Also, what helped me is to write a list of signs that showed me he wasn’t the one. This seemingly good guy I just couldn’t get over showed me over 30 signs why he wasn’t the one for me... and it snapped me out of the sad, love sick trance I was in! Yes he was everything I was looking for on paper, but his actions, mentality, and some of the things he said didn’t match up. That made it soooooo much easier to let him go! Now I know no one is perfect, but the things I wrong on that paper would have surely came back to bite me had we gotten in a serious relationship.
What you said about men moving on so quickly is true and very hard for women. As women we invest so much of ourselves and when it's over, they just move on to the next. It's hard for a woman to believe she can so easily be replaced by another but that's how men work. And when it's a good guy, it's harder. But God is sooooo good and he prepared for that. It was not by accident. Give God time and you'll be glad he left.
SO true. I had to end a relationship a few years ago with someone who is a man of God BUT I just did not see him as my future partner in life and father of my future children. Something was just missing and I don’t like to force things I felt bad at first but now I thank God because He sent me someone I certainly see a future with
I'm going through a similar situation with a guy and I liked him but not as much as I knew I should and as I kept thinking about us we weren't that compatible. And I ended it and I feel bad because he was a good guy. And sometimes I think that was good for me and will there be better out there. So could I ask you how did you know you made the right decision?
@@chelseajean5226 Hi Chelsea! Do not feel bad at all. I went through the same thing. Our intution and the holy spirit will always reveal what is not quite right. Would it be okay to message you? I have some advice that may help you make peace with your situation.
I felt so weak for crying (and thinking it's something wrong with me) , but you're so right. It's ok to feel those emotions. This is so on time! It's refreshing to know you aren't going through something alone.
The only thing I disagree with is when she said men move on quick. It might appear to the outside observer that a man has moved on quick because guys have to put on the mask that they are strong and tough. But when it gets quiet and they are alone in their thoughts at night is when all the memories start flooding back.
Serving us with the truth. I know it sounds small but I think this could also apply getting over a crush as well. I struggle with crushing on guys. Lately God really set me free. You have to cut the cord I have realized.
Exactly what you said about the social media is exactly what I thought is the best thing to do! Even if you weren’t in a relationship with that person it can be hard.
This is so good 😊 I was telling someone in a group chat that felt they wasn’t good enough for a spouse but I told him god holds the good things until you’re ready. It’s not good to walk into something prematurely.
Thank you for talking about this!!! As women, growing up we always hear about the terrible relationships to avoid but no body ever tells you that you can be dating a great guy BUT he still won't be the one. To be honest, people will often put pressure on you to be with that good guy just because he's a good guy but in your heart you know he is not the one. This is where trusting God is soo important. Not allowing yourself to be swayed by other's opinions and believing what God has promised you is key.
This message was so timely for me! Sometimes it's hard to get through seasons like this, but like you said the number one thing is to trust God. He knows the big picture!
Literally trying to get over someone I’ve been talking to for a year after being single for 3 years. I thought I was gonna marry him. This is probably one of the most painful things I’ve gone through. Things just didn’t work out as I hoped they would.
I needed this so bad. It wasn’t even a relationship but a guy that I really liked & knew as an acquaintance but he ghosted me. But i have observed him & know him through mutual friends too & he is a good guy. So it was tough being rejected by a good guy, really shook me up tbh. Thanks Ashley!
Lol yea that's the worst thing to do. The best way to get over a guy is to fall even deeper in love with God and letting Him heal you and make you whole again
Thank you for this video. Blessed me in no small way. I think I tend to hold on longer than necessary to ended relationships. This video opened my eyes to a whole new perspective.
Very true, very real. My first boyfriend was a great guy. We dated for two years, but it just didn’t work out. Maybe it was because of age, maturity, where we were, who knows, but he wasn’t for me. You have to take that time to be in God as you heal. If you don’t things will not go well in the next relationship.
Recently I meet a guy that was almost too perfect but a good guy. I had to let him go because he was rushing into a committed relationship. Also, tried to do everything perfect to keep me.
Also, what helped me is to write a list of signs that showed me he wasn’t the one. This seemingly good guy I just couldn’t get over showed me over 30 signs why he wasn’t the one for me... and it snapped me out of the sad, love sick trance I was in! Yes he was everything I was looking for on paper, but his actions, mentality, and some of the things he said didn’t match up. That made it soooooo much easier to let him go! Now I know no one is perfect, but the things I wrong on that paper would have surely came back to bite me had we gotten in a serious relationship.
What you said about men moving on so quickly is true and very hard for women. As women we invest so much of ourselves and when it's over, they just move on to the next. It's hard for a woman to believe she can so easily be replaced by another but that's how men work. And when it's a good guy, it's harder. But God is sooooo good and he prepared for that. It was not by accident. Give God time and you'll be glad he left.
SO true. I had to end a relationship a few years ago with someone who is a man of God BUT I just did not see him as my future partner in life and father of my future children. Something was just missing and I don’t like to force things I felt bad at first but now I thank God because He sent me someone I certainly see a future with
Praise God!!
I'm going through a similar situation with a guy and I liked him but not as much as I knew I should and as I kept thinking about us we weren't that compatible. And I ended it and I feel bad because he was a good guy. And sometimes I think that was good for me and will there be better out there. So could I ask you how did you know you made the right decision?
@@chelseajean5226 Hi Chelsea! Do not feel bad at all. I went through the same thing. Our intution and the holy spirit will always reveal what is not quite right. Would it be okay to message you? I have some advice that may help you make peace with your situation.
I really needed this because I’m THE SAME SITUATION and it doesn’t make sense at all
The timing of this.... whewwwwww🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️I’ve been torturing myself since running into him a few weeks ago.
I felt so weak for crying (and thinking it's something wrong with me) , but you're so right. It's ok to feel those emotions. This is so on time! It's refreshing to know you aren't going through something alone.
The only thing I disagree with is when she said men move on quick. It might appear to the outside observer that a man has moved on quick because guys have to put on the mask that they are strong and tough. But when it gets quiet and they are alone in their thoughts at night is when all the memories start flooding back.
assuming you are a guy and would know?
Serving us with the truth. I know it sounds small but I think this could also apply getting over a crush as well. I struggle with crushing on guys. Lately God really set me free. You have to cut the cord I have realized.
There is a difference between a good man and a Godly man.
Exactly what you said about the social media is exactly what I thought is the best thing to do! Even if you weren’t in a relationship with that person it can be hard.
Your timing is impeccable
CONFIRMATION. CONFIRMATION. CONFIRMATION!
2 years later and this is so relevant to my current situation. Thanks Ashley
Well for me the guy might be good but if he's not godly I have to move on. He may be good but not good for me. Lesson I learned.
This is so good 😊 I was telling someone in a group chat that felt they wasn’t good enough for a spouse but I told him god holds the good things until you’re ready. It’s not good to walk into something prematurely.
Thank you for talking about this!!! As women, growing up we always hear about the terrible relationships to avoid but no body ever tells you that you can be dating a great guy BUT he still won't be the one. To be honest, people will often put pressure on you to be with that good guy just because he's a good guy but in your heart you know he is not the one. This is where trusting God is soo important. Not allowing yourself to be swayed by other's opinions and believing what God has promised you is key.
I literally needed this! I believe that I have gotten over him but these tips are great!!! It really is the hardest relationship to let go!
I literally opened my mouth when she said the men all said "NO". Lol I need to do better. 😂😂😂 No more wasting my time 😩😂
The timing of this is prefect for me bc I recently had to cut off communication with my ex bf who was a good guy. Thank you for sharing!
This is Golden!!! thank you!
Came right on time, thank you Ashley
This was right on time. Thank you!!!
This message was so timely for me! Sometimes it's hard to get through seasons like this, but like you said the number one thing is to trust God. He knows the big picture!
Literally trying to get over someone I’ve been talking to for a year after being single for 3 years. I thought I was gonna marry him. This is probably one of the most painful things I’ve gone through. Things just didn’t work out as I hoped they would.
So needed this 🙏💕
I needed this so bad. It wasn’t even a relationship but a guy that I really liked & knew as an acquaintance but he ghosted me. But i have observed him & know him through mutual friends too & he is a good guy. So it was tough being rejected by a good guy, really shook me up tbh. Thanks Ashley!
I long ago decided that dating was not a worthwhile expenditure of my time.....and it turns out, 5 years later, that I made the right choice.
And don't get a new guy immediately. My friend always says in order to get over a guy get a new one lol
Lol yea that's the worst thing to do. The best way to get over a guy is to fall even deeper in love with God and letting Him heal you and make you whole again
Thank you for this video.
Blessed me in no small way.
I think I tend to hold on longer than necessary to ended relationships. This video opened my eyes to a whole new perspective.
Very true, very real. My first boyfriend was a great guy. We dated for two years, but it just didn’t work out. Maybe it was because of age, maturity, where we were, who knows, but he wasn’t for me. You have to take that time to be in God as you heal. If you don’t things will not go well in the next relationship.
This was soooo good... I needed to hear this
The timing of this ... all I can is thank God
Hey thank you for this video. I needed it so much right now. Sending love from South Africa ❤
God bless
I really needed this word right now. I'm trusting God wholeheartedly.
Needed this, so timely!
Didn’t even watch it yet but I know this is for me!!!!!
Truth! Thank you Ashley. You are looking gorgeous in red 🤗
Thanks for replying to my email ♥️😘😘 ♥️♥️ much love.
Amazing video Ashley!! Very helpful information. Thank you so much for sharing. I love your outfit too!! Where did you get it?
Yes Ashley, my brain & my heart!!! ❤
Thank you thank you thank you.
Thank You ❤️🙌🏾
What a wild analogy. Lol but I get it.
I need to get over a bad boy
This is excellent
Love your hair! 😍 Care to share info on it?!
worthy of the wait...
please get me in
Ashley and Carrington seem like the perfect match. I've always thought that. #createdforyou
Recently I meet a guy that was almost too perfect but a good guy. I had to let him go because he was rushing into a committed relationship. Also, tried to do everything perfect to keep me.
Hey Ashley what song was that in the beginning?
Love C I linked the artist in the description box 💖
@@AshleyEmpowers Thank you
🙏🏾 amen
Can you use these same tips to apply to getting over a Good Lady?
Yes, I'm sure you can!
What's the song in the intro?
melakin191 I linked the artist in description box 💖
Thank yoouuuu
♥️♥️♥️😘