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@@MandyDutton-d6q Hi, it’s all about building tolerance to a thought, urge, image, feeling etc. We can be aware of it, we know it’s there but we don’t engage with it. So for example OCD might say in your head, “But what if you did this, you’re a terrible person!” The reaction from us might be to question & analyse the thought so we ruminate trying to come to some kind of certainty that we’re not a ‘bad’ person. The problem is we often realise rationally this is not true but the doubt makes it hard to stop, so we can think of the intrusive thought as a toddler having a tantrum but we don’t give in to their demands & eventually it will pass. This is just the same with OCD when it realises we’re not engaging with it we’re letting it sit there it will calm down & fade away on its own. We often gain more clarity over the situation once these thoughts pass as we’re not in such a high state of anxiety. I look back & can see how irrational it is now but it was so hard when I was engaging with it as it creates more confusion. Just remember as least involvement as possible with the thought, urge, image, sensation, feeling, compulsion & it will dissolve on its own. You may even feel some guilt & more anxiety initially for not giving OCD the attention it wants but that soon gets better with practice. Our brain will self regulate once it realises this is not important & doesn’t need to cling on to it. Starving the monster that is OCD is the answer, you’ve got this! 🙌 I wish you all the very best, Kirsty. 😊❤️ Xx

Hello, Mandy. I'm studying psychology and I have OCD. How old are you? When did you start having intrusive thoughts?

@@MandyDutton-d6q Hi thanks for watching I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this. 😞 I’ve been right where you are now, I’ve also been through the same types of OCD & it really did take over my life for some time. The reason this is so bad for you is that you are the complete opposite of any of these intrusive obsessive thoughts, they do not define who you are. OCD will target what you value the most in life & being the sensitive kind of people we are it will find the worst possible scenarios to torture us with but it’s all lies. I hope my videos are helping you to see that recovery is possible, you can & will get better from this. The more we involve ourselves with OCD the bigger it gets so the compulsions in your case seem like the religious rituals you may engage in excessively. Our brain reacts to the fact we’re in a state of emergency trying to neutralise these unwanted intrusive thoughts so holds on to them longer as they seem important. When if we can leave these kind of thoughts/urges alone the brain realises they’re not important & they dissolve on their own. It takes practice & more than anything please be kind to yourself as this is tough to go through on a daily basis. Much love Kirsty! 😊❤️🫶

@@stuckinthemudofficial , thank you Kristy for your kind and encouraging words.

@@kokamajid1288 You’re so welcome, thanks for watching! 😊❤️🫶

@@x.0.x. Hi I would say to see OCD as a child having a tantrum, it will pushback & keep going but the best thing we can do is let the child or OCD in this case carry on in the background of your mind with as least involvement as possible. As a child would realise it’s not getting the attention it wants it would then calm down as will the intrusive thoughts & urges to do compulsions/rituals. It takes practice but does get easier the more we build a tolerance to the uncomfortable intrusive thoughts & feelings that accompany them. I hope this helps, I also mention other methods in my videos, like postponing rumination & rituals. All the best, Kirsty. 😊

@@x.0.x. I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been going through this a long time, it started at around age 5 with myself too. 😞 I was fortunate to be recommended Clomipramine an old OCD drug when I was seen by the crisis mental health team. I found it brilliant & many consider it the gold standard medication for OCD however it can have some side effects although they did reduce for me as time went on. The medication & therapy were the best combination for myself as it made doing the work I needed to do easier. I sincerely hope my videos are helping you to see you can heal from this, things can & will get better! Wishing you all the very best, Kirsty. 😊❤️🫶

@@gih6345 You’re so welcome, glad it resonated with you! All the very best, Kirsty. 😊

@@travellersph5890 Thank you for your lovely comment, this is most certainly OCD & not you. Let those thoughts be there, you’ve got this! Wishing you all the very best, Kirsty. 😊❤️🫶 Xx

Hi thank you so much for your lovely comment. MCT really has been the therapy to change my life for the better after such a long journey with OCD. I do feel it’s massively underrepresented in the therapies available to treat this disorder so I do hope to be a voice for its effectiveness. I’m so glad you discovered it too, thanks for watching my channel it is much appreciated! Wishing you all the best, Kirsty. 😊

Ahhh thank you, I do feel this is the next step for me. I hope my experience of personally going through OCD for many years & recovering can help support people on their healing journeys. ❤️‍🩹 Like you say when you’ve been through it & come out the other side, you know what it takes to get better. Hoping to get going with this in the new year, so watch this space! Much love Kirsty. 😊🫶 Xx

Hey, I do believe it helped me but I don’t think it’s dependent on this for recovery, I actually think I made a video on this. OCD is deep rooted fear & someone actually said to me recently that OCD is the love we are for ourselves expressing itself as fear trying to keep us safe. My fears were very much around loss & death so coming to a level of acceptance around the uncertainty of this has been helpful in moving forwards. However the work I do with meta cognitive therapy & detached mindfulness doesn’t require you to work on these root issues at all & is still super effective. I hope this answers your question, wishing you all the best Kirsty. 😊

@@stuckinthemudofficialbrilliant answer thanks

@ I can relate, the voice in my head is saying I need love before doing anything.

@@helenterry2018 Hi I’m so pleased to hear this, it makes my heart happy that they are helping you! 😊❤️🫶 Xx

@@orangenblue6981 Thanks for watching, I’m so glad it helped you! 😊❤️🫶

@@thecineman3320 Hey I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through a rough time with this. 😞OCD can really take you to some desperate places I know I’ve been there, but please know it CAN & WILL get better. I don’t know specifically what you’re dealing with right now but if OCD intrusive thoughts are really getting to you, do your best to let them be there with as least involvement as possible. I know this isn’t easy at first but they can’t continue without our attention, we shouldn’t try to get rid of them or make them stop as this just makes them grow stronger. Above all of this please be kind to yourself as this stuff is tough to deal with on a daily basis. Take some deep breaths (in through nose & out through mouth) if you feel like your nervous system is overstimulated as it’s hard to do this work when we’re in panic mode & our anxiety is high. Take it in small steps & celebrate those small wins, like when we resist that compulsion or don’t follow an intrusive thought or ask for reassurance. You will get there believe me, you’ve got this! 🙌 I’m hoping to start some one to one coaching sessions soon, so please look out for those. I wish you all the very best, Kirsty. 😊❤️🫶

You’re so welcome thanks for watching, the problem is when still engaging in rumination we’re engaging with OCD. We can be doing lots of exposure therapy but if we’re still engaging in rituals (rumination is also a ritual) we’re still feeding the doubt & OCD cycle. It’s great that you have the awareness to know that you’re doing this which gives you a fantastic opportunity to actually overcome this with a few tweaks. When you become aware you’re engaging with questions & intrusive thoughts around your OCD let them sit there unanswered with as least involvement as possible & move forward with your day. It takes practice but really does work, every time you notice it popping up again be as passive with it as you can for example ‘Ok thanks for that OCD but I’m not answering that’ or ‘Nice try OCD but you’re not gonna get my attention today’. OCD will try to push back with more intrusive thoughts but we repeat again & move forward, it will calm down when it realises you’re not giving in to its demands. You will then notice these kind of the thoughts decreasing in quantity & frequency. This is how we get better from this, we might feel some heightened anxiety initially when we’re not doing as OCD wants but that will also settle. I really hope this helps I explain much more about this in my other video’s. Wishing you all the very best, Kirsty. 😊🫶

Thanks for your reply. I really appreciate it. Ruminating feels impossible to stop but I’ll keep trying.

@@samuelstpierre5309 Hi thanks for watching! 😊 Thinking back most probably yes, I felt like I was in constant waves of panic every waking moment so I feel like my nervous system was in overdrive. This then triggered my very physical symptoms throughout the body such as the dizziness & off balance sensation.

Thanks, you were dizzy all the time 24/7? And how long did it last?

@@justmadeit2 Yes depression is a tough one I’ve been there many times. 😔 Glad to say things have definitely got better though! 😊

@@anupamsharma4200 Hi thanks so much for watching I really appreciate it! In the coming months I’m hoping to expand my channel with more personal connections for support available, so watch this space! Wishing you all the very best, Kirsty. 😊🫶

@@duncanhough1284 Hi thanks for watching, sorry to hear you’ve gone through this for a long time too. What you’re doing is absolutely amazing, we really do have to starve the monster that is OCD. Postponing rumination is an excellent way of doing this as we’re teaching our brain that this is not important by delaying it. When I used this technique I would often keep postponing if I felt able to, eventually our brain isn’t in a constant state of emergency so the thought fades on its own. It’s not always easy to do this work but it is definitely worth it so that OCD isn’t controlling our lives anymore. Courage & BIG a leap of faith is often needed but you will get there. I wish you all the very best, Kirsty. 😊

@@stuckinthemudofficial Thank you for your kind words of advice and support. May I also take this opportunity to wish every success with your RUclips channel and your own endeavours to overcome OCD.

@@duncanhough1284 Thank you so much, it is much appreciated! 😊

@@travellersph5890 Hey, glad you liked it! 😊❤️🫶

@@travellersph5890 I’m so happy to hear these video’s are helping, you can definitely do this! 🙌 It takes some time, patience & lots of self compassion. However things CAN & WILL get better, this is coming from someone who struggled for many years! Much love Kirsty 😊🫶

@@travellersph5890 Hi glad you found my channel! 😊 Sorry to hear you’re struggling with this, I sincerely hope my videos are helping you with all the techniques you can use to heal from OCD & anxiety. I wish you all the very best, Kirsty! 😊🫶

@@3six9ine Hi thanks for watching glad you found it helpful! 😊 I haven’t got anything set up yet but I’m hoping to expand my services in the next few months. So watch this space as I plan to do coaching sessions & mailing lists etc!

@@stuckinthemudofficial Awesome!

@@deano_bites Yes I agree that NHS wait times are far too long it can be excruciating waiting for help when feeling so desperately unwell with mental health conditions. That’s why I felt compelled to make my videos as I’m passing on my knowledge from personal experience of suffering with OCD & anxiety but also on how you can actually get better & heal. I cover everything I learnt in therapy & feel it should be available to everyone. Thanks for watching my video, wishing you all the best! Kirsty 😊

@@devinbuckley8407 Hi thank you so much for your kind words. 😊 I’m sorry to hear you’ve gone through a similar experience too, it would seem that this stage of life can make us more susceptible to mental health conditions especially when we have also experienced these in the past. I now like to see it as an opportunity to address these issues that maybe I hadn’t fully recovered from in the past. Panic disorder can be debilitating I’ve been there but things can & will get better. I’m so glad to hear you’ve reached out for support, I wish you all the best! Much love Kirsty. 😊❤️🫶

@@okays297 You’re so welcome thanks for watching! 😊❤️🫶

@@kirksART Most definitely, I really hope my videos are proving to OCD sufferers that you can get better from this, it doesn’t have to be a life sentence. It’s horrible to feel so stuck but you can break free when using the methods I explain in my videos! Thanks for watching & wishing you all the very best, Kirsty. 😊

@@stuckinthemudofficial your vids are great, they get to the core of what needs to be said and understood about specific manifestations. Its always important to make the "distinction" of what is what within the workings of the disorder and what it can manifest. Many say well "its all OCD" of course it is, but I and I am sure many others feel that different themes of OCD throw up different challenges, and to focus on those challenges is important no matter how deep they go, and videos that convey the reality of "depth" are always a great formula in helping people understand their own personal OCD. After all OCD morphs, themes Change things get harder for some and watching a video that connects well is brilliant. Well done to you and your content. Education and connection is a valuable tool in fighting this wrecking ball of a disorder.

@@kirksART Thank you for your wonderful feedback & for supporting my channel, it is much appreciated! 😊

@@katiec3768 Hi thanks for watching, yes that is exactly what happened to me too, I feel it definitely triggered my OCD & anxiety again. I hope you’re doing ok, wishing you all the best! Kirsty 😊🫶

@@bendolmanb You’re so welcome, thanks again for watching! 😊🫶

@@travellersph5890 Hi I’m so sorry to hear you’re struggling with this, I truly hope my video’s are helping you overcome this! Wishing you all the very best, Kirsty. 😊🫶

@@pamelawakefield529 Hi thank you for watching my video, I’m so glad it resonated with you! Wishing you all the very best, Kirsty. 😊❤️

Hey you’re so welcome, this makes me so happy! 😀 Well done to you though, it takes so much effort on your part & you should be so proud of yourself! 👏❤️🫶 Xx

You’re very welcome, I’m so glad to hear that my videos resonate with you & they’re helpful. Wishing you all the very best, you’ve got this! 😊❤️🙌

I ended up in tears in the court and they gave me it after I had to apply 2 times x

I’m so glad to hear you got it in the end although it’s awful they put you through so much stress to get it! Wishing you all the very best, Kirsty. 😊

@@stuckinthemudofficial yeah I wish it was easier for people xxx

@@3six9ine Thank you so much, glad you liked it! 😊🙌

@@Amy-gb9xn Thank you, I hope to use my experience with OCD to better help others! Wishing you all the best, Kirsty. 😊❤️🫶

@@helenterry2018 I’m so glad to hear this, much love Kirsty. 😊❤️🫶 Xx