ageing disgracefully + the normalisation of plastic surgery
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Women are terrified of ageing. And it’s no wonder! Whilst men are celebrated, and admired for ‘ageing like fine wine’ - women are depicted as decrepit, crones and witches when over a certain age. And that certain age is getting younger, and younger and younger. Girls as young as 13 are now so scared of the ageing process, that they are getting BOTOX injected in a bid to prevent wrinkles. How concerning is that!
Women also spend huge money on anti ageing procedures such as botox, injectables, facelifts, implants and expensive skin care products, just trying desperately to hold onto their youth. But does any of it actually work? Or do we just end up looking like ourselves, and our age - but like we’ve had ‘work’ done? Madonna, Gwen Stefani, Courtney Cox - these beautiful women are a fine example of females who are trying to halt the ageing process, and some would say it’s working, others would say the opposite.
Either way, I want to spread the message that as women we can be beautiful, successful, vital and THRIVING at any age. 18 or 88. We don’t actually have an expiry date. Nor do our looks. Nor does our worth.
Love you all! x
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'Age is a privilege denied to many' we need to remember this more often!!
Amen!!!
My mom is 82 years old and I tell her that. She is lucky to be her age since so many don’t make it.
I know my husband died at 33, we need to appreciate that we are alive!
My brother passed away at the age of 35. Those words ring so true!
@@Adhara740so sorry for your loss. Wishing you healing. 💕
When people subtly tried to make me feel bad about turning 30 last year I had to remind them that I had stage 4 cancer at age 24 AND ALMOST DIDNT LIVE TO SEE 25 and turning 30 was supposed to be a negative thing ?
Also, turning 30 and being officially cured of cancer (the 5 year remission mark) were the same year. No one could take that joy from me.
So happy for you for beating this terrible illness. Lots of us do not realise that it is such a waste of time to focus just on looks. Much better to enjoy our time here and use it wisely.
@@gazepskotzs4 thank you! 😊 you’re absolutely right.
Congratulations! I hope you stopped talking to those insensitive ppl
@@ToniaAlex13 thank you! One was a boyfriend.. now ex 💯🙋🏻♀️
That’s satisfying to hear how you shut down the petty insignificant remarks trying to rain on your parade lol
I'm 27. I'm developing my first wrinkles and grey hairs and I'm so proud of them. I've had severe mental health problems for half of my life and I never thought I'd even make it over 22. Every sign of aging is proof that I've made it. I survived. I'm the happiest I've ever been and I've never felt this comfortable in my skin.
So happy you made it. Be proud of yourself
Awesome matr00n! You’ve chosen a beautiful path of inner well being, comfort in your own skin, and positivity. 💞🏆🌷💞🏆🌷🎉🎉 All of those things will make your natural beauty even more radiant throughout your whole life. ❤️
Glad you're still here 🙂 the world needs more people like you who know about gratitude
That’s nice to hear. I also suffered with mental issues and also didn’t think I’d live to my 20s. I guess white hair is something I’m looking forward too cause honestly I think it’s beautiful.
Same here. I'm a women veteran and I've earned every scar and wrinkle on my body.
Kate Winslet, Cate Blanchett, Jodie Foster, Brooke Shields, Jennifer Connelly are also testament that by aging naturally you actually age gracefully.
Don't forget Julie Andrews 😊
Yes, I was going to comment Jodie Fostor. She’s been in the public eye since like the age of 12 and it’s awesome watching her get older but remain relevant and still attractive
and Andie MacDowell! She looks amazing too. I heard Jodie Foster say on an interview 'don't compete with your younger self' or similar. It's such great advice (hard to do at times though, I'm 48 now and would like my 20 year old strength back LOL).
I still think Jennifer Connelly is the most beautiful woman in the world
Gwen Stefani is one of the saddest examples for me. We’re about the same age and she was such a hero of mine when we were younger. She was punk, she rocked her smaller chest, her natural looks and really seemed to do whatever she wanted in terms of fashion and music etc. Now she looks like every other celebrity and is indistinguishable from the other Botox eyebrow lift aliens. Adele also is following in her footsteps. I’m happy for her to get healthy but she’s had work done and now she just looks like the rest of them and not herself. And we fell in love with her while she looked like herself and partly because she looked like herself and it was awesome. It’s a betrayal, honestly.
Totally agree, she was someone who didn't go with the flow as a celebrity when I was growing up, and I was so sad when I saw the work she had done a few years ago... Kind of gives a different dimension to "I'm Just a Girl" if you ask me.. :(
I just can NOT believe that the person depicted is Gwen Stefani "with work done". That is an entirely different person
I'm with you. I loved her so much and now she is just another Hollywood clone.
Yep, I agree. Also I'm upset with her and myself for following her THIN eyebrow trend back in the day... Mine are completely sparse from being over plucked! LOL
exactly. I'm 38 and I remember when no doubt first got famous back in the 90s. I loved them. Gwen Stefani was such an inspiration to me back then and to other girls and I adored her as a teen. seeing her now though, I just feel sad for her feeling the need to do this to herself😞
Italian actress Anna Magnani once told her make-up artist, "Leave all my wrinkles as they are, do not erase a single one. It's taken me a lifetime to make them"
She's was a underrated actress.
To us Italians she’s the top to which all other actresses aspire to ….. so not underrated at all
I LOVE THAT
You must be kidding. Anna Magnani was the best and greatest actress of her generation. Underrated .... seriously 🤦♀️
This made me unexpectedly a little emotional. My dad died at age 36, I’m 32 this year and I feel I owe it to him to get old!… with all my life stories still visible on my skin.
Omg that made me tear up 🥺 so sorry you lost your dad at such a young age
Sorry for your loss. My mother died with 44. I’m 49 now. Getting old is a blessing.
@@Salvger1981 Thank you 🙏 we all have our things to deal with x
@@patriciaquintela899 Thank you, and you! Must have been strange for you turning 44 ❤️
@@Angelicala yes, very much so. I think almost since I turned 40 I could hear a countdown in my head. She died when I was 21 and I have missed her since then. I try my best to make her proud and hope she can see it from wherever she is. I try to make the best from the time with my 2 kids too. Time with your loved ones is precious.
The worst thing about getting older is not the crows feet or the neck and forehead wrinkles. The very worst thing about getting older is seeing your loved ones pass away. I’m 50 and I’ve already lost my mom, my dad and my older sister who died last year from breast cancer. That loss about damn near ended me. I’m still devastated. We had dreams of growing old together. Yes, eventually we will all get old (hopefully) but my advice to people would be to spend time with the people you love!! Take lots of pictures and make lots of memories with the people that you love. Wear your sunscreen everyday and get out there and enjoy life and stop worrying about what you can’t control. Learn to love and embrace your smile lines and remember the people who gave them to you!!
You’re so right on about the value of taking lots of photos. They are a permanent memory of the journey of our lives. I have photos of myself in my home of my prom, sorority formal photos and photos of me with figure skaters. I’m 50 now and I cherish those photographs. They remind me of such good times in my life.
Losing your loved ones is so heartbreakingly painful!
That's aged me too
I lost my father just 2 years ago, and then my grandfather a month ago, and then my uncle 2 weeks ago.
And not a day has gone by that i haven't broken down ugly crying at least 2 twice....
You can see the long term stress on my face....
Other people have told me too😪
I totally agree, lost mum when I was 31 (I am now 50) and dad last year and living without them is so hard, I miss them every day. I am sorry for your loss and sorry about your sister.
I lost my son 2 years ago, get was 33. He was self destructive. He always took pride in me, showing up to school or his work and taking pride in my appearance. At his memorial, I chose to get my hair and makeup done, wore my best black attire, and do him proud. Now 2 years later grief has took its toll, I have daily bags under my eyes from crying almost every night. But I also have smile lines, because I'm a proud grandma and when life gives me a chance to smile I do. I'm proud of my aging face and go au naturel unless there a occasion. My features represents the life I've lived and my ancestors faces. I do believe the proper diet, exercise and face routines help plus lots of water, occasionally having drink and no smoking helps. Go with grace women, just be careful, especially with fillers. 💛
Lost my parents at 49 , mom died and 9 days later dad.
You are absolutely right, i do not worry about looks i rather had them back with us.
My mom is 65 now, all graceful smile lines, silver hair, all her children grown up. After a lifetime of toxic partners, she finally find a nice wholesome man of her same age and they're so incredibly cute! Life does not stop the moment you start getting wrinkles! Aging is beautiful
Speaking as a mother that lost her 29 yr old son in a horrific motorcycle accident I realize more than ever how blessed I truly am to have the privilege to even be “old”, see my grandchildren, the mountains and live life. Age is a blessing and we should embrace our age by being the best we can be, not by being something we r not.
I love your comment. You are so right.
I’m 31 and I always say you couldn’t PAY me to go back to being 20. I’m confident, I’m beautiful, and I’m ok with myself. My face shows my story, and I’m really proud of everything I’ve survived.
I wouldn't mind going back to any time between 18 and 47. Those were the total prime years. Sure, now, there's the wisdom and all that stuff... Maybe go back for a year only, lol.
20s is a dangerous decades, too much freedom and an underdeveloped brain... Thank goodness we make it to 30 lol.
@@dammar117 nobody’s in their prime at 18.
@@Hippidippimahm Maybe not in 2023... and I'm not saying that it is the only prime time. But I was certainly in my prime at 18. I know, because that it when I was physically at my best. It was also the time when I attracted the greatest number of men, and when they would fall madly in love with me. I once had three young men who barely knew me coincide at the airport to see me off-knowing I was leaving forever! And while I was never photogenic, my best photos were taken between 16 and 22. Airline and immigration officers commented on my passport photo. The camera ceased being my friend in my late 20s, even though I still looked great in person throughout my mid-40s.
There was something magical about being 18, that moment in life that was past the awkwardness of adolescence, but not yet hardened by time. Yes, it was prime.
I actually look much better now at 31 than I did ten years ago 😅 I'm often mistaken for 5-10yrs younger.
My brother died at 18, so every day, i remind myself that being over 50 is a privilege. I'm lucky to be slim and relatively young looking, but not in HD! A sense of humour is better than any botox shot. That and sunscreen every single day of the year.
Yesssss. A sense of humor is absolutely better than erasing a line.
So sorry for your loss. I lost my brother in 2020 and I know how difficult it is. Wishing you healing and peace. 💕
You look fabulous!
I’ve been thinking about this. My sister lost her battle with cancer on Tuesday. She was so beautiful and her soul was even more beautiful, but she cringed every time she had a birthday because she didn’t want to age. She died at 38. She didn’t even make it to 40. Aging is a gift
@@katies4521 I'm so very sorry Katie. I do know the pain. All best to you and your family. x
“You don’t even give yourself the chance to see how gorgeous you could look as your older self” … I’m going to hold on to that one ❤
I'm 55, I still like to go to goth club nights, and last time I got out of my taxi some gentlemen outside a pub gave me a round of applause. There are no rules that matter in the slightest. Being true to yourself is the best thing you can do for your mental health.
Same here. Im happy the way I am
speaking of madonna, and I have tried to find a clip of the interview since I saw it and respected her for it, she once said she would "never get plastic surgery because I want to know what my mother would have looked like when I get to be her age." true story.
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But what she did is mostly fillers. She got carried away I guess. Also the industry lied and said they would desolve themselves.
So sad she couldn't keep her promise.
Commenting again because PAMELA. Love her. She's even been openly talking about her experience going through menopause and having arthritis. I don't think people fully understand how impactful it is to have a woman who was categorized as a sexy bombshell aging naturally and talking about her experience doing so.
aging naturally? you can see her cheeks are filled with botox
Pamela has had a facelift.
@@LydiaZ36 That's what I was going to comment. I believe she has denied having a facelift and since she's obviously looking older, people believe her.
Pamela has had some subtle facial work done for sure. I see fillers, botox, and possibly an eye lift. But she had it done tastefully and still looks like Pamela. And she's still gorgeous, even more so without makeup.
@@Layla-hb8mqbut either way, she’s had work done. Is having work done only a negative thing if it looks obvious? Not arguing with you, but I think it’s something to think about. Women are still going to compare themselves to her and she’s being disingenuous about her looks.
What made me sad was the clip of you saying "now that I'm older" and you were only 27. May I tell you that, as a 58 year old woman, I wish that I could go back and tell my 35 year old self that I was not old - YOU ARE NOT OLD! I am just now starting to feel like I have attained some wisdom in life. It's sad that we are being discarded because of looks, when are minds are ripe with knowledge and experience. You are a lovely young lady with a good head on her shoulders, and I really enjoy your content. ❤
I'm 33 and I also at 27 thought I was old... Which was a nonsense of course. We tend to focus on a fact that we are the oldest we have ever been. BUT we have to remember that now we are also the youngest we will ever be. So really worrying about being old is just a waste of time. I kind of lost half of my 20s worrying about turning 30 and now I think how silly it was...
She is old for a teenager
So true. By 28 I was worried I was "old" lol. And now at 39 that feeling is even more pronounced. But I'm sure by the time I'm in my 50s and beyond I'll look back and realize just how young I really was (and am). Still, I've never actually wanted to go in reverse. There's far too much I've learned and experienced to ever give it up for a younger face.
And no one would watch if she wasn’t young or botoxed. Women can’t win.
I'm around OP's age, but i recall seeing the first signs of aging at 27-28. I didn't feel old, but i knew that young adulthood was over. I don't need to compare my 35 year old self to my current self ánd retroactively decide i was young, because i wasn't. I was "old young"... now I'm " young old."
I turned 40 yesterday and I'm here for it!!! I'm in the best shape of my life and the happiest I've ever been. My marriage is rock solid and my kids are adults. I'm so excited about this new decade 🎉🎉🎉
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Yes!!! Shine on! I'm loving my 40s!
👏🙌🙌 I’m excited for my 40s too. Because my 30s have been the best yet! Good for you.
Btw I have an older friend who says life BEGINS at 40
My son is 19 and I will be 40 in January. I married a man 10 years younger a few years ago and just had a daughter in 2022 and another son 2 weeks ago. People kept asking me if he was my first for some reason, then laugh and I tell them about my 19 year old. Now my husband and I are dealing with TWO babies, lol. I still don't have any wrinkles but my hair is unfortunately pretty gray by now.
I hope life continues to be kind to you! It’s a blessing.
When I started going through perimenopause, my body went from an hourglass to a rectangle. I wasn’t happy about this. My Mother told me ‘you’re Wiser now, so you get to take up more space’. Best Mom advice ever.
bless your mom
Do you mind sharing a few days of what you eat? An honest account of meals, portion sizes and snacks, plus alcohol consumption, and any other liquids?
I struggle to understand why a body would change shape all of a sudden if your diet and exercise routine are adequate.
@@laestrella9727 no sure why you'd ask in yt comments, if you can just go to any info site on menopause and changes brought on by it, and look up the explanations and causes yourself.
@@laestrella9727 if you struggle to understand then you don't understand menopause. the hormone changes affect every single woman differently. I'm currently going through it and it's HARD. Don't assume someone isn't eating right just because they're putting on weight. Learn about menopause and how it affects the body. My body hasn't changed shape but other things have changed which are out of my control.
"I've been young and I didn't even enjoy it that much" 😂 I can't agree more, totally feeling it.
Honestly, as a 34 year old lady who sooooo badly wanted filler in my younger years, I'm glad I was too poor to afford it 😂
SAME!! I'm 32 and wanted them because I thought I needed them!! So glad I couldn't and didn't!!
SAMEEEEEE
🙋🏽♀️I'm 38, and I'm also glad I couldn't (still can't) afford it!😂😂
@@NessG3 💯 same still 🤣😂
Don't do it, I started at 26 and am 30, what happened is since I Was naive I let people do things to my face that I didn't need. Radiofrequncy killed some of my precious fat padding (which we lose eventually anyway so why did I consent to this) giving my lower face a gaunt appearance, not flattering on a round babyface which I had. Then my filler seems to migrated and right undereye been puffy looking and purplish for 2 years now (despite leaving that area alone since I noticed!) and left side of face looks like I have a walnut in my cheek as filler migrated to my soft tissue below the cheek bone. If I could go back I wouldn't of. Any benefit I liked left quickly, and the negatives are all that lasted
Honestly I wish we would just age gracefully and honest. I love older women, rocking long grey hair and wearing whatever the F they want. Those women are confident and at peace with themselves and tbh wrinkles from smiling makes me think they had a fulfilled and happy life and I envy them for that. AND: can't we apreciate if one get's old? That's a luxury not everyone has! Many people die too young!
Amen! Aging is an honor.
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Well said!!!!
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“Don’t judge me by my wrinkles but imma judge you for doing plastic surgery”
I love Pamela, and I think her no-make-up look is fab. That said, she has definitely had work done
Right, I was thinking um... her whole career was based on her breasts and she definitely had a boob job, so this is kind of funny to hear.
It's so obvious that she's had work done which is why she looks funny, as she says. I hate when celebrities lie about it.
I could be wrong, but the only thing I really see is that she may have botox between her eyes. I don't blame her though, I'm not afraid of aging but the line between my eyebrows drives me CRAZY. That's not normal aging for me, thats years of crying and furrowing my brow lol
That's what I was thinking watching this - she definitely looks like she's had work done
Was looking for this comment. She looks like she's had botox and cheek filler. So it felt a bit ironic watching her talk like she's had nothing done, as her forehead remains creaseless and her eyebrows don't seem to move a whole lot
Mickey Rourke was so beautiful. He denied us to love him as he aged. Unrecognizable I cannot see anything of that beautiful young actor disfigured by cosmetic surgeries.
Actually is was from boxing, then he went to a surgeon to try to fix his face after. He said that he went to the wrong guy to have his face fixed. He was beautiful when he was younger.
"Age is a privilege denied to many" - as someone who saw friends pass away in our twenties, that definitely resonates 🖤 thanks for this great video Steph!
I’ve begun to grow my hair as long as I can because my “old lady goal” is to have my granddaughters playing my long silvery hair. At 53, it’s already starting to grey and I choose to turn something that’s inevitable into something positive about aging.
Hell, I already had white-grey hairs when I was a TEENAGER! A friend spotted my first grey hair (in my predominantly dark hair) when I was age 10! Grey/white hair isn't necessarily synonymous with ageing/being old -- it just indicates the level of melanin pigment in a person. The joys of being a pale-skinned Caucasian! 🤣
@@sheila6186 but it is a sign of aging for most people. Anyway congratulations to you. I think silver hair is just gorgeous!
Grey hair will make dying my hair easier so at least there's some benefit to ageing
I hate anti-aging marketing and social media. People really say things like “stop smiling” because it creates wrinkles. Imagine how depressing that life is, forcing yourself not to laugh or smile because you’re so terrified of wrinkles.
This video legit made me cry at the end. I just turned thirty this year, and I've felt like a failure with everything that I have failed to accomplish. I don't have kids, a house, or the high-value job I'd thought I'd have by this age (my mother had all of these things by the time she was 28). Now I'm starting to see wrinkles on my forehead. I felt that the only asset that I had left was fading. But what you said made me feel better. No matter what age, we all are beautiful. The wrinkles are our battle scars, and a sign that we have lived.
I turned 27 this year and I feel absolutely devastated because I lost so much time and ‘youth’ to being a recluse and having major depressive disorder. I wish we gave ourselves the grace to just be and to allow ourselves to take (healthy) risks and be happy.
You have time! I didn't have any of those things until my mid to late 30s/40s. Don't ever compare your life path to others. We all have a different story.
30 is young! Don’t put too much pressure on yourself.
Hey, just wanted to say you're not alone. I'm 33, no car, no house, no husband or boyfriend or girlfriend or wife, no kids, blagh job. All the milestones we grew up thinking were just gonna happen shifted beneath our feet and left us feeling lost and like failures. We aren't failures, shit just changed, the milestones don't exist anymore. Just live well, the best you can, and focus on your happiness because that's all you can do. All the little signs of age are just... Results of living and staying alive and fighting for our joy
Just don't let gray hairs grow over it. You still have a lot of time to realize yourself. Furthermore, the things and circumstances mentioned above do not define your value. You can be happy with or without these things. Just don't put too much pressure on yourself and always concentrate on what you've already achieved rather than on what you're lacking. As the saying goes, comparison is a recipe for unhappiness.
I didn't even recognize Gwen Stephanie! She looks like a completely different person! I remember in the 90s, Courtney Love said, "Don't hurt yourself, mangle yourself to get the football captain, BE the football captain! " What a great and inspiring quote, but she went ahead and mangled her face as well.
I totally agree. As a breast cancer ass kicker (diagnosed at 38) I can tell you that chemo can really age your face. I look at myself now with a few extra wrinkles at 41 and ponder if I should get botox. But I see my crows feet and laugh lines and realise I'm a god damn survivor that went through hell with a smile on my face and I'm proud of the way I look. I'm thankful to be alive and that I get to celebrate my birthday each year when so many others cant. 🙏
Love your videos Steph. I've been such a huge fan for years and love how your content has grown with you. ❤❤
This is so beautiful. Don't erase those lines, they are inspirational. You are a true warrior, thank you for sharing ❤
Good for you!!! Well done cancer ass kicker superwoman!
@@sof9546 💞💞
Let’s start a club to make aging cool and change society 😂🤷♀️
Yes❤🎉
Boycotting of the Kardashian/ Jenners is a start!
I honestly think we do set the standards. The younger women are better at fitting the beauty standards, but I notice younger women often watch we do and try to imitate us and how we interact with men… then try to do the same, but they are just imitating and it doesn’t land the same. I never thought that they were actually jealous of us in a way, too. We only focus on the fact that they are young and beautiful and forget there is more. I wish it was less of a competition in our society…
I’m in! I’m over fifty. I’ll join!! Count me and in and I’ll bring some of my friends that are at least my age with me!
@@MarieHager-vy4qg let’s do it! What platform do you all use?
Getting old truly is a privilege. Both my parents didn’t make it to 50, it made me think i wouldn’t either thanks to depression. From my lineage my family don’t really show visible wrinkles till turning 60 so once i get my share of wrinkles is when i know i truly lived long past my worst expectations.
At age 75 I just love looking in the mirror and revisiting both of my grandmothers. I loved them and miss them, and now I carry their memories in my face.
Aging is always harder for those who were considered head turners when they were young. The rest of us had to rely on personality and smarts lol and sometimes even manage to look more pulled together as more mature people
That’s such a good point!
Specially If they are celebrities, the type of person that thinks they were going to be Young forever and can't accept things Will change when they age.
I'm a 63 year old woman. I do not do all the botox none of it! I'm beautiful no matter my age! All the things people do to stay looking so young is crazy to me! I made it to 63. I'm ok with wrinkles.
I'm about to be 30 next month, I've never in my life had fillers or anything. People joke about how I'm losing my youth but I just don't agree. I feel more beautiful now than ever before ❤
At 30?? Losing your youth? Now the new trend is what, teenagers? It's appalling. Live your life, you're great!
30?!!
I think this was my favourite video of yours! As a 54 year old who NEVER looked her age, seeing these new cracks on my face is a struggle. The way you ended this video got me right in the feels and brought a tear to my eye. Thank you for this. 💗🙏🏻💗
I'm 41, and last year an old friend of mine from High School passed away. Yesterday would of been her 42nd birthday and I'm incredibly sad she never got to see it.
I am proud to grow old gracefully and accept whatever changes my body goes through, because I am grateful to still be here to grow older.
Getting older has been so eye opening to me. I'm 32 but I have already lost so many people that were friends in high school, tragic deaths, every year I feel luckier to still be here. Life is so random.
I'll be 44 next month and I am loving the aging process. I honestly see aging as a blessing.
Turned 43 and NEVER looked better, for real!
I always think of my sweet mom, who, when someone complained of "getting older," would say, "Well, it's better than the alternative." My mom had a lot of wise mom-isms. I miss her so much. Love life, love today, and be thankful for the beauty in you and the world. ❤
I’m turning 40 the next Friday, and every gray hair and wrinkle tells a story, a story I’m proud of, a story I’m still writing and I hope I can keep writing for many more years.
Something I wish someone had told me when I was 20: “Be gentle with yourself, eat well, exercise, remove your makeup every day and wash your face thoroughly twice a day. Learn to love yourself first, so you can love others later.
Do not settle for the bare minimum, set your standard and don’t accept less than that (and don’t be less than that yourself either)
Be grateful for what you have so you can use it as a foundation for what you want.”
Happy Birthday for Friday. I loved my 40s, still adjusting to my 50s...not sure I like em but better than the alternative ;-)
Why do these men find Madonna's behaviour cringey, but no one of them finds hitting on 25yo women cringey at their age?
As soon as a girl hit puberty, people start sexualising them. So a 25 year old is perfectly fine to objectify to the majority of men
Because it's cringey. Women have always been attracted to older men. Mostly, because they're more stable.
Leonardo DiCaprio is another weirdo.
He's still handsome!!
@@christinevillanueva54 For a 50 years old dude.
Madonna is 3 years older than me. Once I got used to being in my 60's I stopped stressing about looking older. My only "beauty treatment" is sunscreen. I find osteoarthritis and the pain it causes as far more important than my skin losing its elasticity.
I just want to add, remember getting older is a privilege not everyone gets to have.
Whoever you are reading this- you are beautiful regardless of your age ❤
Stephanie, you are doing an exceptional job of being unafraid of being real. It's So detrimental how many women have come to believe They are only worthy when they are young. Influencers like yourself kudos for expressing how important it is for all women to believe that they are all worthy and beautiful no matter what age! What really troubles me is how many celebrities have several surgeries and then claim that they only drink water and eat healthy. Such a deceptive device and so misleading to many women's mental, emotional health. Rather, it would be more beneficial for women to come out and reveal their real selves ! This would not only improve the overall morale but it would also improve the overall mindset for many younger women.
Helen Mirren and Meredith Streep have aged like fine wine. Adore their acting abilities so much
Helen Mirren is one of the best examples of how older women can still be sexy! I love that she still shows cleavage, shows off her figure, and wears bikinis despite society thinking those things are "inappropriate" for women her age. And at the same time, she doesn't seem to be trying to look like a 20 year old while doing it. She's an absolute icon for that.
Another example is my favourite actress Sigourney Weaver - she's in her 70s and still looks natural and great
Agreed! But both have had extensive work done, including face lifts.
They’ve both had (good) work done
Yes but when these women went from "youthful" to "middle aged" they're work slowed down and the roles they're offered were VERY limited!
While male actors are playing action heroes into their late 60's because male audiences want to see themselves as invincible, but want to see those 60 something year old men with 20 something year old woman!
According to Dr. Gary Linkov's previous analysis of Madonna, she seems to have gotten her first facelift at the ridiculously young age of 37 back around 1997. She underwent at least two further facelifts subsequently ("revision facelifts" are "required" every 10 years). She didn't even allow her face to age, smh. 😐
Pammy has 100% had a facelift. Love your content ❤
Yes she did. Twice
I think for a woman it is very important to have a role model of aging woman. My mother is aging just amazing. She is a regular woman at her 70's but she always looked after herself and it shows. And thanks to her I'm not afraid of aging, I know that I'll be just fine and you can look stunning at every age.
My GF was watching this video next to me. While I mostly agree, I'd like to add sth. Old body is not just about looking older, it is also greatly increased risk factor for many diseases. There is growing evidence nowadays, that aging can be influenced, possibly slowed down, even reversed... with lifestyle and other interventions which future may bring. I personally find this much more important that all these external procedures. What's the worth it to be filled with neurotoxin if you smoke, don't exercise，eat junk food... sooner or later it will reveal itself. Aging surely isn't something we should panic about, I think it's perfectly normal if we want to offset it, but we as a society should be focusing on biological changes, health in general, not just be hiding behind these silly procedures. And of course... there's nothing wrong with a few wrinkles c'mon.
Also, at 57, do not care what others think let alone the media & strangers👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽😉!
@@PeterSkye, well said!! 👏🏻👏🏻
that's another video
The thing is Father Time keeps marching, and eventually he will March all over your face and body. You can delay it, age well and gracefully- like me 😁 well pushing 60, proud Gen Xer leading the way, but you will get old - if you survive long enough. That's life, a natural part of life
A lot of it's genes, though. Part Swedish, and well Swedish people age well. As long as I get my dairy, can eat lots of junk food, active naturally, can't afford organic or fancy creams. Sleep and sunscreen and energy drinks lol
Yes, there are so many studies that look quite interesting that are cracking open how to wind back the clock biologically. I consider things in that area as more helpful and relevant than purely cosmetic things. There are already things that can take that improve our health overall such as collagen.
Dr. Dray referred to growing older as growing wiser, and it truly is a privilege. Changed my entire view of turning 40 and embracing the grays and fine lines ❤❤❤
Yea. and she is obsessed with aging products and sunscreen. Eye rolling. Sorry but that woman has big issues, obsession, anorexia, etc.. not a good role model.
Pam is lying if she says she hasn't had work done!
Fear of aging is not only relegated to beauty. I like to draw, and a concern many have is if they are too old to start, or in my case feeling I only have a certain time to get good. There's also the expectation of becoming famous and succesfull while you are young.
I've never had issues about "looking old" until I hit 40 (I'm 47 now). I have always looked much younger for my age, but as soon as I turned 40, I felt like I had just woken up one day and bam, there's the old me. I'm not going to lie, I've really been struggling with it. It drives me crazy when younger women ask things like, "Do you have any grandkids?"or call me ma'am. I have always taken care of my skin from an early age, but time and nature will always win. I have to accept that I'm not a young chicken anymore, but the struggle is real.
YES. I've always taken care of my skin and have looked much younger than my age, but I'm about to turn 44 and recently lost about 30 lbs on top of that. My once youthful face seems to have aged two decades all at once. while I've never been scared of aging or wanted to fight it, suddenly seeing jowls, loose skin under my chin and hooding eyes is a major adjustment. Not bad, just sudden.
@@Chrissy, I like that I’m finally not looking 25 anymore, because I feel like there’s less pressure to be “cool and perfect.” Ha!
I wear tennis shoes now with dressy casual tops-something I would have never done in my 20s/30s, but I LOVE it!! It shows the world I care more about my comfort, but it still looks classy. My ex BF, who is supper into style, loves the look.
I don’t know, I find looking older is making me feel more confident, comfortable in my skin, and it’s more freeing! 🎉🎉
Embrace those wrinkles girl!
There is a woman at work who is ten years younger than me and calls me m'am literally every single time she addresses me. It's like, "enough. I heard you the first fifty times you said it".
wow, who on earth asks if you have grandkids. Maybe if they knew you had grown kids who are in their 20's, I'm older and know one has ever asked me that. Unless they are young mothers who just want relate in some way.
@@MissHannah2036 some do it to be low-key rude out of thier own insecurities.
I took my son to the park one day & there was this one lady who was very clearly older than me. She looked at me & immediately turned to my son to say "so is that your mom or your grandma?" With major emphasis on "grandma" & a smirk like she was pulling something. I'm only 37 & yes, some changes have popped up & I rock my silver stripe proudly, but I'm not even close to elder status. I think it stung for about a second until I realized "oh wait, she feels bad about herself & is lashing out to bring someone else down." Some women really are catty like that, even when they're old enough to know better.
I’m crying. I’ve felt so useless since I got to my 40’s and found myself childless and starting over in a new career. I think I look pretty good for my age, but I feel like I’m less desirable now that I’m where I’m at in life, no kids, new at a career. I keep considering filler to keep myself looking younger, but it gives you scars inside your cheeks and lips, and can make them lumpy and different when they fade. Why would I get that? I’m not going to lie to the men that I date that I could still have kids when I probably can’t. I’m torn on it, but I love that you used examples of mature women that look better from aging naturally instead of going down the plastic surgery route.
You're not useless! We are not defined by our ability to reproduce or not :) I believe that everyone is where they're supposed to be in that particular moment of time.
@@RedRoseSeptember22 i wanted to be a mother. I just never found a good enough partner nor did I ever have the money to pursue single parenthood through fertility treatments.
Pray! Believe in the power of Jesus. Miracles do happen for those who believe in God xx I'm praying God forgive your sins and bless you with your greatest desire
If you still menstruate you’re likely still fertile. Js
@@The_Salty_Siren actually, women over 40 on average, even if they menstruate, aren’t ovulating along with their periods every time. This why fertility goes down with age. We only have a 5% chance of getting pregnant every month. It was depressing when it was laid out for me.
Great job, Stephanie! Much love and respect from a 53 year old woman who is struggling with the insecurities of weight gain (bipolar medication) but believes in embracing the natural ageing process. I wait for your new episodes with such anticipation. It's so heartening to see you grow personally as well. Rock on, girl.
We should always remember that “women of a certain age” are running countries, companies, raising grandchildren, thriving in Silicon Valley, creating art, working as journalists, adding value to the world in every way. So I love your videos for urging women to value their own unique selves and not falling for the degrading treatment of older women and the ridiculous emphasis on “youth.”
In my opinion, plastic surgery started to become slightly normalised all the way back in 2016 when the Kardashian’s became popular. Because of this, I’ve always had a problem with them
As a 21 (almost 22) year old, I’ve just recently started realizing how obsessed I really was with aging and “looking old” as a *teenager* ... I remember being absolutely terrified of the thought of becoming old, basically thinking that “my life will be over” by the time I hit my thirties. Now everyday I look at my mother who’s 53 years young, enjoying herself, going on shopping sprees with me, putting makeup on, feeling and looking gorgeous. I can see how my father looks at her and how much love he has for her, and it makes me so happy.
I feel like growing old and having wrinkles and gray hairs is a testament to the life we’ve lead, I honestly cannot wait to get older, because growing older so far only made me more comfortable with myself and a lot happier.
Stephanie, as a woman in her early 40s and who grew up through the horrible 90s I have been brainwashed to hate everything about my body. I can't say this strongly enough for your videos really helping me accept myself. I watch and rewatch my favourite ones to try and get the message to sink in. Thank you a million times for saving my life and my sanity. I know these videos aren't as good as beauty videos money wise but I hope for all the women that you help you will keep going. We love you xx
Same. I've been learning to let go of the idea that I have to be a certain size or certain weight. What makes a bouquet interesting is that the flowers are different.
90s were great imo
@@thegalhorowitz oh yes, zero eyebrows and heroin chic really were healthy....
I am 45 and I am young. Who says otherwise?
Age is BEAUTIFUL! Such a privilege. After watching my Aunt die of cancer in her 30’s, leaving behind two small kids I very quickly learned what a gift aging is! I’ve loved my age, lines and aging ever since. And factually older women who take care of themselves are just more beautiful and fun to talk to than younger women.
I'm 53 and have earned every grey hair, wrinkle and scar on my body. It is a map that tells the story of my life. I often look at myself with love and fondness as I re-live my life through them. I have enjoyed watching myself as I change the way I have dressed with each passing decade. I have held on to a few key garments that I wore in my early 20's (early 90's) and pulling them out bring joy to my life. On my 50th birthday I bought myself a pair of Doc Marten boots with pink laces to celebrate. I wore them in my teens. I'm wearing them right now! I wear them every winter with black leggings, a merino woollen tunic & long-length cardigan also in merino wool. I brighten it up with colourful scarves. I am married with a 15 year old son and live in Australia. I still think i look young and inside I'm still 22. I love my life
I'm 52 and I was more worried about aging when I was in my 20's than I am now. After menopause it's interesting because my face looks different but it's really freeing to not be worried if I am attractive or not, I can just be me.
Hear hear! Apart from the menopausal bumps in the road, they settle down. Nothing to fear ladies, it is VERY liberating!
I’m 63 & I’ve always looked after my skin & I am happy with the way that I look, I don’t seek external validation, although it is sweet when my husband compliments me. Aging is a process that is determined by our genetics & environment.
Something that has helped me embrace getting older is interacting with and developing friendships with older people. When you do this, you see how age doesn’t deminish our value and can even give you freedoms you hadn't considered. You'll see that people still love each other even when they're old.
I second this, i took up wild swimming and over the last 5 years and have a range of friends in age and there's a real beauty about older people being their pure selves in terms of style and personality. When you embrace how you look and who you are there's nothing more captivating
I’m 53 years young!!! I love you for this video!!! Guaranteed you’ve made many of us proud and feeling pretty!!! Thank you !!❤
Great advice Stephanie! I'll be 68 this June 4th. I have never used filters of have had injections or plastic surgery. I will age gracefully and accept aging as a part of living denied to many. I have truly been blessed.
Oh my Gosh, I needed this Steph! I'm about to be 42 and have had NOTHING done. I refuse to do it. I'm going to do like you say, and want ppl to think, she looks great for her age! Was going thru a midlife crisis there for a bit and seeing this vid has given me a different perspective. God Bless you girl. You are gonna help a lot of women with this! ❤❤❤
I just recently turned 30 and wow does this video hit. Thank you so much for doing what you do, Stephanie!
The other day the sales person was convincing me so hard to buy an anti aging serum and night cream . Im 22 😂
😂😂😂
Though this is funny lol, I will say if you start retinol and sunscreen early, no lie, it does pay off when you get to my age.
@@MBXGill sure im already on retinol + sunscreen 🤍
@@Johnnohn then you’re good!
That is ridiculous. I know 20 year olds who have had Botox as well, I don't understand why . I never felt that pressure when I was 22, granted Botox was not a known procedure in the early 90s but I never felt older than I was.
Im 60 this year and I look it. I take pride in it. Zero plastic surgery or botox. I celebrate my aging. Many friends have died already.
I have been an admirer of Madonna’s art for years. I love her music, her stage performances are always on another level and she is a trailblazer and an artist. The media started tearing her apart and calling her an old hag when she approached her forties (or maybe even earlier). When she turned 50, all journalists made such a big deal out of it, it actually got annoying at some point. No wonder she did what she did to her face. Maybe she’s not aging gracefully but who cares? Let’s appreciate women for their hard work, for their contribution to society and not just for their looks. Pierce Morgan is disgusting. Telling a woman to sit quietly in a corner and knit something - wow, so original.
I've loved Madonna since the 80's, I'm 46 now and she's still one of my faves out here. That said, Madonna's been getting work done since her early thirties. There are numerous plastic surgeons speaking to this because there are physical tells that can be seen in her photos since the early nineties: brow and hairline is different (brow lift), elongation of the tragus (facelift),etc.
What we see now is a result of even starting to have plastic surgery done. You can't get something done without it needing to be redone in ten years. Even then, when you get something done something else falls so you have to make adjustments there as well...that's not a figure of speech, that's legit. That's when you start looking the way that she does now. THIS is why surgeons advise to wait till much later in life to start getting plastic surgery. I wish more people spoke about these aspects of surgery and using that to make or break a decision.
I agree with you wholeheartedly, If it makes her happy, go girl!
Not me, crying by the end. You have a gift at saying things we all hear in a way people can absorb the point ❤ thank you
This might be my favorite video you've made so far. I think it's nice to see this kind of content on social media.
I was never "blessed" with being conventionally attractive so honestly now at 49 I'm not despairing any changes in my appearance. I don't have any sort of fear or dread at the superficial changes of aging, way more about fears of being incapacitated.. Honestly i used to be pretty pissed off about getting what society constantly told me was the short end of the genetic stick.. Now, I have had some time to think about it and i'm quickly reaching the age at which women completely lose all their fucks to give and i'm pretty happy watching the fall away. When I realized i didn't give two fucks anymore about needing the validation of men to justify my existence,, that was a nicely freeing day. Good luck all you awesome ladies out there, and remember you don't owe anyone frick, but yourself!
Good point. I think it's easier for women who were never considered beautiful. Or in my case I spent my 20s being overweight. So I look better now than when I was younger, since losing weight
We're the same age and I too was never considered "pretty". Some of my friends who were "pretty' are now struggling with aging but I really don't care.
I envy you in a way. Being pretty is so temporary but when you are you get accustomed to your image, not for validation necessarily, but in general. Like when you're young and you're one of the most intelligent ones and all of a sudden you lose it. To dementia, accidents etc. It's not easy to adjust.@@polypam
Thank you! So true, I survived open heart surgery, cancer, etc. I am ALIVE and 62 and how awesome is that!
Blessings!
My 14yr old is worried about wrinkles!! It blows my mind and breaks my heart!!
Always been super afraid of aging, and since the pandemic, I see how much I have aged .Gray hairs everywhere, and increasing wrinkles. Turning 31 in 2 days.I'm trying to find a good balance between accepting it and trying to "fix it". I am a singer and in the spotlights a lot. I've started to use frownies, as the idea of botox freaks me out. Especially that you need more over time. It will just never end. I'm also pissed at society of making me feel scared to age. Thanks for this video, it came at the right time.
OMG what a beautiful message. I almost cried at the end. Thank you so much for your words. We live in a society that hates old people instead of respecting them, protecting them and try to learn from them.
Stephanie I am 56 and yes, I can relate! Thanks for bringing awareness to this subject.
I’m 58. Thank you for this.
I feel like if I could afford a face lift, I would get one. But it’s nice listening to to a voice of reasons ❤
I never expected Pamela Anderson to have such a healthy outlook on aging naturally
She’s had about 3-4 facelift procedures
She's lying so badly. She's obviously had work done.
I love your videos! It's quite sad how societal pressures are influencing so many nowadays. I'm 45 and have not had any surgical procedures done. I have my own skin issues, which include rosacea and eczema. I remember a couple of older ladies commented on how "great" my skin looked. One of them stated, "You never had any work done. Please don't." I will always remember her telling me this. I love watching 80's through early 00's movies or shows and appreciating how everyone looks so "natural". We're literally turning into a Barbie world. All plastic!
You’re such an incredible human and I love you and appreciate you so much.
These videos have helped my self esteem so much
Very wise words in this post, dear! Thanks for such common sense. As a 57 woman I love to keep on having fun and being loud, not feeling less worthy because I am not young any more. Keeping on enjoying life is a privilege not everyone has, so do it at a 100% 🎉❤
I'm a few months older than you and thank you for making videos like this ♡ as the greys slowly appear and the lines seem to stay, it's great to be reminded of the beautiful role models we do have who chose to age gracefully and that it's worth it
💯💯💯💯facts! 🥰😍
I'm one of your younger viewers, 26 years old, and I'm so thankful to have found you! You've boosted my self confidence so much. Now when I look in the mirror at my nose that I always disliked, I now like it because it shows my heritage. And after watching this video I looked in the mirror and thought that I was beautiful, even though just last week I was worrying about the 11 lines between my eyebrows. Thank you Stephanie!
You Stephanie are a breath of fresh air! I have had so many problems through life and hated myself for most of it! I'm married to a younger man and have struggled with looking older . So many girls I know "a lot younger" have their fillers and botox and love it but I can't bring myself to and you have just validated my feelings I love the wisdom and knowledge I now have and if that means lines etc come for the ride then so be it! Well done love❤❤
Cate Blanchette is another woman who I think is ageing naturally, and she is so beautiful! Especially her eyes. Her eyes are really all you see in a movie called Hot Fuzz, and you really notice them (◍•ᴗ•◍)❤
Hot Fuzz is so good & I thought Cate was a champ to take that part.
@@picahudsoniaunflocked5426 I really enjoy all three of those movies ( ◜‿◝ )♡ But yes. Peter Jackson was the Santa too!
I had my first botox at 23 to prevent wrinkles because a lot of people on the internet were saying that there is no use fighting the wrinkles when they're already there, you need to prevent them. So I decided I'm gonna have botox injections every year to stay young forever :)
Luckily, I stoped after the second time.
I also really wanted to straighten my nose with fillers and other stuff, but then I watch a lot of videos about filler migrating
Stephanie, I love your channel so much! I'm in my teens and I used to be super insecure but ever since I have found your channel, I have felt so much more confident. I love how your channel is like this lovely safe oasis where women of all ages can take comfort from.
I think you’re absolutely correct about Madonna. She has reinvented herself more than I can remember.
And now she's visibly ashamed of aging.
I'm just 19 but the prospect of turning 20 was a little scary to me and made me feel kinda old. This video changed my perspective though, feeling old is never the right way to go bc you're never too old for anything
@@emilynam6084see and that's all that matters
It's never too late hun
Jesus, girl, rest assured that you are still a flippin' FOETUS! Lol. 🤣
@@emilynam6084 Mid-to-late 20s are awesome years. I feel like women hit their "physical prime" during that phase, in terms of maturing into their looks more thoroughly. Not to disparage older age groups though. It's just that you still have the full-on energy that you had as a teenager, coupled with being a bit wiser and more at home in your own skin. 🙂
Girl just wait til you hit 28. You're still a baby lol
Would be good for you to cover/ interview Paulina Porizkova. She is VERY vocal about aging without cosmetic intervention and has spoken about it widely on her instagram and interviews on youtube channels. She looks incredible and is very inspirational xox
I love this message. I’m proud of how I look at 48 and as a grandmother. I will continue coloring my grays and using skincare, but I will not be carving up the face I was born with ❤.
I just wanted to say thank you. This was amazing. You put into words how I've been feeling for a while. I stopped coloring my hair at the beginning of this year (turning 40 in 6 months). I watched my mom get to the point of doing her roots every 3 weeks when I was in my late 20's and told myself I'd stop at 40 & couldn't wait that long. I am LOVING watch my natural coloring come through for the first time in 25 years!
I am 55, survived breast cancer and living w MS and I think these experiences have gave me some perspective: I am lucky I get the chance to wake up in the morning, might not always like what I see in the mirror but here I am, alive (wrinkles, scars and all)