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They do not care, but make children care for them , theyare irresponsible people who put burden on young children

Is there such thing as good projections?

I was ALWAYS comforting my mum. Even at 10, she would vent to me about everything and all her trauma and cry to me and I would hug her. She placed so much emotional responsibility on me and threw her emotions at me and expected me to do something about it. I felt so unsafe as a child and so empty and had no idea why. That was why. I didn’t have a mum, I had a child.

What have you experienced in life to use inductive reasoning for those thoughts

You're just reading from script

Did you take the Meyers Briggs test?

If someone lies and you get angry and call them a liar i would say you were angry cause you feel betrayed and you no longer believe you truly know them. It takes time to heal that. Not sure you are a liar yourself

Isn't all of human society a projection? Words, pictures, ideas?

Thank you for your videos. They all address the aftermath. But in my case it’s been a long time - over 20 years since the disclosure. At the time I was a mess but sadly i did not seek therapy and there was no you tube . I stuffed down my feelings as I had 2 small children and had left my career to care for them and we were living in a new city. I felt powerless. And then I got pregnant less than 2 years after the disclosure when I was still a mess. for the next 20 years I immersed myself in raising my children. Now as an empty nester I feel worse than ever. My husband keeps reminding me I should be over it etc etc and my inability to be over it will be the cause of our demise. I am 62. Not many people know what happened. I did tell his sister at the time as were friends. Well now i cant stand to be in the same room as her as it is so triggering. She told her other friends about it and I felt betrayed again. I feel shame I stayed. Weak and powerless. I dont want to lose all i have sacrificed for yet I feel so disrespected. I wish there was a video that I could share with my husband explaining the long term consequences of unhealed emotional wounds and ptsd from betrayal. He blames me for not getting past it. I am stuck with the shame and pain. Searching for help. Thank you

My mom who is an only child got into a toxic relationship then marriage since she was *15*. She wanted a daughter (me) to be her companion, since she doesn't have sisters. Since I was a child, i was getting emotional baggage from her for example complaints on how she is alone and has no sisters to talk with etc. (Even though she aborted my own sister later. There was no issues with health or anything.) And how her relationship with my dad was toxic which is true. So I always felt like it's on me to take care of her emotionally and protect her. Now I'm almost 30. I'm tired of it. I'm so used to it that if a day passes without talking to her, I feel guilt.

i am listening and getting that all points you are explaining are present in me or I can say that you are speaking about me. it sometimes mentally arrest you and make you low sometimes.

very nice talk madam. i am prentifying my old mother as I am the youngest one and all my siblings don't care about her and she very much relying on me and yes it made me very responsible and mature twice of my age. so, my question is, is there any way to show any document showing a child is paerntifying? please must answer madam

Great information ❤

There are also therapists who are specialized in betrayaltrauma. It goes to the core of your soul. It is as you are mourning a loss. It causes much grief.

Before my father died of cancer he left me a note to say 'you will be the man of the house' and I felt the weight of that the minute he passed. I was left only with my mother and sister at the age of 12 and expected to counsel my mother for her own child abuse from her mother and to look out for my sister who indulged in risky behaviours to get the attention of my mother which failed. Although I wasn't cooking food everyday, I did have to do all the gardening, mowing the lawn, counselling my mother and mediate the daily arguments between my mother and sister. I still got to play video games and go out with friends so it wasn't a prison sentence. But I live with an ongoing lifelong sense of responsibility for my mother and sister to some degree who eventually went into rehabilitation and AA recovery. My academic studies really took a hit too and I did not perform well at school with all the distractions and worries. I lived by people pleasing and substance taking for many years until I hit 40 and my health declined severely. I've spent 5 years recovering and an still improving each day.

What do think about parental alienation youtube.com/@TheAnti-AlienationProject?si=YEPGEXopGOY9oK0q

Thank you so much for this video❤️‍🩹🫶needed to hear this

Tried her best yet failed to accept or connect that we two are very similar in our worst ways to be labeled our qualities. A trust or boundaries respect was never established I hopped from home to home as a teenager adopting co decency issues do to the intense need of approval n acceptance long quest of need a clean slate to prove my worthiness and acceptance new family or environment. By doing all things I failed attempts to prove to my family as an adult no way I can change that I am still living by the affects of child hood trauma with my daughter has been the primary focus on what not to do . I learned as now a new mom I have to clean out and sustain a good example for that process to have a positive impact and prevention, break the traditional pass down cycle

I have been searching videos because I suffer from childhood trauma I was the first child of a 17 year mother that wanted nothing more than to be a mother to me to leave home and be for filled by her mother and daughter trauma yet I was not she expected my father and his family suffered alcoholism n mental illness my father was diagnosed late in our adolescence adhd n odd along with alcoholism we were diagnosed as child n myself being a female in the late 80s incorrectly my symptoms were overlooked due to lack of information during that era of adhd so I was misdiagnosed with depression or bipolar disorder. That being said lack of resources impacted on my mother knowing something different about our behaviors especially mine and made unintended serious trauma resulting mistakes. That lead to a world of more trauma in my life luckily I have never directed blame I left home early and make sure I made her know that where decisions on me afterwards was truly my choice so she could not experience self blame being that I also took that weight of blame shame with resulting in the worst of choices n consequences of my adult life I’m 42 I had my first child 1/20/2023 which created a bridge and reconnection with my family I was casted out of my family due to childhood trauma n parenting trauma it led to me running away at 15 and being the troubled relative that we need to learn from my choices as an example of what not to do when you do not honor your parents guidance . Yet till this very day invalidated of the truth of my behavior rooted from parent not having the knowledge of trauma being created in ur child that is already from the start experiencing the family genetic disorder of adhd unexplained in the 80s and 90s . My mother also an amazing mom

This is amazing we need more videos like this

dont u think a traumatised parent cannot understand how to raise a child generational trauma is real and it hurts eveyone first parent need to understand what to do with feeling of fear of hurting ur child child is not only piece of flesh he have feelings fear and seperate life u need fix urs u are not saver of everyone

It costed me my childhood, my innocence, my sanity and my self-esteem. From age 4 to 16, I raised 5 siblings. I was told repeatedly that I existed as the oldest caregiver, so they WERE aware.

Karol remember Bora it’s me emma

Yeah your resources are helpful to me, how can I get truma map copied ?Angelo from south Sudan-Africa

Hi I'm by name Angelo Akot from south Sudan your products are so important on my environment what you when through really are they .thank you

Wow!

I am watching this because I had a great mom and she still instilled trauma in me that still shows up to this day. I don’t want to unknowingly do the same to my child. Thank you for uploading this 🙏🏽

I feel so thankful for you right now. Thank you, my heart is calming down for the first time in months by your talk. ❤️ 38 years of gaslit love, both husband and very influential (to him) mother in law. The stories.. thank you again❤️

I was betrayed by my wife of 31 years, 2 to 3 affairs per week until she discarded me due to what she said was a loss of my legs, didn't want to be with a gimp. The divorce lasted a year then she slept with my best friend of 35 years shortly after about 2 weeks ago. I'm dealing with a double trauma betrayal and loss of feet. She did a smear campaign and am totally alone now.

I was with some friends yesterday and someone asked if we remembered our first word that we could spell. And I was just like shocked that they could remember that and than they started naming names of students and memories and I was honestly shocked I started trying to think of memories and things of that nature especially with school and honestly I just blanked it was crazy the stress I relate a childhood too. All of this resonates is kind of insane but I mean to an extent I always knew this my mom always says I’m more of a adult than my father so you know.

This is very Filipino

I will honour my inner child ❤

This was very clear and helpful. Concrete explanations and suggestions. And you have a very pleasant speaking voice and kind manner. Thank you very much.

It’s the worst nightmare a parent can do to their damn child

Struggling with this right now. I’m an SA and DV survivor. I also had a negligent and narcissistic father. Im a daughter of an immigrant father from Haiti from the most dangerous part and first generation Guyanese and Vincentian American mom and we have a lot of trauma because of the slave trade and systemic oppression. I wasn’t allowed to cry or feel my feelings, my dad stopped bonding with me around 11 to 13 year old. I even seen my dad put hands on my mom and serial cheat on her. And his side chicks would fight her and he won’t help my mom and protect her. I was left alone in the house as young as 5 years old and was raped under my dads roof. At 26 I told my dad about what happened to me he was on his phone playing solitaire and walked out on me. He never took accountability for having strangers pick me up from school and dropping food off to me as a little kid… all alone in the house. I begged him for a relationship and told him I needed him and he just walked away and said nothing as I cried in front of both of my parents and confessed my long held secret of my trauma… When I turned 20 I was in an abusive relationship and DV and SA happened for about 5 years to the point I finally got a protection order and got free. But I keep making reports to the police and they do another to the violations… I been so traumatized and I was a psychology major and wanted to be a therapist since I was in high school. I’m 27 now and want to make sure my kids and especially my daughters never go thru what I went thru… I have playlist of examples of toxic behaviors and 🚩 to look for and stories to share with them so they are prepared… I watch so many parenting videos and lives to learn of what not to do because I don’t wanna traumatized my kids… that’s my biggest fear… I still have nightmares and fever dreams about what happened to me… shaking and sweating and even crying… trauma doesn’t go away with time… you live with that FOREVER!!! Trauma is carried through the 🧬 and it affects generations, especially if that trauma hasn’t been healed.

Tamam da ailesinden kaybı olanlar peki 😢

Love is also a confusing thing because there isn't much of it or love coming to you because you have to be the adult taking care of "children parents.' Love is confused with care taking. Love is confused with being the responsible one. Love is conditional.

This is cutting edge therapy. people waste years in talk therapy never coming to this healing information

Ben depremden 10 sonra sallanmayla başladım vertigo dediler ama ilaçlar fayda etmiyor bana yardım edin lütfen 20 gündür heryer sallanıyor 😔

Muhteva zenginliği ve güzel ifadenizle çok anlaşılır ve faydalı bir sunum olmuş. Başka türkçe sunumlarınızla devam etmesi dileğiyle içtenlikle çok teşekkür ederim.

Teşekkür ediyorum.Çok sag olun.

this needs to go to government there needs to be laws around this to make those sick parents think twice , this should be a crime

Perfect

8 Şubat 2023. Yine bu videodayiz. Yine sözler bitti. Ölen öldüğüyle kalan da travmasiyla kaldı. Çok üzgünüm.

Great video

This happened to me but nobody believed me and now I’m an adult it’s expected of me (it feels) i barely got a break

yikes . . . this is odd

Thank you, it's hard to tell if it's the case being it's your parent, but emotional parentification is real. As an only child it was hard, I went to stare custody more than once. I've always been serious and struggled to play with my own kids because I barely knew what it was. In my 40s, I'm now going to seek some serious therapy.

Toxic

What about trama from a past relationship and projecting traits of the past on to the new person?