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Motherhood Empowerment
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Sustainable conscious parenting for Mama Bears opting out of the system (education/medical/general tyranny)
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A Healthy Homeschool Balance w/ No Burn Out, Resentment or Fluff [PART 6]
How do you balance it all as a homeschool mom? In this video, I go over my current set up for the perfect homeschool balance/routine/rhythm. It could change next year, but that's what being a mother is all about--being available, attuned and leading with intuition.
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Being a Stay At Home Mom IS a Job: SAHM Gives Brief (Non-Exhaustive) Job Description #sahmomlife PT2
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#stayathomemom #stayathomemomchannels #consciousparent #homeschoolmom #intentionalparenting #stayathomemomlife #sahm #sahmom #sahmproblems #sahmlife #stayathomemum #stayathomemoms #stayathomemommotivation
Choosing to Stay Home to Raise Ur Kids is Contribution Enough to Your Family: Mothering Fulltime PT1
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Staying home in order to raise your kids takes great mental strength, physical endurance and emotional fortitude. There is no other career/job/role out there that will test/challenge/grow a woman like raising her own kids will...Staying home to raise your kids IS a job in the sense that it replaces other work and requires time/energy/attention to perform plus, if we weren't doing it, you'd be p...
Set New Intentions for the New Year Instead of Goals
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Set New Intentions for the New Year Instead of Goals
Facing my Fear of Solo Hiking w/ 2 Young Kids
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Facing my Fear of Solo Hiking w/ 2 Young Kids
Independent Minded Mom Summit: for natural/nonconformist/alternative moms who want to feel supported
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Independent Minded Mom Summit: for natural/nonconformist/alternative moms who want to feel supported
5 Shifts Alternative Moms Must Make to Enjoy Daily Motherhood (& feel fulfilled by it)
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5 Shifts Alternative Moms Must Make to Enjoy Daily Motherhood (& feel fulfilled by it)
Follow God & Create Your Own Culture #unschoolinglife #naturalmama #naturallaw #stayathomemomlife
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Follow God & Create Your Own Culture #unschoolinglife #naturalmama #naturallaw #stayathomemomlife
Stay at home moms: do this if you wanna feel alienated, unappreciated and low self-worth #sahmomlife
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Stay at home moms: do this if you wanna feel alienated, unappreciated and low self-worth #sahmomlife
[PART 5] Moving states so our kids can go to a ‘school’ that doesn’t compromise our values/beliefs
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[PART 5] Moving states so our kids can go to a ‘school’ that doesn’t compromise our values/beliefs
Matriarch Rising Festival Review: all women’s festival, mother daughter bonding, sacred feminine
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Matriarch Rising Festival Review: all women’s festival, mother daughter bonding, sacred feminine
Stop pretending abortion helps women when it just kills them slowly
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Stop pretending abortion helps women when it just kills them slowly
[Part 4] Homeschool wasn’t the answer: slow living, sahm finds creative alternative to public school
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[Part 4] Homeschool wasn’t the answer: slow living, sahm finds creative alternative to public school
Prevent Stay-at-Home Mom Depression by NOT Living Up to Their Expectations
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Prevent Stay-at-Home Mom Depression by NOT Living Up to Their Expectations
Helicopter parents at the playground ruin play, sabotage development & stunt learning
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Helicopter parents at the playground ruin play, sabotage development & stunt learning
How your personality + childhood has influenced your friendships (or lack thereof) PART 4
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How your personality childhood has influenced your friendships (or lack thereof) PART 4
My childhood: survive & trust no one, friendship is a luxury PART 3
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My childhood: survive & trust no one, friendship is a luxury PART 3
It’s hard to maintain adult friendships in the DMV (especially as a stay-at-home mom) PART 2
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It’s hard to maintain adult friendships in the DMV (especially as a stay-at-home mom) PART 2
How sleep training negatively affects your babe long term (let’s get u comfortable together)
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How sleep training negatively affects your babe long term (let’s get u comfortable together)
Why is it so hard for stay-at- home moms to MAKE & MAINTAIN healthy friendships? PART 1
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Why is it so hard for stay-at- home moms to MAKE & MAINTAIN healthy friendships? PART 1
Stay-at-home moms need flexible support w/ the kids, NOT full time daycare options
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Stay-at-home moms need flexible support w/ the kids, NOT full time daycare options
Motherhood isn’t a sacrifice: it’s a woman’s biggest opportunity to master herself
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Motherhood isn’t a sacrifice: it’s a woman’s biggest opportunity to master herself
[Pt 3] When SAHMS don’t homeschool, they’re giving up on their kids & sending them to ‘face poison’
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[Pt 3] When SAHMS don’t homeschool, they’re giving up on their kids & sending them to ‘face poison’
‘Women SHOULDN’T be allowed to stay home & raise her kids’: Modern feminism is literally anti-female
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‘Women SHOULDN’T be allowed to stay home & raise her kids’: Modern feminism is literally anti-female
It’s Christmastime & your parents don’t agree w/ your parenting
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It’s Christmastime & your parents don’t agree w/ your parenting
[Part 2] Quitting homeschooling & picking the best school for your child
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[Part 2] Quitting homeschooling & picking the best school for your child
Do you distrust others w/ different religions/politics/lifestyles? Dogmatism is crippling
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Do you distrust others w/ different religions/politics/lifestyles? Dogmatism is crippling
Stop being politically correct when you share your problems
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Stop being politically correct when you share your problems
Stay at home moms aren’t allowed to be sick…?
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Stay at home moms aren’t allowed to be sick…?
How society failed millennial moms (& likely other gens too)
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How society failed millennial moms (& likely other gens too)
No it's not lol
I love being a sahm. We live amazing off of one income because I manage our money well. There is nothing more rewarding than being a mom and I'm so lucky 🙏🏾🥰
@@KrystalAri right! So many ppl don’t realize that it’s possible on one income BECAUSE of proper money management.
I'm so happy not having kids. it's her choice and that's okay, people are different.
Yea being a single dad of 5 kids gives me authority to say it's easy... this simp...lol
No it doesn't. Dads don't contribute what mothers do. Not saying all moms are the best but mothering is a verb and fathers cannot mother---so you'd simply never know how it feels to be a mom who spends the entirety of her life mothering. Sun and moon difference.
The government has purposefully destroyed all that makes us happy. They will never stop.
Cost of your total expenses??
Hey Naomi. Total expenses for me was around $2200. This includes general admission, car camping pass, kid pass and toddler pass. Also: gas, food, goods bought from vendors/cafe (250) and camping equipment like tent, air mattress, etc.
Damn!!! Im taking this note!!!
💯💯
Uno reverse card buddy😂
Right lmao. Gotta love comebacks to the good old ‘but you’re home all day’
😂😂😂😂 i think she told you 😂😂😂 it's we should be rich for me 😂😂😂
Hahahah
It’s bc nowadays, unless your husband has a really good job, both parents need to be bringing in money in this economy..
Do u think any of that has to do with how modern families budget their money?
I also know families that live on very little in order for the mom to be the one to raise the kids. I feel like the lack of money mindset can be valid but is often an excuse to pressure the mother to do more
@@motherhoodempowerment7012 income has everything to do with budgeting? I don’t want to have to have a tight budget and not be able to afford fun vacations for my kids. If your husband makes enough for the both of you, you’re very blessed bc not everyone is that fortunate in this economy.
Vacations are not a need. Don’t assume my husband makes 2x an individual. We do not go on many vacations and for me, it’s worth being available for my kids fulltime. Everyone has free will and choice so maybe others have decided differently but it’s misleading to purport a single income isn’t enough but then clarify that the second income goes towards vacations
@@motherhoodempowerment7012 ok 🤦🏻♀️ and I said “if” …never said he did. And it’s not just vacations, it’s sports teams, medical bills, etc. I want my kids to have everything i didn’t.. if you’re ok with how you’re living that’s all that matters.. but having one income in this economy isn’t really sustainable.. especially if emergencies happen. If it is for you, then good for u. You are blessed
My daughter is lucky to have a competent husband working two incomes so she can parent full time. He works very hard but she has been on the clock 24/7 for 10 years with another 14 to go. She's nailing it and has two respectful, loving and old fashioned type kids. I'm astounded at the work she has put in and it makes it very pleasing and easy to be a loving grandfather. She used to be an art director for films 18 hours a day 7 days a week for many months straight. She said that was easier ....
Wow, good for you to have the perception and awareness to recognize the positive dynamic :) I've rarely heard moms who think working outside the home is harder than momming fulltime
Stay at home moms have it harder, they work long hours for free, childcare is $100-200/day depending on which city on lives, most people do t appreciate the value they bring to the table even though they do the most importantly job in the whole world raising kids to be good human beings😊
No they dont. Lol there are literally moms that do both. Think before you type. Dumbarse
Dad works 9-5 and the kids are at school 9-3. Running a hoover round and putting on some laundry must be SO SO hard.
@@Nysvarthit depends on the lifestyle but your right, the bare minimum of stay at home mom is not that hard, that's why tv sop operas use to be on in the day, women had time. To all the women remember we have single and stay at home dad's now. The secret is out dishwashers, slow cookers, washing machines, rhumba, etc. it only becomes harder when you put your kids in 5 sports/activities, volunteer all over the place, etc. and the 1.3 million over the life of the child is a big stretch.
@@Nysvarth What says ye about raising kids 5 and under? What about homeschool moms?
@@motherhoodempowerment7012 Literally all animals can raise a child, it's hardcoded into their DNA. Watching children's TV and wiping a few asses isn't in the same league as working a full day.
I think stay-at-home moms help raise better children for society especially when a dad is present in the home. However when the child is old enough to be in school, then it would be helpful in this horrible economy for the mom to work part-time to contribute to family income instead of at home alone.
yeah part-time work, if the mom wants to and when it doesn't interfere w/ her mothering, should be accessible! (Also, not all moms send their kids to school)
When both have 2 work to provide 4 your family was the end of family values
Wow you really saved so much time and space by not typing out to and for. I am so impressed -_-
Sounds great but it takes two incomes to pay for things now
That's not true across the board. I get it, things are important...but priorities should remain priorities even when pressure mounts. This is for all women who voluntarily work, not impoverished people struggling to survive. Even w/ inflation, we still have a significant amount of people not living the poverty line AND it's all about looking at your budget and deciding IF everything there is worth not being able to be the main caregiver.
Uuuf, this doesn’t apply to me (I’m a bit more of an extrovert while my daughter is a very introverted), but boy do I feel this applies to a few people I know. You are so right, that we are called to see our children for who THEY are as individuals, not just projections of ourselves.
Who wants a Tradwife with all that hardware?
Oh come on u gotta know someone’s got that taste!
@@motherhoodempowerment7012 Actually Im old and dont! I love the Goth/Emo look without the hardware but I must have a something against self mutilation in my genetic core.
@@keithgibbons5765 the piercings? I’m interested. Do u like earrings on women or no
@@motherhoodempowerment7012 Ok with era rings if limited to 1 to 3 pair
@@keithgibbons5765 what's the diff tho--between earrings and facial piercings, to you?
Wait till you have no career, 5 kids and your husband finds a younger one. Being SAHM is a JOB so always make sure you have A CONTRACT exactly like the one you sign up with a boss. You need to have your own money, investments and your future must be secured. If your husband can afford to "hire" you, that's okay.
I mean, I agree partially. Having a contract is a great idea and he should sign up to provide for you within marriage contract. Not all men suck but I get where you're coming from and it's important to protect yourself BUT making expectations high for him is a good thing and requires him to rise to the occasion. I also think modern dating doesn't work, we need to bring back something like matchmaking and for the community to hold people accountable to decent behavior.
@@motherhoodempowerment7012 Yeah, unless people go through therapy and learn how to make relationships work, it's gonna be hard. I don't think matchmaker would help here. People are used to constant gratification and a lot of opportunities nowadays.. One relationship frustrates me, I'm not gonna try and solve the issue, I'm not gonna compromise, the willing is not there, I'll just find someone else so I get the first 3 months high again. And there are a lot of toxic people, and also men have problems with empathy and maturity (hence abuse statistics, including household inequity). Women have enough being objectified and used for free labor (4B). I'm 33 and it terrifies me how people younger than me date. It's not even dating. It's just the hookup culture. They cannot form a long lasting relationship. And it would be okay, if they didn't have kids and it wouldn't make them unhappy, I guess. But it does make us unhappy as a society. It's hard to overcome the biological/social programming we have... we often can't even build communities.
Idk maybe you should find a husband who loves you and won’t cheat on you. Just sayin 🤭
@@emilynelson3066 facts. Who u make kids with is the biggest determinant of ur quality of life.
Yeah you can do all at once. If being a mother is the thing you choose it’s okay but it’s not THE MOST IMPORTANT thing every woman will do. Y’all delusional and backward if you think that
‘You can do it all at once’ What do u base this opinion on?
Only Joan wanted to do both until Betty admonished her for that.
wanting to and being able to are very different. Doing both at drastically disproportionate rates is possible, though and I support that.
@motherhoodempowerment7012 it is not up to us to say whether she will be able to or not. It is upto her to try and find out for herself before deciding to quit. Unfortunately, Joan listened to a friend and gave up her dream and the so-called friend later on divorced and went on to have a career. It is very likely that Joan will one day regret that she prematurely quit.
@@jdechsan well, this short was just highlighting the idea which is being discussed between them and ofc a fictionalized movie doesn't necessarily represent what happens in real life. It's possible that she'll reminisce about what life might have been like later, since motherhood is challenging but I believe that the bigger sacrifice would be a mother outsourcing the raising of her own children since there is a natural and biological pull for mothers to be with and near their children. There should be more creative and flexible opportunities/support for mothers to pursue intellectual endeavors WHILE being mothers.
@motherhoodempowerment7012 we cannot take the context out and use just a snippet to make a whole case about it. The conversation includes Julia Roberts points as well and in this context she is correct. That is the reason why she didn't send an application for Betty but she did for Joan. Betty's dream was to get married and be a housewife. Nothing wrong with that but that's not what Joan wanted and she was pressured into accepting societal norms. Not a case for empowerment at all. Calling it a greater sacrifice implies working mothers are not as good as SAHMoms. Many SAHMoms actually let their babies cry it out at night while many working moms wake up at night and attend to their babies. A good mother/parents is only defined as such when she/they raised a socially and emotionally responsible adult.
@@jdechsan yes, if we're talking about the movie + plot, it's relevant. But the concept is separate from the plot and can be snipped out of any situation and still be made a point out of. To your other comment, the mothers I'm talking about (SAHMs) are ones that try to be attentive, patient, caring mothers, that's a given. I'm not going to put disclaimers at the front of every piece of content that identify which ppl I'm talking about. The hashtags I use and what my channel stands for speaks for itself.
Well you have to do it well if you don't have a choice. In our country there is no way you can have kids on only one income. I know a lot of good mothers that managed everything but you know they don't spend time doing videos on yt. And I know a lot of bitter mothers that stayed at home and are really unhappy now. Well, maybe if you are privilaged this would actually work.
I hesitate to respond cuz I don't understand a lot of this comment. Which country? Who says ppl do it well if they don't have a choice? Define privilege and quantify that for the arguments sake or it doesn't make sense. Making yt videos is hella easy and simple. What do those 'good mothers that manage everything' spend their time doing or do they not get any time to themselves? is that what we should aspire to? Being workhorses?
I thought you were so perfect and better than moms who work and take care of their children. So why isnt your kitchen spotless? Dont judge if you arent literally perfect.
what an interesting comment. R u saying that cleaning is part of mothering? Screw your standards. If you don't like mine, you can say the same! Having a strong opinion doesn't = judgment.
Great scene. Strong families make a nation great!
Amen. If you do it both, you will live underachieving in everything or worse, overachieving at work only.
Exactly
Lol no. Women can do both. Let's not judge other people that choose differently from you.
@@eleonora6980 It's your opinion that this is a 'judgment'. If this doesn't apply to you/isn't relevant to you then why even engage in the convo? How can women mother WHILE being at work? No one can be in 2 places at once...Also, I'm never saying that women can't do anything other than mothering but the traditional work schedule/environment was literally made for males and isn't compatible w/ mothering. Moms need creative, flexible work opportunities, if they have time to/want to work outside of working in the family.
@@motherhoodempowerment7012 I’d say that traditional nine to five schedules were not “made” for anybody. Actually the Industrial Revolution didn’t fulfill its promise to free us from tedious labor, and the tech revolution doesn’t seem poised to do so either. What we have a problem with is patriarchy, capitalism, and the cultural assumptions that because women bear children they are better caregivers. As another poster suggested, this isn’t true due to biology other than breastfeeding. I mean…are you familiar with lorises? They’re wonderful examples of the diversity of primate “wiring” for reproductive strategies. Of course the difference is that they’ve no or little size dimorphism, so males cannot control their partners through violence as do most great ape species (including humans). Also, females are skilled hunter-gatherers and bring home plenty to feed the extended family. Certainly we evolved to spend more time with our offspring due to on demand breast feeding, and stayed together in extended family and tribal communities. But new evidence is showing more indication of women hunting as well as gathering, and males caregiving and doing domestic work. There is some preference for the mama from most infants, but if she needs or wants to work it won’t harm her child as long as she returns reliably. We are very flexible as long as primary bonds aren’t severed suddenly or traumatically, though we do bond deeply and multi generationally. What I mean is that if dad, or nana, or someone who bonded with the infant very early is caregiving, the baby feels secure, safe, connected. It’s my (educated) opinion that the nuclear family is one of the most toxic social-emotional structures we’ve fallen into. They’re the product of industry removing labor from the homestead. Families must relocate to find work, and social expectations have changed to insist that a home should be comprised of only mother-father and offspring. Highly unnatural. You probably know the happiest societies are matrilineal hunter-gatherer societies. But childcare is widely shared among these, and nobody “goes to work”. Often even the children will accompany a hunt or gathering, learning the skills they need.
@@motherhoodempowerment7012 I do agree with you that the modern work schedule is not good for us. Men included
Anyone who tells you u can do both is lying. Its not doing both if ur working and putting ur kid in daycare or getting a nanny. Its not doing both if ur getting home MAYBE cook dinner and then 5he kids go to bed. Thats not raising a child, thats taking care of a pet
Amen, said perfectly
Absolutely disgusting take. There are many good mothers who do all or some of what you said.
So do you support children when 1 parents steps out and leaves the other parent with the sole responsibility? So they have to work and support their children. No child support, nothing.
@Slemos1985 what does that have to do with anything? I don't approve of any parent walking out to begin with.
It's shitty when this happens and the dad should not only be required to provide for his dependents but also jailed if he tries not to.
Isn’t it nice that everyone gets to make their own decisions? Freedom of choice is amazing
Yes but what you’re basing your decision on is key
@@motherhoodempowerment7012 absolutely! To each their own and best to all of us in our decisions. Could you imagine what it would be like if all we did was sit and judge another persons choices?
Yes, certainly…however, we all share this world and create this culture/society we live in. It’s determined by the choices we make. It’s important to be intentional and conscious about decisions we make that affect and shape the world we live in, the legacy we leave and our collective health.
@@motherhoodempowerment7012 100% agree! My wants and desires may have some influence in your world but who am I to tell you what is right or wrong for you and your family?
@@susanwright7682 that’s why we don’t go based purely off of human opinion. I follow wisdom much wiser than myself and many people do via their Holy Books and evolutionary biology
you're not the only one who has the option to stay home. your husband has that option too. There are some men who are better parents than women and it would be the better option at times. Why are women the only ones who are pushed on this so hard? if it's okay to stay at home shouldn't we keep telling it to men too?
Men don’t make good mothers. Women are uniquely capable of nurturing and raising children well. The only reasons for women being less quality parents is their own trauma/conditioning that must be resolved to set everything right again. Women are encouraged to do this bc it’s written into their dna and it isn’t for men.
@@motherhoodempowerment7012 wait what? I thought we were for freedoms of choice? Now it’s dna? I’m disappointed in your message
@motherhoodempowerment7012 there have been studies and men and women are equally capable of being nurturing.
@@susanwright7682 that’s ok, not everyone is willing to surrender to biological design and the wisdom therein
@@motherhoodempowerment7012 with love, if you’re a stay at home mom and that makes your heart sing, and you can afford it without taking away from the fathers ability to know his children, that is wonderful! My biological design screams for more, and that’s wonderful too. We are limitless in our biological design
A strong and smart woman. We need more of this on TV.
No you can’t you can’t be a good mother and homemaker well also being a good employee or chasing a career or starting a company you cannot do both well
Right! You’ve gotta choose where your energy, attention and time will go!
We co-slept till he was about four years old. Got him a cool bed that he slept in for about a week. Then he just insisted on sleeping with us again. That lasted till about seven or eight👀. Lordy it was exhausting but precious.
can't replace that connection with anything! But I know firsthand that cosleeping can be rather intense at times. I love that you reflect back on it as precious <3
SAHMs should be financially compensated if you believe what you are saying.
Correct. In an ideal society with correct priorities, they would be!
And I don’t just believe it--I’m living it.
@@motherhoodempowerment7012 nice. I was a SAHM too, though I finished a B.A. degree attending part time after his first year. My kiddo was able to attend the University’s daycare and preschool while I was in class. He graduated from preschool the year I graduated with my degree☺️. We celebrated together and I delayed graduate school very intentionally until he was older. He’s a very securely attached child and everybody tells what a great kid he is. I wasn’t a perfect mom, but was very present. He spent some time in care settings, but predominantly was with either one or both of us. I’m certain it made a difference. If I sound challenging it’s because lots of conservatives are pushing for women to stay put of the work force to be home for the family. Then they deny the economic value of women’s unpaid domestic labor. Fk that, lol! Men are free to stay home, too…see how long until you beg to go back to work😂.
congrats on those achievements! I think creative care options are crucial for us modern mothers...particularly because a lot of grandparents/siblings/cousins/older fam members are just not involved at all...it's heartwrenching. I don't think it's healthy when women feel coerced or are doing it out of sheer obligation, either. There are a lot of issues at play that set us up to be resistant to present mothering, and I've had my own fair share that so I'm always trying to decondition from that brainwashing. There should absolutely be some sort of payment made to mothers who raise their own kids and homemake! It's def contributing to society but they deny it cuz it's hard to prove materially.
@@motherhoodempowerment7012 you’re right! But imo it’s pretty easy if one gets beyond “capitalist realism” to prove materially how economically valuable and in fact NECESSARY our work is to the economy. There is enormous resistance to it as the capitalist class profits doubly from the material conditions created by our dependence within their system.
Nice to see a DITL!
I’m doing a DITL on my IG stories today. Many more coming soon to YT
Yeah so I need to get home from a 10 hour shift and make her a sandwich because she is tired from washing some dishes
Is making a sandwich hard? Being a stay at home mom isn’t the same as a homemaker so not sure about the dishes reference. Are men really this confused about what goes into quality parenting??
And mothering is a lot longer than 10 hours per day so nice try
@@motherhoodempowerment7012 Longer doesn't equate to harder Really most women have never done a hard professional job for once in their lives to think doing something inside your safe protected 4 walls is the hardest job in the world ? Nice try
@@MentzerMikeJohn men and women are diff creatures. You comparing men's work to women's work is moot. Raising kids is difficult, esp if you're trying to do it well, ESP in today's society of isolation and intolerance of natural childhood development and the conditioning women undergo during schooling that must be addressed once becoming a mother. Did your mom stay home or work? Your lack of empathy and understanding leads me to believe that you just haven't witnessed an intentional mother in action. Plus, why don't you try staying home w/ small children and we'll do a psych eval afterwards...men don't last long in these positions unless everyone is heavily medicated and detached from human biological needs.
@@motherhoodempowerment7012 I am the one comparing? Ma'am, you're the one who said it's the hardest job.. Staying home can be "boring" but doesn't make it hardest, and sorry Men won't have a problem staying home, I wonder from where you drew the conclusion that men can't do that You lack empathy too which leads me to believe you've not seen men almost dying to keep the society running
I chose my husband and daughter over a career. I love it here! ❤️🤩 Hopefully I'll get to meet you and other ladies at Matriarch Rising 2025
Yasss!! I’ll be there with both my babies :)
No, I shouldn’t have to come home to a filth of a house. I don’t want to be a full time wage slave and part time maid/handyman. I wanted to be a dad and now I get that opportunity… admittedly only half the days but that’s more than I ever got. If you aren’t going to run the household then put your kids in daycare! Dads deserve to be parents too!
if you're a fulltime wage slave, then is she a fulltime house slave? Men should certainly get to be dads but that's on yall to arrange it accordingly. Mothering is work and housekeeping is work. One takes away from the other unless it's delicately balanced which is hard w/ kids' needs. Don't expect more out of her than of yourself.
@motherhoodempowerment7012 if you don’t have access to money then yes you are a house slave. It’s definitely possible for a SAHM to feel this way and for good cause. But if I come home to fast food garbage on the kitchen table and the house a mess nearly everyday then I’m a wage slave.
@@Klake-bk2dp I get it and don't disagree--mostly. It's just that taking care of children is so much more laborious than people understand--most people do NOT take on this role due to it being incredibly involved and at times, totally unappreciated...it becomes hard to sustain, even when women wanna do it. So the expectations for shared household labor must be unique to each family's agreed upon arrangement and compassion when days don't go as planned.
@motherhoodempowerment7012 I’m sorry. I do not think it is hard. I’m a single dad and if I didn’t work I would have no issues taking care of my kids around the clock. Would everyday be perfect? Nope. 🙂↔️ Just like not everyday is perfect. P.S I wanted to be the stay at home parent…
@@Klake-bk2dp That's fine you don't have to agree, as a male, I would never expect you to know what it's like to be a mother and mother (verb). This isn't to say that dads don't give great benefits to the same, it's just we do not experience parenthood the same. I can see how, in your situation, you would feel that way. I'm sorry things didn't pan out the way you'd intended and hope that you get to see your kids often.
I feel like this is me. We’ve been homeschooling for 4 years, and it’s been so hard. We don’t even do that much for school but it’s still been a struggle all this time. I’m thinking my kids would do better in school, and I would be a better mom, too. Thanks for this video.
Motherhood in 2024 is such an ebb and flow thing. What works last year might be horrible this year! It's all about hearing your intuition and heeding it. Trying something and adjusting accordingly. Most importantly, keeping your intuition audible--which requires caring for yourself! If mom feels uncared for, it's impossible to care for others. Modern mothering (the way our society sets us up for failure) is such an enraging mindfck
Here in 2024
Im stopping now as well. I have been homeschooling for 4 years. The kids are wanting to go to school. So i am letting them. Im overwhelmed too.
Thank you for this video!
hi just watched a few videos! thanks for sharing!! can you tell me what the school is your waiting on the waitlist for? i have same aged children and also muslim family but also follow natural immunity ! definitely still looking for the village that aligns with our views
Hey :) yes it was center for redemptive education in Annandale va. We decided to go with another option but would’ve considered this one had it not been so urban
ooo thank you- we are in illinois/chicago area
If you don't work, you're a leech.
Right off the bat, sounds like you’ve seldom experienced maternal love or care
ps mothering is work
I've had to choose more times than I can count. I needed to hear this.
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It’s a daily choice. You’re a hero.
They’ve got little sock things like the Owlet, I don’t think they’re necessary for most parents but SIDS is real and scary, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with using something like that for peace of mind. Cosleeping is also a risk factor for SIDS. Cosleeping makes it more likely for your baby to die, point blank. I understand it’s also difficult to get them to sleep on their own and that sometimes it’s just more practical to co-sleep but you can’t just ignore the fact that it’s dangerous. And then to go and shake this nurse? She doesn’t even have kids yet and you’re already saying her choices are wrong? This is wild to me.
You are incorrect, cosleeping w/ attentive, sober mothers does NOT make it more likely for your baby to die. A baby in a cold, detached crib, all alone, forces their body into a stress state or dysregulation. Babies are meant to be attached to the mother most of the time, this includes sleep time. It's not a question of 'well, which do you like better?' It's a fact of human biology--that doesn't care about modern human preferences. 'Shaking' the nurse? Unfamiliar w/ that phrase. I will say that authority figures in society must always be open to critique for the information they disseminate to the public. It's the responsible thing to do. Her equating her hypothetical baby's care to that of an icu baby's care is absurd, when statistically, her baby wouldn't be an ICU patient. It's apples and oranges. Young women need people like me pointing this out because not everyone looks beyond the surface. This is so important. ICU babies, God bless them, are not the average baby! So, her generalized prescription, although indirect, should be scrutinized. AND let's see how she actually does things when she becomes a mom. We all know what they say about people making comments about parenthood *before* they're a parent....they have no idea!
I agree, sleep with the baby if YOU WANT TO but why are you so upset when she is simply sharing how SHE WANTS TO mother her own baby due to experiences and things she has seen just like you have? I don't understand getting upset over it.
I am not upset. What I am is annoyed. Dogmatic medical advice is taken as God's word in this country. For that reason, natural health/parenting/living is demonized, since it is opposite of the consensus in society. It's frustrating to see someone who is seen as an 'expert' use her platform to fantasize about the 'type of mom she'd be'. It's short-sighted and dramatic. AND as an ICU nurse, her opinion formed about what she'd do as a mom is narrow-minded, since most babies will never see the ICU (thank God). This type of content is seen by young women and pregnant women, who can be infected by her fear-mindset. I share my opinion bc women need to know that's not the only mindset to be had.
Dang! So true! I was a cosleep baby… it helps bond.
So true! The medical industry is absolutely treated as a religion! Shouldn’t the fact that all these recommendations have changed so drastically over the last few decades on what is “right or wrong” be a clue that doctors are not the end all be all? My 4th child I had minimal oversight before pregnancy and after birth. Guess what? He’s my healthiest. All this does is stress the mother, which impacts the child.
So well said. In the end when you know you just know. I got myself so muddled up with all the medical craziness of dos and don'ts with our first child for the first few weeks till finally my husband and I got a groove on what worked for us and our baby. Like co sleeping was a must, I couldn't sleep without my child next to me was one major thing I as the mother needed my baby just as much as he needed me
I have newborn twin boys! Don't get me wrong, it's hard. A lot of sleep deprivation but now, they are 6 weeks old & because of a routine we do every single night, they are both sleeping 5 to 6 hours straight at night. Some night, one of them will get up sooner but it's made things so much easier on me to get a solid couple hrs of sleep to recharge my battery. Dad doesn't always help me. Sometimes they cry more because it's him lol. They always want me at night so that is just how we do it. He will get up with them in the mornings on weekends when he is off work to let me get more rest but watching these video's can be intimidating!
Ok, twin moms are special! May Creator bless you for this service you're doing for not only your family but our society. I'm so glad you've found a groove that works for you. I totally get that--dad trying to help and baby is absolutely just repelled by him hahaha. You know, dad taking care of babes in the margins so that I can get a break is like my best parenting tip for new parents--skip cleaning, get rid of stuff, prioritize caring for your body/mind and connection--everything else will fall into place. Yeah, videos like these would have me thinking that motherhood is torture. But, so glad you followed your instincts with your boys <3
“You ain’t working” 😆 yeah right!!!
So are you saying you will be homeschooling AND sending her to a 3 day a week school?
She will be attending a 2-3 day supplemental community ‘school’ and learning at home. We do unschooling so it’s not so defined