This sounds like my last relationship. Great, great guy & even greater family...etc. But I broke up with him because I just knew it wasn't right. Everyone thought I was crazy because he's really a great guy! He's in a relationship now and I'm still single but God has given me so much peace about it!! He was good...but I asked God for great and His best for ME, and I have faith that He will deliver. ❤
❤️ love this. I was engaged to a man my family loved as well, but I didn’t feel that it was right in my spirit. I’m glad I made the decision to be obedient and have been focusing on God and myself. It’s truly rewarding
Ooh sadly that was every relationship for me prior to marriage. I'm sooooooooo glad I "changed" how I started to date and really spent time with the Lord during my "waiting season" I think we also have to realize that sometimes although "good" it's not God. What God joins together let no man put asunder. We truly have to stop settling and enjoy the season of being single. I remember years ago my mother's pastor saying, "If you are not happy single, you will not be happy married." I can honestly say I am now 10 years into being happily married. My husband was definitely worth the wait.
So very true. No matter how good they are; you'll still have an uneasy gut feeling (intuition) when they're not sent by God. I always felt like my spirit wanted to run. I'll surely miss out on good to get God's great. OMG! Such an awesome message. 🙌
I remember wasted ten years with a man that was no good for me..thank God he gave me the strength to walk away.. healed focusing on myself..patiently waiting on God's best..thanks💖
I am tired of stressing over if the guy is the one or not. It is not even worth it nor for a woman to hunt for the perfect guy. It is the man's job to look for their wife. We are the prize. When a woman does it all it is is a mess it is not even worth trying to figure it out. Just let it come naturally and it will come without you even thinking about it.
Tonita Queta Parks I agree with your sentiments with one exception - I think the point of Ashley’s Institute is to help women know if they should accept the man who finds them. How to discern. 🤷🏾♀️
She’s going hard on the biblical scriptures that say “a man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord” Ptov18:22...ofcourse both man and woman are gifts from God, his creation...
@@geebee721 well they don't treat me like I ought to be caught so I might as well value myself because nobody else is going to do it but bring me down with them
Now, that I think about it..I have had to pass up good for great...I'm just glad God kept nudging at my heart..Long story short..We got along great, he had his own everything, he was educated and could hold a conversation. But I didn't have peace about continuing the relationship with him. He knew purity was important to me yet he kept inviting me over to his place..I went once but nothing happened. I didn't like where I thought it was heading and as I stated before I just didn't have peace about him. I ended it in person. I don't feel bad about my decision because I know my Father's voice.
I can relate to this video 100%! 4 years ago i broke up with an ex that i knew would soon propose to me. I felt a nudge in my spirit and God made it very clear that he was not the guy he wanted me to marry. Although i have no clue if he is married or with someone now i know that it was the right decision. I've learned that even though God does not answer every WHY we may have...i trust that he knows what our future holds. I pray that the right person watches this and that is transforms their life! God Bless you and the fam! :)
Looking beyond chemistry is profound. I´ve had amazing chemistry with potential suitors, but the fact was we had different interests, culture etc. I had this discussion awhile back with some male friends. They were baffled as to why I would put so much emphasis on little "petty" stuff. Yet, in the reality, the "petty" small stuff are the biggest in retrospective. With this mindset, it´s becoming easier for me to let go of "potential" and continue on my journey until The One pops up lol!
I am in the same boat. I had to breakup with my ex of 9 months because although we had the a lot of the same values and he was very nice, I simply wasn’t attracted to him and no chemistry. I think having chemistry and values go hand in hand. Our conversations were dull and we never really talked or got lost in conversation with one another. Something that I value. It was a tough decision to make.
My last relationship, I knew he wasn't the one long before he "ghosted" me. But I had invested of myself for so many reasons that seem insubstantial now... I'm working on myself and my relationship with God. I want to wait on His best, not on the best that I can get.
Very insightful! Yes, I dated a Christian man who did not like kids although he had a son. He was very opposed to being around kids, so supporting school events, engaging with my daughter, authentically--presented a problem. Of course, this issue did not come to light until much, much further in the relationship but when it did, it was a dealbreaker. There were other issues that gradually surfaced. Although, he was a nice guy and had many positive traits, those that did not align with my core values allowed me to see that our marriage would be doomed.
My personal answer is: who asked you to get into the relationship? What were you looking for that made you decide to get into the relationship? If you break up with this person, do you now have what it takes to recognise the person you are looking for? Yea, one may say "peace". Sometimes we can convince ourselves we have peace because the person ticks certain boxes. And after several rounds of playing this dating game where you're looking for peace, you eventually start to convince yourself you're on the right path...or that no man is perfect etc. Solution: know God personally by Having the Holy Spirit. Know the duty of the Holy Spirit in a marriage. Know who you are to God and who he has designed you to be in marriage and what favour you carry. Next, know the quality of gifts that God gives and how to identify a person who's filled with the Holy Spirit. Once you know these things you're fully positioned to identify the one God has for you. When God presents the right person, you'll go back to this checklist and know if they're the one. One important scripture that comes to mind is, "wisdom from above is easy to entreat..." This means that if the person has varying views on some living style (where they want to live, what cars, how to invest) etc, then you can rely on the Holy Spirit to bring both of you into alignment and agreement because he's the one who brought you two together and he's the relationship management professional. An example is Mary and Joseph. The Bible says that Joseph was a good man. He had decided to break it off with Mary when he *discovered* that Mary was pregnant. At night, the Holy Spirit ministered to him and he went ahead and made the right decision and here we are today, brothers and sisters of their Son Jesus Christ. Bottom line: things will always happen or not happen to make you question whether you're with the right person. Don't let your feelings abd disagreements be the only thing that you rely upon to make or break the relationship. So rejecting good because you're feeling a certain way should still be a decision passed through the Holy Spirit. Ask yourself how did I get into this relationship?
That moment when the preacher says "if anyone has something to say....please speak now or forever hold your peace" and the bride raises her hand lol smh May we all have the patience to wait on the best...for some of us that will be the literal return of Christ...for others it will be Christ blessing us through a husband who also loves him...as well as the return of the beautiful Messiah Either way...may The GOD of heaven extend to you all the grace you need for whatever you need it for
This is a very timely message! Thank you!!! I recently said goodbye to one who was not God's great for me. I need to be patient and allow God to bring him to me.
Wow! This came right on time for me. I have felt this way in a few relationships with good guys. We mushed together well but deep down, I felt that I should continue to wait. That is exactly what I did and so thankful for doing so. Thank you for this video.
Im actually going through this, so now Im sure what to do after watching this. Im dating a guy that's really sweet, he has a really good job, no baggage at all, smart but I just can't picture myself with him long term. I think honestly Im scared about letting him go because the grass may not be greener on the other side and I might not be blessed with someone as awesome as him. But I have a strong urge to break it off and keep waiting.
Chesney, that sounds like a Holy Ghost nudge, I went through the same thing. This guy may not be the one, or it may not be the right time, but it's only fair for the both of you if you follow your gut. It won't be easy, but if the urge is that strong, I think you'll find peace in your decision.
Did you break it off with the guy? If you did, HOW? I’m not 100% sure, so I’m praying on it , but I’m feeling like this is my reality as well. Such a good guy, and he has helped me through a very hard time, but there are also things(fruits of the spirit) that I feel are missing in a sense that I would want, and expect in the man God has for me.
I'm not kidding, but your story sounds like mine! I'm not married yet, but i'm happy for my ex who is, whom i had to let go few years back because i did not think we were right for each other
I have done this my whole "dating" life. I have passed up good men because deep down I knew they were not the husband God has intended for me. Each one of them (3) I was good friends with and 1 I was good friends with his sibling too. Those three men wanted to marry me and I let them go. I am good at knowing which one is not right for me. I have compromised in other areas of my life, but I will not compromise in this area and I am working to make sure I don't compromise in the same areas again. Great message. This is great confirmation I have done the right thing!
Thank you for this video! I recently went through something like this and although it was and still is hard I knew I had to listen to what God was saying. There was no peace in the situation for me and he was too good of a guy for me to lead him on when I knew my heart wasn’t really in it.
I’m very glad you touched on this specific subject Because I have been with really good guys great chemistry,faithful men but they weren’t the one for me and I used to think something was wrong with me because society makes it feel like we are asking for too much when your intuition is telling you ... you deserve better so again thanks 🙏🏾
Bri Beauti I feel the same way. Just broke up with a really great guy, but I don’t feel like he’s the one. I don’t feel attracted nor chemistry with him even though some of our values align. I can’t really explain it, but it doesn’t feel right.
I am going through this RIGHT NOW! I thought I was mad. Everyone literally asking what happened and I’m like nothing, it just doesn’t feel right. Passing up good for great really resonated with me. I just know there’s someone God has for me or else he wouldn’t have slapped me in the face with this realization. I was going to stay with my ex out of fear of being alone, but God used one of his messengers to set me straight. I am trusting him to deliver the MY man when the time is right ❤️
This message brought me so much peace that I’ve done the right thing ! He was such a good guy, and I got to know him about 3 months (which isn’t that long ) but we saw eye to eye on so much important things like the way we viewed life and God.. and I admired and respected him so much because of the way he carried himself. But I just kept having doubts on the relationship and didn’t feel like I could relax with it. I also felt like he wasn’t pursuing me in the way that a man who’s interested and wants to keep a girl in his life would. Especially the fact that it was long distance which made it harder because I couldn’t get to know him properly like I would if we met real time.. anyway, this brought a lot of light in my life thank you xx
Good for you....alot of people are too chicken to break up when they know it's not right. And when you stay in the relationship with them you get frustrated/bitter maybe even towards them which is not fair. Seen it a few times.
Thank you Ashley for this video! I started dating this guy for almost a month now and I already know he is not the one for me. He’s a nice guy and respectful and seems to have a nice family(haven’t met them), but I keep getting this nervous feeling and talked to him about moving too quickly and things like that. We get along great and have fun together, but I don’t think he is my future husband. Idk how or when to break it off with him because he really likes me a lot.
Now I KNOW I watched this video a few years ago, but it popped up when I was trying to click on something else. The Lord is LOUD in my ear today I see. I’m so grateful. ❤️
I passed up a great guy ... because I thought he wasn’t the one and now he’s married and is living his best life and I sometimes wish that should have been with me 😭
How do you know he’s living his best life or even that he is in a good marriage ? Don’t believe everything you see on social media . And even if what your saying is true , he wasn’t the best for YOU.
Wow same thing like my last relationship! He was great! His family was really nice. But yeah we didnt have the same interests. Im glad we broke up. Not every good guy is your guy. Thank you so much for this video. Confirmation that breaking up was the right thing to do ☺
Your such an amazing speaker Ashley. Your diction and ability to articulate profoundly salient points is truly nothing but God's annointing. Keep up the great work.
I do find it strange that good Godly women are dumping Godly men. It doesnt make sense. What i hear is some women dump their men cos he wasnt the one. But i need to work on myself. I feel some women really need to work out on themselves instead of blaming the men. Accountability is key. Some godly women have big egos and dont want to accept their flaws. This why some godly women are still single. Stuck on their ways.
Thank-you for this video, God bless you!! I was in such a position and I knew leaving was the right decision but I began doubting if I was just being picky or made a bad decision. You hit my doubts on the nail, you put words to feelings I couldn't quite express. This is enough confirmation for me.. I am gonna hold out for God's best 😃
God bless you aysley in knowing he was not the one did you pray to find out from if that was true or were you depending on your gut feeling because you didn't explian that in all you just said and i feel it is important one check with God first co's many things in life don't start by going one's way but as you press you realise you on the right path all this while and what i know helps is prayer.
I felt so left out in the comment section because I totally thought that the method suggested is random and not really founded on truth. My personal answer is: who asked you to get into the relationship? What were you looking for that made you decide to get into the relationship? If you break up with this person, do you now have what it takes to recognise the person you are looking for? Yea, one may say "peace". Sometimes we can convince ourselves we have peace because the person ticks certain boxes. And after several rounds of playing this dating game where you're looking for peace, you eventually start to convince yourself you're on the right path...or that no man is perfect etc. Solution: know God personally by Having the Holy Spirit. Know the duty of the Holy Spirit in a marriage. Know who you are to God and who he has designed you to be in marriage and what favour you carry. Next, know the quality of gifts that God gives and how to identify a person who's filled with the Holy Spirit. Once you know these things you're fully positioned to identify the one God has for you. When God presents the right person, you'll go back to this checklist and know if they're the one. One important scripture that comes to mind is, "wisdom from above is easy to entreat..." This means that if the person has varying views on some living style (where they want to live, what cars, how to invest) etc, then you can rely on the Holy Spirit to bring both of you into alignment and agreement because he's the one who brought you two together and he's the relationship management professional. An example is Mary and Joseph. The Bible says that Joseph was a good man. He had decided to break it off with Mary when he *discovered* that Mary was pregnant. At night, the Holy Spirit ministered to him and he went ahead and made the right decision and here we are today, brothers and sisters of their Son Jesus Christ. Bottom line: things will always happen or not happen to make you question whether you're with the right person. Don't let your feelings abd disagreements be the only thing that you rely upon to make or break the relationship. So rejecting good because you're feeling a certain way should still be a decision passed through the Holy Spirit. Ask yourself how did I get into this relationship?
I'm 52 years young and have NEVAH met a "good" to pass up, period! 😳 To be honest, it's been me and the Lord so long, I can't fathom being with a human in a marriage situation. I'm too content with doing as I darn-well please to having someone change the game. Yes, the Lord has told me, He's called me to marriage, but this dude had doggone-well better be Jesus Himself to get me to comply. 😆
Great insight very easy to understand and apply this happens a lot of times with christian's not willing to sift through and know the both of you are just great friends not great for marriage. And having that support system to hear what you're saying and both male & female can respect the decision down the line knowing you're better for someone else not for yourself in marriage. Keep sharing.
I don’t know if anyone will see this comment 😅 it’s been 2 years since this video came out. But I’m going through a break up (he left me) and I have this feeling that I want him to be the one and I can see him being the one. But circumstances separated us and that maybe time will heal us. But I have a conflicting feeling that I just have wishful and hopeful thinking that’s he’s the one and we’ll get back together. Hopefully I can get a response 🙏🏽
There is a guy that I met through family. He is a nice guy but I feel he is a good actor. He had a girlfriend never told me and then has the nerve to say he wanted to marry Me? It's a gut feeling when someone is hiding something and talking to God for getting revelation
This video has comforted me in my decision. I am dating this guy, he is in my class in college. He is really sweet and we have had some really good dates, it's only been a week, and after those dates he just doesn't seem as confident about the relationship. I learned today that he is moving away to Seattle in 4 months for a job he had lined up and that he basically doesn't know what to do cuz he does really like me from a friend and I am trying to find a way to tell him that I know and that we should just stop the relationship so we don't have to stress but, I don't want to make it awkward cuz I have class with him now and next term.
hello Ashley God bless you.. I just wanted to know if you are still going to have more video about couples dating with purpose I like watching those. Because it gives me hope that one day I will find my Partner. The one that God is preparing for me. love ya'll 😊
I'm glad to see that you are not extremely particular of your wardrobe because you have another video with this same top on. That tells me that you are very financially conscious.
I am so sorry you are married to someone you have absolute no desire for whatsoever. I pray The Lord bless you with the grace and direction you need right now.
I would say to Pray to God to renew and reshape your emotions. To change your taste and to make your marriage heaven on earth. You two are one now. And you said yes to mariage. So, it's not fair to him and it's not fair for you to look at the marriage just about you. I pray that everything works out.... Follow God and what He says in his word. He knows what's best
Yeah. She's totally committed to getting all of your money! The Bible (Jesus) says, freely as I've given to you, freely give. No need for a whole unnecessary program when you simply just tell people what the bible (Jesus) says.
This sounds like my last relationship. Great, great guy & even greater family...etc. But I broke up with him because I just knew it wasn't right. Everyone thought I was crazy because he's really a great guy! He's in a relationship now and I'm still single but God has given me so much peace about it!! He was good...but I asked God for great and His best for ME, and I have faith that He will deliver. ❤
Adrianne Edwards just becus he was good, doesn't mean he was good for you .
Learninghowtorebuild exactly!
❤️ love this. I was engaged to a man my family loved as well, but I didn’t feel that it was right in my spirit. I’m glad I made the decision to be obedient and have been focusing on God and myself. It’s truly rewarding
You, young lady have confidence in God!
Cilcy I do! It's been a journey! ❤
Amen! A Godly relationship is worth the wait.
You're truly blessed! Look at where you are now
Ooh sadly that was every relationship for me prior to marriage. I'm sooooooooo glad I "changed" how I started to date and really spent time with the Lord during my "waiting season" I think we also have to realize that sometimes although "good" it's not God. What God joins together let no man put asunder. We truly have to stop settling and enjoy the season of being single. I remember years ago my mother's pastor saying, "If you are not happy single, you will not be happy married." I can honestly say I am now 10 years into being happily married.
My husband was definitely worth the wait.
Joyce Watt wow!!! I'm happy for you..😊😊😊
I’m so glad you waited 💕🤞
So very true. No matter how good they are; you'll still have an uneasy gut feeling (intuition) when they're not sent by God. I always felt like my spirit wanted to run. I'll surely miss out on good to get God's great. OMG! Such an awesome message. 🙌
amen
I remember wasted ten years with a man that was no good for me..thank God he gave me the strength to walk away.. healed focusing on myself..patiently waiting on God's best..thanks💖
I am tired of stressing over if the guy is the one or not. It is not even worth it nor for a woman to hunt for the perfect guy. It is the man's job to look for their wife. We are the prize. When a woman does it all it is is a mess it is not even worth trying to figure it out. Just let it come naturally and it will come without you even thinking about it.
Tonita Queta Parks I agree with your sentiments with one exception - I think the point of Ashley’s Institute is to help women know if they should accept the man who finds them. How to discern. 🤷🏾♀️
She’s going hard on the biblical scriptures that say “a man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord” Ptov18:22...ofcourse both man and woman are gifts from God, his creation...
Why do you think your the only prize? Shouldn’t you view your guy or husband as the prize as well??
@@geebee721 well they don't treat me like I ought to be caught so I might as well value myself because nobody else is going to do it but bring me down with them
Thank you for this!! Sometimes good is not God's best, and we don't have to settle just to satisfy our desire to be married.
Amen!
Preach it...i shall never SETTLE amen
Now, that I think about it..I have had to pass up good for great...I'm just glad God kept nudging at my heart..Long story short..We got along great, he had his own everything, he was educated and could hold a conversation. But I didn't have peace about continuing the relationship with him. He knew purity was important to me yet he kept inviting me over to his place..I went once but nothing happened. I didn't like where I thought it was heading and as I stated before I just didn't have peace about him. I ended it in person. I don't feel bad about my decision because I know my Father's voice.
I can relate to this video 100%! 4 years ago i broke up with an ex that i knew would soon propose to me. I felt a nudge in my spirit and God made it very clear that he was not the guy he wanted me to marry. Although i have no clue if he is married or with someone now i know that it was the right decision. I've learned that even though God does not answer every WHY we may have...i trust that he knows what our future holds. I pray that the right person watches this and that is transforms their life! God Bless you and the fam! :)
“We simply got along and had fun with each other” wow so true.
Looking beyond chemistry is profound. I´ve had amazing chemistry with potential suitors, but the fact was we had different interests, culture etc. I had this discussion awhile back with some male friends. They were baffled as to why I would put so much emphasis on little "petty" stuff. Yet, in the reality, the "petty" small stuff are the biggest in retrospective. With this mindset, it´s becoming easier for me to let go of "potential" and continue on my journey until The One pops up lol!
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Mmm.. 💭💭💭
I am in the same boat. I had to breakup with my ex of 9 months because although we had the a lot of the same values and he was very nice, I simply wasn’t attracted to him and no chemistry. I think having chemistry and values go hand in hand. Our conversations were dull and we never really talked or got lost in conversation with one another. Something that I value. It was a tough decision to make.
You deserve God's best! It requires bravery to leave good for great when you are 40 yrs old, but God is still God!
My last relationship, I knew he wasn't the one long before he "ghosted" me. But I had invested of myself for so many reasons that seem insubstantial now... I'm working on myself and my relationship with God. I want to wait on His best, not on the best that I can get.
Hmm, it's crazy how clear hindsight is, isn't it..?
Very insightful! Yes, I dated a Christian man who did not like kids although he had a son. He was very opposed to being around kids, so supporting school events, engaging with my daughter, authentically--presented a problem. Of course, this issue did not come to light until much, much further in the relationship but when it did, it was a dealbreaker. There were other issues that gradually surfaced. Although, he was a nice guy and had many positive traits, those that did not align with my core values allowed me to see that our marriage would be doomed.
My personal answer is: who asked you to get into the relationship?
What were you looking for that made you decide to get into the relationship?
If you break up with this person, do you now have what it takes to recognise the person you are looking for?
Yea, one may say "peace". Sometimes we can convince ourselves we have peace because the person ticks certain boxes. And after several rounds of playing this dating game where you're looking for peace, you eventually start to convince yourself you're on the right path...or that no man is perfect etc.
Solution: know God personally by Having the Holy Spirit. Know the duty of the Holy Spirit in a marriage. Know who you are to God and who he has designed you to be in marriage and what favour you carry. Next, know the quality of gifts that God gives and how to identify a person who's filled with the Holy Spirit. Once you know these things you're fully positioned to identify the one God has for you.
When God presents the right person, you'll go back to this checklist and know if they're the one.
One important scripture that comes to mind is, "wisdom from above is easy to entreat..." This means that if the person has varying views on some living style (where they want to live, what cars, how to invest) etc, then you can rely on the Holy Spirit to bring both of you into alignment and agreement because he's the one who brought you two together and he's the relationship management professional.
An example is Mary and Joseph.
The Bible says that Joseph was a good man. He had decided to break it off with Mary when he *discovered* that Mary was pregnant. At night, the Holy Spirit ministered to him and he went ahead and made the right decision and here we are today, brothers and sisters of their Son Jesus Christ.
Bottom line: things will always happen or not happen to make you question whether you're with the right person. Don't let your feelings abd disagreements be the only thing that you rely upon to make or break the relationship.
So rejecting good because you're feeling a certain way should still be a decision passed through the Holy Spirit.
Ask yourself how did I get into this relationship?
ABSOLUTELY YOU CAN LEAVE A GOOD GUY FOR GREAT EVEN IF YOU DON'T HAVE YET WAIT.. HE'S COMING. TRUE LOVE ALWAYS WAIT.. BEAUTIFUL VIDEO ASHLEY
That moment when the preacher says "if anyone has something to say....please speak now or forever hold your peace" and the bride raises her hand lol smh
May we all have the patience to wait on the best...for some of us that will be the literal return of Christ...for others it will be Christ blessing us through a husband who also loves him...as well as the return of the beautiful Messiah
Either way...may The GOD of heaven extend to you all the grace you need for whatever you need it for
This is a very timely message! Thank you!!! I recently said goodbye to one who was not God's great for me. I need to be patient and allow God to bring him to me.
I like what you said about passing up good for great. A light bulb went off in my head. Thank you 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Well said Ashley, well-done
Wow! This came right on time for me. I have felt this way in a few relationships with good guys. We mushed together well but deep down, I felt that I should continue to wait. That is exactly what I did and so thankful for doing so. Thank you for this video.
Ashley this blessed me I was involved with someone but deep down I knew he wasn’t the one although the separation hurt 😞 but I Thank God it ended
I just went through the same. I had to break up with him and it hurt so bad
I have experienced how you can have chemistry without having compatibility. You need both if you want your relationship to last.
Im actually going through this, so now Im sure what to do after watching this. Im dating a guy that's really sweet, he has a really good job, no baggage at all, smart but I just can't picture myself with him long term. I think honestly Im scared about letting him go because the grass may not be greener on the other side and I might not be blessed with someone as awesome as him. But I have a strong urge to break it off and keep waiting.
Chesney, that sounds like a Holy Ghost nudge, I went through the same thing. This guy may not be the one, or it may not be the right time, but it's only fair for the both of you if you follow your gut. It won't be easy, but if the urge is that strong, I think you'll find peace in your decision.
PinkOrchid523 Thank you! I really needed to hear that advice.
Dang..
Did you break it off with the guy? If you did, HOW? I’m not 100% sure, so I’m praying on it , but I’m feeling like this is my reality as well. Such a good guy, and he has helped me through a very hard time, but there are also things(fruits of the spirit) that I feel are missing in a sense that I would want, and expect in the man God has for me.
Payton May What ended up happening in your situation Payton? If you don’t mind me asking
I'm not kidding, but your story sounds like mine! I'm not married yet, but i'm happy for my ex who is, whom i had to let go few years back because i did not think we were right for each other
I have done this my whole "dating" life. I have passed up good men because deep down I knew they were not the husband God has intended for me. Each one of them (3) I was good friends with and 1 I was good friends with his sibling too. Those three men wanted to marry me and I let them go. I am good at knowing which one is not right for me. I have compromised in other areas of my life, but I will not compromise in this area and I am working to make sure I don't compromise in the same areas again. Great message. This is great confirmation I have done the right thing!
And yet you still single. How dumb of you
Best advice ever. Giving me lots to think about. Thank you so much.
Thank you for this video!
I recently went through something like this and although it was and still is hard I knew I had to listen to what God was saying. There was no peace in the situation for me and he was too good of a guy for me to lead him on when I knew my heart wasn’t really in it.
I’m very glad you touched on this specific subject Because I have been with really good guys great chemistry,faithful men but they weren’t the one for me and I used to think something was wrong with me because society makes it feel like we are asking for too much when your intuition is telling you ... you deserve better so again thanks 🙏🏾
Bri Beauti I feel the same way. Just broke up with a really great guy, but I don’t feel like he’s the one. I don’t feel attracted nor chemistry with him even though some of our values align. I can’t really explain it, but it doesn’t feel right.
Cassandra Grayes I’m happy you recognized he wasn’t the one instead of settling so many women do. Cheers to following our intuition 👸🏾
I am going through this RIGHT NOW! I thought I was mad. Everyone literally asking what happened and I’m like nothing, it just doesn’t feel right. Passing up good for great really resonated with me. I just know there’s someone God has for me or else he wouldn’t have slapped me in the face with this realization. I was going to stay with my ex out of fear of being alone, but God used one of his messengers to set me straight. I am trusting him to deliver the MY man when the time is right ❤️
Passing up the good to the GREAT!! I love this quote!! Thanks for sharing! God bless your business and ministry.
This message brought me so much peace that I’ve done the right thing ! He was such a good guy, and I got to know him about 3 months (which isn’t that long ) but we saw eye to eye on so much important things like the way we viewed life and God.. and I admired and respected him so much because of the way he carried himself. But I just kept having doubts on the relationship and didn’t feel like I could relax with it. I also felt like he wasn’t pursuing me in the way that a man who’s interested and wants to keep a girl in his life would. Especially the fact that it was long distance which made it harder because I couldn’t get to know him properly like I would if we met real time.. anyway, this brought a lot of light in my life thank you xx
Good for you....alot of people are too chicken to break up when they know it's not right. And when you stay in the relationship with them you get frustrated/bitter maybe even towards them which is not fair. Seen it a few times.
This was good, Ashley. Chemistry is important, but we must have mission in the forefront of our minds!
Just got dumped because she knew I wasn't the one. It hurts but I will find my queen oneday.
Thank you Ashley for this video! I started dating this guy for almost a month now and I already know he is not the one for me. He’s a nice guy and respectful and seems to have a nice family(haven’t met them), but I keep getting this nervous feeling and talked to him about moving too quickly and things like that. We get along great and have fun together, but I don’t think he is my future husband. Idk how or when to break it off with him because he really likes me a lot.
Wow! This came right on time!
I just asked for confirmation yet another time and God delivered. Thank you for this word!
Now I KNOW I watched this video a few years ago, but it popped up when I was trying to click on something else. The Lord is LOUD in my ear today I see. I’m so grateful. ❤️
I passed up a great guy ... because I thought he wasn’t the one and now he’s married and is living his best life and I sometimes wish that should have been with me 😭
Crystal Lopez no he is not yours!!! Love God and believe he has the best for you. Pray and be patient
How do you know he’s living his best life or even that he is in a good marriage ? Don’t believe everything you see on social media . And even if what your saying is true , he wasn’t the best for YOU.
Wow same thing like my last relationship! He was great! His family was really nice. But yeah we didnt have the same interests. Im glad we broke up. Not every good guy is your guy. Thank you so much for this video. Confirmation that breaking up was the right thing to do ☺
I wish that more people were this honest and mature.
Your such an amazing speaker Ashley. Your diction and ability to articulate profoundly salient points is truly nothing but God's annointing. Keep up the great work.
I do find it strange that good Godly women are dumping Godly men. It doesnt make sense. What i hear is some women dump their men cos he wasnt the one. But i need to work on myself. I feel some women really need to work out on themselves instead of blaming the men. Accountability is key. Some godly women have big egos and dont want to accept their flaws. This why some godly women are still single. Stuck on their ways.
Thank-you for this video, God bless you!! I was in such a position and I knew leaving was the right decision but I began doubting if I was just being picky or made a bad decision. You hit my doubts on the nail, you put words to feelings I couldn't quite express. This is enough confirmation for me.. I am gonna hold out for God's best 😃
Just come across ur station lovely message I think its best to wait on a Godly man is worth the wait and putting god first is the best.
God bless you aysley in knowing he was not the one did you pray to find out from if that was true or were you depending on your gut feeling because you didn't explian that in all you just said and i feel it is important one check with God first co's many things in life don't start by going one's way but as you press you realise you on the right path all this while and what i know helps is prayer.
I felt so left out in the comment section because I totally thought that the method suggested is random and not really founded on truth.
My personal answer is: who asked you to get into the relationship?
What were you looking for that made you decide to get into the relationship?
If you break up with this person, do you now have what it takes to recognise the person you are looking for?
Yea, one may say "peace". Sometimes we can convince ourselves we have peace because the person ticks certain boxes. And after several rounds of playing this dating game where you're looking for peace, you eventually start to convince yourself you're on the right path...or that no man is perfect etc.
Solution: know God personally by Having the Holy Spirit. Know the duty of the Holy Spirit in a marriage. Know who you are to God and who he has designed you to be in marriage and what favour you carry. Next, know the quality of gifts that God gives and how to identify a person who's filled with the Holy Spirit. Once you know these things you're fully positioned to identify the one God has for you.
When God presents the right person, you'll go back to this checklist and know if they're the one.
One important scripture that comes to mind is, "wisdom from above is easy to entreat..." This means that if the person has varying views on some living style (where they want to live, what cars, how to invest) etc, then you can rely on the Holy Spirit to bring both of you into alignment and agreement because he's the one who brought you two together and he's the relationship management professional.
An example is Mary and Joseph.
The Bible says that Joseph was a good man. He had decided to break it off with Mary when he *discovered* that Mary was pregnant. At night, the Holy Spirit ministered to him and he went ahead and made the right decision and here we are today, brothers and sisters of their Son Jesus Christ.
Bottom line: things will always happen or not happen to make you question whether you're with the right person. Don't let your feelings abd disagreements be the only thing that you rely upon to make or break the relationship.
So rejecting good because you're feeling a certain way should still be a decision passed through the Holy Spirit.
Ask yourself how did I get into this relationship?
I'm 52 years young and have NEVAH met a "good" to pass up, period! 😳 To be honest, it's been me and the Lord so long, I can't fathom being with a human in a marriage situation. I'm too content with doing as I darn-well please to having someone change the game. Yes, the Lord has told me, He's called me to marriage, but this dude had doggone-well better be Jesus Himself to get me to comply. 😆
This is so me! xD Except I don't think I'm called to marry.
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I hear you on this !
You sound like me and I'm only 27 lol
Lol this is impossible.....
Thank you Ashley!
Great insight very easy to understand and apply this happens a lot of times with christian's not willing to sift through and know the both of you are just great friends not great for marriage. And having that support system to hear what you're saying and both male & female can respect the decision down the line knowing you're better for someone else not for yourself in marriage. Keep sharing.
Passing up good is hard but when you know it's not right you know. God help me let go!
Will you ever do a "Dating with Purpose / Where are they Now" video?
Love all your videos by the way💜
I don’t know if anyone will see this comment 😅 it’s been 2 years since this video came out. But I’m going through a break up (he left me) and I have this feeling that I want him to be the one and I can see him being the one. But circumstances separated us and that maybe time will heal us. But I have a conflicting feeling that I just have wishful and hopeful thinking that’s he’s the one and we’ll get back together.
Hopefully I can get a response 🙏🏽
There is a guy that I met through family. He is a nice guy but I feel he is a good actor. He had a girlfriend never told me and then has the nerve to say he wanted to marry Me? It's a gut feeling when someone is hiding something and talking to God for getting revelation
this gives some really great perspective. It's not enough to just have great chemistry. Thank you! Passing up good, for great!
That’s some truly great advice!
I wish I could do it! I can’t afford it right now! 🤦🏽♀️😩
Can't afford what..?
I respect your channel.
Thank you!
This video has comforted me in my decision. I am dating this guy, he is in my class in college. He is really sweet and we have had some really good dates, it's only been a week, and after those dates he just doesn't seem as confident about the relationship. I learned today that he is moving away to Seattle in 4 months for a job he had lined up and that he basically doesn't know what to do cuz he does really like me from a friend and I am trying to find a way to tell him that I know and that we should just stop the relationship so we don't have to stress but, I don't want to make it awkward cuz I have class with him now and next term.
hello Ashley God bless you..
I just wanted to know if you are still going to have more video about couples dating with purpose I like watching those. Because it gives me hope that one day I will find my Partner.
The one that God is preparing for me.
love ya'll 😊
Really good video. Thanks for sharing. ❤❤❤
And when I married the one...who isnt the one but God confirmed me to stand in the gap
I'm about to pass up good right now.
Thanks Ashley
How long did you date the guy ? For you realize he wasn't the one for you ?
Curious too..
Hi. I agree with you Ashley.
THANK YOU 💗
Your look is amazing in this video. ✨
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Different visions of life. Better to be with someone who shares your vision for life and points you towards God.
Omg God just gave me a confirmation I asked for. Wow
For me it’s more of stuff doesn’t click then I push away but I try to stay but I try then they push in the bad way so I breakup
Hi Ashley, I want to know this 'why do men cheat when they are married' something I always wanted to
It feels like all guys reject me
marriage is not fun you encounter many problems grrrrrr not good if im the one single today be fun and enjoy your self
Why did you just describe me
I'm glad to see that you are not extremely particular of your wardrobe because you have another video with this same top on. That tells me that you are very financially conscious.
@ashleyempowers ... I'm in a relationship where I know he is not the one, but I can't let go! HELP! !
Go to 2:50 for the meat
I wish i saw this vid 5 yrs ago. Cos i married good and now i want out. I am not unhappy but i am not happy either. God hates divorce. So what now?
I am so sorry you are married to someone you have absolute no desire for whatsoever. I pray The Lord bless you with the grace and direction you need right now.
I would say to Pray to God to renew and reshape your emotions. To change your taste and to make your marriage heaven on earth. You two are one now. And you said yes to mariage. So, it's not fair to him and it's not fair for you to look at the marriage just about you. I pray that everything works out....
Follow God and what He says in his word. He knows what's best
Being that u are already in marriage now, ask God to help & teach u to love him, and him to love u..
Wow!!!!
ashley can you please check your insta dm cause i messaged you regarding some doubts, please.
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Yeah. She's totally committed to getting all of your money! The Bible (Jesus) says, freely as I've given to you, freely give.
No need for a whole unnecessary program when you simply just tell people what the bible (Jesus) says.
there's a place for practical teaching. That's why we go to school. Even Bible college is not free
Why should she do that? A
If they can get the answer for free, they can go somewhere else
Thanks Ashley