The Anti-Trans Violence of Civility Politics
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A history of civility politics and their connection to racism, and how they ultimately work to uphold power hierarchies.
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▶"Removing Black lawmakers from office has a long, sordid history" by David A. Love - www.washingtonpost.com/made-b...
▶What Are Women? by Lily Alexandre - • What Are Women?
▶"An Anti-Trans Doctor Group Leaked 10,000 Confidential Files" by Dell Cameron - www.wired.com/story/american-...
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0:00 - Intro
1:49 - Sharing Trans Joy
5:59 - Story One: Zooey Zephyr & Civility Politics
40:54 - Story Two: American College of Pediatrics & Race Science
1:13:55 - Story Three: Nebraska & Ethics
1:19:40 - Story Four: Sabine Hossenfelder & The Middle Fallacy
1:35:18 - Story Five: Budlight & Boycotts
1:48:40 - Story Six: Pride & Rainbow Capitalism
1:58:02 - The Last Story
2:14:05 - Final Thoughts 
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“Please be civil and don’t fight back while we’re taking away your rights, it’s very rude to stand up for yourself”
Basically public school in America. "Two wrongs don't make a right" as though the teachers have any right to speak on that
"the world pushes us without mercy , but when some push back the world points out and cry evil"
It isn’t nice to block the doorway
It isn’t nice to go to jail
There are nicer ways to do it
But the nice ways always fail
It isn’t nice, it isn’t nice,
You’ve told us once, you’ve told us twice…
But if that is freedom’s price, we don’t mind!
-Malvina Reynolds
The line that always hits me in that song is actually:
“How about those years of lynchings
And the shot in Evers’ back?
Did you say it wasn’t proper?
Did you stand upon the track?
You were quiet just like mice,
Now you say we aren’t nice…”
Ah, the opening to the neurotypical anthem.
@@Mondomeyerthe neurotypical, white previleged anthem
No marginalized group has ever won equal rights by asking for it nicely from those marginalizing them.
@@user-tb7ws5lb4y Intersectionality exists. White women can raise the voices of black men. Cis women can raise the voices of trans people. We lift each other up, not shrug our shoulders at each other and say "what do you want me to do?"
@@user-tb7ws5lb4y cis-women can oppress, white women can oppress, neurotypical women can oppress, abled women can oppress. I have seen women enforces and teach patriarchal oppression. Like all oppressed groups there are those who buy into the power structures that give them some privileges vehemently. An example of this is women who opposed ERA. Women have a choice to ally with marginalize groups or stay silent or fight against change. A good example of this is TERFs.
@@user-tb7ws5lb4y- They can influence those who do.
The Montgomery Bus Protests say hi
@@cherusiderea1330 They Montgomery Bus Boycott was one aspect of a multifaceted campaign of civil disobedience. They weren’t asking nicely, they were breaking the law. And they were beaten, arrested, and worse for it. Try to keep up.
When we get upset they call us hysteric. When they get upset they call it "righteous anger".
We're the ones with righteous anger and we should use it
@@l.g.brandon4294 you mean disagreement on whether certain minorities should have any human rights, legal protection and access to necessary healthcare? If you preach hate, expect hate.
@@l.g.brandon4294 you seem to be confused. First off you seem to be describing hippies, which I'm not sure many of us would be considered. Second being upset isn't the same as being intolerant, which feels like something pretty obvious but hey now you know. Third, ultimately in order to have tolerance all parties have to practice it. You can't be tolerant while giving a pass to others who are actively intolerant, lest you become complicit in their poor behavior. Ultimately though what is the point you're trying to make here, that you think everyone is as bad as you? Is that really the kind of cynicism you want to promote?
Isn't that like a back handed complement? Isn't hysteria stereotypically assigned as feminine?
@@savibang4412 it's a straight up insult even if it did imply correct gendering of transfems, and yes. Hystera is the Greek word for womb.
During last years' Pride event here in austria (upper austria), 3 young girls were denied access to the women's toilets in a McDonald's for not appearing "female enough". The girls then decided that if that's the case, they'd use the men's restroom. Again, they were denied access. A group of boys (age 15-18) watched all this, followed the girls out of the McDonald's into a public park where they beat them, tore off their shirts, sat on them and even broke a glass bottle on one of the girl's heads. There were DOZENS of people watching and filming this, but they did not help them or call the police. The people who probably prevented the deaths of these girls were others from the pride event. How horrific is that?
How can you watch children being beaten half to death and decide they aren't worth saving because they are queer while in the same breath claiming queer people harm children?
(I couldn't find english articles on this, but for the german ones look up "linz pride 2022 schlägerei", google should offer to translate the articles for you )
I am more determined than ever to stay late during this year's pride event, just to accompany any queer people if they need it. I already made my sign telling people to just talk to me if they need someone to accompany them to their train or a restroom. If laws and the police aren't going to protect queer youth, it's up to us. Our pride is not a celebration, it's a demonstration and a cry for justice. I understand that a lot of people are more afraid than ever to come and march with us, but it's more important than it has been in years to come together and let people know that change needs to happen.
Queer people, especially queer children, are dying.
😢
absolutely horrific! baffling that some people act like mindless madmen and attack people, including children, who did nothing wrong!!! why does this happen?? why are they so hateful?!
That was fucked up! 😡That was really fucked up!
Fucking horrifying
😢😢😢😢😢😢
"Civility" means civility towards them, but never the other way around.
It usually also means respecting the existing power structure.
Challenging it by demanding civil and human rights is always going to be seen as “incivility.”
The master’s tools will never dismantle the master’s house - Lorde’s maxim is just as true here as it is with racism.
This phrase hit so close to home. Since Russia , where I just happened to be born and live, is working on banning trans healthcare and ability to get your gender marker changed in the doccuments for ADULTS and me along with many trans folks were essentially forced to come out and apply to go through the paperwork hell just to have a chance to change the ID before the law's passed. Stuck having to explain it to people who we weren't ready to come out to. And loose our safety over that. Being essentially forced out of our safety nets. While the government are also using our lives as a way to divert the attention from real problems. Did I mention that we were put in danger because bigots feel validated to attack us ????
We owe no civility to our butchers.
This isn't a rebuttal. I'm just saying.
@@AlleyCatUwU So is that a quote from the Animal Farm book? But certainly, a lot of these negativity-sex-obsessive fascies and bibliolaters have a psychotic hyperfocus simply to distract people from their disastrous anti-social effects on the economy which causes the billionaires to get richer while the millionaires get poorer while the non-millionaires become homeless/indebted, while the homeless/indebted die.
Yeah they want to act violent to everyone they hate once again just like freedom they never care
my conservative family: "This country is all about personal freedom and the government should stay out of our business"
(trans rights walks into room)
my conservative family: "No not that."
like seriously everyones freedoms or nones, seriously all the bills youcould bring up to limits transpeoples specific freedoms, and other people, and any woman wearing a jeans even. Do they want florida? That law is from florida. And jeans are not gender aproviate, conservatiively.
Maybe the first they come poem?
They never care
Conservatives believe that freedom is the right to do the proper thing, and only the proper thing.
It’s a bit like the claim that Henry Ford has the model T in every color you might want as long as that color is black.
@@marocat4749 Except with it comes to vaccines right?
@@SSingh-nr8qz The point of vaccines is to mitigate an ongoing pandemic.
If you don't want to take the vaccine, alternate mitigation measures need to be put in place.
If I was king: I would shut down all non-essential businesses until such time as they can prove they have adequate ventilation in place for their fire capacity.
This policy of pretending the pandemic is over directly harms disabled people who are at higher a higher risk of dying or being maimed by the virus. That is to say: refusal to take the vaccine directly impacts the right to life, liberty and happiness for about 1/5th of the population.
So far this Pride Month, Pat Robertson has died, Donald Trump got indicted, the Daily Wire got demonetized, and anti-trans bills in half a dozen states got blocked by federal judges. Happy Pride, everyone.
lets all hope the trend continues
wooo! (not about that person dying but wooo about everything else)
@@BugsyBugYT He was a homophobic and transphobic televangelist who scammed poor people and avoided accountability for any of the harm he caused. I don't think there's anything wrong with pointing out that he's no longer around to incite hate crimes against marginalized communities. Rebecca Watson has a video summing up all the terrible things he did throughout his career.
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 mk
@@Hurricayne92 pretty emoji!
23:56 "The system is meant to do this. To demand civility, in the face of harm, while the system justifies the pain it causes, and says that it, itself, is civil." 10000%.
Civility politics has always made me think of those bullies who keep instigating and attempting to initiate a fight so that the moment their target reaches their tipping point and finally shouts/screams/pushes back. The bully then uses this as an opportunity to cry to the authority figure and tell them about how THEY were just talking to you and YOU suddenly screamed at them.
It's freaking playground logic
I'm gonna add to this as I watch this video since twitter doesn't exist for me to live tweet anymore and comments help boost the vid in the algo.
41:22 How dare you reveal my secret document location. Now where do I put all my cringe weird DataxLore fanfictions?
My mother used to use a similar tactic all my live..ignore boundaries, repeat painfull topics, pouring salt in wounds and if i ever got loud telling me how much i hurt her feelings and how i am the bad guy..well girl...
People who are certain that their power position is the right order of thingsnnever see their harm as harm, because they are in the position of power where they can cause harm in a civil matter, but there is no civil pathway to oppose it
@@saraa.4295 It sucks to be on the receiving side of the "civil" offensive, especially if it's from someone who's supposed to be a bulwark against harm. I feel for you and I only had to deal with peers doing it to me. A parent doing that to a kid is totally wretched.
I do also have to give props to the pacing of this video!
It sounds silly, but drip-feeding the misery and bringing the tone back up throughout the video made it a much easier watch (in terms of having to take breaks after the realizations hit that THIS is where we are in the world).
So big kudos! A lot of essays lately have been nothing but depression and the sparse bits of joy make it a much less daunting watch for those who have difficulty with taking in a LOT of bad news at once.
There was a serial one of these bullies in my primary school. She bullied everyone in the class and then said she was getting bullied to the teacher. One time we caught her mid "snitching" and managed to get her in trouble from having the entire class as witnesses
My mom is a nurse in Missouri and the doctor she works for has several trans patients, her and everyone that works there is pissed about this new legislation. She’s not even really political but she can see just from a medical standpoint how stupid it is.
Politics (mostly right-wing) and medicine should never mix. Medicine needs to be as apolitical as something gets, because it's just a basic necessity. Why should someone with a completely different worldview get to dictate your treatment, someone who doesn't care at best, and actively wants you hurt at worst? It makes no sense.
@@dataexpunged93N15 This is like making one group unable to access cancer treatments (which tbf has happened before), it's insane and makes no sense if you know anything about medicine and how the field is supposed to work.
@@dataexpunged93N15 That's what a Canadian guy in a documentary my teacher had us watch said.
But, it seems in the US without Universal Healthcare, that fears of higher taxes and "socialism" or "communism" prevent us from guaranteeing the necessities to our citizens. Which should be a priority imo.
Not only is it unconstitutional, it's also impossible to implement because cisgender people get these same procedures and treatments done all the time. In fact, nearly all of the medical procedures associated with gender affirming care were originally developed for and are still used in cis patients.
You can't "not even really [be] political". It's not like atheism. Not being political means being in favor of the political status quo. If you are not fighting for human rights, you are letting others take them away. It's a privileged position that straight cis white people get to enjoy.
A very similar dynamic plays out in dysfunctional families, too, where the family member who calls out the dysfunction is treated as the problem rather than the member(s) actually causing the dysfunction.
Oh, you mean like how detransitioners are shamed, silenced, and ostracized by the "glitter family" that convinced them to ignore "the transphobes" (usually their loving and liberal parents) and make an irreversible mistake that gatekeeping could have prevented?
We can never be civil enough. If we don't give offense then one will be imagined.
yep, the ''grooming'' rhetoric is one such invention (rehashed from the gay panic of the 80's, which was rehashed from the civil rights movement detractors, jim crow advocates, back to the pro-segregationists, slavers and pro-monarchists in the U.S)
literally just a way to shift all the blame for paedos from them (conservatives and Christians pastors/preachers) onto us and teachers and anyone they disagree with
Or else they will fabricate more as they have eventually found more sly/sublime ways to demonize and attack us.
The zooey zephyr thing is like of someone has a gun to your head, you say "shame on you," and they start whining about how you put them in danger
They don’t whine now, they shoot you and claim they “feared for their life”
@@petervizzini4006 I see we're in the "Just say crazy shit" phase of the comments now.
@@mzaite it took zero replies
@@mzaite Shows how much they do care, that they lurk in every nook or cranny of any post to do with trans women, like the creepy stalkers they are, such snowflakes always twist everything trans positive into over dramatic false equivalence.
@@petervizzini4006- Hahahahaha!
"You need to be nice and respectful and kind to me while me and others like me will not do the same for you, or we will refuse to listen."
Joke's on us they won't listen anyway
@@user-tb7ws5lb4y What if people are not listening and disagree? What if it's not ok to have two sides, what if there are lives on the line?
@@user-tb7ws5lb4y - ah yes, american politics like whether or not child marriage and child beauty pageants should be outlawed should absolutely have two sides and not indicative of hypocrisy by republicans who allow either in their state and yet "disagree" when children express gender dysphoria and being trans, no siree /s
there's some things that definitely do not need to have "two sides" especially from what sounds like a fucked-in-the-head enlightened centrist making that claim
8:44 i love that "we want them to make decisions as adults" but then they make laws hard for adults to make those decisions they were soo worried about, almost like what they don't want is to let anyone be non-straight.
Notice how they treat marginalized people the way they treat their children
“We’re right because we said so!” “Only our anger is valid, yours is just a temper tantrum!”
I was disgusted seeing reports about "meltdowns" in state legislatures. We should all want congresspeople who get upset at injustice. They represent us after all.
On a lighter note,
48:09 1000 cool points for the RGU clip. Utena is my favorite gender
Through i am disapointed whilw generally queer, its i think more gay and feminist. Not that its not a valid intrprdddetation.
I just mean, no ranma XD Which i know is technically more about gender roles and traditionalism but ranma chan body has gender dysphoria. And funny.
Can I interest you in the Mikage seminar?
Seems like you’d enjoy finding out that you have no choice but to bring revolution to the world.
@@marocat4749 Are you serious? Utena's thoughts on gender aren't even subtext. Utena (spoilers) when she tries again to be a woman.
Politicians usually don't represent your interests. Be it enforcing capitalism or patriarchy (both which are interlinked) they will always screw you over.
Right?? Like if kids dying left and right doesn't cause you to melt down, there might be somethin' wrong with you.
Watched this on Nebula (as you all should 👀) Jess, yuh outdid yourself which is a feat in itself. Thank you for having me 💜
The man, the myth, the legend!
If we watch it here tho it gets more views
Hey i think I know that guy
I subscribe to nebula but I end up watch most videos on RUclips because I want to read the comments 😅
Thank you for being on
Sabine Hossenfelder recently released a video on autism where she stated that Autism Speaks (a well known autism hate group) can't be a hate group because they are a non-profit company and she made it sound like the people pointing out that it is a hate group are "small extremest groups".
So like she's all kinds of shit.
Ah, so autistic people are now a small extremist group. Got it. Like, it's literally us saying why autism speaks is bad. I didn't know they were bad until I met more autistic people and then found out that I've been autistic this whole time. Fuck them and fuck her.
That's how I first heard of her, when someone shared that in a Discord group, and I had to go try and explain the issues with that point, and a few others that didn't add up. With both autism and gender dysphoria, I think that graph I've seen about left handedness rising after being more accepted is important. I know people who had to hide their left handedness because it was seen as a bad omen or curse, just like people mask autism or gender differences. People should be able to exist without being forced to fake their identity.
Wow that thought process is next level, not for profits are all egalitarian and care about the best interests of the whole community, rather than either only caring about their niche interest or even worse being like Autism Speaks and saying that they care but are doing what they as a group on high think is best rather than what their supposed end users actually want and need (taking the paternalistic view that they know what is best and that you aren't capable of actually knowing what you want). If that was actually the case the world would be a lot better than it is right now.
I will never forget in 3rd grade, a bit after I switched classes, we were given a survey to see if there is bullying in our school/grade/class. Me and my cousin filled it out honestly, saying that there are issues, and we were the ones sent to the school counselor/psychologist because surely it had to be something wrong with the two of us as we were the only one who said anything. It was a small thing, but it snowballed as I grew up, having me live with knowledge that I can never speak up unless I plan to be punished and therefore should find ways to disrupt the system as much as I can when I start since I’ll be punished as much as possible no matter what I do/say.
Honestly not surprised, all throughout 7th I was bullied horribly, so much so that basically everyone in my grade knew me as "the girl who has a funny reaction when you trigger her by saying this one phrase she constantly asks people not to say," this happened in every class, and literally nothing was done to help, even though in a school seminar on bullying when I explicitly asked if what I was going through counted and they confirmed that it did, literally nothing was done. Schools suck at actually doing anything about bullying in their schools (I also experienced it somewhat in Elementary School, but 7th grade was the worst for me)
I love the audiovisual dissonance on the content warning screen with the music being so groovy yet the text saying “suicide, sexual assault”
Isn't that really just the 60s aesthetic? A dark, seedy underbelly hidden by T H E G R O O V E
@@pennyforyourthots Hey! That’s these Republicans favorite decade! (Besides 1940…And 1910…And 1850…Wait!)
✨fascism!✨
@@bluestar4408 I'd say they prefer the 50s. Red Scare, nuclear family, etc.
60s are popularly remembered for hippies, drugs, and general progressive tomfoolery, which they were quick to rein in during the 70s and 80s.
Like your comment though, you're definitely right
@@zester000 Very true god fearing capitalism makes them hard.(only the men though bc transgenders are fake)
I am 22. I am trans masc. My parents, because of Facebook geoups, decided to threaten me with removing me from insurance if I tried to seek gender affirming care. Im in college and I cant afford to pay myself. So i have to wait until I graduate, get a job and rid myself of my parents influence before i can transition.
(They threatened me even though i told them I wasn't going to transition until after college because of personal reasons)
Sorry. My heart is with you for your struggle.
Entitled parents can't fathom a world where they don't control you. I am sorry that is happening, but unless you think you can (safely) convince them, you might be out of luck until you gain that financial independence. Stay strong until then.
Try to find a government job if you can. The health insurance is really good. You would need to dedicate full time hours though. Post office is a good choice if you can try to get into it
Consider it a blessing in disguise. Even if they didn’t drop you, you’re going to time out on their insurance in a few years anyways, and it’s best not to chain yourself to being reliant on health care maintenance costs until you’re solidly career established.
Insurance is a scam.
You aren't alone in this sort of situation. I've met at least a dozen other people all over north america in a similar situation, waiting until they graduated to transition because their family is awful. I wish this wasn't a thing for any of you all. Good luck, stay strong, you'll get through this and build a new life away from those people.
I hate the question of "why are you doing this thing that gives you joy when we're fighting to survive?"
It's because joy is what makes that fight worth winning!!
Jessie I just want to thank you for all the work you do. I am a White Hetero Cis man in Argentina, and you have enlightened me so much to the plight of trans people worldwide. Sadly since I am in Argentina I can't specifically fight in the US. But I am a doing what I can in Argentina. Keep doing what you love, all your videos are awesome.
I think the only way this is really going to get better is when we develop a global community that doesn't see borders, so an ally in any country is a step closer to that goal
I think the only way this is really going to get better is when we develop a global community that doesn't see borders, so an ally in any country is a step closer to that goal
It aint where you're from its where you're AT 🏳⚧❤❤
No mames
Genio!!! Es la primera vez que veo un comentario de Argentina, mi país. Me llena de orgullo ❤ Yo también soy cis y aprendo un montón con Jessie y sus videos.
As a Debate teacher who begins the year with a whole lesson on the importance of Civility (mostly for behavior management purposes tbh), I completely support this. Civility is GREAT within a structured, moderated classroom setting but not so much when dealing with bad faith actors irl
Unfortunately every “debate class” I’ve been in puts queer rights and women’s bodily autonomy up for debate for 30 minutes in the curriculum.
@@anomienormie8126 I had that too, but it's what opened me up to the idea that allowing gay marriage might not be a bad thing. I know most debates don't change minds, but some do, and especially when you're on a side debating for something you don't agree with, was a great exercise in listening to people you may not have been open to otherwise. Now I'm a lot more affirming and accepted myself and my identity, but I can see things like that being an issue now. That was at a Christian school, and I doubt they do things like that now. In fact, knowing the new teacher they have (the one I had who was more welcoming moved when she got a better offer) they probably don't even do debates. I'm thankful to that teacher for showing the importance of listening and explaining your points, and most importantly, doing research into the topic so you can form your own ideas rather than just going from what your parents told you.
As a Trans viewer, you have helped me gain positive views, and become less ignorant. Thank you Jessie!
From Tumblr user the-modern-typewriter:
"How can you not be angry?"
"I am angry," the werewolf said. "But unlike you, I don't have the luxury of showing it without being called a monster. Without someone taking it as a sign of proof that I need to be put down like a rabid dog, that I'm just like what the stories tell you."
"But everyone gets angry...that's human."
"Up until the point when you're not human."
Very good analogy(idk if that counts but I think it does) 10/10👍
As a gay man I feel somewhat responsible for the target that the trans community is currently suffering as the the 'gay community' faced it before and has recently shook it off landing the ire now with them. Therefore I see it as my obligation to stand with the trans community through, what i hope is only a period in time, and see the same outcome we saw.
Too many professional class homos went and got married and now just wanna pretend like everything magically became okay and omg you guyssss are just overreacting stop calling everything fascism and white supremacy omggggg
Being so disconnected from our history is coming back to bite us all. Gays wanna think oh this doesn't affect me honey think again
That is what allyship is. Seeing the humanity in your neighbor and vowing to come to their aid whenever they are attacked. Because once they’re finished destroying your neighbor, you will be the next target. Glad you see red flags and are acting accordingly.
Same, similar strategies are being used here and they are using trans panic as a Trojan horse to attack all of us. We need to form a shield wall and shove these bigots into the ocean.
As you are a gay man, can you say something about the so called LGB community, which appears anti trans? There seems to be a lot of lesbians on social media directly attacking the trans people in their wording.
The bad guys of course are using the transphobia and defamation to take away the rights for all of us and force *everyone* to conform and sexually-submit to their religion.
15:24 im a 21 year old trans guy who started T a couple months ago, and i gotta say that while T is something im really wanting *now*, it took me time to get to this point. My journey to identifying as a trans man has been a gradual one, and had i been offered T at 15 when i started questioning, it wouldntve been something i would’ve chosen. people come into their identities at their own pace, and trans kids with strong dysphoria who NEED hrt deserve the chance to choose it for themselves
I stand with you. I will not be silent. I will always speak up. ✊🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈 Thank you for giving us the information we need to educate the misinformed and uneducated.
It really is invaluable, I've learned so much from watching her channel and it's really helped when building community and educating the misinformed
For "be civil" so sayeth back _BABYLON, BYZANTIUM & ROME._ Craddles of civilization
Are we submissive plebes too, this generation?
Parents: My daughter suddenly expressed that she wants to be a man. Sudden onset dysphoria!
Daughters: After years of dealing with a growing reality, I finally got up the nerve to tell my parents I'm really a man (not that I "want to be a man"), and they're saying it's just another teen phase.
@@DangerJim-vq5uh Good job roleplaying as the denying parent, now do the actual reality of the child.
Kids don't fully develop their identity until they mature as adults. What if they change their mind after they transitioned. It would be too late
@@ryan19876 sigh kids don't transition their puberty just gets put on hold if they changed their minds they would literally just have a late puberty you know like how some people have late onset puberty naturally. Some women and girls with pcos have to start taking the pill in order to go through puberty example I didn't grow breasts until my early 20's because i didn't realize I had pcos and that's why I didn't have a more feminine figure. how is a kid who was on puberty blockers then decides nah and gets off them to then go through puberty later any different?
@@anitacrumblythey dont actually give a shit tbh. They just claw onto some bullshit reason that is easily debunked to justify stopping trans people existing.
@@anitacrumbly kids do get transitioned, but leaving that to the side:
The original comment of this thread spoke of a child having known for years that their gender and sex were mismatched.
You invoke the example of a kid who puts puberty on pause while they figure out what gender they are.
These are two entirely different cases. How can the latter, "figuring it out" kid possibly have qualified for a diagnosis of gender dysphoria in the first place? It's impossible without having had significant distress for at least six months from at least one of the following symptoms:
* strong desire to be of the other gender or an insistence that they are the other gender
* strong dislike of their sexual anatomy
* strong desire for the physical sex characteristics that match their experienced gender
I'm a transmasc person living in Italy, and I just want to say your channel has been giving me hope ever since I found it. Even though the situation here is not the best, you- and especially this video, holy hell- really really helped me realize we as a community have so much to give and so much to fight for. Much love ❤.
Italian too here, non binary. Ti mando un abbraccio 🤍
Civility is useful... when people are actually willing to listen to you. Oftentimes, the only way to get people to listen to you is to do the louder, ruder, and more radical things. It's just a fact. Nobody has ever won rights by rolling over and doing what the people who want to take them away tell you to.
Also! Holy shit, you got freaking Q for your movie!? What a stacked cast you got! Super excited for when it comes out!
Thank you so much for celebrating a group of Mexican natives. I may not be a part of that group, but I love it when the diversity of my birthday nation is shared with others.
Oye, y no te dolió su pronunciación de Oaxaca?, a mi me hizo recordar que jessie es gringa jajaja
@@nelitogorostiza16 I agree, but I am from Michocan and my own name is misspelled so, I just happy she tired. But it does kind funny how Gingra she is. Hasta su propio pelo es blanco.
@@ShieldofApollo a mi me dolió por ser oaxaqueño, pero de un error ingenuo no pasa.
Jessie = good gringa pues
@@nelitogorostiza16 I understand completelyshe should have found a site that had the pronunciation, but she was also pretty emotional in the video. So, I am kinder to her.
@@ShieldofApollo sí, ya se el que no me guste su pronunciación no le quita peso al mensaje que quiere transmitir
I just get so mad when I encounter this kind of bigotry in the wild. My own grandfather is wildly hateful of all LGBTQ+ people and just about every time I engage with the man it ends with me shouting him down and swearing at him.
I'm constantly told by everyone around me that I should measure my words and keep in mind that he's "from another time" but when I think about the real world harm that he and those like him cause I really can't help myself...
he should get with the items or be left behind
what year is it again?
my dad was born in the 60's and if he tried it that shit would be slapped out of his mouth if i was there
they need to be forced to understand, either you stand with a changing world and adapt or are left in obsolescence to rot
@@knuckles543so it’s your way or the highway? Lmfao
The "from another time" talkimg point is such bullshit. I have seen plenty of grandparents accept their lgbt grandchildren while their POS parents rejected them and even more older gen people actually be humans and not some bigot. If the fucker can't change then he can die mad.
It makes me remember when I was a kid, I don't remember the context, that I answered something rude to an older person, he told me that I should "respect my elders" and I responded that he should "respect his youths", or something like that (it was in Portuguese, so it might not be the best translation).
And until today I dislike this kind of demand.
Respect must go both ways.
conflict for lack of comprehension on either side doesn't bring the kin to your side regardless of the perception and actuality of who is right on either side.
The malice is to be expected, the sheer ignorance and lack of compassion still manages to throw me. Personally I think all places where laws are made need a group of medical advocates to explain the medical side of issues related to medicine. Actually tbh I think they all need advocates form minority communities too, who can not be removed.
Hey, here's a thing. My eldest daughter is in med school (she's so talented it's scary) and apparently there's a lot of data about weight that indicates that obesity has a direct link to the financial average income in an area and in specific households. Poor people have diets that reinforce weight gain, however active those people may be. It's not the only factor, but it's a big one.
This is something I've noticed living in Afghanistan. People in wealthier neighborhoods are usually slimmer, while people in low income (of course, ignoring the very low income areas, the very unfortunate people who get very little food per day) areas like where I live are usually obese.
I always thought it was related to our consumption of wheat in the form of 'naan' (it's cheap -> the poorer you are, the higher percentage of your food is wheat) that caused this.
We have become scientifically efficient at making ultra high calorie, but nutrient deficient cheap food. Our bodies however lack the tools to deal with them. A bulky 400 Kcal of broccoli or cabbage, or 400 calories in a few tablespoons of coconut oil and starch don’t register the same to our primitive meat. We can get our caloric and nutritional needs for a day met with one fist sized hunk of scientifically precision made fortified protein jacked cake. But our meat freaks the hell out because it only understands that a cup of bulk mass isn’t enough to stay alive, and boy is that sugary, wonderful cake delicious, and we definitely need more of it RIGHT NOW incase there’s no more food in the future!
Food deserts are a thing
@@ambroseelon9989 Even when there is food available in local stores, if the people around the stores don't have the time, energy, or money to prepare nutritious food they won't prepare nutritious food.
@@Avrysatos something that's been pointed out at least to me several times is that vegetables and health foods are often sold at much higher prices than something equivalent that is not healthy over the long-term. For instance, you can buy a full meal at McDonald's for like $3, whereas you can buy maybe two heads of broccoli for about the same amount of money. The healthy stuff is just straight-up more expensive, so even if you have access to it, you probably can't afford it.
Jessie, I think that, if making fun of Matt Malsh's beard is what set someone against you, they were never going to listen in the first place. You are but one person in the fight for trans and queer rights, and a powerful voice, but but don't beat yourself up over any one thing you say. No one can ever be perfect.
All I can say is you have had a profound impact on this person, and for that, thank you.
PS. love the new haircut!
Ok I finished this on Nebula and 1. JESSIE! You have every right to make fun of MatWalsh’s beard. I literally watched a straight cis person make fun of his hairline today. 2. We need all of it. We need the art, we need the news, we need the action. A small af trans music youtuber I adore was gonna have a little patreon meetup, but then had to cancel because someone decided to uphold the status quo and make it dangerous for her to be in public. She needs people like you making art out in public so she can be out in public too.
Civility can take a long walk off a short pier, do what you need to do to keep yourself safe and thriving.
You are amazing!
@@petervizzini4006 They are not questioning it though, you are putting words in someone's mouth on your behalf.
Jesse is right you can't beat the masters system playing by his rules.
Jessie I just wanna say you're so strong for continuing to make videos like this. You've been forced to repeat yourself dozens of times, deal with hate mobs, and get slandered across the internet for literally years. The fact that you haven't given in to the entirely justified rage and dispair is proof of both your extreme determination and how much you care. So thank you, for being you and giving people hope that eventually we can wear down the walls the system has imprisoned us in
Well said. Jessie is a sweet sensitive soul. Often, sweet sensitive creative people like her can become cynical and bitter. The despair can be a lot. I’m glad Jessie is still so sweet. It takes a lot of inner strength.
I just hope Jessie has a really fucking good therapist or something who she can vent all her frustrations about it all to. She is always patient and kind in her videos, explaining everything and even injecting humor into serious topics.
She does often have to repeat herself, but I always come away from the video having gained a new understanding on whatever she covers. That's a tricky line to walk, and she does it so gracefully :]
You inspired me, Jessie.
I've been thinking about it for a while, but I just emailed a local queer rights group to ask if they would work with me to host a Q&A to educate well-meaning cis people on the reality of trans experience. Like, I paused the video to do that.
It's not much, but I think it's what my community needs right now.
I've been getting a lot of well-meaning stupid questions lately, and I think a lot of people in my town want to be allies, but don't know how.
You helped me channel my grief, rage, fear, and desperation into a little bit of action.
I'm just a cis ish person but that sounds like a good idea to me, I'm glad you did that man 🤘🏻
You're amazing!!!
As a cis woman, I find those "gender norms" incredibly insulting. And growing up, because I grew up around them, I used to think there was something wrong with me because I wasn't submissive, didn't want kids, didn't like traditionally feminine things, and thought about sex in ways only boys were supposed to think about. I still struggle sometimes with those feelings. It is really hard to get rid of them.
As an intersex man, I feel the same way. But when we were growing up, gender-nonconformity was at least accepted by the left, if not the right. Nowadays, you poor tomboys are "eggs," told you'd best cut your breasts off and take testosterone for the rest of your lives. For your mental health, of course... otherwise you'll probably commit suicide! 🎉❤🎉
But they TOTALLY value and support nonconformity and a diversity of gender expression... somehow. 🧐🤔🧐
This is so affirming to me! Growing up as a boy, and being told about those same gender roles, I thought there was something deeply weird and wrong with the world that boys and girls behave so differently and want such different things. Turns out there's nothing wrong with the world, it was just a stupid lie!
I live in Russia and apart from all the horrible shit my country is doing (of which I am not sure if I can speak freely) a bill prohibiting all medical and social transitioning has been passed recently, and it drives me so SO mad. I feel powerless against the system, the system that denies me the right to decide what to do with my body. This video resonates greatly with me, and I really can't thank you enough for it. Please, stay safe and know that your work matters!
"Enlightened" centrist liberals, neutral in all occasions not knowing how their bipartisanship does not improve absolutely anything in the face of fascist renesance. I wondered if someone should made video specifically about them. Thank you for that.
King’s letter from jail is something I wish more people understood - the other extreme might be the enemy, but it is the moderates that are the obstacle to change.
@@Justanotherconsumer The whitewashing of him is very frustrating.
@@davidbowman2001 as well as the “MALCOM X WARNED US ABOUT DEMOCRATS” argument from right wingers or centrists who hilariously somehow for how much they bring his speech about racism from the left up never learned he changed some of his views towards the end of his life and also had criticism for the right as well
Sure bipartisanship is the problem not the extremes witch includes far right fascism by the way
@@highcouncil1302 Well, yes. You live in a democracy(sort of), and the christian taliban that is pushing this stuff is a minority. If the self proclaimed enlightened majority, the fence sitters of your nation would get in the way of something that is obviously an infringement of rights instead of shrugging their shoulders or going on some kind of weird rant about how the freedom of speech of genocidal maniacs need to be protected whilst those lips are actively in the process of sinking the ships, it would have the power to stop this type of political persecution of the LGBTQ(the T in particular).
as a trans man, it's exhausting to have to see and hear this all around me all the time because we so often get forgotten or left out. we comprise almost half of the trans community itself and yet i hardly ever see anyone taking our perspective into account or even acknowledging our existence.
there is a small amount of privilege in being overlooked compared to trans women, but i think many trans masc people will agree with me in feeling left out of all discussions and forgotten.
I'd much rather be forgotten than targeted. I live in fear every day.
I think the controversy surrounding the trans community reveals something about human nature that goes beyond just transgenderism. It involves the logistics of communication and basic interaction between people on an individual and societal level, and (at the risk of sounding offensive to transgender people) I have to admit I do find it interesting. I've always wanted to abolish gender roles - a decade or more ago books like Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus got scoffed at by most people. The idea of a male brain and female brain were also laughed at. But beyond that I'd love for the policing of behavior based on gender to just go away. And this is the only thing that's confused me about the transgender community.
Why have I said all this? Well, basically, I don't believe that cis-men are affected by transmen - neither on a physical or a psychological level. I really believe that they don't care because they're in a privileged position to not have to care. They're already complaining about the things they do feel affected by - women in the workforce, women being college educated, women no longer choosing to marry as much - or have children, etc. Culturally, and understandably, it's left a lot of men spiritually homeless. I've noticed that it's, on average, men in their 30s and above speaking out about this. This is normally the age where they know they'll be looking to settle in a decade or so.
While men will often quip about women being lonely and adopting cats, the truth is I've observed a lot of older women are comfortable being alone, while a lot of older men are not. And the reason behind that could reveal a lot about our culture, and the changes we need to make - especially around gender roles, and how we raise our children based on them.
@@Joyness333 How are men “spiritually homeless” because women are college educated and present in the workplace?
@@alexwyatt2911 Those aren't the only two things I listed. I also listed choosing to not marry as much, or have children, and the former two are at least to some degree connected to the latter two.
@@alexwyatt2911 my interpretation of that portion of what they were hinting at (could be wrong):
Men are still forced by society into thinking they have to be that same stereotype upheld in the past, but also feel/are told that they aren’t needed and useless in that role as well. It might feel threatening because they don’t have anything to fill that void, hence the “spiritually homeless” I think. Don’t know if that made sense
How you manage to pump out these multi hour long, well written and edited videos is genuinely so damn impressive
Speaking of Caelen Conrad; I like their rule for adding something joyous for every depressing thing, so here's something in that spirit: I've been sharing your videos to everyone that I know and I'm quite happy to let you know that at least one of my friends who was previously a big Tom MacDonald fan, and a centrist who just saw this all as "cringe stuff (he) didn't want to pay attention to since it didn't concern (him)" is now actively writing letters to congress and keeping up on the anti-trans legislation of both where he lives and elsewhere. He and I have looked into organizations in our area and discuss ways to be more productive in our local political scene. Our next step is figuring out how to use stocks and acrue capital to fund those who need it. 🖖
Also hope you don't me saying something puzzled me when Jessie referred to Caelen as 'she' as far as I know they are non binary and go by they/them pronouns not she/ her.
@@sophiepooks2174 Yeah, particularly the way Jessie emphasized the she/her for Caelan irked me. Their youtube bio still says they/them. Have I missed something? I wouldn't be surprised if they moved to she/they or she/her at some point, they've been more explicitly fem in the last few videos, but I've not seen them claim those pronouns yet?
I call civility saying "Excuse me" while stepping on someone's neck.
The affects of bigotry does tend to spill over to other types of people. This shows how we are all truly interconnected and we need to be respectful of individual needs. There is a story in the news how a cis tomboy faced transphobic hostility by another parent, even when that wasn't what she was. There are cis people, intersex or not, who also need hormonal medical help who could eventually be harmed by having lack of the help they need "to prove a point" against trans affirmation. It's about control and gatekeeping, not helping anyone.
For what it's worth, your videos were/are largely responsible for helping me work through my transphobia (I'm sure there's still plenty more hidden away that I haven't recognized/confronted yet, but I'm working on it).
Funny enough, it was the goofy star trek videos that drew me in. I grew up on TNG reruns and Voyager and love me a good long form media analysis, so they were an instant click when they showed up in my recommended page. Those lead me to your videos on Trans concerns and consequently lead to me confronting how many positions I thought were "live and let live" variety stuff actually were/are actively harmful to real life people. Don't underestimate the power of the parasocial relationships that can be built with the "frivolous" videos.
I too have been on this journey, it'd a long road. I wish you luck. Transphobia really can dig deep, but I am glad that I am one of the people who has the privilege to escape it, rather than suffering at its hands.
I watched Zooey Zypher make her original statement and the speech she gave to defend herself against being silenced, and I thought, it is rare to see a politician these days give such calm, well-thought-of and eloquent speech. She was silenced by people who wouldn't hesitate saying medical staff performing abortions have blood on their hands, and these hypocrites took away her voice. This world is far from fair, and being civil only gives space to those who have no shame or sense of empathy to beat us to the ground. And like the examples from the past show, the way people are categorized into the first, second or third class has very little to do with any reality. Those, who want power, will always find a group of people to blame for their misfortunes, and to show their superiority, and it is so freaking wrong. Interesting thing that came to me while watching this video is, that the slave owners got more slaves and got richer by making the slaves reproduce. Currently, banning abortion is affecting mostly those who cannot afford to travel put of state to get an abortion, which means the lowest income people end up getting more children, who, thanks to the capitalist dystopia, later become workers for yhe factories owned by the rich few. Very little has changed.
This was a very powerful video. I hope you know that making these videos is just as important a form of activism as being in riots is. ❤️🧡💛💜💚💙🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
Very happy to finally hear someone voice a lot of my frustrations with Sabine Hossenfelder.
Honestly, even her videos on physics have problems. Specifically, she subscribes to some fairly niche views on unsettled and possibly untestable scientific topics (notably her views on superdeterminism). Granted, it's a topic on which she is an expert, but she speaks dismissively of alternative views in a way that makes it sound like people who disagree with her are obviously fools, and her target audience is not really scientifically literate enough to understand the limits of her expertise. I find it questionably ethical for a scientist to use their popular platform to push views like this.
And that's a benign subject on which she can claim the most expertise. Imagine how bad it is when she's talking about things she has no frame of reference for that affect people's lives.
I didn't know about Sabine until she had this NdGT moment, but she comes off as decidedly GC sympathetic and unscientific in this and other debunks I've seen.
Also why the fuck is she speaking about psychology/ psychological research when she doesn't have the background in that field. I'm very knowledgeable about psychology and have worked on several psychological studies and wouldn't dare to speak on other fields of scientific study because it doesn't always translate. Especially with her statement about the study's results. Psychology is different from other sciences as humans are extremely messy so you're not always going to get really good sample sizes especially for long term studies. What I love about this field is that it's absolutely not black and white and anything that could be seen as a "fact" can be disproven under certain circumstances. That doesn't mean that it's not a valid science nor that our "facts" are all falsehoods but that we're constantly learning and growing as we find more information about how humans work.
@@LunaBeth97Neil deGrasse Tyson taught me that getting popular can cause a smart person to say some very stupid things out loud.
I mean, superdeterminism is about as untestable and unsettled as every other interpretation of quantum mechanics, so...
Agreed I enjoyed her videos throughout my undergraduate degree in physics but as I am now working on my PhD I’ve kind of lost interest. She seems a bit more interested in talking about metaphysics than actual physics and with such nauseating certainty in her rightness. Her video on trans issues was just the nail in the coffin, I watched about a third of the video and was just like wtf is this what is she doing and have now unsubscribed to her channel.
Vera’s reading of the American College of Pediatrics and their rage at how creepy it is is cracking me up! Perfect person for voicing that weird shit. 😂
So happy that she included that
@@voltijuice8576 yes! She said exactly what I was thinking.
My dad is generally quite supportive of me and me being trans, but the last time I saw him in person we had a discussion (argument) about trans ppl in sports, bathrooms etc, and it started out as a “civil discussion” but ended up becoming a heated argument, and I’m still blaming myself for being too angry or “reactionary”.
One of the things he mentioned was that trans ppl, or at least trans activists always seem to be angry and unreasonable ( not in Those exact words but that’s what he was talking about) and I wanted to scream that ofc they’re angry, with the shit we have to put up with from bigots and the whole world we live in, constantly, it should be understandable, especially to him as he gets angry easily himself and how he was treated for being autistic as a kid and still as an adult
Despite the fact I think he’s wrong I can’t stop doubting myself wondering if we are wrong or dealing with things wrong or even exaggerating what we go through, and it’s even worse cus I love him so I can’t just ignore what he says so it’s rly getting to me, and that just reinforces that I’m too sensitive or something
Basically a vent tbh cus I don’t know how to approach him about it
why don't you start asking him about his experiences like that - what makes him get angry easily and why - and then explain that you're feeling the same way right now?
that might build empathy, unless he's raging over whatever he is reminded of that makes him mad, could go two ways.
if the first option doesn't work, i'd just sit down and explain your feelings candidly. just straight up read this comment to him. It's not written in a way that would be offensive to him, I think, but true to your emotions, so...
why not.
good luck stick!
That’s good advice, thanks ponchi =)
@@stick3908 take care, stick ❤️
I was listening to one of the many therapy RUclipsrs here speak on abuse. Something he said was, you can be perfect 99% of the time but that 1% of slip ups will be so magnified and so used to make you wrong and deserving of cruelty you'll start to believe it.
Don't believe what your dad is saying; trans and GNC people aren't asking for too much and he's wrong.
Remember, just because you still love your loved one after the harm (rhetoric or otherwise) they've done doesn't mean they're right or good for that harm.
Matt Walsh's beard looks like he hot glued a Brillo pad to his face, nothing wrong with pointing that out.
Jessie, you have never failed. You are righteously protecting yourself and your loved ones. There is no system of morals that can twist that into villainy. "Art is a weapon, and the artist a fighter in the freedom struggle of the people against the bankrupt system." It doesn't matter what kind of ART you make, what mistakes occur, what things are inherent to being misunderstood. That does not matter. Art relates emotion. That quote was by Otto Dix, a former soldier, turned anti-fascist. View his art, it's visceral and terrifying. He shows his pain so that others will not have to endure it.
Exactly!! Was trying to find the right words at the end but was very emotional. Art is necessary, in and of itself is both a fight and a freedom. The art that recharges is just as needed as the art that explicitly educates.
SUCH a good moment to release a video on this topic. ❤ A breath of fresh air. It's quite disheartening to see so much negative, counterproductive, useless, harmful, and inhumane discourse propagating in the guise of civility.
Brilliant. ❤
i’m only 10 minutes in, but i am so happy to watch your content, i am so in love with it. there is a new super transphobic and cruel law in my country (Russia) pushing right now, so watching trans supportive videos… idk. it gives me so
much hope.
from the bottom of my heart, thank you for content that you make, Jessie
I hear Chinese government is also hot on "civility" trying to ban HRT, but not trans folk apparently. LOL! Under the similar guise of concern what a joke.
This is probably Jessie's rawest video. The amount she's been suffering over the past few years is PAINFULLY clear. I'm almost vomiting, but i will watch this until the end. She deserves it, and much more. You're one of my biggest inspirations, Jessie: your content helped me realize my own Queerness, learned the meaning of Pride, introduced me to the very concept of media literacy... You're simply A-FUCKING- MAZING, m'lady, in so many ways ❤ Be sure to focus on things that actually give you energy for a (possibly long) while, ok? 🤗 🤗 🤗
It’s nice to see another person debunking Sabine’s video. I was about to subscribe to her channel for the physics when she made it, but thankfully realized who she was before I could. She did another video about trans people and sports that concluded “it’s unfair to allow trans people in sports, but sports is about unfairness so we should do it,” which is certainly a take, and she did one about neurodivergence that I never watched because… well, we can probably guess what its conclusion is.
Watched that video, she acted as if people who speak out against autism speaks were an extreme fringe group. not great.
Said videos by Sabine forced me to unsubscribe from her channel. It was so sad to watch. Left me with a week of feeling incredibly hopeless.
Equality and equity are such a strange concept to people who have not experienced the pain of difference. I recently had a talk with my mom about me being trans. She and my dad are usually pretty open and speak like they're supportive, but this time my mom got really upset at me. She was so upset that she no longer had a daughter, she claimed she knew me because she carried me and she took care of me, she had a right to who I was and how she treats me and anything outside that privilege is an infringement on her rights (she didn't care to elaborate on what that meant when I asked). But then... She also said she was afraid for me. And something that really surprised me was that she felt guilty that she didn't somehow change my gender in utero for me. She was afraid of all the hate I'd get.
And yeah, that's the issue. She gets it, but she thinks the way to fix it is to prevent it, and you simply can't.
Sure, it sucks that I got the wrong body and I'll have to work hard to change it, but the real problem is what others say about it. How they vilify people like us. They make us fear being ourselves in every way possible, and worst of all is how they think we're actively trying to target them somehow. And that thought is so insidious that it can even get into the heads of those who think they're helping or those who think it's none of their business.
Its a long road, we're going to have to do things were not exactly proud of, and we're going to be very different people on the other end, but with any luck that person will be stronger, wiser and more empathetic. Better able to take down bigotry and misinformation wherever we can and show kindness in the face of evil.
Amazing video as always Jessie, thank you for working so hard and being so persistent. You're an inspiration to all of us 💙🤍💖 Happy Pride Month.
ROGD really is just "I pulled a sample of people from a flat earth forum and thus confirmed that the world is, indeed, flat."
Also. "One side is saying we should genocide the other, the other is saying they shouldn't be genocided. Meanwhile, normal people like us think both sides are cr*zy" jesus fuck I'm not sure if she's just that lacking in self awareness or that lacking in integrity.
Additionally, you prolly don't need to hear this from me but, the matt walsh beard jokes are just a shitty excuse for them to discredit you. On the level that they'd have found such a thing no matter what. These people were never interested in what you had to say in the first place, and their pushback against lighthearted shit like the beard insults is just an attempt to get under your skin
Thank you so much for including "monogamous" as one of the many things that are fed to us as the default by this fascist capitalist society 💜
Yep
@@AsgerSellThose things can exist within polyamorous relationships too, though.
I used to think Sabine was informed. When she said this, I lost tons of respect for her.
She has all the classic symptoms of PhD’s disease. The confabulated belief that extreme knowledge in one specific area of interest equals an expert level of knowledge in all things.
It’s in a cluster with Engineers Malady, and I just saw a documentary’s palsy.
Vaush debunked her on his stream, her video was really bad.
"Normal people like you and I." Wow, Sabine, way to assume!
Persuasive language 101.
It would be funny how rudimentary it is as a play on human emotions if I didn’t know the end result of those words in the context.
As an ally and an auntie, I am sending strength and appreciation. Your work matters, you are heard, and thank you for giving a voice, I would guess that you have already saved lives.
Jessie - this is by far your most powerful video for me. You’ve encompassed EVERY EMOTION I’ve felt throughout all of this.
Thank you for being strong and doing what your doing. I’m on the ground out here, but it’s tough and your videos give me hope. They give me strength to keep fighting.
So this video is the first place of how I found out Henry Brussou took his own life. If you don't remember Henry, he challenged his homestate's education committee (as a high school student) trans highschool bathroom ban several years ago. Hearing about his death is devastating, and infuriating. I did not know him personally, I only knew of him by randomly watching video of his appeal. When I first watched him i was still figuring myself out, still not accepting myself as trans, but still (trying anyway) supportive of other trans people. Seeing him at that time was an uplifting experience because it showed to me a bravery trans people had ( one I didn't). To hear of his death is heart breaking, but also infuriating. I'm angered for his parents having lost him, I'm angered by the system who had a hand in this. We need liberation, NOW!
I'm so sorry
It's impossible to describe how baffling and frustrating it is that we need to explain these things at all.
RE: Dylan Mulvaney
Sasha Allen, a trans man, also did a Bud Lite ad and did not provoke this level of unhinged rage. He also has a supportive father who shared the spotlight with him on the Voice. Yet, compared to the vitriol that that supportive mothers get, Jim seemed to come out comparatively unscathed.
If they want to stop life-altering, irreversible surgeries that damage kids, I'd like to point to Circumcision
YAY, yet another Jessie Gender video! 😍 Time for an artful 2h discussion on empathy and civility made by someone who's actually civil and empathetic.
P.S Jessie said in a reply to one of my comments back in the "TERF AI App video" that I was one of the first people to recommend the then-forthcoming "More than a glitch" to her. I'm so happy that she really ended up using the book as a source! Tysm Jessie
One of the most powerful videos I’ve ever had the pleasure of watching. Thank you Jessie. Your words and the way you express them are incredibly emotionally impactful. This is a masterclass in public speaking
I'm a trans/NB person who's felt very afraid because of the place I live in and the current political trends towards... making sure every last trans person stays away from ever embracing their identity out in the sunlight. I've felt scared. I've felt angry. And I've unfortunately had the misfortune of losing a community of like minded folk due to infighting. I'm in a living situation with conservative minded folk now, and the feeling of being alone has been horrible.
this video, and the pain and the vulnerability that it expresses, it really struck a chord with me. I saw and felt someone's real grief trying to process everything that's going on, knowing that they're powerless alone but with others they know they can do something. I felt seen. I've not really had the opportunity to really level with anyone in person about this shit, especially not anyone who agrees with me or feels as devastated about it as I am, so just seeing someone's face who cares deeply about what's going on and knows everything that's so terribly wrong about this... that made me feel less alone than I have in a long while.
Thank you for this video, Jessie. I know this is just a random person posting a weird comment, but I appreciate the honesty and the solidarity. It's so hard for so many of us right now.
I’m trans nonbinary as well, sending you love and support! I’m lucky to live with affirming people in Europe, but my parents live in the American South. For more than a year Ive been trying to tell them that when I’ve visited, I feel like I stick out like a sore thumb, and I’m constantly trying tot gauge how true to myself I can be while remaining safe. They live in a progressive city, so they didn’t understand why I would feel that way-clearly their city is safe for me. However, now the state has been pushing anti-queer (and anti-abortion on top of that) legislation, and finally they understand why I am reluctant to visit them again. I love and miss them so much, but I don’t want to put myself in danger by visiting.
I hope one day soon, we can defeat and overturn this horrific legislation and be safe to live as who we are. It’s going to be a hard road (to put it mildly), but I try to have faith in our fellow humans that we will have enough allies to succeed in the end. 💜🏳️⚧️
I'm a trans man, but am extraordinarily fortunate to live in Vermont with a supportive family. And I want to thank you for what you do. Living here makes it easy to become blind to the horrific ways trans people are treated elsewhere. So thank you, for reminding me that just because I'm comfortable, that doesn't mean that's the norm for all trans people, and to keep actively fighting for, and with, others in marginalized communities. So thank you for being you :) to put so much time and work into your content and presenting it the way that you do.
Haven’t watched just yet, but civility politics usually comes down to ‘It’s not nice for [insert racial/sexual/etc. minority] to be loud and call me mean words when I say they should be killed :(‘
It’s the absolute worst kind of patronizing ‘you’re overreacting’ gaslighting tactic assholes use to silence critics.
That's certainly one side of it.
Already watched on Nebula, but I'm gonna watch again.
Same here. Gotta boost the algorithm.
The ending speech gave me chills. Reminded me of watching a Doctor Who monologue, thank you for all that you do, Jessie.
“The ties that bind us are stronger than any that can tear us apart” 💜 Thank you Jessie. May we all find a way to live this message and continue to show up for each other with love and hope.
I love you and your videos. I'm also a neuroatypical trans girl, and started my HRT journey less than two months ago. watching you gives me hope. c:
I hope it's going well!! And hopefully you're in a safe place maam 💜
@@alim.9801 thanks!
Oh man. Revolutionary Girl Utena was a huge part of my trans journey. The feels!
Mine was Ranma
Utena turned me gay
Don't talk to me until I've had my cup of mokushi-shikumo-kumoshi-moshiko
The Utena clip had me yelling "But Utena DID make me trans!" XD But also, Utena is not for kids. They could probably follow the first 13 eps well enough, but god help them trying to watch the highly symbolic deconstructionist transcendental mind-bender of the rest. I watched it when I was 15 but I didn't understand it till college.
@@cambriaofthevastoceans6721same here. I was so hooked on the idea of changing sex and gender on a dime.
I struggle to get through the story of Zooey Zephyr. The naked malice and lack of compassion in that entire situation frustrates me to no end.
So, I had to watch this on spurts because of both time and the weight of the topics, so I only just got to the end.
I'm a cis Jewish bi man, and I'm a science teacher. Your entire closing segment speaks to a lot of what I've been struggling with. I see so much pain and all of this evil, unemphatic hatred and I'm constantly struggling to find some way to fight, to help fix it.
Thank you. I appreciate your passion, empathy, and the kindness at the core of your work.
Thank you, and please, keep being you, keep fighting, and keep trying to bring hope.
Civility politics are a poor excuse to disregard what your political opponent has to say. Just last week I had to very carefully and gently word a letter to my psychiatrist to tell her my non-binary identity is not “indicative of a personality/developmental disorder”, because even though I have a right to be angry at her insistent misgendering me, if I express that angry in any way other than a kind, gentle correction, I’m the bad guy.
Fantastically made, Jessi. Your voice is so powerful, and I did also watch this on Nebula, as intended. Much love, stay strong 💖❤️
There is this civility over justice thread that runs through our society, and it's despair making. During the blm protests I was seeing so much discourse around what is the APPROPRIATE way to protest and it just keeps on with group after group of people to villainize and scapegoat.
There is this narrative of Don't talk too loudly, don't push too hard, don't say harsh words, don't fight fire with fire, do be understanding of 'the other side', do make sure you love bipartisanship even when it means in doing so basic human rights and protections are being stripped away, and actual people's lives are made worse. Which basically ends up being, don't protest, take what we give you and shut up.
NO. No I won't. I'm old now but as a young girl I was such a people pleaser, don't make waves, keep sweet! Now everyone can f**k right off which I say a lot.
It feels like we are sliding toward Christofascism I wish I were positive we could stop it. On a lighter note, I love your new hair cut!
You are absolutely brilliant.
Jessie? I just wanted to say thank you. I'm a trans woman who has over the last year pretty much lost all of her hope after so many things have gone wrong. Facing homelessness, losing jobs, losing family, losing friends, losing everything. I'm a mess. I'm exhausted. And I came across this video and stuck it out through the whole thing. That last section talking about hope, talking about how tired we are, talking about the progress we are making, talking about the necessity to keep fighting gave me what I needed to keep going a little bit longer. Your art makes a difference. Don't you ever stop being how incredible you really are. Thank you.
I’m a transgender woman from Australia who is now on estrogen pellets no more patches or pills. It last 4-6 months or longer depends on the person.
I haven't watched yet, but your haircut is everything.
Came for that cool haircut, stayed for the anticapitalist critique
It is never wrong to make fun of Walsh's beard.
Your new cut has major Nana Visitor as Diana Davis (Dynasty reboot) vibes and I'm living
A good friend of mine said something that has stuck with me for years: “Do what you can in the time that you have, and that will be enough.” We as trans people are fighting for our survival, and for many of us, surviving takes everything we have. To those of you in that situation, as I’ve been before, you have done more than enough just by making it to the end of the day. And to those we’ve lost, I am so sorry that this world has failed you. We will carry your memory, and we will being a reckoning.
Jessie, thank you as always for inspiring both trans pride and righteous anger in me. You have gone above and beyond by using your platform for this kind of work, and boosting the voices of others as well. That matters. Take good care of yourself. 🧡
Thank you for all of your videos. Your content is both inspiring and poignant to any open-minded viewer. When it comes to oppression anywhere, in any nation, time, or circumstance, everyone must stand in solidarity.🖖
Jessie, you're making the world a better place.
I don’t think that prioritizing helping people who are pregnant pick things up, or giving them a place to sit is a bad thing, pregnancy is very taxing and can heavily limit mobility depending on the stage. However, i agree that the social practice is Highly focused around white women and an odd over protective view is practically forced. There is an unhealthy and extreme expectation there, that definitely has roots in rasicm.
I really loved this video. I have been so frustrated and upset with some of my friends who "don't want to talk about things political" because it has to do with issues that they don't affect them. They were so angry about abortion rights then totally quiet about trans rights. It feels awful, especially because I feel alone if I ever bring it up with them, on top of feeling alone trying to survive. I know they are tired, but I was there for them and now they are silent. It's exhausting to keep fighting and I deeply appreciate that you do too.
It means a lot to hear your honest feelings, I know it's frustrating hearing others dismiss you for a slight against someone actively causing harm. It's hard to really believe they would have listened to you without it, they likely would dismiss you for any arbitrary reason. They start with the belief that we are inferior, only someone on their "level" can actively debate them in a system meant for them. Even if they are ultimately abused by the system, it works for them enough that they feel they can choose who does and does not get supported by it.
I appreciate your complex look on the topic, especially with systems of power in our society and how those very systems do not care about any of us. I have had a hard time telling people how important it is to be civil, because it just doesn't work for those who need help, rights, or protection. I get into heated discussions with my grandparents who still believe the system is fine, but it worked for them and not for so many other people. I really hope we can make a better system soon, too many lives have been ruined for no good reason.
I love seeing Foreign man in a foreign land popping up all over the place now. He’s so good at stating his thoughts and causing me to think about things differently. He seems so lovely all around.
Jessie, I'm stoked for your project in ways science has yet to name.
You are never a failure and never will be Jessie. Keep fighting as we stand with you ready to fight for our rights. Please everybody rally around Jessie, she needs us as much as we need her.
Love the platinum pixie cut! Super cute ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
I commented when the video first started, holy crap does it seem way too lighthearted for the topics covered in this video. I didn't realize that during slavery there were slve farms and hearing that made me nauseated, these are such important conversations to have. Decorum is such a flimsy bull**** excuse to hide behind
I swear with every video you look more like the coolest teacher of any school