I was always drawn toward Violet because I relate a lot towards her. I knew that romanticizing mental health is a real problem andI hate how people are trying to be like a fictional character. Depression is the worst thing that has happened to me. I've had it since the 4th grade and everyday was hell. Growing up I turned off my emotions and I hated myself. When I saw AHS, Violet to me was cool. I loved her style and her personality matched mine to an extant. But that was all. I haven't seen it until this year where I got back into it. I have a history of mental illnesses. Mental hospitals. outpatient treatment. Medication. Self harm. It's horrible but deep down I miss it. I experienced depression first hand. To the people who are trying to be like her and trying to fake depression, be yourself and be happy. Once you have depression, it never leaves you. It's the worst thing to feel. All the therapy and meds. People leaving me because of it. It's been around 7 years and still suffer.
I am bipolar, and I can remember, that I poored my heart out in a fb group, beacouse I thought, that they will be nice, and accept it. But as it came out, they didn't. And It's beacouse my age. I will be fifteen, and It sucks. People don't get what is happening, that one time I seems to be pretty happy, jumping around, studying 4-5-6 hours a day without noticing, cleaning the whole house myself, and other times, I don't even talk to them, and want to kill myself. And you know, when you hardly tell them (beacouse you think, that you can trust them), at this age, they always think, that you listening to Billie Eilish, and other dark pop shits like that.
when i say i want to be like violet harmon i mean i like to her music taste and clothing style. also how she stands up for herself in like home invasion. ive been through self harm before i ever watched the show. im so happy you made this video.
I could relate so much to this. Once I watched ahs and saw violet it was like in order to be like violet and have someone love you like tate did you have to cut yourself and fight with your parents. I went crazy. It feels like reality just slapped me in the face. Love you and your videos. Your such an inspiration. Thank you.
by the end of this video I was in tears. you're such an inspiration , misha. I did come across your channel bc I liked the clothes violet wore and I wanted to see some outfit ideas, and after I kinda got over the whole violet phase I went through, I came back to your channel and watched your other videos. I loved your quirkiness and your kindness and creativity. you're honestly someone I look up to. I waited for you to post more videos (after your Madison Montgomery makeup tutorial) and once again you made smile. so thank you, for being there for me even if you aren't aware. you've helped me through a lot.
I'm not depressed because I love violet and want to be like her. I love violet because I am depressed. I understand many things about what you said. And I can relate in so many ways.
Three years ago, I found your channel and I felt like someone finally understand me, I loved American Horror Story just like you, I loved Violet just like you and soon you become a "friend". I was also depressive and cut myself, I stopped watch your videos and went through a dark moment, but today I rediscover your channel and I confess that I cried a lot. And you that already was a "model" to me, became a inspiration.
for me was the opposite, i have depression since 2013 and i started watching the show in 2014. I felt more normal, I felt like someone was there 4 me, and her life is really similar to mine. I don't have friends because when my depression strakes 2 hard people leave because I'm sad. My parents have to take care of other things about my brother, so they don't notice my depression. I know it looks weird that they don't see it, but my family problems are huge. (sorry for the poor english, I'm from br)
Thank you for making this video... I can really relate to it. I started watching American Horror Story when I was 14 I'm, 16 now and my life has completely changed. I got sucked into the depression/cutting glamorization. I'm trying to change, and I can say it is extremely difficult. More videos like this need to be made, more people need to be made aware. Thank you again. I love your videos!
I totally agree with what you said, as for me I rly had and still have a hard time in school, I'm not popular at all and it sucks to be alone all the time. Also I was diagnosed with depression and psychopathic personality disorder. So when I started watching the show I rly related to Violet A LOT and had a huge crush on Tate. But I never made like a tumblr acc about it or anything, thats so attention seeking... I'm pissed bc there are so many rly young girls who think that depression is just being sad and you're laying in your bad, looking cute thinking about lhfe but depression is not being able to shower for several days because you can't even get up anymore. Depression is not feeling sad, depression is feeling empty. So I 100% agree with this video, its annoying to see how teenage girls romanticise depression or mental illnesses in general
i really adore her. she means a lot to me. i grew up almost exactly like her. i was isolated, lonely, bullied, just moved into a new house, parents weren’t on good terms, i was suicidal and self harmed. i really just wanted her as a best friend. she was also a huge bi awakening for me. i was totally in love with her. she honestly just means so so much to me. i know this isn’t totally on topic but i really really love her lol.
Same. Last year I really related to Violet. I was very sad 24/7, doing bad in school, didn’t have many friends,my parents were on bad terms and I rlly just wanted Violet as a friend bc I saw myself in her.
i'm glad that someone made this video. i got really into ahs a few years ago. before watching i'd suffered really badly with self harm and depression and at the time i was suffering from it so i latched on to violate and tate for comfort and to distract myself from all of the bad things, but after entering the tumblr community of it and seeing the show get popular around my school, i just find it so upsetting seeing all these girls manifest this sadness like you said from something that actually helped me deal with my sadness
it's rare when a person get to make me cry and you're at happen because everything you spoke was right and I find it incredible that you take the courage to talk about your sadness from your world to help others person so thank you for your video that shows that everyone is not bad that there are still good people thank you very much xx
I had this same problem at the beginning of 8th grade but I realized quite soon after that I was creating my sadness. I know so many girls in my school that I see are major ahs fans and they cut themselves and they do certain things like violet. And I feel like cutting is now like a fad. It is apart of your style. You know, like your into these certain things and so you have to cut or be depressed. which is horrible.I just want everyone to see this so they can realize what they are really doing to themselves.
very well spoken! you took the words out of my mouth. i also had the same experience with the whole violet/depression thing and even had suicidal thoughts! I eventually got better and i'm seeing a therapist and also joined theater my senior year which has helped a lot! i wish you the best of luck and thanks for talking about this subject.
when i first started watching ahs i was in 7th grade and i was struggling with depression. i related to violet so much but the glamorization i saw of her self harm (especially on tumblr) was part of what let me to know what self harm is and start doing it
thank you for making this video. in my personal experience, violet was someone that just... made sense. i wanted that spunk, i wanted to be okay with being alone. but i'm not okay with being alone. there was a time in my life where i wanted to dress like her, listen to the same music as her, speak like her. i got so frustrated because i didn't have the things she did. and now, in retrospect, i didn't appreciate or love myself. there was just something about violet that seemed so invincible and attractive, and i wanted to have that for myself. there was also a time where i knew how ridiculous i was for trying to be someone i wasn't, and i've pulled myself out of it. sometimes i fall back. but now, i realize that i am my own person. i have an individuality that no one could ever claim. there are girls out there who are like violet, who are suffering like her. while i don't understand violet's home situation, i understand her pain. i have been there, and still am. she was someone to cling onto, so i understand why so many girls wanted to be like her. she's strong. i know now that if violet could grow up, she'd grow out of who she was and live her damn life. and i will do just that. i allow her positive traits to influence me, like her fearlessness, her style (which i genuinely like, since it is similar to mine), her take-no-shit attitude. i have my own problems, my own depression, and i no longer allow this character to push me towards the dark. once again, thank you for making this video. i'm sorry for all that stuff you've been through, but i can see that it made you that much more intelligent and strong.
Thankyou for making this, it is so relevant to our society today and also what you said at the end made my week and made me feel im not alone and that someone cares, thankyou xx
I don't know if I'm depressed or traumatized, I got raped at 5 years old, I never told anybody because I didn't wanna be judged, I honestly finally told someone and I felt just a bit better. I might be depressed but I'm not trying to be a fictional character. I hide the fact that I'm depressed because I'll be called "edgy" or "emo" I need help but I'm too scared to ask.
Bleach . Hi I don't know you, and I'm so so sorry that happened to you, You are worthy of help and you deserve to be happy and not ashamed. I hope you receive help and I wish you the very best ❤️
I can totally relate to this video. I went through the exact same thing and I now feel so stupid about it looking back. Also, so many more people need to see this video.
Dang I watched this not knowing that I totally was acting like her because I admired her. I saw parts of myself in her and I did really believe that she was so poetic and strong. This has really helped. Thanks
I really Love the Show,mostly Murder House. I think i'm depress cause all this things happenning around me affect me.I am not very social and my "Friends" doesn't care about me.the last year I was okay and now the things got worst,I wanna be better,but is dificcult for me.I don't create depression, i'm just in a bad moment un my Life.I feel really identify by Violet,but I don't try to be like her I just Love the character. thank you for that video, is good to talk about it sorry if my english is bad
Sometimes its not just how we view the world.. Ive been struggling with depression for 7 years now (im 18) and no doctor ever found any way to make me change, i try, i take initiatives, but its a always a spiral down. And when people glamorize it, they make me feel important. After feeling depressed for all those years yes it feels like to be "appreciated by people" but deep down i know its wrong. And I feel normal and connected with AHS, especially with Violet and Tate (i don't kill people tho ;p). I think its completely different for everyone, and i appreciate you did this video, it means a lot to me, and i think i can speak from everyone thats going through it as well.
Thank you so much for posting this video. I just got really inspired (again) with violets style and i didn't even realise that I was turning sader when I am alone. You really cleared up my mind about who I really am. Like I don't have to "be" her just because I love her style. So thank you
I've always loved violet I have collected her exacts and have dressed like her for a year and I really personally relate to violet I really relate too the bullying and her parents situation ive always been bullied for being an "outsider." and really I don't want too fit in but I don't want the bullying to continue but its just there I really love violet sm
glad to see how you've grown as a person:) i wish you the best! and I hope people get help through this video which i think many will. love your videos
I think that helps people with depression to see that if you don't ask for help then it'll be too late and that even if you don't notice it there's people that love you and there's always another way
Great video Misha! You're so inspirational and it's nice to know there are others out there who like the same kind of weird quirky things. So many of us have been in the same boat with being bullied for being different and although I've never been depressed, I have experienced sadness and it sucks and you're right...it does manifest and seems like there's no way out but there is a difference and the way you view the world totally makes a huge difference. Thank you for being yourself and your genuineness amidst all the fake people out there. Girl you and I would be great friends. Glad I'm not alone in the way I think about life. It's easy to feel isolated esp since it's hard to meet people who have similar interests and views. So again thanks for your inspiring words and I hope it helps others out there. Keep rocking at life! Xoxo
This is very real, it happened to me too. I wanted attention and I was finding reasons to cut myself when there weren't any. There's never a reason to cut yourself, but I was 9 and I didn't know it would get this bad. Over the years it has taken a lot of time to turn into something real, but to this day because I started over something so small I still wonder if I have any real trauma, so bad I need to cut myself. If I started when I was nine because I had a toxic relationship with my parents and I learned to self harm online, then how do I know I'm not still being dramatic and still grabbing for reasons to validate myself? I don't know, it's just so sad to see people still doing this today and developing real depression and eating disorders :(
I completely agree with you, i know that pose of the depressive girl is turning a fad because of girls that want to be like fictional characters as Violet or Effy (from skins) and a lot of other characters. They force themselves to be, as you said, apathic and sad in every moment. And now you said this i feel a little insulted for a moment because it's horrible feeling like that...and force yourself to feel depressed it's, well i guess they have their reasons and i want to believe that at least sometimes a part of that pain is real, but i don' t know....i have been feeling like that without any show or role model (in fact i used to look for strong role models that were focused in the idea of always keep fighting) since i was, maybe twelve, and that feeling is the worst feeling because you feel like an emptiness in every single moment of the day and you feel a lot of things at the same time and overthink a lot and....well, it's complicated to explain. But i agree with you, i loved this video and the way you talked about it, (sorry if my english it's not very good)
The way that AHS helped you is the exact way that Skins had helped me my sophomore year. I wanted to be like Effy so bad, I didn't care how she was I just wanted to be like her. While I saw the darkness is Skins, it reminded me that I'm not alone and helped me cherish my own life.
I didnt think this would bring me to tears but it did :( this is so unbelievable true and i wish i couldve shown 13 y/o me this before stuff got out of hand. I also had a point in my life where i tried to mimic violet harmon (i used to watch all your vids) and this impersonation of violets apathy 'triggered' or encouraged mental illness. I guess I latched onto her whole apathetic grungy 'brand' because i empathised with her somehow and it kind of went too far :( I want to tell every young girl starting to watch the show to not fall into the same 'trap' and get help but i know how impressionable we are at that age (I was even though I tried to deny it)
Misha you are just the best :) I'm not one of the depressed girls but I love violets' style and the tv show and it's great to know there are other girls out there who like you said aren't beliebers lol. It's enjoyable meeting other violet fans for the fellowship and connection we all have. All of you whether depressed or not have good taste for liking the show and liking her! :)
Instead of being all sad we should all support and encourage each other for sure! This whole concept is fascinating to me tho as a writer as I've noticed when I felt isolated in middle/high school I gravitated towards books/movies and found "friends" in the various worlds but even tho it wasn't real, it was real to me. Extremely interesting psychologically to think about. Like if violet was Tate's gf before the shooting and she had no clue about his homicidal fantasies and he was a golden boy how would things have been different? Etc. it's fascinating how people manifest sadness to cope with emotional issues and get over things. I'm exploring this concept for various writing exercises as I've never experienced it myself (always a happy kid) but it's interesting how your narrator may not give an accurate account if what happened it even know who they are due to something like this.
I used to be depressed (still am to this day). I have a lot of scars on my arms and legs. I stopped cutting after I saw AHS for the first time, believe it or not. I totally agree with you.
I'm so glad that someone has finally addressed this. This show influences impressionable young girls. You see on tumblr all the time that people, young girls especially, strive to be like Violet Harmon and if that means acting suicidal and depressed then so be it. It is unnecessarily vulgar and the show failed to see that by having this facade of Violet and Tate's relationship to mask the fact that their common ground was depression and how they have suicidal tendencies. The fact that we find out that Violet committed suicide gives a false reality to these young and naive girls. In what way is it responsible as a TV show producer to show that the only real way out is suicide? Yes, this show is fiction but depression is a deep psychological matter and certainly should not be romanticised like it has been in American Horror Story. You make excellent points in this video that you should be proud of, you're very brave for speaking from experience.
i m doin this :/ i ve nothin to be sad about but ...! what gonna i do i feel like i m creating my sadness and i know it s nott good but i can t stop this !
This is called "experience taking": researchnews.osu.edu/archive/exptaking.htm I used to struggle with this in middle and high school (early and mid 2000s). I just want you to know every generation has their own version of this. It's confusing because we all have angst at that age, and the portrayal of these feelings can be very comforting. I'm 24 and I just watched the first season of AHS for the first time the other day, but Violet resonated with me because of a past history of depression. I know back in the day I would get carried away with books, movies, and shows. I never went as far as recreating an entire character's wardrobe, but I definitely picked up different vernacular and changed my behavior (for the worse usually). I love what you say about creativity, because like you, I don't take anti-depressants anymore and can function fine as long as I take care of myself. Taking care of yourself is sleep, eating right, real connection and all that, but creative pursuits keep me feeling alive. Emulating someone entirely isn't really quite as fulfilling. Thanks for making this video :)
Yea I def have hypersensitive personality traits and have been given the spiritual gift if empathy and sometimes it takes me over the edge I develop this hero complex and get seriously sad when I can't save someone or can't give them a good experience when drawing their blood or w/e (I work at a hospital lab). It's really crazy but I guess some personalities are just more prone to this than others. I'm the rarest personality type tho too so I'm thinking if there's other people who do this they may have been isolated/bullied as well due to being misunerstood for being different than most people and not knowing why.
Thank you so much for this video. I've been through the same thing. I still love her style though, it's similar to my own. Would you ever consider selling any of your exacts? Thanks again for this :)
I think this video just saved my life i started watching ahs and now im addicted to be like violet i never had depressions before when im not wachting ahs am i sad but when i watch it i get depressions (i also dont know why i just get them ) and i also really want to be like violet and i think this video helps many other people who have same problems (sry for bad english)
I had anorexia and bulimia and you could say that I was sad. I had a friend who had admitted to me that she cut herself and I tried it. (This was before ahs) it made me feel better for a little but after it made me feel worse, I can honestly say that I watched ahs for the first time because I thought it would help me to relate to someone who was struggling like I was but then all it did was trigger me and make me worse because I wanted to be like Violet. I'm not sure exactly what's wrong with me and I'm still not fixed, I'm 13 and I'm pretty sure I'm bipolar. I'm not sure exactly what's wrong with me but bipolar fits my problems either that or borderline personality disorder, so yeah it either makes you depressed or just makes problems you have even worse
And before you label me as "emo" or "basic" let me tell you I was a cheerleader and I was a happy person before I started seeing myself in horrible ways. I hated to look in the mirror after awhile and I changed. So please don't label me you don't know me.
BridgeToNowhere1994 this was me with a 16 year olds metabolism- 22 years old now and I've gained 35 pounds. It wasn't realistic or attainable for me, so just know that that body was super super temporary.
I love Violet Harmon not to relate to the depression, I liked her sass and style. But I agree with what you said :)
Same here!
i don't react to her.
my name is violet harmon and i have not got any depressions.
Same
I was always drawn toward Violet because I relate a lot towards her. I knew that romanticizing mental health is a real problem andI hate how people are trying to be like a fictional character. Depression is the worst thing that has happened to me. I've had it since the 4th grade and everyday was hell. Growing up I turned off my emotions and I hated myself. When I saw AHS, Violet to me was cool. I loved her style and her personality matched mine to an extant. But that was all. I haven't seen it until this year where I got back into it. I have a history of mental illnesses. Mental hospitals. outpatient treatment. Medication. Self harm. It's horrible but deep down I miss it. I experienced depression first hand. To the people who are trying to be like her and trying to fake depression, be yourself and be happy. Once you have depression, it never leaves you. It's the worst thing to feel. All the therapy and meds. People leaving me because of it. It's been around 7 years and still suffer.
Jennifer Morales Same tho
Jennifer Morales same :/
I am bipolar, and I can remember, that I poored my heart out in a fb group, beacouse I thought, that they will be nice, and accept it. But as it came out, they didn't. And It's beacouse my age. I will be fifteen, and It sucks. People don't get what is happening, that one time I seems to be pretty happy, jumping around, studying 4-5-6 hours a day without noticing, cleaning the whole house myself, and other times, I don't even talk to them, and want to kill myself. And you know, when you hardly tell them (beacouse you think, that you can trust them), at this age, they always think, that you listening to Billie Eilish, and other dark pop shits like that.
You should also talk about effy stonem from skins.
In my opinion she is annoying.
when i say i want to be like violet harmon i mean i like to her music taste and clothing style. also how she stands up for herself in like home invasion. ive been through self harm before i ever watched the show. im so happy you made this video.
A lot of people do this with the Effy character from skins too.
I could relate so much to this. Once I watched ahs and saw violet it was like in order to be like violet and have someone love you like tate did you have to cut yourself and fight with your parents. I went crazy. It feels like reality just slapped me in the face. Love you and your videos. Your such an inspiration. Thank you.
it's sad in general that in our days mental illnesses are SO glamorized, you have a really good point.
by the end of this video I was in tears. you're such an inspiration , misha. I did come across your channel bc I liked the clothes violet wore and I wanted to see some outfit ideas, and after I kinda got over the whole violet phase I went through, I came back to your channel and watched your other videos. I loved your quirkiness and your kindness and creativity. you're honestly someone I look up to. I waited for you to post more videos (after your Madison Montgomery makeup tutorial) and once again you made smile. so thank you, for being there for me even if you aren't aware. you've helped me through a lot.
I'm not depressed because I love violet and want to be like her. I love violet because I am depressed. I understand many things about what you said. And I can relate in so many ways.
Three years ago, I found your channel and I felt like someone finally understand me, I loved American Horror Story just like you, I loved Violet just like you and soon you become a "friend". I was also depressive and cut myself, I stopped watch your videos and went through a dark moment, but today I rediscover your channel and I confess that I cried a lot. And you that already was a "model" to me, became a inspiration.
for me was the opposite, i have depression since 2013 and i started watching the show in 2014. I felt more normal, I felt like someone was there 4 me, and her life is really similar to mine. I don't have friends because when my depression strakes 2 hard people leave because I'm sad. My parents have to take care of other things about my brother, so they don't notice my depression. I know it looks weird that they don't see it, but my family problems are huge. (sorry for the poor english, I'm from br)
you're great
Thank you for making this video... I can really relate to it. I started watching American Horror Story when I was 14 I'm, 16 now and my life has completely changed. I got sucked into the depression/cutting glamorization. I'm trying to change, and I can say it is extremely difficult. More videos like this need to be made, more people need to be made aware. Thank you again. I love your videos!
I totally agree with what you said, as for me I rly had and still have a hard time in school, I'm not popular at all and it sucks to be alone all the time. Also I was diagnosed with depression and psychopathic personality disorder. So when I started watching the show I rly related to Violet A LOT and had a huge crush on Tate. But I never made like a tumblr acc about it or anything, thats so attention seeking... I'm pissed bc there are so many rly young girls who think that depression is just being sad and you're laying in your bad, looking cute thinking about lhfe but depression is not being able to shower for several days because you can't even get up anymore. Depression is not feeling sad, depression is feeling empty. So I 100% agree with this video, its annoying to see how teenage girls romanticise depression or mental illnesses in general
i really adore her. she means a lot to me. i grew up almost exactly like her. i was isolated, lonely, bullied, just moved into a new house, parents weren’t on good terms, i was suicidal and self harmed. i really just wanted her as a best friend. she was also a huge bi awakening for me. i was totally in love with her. she honestly just means so so much to me. i know this isn’t totally on topic but i really really love her lol.
Same. Last year I really related to Violet. I was very sad 24/7, doing bad in school, didn’t have many friends,my parents were on bad terms and I rlly just wanted Violet as a friend bc I saw myself in her.
This video honestly saved me. It snapped me out of my delusional depression and has improved my quality of life. Thank you
i'm glad that someone made this video. i got really into ahs a few years ago. before watching i'd suffered really badly with self harm and depression and at the time i was suffering from it so i latched on to violate and tate for comfort and to distract myself from all of the bad things, but after entering the tumblr community of it and seeing the show get popular around my school, i just find it so upsetting seeing all these girls manifest this sadness like you said from something that actually helped me deal with my sadness
I just like her style. That's all. I don't create depression for myself. I totally agree with u
it's rare when a person get to make me cry and you're at happen because everything you spoke was right and I find it incredible that you take the courage to talk about your sadness from your world to help others person so thank you for your video that shows that everyone is not bad that there are still good people thank you very much xx
I can relate so much to this actually...
I can relate to this so much and I really didn't even realize I was making my own depression until now, thank you so much this really helped
I had this same problem at the beginning of 8th grade but I realized quite soon after that I was creating my sadness. I know so many girls in my school that I see are major ahs fans and they cut themselves and they do certain things like violet. And I feel like cutting is now like a fad. It is apart of your style. You know, like your into these certain things and so you have to cut or be depressed. which is horrible.I just want everyone to see this so they can realize what they are really doing to themselves.
very well spoken! you took the words out of my mouth. i also had the same experience with the whole violet/depression thing and even had suicidal thoughts! I eventually got better and i'm seeing a therapist and also joined theater my senior year which has helped a lot! i wish you the best of luck and thanks for talking about this subject.
when i first started watching ahs i was in 7th grade and i was struggling with depression. i related to violet so much but the glamorization i saw of her self harm (especially on tumblr) was part of what let me to know what self harm is and start doing it
Thank you for this. I can really relate and see where you're coming from. Love you Misha
thank you for making this video. in my personal experience, violet was someone that just... made sense. i wanted that spunk, i wanted to be okay with being alone. but i'm not okay with being alone.
there was a time in my life where i wanted to dress like her, listen to the same music as her, speak like her. i got so frustrated because i didn't have the things she did. and now, in retrospect, i didn't appreciate or love myself. there was just something about violet that seemed so invincible and attractive, and i wanted to have that for myself.
there was also a time where i knew how ridiculous i was for trying to be someone i wasn't, and i've pulled myself out of it. sometimes i fall back. but now, i realize that i am my own person. i have an individuality that no one could ever claim. there are girls out there who are like violet, who are suffering like her. while i don't understand violet's home situation, i understand her pain. i have been there, and still am. she was someone to cling onto, so i understand why so many girls wanted to be like her. she's strong.
i know now that if violet could grow up, she'd grow out of who she was and live her damn life. and i will do just that. i allow her positive traits to influence me, like her fearlessness, her style (which i genuinely like, since it is similar to mine), her take-no-shit attitude. i have my own problems, my own depression, and i no longer allow this character to push me towards the dark.
once again, thank you for making this video. i'm sorry for all that stuff you've been through, but i can see that it made you that much more intelligent and strong.
Thankyou for making this, it is so relevant to our society today and also what you said at the end made my week and made me feel im not alone and that someone cares, thankyou xx
I don't know if I'm depressed or traumatized, I got raped at 5 years old, I never told anybody because I didn't wanna be judged, I honestly finally told someone and I felt just a bit better.
I might be depressed but I'm not trying to be a fictional character.
I hide the fact that I'm depressed because I'll be called "edgy" or "emo"
I need help but I'm too scared to ask.
Bleach . Hi I don't know you, and I'm so so sorry that happened to you, You are worthy of help and you deserve to be happy and not ashamed. I hope you receive help and I wish you the very best ❤️
I can totally relate to this video. I went through the exact same thing and I now feel so stupid about it looking back. Also, so many more people need to see this video.
It's so true though. So I'm 13 and I started watching it a year ago and I love season one, because I can relate to violet alot.
Do ur partnets know u watch it im 14 and only watch season 1, and mines dont x eek
Dang I watched this not knowing that I totally was acting like her because I admired her. I saw parts of myself in her and I did really believe that she was so poetic and strong. This has really helped. Thanks
I really Love the Show,mostly Murder House. I think i'm depress cause all this things happenning around me affect me.I am not very social and my "Friends" doesn't care about me.the last year I was okay and now the things got worst,I wanna be better,but is dificcult for me.I don't create depression, i'm just in a bad moment un my Life.I feel really identify by Violet,but I don't try to be like her I just Love the character.
thank you for that video, is good to talk about it
sorry if my english is bad
this is so true. this show helped me soooo much. :) I'm glad you made this video
Sometimes its not just how we view the world.. Ive been struggling with depression for 7 years now (im 18) and no doctor ever found any way to make me change, i try, i take initiatives, but its a always a spiral down. And when people glamorize it, they make me feel important. After feeling depressed for all those years yes it feels like to be "appreciated by people" but deep down i know its wrong. And I feel normal and connected with AHS, especially with Violet and Tate (i don't kill people tho ;p). I think its completely different for everyone, and i appreciate you did this video, it means a lot to me, and i think i can speak from everyone thats going through it as well.
I love violet bc her attitude & her style& PREACH GIRL THIS NEEDS TO BE SAID
Thank you so much for posting this video. I just got really inspired (again) with violets style and i didn't even realise that I was turning sader when I am alone. You really cleared up my mind about who I really am. Like I don't have to "be" her just because I love her style. So thank you
Same! Girl you have impeccable taste in fashion! :) it's hard to find style icons who you identify with esp when her style is so rare
I'm so glad someone made this video, its really helped me! Thank you so much for making this, you're such an inspiration
This fucking hit home
I've always loved violet I have collected her exacts and have dressed like her for a year and I really personally relate to violet I really relate too the bullying and her parents situation ive always been bullied for being an "outsider." and really I don't want too fit in but I don't want the bullying to continue but its just there I really love violet sm
glad to see how you've grown as a person:) i wish you the best! and I hope people get help through this video which i think many will. love your videos
I think that helps people with depression to see that if you don't ask for help then it'll be too late and that even if you don't notice it there's people that love you and there's always another way
Great video Misha! You're so inspirational and it's nice to know there are others out there who like the same kind of weird quirky things. So many of us have been in the same boat with being bullied for being different and although I've never been depressed, I have experienced sadness and it sucks and you're right...it does manifest and seems like there's no way out but there is a difference and the way you view the world totally makes a huge difference. Thank you for being yourself and your genuineness amidst all the fake people out there. Girl you and I would be great friends. Glad I'm not alone in the way I think about life. It's easy to feel isolated esp since it's hard to meet people who have similar interests and views. So again thanks for your inspiring words and I hope it helps others out there. Keep rocking at life! Xoxo
This is very real, it happened to me too. I wanted attention and I was finding reasons to cut myself when there weren't any. There's never a reason to cut yourself, but I was 9 and I didn't know it would get this bad. Over the years it has taken a lot of time to turn into something real, but to this day because I started over something so small I still wonder if I have any real trauma, so bad I need to cut myself. If I started when I was nine because I had a toxic relationship with my parents and I learned to self harm online, then how do I know I'm not still being dramatic and still grabbing for reasons to validate myself? I don't know, it's just so sad to see people still doing this today and developing real depression and eating disorders :(
I completely agree with you, i know that pose of the depressive girl is turning a fad because of girls that want to be like fictional characters as Violet or Effy (from skins) and a lot of other characters. They force themselves to be, as you said, apathic and sad in every moment. And now you said this i feel a little insulted for a moment because it's horrible feeling like that...and force yourself to feel depressed it's, well i guess they have their reasons and i want to believe that at least sometimes a part of that pain is real, but i don' t know....i have been feeling like that without any show or role model (in fact i used to look for strong role models that were focused in the idea of always keep fighting) since i was, maybe twelve, and that feeling is the worst feeling because you feel like an emptiness in every single moment of the day and you feel a lot of things at the same time and overthink a lot and....well, it's complicated to explain. But i agree with you, i loved this video and the way you talked about it,
(sorry if my english it's not very good)
The way that AHS helped you is the exact way that Skins had helped me my sophomore year. I wanted to be like Effy so bad, I didn't care how she was I just wanted to be like her. While I saw the darkness is Skins, it reminded me that I'm not alone and helped me cherish my own life.
I didnt think this would bring me to tears but it did :( this is so unbelievable true and i wish i couldve shown 13 y/o me this before stuff got out of hand. I also had a point in my life where i tried to mimic violet harmon (i used to watch all your vids) and this impersonation of violets apathy 'triggered' or encouraged mental illness. I guess I latched onto her whole apathetic grungy 'brand' because i empathised with her somehow and it kind of went too far :( I want to tell every young girl starting to watch the show to not fall into the same 'trap' and get help but i know how impressionable we are at that age (I was even though I tried to deny it)
Misha you are just the best :) I'm not one of the depressed girls but I love violets' style and the tv show and it's great to know there are other girls out there who like you said aren't beliebers lol. It's enjoyable meeting other violet fans for the fellowship and connection we all have. All of you whether depressed or not have good taste for liking the show and liking her! :)
Instead of being all sad we should all support and encourage each other for sure! This whole concept is fascinating to me tho as a writer as I've noticed when I felt isolated in middle/high school I gravitated towards books/movies and found "friends" in the various worlds but even tho it wasn't real, it was real to me. Extremely interesting psychologically to think about. Like if violet was Tate's gf before the shooting and she had no clue about his homicidal fantasies and he was a golden boy how would things have been different? Etc. it's fascinating how people manifest sadness to cope with emotional issues and get over things. I'm exploring this concept for various writing exercises as I've never experienced it myself (always a happy kid) but it's interesting how your narrator may not give an accurate account if what happened it even know who they are due to something like this.
same with madison montgomery in coven
I relate to violet in a lot of ways
Thank you.
I loved everything about this video.
I used to be depressed (still am to this day). I have a lot of scars on my arms and legs. I stopped cutting after I saw AHS for the first time, believe it or not. I totally agree with you.
This was amazing.
I developed an eating disorder because of cassie from skins.
I'm so glad that someone has finally addressed this. This show influences impressionable young girls. You see on tumblr all the time that people, young girls especially, strive to be like Violet Harmon and if that means acting suicidal and depressed then so be it. It is unnecessarily vulgar and the show failed to see that by having this facade of Violet and Tate's relationship to mask the fact that their common ground was depression and how they have suicidal tendencies. The fact that we find out that Violet committed suicide gives a false reality to these young and naive girls. In what way is it responsible as a TV show producer to show that the only real way out is suicide? Yes, this show is fiction but depression is a deep psychological matter and certainly should not be romanticised like it has been in American Horror Story. You make excellent points in this video that you should be proud of, you're very brave for speaking from experience.
i m doin this :/ i ve nothin to be sad about but ...! what gonna i do i feel like i m creating my sadness and i know it s nott good but i can t stop this !
This is called "experience taking": researchnews.osu.edu/archive/exptaking.htm
I used to struggle with this in middle and high school (early and mid 2000s). I just want you to know every generation has their own version of this. It's confusing because we all have angst at that age, and the portrayal of these feelings can be very comforting. I'm 24 and I just watched the first season of AHS for the first time the other day, but Violet resonated with me because of a past history of depression. I know back in the day I would get carried away with books, movies, and shows. I never went as far as recreating an entire character's wardrobe, but I definitely picked up different vernacular and changed my behavior (for the worse usually).
I love what you say about creativity, because like you, I don't take anti-depressants anymore and can function fine as long as I take care of myself. Taking care of yourself is sleep, eating right, real connection and all that, but creative pursuits keep me feeling alive. Emulating someone entirely isn't really quite as fulfilling.
Thanks for making this video :)
Yea I def have hypersensitive personality traits and have been given the spiritual gift if empathy and sometimes it takes me over the edge I develop this hero complex and get seriously sad when I can't save someone or can't give them a good experience when drawing their blood or w/e (I work at a hospital lab). It's really crazy but I guess some personalities are just more prone to this than others. I'm the rarest personality type tho too so I'm thinking if there's other people who do this they may have been isolated/bullied as well due to being misunerstood for being different than most people and not knowing why.
I can relate to ur story so much.
This is great, thank you
This video is perfect
Wow, I agree with you in 100% :)
I only love violet her style 😍 can you pleasee give me some websites where you find the exact clothes from her because her style is omg wow ❤
The happy music with the topic throws me off 😂😂😪
Lillian Haigler finally someone says it lol
you are so brave
OK, you look like Emma, i love you and i miss you sm.
beautiful
"the murder aside" hahaha
You are me. I'm 14 if you see this, please talk to me.
I completely agree
Tbh I was already cut and depressed before I watched the first season of ahs but it kinda made me cut myself like more.
Thank you so much for this video. I've been through the same thing. I still love her style though, it's similar to my own. Would you ever consider selling any of your exacts? Thanks again for this :)
I relate to u so much
I just love it, really, you're so cute. ❤👌
I think this video just saved my life i started watching ahs and now im addicted to be like violet i never had depressions before when im not wachting ahs am i sad but when i watch it i get depressions (i also dont know why i just get them ) and i also really want to be like violet and i think this video helps many other people who have same problems (sry for bad english)
I had anorexia and bulimia and you could say that I was sad. I had a friend who had admitted to me that she cut herself and I tried it. (This was before ahs) it made me feel better for a little but after it made me feel worse, I can honestly say that I watched ahs for the first time because I thought it would help me to relate to someone who was struggling like I was but then all it did was trigger me and make me worse because I wanted to be like Violet. I'm not sure exactly what's wrong with me and I'm still not fixed, I'm 13 and I'm pretty sure I'm bipolar. I'm not sure exactly what's wrong with me but bipolar fits my problems either that or borderline personality disorder, so yeah it either makes you depressed or just makes problems you have even worse
And before you label me as "emo" or "basic" let me tell you I was a cheerleader and I was a happy person before I started seeing myself in horrible ways. I hated to look in the mirror after awhile and I changed. So please don't label me you don't know me.
Updated room tour please !!!
i love you ggaaaahhhh
What is the background music?
I find it so offensive that people create sadness for themselves, because I've struggled with it so much
i was all on board until you said they glamorized it
Im sorry if it sounds insensitive but I have an eating disorder and youre major thinspo for me
BridgeToNowhere1994 this was me with a 16 year olds metabolism- 22 years old now and I've gained 35 pounds. It wasn't realistic or attainable for me, so just know that that body was super super temporary.
I could Skype you?