Yeah, sounds about right. Doctors (especially male gynae doctors) seem to be of the opinion "Hey, if she complains about pain while we're stitching her up, just remind her she's just been through childbirth, so this should be a picnic by comparison!" Never mind that it's a *completely different type of pain,* and also humiliating in the sense that you're being treated like an object to be 'repaired,' rather than a human being with feelings!
I’m a physician and when I did my obgyn rotation they almost NEVER used local anesthetic to numb the area to repair vaginal or labial tears. That was so crazy to me as a medical student I spoke up and asked the resident and attending and they both ignored me
Could it be because of the epidural I had one with two of my three kids and when I got stitches I didn't feel a thing. My second kid came to fast for the epidural but I didn't tear much with him.
The lady I asked for opted not to have epidural but to have it natural. It was because I knew that I specifically spoke up. She was in a lot of pain with the repair
When I had my first baby, they did an episiotomy. I had an epidural but it was wearing off and I didn't know what was going on. They stitched me up thinking I was still numb. I wasn't. I felt every tug, every pull of the thread, every poke of the needle. I think I got like four stitches in when I finally asked if it was normal to feel everything like I was. They didn't numb me, but gave me demerol instead, which didn't help. I would rather they just did some lidocaine and went on their way. Well, actually I would rather they asked me if I could feel anything first before they did any stitching. I was so young and inexperienced, I didn't know what was normal and what wasn't.
Apparently it’s pretty normal. My mom shared her horrific and similar experience. She felt everything and when she voiced her pain, they told her to not overreact and be respectful to other patients. I mean the fact that it’s not common practice for women to get numbed before an iud insertion is equally crazy.
What is wrong with those doctors?!?! So many women saying they had the same thing happen. My doctor didn't even make it in time to deliver my baby. I gave birth with my husband and two nurses in the room. The doctor showed up at 4am, NUMBED me, then did my two sets of stitches. After being woken up at 4am to come to the hospital because my doctor was on vacation, I'm sure he would've loved to go back to bed, but he still did the humane thing and numbed me first. That's just crazy.
complain. complain. complain. complain even if they find it annoying. complain even if they roll their eyes. complain even if you have to break down and cry later on. ladies, please, never stop complaining when you are in pain. you deserve care.
This Dr. Youn presents himself better than anyone on RUclips. His manner, his ability to explain, his judgement and of course his personality are amazing.
When I gave birth to my son, I tore downwards. For some time now I had some regrets about having an epidural but after seeing these horror stories here in the comments I’m honestly thankful. I can’t even imagine tearing and being stitched up with zero pain relief.. so sorry to all of the mothers who had to experience that trauma after a possibly traumatic birth.🥺❤️
I tore, too. I'm so glad I had an epidural. I felt extra pressure, and I was remember thinking, is that my skin tearing? I thought no way...then I felt tugging down there after giving birth, and I asked the doctor what was going on, and she's like, "I'm giving you some stitches you have a tear." I was like, oh dang, glad I didn't feel that as bad as I could of had I not had an epidural.
I saw a post from an OBGYN nurse and she was saying so many moms want it because it's "natural" and while I understand on some level some women want to know exactly when to bear down and push, this RN was very empathetic and said to her patients and to everyone watching: There's nothing that makes you less of a mom for not wanting to feel the pain during childbirth. Your child will come out all the same, you'll just not feel the discomfort as much. There's no prizes for choosing pain.
I hate to break it to you Dr Youn but unfortunately many women are stitched back up without any numbing agent or local anesthetic. The amount of abuse that’s happening to women giving birth is insane and barely anybody talks about it.
This is so true, my mother was so traumatized with her first, me in ‘56 that she didn’t want to go back to deliver my brother. It’s just unbelievable but it is male oriented medicine.
I had a second degree tear when I had my daughter - 13 stitches (7 internal, 6 external) with no anesthetic...my midwife "felt it was unnecessary since there was trauma already".....19 years later, I have permanent nerve damage 😡
Women’s pain is completely disregarded and it’s even worse when giving birth. I remember cutting my hand pretty badly and went to the ER for stitches. Mind you, it was empty. One cut looked pretty deep. The doctor didn’t even disinfect the wound and put way too little numbing in. So the blood didn’t stop and he couldn’t see how deep it actually was. It was very painful putting stitches in. Fast forward, I have nerve damage in my hand. A hand surgeon should’ve been consulted and I should’ve gotten surgery to repair the nerves.
There are women getting "designer" vagina's. The women were going into PS offices saying their VaJayJay's were ugly and could the doctor make it pretty. Khloe Khardashian talks about her extra long vagina lips, telling Kim to make a Skims suit that will keep them from falling out. I said, "try wearing underwear, that'll keep your bat wings from falling out" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Well the title also says vagina, the operation has nothing to do with her vagina. It just amazes me why doctors and other medical professionals would call body parts wrong names 🤦
Right? You wouldn't call getting reconstructive surgery after an accident wanting a "designer" look. How is this any different? It's a bit disappointing, especially when physicians not taking women's reproductive health and well-being seriously enough is a researched phenomenon. I'm not saying that Dr. Youn is like that, and I understand the role of clickbait in generating channel traffic, but with this particular subject the wording bothers me. Getting the reconstruction seems to be part of healing from a traumatic event, emotionally as well as physically. It's not a designer vagina (well, vulva) if she's repairing damage and restoring the original appearance.
Its mostly for optimisation reasons I assume. He as a medical professional will know the exact terms but RUclips’s algorithm doesn’t care. For more views and clicks this title might be a bit more intriguing.
@@itszenbaby The doctor in the video also called it her vagina. But yeah, I haven't been a subscriber here for long and am not going to be here much longer. The content is interesting, but the extreme clickbaiting and reuploading old content doesn't work for me.
I was the labor coach for a dear friend. She was sutured without anesthetic. Neither one of us could believe it. Her older son was born in 1982. Much of her post partum care was unessesarily brutal, in my opinion.
No I feel for her. When I had my first baby the dr.s we’re horrible. They used forceps and they ripped chunks out of my vagina so I had thick vaginal muscles hanging out of my vagina. It hurt so bad. Sex was painful, when I would sit down and I could feel it like I’m sitting on a ball, I couldn’t wipe after I pee. It was horrible. I had my second baby at home and after I had him I went to the hospital and had reconstruction done. It’s so far from perfect looking. But I’m not in pain anymore and I’m so happy with it. I spent 3 years in horrible pain. I was awake for it. I was able to hold and feed my newborn while the worked on my vagina. It was great.
I am so fucking sorry that happened to you. I'm glad you were able to get the help you needed in the end however I'm so sorry that you spent 3 years in horrible pain. 🥺
@@zxcbxfjyj423 it defiantly was. My baby almost died too, it was all super horrible but I was a 17 year old homeless SA victim so no one wanted to take my case.
That sounds like something out of saw. Wow, I'm so sorry you went through that, but thankfully you're pain free. I agree, this really sounds like a malpractice case.
If anyone tried to stitch me up without numbing the area first; I would 100% be giving them a hard time. No way would I allow them to touch me until I'm numbed. I encourage everyone to not let people walk all over you. If it doesn't feel right; kick up a fuss. Do not feel ashamed for complaining. It is YOUR body. What YOU say goes.
Unfortunately, after a traumatic birth you're so exhausted that you don't have the energy to "kick up a fuss". 😔 They refused an epidural (Indian doctor didn't "believe" in them.) I was 17. (Terrified! Also this was the only doctor my insurance would cover.) And I split like a PLUS + sign. No numbing. When I said something he said, "I'll be done in just a few seconds. Then you can go to your room. Anyway, it can't be any worse than giving birth. Lots of women get stitched up without medications and they don't complain."
I literally didn't even know it was going to happen. No warning whatsoever - the doctor that was on call waltzed in on the very last minute, caught the baby and handed her to a nurse then immediately began sewing me up. I didn't see the suture kit beforehand. I didn't really have time to demand pain meds - she would have been done before they could get me anything.
I had a c-section but I have had female friends be told "not to move" when they have been torn and they are being stiched back up without being numbed moments after giving birth. I was told it felt like hell trying to stay still and they even got tutted at if they even flinched. :(
@@CherryJuli All c section moms that I have encountered including myself planned to have V delivery but due to complications our drs recommended to forward with a c section. C sections are major surgery with a difficult and painful recovery. No one in their right mind would just opt for one if not medically necessary.
I tore when I gave birth and not only did I not get local numbing, the doctor managed to stitch together bits that didn’t match up😬. 6 weeks later, I was in so much discomfort because those bits were still trying to tear apart every time I moved etc I ended up having to get cut and re-stitched. It made for a pretty ugly mess and can even impact sex if we’re not careful
Same thing happened to me except my stitches did pull apart. I was stitched up so wrong it literally looked liked the buttons on a person wearing an entirely too small shirt.
I've had many conversations with doctor Cat and she is one of the most intelligent, humble, kind and compassion people on the planet! I love her and wish more doctors were like you and Dr. Cat. You're both so informative in a genuine way. ♡
R , i have a very serious tears on both of my labia which affecting my life badly , can you please give me the complete name of doctor Cat , so i can contact her and ask her if she could fix me ? im in big pain every second , i dont know which doctor could fix me , it is that bad!! I beg you please , can you tell me where to find dr Cat ? She seems to really know whst she is doing , i sense she might help me!
All I know is that I should have had an episiotomy but never got one. Instead they decided to tear the s*** out of my vagina with forceps. I also remember the room getting very far away and an intense stabbing pain down there. It was horrific. Not only that but it took years before sex was normal feeling again. I laid with ice packs in between my legs crying and with the numbing spray after I was sent home. I just remember when I felt down there and I could feel the stiches on the outside it felt so horrible. when I looked in the mirror let's just say I had a meltdown. Not only did my stomach no longer look like what I had remembered but my vagina also looked like it had been through a trainwreck. This is just one of the many reasons I only have one child.
Sometimes vulvas are naturally a bit numb immediately after childbirth, but not always. Doctors should be aware of pain and offer local anesthetic as needed.
I also tore badly when i had my 1st child. I was 16, and my son weighed almost 9 pounds. The doctor i had "wanted to teach me a lesson".. i wasnt offered anything for pain for labor or birthing pain, not even a Tylenol. After i ripped, she started sewing me back up, and didnt even bother to tell me, an got annoyed when i yelled, i asked her what she was doing, she explained, an told me i needed to sit still! I hope karma comes for her!
I had to have an episiotomy to get my son out. I was not stitched up correctly and have permanent damage to my rectum and vagina. I tried to advocate for myself at my 6 week check up as well as within a week of delivery. I was told there was nothing wrong. I have had a hard time going number two for the past 20 years now and it has progressively gotten worse.
Why do some medical professionals think if it is not necessary, you can suffer and shut up about it? It is disgusting, and it seems as if once you become a mother it is selfish of you to think about yourself as a woman. They should be banned from practicing medicine
I had the same thing happen. They said my epidural should have been enough and then they inserted the needle and I about jumped off the table. Mind you, I told them the entire time that my epidural had failed. So then she grabbed the lidocaine and injected it before she continued the stitches.
I have a high tolerance to pain but when I have pain that I find hard to bear, there is no amount of medicine that will help. When I gave birth to my two children I did not receive an epidural and I was only uncomfortable for about three hours. When it came time for the repair work, I was given two does of medicine because the first dose did not work. The medicine had no impact on me at all and I felt every stitch and the procedure was really painful. There was another times I was in severe pain due to an injury and two doses of morphine had the same effect as if I drank a glass of water.
I feel you. I remember when everyone was saying Norco was a heavy pill, cause it’s “powerful and addictive”. I took 2, took about 2hrs to kick in, then it wore off in 2hrs. I don’t take medications now, because they have no effect on me.
Yeah, what the hell is with this?? They're like "this might be a little uncomfortable". Meanwhile it feels like someone stuck their entire hand in your uterus and is trying to yank it out of your vagina. It's excruciating.
My Gynocologist offers this kind of surgery. When it comes down to it, it’s the woman’s decision on whether and what to do. I actually discovered that one “lip” is a lot longer than the other and overlaps, something I wouldn’t have known without waxing. If there’s any rubbing, I can develop very painful skin tags (you do NOT want to know how painful it is to have those removed). I honestly could see why adjusting that would be much more comfortable. So, no, it isn’t always about what someone else thinks, influenced by porn, or even related to childbirth. I actually tore once not with childbirth because of this guy. It’s like pouring lemon juice on top of a paper cut, only it’s in your pants. YEOWCH.
I accidentally pinched a skin tag off (I didn't realize what it was). The pain didn't startle me (it was a small tag), but it started hemorrhaging, so about half of the lip turned a dark shade of purple/red, which definitely spooked me.
Hello , i have some issue but on a much worse level. Can you give me your fb id or something ? I would like to talk with you about it , see what solutions we can find
This is why I can't stand underwear and I have to wear loose fitting pants or dresses. Because one side is longer. By FAR. They also refused to give me an epidural in 2000 when I was 17. Then they stitched me without numbing first. They said I split like a PLUS + sign.
@@inthelandofmorethansmall7582 Dang. My gynecologist is one of the best ever, and when she removed my skin tags, she did numb me up. Unfortunately, lidocaine can also hurt, and it didn’t take care of everything, so at one point I screamed as though I was being eaten by killer ants. I felt very bad for the women in the waiting room. I cannot imagine how painful that must have been (plus the attitude of “meh, you’re in pain anyway, so why bother?” Ugh.
When I was a student nurse in L &D, my patient delivered and tore. She was repaired without local anesthetic and screamed in agony while being scolded by the male OB. She told me the repair hurt more than the delivery.
I have a strange "lump" like area right on very inside of my vaginal canal on the anterior side due to tearing, being sewn up very tight, and then being retorn post partum. Thankfully it doesn't disturb the mechanics of it all down there... and my husband doesn't care lol, but I definitely know that its not "normal". I definitely empathize with any woman out there with an undesirable scar from childbirth.
Thank you Dr. Youn for reviewing this procedure. I'm actually scheduled for labiaplasty in a couple of months. It's not just about looking nice, but for comfort as well. My husband amd I enjoy a happy marriage, and without getting onto TMI, I'm hoping the results will increase my comfort during marital bliss.
I’m a student midwife and hear a lot of stories from clients about their previous unmedicated hospital births- nearly all of which include some type of tear and NO lidocaine used when they were sutured. I inquired from several L&D nurses the justification (all of these women were scarred as a result, hence part of the reason for their subsequent planned homebirth). The thinking is that the vast majority of women get an epidural for labor and birth and the OBs assume they are numb without checking before trying to quickly suture and get them out of L&D. Basically what I’m saying is- it’s very common and absolutely not ok.
I’m allergic to lidocaine so it’s not an option for me. I gave birth to both my babies without an epidural and needed stitches afterwards. With NO NUMBING. With my second baby in December 2022, I had a third degree episiotomy after her shoulder got stuck and they had to get her out asap. I had to get 28 stitches to repair the muscle and skin incision and tears. I felt every bit of the needle and thread pulling through my skin got every one of those 28 stitches. I actually passed out after they finished from being in shock. I’m 7 weeks postpartum and the incision still hasn’t finished healing.
There are a bunch of local anesthetics they can use, lidocaine is just the most common. Out of the 15 or so that are readily available, I'm sure they could have found one that would work for you.
I've been a Labor and Delivery nurse for 25 years and I have seen too many repairs done without local anesthesia on patients both with and without an epidural.
@@rachelels some say that after all the stretching of the area it goes numb on it's own. I've seen physicians test the area and if the patient can't feel anything they proceed. I've also seen physicians say it's only going to be 1 or 2 stitches and the numbing would hurt more or take longer than the stitches. Yes, the local anesthetic most often used is lidocaine which burns when 1st injected and needs a minute or two to begin numbing the area. Or if the patient had/has an epidural in place then they supposedly won't feel it. In my opinion EVERY repair should be done with local anesthetic.
@@abalzeris831 i agree with you. They shouldn’t assume that it’s not going to painless for the woman, it takes a few minutes for them to use the local anesthetic.
I had a friend who had a labiaplasty. She was so stretched out after two children that it hurt to ride a bicycle. She was thrilled with the results after the healing phase was done.
I would like to inform you that it's standard, even nowadays to perform OB/gyn procedures on women without pain relief. If we complain about it, we are stigmatized as oversensitive crybabies and not treated as human beings who normally experience pain.
I tore with my 1st born son, I was at a teaching hospital and a student was stitching me up with a doctor overseeing his work, I couldn't feel a thing because of my epidural but I distinctly remember the doctor telling the student to step aside and the doctor took over and finished up the job. I was relieved that he didn't let the student botch the repair and that the student was able to see the correct way to sew a vaginal tear, that's what learning is all about except it's a lot more high stakes when the classroom involves live patients at a hospital. Like I said I didn't feel a thing and the doctor did a great job repairing my tear, the next day however was a different story... my body felt like it had been a car wreck, everything hurt especially down there, took a few days to recover but everything turned out OK in the end, my kitty looked very nice and I had no complications when it came to being able to control my bodily functions, I was lucky because some woman do get botched and suffer unnecessarily afterward.
you think labial stitching without freezing hurts? for some psychotic reason the doctor I went to see for a cyst on my clitoris decided to go in without anaesthesia. the most sensitive organ on the human body. being cut into. without anaesthesia. he had a nurse cover my mouth and sush me because I was screaming too loud and I might have "scared the other patients". like no poop dude.
I would love reconstruction. But it would do worse damage. I had several surgeries related to cancer and I’m mostly numb and ….repulsive. But I wasn’t numbed when I was sutured after I gave birth. Not only did I feel myself ripping open I definitely felt myself being sewn back together.
I also feel intense shame about my body. It really affects how I feel about myself as a woman. I did not have any procedures that altered me, but the way women are portrayed and sexualized definitely doesn’t help. You are not repulsive no matter what. But I understand that you must feel maimed and I feel for you strongly. I feel like these procedures should be covered and commonplace.
I also feel intense shame about my body. It really effects how I feel about myself as a woman. I did not have any procedures that altered me, but the way women are portrayed and sexualized definitely doesn’t help. You are not repulsive no matter what. I can’t honestly imagine a scenario where a woman’s anatomy is repulsive (besides my own, shame of course). But I understand that you must feel maimed and deeply hurt and I feel for you strongly. I feel like these procedures should be covered and commonplace especially when there is trauma done to the patient.
I had an episiotomy and when suturing, I could feel the thread pass through my skin. There was no medication administered to numb the area before suturing.
Ok, labia tearing is another horrific reason to NOT NEVER have children!!! We need public education on childbirth, real honest consequences of the whole ordeal.
@@simoncat you’re acting like this is super uncommon. It isn’t. I’ve seen one photo of a ripped downstairs area of a woman and I know I’m never ever going through that.
It doesn't have to be this way.Since the corporate take over of medicine It's become more common to prematurely break the woman's water and administer drugs to make labor go faster. Women are experiencing severe ripping more than in the past because their bodies aren't being given time to stretch.
i wish some of you in the comments who've had lasting complications after your deliveries will consider going to another OBGYN if ur dr denies the problem. you have the right to doctor shop, no matter how small you may feel about it
Go have a consult. Ask for only females in the room and wear dark sunglasses so you do not make awkward eye contact with the dr. Work around your shyness to push for a positive change. Be blessed :)
I didn't get the option to have a natural birth, had to have a C-section to make sure we both lived through it. I am so sorry ma'am your vagina had to go through that. You deserve to feel beautiful inside and out. Hope you're happy with results
Same here I had all my kids no epidural or meds they told me no epidural because I was 20 an not 21 which was bull,when my daughter had her first child she was 19 an she got epi. .anyhow they let the baby tear me an just stood an watched an told me to push more an they sewed it up with no numbing or any meds horrible!!!then years later - at a different hospital - I had my son,an the Dr massaged an stretched the area b4 an during the birth no tearing! goes to show you some drs care an some dont ,.an this birth was also drug free because the anesthesiologist was called into a surgery
After reading the comments I just remembered why I won't ever have kids. Being torn by a 24/7 screaming and sucking your energy monster and being ugly and in pain after that for the rest of my life? No, thanks. There are enough pple in this world already, bruh
I had no idea there could be medical reasons (other than tearing) for a labiaplasty, or rather, I thought all the things that were described (such as chafing, pain, and swelling in clothes and during activities, frequent infections) were normal for all women. I am appreciative of the information that’s becoming available since plastic surgery is becoming less taboo
I feel extremely fortunate after reading these comments. I had pretty extensive tearing with 2 of my 4 childbirths, but didn't feel a thing during the repair. I had an epidural with all of mine, but they still used lidocaine. I clearly remember when it wore off though, that first trip to the restroom was HELL. I became very friendly with that peri bottle for the next few weeks! I have 4 daughters, and will make sure that they ask beforehand about how their repair will be handled if and when they have babies. The Dr will deal with me if anyone tries to pull that shit on my girls!
@@thatsalt1560 it isn't about making a difference or not, its about consent and options. We have lidocaine, we should be given the option. It is wrong for doctors to decide that for us especially when some women do complain about pain and its dismissed as unimportant. I find it beyond insulting that men get almost general anesthesia to get a little colonoscopy but women are cut and torn and sewn up without even a local.
@@thatsalt1560 "There's so much else that hurts already. Makes no difference." You're totally right. While we're at it, doctors shouldn't put people under anesthesia after getting shot and needing surgery. It already hurts, doesn't matter if you hurt them more. This is psychotic, and this is the exact mentality that leads to women being treated like livestock when giving birth. It is INSANE to stitch up women with absolutely no numbing or any semblance of anesthesia. The medical system is already full of enough misogyny, don't justify it even more.
My daughter had a full C section, hip to hip cut. No anesthetic. If the doctor had listened to her that something was wrong, it would not have been an emergency. He waited too long then had to rip into her. So, 'no anesthetic' is done. Barbaric.
I asked my obgyn to fix my ripped bits, she did! Ladies it’s probably the most painful procedure and recovery I’ve ever gone through. It’s not worth it and yes, she numbed me up, but I almost came off that table. It hurts so bad. Recovery took a while to heal and ever time I used the bathroom or cleaned it it was very painful
Yeah, I was denied pain medication for my vback birth and then 7 stitches down there including two from a tear that went up towards the g. I was literally screaming in pain and was told to shut up and he had several orderly hold me still. I have so much ptsd from this that I won't go to a doctor for anything
I had tearing during the forceps assisted north of my son. No complaints about that, his health and maybe his life was saved. I had local anesthetic for that and for repair of the tear after. Gynecologist was great during the delivery. However within the first couple of weeks it became obvious that skin around my rectum was healing irregularly, folds were appearing and hard to clean the area. At my 6 week check up (first one after the birth) I asked the other gyn in the practice to fix this or refer me out to a plastics person for repair. She refused, stating the group had a policy of not referring anyone out after 6 weeks after delivery (and they only did routine follow ups after 6 weeks).
they didn't give me any extra painkiller for my tear, but I still had the epidural in. They also barely gave me any extra painkiller (just a topical one, no lidocaine shot) when they cut some granulation tissue that had formed after the tear (I had a 3C, so almost as bad as you get, and it did NOT heal well). I had to go in twice to get the granulation tissue removed, but thankfully that area already hurt so badly just existing that them cutting stuff off didn't really hurt.
I felt mine too and I had a hard birth, but I have CMT and lidocaine is highly toxic to my system. I was too busy enjoying my bundle of joy to complain that much….
My labor was induced and my Dr made a small cut so I wouldn't have a tear and the straight cut meant that once healed everything looked the same as before. I assumed that was standard practice, guess not 🙁
Welcome to childbirth, doctor!! Where there is no pain relief for something as insignificant as episiotomies or stitches 😅 I had a stitch or two but I didn't even notice them being put in!! Unbelievable. The pain of contractions turned me inside out. Yes and I've never been the same down there either. Did it three times. Human childbirth is definitely a botch up of nature!!
Episiotomies are not insignificant but often unnecessary. The risk of damaging the rectal wall/anal sphincter is 9 times greater and there's not enough scientific evidence to recommend them "just in case" or to prevent vaginal tearing.
My mom said she was too much in pain after birth to even realize bring stitched up . . . I'm not sure about that but I'll find out in about 5 months. Wish me luck!
I am a bit annoyed about how they kept saying "symmetrical" and "nicely tucked in". It doesn't need to be, it's totally fine,normal and beautiful to be asymmetrical, and hanging out a bit! Only if it causes pain, chafing or discomfort would I call it the wrong shape😊
I was told to hold still they were almost done. 17 stitches later I felt like I was in some sort of torture chamber. They gave some iv drugs but nothing in the torn area.
@@launadiva Literally what is a male doctor good for? What certain things? I can't think of a single thing he'd be good for. Definitely not psychology, because every emotion is just "are you on your period?" (genuine response I've had from male doctors) Absolutely not anything to do with female organs like uterus, labia, vagina, heck even breasts can't be trusted with them and they're not exclusively female. Anything relating to the digestive system (stomach, intestines, etc) is going to be "change your diet" Like... Genuinely I can't think of one circumstance where a male doctor will not be completely inept when dealing with a female patient, due to the deep rooted misogyny in medicine.
@@colonelchaos9266 Please. any psychological problem is just labelled as ""BPD"" by male doctors (Which is literally just the symptoms of C-PTSD, but recontextualized to make the victim into a bad person) which is just the "hysteria" of modern day.
i had a nose job under local antithesis it didn't hirt but i could feel the pressure as he broke my nose, but i was so high i was singing at the end. it was in the 90's in grand rapids michigan at the down town plaza, i can't recall his name but he was known for doing reconstruction surges on face disfigurement on children in pore communities. i think the name was Dr. Randy Russo or Ringler something he was an amazing very conservative style doctor. i remember he had a fairly large nose him self. i wouldn't be surprised if you had met him.
I have one labia that is almost completely gone, when it was stitched back up it was stuck together like a little ball and it gets irritated. I’ve thought of getting a labia plasty done to fix it and make it look more symmetrical.
I had a HUGE barthelin cyst. The size of a large lemon. Yes, big and painful. Had to have it drained, and it left me with a scar in my vaginal wall. A flap of tissue...easily palpable. I do not think another painful surgery to "repair" it would ever have been in my mind. I am quite non sensitive to locals. It takes double what a person twice my weight would require to get a bare minimum. Don't know why this is, but I discovered this when I was a child and had to have dental work. Had my bottom wisdom teeth removed when I was 19. The doctor didn't believe me when I said I could feel what he was doing. He tested me to prove to me I was numb. Almost jumped out of my seat. He gave me plenty more locals after that.
In going through the comments section I think I need to send my ob a few dozen roses. No epidural, no drugs, 4 hours labor start to finish, my son's shoulders were so wide he caught on my pelvic girdle and the Doc had to push him back in, cut me from cervix to vaginal opening and then sew me up. He stopped counting at 75 stitches. Still stitching. I never had any problems afterwards. Bizarre.
Yeah, sounds about right. Doctors (especially male gynae doctors) seem to be of the opinion "Hey, if she complains about pain while we're stitching her up, just remind her she's just been through childbirth, so this should be a picnic by comparison!" Never mind that it's a *completely different type of pain,* and also humiliating in the sense that you're being treated like an object to be 'repaired,' rather than a human being with feelings!
some people really be treating women who've had children like used-up rags to be tossed around without care
That’s why I don’t get why men are allowed to have that kind of job or even want it, I think they find it fun or get turned on by that job💀
I’m a physician and when I did my obgyn rotation they almost NEVER used local anesthetic to numb the area to repair vaginal or labial tears. That was so crazy to me as a medical student I spoke up and asked the resident and attending and they both ignored me
Could it be because of the epidural I had one with two of my three kids and when I got stitches I didn't feel a thing. My second kid came to fast for the epidural but I didn't tear much with him.
The lady I asked for opted not to have epidural but to have it natural. It was because I knew that I specifically spoke up. She was in a lot of pain with the repair
I’m a nurse and I can attest it’s real they don’t use numbing medications even with curcumcisions
When I had my first baby, they did an episiotomy. I had an epidural but it was wearing off and I didn't know what was going on. They stitched me up thinking I was still numb. I wasn't. I felt every tug, every pull of the thread, every poke of the needle. I think I got like four stitches in when I finally asked if it was normal to feel everything like I was. They didn't numb me, but gave me demerol instead, which didn't help. I would rather they just did some lidocaine and went on their way. Well, actually I would rather they asked me if I could feel anything first before they did any stitching. I was so young and inexperienced, I didn't know what was normal and what wasn't.
Apparently it’s pretty normal. My mom shared her horrific and similar experience. She felt everything and when she voiced her pain, they told her to not overreact and be respectful to other patients.
I mean the fact that it’s not common practice for women to get numbed before an iud insertion is equally crazy.
What is wrong with those doctors?!?! So many women saying they had the same thing happen. My doctor didn't even make it in time to deliver my baby. I gave birth with my husband and two nurses in the room. The doctor showed up at 4am, NUMBED me, then did my two sets of stitches. After being woken up at 4am to come to the hospital because my doctor was on vacation, I'm sure he would've loved to go back to bed, but he still did the humane thing and numbed me first. That's just crazy.
complain. complain. complain. complain even if they find it annoying. complain even if they roll their eyes. complain even if you have to break down and cry later on. ladies, please, never stop complaining when you are in pain. you deserve care.
This Dr. Youn presents himself better than anyone on RUclips. His manner, his ability to explain, his judgement and of course his personality are amazing.
He is one of a kind..not sure how he hasn't had a TV show yet..
I agree, I noticed his empathy right away. He also has such a pleasant speaking voice and is adorable too
When I gave birth to my son, I tore downwards. For some time now I had some regrets about having an epidural but after seeing these horror stories here in the comments I’m honestly thankful. I can’t even imagine tearing and being stitched up with zero pain relief.. so sorry to all of the mothers who had to experience that trauma after a possibly traumatic birth.🥺❤️
I tore, too. I'm so glad I had an epidural. I felt extra pressure, and I was remember thinking, is that my skin tearing? I thought no way...then I felt tugging down there after giving birth, and I asked the doctor what was going on, and she's like, "I'm giving you some stitches you have a tear." I was like, oh dang, glad I didn't feel that as bad as I could of had I not had an epidural.
I saw a post from an OBGYN nurse and she was saying so many moms want it because it's "natural" and while I understand on some level some women want to know exactly when to bear down and push, this RN was very empathetic and said to her patients and to everyone watching: There's nothing that makes you less of a mom for not wanting to feel the pain during childbirth. Your child will come out all the same, you'll just not feel the discomfort as much. There's no prizes for choosing pain.
I hate to break it to you Dr Youn but unfortunately many women are stitched back up without any numbing agent or local anesthetic. The amount of abuse that’s happening to women giving birth is insane and barely anybody talks about it.
I can vouch for that! I was both cut and stitched with no anesthetic whatsoever!
This is so true, my mother was so traumatized with her first, me in ‘56 that she didn’t want to go back to deliver my brother. It’s just unbelievable but it is male oriented medicine.
I had a second degree tear when I had my daughter - 13 stitches (7 internal, 6 external) with no anesthetic...my midwife "felt it was unnecessary since there was trauma already".....19 years later, I have permanent nerve damage 😡
17 years in my case and same
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Dr. Mengele protege. An insult that she provided “health care” by any definition. I hoped you sued.
Women’s pain is completely disregarded and it’s even worse when giving birth. I remember cutting my hand pretty badly and went to the ER for stitches. Mind you, it was empty. One cut looked pretty deep. The doctor didn’t even disinfect the wound and put way too little numbing in. So the blood didn’t stop and he couldn’t see how deep it actually was. It was very painful putting stitches in. Fast forward, I have nerve damage in my hand. A hand surgeon should’ve been consulted and I should’ve gotten surgery to repair the nerves.
I thought the title was a liiiitle bit misleading. This was reconstructive, not purely cosmetic.
There are women getting "designer" vagina's. The women were going into PS offices saying their VaJayJay's were ugly and could the doctor make it pretty. Khloe Khardashian talks about her extra long vagina lips, telling Kim to make a Skims suit that will keep them from falling out. I said, "try wearing underwear, that'll keep your bat wings from falling out" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Well the title also says vagina, the operation has nothing to do with her vagina. It just amazes me why doctors and other medical professionals would call body parts wrong names 🤦
Right? You wouldn't call getting reconstructive surgery after an accident wanting a "designer" look. How is this any different? It's a bit disappointing, especially when physicians not taking women's reproductive health and well-being seriously enough is a researched phenomenon. I'm not saying that Dr. Youn is like that, and I understand the role of clickbait in generating channel traffic, but with this particular subject the wording bothers me. Getting the reconstruction seems to be part of healing from a traumatic event, emotionally as well as physically. It's not a designer vagina (well, vulva) if she's repairing damage and restoring the original appearance.
Its mostly for optimisation reasons I assume. He as a medical professional will know the exact terms but RUclips’s algorithm doesn’t care. For more views and clicks this title might be a bit more intriguing.
@@itszenbaby The doctor in the video also called it her vagina. But yeah, I haven't been a subscriber here for long and am not going to be here much longer. The content is interesting, but the extreme clickbaiting and reuploading old content doesn't work for me.
I was the labor coach for a dear friend. She was sutured without anesthetic. Neither one of us could believe it. Her older son was born in 1982. Much of her post partum care was unessesarily brutal, in my opinion.
No I feel for her. When I had my first baby the dr.s we’re horrible. They used forceps and they ripped chunks out of my vagina so I had thick vaginal muscles hanging out of my vagina. It hurt so bad. Sex was painful, when I would sit down and I could feel it like I’m sitting on a ball, I couldn’t wipe after I pee. It was horrible. I had my second baby at home and after I had him I went to the hospital and had reconstruction done. It’s so far from perfect looking. But I’m not in pain anymore and I’m so happy with it. I spent 3 years in horrible pain. I was awake for it. I was able to hold and feed my newborn while the worked on my vagina. It was great.
I am so fucking sorry that happened to you. I'm glad you were able to get the help you needed in the end however I'm so sorry that you spent 3 years in horrible pain. 🥺
@@zxcbxfjyj423 it defiantly was. My baby almost died too, it was all super horrible but I was a 17 year old homeless SA victim so no one wanted to take my case.
That sounds like something out of saw. Wow, I'm so sorry you went through that, but thankfully you're pain free. I agree, this really sounds like a malpractice case.
That makes me really angry that they did that to you.
Sue!
Without pain meds, I tore during childbirth and the doctor said I did not need to be numbed now. Then began to stitch me up. NO PAIN MEDS!
If anyone tried to stitch me up without numbing the area first; I would 100% be giving them a hard time. No way would I allow them to touch me until I'm numbed.
I encourage everyone to not let people walk all over you. If it doesn't feel right; kick up a fuss. Do not feel ashamed for complaining. It is YOUR body. What YOU say goes.
Noted, for when i give birth bc wtf is wrong with some of these doctors smh
Unfortunately, after a traumatic birth you're so exhausted that you don't have the energy to "kick up a fuss". 😔
They refused an epidural (Indian doctor didn't "believe" in them.)
I was 17. (Terrified! Also this was the only doctor my insurance would cover.)
And I split like a PLUS + sign.
No numbing.
When I said something he said, "I'll be done in just a few seconds. Then you can go to your room. Anyway, it can't be any worse than giving birth. Lots of women get stitched up without medications and they don't complain."
I literally didn't even know it was going to happen. No warning whatsoever - the doctor that was on call waltzed in on the very last minute, caught the baby and handed her to a nurse then immediately began sewing me up. I didn't see the suture kit beforehand. I didn't really have time to demand pain meds - she would have been done before they could get me anything.
I had a c-section but I have had female friends be told "not to move" when they have been torn and they are being stiched back up without being numbed moments after giving birth. I was told it felt like hell trying to stay still and they even got tutted at if they even flinched. :(
And people wonder why more and more women get c-sections.
@@CherryJuli All c section moms that I have encountered including myself planned to have V delivery but due to complications our drs recommended to forward with a c section. C sections are major surgery with a difficult and painful recovery. No one in their right mind would just opt for one if not medically necessary.
I tore when I gave birth and not only did I not get local numbing, the doctor managed to stitch together bits that didn’t match up😬. 6 weeks later, I was in so much discomfort because those bits were still trying to tear apart every time I moved etc I ended up having to get cut and re-stitched. It made for a pretty ugly mess and can even impact sex if we’re not careful
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Even after healing ? See a specialist thats so sad
WTH...how does the doctor sew together the wrong parts?!
Same thing happened to me except my stitches did pull apart. I was stitched up so wrong it literally looked liked the buttons on a person wearing an entirely too small shirt.
@@stanliemurray2085 bcs the doctor is a man! they dont care!! about us woman!
I've had many conversations with doctor Cat and she is one of the most intelligent, humble, kind and compassion people on the planet! I love her and wish more doctors were like you and Dr. Cat. You're both so informative in a genuine way. ♡
R , i have a very serious tears on both of my labia which affecting my life badly , can you please give me the complete name of doctor Cat , so i can contact her and ask her if she could fix me ? im in big pain every second , i dont know which doctor could fix me , it is that bad!! I beg you please , can you tell me where to find dr Cat ? She seems to really know whst she is doing , i sense she might help me!
I didn’t realize how common this is. With baby #2, I had an episiotomy that tore and I was ripped in three more places. I would love reconstruction!
All I know is that I should have had an episiotomy but never got one. Instead they decided to tear the s*** out of my vagina with forceps. I also remember the room getting very far away and an intense stabbing pain down there. It was horrific. Not only that but it took years before sex was normal feeling again. I laid with ice packs in between my legs crying and with the numbing spray after I was sent home. I just remember when I felt down there and I could feel the stiches on the outside it felt so horrible. when I looked in the mirror let's just say I had a meltdown. Not only did my stomach no longer look like what I had remembered but my vagina also looked like it had been through a trainwreck. This is just one of the many reasons I only have one child.
Sometimes vulvas are naturally a bit numb immediately after childbirth, but not always. Doctors should be aware of pain and offer local anesthetic as needed.
Vulval and labia is different get that straight 😂
@@Ohlulu443 the labia are part of the vulva. What are you saying?
@@dshe8637 vulva is everything outside its not vulvas
@@Ohlulu443 You can clearly understand what they're saying
@@Ohlulu443 I see from your other comment that you are trolling.
Go play elsewhere little boy.
I do not regret my surgery. It is so much more comfortable to wear bathing suits, yoga pants, etc
Did you get the surgery mentioned above?
That’s it. Not having babies. This is terrifying
Educate your damned self. Sheesh. You're a success to these fearmongers. Depopulation Agenda WINS with people like you.
Ikr wtf I feel queasy just the thought of that amount of pain ,I cannot fathom 😑😵😣.
I also tore badly when i had my 1st child. I was 16, and my son weighed almost 9 pounds. The doctor i had "wanted to teach me a lesson".. i wasnt offered anything for pain for labor or birthing pain, not even a Tylenol. After i ripped, she started sewing me back up, and didnt even bother to tell me, an got annoyed when i yelled, i asked her what she was doing, she explained, an told me i needed to sit still! I hope karma comes for her!
Wow that’s horrible
I had to have an episiotomy to get my son out. I was not stitched up correctly and have permanent damage to my rectum and vagina. I tried to advocate for myself at my 6 week check up as well as within a week of delivery. I was told there was nothing wrong. I have had a hard time going number two for the past 20 years now and it has progressively gotten worse.
Why do some medical professionals think if it is not necessary, you can suffer and shut up about it? It is disgusting, and it seems as if once you become a mother it is selfish of you to think about yourself as a woman. They should be banned from practicing medicine
I had the same thing happen. They said my epidural should have been enough and then they inserted the needle and I about jumped off the table. Mind you, I told them the entire time that my epidural had failed. So then she grabbed the lidocaine and injected it before she continued the stitches.
I have a high tolerance to pain but when I have pain that I find hard to bear, there is no amount of medicine that will help. When I gave birth to my two children I did not receive an epidural and I was only uncomfortable for about three hours. When it came time for the repair work, I was given two does of medicine because the first dose did not work. The medicine had no impact on me at all and I felt every stitch and the procedure was really painful. There was another times I was in severe pain due to an injury and two doses of morphine had the same effect as if I drank a glass of water.
Similar situation for me. The IV fentanyl didn't help at all and neither did the local anesthetic when they did the stitches.
Are you red-headed or have red-head parents/grand-parents, etc.?
I feel you. I remember when everyone was saying Norco was a heavy pill, cause it’s “powerful and addictive”. I took 2, took about 2hrs to kick in, then it wore off in 2hrs. I don’t take medications now, because they have no effect on me.
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OBGYNs can be very mean. They don’t use anesthesia while inserting an IUD which is an extremely painful procedure.
Yeah, what the hell is with this?? They're like "this might be a little uncomfortable". Meanwhile it feels like someone stuck their entire hand in your uterus and is trying to yank it out of your vagina. It's excruciating.
My Gynocologist offers this kind of surgery. When it comes down to it, it’s the woman’s decision on whether and what to do. I actually discovered that one “lip” is a lot longer than the other and overlaps, something I wouldn’t have known without waxing. If there’s any rubbing, I can develop very painful skin tags (you do NOT want to know how painful it is to have those removed). I honestly could see why adjusting that would be much more comfortable.
So, no, it isn’t always about what someone else thinks, influenced by porn, or even related to childbirth. I actually tore once not with childbirth because of this guy. It’s like pouring lemon juice on top of a paper cut, only it’s in your pants. YEOWCH.
I accidentally pinched a skin tag off (I didn't realize what it was). The pain didn't startle me (it was a small tag), but it started hemorrhaging, so about half of the lip turned a dark shade of purple/red, which definitely spooked me.
Hello , i have some issue but on a much worse level. Can you give me your fb id or something ? I would like to talk with you about it , see what solutions we can find
This is why I can't stand underwear and I have to wear loose fitting pants or dresses.
Because one side is longer. By FAR.
They also refused to give me an epidural in 2000 when I was 17.
Then they stitched me without numbing first.
They said I split like a PLUS + sign.
@@inthelandofmorethansmall7582 Dang. My gynecologist is one of the best ever, and when she removed my skin tags, she did numb me up. Unfortunately, lidocaine can also hurt, and it didn’t take care of everything, so at one point I screamed as though I was being eaten by killer ants. I felt very bad for the women in the waiting room. I cannot imagine how painful that must have been (plus the attitude of “meh, you’re in pain anyway, so why bother?” Ugh.
When I was a student nurse in L &D, my patient delivered and tore. She was repaired without local anesthetic and screamed in agony while being scolded by the male OB. She told me the repair hurt more than the delivery.
I have a strange "lump" like area right on very inside of my vaginal canal on the anterior side due to tearing, being sewn up very tight, and then being retorn post partum. Thankfully it doesn't disturb the mechanics of it all down there... and my husband doesn't care lol, but I definitely know that its not "normal". I definitely empathize with any woman out there with an undesirable scar from childbirth.
did you see a doctor about the “lump”? it almost sounds like a bartholin cyst
I agree a bartholin cyst but it may be one of those things, if it doesn't hurt let it be
Holy shid, after reading all these comments I'm just going to adopt
Agreed, there are too many people already, why making a new one and suffering
Thank you Dr. Youn for reviewing this procedure. I'm actually scheduled for labiaplasty in a couple of months. It's not just about looking nice, but for comfort as well. My husband amd I enjoy a happy marriage, and without getting onto TMI, I'm hoping the results will increase my comfort during marital bliss.
I’m a student midwife and hear a lot of stories from clients about their previous unmedicated hospital births- nearly all of which include some type of tear and NO lidocaine used when they were sutured. I inquired from several L&D nurses the justification (all of these women were scarred as a result, hence part of the reason for their subsequent planned homebirth). The thinking is that the vast majority of women get an epidural for labor and birth and the OBs assume they are numb without checking before trying to quickly suture and get them out of L&D. Basically what I’m saying is- it’s very common and absolutely not ok.
As a nurse I’m surprised l&d nurses don’t bring their concerns and advocate for their patients
I had this done.
The recovery was brutally painful but my everyday life is better because the physical discomfort is gone. 🙂
Dr. Youn : There’s something very satisfying about doing a surgery and seeing the results right there.
Mine usually comes 9 months later 😊
It's Labia Reconstruction after childbirth, not wanting a designer vajajay. Title is misleading
I’m allergic to lidocaine so it’s not an option for me. I gave birth to both my babies without an epidural and needed stitches afterwards. With NO NUMBING. With my second baby in December 2022, I had a third degree episiotomy after her shoulder got stuck and they had to get her out asap. I had to get 28 stitches to repair the muscle and skin incision and tears. I felt every bit of the needle and thread pulling through my skin got every one of those 28 stitches. I actually passed out after they finished from being in shock. I’m 7 weeks postpartum and the incision still hasn’t finished healing.
There are a bunch of local anesthetics they can use, lidocaine is just the most common. Out of the 15 or so that are readily available, I'm sure they could have found one that would work for you.
I've been a Labor and Delivery nurse for 25 years and I have seen too many repairs done without local anesthesia on patients both with and without an epidural.
Why is this so common for doctors to stitch women up without anything to numb the area? That seems barbaric to me
@@rachelels some say that after all the stretching of the area it goes numb on it's own. I've seen physicians test the area and if the patient can't feel anything they proceed. I've also seen physicians say it's only going to be 1 or 2 stitches and the numbing would hurt more or take longer than the stitches. Yes, the local anesthetic most often used is lidocaine which burns when 1st injected and needs a minute or two to begin numbing the area. Or if the patient had/has an epidural in place then they supposedly won't feel it. In my opinion EVERY repair should be done with local anesthetic.
@@abalzeris831 i agree with you. They shouldn’t assume that it’s not going to painless for the woman, it takes a few minutes for them to use the local anesthetic.
Never given birth myself, but this honestly sounds terrifying.
I had a friend who had a labiaplasty. She was so stretched out after two children that it hurt to ride a bicycle. She was thrilled with the results after the healing phase was done.
Your facial expressions crack me up, love your videos!
I would like to inform you that it's standard, even nowadays to perform OB/gyn procedures on women without pain relief. If we complain about it, we are stigmatized as oversensitive crybabies and not treated as human beings who normally experience pain.
I tore with my 1st born son, I was at a teaching hospital and a student was stitching me up with a doctor overseeing his work, I couldn't feel a thing because of my epidural but I distinctly remember the doctor telling the student to step aside and the doctor took over and finished up the job. I was relieved that he didn't let the student botch the repair and that the student was able to see the correct way to sew a vaginal tear, that's what learning is all about except it's a lot more high stakes when the classroom involves live patients at a hospital. Like I said I didn't feel a thing and the doctor did a great job repairing my tear, the next day however was a different story... my body felt like it had been a car wreck, everything hurt especially down there, took a few days to recover but everything turned out OK in the end, my kitty looked very nice and I had no complications when it came to being able to control my bodily functions, I was lucky because some woman do get botched and suffer unnecessarily afterward.
you think labial stitching without freezing hurts? for some psychotic reason the doctor I went to see for a cyst on my clitoris decided to go in without anaesthesia. the most sensitive organ on the human body. being cut into. without anaesthesia. he had a nurse cover my mouth and sush me because I was screaming too loud and I might have "scared the other patients". like no poop dude.
wtf! i’m so sorry for you, sounds traumatic as hell
Omg. That sounds like a lawsuit
I would have kicked them in the face
Go ahead and call the police. I did not consent. This is self defence. Men love to torture women and then gaslight us
I would love reconstruction. But it would do worse damage. I had several surgeries related to cancer and I’m mostly numb and ….repulsive.
But I wasn’t numbed when I was sutured after I gave birth. Not only did I feel myself ripping open I definitely felt myself being sewn back together.
I also feel intense shame about my body. It really affects how I feel about myself as a woman. I did not have any procedures that altered me, but the way women are portrayed and sexualized definitely doesn’t help. You are not repulsive no matter what. But I understand that you must feel maimed and I feel for you strongly. I feel like these procedures should be covered and commonplace.
I also feel intense shame about my body. It really effects how I feel about myself as a woman. I did not have any procedures that altered me, but the way women are portrayed and sexualized definitely doesn’t help. You are not repulsive no matter what. I can’t honestly imagine a scenario where a woman’s anatomy is repulsive (besides my own, shame of course). But I understand that you must feel maimed and deeply hurt and I feel for you strongly. I feel like these procedures should be covered and commonplace especially when there is trauma done to the patient.
It’s so evil not to numb ppl. Exactly Dr Youn.. it only takes a second to l pad a syringe.
I had an episiotomy and when suturing, I could feel the thread pass through my skin. There was no medication administered to numb the area before suturing.
Ok, labia tearing is another horrific reason to NOT NEVER have children!!! We need public education on childbirth, real honest consequences of the whole ordeal.
Yes!!!!!
For real lol ew
Nowadays who even wants children. Except uneducated people and some extreme child lovers.
@@simoncat you’re acting like this is super uncommon. It isn’t. I’ve seen one photo of a ripped downstairs area of a woman and I know I’m never ever going through that.
It doesn't have to be this way.Since the corporate take over of medicine It's become more common to prematurely break the woman's water and administer drugs to make labor go faster. Women are experiencing severe ripping more than in the past because their bodies aren't being given time to stretch.
i wish some of you in the comments who've had lasting complications after your deliveries will consider going to another OBGYN if ur dr denies the problem. you have the right to doctor shop, no matter how small you may feel about it
I tore and felt the and saw the sewing from my vantage point at least…but thank you for saying it’s all normal. A lot of women wonder I’m sure!
I’ve wanted to get something like this done for ages since the skin is basically dead for me. But I’m just so insecure and shy about it.
Go have a consult. Ask for only females in the room and wear dark sunglasses so you do not make awkward eye contact with the dr. Work around your shyness to push for a positive change. Be blessed :)
Hello , could i have a fb id or something so we can talk more about it? I have similar issues too
I didn't get the option to have a natural birth, had to have a C-section to make sure we both lived through it. I am so sorry ma'am your vagina had to go through that. You deserve to feel beautiful inside and out. Hope you're happy with results
Same here I had all my kids no epidural or meds they told me no epidural because I was 20 an not 21 which was bull,when my daughter had her first child she was 19 an she got epi. .anyhow they let the baby tear me an just stood an watched an told me to push more an they sewed it up with no numbing or any meds horrible!!!then years later - at a different hospital - I had my son,an the Dr massaged an stretched the area b4 an during the birth no tearing! goes to show you some drs care an some dont ,.an this birth was also drug free because the anesthesiologist was called into a surgery
I never received numbing for stitches after child birth either.
Love your expressions, they crack me up! Thanks for putting a smile on my face after a long day!
I had two very traumatizing deliveries. So I got fixed. Ended up needed an anterior and posterior repair. Had a bladder and rectoral prolapse.
Me too..!!😰😰😰Had 3 babies. Had a hysterectomy at 32. Botched 1st Breech baby at 22. Had a anterior posterior repair. too. Woke up screaming.😰😰😰
No, no, no! I would have to be knocked completely out for this. I had to knocked out just so my urologist could check my bladder.
🥲🥲🥲 I expected this to be a normal cosmetic surgery but holy shit I can't imagine that level of physical labia trauma!!
After reading the comments I just remembered why I won't ever have kids. Being torn by a 24/7 screaming and sucking your energy monster and being ugly and in pain after that for the rest of my life? No, thanks. There are enough pple in this world already, bruh
I had no idea there could be medical reasons (other than tearing) for a labiaplasty, or rather, I thought all the things that were described (such as chafing, pain, and swelling in clothes and during activities, frequent infections) were normal for all women. I am appreciative of the information that’s becoming available since plastic surgery is becoming less taboo
I feel extremely fortunate after reading these comments. I had pretty extensive tearing with 2 of my 4 childbirths, but didn't feel a thing during the repair. I had an epidural with all of mine, but they still used lidocaine. I clearly remember when it wore off though, that first trip to the restroom was HELL. I became very friendly with that peri bottle for the next few weeks! I have 4 daughters, and will make sure that they ask beforehand about how their repair will be handled if and when they have babies. The Dr will deal with me if anyone tries to pull that shit on my girls!
Sheesh. I hope to God your girls are educated & and can stand up for themselves and have partners who'll do the same.
They sutured me up without numbing. That was just 4 years ago. I gave birth without an epidural or anything and they didn’t numb me so suture me.
Same, but to add, your body basically is numb already, didn't feel a thing (well, felt a whole lot of things, but not from the sutures).
They didn't when I gave birth either. There's so much else that hurts already. Makes no difference.
@@thatsalt1560 it isn't about making a difference or not, its about consent and options. We have lidocaine, we should be given the option. It is wrong for doctors to decide that for us especially when some women do complain about pain and its dismissed as unimportant. I find it beyond insulting that men get almost general anesthesia to get a little colonoscopy but women are cut and torn and sewn up without even a local.
@@thatsalt1560 "There's so much else that hurts already. Makes no difference."
You're totally right. While we're at it, doctors shouldn't put people under anesthesia after getting shot and needing surgery. It already hurts, doesn't matter if you hurt them more.
This is psychotic, and this is the exact mentality that leads to women being treated like livestock when giving birth.
It is INSANE to stitch up women with absolutely no numbing or any semblance of anesthesia. The medical system is already full of enough misogyny, don't justify it even more.
My daughter had a full C section, hip to hip cut. No anesthetic. If the doctor had listened to her that something was wrong, it would not have been an emergency. He waited too long then had to rip into her. So, 'no anesthetic' is done.
Barbaric.
OMG
I asked my obgyn to fix my ripped bits, she did! Ladies it’s probably the most painful procedure and recovery I’ve ever gone through. It’s not worth it and yes, she numbed me up, but I almost came off that table. It hurts so bad. Recovery took a while to heal and ever time I used the bathroom or cleaned it it was very painful
Yeah, I was denied pain medication for my vback birth and then 7 stitches down there including two from a tear that went up towards the g. I was literally screaming in pain and was told to shut up and he had several orderly hold me still. I have so much ptsd from this that I won't go to a doctor for anything
My doctor sewed up my episiotomy that I told him I didn’t want in the first place, all with zero medication.
Uhhh nope to being awake for that kind of surgery. Knock me out!!! F no.
I had tearing during the forceps assisted north of my son. No complaints about that, his health and maybe his life was saved.
I had local anesthetic for that and for repair of the tear after. Gynecologist was great during the delivery.
However within the first couple of weeks it became obvious that skin around my rectum was healing irregularly, folds were appearing and hard to clean the area. At my 6 week check up (first one after the birth) I asked the other gyn in the practice to fix this or refer me out to a plastics person for repair. She refused, stating the group had a policy of not referring anyone out after 6 weeks after delivery (and they only did routine follow ups after 6 weeks).
The look on Dr Youn's face 0:05 is priceless 😂🤣
Omg, YOUR FACE when Dr held up tissue. !
they didn't give me any extra painkiller for my tear, but I still had the epidural in.
They also barely gave me any extra painkiller (just a topical one, no lidocaine shot) when they cut some granulation tissue that had formed after the tear (I had a 3C, so almost as bad as you get, and it did NOT heal well). I had to go in twice to get the granulation tissue removed, but thankfully that area already hurt so badly just existing that them cutting stuff off didn't really hurt.
How do you find a plastic surgeon with experience and skill with this type of surgery?
I'd like to see a guy go through this..maybe the OBGYN's of this world would be more careful😰
The second diagram with repaired labia reminds me of Judy Chicago's Birth Project.
Sounds like reconstructive surgery to me, not plastic surgery.
I felt mine too and I had a hard birth, but I have CMT and lidocaine is highly toxic to my system. I was too busy enjoying my bundle of joy to complain that much….
My labor was induced and my Dr made a small cut so I wouldn't have a tear and the straight cut meant that once healed everything looked the same as before. I assumed that was standard practice, guess not 🙁
Not everyone requires a cut/episiotomy. It's the Dr call whether to do it or not based on how the labour is progressing and other findings
I now understand why women would rather pay a surrogate...this is horrifying. Lord have MERCY!
I was sutured with out a numbing agent. The doctor assumed i had an epidural, but he was wrong. And you feel the thread being pulled through.
I tore when I had my first child, badly. I did not received a local anesthetic, but I did get more than 70 stitches.
Yep, I didn't have numbing while my ob/gyn stitched me as well. It was pretty painful.
Welcome to childbirth, doctor!! Where there is no pain relief for something as insignificant as episiotomies or stitches 😅 I had a stitch or two but I didn't even notice them being put in!! Unbelievable. The pain of contractions turned me inside out. Yes and I've never been the same down there either. Did it three times. Human childbirth is definitely a botch up of nature!!
Episiotomies are not insignificant but often unnecessary. The risk of damaging the rectal wall/anal sphincter is 9 times greater and there's not enough scientific evidence to recommend them "just in case" or to prevent vaginal tearing.
it doesn't have to be if the world of medicine would do more research on how to make it easier.
Agreed. Just look at the size of a human baby compared to the mother. Other mammals give birth to tiny offspring.
how do you get used to looking at catastrophic injuries??? do they teach that in med school?
My mom said she was too much in pain after birth to even realize bring stitched up . . . I'm not sure about that but I'll find out in about 5 months. Wish me luck!
I am a bit annoyed about how they kept saying "symmetrical" and "nicely tucked in". It doesn't need to be, it's totally fine,normal and beautiful to be asymmetrical, and hanging out a bit! Only if it causes pain, chafing or discomfort would I call it the wrong shape😊
I was told to hold still they were almost done.
17 stitches later I felt like I was in some sort of torture chamber.
They gave some iv drugs but nothing in the torn area.
Same! I was cut and tore when I had my son. They stitched me up but my stitches came apart and now I'm all messed up lol
The labia chunks dangling from the tweezers.... 😱🙅♀️ I'll keep mine dangling from me 🤣
I agree with reconstructive surgery, yeah, that's one of the purpose of surgery.
I was told by my first gyn that the area would be numb from giving birth. He was wrong! I made him give me lidocaine.
Men. How many children have they had? That's why I only like male doctors for certain things.
@@launadiva Literally what is a male doctor good for? What certain things?
I can't think of a single thing he'd be good for.
Definitely not psychology, because every emotion is just "are you on your period?" (genuine response I've had from male doctors)
Absolutely not anything to do with female organs like uterus, labia, vagina, heck even breasts can't be trusted with them and they're not exclusively female.
Anything relating to the digestive system (stomach, intestines, etc) is going to be "change your diet"
Like... Genuinely I can't think of one circumstance where a male doctor will not be completely inept when dealing with a female patient, due to the deep rooted misogyny in medicine.
@@jadecoolness101 Seizures. They’re pretty good for dealing with seizures. My neuro is a dude and he’s pretty awesome.
@@colonelchaos9266 Please. any psychological problem is just labelled as ""BPD"" by male doctors (Which is literally just the symptoms of C-PTSD, but recontextualized to make the victim into a bad person) which is just the "hysteria" of modern day.
@@jadecoolness101 how does that have anything to do with epilepsy and seizures.
Not me feeling everything as they were talking and I never had a kid much less a tear..
i wish i'll be a good doctor
i had a nose job under local antithesis it didn't hirt but i could feel the pressure as he broke my nose, but i was so high i was singing at the end. it was in the 90's in grand rapids michigan at the down town plaza, i can't recall his name but he was known for doing reconstruction surges on face disfigurement on children in pore communities. i think the name was Dr. Randy Russo or Ringler something he was an amazing very conservative style doctor. i remember he had a fairly large nose him self. i wouldn't be surprised if you had met him.
I have one labia that is almost completely gone, when it was stitched back up it was stuck together like a little ball and it gets irritated. I’ve thought of getting a labia plasty done to fix it and make it look more symmetrical.
I gave birth naturally and was cut and sewn up without anesthetic😂 I want to fix the shape too😅
I felt everything too with no painkillers at all. (Not requested) All.12.stitches. Of it.
My sons mother had that tearing and stitching pain....I cant remember if they gave her lidocaine, but she flew up off the table...
They never numbed me for my stitches after both of my children
I had a HUGE barthelin cyst. The size of a large lemon. Yes, big and painful. Had to have it drained, and it left me with a scar in my vaginal wall. A flap of tissue...easily palpable. I do not think another painful surgery to "repair" it would ever have been in my mind.
I am quite non sensitive to locals. It takes double what a person twice my weight would require to get a bare minimum. Don't know why this is, but I discovered this when I was a child and had to have dental work.
Had my bottom wisdom teeth removed when I was 19. The doctor didn't believe me when I said I could feel what he was doing. He tested me to prove to me I was numb. Almost jumped out of my seat. He gave me plenty more locals after that.
In going through the comments section I think I need to send my ob a few dozen roses. No epidural, no drugs, 4 hours labor start to finish, my son's shoulders were so wide he caught on my pelvic girdle and the Doc had to push him back in, cut me from cervix to vaginal opening and then sew me up. He stopped counting at 75 stitches. Still stitching. I never had any problems afterwards. Bizarre.