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Thank you for sharing all your very personal experiences. You are appreciated.

My mom has dementia my dad is fine. I put them in independent living because putting that in assisted living with depress him he would not feel comfortable being around so many people with dementia. It's going to be I think a challenge in independent living as Mom has some dementia and the other residents will probably avoid her. Nothing ever is easy thank you for your great videos.

Thank you for these videos. I have just discovered you. Everything you say is spot on. The information you share is so helpful.

I am the sole carefuver ro my late husband's 95 year old mother. She was a librarian and worked till she was 70 years and now i cannot see her in this state. Am sure, she does not even recognise me and my son, how we are related to her, but knows that we are around her most of the time. She lost both her sons, witnessed my husband's death, but still unaware of her elder son's death. Cannot see her suffer anymore.

What about bodily functions? What stage is it if they have no controls over their bathroom habits ?

Doesn’t age play a part of how quick it progresses?

very informitive

Our parent has always been very antisocial. Never had a lot of friends, didn't really go anywhere, was a one friend at a time kind of person, no hobbies. It's only and always has been about the television and tv shows. When the tv goes out at all for long periods of time, there has been crying as if they lost a best friend. And this was way before dementia ever set in or was even close. Routine is the tv show schedules. That's it. Sad, lonely life. I'm sure when the time for a living facility comes, the main focus is going to be "Where's the television?"

I've already put it in my head to not feel guilty when/if that time comes because I would rather not get "daily basis frustrated" at my parent or always worrying about the leaving the house and winding up on a silver alert missing website.

Self care when you’re alone is a killer. I’m at the point where I’ve got to hire help though out of pocket and so costly but it will save my life. Eventually my sweet husband will eventually go into memory care. I’m pre planning now as I’m way past burn out to near collapse.

Just purchased set of 2 identical clickers and uncut keys from Amazon for about $12. As soon as we find the 2nd set of keys that she said I hid from her but yet she hid on her own, we're swapping the real out for the non-functional ones. She hasn't actually tried to drive, she hasn't driven since 2014 and didn't pass her renewal exam but yet she's starting to leave the house and roam.

Here I am, just as I said in your clothing issue video.....I'm watching from the beginning in hopes to get some better insight.

This really made me cry. Probably a good thing. I've been not really able to.

Yes! What's up with the freaking clothing issue? Just found your channel for this one search. I'll have to tell my sister about your videos. Thank you so much for making these videos even at the expense of the stressful situation. It's all about just having a conversation with them and letting them feel like the final decision is theirs even when we secretly know that it's not. Bait and switch sometimes. I'm going to go back and watch your channel from the begin because we need any assistance we can get lately.

Absolutely true!!!

I like your down to earth way of telling what life is like. I have Parkinson's and not looking to cause all these problems for my love ones.

My understanding is there are only 5 stages of dementia. My mom has it and we were told by a dementia Dr that she is leaving stage 4 and on the cusp of stage 5. We just got her in a facility on Saturday. She has a huge brain tumor also. She got cobalt poisoning from defective hip replacements. She is on meds from actual neurologists and a dementia Dr and it's as if the facility couldn't wait for us to leave because when I got there today my mom was so drugged up she couldn't make a coherent sentence like she could when we took her there. She's a fall risk and was very unstable walking or trying to sit down. I'm absolutely livid and I don't know what to do. We didn't entrust her care to them to be drugged up to this point. It's like in a matter of hours they took our mom completely away from us

This sounds like my Moms story and behavior. She had me in tears saying I just didn’t want to take care of her. I left one day and felt I don’t really care if I come back or not. Like you did, I spoke to one of the administrators and she said that they were not getting that behavior from her, like I was lying. I left there thinking, well you can keep her. But as time passed she became really social and blossomed calling the young care workers Honey and other sweet treatment. EXCEPT. For the one who had stolen her change purse. There are thieves amongst some of those sweet young ladies. A freind had stupidly put 14 kit earrings on her mother’s ears, doing something nice for Momma, but Momma did not even know she had earrings or not in her ears. Another instance is when Moms roommate had her wedding rings stolen. Do not leave parents with expensive things. There are thieves amongst the patients also, example afghans disappear from beds. This home was in a nice town of about 15,000 people, middle class. Not a run down place. Label everything with a Sharpie permanent ink pen! The patients also steal clothes. And good luck.

Fake food is the culprit

I have a hard time not saying do you remember? I said it to him for years before he got dementia. Old habits are hard to break.

Thank you for this info! My mom has emphysema & is cognitively declining. I know it is the SAME as alzhymers, but the decline is there & she is exhibiting the same kinds of things you are mentioning. I am their only kid that lives out of town so the brunt of her care falls on my other 4 siblings. I like to be informed & help as much as I can so these tests are perfect! I'd say she is at stage 3-4, but that is me on the outside looking in. I might be able to get her to take these tests so thank you again for the links!

Number 0: Getting a diagnosis.

"THEY" ....?? Who? Could you be anymore insensitive

Eating sugar and refined carbs can cause pre-dementia and dementia. But cutting out the sugar and refined carbs and adding lots of fat can prevent and even reverse pre-dementia and early dementia. More recent studies show that people with diabetes have a four-fold risk

Sugar is causing dementia. Watch a video on youtube that is called the effects of sugar on a rats' brain. It's a real eye opener and the place I live is a senior's apartment and a lot of the people here that have early onset, dementia and Alzheimer's eat a ton of donuts.And sweets when the food bank brings in treats into the lobby. And you can be sure that the ones that crave sweets are either diabetic.Or diabetic plus dementia. I've seen this over and over. In fact, one woman that moved out of here and was put in assisted living was old. Yes, 94, but she would always steal a lot of the sweets and she would eat it almost all day. And there's a guy in here.He does not have dementia.He's ninety six and he walks at least 4 blocks a day For his morning coffee at mcdonald's and then he walks back. He doesn't have the best hearing but he keeps away from sweets. One day I was sitting in the lobby and I saw him walking in and I pointed at the donuts that were left by the food bank and he shook his head and he says that's garbage not for me.

If they have a chop or a pair of pants that they put on, you should take a picture and, in a few days say look at this. How long have you had this on, and they'll look at the picture. And have them hold up a piece of paper that says the date. For instance, say if it is July, the first have them put the pants on or the item on and get them to hold up a plaque or a piece of paper that has the date on it and take the picture of them holding that date. And then if they keep wearing it for 3 or 4, get them to look at that picture that shows them holding up the paper that says july the first.

I inherited early onset ALZ. Found using CBD oil restored function in minutes & have been able to stay functional for about $40/month. Zero bad side effects. It ought to be the main source of new thinking on this illness. I have help now. First sign of my illness was visual distortions. I was part of global study at univ Wisconsin for 8 years. The worst part of the ilness is relatives who try to steal your home & money. My advice to anyone diagnosed with ALZ is tell NO ONE until you visit a lawyer who will protect your assets. Beware home health aides unless they are monitored by camera. It doesn't have to be so hard.

Your the first person I’ve watched on here that’s talked about some of the things I’m experiencing with my boyfriends mom who has dementia…. We moved in with her giving up our own home 2 yrs ago. It’s the hardest craziest situation EVER! Best wishes to you… 🫶🏻🫶🏻 and to us…. 😏

yep sure got a shock going through Mums house when she moved to memory care

I agree. All the same losses. Can't identify telemarketers. Can't use phone. Can't use computer. Can't use heat. Can't figure out how to turn off the ceiling light. Lived with me for 6 months of crazy times. I can't describe the weird things she did. She's been in a nursing home for the last year. If she would die suddenly it would be a blessing. I know from her own words when she was not ill that "there are worse things than dying."

The menus at the restaurant, yes, absolutely, my mother would always say 'same as you'. Then she'd end up with chop when she really doesn't like meat that much. But now that she is wheelchair bound and unable to leave the house I think we had it good then.

Thank you for your videos 😢. My mom is 86 and from watching your videos, she’s in stages 5-6. Your videos have helped me recognize things going on with her. I’m responsible fir her and I’m in the hamster wheel. But u finally cried watching this. I’m grieving for the mom I used to know. I’ve come into terms that this mom with dementia is just another stage. But…. I miss my mom because she was a really good mom 😢. As we journey through this I will keep your advice. 😢. I will let go. Let her go home with God. In the meantime, we’ll do everything we can. Some days I do need God to sustain me. 😢😢😢

Thank you so much. I’ve been getting concerned about my mom lately (she’s 88) and this video has convinced me something is going on, apart from normal aging. Will be making an appointment tomorrow.

Last July, I was in the hospital for 3 weeks and my brothers and sisters had to take over being there for my mom who has had dementia since 2020 right before lockdown of Covid. Me and my younger brother are there day in and day out with my mom(or should I say I am). Even though I was in the hospital, it felt like a vacation for me . But I then came home and suppose to be recuperating and had to "go back to work", ordering my mom's pills, etc. When told one of my sisters what I had to order 3 of my mom's pills, they are like (my mom takes 10 or 9 pills at that time) in the morning and 3 in the evening) my one sister was like "How did that happen?" I was like, "I haven't been home in 3 weeks)

Wow i want to do this for our mother. She really needs to go somewhere

I can totally relate, I didn’t see myself burning out, I was on survival mode with mom, my husband put his foot down and we then put her in a home. It was hard but I realized that I was running into a wall and when she left, I got back my life. I was slowly coming back to the person I was before…I had time for my family and me and mom is being well taken care of. Something I alone as a caregiver was not being able to do.

How long does it take to advance from one stage until another

You have helped me so much l don't feel so alone now

My mother exactly..she thought that there was a witch coven living upstairs. She wanted to die,and finaly she did.that was not my mother.l wanted her at peace

My fiance wonders what to talk about with his mom even though she's only in the middle stages. She doesn't remember almost anything. What she had for lunch,her grand daughter visited (she did??) etc. he said it's gone down to "small talk" he calls it...the weather, the birds,that kind of stuff. What I do is talk about myself,what I did,funny stories that happened, the cats..she seems to enjoy that and laughs or gets a kick out of it.

My question is this- WHEN did the system flip to taking them here and there for treatments!?? Back in the 70s-90s you’d ask the elders “What ever happened to aunt so and so? “ Oh her? She lived upstairs from us and didn’t feel well one day went to the hospital and died there” Or “Uncle so and so had SENILITY” (dementia Alzheimer’s) Or they had a heart attack came home NO PT- NO OT- NO weekly nursing. NO stopping the lives of the caregivers to take off work driving them all over etc killing their OWN financial situation. This is what infuriates me. Mom had terrible brain cancer twice and broke her hip recently she’s FINE but now stage 5. Running out of money. This is THE WORST LIFE FOR HER AND HER FAMILY.

Thank you for guidance I'm a caregiver with dementia clients more family members need your views have a blessed day. -jelizabeth from Texas

Giving away large sums of money or donating huge sums to charities. What the money, its going ti be needed someplace else..

Thank you so much for this video. I've been nodding my head throughout saying "Yes that's my mom!!" She moved into a care home today... 97 years old and obviously stage 5. 😢😢🫤

I wonder if sleep-walkers are prone to Dementia?

Too much of talking. Show clips

Very informative and frank. Thanks!

Our Drs look concerned but aren't giving details. We live in a small town with a gp and medical assistant plus an annual cardiologist visit My guess is from the pinched looks they expect it to go bad but they're not saying 🤷 Self education. Thanks

My partner is going in Memory care in the next couple weeks. Thank you so much, I really needed this.

Thank you for being so honest!