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Man once again, such helpful material. I've been reading "when I say no I feel guilty" but this makes me realize there's so much more to be assertive. I have a lot of work to do but am so glad I'm on this journey and am able to grow! Thx again for this wisdom!!!!!!!! God Bless You!
Generally the only people who respond positively or neutrally when you set a boundary are people with healthy boundaries themselves. Otherwise one needs to prepare for less than a neutral response. So for someone like me, who is only just learning to know how I really feel, let alone how to speak on it, I think this is very important information. There is way more to it than just saying something. For beginners, practice speaking up for yourself in situations where you don’t have important connections. Then you can kinda practice on some lower hanging fruit without huge emotional risk.
I don’t have an emotional back bone . I try but emotions get the better of me & I react .... not good for relationships I’ve decided to just stay quiet . Anytime I’ve tried to tell the truth or how I feel it ends up badly . 😢
Ive been mobbed by my entire family, mum, dad and brother. None of them are talking to me. Ive tried. All i did was assertively tell them they hurt me and they are the victims of me now and they also trashed me to my aunts. And as if that isnt bad enough she is always trying to tell my teens im stressed, im angry, im silly. Anything but the truth; she hurt me. I am so alone.
How do you know so many guilty secrets like 'dont want to grow up'? It actually tells me you really know what you are talking about and that there is no place to hold back ways and thoughts that are toxic but known. Both a challenge and a relief.
Thank you, Jerry. Generosity of Spirit is a blessed encouragement that is so heartening to witness. I have subscribed, watched several of your videos already & shall continue doing so. The aura of Healer is all about you. Well done, & more power to you.
Thank you, your knowledge is fascinating and admirable. Thank you for recommending the books and identifying some beliefs that people hold (including myself), which is really just normalising what is not healthy... I will be studying art therapy and person-centered counselling for the next four years. I hope that I can discover more deeply that you have come to know. Rebecca, Ireland.
I feel rotten and anxious when my teen makes choices I think are bad. Dealing with my illusions about how his life should go is where I can dig in today.
You are a heroic mom. It will never be perfect but your brave struggle to be wise & mature for his sake will be sterling silver & gold for your soul. Helps the whole planet.
greetings ! can you please speak about how to do it when someone is going through a tough time? for example, I was emotionally strong all my life .. but life conditions (e.g., chronic illness) brings us down and makes us vulnerable (e.g., in from of narcissistic parents to whom we suddenly need to have contact to). I wonder if you would please talk about this
With a narsistic parent u dont have wants and needs. Thy think for you thy tell you what you're want and need is. You dare not have an opinion of your own because thy 2will bulldoze over it
“Standing Strong as an Adult Child of the Narcissist” Workshop Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC July 17th, 2021 Saturday, 1-5pm Eastern time On Zoom Topics: The Illusions of the Narcissist The Trauma of Adult Children of Narcissists Living in the War Zone 7 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You Were Raised by a Narcissist 10 Ways Children of Narcissists Love Differently Healing Your Inner Parts and Inner Bonding Resisting Self-hate, Self-shaming, Self-rejection, Self-abandonment Cutting the Emotional Umbilical Cord: Going No Contact or Low Contact with Toxic Parents Superpowers All Adult Children of Narcissists Have And more… Lead by Jerry Wise Founder of Jerry Wise Relationship Systems and You-tubber of over 250 videos. Q & A Role Plays Volunteer participation You will receive the recorded workshop You will receive the notes for the workshop www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/events
Perhaps you could balance out your videos with examples of men who are also the agressors or the controllers. Love your videos but your examples seem to most often be about the mother/wife.
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You look so much healthier now! Way2go on more self-care for yourself
Yep - being assertive by itself - is not going to cut it in the long run..
One has to develop understanding of how things work 🤗
Man once again, such helpful material. I've been reading "when I say no I feel guilty" but this makes me realize there's so much more to be assertive. I have a lot of work to do but am so glad I'm on this journey and am able to grow! Thx again for this wisdom!!!!!!!! God Bless You!
So true, in my family, assertiveness and boundaries cause dragons to be let loose on me
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Generally the only people who respond positively or neutrally when you set a boundary are people with healthy boundaries themselves. Otherwise one needs to prepare for less than a neutral response. So for someone like me, who is only just learning to know how I really feel, let alone how to speak on it, I think this is very important information. There is way more to it than just saying something. For beginners, practice speaking up for yourself in situations where you don’t have important connections. Then you can kinda practice on some lower hanging fruit without huge emotional risk.
Thank you for your work.
I don’t have an emotional back bone .
I try but emotions get the better of me & I react .... not good for relationships
I’ve decided to just stay quiet . Anytime I’ve tried to tell the truth or how I feel it ends up badly . 😢
Gecko Gal I hear you!
I can totally relate.
Ive been mobbed by my entire family, mum, dad and brother. None of them are talking to me. Ive tried. All i did was assertively tell them they hurt me and they are the victims of me now and they also trashed me to my aunts. And as if that isnt bad enough she is always trying to tell my teens im stressed, im angry, im silly. Anything but the truth; she hurt me.
I am so alone.
Am so sorry 😞 Susan, my prayers are with you, I know how you feel been through rejection from family as well
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Thank you from Jerusalem, Israel! You are a gift. 🇮🇱
Hello Sarah
How are you doing today?
Jerry you hit the nail in the back bro. "Be an expert on you . . ." Awareness and Perspective
How do you know so many guilty secrets like 'dont want to grow up'? It actually tells me you really know what you are talking about and that there is no place to hold back ways and thoughts that are toxic but known. Both a challenge and a relief.
I love you Mr. Jerry! You are speaking to exactly where I am on my healing journey. I thank God I came across these videos.
It’s difficult to stand up for what’s right. It’s even harder to do it when you’re in the minority
Thank you, Jerry. Generosity of Spirit is a blessed encouragement that is so heartening to witness. I have subscribed, watched several of your videos already & shall continue doing so. The aura of Healer is all about you. Well done, & more power to you.
Sounds like my family! The example of the mother and family
Thank you, your knowledge is fascinating and admirable. Thank you for recommending the books and identifying some beliefs that people hold (including myself), which is really just normalising what is not healthy...
I will be studying art therapy and person-centered counselling for the next four years. I hope that I can discover more deeply that you have come to know.
Rebecca, Ireland.
Hello Rebecca
How are you doing today?
I feel rotten and anxious when my teen makes choices I think are bad. Dealing with my illusions about how his life should go is where I can dig in today.
You are a heroic mom. It will never be perfect but your brave struggle to be wise & mature for his sake will be sterling silver & gold for your soul. Helps the whole planet.
I think this is really an awesome video, thank you
Good video. thank you for all the book referrals.
Thank you so much for this its really helpful
I would.jump.right in.
No more introductions
Thank you Jerry.
You're very welcome Alissa ❤️
Thank you Jerry. I never heard it put quite this way, and it was very helpful.
Excellent video Jerry.
Thank you so much!!!
You're welcome!
That was a very helpful video. Thanks
greetings ! can you please speak about how to do it when someone is going through a tough time? for example, I was emotionally strong all my life .. but life conditions (e.g., chronic illness) brings us down and makes us vulnerable (e.g., in from of narcissistic parents to whom we suddenly need to have contact to). I wonder if you would please talk about this
THANK YOU 🙏🙏🙏
You are so welcome
Good job! Your video helped 😊
With a narsistic parent u dont have wants and needs. Thy think for you thy tell you what you're want and need is. You dare not have an opinion of your own because thy 2will bulldoze over it
“Standing Strong as an Adult Child of the Narcissist”
Workshop
Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC
July 17th, 2021 Saturday, 1-5pm Eastern time
On Zoom
Topics:
The Illusions of the Narcissist
The Trauma of Adult Children of Narcissists
Living in the War Zone
7 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You Were Raised by a Narcissist
10 Ways Children of Narcissists Love Differently
Healing Your Inner Parts and Inner Bonding
Resisting Self-hate, Self-shaming, Self-rejection, Self-abandonment
Cutting the Emotional Umbilical Cord: Going No Contact or Low Contact with Toxic Parents
Superpowers All Adult Children of Narcissists Have
And more…
Lead by Jerry Wise Founder of Jerry Wise Relationship Systems and You-tubber of over 250 videos.
Q & A
Role Plays
Volunteer participation
You will receive the recorded workshop
You will receive the notes for the workshop
www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/events
Perhaps you could balance out your videos with examples of men who are also the agressors or the controllers. Love your videos but your examples seem to most often be about the mother/wife.
I dont get that.
Good stuff
Thank you!!!
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Are you still alive Jerry? You don't sound too good...
This video is from 2017, I’m doing great thanks for checking in!
What the heck happened to you Jerry you can barely breath and talk at same time ..?
No worries this was the old me before I lost all the weight. I am the thin Jerry now :)
LAH LAH I was worried too. Oh wow Jerry what an inspiration how you lost weight. You look great and healthy now
Jerry Wise Relationship Systems, CONGRATULATIONS, DEAR SIR!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Great job on the weight loss, and thanks SO MUCH for all you do!! ❤❤❤❤
@@redredrubyred9 I would love to know, ive been struggling my whole life.