Painfully accurate - I am floored by the fact that the handful of serious narcs ive has as family, married family, partners, etc become less and less unique personalities and rather a collection of symptoms and textbook list of these personality disorder checklists. Who the fuck did I spend my entire life with?
Thank you so much. This really explains a lot about what was happening in my 20 year marriage. There was no actual relationship, only “business like transactions.” He also had porn/object fetishes and would prefer objects and idols to real relationships. Given an ultimatum, he quickly chose his porn/toys and money/success over his family. Good riddance!
When my narcissistic ex crashed and he knew I was going to leave him (married almost 20 years) he started injecting testosterone and human growth hormone and had an affair. Thank u for helping me understand what narcissism looks like and making my life make some sense.
Mine said at first I think I’m gay and now he thinks that he’s transgender but I told him I think he does this for attention and he says no this is who I really am and I explain to him that he would do anything even if it meant hurting family members to go through with the process but again, I think it’s for attention
Good video. Sam helped me realize so many things. My father is undoubtedly a narcissist. I'm 50% sure I'm one myself due to the all the time I've spent with him and his influence on me in life. I only relate to some of the things Sam mentions when he explains the psyche of a narcissist. How can I know for sure If I'm a full blown narcissist?
This was really interesting. I've had these ideas about narcissists I've dated and sone in my family - this allowed my mind to go places I felt I shouldn't previously.
No reality test \ ego = my thoughts were always: “this person has no morality/ shameless” following by blaming perhaps my “narrow views”.... until some years laters required to “wake-up”...
Sam you have enlightened me amazingly in the last couple of hours of watching your videos. Is there a correlation between necrophilia and narcissism by chance? I discovered my ex was into necrophilia on his phone one time and it was around the same time I was waking up after a night out (up to 24 hours later), having no memory of getting home etc, to discover I had been quite brutally violated. This happened a number of times.
I also know someone, he was divorced 3 times guess what his wives say about him? They are jealous of his relationship with his daughter, its not just being pansexual, its also incestous too, they will get supply even from their kids
Yup, I noticed that as well. They use female and male family members to compete with their partners. The more uncomfortable you appear, the more they amp up the behaviour.
Infantilism is primary to the archetype. I was in a BDSM relationship with my Narc. She experienced age regression and this was what i believe was her biggest fetish as she experienced dominance by reauiring myself(her Daddy) to help regulate and understand emotions
Is possible that a female narcissist, can play with both genders? To get material support, carrer support and money from men while using women more for emotional support and for cleaning her aparment and cloths etc.? So that she may jump between men and women depending on the situation and her momentual needs? So that she jumps always to the source that gives her the most support, attention and resources she needs? And when they dry out she moves on to the next one.
Could a dominantly somatic narcissist display cerebral narcissism through constantly communicating his 'know-it-all-ness' in every subject with nominal trivial information gathered from Google? The attention garnered from the listeners considered cerebral narcissist supply, by the collapsed somatic narcissist? Can the somatic narcissist also be covert?
Sam Vaknin that all makes complete sense. I suggested (quite unpopular opinion) that they suffered from body dysmorphia and that it was bullshit similar to pro Ana websites. The fact that they obsessively draw attention to the dysmorphia sorta negates the idea that they do not see themselves accurately. On the contrary, this is how they get attention. They are obsessed with they attention and are hyper reactive to NOT getting attention rather than people not accepting them for who/how they believe themselves to be.
Narcissists have no ego and are max 9 years old internally - that makes a lot of sense to me now. That's, imho, the core of it!
Painfully accurate - I am floored by the fact that the handful of serious narcs ive has as family, married family, partners, etc become less and less unique personalities and rather a collection of symptoms and textbook list of these personality disorder checklists. Who the fuck did I spend my entire life with?
Yes. A collection of symptoms. That is all there is. A collection of symptoms.
Same 10+ years makes me feel ill
Out of context.
Thank you so much. This really explains a lot about what was happening in my 20 year marriage. There was no actual relationship, only “business like transactions.” He also had porn/object fetishes and would prefer objects and idols to real relationships. Given an ultimatum, he quickly chose his porn/toys and money/success over his family. Good riddance!
S Munnerlyn,You look cute 🥰,You don’t need a narcissist in your life….
The best Dr. ever!! His changing lives
Thank you. It was helpful to know he is emotionally and sexually 9 years old max.
When my narcissistic ex crashed and he knew I was going to leave him (married almost 20 years) he started injecting testosterone and human growth hormone and had an affair. Thank u for helping me understand what narcissism looks like and making my life make some sense.
These sick ppl are even more predictable now. So much information in this video.
It explains why they can be hoarders too!! My ex collected everything and preferred buying things to collect to intimacy
good observation
This is an absolute eye opener 😳😳😳 it’s makes soooo my much sense to me now
This is an absolute gold. Thank you.
MyNPD spouse is pansexual.At some point,I thought he was gay the way he hates intimacy.He will fullfill his needs everywhere while depriving me"
This^^^^
Mine said at first I think I’m gay and now he thinks that he’s transgender but I told him I think he does this for attention and he says no this is who I really am and I explain to him that he would do anything even if it meant hurting family members to go through with the process but again, I think it’s for attention
Excellent! I wondered about all of this fluctuation. This certainly clarifies what I suspected. Again, thank you!
Zandra Lee,You look cute 🥰,Hope you are not with a narcissist…..
Thank God I've had seen this video that answer a lot of questions in my mind
Good video. Sam helped me realize so many things. My father is undoubtedly a narcissist. I'm 50% sure I'm one myself due to the all the time I've spent with him and his influence on me in life. I only relate to some of the things Sam mentions when he explains the psyche of a narcissist. How can I know for sure If I'm a full blown narcissist?
there is a check list ..look online...if u have empathy and can love u r not a narcisst
Ok that was very logical and very clear thank you so much as i am trying to descorver who i am living with and here are some answers!
You will probably find that now it will all come together.
This was really interesting. I've had these ideas about narcissists I've dated and sone in my family - this allowed my mind to go places I felt I shouldn't previously.
Sam Sam!! This is text book knowledge. Am even overdosed! 😀
No reality test \ ego = my thoughts were always: “this person has no morality/ shameless” following by blaming perhaps my “narrow views”.... until some years laters required to “wake-up”...
Thank you for your research work on this matter 👏🏾👏🏾
Sam you have enlightened me amazingly in the last couple of hours of watching your videos.
Is there a correlation between necrophilia and narcissism by chance? I discovered my ex was into necrophilia on his phone one time and it was around the same time I was waking up after a night out (up to 24 hours later), having no memory of getting home etc, to discover I had been quite brutally violated. This happened a number of times.
I also know someone, he was divorced 3 times guess what his wives say about him? They are jealous of his relationship with his daughter, its not just being pansexual, its also incestous too, they will get supply even from their kids
Yup, I noticed that as well. They use female and male family members to compete with their partners. The more uncomfortable you appear, the more they amp up the behaviour.
@@marciloni12 .. yes I’ve saw this !!
A great example is "Ezra Mccandless". It's like Sam is talking exactly about her in this video!
Infantilism is primary to the archetype. I was in a BDSM relationship with my Narc. She experienced age regression and this was what i believe was her biggest fetish as she experienced dominance by reauiring myself(her Daddy) to help regulate and understand emotions
Is possible that a female narcissist, can play with both genders? To get material support, carrer support and money from men while using women more for emotional support and for cleaning her aparment and cloths etc.? So that she may jump between men and women depending on the situation and her momentual needs? So that she jumps always to the source that gives her the most support, attention and resources she needs? And when they dry out she moves on to the next one.
Whatever it takes with whoever can give.
@@samvaknin absolutely!
@@samvaknin So is it true that narcassists whether male or female are disposed to bisexuality?
I believe they are,my ex had women and men.@jeffreyexposito3803
@@jeffreyexposito3803 No.
What do you think about Blanchard and Freund (1993), regarding erotic target identity inversions?
I need an answer to this
They are the true transgenders!!! Wow
What is “ infantile sexuality “ ? Thank you
True so true . Got the answer by listening to the all video
Could a dominantly somatic narcissist display cerebral narcissism through constantly communicating his 'know-it-all-ness' in every subject with nominal trivial information gathered from Google? The attention garnered from the listeners considered cerebral narcissist supply, by the collapsed somatic narcissist? Can the somatic narcissist also be covert?
Yes to everything, as you would have known had you listened to previous vids.
@@samvaknin I'm watching them as fast as I can. I just have to guess it what order to watch them in.
Oh my.... I would love to tell you my life story, just to confirm your words...
I’m wondering if there is a corollary between the transgender trend and the rise in narcissism in that generation.
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Sam Vaknin that all makes complete sense. I suggested (quite unpopular opinion) that they suffered from body dysmorphia and that it was bullshit similar to pro Ana websites. The fact that they obsessively draw attention to the dysmorphia sorta negates the idea that they do not see themselves accurately. On the contrary, this is how they get attention. They are obsessed with they attention and are hyper reactive to NOT getting attention rather than people not accepting them for who/how they believe themselves to be.
Omg