As an INFJ, I often find I like being second-in-command. It's high enough that I control most of what I do, I have an impact on the group, but everyone's attention goes to who's in charge.
I've also been called "glue" when referring to my leadership style lol, because INFJs tend to be that person who keeps a team together and prevents conflicts, whether they are aware of it or not
Kate Rush Same here. It difficult for me to find the right words when speaking out loud. I end up sounding like a fool and I no longer wish to speak aloud.
I end up talking gibberish sometimes and my face gets heated pretty quickly when I receive attention while speaking especially if it's something I care or passionate about or if it's a bit personal to me
Wendy F oh my gosh, yes! Or being talked down to. Or feeling misunderstood/invalid in the workplace. There have been so many time we’re I’ve been yelled at for doing something “the wrong way” and I was actually correct
A career or job that allows INFJ's(Advocates) to: 1) Be communicating(somehow transforming info to others) 2) Have some degree of independence( job or career where you have some control) 3) Be organizing 4) Feel like you're helping people( you feel like its your purpose; if career or job doesn't allow this you feel like you're wasting your time)
Hee hee. I can relate. If it's any consolation, I've recently heard that introverts tend to take longer to think about words than extroverts do. An introvert often needs more time to prepare words and express thoughts in just the right way, and indeed can be very effective communicators, but you need to give us enough time to think these things through. As for me, I've found that I always have a much easier time in writing, because that gives me time to edit thoughts that I've already started to express. That way, I don't need review the thought multiple times inside my head before I can even begin to say it. I've also found that after a lot of practice, I can do public and persuasive speaking effectively, but it's absolutely essential that I have time to prepare at least the main ideas beforehand. Otherwise, it will turn into a lot of rambling that makes a decent amount of sense to me, but most people will not see the overall purpose of what I try to communicate. That's been my experience. Anyway. This is all to say, I think it's normal to struggle with stumbling over words as an INFJ, but it doesn't need to be a crippling weakness, and it's definitely not something to beat ourselves up over.
The key is to keep developing and keep educating yourself in the job and switch and use your old knowledge in a new setting also NGO’s are good as employer because you do a lot of doing everything !
Public speaking has held me back. Ive learned to do it. I am now 42. Lmao. Best advice for public speaking ever. REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE HERE TO CONVEY IMPORTANT INFORMATION. THIS SPEACH IS NOT ABOUT YOU OR HOW YOU LOOK OR SOUND. THE MESSAGE AND THE INFORMATION IS IMPORTANT. Hope this helps someone :)
For me, helping people is not a chore or a grind. It makes me feel good, even if the rest of the world doesn't recognize it. Nobody can erase what I've done.
Thayer Sinclair, how have you dealt with the difficulties of hearing so many unpleasant feelings and stories all day? I wanted to be a psychologist, but a friend who was discouraged me because I soak up others' emotions.
Just recently, I have learned that I am an INFJ - T. I know that I am kinda weird but there's a reason why. All of the info in this video is true. I want to be a Psychologist too but I am afraid that I will just absorb the painful emotions of others. I can't help it, it is so natural to me.
An INFJs ability to really feel and understand what the other person is going through is the exact skill set that will make you extremely successful and being a psychologist. If you want any ideas on how to deal with those emotions just reply and I'll answer you!
Maryknole Montales .. As a 49 year old INFJ-A and intuitive empath that always wanted to be a psychologist or psychiatrist, but didn’t follow into the career path because of that SAME EXACT reason... I can tell you.. It doesn’t matter if you do it professionally or not, as people will ALWAYS find you and you’ll wind up counseling or playing psychologist to them anyhow! It’s funny that so many INFJs see this as a perfect career path yet they’re afraid of dealing with depressed ppl all of the time.. but the truth is.. THEY WILL FIND YOU ANYHOW!! 😂 You all might as well go the path and get paid for it.. I wish I had!
I'm an INFJ and I've spent a LONG time trying new things feeling like nothing quite fit (until my current job). I've been in the Army, a firefighter/paramedic, and in business, but I didn't feel truly "at home" or in the right profession until I became a massage therapist. It's by far the most fulfilling work (for me) that I've ever done!
I don't know if this is how it is for others, but I feel like I want to communicate with others, but I've felt so ignored or misunderstood, or people just don't care what I say or they don't really listen and try to understand that I just don't share my thoughts much with anyone anymore.
Yes! Also, much of the time I’m explaining something that is obvious to me (the pattern detector), and they’re oblivious and dismissive. SO frustrating. Demoralizing.
INFJ firefighter here. I went down a lot of different career paths and moved all over the world prior to my current occupation. Gave up a cozy white collar career and took a significant pay cut to get where I am today, but I’m much happier with my life now. Thanks for the insights, Frank.
What do you enjoy about being a fire fighter? I am trying to change career directions because I have started wondering if extroverted sensing needs to play some sort of part in my career happiness. I guess as a fire fighter, extroverted sensing plays a big part in your career. I hated being a psychologist, I am restless and I do not really have the patience week in week out to be dealing with someone who is making slow or no progress. I was quite surprised by this. Social work would probably have been better because there is more active moving around usually and you can also provide some sort of practical help alongside the abstract but social work salaries are usually really bad.
Very surprised that being a firefighter would make an INFJ happy. It seems like it would be full of surprise and change of directions. No ability to plan out even the next 5 minutes because there might be a call at any time? And it is very hands on "doing" and not so much intuitive. Are you absolutely certain you are an INFJ? Could you perhaps be an ISFP?
@@YAMISOOLD2009 Im an infj and I wanna be a firefighter so bad!! Saving people from danger between the flames sacrificing myself for them breaking doors lifting them Its just so nice but unfortunately I will never be a firefighter for Some reasons that have no solutions
@@YAMISOOLD2009As an INFJ-A who has also served as a firefighter, I can say it is very fulfilling. I think the public perception is that it’s full of surprises and unpredictable but in reality most days are filled with routine type of calls. Beyond that, it fits our personalities well because we do in fact get to help people. A firefighter is a blue-collar, jacks of all trade, problem solver who gets to use their intuitive abilities to recognize patterns and problems then communicate well with a team to solve those problems, which often leads to helping people. Also, when you’re well-trained, most incidents which seem “surprising” or “chaotic” are able to be organized and approached systematically or creatively, making it a perfect fit for an INFJ.
I'm an INFJ and a teacher. It ticks all the boxes and the empathy really helps build relationships with high school kids. I never thought I wanted to be a teacher cos my parents are ...but it's a calling.
@@BaltzerBoy same. Have tried it for over a decade straight, a couple decades plus training when a college student. Regarding your comments, my thoughts are that although teaching is highly rewarding in multiple aspects, the exhaustion and problems from the points you mentioned is acute at times and might cause some chronic debilitation. Holidays might only be times for recovery. I am on long leave now, unpaid which is stressful not only because of being away from work but particularly because cannot fulfil financial obligations when leave is too long. There are fitting teaching positions out there but they do require much searching; pay is also an issue as pay needs to be sufficient so teachers can avoid the need to work second or third jobs, to be able to save, and to truly refresh from the nonstop attention generally required as a teacher at school and frequent preparation generally required when at home. It is intense.
Been teaching 20 years in UK. Not the job for an infj unless you can ruthlessly ignore the ridiculous requests and expectations from management, in order to not burn yourself out. Definitely dont teach mainstream....it is most likely not what you think it will be.
this is great! Almost 70 year old INFJ. Have had 4 careers, math teacher, journalist, care giver in L'Arche community ' spiritual director. This last is exactly what you're describing. Plus I'm an author and regular columnist. And a grandma! Happy to have found this channel.
On being a good communicator: I can communicate my ass off on paper. I can write you a dissertation and source it Chicago-Turabian Style (my History lovers will understand the reference) and everything. But nothing is scarier in this world than having to stand on a stage and verbalize your thoughts in front of a group of people. Public Speaking is scarier than death. I wonder if anybody else can relate. I love putting on paper my thoughts or what I've learned, but don't you dare ask me to speak to a group of people.
yea I know what you mean, during a public speaking my head started shaking like wtf, that has never happened before. I think my entire body was shaking but I was able to stop everything except the head xD
I'm an INFJ and I'm a lawyer and the only aspect of law that makes sense to me has been Human rights, a part of law that actually allows me to help people, every other aspect of law just seems pointless to me, this video has been so helpful I never really understood why until now.
@@wizeller5040 I experience the body shaking Evey single time, which is funny considering the amount of times I have had to speak in public but when it comes down to it, I find my voice and speak very eloquently and I always know what to say to rub on everyone's good side however I have found it harder to communicate properly to family and loved ones because I just don't want to hurt their feelings.
I agree with you, however... I have found in the past that I always find the right words and get in the flow once I start talking. I need to know what I am talking about and cannot prepare by writing a script. And yes, a lifetime of not being heard didn't help. It helps to stay silent until people want to hear what I have to say...
Spot on!! My “soul destroying” jobs have been ones that don’t require creative input, being micro managed, working with poor communicators, and an open plan office that’s ‘pin-drop’ quiet. I don’t last.
I used to feel depressed about the insignificance of my work as a lobby receptionist. Then, my outlook changed, and I saw so many ways I could be beneficial ..throughout the course of the day. It’s not really the job that’s meaningful or meaningless .. it’s my attitude about living my life .. which in that case makes every move I make a blessing to myself. And even if I only help my self, well that’s a good way to live . 🧚🏼♂️
A nice receptionist can totally switch the tone of someone's day! There are lots of times when I was feeling kinda depressed but some random receptionist treating me nicely suddenly made me feel more confident, which in turn helped me be nicer to others for the rest of the day. ^_^
@@uzaiya8864 Absolutely!!! There are those times of confusion and sorrows in life when first stop is talking to the receptionist and so many of us not knowing How to ask for help or just drowning in our circumstance and a kind hearted and helpful receptionist can make all the difference in the world! Much Peace to you and yours :)
I'm an INFJ working at a public library, honestly one of the most fulfilling jobs I've ever had. I help people from all walks of life all day but I also have the option of hiding in the stacks putting books away :)
@@jenleber1035 my job title is library aide but I think it's also called library clerk someplaces. The only requirements were be able to read, write and learn instructions and have customer service experience, thats a big part of it. I did have to take a test for the county I work for to get the interview, multiple choice with a focus on alphabetizing, easy logic questions etc. I work in a fairly large library system with multiple branches so it might be different in other places
I’ve been an independent hairstylist for 30 years. Still love it. I make my own schedule, I’m creative, I make people feel good. I love hearing all these videos. I’ve never felt so seen.
I wouldn't say as an INFJ I love this working from home WFH. There is a certain amount of interaction, feeling and reading of people we need. I am less exhausted in general WFH though.
@@sackpersoncool I feel you on this. I went for a year doing almost nothing at my job all while trying to "force" myself to get better. I read like dozens of self help books. I eventually lost my job. No one communicated, even the managers. I felt abandoned and it was hard to feel like there was a purpose. I couldn't deal without the interaction. I am an introvert yes, but giving and getting support is extremely important to me. I don't feel healthy without it.
I would just add that as an INFJ I need a break from people at some point. I am in the social work profession and I have to schedule time to be alone to recharge after meeting with clients. Even if it's just ten minutes between sessions. When I have days where I'm stuck in training all day with a "working" lunch it's torture. I often end up with a migraine on those days.
Jennifer Holwell oh I studied social work for a while then dropped out. I really couldn’t do it, it literally gave me migraines and I was hospitalised because of it. It would just make me so upset to not be able to help everyone. Everything was so beyond my control. Kudo’s to you for actually being able to deal with Social work as an INFJ ❤️
''if you're in a job & suddenly feel you're not helping people you're gonna have an existential crisis'' this hits hard because it actually happend to me..thank you so much for this great content and amzing advice it's gonna help guiding me to have a more fulfilling life 😊
Same here. I've been working in an office, in front of a computer for almost a year now, and I feel awful, it draws all the energy from me, just like Franc said I miss working with people, and helping them, even simply moving around. Not to mention the artificial and heartless structure of the corporation. But now at least I know what I need to look for so maybe, at least in this matter, it wasn't all for nothing :)
it just happened to me too at 26!!! I picked my career four years ago when I knew nothing about myself! I'm currently looking for an abstract major to go back to school for lollollol. I feel so seen now though bless this video.
As an INFJ with a brain injury(car accident) that has made it almost impossible for verbal communication to happen, I fully agree that we want to communicate something helpful to other people and are depressed when we can't. Yay for writing!!
Ok, so let's see... I'm a freelance translator and interpreter 1. Communication - ✓ 2. Independence - ✓ 3. Organisation - ✓ (interpreters have to make sense out of sometimes incoherent and disorganized speeches, so lots of Ni work here) 4. Helping others - ✓ Do I feel fulfilled? Yep. ... meow, meow, meow.
I'm a freelance translator too (not an interpreter though). I wonder how many other INFJs have a career in languages. It's a field that seems to suit our type quite well.
I love languages! But unfortunately I'm stuck studying medical laboratories :'( but hopefully I'll be able to do that for a living I LOVE making sense out of disorganized shit
I recently separated from my husband of 15 years. A marriage I have felt lost in for at least the last 10 of those.(typical infj who fought to the last breath lol)I only recently found out I'm an INFJ and had that eureka moment of....holy s#@t! This explains....everything!! I started a degree last year in forensic psychology, something I have just always been naturally drawn too, and I feel like this is the first time in such a long time that I am me! I am a 39year old stay at home mother of 3 boys so for those of you who feel lost in your life whether it be in a relationship or a career, a more fulfilling life is possible...no matter how old you are....come to think of it...probably better as you get older and get that SE function sorted! 😁 (and leave your manipulative partners)
I'm an INFJ -T and I took a placement test to see what I should go to school for. #1 was Graphic Design #2 was Librarian #3 was Computer Programmer. I opted for #3. I've never regretted it. I raised 3 children on my own (without any support from anywhere). I think INFJs can be very goal orientated when there is no outer interruptions. I just made life more simple by concentrating only on school and the children. I had to break life down to just the basics else I'd be too stressed out.
Same here. I raised two children on my own and worked in IT. I got into Data Center management which I found a good mix of technical and people work. I actually found it easier raising my kids on my own. A husband was just one more job to do LOL and I know I needed to focus on career and children
I've always felt so lonely, thinking I was the only one feeling exactly like this guy is describing INFJs; I never thought someone could just speak my whole personality in a single video, when not even my family can fully understand me. I'm so glad that apparently I'm not alone in my introspective mess...
I know you mentioned being good communicators in here, and I wanted to speak to that a bit. As an INFJ, there are times where I feel impromptu verbal communication can be awkward or contrived, but when I take the time to think and write what I want to say, I can clearly and effectively express the seemingly inexpressible. And sometimes the thoughts I want to convey are so overwhelmingly multitudinous that by writing it out, it's easier to sort out all the information and find the precise way to word what you want to say. tl;dr: written communication>verbal communication
Same here. I feel like I come off as stupid to others. I think in a complex manner, but when I am given time to write it out I can get my message across clearly and effectively. People are often surprised. I'm a lot smarter than I look.
I am in therapy during the whole carantine and my therapist is struggling to help me with self-sabotage at remote working. I spiral down to my university self thinking there’s too much work to handle it all well. That’s hard to see yourself protecting yourself from failure by not trying at all.
i dropped out of university, couldn't see the purpose in living, and slept for 23 hours a day from the age of 18 til 25. Fell into depression so deep that death would have felt like mercy. But I'm slowing climbing out, although I'm still sleeping like 15 hours a day and extremely unproductive. But I guess being INFJ I'm good at seeing the big picture? With getting into bitcoin in like 2014 (though i had no money, otherwise I'd be a millionaire now, easily), and finding opportunities here and there that allowed me to spend like 15 hours a year on productive work to be able to sustain my rent/food/utilities for the entire year, I managed to... not starve to death (although I almost did at one point.)
@@katyadade1041 That is what I am doing. I am protecting myself from failure by not even playing the game anymore. Luckily I have a wife who does not share the same personality as me. She continues to work to support us. I would be in a real pickle without her!
There’s such a thing as “business culture” or the cultural attitudes of what success values are emphasized. See “Brand Archetypes”. (www.thehartford.com/business-insurance/strategy/brand-archetypes/choosing-brand-archetype) From reading the comments, an INFJ leader would likely make a business culture that is either, “The Creator,” “The Regular Guy or Gal,” or “The Caregiver. The first emphasizing emotional creativity and vulnerability, the second simplicity and humility, and the third open kindness and getting along. The first seems like a type 4 INFJ, the second seems like a type 9 INFJ, and the third seems like a type 2 INFJ. There could be others though. See archetypes.com for more on the 12 Jungian archetypes.
The "I'm not helping anyone" going existential crisis was me at 16 years old and me at 17 years old trying to find a career path lol it's serious guys, #4 is really crucial
I've thought about it a lot, and the best thing for an INFJ usually, in my opinion, is to be number 2. Under a leader that you respect and understand, but still leading and passing on knowledge
I am a customer service representative in the public sector. It is challenging but I have learnt so much over the years. I am helping people and I am getting better at communicating with rude people. Some kind of personalities can be quite trigger-y. But a lot of time I remind myself some people are angry without speaking with anybody. So I collect stories of unpleasant conversations and write social commentaries for my own amusement. Maybe one day I can turn the writing into a book.
that is rough! hopefully one day you'll be able to look back and see some good lessons you learned from having to work with difficult and angry people all day 😟
This might be one of the most important videos I've watched. I've been feeling a huge burn out this past months because I've been moved to another project and it feels like a mess. I think I've lost all of these 4 aspects you talked in the video. Thank you, from Brazil
I am an INFJ and according to the test. I went from a office job to teaching and i am very happy i made that choice. I was really suprised how much I missed helping people and just being interactive with people in general. However I can be exhausted from all the interactions at the end of the day.
Omg, all of this is what I do! 35 years as a clinical physical therapist teaching pilates & yoga & wellness in a private practice. Luv it so much that I do it everyday, and never tire. So grateful!
I really like how you seem to be suggesting here the need to make the job that you have right NOW a meaningful position. Too often I feel like introverted intuition can lead us on a sort of fruitless quest, chasing the pipe dream of a “perfect”career. The truth is (I think) NO career we pick will be perfect. It is up to us, therefore, to carve out meaning for ourselves within imperfect (sometimes banal) positions. That we currently find ourselves in. This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try to be anything more than a grocery bagger if that’s what we desire, it just means that, along our quest to an ideal career, there is MUCH meaning to be found if we look hard enough. Great vid.
I am like: I am messy and unorganized. I just realised that I was organizing my country's (India) education system from my childhood and wrote some essays on it too. Now, the changes I wanted to see is approaching with the name: National Education Policy and this is making me feel really good. You are really accurate man.
I work as a professional organizer helping people who are typically going through a challenging life transition - satisfying the desire to work with people on a practical and deeper personal level 🙃 Niche INFJ heaven
I remember working on a group project, and one of the members told me I was bossy. It hit me so hard, and I realised I could be controlling. Since then, I have become very conscious. I have high expectations, and I want every project to be done perfectly. Even though I don't like to be a leader, I can't help but step up when I find things subpar 😅
I have all of these things in my time as a PhD student in biomedical engineering and this explains why I am enjoying it so much. I get the independence to think of solutions and organize my data to find out some unique pattern in my data and then I have to communicate my complicated science to people. Add the fact that the overall goal is to create something to help in biomedical applications and it's an all around INFJ type job!
I take a sabbatical "year" for almost 4 years ... looking for a career that fulfills me as it says in the video ... But until now I do not know what I want to do. I am already in existential crisis, but I am afraid to choose something that does not fill me for the rest of my life. *crying*
Did the same thing for 3 years. I couldnt decide because choosing was going to afect my intire existence, witch is not true. We are people, we have familys, pets, friends, a hole community arround us. Having a job its only a part of our lives and It is ok to change paths. We still get home and mind our own bussiness and the PERFECT job isnt gonna change that. Thankfully, I had a person to sit down and Tell me that. I started college just to see what was like and now im almost graduated and decide to become a teacher. I realy love teaching, but i only descovered because i took the risk. Dont pressure yourself or you Will freeze and never decide. I choose to commit on doing a good job, no matter what i do. And Even if you (or i) decide to change latter on, your experience its still important. Just make sure you are making a difference ( and that could be everywhere, not only in a 9 to 5)
I don´t know if that´s still relevant for you, but I once watched a video where the advice was "You are not going to be stuck. Your are stuck NOW!" Your comment reminded me of that.
Meow, meow, meow...I'm not controlling. :P :) I think veterinary medicine is one of the most overlooked professions for INFJs. We all took the test at our clinic and 1/2 of all the people working there were INFJs! The rarest of types?! I think you are spot on with these four points. That is why we are all here.
Maybe because we overanalyse things. So when it's comes to choose a carreer, you only have a few viable options. I was thinking, medecine, veterinary, teacher, lawyer. Yup even if speach in front of a crowded place scared me to death at that time (stil does a bit). I picked biology teacher. Wich is kinda a veterinary that wasnt sure about opening animals and let them alive at the end ... lol Oh that rat is dead ... no problem it was the whole point ! Sucessssss !
My need for independence has become so strong that I can't even find a traditional job anymore. It feels like I'm suffocating if I'm stuck in that kind of job. And I'm actually studying International Psychology to open my own consultation business. ^^;
I cut hair and I’ve found that several INFJ’s do well in providing personal services for people. There’s a connection and the work is yours to create and help people find their mojo. I love the independence and the ability to work for yourself yet not be in charge of the entire business, while maintaining my own personal sense of autonomy.
As an INFJ I love being a chocolatier and patissier getting to let my creativity flow and control a product from the start till it gets send out to the costumers and pleasing them with lovely chocolates🍫
Does anyone else feel the need to research the answer for everything on their phone? I don’t even know if this would be related to INFJ. I’m just trying to link this into my personality. 🤦🏼♀️😂
Weirdly, as an INFJ, I found customer service in retail super fulfilling. I actually worked as the stockroom, operations and online sales manager and I was amazed at how rewarding it was. There were constant "problems" to solve in unique ways. It was all about increasing store performance and efficiency and being able to help the employees help the customers better. It sounds terrifying even thinking back on it but actually doing it was so rewarding. Built my confidence up until we got a general manager in there that was very his way or the highway and it made the job dreadful to go to. Customers ended up becoming very unhappy, employees were quitting left and right and store performance was suffering. I eventually left myself.. now a SAHM!
I'm a self employed massage therapist. I love helping others 🙌❤🙌, can't see myself doing anything else. I get to make my own schedule. I listen. There's a lot of deep communication with my clients during sessions (people open up about everything and anything when someone is truly hearing them). I get to be alone with one person at a time 😊. Massage therapy is beautiful and fulfilling work, I recommend! 🙏.
I'm a physiotherapist and the biopsychosocial model of managing a patient holistically (as opposed to just treating a limb) is so wonderful as an INFJ.
7:20 - "You need to feel like you're helping people." Yes, I really agree with this, but ... I've noticed that the vast majority of INFJ (or MBTI in general) advice equates being helpful to helping people. However, as an animal lover, I also get a great deal of satisfaction out of caring for animals, too. So, to me, being an INFJ means being helpful to sentient beings, and not just humans. I felt this point was worth mentioning, because only very rarely do I see it brought up.
Yap, get in touch with a living creature which has emotion and feeling, it works, animal is amazing, they're so pure... Okay, what about creating vegan movement so we can save animal from being consumed and make people healthier at the same time?
@@stevansiregar8853 Well, this is probably going to irritate you, but I don't think you have to be a vegetarian or vegan to love and help animals. My favorite animals are dogs (domestic wolves), which have been our partners for more than 30,000 years. Like humans, they are team-oriented persistence hunters, and we have been sharing our meat with each other since before agriculture began. I don't mean for this thread to go off on a tangent about nutrition and ethics in a channel on psychology. My only point is that you can be an omnivore and an animal lover at the same time.
I agree with this totally! I worked in Customer service. I never cared about people yelling at me which is why most people quit. I quit because my superiors would give us misinformation or not tell or update us on important matters in a reasonable time, therefore causing me to give our customers wrong information. Also this was dealing with people's health! I couldn’t have my consciousness attached to that so I quit. But I definitely liked to make peoples day just a bit better and all my customers told me not to quit because they needed more people like me who were helpful and they’re honestly the reason I stayed in the job for so long.
I remember working on a smart phone industry where I just had to sit and test every device for all day long and when I find a problem I just have to write on a sticker what's not working and stick it to the device, day after day I started adding drawings to the stickers so that the one repairing the phones would feel less bored. that was fun until the boss asked me to stop even tho it wasn't taking any additional time :(
ive been helping people so much that my body crashed with autoimmune disease and burnout. I had to stop working and for several years ive only been resting, healing and releasing the need to help others which actually destroyed my wellbeing. Now its all about my self, what feels good TO ME, what I LOVE, what nourishes ME, and having strong boundaries around others. I came to realize that what fulfills ME, will end up being exactly what others need. People can be helped through just being authentically myself without doing anything for them.
I almost never comment on stuff but..... I just wanted to say I really love your videos. I've been following you for a while and the content is helpful, relevant, and I love your sense of humor! Please keep doing your amazing work; you have impacted my life positively! :)
Almost all your videos are So accurate for describing me that it feels surreal. I’ve only known my type for a short while and knowing there are others like me ? It feels like a support group!
My main job involves one-on-one interaction but I'm alone for my side hustle. It's the perfect balance! We crave a job with clear and specified guidelines so we can pat ourselves on the back for following the rules while exercising some semblance of creative freedom. I hope you have a relaxing weekend, Frank.
Chloe H. Hey, Chloe! This reminds me of something I read about the advantage of having a side hustle that is different enough from your full-time that it gives you the kind of balance you’re talking about. I think it’s a really smart idea.
@@manager-nim2623 I'm just a friendly and fun state licensed driving instructor putting life and limb on the line for a private company to make driving safe for newbies and the rest of us!
I'm an INFJ and I'm working my way to become a teacher at a Christian Elementary School. I was led to this by God and I'm sure He led me to this video. Thank you Lord!!!! ❤️❤️ This makes so much sense, I didn't understand why I never felt like any career was good enough for me. I understand now what I was looking for and who I am.
INFJ hairstylist here, also assistant manager of the salon. I can relate to everything you've said. 😂😂 Inventory is one of my favorite things to do, and everyone else thinks I'm crazy!
Joshua Lefever hi Joshua! I am an INFJ and I’m thinking about becoming a hairdresser. Are you happy with your job? Which things bother you and which things make you happy?
I do appreciate system organizing. I organized the hell out of my file folders on my laptop during college and it felt cool. I appreciate effeciency and getting things done in a calm manner. I listen to how others are treated by those in management and I am very critical of their leadership styles and of overall group dynamics. I like physically labor intensive roles, and reading/analyzing how to start a project. I do feel bored when I am forced to work alone. Listening and communicating are what I thought were just perks of a work environment, but now your video has shown me that I don't need to be an extrovert to be able to have a job with a communicable emphasis. I'm young and only had 3 jobs in my life. I'm more critical about the next job I want because I have realized what I don't like.
Spot on! I was a journalist and then an advertising creative director, working for other corporations. Then I broke free and opened my own consulting firm and found my niche. Then, when I was done with that in my 40s, I went to seminary and became a spiritual director. Independently help people! That's what's always worked for me in some way, shape, or form!
If anyone is looking for inspiration, this is my very niche but perfect INFJ job: public guardian! I have the privilege to participate in and sometimes make financial and legal decisions for some of the most vulnerable people in our society - I literally "advocate" for the people I represent everyday! It requires tremendous organization skills, communicating with a ton of different people (the person themselves, healthcare, social workers, landlords, etc.) and requires professional judgment which means minimal management.
lmao this is so creepily accurate especially the “organizing part”. I’m a highschool senior student and i used to struggle in delivering reports before and i figured i should do scripts so i can familiarize with what i’m going to say in front of people and now it works because everyone thinks i’m a master at reporting even if i’m not i’m just pushing my shy self out of the comfort zone because my grades are suffering :”)
I'm an INFJ and I made a career change to become a teacher because of everything you just said. I just discovered your videos and I love them because I feel so understood!
Well, you just explained my entire career track. Always happy when helping, miserable when being micromanaged. Bailed on the corporate world and went into educational publishing for 20 years -- because trying to improve textbooks felt like helping people. Today, freelance writer, nonfiction author, and public speaker. Remarkable to learn how deeply this is anchored in my personality type. Thank you.
Interesting.. I’m also an INFJ who is struggling to find any type of work that is meaningful to me. I’m looking to get into copy editing, do you know anything about how hard that would be to get into? And could you make a living on it?
@@zaram131 If you are skilled with words and focused on details, there are people looking for good copy editors--and I know people who do make a living at it. Check some of the many resources on the Internet.
Frank definitely speaks my language. Since I was a kid I wanted to be a psychologist and almost made it. What turned me off was the many years of dealing with a crazy family who have wiped me out. I chose to get a masters in elementary education instead, that way I can have a positive impact on young children who you can really make a difference with on a daily basis.
I am a data scientist and I feel like this plays to all the items you spoke on. Data science is all about finding patterns and there are now many opportunities to do “data science for good”. I can be focused in on coding or interacting at meetings depending on the day. It’s a perfect blend. Version control is more integrated now when plays into my systematic nature. Data science is always changing and so complex it’s like an insurmountable mountain at times but that is part of the fun. So happy to find a fit I love.
SPOT ON! I'm a business consultant and my ENTIRE life I always knew i just NEED to help others. I don't care about money or anything. Consulting is the PERFECT career for me because I'm my own boss, i read my clients and can "dumb down" the way i speak to others so that they understand. I also use a lot of Photoshop to express my thoughts. I AM SO HAPPYYYYYYY. I was a chef and that wasn't doing it for me because the food is gone in 2 seconds and people don't appreciate food like they do building a business.
That moment when you are around really bossy and assertive extroverts and they are taking over. Then you are internally screaming: You are screwing this whole thing up. Then you make a little comment to yourself about an idea and some other extrovert hears it and speaks up and steals your idea and claims that it was their well thought out plan.
hi catherine :) I would strongly advice you stand up to those extraverts, especially that one who steals your idea. I know INFJs in general do not like conflicts, but our work is important to us, and we give it our all, so that in itself is reason enough to stand up for our rights. I hate injustices, so I had to write a long one here. haha
I'm an INFJ, and I call them out because extraverts hate looking bad infront of others. They usually stay quiet afterwards. But of course, because of my INFJ side I say it nice and the others know my implications. Like "thank you for elaborating MY idea, let me actually make some clarifications" and I probably say my idea again if anything 😂
@@karinacarvajal9919 Thanks for the advice. I feel like most the time when I do try to speak up for myself it seems to just get worse and there is more tension.
@@catherinearnold5857 ohhh girl, I get fired up inside. But of course, I try to hide it haha. I learned not to care and be open in what's my mind, people will see you're being genuine and that's what matters most. Just remember, it's a play of words on that moment. In a way, they cannot add or if they try to, it makes them seem like a jerk. You got it! You have that intuition and feeling with you. :) Use that empathy on your side! Also use it in your sweetest and most caring tone but assertive voice(yes, infjs are good at this) some may see it ironic but those are usually our introverts intuitive friends. They catch our drift haha.
It can be but it can also be very frustrating on some levels and very draining on other level. I am an INFJ-T physician and also highly empathetic so I get very drained emotionally and mentally by the challenges of taking care of people who are ill or broken. The frustrations lie in the inability to practice medicine to it’s greatest fulfillment because of rules and regulations imposing upon the physician. In other words, doctors don’t have as much autonomy as they used to and when you work for an organization, there are many decisions that are taken out of your hands which prevent you from being able to help people the way you want. Sorry for the long reply, I just wanted to give another prospective on being an INFJ Doctor.
But not all of us are that smart. I'm 25 years old, completed my MBA and worked in sales for a year and I quit. I realised that constantly talking to people drains me and my manager and most of the fellow co-workers were so toxic that I had to quit. I realised I wouldn't last long in any corporate job which is not helping me grow and not satisfying my soul. I don't know if I had anxiety before but I'm sure I have it now. I get any call, I get anxious and feel very nervous. It is because of my last job where I worked in toxic work environment and I might have PTSD. It's tough to change career now but I have to do it. It's the only way that I will survive and start loving my life and satisfying my soul.
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As an INFJ, I often find I like being second-in-command. It's high enough that I control most of what I do, I have an impact on the group, but everyone's attention goes to who's in charge.
Zak Brueckner ideal.
OMG...me to a T
One of the very reason I love what I do. I love working independently while still have an impact on the whole company.
You made me realize that I feel the same way, thank you for your comment :)
Literally what I have been saying my entire life.
1) Communication
2) Independance
3) Organizing
4) Helping people
Thanks, but I like to hear FJ share his thoughts and ideas.
Thanks! This is helpful for when you want to know what he said but don’t have the time to watch the whole video at the moment!
SO accurate
Mae for me #2 is the most important and #1 the least because I’m very introverted
#2 I hate being micromanaged
I think a good way to describe INFJs is “quiet strength”
yesss
I've also been called "glue" when referring to my leadership style lol, because INFJs tend to be that person who keeps a team together and prevents conflicts, whether they are aware of it or not
I am an infj and my teachers and trainers call me that all my life
Mmhmm
beautiful
I’m a good communicator... but written. I can not communicate as well verbally.
Kate Rush Same here. It difficult for me to find the right words when speaking out loud. I end up sounding like a fool and I no longer wish to speak aloud.
@Vincent Chachere thank you for giving me out ideas
I end up talking gibberish sometimes and my face gets heated pretty quickly when I receive attention while speaking especially if it's something I care or passionate about or if it's a bit personal to me
Same thing. Also biggest problem between my mum and me.
Same here, that is so relatable
Nothing irritates me more than being micromanaged - it actually slows me down, on purpose or not, it happens.
Wendy F oh my gosh, yes! Or being talked down to. Or feeling misunderstood/invalid in the workplace. There have been so many time we’re I’ve been yelled at for doing something “the wrong way” and I was actually correct
Yes, and especially when it's not really necessary. It's so frustrating
@@ZDoreTyr Yes! Same!!
So true! Huge pet peeve of mine. I need to work independantly. Wind me up and let me go!
Wendy F , Indeed. Micromanaging is a no no!
A career or job that allows INFJ's(Advocates) to:
1) Be communicating(somehow transforming info to others)
2) Have some degree of independence( job or career where you have some control)
3) Be organizing
4) Feel like you're helping people( you feel like its your purpose; if career or job doesn't allow this you feel like you're wasting your time)
Thank you!
OMGosh! I’m a Realtor. Nailed it! I’m also a Broker in Charge, so I communicate to others how to be successful in the same ways.
Yes I'm a doctor
Thanks saved time
You are right
As an INFJ, you are a good communicator
*forgets words to the point where people around me plays charades to figure out what I'm saying*
omg yes !!! do u have any idea as to why this happens tho lol
While public speaking I've forgotten what I was saying MID-SENTENCE on more than one occasion
It's ok it happens that's how we are😅
@@medhavigupta6146 omg this right here had me laughing so hard... it's so true! The 😂😂😂
Hee hee. I can relate.
If it's any consolation, I've recently heard that introverts tend to take longer to think about words than extroverts do. An introvert often needs more time to prepare words and express thoughts in just the right way, and indeed can be very effective communicators, but you need to give us enough time to think these things through.
As for me, I've found that I always have a much easier time in writing, because that gives me time to edit thoughts that I've already started to express. That way, I don't need review the thought multiple times inside my head before I can even begin to say it.
I've also found that after a lot of practice, I can do public and persuasive speaking effectively, but it's absolutely essential that I have time to prepare at least the main ideas beforehand. Otherwise, it will turn into a lot of rambling that makes a decent amount of sense to me, but most people will not see the overall purpose of what I try to communicate. That's been my experience.
Anyway. This is all to say, I think it's normal to struggle with stumbling over words as an INFJ, but it doesn't need to be a crippling weakness, and it's definitely not something to beat ourselves up over.
I get bored of jobs/careers after I feel like I "master" them...anyone else?
Yes!!! Me too!!
And then I drag myself because i feel like I have nothing else to learn
Omg me too!!!!
Yup
The key is to keep developing and keep educating yourself in the job and switch and use your old knowledge in a new setting also NGO’s are good as employer because you do a lot of doing everything !
Public speaking has held me back. Ive learned to do it. I am now 42. Lmao. Best advice for public speaking ever.
REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE HERE TO CONVEY IMPORTANT INFORMATION. THIS SPEACH IS NOT ABOUT YOU OR HOW YOU LOOK OR SOUND. THE MESSAGE AND THE INFORMATION IS IMPORTANT.
Hope this helps someone :)
Yep, me 👩🌾! Thanks!
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thank you
This is actually some good advice! Thank you
thank you
"I want to get into you very soul and somehow make things better" Yup, that's me.
Isabella Y
Many people hate it! Being a therapist to your friend is like abusing their boundaries. So I try to not overdo it.
@@katyadade1041 Same. Sometimes being a friend is enough - in our case, where we don't pry too much into their lives.
so hard :
Hahaha, yep!
me too!!!
Grocery baggers communicate, work independently, organize the groceries into certain bags, and are absolutely helping people.
it's all in perspective!
I had a great conversation with the bagger at Trader Joe's yesterday. They're always so nice!
But bags are killing the earth, man.
aveuch reusable?
@@aveuch This sounds crazy...but sometimes stores have people that can put stuff in cloth bags. O_O I know!!! What a world!
For me, helping people is not a chore or a grind. It makes me feel good, even if the rest of the world doesn't recognize it. Nobody can erase what I've done.
Very well said ❤
Yes! It's like a hobby not a responsibility.
INFJ and psychologist in private practice - and I could not be happier.
That is an absolute dream career, wow.
INFJ and hoping to get my Masters in Counselling Psychology! Pretty excited for what the future holds
Thayer Sinclair what i need to do. Lol
Bravo - I couldn’t do it...I’m an empath too and people and their life crap drain me terribly...but I love to try to help others! I’m such an anomaly
Thayer Sinclair, how have you dealt with the difficulties of hearing so many unpleasant feelings and stories all day?
I wanted to be a psychologist, but a friend who was discouraged me because I soak up others' emotions.
Just recently, I have learned that I am an INFJ - T. I know that I am kinda weird but there's a reason why. All of the info in this video is true. I want to be a Psychologist too but I am afraid that I will just absorb the painful emotions of others. I can't help it, it is so natural to me.
This is exactly how I feel right now
An INFJs ability to really feel and understand what the other person is going through is the exact skill set that will make you extremely successful and being a psychologist. If you want any ideas on how to deal with those emotions just reply and I'll answer you!
Same!
Same here
Maryknole Montales .. As a 49 year old INFJ-A and intuitive empath that always wanted to be a psychologist or psychiatrist, but didn’t follow into the career path because of that SAME EXACT reason... I can tell you.. It doesn’t matter if you do it professionally or not, as people will ALWAYS find you and you’ll wind up counseling or playing psychologist to them anyhow! It’s funny that so many INFJs see this as a perfect career path yet they’re afraid of dealing with depressed ppl all of the time.. but the truth is.. THEY WILL FIND YOU ANYHOW!! 😂 You all might as well go the path and get paid for it.. I wish I had!
I'm an INFJ and I've spent a LONG time trying new things feeling like nothing quite fit (until my current job). I've been in the Army, a firefighter/paramedic, and in business, but I didn't feel truly "at home" or in the right profession until I became a massage therapist. It's by far the most fulfilling work (for me) that I've ever done!
If you don't mind me asking. How did you become a massage therapist and how were you able to pay for it?
What makes you think massage therapist is your calling?
@@riskitaufism they're happy, fulfilled, what emotion calls you? hope u find what you're looking for
I majored fashion design, move to Australia and studied nursing, after I studied in bible college 🤣 we Infj always seek what would be the best for us.
Do your hands get tired?
Uncannily, "I'm not controlling, meow-meow-meow" is EXACTLY what I said.
Lol. I always say "I'm not controlling. As long as everything is how I want it I'm totally flexible."😂
😂
lol
uh you don't know my life..meow meow meow....you are killing me :P
Lmao! 🤣
Dream job: Spread kindness rocks for everyone, everywhere by myself and pet all the dogs.
Kimmberly Bowen 😂❤️😂❤️
Aaah yes!
You misspelled cats!
Definitely a dream job❤️
Yesss
I think that harmony is also very important to INFJs. So I would add that workplaces with a lot of conflict or even competition are difficult for us
I don't know if this is how it is for others, but I feel like I want to communicate with others, but I've felt so ignored or misunderstood, or people just don't care what I say or they don't really listen and try to understand that I just don't share my thoughts much with anyone anymore.
Malanee Dale yes
Me too
Yes!
Also, much of the time I’m explaining something that is obvious to me (the pattern detector), and they’re oblivious and dismissive.
SO frustrating.
Demoralizing.
Malanee Dale Yup.
So relatable
INFJ firefighter here. I went down a lot of different career paths and moved all over the world prior to my current occupation. Gave up a cozy white collar career and took a significant pay cut to get where I am today, but I’m much happier with my life now.
Thanks for the insights, Frank.
Hats off brother.. Keep up good work. 👍
What do you enjoy about being a fire fighter? I am trying to change career directions because I have started wondering if extroverted sensing needs to play some sort of part in my career happiness. I guess as a fire fighter, extroverted sensing plays a big part in your career. I hated being a psychologist, I am restless and I do not really have the patience week in week out to be dealing with someone who is making slow or no progress. I was quite surprised by this. Social work would probably have been better because there is more active moving around usually and you can also provide some sort of practical help alongside the abstract but social work salaries are usually really bad.
Very surprised that being a firefighter would make an INFJ happy. It seems like it would be full of surprise and change of directions. No ability to plan out even the next 5 minutes because there might be a call at any time? And it is very hands on "doing" and not so much intuitive. Are you absolutely certain you are an INFJ? Could you perhaps be an ISFP?
@@YAMISOOLD2009 Im an infj and I wanna be a firefighter so bad!! Saving people from danger between the flames sacrificing myself for them breaking doors lifting them Its just so nice but unfortunately I will never be a firefighter for Some reasons that have no solutions
@@YAMISOOLD2009As an INFJ-A who has also served as a firefighter, I can say it is very fulfilling. I think the public perception is that it’s full of surprises and unpredictable but in reality most days are filled with routine type of calls. Beyond that, it fits our personalities well because we do in fact get to help people. A firefighter is a blue-collar, jacks of all trade, problem solver who gets to use their intuitive abilities to recognize patterns and problems then communicate well with a team to solve those problems, which often leads to helping people. Also, when you’re well-trained, most incidents which seem “surprising” or “chaotic” are able to be organized and approached systematically or creatively, making it a perfect fit for an INFJ.
I'm an INFJ and a teacher. It ticks all the boxes and the empathy really helps build relationships with high school kids. I never thought I wanted to be a teacher cos my parents are ...but it's a calling.
Often thought about teaching but the emotional energy may be too draining + mega organisation + lack of independence
@@BaltzerBoy same
I'm on my way of becoming a teacher and can't wait . I always wanted to be one but the the urge is stronger than before. Seems fitting
@@BaltzerBoy same. Have tried it for over a decade straight, a couple decades plus training when a college student. Regarding your comments, my thoughts are that although teaching is highly rewarding in multiple aspects, the exhaustion and problems from the points you mentioned is acute at times and might cause some chronic debilitation. Holidays might only be times for recovery. I am on long leave now, unpaid which is stressful not only because of being away from work but particularly because cannot fulfil financial obligations when leave is too long. There are fitting teaching positions out there but they do require much searching; pay is also an issue as pay needs to be sufficient so teachers can avoid the need to work second or third jobs, to be able to save, and to truly refresh from the nonstop attention generally required as a teacher at school and frequent preparation generally required when at home. It is intense.
Been teaching 20 years in UK. Not the job for an infj unless you can ruthlessly ignore the ridiculous requests and expectations from management, in order to not burn yourself out.
Definitely dont teach mainstream....it is most likely not what you think it will be.
this is great! Almost 70 year old INFJ. Have had 4 careers, math teacher, journalist, care giver in L'Arche community ' spiritual director. This last is exactly what you're describing. Plus I'm an author and regular columnist. And a grandma!
Happy to have found this channel.
Coool! (from another nature lady)
that was MATURE .
I am 26 yr old math teacher...I love my job bt hate principal
Spiritual director - sounds really intriguing!
@@jamieleemeyer2993 it's a great vocation. You can find out all about what we do thru SDI: Spiritual Directors International.
On being a good communicator:
I can communicate my ass off on paper. I can write you a dissertation and source it Chicago-Turabian Style (my History lovers will understand the reference) and everything. But nothing is scarier in this world than having to stand on a stage and verbalize your thoughts in front of a group of people. Public Speaking is scarier than death. I wonder if anybody else can relate. I love putting on paper my thoughts or what I've learned, but don't you dare ask me to speak to a group of people.
yea I know what you mean, during a public speaking my head started shaking like wtf, that has never happened before. I think my entire body was shaking but I was able to stop everything except the head xD
I'm an INFJ and I'm a lawyer and the only aspect of law that makes sense to me has been Human rights, a part of law that actually allows me to help people, every other aspect of law just seems pointless to me, this video has been so helpful I never really understood why until now.
@@wizeller5040 I experience the body shaking Evey single time, which is funny considering the amount of times I have had to speak in public but when it comes down to it, I find my voice and speak very eloquently and I always know what to say to rub on everyone's good side however I have found it harder to communicate properly to family and loved ones because I just don't want to hurt their feelings.
I agree with you, however... I have found in the past that I always find the right words and get in the flow once I start talking. I need to know what I am talking about and cannot prepare by writing a script.
And yes, a lifetime of not being heard didn't help. It helps to stay silent until people want to hear what I have to say...
OMG ME ALL OVER.
Spot on!! My “soul destroying” jobs have been ones that don’t require creative input, being micro managed, working with poor communicators, and an open plan office that’s ‘pin-drop’ quiet. I don’t last.
I worked in a job like this and almost killed myself
My job is in a call centre and it's basically micromanaged totalitarianism. I'm nearly dead.
I ran away from those jobs. 😂
More like loud and obnoxious… wish it was quiet
Mm huh and S as in the I in INFJ. Lol yup and loud, and mmmmhuh maybe I am annoying.
I used to feel depressed about the insignificance of my work as a lobby receptionist. Then, my outlook changed, and I saw so many ways I could be beneficial ..throughout the course of the day. It’s not really the job that’s meaningful or meaningless .. it’s my attitude about living my life .. which in that case makes every move I make a blessing to myself. And even if I only help my self, well that’s a good way to live . 🧚🏼♂️
Amen! :)
exactly, the attitude is so important!
A nice receptionist can totally switch the tone of someone's day! There are lots of times when I was feeling kinda depressed but some random receptionist treating me nicely suddenly made me feel more confident, which in turn helped me be nicer to others for the rest of the day. ^_^
@@uzaiya8864 Absolutely!!! There are those times of confusion and sorrows in life when first stop is talking to the receptionist and so many of us not knowing How to ask for help or just drowning in our circumstance and a kind hearted and helpful receptionist can make all the difference in the world!
Much Peace to you and yours :)
I'm an INFJ working at a public library, honestly one of the most fulfilling jobs I've ever had. I help people from all walks of life all day but I also have the option of hiding in the stacks putting books away :)
If you don't mind me asking, what is your job title and what education was needed? This is an area I am interested in.
@@jenleber1035 my job title is library aide but I think it's also called library clerk someplaces. The only requirements were be able to read, write and learn instructions and have customer service experience, thats a big part of it. I did have to take a test for the county I work for to get the interview, multiple choice with a focus on alphabetizing, easy logic questions etc. I work in a fairly large library system with multiple branches so it might be different in other places
@@stripeysockey thank you so much for the reply! I really appreciate it!
I’ve been an independent hairstylist for 30 years. Still love it. I make my own schedule, I’m creative, I make people feel good. I love hearing all these videos. I’ve never felt so seen.
Age 58 INFJ..... You are speaking the truth. Keep up the great work. YOU are helping people... (and me).
He said, “I’m not controlling... meow, meow, meow,” and it iterally made me spit out my coffee. I’m deceased.
hehehehehe
I've listened to that part like 4 times now and still laugh out loud. I'm gonna listen to it again! HAHAHAHAHA!!!!! meow meow meow!
how many INFJ's love this pandemic-working-from-home situation!! *raises hand
Yes...but it's driving me crazy a little because I like to read people to know where I stand with them. I work on a team.
I hated it. Left an IT $28 an hour job for $13 dollar job at a supermarket because I couldn't stand being alone while part of a 'team' all day long.
I wouldn't say as an INFJ I love this working from home WFH. There is a certain amount of interaction, feeling and reading of people we need. I am less exhausted in general WFH though.
@@sackpersoncool I feel you on this. I went for a year doing almost nothing at my job all while trying to "force" myself to get better. I read like dozens of self help books. I eventually lost my job. No one communicated, even the managers. I felt abandoned and it was hard to feel like there was a purpose. I couldn't deal without the interaction. I am an introvert yes, but giving and getting support is extremely important to me. I don't feel healthy without it.
I hate it just being at home..
I would just add that as an INFJ I need a break from people at some point. I am in the social work profession and I have to schedule time to be alone to recharge after meeting with clients. Even if it's just ten minutes between sessions. When I have days where I'm stuck in training all day with a "working" lunch it's torture. I often end up with a migraine on those days.
Jennifer Holwell oh I studied social work for a while then dropped out. I really couldn’t do it, it literally gave me migraines and I was hospitalised because of it. It would just make me so upset to not be able to help everyone. Everything was so beyond my control. Kudo’s to you for actually being able to deal with Social work as an INFJ ❤️
my coworkers like to have lunch together and talk. I just eat in my car and like listen to nothing- INFJ things
''if you're in a job & suddenly feel you're not helping people you're gonna have an existential crisis'' this hits hard because it actually happend to me..thank you so much for this great content and amzing advice it's gonna help guiding me to have a more fulfilling life 😊
get out of it ! work hard, your soul is getting crushed in that office
This happened to me as a nurse during the pandemic.🥲
Same here. I've been working in an office, in front of a computer for almost a year now, and I feel awful, it draws all the energy from me, just like Franc said I miss working with people, and helping them, even simply moving around. Not to mention the artificial and heartless structure of the corporation. But now at least I know what I need to look for so maybe, at least in this matter, it wasn't all for nothing :)
it just happened to me too at 26!!! I picked my career four years ago when I knew nothing about myself! I'm currently looking for an abstract major to go back to school for lollollol. I feel so seen now though bless this video.
As an INFJ with a brain injury(car accident) that has made it almost impossible for verbal communication to happen, I fully agree that we want to communicate something helpful to other people and are depressed when we can't. Yay for writing!!
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Ok, so let's see... I'm a freelance translator and interpreter
1. Communication - ✓
2. Independence - ✓
3. Organisation - ✓ (interpreters have to make sense out of sometimes incoherent and disorganized speeches, so lots of Ni work here)
4. Helping others - ✓
Do I feel fulfilled? Yep.
... meow, meow, meow.
I'm a freelance translator too (not an interpreter though). I wonder how many other INFJs have a career in languages. It's a field that seems to suit our type quite well.
OMG! I just came across this. Another INFJ and freelance translator and interpreter here! 🙋🏽♀️ This is amazing.
@@matthewcrossan2177 My minor is in Linguistics/Languages. My major is Child Psych.
I love languages! But unfortunately I'm stuck studying medical laboratories :'( but hopefully I'll be able to do that for a living I LOVE making sense out of disorganized shit
How did you get your job tho? I'm so interested
I recently separated from my husband of 15 years. A marriage I have felt lost in for at least the last 10 of those.(typical infj who fought to the last breath lol)I only recently found out I'm an INFJ and had that eureka moment of....holy s#@t! This explains....everything!! I started a degree last year in forensic psychology, something I have just always been naturally drawn too, and I feel like this is the first time in such a long time that I am me! I am a 39year old stay at home mother of 3 boys so for those of you who feel lost in your life whether it be in a relationship or a career, a more fulfilling life is possible...no matter how old you are....come to think of it...probably better as you get older and get that SE function sorted! 😁 (and leave your manipulative partners)
This is such a wonderful post! Thank you for sharing your story!! And Best of all great things for you!
that's inspiring, Brenda, I hope lots of people see your comment!
Thank you Frank...I hope so too...I also hope they dont see the typo I now see in said comment 🤣
Thanks very much Brenda, for your encouragement! Appreciate that :)
Thanks Brenda, really appreciate you sharing here. That was inspirational indeed ❤️
I'm an INFJ -T and I took a placement test to see what I should go to school for. #1 was Graphic Design #2 was Librarian #3 was Computer Programmer. I opted for #3. I've never regretted it. I raised 3 children on my own (without any support from anywhere). I think INFJs can be very goal orientated when there is no outer interruptions. I just made life more simple by concentrating only on school and the children. I had to break life down to just the basics else I'd be too stressed out.
what helps you as career
I love the library
Can’t believe you raised three children on your own, I’m not even ready to have one yet lol
Same here. I raised two children on my own and worked in IT. I got into Data Center management which I found a good mix of technical and people work.
I actually found it easier raising my kids on my own. A husband was just one more job to do LOL and I know I needed to focus on career and children
@@patriciaeddishaw9244 data center management sounds interesting
I'm an INFJ, I'm a teacher and I love my job. ☺ 😍
I want to be a teacher as well! 😁
Maybe teaching is my calling
I’m also an INFJ teacher. Working with high school kids can have its ups and downs but it DEFINITELY gives me that #4 crucial requirement
Yesss. I am an infj and a teacher. I planned to leave the job and go for a high paying job. But I couldn't leave.
I kinda of wanted to ask why you love your job?
Im still in college rn and will soon become a teacher.
I've always felt so lonely, thinking I was the only one feeling exactly like this guy is describing INFJs; I never thought someone could just speak my whole personality in a single video, when not even my family can fully understand me. I'm so glad that apparently I'm not alone in my introspective mess...
Fr bro
Discovering my personality type is so mind-blowing to me. I’ve always wondered what’s “wrong” with me. This is so helpful!!
I know you mentioned being good communicators in here, and I wanted to speak to that a bit. As an INFJ, there are times where I feel impromptu verbal communication can be awkward or contrived, but when I take the time to think and write what I want to say, I can clearly and effectively express the seemingly inexpressible. And sometimes the thoughts I want to convey are so overwhelmingly multitudinous that by writing it out, it's easier to sort out all the information and find the precise way to word what you want to say.
tl;dr: written communication>verbal communication
Same here. I feel like I come off as stupid to others. I think in a complex manner, but when I am given time to write it out I can get my message across clearly and effectively. People are often surprised. I'm a lot smarter than I look.
True!
@@Crysta1986 frr😭
Exactly yes!!!
This is why I always maintain that I write far better than I speak.
can we talk about the infj's darker tendencies when they aren't succeeding? i.e. predeliction for self-sabotage
Christian Beale oh man do i go into a hole....
I am in therapy during the whole carantine and my therapist is struggling to help me with self-sabotage at remote working. I spiral down to my university self thinking there’s too much work to handle it all well.
That’s hard to see yourself protecting yourself from failure by not trying at all.
Sooooo very true. It's painful.
i dropped out of university, couldn't see the purpose in living, and slept for 23 hours a day from the age of 18 til 25. Fell into depression so deep that death would have felt like mercy. But I'm slowing climbing out, although I'm still sleeping like 15 hours a day and extremely unproductive.
But I guess being INFJ I'm good at seeing the big picture? With getting into bitcoin in like 2014 (though i had no money, otherwise I'd be a millionaire now, easily), and finding opportunities here and there that allowed me to spend like 15 hours a year on productive work to be able to sustain my rent/food/utilities for the entire year, I managed to... not starve to death (although I almost did at one point.)
@@katyadade1041 That is what I am doing. I am protecting myself from failure by not even playing the game anymore. Luckily I have a wife who does not share the same personality as me. She continues to work to support us. I would be in a real pickle without her!
Watching this wide eyed thinking “this man has looked into my very soul”! Yes I am an INFJ..
I thought the same and I am glad I found this channel. Definitely my favorite one.
“We don’t want to do it in a practical way (help people) like ‘here’s a cookie’, we want to do it in an abstract way.” 😂😂😂😂😂😂
could it be we take for granted the obvious and emphasize taking the red pill to wake up?
There’s such a thing as “business culture” or the cultural attitudes of what success values are emphasized. See “Brand Archetypes”. (www.thehartford.com/business-insurance/strategy/brand-archetypes/choosing-brand-archetype) From reading the comments, an INFJ leader would likely make a business culture that is either, “The Creator,” “The Regular Guy or Gal,” or “The Caregiver. The first emphasizing emotional creativity and vulnerability, the second simplicity and humility, and the third open kindness and getting along. The first seems like a type 4 INFJ, the second seems like a type 9 INFJ, and the third seems like a type 2 INFJ. There could be others though. See archetypes.com for more on the 12 Jungian archetypes.
The "I'm not helping anyone" going existential crisis was me at 16 years old and me at 17 years old trying to find a career path lol it's serious guys, #4 is really crucial
Omg this is me right now, I'm 17 and I just graduated I'm just totally panicking.
Me.
Me..
Same here 💀it's one year left to choose a career...
Btw, how what did you choose? :)
@@AlionaLukina me rn, helppp :(
I've thought about it a lot, and the best thing for an INFJ usually, in my opinion, is to be number 2. Under a leader that you respect and understand, but still leading and passing on knowledge
So a consultant
@@Samaッ That would be it. Right? Consultant.
@@galespressos yes, a consultant works under a manager
Agree. A number 2.
@@Samaッ What type of consultant?
Dear INFJs,
You rock!!
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me, an infj, working in a call center in customer support, crying everyday...
I'm so freaking sorry. Is there anything creative or anything you could start doing as a living? As a side job at first?
I am a customer service representative in the public sector. It is challenging but I have learnt so much over the years. I am helping people and I am getting better at communicating with rude people. Some kind of personalities can be quite trigger-y. But a lot of time I remind myself some people are angry without speaking with anybody. So I collect stories of unpleasant conversations and write social commentaries for my own amusement. Maybe one day I can turn the writing into a book.
that is rough! hopefully one day you'll be able to look back and see some good lessons you learned from having to work with difficult and angry people all day 😟
I’ve been there sis.
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This might be one of the most important videos I've watched. I've been feeling a huge burn out this past months because I've been moved to another project and it feels like a mess. I think I've lost all of these 4 aspects you talked in the video.
Thank you, from Brazil
Glad it was helpful!
I am an INFJ and according to the test. I went from a office job to teaching and i am very happy i made that choice. I was really suprised how much I missed helping people and just being interactive with people in general. However I can be exhausted from all the interactions at the end of the day.
"I'm not controlling, meow meow meow!". Such amaze!
Omg, all of this is what I do! 35 years as a clinical physical therapist teaching pilates & yoga & wellness in a private practice. Luv it so much that I do it everyday, and never tire. So grateful!
I really like how you seem to be suggesting here the need to make the job that you have right NOW a meaningful position. Too often I feel like introverted intuition can lead us on a sort of fruitless quest, chasing the pipe dream of a “perfect”career. The truth is (I think) NO career we pick will be perfect. It is up to us, therefore, to carve out meaning for ourselves within imperfect (sometimes banal) positions. That we currently find ourselves in.
This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try to be anything more than a grocery bagger if that’s what we desire, it just means that, along our quest to an ideal career, there is MUCH meaning to be found if we look hard enough.
Great vid.
Well said
INFJ on my way to being a librarian 😊.
My husband would definitely say that I’m controlling and neurotic about my kitchen system for example lol
I'm an INFJ and I'm also on my way to become a librarian. :)
Hey I'm an infj library student too!
I am like: I am messy and unorganized.
I just realised that I was organizing my country's (India) education system from my childhood and wrote some essays on it too. Now, the changes I wanted to see is approaching with the name: National Education Policy and this is making me feel really good.
You are really accurate man.
So what job are you gonna do me to from India I thought as this education system need adjustedment
Hey, I'm an INFJ too, and always had similar thoughts although I believe there is far more development needed
I work as a professional organizer helping people who are typically going through a challenging life transition - satisfying the desire to work with people on a practical and deeper personal level 🙃 Niche INFJ heaven
Oh that's a brilliant career idea!!
It's always been my, "if I weren't doing what I do, I could really enjoy" fantasy.
What do you mean by this
I'm a freelancer, yes what you say is spot on! For the best for yourself you need to follow your inspiration.
you're living the dream, Mark!
I remember working on a group project, and one of the members told me I was bossy. It hit me so hard, and I realised I could be controlling. Since then, I have become very conscious. I have high expectations, and I want every project to be done perfectly. Even though I don't like to be a leader, I can't help but step up when I find things subpar 😅
I’m an INFJ special education teacher and it’s such a great fit. I’m lucky that my administration gives me a lot of independence.
I have all of these things in my time as a PhD student in biomedical engineering and this explains why I am enjoying it so much. I get the independence to think of solutions and organize my data to find out some unique pattern in my data and then I have to communicate my complicated science to people. Add the fact that the overall goal is to create something to help in biomedical applications and it's an all around INFJ type job!
I take a sabbatical "year" for almost 4 years ... looking for a career that fulfills me as it says in the video ... But until now I do not know what I want to do. I am already in existential crisis, but I am afraid to choose something that does not fill me for the rest of my life. *crying*
Did the same thing for 3 years. I couldnt decide because choosing was going to afect my intire existence, witch is not true. We are people, we have familys, pets, friends, a hole community arround us. Having a job its only a part of our lives and It is ok to change paths. We still get home and mind our own bussiness and the PERFECT job isnt gonna change that. Thankfully, I had a person to sit down and Tell me that. I started college just to see what was like and now im almost graduated and decide to become a teacher. I realy love teaching, but i only descovered because i took the risk. Dont pressure yourself or you Will freeze and never decide. I choose to commit on doing a good job, no matter what i do.
And Even if you (or i) decide to change latter on, your experience its still important. Just make sure you are making a difference ( and that could be everywhere, not only in a 9 to 5)
I don´t know if that´s still relevant for you, but I once watched a video where the advice was "You are not going to be stuck. Your are stuck NOW!" Your comment reminded me of that.
I’m in the same boat
Same
My sabbatical also turned into 3 years. I used to think my traits were a weakness. Now I recognize them as strengths 💪🏻 INFJs are unicorns 🦄
Meow, meow, meow...I'm not controlling. :P :) I think veterinary medicine is one of the most overlooked professions for INFJs. We all took the test at our clinic and 1/2 of all the people working there were INFJs! The rarest of types?! I think you are spot on with these four points. That is why we are all here.
Makes perfect sense to me. You are helping a fellow soul, but they don't talk back and complain, but you can feel their needs just the same.
Maybe because we overanalyse things. So when it's comes to choose a carreer, you only have a few viable options. I was thinking, medecine, veterinary, teacher, lawyer. Yup even if speach in front of a crowded place scared me to death at that time (stil does a bit). I picked biology teacher. Wich is kinda a veterinary that wasnt sure about opening animals and let them alive at the end ... lol Oh that rat is dead ... no problem it was the whole point ! Sucessssss !
So what was the other half?
My need for independence has become so strong that I can't even find a traditional job anymore. It feels like I'm suffocating if I'm stuck in that kind of job. And I'm actually studying International Psychology to open my own consultation business. ^^;
I cut hair and I’ve found that several INFJ’s do well in providing personal services for people. There’s a connection and the work is yours to create and help people find their mojo. I love the independence and the ability to work for yourself yet not be in charge of the entire business, while maintaining my own personal sense of autonomy.
As an INFJ I love being a chocolatier and patissier getting to let my creativity flow and control a product from the start till it gets send out to the costumers and pleasing them with lovely chocolates🍫
4 reasons that perfectly explain why I'm becoming a teacher (:
What's the "die" Janne about?
@@jannley3036 it's just the German definite article, nothing to worry about.
Me too! What teacher are you planning to be? Im going to major in physics so i can become a professor at a university :D
I'm a primary teacher. It's awesome.
Nailed.
Does anyone else feel the need to research the answer for everything on their phone? I don’t even know if this would be related to INFJ. I’m just trying to link this into my personality. 🤦🏼♀️😂
I'm OCD and do this.
YES absolutley! lol
Yes me too!
I research the answer to everything on my desktop computer, and only use a phone if I have no other choice.
Though I'm an INTJ.
I think it's part of being perfectionistic
Weirdly, as an INFJ, I found customer service in retail super fulfilling. I actually worked as the stockroom, operations and online sales manager and I was amazed at how rewarding it was. There were constant "problems" to solve in unique ways. It was all about increasing store performance and efficiency and being able to help the employees help the customers better. It sounds terrifying even thinking back on it but actually doing it was so rewarding. Built my confidence up until we got a general manager in there that was very his way or the highway and it made the job dreadful to go to. Customers ended up becoming very unhappy, employees were quitting left and right and store performance was suffering. I eventually left myself.. now a SAHM!
I'm a self employed massage therapist. I love helping others 🙌❤🙌, can't see myself doing anything else. I get to make my own schedule. I listen. There's a lot of deep communication with my clients during sessions (people open up about everything and anything when someone is truly hearing them). I get to be alone with one person at a time 😊. Massage therapy is beautiful and fulfilling work, I recommend! 🙏.
I want to be a physical therapist because of that too! One on one communication while helping someone on a deeper level...can only dream rn!
I'm a physiotherapist and the biopsychosocial model of managing a patient holistically (as opposed to just treating a limb) is so wonderful as an INFJ.
Me too!
7:20 - "You need to feel like you're helping people." Yes, I really agree with this, but ... I've noticed that the vast majority of INFJ (or MBTI in general) advice equates being helpful to helping people. However, as an animal lover, I also get a great deal of satisfaction out of caring for animals, too. So, to me, being an INFJ means being helpful to sentient beings, and not just humans. I felt this point was worth mentioning, because only very rarely do I see it brought up.
I feel it like "helping the world" in the sense of every good thing you can do to any life being on earth. So I understand you very well!
Yap, get in touch with a living creature which has emotion and feeling, it works, animal is amazing, they're so pure...
Okay, what about creating vegan movement so we can save animal from being consumed and make people healthier at the same time?
@@stevansiregar8853 Well, this is probably going to irritate you, but I don't think you have to be a vegetarian or vegan to love and help animals. My favorite animals are dogs (domestic wolves), which have been our partners for more than 30,000 years. Like humans, they are team-oriented persistence hunters, and we have been sharing our meat with each other since before agriculture began. I don't mean for this thread to go off on a tangent about nutrition and ethics in a channel on psychology. My only point is that you can be an omnivore and an animal lover at the same time.
I agree with this totally! I worked in Customer service. I never cared about people yelling at me which is why most people quit. I quit because my superiors would give us misinformation or not tell or update us on important matters in a reasonable time, therefore causing me to give our customers wrong information. Also this was dealing with people's health! I couldn’t have my consciousness attached to that so I quit. But I definitely liked to make peoples day just a bit better and all my customers told me not to quit because they needed more people like me who were helpful and they’re honestly the reason I stayed in the job for so long.
INFJ. Child Welfare Case Manager advocating for families. Love what I do, love the families I engage with. You nailed this one.
I remember working on a smart phone industry where I just had to sit and test every device for all day long and when I find a problem I just have to write on a sticker what's not working and stick it to the device, day after day I started adding drawings to the stickers so that the one repairing the phones would feel less bored.
that was fun until the boss asked me to stop even tho it wasn't taking any additional time :(
Hahaha
ive been helping people so much that my body crashed with autoimmune disease and burnout. I had to stop working and for several years ive only been resting, healing and releasing the need to help others which actually destroyed my wellbeing. Now its all about my self, what feels good TO ME, what I LOVE, what nourishes ME, and having strong boundaries around others. I came to realize that what fulfills ME, will end up being exactly what others need. People can be helped through just being authentically myself without doing anything for them.
I almost never comment on stuff but..... I just wanted to say I really love your videos. I've been following you for a while and the content is helpful, relevant, and I love your sense of humor! Please keep doing your amazing work; you have impacted my life positively! :)
Karen B love your comment :)
I keep forgetting that I'm not a freaky, unsuccessful, invisible passionflower, I'm an INFJ through and through. Thank you!
Almost all your videos are So accurate for describing me that it feels surreal. I’ve only known my type for a short while and knowing there are others like me ? It feels like a support group!
I'm crying! This is so accurate! There's just something about people echoing your core and putting it simplistically Thank you for this video!
My main job involves one-on-one interaction but I'm alone for my side hustle. It's the perfect balance! We crave a job with clear and specified guidelines so we can pat ourselves on the back for following the rules while exercising some semblance of creative freedom.
I hope you have a relaxing weekend, Frank.
thanks, Chloe! hope your weekend is good too
Chloe H. Hey, Chloe! This reminds me of something I read about the advantage of having a side hustle that is different enough from your full-time that it gives you the kind of balance you’re talking about. I think it’s a really smart idea.
@@itsaishawhite It has certainly been helpful in my case, Aisha!
May I ask what do you do for a living?
@@manager-nim2623 I'm just a friendly and fun state licensed driving instructor putting life and limb on the line for a private company to make driving safe for newbies and the rest of us!
I'm an INFJ and I'm working my way to become a teacher at a Christian Elementary School. I was led to this by God and I'm sure He led me to this video. Thank you Lord!!!! ❤️❤️
This makes so much sense, I didn't understand why I never felt like any career was good enough for me. I understand now what I was looking for and who I am.
INFJ hairstylist here, also assistant manager of the salon. I can relate to everything you've said. 😂😂
Inventory is one of my favorite things to do, and everyone else thinks I'm crazy!
Joshua Lefever wow ! That’s a good one getting to invent how other people seems someone beauty and Style and a psychologist in one - coool!
Joshua Lefever hey that’s me too!!! Lol
Joshua Lefever hi Joshua! I am an INFJ and I’m thinking about becoming a hairdresser. Are you happy with your job? Which things bother you and which things make you happy?
Omg so relatable when I worked at Sephora!! Lil
I do appreciate system organizing. I organized the hell out of my file folders on my laptop during college and it felt cool. I appreciate effeciency and getting things done in a calm manner. I listen to how others are treated by those in management and I am very critical of their leadership styles and of overall group dynamics. I like physically labor intensive roles, and reading/analyzing how to start a project. I do feel bored when I am forced to work alone. Listening and communicating are what I thought were just perks of a work environment, but now your video has shown me that I don't need to be an extrovert to be able to have a job with a communicable emphasis. I'm young and only had 3 jobs in my life. I'm more critical about the next job I want because I have realized what I don't like.
Spot on! I was a journalist and then an advertising creative director, working for other corporations. Then I broke free and opened my own consulting firm and found my niche. Then, when I was done with that in my 40s, I went to seminary and became a spiritual director. Independently help people! That's what's always worked for me in some way, shape, or form!
I'm an INFJ and I'm an event planner. Launched my business January 2019. It all makes sense now lol
Sounds like fun!
Omg hahaha. "I like to be alone." That high pitched voice was hilarious.
If anyone is looking for inspiration, this is my very niche but perfect INFJ job: public guardian! I have the privilege to participate in and sometimes make financial and legal decisions for some of the most vulnerable people in our society - I literally "advocate" for the people I represent everyday! It requires tremendous organization skills, communicating with a ton of different people (the person themselves, healthcare, social workers, landlords, etc.) and requires professional judgment which means minimal management.
How do you get into this career?
lmao this is so creepily accurate especially the “organizing part”. I’m a highschool senior student and i used to struggle in delivering reports before and i figured i should do scripts so i can familiarize with what i’m going to say in front of people and now it works because everyone thinks i’m a master at reporting even if i’m not i’m just pushing my shy self out of the comfort zone because my grades are suffering :”)
I'm an INFJ and I made a career change to become a teacher because of everything you just said. I just discovered your videos and I love them because I feel so understood!
communicating your ideas,
independence of some level,
helping others and solving problems,
organizing something/anything
Well, you just explained my entire career track. Always happy when helping, miserable when being micromanaged. Bailed on the corporate world and went into educational publishing for 20 years -- because trying to improve textbooks felt like helping people. Today, freelance writer, nonfiction author, and public speaker. Remarkable to learn how deeply this is anchored in my personality type. Thank you.
same here! i burn out when i’m micromanaged and it’s put me off from the corporate world. what you do sounds like my dream work!
Interesting.. I’m also an INFJ who is struggling to find any type of work that is meaningful to me. I’m looking to get into copy editing, do you know anything about how hard that would be to get into? And could you make a living on it?
@@zaram131 If you are skilled with words and focused on details, there are people looking for good copy editors--and I know people who do make a living at it. Check some of the many resources on the Internet.
Frank definitely speaks my language. Since I was a kid I wanted to be a psychologist and almost made it. What turned me off was the many years of dealing with a crazy family who have wiped me out. I chose to get a masters in elementary education instead, that way I can have a positive impact on young children who you can really make a difference with on a daily basis.
I am a data scientist and I feel like this plays to all the items you spoke on. Data science is all about finding patterns and there are now many opportunities to do “data science for good”. I can be focused in on coding or interacting at meetings depending on the day. It’s a perfect blend. Version control is more integrated now when plays into my systematic nature. Data science is always changing and so complex it’s like an insurmountable mountain at times but that is part of the fun. So happy to find a fit I love.
FJ was on point!!! -->" I wanna solve something deeper about you."
Its kind of amazing how your vids always come at the right time for me :)
Dude same, I have to take a big decision regarding this in 2 hours. Are we all connected ?
@@LoxyzStudio There's certainly some sort of pattern going on...whatever it is, I wish you the best :)
Me too. I'm in the process of looking for a new job, a career path. This is helpful.
I'm glad too! Good luck out there on the job hunt
@@FrankJames Thank you in abundance FJ, I appreciate it :)
"Raise everyone's vibration... get into your soul and make things better." Damn we deep mofos. 😅
Worked in surgery as surgical tech. Independence, control, helping people.
Cool Im planning on being one
The only thing i can say with this video is: "You understand me" Thank you for everything. You change my life today.
SPOT ON! I'm a business consultant and my ENTIRE life I always knew i just NEED to help others. I don't care about money or anything. Consulting is the PERFECT career for me because I'm my own boss, i read my clients and can "dumb down" the way i speak to others so that they understand. I also use a lot of Photoshop to express my thoughts. I AM SO HAPPYYYYYYY. I was a chef and that wasn't doing it for me because the food is gone in 2 seconds and people don't appreciate food like they do building a business.
That moment when you are around really bossy and assertive extroverts and they are taking over. Then you are internally screaming: You are screwing this whole thing up. Then you make a little comment to yourself about an idea and some other extrovert hears it and speaks up and steals your idea and claims that it was their well thought out plan.
hi catherine :) I would strongly advice you stand up to those extraverts, especially that one who steals your idea. I know INFJs in general do not like conflicts, but our work is important to us, and we give it our all, so that in itself is reason enough to stand up for our rights. I hate injustices, so I had to write a long one here. haha
I'm an INFJ, and I call them out because extraverts hate looking bad infront of others. They usually stay quiet afterwards. But of course, because of my INFJ side I say it nice and the others know my implications. Like "thank you for elaborating MY idea, let me actually make some clarifications" and I probably say my idea again if anything 😂
@@karinacarvajal9919 Thanks for the advice. I feel like most the time when I do try to speak up for myself it seems to just get worse and there is more tension.
@@catherinearnold5857 ohhh girl, I get fired up inside. But of course, I try to hide it haha. I learned not to care and be open in what's my mind, people will see you're being genuine and that's what matters most. Just remember, it's a play of words on that moment. In a way, they cannot add or if they try to, it makes them seem like a jerk. You got it! You have that intuition and feeling with you. :) Use that empathy on your side! Also use it in your sweetest and most caring tone but assertive voice(yes, infjs are good at this) some may see it ironic but those are usually our introverts intuitive friends. They catch our drift haha.
Um I didn't reply that...
I think becoming a doctor is really a good profession for us (INFJ). It suits all our needs.
I read online that that's one of the careers suitable for INFJs and I discovered that coincidentally after entering med school lol
Yes this is me too, the downside is it’s emotionally exhausting as an introvert lol
It can be but it can also be very frustrating on some levels and very draining on other level. I am an INFJ-T physician and also highly empathetic so I get very drained emotionally and mentally by the challenges of taking care of people who are ill or broken. The frustrations lie in the inability to practice medicine to it’s greatest fulfillment because of rules and regulations imposing upon the physician. In other words, doctors don’t have as much autonomy as they used to and when you work for an organization, there are many decisions that are taken out of your hands which prevent you from being able to help people the way you want. Sorry for the long reply, I just wanted to give another prospective on being an INFJ Doctor.
But not all of us are that smart. I'm 25 years old, completed my MBA and worked in sales for a year and I quit. I realised that constantly talking to people drains me and my manager and most of the fellow co-workers were so toxic that I had to quit. I realised I wouldn't last long in any corporate job which is not helping me grow and not satisfying my soul. I don't know if I had anxiety before but I'm sure I have it now. I get any call, I get anxious and feel very nervous. It is because of my last job where I worked in toxic work environment and I might have PTSD. It's tough to change career now but I have to do it. It's the only way that I will survive and start loving my life and satisfying my soul.
I think being a psychologist would be a good career choice because of our understanding of feelings
Notes for myself:
- Communication
- Independence
- Organizing/Making systems
- Feeling like you're helping people
You've got me, an INFJ, 100% nailed! I'm a psychologist and a Jewish cantor. I love what a do!!! Thanks for a great video!