not a topper but there's this guy in my class who is, and i feel bad for him sometimes since i notice other students just using him for tests or exams :/
Repent, Jesus is real! Jesus loves you, but not your sins. Can a master love his dog? Yes! But the master can't love his dog's disobedience, God loves you, but not your disobedience. He's willing to let you live for eternity if you repent of your sins, believe Jesus is Lord, and be faithful to God so you can be saved through grace. So, please, take this time to repent and follow Jesus. God loves you, and so do I.
you're not wrong, sometimes i see a top student in class cry because they got 18 out of 20 in a test. i think this video helped me understand the constant crying from that one student
That is so real, the smart kid in class last year started to cry cuz he got 9 out of 10! The hole class beside a select few others couldn't even reach 6-7 out of 10, AND HE IS F*CKING CRYING ON A GOOD SCORE?! He is deffinitly forced to study that useless sh*t, he is was too stressed, he prob also hides depression
@@hodancismaan7589 well, I feel bad for you, try to get full marks, but most importantly try to move out as soon as you can. Also have a friend to share everything, don't commit suicide. I don't know who you are, but also maybe you could read Quran, not forcing, just advicing genuinely
@@Eu_Ni_Ce_1009don’t even blame yourself bro 74 out of 75 is basically a perfect i don’t understand parents that tweak out because you got 1 problem wrong out of 90 or 98 like dawg I passed with practically flying colors and you’re mad for what?
Repent, Jesus is real! Jesus loves you, but not your sins. Can a master love his dog? Yes! But the master can't love his dog's disobedience, God loves you, but not your disobedience. He's willing to let you live for eternity if you repent of your sins, believe Jesus is Lord, and be faithful to God so you can be saved through grace. So, please, take this time to repent and follow Jesus. God loves you, and so do I.
@@Sheepof_Jesusso having the ability to defy and obey which both is given to the person by their creator.. and they are punishing for defying means.. 🔥💀🔥
@ezkillguy8316 Well, in the Bible, God gave the ten commandments (Exodus 20) so we could live a better life, a life that is honorable. Whosoever breaks these commandments without repentance will perish because they have received the messages about Christ with their ears but refuse to accept the message. Think about it like this, a teacher has 3 rules. The first rule is don't get up out of your seat. The second rule is that students shouldn't speak out of turn. The last rule is to be nice, and if the student doesn't listen to those rules, why should he receive the same reward as a person who did listen? So if you don't accept God's commandments and live opposed to them, you will spend the rest of eternity away from his peace. But don't worry, Jesus died and bled on the cross for your sins, so you didn't need to pay that penalty. So repent, turn to Jesus, and follow him.
Repent, Jesus is real! Jesus loves you, but not your sins. Can a master love his dog? Yes! But the master can't love his dog's disobedience, God loves you, but not your disobedience. He's willing to let you live for eternity if you repent of your sins, believe Jesus is Lord, and have faith in God so you can be saved through grace. So, please, take this time to repent and follow Jesus. God loves you, and so do I.
@@Sheepof_Jesus Hey, I'm glad you're spreading the message dude, I decided to reply first instead of other people saying you're "forcing religion" or "stop saying this, this has nothing to do for the video", the enemy always uses other people as puppets to try and stop people from spreading the word. Thank you so much for posting this, I bet Jesus is very happy for you spreading the word, you should spread it more, to other comment sections across youtube!
@@Sheepof_Jesus i respect you and your beliefs but i personally ain't a Christian and don't forget there's so many people that hate your religion so I prefer/advice you to not comment under unrelated topics, peace.
Repent, Jesus is real! Jesus loves you, but not your sins. Can a master love his dog? Yes! But the master can't love his dog's disobedience, God loves you, but not your disobedience. He's willing to let you live for eternity if you repent of your sins, believe Jesus is Lord, and be faithful to God so you can be saved through grace. So, please, take this time to repent and follow Jesus. God loves you, and so do I.
@veeramthakur6543 dude don't need to be disrespectful stop it + i am a Muslim and I respect his beliefs so don't be rude to people for no reason. What's the point of you even doing this bro
Mine all congratulate me or say mashallah or Allahuma barik which basically means may God bless you (your grades in that context) but sometimes if I say “I’m gonna fail this test” some ppl who aren’t rlly my close friends say “you always say that and get like 90” so I feel like she’s kinda jealous. Am I being paranoid because she’s like an average/barely passing person
@@M1kadrawsalot yep it's probably jealousy, and I relate to that. I got a friend who's low-key naturally smart or sum, like literally she's always watching tv shows,movies and reading books and yet she's still the topper. Whereas I spend half of my day just studying and I don't yield out even half the grade that she gets. Yeah I did feel jealous at once... She used to kinda joke around that I'm dumb and stuff...I knew it was a joke but some of it stays with me. It really stays with me cuz that's how people have treated or seen me my whole life- an average kid who's never really good enough. It kinda ruined my self esteem. Sorry for trauma dumping lol...this year was kinda tough. But yeah I'd say it was jealousy. But dw, one thing I've observed is that, even if a topper says that they studied/ didn't study, they still receive this same reaction given above. It's probably cuz of the preexisting expectations. Dw, don't take it to heart. Be gracious and truly be grateful for every other exam you score good on, cuz man those are grades some of us can only dream of. Thank god, and continue making your parents proud
@ ok now I feel bad bc I kinda do the same to my friends but I don’t call them dumb but they might feel intimidated by me ig but if they do they haven’t shown in this year of us being friends. Do you mind if I kinda js rant bc I don’t wanna rant to u for u to not even want to see it
@@cosmicbricks3339 Thank the table. Next time there might not be something to stop your mom from directly abusing you over the dumbest things. Sarcasm aside, that's horrendous. Please take care of yourself. Try to distance yourself safely if you can or find any way to get in a better situation. I can't give you good advice without much context, but I hope you're staying safe and that you don't have to endure anything like this again. I wish you all the best. Whatever names she calls you, or abuse she puts you through, that's not a reflection of you. Just her. You're better than her. You can make it out. I believe in you
Topping school and starting to prepare for other competitive exams has been really tough for me. My friends don't text if I am not the first to do it. I see them roaming around, playing, and having the time of their life while I sit in my room surrounded by books. They don't even inform me. I am perceived as the boring guy in the school for not playing video games or scrolling reels on Instagram. If my practice test marks fall, my parents get distraught and stress me out. Sometimes I am surrounded by thoughts of what if I don't pass the exam I am preparing for? I feel so trapped and captivated in my own house. The exam is coming in 100 days. I must give it my all and move forward to a freer life. I don't know if anybody's gonna read this, just wanted to pour a bit of my heart out.
I am going thru the same things as u... and i understand. Even the slightest fall in my marks decides whether i will make my dream come true or not...topping classes is not enough now... even if i am at the top they say things like 'u can do more', 'its less i didnt expect this from u' and such things... it breaks my heart but i believe we should keep moving ahead... thats all we can do for now...
Repent, Jesus is real! Jesus loves you, but not your sins. Can a master love his dog? Yes! But the master can't love his dog's disobedience, God loves you, but not your disobedience. He's willing to let you live for eternity if you repent of your sins, believe Jesus is Lord, and be faithful to God so you can be saved through grace. So, please, take this time to repent and follow Jesus. God loves you, and so do I.
The actual dark side is,even if you get good grades or high grades in the future when you go to work the piece of paper/test paper don’t matter to you anymore
I want school to teach me something valuable and something that I'll never forget in life, but with the current situation of school its not looking bright
As a top student, this shit is way too real. When I did a test on a very nice grade, my parents just ignored that I did about 29 questions right, just pointed out that I made a mistake in one of the questions and didn't get max mark. Ironically, my classmate, with average academic effort got even lower grade, but was jumping from happiness when saw his result. Remember guys: "Happiness depends not on what you have, it depends on your perspective".
Hey, i might not know your situation but is it okay if you tell me how can I be smart? I just feel like in this whole comment section I am a failure. Please i don't want to fail anymore... I failed a lot subjects. Only english high. Please I hope you are ok to reply me. I really need help from you all smart student.. I just hate failing... Please ? I want to make my parent proud or like happy because I improved. How can I study smart like you all
@@CowyGamer If you want an advice, I can give you one. Being a top student doesn't necessarily mean studying all day and read all the time, it's about trying to understand, trying to connect pieces of information, trying to solve some sort of mystery. I think the problem of most students about studying is that they hardly ever find it interesting in some way. It could be because of a bad and discouraging teachers, difficulty or just genuine disinterest in school. But even despite that I became one of the best students in my school. My favourite subject is physics. Yes, I know, very unusual choice, but I like the amount of potential it has and enjoy finding more about it and sitting in a quiet room reading after a stressful day became like a therapy for me. Find something you like: it could be maths, history, science, art or any other subject you actually enjoy doing. Maybe after this you'll get passion to studying. Trust me, you won't even struggle to score high if you'll enjoy what you're doing. Hopefully this one helps.
being number one isnt an achievement, its a prison that forces you into making sure nobody else lives in your cell. unless you give up, and freely give the next prisoner your cell.
I'm in 8th grade in all advanced classes (Double advanced math) and I never study. I don't know when quizzes are and I get all a's. My academic friend has a b in math and he says he studies so hard. This is why i stopped caring about grades. There kinda dumb not gonna lie.
You know what's even worse? When they tell you "we love you" "we are proud of you" but you dont feel like it. Like those words are empty, and you don't know if it's your problem or theirs.
Repent, Jesus is real! Jesus loves you, but not your sins. Can a master love his dog? Yes! But the master can't love his dog's disobedience, God loves you, but not your disobedience. He's willing to let you live for eternity if you repent of your sins, believe Jesus is Lord, and be faithful to God so you can be saved through grace. So, please, take this time to repent and follow Jesus. God loves you, and so do I.
@@Sheepof_Jesus yeah like im a christian i understand but if u keep spamming this some ppl will get mad. Trust me ive seen ppl get mad of a Christian spammer in comments section
@@planethunter63 ppl get mad cuz opinions are subjective, im a muslim and i will happily talk to a christian, as long as they dont annoy me with repent to jesus
The thing is, as a top student, the second I got the chance I'd just refuse to study on my own, and when I finally got that downtime my parents would be like "Oh you don't study at all" and that kind of shit just makes you want to punch a hole in your wall. Like damn I just studied for 6 hours let me do something I actually enjoy..
Wow, my mom lemme what I enjoy the most is studying American English and Vietnamese. I hope that something that can entertain you. But remember, studying is for testing your skills and enhance your knowledge to succeed in life.
I’m so appreciative of my parents, they don’t ask what tests I have coming up or what I get on them so I try to do well just for myself and generally I really do well and there’s not that stress factor involved
Experiencing this, through about my whole life, 2 whole picture frames filled with gold, silver and bronze medals and I'm still pressured to do more. I did well in one math contest and I'm expected to do 5 in the next 3 months?! I still have school, hobbies, and other talents to attend to, even 4 cats and a sister and I'm pushed to go to a contest that I don't even want to go to?
@@amazingmarcusvlog525ehhh either not that bad or really bad. It would depend on how advanced the math competition is, only a couple years ( 1 - 8 ) above grade level? Not that bad, 9 + years above grade level? Really bad
@@SATISFIED-le6qf i got good grades all of my middle and high school straight A* and my all classmates all got satisfactory grades they literal hid my notes in my o level exams and i couldnt study the entire last month but still through online notes etc i managed to escape and only got 2 as bio and chem rest all A*
Yeah being a top student or having good grades like all A’s is tiring 😭 it made me such a perfectionist on some things, yet I always procrastinate.. my parents are ‘proud’ but all they do is brag to everyone how ‘they raised me well’ (they didn’t really raise me) Edit: PFTT THIS WAS SUPPOSED TO BE A COMMENT THAT NO ONE RLLY SAW UMM TY EVERYONE AND I HOPE EVERYONES DOING OKAY ^^
2:24 "You should be doing this for yourself." always made me feel like all the pain was worth nothing. Sucked the happiness all the outta me. Sometimes I wanna ask; had it been all for me, would I have gone through the same pain all over? Or have chosen something that gave me happiness?
Bruh what the hell is your problem? I was like that as well. I got a ton of anxiety for it. My parents would always say how Im so shit and lazy when I only get passing grades. So shut the hell up@Lut_Piska
Former Top Student here, I was treated well by my dad when he used to be around, he always praised me and was proud of me whenever I had high marks and even if I had gotten average marks, he still treated me well, up until in 2018, when he was diagnosed with vascular dementia, but he was still fine at that time and was an amazing dad up until 2020, during quarantine, his cognitive health declined rapidly, which caused my mom to take the role of the head of the house in which, during 2020, my mental health declined due to depression and so did my grades, I still remember my mom's scream at me on why my grades dropped (I went from 96% to 90%) and how I was never like this before, she neglected my grades even though I had tried my best to fight my depression and try to maintain a high grade, while I still respect her and all these years she had taken care of me, I had lost all my desire to even get good grades. Nowadays, my mom is fine with me getting low grades since she took notice of my health rapidly declining due to lack of sleep everyday and talked to me about it, but I sometimes wish that my dad had never gotten that stupid disease. I miss my dad, if only his old self was here.
as an asian myself, 96% to 90% isnt even that big of a difference. and ur dad is probably watching over u right now, so make him proud. I might go through the same situation as you as I already thought of this happening and it made me cry. Even though my dad who trained me on all of my classes is still here. When I think of him disappearing from the world... I just start crying and think of all the memories we had. I genuinely feel the pain that you must've have gone through. While my dad is still here, Ill make him proud until I die. God bless you and your family. I hope your life becomes successful so ur dad can be happy while watching over you.
Repent, Jesus is real! Jesus loves you, but not your sins. Can a master love his dog? Yes! But the master can't love his dog's disobedience, God loves you, but not your disobedience. He's willing to let you live for eternity if you repent of your sins, believe Jesus is Lord, and be faithful to God so you can be saved through grace. So, please, take this time to repent and follow Jesus. God loves you, and so do I.
went from topping the tests without studying to being the only one failing the class, this shit hits hard(er than the emotional damage) thank you so much for making this video, sending lots of love and strength :D
Used to be a top student, I hate that if you get below 1st place, parent would always compare you to that student who passed you instead of celebrating. That was the most demotivating thing ever even if you did your hardest especially coming from your parents.
Yes. I didn't even know that students celebrated if they would merely pass. Whenever I held a rank, he'd hit me with a "but you need to keep on doing even better". Now I don't even have the drive to do better; I just don't care anymore.
Yes. I didn't even know that students celebrated if they would merely pass. Whenever I held a rank, he'd hit me with a "but you need to keep on doing even better". Now I don't even have the drive to do better; I just don't care anymore.
My parents did not care what grade I got, but when I was in school(I am saying this in the least arrogant way possible) I was miles ahead from anyone else(IQ of over 140). So when I made a mistake in class, everyone was surprised and shocked, and that felt horrible, like being judged by 20-30 people is a demotivating feeling. I had normal friends, normal hobbies, but as I was smarter than the others it was hard for me to find a balance and that ultimately made me hate school.
It’s stressful in school too. When you score high grades the students call you out for being a nerd or something just because you did better than them.
At other places they don't use the word nerd but like in India there is a term Kitabi keeda ( literally book worm). I am that such guy. I have other talents too but I have been bullied bcz of my grades.
I was the top student in my school, every teacher loved me. Truth is, I still am. But i’m not like how it used to be.. it’s stressful because people always look up to me for my past and I know my future isn’t the same as my past. It hurts. Being a great successful person back then and now that’s all people expect of you… I can do better, I know I can!
If you feel like you’re giving yourself too much pressure give yourself some rest, my grandfather always told me that our generation, we will regret putting all of our mental energy cuz when we will grow up we won’t be able to have a good and strong mental health because that’s when we will need it the most especially with these unpleasant changes with the world. He told me to always be in the middle, you shouldn’t not study at all and you shouldn’t over study, stay in the middle.
Repent, Jesus is real! Jesus loves you, but not your sins. Can a master love his dog? Yes! But the master can't love his dog's disobedience, God loves you, but not your disobedience. He's willing to let you live for eternity if you repent of your sins, believe Jesus is Lord, and be faithful to God so you can be saved through grace. So, please, take this time to repent and follow Jesus. God loves you, and so do I.
Repent, Jesus is real! Jesus loves you, but not your sins. Can a master love his dog? Yes! But the master can't love his dog's disobedience, God loves you, but not your disobedience. He's willing to let you live for eternity if you repent of your sins, believe Jesus is Lord, and be faithful to God so you can be saved through grace. So, please, take this time to repent and follow Jesus. God loves you, and so do I.
Two things we can all relate: 1. We just wanted em to be proud of us and reward us in atleast a 'good job' - Not Fulfilled 2. Even after scoring well and we prove em wrong, THEY SAY THAT WE ARE STUDYING FOR MY FUTURE AND NOT TO PROVE THEM WORNG. - Not Fulfilled 3. Again, JUST TELL A WORD OF ENCOURAGMENT after we get a high rank in the class cuz the text would hv been tough. -Not Fulfilled
I kinda feel the pain... It hurts when you give your best, and no one praises you...! Idk, my grades are too coming down..! I am a top student, but I am slowly coming down, I guess.!!
I had been in the same place as you before some years . i was a topper qnd i used to always gets full marks ,but people just kept looking down to me that i don't have anything else to do other than studying even so I actually had more important stuffs to do than the time they spent talking about this and that . the thing that made me more uncomfortable is my family reaction they expects me to always keep on the same state and if i get a lower mark then punish me even though they don't rewards me when i get good marks . then for 3 years my marks kept going lower and lower and i was depressed and bored from doing anything or working hard again. later on when i got into highschool (changed my school btw) the first exam went very good even that i haven't studied for it . that gave me some trust in myself i wasn't the top but i was getting better . then again i tried working hard but this time it wasn't to see people reactions or getting rewards it was to challege myself ,when I stopped carrying about other people impressions, I could get up to the top again . now I'm the 1st in ranking in my college. so I want you to try doing things for yourself only not for anyone on earth . wish you good luck btw. if you could report back what happend with I will be very glad to hear.
I feel this. I used to get full marks across the board every year, but my sister used to be pretty bad overall. every year while I sat working my ass off to improve myself, she was on Instagram. my parents got to the point of consoling her when she failed and berating me for when I lost those 2 marks. its like no-one cares anymore but me. and guess wha ive stopped caring myself
Reminds me of my mom. Saying I didn’t deserve the math award that I got. Always comparing me to others saying why didn’t you pass this person. When I get a good grade she says how come you only got a 96. I asked her why she just can’t be proud of me and she said that only if she says that she can motivate me. But the more she says that the more I feel like I’m useless. Now that I study a lot she gets mad that I study instead of work, but when I work my mom asks why I don’t have homework and why the school never assigns homework. Now that they do assign homework she’s mad that I do my homework.
Top student here. Achieved Distiction Award in school twice in a row and other awards, but its horrible .Being a top student not only makes life harder for you, the bar is set higher and you'll encounter more and more backstabbers .Extreme pressure. Sleepless nights.
@@godofportal5905 Sorry but you are wrong, school is important but not everything. Creativity, logic are not involved in school as much as you think. If for you school is everything this means that you have not other passions or personal studies
As a top student, my dad called a 96 grade in math (im Filipino, so the grading system for your report card is a maximum of 100 for each subject. Kinda hard to explain) a failing grade. That was when I just stopped trying and completely dissolved into playing games. I dont know how to cope with it. I want to get my grades back, but at the same time I really dont even want to try anymore.
That's exactly what happens, a lot of people actually try in the trash educational system and got good grades, but they just give up and doesn't want to try anymore because their parents act with irrationality, it also happened to me
Ehhh, I'd recommend still trying to get decent grades though... but 96 is NOT a failing grade, that's a hellish exaggeration, maybe somewhere around 75+ is considered pretty good perhaps I wouldnt recommend *just* giving up (can go bad) but also dont be too hard on yourself aswell Edit: ok ok i get that it's different in the philippines (i dont live there srry)
Hey man, I won't say I understand the trauma but keep doing it for you. Your dreams matter and you are the main character of your own story. Not saying you have to he perfect, nobody is ofc, but do go for the skills that will serve your career. If you don't know yet, keep trying everywhere a good amount because your skills, flexibility, tenacity, and ability to synthesize (a lot of school aspects) will serve you in your future.
@@celestialcerulean sorry but 70 here is actually failed like FAILED the passing grade is 75 but if you want to be a top student ur grades have to be 90-95 average
It's really tiring, my classmates expect me to ALWAYS top everything, but one time i did bad, so they started saying "how?", i just really want them to know I'm not always a topper,
One of the bad things about being a topper is that if you get high marks or get full mark on a test. Next time, you are expected to get better marks or get full marks again. And over time you just start hating being a topper.
im a top student, and its honestly tiring always being compared. for me, it isnt my parents- they’re proud of me, they just dont want me to fail. my classmates are the ones that demotivate me. whenever i dont get perfect on ONE thing, they gasp and say “he’s so bad at this.” also saying “i thought you were smart” when i get lower than 1st place. they see this as motivating, not knowing it’s demotivating
they always think of you as a plug for homework answers, right? and when a teacher scolds you, they laugh behind their hands, right? they all secretly hate the top student. right?
Bro I have a friend whom goes to tuition with me and literally depends on me just because I'm in the top class and just because I get something wrong he'll be like I thought you were smart and I'm like dude not everyone is perfect.The funny part he's in the last class,so he kinda shouldn't even say anything.
Hey, i might not know your situation but is it okay if you tell me how can I be smart? I just feel like in this whole comment section I am a failure. Please i don't want to fail anymore... I failed a lot subjects. Only english high. Please I hope you are ok to reply me. I really need help from you all smart student.. I just hate failing... Please ? I want to make my parent proud or like happy because I improved. How can I study smart like you all I don't want fail again... I want at least above average man but I am below...
i actually went into therapy session because i was diagnosed with anxiety disorder for this exact reason. i was glad that my parents actually understood my condition and they’re letting me choose my own path now. hope everyone who reads this found their happiness!
When I'm in my 10th standard I behave normal I'm a topper but when I enter in 11th class I don't know what happened to me my anxiety disorder start I don't give answer, don't give speeches, don't raise hand to speak, don't stand for speakup for competition bro my life becoming hell day my day no one understands me actually I don't know what happened to me hands start shaking when it's comes to speak front of everyone
Im a topper, my parents are awesome. They say that they want me to have fun, enjoy it, and not to put to much on myself, even if i failed, they would support me, just one condition. If i got a bad grade but studied, it was ok, i just needed to try harder, if i got a bad grade but hadnt studied, then i would have had trouble. Those words relaxed me and made me lose all my stress and anxiety, and im still a topper❤.
Someone like me finally! Well my dad isn’t like that but I don’t see him much anyways and I only tell him my good grades so I can get money lol. For me the catch is my damn tutor. If I get a 90, he says why not 95. If I get 95 he says why not 98. If I get 98 why not 100? And if I can get 100 in one subject I can get it in all right? My mum just tells me not to overwork MYSLEF and not to listen to him. I’m not lying I almost cried bc I can imagine him saying that soon because ik I didn’t do well in biology. This wasn’t meant to be a rant so thank you for reading if you did🩷
My mom when I get good grades "I don't care if you get a zero! I love you!" Me when i actually get bad grades "YOU FAILURE FAILURE, WHEN I WAS YOUR AGE I WAS THE TOP IN MY CLASS AND I GOT 11/10 IN MY CLASSES"
I actively learn at school and maintain my good marks while release my stress at home through writing and doing new things like trying editing or reading a book or even learning new language. I could say that the best way to deal with these things is standing up for yourself by talking to your parents or easier, building up bit by bit then think of it as an idea for writing (I notice i mention writing twice, it is because that is my habit and stress reducing tool, i recommend transfer that suffers into creative creations, not painful thoughts)
it's when you want competition. when you don't have any, it just feels pointless because you don't get the happiness of being better than someone. one of the many traits a topper possesses. ☹️
I was an top student in my class, but my dad never do this to me. Yes, this is correct, that mostly parents are like these, they want top & full marks, not passed, my dad was simple, and didn't ever beat me, if I rarely get low marks. But, my friends were mostly fake, they sometimes demotivate me that, there is nothing, in getting so much grades, then, I not stopped the friendship but, talk less with them. I enjoyed mine childhood, gotten awesome grades, never lose, and motivate & help others. After, your many hard-works, it will must surely pay your results. Some, tips are there, if you don't feeling to study. (1) Get a walk or listen to music. (2) Study, when you are comfortable, means in day or night, I was a night study student. 😅 (3) Reduce Screen time of your mobile/PC. (4) Remember, that your sleep must be completed properly. (5) Solve, questions and follow a proper mindset, and get a straight way for completing backlogs. (6) Be, far away from Porn/sexual videos, that might affect your study. (7) Drink water, too, not soda, and keep your mind always cool, because there is organic chemistry 😂😅😅. (8) Do, prayers, & well as take blessings of God as well Parents; and good always good for others, because it strike the your mind that, you are good, and doing good Karma. Comment is long, so 😅. But, I am PhD one in mathematics. Hope, you would like the tips, that can improve your routine to study. Jai Shree Krishna 🕉️❤️🔥
One tear. One singl tear from my left eye. I went through this very same suffering. The only difference was i was able to overcome and never shook control from my emotions. So much pain in this video, atleast he says and asks the question to his dad while im here not even talking to my parents at all. All i have towards them for and will for the rest of my life is hatred and rage, ive re considered, tried hard to forgive. I did forgive not just once, but so many many times that i cant count with just my fingers. In the end, i worked myself to literal death, and have finally found a passion worth putting my life for. Ive even got the results i want, now i just have to see it through to the end. If anyone is reading this, i wish you well on your journey and remember that you're the only person who can acheieve your dreams and goals.
Same, i almost cried too, cuz i realised this was me in 5-6th grade, and i realised that i have prob went the right way with becoming a mid-student, it was hell through those 2 years, way too much stress was there,never really got that rewarding ,,Good job!", ,,We are proud of you!", it just sounded fake, i think those were the years were i cried the most during nights in bed, cuz i just couldn't hold it anymore
This “you should only get 100s” mentality has been drilled into my brain so much that whenever i get a 97 or 98 or 99, i can never think about how good i did, just what i got wrong. Same even with +5 bonuses, if i get a 103 i still wonder, even tho i got over a 100. (This is not healthy)
This sounds hard! How can someone expect someone else to always succed! Why are humans, we fail sometimes, that's your nature! Even the best! I am sure that successful people are successful because they fail many times and learn to do better many times.
This hit me too close to home for comfort….every time I get something graded back I just go through a full blown anxiety and panic attack with my parents nick picking at everything. It doesn’t matter if I did well, I feel like I can never satisfy them or make them proud.
I'm so thankful this came up on my recommended, I am going through this shit right now. I use to get full marks in like 5-6 subjects earlier now I don't even get full in one. And in my recent history test, I fucking just passed with like 70%. Reason for all of this? Parents lowering my self-esteem. Mom getting angry for no fucking reason and never being proud of me, disowning me, insulting me, telling me to kill myself. Dad making me uninstall the one thing that is keeping me sane throughout this shit - video games. I dont fucking know what to do man.
For real. Uninstalling video gaming is really insane, like that's the only thing or place where I can calm down or take my stress out. But still people call it 'addiction' or 'distraction'. Like bro, that's my life, my interest. 🤷🏻♀️
Parents work hard for us everyday they are still working hard. They may be wrong but inside they feel very worried for scolding you. And they don't share their difficulties to you because they don't want you to make sad. They want you to be great and don't be dependent on someone and they know the value of everything. Didn't they just want you be good at studies and stand on your own feet. Did they ask anything else ? And don't feel very annoyed and very stress they're your parents don't they have rights to scold you. Just tell them and make them to understand. Make them feel proud.
@@SeshaM-lf3nl parents should also be grateful for what their children have done. Asian parents are mostly conservative so its hard to meet their expectations, and they will never listen to your opinion
My parents are like this 😢 I get 94 in a test and they don’t care no matter how hard I try in a test no matter how much my grade goes up they don’t care. They constantly pressure me to get all A and I’m trying so hard. When I got 87 in a test I was so happy because the class average was 62 and I did better than everyone else. When I told my dad he didn’t care and was mad I didn’t get an A. Parents need to think about the mental health of high school students and their kids in general. Life is so hard as a teen ager and parents show no sympathy and they think just cuz we aren’t adults we don’t have stress but we have more than them.
As a top student....I feel this guy...but its not always "I don't care, you should be doing this for yourself", its the "good job! but don't do this to make us happy, do this so that you can make yourself happy and do something good in the near future", but they still do get mad sometimes....when I did something horrible....
It's actually bad for average students too. I used to be a topper but i dont know why i was still considered an average and still am. I was always compared with my sibling who is also a top student. Being average is so tough cause I don't get any recognition or appreciation for my efforts neither from my parents nor my teachers.
I once got an A+ in all of my classes and tested as the 1 student in the country for reading and math and the only somewhat encouraging thing I heard from anyone was “wow” even though I showed only the people who asked what I got they still acted like I was full of myself when I never discouraged them or said I was better than myself they still never cared now I don’t try on my tests and still get 100% nearly every time and test in the top 3% of the country and while I don’t even show people they still think I’m full of myself.
I'm a topper in my grade (Although I'm currently in middle school) and this has never happened to me. Although my father only expects 90s and above and says that I am doing this for myself, he is a loving father and cares a great deal about me. This might not be the case for other toppers but just to let others know that not everyone lives like this.
Same. They rarely praised me for good grades bc in their eyes it was only natural, but when I passed my college entrance exams, they told me they’re thankful I never gave them a hard time with my studies and didn’t financially pressure them with private school and such. It was the best thing I heard from them.
the fact that I relate to this made me shed a tear and I generally don't even cry. I don't see what point parents find in minimizing efforts, like sure, it could help with motivation but sometime you just feel drained and worthless because you will start to internalized what they're saying.
And THAT kids is why you wanna keep expectations low! don't promise something you can't acomplish without sacrificing the free time you have for yourself! also grades on elementary and middle school don't matter that much anyway they're just a number on a piece of paper even on high-school grades aren't that important BUT in college/university or whatever career level school they can define your future!
i don't like to cry but no lie this made a few tears show up in my eyes as a top student that fell off too hard this year you made art and it's so real ❤❤
video needs more attention, this video proves that many students are suffering from pressure from expectations. Let's also take a moment to appreciate this document. Thanks Man.
It’s even worse if you go to a smart school where you have to do a test to get in. Once you get in everything gets harder you are always comparing yourself to the smarter kids. And for me I have a twin who didn’t get in and never studies bc I’m suppose to be doing it.
This video is to real for me right now, the only difference is that I am still striving but trying to forget the past. It hurts to see others experience that kind of similar events... hope yall stay hopeful and safe for yourselves
Damn, this really hits hard. I was always at the top in school without trying too hard-procrastinated a lot, crammed last minute, but still did well(top 1, top 1, top 3 surprisingly). But in college, it’s so different, stuff is real now, if you dont work hard, you fail. The pressure and expectations just pile up-my family, relatives, everyone expects so much. I got sick my first week, missed assignments, and without any real study habits, I started slipping, like a downward spiral, my grades plummeted. I’m not even sure I like my course (only doing it to follow my parents and uncle recommended), and on top of that, I feel isolated and can’t stay focused. Now I’m stuck feeling like a failure, and the weight of all these expectations just makes it harder to get back up. Right now i dont know what i wanna do with my life and am at a low point. Anyway i wanna try and fix my habits. Hope i get through this. Hope yall get through whatever you're going through too.
I never was a topper, but I always admired those guys. I can never imagine what it's like, to give 100% of your abilities, every day. People had low expectations of me, and when I was interested in something, and did it, like, really good, it was a very refreshing feeling, and my parents were really proud. I feel like shit after watching this skit, and even worse, after reading comments. World was unfair to me, but unfair in a good way. Although, I'm not making tons of cash, I'm not an academician either, but I have a decent enough job, some spare time on my hands, and I have friends. Life's got even better after Uni. I had a childhood. Not a lot to remember, but it was nice to have.
As a top student myself, this vision is extremely relatable. Even if my parents are happy with how I do at school already, I fear one day if I get anything lower than an A, they'll be disappointed in me. My parents are proud of me for who I am and what I receive every time in every report card, but the fear of failing is something that can't be taken away from me regardless. This video shows the amount of effort a top student puts into getting full marks, and just the desire to make our parents proud affects us in ways nobody else could ever imagine.
This is the only video that made me cry, Of course this video probably explained my parents behaviour, they never showed they were proud of me, they just want me to improve, there strictness is the reason why my grades are low, and made me think why do I have a life, I just want to see them be proud of me once...
I know that feeling man Once I used to be the best in the class and sometimes I got first on some national competitions . Now I'm not even first in my class. Last 4 years has treated me harshly. If you're suffering from this kind of problems, then I want you to know that you're not alone and it isn't over . Fight and prove them wrong.
@@generaleditz1 *grade* noun 1. a particular level of rank, quality, proficiency, or value. "sea salt is usually available in coarse or fine grades" Similar: category class classification grouping group set section bracket division type brand 2. North American a mark indicating the quality of a student's work. "I got good grades last semester" Similar: mark score grading assessment evaluation appraisal *verb* 1. arrange in or allocate to grades; classify or sort. _"the timber is graded according to its thickness"_ Similar: classify class categorize bracket sort group order arrange type pigeonhole brand size rank evaluate rate value range graduate calibrate 2. North American give a mark to (a student or a piece of work). Similar: assess mark score
@@soyanshumohapatra you know I'd need to add " 's " at the end of "what" for you to have a reason to give me that answer, appreciate the dedication tho
I wasn't a topper but i did get A+ in every subjects in past, (unlike math, most of the time got A- Or B) But my situation is very difficult right now, its too hard to pass on science subjects in this grade
I once made an 82 on my test, I was immediately disappointed and scared. Not because of my own problems, but because I knew how my parents would react. After that I tried my best to get good grades and even after that my parents just said nothing. After that I stopped trying so hard and eventually fell from the ranks. God I hate having Asian parents…
Damn it also happened to me too, always had 92+ in every exam but once I got 88 in English, my dad just said “you could’ve done better, I’m not satisfied” from then on I just gave up on studies. Ik it’s bad but I don’t have the motivation anymore
Believe me, it is NOT just Asian parents. For far less, I was told to kms when I was around 14, and my parents,though non-western, are not Asian. For reference, at 14 I was studying calculus and their only goal in life was to get me admitted into HYPSM. When I was around 11, I was terrified of going home after receiving a 94/100. If you could afford to ‘fall from the ranks’ and are still alive and well, then be glad for your particular set of Asian parents 😅
i feel bad for you but i hate it when you guys bring “Asian parent stereotype” i know this isnt the time but you are WRONG, us kids are some of those asian parents too i have asian parents but my mom still appreciates me for trying my best and getting 81+ grades my mom can be disappointed if i got 79 below but she isnt expecting it to be perfect yet believes that i can atleast pass…there are different types of people and parents so stop judging parents based on their continent ,(Asia is a continent) race,culture,looks and other more…its my point of view but i really hate those parents especially the ones that doesn’t appreciates to their child/ren achievement(s) when they have time and hate them for no reason
They used to say power never comes to those who were born with it, but for those who would and could do anything to achieve it. I don't know how many times that was the one quote that drove me. It was fucking subconscious. If I got even an 98 or 99, I'm sent to the basement to sleep (it's unfinished and crawling with spiders). Mom never sees that I'm trying. I know I sound emo, but fuck this shit. Nobody understands the top student pressure. That is until I saw this video. It was pretty much like staring at a mirror. Thanks man. Jerry, i don't know if you did this for fun or smth, but u really made my day man. I broke out crying.
as a top student, 3 year school council pres, fighting for valedictorian, this made me cry. The pressure is immense. To the younger people out there, please enjoy your life to the fullest.
Is there any tips on staying happy without thinking about your parents happiness? I really want to know how because I can't think of anything that makes me happy that doesn't involve my parents happiness. I still love my parents
@@ASHU-AsherIf your parents apply this pressure, then I’m sorry- I think u just have to endure it until u leave the household. If your parents are supportive and/or reasonable but you put pressure on yourself to please them, then try to talk to them about it and they may offer reassurance. Some parents love unconditionally. Others require excellence and/or perfection in exchange, but conditional love is worthless. It will only destroy their child in the end.
Hey, I might not know your situation but is it okay if you tell me how can I be smart? I just feel like in this whole comment section I am a failure. Please i don't want to fail anymore... I failed a lot of subjects. Only English high. Please I hope you are ok to reply me. I really need help from you all smart students.. I just hate failing... Please? I want to make my parent proud or like happy because I have improved. How can I study smart like you all I don't want to fail again... I want at least above average man...
I think not everyone is like that or is it just me tho? I'm a top student of my school and my parents are quite supportive and caring. They accept whatever I get. Recently, I read a question wrong and answered a whole different thing which made my rank drop to 11. But still, they said it's okay and that they can see I worked hard. They even comforted me and said that even if I try my best, some things may go wrong and it's totally fine. Now that I see other toppers being pressured, I'm really thankful to my parents.
This video is so fucking relatable. My parents always shame me for getting below an A on my assignments, tests, whatever it may be, and when I actually manage to pull it off, they act like as if nothing happened. Its really depressing and it makes me hate my parents at times.
any top students here? :)
Me
Me
just above average. 80-90 percent
@@lemon-san yo same
@@Galaxybanana12 nice. keep grinding. theres no tomorrow
A topper secretly also gets many haters and fake classmates who only use you and later backstab you. At one point, you despise being a topper.
true
Oh my god that is so true
not a topper but there's this guy in my class who is, and i feel bad for him sometimes since i notice other students just using him for tests or exams :/
Fr
Same
High grades: Extreme pressure.
Low grades: Perceived as dumb but zero expectations.
Glad I'm a average student,my parents are always proud of me academically
@@Sahil24980 sadly for me i always get top even if i dont study
@@RandomLyricsGuy-y5r howw
Repent, Jesus is real! Jesus loves you, but not your sins. Can a master love his dog? Yes! But the master can't love his dog's disobedience, God loves you, but not your disobedience. He's willing to let you live for eternity if you repent of your sins, believe Jesus is Lord, and be faithful to God so you can be saved through grace. So, please, take this time to repent and follow Jesus. God loves you, and so do I.
@@Sahil24980even with minimal effort i get 93% average
"Once your marks go high you cant let them come down" An asian kid
Truth that hurts me
@@OG_CK2018 very much, same
😂😂😢😢
This is true actually
woah so true i'm asian
you're not wrong, sometimes i see a top student in class cry because they got 18 out of 20 in a test.
i think this video helped me understand the constant crying from that one student
My teacher even tell a story of that one but in a positive way
That is so real, the smart kid in class last year started to cry cuz he got 9 out of 10! The hole class beside a select few others couldn't even reach 6-7 out of 10, AND HE IS F*CKING CRYING ON A GOOD SCORE?!
He is deffinitly forced to study that useless sh*t, he is was too stressed, he prob also hides depression
My parents scold and abuse me if I don’t get full marks on class work and tests what to I do
@@Roland6733):
@@hodancismaan7589 well, I feel bad for you, try to get full marks, but most importantly try to move out as soon as you can. Also have a friend to share everything, don't commit suicide. I don't know who you are, but also maybe you could read Quran, not forcing, just advicing genuinely
"every topper who have low grades now once had a dark past" :(
Thats true
@@MuraliKrishna-jn1xdyeah
True
Same
Me 😢 I used to get 95 to 99 in 9th and 10th now I'm just..
"You're doing this for yourself, not me." i heard this sentence so many times, it broke me
Same here 😢
Same here my mental health is almost destroyed like a war
Yeah me too😢 mental damage is compulsory in my life 😢😢
absolutely relatable
Same
It was never the 98 or 99 they saw, it was always the remaining 2 or 1 mark.
no like actually
One day, I got 74 out of 75 on a test
I spent the rest of the week blaming myself
@@Eu_Ni_Ce_1009don’t even blame yourself bro 74 out of 75 is basically a perfect i don’t understand parents that tweak out because you got 1 problem wrong out of 90 or 98 like dawg I passed with practically flying colors and you’re mad for what?
good thing my highest was only 94
@@blueck9im ur 100th like
"Taste success once, tongue wants more".
This line drives my motivation..
83 quote
Yeah its hard to be a honorol for our class 8d on phillipines is too hard
Sometimes the Line between "Doing this for You" and "Doing this for myself" Becomes Blurry
Yes
Repent, Jesus is real! Jesus loves you, but not your sins. Can a master love his dog? Yes! But the master can't love his dog's disobedience, God loves you, but not your disobedience. He's willing to let you live for eternity if you repent of your sins, believe Jesus is Lord, and be faithful to God so you can be saved through grace. So, please, take this time to repent and follow Jesus. God loves you, and so do I.
@@Sheepof_Jesus I'm from Hinduism but I also respect jesus
@@Sheepof_Jesusso having the ability to defy and obey which both is given to the person by their creator.. and they are punishing for defying means..
🔥💀🔥
@ezkillguy8316 Well, in the Bible, God gave the ten commandments (Exodus 20) so we could live a better life, a life that is honorable. Whosoever breaks these commandments without repentance will perish because they have received the messages about Christ with their ears but refuse to accept the message.
Think about it like this, a teacher has 3 rules. The first rule is don't get up out of your seat. The second rule is that students shouldn't speak out of turn. The last rule is to be nice, and if the student doesn't listen to those rules, why should he receive the same reward as a person who did listen?
So if you don't accept God's commandments and live opposed to them, you will spend the rest of eternity away from his peace. But don't worry, Jesus died and bled on the cross for your sins, so you didn't need to pay that penalty. So repent, turn to Jesus, and follow him.
"you shouldn't do this for me, you should do it for yourself." too real.
Repent, Jesus is real! Jesus loves you, but not your sins. Can a master love his dog? Yes! But the master can't love his dog's disobedience, God loves you, but not your disobedience. He's willing to let you live for eternity if you repent of your sins, believe Jesus is Lord, and have faith in God so you can be saved through grace. So, please, take this time to repent and follow Jesus. God loves you, and so do I.
@@Sheepof_Jesus Hey, I'm glad you're spreading the message dude, I decided to reply first instead of other people saying you're "forcing religion" or "stop saying this, this has nothing to do for the video", the enemy always uses other people as puppets to try and stop people from spreading the word. Thank you so much for posting this, I bet Jesus is very happy for you spreading the word, you should spread it more, to other comment sections across youtube!
I support you as well as the First Comment@@SaurianAnimates65
@@Sheepof_Jesusamen bros spreading wisdom
@@Sheepof_Jesus i respect you and your beliefs but i personally ain't a Christian and don't forget there's so many people that hate your religion so I prefer/advice you to not comment under unrelated topics, peace.
"worthless" that really hit hard almost made me shed a tear.
Same here😕
It hurts to hear…
Repent, Jesus is real! Jesus loves you, but not your sins. Can a master love his dog? Yes! But the master can't love his dog's disobedience, God loves you, but not your disobedience. He's willing to let you live for eternity if you repent of your sins, believe Jesus is Lord, and be faithful to God so you can be saved through grace. So, please, take this time to repent and follow Jesus. God loves you, and so do I.
@@Sheepof_Jesus wipe my ass with ur demotivational words
@veeramthakur6543 dude don't need to be disrespectful stop it + i am a Muslim and I respect his beliefs so don't be rude to people for no reason. What's the point of you even doing this bro
I felt like none of my friends was really happy when I passed the entrance exam. They were like: "well, it's not a surprise. We all expected that"
BRUH thats so real, my friends are like that when i got high marks on maths
Mine all congratulate me or say mashallah or Allahuma barik which basically means may God bless you (your grades in that context) but sometimes if I say “I’m gonna fail this test” some ppl who aren’t rlly my close friends say “you always say that and get like 90” so I feel like she’s kinda jealous. Am I being paranoid because she’s like an average/barely passing person
@@M1kadrawsalot yep it's probably jealousy, and I relate to that. I got a friend who's low-key naturally smart or sum, like literally she's always watching tv shows,movies and reading books and yet she's still the topper. Whereas I spend half of my day just studying and I don't yield out even half the grade that she gets. Yeah I did feel jealous at once... She used to kinda joke around that I'm dumb and stuff...I knew it was a joke but some of it stays with me. It really stays with me cuz that's how people have treated or seen me my whole life- an average kid who's never really good enough. It kinda ruined my self esteem. Sorry for trauma dumping lol...this year was kinda tough. But yeah I'd say it was jealousy. But dw, one thing I've observed is that, even if a topper says that they studied/ didn't study, they still receive this same reaction given above. It's probably cuz of the preexisting expectations. Dw, don't take it to heart. Be gracious and truly be grateful for every other exam you score good on, cuz man those are grades some of us can only dream of. Thank god, and continue making your parents proud
@ ok now I feel bad bc I kinda do the same to my friends but I don’t call them dumb but they might feel intimidated by me ig but if they do they haven’t shown in this year of us being friends. Do you mind if I kinda js rant bc I don’t wanna rant to u for u to not even want to see it
Damn that's so real. They don't see what's behind:( and instead of being proud of us, they start to despise us instead T^T
It’s sad to see “top students pressure” slowly turn into “students pressure” and become “parents blaming”
Oh my god this is literally me
Today my mom broke the table and called me the worst things
@@cosmicbricks3339 damn dude what grades did you even get?
I never experienced this cuz my parent tbh never care abt my grade and never do anything
@@cosmicbricks3339why? What happened. Tell us
@@cosmicbricks3339 Thank the table. Next time there might not be something to stop your mom from directly abusing you over the dumbest things. Sarcasm aside, that's horrendous. Please take care of yourself. Try to distance yourself safely if you can or find any way to get in a better situation. I can't give you good advice without much context, but I hope you're staying safe and that you don't have to endure anything like this again. I wish you all the best. Whatever names she calls you, or abuse she puts you through, that's not a reflection of you. Just her. You're better than her. You can make it out. I believe in you
Topping school and starting to prepare for other competitive exams has been really tough for me. My friends don't text if I am not the first to do it. I see them roaming around, playing, and having the time of their life while I sit in my room surrounded by books. They don't even inform me. I am perceived as the boring guy in the school for not playing video games or scrolling reels on Instagram. If my practice test marks fall, my parents get distraught and stress me out. Sometimes I am surrounded by thoughts of what if I don't pass the exam I am preparing for? I feel so trapped and captivated in my own house.
The exam is coming in 100 days. I must give it my all and move forward to a freer life.
I don't know if anybody's gonna read this, just wanted to pour a bit of my heart out.
I am reading this. Enjoy you life.
I m there to read😊
Same condition bro
stand proud brother
I am going thru the same things as u... and i understand. Even the slightest fall in my marks decides whether i will make my dream come true or not...topping classes is not enough now... even if i am at the top they say things like 'u can do more', 'its less i didnt expect this from u' and such things... it breaks my heart but i believe we should keep moving ahead... thats all we can do for now...
Came here for the comedy. Stayed here for the tears and ugly truth hitting home so hard that we can’t unsee.
Repent, Jesus is real! Jesus loves you, but not your sins. Can a master love his dog? Yes! But the master can't love his dog's disobedience, God loves you, but not your disobedience. He's willing to let you live for eternity if you repent of your sins, believe Jesus is Lord, and be faithful to God so you can be saved through grace. So, please, take this time to repent and follow Jesus. God loves you, and so do I.
Fr. After watching the video it reminded me of 6 grade ;(
I cried to this, I never cried to RUclips before 😢
I knew what gonna happens
@@elguaponacho9444 ight bro it was not that deep
My parents be like this, they say this is for my good, but still say im stupid and an idiot and compare to my friends saying it is for "motivation"
Yea , the greatest thing that they can think
Yeah😢
It’s so true tho 😢
The actual dark side is,even if you get good grades or high grades in the future when you go to work the piece of paper/test paper don’t matter to you anymore
This reminds me of those words I don't remember the source of:
"A piece of paper cannot decide my future."
@@AlveousXD dang that hits deep
"School teaches you to become coworkers."
I want school to teach me something valuable and something that I'll never forget in life, but with the current situation of school its not looking bright
@@randomguymandude Still better than working from 9-5, decaying from age 65
As a top student, this shit is way too real. When I did a test on a very nice grade, my parents just ignored that I did about 29 questions right, just pointed out that I made a mistake in one of the questions and didn't get max mark. Ironically, my classmate, with average academic effort got even lower grade, but was jumping from happiness when saw his result.
Remember guys: "Happiness depends not on what you have, it depends on your perspective".
Amen
My parents reaction to my high grades are like: 😐
Meanwhile my friends getting rewards by achieving high marks 😭
Hey, i might not know your situation but is it okay if you tell me how can I be smart? I just feel like in this whole comment section I am a failure. Please i don't want to fail anymore... I failed a lot subjects. Only english high. Please I hope you are ok to reply me. I really need help from you all smart student.. I just hate failing... Please ? I want to make my parent proud or like happy because I improved. How can I study smart like you all
@@CowyGamer If you want an advice, I can give you one. Being a top student doesn't necessarily mean studying all day and read all the time, it's about trying to understand, trying to connect pieces of information, trying to solve some sort of mystery. I think the problem of most students about studying is that they hardly ever find it interesting in some way. It could be because of a bad and discouraging teachers, difficulty or just genuine disinterest in school. But even despite that I became one of the best students in my school. My favourite subject is physics. Yes, I know, very unusual choice, but I like the amount of potential it has and enjoy finding more about it and sitting in a quiet room reading after a stressful day became like a therapy for me. Find something you like: it could be maths, history, science, art or any other subject you actually enjoy doing. Maybe after this you'll get passion to studying. Trust me, you won't even struggle to score high if you'll enjoy what you're doing. Hopefully this one helps.
This deserves so much more awareness and recognition, people’s parents be using their kids as if they don’t have limits.
The pressure of *remaining* at the top is real.
Being a topper is easy, remaining a topper is hard
being number one isnt an achievement, its a prison that forces you into making sure nobody else lives in your cell.
unless you give up, and freely give the next prisoner your cell.
i was almost a topper in 7th grade now were in 8th grade and now im officially a topper i get questionend by raising my head abt 20 times a day
I'm in 8th grade in all advanced classes (Double advanced math) and I never study. I don't know when quizzes are and I get all a's. My academic friend has a b in math and he says he studies so hard. This is why i stopped caring about grades. There kinda dumb not gonna lie.
This is way more emotional than the high tier films out there, hell I wouldn't even consider this as a skit. Its too realistic
Yeah your right ngl
You know what's even worse? When they tell you "we love you" "we are proud of you" but you dont feel like it. Like those words are empty, and you don't know if it's your problem or theirs.
Repent, Jesus is real! Jesus loves you, but not your sins. Can a master love his dog? Yes! But the master can't love his dog's disobedience, God loves you, but not your disobedience. He's willing to let you live for eternity if you repent of your sins, believe Jesus is Lord, and be faithful to God so you can be saved through grace. So, please, take this time to repent and follow Jesus. God loves you, and so do I.
@@Sheepof_Jesus yeah like im a christian i understand but if u keep spamming this some ppl will get mad. Trust me ive seen ppl get mad of a Christian spammer in comments section
@@planethunter63 ppl get mad cuz opinions are subjective, im a muslim and i will happily talk to a christian, as long as they dont annoy me with repent to jesus
@@golamrasul9887the repent to jesus stuff is alot here its kinda annoying now
I feel like it, im pretty sure its just a skill issue
The thing is, as a top student, the second I got the chance I'd just refuse to study on my own, and when I finally got that downtime my parents would be like "Oh you don't study at all" and that kind of shit just makes you want to punch a hole in your wall. Like damn I just studied for 6 hours let me do something I actually enjoy..
Exactly😭
SO TRUE
When times get tough, even atheist us pray to god to end this nightmare
The exact shit also happens to me. We've all been there....
Wow, my mom lemme what I enjoy the most is studying American English and Vietnamese. I hope that something that can entertain you. But remember, studying is for testing your skills and enhance your knowledge to succeed in life.
I’m so appreciative of my parents, they don’t ask what tests I have coming up or what I get on them so I try to do well just for myself and generally I really do well and there’s not that stress factor involved
Hahaha... lucky bastard
My parents are the EXACT opposite of that
3:28 The medals are so symbolic in this context.
This kinda good ruclips.net/user/shorts5Ma8757I9dQ?feature=share
Ikr
Experiencing this, through about my whole life, 2 whole picture frames filled with gold, silver and bronze medals and I'm still pressured to do more. I did well in one math contest and I'm expected to do 5 in the next 3 months?! I still have school, hobbies, and other talents to attend to, even 4 cats and a sister and I'm pushed to go to a contest that I don't even want to go to?
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@@amazingmarcusvlog525ehhh either not that bad or really bad. It would depend on how advanced the math competition is, only a couple years ( 1 - 8 ) above grade level? Not that bad, 9 + years above grade level? Really bad
"The ones that start from the bottom and to the top are the ones that succeed,
But the ones that start from the top fall to the bottom" - SATISFIED
welp i guess that is my situation now
@@Jamesvhond welp
@@SATISFIED-le6qf i got good grades all of my middle and high school straight A* and my all classmates all got satisfactory grades they literal hid my notes in my o level exams and i couldnt study the entire last month but still through online notes etc i managed to escape and only got 2 as bio and chem rest all A*
Yeah being a top student or having good grades like all A’s is tiring 😭 it made me such a perfectionist on some things, yet I always procrastinate.. my parents are ‘proud’ but all they do is brag to everyone how ‘they raised me well’ (they didn’t really raise me)
Edit: PFTT THIS WAS SUPPOSED TO BE A COMMENT THAT NO ONE RLLY SAW UMM TY EVERYONE AND I HOPE EVERYONES DOING OKAY ^^
being smart in middle school is such a bad thing bro. I never studied nor knew how to study I’m in high school rn and it’s horrible for me
@@oop9751 oh no- I’m in middle school 😭 I always don’t study uhh.. I try to study sometimes but honestly I keep getting distracted or falling asleep
@@Floro.a find a subject that you need to improve on and please. Try to study I have to do all nighters on assignments
@@oop9751 all my subjects have A’s, the only subject I’m bad at is P. E….- I’ve been trying to improve!1
@@Floro.a I’m sorry but then there isn’t anything you can do. Good luck
2:24 "You should be doing this for yourself." always made me feel like all the pain was worth nothing. Sucked the happiness all the outta me.
Sometimes I wanna ask; had it been all for me, would I have gone through the same pain all over? Or have chosen something that gave me happiness?
From a topper to an average to struggling to even get passing marks that's what I went through 🙂
did you come back from it? hope you doin well mate
It's your fault do not share this kind of problem here
@@Lut_Piskaif anyone checks the replies please don’t try to argue or bring attention to this person 🫃🏻🤰
Bruh what the hell is your problem? I was like that as well. I got a ton of anxiety for it. My parents would always say how Im so shit and lazy when I only get passing grades. So shut the hell up@Lut_Piska
@@Lut_Piskacan you shut up, he may have own reason, dont judge him without knowing gosh
Former Top Student here, I was treated well by my dad when he used to be around, he always praised me and was proud of me whenever I had high marks and even if I had gotten average marks, he still treated me well, up until in 2018, when he was diagnosed with vascular dementia, but he was still fine at that time and was an amazing dad up until 2020, during quarantine, his cognitive health declined rapidly, which caused my mom to take the role of the head of the house in which, during 2020, my mental health declined due to depression and so did my grades, I still remember my mom's scream at me on why my grades dropped (I went from 96% to 90%) and how I was never like this before, she neglected my grades even though I had tried my best to fight my depression and try to maintain a high grade, while I still respect her and all these years she had taken care of me, I had lost all my desire to even get good grades. Nowadays, my mom is fine with me getting low grades since she took notice of my health rapidly declining due to lack of sleep everyday and talked to me about it, but I sometimes wish that my dad had never gotten that stupid disease. I miss my dad, if only his old self was here.
That sucks bro... God bless you
Yeah man, that’s so sad
as an asian myself, 96% to 90% isnt even that big of a difference.
and ur dad is probably watching over u right now, so make him proud.
I might go through the same situation as you as I already thought of this happening and it made me cry. Even though my dad who trained me on all of my classes is still here. When I think of him disappearing from the world... I just start crying and think of all the memories we had. I genuinely feel the pain that you must've have gone through. While my dad is still here, Ill make him proud until I die.
God bless you and your family. I hope your life becomes successful so ur dad can be happy while watching over you.
Repent, Jesus is real! Jesus loves you, but not your sins. Can a master love his dog? Yes! But the master can't love his dog's disobedience, God loves you, but not your disobedience. He's willing to let you live for eternity if you repent of your sins, believe Jesus is Lord, and be faithful to God so you can be saved through grace. So, please, take this time to repent and follow Jesus. God loves you, and so do I.
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Blud did nothing wrong 😭
went from topping the tests without studying to being the only one failing the class, this shit hits hard(er than the emotional damage)
thank you so much for making this video, sending lots of love and strength :D
There is no my best when youre a top student, your best has to BE the best
Used to be a top student, I hate that if you get below 1st place, parent would always compare you to that student who passed you instead of celebrating. That was the most demotivating thing ever even if you did your hardest especially coming from your parents.
you are literally me
Yes. I didn't even know that students celebrated if they would merely pass. Whenever I held a rank, he'd hit me with a "but you need to keep on doing even better". Now I don't even have the drive to do better; I just don't care anymore.
Yes. I didn't even know that students celebrated if they would merely pass. Whenever I held a rank, he'd hit me with a "but you need to keep on doing even better". Now I don't even have the drive to do better; I just don't care anymore.
My parents did not care what grade I got, but when I was in school(I am saying this in the least arrogant way possible) I was miles ahead from anyone else(IQ of over 140). So when I made a mistake in class, everyone was surprised and shocked, and that felt horrible, like being judged by 20-30 people is a demotivating feeling. I had normal friends, normal hobbies, but as I was smarter than the others it was hard for me to find a balance and that ultimately made me hate school.
@@anime_xx996 same bro.
Sometimes parents just expect their kids to do too many things that they couldn't even do when they were kids.
Yes
Too real.
yeaaa but sometimes i think if my parents can't, i have to be able to
This is just so relatable
Sometimes they even expect us to do stuff not even they could do even as adults.
It’s stressful in school too. When you score high grades the students call you out for being a nerd or something just because you did better than them.
Called a Nerd for having high grades?... I'll thinked that's only in America
At other places they don't use the word nerd but like in India there is a term Kitabi keeda ( literally book worm). I am that such guy. I have other talents too but I have been bullied bcz of my grades.
@@pikkonama8858 no I don’t live in America they use other stuff here too
Same happens with me. I'm also from India. Sometimes scoring good feels like a crime. Others start bullying and no one trusts u.@@AmarSingh-bm3dd
@@pikkonama8858its not
Why this hurts a lot , This is so relatable 😭
At least video games call me "You are great!". That's why i love video games
For real 💀
yeah fuck parents pressuring me, video games treat ya better
I mean video games r an escape from reality, a place where everyone can seek refuge under the joy from video games
Exactly i just love to build video game with this kind man
hate it though when i get called a skill issue by noita
I was the top student in my school, every teacher loved me. Truth is, I still am. But i’m not like how it used to be.. it’s stressful because people always look up to me for my past and I know my future isn’t the same as my past. It hurts. Being a great successful person back then and now that’s all people expect of you… I can do better, I know I can!
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If you feel like you’re giving yourself too much pressure give yourself some rest, my grandfather always told me that our generation, we will regret putting all of our mental energy cuz when we will grow up we won’t be able to have a good and strong mental health because that’s when we will need it the most especially with these unpleasant changes with the world. He told me to always be in the middle, you shouldn’t not study at all and you shouldn’t over study, stay in the middle.
Dude I like that this guy is funny but also dark at the same time
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funny?
@@coolstuffanimals Watch his other videos.
Repent, Jesus is real! Jesus loves you, but not your sins. Can a master love his dog? Yes! But the master can't love his dog's disobedience, God loves you, but not your disobedience. He's willing to let you live for eternity if you repent of your sins, believe Jesus is Lord, and be faithful to God so you can be saved through grace. So, please, take this time to repent and follow Jesus. God loves you, and so do I.
Repent, Jesus is real! Jesus loves you, but not your sins. Can a master love his dog? Yes! But the master can't love his dog's disobedience, God loves you, but not your disobedience. He's willing to let you live for eternity if you repent of your sins, believe Jesus is Lord, and be faithful to God so you can be saved through grace. So, please, take this time to repent and follow Jesus. God loves you, and so do I.
Two things we can all relate:
1. We just wanted em to be proud of us and reward us in atleast a 'good job' - Not Fulfilled
2. Even after scoring well and we prove em wrong, THEY SAY THAT WE ARE STUDYING FOR MY FUTURE AND NOT TO PROVE THEM WORNG. - Not Fulfilled
3. Again, JUST TELL A WORD OF ENCOURAGMENT after we get a high rank in the class cuz the text would hv been tough. -Not Fulfilled
That's the true example of "Putting pressure on students"
They say pressure makes diamonds, but don't mention too much of that built-up pressure strains those diamonds until it's broken.
@@TrojanCubingandFE2Woah... Thats good.
I kinda feel the pain...
It hurts when you give your best, and no one praises you...! Idk, my grades are too coming down..! I am a top student, but I am slowly coming down, I guess.!!
Ay but wish you the best for ur results
It's hard ok? But remember u do it all for urself,tbh,idc much about it but u have to know and realize..don't expect others to react on ur results
N dw if ur parents dosent cheer u up bc I'm a random stranger is here to cheer up MATEEEE..well done on ur grades🎉🎉❤
I had been in the same place as you before some years .
i was a topper qnd i used to always gets full marks ,but people just kept looking down to me that i don't have anything else to do other than studying even so I actually had more important stuffs to do than the time they spent talking about this and that .
the thing that made me more uncomfortable is my family reaction they expects me to always keep on the same state and if i get a lower mark then punish me even though they don't rewards me when i get good marks .
then for 3 years my marks kept going lower and lower and i was depressed and bored from doing anything or working hard again.
later on when i got into highschool (changed my school btw)
the first exam went very good even that i haven't studied for it .
that gave me some trust in myself i wasn't the top but i was getting better .
then again i tried working hard but this time it wasn't to see people reactions or getting rewards it was to challege myself ,when I stopped carrying about other people impressions, I could get up to the top again .
now I'm the 1st in ranking in my college.
so I want you to try doing things for yourself only not for anyone on earth .
wish you good luck btw.
if you could report back what happend with I will be very glad to hear.
I feel this. I used to get full marks across the board every year, but my sister used to be pretty bad overall. every year while I sat working my ass off to improve myself, she was on Instagram. my parents got to the point of consoling her when she failed and berating me for when I lost those 2 marks. its like no-one cares anymore but me. and guess wha ive stopped caring myself
“Why would I make you proud one last time when you never made me proud of myself?” 😔
“I tried my best!”
“You need to do your best.”
-my parents
Yeah that's not very helpfull and tried to hear it
Bro they are right, listen to me my younger brother, they are right
Reminds me of my mom. Saying I didn’t deserve the math award that I got. Always comparing me to others saying why didn’t you pass this person. When I get a good grade she says how come you only got a 96. I asked her why she just can’t be proud of me and she said that only if she says that she can motivate me. But the more she says that the more I feel like I’m useless. Now that I study a lot she gets mad that I study instead of work, but when I work my mom asks why I don’t have homework and why the school never assigns homework. Now that they do assign homework she’s mad that I do my homework.
That's so terrible. I hope you're okay.....
Hope your ok :(
Your mom is unfair, bro….
Hope "they" Change your faith
Don't care about her bro, do your own thing be proud of yourself
Top student here. Achieved Distiction Award in school twice in a row and other awards, but its horrible .Being a top student not only makes life harder for you, the bar is set higher and you'll encounter more and more backstabbers .Extreme pressure. Sleepless nights.
this guy's so good at this act, i think it happened to him-exactly as in the play
That parent is basically my inner thoughts and how I treat myself constantly
Remember school is not everything...
REMEMBER, SCHOOL IS EVERYTHING.
Same
Same
@@godofportal5905 Sorry but you are wrong, school is important but not everything. Creativity, logic are not involved in school as much as you think. If for you school is everything this means that you have not other passions or personal studies
As a top student, my dad called a 96 grade in math (im Filipino, so the grading system for your report card is a maximum of 100 for each subject. Kinda hard to explain) a failing grade. That was when I just stopped trying and completely dissolved into playing games. I dont know how to cope with it. I want to get my grades back, but at the same time I really dont even want to try anymore.
That's exactly what happens, a lot of people actually try in the trash educational system and got good grades, but they just give up and doesn't want to try anymore because their parents act with irrationality, it also happened to me
Ehhh, I'd recommend still trying to get decent grades though...
but 96 is NOT a failing grade, that's a hellish exaggeration, maybe somewhere around 75+ is considered pretty good perhaps
I wouldnt recommend *just* giving up (can go bad) but also dont be too hard on yourself aswell
Edit: ok ok i get that it's different in the philippines (i dont live there srry)
Hey man, I won't say I understand the trauma but keep doing it for you. Your dreams matter and you are the main character of your own story. Not saying you have to he perfect, nobody is ofc, but do go for the skills that will serve your career. If you don't know yet, keep trying everywhere a good amount because your skills, flexibility, tenacity, and ability to synthesize (a lot of school aspects) will serve you in your future.
this is really my situation. but i am sure one day i will again do better. ;)
@@celestialcerulean sorry but 70 here is actually failed like FAILED the passing grade is 75 but if you want to be a top student ur grades have to be 90-95 average
as a top student,my parents don't even care if I get a full Mark,they only scold me for the slightest mistake
Same
ur parents are hitting you over virtually nothing. how shameful
It's really tiring, my classmates expect me to ALWAYS top everything, but one time i did bad, so they started saying "how?", i just really want them to know I'm not always a topper,
Truee❤
One of the bad things about being a topper is that if you get high marks or get full mark on a test. Next time, you are expected to get better marks or get full marks again. And over time you just start hating being a topper.
im a top student, and its honestly tiring always being compared. for me, it isnt my parents- they’re proud of me, they just dont want me to fail. my classmates are the ones that demotivate me. whenever i dont get perfect on ONE thing, they gasp and say “he’s so bad at this.” also saying “i thought you were smart” when i get lower than 1st place. they see this as motivating, not knowing it’s demotivating
I hope things get better for you. And always do what you think is best! ♡
@@ASHU-Asher tysm ! ,
they always think of you as a plug for homework answers, right? and when a teacher scolds you, they laugh behind their hands, right? they all secretly hate the top student. right?
Bro I have a friend whom goes to tuition with me and literally depends on me just because I'm in the top class and just because I get something wrong he'll be like I thought you were smart and I'm like dude not everyone is perfect.The funny part he's in the last class,so he kinda shouldn't even say anything.
Hey, i might not know your situation but is it okay if you tell me how can I be smart? I just feel like in this whole comment section I am a failure. Please i don't want to fail anymore... I failed a lot subjects. Only english high. Please I hope you are ok to reply me. I really need help from you all smart student.. I just hate failing... Please ? I want to make my parent proud or like happy because I improved. How can I study smart like you all I don't want fail again... I want at least above average man but I am below...
i actually went into therapy session because i was diagnosed with anxiety disorder for this exact reason. i was glad that my parents actually understood my condition and they’re letting me choose my own path now. hope everyone who reads this found their happiness!
You're very lucky to have parents like that, may your life be spread with positivity everywhere you go ❤
When I'm in my 10th standard I behave normal I'm a topper but when I enter in 11th class I don't know what happened to me my anxiety disorder start I don't give answer, don't give speeches, don't raise hand to speak, don't stand for speakup for competition bro my life becoming hell day my day no one understands me actually I don't know what happened to me hands start shaking when it's comes to speak front of everyone
Haha fuck no
Im a topper, my parents are awesome. They say that they want me to have fun, enjoy it, and not to put to much on myself, even if i failed, they would support me, just one condition. If i got a bad grade but studied, it was ok, i just needed to try harder, if i got a bad grade but hadnt studied, then i would have had trouble. Those words relaxed me and made me lose all my stress and anxiety, and im still a topper❤.
Yo you're a very lucky kid. Not everyone get such good parents.
this is legitimately the only all-positive comment I found so far
Someone like me finally! Well my dad isn’t like that but I don’t see him much anyways and I only tell him my good grades so I can get money lol. For me the catch is my damn tutor. If I get a 90, he says why not 95. If I get 95 he says why not 98. If I get 98 why not 100? And if I can get 100 in one subject I can get it in all right? My mum just tells me not to overwork MYSLEF and not to listen to him. I’m not lying I almost cried bc I can imagine him saying that soon because ik I didn’t do well in biology. This wasn’t meant to be a rant so thank you for reading if you did🩷
My mom when I get good grades "I don't care if you get a zero! I love you!"
Me when i actually get bad grades "YOU FAILURE FAILURE, WHEN I WAS YOUR AGE I WAS THE TOP IN MY CLASS AND I GOT 11/10 IN MY CLASSES"
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I feel this actually. People/my family doesn't really care that I'm not the highest or anything, yet I still call myself negative words for that
and they would even say "YOU KNOW HOW I GOT TO SCHOOL?"
fr tho
True...
Desperately need a sequel. Show me how to get up, please.
good idea
I actively learn at school and maintain my good marks while release my stress at home through writing and doing new things like trying editing or reading a book or even learning new language. I could say that the best way to deal with these things is standing up for yourself by talking to your parents or easier, building up bit by bit then think of it as an idea for writing (I notice i mention writing twice, it is because that is my habit and stress reducing tool, i recommend transfer that suffers into creative creations, not painful thoughts)
@@darkeblade5345fym talking to yo parents, you under they roof
@@theonewhocaredandasked9126 wdym by that?
@@darkeblade5345he means u can’t talk back to them cause u’re under their roof
"Its lonely at the top", "Loneliness of the Strongest" - Gojo.
*Kitkat guy
it's when you want competition. when you don't have any, it just feels pointless because you don't get the happiness of being better than someone. one of the many traits a topper possesses. ☹️
I was an top student in my class, but my dad never do this to me. Yes, this is correct, that mostly parents are like these, they want top & full marks, not passed, my dad was simple, and didn't ever beat me, if I rarely get low marks. But, my friends were mostly fake, they sometimes demotivate me that, there is nothing, in getting so much grades, then, I not stopped the friendship but, talk less with them. I enjoyed mine childhood, gotten awesome grades, never lose, and motivate & help others. After, your many hard-works, it will must surely pay your results. Some, tips are there, if you don't feeling to study.
(1) Get a walk or listen to music.
(2) Study, when you are comfortable, means in day or night, I was a night study student. 😅
(3) Reduce Screen time of your mobile/PC.
(4) Remember, that your sleep must be completed properly.
(5) Solve, questions and follow a proper mindset, and get a straight way for completing backlogs.
(6) Be, far away from Porn/sexual videos, that might affect your study.
(7) Drink water, too, not soda, and keep your mind always cool, because there is organic chemistry 😂😅😅.
(8) Do, prayers, & well as take blessings of God as well Parents; and good always good for others, because it strike the your mind that, you are good, and doing good Karma.
Comment is long, so 😅. But, I am PhD one in mathematics. Hope, you would like the tips, that can improve your routine to study. Jai Shree Krishna 🕉️❤️🔥
One tear. One singl tear from my left eye. I went through this very same suffering. The only difference was i was able to overcome and never shook control from my emotions. So much pain in this video, atleast he says and asks the question to his dad while im here not even talking to my parents at all.
All i have towards them for and will for the rest of my life is hatred and rage, ive re considered, tried hard to forgive. I did forgive not just once, but so many many times that i cant count with just my fingers.
In the end, i worked myself to literal death, and have finally found a passion worth putting my life for. Ive even got the results i want, now i just have to see it through to the end.
If anyone is reading this, i wish you well on your journey and remember that you're the only person who can acheieve your dreams and goals.
Really inspiring thank you..
If you can’t forgive, just forget… just try to move on from it regardless
Same, i almost cried too, cuz i realised this was me in 5-6th grade, and i realised that i have prob went the right way with becoming a mid-student, it was hell through those 2 years, way too much stress was there,never really got that rewarding ,,Good job!", ,,We are proud of you!", it just sounded fake, i think those were the years were i cried the most during nights in bed, cuz i just couldn't hold it anymore
This “you should only get 100s” mentality has been drilled into my brain so much that whenever i get a 97 or 98 or 99, i can never think about how good i did, just what i got wrong. Same even with +5 bonuses, if i get a 103 i still wonder, even tho i got over a 100. (This is not healthy)
This sounds hard! How can someone expect someone else to always succed! Why are humans, we fail sometimes, that's your nature! Even the best! I am sure that successful people are successful because they fail many times and learn to do better many times.
2:18 "i just wanna make you proud" that line hit even more than the dad when he slapped his son.
This hit me too close to home for comfort….every time I get something graded back I just go through a full blown anxiety and panic attack with my parents nick picking at everything. It doesn’t matter if I did well, I feel like I can never satisfy them or make them proud.
So true.
Damn thats so toxic yet true at the same time. My wishes to the people that are going through or went through this
Ayanokoji
I'm so thankful this came up on my recommended, I am going through this shit right now. I use to get full marks in like 5-6 subjects earlier now I don't even get full in one. And in my recent history test, I fucking just passed with like 70%. Reason for all of this? Parents lowering my self-esteem. Mom getting angry for no fucking reason and never being proud of me, disowning me, insulting me, telling me to kill myself. Dad making me uninstall the one thing that is keeping me sane throughout this shit - video games.
I dont fucking know what to do man.
Calm down man it's okay just call child protective services it'll all be ok
For real.
Uninstalling video gaming is really insane, like that's the only thing or place where I can calm down or take my stress out. But still people call it 'addiction' or 'distraction'. Like bro, that's my life, my interest. 🤷🏻♀️
Parents work hard for us everyday they are still working hard. They may be wrong but inside they feel very worried for scolding you. And they don't share their difficulties to you because they don't want you to make sad. They want you to be great and don't be dependent on someone and they know the value of everything. Didn't they just want you be good at studies and stand on your own feet. Did they ask anything else ? And don't feel very annoyed and very stress they're your parents don't they have rights to scold you. Just tell them and make them to understand. Make them feel proud.
@@SeshaM-lf3nl parents should also be grateful for what their children have done. Asian parents are mostly conservative so its hard to meet their expectations, and they will never listen to your opinion
Jesus loves you man, try to pray and seek Him with all your heart and you'll find peace in His presence. Thanks for existing bro, you matter.
My parents are like this 😢 I get 94 in a test and they don’t care no matter how hard I try in a test no matter how much my grade goes up they don’t care. They constantly pressure me to get all A and I’m trying so hard. When I got 87 in a test I was so happy because the class average was 62 and I did better than everyone else. When I told my dad he didn’t care and was mad I didn’t get an A. Parents need to think about the mental health of high school students and their kids in general. Life is so hard as a teen ager and parents show no sympathy and they think just cuz we aren’t adults we don’t have stress but we have more than them.
And I hate how toxic my parents are about my grades because I’ve improve them so much in the past few months but I still don’t have all As
As a top student....I feel this guy...but its not always "I don't care, you should be doing this for yourself", its the "good job! but don't do this to make us happy, do this so that you can make yourself happy and do something good in the near future", but they still do get mad sometimes....when I did something horrible....
Yes yes
Yeah yeah nice explainatoon and all
@@soyanshumohapatradon’t have to be so rude it’s just a comment bro
@@Metalplaysall2345stop acting sarcastic and at least be honest bro
Dang although you don’t have the nicest parents *at least your a good kid in general :D*
It's actually bad for average students too. I used to be a topper but i dont know why i was still considered an average and still am. I was always compared with my sibling who is also a top student. Being average is so tough cause I don't get any recognition or appreciation for my efforts neither from my parents nor my teachers.
Ture
I once got an A+ in all of my classes and tested as the 1 student in the country for reading and math and the only somewhat encouraging thing I heard from anyone was “wow” even though I showed only the people who asked what I got they still acted like I was full of myself when I never discouraged them or said I was better than myself they still never cared now I don’t try on my tests and still get 100% nearly every time and test in the top 3% of the country and while I don’t even show people they still think I’m full of myself.
I'm a topper in my grade (Although I'm currently in middle school) and this has never happened to me. Although my father only expects 90s and above and says that I am doing this for myself, he is a loving father and cares a great deal about me. This might not be the case for other toppers but just to let others know that not everyone lives like this.
Same. They rarely praised me for good grades bc in their eyes it was only natural, but when I passed my college entrance exams, they told me they’re thankful I never gave them a hard time with my studies and didn’t financially pressure them with private school and such. It was the best thing I heard from them.
School really is way toxic nowdays, and it would be nice if i could just be away from all that noise tbh, which is why having peace is just so nice
the fact that I relate to this made me shed a tear and I generally don't even cry. I don't see what point parents find in minimizing efforts, like sure, it could help with motivation but sometime you just feel drained and worthless because you will start to internalized what they're saying.
And THAT kids is why you wanna keep expectations low! don't promise something you can't acomplish without sacrificing the free time you have for yourself! also grades on elementary and middle school don't matter that much anyway they're just a number on a piece of paper even on high-school grades aren't that important BUT in college/university or whatever career level school they can define your future!
i don't like to cry but no lie this made a few tears show up in my eyes
as a top student that fell off too hard this year you made art and it's so real
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video needs more attention, this video proves that many students are suffering from pressure from expectations. Let's also take a moment to appreciate this document. Thanks Man.
tbh the worst thing abt being a top student is having no friends, since teachers always compare you to others
It’s even worse if you go to a smart school where you have to do a test to get in. Once you get in everything gets harder you are always comparing yourself to the smarter kids. And for me I have a twin who didn’t get in and never studies bc I’m suppose to be doing it.
Yeah I used to be my class topper but as i am growing older it is becoming harder for me to stay a topper
First time I've seen someone saying exactly how i feel.....damn it hits hard
This video is to real for me right now, the only difference is that I am still striving but trying to forget the past. It hurts to see others experience that kind of similar events...
hope yall stay hopeful and safe for yourselves
Damn, this really hits hard. I was always at the top in school without trying too hard-procrastinated a lot, crammed last minute, but still did well(top 1, top 1, top 3 surprisingly). But in college, it’s so different, stuff is real now, if you dont work hard, you fail. The pressure and expectations just pile up-my family, relatives, everyone expects so much. I got sick my first week, missed assignments, and without any real study habits, I started slipping, like a downward spiral, my grades plummeted. I’m not even sure I like my course (only doing it to follow my parents and uncle recommended), and on top of that, I feel isolated and can’t stay focused. Now I’m stuck feeling like a failure, and the weight of all these expectations just makes it harder to get back up. Right now i dont know what i wanna do with my life and am at a low point. Anyway i wanna try and fix my habits. Hope i get through this. Hope yall get through whatever you're going through too.
I never was a topper, but I always admired those guys. I can never imagine what it's like, to give 100% of your abilities, every day. People had low expectations of me, and when I was interested in something, and did it, like, really good, it was a very refreshing feeling, and my parents were really proud. I feel like shit after watching this skit, and even worse, after reading comments. World was unfair to me, but unfair in a good way. Although, I'm not making tons of cash, I'm not an academician either, but I have a decent enough job, some spare time on my hands, and I have friends. Life's got even better after Uni. I had a childhood. Not a lot to remember, but it was nice to have.
As a top student myself, this vision is extremely relatable.
Even if my parents are happy with how I do at school already, I fear one day if I get anything lower than an A, they'll be disappointed in me. My parents are proud of me for who I am and what I receive every time in every report card, but the fear of failing is something that can't be taken away from me regardless.
This video shows the amount of effort a top student puts into getting full marks, and just the desire to make our parents proud affects us in ways nobody else could ever imagine.
Putting medals on the wall in the end explained a lot.
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This is the only video that made me cry, Of course this video probably explained my parents behaviour, they never showed they were proud of me, they just want me to improve, there strictness is the reason why my grades are low, and made me think why do I have a life, I just want to see them be proud of me once...
Idk but this video has United all the topper asian kids out there; being a topper myself , I can truly understand you guys😞
As a top student, this is too relatable..
How tf did this get likes?
I know that feeling man
Once I used to be the best in the class and sometimes I got first on some national competitions .
Now I'm not even first in my class.
Last 4 years has treated me harshly.
If you're suffering from this kind of problems, then I want you to know that you're not alone and it isn't over .
Fight and prove them wrong.
All the medals on the wall in that last few seconds was such a good touch. Bravo.
Im also a position holder but my parents aren't this toxic, thanks god🖤. No one deserve this toxicity.
Same bro
What grade?
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@@soyanshumohapatra you know I'd need to add " 's " at the end of "what" for you to have a reason to give me that answer, appreciate the dedication tho
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I wasn't a topper but i did get A+ in every subjects in past, (unlike math, most of the time got A- Or B)
But my situation is very difficult right now, its too hard to pass on science subjects in this grade
Because you don't work are and are a lazy procastinator. It's not a a big deal to score top grades in little and easy af subjects in middle school
Let me guess, you’re taking AP Physics I
AP Physics 1 is presumably way easier than chemistry honors, at least that’s what by friends tell be, tho it requires so much math.
@@CatLoverNightshade I know💀 I’m taking AP Physics this school year
@@Goatku_Solos-e3b Same, it’s my 1st AP
I once made an 82 on my test, I was immediately disappointed and scared. Not because of my own problems, but because I knew how my parents would react. After that I tried my best to get good grades and even after that my parents just said nothing. After that I stopped trying so hard and eventually fell from the ranks.
God I hate having Asian parents…
Damn it also happened to me too, always had 92+ in every exam but once I got 88 in English, my dad just said “you could’ve done better, I’m not satisfied” from then on I just gave up on studies. Ik it’s bad but I don’t have the motivation anymore
Believe me, it is NOT just Asian parents. For far less, I was told to kms when I was around 14, and my parents,though non-western, are not Asian. For reference, at 14 I was studying calculus and their only goal in life was to get me admitted into HYPSM. When I was around 11, I was terrified of going home after receiving a 94/100. If you could afford to ‘fall from the ranks’ and are still alive and well, then be glad for your particular set of Asian parents 😅
i feel bad for you but i hate it when you guys bring “Asian parent stereotype” i know this isnt the time but you are WRONG, us kids are some of those asian parents too i have asian parents but my mom still appreciates me for trying my best and getting 81+ grades my mom can be disappointed if i got 79 below but she isnt expecting it to be perfect yet believes that i can atleast pass…there are different types of people and parents so stop judging parents based on their continent ,(Asia is a continent) race,culture,looks and other more…its my point of view but i really hate those parents especially the ones that doesn’t appreciates to their child/ren achievement(s) when they have time and hate them for no reason
My parents would be pretty happy with anything above 70,I feel bad for you
They used to say power never comes to those who were born with it, but for those who would and could do anything to achieve it. I don't know how many times that was the one quote that drove me. It was fucking subconscious. If I got even an 98 or 99, I'm sent to the basement to sleep (it's unfinished and crawling with spiders). Mom never sees that I'm trying. I know I sound emo, but fuck this shit. Nobody understands the top student pressure. That is until I saw this video. It was pretty much like staring at a mirror. Thanks man. Jerry, i don't know if you did this for fun or smth, but u really made my day man. I broke out crying.
as a top student, 3 year school council pres, fighting for valedictorian, this made me cry. The pressure is immense.
To the younger people out there, please enjoy your life to the fullest.
Is there any tips on staying happy without thinking about your parents happiness? I really want to know how because I can't think of anything that makes me happy that doesn't involve my parents happiness. I still love my parents
@@ASHU-AsherIf your parents apply this pressure, then I’m sorry- I think u just have to endure it until u leave the household. If your parents are supportive and/or reasonable but you put pressure on yourself to please them, then try to talk to them about it and they may offer reassurance. Some parents love unconditionally. Others require excellence and/or perfection in exchange, but conditional love is worthless. It will only destroy their child in the end.
Hey, I might not know your situation but is it okay if you tell me how can I be smart? I just feel like in this whole comment section I am a failure. Please i don't want to fail anymore... I failed a lot of subjects. Only English high. Please I hope you are ok to reply me. I really need help from you all smart students.. I just hate failing... Please? I want to make my parent proud or like happy because I have improved. How can I study smart like you all I don't want to fail again... I want at least above average man...
@a.r.7885 thank you! I will try what you have recommended :]
0:29 that was personal
Story , editing, Quality is Just 👌🏽👌🏽
I think not everyone is like that or is it just me tho?
I'm a top student of my school and my parents are quite supportive and caring. They accept whatever I get. Recently, I read a question wrong and answered a whole different thing which made my rank drop to 11. But still, they said it's okay and that they can see I worked hard. They even comforted me and said that even if I try my best, some things may go wrong and it's totally fine.
Now that I see other toppers being pressured, I'm really thankful to my parents.
This video is so fucking relatable. My parents always shame me for getting below an A on my assignments, tests, whatever it may be, and when I actually manage to pull it off, they act like as if nothing happened.
Its really depressing and it makes me hate my parents at times.