over the years, you seem like such a sweet, genuine person, and I hope that you're able to find a nice peaceful middle ground in the middle of all the chaos because you deserve it.

  • @Drake23x23
    @Drake23x23 11 месяцев назад +9

    Old school videos of you and Stephen are classic.. I miss that. You cant control what happens. It wont work. Let it go.

  • @shoutingfactory3694
    @shoutingfactory3694 11 месяцев назад +50

    Chris is such a sweetheart ❤

  • @TheStartupStrategy
    @TheStartupStrategy 11 месяцев назад +8

    We are in the middle of an autistic diagnosis on my 2.5 year old daughter and your videos with your kiddos help me so much. Watching how engaged Poppy is reminds me so much of my 1 year old son. One of the things that hits hardest for me is seeing how our son gets so excited and wants to be so involved and our daughter is still very withdrawn and mostly non-verbal while he’s starting to chat up a storm. I don’t know why, but your video, reminded me of the difference between my 2 and comforted me to know I am not alone in this journey. This is hard. I have no experience parenting a child with autism and every day is a learning experience where I just want to do right by her but I don’t always know what right is.

  • @tamalamaland
    @tamalamaland 11 месяцев назад +27

    You are a kind, loving, and strong woman. Period.

    • @JohnFlowers-n3u
      @JohnFlowers-n3u 6 месяцев назад +2

      And "Beautiful" I might add ❤️

  • @matrixinterface
    @matrixinterface 11 месяцев назад +9

    I'm in a similar situation myself right now but unfortunately I'm "the Stephen" in oir situation because I made some bad choices and lied about them to my wife and violated her trust. And now I'm doing much better (thanks to therapy and going back to church and a lot of love and aupport) and *I* know that I've changed but there's no way to prove that to anyone. I did such a good job of lying in the past that its almost impossible to trust me again 😞 so now my wife has to protect herself and put up boundaries and this is really hurting me but I don't blame her, this is all a direct result of my actions. Its just a painful situation for everyone. Like Laura, I definitely feel sorry for Stephen and hope he is changing/will change, but also know that trust takes time to rebuild and forgiving too soon will only hurt both people.
    So... I'm sorry you guys are going through this, I applaud Laura for being patient and willing to forgive and I hope Stephen is sincerely committed to improving.

    • @fairy12324
      @fairy12324 11 месяцев назад +2

      Wonderful share, i wish you all the best in this life. Filled with love&connection and spirtual protection mate x
      🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿🍀

  • @gabrielewatson3790
    @gabrielewatson3790 11 месяцев назад +13

    You do you and let him do what he needs to do. Much love to you both xx

  • @carolynparsons5066
    @carolynparsons5066 11 месяцев назад +3

    Laura your a good person and a great Mom. I have to tell you Poppy just melts my heart when she talks such a little sweetheart. Chris is such a nice person.

  • @Pinterestgal123
    @Pinterestgal123 11 месяцев назад +6

    Laura,
    You have a good heart and you're an awesome mom. Do what you think is going to bring you peace.

  • @ShellyBomb
    @ShellyBomb 11 месяцев назад +4

    Laura ~ So beautiful you could rIse above everything and celebrate 🥳 Stephen's 50th birthday with the kids; so precious you made it so special for him & your children 🥰

  • @whispermcgaughy7251
    @whispermcgaughy7251 11 месяцев назад +7

    I'm so proud of you and the kids, you've all grown and thrived through hard circumstances and times.. The babies are beautiful and I commend you for having the will and heart to maintain a co-parenting relationship that is based on love and planted in healthy soil.. Keep striving and growing.. You got this girl!! ✊🏾❤

  • @brianehlenbach238
    @brianehlenbach238 11 месяцев назад +3

    That was a beautiful share - thank you for giving us this glimpse into your lives.❤

  • @Erinsythelovesthemountains
    @Erinsythelovesthemountains 11 месяцев назад +5

    Chris is such a sweet soul. And like everyone else says, we cannot control other’s destructive behaviors. My husband has a SA to 🌽 and it’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to deal with. He has a good heart as well but cannot stop. I’ve realized after 34 years that there is a limit to the support.

  • @Shwanson4
    @Shwanson4 11 месяцев назад +2

    Damn, I had no idea there was so much drama. Always loved your content and your family. ❤

  • @iwant2meetaliens
    @iwant2meetaliens 10 месяцев назад +2

    2:26 I just want to say, my parents divorced when I was about 10 years old, but my mom moved in to the house next door and has lived there ever since and they successfully coparented the rest of my life. They get along fine, I never really seen my parents fight much at all. But one thing I will say is I think they got so focused on me and my sister that neither ever remarried. We’re 30 and 29 now and they still live side by side. They dated other people but I think we just had such a unique situation that nobody felt comfortable changing our family dynamic. What I’m trying to say is it is ABSOLUTELY possible to coparent successfully, because I had an idyllic childhood with both of my parents. But as they get older to remember to think about your life too.. much love to you Laura (from another Laura 😅) and your family!

  • @MadMaddi.x
    @MadMaddi.x 11 месяцев назад +48

    Laura, you are amazing. Don't ever forget that.
    Happy 50th Birthday Stephen!

  • @MissLadyBelle
    @MissLadyBelle 11 месяцев назад +9

    i feel you on the not being able to control him , especially when hes alone with your kids. I know that he needs to play a part in your kid's life and you need to be amicable , but you are not together and you do not need to think about him or care about him in the way that you used to. you have to care more about yourself than you do about how you make him feel- thats not an issue anymore. just be polite. but keep your walls up when hes around. stay safe and happy and just do you. he misses the connection but its not his business to get up in yours.

  • @TheTurkaderr
    @TheTurkaderr 11 месяцев назад +54

    He has his own podcast for a reason, if he doesn't know how to run it, why let him ruin yours ??

  • @Godisgreat-777
    @Godisgreat-777 11 месяцев назад +47

    For me, When I get anxiety…that’s my body telling me something is off and to listen to that.

    • @Jynxxy13ravedoll
      @Jynxxy13ravedoll 11 месяцев назад +8

      Agreed, for me, it's often my fight,flight, and flee response.

  • @jeannietheobald917
    @jeannietheobald917 11 месяцев назад +11

    I love Chris...You are not responsible Laura for what Stephen says or does,unless it involves you and or your kids..Love you Laura.

  • @CALLMEAZURE412
    @CALLMEAZURE412 11 месяцев назад +1

    Laura your children are so adorable and just as sweet as can be. ❤

  • @kimberleynealis5808
    @kimberleynealis5808 11 месяцев назад +33

    He'll never change, he went for me in one of his earlier videos and then set his followers on another woman who had to come off social media entirely. He can't change because he doesn't want to.
    Just carry on doing what's best for you and the kids and leave him to his own devices

  • @wendylee13
    @wendylee13 11 месяцев назад +19

    Laura this made my cry! ❤ You and your children are a great example of what unconditional love really looks like. I wish more people could act like this during and after a divorce! You’re a class act! ❤Great job! Keep the faith and follow your gut always!

  • @dyanrupan8037
    @dyanrupan8037 11 месяцев назад +1

    You concentrate on those wonderful kids. They are amazing. Hugs and prayers!! Not a fun thing to go through.

  • @Alisha8596
    @Alisha8596 11 месяцев назад +45

    Maybe you should also do a few podcasts with the people he has hurt? give them a voice too? Idk. He has his own platform to make amends on, its not your responsibility and I worry it will be viewed as enabling. Especially if he is still doing things that hurt other people.

    • @elinchristensen4854
      @elinchristensen4854 11 месяцев назад +11

      That is a very very sensible smart and kind idea!!!

    • @elinchristensen4854
      @elinchristensen4854 11 месяцев назад +8

      On the other hand - it would be continuing to feed into Stephen's life and agenda and that might not be healthy for you or the kiddos 🤔

    • @Alisha8596
      @Alisha8596 11 месяцев назад +6

      @@elinchristensen4854 Very true. I thought about that too. I should have said that if she is going to upload this podcast with him then maybe she should give the people he has hurt a chance to speak as well, but my first advice would honestly be to not even upload the podcast and put herself into it. Especially after getting that message from his ex. He can make amends on his own platforms.

    • @elinchristensen4854
      @elinchristensen4854 11 месяцев назад +2

      @@Alisha8596 I agree

  • @amydomestico6142
    @amydomestico6142 11 месяцев назад +3

    ❤ it’s hard especially when there are children you want to try and do everything to fix things but t be careful with that it can quickly turn into codependency. You got this Mama ❤

  • @andreangodin
    @andreangodin 11 месяцев назад +2

    Both can be true! You can want your family together and not agree with his actions. Any person ultimately would want to see their kids have a healthy coparent situation. You’re an amazing person and no one can take that.

  • @somegirljess
    @somegirljess 11 месяцев назад +2

    Ohhh CHRIS!! i just realized he is part of your crew! I adore him and you!

  • @jaimechase1813
    @jaimechase1813 11 месяцев назад +18

    You are such a sweet and loving soul. The only person who can make Stephen change is Stephen. Alot of us don't think he's a terrible person however he's making some terrible choices which is 100% on him. Just keep being the best Laura you can be and taking care of those beautiful babies❤. Also happy birthday Stephen 🎉 be the best Stephen you can be!

    • @mooniestarling1586
      @mooniestarling1586 11 месяцев назад

      You mean you’re completely, and totally fine with someone that is obviously transphobic? A lot more TERFs in this fandom than I thought.

  • @mariewaters9346
    @mariewaters9346 11 месяцев назад +65

    Stephen has not been stable for a long time .
    You need to protect you and the children.
    You are not responsible for him.

    • @Dieviete7
      @Dieviete7 11 месяцев назад +1

      Exactly! There are so many nuts that have done terrible tings to family because of "love". I wound not trust him a bit while he is so unstable and unable to propriatly operate his own life. Stop mothering him Laura, you are not responsible for him. He has to deal with this to learn from it all.

    • @Dexdog
      @Dexdog 10 месяцев назад +2

      So you are his therapist? You have a medical degree? All you are hearing is Laura’s side. Stephen is not able to give his side. Good grief, how sophomoric can you women be.

  • @MikeyC19836
    @MikeyC19836 11 месяцев назад +5

    That is Parenting Done Right!
    Teaching Children to Love.

  • @hunaseven4676
    @hunaseven4676 11 месяцев назад +4

    Wow ! Congrats on expressing all of that ❤
    And it probably gets to you because of the kids

  • @mspears_bobobuddytheseniorcat
    @mspears_bobobuddytheseniorcat 11 месяцев назад +13

    I’m so sorry this is weighing heavily on your heart! You and Chris had a lot of courage to do the podcast. As a lesbian, there was definitely a lot that Stephen said that was misinformed and hurtful. I would love to see him grow and apologize for things he said last year and glad even to hear he is wanting to make amends. I’ve always loved you both and your sweet family! Happy belated 50th to Stephen!

  • @CLWettstein22
    @CLWettstein22 11 месяцев назад +15

    Laura, you probably already know this or have been told this but Al-Anon could help you a lot with detaching from Steven. Love you honey

  • @xcatx101
    @xcatx101 11 месяцев назад +5

    Bless u and ur friend I feel for u and the kids

  • @niamhoc12
    @niamhoc12 11 месяцев назад +5

    Where can I listen to this podcast ?

  • @heidiwalter168
    @heidiwalter168 6 месяцев назад

    Now that’s the best I’ve seen you interact with him keeping it positive and encouraging the kids to be their cute selves !! So happy!! I still pray you two get back together !! I almost left my husband in 2018/9 and I stuck it out as hard as it was at times I’m glad I did, he just turned 51 and then suddenly died in front of my youngest son and I and I’m so broken!! I miss him so much but I’m thankful for the many laughs and hugs and fun and love before he was suddenly gone! I would have had so many more regrets I just know it!! The empath in me would have crumbled even more! Love this version of you!! Like when you listened to his music before your show. Love him for the unique guy who adores you and is a great loving dad !! Because trust me you could have it so much worse !!!

  • @lalabear6
    @lalabear6 11 месяцев назад +15

    You were a piece of the puzzle that helped me realize my marriage was so over and i needed to be brave and let go of my feelings of responsibility for my ex.

  • @christistanton4085
    @christistanton4085 11 месяцев назад +12

    I'm not saying this to be mean, just another point of view. I used to really enjoy watching Stephen. I no longer do because, he is a nut! He said things that even though not directly pointed towards me per se, but was in general quite hurtful! I felt like I would not be the "kind" of person he would like even on a basic level! I sure hope the kids never pick up on that from him because, it won't be good for them! I would have never ever think he would think or feel those things towards people in general. He needs some help, big time!

    • @reneeturcottecicigoi9435
      @reneeturcottecicigoi9435 11 месяцев назад +2

      Me too. I unsubbed from him awhile ago because I was pretty sure he was having some type of mental health breakdown

  • @AuntieNise
    @AuntieNise 11 месяцев назад +4

    Is it love or pity? (ACOA)
    The children certainly love their father and they deserve to express that love.

  • @kristenandco.2223
    @kristenandco.2223 11 месяцев назад +5

    You’re a great Momma and woman, Laura. I love that you share your journey and the real shit storm that is life and how to try and navigate. It’s not easy, ever. But your integrity, love and dedication to your family is unwavering. Always remember your anchor. Be the palm tree. It will bend and touch the ground in the storms of life, but it cannot and will not be uprooted. That anchor is your inner voice and strength and gut that always knows your truth. Always listen to that.
    Be the palm tree. 🌴 ❤❤
    Sending tons of love to you.

  • @Mark_R_Tho
    @Mark_R_Tho 11 месяцев назад +59

    You absolutely made the correct choice in choosing divorce. I didn’t want to accept that for a while and wanted you guys to pull through, but there’s something off about him…and I’m not just saying that because he has controversial opinions. There’s just something off.
    And I feel for Chris, who you mentioned. I’m also gay. And when Stephen posted that meme or whatever you’d call it on his IG and ridiculed the Rainbow flag, that’s when he finally got a block from me. It wasn’t behavior I would *ever* expect from him and made me feel like the person I was getting to know through my screen over the years was absolutely all a facade.
    He’s a good person, at heart.
    But there is something very off about him. And it’s not your job to fix that, Laura.

    • @liveandletlive9333
      @liveandletlive9333 11 месяцев назад +4

      That might very likely be the autism. An ex bf was like that. I was with him for too long I realize now.

    • @KariN-or3sc
      @KariN-or3sc 10 месяцев назад

      He’s been full of hate for the last 2yrs or so. Apparently when Alfie got diagnosed with autism, he blamed it on the vaccines (🙄), and spiraled from there to be completely conspiracy theory right winged anti lgbtqia+, anti semetic, anti BLM, racist, bigot, just all the things. He’s posted truly heinous and unhinged content since the divorce. 😳

  • @baileyrabon9239
    @baileyrabon9239 11 месяцев назад +2

    OMG CHRIS!!!!!!! LOVE LOVE LOVE CHRIS SO MUCH! Fellow pumpkin spice girly!!!

  • @landismithCOJ
    @landismithCOJ 11 месяцев назад +16

    The "Happy Birthday" from Poppy😊😊😊😊

    • @mspears_bobobuddytheseniorcat
      @mspears_bobobuddytheseniorcat 11 месяцев назад +3

      That was so precious when she gave him the flowers that were almost as tall as she is! 😊💐

  • @taylormoss4128
    @taylormoss4128 11 месяцев назад +1

    It's because you have a heart. You two built a life together. You will always have a piece of you with him ect. You are doing the best you can and you are validated in your feelings. You can still love from a distance. You just need to put up boundaries for your mental health.. whatever they may be.. it's for you.. you come first (as well as your children obviously) and not him anymore.

  • @stephaniegonzalez3575
    @stephaniegonzalez3575 11 месяцев назад +1

    Personally I really love seeing you co parenting with him. I like watching you guys doing podcasts together.

  • @KatieDwyerMusic
    @KatieDwyerMusic 11 месяцев назад +1

    the way he went in for a hug. I was like AHHHHH for your camera man. I feel for him. What a great team you have.

  • @kassiestencel3612
    @kassiestencel3612 11 месяцев назад +4

    Laura, you're doing an amazing job with those kiddos ❤ listen. You aren't responsible for Stephen's actions or his making ammends. I'm not usually commenting on things but I can relate to this on a very intimate level. It took me too many years of doing exactly what you're doing for the father of my girls. I saw his goodness. I saw his potential. It took me too long to leave the relationship, it took me so much longer to let go of this sense of responsibility I had for him because he was the father of my children. This comment could be paragraph upon paragraph but I'll just say a little more. Take care of you. Ultimately, that is what will be most important when it comes to your kids. Their dad is responsible for himself. All you can be is their constant. By taking care of you, that makes you the best possible person you can be for them. Now, if he is really out here doxxing people, you can't put yourself in the position of looking like you're ignoring his behavior by trying to help him, you know what I mean? Also, he has quite obviously offended people that are very close to you and asking them to be around him in order for him to make ammends isnt fair to them. It seems to me that stephen keeps you in this roundabout because he is too confident in the fact that you wont walk away from him totally. Sometimes we end up giving the people we care about too many chances. Its quite obvious that he still views you as his fall back, comfort space and that is very obviously affecting you. Its ok to love someone from far away. I wish you the best. Letting go is hard as hell but its so worth it, trust me ❤

  • @britcommom
    @britcommom 11 месяцев назад +12

    Laura, you are truly a class act!

  • @CheraHarless-ev3pq
    @CheraHarless-ev3pq 11 месяцев назад +1

    I can relate with this so much. You aren't responsible for his actions. You have good intentions.

  • @Antira19
    @Antira19 11 месяцев назад +2

    💜 these situations are so hard to navigate & there is no one specific way to do it 💜
    yYou are allowed to care about someone’s wellbeing without having to be an active participant. Protect your peace, even if it makes others uncomfortable. Your only responsibility is towards yourself & your babies. Stephen is a grown adult who need to build his own support system outside of you - especially now that you are no longer a couple.
    Take it day by day, moment by moment & there is no timeline on how to work through life things like this.
    All the love from 🇨🇦 💜✨💜

  • @kennelet86753ohNine
    @kennelet86753ohNine 11 месяцев назад +2

    I didnt realize you worked with Chris! I love him! I watch him on Shanes podcast and videos! I love that you two humans know eachother! ❤️ You are both such sweet souls ❤️

  • @susie_q1
    @susie_q1 11 месяцев назад +23

    Hope springs eternal. It is what it is Laura, not what you wanted it to be. He remains unwell. As you said, you have very few boundaries. Not a criticism, just agreeing. He is a master manipulator as I wrote so often last year. You truly will find your way through this insanity. Stay safe for you and the children. Make sure you are as safe as you can be today. Maybe bring another few people with you. He is possibly abusing the AA steps.😢

    • @Bootsz2010
      @Bootsz2010 11 месяцев назад +6

      I agree, he's a master manipulator and craves his cult following that he lost because he went too far with his insane monstrous hateful content... He changes so quickly. I wouldn't even trust him with my kids. Kudos to Laura For trying. But this isn't her problem. He'll do anything to get likes. And he still on that right wing platform , what's he saying over there ?

    • @randomnessalways
      @randomnessalways 11 месяцев назад +5

      Attention of any sorts seems to be his new addiction whether it comes from kindness or negativity. Unfortunately he took the negativity route for higher shock value and hurt a lot of people along the way. People can change but he does not need anymore spotlight on this matter.

  • @melanyparedezlora189
    @melanyparedezlora189 11 месяцев назад +9

    Laura you are just too much... of a good person with a kind heart. I also believe he is but he's really confused and lost, I really hope he can thrive I have no doubt you and your beautiful children will.

  • @Lion_Honey
    @Lion_Honey 10 месяцев назад

    Omg thank you for processing publically! Youre definitely not alone in your journey

  • @feighfarr8393
    @feighfarr8393 11 месяцев назад +22

    Alfie covering his ears for B Day singing...*Classic*.😂❤

    • @susie_q1
      @susie_q1 11 месяцев назад +3

      It was too loud for him. Of course it was as he has been brought up in a very, very loud home.

    • @caffeinerequired3136
      @caffeinerequired3136 11 месяцев назад +14

      @@susie_q1 Its an autism thing my boys do it too when its to loud, I love how she noticed and started singing quieter

    • @Mel84ish
      @Mel84ish 11 месяцев назад +5

      I came to the comments to see if her son had been diagnosed as autistic. I thought I saw some telltale traits. I’m new to her content but so far Stephen seems to be a complete narcissist.

  • @croi8413
    @croi8413 11 месяцев назад +16

    You have the answer Laura, your anxiety is your gut instinct. Boundaries are paramount. Much love to you❤

  • @hunaseven4676
    @hunaseven4676 11 месяцев назад +2

    You made me cry Laura ! You really are a good person ❤
    Cant wait to watch the podcast

    • @susie_q1
      @susie_q1 11 месяцев назад

      Do you know what channel that podcast will be on? Her Idiot podcast or RUclips? Thanks.

    • @hunaseven4676
      @hunaseven4676 11 месяцев назад

      @@susie_q1 on her idiot podcast here on RUclips is where i watch 😊

  • @rubyanna00
    @rubyanna00 11 месяцев назад +3

    Laura your doing a great job girl it’s stressful and I know how you feel about being responsible for someone I’m still going thru that but at the end of the day these are grown people they have to want to change and it seems to be going that way keep going queen I love you ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @andralandi1108
    @andralandi1108 11 месяцев назад +30

    It’s so sad that Stephen is already trash talking Chris after pretending to make amends. Chris was unbelievably patient and understanding to even agree to this in the first place. If you can’t set boundaries for yourself, think of people like Chris who your ex seems to have no problem hurting and set boundaries for his sake. Stephen’s apology was not genuine, and his own behavior since then proves it. Remember that Maya Angelou quote - “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”

    • @alisonmercer5946
      @alisonmercer5946 11 месяцев назад +2

      Yep. Gotta move on it's not just self destructive it's destructive and violent against people.

    • @shadowpuppet0312
      @shadowpuppet0312 11 месяцев назад

      I saw that too. I genuinely hope this podcast never gets released because not only did Stephen talk smack about Chris, he also said his only regret about last year was putting his views on mainstream media. Stephen played Laura and I truly hope she doesn't let him do it again.

  • @MsDavisSaysSo
    @MsDavisSaysSo 11 месяцев назад +5

    The "get my family back" video w Poppy proves Steven's manipulative behavior. I hope he truly gets help and Laura and the kids can stay safe

  • @Nebraskagal
    @Nebraskagal 11 месяцев назад +1

    She is absolutely a doll

  • @courtneycounts9403
    @courtneycounts9403 10 месяцев назад

    Okay girl, I am diving in with you. You keep being suggested in my life and your introduction came during an EXTREME EMOTIONAL/PHYSICAL EVENT in my life and now 2 years later (after reading almost all of your first book), at a more relaxed time in my life. I am not sure the reason but am super grateful because your realness and comedic attitude is bringing back my sense of calamity and positivity on another level.

  • @allisonbolling9672
    @allisonbolling9672 11 месяцев назад +2

    Mom to mom…you are doing wonderful ❤️

  • @Thomas-w5g-f8c
    @Thomas-w5g-f8c 11 месяцев назад +11

    I know he doxxed one person's user name on Reddit and also threw some woman named Addie and also Georgia (Della's sister) under the bus as well.
    She never said anything bad about him on Reddit. Said he found her on IG, slid into the DMs, and then came the love bombing and talks, up until she was dumped for Della. As far as talking about his kids, she said he seemed to talk about Alfie more at the time they were communicating. So basically, he doxxed more than one woman to different degrees because they decided to talk about their side of the story in dealing with him.

  • @sabrinakelley2646
    @sabrinakelley2646 11 месяцев назад +5

    His addiction has still got you reeled in. It’s a vicious cycle. You want the best for your kids, and in doing that, you need to worry about you. His recovery is his responsibility.

  • @MammatoMaya
    @MammatoMaya 11 месяцев назад +2

    My former partner and father of my youngest children was caught doing very inappropriate things. As a result, we are separated, and he sees the children minimally, I share a lot of the same conflicting feelings. But I'm slowly starting to realize that I'm hindering my own healing and progress by holding on to it. If we let go and see how they handle things without our interjections, that will show the truth of the matter I feel. Their actions will speak volumes. On a side note, LEGALIZE things for your peace of mind and your children's wellbeing and MAKE IT POLICE ENFORCEABLE

  • @mallorykitchens9522
    @mallorykitchens9522 11 месяцев назад +12

    I’m just sending you love girl. That’s a heavy weight on your shoulders & I’m glad you have a good support system. 💙💙💙

  • @Giraffeattack024
    @Giraffeattack024 11 месяцев назад +2

    I respect you for trying still Laura and for trying to work with Stephen no matter what

  • @MsWonderlicious
    @MsWonderlicious 11 месяцев назад +3

    Laura, just work out what your boundaries are and go with that. If you feel they’ve been crossed then just protect yourself.

  • @katelynbendinsky5080
    @katelynbendinsky5080 11 месяцев назад +1

    Trust your intuition. It's okay to make the decisions you feel best about with no guilt.

  • @BRI.With.Da.FACTS3
    @BRI.With.Da.FACTS3 11 месяцев назад

    😭 the whole last part of this video is just the absolute sweetest

  • @jk_hearts
    @jk_hearts 11 месяцев назад +2

    All the lil "Happy Birthday!" From the kids! Oh my gosh they are adorable ❤

  • @rs3007
    @rs3007 11 месяцев назад +1

    I love Poppy's sweet little voice ❤

  • @EmmaRymentor
    @EmmaRymentor 11 месяцев назад +4

    I went through this with my ex 4 years ago. Especially him being an addict I always felt responsible for him. Worrying about him. But even after break up I realized I had to detach more emotionally even if we were coparenting and friends. To be honest i still worry about him but im definitely more detached because i can’t help him be his best self always…but your doing amazing Laura I can’t imagine how painful it is to let go as much as you have done already… I can relate so much.. and how you still do things to make Stephen feel included or part of family is beautiful… takes alot of strength

  • @GentleBreezes
    @GentleBreezes 11 месяцев назад +4

    He's been using this situation with Chris for sympathy on his lives... Talking about how he gave him a career and was like a brother. Just stoking up his followers to leave sh*tty messages about him in the comments. Also several lived called "Laura's cheating video", and then sitting back and watching comments speculation about you cheating. Yes, he will occasionally say what the title is in reference to, but so many come in and say "I'm so sorry you caught her cheating in a video", and speculating, and he obviously can't correct every one. It's not necessary to be there at all... Just like his "Laura looses it " video, he throws you under the bus for clickbait.

  • @Mrs2000-A
    @Mrs2000-A 11 месяцев назад +1

    At the end of day, your gonna do what you wanna do. Nobody can make us do anything. You follow your 💜 heart. Everyone will comment what they feel you should do but again you laura will do what you want to. My opinion dont matter, but it you want to co parent and want him to get better, i am a recoverd addict and know this sometimes you must let the loved one go that needs helpso they can hit rock bottom so they can see they are really needing to change and also they can either get up and fix themselves or they can stay down. But you do you boo Laura

  • @lucyluna3361
    @lucyluna3361 11 месяцев назад +3

    I haven't seen you on my RUclips for such a long time and i'm subscribed and the bell is on!?
    Anyways, the babies have grown so much! They're beautiful, they look so much like you! I don't understand xhy i haven't had any of your video!! You look great 😊... I'm sending you loads od love hugs and kisses from France 🩷

  • @jennifermeyer24
    @jennifermeyer24 11 месяцев назад

    All the beautiful things you say. All your kindness and your work to create positivity are amazing and you do your children proud.
    When someone is in the throes of mania they are not the person you knew and it can take a really long time for them to come back if they don't take medication seriously. But even beyond that you know and you are doing exactly what is right to move on.

  • @crazydiamond9468
    @crazydiamond9468 11 месяцев назад

    Laura, you yourself are in recovery. It's a long hard road for anyone struggling with addiction. Please do not lose yourself in trying to help or fix Stephens mistakes. They are his own. He is a grown man and he has to own his actions. That is totally on him. You have 2 beautiful children that love and need you. They need your attention and care because they are just little wee ones. Please try to take care of yourself and your mental health. I know you must be so confused and stressed out but the only people you need to take care of are your 2 little blessings and yourself. Leave the baggage at the door where it belongs. Try not to carry it with you because it will weigh you down and consume you. You are an amazing person. Never forget that this community is here rooting for you and supporting you. Much love and respect!!

  • @sheenatalks8529
    @sheenatalks8529 11 месяцев назад +1

    Omg it's Chris B from Shane's podcast!!! I'm so happy he's in your life too because he seems like an amazing person and friend. I'm also going thru a separation/divorce and wish I had my own Chris ❤

  • @EvelynJoy
    @EvelynJoy 11 месяцев назад +3

    Laura, I'm proud of you!

  • @jennyjones2729
    @jennyjones2729 11 месяцев назад +7

    you had children with a very bad person and thats a hard pill to swallow. He is not a good strong man. Im sorry. You dont want to be known as united with someone as manipulative and as un truthful as HIM. He is absolutely destroying you now. He destroyed the trust, destroyed the commitment and if you let him continue to lie and bamboozle you, he WILL rot your children.

  • @kaileereins816
    @kaileereins816 11 месяцев назад +2

    When does the podcast come out😊

  • @amandadavis8855
    @amandadavis8855 11 месяцев назад

    You are doing great, thank u for sharing your mental process as you considered how to keep your boundaries, I needed to see that this morning ❤

  • @brittanysalvatori7150
    @brittanysalvatori7150 11 месяцев назад +1

    Aw Chris. I’ve seen him on ryland and Lizzie pod and he’s the sweetest.

  • @justmemandalee
    @justmemandalee 11 месяцев назад +1

    I think it’s very important to be clear with your boundaries and allow graceful progress on any level if your gut says to. Allowing him the opportunity to speak on your podcast is wonderful and if he chooses to disrespect that and or not stay true to his words that he expresses it’s no reflection on you Laura at all. Best case scenario he starts on a healthy healing journey for himself and worst case scenario he looses the option to ever be welcome on your public forum again. I think it’s worth giving him the opportunity to speak and be heard if he’s requesting it, we all fall and sometimes having the support to get back up is what makes the difference!

  • @rebeccathatcher6385
    @rebeccathatcher6385 11 месяцев назад +8

    Stephen has his own platforms he could 'make ammends' on ... but you let him use yours with far more followers. Stephen has all his hate content cataloged on his new website and just this week said he intends to post more on Rumble ... not on mainstream where he got deplatformed.
    So essentially Laura you have helped try to rebrand him and replatform him through your interview.
    Currently he is still telling people his higher power sends him messages through scribbling in a book with his non-dominant hand and that his music can cure cancer and mental illness. He is preying on weak and vulnerable people who are inwell and is asking them to subscribe to his website to "be cured".

    • @JujuMama23
      @JujuMama23 11 месяцев назад

      Damn. Honest question - I wonder if he’s schizophrenic?

  • @taylorbrooke8505
    @taylorbrooke8505 11 месяцев назад +3

    Hope you both are doing well! Looked like such a special birthday celebration 🎉