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Kara Ebel
Добавлен 27 окт 2022
Hi, I’m Kara! I'm a lawyer turned negotiation coach, here to help you get paid what you’re worth (minus the awkwardness).
Let’s face it-most people don't like negotiating. But if you want to see real growth in your career, it’s essential!
I left my Big Law job to find something more fulfilling and, because of that huge career shift, I learned a lot about advocating for myself. Now, I’m here to help you do the same-without the stress and guesswork.
On this channel, you’ll get easy-to-follow strategies and tips to negotiate salary, equity, and more. If you’re ready to start earning what you deserve, hit subscribe. Let’s make negotiation feel doable-and even really fun!
Little random facts about me:
🌍️ This year, I lived in NYC, Prague, Hyderabad and now Palo Alto
🥐 I can't resist a good croffle
🦊 I've had 3 corgis growing up (and will never fail to tell you when there's a corgi coming down the street)
Let’s face it-most people don't like negotiating. But if you want to see real growth in your career, it’s essential!
I left my Big Law job to find something more fulfilling and, because of that huge career shift, I learned a lot about advocating for myself. Now, I’m here to help you do the same-without the stress and guesswork.
On this channel, you’ll get easy-to-follow strategies and tips to negotiate salary, equity, and more. If you’re ready to start earning what you deserve, hit subscribe. Let’s make negotiation feel doable-and even really fun!
Little random facts about me:
🌍️ This year, I lived in NYC, Prague, Hyderabad and now Palo Alto
🥐 I can't resist a good croffle
🦊 I've had 3 corgis growing up (and will never fail to tell you when there's a corgi coming down the street)
If you can spare 8 minutes, you'll get 13 years of your life back
-Are your career snd money beliefs stealing years of your life?
You’ve built a career that looks perfect on paper. But something still feels...off. Maybe you’re chasing work-life balance, grinding for recognition, or daydreaming about entrepreneurship as your ticket out.
This video dives deep into the subtle career and money myths that are keeping you stuck in the wrong roles, making the wrong moves, and ultimately wasting precious time.
We’ll uncover:
- Why entrepreneurship might not be the solution you think it is.
- The truth about work-life balance and why it’s a myth.
- How hard work alone won’t guarantee rewards-and what will.
No sugarcoating, no fluff. Just actionable insights to help yo...
You’ve built a career that looks perfect on paper. But something still feels...off. Maybe you’re chasing work-life balance, grinding for recognition, or daydreaming about entrepreneurship as your ticket out.
This video dives deep into the subtle career and money myths that are keeping you stuck in the wrong roles, making the wrong moves, and ultimately wasting precious time.
We’ll uncover:
- Why entrepreneurship might not be the solution you think it is.
- The truth about work-life balance and why it’s a myth.
- How hard work alone won’t guarantee rewards-and what will.
No sugarcoating, no fluff. Just actionable insights to help yo...
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7 years of salary negotiation tactics in 19 minutes
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🎯 The Complete Guide to Salary Negotiation: From First Call to Final Offer As a former Tech attorney who's seen multi-billion dollar deal negotiations and helped clients secure compensation packages up to $1.2M, I'm sharing my complete playbook for salary negotiation. Perfect for tech professionals, finance attorneys going in-house, or anyone looking to level up their negotiation skills. In thi...
I'm 31. If you're in your mid-20s, watch this.
Просмотров 3,8 тыс.21 день назад
Ever find yourself working hard goals, chasing goals and balancing relationships-but still wondering, "Is this really the life I want?" You’re not alone. In this video, I’m sharing the hard-won lessons that helped me rethink what it means to build a meaningful life. If you’re tired of living life on autopilot and ready to carve out a path that feels right, hit subscribe. Let’s rethink the way w...
Lawyer Explains: Overcome Any Fear with Logic
Просмотров 157Месяц назад
Have you ever felt overwhelmed by fear to the point where it stopped you from moving forward? Maybe it’s about starting a business, asking for a raise, or managing life changes. In this video, we explore a step-by-step way to face your fears. If fear has ever stopped you from going after what you really want, this video is for you. Let’s dive in and make fear work for you. 00:26 - Overview: Wha...
Thinking of starting over? Watch this first.
Просмотров 1 тыс.Месяц назад
Thinking about a fresh start? It’s tough, but you’ll come out on the other side so much stronger than before. In this video, I share my experince of my career transition from law into entrepreneurship and the things that were difficult to deal with but worth overcoming 💪. 🔔 Subscribe for more insights on personal growth and entrepreneurship! RUclips Video Chapters: 00:00 - The Brutal Truth Abou...
No time to be creative? This is for you.
Просмотров 9232 месяца назад
Are you too busy to be creative? 😫 Between juggling work, family, and endless to-do lists, finding time for creativity can feel impossible. But what if tapping into your creative side was as simple as taking a coffee break? ☕️ So grab your favorite cup of coffee (or tea), and let's get creative together! Links: Shout out to Cafe Ebel, my family's coffee shop for letting me film there ❤️ If you'...
Finding your "passion" is impossible, do this instead.
Просмотров 3263 месяца назад
In this video, I break down why "find your passion" is terrible advice and offer a practical alternative to create work you love. Learn about the "Passion Predicament" and how to build your perfect "passion mix" using my personal Work Audit Template. 📥 Free Resources: Download my Work Audit Template: karabelle6.gumroad.com/l/workaudit 🎬 Timestamps: 0:00 The problem with "find your passion" advi...
How I escaped the "Rat Race" at 31 (5 realistic steps)
Просмотров 3,5 тыс.3 месяца назад
Feeling stuck in your 9-to-5? Discover how to escape the "rat race" and reinvent your career! In this video, I challenge the idea that our first career should be our only career and reveal: 📌 The hidden reasons we get stuck in our first career path 📌 5 powerful steps to courageously change directions that most people overlook Learn how to: ✓ Unlearn limiting beliefs about career changes and fai...
3-Second 'Brain Glitch' that Makes You Emotional (and how to take back control)
Просмотров 3144 месяца назад
🧠 Ever wondered why you react emotionally before you can think? This video breaks down the '3-second brain glitch' and how to regain control. Learn how to: ✓ Identify and interrupt the 3-second 'Brain Glitch' before it takes over ✓ Apply James Gross's 5-stage cycle for effective emotion regulation ✓ Transform your approach to high-stress situations at work ✓ Rewire your brain's stress response ...
4 Easy Career Hacks 99% Ambitious People Ignore (you don't have to)
Просмотров 3984 месяца назад
Discover why being "irreplaceable" at work might be holding you back! In this video, we debunk the myth of "being irreplaceable" to have more job security and reveal: The hidden dangers of becoming too indispensable 4 powerful rules for career success that 99% ignore Learn how to: ✓ Master the "emotional aftertaste" you leave on others ✓ Turn difficult feedback into growth opportunities ✓ Devel...
3 Blocks Making You Stuck in Your Job + How To Break Free
Просмотров 1545 месяцев назад
Once I knew what blocks to look out for, I could figure out whether I will continue to be limited by them or decide to move past them. I hope these will help you think through your own path! 🍿WATCH NEXT: QUIT my 6-figure JOB (3 things to quit without FEAR): ruclips.net/video/EpQScypE4ds/видео.html WHO AM I? If we haven’t met before - Hey 👋 I’m Kara, a lawyer-turned-entrepreneur. Through my vide...
This Book Made me Quit my Job (as a Lawyer)
Просмотров 1526 месяцев назад
Hey everyone! In this video, I'm diving into 'The Pathless Path' by Paul Millerd, one of my favorite reads of the past year. I loved how it helped me rethink my traditional career journey as a lawyer, reminding me that it's normal to sometimes not have a perfect plan going forward and life still works itself out in your favor. If you're feeling stuck or struggling with your career, this book co...
I quit my 6-figure job without fear.
Просмотров 2256 месяцев назад
It can be really daunting to quit your full-time job to pursue something you love doing. In this video I go through 3 things that I needed to finally quit without fear. I hope my experience will help you get there faster! MY KEY LINKS Website: www.karaebel.com WHO AM I I’m Kara, a career coach, Ivy-educated lawyer, and creator, who used to work in New York and now travels all over. I make video...
I'm watching this as a man near 50! While I don't disagree with anything Kara is saying here, don't ever let anyone tell you it's too late.
That’s fair 😊
You have shared great tips for choosing and advancing in one's career, Kara! I found your channel while scrolling through RUclips a few days ago and I must say I am lucky to have found your channel as I'm about to start my corporate career soon. Often, I find people mentioning that you should be happy to accept whatever you're offered in your very first job and I find it difficult to be okay with that statement. Somehow I find all of this related to self-worth and it's not often talked about. I am so glad to have found your channel at the right time in my career. From today onwards, I decide to Advocate for myself and make the most of my experience!
So proud of you 🙌 that’s awesome. There’s always room to learn negotiation early on. As you advance in your career, you will build more leverage. But it’s good to start with small negotiations early and build the muscle. Which career are you starting in?
Great video !!! For the longest time the topic of money was a very difficult for me to negotiate with people..specially family and friends.. Since the last 10 years that has changed and now I love negotiating !!! always want a win/win deal !!! Anyone can become an entrepreneur.. if one can handle the heat !!! Entrepreneurship is a 24/7/365... I think most people should choose another route to happiness..less stressful ..cause I have met or read about a lot of founders who their mental health is in the gutter... As you well said ... happiness.. is doing something that energize you instead of draining you...that one can't wait to wake up in the morning and be ready to work as many hours possible on that work/passion that makes one happy !!! thank you Kara for sharing this very well made informative video !!!
That’s fantastic JJ! Way to become comfortable with a very difficult topic. Very taboo in the U.S. too. Agreed, entrepreneurship is not the easy way out hahaha. But if you like it and can survive, it can be really freeing in other ways.
Oh my life, this intro is out of a youtubers dream! Love your content and editing style! I'm also in the process of changing careers. And it's the best thing in my career choice as of late!
Thank you!! What career path are you coming from and going towards? 🙌
I totally agree that entrepreneurship isn't the only path to a happy successful life. In my opinion the best two options are either running your own business or working for a company that shares your vision and values and you actually love their products/services. For me now, the most important thing is that I get to make my own schedule and I have complete freedom over it. I can't imagine living without that.
Same! I sometimes wonder if I could go back to a company. I think it’s possible but (if I have negotiating room) I would need a lot of autonomy in both getting my work done and deciding what to work on/direction.
who is your video editor ?
It’s me 👍
Your advice hits home for me. It’s so easy to focus on labels because everyone keeps talking about them. Shifting to thinking about the actual work itself has freed up my thinking a lot over the years.
Do you negotiate on a regular? 🤔 Negotiation skills can start small, even just asking for an “extra shot of espresso” but eventually, you build yourself up to asking for a sign on bonus, double the equity or more vacation days to spend with your family.
If you're thick skinned, I would suggest doing a reprise of this video in regards to the recent US election.
Excellent content!
Thank you! 🙌
I think this video is great for negotiating in any field... Thank You for sharing Kara !!!
Thank you! 🙏
That's a very useful video! I like when you mentioned that it's not them against you, it's you and them collaborating for the best outcome. I'd appreciate it if you could also speak about "red flags" that everyone should pay attention to whether they're gonna work with a company or with clients. Also your dress is beautiful :)
Glad to hear! And thanks :) A lot of the red flags will depend on your needs and preferences and then some relate to whether you're set up to "succeed" in the role. Here's what I mean: 1) Preferences/needs: financial, work security, leadership, team, environment/work space/commute, development... It's important to figure out where you fall on the scale and then, based on that, you can figure out most "red flags." For example: if you ask a future colleague if they can describe a recent large project they worked on at the company and tell you about what the day-to-day on that project looked like + what were their responsibilities, and they tell you that the project was interesting, it was very fast-paced and had to be done within a week, there were a number of late nights but it was cool to see how everything came together. - this could be a "red flag" for you if you're not keen to do such quick-turn around projects. I had a client who's really into quick projects (vs. long term ones). So for them, a red flag would be doing the same project all year long. 2) Performance red flags: These are the red flags where you're not being "set up" to do a good job in the future. For example, if your role description is ambiguous or the company "doesn't yet know what you'll do exactly (but needs a person), this could be tricky. Why? Because if you don't set specific performance metrics and agree on them, how will they evaluate if you did a good job? It's helpful to have that conversation early on. Similarly, if your future boss is a micromanager and you don't work well under that type of leadership. Or there is no overlap between you and the person who had the role before you - this could be fine but it could also mean that there's no one to train you properly. Basically think about "wh?at will I need to succeed in this role" and "is the company setting me up to get those things?"
@@karaebelofficial Thank you very much for this detailed answer. You're right! It'd depend on the person and the situation. I recently had a company reach out to me offering to work with me on a project and they gave a very vague description of the job and the amount they offered was too good to be true. I asked them to give me more details multiple times and they just kept repeating the same vague description. That felt really suspicious to me and I ended up declining the offer. Your content is very useful! I appreciate your advice :)
Aaah, I’ve seen these scams around! Someone in my network posted about it on LinkedIn. They contacted him saying “Do you want to hear about this job offer that pays $300,000 and you work 5 hours a week?” and he replied “No” (just for fun because he knew it was a scam. And they responded “Great, here’s the details…!” and sent the same info again 😅
Good one. Does this work for corporate retail jobs?
For sure! Ideally when you’re a couple years into it though. It’s tougher to negotiate when you’re just starting out.
Since the beginning of my career - did salary negotiation though when you’re employed in healthcare - there’s a ceiling to that . This is very educational!
Mmm makes sense! I’m glad you found the video informative.
So comprehensive!!
Thank you! Glad it was helpful.
What's the hardest part about salary negotiation for you? Let's help each other overcome these challenges in the comments! 🤝
I am also lawyer. Please one video make how to become best lawyer from your experiences.
Your video is great.😍 I'm surprised you're not a big channel yet.
Thank you! ☺️
thank you so much I really needed the reminder about time<3
Glad to hear it helped 💛
ngl your reflection in the mirror & subtitles are very distracting.
I didn't even realise this because her eyes are so captivating
Being able to pack my life into a suitcase was one of the most freeing things I ever did. Thank you for sharing these awesome nuggets of wisdom.
Incredible video! I love how professional and engaging your videos are! I recently turned 29 and I completely agree with you! I'd say I love my job 80% of the time... There are some tasks that I don't like to do, but overall I really enjoy it! A piece of advice I'd give to someone younger than me is "fix your posture and take care of your neck, shoulders and back". Working on computers all the time can create serious problems... I know because I'm suffering the consequences of that now. I'd say put your health before your work because when you're healthy, you can work and achieve more & truly enjoy life <3
That’s such a good one! I can totally relate to your point! I had issues as well coming out of law school (so many hours hunched over the computer or books). It took like 2 years of chiropractic to fix it. 80%!! That’s awesome 😊 was that from the start or did you get there after a couple years in business? Thank you for watching, really happy to hear you liked the video.
@@karaebelofficial I go to physical therapy every month and do exercises every day to keep the pain away. At the beginning, it was more exhausting because I didn't have any idea what to do, but now I have everything organized and it's much easier. So I can have more fun with it now. Your videos are really incredible for a small channel! Definitely on the level of channels that have over 1M subscribers 👏
@@fluentful_ I'm glad you're taking care of that through PT! That's so important. A lot of people underestimate it and then regret it year later. Thank you!! :) So happy to hear that. Will keep on posting haha!
This is as always is a great video ! (Fortis Fortuna Adiuvat) this is what John Wick's back tattoo says ...and it roughly translate to..Fortune Favors The Brave ... this video made me think about this character..(John Wick played by Keanu Reeves. ) we all have fears but when we face the fear.. it disappears and always lead to the Light !!! One hard lesson for me I learned is to don't do things to impress others.. do things that brings me joy and make my heart tickle !!! I totally agree about the subject of love... sharing values...,dreams ,etc... is the recipe for longevity in any relationship....when people have different values, dreams ,etc... usually don't last ..or they live together in misery... finding the one is very hard..yet if one focus on personal growth..usually that one special person will come easily without any pressure... keep up the great work Kara !!!
Thank you JJ! Really appreciate you sharing your experience 👏 do you remember when was the approximate time you realized that focusing too much on impressing others isn’t the way forward? Mine was definitely leaving big law but I can’t say that it one one single moment. It slowly got clear in my mind over time, as I kept on working a job that often felt like it went against my interests and values (time with family, etc).
What is a hard-earned life lesson that you'll always carry with you? 🙂 I'd love to hear yours!
This video is so well done ... so deep and helpful !!! This is a great reminder of the power of our minds..to be our best friend or worst enemy... I was thinking today about the importance of research and strategy...to have a plan and a sense of direction..yet more importantly is to take action..even though we might make mistakes...real time action is the only way to be able to measure our progress or lack of it... Thank You for making this video Kara !!! keep up the great work !!!
Thank you JJ! It’s interesting how taking action puts us on a better path because it gives us responses to how things actually are in the real world (vs the “conceptual world” when we strategize).
What's been holding me back was not actually fear, while it has been motivated by fear, it was the mentality of thinking in problems instead of solutions! I could think of all the possible problems, rather than think of the positive side and how I would solve them! Loved the video, thank you for sharing this tips!
I know this one well - coming from law school, all my friends and I were trained to look for “what’s going to go wrong” here. One thing that helped was to meet more and more people who aren’t trained in that mindset (it took of a lot of stress for me). You’re definitely doing that which is great :)
Incredible video! It's so useful. Identifying the fear and understanding why we have it is the most important thing to improve!
Thank you! This is also a cool method to use whenever I get defensive about something :) often it’s because of an underlying bad experience in the past or fear. Hope you can use this tool as well! Thanks for watching.
editing is great! cool video!
Thanks Aman! 🙌 have been thinking a lot about our convo on how to update my offer - hope you’re having a nice week!
Wow… so well laid out - thank you for sharing these examples!
Thanks! Glad you enjoyed the video :)
More people have failed in their head and never started, than started and failed. What do you think about this idea? 🤔
What’s an action item that you’ve been putting off due to strategizing? Let’s get it done 💪
I finally figured out how to post shorts. Apparently they have to be less than 60 seconds... lol. (This is news only to me, yes... yes... I know) Enjoy! :)
Incredible video! I've just found this channel and I love it! I can relate because I used to work at a good academy and have a great salary, but I quit a couple of years ago and started teaching on my own... The beginning was tough, but now I have a lot of regular students and I make the same income I used to and I have complete control over my time :)
That's awesome, congrats for getting there! How did you stay motivated along the way before you managed to meet the same income? Welcome to the club haha :)
@@karaebelofficialHonestly I didn't stay motivated the whole time. I had many days when I wondered if leaving my job was a good idea. But I just kept going and over time things got better! Thank you!!
You are interesting! I just subscribed
Awesome! Happy to have you here. Hope you’re having a nice weekend.
Hey your videos are really helpful! I just graduated law school and am thinking taking more risks travelling & exploring entrepreneurial ventures but have this fear it'll set me behind in my legal career and life in general and that the otherside may not be worth it in the end. How do you navigate the the internal conflict between security and something that you are longing for. Thank you!
Glad to hear it! The way to navigate these questions is often to get very specific. Have you had a chance to define what it is that you're specifically longing for? When it comes to fears, it's also helpful to get specific. Saying this is "going to put me back" in my career is very vague, which tends to trigger more fears in us. You could instead ask yourself, "how is this going to put me back in my career?" And "do I care?" As a general rule of thumb, it is easier to explore when you're younger because you have less responsibilities. But you're saying you've just graduated law school so it's an interesting time to want to explore. Why now? What directions would you like to explore? Are they law-related or not at all? Let me know. Maybe we can make some more sense of it :)
YOU lost your identity. don't project your experience onto others and act like its the universal truth when its not.
I’m sharing my experience, which you’ve understood it seems, and you take away from it (or not), what you want.
You’re an absolute inspiration- I’m trying to reset the button after 30 years in healthcare ✨subscribed of Course!
Thank you Robie! I'm glad this video was helpful.
This video is absolutely great !!!! for many reasons ... 1. Loved how candid you are about the transition from lawyer to entrepreneur ... you even mentioned the financial data from your previous job as a lawyer then your current earnings... 2. Your coolness about the process/journey you are going through and what others can expect if they decide go on a similar journey of starting all over again in a different field...3. The fact you mentioned identity attached to a previous job !!! so true...someone told me a long while ago about social networking..about how almost every person within a couple of minutes in a chat with another person asks what the person do for a living.. the fellow then told me to get to the real identity of the person is to ask instead what do they do for fun ? what hobbies do they have ? what are their passions ? then one can see the other person opening up about their true selves !!! To me life is an adventure ..like an Indiana Jones film ! so is vital to do research, get and study the data, have a plan or strategy and then execute with all of ones might !!! Thank You for sharing content that is valuable and inspiring ...keep up the great work !!!
Thanks JJ! I really appreciate your detailed thoughts here. I completely relate to what you say about sharing your job title within the first 10 seconds of a conversation. I think about that often. Thanks for watching and sending all my best! 🙂
Is this female version of hamza?
Hmm, had to look up who this person is. What would have made this video more helpful for you?
What an intro! So much expertise and insight packed into this. Thank you for sharing your journey, inspiračka jak blázen!
Thanks! To jsem moc ráda :)
If you’ve ever made a big life change, what’s one piece of advice you’d give? I'd love to hear about your journey!
One major life change for me was from being an introvert to open up to the world and stop being afraid to share my mind, heart and soul.. the folks who don't like me...fine..then let them move on..and don't sweat it ..and to those I connect with..cherish them ! My advice is to not be afraid to show yourself to the world..otherwise nobody or very few will see the light that lies within !!!
Love the video quality! haha love the sound track as well.
Thanks so much! :)
Great video! I really loved the message and the cinematography involved in the intro! (especially the circle montage and the coffee bag shot!) I think one thing I struggle with is the notion that unless I spend hours on something, that I can't possibly get into a focused state and achieve anything interesting. I have started doing pomodoros though, and that's been helping me challenge this idea and think of the things I do in smaller chunks. So, maybe I don't have time to paint over lunch one day, *but* I definitely have time to set everything up and plan what I want to paint so I can dive right in later.
That's a great way to think about it! I really understand where you're coming from. If I could, I would carve out entire weeks to edit videos, run around with the camera, etc. But I've found the forcing function of "okay, I need to just make the most of this small window of time" to be very helpful. It pushes me to be even more creative, often. It's definitely exciting to at least set things up and then think about what you'll get to paint :) glad this video resonated with you.
This is absolutely fantastic. Great energy, great thoughts, great editing. Loving it!
Thanks so much, Bartek!! :)
Thank you for making this video, I find myself constantly disappointed in myself for not being creative all the time as a graphic designer. The way you explained it makes so much more sense... to savor the Creative process, not just the end product. Subscribed, can't wait to see more videos!
I’m glad to hear this gave you a bit of perspective! The mental switch from focusing on the process as opposed to the “destination”/result was a game changer for me. If you can do a little more of the “processes” that you enjoy, it could help in the day to day a lot. Which parts of the graphics design tasks are usually fun for you?
This is very cool. However, I’m so out of touch with creativity… I have nothing to spend a coffee break on
Haha, I see. Maybe the coffee break should just be spent on coffee then :) It just depends on whether you want to be "back in touch" even a little bit or not. Thanks for watching the video anyways, appreciate it!
Great video for many reasons !!!! the topic of creativity is something very close to my heart ! To me is like you said..is a muscle..not a mindset..the more one exercise it the better it gets... Ive been playing drums for a long time .. 43 years...piano have been my way of writing songs(melody-harmony, etc...) but a few months ago I bought a guitar and a bass... which I play about everyday !!! consistency is the name of then game...and now I'm using those 2 instruments as tools for my writing ! Great analogy about the coffee break... Usually I play guitar and bass for just 5-10 minutes..sometimes twice a day... Before as any novice I was very clumsy with my fingers ..now feels so much better !!! Your video looks great and sounds great ! plus the editing is direct and to the point ! Very well done Kara !!!!
Thank you JJ! Wow, way to practice even for a small amount of time a day. You're inspiring me to sing a little more. I haven't really done it in months and it takes nothing to do it for 5 minutes. Bass is such a cool instrument and guitar definitely too. Very impressive that you pick up instruments and just figure it out. That's an awesome thing to do. I have someone in my family like this and he sometimes find such niche, random instruments that I haven't even heard about haha. It's so nice to see. Keep it up!
@@karaebelofficial Thank You ! and yes go back to your singing and playing piano...I remember seeing you singing/playing piano and was so surprised and impressed by it !!! that's great you have a family member who's a musician and is always seeking more sounds !!!!