Oh, please . . . . in your 70's and 80's you are not yet old-old. I turned 90 this year, live happily alone, stay away from any sort of doctor unless I feel it is necessary. I'm the only person I know who does not have a single prescription. My son helps me with occasional car rides to the supermarket and with heavier chores, but I am careful not to be a pest. I have always been an optimist. I enjoy my computer, doing all my shopping (mostly at Amazon or fabric stores), and do jigsaw puzzles - about 800 pieces a day. Jigsaws on the computer are easier as they are already in the right position - not upsidedown or sideways! I also enjoy needlework, making fabric cards and other small items. I read a lot, binge on British TV series and visit once a week with two good friends and we have a jolly good gab! At 90 I still have all my marbles and am aging normally . . . and that is a very good thing!
I'm 76 and still in shock that I'm old. Watching my body change in appearance and ability is a daily challenge. I've never been a beauty , I'm talking about adjusting to crinkly skin etc. To the women running 10 miles a day and lifting 100 lbs everyday, good for you, now leave me alone. I live alone by choice, and I don't fear death. My only fear is a nursing home somewhere down the road. The much quoted "old age is not for sissies " proved to be true. I will enjoy my life and struggle with it as presents itself and I will die with a smile on my face. I will then continue on to my next home. Happiness and peace to you all.
At age 85 I am aware that “retirement” is for me “refinement”. A time to refine the gifts, talents and resources this precious human birth have blessed me.
Retired at 70 and loving my life more every day. I finally have time for myself without being tied to my old professional identity. Women in my bloodline live to be over 95, healthy in mind and body and fiercely independent. My husband (#2) has serious health issues so I likely will spend much of my old age alone but this thought doesn't distress me. I see it as the natural progression of life. A door closes, another opens.
I’m 88 tomorrow. It’s only now I feel old. I do what I can to live life well, and just accept that I can no longer do tai chi to the extent I could before I broke my ankle badly 2 years ago. You are right, walking does indeed keep your body strong and healthy. And I am lucky enough to live near several beaches, but still a short ferry away from the city to visit art galleries and go to concerts. Only right now have I made the decision to travel again to see friends and relatives, which I had put off because of Tavi and ankle operations. I intend to live life to the fullest till I die.
I retired about sixteen months ago and Andrea’s comment about giving time to rest resonates with me so much. I am still resting and am grateful for the privilege of being able to retire in peace.
I retired at 56 and will turn 70. I LOVE retirement! I walk with friends in the local parks and volunteer as there is so much need. I exercise as the women in my family live healthy lives well into their 90's and I try to be prepared.
i am almost 71. I did not enjoy the last 5 years of my 60's. So far, i love my 70's. For me, turning 70 was better than turning 60. I retired at 58 against my better judgment but I had to in order to do caregiving to two family members---not one but two. Many of us are doing caregiving in our later years and it's not easy. I still care for one person three times a week and i live with my disabled husband. Turning 70 gave me the freedom to just be me, finally, in so many ways.
Thank you for this conversation. I turned 79 on august 30th . To be among women my age who are addressing our age as a factor in our lives, is comforting, reasurring and stimulating.
I love where Andrea laughs and says, "Here's the good part!" Just discovered this channel. I love love my peers in gender, age and consciousness. I find it in you three wonderful women. Thank You!
Most encouraging. I have to admit that when I saw Andrea on the screen I thought, well, she's a healthy person and what about those of us who reach her age with REAL problems. I apologise!!!!! I'm not happy that Andrea has chronic conditions but knowing that certainly punches a hole in any superficial theory I had! Thank you!
I like being old and experiencing the present moment, the peace, the understanding of what truly is of importance and of value. I feel a great sense of letting go of the smaller things in life and an uplifting with those things that are truly meaningful. I enjoy my silver- grey hair, my laugh lines, my eye crinkles. I am lifted up by the chatter and laughter of my Grandchildren and heart warmed by the confidences of friends. Books are also my friends; nature is a solace. Church, a refuge, a hope.
I just found you on youtube. Thank you for a wonderful program. It is so comforting to hear about others' aging experience. I am 76, and I am living with a peace in my life that I never had when I was younger. Things don't have the same gravity, I now understand and forgive myself (and others) for who I was and what I did. We are so fortunate to be living in our time with all the opportunities for living interesting lives. Thank you for this lovely program. Andrea Gilets is a wonderful guest. I will be back!
I retired from teaching in January at 73 and lost my husband in May. I want to make the most of the time I have left and make a new life. I want to be as healthy as possible, but I no longer care how long I live. I thought before May that I might not want to live, but although it’s a double whammy, surprisingly, life is still interesting.
thank you all so much:)great program....I heard an older friend once tell me... she always made her own fun, she didnt rely on others for that, she just made her own fun,,,,
Im 74 and love isolation. At 10 I read Walden Pond and believed that was the best lifestyle to strive for. Today Im driving to the countryside to check out a house. (My current bome is in the city) Im mystified by people who have chronic needs to plan coordinate the day, talk talk and want more. My family seldom calls.and I like the peace and freedom. I soend my days w occasional friends Dome movies house projects cooking fermenting hanging w my pets and learning. Every day is a new experience.
I found your program this afternoon. So good! I just turned 74 and have been thinking about the what next and how long of my days here. Your tips for going forward are helpful. I have been single since my late 40’s, so okay with that. But, I moved across country from Washington state to Maryland to be near my daughter. So figuring out what to do with myself in this very different place. I looked into buying Radical Endurance, but surprised to find its release on Amazon is in early November. I’ll have it then! My health is pretty good, just a wonky hip that I have been doing exercise for. Am working on finding my people. Thank you for the encouragement! Courage is needed!
just found your channel today! I am turning 75 in 2 weeks, also retired from a University career (my first morning I said what the heck am I going to do the rest of my life?). I garden, belong to 2 quilting groups with women my age), also enjoy yoga. Ordered Andrea’s books, absolutely loved her talk.
What a wonderful surprise to stumble upon this website. I am 79, the mother of five and grandmother to twelve. I helped fulltime with four of the Grandchildren while their parents ran a business. Now, even the youngest of them is away at college. What is missing in my life is any sort of a peer group. I am not credentialed but am forever curious and mentally alert . I am blessed to have a nice house to live in. Thrifting has become my excuse to get out and about. The thrill of the hunt and refurbishing my finds has given me purpose. What is missing is peers. Perhaps this delightful online community will fill the void.
I’m 85 and also have emphysema, it causes me to cough a lot and I noticed you talked without coughing? I do use an inhaler. I still drive, live alone. I’ve been working for 5 yrs for a day or more for an insurance co as the receptionist, I share this job with 2 other friends. I have a good support group, daughter & family, wonderful Episcopal church family and friends. I’m able to enjoy plays, concerts, movies, dinners & lunches with friends & family. I’m not lonely. I volunteer for a pet rescue and feel very fortunate. I do spend more time thinking of my past, stories, people, pets, music! Really appreciate this video!
How Much Money did you need to retire ? I Just turned 70 years old & have no family, so I am always worried about healt & money.I don't feel I really have enough saving to safely retire but health issues have currently püt me out of work so I'am living off the little saving I have & social security . I'am at a cross road in my life & I don't know what to do next.Any advice would be helpful as I have no Investments Just a small savings.Sadly I've always had low income jobs & have had to live paycheck to paycheck . You always think there's going to be more time until time runs out.🎉
@@judyconte6566 I'd say be sure to check any help and support financially and otherwise Federal, your state, city, county offers. States are often supplementing low social security, there are food pantries that provide grocerys, no questions asked. Where I am if you own a home in your old age and can't afford the real estate taxes, and you are at a certain income level, they hold off on taxes until the house is sold, or the person passes away. If you rent, there can be aid to supplement your rent.There is so much more, be sure to search on line for any help and support you can get.
Just turned 75 & struggle with anxiety. I love retirement & the occasional visits with my g'children. Life is good for hubby & me, but the political scene undoes me. Am barely listening, which helps. I manage to stay busy most of the time & still quilt almost daily. I don't care about so many things anymore. Just plain not interested!! Glad I found this page....will follow. thanks for doing it!
Loneliness has many cures and solutions Join a church or spiritual group Invite people over for coffee or meals Meet others regularly in friendship groups & coffee catch ups Join the local senior centre
I'm over 70 and definitely not old. I go to RAD ballet classes, travel overseas and have always gone to Uni extension courses... even before I was so called older. My previous school mates are the same - they travel whenever they can and buy second houses in the bush or at the beach. Old is when you're 90.
Pressured from my daughter who lives locally for me to go into a formal senior living community when I am on no medications post a recent doctor’s exam and can live independently. I am resistant to that because it is so expensive. I am over 80. I think she doesn’t want to have to mess with me in her life because she runs a demanding business but which, to me, is a sad statement.
You should resist! It's your life! I moved to a rural area of NYS where I rent a house on 200 acres. I just love living here because I can take long walks right out the front door. My sisters want me to move closer to them but I'm thinking it over. I can hire someone to help me if I need to. I'm almost 72.
There are many good books and thoughtful interviews on how to make this decision. It is definitely a personal one, and not one to be pushed into by anyone, no matter how well meaning.
Yes agree - only you can make this decision Most of us brought up our children to work & be independent so we cannot ask them now to look after us I feel
I retired at 57 and at 77 I find myself recovering from open back fusion surgery. I decided to undergo this invasive surgery because I wanted to walk pain free. Eight months into recovery and I've now been camping with my husband and looking forward to book club, ballet, and attending musical theater Broadway touring company performances. Next year I plan to set foot on Antarctica and see and smell baby penguins. Take advantage of the incredible medical advances available to us older folk. If you're in relatively good health and desire a more active lifestyle, ask your doctor about surgical options that may be available to you. Let's live life as best we can.
I am 79 and am hoping to have spinal fusion so I can walk- without pain. Thank you for sharing your positive experience with spinal fusion. Now I have less concern and am looking forward to being able to join life again. 😊
100% - I’m 61yo …my entire identity is based on working full time since 17yo, pay bills, raise my daughter and self sacrifice my needs for my daughter and ageing parents. I’m now financially secure , mortgage free…but I am not free ? I still work full time , pay bills and help support my adult daughter emotionally. Taking time for myself to find out my next chapter seems selfish ?
I agree concentrate on self care. Dont think old. Forget the numbers. Eat real food. Dress well to suit your figure. Excercise walking swimming and avoid pharma unless absolutely essential. Always be learning and always be curious. And dont worry about what other people think. My cousin is 78 and her attitude is wonderful. She has a great outlook. Her skin glows she does many classes and is writing her memoir. She has more energy than people must younger. Play music that you listened to when you were young. It works like a charm. And Dance like nobodies watching. Mindfulness meditation and good sleep will also help.
It's kind of funny, every year I age I tell myself, self, "I'm not old ." I'm turning 73 in December. My husband and I keep very active. We bicycle daily, weather permitting. We do bar work for arm strength, and we have a rebounder, which is wonderful for keeping fit. We also love climbing bleachers for leg strength and cardio. We are on 0 medications.
I just turned 70 a few weeks ago. I feel old now! I am extremely active, have taught and do yoga and Pilates for 25 years. It’s so important to stay active. I walk when I feel like it, hike in the mountains near me and do lots of ‘active’ things like gardening, building and fixing things and do flea markets and craft shows on weekends. I think it’s really important to stay active to stay healthy. I also eat extremely well. No meat or dairy (as my body is sensitive to dairy) and LOVE vegetables and fruit! My husband died at 62 of COVID and diabetes. He had gone blind of retinopathy so ended up in a nursing home for five years before passing. It’s all sad; the whole bit and I’m still grieving but slowly coming out of it. My life is sadly geared toward anger about everything. Frustrations, things going wrong with the car or house, health issues (minor but annoying) and just day to day life. I’m trying to let it be but it’s hard for me. I speak with a therapist every week, which helps.
I’m 73. Divorced last year, I find I’m terrified because I must now return to work. I have health issues and I’m alone. I’m waiting to receive my psychologist license in Washington, but money is running out. I’m in shock about my husband leaving me at this age, after promising me he would take care of me forever. Can I even do this?
i wish you the best. "Gray Divorce" i think it's called. It's becoming more and more common. I have several friends who divorced around age 70, one was married 47 years. I believe it's all for the best. Remember, NO FEAR !! I love that saying. My husband is very disabled so i take care of myself as if i were single so i sort of know how you feel. I take care of the house, the car, the bills, everything. My best to you.
Thank you all, and I will purchase those recommended books you suggested, since I'm a '"bookaholic" and much of what you stated Andrea resonates with me! I'm 76 and have been widowed since 2015 after 42 years of marriage and in 2020 lost my beloved middle daughter, one of three beloved daughters to Covid19 when she was 41 after being in a coma state i.e.minimally conscious since she was 25 for 16 years after going into cardiac arrest. Along with losing my two beloved cats, all in one year. So I know what "complicated grief" is per a therapist. Thankfully, we are blessed with her only child and daughter, my oldest beloved granddaughter and my oldest daughter's beloved daughter, my youngest granddaughter. I have MS and am wheelchair bound for the past two years and used to do yoga since my early 20s, but am not able to do it like I used to. I was also a fitness trainer in my late 40s and worked out with weights and a barbell during my 30s and 40s into my 50s so I'm still pretty strong in the upper part of my body, but my once very strong legs aren't that way anymore, even though I've had physical therapy. I've tried walking with a walker , but it's not easy and am prone to cellulitis, but "hope springs eternal". I'm also a retired former NYC fashion illustrator and floral designer so now I channel my creativity into painting which I love and do almost every day. I've also been a pianist and a composer who has composed a New England folk opera which has been performed in public along with other pieces for piano. I'm a true introvert but I was an ambivert when I was younger and when I lived in NYC, and I can still cook and bake which I love and love feeding the birds. I love nature and wish I could get out more, but it's right outside my big picture windows, i'm surrounded by beautiful birds and very tall pine and maple trees and not far from the sea and the mountains. I'm also blessed with my oldest living upstairs from me and my youngest granddaughter in their big apartment in an old Victorian house built in 1870 and I live in a beautiful cottage built between the house and a 19th century carriage house. So if there's any problem they're close by. I'm also blessed with a housekeeper who comes twice a week to help out thanks to my youngest who can afford to help out. The housekeeper and I get along so well and have great conversations and laughs together. I count my blessings everyday and take extra good care of myself, am only on two meds for high blood pressure and am blessed with very loving, supportive daughters who help out the best they can. They've always been there for me, but I don't take them for granted. And I always remember what Shakespeare said which was also written on the Gates of Delphi in ancient Greece..."unto thine own self be true"! BTW, DO check out the very healing grounding mats invented by brilliant scientist Clif Ober as they really DO work for many things, they're don't cure diseases, but they help with circulation, are antiflammatory i.e. take away pain, help with sleep, help you to relax and relieve anxiety etc. I was literally shocked to see how well it worked and he's also helped thousands of people with MS as well. With the kit on Amazon for just $69.99 you get the mat, the necessary cords which don't run on electricity, they run by pulling the healing electrons into your home and office from the earth, there's one for your car now as well and it comes with the book he co-wrote with Dr. Sinatra a leading cardiologist! Also watch the great documentaries here on RUclips, "Earthing" and "The Grounded"! Highly recommended "knowledge is power".....self-empowerment. Will keep on watching further great videos...so thanks again, much appreciated.
I am mystified by the way retirement is talked about as if it’s a diagnosis. I left my job/ retired because I saw an alternative to the Monday to Friday grind. I remember going into a depressive state when Sunday nights rolled around. And I was waking up on the Monday mornings feeling exhausted from all the household chores I did within the past 48 hours. Living in “retirement” is living the best stage of my life. My job did not define me as a person; working was what I did to achieve the basic necessities of life. Once I was able to pay for the basics of life without having to go to the job, I was elated to walked away from it and embraced the opportunity to live my life my way. Retirement is not a diagnosis it’s an opportunity to live your best life without having to work for a Corporation ruled by Bosses.
Isolation cure. Think of volunteering, helping others who are less fortunate, especially children. Also, organized fitness, increase group activities. Learn a language and a musical instrument. Have a great book on the go. Start a book club. Fill your day learning new things. I started learning piano at the beginning of Covid. Such a joy. So wonderful to have time for all the things that are of interest. Have friends of all ages. Don’t live in the past. Join a bridge group. It is social and good for the brain. We become what we think about. We create our own reality. Create a great life. Be grateful for this time. Attitude, attitude. Stay away from doctors who want to put you on drugs. Move, move, move. Love from Linda
Exactly - there is no need to be lonely and isolated all the time - but it is up to us to make our lives work, as you say - volunteer, join groups, help someone else
Dementia , Altzheimers spectrum disorder causes serious problems for independent living. I'd like to not keep living with a confused dying brain in care non compos mentos for how many years of retirement? Retirement Village locked up to stop ✋ patients escaping 😮😮😮 This is not life , this is a nightmare I want to avoid being any part of.
Sorry to hear you have so many chronic conditions. I strongly recommend Dr. Ken Berry a board certified physician. Also Dr. Jason Fung And there is an Indian Doctor he is a heart surgeon. I cant remember his name but all things occur in the gut. All inflammation.
I met Dr. Berry; he's the real deal. Dr. Fung is also well respected. I believe the doctor you were referencing that you couldn't remember his name is Dr York. He has a RUclips channel called York Cardiology. He is a very dear and caring cardiologist and has been a big help to many. Your suggestions are greatly appreciated.
I retired at 55. I'm 72 now and am more busy now than when I was working. There's plenty of community out there. Frankly, I could use less "community" not more. Everything is predicated on building "community" instead of paying attention to individual preferences--always a burden placed with women.
I am hoping our culture, in this USA, being on the verge of electing a Democrat WOMEN, will begin the long road against the disrespect and demonization of the aged.
Our mission is to keep fighting against the demonization of aging! Our 300+ podcast episodes are just a step in that direction. Thanks for watching! #agingreimagined #celebrateaging
I don't think you should ever use the word old! It has such negative connotations. So why not just say older, or just say ladies over 60. I don't mention the aged at all.
Oh, please . . . . in your 70's and 80's you are not yet old-old. I turned 90 this year, live happily alone, stay away from any sort of doctor unless I feel it is necessary. I'm the only person I know who does not have a single prescription. My son helps me with occasional car rides to the supermarket and with heavier chores, but I am careful not to be a pest. I have always been an optimist. I enjoy my computer, doing all my shopping (mostly at Amazon or fabric stores), and do jigsaw puzzles - about 800 pieces a day. Jigsaws on the computer are easier as they are already in the right position - not upsidedown or sideways! I also enjoy needlework, making fabric cards and other small items. I read a lot, binge on British TV series and visit once a week with two good friends and we have a jolly good gab! At 90 I still have all my marbles and am aging normally . . . and that is a very good thing!
You sound terrific! An inspiring 90 year old…keep it up!
I'm 76 and still in shock that I'm old. Watching my body change in appearance and ability is a daily challenge. I've never been a beauty , I'm talking about adjusting to crinkly skin etc. To the women running 10 miles a day and lifting 100 lbs everyday, good for you, now leave me alone. I live alone by choice, and I don't fear death. My only fear is a nursing home somewhere down the road. The much quoted "old age is not for sissies " proved to be true. I will enjoy my life and struggle with it as presents itself and I will die with a smile on my face. I will then continue on to my next home. Happiness and peace to you all.
At age 85 I am aware that “retirement” is for me “refinement”. A time to refine the gifts, talents and resources this precious human birth have blessed me.
We call this #agingreimagined, thanks for watching!
Retired at 70 and loving my life more every day. I finally have time for myself without being tied to my old professional identity. Women in my bloodline live to be over 95, healthy in mind and body and fiercely independent. My husband (#2) has serious health issues so I likely will spend much of my old age alone but this thought doesn't distress me. I see it as the natural progression of life. A door closes, another opens.
At 87 I am comforted to know my life and future are in Gods hands.
❤❤❤
Agree - one day at a time with God in charge of
I’m 88 tomorrow. It’s only now I feel old. I do what I can to live life well, and just accept that I can no longer do tai chi to the extent I could before I broke my ankle badly 2 years ago. You are right, walking does indeed keep your body strong and healthy. And I am lucky enough to live near several beaches, but still a short ferry away from the city to visit art galleries and go to concerts. Only right now have I made the decision to travel again to see friends and relatives, which I had put off because of Tavi and ankle operations. I intend to live life to the fullest till I die.
Happy Birthday!
I retired about sixteen months ago and Andrea’s comment about giving time to rest resonates with me so much. I am still resting and am grateful for the privilege of being able to retire in peace.
I retired at 56 and will turn 70. I LOVE retirement! I walk with friends in the local parks and volunteer as there is so much need. I exercise as the women in my family live healthy lives well into their 90's and I try to be prepared.
Thank you Andrea So many pearls!! My first time here & loved it.
I can totally relate. I’m 67. I hope binge watching videos on RUclips is considered intellectually stimulating.
😂yes!😊
I think so.
Me too 😂
I do the same!! Lol no tv really just RUclips
We've got 300 for you to binge! Please enjoy!
i am almost 71. I did not enjoy the last 5 years of my 60's. So far, i love my 70's. For me, turning 70 was better than turning 60. I retired at 58 against my better judgment but I had to in order to do caregiving to two family members---not one but two. Many of us are doing caregiving in our later years and it's not easy. I still care for one person three times a week and i live with my disabled husband. Turning 70 gave me the freedom to just be me, finally, in so many ways.
Enjoy your freedom! #celebrateaging
Thank you for this conversation. I turned 79 on august 30th . To be among women my age who are addressing our age as a factor in our lives, is comforting, reasurring and stimulating.
Thank you for listening!
I love where Andrea laughs and says, "Here's the good part!"
Just discovered this channel. I love love my peers in gender, age and consciousness.
I find it in you three wonderful women. Thank You!
Freedom! Worth the ailments of aging!💕
This was excellent
Most encouraging. I have to admit that when I saw Andrea on the screen I thought, well, she's a healthy person and what about those of us who reach her age with REAL problems. I apologise!!!!! I'm not happy that Andrea has chronic conditions but knowing that certainly punches a hole in any superficial theory I had! Thank you!
Delightful .... thank you!
What a lovely woman. Thank you all for sharing. I’m grateful I found you today,
Thanks for listening!
I like being old and experiencing the present moment, the peace, the understanding of what truly is of importance and of value. I feel a great sense of letting go of the smaller things in life and an uplifting with those things that are truly meaningful. I enjoy my silver- grey hair, my laugh lines, my eye crinkles. I am lifted up by the chatter and laughter of my Grandchildren and heart warmed by the confidences of friends. Books are also my friends; nature is a solace. Church, a refuge, a hope.
Thank you for watching!
I just found you on youtube. Thank you for a wonderful program. It is so comforting to hear about others' aging experience. I am 76, and I am living with a peace in my life that I never had when I was younger. Things don't have the same gravity, I now understand and forgive myself (and others) for who I was and what I did. We are so fortunate to be living in our time with all the opportunities for living interesting lives. Thank you for this lovely program. Andrea Gilets is a wonderful guest. I will be back!
We're so glad you enjoyed it!
I retired from teaching in January at 73 and lost my husband in May. I want to make the most of the time I have left and make a new life. I want to be as healthy as possible, but I no longer care how long I live. I thought before May that I might not want to live, but although it’s a double whammy, surprisingly, life is still interesting.
thank you all so much:)great program....I heard an older friend once tell me... she always made her own fun, she didnt rely on others for that, she just made her own fun,,,,
Our pleasure! Thanks for watching!
Im 74 and love isolation. At 10 I read Walden Pond and believed that was the best lifestyle to strive for. Today Im driving to the countryside to check out a house. (My current bome is in the city) Im mystified by people who have chronic needs to plan coordinate the day, talk talk and want more. My family seldom calls.and I like the peace and freedom. I soend my days w occasional friends Dome movies house projects cooking fermenting hanging w my pets and learning.
Every day is a new experience.
I found your program this afternoon. So good! I just turned 74 and have been thinking about the what next and how long of my days here. Your tips for going forward are helpful. I have been single since my late 40’s, so okay with that. But, I moved across country from Washington state to Maryland to be near my daughter. So figuring out what to do with myself in this very different place. I looked into buying Radical Endurance, but surprised to find its release on Amazon is in early November. I’ll have it then! My health is pretty good, just a wonky hip that I have been doing exercise for. Am working on finding my people. Thank you for the encouragement! Courage is needed!
We're happy you're enjoying the podcast!
just found your channel today! I am turning 75 in 2 weeks, also retired from a University career (my first morning I said what the heck am I going to do the rest of my life?). I garden, belong to 2 quilting groups with women my age), also enjoy yoga. Ordered Andrea’s books, absolutely loved her talk.
We're so glad you found us!
What a wonderful surprise to stumble upon this website. I am 79, the mother of five and grandmother to twelve. I helped fulltime with four of the Grandchildren while their parents ran a business. Now, even the youngest of them is away at college. What is missing in my life is any sort of a peer group. I am not credentialed but am forever curious and mentally alert . I am blessed to have a nice house to live in. Thrifting has become my excuse to get out and about. The thrill of the hunt and refurbishing my finds has given me purpose. What is missing is peers. Perhaps this delightful online community will fill the void.
I just found this channel! I enjoyed this discussion with Andrea Gilats very much. Thank you 😊
You are so welcome!
Thank You for sharing your wisdom!
As long as I live I carry on, because I think that is my job, being 82 and very tired.
Enjoyed this video!!!
I’m 85 and also have emphysema, it causes me to cough a lot and I noticed you talked without coughing? I do use an inhaler. I still drive, live alone. I’ve been working for 5 yrs for a day or more for an insurance co as the receptionist, I share this job with 2 other friends. I have a good support group, daughter & family, wonderful Episcopal church family and friends. I’m able to enjoy plays, concerts, movies, dinners & lunches with friends & family. I’m not lonely. I volunteer for a pet rescue and feel very fortunate. I do spend more time thinking of my past, stories, people, pets, music! Really appreciate this video!
This is what we call #agingreimagined. Thank you for watching!
How Much Money did you need to retire ? I Just turned 70 years old & have no family, so I am always worried about healt & money.I don't feel I really have enough saving to safely retire but health issues have currently püt me out of work so I'am living off the little saving I have & social security . I'am at a cross road in my life & I don't know what to do next.Any advice would be helpful as I have no Investments Just a small savings.Sadly I've always had low income jobs & have had to live paycheck to paycheck . You always think there's going to be more time until time runs out.🎉
@@judyconte6566 I'd say be sure to check any help and support financially and otherwise Federal, your state, city, county offers. States are often supplementing low social security, there are food pantries that provide grocerys, no questions asked. Where I am if you own a home in your old age and can't afford the real estate taxes, and you are at a certain income level, they hold off on taxes until the house is sold, or the person passes away. If you rent, there can be aid to supplement your rent.There is so much more, be sure to search on line for any help and support you can get.
Just turned 75 & struggle with anxiety. I love retirement & the occasional visits with my g'children. Life is good for hubby & me, but the political scene undoes me. Am barely listening, which helps. I manage to stay busy most of the time & still quilt almost daily. I don't care about so many things anymore. Just plain not interested!! Glad I found this page....will follow. thanks for doing it!
You are very welcome! We have 300+ episodes that #celebrate aging. Many of them are here on RUclips!
Loneliness has many cures and solutions
Join a church or spiritual group
Invite people over for coffee or meals
Meet others regularly in friendship groups & coffee catch ups
Join the local senior centre
I'm over 70 and definitely not old. I go to RAD ballet classes, travel overseas and have always gone to Uni extension courses... even before I was so called older. My previous school mates are the same - they travel whenever they can and buy second houses in the bush or at the beach. Old is when you're 90.
Loved this. I think there is a stage after old though called “old old” for over 90.
Really enjoyed this interview! Love you all. Subscribed, and looking forward to experiencing the wisdom of more wonderful guests.
Thank you so much!
I am 70 going on 71 I am looking forward to your book I need a new out look on aging I am having difficulty accepting it.
Excellent u tube just found you on iTunes so much wisdom from you all ladies we need this thankyou😊
Thanks for listening! You are so welcome!
Pressured from my daughter who lives locally for me to go into a formal senior living community when I am on no medications post a recent doctor’s exam and can live independently. I am resistant to that because it is so expensive. I am over 80. I think she doesn’t want to have to mess with me in her life because she runs a demanding business but which, to me, is a sad statement.
You should resist! It's your life! I moved to a rural area of NYS where I rent a house on 200 acres. I just love living here because I can take long walks right out the front door. My sisters want me to move closer to them but I'm thinking it over. I can hire someone to help me if I need to. I'm almost 72.
There are many good books and thoughtful interviews on how to make this decision. It is definitely a personal one, and not one to be pushed into by anyone, no matter how well meaning.
Yes agree - only you can make this decision
Most of us brought up our children to work & be independent so we cannot ask them now to look after us I feel
I retired at 57 and at 77 I find myself recovering from open back fusion surgery. I decided to undergo this invasive surgery because I wanted to walk pain free. Eight months into recovery and I've now been camping with my husband and looking forward to book club, ballet, and attending musical theater Broadway touring company performances. Next year I plan to set foot on Antarctica and see and smell baby penguins. Take advantage of the incredible medical advances available to us older folk. If you're in relatively good health and desire a more active lifestyle, ask your doctor about surgical options that may be available to you. Let's live life as best we can.
Brava!
I am 79 and am hoping to have spinal fusion so I can walk- without pain. Thank you for sharing your positive experience with spinal fusion. Now I have less concern and am looking forward to being able to join life again. 😊
100% - I’m 61yo …my entire identity is based on working full time since 17yo, pay bills, raise my daughter and self sacrifice my needs for my daughter and ageing parents.
I’m now financially secure , mortgage free…but I am not free ? I still work full time , pay bills and help support my adult daughter emotionally.
Taking time for myself to find out my next chapter seems selfish ?
Years of conditioning are hard but not impossible to break ❤
I agree concentrate on self care. Dont think old. Forget the numbers.
Eat real food. Dress well to suit your figure.
Excercise walking swimming and avoid pharma unless absolutely essential.
Always be learning and always be curious. And dont worry about what other people think.
My cousin is 78 and her attitude is wonderful. She has a great outlook. Her skin glows she does many classes and is writing her memoir. She has more energy than people must younger.
Play music that you listened to when you were young. It works like a charm. And Dance like nobodies watching.
Mindfulness meditation and good sleep will also help.
Face reality.
It's kind of funny, every year I age I tell myself, self, "I'm not old ." I'm turning 73 in December. My husband and I keep very active. We bicycle daily, weather permitting. We do bar work for arm strength, and we have a rebounder, which is wonderful for keeping fit. We also love climbing bleachers for leg strength and cardio. We are on 0 medications.
I just turned 70 a few weeks ago. I feel old now!
I am extremely active, have taught and do yoga and Pilates for 25 years. It’s so important to stay active.
I walk when I feel like it, hike in the mountains near me and do lots of ‘active’ things like gardening, building and fixing things and do flea markets and craft shows on weekends.
I think it’s really important to stay active to stay healthy.
I also eat extremely well.
No meat or dairy (as my body is sensitive to dairy) and LOVE vegetables and fruit!
My husband died at 62 of COVID and diabetes. He had gone blind of retinopathy so ended up in a nursing home for five years before passing.
It’s all sad; the whole bit and I’m still grieving but slowly coming out of it. My life is sadly geared toward anger about everything.
Frustrations, things going wrong with the car or house, health issues (minor but annoying) and just day to day life.
I’m trying to let it be but it’s hard for me.
I speak with a therapist every week, which helps.
Thank you for listening!
I’m 73. Divorced last year, I find I’m terrified because I must now return to work. I have health issues and I’m alone. I’m waiting to receive my psychologist license in Washington, but money is running out. I’m in shock about my husband leaving me at this age, after promising me he would take care of me forever. Can I even do this?
i wish you the best. "Gray Divorce" i think it's called. It's becoming more and more common. I have several friends who divorced around age 70, one was married 47 years. I believe it's all for the best. Remember, NO FEAR !! I love that saying. My husband is very disabled so i take care of myself as if i were single so i sort of know how you feel. I take care of the house, the car, the bills, everything. My best to you.
Sounds like you are on your way, keep going. Keep reinventing.
Get support
Find others like you
One day at a time I find incredibly peaceful
Not projecting too far into future
Draw on your strengths
Never give up
Fear just a cycle. You can do it. Imagine how good you will feel sharing your wisdom with clients. Your inner husband will take care of you.
Eckhardt Tolle….I keep his books near me.
And he is also "old" and definitely wise
Listen daily!
Thank you all, and I will purchase those recommended books you suggested, since I'm a '"bookaholic" and much of what you stated Andrea resonates with me! I'm 76 and have been widowed since 2015 after 42 years of marriage and in 2020 lost my beloved middle daughter, one of three beloved daughters to Covid19 when she was 41 after being in a coma state i.e.minimally conscious since she was 25 for 16 years after going into cardiac arrest. Along with losing my two beloved cats, all in one year. So I know what "complicated grief" is per a therapist. Thankfully, we are blessed with her only child and daughter, my oldest beloved granddaughter and my oldest daughter's beloved daughter, my youngest granddaughter. I have MS and am wheelchair bound for the past two years and used to do yoga since my early 20s, but am not able to do it like I used to. I was also a fitness trainer in my late 40s and worked out with weights and a barbell during my 30s and 40s into my 50s so I'm still pretty strong in the upper part of my body, but my once very strong legs aren't that way anymore, even though I've had physical therapy. I've tried walking with a walker , but it's not easy and am prone to cellulitis, but "hope springs eternal".
I'm also a retired former NYC fashion illustrator and floral designer so now I channel my creativity into painting which I love and do almost every day. I've also been a pianist and a composer who has composed a New England folk opera which has been performed in public along with other pieces for piano. I'm a true introvert but I was an ambivert when I was younger and when I lived in NYC, and I can still cook and bake which I love and love feeding the birds. I love nature and wish I could get out more, but it's right outside my big picture windows, i'm surrounded by beautiful birds and very tall pine and maple trees and not far from the sea and the mountains. I'm also blessed with my oldest living upstairs from me and my youngest granddaughter in their big apartment in an old Victorian house built in 1870 and I live in a beautiful cottage built between the house and a 19th century carriage house. So if there's any problem they're close by. I'm also blessed with a housekeeper who comes twice a week to help out thanks to my youngest who can afford to help out. The housekeeper and I get along so well and have great conversations and laughs together.
I count my blessings everyday and take extra good care of myself, am only on two meds for high blood pressure and am blessed with very loving, supportive daughters who help out the best they can. They've always been there for me, but I don't take them for granted. And I always remember what Shakespeare said which was also written on the Gates of Delphi in ancient Greece..."unto thine own self be true"! BTW, DO check out the very healing grounding mats invented by brilliant scientist Clif Ober as they really DO work for many things, they're don't cure diseases, but they help with circulation, are antiflammatory i.e. take away pain, help with sleep, help you to relax and relieve anxiety etc. I was literally shocked to see how well it worked and he's also helped thousands of people with MS as well. With the kit on Amazon for just $69.99 you get the mat, the necessary cords which don't run on electricity, they run by pulling the healing electrons into your home and office from the earth, there's one for your car now as well and it comes with the book he co-wrote with Dr. Sinatra a leading cardiologist! Also watch the great documentaries here on RUclips, "Earthing" and "The Grounded"! Highly recommended "knowledge is power".....self-empowerment. Will keep on watching further great videos...so thanks again, much appreciated.
I am mystified by the way retirement is talked about as if it’s a diagnosis.
I left my job/ retired because I saw an alternative to the Monday to Friday grind. I remember going into a depressive state when Sunday nights rolled around. And I was waking up on the Monday mornings feeling exhausted from all the household chores I did within the past 48 hours.
Living in “retirement” is living the best stage of my life. My job did not define me as a person; working was what I did to achieve the basic necessities of life. Once I was able to pay for the basics of life without having to go to the job, I was elated to walked away from it and embraced the opportunity to live my life my way. Retirement is not a diagnosis it’s an opportunity to live your best life without having to work for a Corporation ruled by Bosses.
Thank you for this poscast. Pls do more.
We have 300+ Episodes and we're still going! Thank you for enjoying it!
Is Andrea's book available on Amazon?
Isolation cure. Think of volunteering, helping others who are less fortunate, especially children. Also, organized fitness, increase group activities. Learn a language and a musical instrument. Have a great book on the go. Start a book club. Fill your day learning new things. I started learning piano at the beginning of Covid. Such a joy. So wonderful to have time for all the things that are of interest. Have friends of all ages. Don’t live in the past. Join a bridge group. It is social and good for the brain. We become what we think about. We create our own reality. Create a great life. Be grateful for this time. Attitude, attitude. Stay away from doctors who want to put you on drugs. Move, move, move. Love from Linda
Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
Exactly - there is no need to be lonely and isolated all the time - but it is up to us to make our lives work, as you say - volunteer, join groups, help someone else
Dementia , Altzheimers spectrum disorder causes serious problems for independent living.
I'd like to not keep living with a confused dying brain
in care non compos mentos for how many years of retirement?
Retirement Village locked up to stop ✋ patients escaping 😮😮😮
This is not life , this is a nightmare I want to avoid being any part of.
Look at The Peaceful Pill. We all need that choice
Sorry to hear you have so many chronic conditions.
I strongly recommend Dr. Ken Berry a board certified physician.
Also Dr. Jason Fung
And there is an Indian Doctor he is a heart surgeon. I cant remember his name but all things occur in the gut. All inflammation.
I met Dr. Berry; he's the real deal. Dr. Fung is also well respected. I believe the doctor you were referencing that you couldn't remember his name is Dr York. He has a RUclips channel called York Cardiology. He is a very dear and caring cardiologist and has been a big help to many. Your suggestions are greatly appreciated.
I retired at 55. I'm 72 now and am more busy now than when I was working. There's plenty of community out there. Frankly, I could use less "community" not more. Everything is predicated on building "community" instead of paying attention to individual preferences--always a burden placed with women.
So in two years I will be old? Oh my…think I will go back to the third world! Hahahaha
I am hoping our culture, in this USA, being on the verge of electing a Democrat WOMEN, will begin the long road against the disrespect and demonization of the aged.
Our mission is to keep fighting against the demonization of aging! Our 300+ podcast episodes are just a step in that direction. Thanks for watching! #agingreimagined #celebrateaging
I don't think you should ever use the word old! It has such negative connotations. So why not just say older, or just say ladies over 60. I don't mention the aged at all.
“Senior”
@@patriciafry8634 much better
Our mission is to change the narrative about aging. We can celebrate aging.
That's why "growing bolder" was created.
@sunyamarpie9534 oh that's wonderful!! I like that!