I had an appointment date with the dentist this week. It went very well. The crown fit perfectly. My next "date" with her is in six months. Can't wait!
Key to great conversation: Stop trying to force in some clever comment you have ready. Focus on what the other person is saying. Also, adult (over 55) dating is very different than dating in your 20s was. Learn the new realities and new rules. Go happily forward, and don't look for some idealized repetition of the past.
Great advise. I downloaded your meeting folk in the wild book a month or so back. Excellent tips and one on particular that stood out for me. I have "applied" it lol . Hasn't worked yet - or at least not with the right man but as it has worked with all the wrong people - shop assistants, teenage girls etc, I just know it will. Don't worry, Carey, you will be the first to know when it does! 😊
@@ssiegreen5292@CoffeewithCarey Okay ladies, you win! It was Carey's comment on signalling commonality. I would like to meet a country dwelling man. Why? Because I am a country loving woman. But this isn't something that you can join a club or group for. But I had noticed how whenever I was carrying a large photo of livestock (I do pencil drawings and often use photographs for my subject) I would often get comments from random strangers. So, I got one of my drawings printed onto a tote bag and carry that with me rather than a conventional bag. It works! I get comments from random strangers but so far not from a country loving man in my age range. But I am quite confident it will happen. And in the meantime I enjoy chatting with the "not who it is aimed at" folk who do comment on the rather magnificent bull who features on my tote bag. Commonality is important but not everything can be done by joining a club or group. And importantly, because the picture on the tote bag is my own artwork, it builds in more to the conversation. Additional layers to the conversation. So far, teenage girls and shop assistants have been the groups that have noticed and commented on my tote bag - but one day a lovely country loving gentleman will spot it and comment. I know it! 🐂😊
And smile, smile, smile - while you're out there! There is a coffee shop in our town where more seniors than younger folks hang out [not Starbucks - that's where the youngsters go, lol]. I stopped by [their coffee is amazaballs and a real treat!] yesterday afternoon after running errands + shopping, with no intentions whatsoever other than enjoy a nice cup of coffee in a place with a bit of an European coffeehouse ambiance, and since the place was pretty much empty - did the no-no. Stuck my nose into my phone and watched some clips on the competition to this place we're on right now. Of course - funny videos came up, and I sit there grinning from ear to ear, and eventually came across one of those belly scrunchers, that has you snorting and hooting, and hoping nobody sees you while you're snickering and giggling. Well - somebody did see me, and apparently I was funny enough, for him to feel safe to approach me and ask me what I was watching. Long story short - he joined me in snickering and guffawing [the clip was even funnier the 2. and 3rd time around], paid for my second cup of coffee, and we're having dinner tomorrow. I'm stoked! So put a damn smile on your face, when you go out - you never know who's seeing you + just what may happen when you're out there without an agenda, having a great time with yourself...
@@virgiljohnson6484 Thanks! Appreciate that. It was kind of funny though - actually very funny! Not @ my most grown up and dignified - but that type of situation where your cheeks hurt from laughing so hard and you can't get them back into their normal position, you're wheezing and snorting and making all kinds of funny sounds, your belly is starting to hurt and your mascara would start running if it wasn't waterproof. And then he would start sniggering again and we start all over again. I can't remember the last time, when I had such a great laugh with a total stranger!
@@CoffeewithCarey It was nice. He is really nice - and very pleasant + kind. We had more laughs and giggles, and he clearly studied up on some funny jokes - so basically a continuation of our initial meet. I had a good time, but don't think it's a good fit, due to very different religious POVs, and his future partner totally having to fit into his church and very involved church activities. I'm comfortable where I am in my spirituality - and am not converting to something that doesn't make sense to me personally, just to please a potential partner. In my younger days, I loved to discuss different religions and variations and learn about the different belief systems [I was brought up roman catholic], and was leaning towards the agnostic/atheist POV with some Buddhism sprinkled on top of it. These days I'm very comfortable where I am - and while tolerant towards other ppls religious believes and still happy to discuss them to learn more about them, I'm not open to being converted or about to change my mind. So to sum it up - nice but no dice :o)
@@ssiegreen5292 I understand. Someone who is very set in their strong religious views, so much so that they would want someone exactly like them is probably not a match for you. Ah well. Nice evening…. Next! 🤎
Thinking I'll start getting the hang of this 🙄 1st thing in case I'm going to go pick up that first date ... better polish up the old Dodge! Thank you! DB .... aka? 🥹
Start with loving kindness and end with loving kindness. No, expectations and stand in your truth.
That’s very nice. 👍
I had an appointment date with the dentist this week. It went very well. The crown fit perfectly. My next "date" with her is in six months. Can't wait!
Charming her with your bicuspids, huh?
Key to great conversation: Stop trying to force in some clever comment you have ready. Focus on what the other person is saying.
Also, adult (over 55) dating is very different than dating in your 20s was. Learn the new realities and new rules. Go happily forward, and don't look for some idealized repetition of the past.
Thanks for reiterating how important it is to be a good listener.
Great advise. I downloaded your meeting folk in the wild book a month or so back. Excellent tips and one on particular that stood out for me. I have "applied" it lol . Hasn't worked yet - or at least not with the right man but as it has worked with all the wrong people - shop assistants, teenage girls etc, I just know it will. Don't worry, Carey, you will be the first to know when it does! 😊
I’m so curious! 😸
Dawn - you can't say that without going into details! Which one did you refer to???
@@ssiegreen5292 haha
@@ssiegreen5292@CoffeewithCarey Okay ladies, you win! It was Carey's comment on signalling commonality. I would like to meet a country dwelling man. Why? Because I am a country loving woman. But this isn't something that you can join a club or group for. But I had noticed how whenever I was carrying a large photo of livestock (I do pencil drawings and often use photographs for my subject) I would often get comments from random strangers. So, I got one of my drawings printed onto a tote bag and carry that with me rather than a conventional bag. It works! I get comments from random strangers but so far not from a country loving man in my age range. But I am quite confident it will happen. And in the meantime I enjoy chatting with the "not who it is aimed at" folk who do comment on the rather magnificent bull who features on my tote bag.
Commonality is important but not everything can be done by joining a club or group. And importantly, because the picture on the tote bag is my own artwork, it builds in more to the conversation. Additional layers to the conversation. So far, teenage girls and shop assistants have been the groups that have noticed and commented on my tote bag - but one day a lovely country loving gentleman will spot it and comment. I know it! 🐂😊
I really liked this video! Thank you!
Thank you, Paul!
And smile, smile, smile - while you're out there!
There is a coffee shop in our town where more seniors than younger folks hang out [not Starbucks - that's where the youngsters go, lol]. I stopped by [their coffee is amazaballs and a real treat!] yesterday afternoon after running errands + shopping, with no intentions whatsoever other than enjoy a nice cup of coffee in a place with a bit of an European coffeehouse ambiance, and since the place was pretty much empty - did the no-no. Stuck my nose into my phone and watched some clips on the competition to this place we're on right now. Of course - funny videos came up, and I sit there grinning from ear to ear, and eventually came across one of those belly scrunchers, that has you snorting and hooting, and hoping nobody sees you while you're snickering and giggling. Well - somebody did see me, and apparently I was funny enough, for him to feel safe to approach me and ask me what I was watching.
Long story short - he joined me in snickering and guffawing [the clip was even funnier the 2. and 3rd time around], paid for my second cup of coffee, and we're having dinner tomorrow. I'm stoked! So put a damn smile on your face, when you go out - you never know who's seeing you + just what may happen when you're out there without an agenda, having a great time with yourself...
Wonderful story!! Good for you! Keep us posted.
@@virgiljohnson6484 Thanks! Appreciate that.
It was kind of funny though - actually very funny! Not @ my most grown up and dignified - but that type of situation where your cheeks hurt from laughing so hard and you can't get them back into their normal position, you're wheezing and snorting and making all kinds of funny sounds, your belly is starting to hurt and your mascara would start running if it wasn't waterproof. And then he would start sniggering again and we start all over again. I can't remember the last time, when I had such a great laugh with a total stranger!
@@ssiegreen5292I have an aversion to folk with their nose in their phone so lovely to hear a story where it worked out well. Go you! 👍😊
@@CoffeewithCarey It was nice. He is really nice - and very pleasant + kind. We had more laughs and giggles, and he clearly studied up on some funny jokes - so basically a continuation of our initial meet. I had a good time, but don't think it's a good fit, due to very different religious POVs, and his future partner totally having to fit into his church and very involved church activities.
I'm comfortable where I am in my spirituality - and am not converting to something that doesn't make sense to me personally, just to please a potential partner. In my younger days, I loved to discuss different religions and variations and learn about the different belief systems [I was brought up roman catholic], and was leaning towards the agnostic/atheist POV with some Buddhism sprinkled on top of it. These days I'm very comfortable where I am - and while tolerant towards other ppls religious believes and still happy to discuss them to learn more about them, I'm not open to being converted or about to change my mind.
So to sum it up - nice but no dice :o)
@@ssiegreen5292 I understand. Someone who is very set in their strong religious views, so much so that they would want someone exactly like them is probably not a match for you. Ah well. Nice evening…. Next! 🤎
Hi Carey, your link for 33 best questions is not working. Thank you
It worked for me, but I reposted the link. Let me know -and thank you for letting me know!
Coffee is a start, non-committal. So, why not?
Exactly. And for the reasons stated. A good place to meet people but not appropriate for a first date.
@@CoffeewithCarey Well, there's always pizza!🙂
@@zenigatago or burgers or tacos or a food truck at dusk or later. Or coffee ON walk or romantic stroll…
Thinking I'll start getting the hang of this 🙄
1st thing in case I'm going to go pick up that first date ... better polish up the old Dodge! Thank you!
DB .... aka? 🥹
You’re not likely to pick up your date. 🤷🏻♀️
Most people choose to arrive on their own and feel that’s too much for a first date.