MY STORY with MODESTY | The FRUSTRATIONS of finding MODEST CLOTHES
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- Опубликовано: 26 авг 2024
- Does modesty even matter? Hello friends! In this video, I talk about how I got introduced to modest fashion and my struggle with it as I grew up! I know dressing modestly isn't easy, especially when no one around you is doing so. For me that lead to bullying and it felt like I could never fit in! But I hope you know that you are not alone! And I'd love to share my experiences with how I learned to dress modestly and fashionably so that you don't have to go through the same struggles I went through growing up! Please leave a comment below about your journey with modesty, as I'm sure many would love to hear your story as well! Please consider subscribing and thanks for watching!
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Oh man, I relate hardcore. Modesty has always been important to me, but it's so frustrating trying to dress modestly but still present myself in a way that feels true to me. I'm looking forward to seeing more of your videos!
Thank you! Glad this was relatable!
*The main problem with us as humans regarding physical modesty is that we view our bodies (nudity) as being inherently sexual. This is a false premise for the following reasons...*
*Bathing, changing clothes, childbirth, breastfeeding, sleeping, going to a sauna, getting a massage (at a spa), nurturing the elderly, nurturing the handicap ♿, locker rooms (for athletes).*
*All of these things require (or can involve) nudity but have nothing to do with anything sexual. Why? Because nudity isn't inherently sexual, it's only looked at like that because we make it sexual. So we can't assume that someone showing skin (not necessarily completely nude) is sexualising themselves so we can't say that you can "cause someone to lust" by not dressing "modestly".*
This officially my absolute favorite RUclips channel! Thank you so much for your content!
Been there. Growing up I always dressed in clothes that made me stand out in a way I didn't like. Ultimately that lead to a break from Modesty, but then I rediscovered it about a year ago. And this time, it was modesty with a twist ❤️
Zanib Sajjad totally! Standing out in a way you don’t like isn’t the answer! But standing out in a way you can be proud of is super empowering. Keep up that modesty with a twist!
*The idea of "modesty" is an absolute joke. God created us to be fully naked with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be provocative, it's just the person wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing does not influence bad actions, bad character does.*
Finally, a RUclipsr that shows that you can still be modest in this modern world. Keep up the good work!
You are an inspiration to many women!.....May God Bless you
*The main problem with us as humans regarding physical modesty is that we view our bodies (nudity) as being inherently sexual. This is a false premise for the following reasons...*
*Bathing, changing clothes, childbirth, breastfeeding, sleeping, going to a sauna, getting a massage (at a spa), nurturing the elderly, nurturing the handicap ♿, locker rooms (for athletes).*
*All of these things require (or can involve) nudity but have nothing to do with anything sexual. Why? Because nudity isn't inherently sexual, it's only looked at like that because we make it sexual. So we can't assume that someone showing skin (not necessarily completely nude) is sexualising themselves so we can't say that you can "cause someone to lust" by not dressing "modestly".*
I just discovered your channel today and now I’m binge watching your videos! I love your fashion advice. I always appreciated fashion and modesty but could never figure out how to make the two work together. Now I’m a mother to 3 girls and want to dress my girls modestly but cute! I’m shocked at how so much little girls clothes are immodest. Your tips help so much. Thank you! ❤️
I am loving your channel!! As a conservative, Christian mom myself, I know it is hard to see as a teen but your mom really loved you. I'm so glad to hear you are becoming closer again and think it is refreshing to see you recognize a mother's need to stand true to her values along with the daughter's need for a resource like this! Looking forward to more videos!!
Thank you! What a sweet comment!
Totally, I’m really grateful that we were able to get close again.
I really want this to be a channel that is helpful to parents and daughters. There’s so much unnecessary conflict around clothes and I would love to help families find options that both parties are excited about.
I'm so excited for this channel!!!!
I'm so excited you found this channel!!!!
*But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart." 1 Samuel 16:7*
*Nowhere in the Bible does it say that our bodies cause others to sin, that's a misinterpretation. The Bible is clear that our bodies are made in God's image and, because of that, we're the crown jewel of His creation. That's why there was no shame in nudity but we've lost sight of that but that doesn't mean that truth changes. Hebrews 13:8 tells us that Jesus is the same yesterday and today and tomorrow so if He thought our bodies were shameless yesterday, He still believes this today. Yes we have to cover certain areas of our bodies when we're in public because we'll get arrested for indecent exposure if we don't but clothing isn't God's creation nor was it ever intended by Him so it's not a priority of His. 1 Samuel 16:7 says WE LOOK AT PHYSICAL APPEARANCE WHILE GOD LOOKS AT THE HEART ❤ and that couldn't be any more true. David, Esther, Isaiah and Adam and Eve (before the fall) were all elevated when they embraced their natural beauty (bodies) so our bodies are not shameful "stumbling blocks", they're glorious elevation tools.*
Since I got married, I sincerely don't want other men looking at me, only my husband. So I've been dressing modestly for a couple years now and it's amazing. I actually make more friends too. Weird how that works but my work life is more rewarding too. Hard to explain. Women don't see me as some kind of threat to them or as their competition so people are more open to me.
Exactly! People are more kind with me cause i really don't want to be noticed . They may feel secured.
*The main problem with us as humans regarding physical modesty is that we view our bodies (nudity) as being inherently sexual. This is a false premise for the following reasons...*
*Bathing, changing clothes, childbirth, breastfeeding, sleeping, going to a sauna, getting a massage (at a spa), nurturing the elderly, nurturing the handicap ♿, locker rooms (for athletes).*
*All of these things require (or can involve) nudity but have nothing to do with anything sexual. Why? Because nudity isn't inherently sexual, it's only looked at like that because we make it sexual. So we can't assume that someone showing skin (not necessarily completely nude) is sexualising themselves so we can't say that you can "cause someone to lust" by not dressing "modestly".*
@@starhunter9085 Well, I'd like for that to be the case but it's not reality, especially when you are not super outgoing and you have a body type that's very attractive to men. You are prone to deal with bitchy women and gazing eyes and when you're young it's no big deal but when you get older you get tired of the unnecessary drama. Tbh, not everyone has the same experience but I know that it makes me feel good to cover my body so that only my husband can enjoy it.
@@Mimmie. *If someone views your clothing as sexual, that's just their personal opinion not fact. So you're not doing anything sensual therefore you can't be held responsible for their thoughts. And then sexuality isn't even wrong, it's completely natural. So even if you're dressing deliberately to be sexy and even if other people are turned on, there is still nothing wrong with that. So either way, it doesn't really matter.*
@@starhunter9085 I respect your opinion.
This is amazing! The world needs this!
This is in support of feminism. The sexualization of our bodies in the media is AGAINST FEMINISM. We are not sexual objects. I like being veiled. I like respecting myself.
Thank you so much for making this video! I'm 15 (16 in January;)) and I struggle with the same thing you did. I believe differently than my parents do, and I ALWAYS get looks for dressing the way I do. Don't get me wrong, our beliefs aren't dramatically different, I just believe pants are okay on women and she doesn't. But again, thank you got this video. I'm excited to see what all you post next (I realize I'm a few months behind, so I believe you have more videos... excited to see!).
Hey Bethany! Girl, I relate to your comment so so much! I know it’s really hard to have different standards than your parents. Even small disagreements can cause big fights though from my experience. Not fun!
If you want, you can reach out to me at my email gotchacoveredfashion@gmail.com and I can work with you and you parents to find you some super cute skirt outfits that both you guys are happy with? Maybe ask your parents first before emailing a stranger on the internet haha 😂 but seriously this is my jam so I’d love to help you!
*The idea of "modesty" is an absolute joke. God created us to be fully naked with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be provocative, it's just the person wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing does not influence bad actions, bad character does.*
I really love this. I was also raised in a conservative Christian homeschooling family and I always felt like I never fit in with the other kids. Only my fight was with my dad, not my mom! I felt like he was trying to dress me as an old lady and it took a long time for me to see that wasn't the case. I now have two daughters of my own and I do try to encourage them to dress modestly--only I try to make it about functionality instead. I feel like a lot of modern fashion isn't meant for living life...it's for sitting somewhere and letting people look at you. How are you going to swim and run around and enjoy yourself at the beach if you're wearing a bikini that you're constantly adjusting? Just saying. Anyways. So glad you created this channel...I will definitely be watching for tips!
*There are two types of modesty: Spiritual and physical*
*The Spiritual aspect is true 1000% and is made perfectly clear all throughout the Bible. It shows in the way we act and treat one another. It's what we carry in our hearts and minds and spirits. This is what God cares about and what we should be striving towards.*
*Physical modesty is a lie. It's nothing but a man made ideology designed to manipulate and control one another due to our lust for power. It's based on ignorance and our lack of understanding of what our bodies truly represent. This has no basis in the Bible or science.*
I love your glasses, the colour and style is so stylish
It's so good to see a channel talking about modest dressing at the time where most people just want to take off their clothes and just show off .
It's funny maybe because being spanish we tend to dress quite modestly anyways so it's not weird for us to cover up and not reveal too much. For me all those tips are normal.For me it was weird how girls dessed up when I moved to the uk, I tried to dress like them some time but I realised that was not me and I was not feeling comfortable so I just decided to dress my way as I felt more comfortable being able to move and bend down without worrying about revealing it all.Thanks for your videos anyway and your useful tips!!
I just found your channel....and....
I. LOVE. IT.
Thank you for this! I am a Christian and i do believe that modesty is a big deal. It use to be hard in a world full of revealing people but i know who i am in Christ. I know the inner is important but we can’t focus on one and not the other. 💜☺️
*The main problem with us as humans regarding physical modesty is that we view our bodies (nudity) as being inherently sexual. This is a false premise for the following reasons...*
*Bathing, changing clothes, childbirth, breastfeeding, sleeping, going to a sauna, getting a massage (at a spa), nurturing the elderly, nurturing the handicap ♿, locker rooms (for athletes).*
*All of these things require (or can involve) nudity but have nothing to do with anything sexual. Why? Because nudity isn't inherently sexual, it's only looked at like that because we make it sexual. So we can't assume that someone showing skin (not necessarily completely nude) is sexualising themselves so we can't say that you can "cause someone to lust" by not dressing "modestly".*
@@starhunter9085 as you grow i pray the Lord reveal it to you 🙏🏽☺️
In the book of Timothy it says; Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control
So at some point we can’t keep saying “it’s natural” yes we were born naked BUT this world is so sinful now so we have to protect ourselves. The thought of someone lusting over me sickens me. There’s men who say they lust all day every day. If i can do something about it then i will. It’s my conviction, I choose not to reveal my body to the world because it isn’t for this world full of lust. I still wear shorts & my arms show but I personally wouldn’t wear just a swimsuit (because i wouldn’t dare wear bra a panties outside and it’s the exact same thing) nor would i have my stomach showing. I was a woman who showed it all growing up and i got a lot of attention. I’m now a woman of God and I’m now married so i want to respect God, my husband and myself ☺️
@@thenightlight7882 *Most people don't even know what lust is; they throw that word around like candy without having any idea what it connotates. So why don't you define the word "lust".*
Great mission! 🙏🏼
Please, we do care about how we look. I also enjoy seeing nice, colorful, pretty things hanging in my closet. I'm almost jealous of myself when I look at my pretty clothes. But they are modest. I've had to have some things fixed for modesty.
Thanks for watching Chanie! I also enjoy pretty colorful clothes in my closet :)
*Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame. Genesis 2:25*
*The idea of "modesty" is an absolute joke. God created us to be fully naked with NO SHAME and it was only when we started seeing the world through our eyes rather than through God's eyes that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be sexy, it's just the person wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing doesn't influence evil actions, immoral character does.*
How about following hijabi fashion bloggers? They dress so well, I mean of course without the hijab part if that’s what you want
Dear christian women of the world let us fast as prescribed by the Bible. Let us oil our hairs, wash our face, put on a smiling face, do good deeds, not agrue and tell no body we are fasting. Pray with a head covering and in our closets and again tell no body we are fasting.
Cite work
Matthew 6:16 for fasting
Matthew 6:5 to 6 for praying
Isaiah 58 for fasting
1 Corinthians 11:2-16 for a woman praying.
#love. #women. #christian. #fasting.
i only shop at my local thrift store, and struggle but its easier
Hi! so had to subscribe bc I have a son named Alathium.
full steam ahead...dearest !!!!
thank you!!
*There are two types of modesty: Spiritual and physical*
*The Spiritual aspect is true 1000% and is made perfectly clear all throughout the Bible. It shows in the way we act and treat one another. It's what we carry in our hearts and minds and spirits. This is what God cares about and what we should be striving towards.*
*Physical modesty is a lie. It's nothing but a man made ideology designed to manipulate and control one another due to our lust for power. It's based on ignorance and our lack of understanding of what our bodies truly represent. This has no basis in the Bible or science.*
Love this video thank you for sharing
I wouldn't consider myself a "modest" dresser but even I have a hard time finding clothes that fit my standard. I only bought one single dress this summer because I want my dresses to at least reach the knee and this dress barely does that and is pretty low cut (I have a small chest though so I still feel comfortable wearing it).
*There are two types of modesty: Spiritual and physical*
*The Spiritual aspect is true 1000% and is made perfectly clear all throughout the Bible. It shows in the way we act and treat one another. It's what we carry in our hearts and minds and spirits. This is what God cares about and what we should be striving towards.*
*Physical modesty is a lie. It's nothing but a man made ideology designed to manipulate and control one another due to our lust for power. It's based on ignorance and our lack of understanding of what our bodies truly represent. This has no basis in the Bible or science.*
This is literally my life. I am a Mormon but it’s so annoying I get you so much
*There are two types of modesty: Spiritual and physical*
*The Spiritual aspect is true 1000% and is made perfectly clear all throughout the Bible. It shows in the way we act and treat one another. It's what we carry in our hearts and minds and spirits. This is what God cares about and what we should be striving towards.*
*Physical modesty is a lie. It's nothing but a man made ideology designed to manipulate and control one another due to our lust for power. It's based on ignorance and our lack of understanding of what our bodies truly represent. This has no basis in the Bible or science.*
I like how youre showing how to dress modestly without degrading women's bodies.♥️
The obsession with “modesty” among some Christian denominations is just sad. What difference does two inches make in the grand scheme of life? It’s fabric and God-given skin. Modest culture is a luxury and a privilege we have in western developed nations.
Hey girl! It's funny, I actually agree with a lot of what you are saying. I grew up in "modest culture" so I know better than most people some the "obsession" with modesty. I didn't start this channel to be another person telling woman they need to dress modestly, but as a source for women who want to and would like some advice. If you are interested in some more of my thoughts on this, check out my video called "Four benefits of dressing modestly". I'd like to hear your thoughts on it! 🤗
this is an old comment but honestly I agree, I think what this woman's mother did is wrong. no young girl should focus on being modest because they are a child! and no one should look or think of a child sexually. thats wrong. and frankly we shouldn't be worried about what our daughters wear. my mother grew up in Iran during the islamic regime and she always told me she felt like she never got to be a teenager and, situation in context, she let me wear pretty much whatever.
*There are two types of modesty: Spiritual and physical*
*The Spiritual aspect is true 1000% and is made perfectly clear all throughout the Bible. It shows in the way we act and treat one another. It's what we carry in our hearts and minds and spirits. This is what God cares about and what we should be striving towards.*
*Physical modesty is a lie. It's nothing but a man made ideology designed to manipulate and control one another due to our lust for power. It's based on ignorance and our lack of understanding of what our bodies truly represent. This has no basis in the Bible or science.*
You were blessed to be placed in a family that protected you from the world, so that you could concentrate on studying, and at the right time, when you were older you could make your own choices. There is a need for more small companies to develop what many want, modest clothing that is stylish, unique and trendy at the same time. We know that the Lord wants women to be modest. I feel badly for boys in regular school, how they concentrate with all these girls showing so much skin.
I'm am so grateful for my family now! And yes I agree! I'm going to school for fashion design right now so hopefully in a few years I'll be able to give you one of those small companies making modest clothes!
I don't understand why people think you should dress immodestly in order to be pretty. Being modest IS pretty! In fact, it's STUNNING! The immodest stuff is just UGLY! It's DISGUSTING! It's GROSS! You're putting the parts of yourself that should be kept private on public display! MODESTY is BEST!
I don’t understand why you as an adult still adhere to your Mother’s rules even now? I think you are an amazing creative person who deserves to think for herself. This is why I am so anti organized religion I would never let a belief influence how I dress… this seems as destructive as a women are controlled so horrifically in most religions. If you love clothing and fashion go nuts do what you want! Screw these mothers and churches that tell a person how to express themselves.
I don't think she dresses the way she does because someone told her. We all were raised with some sort of value system religious or not and as we become adults we can choose discard or embrace those values. I think that is wonderful that she has a platform to guide people with the same mindset as her.
its sad how terrible the world is, how disgusting america is- but its why I sew
*The idea of "modesty" is an absolute joke. God created us to be fully naked with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be provocative, it's just the person wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing does not influence bad actions, bad character does.*