I think he has totally hit on the clear and contemporary way of talking about the human experience of reality as have all the legitimate, non-goofy saints, mystics, prophets, messengers, teachers, buddhas, etc.... those types of people.
That helped because too often when I feel some emotion rising up, my mind jumps on it and wants to relegate it to some known experience. My mind makes it good or bad depending what story I assign this emotion. I think just letting a raw emotion hang out without categorizing it is too much for my mind. Usually some pressure in the solar plexus, my ego's bus station. I'm going to try just leaving the emotion on the bus for a bit and see if it doesn't turn into another version of one of my stories.
My friend I recommend Rupert’s meditation entitled “Kiss the Toad” It is available along with literally hundreds of other full length meditation which explore this topic in many different ways from subtly differing angles and I have found them invaluable and utterly indispensable in my efforts to abolish lifelong anxiety and other mental health concerns… Stick with it.. you WILL be free from them gradually but soon you’ll breathe the free air! X
When I finally devoted time each day to practice meditation each morning, part of my inward journey was learning to experience and control emotions that I choose. I first practiced on fear. As I told fear to manifest into my body, bringing about the physical sensation, realizing that glands in the body were releasing chemicals to come together, creating tingling and caused the lack of optimized fluidity of the body due to muscle contractions inherent with fight or flight, I was able to look fear in the face and tell it "NO! Not today, not right now. I know you and I will put you in storage, up on a shelf, to experience you some other time, just not today, just not now." This affirmation empowered my created reality and gave me a knowing that everything I experience is by my own choosing.
hahah my ego's bus station. Love that explanation, i too always feel fear and heavy negative emotions in solar plexus, like a heavy rock that screams. A technique i sometimes use is to just focus on that particular sensation in the body, whilst focusing on breath. This will halt all thoughts. Because if i don't, thoughts like: What if this happens, what if you lose your job, can i fully let go and still be alive? eetc... Just thoughts trying to catch my attention. Fuck all of those thoughts, the emotion is enough as it is :)
Mr. Rupert, you are so cool! An ultimate Existential-Phenomenologist so able to articulate, describe, simplify and point out for people today the key aspects of the human experience of reality. Bringing up-to-date what all the old mystics, saints, messengers and so on were trying to get at, it seems to me.
Simplicity in your explanations.. a reflection of the true itself! You are a true instrument of our source!! Exposing reality as it is. Amazing!! love you!!🤍🤍
During this video, the pulsing sensation I had in my chest mostly dissolved... I always thought that if I felt like there was a heaviness in my chest, or a pulsing tension, that an emotion was stuck in my chest. But now it kind of dissolved on its own.
I am grateful for your words about the queen, Rupert. I see that you made the video private and I could not continue to watch it. I saw perhaps half. I would be grateful for a link to see the rest if that may feel to be OK. I had uncertainty about public posting my experience on the Queen’s death, due to political issues for some etc. But i felt drawn instead to posting. It was a big deal to me to stick out and stand out with it, but I felt it more valuable seeming to be very honest and open re this event to me at this time. How i received it, my own experience of it. It was so valuable to me the words you quoted that W Churchill spoke to QE. This is what I felt I saw in QE when I briefly met her in person - the presence and feeling of eternity - it explained a lot to me, to hear your words. Thank you.❤️🙏
I appreciated the video on the Queen, and found a new way of relating to her role, as a result. Many thanks to Rupert for posting that for as long as he could.
The apparent fish or problem was never a fish to begin with . It was a current made of the same stuff as the ocean of awareness. One substance, no separation. Truly excellent, exposing the illusion of separation.
Very true and profound. But what about extreme physical pain and grief for example ? Those sensations aren’t as easily dismissed as a simple unpleasant sensation
I believe he would say, “extreme” and “strong” and even “pain” are stories about the sensation. Let go of all stories and experience it what is perceived directly. “Easily dismissed” is a goal of the mind. Experience and find out. But that is just what I think he might answer…
It's not about dismissing them, it's about observing them and seeing how they are just consciousness in action. In reality, if you just sit and observe an emotion long enough, it dissolves. It's similar with bodily pain, if you do it for long enough and don't try to escape, normally you will find it disappears or lessens.
Hi , Some things you are not supposed to dismiss in life, for instance hunger and suffering. If these are there in your present then you have to make conscious choices about them. Depending on what you find yourself with, those are the bits you have to be the most creative with. Sometimes you can dissolve an emotion or thought in one go, other times you may have to do it bit by bit, and occasionally you have to accept that these are there and the most creative you can be is not to resist the present moment. Whatever experience you find yourself with, the most important thing to remember is that you are essential more than a limited self. Because who you truly are is beyond your experiences therefore no experience can completely overpower your true identity. I hope this helps
Hi mate, I have heard Rupert suggest on multiple occasions that this approach is for emotional suffering and Not for physical pain per se. However as has already been suggested, you may find the pain becomes more tolerable. The meditation titled “Falling Asleep whilst remaining Awake” is helpful here and specifically addresses physical pain. You can find this on Rupert’s website. Best of luck with this. I live with chronic pain and have found my ability to weather it has increased over time but that is just me. Maybe you too? Lol😃
I've been able to sense the oneness of physical experience and the neutrality of what the mind calls "negative feelings" , but I still find it difficult to have that same approach to when I have a bombardment of negative thoughts. I know it takes time before those thoughts to pass , but even the present moment ability to detach or merge the thoughts into a neutrality like the physical sensations seems alot more difficult, even impossible at times.
This is very, very normal. You are on the right path. If it is difficult, then call it a sense of being difficult. No judgment. Just allow it to be. You know it takes time, as you said. The times when it seems impossible can also be named, "This feeling I have that it is impossible." What does impossible feel like?
Dear juju. There is nothing for you to do or to change. All that is required is surrendering to what you are. If you think this takes time, or requires practice, or you perceive that there may be some point in the future where things might be easier, well that is a story that will always be present for you. You will always feel you just need a bit more time or a bit more practice, because you are thinking that now and now is all there is for eternity. That is not to say I don’t empathise with you and I know how it is to think that way. But see if you can’t surrender to life itself right now. And if you can’t, that’s also completely fine too. May you be happy and free 🙏🏼
@Dean Mitchell It's a bit difficult to locate the sense of I precisely. But if you ask me I'd say it's located on the inside and then rather somewhere close to my eyes than let's say close to my legs.
Appreciate the confirmation that there are no nouns, only verbs... Had commented thus in a break out session and was told you would not agree ... Didn't doubt my knowing yet realized can't put into words 'my' knowing as do you yet lol I know that I know when I know. And also know that I don't know when I don't know. And, have found these emotions are capable of moving to other locations and simply repeat. If really sticky, ask what wants to be heard, known, seen, realized, heard, etc. Q- to get to the inquiry stage, this is helpful when emotions, feelings are too intense? To settle the dust in order to then look at 'false' thoughts and beliefs?
@@ed8311 sure. we are all one, so there are no individuals experiencing anything. it is only awareness. everything is only a sensation or vibration in space as opposed to me experiencing anything as an individual
@@ed8311 We have a tendency to label our experiences with nouns, i.e. describe the experiences in terms of "things" or "entities" that somehow independently and separately exist in the outside world. Similarly, we interpret our own sense of self as an "entity" labeling it with a noun "self". This is a reification layer in our thinking mechanism that interprets the raw experience. This reification is where the the dualistic interpretation of reality happens. In actuality, if we look at our direct experience, there are no "entities", there are only experiences of Awareness, those are only ever-changing "movements", fleeting experiences, there are no unchanging "entities" there that can be found. So, if we are to describe and articulate these experience with language, it is more appropriate to describe them with verbs rather than nouns. In practical terms, the so-called "enlightenment" is simply dismantling the thinking mechanism of reification of our direct experience, removing that interpretative layer of reification and division of the raw reality into seemingly separate "entities" that we describe with nouns. Once that happens, the reality of nondual and unchanging Awareness taking forms of fleeting experiences becomes undeniably obvious. Awareness itself is not "something", it's not an "entity", so it is inappropriate to describe it as a noun. It's rather "awaring" and better describes as a verb, even though Awareness with all its unfolding forms and experiences is ineffable and any description of it can never be accurate.
That was very helpful! I was always confused if I would „run away“ from feelings if I do it like that, but now I see it is just alright to feel in the „Body“ and see what is there, without feeling so wrong, without putting the sensations into good and bad, right and wrong, -mostly bad and wrong.. 😂
Why is this so hard to do? Just accepting their feelings without adding a bunch of words of good or bad. I struggle with this too. It's hard to embrace unpleasant feelings, but I understand what he means. I have begun, involuntarily, to peel my onion, and that's a lot of layers. First anxiety then fear and sadness. And all the feelings together sometimes. It is really hard..
i hear you and sometimes for many of us simply best to take a walk, do the dishes, dance, etc. and then perhaps find a good listening friend to be a sounding board as you look and detangle the feelings that are lumped together as you mention above. Take them one at a time, give them each their 'due' until seen and heard clearly. I may not use the word embrace as may be a bit to close to allow clear seeing, a bit of distance is helpful. And this is also what another person can provide, some distinction from what is being looked at (anxiety, fear, sadness, etc). Acknowledged may be a good way to think of it versus embracing? unconditional acknowledgement, neutrality is a good word, believe Rupert uses frequently.
@@annaberg1200 You may be trying to get rid of your feelings in a subtle way. Which is a form of rejection. Emotions aren't neutral sensations, they are messages from yourself to yourself. That doesn't mean the messages are always 'right' or important, but they are messages nonetheless. If you'd have a two year old child and it was upset, it would be a very strange thing to do as a parent to listen to his cries as just sound or vibrations of the air, without doing anything else. The child would feel very much ignored and would probably cry harder to get the message across. "I am upset. I need to be comforted". If your caregivers/teachers/etc. regularly became anxious, stressed, frustrated or angry with you when you displayed emotions (however subtle, children are very sensitive for cues from their caregivers), you will have learned that emotions are 'bad' or dangerous. You will have learned to condemn, reject and repress your feelings as unwanted things. Ignoring their message, because in your experience they were 'wrong'. A habit that is difficult to change, because you probably have been doing it automatically and unconsciously since a very young age. If you go straight to 'dissolving' them, you are basically just applying a new way of getting rid of your emotions and ignoring their message. And just like the ignored child they will try to get their message across more strongly. Or give up and become stuck in your body. Blocking emotions in general to flow freely. Before you can dissolve your emotions, you have to recognize and acknowledge their message. Take them seriously, like you would an upset two year old, without losing your perspective as a mature adult. If a child is upset from losing a piece of clay you'd take his feelings seriously, but you wouldn't see the situation as very serious, even though the child does. As this probably goes against a well established habit of rejection, it takes time and attention to change your ways. But if you don't push yourself and just let yourself become acquainted with all the processes that go on, things become more clear and will change. Hope this helps.
I am not yet where it's neutral. When I close my eyes, I have intense discomfort, pain, in my solar plexus chakra. I've had this most of my life. But it was buried deep in protective armor of resistance, tension, tight muscles, inability to relax, which now is mostly melted away from so much meditation constantly. So now I'm left with the vulnerability, the sensitivity, the intense sensation of weakness, raw pain in my solar plexus. It often releases for a few seconds with a gasp and my body jumping back, what psychology calls the startle reflex or startle response. I'm very slowly allowing it more.
It is the only way to deal with this. Once you've allowed and looked at the physical sensations of fear without the story attached to it, it is reduced to heart rate, sweat and stuff. Things that are natural to your body. Uncomfortable but you won't die. Promise. If you allow fear by observing it like that, base fear (naked fear also "panic") loses interest in pestering you. It's paradox, difficult and simple at the same time. Accept the different fears of life. They belong to it. Panic attacks will be history. 👋
I understand what he's saying, but... the emotions *arise* from an experience, so the emotion and experience are inexorably attached to each other. Not sure how you eliminate the origin of the emotion. You can *tell* a person how to do it, but can it successfully be done? Is that what "transcending the Ego mind" is?
What about the other way around - like memories/flashbacks that come up and are then followed by emotions? Do the emotions feed the story and keep it alive or are you supposed to feel?
I would say…Once the emotion is here, you can’t not perceive it, so at that point pay no mind to the story that brought it and focus on dissolving the feeling through this method. It is already here so you have no say in if you are supposed to feel it
It’s useful to see thinking and feeling for what they are. They are both vibrations. They are not strictly separate, though we experience them differently and they both feedback into each other creating a feedback loop, vibrating in perfect simultaneity. This is useful to know because it appears to us that either emotions arise and trigger certain thoughts or that thoughts appear and trigger emotions, where in reality they are both vibrations appearing in awareness. And by that understanding Rupert’s exercise works for most situations unless maybe one is suffering from trauma, PTSD for example, in that case subscribing to this method might be triggering
Hi, You can see the thoughts or feel the emotion. It doesn’t matter which one you are dissolving. They are both made out of Awareness. Even if images you see in your mind, when you go very close to them, all there is left of their reality is awareness. Although, it is best to experience this first hand because once you do then you are good to go again and again. However the tricky part is to remember that you have to recognise what is happening in the present moment. If you are having a difficult thought then recognise the gap between you and the thought. Once you do then you can observe it as something limited, something which is kept alive by awareness. The same goes for emotions, see it for what it is, it is not you, it is something inside awareness and you and awareness are inseparable. I hope this helps. 🤗
@@thacryinggame Yes, it doesn't come to one. It may seems like it though. Words, you know! Sometimes I've noticed that when speaking on this "topic", the more "clear and precise" I choose to be, the less (most) people can 'get it', if so to say. But indeed, it doesn't come to us. It is realized to Be Here, always have been. It is clear in one's own direct experience that one is This
We are the awareness behind our thoughts. We are consciousness itself a part of the greater consciousness. We are a thread of the Divine. We are not our past or thoughts they are illusions that no longer exist. You are perfect and peaceful without all the judgements we put upon ourself. You are love itself.
Try combining this along with Eckhart Tolle's description of 'The Pain Body entity'. I found they both merged into something very aha, while I was transitioning out of non understanding. Those aha moments can be so ahhhhhaaaaaa calm, bliss.
Comsidering the work you offer is sacred, For your sake, id take down That loud screaming printed advertising material , as in , marketing material covering most of your torso, it is scary, and far from how or what you present, wuality wise, normally.
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Let it be.
Don't make it into a problem.
The tendency to make it into a problem is an expression of your resistance to it.
This just saved me from an anxiety attack.
I love this man. Such direct, simple, compassionate teaching.
I think he has totally hit on the clear and contemporary way of talking about the human experience of reality as have all the legitimate, non-goofy saints, mystics, prophets, messengers, teachers, buddhas, etc.... those types of people.
That helped because too often when I feel some emotion rising up, my mind jumps on it and wants to relegate it to some known experience. My mind makes it good or bad depending what story I assign this emotion. I think just letting a raw emotion hang out without categorizing it is too much for my mind. Usually some pressure in the solar plexus, my ego's bus station. I'm going to try just leaving the emotion on the bus for a bit and see if it doesn't turn into another version of one of my stories.
My friend I recommend Rupert’s meditation entitled “Kiss the Toad”
It is available along with literally hundreds of other full length meditation which explore this topic in many different ways from subtly differing angles and I have found them invaluable and utterly indispensable in my efforts to abolish lifelong anxiety and other mental health concerns…
Stick with it.. you WILL be free from them gradually but soon you’ll breathe the free air! X
When I finally devoted time each day to practice meditation each morning, part of my inward journey was learning to experience and control emotions that I choose. I first practiced on fear. As I told fear to manifest into my body, bringing about the physical sensation, realizing that glands in the body were releasing chemicals to come together, creating tingling and caused the lack of optimized fluidity of the body due to muscle contractions inherent with fight or flight, I was able to look fear in the face and tell it "NO! Not today, not right now. I know you and I will put you in storage, up on a shelf, to experience you some other time, just not today, just not now." This affirmation empowered my created reality and gave me a knowing that everything I experience is by my own choosing.
hahah my ego's bus station. Love that explanation, i too always feel fear and heavy negative emotions in solar plexus, like a heavy rock that screams. A technique i sometimes use is to just focus on that particular sensation in the body, whilst focusing on breath. This will halt all thoughts. Because if i don't, thoughts like: What if this happens, what if you lose your job, can i fully let go and still be alive? eetc... Just thoughts trying to catch my attention. Fuck all of those thoughts, the emotion is enough as it is :)
Mr. Rupert, you are so cool! An ultimate Existential-Phenomenologist so able to articulate, describe, simplify and point out for people today the key aspects of the human experience of reality. Bringing up-to-date what all the old mystics, saints, messengers and so on were trying to get at, it seems to me.
Simplicity in your explanations.. a reflection of the true itself! You are a true instrument of our source!! Exposing reality as it is. Amazing!! love you!!🤍🤍
Energy is information. Matter is spirit.
Consciousness accepts everything, because everything is consiousness
Nice brainwashing here
Thank you so much! The exact function of the Sedona Method and getting in touch with our true Self is here!
Love and Peace!
Thank you for this very clear explanation ❤️
Naming the sensation is the cause of misery
Great video, thanks Rupert!
So Cool.. Thank you again Rupert Blessings 💜
Working Like a magic so helpful Thank you Rupert 🙏💗🙏
During this video, the pulsing sensation I had in my chest mostly dissolved... I always thought that if I felt like there was a heaviness in my chest, or a pulsing tension, that an emotion was stuck in my chest. But now it kind of dissolved on its own.
I am grateful for your words about the queen, Rupert. I see that you made the video private and I could not continue to watch it. I saw perhaps half. I would be grateful for a link to see the rest if that may feel to be OK. I had uncertainty about public posting my experience on the Queen’s death, due to political issues for some etc. But i felt drawn instead to posting. It was a big deal to me to stick out and stand out with it, but I felt it more valuable seeming to be very honest and open re this event to me at this time. How i received it, my own experience of it. It was so valuable to me the words you quoted that W Churchill spoke to QE. This is what I felt I saw in QE when I briefly met her in person - the presence and feeling of eternity - it explained a lot to me, to hear your words. Thank you.❤️🙏
I appreciated the video on the Queen, and found a new way of relating to her role, as a result. Many thanks to Rupert for posting that for as long as he could.
The apparent fish or problem was never a fish to begin with . It was a current made of the same stuff as the ocean of awareness. One substance, no separation. Truly excellent, exposing the illusion of separation.
This is the most valuable teaching in my life .
Very true and profound. But what about extreme physical pain and grief for example ? Those sensations aren’t as easily dismissed as a simple unpleasant sensation
I believe he would say, “extreme” and “strong” and even “pain” are stories about the sensation. Let go of all stories and experience it what is perceived directly. “Easily dismissed” is a goal of the mind. Experience and find out. But that is just what I think he might answer…
It's not about dismissing them, it's about observing them and seeing how they are just consciousness in action.
In reality, if you just sit and observe an emotion long enough, it dissolves. It's similar with bodily pain, if you do it for long enough and don't try to escape, normally you will find it disappears or lessens.
Hi , Some things you are not supposed to dismiss in life, for instance hunger and suffering. If these are there in your present then you have to make conscious choices about them. Depending on what you find yourself with, those are the bits you have to be the most creative with. Sometimes you can dissolve an emotion or thought in one go, other times you may have to do it bit by bit, and occasionally you have to accept that these are there and the most creative you can be is not to resist the present moment. Whatever experience you find yourself with, the most important thing to remember is that you are essential more than a limited self. Because who you truly are is beyond your experiences therefore no experience can completely overpower your true identity. I hope this helps
Hi mate, I have heard Rupert suggest on multiple occasions that this approach is for emotional suffering and Not for physical pain per se. However as has already been suggested, you may find the pain becomes more tolerable. The meditation titled “Falling Asleep whilst remaining Awake” is helpful here and specifically addresses physical pain. You can find this on Rupert’s website.
Best of luck with this. I live with chronic pain and have found my ability to weather it has increased over time but that is just me. Maybe you too? Lol😃
Thank you rupert!
Thank you so much for this Rupert. ❤️
I've been able to sense the oneness of physical experience and the neutrality of what the mind calls "negative feelings" , but I still find it difficult to have that same approach to when I have a bombardment of negative thoughts. I know it takes time before those thoughts to pass , but even the present moment ability to detach or merge the thoughts into a neutrality like the physical sensations seems alot more difficult, even impossible at times.
This is very, very normal. You are on the right path. If it is difficult, then call it a sense of being difficult. No judgment. Just allow it to be. You know it takes time, as you said. The times when it seems impossible can also be named, "This feeling I have that it is impossible." What does impossible feel like?
Dear juju. There is nothing for you to do or to change. All that is required is surrendering to what you are. If you think this takes time, or requires practice, or you perceive that there may be some point in the future where things might be easier, well that is a story that will always be present for you. You will always feel you just need a bit more time or a bit more practice, because you are thinking that now and now is all there is for eternity.
That is not to say I don’t empathise with you and I know how it is to think that way. But see if you can’t surrender to life itself right now. And if you can’t, that’s also completely fine too. May you be happy and free 🙏🏼
@Dean Mitchell It's a bit difficult to locate the sense of I precisely. But if you ask me I'd say it's located on the inside and then rather somewhere close to my eyes than let's say close to my legs.
This is fantastic! So simple. Thank you so much
And even the thought-interpretation is just another movement of the consciousness-water.
Appreciate the confirmation that there are no nouns, only verbs... Had commented thus in a break out session and was told you would not agree ... Didn't doubt my knowing yet realized can't put into words 'my' knowing as do you yet lol I know that I know when I know. And also know that I don't know when I don't know. And, have found these emotions are capable of moving to other locations and simply repeat. If really sticky, ask what wants to be heard, known, seen, realized, heard, etc. Q- to get to the inquiry stage, this is helpful when emotions, feelings are too intense? To settle the dust in order to then look at 'false' thoughts and beliefs?
No nouns, only verbs! 😩🙏🏽❤️
Can you explain? I just had dream where i read similar word that life is of verbs , and then I read this now, can you elaborate?
@@ed8311 sure. we are all one, so there are no individuals experiencing anything. it is only awareness. everything is only a sensation or vibration in space as opposed to me experiencing anything as an individual
@@ed8311 We have a tendency to label our experiences with nouns, i.e. describe the experiences in terms of "things" or "entities" that somehow independently and separately exist in the outside world. Similarly, we interpret our own sense of self as an "entity" labeling it with a noun "self". This is a reification layer in our thinking mechanism that interprets the raw experience. This reification is where the the dualistic interpretation of reality happens. In actuality, if we look at our direct experience, there are no "entities", there are only experiences of Awareness, those are only ever-changing "movements", fleeting experiences, there are no unchanging "entities" there that can be found. So, if we are to describe and articulate these experience with language, it is more appropriate to describe them with verbs rather than nouns. In practical terms, the so-called "enlightenment" is simply dismantling the thinking mechanism of reification of our direct experience, removing that interpretative layer of reification and division of the raw reality into seemingly separate "entities" that we describe with nouns. Once that happens, the reality of nondual and unchanging Awareness taking forms of fleeting experiences becomes undeniably obvious. Awareness itself is not "something", it's not an "entity", so it is inappropriate to describe it as a noun. It's rather "awaring" and better describes as a verb, even though Awareness with all its unfolding forms and experiences is ineffable and any description of it can never be accurate.
@ajt7899 please guys stop repeating what your gurus taught you to repeat.
You will NEVER get "enlightenment", like this, never
That was very helpful! I was always confused if I would „run away“ from feelings if I do it like that, but now I see it is just alright to feel in the „Body“ and see what is there, without feeling so wrong, without putting the sensations into good and bad, right and wrong, -mostly bad and wrong.. 😂
Live has the striving to live and experience itself as diverse as possible, no matter if as matter, never mind if as mind or whatever.
Thoughts (words you think with) always precede feelings. Always!
I'm not too sure about this. Pretty sure feelings come first.
University of Michigan Psychiatry taught this principle in their Hunger Within program ❤
Why is this so hard to do? Just accepting their feelings without adding a bunch of words of good or bad. I struggle with this too. It's hard to embrace unpleasant feelings, but I understand what he means. I have begun, involuntarily, to peel my onion, and that's a lot of layers. First anxiety then fear and sadness. And all the feelings together sometimes. It is really hard..
its hard because of resistance to its presence, which comes from sense of sepraye self,
@@sandeepshetty8900 Okay. It doesn't help me that much..
i hear you and sometimes for many of us simply best to take a walk, do the dishes, dance, etc. and then perhaps find a good listening friend to be a sounding board as you look and detangle the feelings that are lumped together as you mention above. Take them one at a time, give them each their 'due' until seen and heard clearly. I may not use the word embrace as may be a bit to close to allow clear seeing, a bit of distance is helpful. And this is also what another person can provide, some distinction from what is being looked at (anxiety, fear, sadness, etc). Acknowledged may be a good way to think of it versus embracing? unconditional acknowledgement, neutrality is a good word, believe Rupert uses frequently.
@@annaberg1200 You may be trying to get rid of your feelings in a subtle way. Which is a form of rejection. Emotions aren't neutral sensations, they are messages from yourself to yourself. That doesn't mean the messages are always 'right' or important, but they are messages nonetheless. If you'd have a two year old child and it was upset, it would be a very strange thing to do as a parent to listen to his cries as just sound or vibrations of the air, without doing anything else. The child would feel very much ignored and would probably cry harder to get the message across. "I am upset. I need to be comforted".
If your caregivers/teachers/etc. regularly became anxious, stressed, frustrated or angry with you when you displayed emotions (however subtle, children are very sensitive for cues from their caregivers), you will have learned that emotions are 'bad' or dangerous. You will have learned to condemn, reject and repress your feelings as unwanted things. Ignoring their message, because in your experience they were 'wrong'. A habit that is difficult to change, because you probably have been doing it automatically and unconsciously since a very young age.
If you go straight to 'dissolving' them, you are basically just applying a new way of getting rid of your emotions and ignoring their message. And just like the ignored child they will try to get their message across more strongly. Or give up and become stuck in your body. Blocking emotions in general to flow freely.
Before you can dissolve your emotions, you have to recognize and acknowledge their message. Take them seriously, like you would an upset two year old, without losing your perspective as a mature adult. If a child is upset from losing a piece of clay you'd take his feelings seriously, but you wouldn't see the situation as very serious, even though the child does. As this probably goes against a well established habit of rejection, it takes time and attention to change your ways. But if you don't push yourself and just let yourself become acquainted with all the processes that go on, things become more clear and will change.
Hope this helps.
@Lukotube I'm not the original commenter but still wanted to say thank you, because to me this was very helpful. 🙏
I am not yet where it's neutral. When I close my eyes, I have intense discomfort, pain, in my solar plexus chakra. I've had this most of my life. But it was buried deep in protective armor of resistance, tension, tight muscles, inability to relax, which now is mostly melted away from so much meditation constantly. So now I'm left with the vulnerability, the sensitivity, the intense sensation of weakness, raw pain in my solar plexus. It often releases for a few seconds with a gasp and my body jumping back, what psychology calls the startle reflex or startle response. I'm very slowly allowing it more.
simply Love & appreciate Rupert 💗
This is half true. These tensions are painful because we have a lot of nerve endings in the belly. They are not neutral at all.
There are no nouns, only verbs!- Rupert, yeah.
Muchísimas gracias!!! Muyyyy util
Thank you
Guys I just come to know this Dr, I have found that there are a couple of videos , do you suggest me some of them as more useful
So helpful
Better than a therapist who doesn’t have a clue about what Rupert is pointing to.
So powerful
Ty so much it's helping me.
Thoughts become things 🤓
Don't assign your judgement/perception onto a sensation. Just sit with the sensation as it is.
There are no nouns in reality, only verbs
Can "sensations" also mean anxiety or panic attacks?
yup
Yes.
It is the only way to deal with this. Once you've allowed and looked at the physical sensations of fear without the story attached to it, it is reduced to heart rate, sweat and stuff. Things that are natural to your body. Uncomfortable but you won't die. Promise. If you allow fear by observing it like that, base fear (naked fear also "panic") loses interest in pestering you. It's paradox, difficult and simple at the same time. Accept the different fears of life. They belong to it. Panic attacks will be history. 👋
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Hey rupert what if i wanted to do the opposite and suffer a bunch cause to be honest thats what i want im just going to follow thought from now on
I understand what he's saying, but... the emotions *arise* from an experience, so the emotion and experience are inexorably attached to each other. Not sure how you eliminate the origin of the emotion. You can *tell* a person how to do it, but can it successfully be done? Is that what "transcending the Ego mind" is?
What about the other way around - like memories/flashbacks that come up and are then followed by emotions? Do the emotions feed the story and keep it alive or are you supposed to feel?
Emotions don't matter but don't resist them.
I would say…Once the emotion is here, you can’t not perceive it, so at that point pay no mind to the story that brought it and focus on dissolving the feeling through this method. It is already here so you have no say in if you are supposed to feel it
It’s useful to see thinking and feeling for what they are. They are both vibrations. They are not strictly separate, though we experience them differently and they both feedback into each other creating a feedback loop, vibrating in perfect simultaneity. This is useful to know because it appears to us that either emotions arise and trigger certain thoughts or that thoughts appear and trigger emotions, where in reality they are both vibrations appearing in awareness. And by that understanding Rupert’s exercise works for most situations unless maybe one is suffering from trauma, PTSD for example, in that case subscribing to this method might be triggering
Hi, You can see the thoughts or feel the emotion. It doesn’t matter which one you are dissolving. They are both made out of Awareness. Even if images you see in your mind, when you go very close to them, all there is left of their reality is awareness. Although, it is best to experience this first hand because once you do then you are good to go again and again. However the tricky part is to remember that you have to recognise what is happening in the present moment. If you are having a difficult thought then recognise the gap between you and the thought. Once you do then you can observe it as something limited, something which is kept alive by awareness. The same goes for emotions, see it for what it is, it is not you, it is something inside awareness and you and awareness are inseparable. I hope this helps. 🤗
@@mariadolhai thank u this is very helpful!
im totally surrended to everything, not trying to do anything abotu anything and the pain gets so intense im screaming with pain , thats all there is?
I need help i can’t control my emotions :(
Be careful because this can also be used to repress or suppress emotions.
No. When you give room to emotions they find their way out of the body. When you ignore them or are left unheard, it may cause a lot of trouble.
no nouns ...just verbs...😂
wow
if i wasn't so very enlightened, that woman might be quite an uncomfortable feeling for me 😉
Rupert speaks as though lily knows what the hell he is talking about. Im having trouble trying to understand what hes even tying to get her to feel?
I see. "IT" will come to you soon. You Are That
@@thacryinggame Yes, it doesn't come to one. It may seems like it though. Words, you know! Sometimes I've noticed that when speaking on this "topic", the more "clear and precise" I choose to be, the less (most) people can 'get it', if so to say.
But indeed, it doesn't come to us. It is realized to Be Here, always have been.
It is clear in one's own direct experience that one is This
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Are people buying into this? Ever had an extreme cramp?
Do not find this helpful.
Not everyone will. Keep trying. It's amazing once you do innerstand.
This isn't usually a one and done kind of thing
We are the awareness behind our thoughts. We are consciousness itself a part of the greater consciousness. We are a thread of the Divine. We are not our past or thoughts they are illusions that no longer exist. You are perfect and peaceful without all the judgements we put upon ourself. You are love itself.
Try combining this along with Eckhart Tolle's description of 'The Pain Body entity'.
I found they both merged into something very aha, while I was transitioning out of non understanding.
Those aha moments can be so ahhhhhaaaaaa calm, bliss.
Comsidering the work you offer is sacred,
For your sake, id take down That loud screaming printed advertising material , as in , marketing material covering most of your torso, it is scary, and far from how or what you present, wuality wise, normally.