My dad who abused me when I was a teen just died earlier today. A lot of things you said in this video hit home. It’s really nice to know someone else feels the same feelings or lack of feelings towards an abusive figure’s passing.
How you feel, feeling relief, or angry, or happy, or sad, what ever you feel is so valid, and real, and you are an incredible bean. Sending positive vibes to you!
Thank you for sharing such a timely video! My father is also the main source of my C-PTSD. I've been no contact for almost 4 years. Two weeks ago, my aunt (his sister) sent me a text saying that he was in ICU with Covid. Honestly, I felt happy with about an hour of guilt for feeling happy. He ended up recovering & now he is back at home (to my disappointment), so I still haven't gone through this exact thing yet, but this was very helpful.
My father died from lung cancer that metastasized to his brain and spinal cord in 1999. I lived with him for about 39 years. My mother, sister and brother moved out and I lived with my father in the house we moved to in 1961 and I'm still here alone for over 20 years. I felt relief when the end came for him. After I graduated from college and couldn't get a job in my field for about 7 years, he was always angry. My family saw me as a bum in a way, but I figured as long as he would let me live at home, I would live there. This problem seems to have gotten worse for a lot of people, for example, after college a lot of people go back and live with their parents.
I recently through therapy found out I have cptsd from childhood trauma and one thing that plagues my thoughts is what happens when they die, will I be left with guilt.. grief.. anger, relief, etc so hearing how you are processing it is helping me face those fears, hang in there ❤ you're such a wonderful person and have helped me so many times
You are so important to me. I came out about my dad 3 years ago and it’s been hell. But FINALLY after decades of horror And the aftermath etc I’ve felt so hopeless and alone but then I see you and finally there’s someone like me!!! It helps validate things for me that you don’t even know. You’re so important. 🙏
You are a much stronger better person than he ever was or could be the world will remember you for the amazing beautiful strong person you are it will forget about him the only good positive thing he did was have you and your beautiful siblings but he threw it all away you have such a big bright future ahead of you milessa iam so so proud of you love you so much Melissa thank you for what your videos have done for me and so many others you maybe at the other end of the world but your a really close strong friend thank you Melissa
Don't worry girl I went through abuse from my teachers aide and I have depression because of her she's dead too and I have depressive dreams because of her when she was in the hospital I waited for her to die then that day came whare she finally was dead and gone I feel like I let someone who was corrupted and vile almost ruin my life but I feel like now I need to let light in much needed light I don't miss her at all call me cold hearted if you want but I don't miss her
really appreciated this video. two family members of ours who were involved in our abuse (as far as i’m aware they didn’t directly abuse us but they facilitated it, so to speak) are getting to a point where i’m not sure how much longer they’ll be around. some of us are quite attached to them and only hold good memories of them, others are disgusted by them because of what they did and can’t wait to see them go. when they do i’m sure it’s gonna be a wild ride.
It can certainly feel like one, as with system conflicts in feelings are turbulent, but also symptoms of PTSD that none in the system really predicted.
That message was the best thing you could have done for you and him, i believe he did get the message behind that for sure, now it is time too get writ of the bad memories he has left with you, it will be easier too do that now i guess, but some will remain, they do with me i cant forget all of them at all, but it will be easier, all the best wishes for you Melissa.
i call them accidental progenitors yes, i have dissociative amnesia for my first 6 1/2 years when i am told we lived with a very bad dad i got it easy? you are free too, forever 🙏
Hi Melissa, I could see it wasn't easy for you to make this video but you made it anyway. Hopefully it will help you but probably it will help someone else. Take care.
My “parental unit” died 3 years ago on Thanksgiving day. My younger half brother called me to tell me he died at the Thanksgiving table. I could not stop laughing. When I hung up my wife asked me what was so funny, & I told her. She got angry with me. The last 9 years of his life I learned to hate him & am glad he is gone. People who have never had a parental unit knock them out, crack their ribs or have 3 teeth kicked out by that unit could never understand the hate & elation I felt, we feel. Some people are too judgmental. Thanks for sharing.
Hey: A couple of months ago I dreamt about him. I dreamt that we were talking in TH and I told him that I was willing to make a deal with him: If he crawled away and died under a rock I promised I wouldn't attend his funeral. He did and I didn't.
To the person who wrote he will be judged by the Big Guy.......God is not called the big guy. By the way, what the person did to you was totally inexcusable and wrong and evil, however something good will come from this. Victory has the final say. wait and see.
My dad who abused me when I was a teen just died earlier today. A lot of things you said in this video hit home. It’s really nice to know someone else feels the same feelings or lack of feelings towards an abusive figure’s passing.
Hi Julia. I’m sorry you’ve had so much to cope with since his passing. It can be a roller coaster of emotions
How you feel, feeling relief, or angry, or happy, or sad, what ever you feel is so valid, and real, and you are an incredible bean. Sending positive vibes to you!
I simply hope you know how strong and amazing you truly are !
I appreciate all of your content
Thank you 🌸
@@IDrankTheSeaWater you are more than welcome and I hope and pray your journey will become easier and more peaceful
Thank you for sharing such a timely video! My father is also the main source of my C-PTSD. I've been no contact for almost 4 years. Two weeks ago, my aunt (his sister) sent me a text saying that he was in ICU with Covid. Honestly, I felt happy with about an hour of guilt for feeling happy. He ended up recovering & now he is back at home (to my disappointment), so I still haven't gone through this exact thing yet, but this was very helpful.
My father died from lung cancer that metastasized to his brain and spinal cord in 1999. I lived with him for about 39 years. My mother, sister and brother moved out and I lived with my father in the house we moved to in 1961 and I'm still here alone for over 20 years. I felt relief when the end came for him. After I graduated from college and couldn't get a job in my field for about 7 years, he was always angry. My family saw me as a bum in a way, but I figured as long as he would let me live at home, I would live there. This problem seems to have gotten worse for a lot of people, for example, after college a lot of people go back and live with their parents.
I recently through therapy found out I have cptsd from childhood trauma and one thing that plagues my thoughts is what happens when they die, will I be left with guilt.. grief.. anger, relief, etc so hearing how you are processing it is helping me face those fears, hang in there ❤ you're such a wonderful person and have helped me so many times
You are so important to me. I came out about my dad 3 years ago and it’s been hell. But FINALLY after decades of horror And the aftermath etc I’ve felt so hopeless and alone but then I see you and finally there’s someone like me!!! It helps validate things for me that you don’t even know. You’re so important. 🙏
You are a much stronger better person than he ever was or could be the world will remember you for the amazing beautiful strong person you are it will forget about him the only good positive thing he did was have you and your beautiful siblings but he threw it all away you have such a big bright future ahead of you milessa iam so so proud of you love you so much Melissa thank you for what your videos have done for me and so many others you maybe at the other end of the world but your a really close strong friend thank you Melissa
Thank you, Liam
im so sorry for what you are going through i wish you the best please stay safe
THANK YOU for sharing this.I can relate more than I care to say.You're one of my favorite people of all time.Much love and support from Orlando,Fl.
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Don't worry girl I went through abuse from my teachers aide and I have depression because of her she's dead too and I have depressive dreams because of her when she was in the hospital I waited for her to die then that day came whare she finally was dead and gone I feel like I let someone who was corrupted and vile almost ruin my life but I feel like now I need to let light in much needed light I don't miss her at all call me cold hearted if you want but I don't miss her
really appreciated this video.
two family members of ours who were involved in our abuse (as far as i’m aware they didn’t directly abuse us but they facilitated it, so to speak) are getting to a point where i’m not sure how much longer they’ll be around. some of us are quite attached to them and only hold good memories of them, others are disgusted by them because of what they did and can’t wait to see them go. when they do i’m sure it’s gonna be a wild ride.
It can certainly feel like one, as with system conflicts in feelings are turbulent, but also symptoms of PTSD that none in the system really predicted.
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I think this is a helpful video for so many people. To have someone to relate to
💜💜💜 this is such an important video. Thank you for making it.
Thank you for expressing the importance. This was the hope.
Melissa you are one of the strongest people I know hugs ❤️❤️❤️
That message was the best thing you could have done for you and him, i believe he did get the message behind that for sure, now it is time too get writ of the bad memories he has left with you, it will be easier too do that now i guess, but some will remain, they do with me i cant forget all of them at all, but it will be easier, all the best wishes for you Melissa.
i call them accidental progenitors
yes, i have dissociative amnesia for my first 6 1/2 years when i am told we lived with a very bad dad
i got it easy?
you are free too, forever 🙏
When my abuser died I felt relief I guess and now he can’t hurt anyone I had tons of emotions when I found out but I’m at peace with myself now❤️❤️❤️
im sorry.... im so lucky my dad was amazing i miss him so much...
Hi Melissa, I could see it wasn't easy for you to make this video but you made it anyway. Hopefully it will help you but probably it will help someone else. Take care.
My “parental unit” died 3 years ago on Thanksgiving day. My younger half brother called me to tell me he died at the Thanksgiving table. I could not stop laughing. When I hung up my wife asked me what was so funny, & I told her. She got angry with me. The last 9 years of his life I learned to hate him & am glad he is gone. People who have never had a parental unit knock them out, crack their ribs or have 3 teeth kicked out by that unit could never understand the hate & elation I felt, we feel. Some people are too judgmental. Thanks for sharing.
Hugs Melissa❤️❤️❤️
Hugs to you 🤗
@09:45 he's being judged now by the Big Guy.
Hey:
A couple of months ago I dreamt about him. I dreamt that we were talking in TH and I told him that I was willing to make a deal with him: If he crawled away and died under a rock I promised I wouldn't attend his funeral.
He did and I didn't.
my father and his entire side of the family disowned me.
That must have been, and surely still is, very difficult...
❤
The Queen of the damned. But we all feel for her.
Is there an issue, Thomas?
No. Sorry. I'm happy you found some sort of comfort. I'm waiting for my dad to die.
Thank you. And I hope you find comfort as well.
To the person who wrote he will be judged by the Big Guy.......God is not called the big guy. By the way, what the person did to you was totally inexcusable and wrong and evil, however something good will come from this. Victory has the final say. wait and see.
Your beautiful and amazing
Do you think you were diagnosed with Tourette's because of your trauma?
No. I was diagnosed with Tourette because I have tics and fit the criteria. Trauma can contribute to making tics worse, but does not cause it
Memories can be changed if you take the time