5 Reasons Why Men Are ATTRACTED To Women Who Don't Try Hard!

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    5 Reasons Why Men Are ATTRACTED To Women Who Don't Try Hard!... In this dating advice video, I will share the reasons why men are attracted to women who don't try hard. Women who don't try hard often exude confidence, which is incredibly appealing to men. Take heed of this dating advice to understand why men are attracted to these women.
    I want you to understand men better to know how men think, what men like, and why men are attracted to women who don't try hard. Men appreciate women who don't try hard because women who don't are often authentic and genuine, a quality many men value. Embrace this video to learn how to attract men.
    Not every man is attracted to women who don’t try hard, but many men find women who don’t try hard to be very attractive. Women who don’t try hard are often low maintenance and don’t require much attention and effort, which can relieve many men. Pay attention to this relationship advice to know what men are attracted to.
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  • @MeetStephanSpeaks
    @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +306

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    • @OnlySupportThoseWhoSupportYOU
      @OnlySupportThoseWhoSupportYOU Год назад +4

      @Stephan Speaks
      Sex, It doesn't create Love inside of a man. My birthday was yesterday and I stopped having sex as a gift of love to my mental health. No woman should sleep with a man that tells you he doesn't love you after being with him for almost a year 😮😐🫥 ......
      If he does not love my cookies but likes having cookies all of the time - I say 🚩! Flag - that's not right. Most women want to be loved and appreciated if they cook, clean and have sex with a man...❤️‍🔥 I'm so done waisting energy...I feel like I stopped living life to be treated like a servant with nothing offered in return and it made me think within - what am I waiting for? That's when I realized there was nothing there but sex and I had played myself. How mad can I be if a man does not reciprocate but enjoys what I offer? I can only stop having sex out of frustration 😂 He could have had more and better sex inside of love and friendship vibrations and frequencies..... the man dumb.....

    • @giftytuffour8090
      @giftytuffour8090 Год назад +2

      I have all your books now I want to finish reading them all,and I will get your coaching course,next am taking it easy,thank you.

    • @dianaross1055
      @dianaross1055 Год назад +3

      @@OnlySupportThoseWhoSupportYOU true that ✊🏼💜🌹👍🏼✊🏼 I so much can relate to that ✊🏼💜

    • @julietnalwoga5247
      @julietnalwoga5247 Год назад

      Mm

    • @julietnalwoga5247
      @julietnalwoga5247 Год назад

      @@OnlySupportThoseWhoSupportYOU mmm

  • @beefaye6861
    @beefaye6861 Год назад +96

    .....If a man is not interested....he will never approach u......If he want u....he coming for ya!😋

    • @denisedee00
      @denisedee00 Год назад +3

      Amen ! So true!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +1

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏

    • @IVvOOvVI
      @IVvOOvVI Год назад +5

      This might be true, but I have an experience where the man come over to give me his number, and never asked for my number. And he was the only man who came over and I was the only woman he interacted with before he left. I never called him because he was supposed to make the plans. When he gave me his number I just had a bad feeling. I’m sure he was just playing a game to see if I’d fall prey. Needless to say, it backfired on him.

  • @leannegraceliberty
    @leannegraceliberty Год назад +700

    Why do some men pursue, and then as soon as we show interest back, then they withdraw?? Seems like this withdraw-thing is a rather common phenomenon. 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @reginadavis1028
      @reginadavis1028 Год назад +91

      The interest back might be coming off as too aggressive and may come off as desperate. Might be too willing to do too much too soon. Maybe? Or some guys just like the pursuit. THAT turns them on. Perhaps...

    • @Didi-fr5ic
      @Didi-fr5ic Год назад +238

      He is not a man yet but a grown ass boy 😂

    • @leannegraceliberty
      @leannegraceliberty Год назад +115

      ​@@reginadavis1028 yeah, I hear you... I think some guys just really love having a string of women interested in them

    • @Didi-fr5ic
      @Didi-fr5ic Год назад +75

      ​@@reginadavis1028 a woman should show intrest , I think her intrest is great but it will be the right energy for rhe right man , you should always be yourself, i think is she has a strong sense of showing love in that way its great , just close you're legs

    • @leannegraceliberty
      @leannegraceliberty Год назад +6

      ​@@Didi-fr5ic ❤❤❤ fully agree

  • @JennyGaston
    @JennyGaston Год назад +447

    That part👉🏾" you don't have to chase what God sent". Trusting in the sovereignty of my God❤

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +8

      ❤ 🙏

    • @GodsObedientChild-Deuteron6262
      @GodsObedientChild-Deuteron6262 Год назад +5

      Agreed and Amen✨

    • @meredithallen4006
      @meredithallen4006 Год назад +1

      What if the man I’m interested in (and supremely attracted to) is only connected with me in a professional manner. He has not flirted with me or been unprofessional in any way. How can I tell if he is just being professional and respectful or if he is disinterested. The professional relationship is functionally over and I have no reason to ever see or contact him again. But I’ve never been so attracted to a person like this. I’m 43. This could be a crush. But I’ve been there done that. This is different. Maybe just a different crush? Will he ever pursue me?

    • @Carly4now
      @Carly4now Год назад +1

      That part! 👀🤷🏽‍♀️🥰 FFF

    • @latoyarichardson2999
      @latoyarichardson2999 Год назад +3

      You sure don't if it's sent from god that person will stick around

  • @starbright2683
    @starbright2683 Год назад +148

    Amen! "Don't lean on your own understanding." I am guilty of trying way too hard with the last man who I liked. Lord, please deliver me from low self-esteem, desperation, hopelessness, and anxiety, as I age without children! ❤ And thank you for sending Stephan to speak into our lives. 🌄

  • @edwa3dj
    @edwa3dj Год назад +59

    When you KNOW your value and you present it in a feminine manner, men SEE your value and we treat you completely differently than all the other women.

  • @Thegazelle1000
    @Thegazelle1000 Год назад +60

    Sometimes it's really difficult to understand the nature of some men:
    - When you make it easier to chase you, they say that you are too easy to get.
    - When you do the first move, they said that you are masculine.
    - when you told them that you're not interested in them, they'll not listen and keep chasing you.
    - when you told them that you're already in relationship with someone else, they'll keep chasing you.
    Uh!!! Sometimes they said that women don't knkw what they want, but men don't play either!! THEY ARE CONFUSED 🤔🤔

  • @dtinymaynartry
    @dtinymaynartry Год назад +264

    I think the best gift a man can give to any woman or a woman to any man is to allow each other to be him or herself.I love when I can feel free with anyone in my life .Free to laugh ,free to express myself,free to say what hurts, etc.Its a good feeling to have and a good place to be I think

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +5

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

    • @berylsavanah9508
      @berylsavanah9508 Год назад +4

      There's a guy I'm in the talking stage with and he said this exact thing. That he likes how he can be himself with me and that melted my heart. I hope we become more than just friends and pursue a romantic relationship in future.

    • @GlendineMPRSSGGlasgow-nq8nz
      @GlendineMPRSSGGlasgow-nq8nz 8 месяцев назад +1

      All the best hon. Hopefully you and him are fully committed by now

  • @Thegazelle1000
    @Thegazelle1000 Год назад +69

    You said it right Stephan: "if there's attraction, there will not be a lot of work to do." I always put attraction first before i date someone, if I'm not attracted by someone, I'll put him in the friend zone and leave him there lol.
    When me and my boyfriend met for the first time, we talked for 15 minutes, then he asked me my number and I give it to him without excitation because I was attracted to him and him the same.

  • @turner2952
    @turner2952 Год назад +90

    Great vid!
    If a man is really interested, he will be the one to persue. If the woman is interested, she will respond to his actions in a positive way by thanking him for calling, telling him that she had a great time on the date, telling him how much she appreciated whatever he did for her. IMO, women should never be the one to initiate anything (calls, dates, etc.). The woman should be the "responder", not the "initiator". Call me "old school", but the way I was raised was that women don't chase men.
    Always great info, Stephan! Keep up the good work!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +2

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏

    • @amerokeewiya1320
      @amerokeewiya1320 Год назад +14

      Chasing & showing interest are 2 different things. Nothing wrong with initiating especially when he does it mostly & when you know unequivocally that he’s totally smitten with you. It’s ok dear…

    • @user-mb9jx5tx9y
      @user-mb9jx5tx9y Год назад +2

      Nothing yu said was wrong. Sooooo right

  • @alihall676
    @alihall676 Год назад +70

    I spent many years being controlled by a man who only cared about what I provided to him financially. I learned a great deal from that experience. And I lost myself in the 20 years that I was always going the extra mile.
    I will never be in this situation again. I have a full life with my friends and family, volunteer work that I will never give up because it’s part of who I am. I have time to focus on someone special in my life and I do this with always having balance in my life. Ladies, communicate up front. If you are not being valued, walk away. Do it with grace and kindness, but walk away. Your time will be there when the timing is right!

    • @j.jgodismyprotection4296
      @j.jgodismyprotection4296 Год назад

      Love this Part of Grace and Kindness always Control your emotions. And walk away gracefully.

  • @CJizzy819
    @CJizzy819 Год назад +119

    “Let God Guide You.” Amen. God + Discernment will never fail you. Trust your spirit and that first gut instinct. It’s always the right one.💯

  • @denisedee00
    @denisedee00 Год назад +67

    25:49 💯 This is so accurate ! I have refocus my attention on my ,Health & fitness. I excercise in my gym & spend alot of time outdoor everyday 🚶‍♀️ Walking or running. It's also a great way to meet people with your same Vibe.
    #leanandmean

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +1

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏

    • @comic_life_86
      @comic_life_86 Год назад +1

      Just a reminder man so often fall in ima work on myself, and then just go to gym and care about physical health, but guys most of the time that is not the problem

  • @sowo7136
    @sowo7136 Год назад +109

    As a young lady trying to discover and understand the relationships in reference to the men in this world.Stephen you are like a second father or a great advisor,never have I ever been disappointed by your advice its saved and prevented me from unecessary issues.I'm sending God's blessings to you.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +15

      I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

    • @Braveh3artGirl
      @Braveh3artGirl Год назад +7

      Highly recommend RC Blakes on youtube to help you also ❤

  • @angelicaguzman1484
    @angelicaguzman1484 Год назад +18

    Unfortunately, many men just seek attention.
    Once they get it, they play hard to get, forget it.
    I know my worth, I thought he was worth my time, I shared my number and he back up, thank God!
    There’s no way, I will waste my time with someone that’s not mature enough to stop playing games.

  • @Judybell1959
    @Judybell1959 Год назад +26

    I'm not asking a man for his number

    • @beefaye6861
      @beefaye6861 Год назад +2

      Me either..... ✌

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +2

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

    • @amerokeewiya1320
      @amerokeewiya1320 Год назад +1

      Lol I hear that!

    • @s.c.h6512
      @s.c.h6512 Год назад +1

      Lol never have in my 28 years. I'm single though lol. These new generation of men ugh

  • @themariamercedez1101
    @themariamercedez1101 Год назад +30

    Why do we make life so complicated? Just be calm, it is what it is, let it go, let it flow... You can buy yourself Flowers and talk yourself for hours

  • @CF-wp7xo
    @CF-wp7xo Год назад +29

    It's not the case for every man. Once I started dating a guy.. he seemed very interested and sweet ... we were taking things slow (i was). One day, he told me that his ex-girlfriend bought him a Rolex for his birthday (a couple of months after he broke up with her)..
    So, he felt that he should try to go out with her...
    I gave him my blessings and said goodbye ( I wasn't going to buy him another Rolex 😂😂😂)

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +5

      I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏

    • @ladyowl9187
      @ladyowl9187 Год назад

      Wtf 😂

    • @CF-wp7xo
      @CF-wp7xo Год назад +4

      @Stephan Speaks I was not upset at all about it. I was just saying that some men are insecure and like women doormat style. Actually, most men do. But it is not for me

    • @leahgithaiga2941
      @leahgithaiga2941 Год назад +1

      😂😂 I like your humor.

    • @tamz-b1h
      @tamz-b1h 10 месяцев назад

      Girl he wanted a matching bracelet 😂😂

  • @pixiewinks6897
    @pixiewinks6897 Год назад +70

    I have watched 1,000 videos of over 20 dating coaches over the last 2 years and no one has made more sense or given me better advice then you. Thank you ❤

    • @Tnc874
      @Tnc874 6 месяцев назад

      You may need to get a life

  • @katied2196
    @katied2196 Год назад +27

    Yaaasss!! I'm learning how to become a better woman from a real man's point of view.. we were not given handbooks on this! Men and Women are two different species, but similar in other ways, lol.. I just started talking to a new man, for about a minth, after taking time out for myself and not jumping to the 1st interest.. and your advice and knowledge has made me feel like a better woman and sit back and understand his behaviors more now than immediately reacting off emotions.. and I'm a Cancer Zodiac, lol I'm already emotional, sensitive, and can develop insecurities if I don't check myself.. so again, Thank you for all your education on what should be considered from a Man's perspective and my self value perspective Stephan! Your lady is a very lucky woman! 😘

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад

      Thank you for your feedback, I'm happy this has been helpful to you I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

  • @teshathompson5695
    @teshathompson5695 Год назад +23

    God chose you for this relationship coach business. Keep up the good work, Sir!

  • @celestinebennett212
    @celestinebennett212 Год назад +34

    Thank you, Stephan, your teachings are really educative. Some women don't try too hard because they have busy schedules at work, time is valuable here but when she gives you her time it is 100% . And that's not trying hard because you never know when you will have another date ..depending on your work schedule especially if you are self-employed, the more you grow the more you don't try hard your business takes 90% of your time

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +1

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤ 🙏

    • @1bbybl.u
      @1bbybl.u Год назад +5

      That’s capitalism talking. No one dies and goes “dam I wish I spent more time working” it’s usually “I wish I got to spend more time with *insert deceased person*”. the way we live our lives in western culture is intended to interrupt our connection to the divine. Our souls and spirits are more important. Material gains are not everlasting, love is. clear ur schedule for love, make sacrifices in the name of love & tune deep into ur personal discernment 😊

    • @celestinebennett212
      @celestinebennett212 Год назад +7

      @@1bbybl.u did you know that 80% of couples break up because of financial instability that leads to cheating .. Love is not enough to put food on the table for your family.. Everyone has a choice ...but choose wisely

  • @B_ready4671
    @B_ready4671 Год назад +5

    I am awful at flirtng..I fumble all ovr myself..I get very Lavern & Shirley-ish 😆

  • @orarichman9948
    @orarichman9948 Год назад +55

    Not only value yourself, do not lower your standards under no circumstances. If he is the right man, he will accept or meet your standards. Pulling away because he pulls away will not draw him to you, especially if he isn't interested in you or attracted to you. If you don't peak his interest in any type of way, you might as well forget it. Don't play hard to get, be authentic AND BE HARD TO GET!!! Why pretend to be hard to get? Pretending is not being honest and genuine.💯

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +1

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

    • @Pagalchhagal
      @Pagalchhagal Год назад

      The same advice can be given to men. Do not lower standards. A woman who does not try is likely to not feel attraction towards you and is not deserving of your love

  • @jodynanci
    @jodynanci Год назад +14

    Men wanna be complicated soooo bad 🙄

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад

      It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

    • @5050TM
      @5050TM Год назад +2

      Right lol What happened to I like you, I like you too 😂

  • @radmilamilovanovic6450
    @radmilamilovanovic6450 Год назад +22

    I'm in love with Stephan's words of wisdom and his closeness to God! Thank YOU 💖

  • @stefanimelcher
    @stefanimelcher Год назад +21

    Oh boy, this is the hardest to do! It's hard not to try to make things happen and let God make it happen. Thanks Steph, you rcok!

  • @tweetyb421
    @tweetyb421 Год назад +14

    Thank you so much for this word! It is beneficial for any woman to hear…LOTS of good information. I’m just stunned at the “harem” story…I’m stunned because these girls actually know about each other and STILL engage with this guy…no judgement, but women we have to treat OURSELVES better…we’re fabulous and deserve better….❤️

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +1

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏

  • @hateisforlosers6116
    @hateisforlosers6116 Год назад +9

    This was awesome!!!!! Information. I have met guys who just want to have fun,i am like God No i dont have anytime for that. I learned to enjoy my singleness and my ever so precious relationship with the Father God.He's right about all 5 points, for the younger ladies listen to this gentleman ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @gi552
    @gi552 Год назад +22

    Watching your videos lead me meet the man I prayed for who matches my effort and energy in terms of pouring each others need and desire to strengthen our relationship even if we are miles apart 😊

  • @elizabethcook9443
    @elizabethcook9443 Год назад +9

    This is great advice!! I’m 46 and learning. Thank you!!

  • @Momentum123go
    @Momentum123go Год назад +5

    Why play games life is hard enough to understand

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

  • @veritastold830
    @veritastold830 Год назад +8

    Let him lead. Learn to follow. Only compete with yourself, to be more original, more authentic, with and/or without him.

  • @preciousstone2782
    @preciousstone2782 Год назад +7

    I ABSOLUTELY AGREE...WOMEN SHOULD SHOW SOME INTEREST ,& MAKE SOME EFFORT WITHOUT BEING A THIRSTY...

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +1

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

  • @Mermaid03_03
    @Mermaid03_03 Год назад +10

    This is true. I don’t try at all and post playful toxic things and men seem to flock to me. I just think they’re attracted. It’s nuts to me because you’d think I was a walking red flag lol.

  • @CyberSecurityFashionDesigner
    @CyberSecurityFashionDesigner Год назад +10

    Stephan, I think the real issue is how we are made. Women are naturally lovers and love to show it! The issue is men do not yet they are always complaining that they want to be loved but always pushing away the women that do! It is just confusing and a game where everyone is confused and getting hurt! Women have to tone down their personalities to get a man. It took my years to become “neutral.”

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

    • @kdvwusm
      @kdvwusm Год назад +2

      I know :( that’s why I have a roster 😅 I am naturally very giving and love pleasing a man I find attractive.

    • @CyberSecurityFashionDesigner
      @CyberSecurityFashionDesigner Год назад +1

      @@kdvwusm amen to that one! Hard to find that

  • @catcat9582
    @catcat9582 Год назад +26

    I can't handle dating anymore. So many things to be and not to be in order for a man to value you

    • @TheSunshineplace10
      @TheSunshineplace10 Год назад +5

      It's definitely draining.

    • @jibarabicha4853
      @jibarabicha4853 Год назад +2

      I think once a true attraction and connection happens, things flow organically and most of this advice goes out the window.

    • @anousalis4089
      @anousalis4089 9 месяцев назад

      Very exhausting

    • @catcat9582
      @catcat9582 9 месяцев назад

      @anousalis4089 In some ways the exhaustion is freeing. I don't understand red pill men who say women have such high standards when I see so many women w men who like and act like a big toe

  • @sonyaellis2059
    @sonyaellis2059 Год назад +9

    Here we go again with some more golden nuggets! 😂Love how you are free to express raw truth, including God. 🤗🙏❤️🌞🌈

  • @hmastin
    @hmastin Год назад +11

    Thank you for reminding us about not over looking the component of God’s guidance and the importance of it’s role in our lives

  • @dtinymaynartry
    @dtinymaynartry Год назад +10

    I LOVE your content very much.If we are not better people in relationships after hearing all this wisdom then......

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +1

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

  • @latoyarichardson2999
    @latoyarichardson2999 Год назад +5

    You right if you do less it attracts them

  • @bettyvelasquez266
    @bettyvelasquez266 Год назад +7

    I love your channel because you always include GOD thank you ❤

  • @oliviadimock8202
    @oliviadimock8202 Год назад +8

    Thanks Stephan for this video, I love hearing perspectives from a man rather than trying to figure it out on my own! God bless you brother! ❤💪

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад

      ❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much and may God bless you as well 🙏

  • @shani-gurlt8397
    @shani-gurlt8397 Год назад +7

    Wow! This was very enlightening! Such an eye-opener! Thank you. Stephan

  • @CoachSteveJandS
    @CoachSteveJandS Год назад +9

    Reciprocating is essential

  • @AudaciousErin82Baby
    @AudaciousErin82Baby Год назад +7

    Stephan, I just wanted you to know that you're truly a blessing to us-me especially. Thank You so much my Brotha (huge hug) May God continue to bless you in all of your endeavors now and in the future 🙏🏾

  • @sarastarski
    @sarastarski Год назад +3

    If you see a man that has other women on rotation you run as far as you can and you don’t look back!

  • @RhondaR4
    @RhondaR4 Год назад +12

    Thank you, Stephan for making this video! I'm learning a lot.❤️

  • @laraclar3195
    @laraclar3195 Год назад +5

    Some men are so damaged that they let woman talk to them and treat them any kind of way cause they have been so beat down in past relationships..so that is why we see that a men is with a woman that dont try hard cause they dont think they deserve someone to put forth that effort for him

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

  • @ReneelovesGod
    @ReneelovesGod Год назад +13

    Can you do a video on dating for older Christian adults? Yes I have a current friendship with a man and I’m not trying hard at all.
    He’s definitely attractive to me, it seems.. I want to wait before being intimate. He seems to want to be intimate
    Ans he says he’s a Christian but he’s unsure how to “court me”. And suggestions or helpful feedback?
    Thank you😊

    • @barbaraalden6013
      @barbaraalden6013 Год назад +1

      I'm in same boat...he's getting frustrated..

    • @bevill72able
      @bevill72able Год назад +8

      Wait. Don't do it. Practice God's commands.

    • @reneaconnor6610
      @reneaconnor6610 Год назад +12

      If he is TRULY a man of God, then he should be on the same page as you and abstaining until marriage should be just as important to him. If he is getting frustrated and making you feel like you need to go against your boundaries and give in, he's a wolf in sheep's clothing, plain and simple. You will know them by their fruits. Pray about it and be ready to walk away if necessary. There are a lot of spiritual narcissists out here so got to be careful.

    • @barbaraalden6013
      @barbaraalden6013 Год назад +2

      @@reneaconnor6610 Thank you...wonderful advice..many blessings..

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +6

      Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!

  • @laxdidi6300
    @laxdidi6300 Год назад +8

    I love everything you share & the way you explain. It all just makes perfect sense! You are the best! Thank you! 🌺

  • @shoppernista
    @shoppernista Год назад +4

    Bottom line - Let God guide you - Pray- Absolutely

  • @mariegiron1811
    @mariegiron1811 Год назад +1

    You ramble too much. You should just get to the point and say the main topic then explain them. Like name the 5 reasons and then explain each one. You ramble and I forget what you are talking about. I lose interest and go to another video.

  • @krysiadavis7773
    @krysiadavis7773 Год назад +3

    I don't know what happened to me. I definitely tried too hard, I use to do that with all my relationships in general.
    But then I learned to no try so hard... not I don't try at all!!! I'm not playing hard to get... I'm just not playing at all. Lol
    I don't like it but I can't seem to change it. I did completely quit dating.

  • @vonettaadams8839
    @vonettaadams8839 Год назад +4

    Congratulations on your 1.3M subscribers. Keep reaching for the stars 🤩

  • @ruledbyvenus1859
    @ruledbyvenus1859 Год назад +1

    Good grief the thirst in this comment section is embarrassing.
    Bless y’all’s desperate hearts. 😂

  • @275MsParis
    @275MsParis Год назад +6

    I’m learning so much from your channel because I had no clue he was a narcissist until I came across your channel. Thank You

  • @Welcome2terieville
    @Welcome2terieville Год назад +7

    Can you do a video on issues that arise when a woman grows closer to God but further away from her husband ? Right now I’m feeling like as I get deeper into my spiritually, my husband continues to stay the same & it’s just not working anymore. What can I do to fix this?

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +2

      Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!

    • @brittney5771
      @brittney5771 Год назад

      Pray...Nobody can change your situation but God. That is exactly why we are to wait for our God ordained spouse and not up and marry someone God never told us to marry. Equally yolked. God knows exactly what he is talking about. We need to simply be obedient and stop finding ourselves in these headache situations. God bless you. Pray about it and that your husband changes.

    • @queenkristine9590
      @queenkristine9590 Год назад

      @@brittney5771 did you just shame her for marrying before they were both strong in their faith?? and are you suggesting that marriage is only for those who are well seasoned & established in their faith? because that’s what it sounds like you’re saying.

    • @brittney5771
      @brittney5771 Год назад

      @@queenkristine9590 Nope not at all what I was saying but I am not surprised you are offended. The bible did say in the last days many will take offense. Stop being soft and taking sensible words for an attack. I don't see any lie in what I said but I am always happy for any correction. Further, if the lady I was addressing is not offended then you have no right to be. God bless

    • @HD-Australia
      @HD-Australia Год назад

      Keep loving your husband. Keep spending time with him. Keep showing him you love him through your actions. People can become too pious and neglect their children, spouses etc. Remember St. Paul wrote that an unbelieving man or woman is saved by their spouse's faith, and that you should not abandon or divorce your unbelieving spouse, however if your unbelieving spouse wants to divorce you, let them go

  • @MsLilac88
    @MsLilac88 Год назад +5

    Hey Stephan, your relationship videos have been beneficial for my interpersonal relationships & marriage. 👍

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +2

      I'm happy the videos have been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

    • @MsLilac88
      @MsLilac88 Год назад +1

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks I hope that more people can gain clarity about the complexities of men’s mind. 😊

  • @alexisehimen3795
    @alexisehimen3795 Год назад +5

    are you doing a video on online dating soon?

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +1

      Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!

  • @tishaadams2366
    @tishaadams2366 Год назад +5

    Thank you so much for this. Whole video. The part of having a life outside of a man. I actually talked to God about this. It's on point for me. Thank you 💯💯

  • @letgowithlisa
    @letgowithlisa Год назад +4

    Also, it has been my experience that some men will allow you to over compensate as a means of manipulation thereby getting more out of you and never having the intentions to do more than he was already doing which was nothing!❤

    • @letgowithlisa
      @letgowithlisa Год назад

      The best thing I have ever done for myself was to heal! I feel so free and so grateful 💕 💕💕

  • @GoldenAngel-
    @GoldenAngel- Год назад +2

    Listern to Mr.Stephen Speaks his advice along with other advice help me marry my Dream Guy , as remarriage 😉

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад

      I'm happy my videos have been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

  • @frankyhubiz6861
    @frankyhubiz6861 Год назад +5

    Stephan thank you so much for taking your time to explain all this to us I really appreciate the way you calmly explained the difference between playing hard to get and not trying hard I really understand the difference and I learn something from this your video may God keep on giving you the strength and wisdom to keep on putting us through and may God bless you and your job 🙏 thanks

  • @judithsakala4944
    @judithsakala4944 Год назад +9

    How do you determine who is got serious intentions as opposed to one ☝🏾 who just want to play around ? So confusing. 😩
    Am just loving 🥰 me for the time being. 😃🤷🏾‍♀️

  • @JessE-mr4yu
    @JessE-mr4yu Год назад +4

    Hi Stephan, I love your channel very helpful. I very much appreciate you. Peace and Blessings to you and all the beautiful souls out there. 🙏💙🩵🕊🕊

  • @heatherceravolo161
    @heatherceravolo161 Год назад +8

    Stephan please help explain why a man wants validation and says he wants to be exclusive but when I start giving him that, he pulls back! Then I pull back to give him space and then he thinks I am messing with someone else. Its a lose lose situation. What is your opinion on this?

  • @imvivi3953
    @imvivi3953 Год назад +2

    For me i do know my value but sometimes if i genuinely like someone i will do anything for them i understand that man might think that i do not value myself but doesn’t not mean I don’t know my value I’m jus showing u that hey look, i want u . I think these types of men are jus the wrong ones and do not know what they want

  • @GoldenAngel-
    @GoldenAngel- Год назад +5

    Please make more content about getting married, I have single coworkers families that are eager to get married 😊

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +2

      Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!

    • @GoldenAngel-
      @GoldenAngel- Год назад +3

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks Thanks very much , you and your videos are very much Inspiring and Appreciated!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +1

      I'm happy the videos have been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

  • @Olabim
    @Olabim Год назад +2

    Hi.. your videos are amazing! What do you think about different religions getting married? I mean, for example, a Christian and a Muslim?

  • @Mrs.Neves3523
    @Mrs.Neves3523 Год назад +3

    This is exactly what my husband tells me. He’s never gone for anyone who’s come for him first.

  • @lauracarpenter6416
    @lauracarpenter6416 Год назад +1

    Yo, sign me up for the video on flirting. I'm so d@#$ shy. 😂

  • @thisismystone9658
    @thisismystone9658 Год назад +2

    We even give out our number to guys just to honour his courage to ask sometimes well knowing he totally has no chance.

  • @kourtney101
    @kourtney101 Год назад +4

    Nice, this segment was real talk. Perhaps we need to know the answer to basic questions, like, do I know what I deserve? 🤔 🙏🏿

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +1

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

  • @thehitmaster102
    @thehitmaster102 Год назад +1

    I have to deliver you a message God has sent me to tell you God told me tell you I am the person who he has picked for you to be with Stephan. It's important that you heed this message go to Jesus in prayer in the Holy Spirit and ask him have a blessed day . He will tell you he is waiting on you to come and ask him. Peace love be with you.

  • @eb3644
    @eb3644 Год назад +4

    God has gifted you with such wisdom and the best words to convey the information I need. Thank You so so much.

  • @ericajones2537
    @ericajones2537 Год назад +3

    PLAYING hard to get = GAME playing = bullshit!!!!! I never have and never will. I choose to be an open book for someone to read who's on same page as me! (Translation: equally balanced, attracted, vibing positively.)

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏

    • @ericajones2537
      @ericajones2537 Год назад

      Got my book today-----and I have made it through 100pages so far! I love that you addressed relatives (mother) with " ' why aren't you married,etc. syndrome.....)

  • @mmmcottoncandy430
    @mmmcottoncandy430 Год назад +2

    YOU TOO PICKY WITH YOUR RESPONSES WHO GETS A HEART AND NOT.... ONE CAN LISTEN TO WHAT YOU SAY AND STILL FORM THEIR OWN OPINION AND THAT SHOULD STILL BE RESPECTED BECAUSE EVERYTHING THAT WORKS FOR HER DOES NOT MEAN ITS GONNA WORK FOR ME... WE HAVE DIFFERENT LOOKS, DIFFERENT VIBES SO THINGS WILL SURELY BE DIFFERENT.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад

      You are absolutely right. Everyone has their opinions and I respect everyone's opinion and I do my best to read and respond to all of your comments. I'm sorry if I sometimes miss your comments, which makes you feel like I'm picky with my responses 🙏

  • @sherylcastro5688
    @sherylcastro5688 4 месяца назад +1

    Where are your verses from the Bible…?

  • @Christimony222
    @Christimony222 Год назад +5

    I really needed this today. Thank you. So timely.

  • @Brage.m3lon
    @Brage.m3lon Год назад +4

    I really don't understand this at all I've always been the type of woman who loves large and when I say that I mean that when I am in a relationship my partner is then the king of my castle. Love language is words of affirmation constantly give him compliments and respect. I'm also a gift giver little and sometimes big things to show how much I appreciate their presence in my life. Cater to their needs whether it's cooking them dinner serving him doing his laundry rubbing out his sore spots all of it and I guess part of that and the reason I do those things is it makes me feel good but I always seem to find the ones who don't appreciate or reciprocate so I'm pretty lost

    • @Chrisia-Queens
      @Chrisia-Queens Год назад +4

      No man will ever love you if you keep doing that. Just mirror his behaviour. If he doesn't do shit for you, don't do it. He doesn't call, don't call him

    • @melmel7011
      @melmel7011 Год назад +3

      Human beings generally do not appreciate extremes. Do all in moderation ul be fine. Loving on someone too much sabotage a relationship

    • @nathalian.7209
      @nathalian.7209 Год назад +5

      Sounds like you’re trying to be their mama… no healthy man wants a mother

    • @Bymyname
      @Bymyname Год назад +1

      Do all this things for yourself first, learn to appreciate it, then you will find people who will also appreciate all your efforts for them

  • @MmM20978
    @MmM20978 Год назад +3

    Hey Stephan. I appreciate your videos since I recently have been watching them more.
    I looked back to your videos to see if you have any advice on a Mama’s boy and men who want their Mother’s approval and her competition with you as his wife!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +1

      Thanks for the visit. I’ll add these suggestions to my list of requested videos! In the meantime, you might like this video 👉 ruclips.net/video/MmIzJyAu4jQ/видео.html

    • @MmM20978
      @MmM20978 Год назад

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks Ty!

  • @Marie-vz2qp
    @Marie-vz2qp Год назад +3

    May God guide us in the right path 🙏💕

  • @thespiritualpilgrim
    @thespiritualpilgrim Год назад +2

    I have the opposite problem I'm painfully shy and if I spy someone I'm attracted to and I know it's mutual and they like me, I can no longer even look in that person's direction but..
    İf the man is confident enough to just come on over and chat it puts me out of my misery, because when the guy is expecting more drawn out glances and eye flirting I get so awkward and cannot deal with it, and I'm now ages 43. Only twice in my life have I been brave enough to be the 1 to start initiating, and if it's someone I'm not attracted to I've no issues, it's only when I'm genuinely attracted to them. Otherwise I love a playful harmless flirt with others even when not attracted just because it boosts their moral and makes them feel good lol I'm a Gemini it's what we do.
    🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @Applauseify
      @Applauseify Год назад +1

      I ain't no Gemini but I do this. The recent guy I found interesting after long , I have not gathered to have conversation with him

  • @gracelong3975
    @gracelong3975 Год назад +1

    Best advice let God guide you 🙏🏾
    Pray does this man belong in my life does he serve a purpose in my life and vice versa do I serve a purpose in his life. God will always guide you in the right direction thank you good video 🙏🏾

  • @sherryporter4740
    @sherryporter4740 Год назад +4

    This was phenomenal, I truly enjoyed it!!!♥️

  • @verasmith1900
    @verasmith1900 Год назад +3

    Amazing video! You have help me smooth out some kinks in my energy I am putting out! Bless you!!💯💯💯😊😊💕💕

  • @constanzaserra6406
    @constanzaserra6406 Год назад +1

    Is it possible that this advices also aplies for job relationships? I feel I can also apply this information for a job search 😂

  • @jencyjose1145
    @jencyjose1145 Год назад +2

    Is there true love in this world? Does anyone need that? Everyone needs something different

  • @alexishill3342
    @alexishill3342 Год назад +3

    Wow, that "go crazy" when he leaves sounds like severe codependence.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

  • @heathergrahame9647
    @heathergrahame9647 Год назад +1

    I think the main reason that women cross the line of doing too much is because they know that they're not as physically attractive as other women. So, they try to get a man interested in them via their enthusiastic, positive personality (which they have to put effort into generating).

  • @lindazeisky3845
    @lindazeisky3845 Год назад +1

    Thank you, lately, I've been somehow coming across some interesting videos of yours that have made me think of things related to some doubts I've had... Some of it has given clarity.

  • @36Bella36
    @36Bella36 Год назад +1

    Im not sure that I see it as HIS "responsibility" but rather just ENJOYING his presence to begin with

  • @kaycees1111
    @kaycees1111 Год назад +2

    ALL BULL
    MEN AND WOMEN WILL BE WHO THEY ARE
    AND THAT'S IT!!!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

  • @fifi5535
    @fifi5535 Год назад +3

    This was perfect timing. God bless you.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +1

      ❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much and may God bless you as well!

  • @aunyawilliams9705
    @aunyawilliams9705 Год назад +2

    Thank you that was so true and it's all said there about gave men too much time at that but God yes Good God is it thanks 🙏

  • @SusieMarie-57
    @SusieMarie-57 Год назад +3

    Thank You Stephan! Yes, Yes and yes to the first 10 seconds!!!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +1

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

    • @SusieMarie-57
      @SusieMarie-57 Год назад

      Okay Stephan, so I just found out about You the other week & You Do Know Your Stuff -I’m so impressed! I hope You considering going live sometime soon / because I want to talked back to you from the female perspective! Plus to ask you to elaborate some more on some points! Actually I find myself talking to you - only like men you ignore me and keep going.. ha, ha Your teaching is refreshing & a God sent; love hearing you speak & absolutely love that fact that you are a God-fearing Christian man & come from His truth! I don’t want to listen nor learn from the world; they come from all kinds of wayward, perverted & Lustful perspective! I’m interested in Love! And a fun, healthy, enjoyable, solid relationship with a masculine real man, not a wimp or sissy nor an arrogant power hungry greedy ego manic or chauvinistic pig! And I certainly don’t desire a man that’s prettier than me or one that takes more time primping in the mirror or one that’s covered in jewelry, no earrings, no oh, oh - okay so you have them but I prefer clean skin & No Tattoos or long hair… ha, ha - you’re good though Stephan anyhow you belong to someone else - which is a good thing! Ha, ha And that’s a good thing that beauty is in the eye of the beholder & we each like & are attracted to different features physically & for sure the heart ❤️ & mind of a good solid man -the whole package - Spirit, Mind & Body

  • @suileniluizontrombetta6317
    @suileniluizontrombetta6317 Год назад +1

    You are lovely . Jesus be with you always 🌸🙏🌸

  • @themariamercedez1101
    @themariamercedez1101 Год назад +1

    i like U Stephan you make me laugh.. ☺️

  • @kristle_virgo-empathic4683
    @kristle_virgo-empathic4683 Год назад +2

    You are the best ❤🎉. This waS for me. 444. Thank you!!!