Going through a divorce? Watch this and don’t look back.

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  • Опубликовано: 24 ноя 2024

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  • @debbie9112
    @debbie9112 3 месяца назад +26

    I divorced after 40 years (not my choice). I love my new life. God has blessed me beyond measure. I'm so content and have so much peace. Making wonderful memories with my beautiful grandbabies and reconnected with old friends. Praise Jesus🙏

  • @mollyo3558
    @mollyo3558 3 месяца назад +28

    You inspire me! So well done!
    32 yr marriage just ended. Almost 60 and open to what unfolds. Stay strong and adventurous!

    • @mojoduo6414
      @mojoduo6414 3 месяца назад +5

      I’m 65, about to end a toxic 33 yr marriage. I don’t mourn anymore. I’m just ready to move forward.

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад +4

      I am so proud of you! Things are about to get soooo good. Congrats on your fresh start! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @wondersandwilderness
    @wondersandwilderness 3 месяца назад +19

    Thank you for this video..... marriage is ending after 24 years... Men hurt too when these things happen, and they're scared and sad and all those feelings. This video is universal... Thank you for this.

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад +1

      ❤️❤️❤️ thank you for sharing. Best of luck to you.

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад +2

      @@wondersandwilderness also just a side note that the friend I’ve been counseling regarding their divorce (and who actually inspired this video) is a male friend. ❤️

  • @PNWmorganite
    @PNWmorganite 3 месяца назад +10

    Loved it! I left a harmful marriage in 2019 with 2 small kids. It was like getting out of the eye of a hurricane and one of the best decisions I’ve made. I know I did all I could to make it work so no regrets or guilt.

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад +1

      I think that’s so important to recognize that you did what you could so that you could move forward with no guilt. ❤️

  • @fire_flying
    @fire_flying 3 месяца назад +8

    This was a great video! I’m 53 and divorced in 2022 after 32 years of marriage. I am also planning on tiny house living (found my perfect builder, now just looking for the right location!) and your journey has been a wonderful guide for me. The Chris Martin quote was my favorite. ❤️

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад +1

      I’m so excited about your new beginning and especially your tiny house!! The Chris Martin quote is also my fave! ❤️

    • @luisaleonardi666
      @luisaleonardi666 3 месяца назад +1

      I hope people who need to listen to you,may reach your channel.

  • @amyg8761
    @amyg8761 3 месяца назад +17

    Thank you! I want to leave my marriage so badly but feel stuck financially. Don't even know where to start and I think the stress is killing me

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад +10

      I’m so sorry. I hope you find a way out. Life is too short to be spent with the wrong person ❤️

    • @nechamascher7199
      @nechamascher7199 3 месяца назад

      I got out with small kids as well, and zero money, the financial aspect is what kept me trying and staying and suffering, when I was about to lose my mind and will to live and continue in my horrific situation I decided anywhere is better than home with him, I was ready to be in a shelter rather than have him destroy me. And my kids should not watch and grow up this way. So I am 1 year out and not in a shelter exactly but still with not much, but I will get there and I survived and took day by day. Trust in God, because you only have Him and he will provide for you, guide you to the right connection and resources, He won't let you down, and you'll see that all is still better than staying because at least you can breathe again. Money will come, do the right thing and God will take care of you. Wishing you wisdom, clarity and strength, there will be more support afterwards than what you have now....

    • @danigirllovemoore
      @danigirllovemoore 3 месяца назад +1

      I can relate!

    • @amyg8761
      @amyg8761 Месяц назад +1

      @@trailheadtiny I did it. I got out. my daughter and I moved to a tiny apartment and I'm broke but it's so peaceful. No more screaming in our home. Your channel really helped me build up the nerve to make a change!

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  Месяц назад +2

      @@amyg8761I know how hard it is to make that decision. YOU DID IT. I can’t wait to see what comes next for you. keep me posted!! ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @karmelhutfles3635
    @karmelhutfles3635 3 месяца назад +3

    I've been married twice, and had an 8 year relationship afterwards. I've been happily single for 15 years and I love my life ❤! Of course there are struggles, but there are struggles either way. I have awesome twin sons who are very, very helpful to me too ❤❤❤.

  • @ManWander
    @ManWander 3 месяца назад +5

    i so appreciate your telling your story - it is very inspirational! And those videos of the trails you run were so beautiful!!

  • @cheesewoman
    @cheesewoman Месяц назад +1

    I am going through a divorce with a guy I was with for 17 years (since I was 17 years old). No matter how much I hear people say to move forward and not look back, it's so hard when we are still good friends, we just want to go in completely different directions in life. I appreciate this encouragement though. I'm moving into my own place next week, and I'm so scared, I've never lived on my own as an adult. Let's hope I find my people, and my new life is a success ❤

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  Месяц назад

      Totally agree. Even when you know for sure that it’s time to separate and in the end it will lead to a better life, it still is hard to say goodbye. That doesn’t mean you can’t settle into a friendship. It all just takes time. We are such complex beings. Wishing you all the best ❤️

  • @mariannewarren6031
    @mariannewarren6031 3 месяца назад +3

    Thanks Jen for this video and your insight! The end of my 24 year marriage was finalized today. I'm working on a few things you mentioned , such as reaching out to community. I'm on the cusp of restarting working toward a big professional goal, that I put off due to the nitty gritty of divorcing. Feeling so ready to make big goals and slow steady changes. Your story is inspiring!

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад +1

      Congratulations on your new beginning!! It’s all about staying in tune with your mental health, especially with the change in seasons, holidays, etc. I’m excited for you and your big goal. Go get em!❤️❤️

  • @franciscoalsina4348
    @franciscoalsina4348 3 месяца назад +14

    Thank you for sharing. My 23 year marriage ended last year. It was brutal but I choose now not to be bitter.

  • @tsm7078
    @tsm7078 3 месяца назад +3

    This video popped up on my feed. After watching it I went back and watched the other videos. I think you are an absolute natural for making RUclips content. I LOVED each of them and have subscribed. Thankyou and I look forward to seeing your next one. Best wishes to you from Vancouver Canada 🇨🇦

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад

      Thank you! My imposter syndrome totally needed to hear this today. I appreciate you taking the time to share such kindness ❤️

  • @missylearned9821
    @missylearned9821 3 месяца назад +3

    You look amazing for 52! People with that certain little light in them age slowly even with adversity in their history. Thanks for sharing and inspiring!

  • @debkibler2883
    @debkibler2883 3 месяца назад +4

    Im just beginning the end of my almost 17 year marriage and I wanted to thank you for sharing your journey. At age 55 I have a lot of healing to do and I cant do it in the situation I am in. I have given my all but I am so tired of putting energy into something that doesn't support where I need to be today. I knew after watching your video I could make a new life for myself I just need to take it a day at a time and not look back...afterall I am not going in that direction. Again I thank you for sharing it woke my spirit up and I am one day closer to the life I deserve to live.

    • @debkibler2883
      @debkibler2883 3 месяца назад

      PS the finding work thing is absolutely ridiculous at age 55 I have been out of work since 2020 after losing my 10 years of remote medical coding because of health reasons after covid.

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад +2

      You are absolutely right! Don’t look back! You are one day closer to the life you DESERVE. And yes job hunting over 50 is a struggle!my hour commute each way is sucking the life out of me BUT I do love my boss and my team and that is something to be thankful for. Keep moving forward. I believe in you ❤️❤️❤️

  • @00clgordon
    @00clgordon 3 месяца назад +2

    Your son is an amazing person ❤. I am so glad you mentioned your website. I love your home and your design! Absolutely beautiful! I am 53 and you are inspiring with your hikes. We do not live in a beautiful place like you, however, you have motivated me to walk more. :)

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад +1

      Yay! I’m so happy to hear that. And yes my son is pretty amazing. ❤️

  • @PhyllisAnderson777
    @PhyllisAnderson777 3 месяца назад +1

    What a beautiful story of survival and growing. You go girl!

  • @txspacemom765
    @txspacemom765 3 месяца назад +6

    After 20 years, I left. I refused to drag anything negative with me- whether my exes issues or mine, material stuff, ideas, thoughts, friendships and commitments I did not want anymore. I made my absolutes for my everyday. 1. Move my body in some way shape or form 2. Do something that moves me towards my work/career goals- my dream job is within grasp!!! 3. Do something creative- I am currently water color painting- even if I only have 10 minutes- usually when I get into it, it becomes longer. 4. Schedule appointments for myself and keep them- even if something else comes up. I get a massage 1x a month and pedicures 2x a month, I also meet my therapist 2x a month. I schedule out 3 months ahead. I keep my appointments for my health and sanity. I had to let go of a LOT to get where I am but I am loving life and myself even more now. This included some "friendships" that I no longer could allow in my life- just a difference of opinions, being negative or slights towards my choices- I cannot allow anything in my life that is going to hurt me.

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад +1

      @@txspacemom765 I love all of this and am so happy that you took the time to share with me and also with everyone scouring through these comments as they try to navigate their own lives. I will definitely be incorporating
      some of these ideas to my own life ❤️

  • @medievalwolfgrrl
    @medievalwolfgrrl 3 месяца назад +2

    This was wonderful. I've been divorced for quite awhile now but, this would have helped me when I was going through it. You have great insight and a gift for sharing that with others. Thank you for that- there is so much negativity in the world, its always great to see someone out there sharing good with others. 💛

  • @luisaleonardi666
    @luisaleonardi666 3 месяца назад +1

    I hope people who need to listen to you may reach your channel❤

  • @sherylclements2846
    @sherylclements2846 3 месяца назад +1

    Thank you so much for sharing! This is so encouraging to me, especially right now. God bless you!!

  • @charmin78
    @charmin78 13 дней назад

    Really good reminder to have your own friends, hobbies outside of kids and spouse, and he’s,thy self-care practices.

  • @rebeccanewell4385
    @rebeccanewell4385 20 дней назад

    Very good advice. Thank you for sharing your journey. I like tiny houses. Maybe one day I may get one of my own. Thank you.

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  20 дней назад

      You’re welcome! Thank you for watching ❤️

  • @toledoleslie
    @toledoleslie 3 месяца назад +2

    Wow. What an incredible video. Thank you for sharing your story and advice. I too am 52, a mom, divorced 4 years (separated a year before that) and am on a tiny house journey! I just started a nonprofit organization, which was my big goal this year, and the community will be for young adults with disabilities. I plan to live there too, and see what grows from there. I had thought about documenting the ngo and tiny house development process on social media, and now you've got me thinking YT may be even better? I know nothing about producing and editing videos but who knows! Looking forward to the next video...

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад

      What an AMAZING life you have created for yourself! I’m looking forward to seeing where you go with this. Anything is possible ❤️

  • @Jojok103
    @Jojok103 3 месяца назад +1

    I found ironically that my marriage counselor turned into a great person to have after the divorce as a sounding board. Like the community, you recommended, she didn’t know my whole life story, or much of what happened in the marriage since he only showed up once. It was nice to talk to someone who didn’t judge my past self and I feel saw me for me today. It helped me have the confidence to be the person I needed to become. So I definitely recommend talking to a stranger during any life turmoil lol. Family and friends are either in cheerleader mode or making you feel bad for what is happening. Someone close family recommended I stay because he was a good provider even though he was killing my spirit. So sometimes close, is not better.

  • @vballady
    @vballady 3 месяца назад +4

    Well said. 😊

  • @mizbiss
    @mizbiss 3 месяца назад +1

    Thank you for this video! Great tips. When my 25-year relationship ended it was a long time coming and a blindside at the same time. I wasted years not accepting what happened because I felt like I didn't know the whole story. I wanted to know all the things so I could feel complete closure and I never got it. What I wouldn't give to go back and handle the split in a much healthier way. It's been 10 years now and I still have dark days but you get through it! Thanks again for bravely sharing your story!

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад

      A long time coming AND blindsided! I’m sure so many people can relate to this comment. Thank you so much for sharing it. ❤️

  • @bethgreen5587
    @bethgreen5587 3 месяца назад

    So good to see you back. Once again a great video. Love all the quotes as well. Thought provoking and a great reminder on how to move ahead in tough situations.

  • @dinabertrand9113
    @dinabertrand9113 3 месяца назад

    Thank you so much for sharing! This is the exact reason I began looking into tiny house living. I am 52 also, and have no idea how I'm going to make it work, but I will find a way. Just starting the process...so much stress. Thanks again ❤

  • @DarkSkyFlutterby
    @DarkSkyFlutterby 3 месяца назад

    Very inspirational, thank you for sharing your experience and insight❤

  • @kd21969
    @kd21969 3 месяца назад

    I really look forward to your videos. Thank you for being vulnerable and inspiring. ❤

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад +1

      Thank you so much for your support ❤️

  • @lauraromero4805
    @lauraromero4805 3 месяца назад

    Thank you for sharing your story. I needed to hear this. Many blessings!

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад

      ❤️❤️❤️ rooting for you. You are stronger than you think!!

  • @suzannemink8263
    @suzannemink8263 2 месяца назад

    Amen, Sister. You can’t move forward until you stop talking about the past.

  • @lizadonabauer477
    @lizadonabauer477 3 месяца назад

    The ending! Wow! I think you are an incredible woman! You ARE strong! You've shown it over and over and over again! ❤

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад

      @@lizadonabauer477 love you ❤️🫶🏼 thank you for the endless support and most of all for keeping me in the family after the divorce ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @margarettrio9480
    @margarettrio9480 3 месяца назад

    We are all another human being. No other human being has any power over me. I'm not divorced and have been married for 43 years, have an amazing relationship with my husband, but no one is more important than my personal well-being. JUST ANOTHER HUMAN BEING.

  • @Elissa-Ellen
    @Elissa-Ellen 3 месяца назад

    I so needed to hear this! Thank you!

  • @BaoBunB
    @BaoBunB 3 месяца назад +2

    Can you do videos of your morning routine and maybe cooking/what I eat videos? I like watching people be normal doin’ normal things.

  • @My_beesknees_lavender_cottage
    @My_beesknees_lavender_cottage 3 месяца назад +1

    Absolutely what I needed to hear today.. I love Jay shetty also ( so helpful and inspiring)!
    Mel Robins is the other one that has helped me more than she’ll ever know. I’m currently going through a divorce and I also purchased a tiny house on wheels park rec . Home. Thank you for all your wisdom and tidbits you are sharing. I have so many questions lol 😂 hope you’re having a great day today! ❤

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад +1

      Yessss I do love Mel Robbins too! She has gotten me thru some stuff! Rooting for you and your next Chapter and soooo excited about your tiny house! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @cynthiawakefield7084
    @cynthiawakefield7084 2 месяца назад

    Love #6, I’m a 68 yo now single woman wanting to retire but because of a recent divorce I don’t know how I can afford to purchase a home in my area. I’ve been thinking about the tiny home but concerned about finding a stable parking spot.

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  2 месяца назад

      Woohoo congrats on your new beginning! I can’t wait to see what you do with it ❤️❤️❤️

  • @valeriebrown7946
    @valeriebrown7946 3 месяца назад

    There are 3 things I've never seen in my life: 1) A Leprechaun 2) A Unicorn 3) A happy Wife. All mythical creatures. Lol!

  • @zelmawills8606
    @zelmawills8606 3 месяца назад +1

    Iv been praying for weeks now of where to live
    Iv been living in a large shed but small as the other side is my son-in-law stuff just a big mess
    And just yesterday my older son said he found a place so have to live here for another 4 to 8 weeks
    All ready been in here for 8 weeks
    Helping my dd with her washing as she has 8 kids
    My marriage ended 2016
    Look after my 12 and 13 on my own
    Now there 20 and 21
    Last year I lived with my sister for 12 months
    And the year before that l lived in a caravan and my dd had hers
    Son went back to live with he’s dad
    Then I lived in a shed and taught my dd how to drive and was her taxi
    I had 5 kids X got married and she had 5 kids
    It’s been a rough ride harder than I thought
    But my faith in God has pulled me through
    Harder on your own but I felt real libel in the marriage lived out of town
    But count every dollar
    I think what happens is women that are stay home mums which I was for 28 years are finding it so much harder in life if there husbands have work and they get to talk to people on going and we put our whole life’s into the kids
    I’m glad my dd 32 is out there with going to places to keep in touch
    Even with home schooling

  • @brynapizzo
    @brynapizzo 3 месяца назад

    You are a lovely, wise young woman!❤

  • @rose2525bud
    @rose2525bud 3 месяца назад

    Thank you 🤩👍🏻

  • @mangisty1007
    @mangisty1007 3 месяца назад

    I lost my hubby but many of these tips apply to me, thanks🙏🏼

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад

      I’m so sorry for your loss. But so happy it helped. ❤️🫶🏼

  • @susanaduarte8149
    @susanaduarte8149 3 месяца назад

    Brava!

  • @carolyn4407
    @carolyn4407 3 месяца назад

    40 seconds in, on tip #1, and stopping to "like" this ! Okay, on to the rest of the video :)

  • @kellypoulos8702
    @kellypoulos8702 3 месяца назад

    Really GREAT content!

  • @bigmama6131
    @bigmama6131 3 месяца назад

    Thank you for doing this video and sharing. I have been asking God if I should leave, if it was his will and then your video showed up on my DIY U-Tube videos, as I always liked making things out of the unexpected. Anyway I am 50, married for 33 years and terrified of starting over, that's it's the wrong thing to do, but so unhappy living with him knowing he's lying to me that I can't stand being in my own home. In fact, we just remodel our home and I still don't like it , it's beautiful, but I feel it's fake. I look at all the rentals available and research lawyers but still haven't gotten the courage to move forward. I've left him before but I think I know this time would be for good and that scares me. We were high school sweethearts, been with him since I was 15, have 2 great kids, 1 still at home, and I want to leave knowing it will hurt my son because I don't think I can make it in this fake marriage anymore. I stay up late, get up early all to avoid a bed I absolutely love and share with a person I don't want to touch me anymore. I know I need to leave, I know it would be better for me, that I would be a better person...I just can't seem to make that move.

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад

      I just want to give you a big hug and hold your hand and walk you right out of that house. Life is too short to stay in a marriage that feels like a prison. I hope you find a way out. I really do. It is scary and depressing and all of the things. But once you’re through it… everything shifts. I love my life. And I think my ex loves his life. I don’t know that I believe in til death do us part anymore. We are such complex beings. I’m rooting for you. ❤️

    • @aliciajohnson9624
      @aliciajohnson9624 3 месяца назад +2

      My story. Married 43 yrs 6/26. My independence day 7/4/24. I could not do it anymore. Scared but excited about my future!!

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад

      @@aliciajohnson9624YOUR Independence Day. YES I love this. My divorce was finalized on Christmas Eve of 2018. On my way home I stopped and bought myself a dozen roses and a bottle of champagne. Merry Christmas to me ❤🎉

  • @EyesOpen78
    @EyesOpen78 3 месяца назад +2

    BEAUTIFUL

  • @mrsamirza4392
    @mrsamirza4392 3 месяца назад

    Just what i needed to hear ,

  • @jenniferstinson3297
    @jenniferstinson3297 3 месяца назад +1

    We have a lot in common. We have the same name. 😉I think we got divorced about the same time. I want a tiny house! 🙂

    • @trailheadtiny
      @trailheadtiny  3 месяца назад

      Love it ❤️😆

    • @alaskawagoner9331
      @alaskawagoner9331 3 месяца назад

      I love that your story has a tiny house happy ending. Great tips for life transitions! Love all the Glennon Doyle references!😍👏👏👏

  • @mikerosing8202
    @mikerosing8202 3 месяца назад

    U r so beautiful and gorgeous

  • @zelmawills8606
    @zelmawills8606 3 месяца назад

    Dd has 4 kids not 8