Girl let me validate you! We don’t need an episode every week! This stuff is so real and deep, truth be told we need time to even digest this stuff, and apply it to our lives! Thank you SO much for this channel. Keep making content, because this channel and your work, will be blowing up! I’ve liked, commented, and shared! Also, I’m working on ME!
Thank you so much for this! I want y’all to be able to walk away with tools that you can implement in your life so healing really does the work that is supposed to do and you all are evidence that it works!
I have been coming up against the wound again and again. Throughout the years, Mothers Who Can't Love was the first book that helped me understand why I had such anxiety and low confidence at 19. I'm 29, now. I've gone through periods of closeness and estrangement with my mom. I'm currently no contact and it mostly feels good and other times deep grief erupts. This podcast is helping me step into building a relationship with myself outside of my mom. I entered a challenge to create a music video to a song my favorite artist created. They liked it! I believed in myself and I let go of the worldview my mother lives in. You are helping me in real time! Thank you for doing the work and answering call! 🫶🏾✨
This is everything!! I’m so happy for and proud of you!!! I love to see the healing in real time and how it supports you in being there for yourself!🎉🎉 I love it!!!❤
Lord help us. I am in my permanent no contact, tried too many times to try to get her to love me. I had to finally had to choose me. In therapy need to find a support system. Trying to give myself grace and love.
Thank you for coming back...I knew I was missing something in my life...we give thanks for your platform...so so necessary right now...This is from a 66 years young Queen who only understood she was traumatized a year ago.
I deserve to feel good and be cared for. When I woke up and started to treat myself better, all hell broke loose. That's when the lady who gave birth to me showed me her true colors. The little girl in me dislikes her, and so do I. I went no contact; it was the best decision. I am currently healing an abandoned inner child, omg she is so scared. I have to tell her I got YOU consistently. Healing the mother wound is necessary for my well-being I've been a slave to this lady perception of me and inadequate treatment for a decade. No more; I will continue to choose myself until it becomes like breathing. Thank you again, Jennifer, for this safe space. God bless YOU🙏🏾
Miss lady..... you really don't understand. You are saving my life here in present time. You have given the strength and guidance to be OK with saying to hell with her and choosing myself and becoming a better mother for my children. I thank you for every lesson you provide. Finally, letting go at age 37.
I felt like no one understood...I was wrong. Thank you for undergurding my growth. I am learning to love myself...to mother myself... to heal from my mother wounds...and let the light take over. Thank you for creating this channel. You and this channel are Beautiful gifts. God Bless you in your healing journey as well.❤
Thank you, you have helped me so much to live in the reality that I never had a mother, I had a woman who gave birth to me, but she was never a mother to me. I was constantly fighting for her love no matter what that woman did to me. LOVING YOURSELF FEELS SO MUCH BETTER THAN LIVING IN PAIN. LOOKING WITHIN IS THE ONLY WAY.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Jennifer, this was an on time message. It spoke to my being! Thank you for reminding me that things do not have to be “perfect”. Just show up and do it anyway! I needed to hear that today. You are doing profound work in helping others to truly heal. I pray that God will Bless your work. ❤
This work is SO HARD (AND WORTH IT)!!! Your podcast makes little me and adult me feel like I am holding hands with you alongside everyone else. =) THANK YOU FOR DOING YOUR WORK JENNIFER ARNISE!
Recently started my new career as a therapist after finishing my masters. Life is so overwhelming and it’s possible to handle that and my own childhood trauma and dysfunction mother relationship (& then some). Thank you so much for your vulnerability. I’m so grateful to have found your podcast, it has saved my life. I get to feeling so isolated as I’m still going through it with boundaries and limiting contact❤
You are needed and appreciated! This channel is so impactful to my life that I’m always sharing your videos and encouraging my sisters that also have a mother wound to tune in. You also have encouraged me to continue to heal my mother wound and be better to myself. Please keep doing this work, you’re needed. Thank you so much! Black women are healing because of you.
Thank you for challenging me to do innerwork! I have for years search for emotional support outside of me, but thanks to this channel I am reversing this generational curse!
This episode- incredible!! I keep rewinding; sooo many gems. Gonna honor myself by holding me accountable to “me”❤❤Yeah, I needed to snap out of it!!!!!!! Thank you so much🥹
I have reached the stage in my journey to were I can finally accept this part of the healing process. I ran away from an amazing therapist because she was trying to tell me the same things. Thank you for the reminder!
Self Concept is challenging when the mirror you had as a young person was negative and hurtful. Getting over the hill is a different type of hard!! The work continues.
discovering your page has made me realize that i have a mother wound at 22. i share a similar story to you and everything you talk about i relate to! thank you so much, i feel seen watching your channel.
thank you so much for showing up just as you do. when you said “we believe our love isn’t powerful,” i felt something significant shift within me. i think it also ties into worthiness: we imagine that our love is only a worthy investment in others, but not here in our relationship with ourselves. whew, life-altering support in this podcast. thank you again! 💕
I never knew I had a mother wound until recently and wow. I abandoned myself for others to my own determinant many times. Im recovering from the consequences of that. I was very foolish. I keep calling myself stupid because I did many stupid things
God is so Good!! Your insight is amazing!! I am intentionally beginning my journey loving myself, you are so right, hard to identify your emotions, l have kept them in for so long, I don't even know what they are and how to release them and let them go, so sad. I will be 60 next June, I have wanted my own family for so long ,never married and no children. I thought my mother was mistreating my siblings, it's hard to say but I was the one she manipulated and probably mistreated the most, ironically I am a social worker, spent my entire life with the overwhelming need to put others first and help them at the expense of losing myself. Revelations are powerful. I pray 🙏 and trust God !! I plan to do your Resolve Program!! Thanks so very much ❤❤❤
@@kimkelly378 go to her website and join the waitlist. You will be notified when the next session starts. Maybe send her an email also. I am in the cohort that started in august.
@@kimkelly378 if you click the link in the description, you can sign up for the waitlist. Emails will start going out at the end of September and the new class starts early October.
I will say I did notice your outfit but I thought "ooh, she looks so cozy today". I loved the segment about moving through the mental clutter of perfectionism rooted in "I'm not enough". I'm working on that hard everyday myself, it shows up when I want to call a friend. Sometimes the hardest things to do are the things we know make us feel good. Thank you for posting Jennifer!
I’m so grateful that I found you. Thank you for the tough love talk it’s how my therapist talks to me and it helps listening to you when I don’t have access to her. Every single thing you talk about resonates with me and it gives me strength and courage to do the work. Keep up this fantastic work maam❤
Thank you for this amazing podcast. And thank you for sharing your wisdom and journey to self love in real time- it demystifies the process on so many levels and lets us know we are truly not alone. As a side note you look absolutely radiant simply as you are! Thank yoy for being an example and helping so many through your courageous sharing!❤❤❤
Thank you so much Jennifer for all you do, you have been opening my eyes to my own suffering and lack of self worth and the pain that my mum put me through. I appreciate all your wisdom and support, you are truly amazing. Please keep making these videos, you are changing lives in such a deep and positive way 🌻🌈
I definitely didn't think about what you had on. I was just listening to your words. Usually I'm listening while I'm driving anyway and can't even see you.
Wow, this was a beautiful episode in terms of the riches in here. I waited a while to start watching your channel, I was afraid it would be overwhelming, it is not🤗. This is exactly where I am and this episode is just what I need right now AND under 30min ❤❤❤❤❤❤ I am rich today😂🎉 thank you for what you are doing.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Learning and growing has made and is making me a better parent. I know I have surpassed what my mother could have ever shown me. Hopefully I’m giving my child a safe space to love, learn and grow. Thank you once again for the tools and reassurance ❤
Honestly, I feel like you gain your sense of self and how to love yourself through your mother and father. If they didn't love you, then how do you love yourself? The point of a mother and father is to love and support you emotionally and mentally as well as take care of basic physiological needs. Their job is to show you how to love you and to teach you to become a mature independent adult. I keep feeling like what's the point of a parent if they can't do that? If it's all about loving yourself, then what's the need of a parents love and support which is what they're supposed to do? Maybe they just shouldn't love you then & you can just somehow get everything from yourself. I'm just trying to make sense of things. And also, the expectations of others and their reactions are real. Its not as easy as just loving yourself. Their negative reactions tend to just trigger me all over again or put me in severe fear that its hard to even keep moving forward
SOOOO grateful for this channel! Your experiences and shares are so encouraging and valued. You are helping change lives. Keep going sis! We are here. 🤎
This was sooooooo god and much needed. Thank you! 🎉 I am a little confused about the predator prey scenario. I thought we are now acting as predators to ourselves and we acted as the prey when we were younger. Can someone please clarify? FYI: Is the mother wound healable or is it something we learn to live with in a healthier way?
You are correct. I had it backwards while in the zone. As children, we were the prey and now we have become predators against ourselves. And yes, the mother Juan is heal. That healing though, is a lifelong process. It never comes to an end.
I appreciate you for helping me understand what I have been feeling all of these years. I found your page about 8 months ago via instagram. Your content was my epiphany! I am 46 and just beginning “the work”. I hope to join your next co-hort.
“I hate to say it like that”…. Honey that’s cap. You are plan spoken. Pause to say it softer or claim it. But these little fake apologies every episode are lol
But I do hate to say it like that sometimes because I know we have all been talked to harshly in so many ways. And I want to be mindful of that and I want everyone who’s in this community to know that I’m not beating up on them and that I care. I am so plain spoken that sometimes I fear it can run people away and I don’t want that so I’m always trying to find a balance.
I thank my soulsis for seeing this channel and sending it to me! I am healing by loving me thanks to the bluntness in love from Jennifer Arnise!❤️🫶🏾🧘🏿♀️
Girl let me validate you! We don’t need an episode every week! This stuff is so real and deep, truth be told we need time to even digest this stuff, and apply it to our lives! Thank you SO much for this channel. Keep making content, because this channel and your work, will be blowing up! I’ve liked, commented, and shared! Also, I’m working on ME!
"Your existence is your worthiness" 💚
Love this❤
It is!!!!
Facts. God said so. Don’t worry about the humans ❤️
This podcast is genuinely applicable to real life. It’s insanely realistic and good. Thank you for putting sharing your gift with the world.
Thank you so much for this! I want y’all to be able to walk away with tools that you can implement in your life so healing really does the work that is supposed to do and you all are evidence that it works!
I have been coming up against the wound again and again. Throughout the years, Mothers Who Can't Love was the first book that helped me understand why I had such anxiety and low confidence at 19. I'm 29, now. I've gone through periods of closeness and estrangement with my mom. I'm currently no contact and it mostly feels good and other times deep grief erupts. This podcast is helping me step into building a relationship with myself outside of my mom. I entered a challenge to create a music video to a song my favorite artist created. They liked it! I believed in myself and I let go of the worldview my mother lives in. You are helping me in real time! Thank you for doing the work and answering call! 🫶🏾✨
This is everything!! I’m so happy for and proud of you!!! I love to see the healing in real time and how it supports you in being there for yourself!🎉🎉 I love it!!!❤
Lord help us. I am in my permanent no contact, tried too many times to try to get her to love me. I had to finally had to choose me. In therapy need to find a support system. Trying to give myself grace and love.
Thank you for coming back...I knew I was missing something in my life...we give thanks for your platform...so so necessary right now...This is from a 66 years young Queen who only understood she was traumatized a year ago.
Awesome! Good for you. You should be very proud of yourself.
I deserve to feel good and be cared for. When I woke up and started to treat myself better, all hell broke loose. That's when the lady who gave birth to me showed me her true colors. The little girl in me dislikes her, and so do I. I went no contact; it was the best decision. I am currently healing an abandoned inner child, omg she is so scared. I have to tell her I got YOU consistently. Healing the mother wound is necessary for my well-being I've been a slave to this lady perception of me and inadequate treatment for a decade. No more; I will continue to choose myself until it becomes like breathing. Thank you again, Jennifer, for this safe space. God bless YOU🙏🏾
I am going through the exact same journey. You are not alone x
You go, girl!
Proud of you. Keep loving yourself better and better!
@@cb4664Thank you,🙏🏾🙏🏾
@@pennypenny376 thank you🙏🏾🙏🏾
Miss lady..... you really don't understand. You are saving my life here in present time. You have given the strength and guidance to be OK with saying to hell with her and choosing myself and becoming a better mother for my children. I thank you for every lesson you provide. Finally, letting go at age 37.
You are so welcome and is never too late. The lesson is right on time for you and I’m so happy you’re choosing yourself.
You go girl. ❤
Thank you for showing up JUST AS YOU ARE! We appreciate you🫶🏾
The way our mind treats ourselves in real time IS crazy . I admire what u said there
I felt like no one understood...I was wrong. Thank you for undergurding my growth. I am learning to love myself...to mother myself... to heal from my mother wounds...and let the light take over.
Thank you for creating this channel. You and this channel are Beautiful gifts. God Bless you in your healing journey as well.❤
Thank you, you have helped me so much to live in the reality that I never had a mother, I had a woman who gave birth to me, but she was never a mother to me. I was constantly fighting for her love no matter what that woman did to me. LOVING YOURSELF FEELS SO MUCH BETTER THAN LIVING IN PAIN. LOOKING WITHIN IS THE ONLY WAY.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Going within is the only way through❤
I feel so seen! This podcast has been just what I've needed in this phase of life. Thank you 🫶🏽
I definitely see you❤
Jennifer, this was an on time message. It spoke to my being! Thank you for reminding me that things do not have to be “perfect”. Just show up and do it anyway! I needed to hear that today. You are doing profound work in helping others to truly heal. I pray that God will Bless your work. ❤
Show up just as you are, sis! I promise you, you will not regret it
Thank you Jennifer! Another one: You DESERVE to hear your name spoken/called with genuine love.
Awwweeee thank you ❤
This work is SO HARD (AND WORTH IT)!!! Your podcast makes little me and adult me feel like I am holding hands with you alongside everyone else. =) THANK YOU FOR DOING YOUR WORK JENNIFER ARNISE!
It definitely is hard and absolutely worth it. We are definitely holding hands through this journey, love!
THANK YOU for leading me to freedom 💜
We’re all in this together ❤
Recently started my new career as a therapist after finishing my masters. Life is so overwhelming and it’s possible to handle that and my own childhood trauma and dysfunction mother relationship (& then some). Thank you so much for your vulnerability. I’m so grateful to have found your podcast, it has saved my life. I get to feeling so isolated as I’m still going through it with boundaries and limiting contact❤
You’re so welcome and I’m so glad that you’re here in this community!❤
You are needed and appreciated! This channel is so impactful to my life that I’m always sharing your videos and encouraging my sisters that also have a mother wound to tune in. You also have encouraged me to continue to heal my mother wound and be better to myself. Please keep doing this work, you’re needed. Thank you so much! Black women are healing because of you.
Thank you so much for this. Your words really do mean a lot to me and because I’m on this healing journey I still need to hear it.
Thank you.
You’re so welcome
Thank you for challenging me to do innerwork! I have for years search for emotional support outside of me, but thanks to this channel I am reversing this generational curse!
This episode- incredible!! I keep rewinding; sooo many gems. Gonna honor myself by holding me accountable to “me”❤❤Yeah, I needed to snap out of it!!!!!!! Thank you so much🥹
That’s it!!
I can only do better for my children once I learn better.
I have reached the stage in my journey to were I can finally accept this part of the healing process. I ran away from an amazing therapist because she was trying to tell me the same things. Thank you for the reminder!
I’m so glad you’re ready!
Self Concept is challenging when the mirror you had as a young person was negative and hurtful. Getting over the hill is a different type of hard!! The work continues.
I'm trying to understand this too
💯
It’s tough when your first bully was family ❤️🩹
It is very challenging. Because I’m still doing the work myself. I also know that it’s worth it.
Thank you!
You're welcome!
discovering your page has made me realize that i have a mother wound at 22. i share a similar story to you and everything you talk about i relate to! thank you so much, i feel seen watching your channel.
Wonderful!
thank you so much for showing up just as you do. when you said “we believe our love isn’t powerful,” i felt something significant shift within me. i think it also ties into worthiness: we imagine that our love is only a worthy investment in others, but not here in our relationship with ourselves. whew, life-altering support in this podcast. thank you again! 💕
I never knew I had a mother wound until recently and wow. I abandoned myself for others to my own determinant many times. Im recovering from the consequences of that. I was very foolish. I keep calling myself stupid because I did many stupid things
You did the best you could with what understood about yourself and the world at the time. It’s okay we all do it. 😊
@@lalat5899 thank you for this ❤️
Forgive her. And by her I mean you. ❤ I love you from D.C.
Glad to see you back Jennifer!!!!
I’m byyyyke boo!😅
You are heaven sent. I hope all of us with this mother wound snap out of it with your messages. Thank you for this important work🤍
You are so welcome
‘How can you put anyone before your child?’ Wow🌸 having my daughter made me want to do better, found this podcast right on time🌸
Having a kid is such a great activator and mirror. Same thing happened to me.❤
Definitely grateful for your presence on RUclips 🙏🏾
@5:50😭😭has me in tears
18:41
I love your platform🥰
Thank you ❤
God is so Good!! Your insight is amazing!! I am intentionally beginning my journey loving myself, you are so right, hard to identify your emotions, l have kept them in for so long, I don't even know what they are and how to release them and let them go, so sad. I will be 60 next June, I have wanted my own family for so long ,never married and no children. I thought my mother was mistreating my siblings, it's hard to say but I was the one she manipulated and probably mistreated the most, ironically I am a social worker, spent my entire life with the overwhelming need to put others first and help them at the expense of losing myself. Revelations are powerful. I pray 🙏 and trust God !!
I plan to do your Resolve Program!!
Thanks so very much ❤❤❤
We have a similar story.
I am in Resolve now.
I highly recommend her program.
How can you do the resolved program?
@@kimkelly378 go to her website and join the waitlist. You will be notified when the next session starts. Maybe send her an email also. I am in the cohort that started in august.
@@MyFavs218hey Boo!!
@@kimkelly378 if you click the link in the description, you can sign up for the waitlist. Emails will start going out at the end of September and the new class starts early October.
Thank you for sharing this podcast. Lord knows I needed this
I will say I did notice your outfit but I thought "ooh, she looks so cozy today". I loved the segment about moving through the mental clutter of perfectionism rooted in "I'm not enough". I'm working on that hard everyday myself, it shows up when I want to call a friend. Sometimes the hardest things to do are the things we know make us feel good. Thank you for posting Jennifer!
I absolutely loved how honest this was ❤ we need to love ourselves after so long
I love you, girl!
Ooooh that’s so good!
I’m so grateful that I found you. Thank you for the tough love talk it’s how my therapist talks to me and it helps listening to you when I don’t have access to her. Every single thing you talk about resonates with me and it gives me strength and courage to do the work. Keep up this fantastic work maam❤
Thank you for this amazing podcast. And thank you for sharing your wisdom and journey to self love in real time- it demystifies the process on so many levels and lets us know we are truly not alone. As a side note you look absolutely radiant simply as you are! Thank yoy for being an example and helping so many through your courageous sharing!❤❤❤
You’re so welcome and I’m so happy that you are getting value from this podcast. It means so much to me!
Oh and you are beautiful no makeup required! Keep showing up!
Oh thank you!
Thank you 🙏🏾 I Needed To Hear This 🤝🏾🫶🏾
Take all you need❤
❤
I'm so thankful for your podcast ❤ spent the day crying and grieving over my relationship with my mother, and boom, I see your video 😂
❤Ty for all your wisdom and healing you bring to many of us 🥹
You’re so welcome❤
Kicking myself listening to this! 😢 but grateful for insight! Thank You!
No kicking, only hugging!❤
Thank you for speaking your truth. I’m late to the party but I am constantly watching and trying to hear and heal ❤
You are so welcome
Thank you Jennifer 💛
This made me cry in a healing way xx
Thank you so much Jennifer for all you do, you have been opening my eyes to my own suffering and lack of self worth and the pain that my mum put me through. I appreciate all your wisdom and support, you are truly amazing. Please keep making these videos, you are changing lives in such a deep and positive way 🌻🌈
You are so welcome! These are all things that we need to hear, including me
You keep talking I have never heard any of this! You Look Great!
Im so glad I found your channel!!! Thank you for sharing!
I definitely didn't think about what you had on. I was just listening to your words. Usually I'm listening while I'm driving anyway and can't even see you.
I definitely needed to hear this ❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much for your time❣️🙏🏻✨🤗 You are Helping so much and so many❣️✨ What a gift you are sharing 🙏🏻♥️✨ Thank You🥰
You are so welcome
I will! And thank you so much😊
Wow, this was a beautiful episode in terms of the riches in here. I waited a while to start watching your channel, I was afraid it would be overwhelming, it is not🤗. This is exactly where I am and this episode is just what I need right now AND under 30min ❤❤❤❤❤❤ I am rich today😂🎉 thank you for what you are doing.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Learning and growing has made and is making me a better parent. I know I have surpassed what my mother could have ever shown me. Hopefully I’m giving my child a safe space to love, learn and grow. Thank you once again for the tools and reassurance ❤
You are so welcome
You are such a breath of fresh air! ❤ thank you for this authenticity.
You are so welcome
I can't thank you enough for how much you are helping me to heal! I also bought your book and really looking forward to reading it. 💗🤗
You are so welcome!
Needed this video ❤. Cried the entire episode. Thank you for this video
Thankyou for coming back ! Lol
Just found your channel. Thank you for sharing and caring.
Thank you so much for giving words to my emotions!
Honestly, I feel like you gain your sense of self and how to love yourself through your mother and father. If they didn't love you, then how do you love yourself? The point of a mother and father is to love and support you emotionally and mentally as well as take care of basic physiological needs. Their job is to show you how to love you and to teach you to become a mature independent adult. I keep feeling like what's the point of a parent if they can't do that? If it's all about loving yourself, then what's the need of a parents love and support which is what they're supposed to do? Maybe they just shouldn't love you then & you can just somehow get everything from yourself. I'm just trying to make sense of things. And also, the expectations of others and their reactions are real. Its not as easy as just loving yourself. Their negative reactions tend to just trigger me all over again or put me in severe fear that its hard to even keep moving forward
Thank you, I needed to hear this message ♥️🙏🏾
Thank you I needed to see myself ❤
So glad!
SOOOO grateful for this channel! Your experiences and shares are so encouraging and valued. You are helping change lives. Keep going sis! We are here. 🤎
Thank you!!
Keep em coming!
💜💜💜
And you look great!!!
Awesome episode 😊
hiii, you’re amazing ❤ thank you
Thank you❤
You're welcome 😊
This was sooooooo god and much needed. Thank you! 🎉 I am a little confused about the predator prey scenario. I thought we are now acting as predators to ourselves and we acted as the prey when we were younger. Can someone please clarify? FYI: Is the mother wound healable or is it something we learn to live with in a healthier way?
You are correct. I had it backwards while in the zone. As children, we were the prey and now we have become predators against ourselves. And yes, the mother Juan is heal. That healing though, is a lifelong process. It never comes to an end.
Love
whoa this titleeeeeee 😭 instant click
I appreciate you for helping me understand what I have been feeling all of these years. I found your page about 8 months ago via instagram. Your content was my epiphany! I am 46 and just beginning “the work”. I hope to join your next co-hort.
This!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤
Exactly!!!
I didn’t realize what I was saying i is typical of mother wounding.
Ms Jen I had to block my mother a couple days ago cause I just can’t so here’s t going no contact
I wonder if this concept applies to any maternal figure like foster mothers, adopted mothers or just birth mothers’ wound only?
I can relate with so much you shared ma’am but it’s seems more complicated when it’s not your biological maternal figure 😢
Ase
I can’t lie, I’m in shock that you haven’t talk to your mom in 10 years. How do you deal with that?
“I hate to say it like that”…. Honey that’s cap. You are plan spoken. Pause to say it softer or claim it. But these little fake apologies every episode are lol
But I do hate to say it like that sometimes because I know we have all been talked to harshly in so many ways. And I want to be mindful of that and I want everyone who’s in this community to know that I’m not beating up on them and that I care. I am so plain spoken that sometimes I fear it can run people away and I don’t want that so I’m always trying to find a balance.
🫶
I thank my soulsis for seeing this channel and sending it to me! I am healing by loving me thanks to the bluntness in love from Jennifer Arnise!❤️🫶🏾🧘🏿♀️
Thank You❤
You're welcome 😊
Thank you ❤
You're welcome 😊
Thank you ❤
You're welcome 😊