Constant Fear Of Death | Tea Time Topic: Anxiety
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- Опубликовано: 24 авг 2024
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Go make yourself a cup of your favourite hot brew and sit back while I chat away. I'm going to tell you about my lifelong experience with anxiety, how it manifests for me, what I do to deal with it... And I'm answering some of the questions you guys sent me through Instagram. Enjoy and please feel free to leave a comment if you need to get something off your chest!
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My death anxiety is almost everyday, i cannot stop it. I fear death i keep thinking and im counting my days even though im 17. "Death will catch me" "i will be dead and never come back, staring into darkness forever, losing everything i loved" "i will have to die and i cant stop" "im gonna have to die someday and i cant stop it". These thoughts terrify me everyday, my head hurts everyday.
Update 2020:Hey guys IV recovered and healed from my anxiety as well and IV seen so many people like me,I hope you's are become better too and be strong you can win and find something better in life trust me. Be strong and try and make Ur life better and more meaning even U don't see meaning keep trying,I felt like I had no meaning in life and now I have a better life and exploring the world, stay safe everyone and plss be strong
KiosK I know what you’re feeling. I’ve been like this for a while now. You’re not alone.
@KiosK very true....same problem here!!! even i am just 17!
Oh my god same I don’t know what to do
I know right, I'm having right now. I'm in tears this anxiety is killing me. I feel like I'm in the background while everyone is in the spotlight. It's horrible. I really hope you found help.
Even though I’m not religious I was just asking god and then another that really helped is when I started thinking about I keep saying I’m gonna be with family and I kept saying that every time but I still think about it and I’m still scared. I’m about to see this therapy and hopefully they can help me they have a anxiety institute here
My anxiety is about death as well, but not so much loved ones dying as what happens after. It freaks me out not knowing what happens and I hate the thought of this life meaning nothing.
Heather Nixon : What do you do to deal with it?
If I feel a panic coming on I distract myself immediately. I watch a ton of silly youtube videos. Disney movies also really helps me to distract myself. I also find funny shows like SNL or in Canada we have a show called This Hour Has 22 Minutes or my favourite show is The Office distract me easily.
If an attack happens when I am not able to distract myself (mostly in bed) I will get up. There were 2 weeks that were really bad so I was taking cough and/or anti-histamine medicine to make me drowsy and help me fall asleep instantly. It's not perfect.
I also find lavender oil infused lotion rubbed on my shoulders helps relax me. And lately I've been using Loepsie's method of telling my brain "NO, we are not doing this" to be helpful as well.
I really try to avoid topics that will trigger me. I don't follow news feeds either.
SammieG: Same.... I just want to find a solution to this.. Any tips?
Robert Winger if u find any let me now ugh suffering intense anxiety from this!
Heather Nixon Me too. I don't want to die
When I think about death, I come to this video and read the comments. It actually helps a lot.
What made me overcome my fear of death is this song:
M.O.P - Dead and Gone
Really focus on the lyrics, it's therapeutic!
Yes me too^^
@@Barbiejoooo how are you right now? Im struggling with it:(
Oh my goodness.. I'm literally in my bathroom sobbing. This is the first person who has related to my constant fear of death... Thank you
I know how you feel I was crying in the shower I been crying for 4 days now.
Hopefully you're doing ok.
I live like this too...I wish we can all just hang out everyday and just live it up!!!!
how are you right now? Im struggling with it:(
@@OBSZIDIAN548 how are you right now? Im struggling with it:(
oh my goodness, this is like my anxiety. I'm always afraid of death and what happens after. thank you so much for being here. have a wonderful day!
pastel panda I have always felt the same way my whole life, I had panic attacks at least a couple of times a week about this now that I've been a care worker with dementia clients and have seen them go and lost a loved one it's gotten a lot worse she died in the room that is now my bedroom, but I know she's not here, I've been having a feer to sleep at night incase I don't wake up it always crosses my mind every time I'm alone even a long bus journey or alone in the office I can be crying by the end of it, I don't understand how everyone can live happy in there lives knowing it's all going to be taken away, and that there going to loose everyone and that we have no idea were we will go, I don't want to forget my life it makes it feel pointless. I look in the mirror and feel so detached from myself I just see my body I don't see it as me anymore, I just want to feel normal again it's good to see others have anxiety about death too.
Demonicmocha I still have multiple anxiety attacks daily. Just lost my dog that grew up with me a month ago, still trying to get over it. I've seen so many loved ones pass in my life. It doesn't really bother me seeing them go, but I still wonder what happens. Existential crises are my my brain's specialty. It's at least once a day I think of death. Seems like I can't get away from it and that I'll always be the way I am. But you know what? I still tell myself to get up. And that life is so short. And no matter what happens after I go, I've been given this life someway, somehow. I choose to do things that make me even a little happier. Like today I went to the beach with my family. I got sunburned, but sometimes there's bad that goes along with the good. And no matter what happens when our lives are over, you have a chance to live it happily. I hope you have a beautiful day, hun. You can always talk to me if you need to.
pastel panda aw it's nice to here you had a nice day, I dont know why I got teary reading your reply, Thanks so much that really helped I'll try keep that in mind today :3 I'm going to go see my family today and try focus on the positives.
Demonicmocha if you ever feel discouraged, or even upset about something small, please know you can come to me. I'm here for you. :)
Thank goodness I am not the only one. Thoughts of death & what happens after death are always on my mind. The unknown is so scary and I'm terrified there is nothing beyond this life. I feel alone in that, nobody I've talked to understands. It makes life hard to enjoy, but I do try to distract myself by keeping busy. It's hard to be positive sometimes. But it's nice to know there are others who feel that way, I admire everyone that struggles with anxiety. It can be so hard.
This makes me feel so much better knowing I'm not the only one with this kind of anxiety
Trust me, you are not alone. I’m also struggling.
that's sad and happy at the same time
Same here, I though I was the only person you experience it. You are not alone
Theres only 3 reasons why I'm scared of dying,
the pain,
my loved ones tears,
experiencing life even more,
i dont wanna die...
what if heaven isnt real... what if i dont live another life... what if i die tomorrow... i dont be alone... what if i never speak to anyone again.... i really hope when i die, i dont get to think or exist anymore.. (mentally) i have anxiety attacks about this occasionally, but the more i think the more it hurts...
Designations AJ FINALLY! YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE IN THE COMMENT SECTION THAT I RELATE TOO
this relates me
@@dxrl1ng_aep597 yes the feeling of being alone and without mental process is the scariest thing.. But I have a good feeling we will never be alone as long as we have love.
I both scared of life after death and death meaning being nothing every time i notice i cant remember life before childhood is scares me because those that mean that without a body i dont exist how can i just be a body. i hope im more than that but how can i ever be sure
I don't understand why I don't find people who deal with this more. I also deal with this and happens multiple times during an episode
i have the same things. depression/anxiety. my death anxiety centers around the fact that i have no choice in the matter and the fear of what will happen to me when i die. also, losing loved ones and being alone
The fear of being alone.
Horrible bro.
Your not alone. Everyone you love is forever connected to your soul.
I’m 11 years old and I’m scared of dying and I mostly think of it at night and it keeps me up all night and sometimes makes me start crying. I’m scared that when you die you don’t feel anything and nothing happens for the rest of eternity and it’s my birthday this Saturday and I do t like birthdays because it reminds of that I have one less year of life and I’m really scared for when my grandparent and parents die and they have to go through what I fear and I’m a,so scared that their is no heaven or hell and their is just nothing and nothing happens for ever and ever. I feel sorry for the animals because they don’t get to experience life as we humans do and some animals are killed at a very young age and sometimes right after birth. I am also scared that I will become a grandfather very soon and I get scared that life it too short and you one get one chance of life which inspires me to make the best out of it and not waste my one chance of life.
IceWalloCome1223 I have the exact same thing as you and it’s so insanely difficult to live with. Ever since my parents explained what death was when I was like 5 I’ve had this anxiety and I’ve thrown up because of it it’s crippling.
Angelina Manashirov me too! When I was a kid, I would watch death documentaries which I now regret because I legit cry my eyes out whenever I get reminded of death or a family member that’s older than me a lot.
Enjoy your life.
Aww I’m sorry baby that you’re going thru this so young! It breaks my heart . Maybe you should talk to your parents to get professional help. It’s not fun to go thru these emotions
Same and I'm 12
IceWalloCome1223 same I’m scared as well wish you luck in life
I also have this kind of anxiety. I am constantly thinking about ths death of my loved ones and especially when I go to bed every night. It is a scary thought that comes and goes. When I go to bed to sleep I 'll start crying because of it.
Marina Detsa . Me too its so bad sometimes that i constantly thinking about going to Doctor to get something to help me sleep
Marina Detsa same
Marina Detsa I don't even cry about it anymore, I'm trying to get over it and guys this link might help: www.healthboards.com/boards/anxiety/895188-death-anxiety-overcome-help-offered-my-experience.html
I found it pretty helpful and I'm learning to deal with it slightly more and I'm hoping to finally be able to live my life
Marina Detsa
Read my comment, I guarantee that your fear will go away for the first time in your life
Marina Detsa That is me right now and almost every night.
I have travel anxiety. When we travel I am so afraid of car crashes or not being able to get home. I hate traveling.
I have anxiety of death in general. Conversely I would never wanna be immortal. A strange conflict I guess, but I've gotten a little better at dealing with death by changing my views on it.
How did you change your views on it?
Omg same, both scare me
Rustyhound how do you change your views on it?! Please help I’m really struggling 😖
I just wich I knew for sure what happens next
@@Penguin-wk7gq sorry for the late reply. I really just had to listen to a lot of spiritual peoples views on it. Gurus, reading up on philosophies about reincarnation and really just being open to feeling that anxiety around death (which isn't pleasant and easier said than done). One thing I always remember is that energy never disappears, only transfers.
I still worry about death of course. It scares me because I understand that even though I believe there is a soul (and I know there's debate about that topic but no proven answer either way) and that nothing ever disappears. The experience of dying will always seem abstract and foreign no matter what. But I think the worst part about worrying about death is thinking that consciousness will disappear, forever. Not only did I get more used to dealing with that fear, but I slowly started to open up to ideas that there might be other possibilities.
Again, I can never be certain, no one can. Which is partly what makes it so scary, but because of this. You can't be certain that the worst outcome is the one that's certain either. I recently lost a loved one, my best friend. So I still worry about death, but I'm also more open and hopeful of other possibilities occurring in death.
Also read up on some scientific theories, eternal return, multiple big bangs etc. While they don't provide ultimate answers, they do provide possibilities that can bring comfort.
For me im like,
one day im going to die.
Its gonna happen.
That day is coming.
And the day that the Earth is left floating in space, lifeless, dusty and cracking, will come.
And the day the Sun will explode will come.
And then there will be nothing.
An empty abyss. But how i would i know?
Becos i wont be there. I wont even be in darkness. I just wont... be.
First time i ever wrote that down. gaddamn.
I think this was too..
I think of this all the time.
Don't feel bad/awkward about this. I think so many people in our generation have anxiety or anxiety and depression. *hugs*
+Kristan I've noticed as well, I wonder why that is! Do we actually get it more, or has it just become more acceptable to talk about? Could there be a specific reason for it..?
Loepsie its the modern life that has made the vast majority of us sick with such things. The rythm of daily life is waaay more stressful than before. But I think people are opening up more to this things
Yeah, I agree, it is because of our sped up lives.
OMFG. This literally is exactly how I feel. When I say I feel anxious about death, most people don't understand that I'm mainly focused around my family members and people I love. Like I can be in the car then suddenly imagine someone dying and get extremely upset - it seems to be so unexpected and uncontrollable. I'm so so so glad you understand it.
Also, that advice about distancing yourself and ''being someone else'' is actually really good. I'd like to try it :)) Sometimes I do to a small extent but I've never thought about it like that.
You are 100% totally not crazy. I have this as well, and have had it my entire life. I also used to wake my parents up to check on them, and worrying about my grandparents to the point of being sick. I'm a 27 year old married woman now, and I still experience this. I don't really have any advice but I appreciate you sharing your story. Know that there is someone else who is going through what you are, and you are not crazy.
I'm curious though, are you incredibly empathetic? I find that others who have this anxiety seem to be.
Please do an update if you get a lot of interesting responses, and I wish you the best.
+Alyse I am. I pick up on other people's emotions really well and tend to mirror them, too. Thanks for sharing your experience, too!
Loepsie I do that too!
Alyse Klenk I’m 17, I wake up my parents by getting anxiety attacks. I fear many things such as, fear of death, fear of eternity, fear of aging, fear of eternal darkness in the universe. The most that gets to me is the aging of my parents, I can see their face and bodies age. It gives me a lot of anxiety and makes me thankful for every second I’m with them, making it last because life is very short.
i too have it i want to come out of this..
Divoúl Delitou i have a very similar experience when dealing with my anxiety attacks ,just making decisions that are seen as simple or make me panic and scream or walk away and cry,I even. Randomly start to cry in the shower ,and when I am in school I want to jump of the third floor
Everything you described in the video is what I deal with. I often fear death and losing loved ones. The feeling comes and goes. Every time I say goodbye to my friends and family I have to say please drive safe because I'm afraid something could happen to them. If I see a story on the news about someone dying I will worry for days. What if that happens to me? What if someone close to me dies? If anyone has any advice on how to be at peace with death please share.
how are you right now? Im struggling with it:(
@@mikechrist9699 it’s hard to deal with, but accept those thoughts when you get them. Accept that it is possible for you or your loved ones to die right at the moment. You don’t have to convince your brain that they are actually dead in the moment but accept those thoughts when you get them. Don’t fight it. The more you fight it the worse the anxiety will be. Most of all just live every day in the present. Not worrying so much about the future.
I kinda have this fear of death. but sometimes it really gets to the point where I have those scenarios in my head like what if the car is gonna crash, maybe I am ill, etc. for some weeks i was even scared of an asteorid destroying earth and things that are soo unlikely to happen, but which I couldn't control. and then I think even if nothing like that happens we're all going to die and that makes me fucking anxious. what helps me is just to stay busy and positive and in the moment!
Britta damn I had the same fear about the asteroid
What made me overcome my fear of death is this song:
M.O.P - Dead and Gone
Really focus on the lyrics, it's therapeutic!
Tell me about it! My mind takes me on wild terrifying trips and makes my body freeze or just shut down because I can’t handle the thoughts and images. For me is also about the world ending or at least my world and especially when I am going to do things that should be relaxing like sleeping or going to the bathroom or be among people. It diminishes my quality of life and makes me sick and worried all the time. It sucks, hopefully we can overcome it!
Britta watch your mouth
I’m only 10, I fear family members dying. Especially my dad, I love him to death, I couldn’t imagine him dying. Everyday I shower I picture me crying with him in his death bed. I can’t do anything about it, I tell him how much I love him everyday but I still am scared of not being able to say how much I really really love him before he dies. That’s why I vow to stay next to him when he gets old, I don’t care if it means I have to sacrifice everything I’ve ever worked for. I don’t care about my own death anymore. Sometimes the thoughts will go away for 2 weeks or two, but then it just comes back. It just comes back random moments, I’m trying to be stronger, he always tells me how much he loves me and I get so happy I cry tears, I love him to death. I’ll sacrifice the world for him, I’ll take a bullet for him, anything for him. I can give away anyone I love (except for my brothers and mother & grandma & uncle / auntie & cousins). I LOVE my dad, I could not imagine anything without him..
Update : that feeling of death I had was my nana . I was so focused on my dad I didn’t even spend time with her , it’s right cherish them ALL while their here
@@miyoko1616 what do you mean?
@@miyoko1616 did it go away
I’m 23 years old and have just recently developed anxiety within the last few months and it’s usually always about death - my family’s, my boyfriend’s, and my own. It’s strange because there were no major deaths in my life for it to just happen out of nowhere but it’s happening and I’m suddenly so aware of my own mortality and it terrifies me. I still don’t know how to deal with it... and every night I miss being naive and feeling invincible.
how are you right now? Im struggling with it:(
I think about it way to much it's really depressing
Isn't hypochondria fantastic? I'm always worried that I'm dying of cancer. xD
Right there with you. It is a struggle that ebbs and flows. I take medication for health anxiety but it is still difficult at times.
I don't take anxiety meds anymore as I fear for the side effects. :D xD
I keep searching lumps in my breasts. What kind of a crazy fear it is? Green tea, turmeric tea and mint tea ... trying all of them to get rid of this fear. thank you Mia for speaking up.
I completely understand. I am in my 40s now and have learned that I can have a much better quality of life with them, but it's a personal decision. The health anxiety is crippling for so many.
THE COOL GIRL CHANNEL Please stay off Lucy's channel. We don't need this sort of negative talk here.
Something ironic, I quit tea (any form of caffeine) because I realized it greatly contributed to my anxiety. Sigh... I miss tea...
Coffee can do that sometimes for me, so I don't drink that (or only early in the morning with a load of milk, very occasionally). I can't have black or green tea after 4pm. Before that I'm fine (evenings are my danger zone)!
can you not have decaf teas? They taste no different in my opinion and are better for you :)
Do I sometimes. They do have a very small amount of caffeine in them. Since I lost all tolerance to caffeine I can really feel it. Please excuse me whining though, I just miss being able to buy and try all the fun teas as there aren't as many that are decaf!
+Lotus N pretty much only the tea/s made from Camelia sinensis (Green, Black and White) are the ones that actually contain caffeine. In case of the Green tea, the caffeine's effect in it, is generally countered by the theine which is a stronger neuro-active molecule for humans. Hence Green tea shouldn't really cause you any anxiety or worsen it.
But if you really want, you can skip those three. Other teas (as in herbal infusions made with water and dried herbal drugs), you can have. They don't contain any caffeine.
Some can actually greatly ameliorate or even "cure" (remove symptoms, prevent their onset and so on) the anxiety. Examples being the Melissa tea, Valerian tea, Californian Poppy tea, Passion fruit tea etc.
It goes without saying some of them can interact with medicine, and that a very few people could be allergic to some specific protein in them, and in such cases any such tea would, naturally be counter-indicated.
Lotus N omg it think this enabled my anxiety too bc I drink tea every day for the past like five six year and that’s when it started
I've been through a period like this 2 years ago, i was 21 back then. It lasted for almost an year. I suffered from severe depression but i also had panic attacks and anxiety attacks. Also, i was having a lot of negative ideas that i couldn't control, they were involuntary, annoying and scary. It was the first experience of this kind, i did not know what to do. So i searched for help, my mom sent me to a good psychologist ( also a woman). I went to her for 10 months and she helped me with everything. One of the exercises i did to feel better was this one: every morning when i woke up i had to think about all the things that scared me and gave me pannic attacks. I had to do this for 15-20 minutes. Just repeating over and over again what i am afraid of and letting out all the negative emotions. Then, i had to do the same thing every hour ( for 5 minutes), for the rest of the day. After some time, the panick attacks were less problematic to me. And the exercise was changed a little bit: i still did the morning "routine", and then the same thinh after 3 hours for 5 minutes. This way the panick attacks were gone, because i let all the bad emotions out, i did not keep them inside. Thanks to this woman, after one year of severe depression, anxiety and panick attacks i was finally myself again. Sorry for the long comment, i hope this will help you somehow.
I'm so glad you have found relief. I'm going through this right now, and I've been seeing someone for about 2 months, once a week. I am hoping for similar results as well! Love from Toronto, Canada
Did you also felt that like everyone else just have anxiety and it's real for you like you will die soon and you have believed it?
I started having panic attacks several months ago, about various things, death, illnesses, unhappiness, failure. At the time it happens, usually in the evening time, it feels horrible, as if I can't control my brain, or can't think of anything positive or useful. However I rationalise it, at the moment I have the panic attack I cannot stop all those psychosomatic symptoms, like racing heart, so I just wait for it to pass. Distractions work, as prevention and partially as cure. On the plus side, when I'm not having panic attacks, I can consciously appreciate and enjoy that feeling of peaceful mind, and even think of rational arguments to appease myself against the things I dread. (For example, I remind myself how grateful I should be for what life has given me so far, family-wise, beloved ones-wise etc). Also, as you mentioned, a partner is precious , because, as I see things, death is the absolute form of loneliness, and (erotic) love is the absolute form of togetherness, so I feel like it's a natural antidote. Also, the acceptance that life is tough and unfair, but all we can do is strive to alleviate its toughness and unfairness, and then laugh it off, enjoy the good parts of it. As the song goes, ''life's a piece of shit, when you look at it'', but still we should ''always look on the bright side''. Thank you for the video, it's a reminder that it's not the end of the world to have an issue like that, and it's way more common than we think (in fact, most people I know had at least one psychologically difficult phase, in their lives, some took anti-depressant pills, many still see a psychologist, but noone is characterised by it, or has surrendered to it).
Praying for you
I also had that kind of anxiety when I was a kid. I couldn't sleep alone because I was sure that my parents would die in the middle of the night. This went on from the age 5 to 10. Every night I would cry to my parents because I was sure that they would die. I have had all kinds of hysteric fears like having illnesses to really small things that aren't even big thing but to me it feels like I'm going to die of anxiety. I feel like a crazy person and I know that these thoughts aren't realistic but I cant help it. When I get these thought they won't stop and I just think about it over an over again. It was a little while ago when I got to know that these are called Intrusive thoughts. Currently my situation is a lot better than it used to be. I have social anxiety and it's even difficult to post comments. But your video gave me the courage to talk a bit about my experience and I hope it will get better for you :)
Thank you for sharing! What you said sounds exactly like what I experience. Good to know we're not alone! :)
hanski96 I can relate so much, thanks for the comment.
the really bad panic attacks i get happen when I'm not busy in life/in a slump, or when i'm alone, or when it's night time & i'm not totally tired out - like i have to constantly tire myself out, cause if i go sleep at a time i'm not ready to just plop down dead asleep, i'll start thinking about the blackness of death & how when i fall asleep, that's basically what it'll be like for eternity & yadda yadda - so then my body will wake itself up in this jolt cause i start to think i was dying in my sleep, & then I start panicking, & then I'll get this horrible burning cold feeling on my shoulders, neck, & face & i'll start to get shaky & usually cry like a lil weenie & get dizzy & can't breath which leads to me feeling light-headed and more like i'm going to die. I honestly feel like i know what my death is going to feel like, every time i get one of those attacks, i just... it feels so real for a second. but I just have to remind myself it's just my brain, i guess.
I started getting panic attacks when I was younger, like sixth grade - but back then it was more of the fear of passing out/dying in front of other people (i didn't want to pass out in front of anyone or have a heart attack in front of my class mates or at the mall etc.) but now it's like I'm scared to die just in general, alone or not - I just don't want to die, ya know? and I'm not scared about what'll happen to me when my loved ones die, I'm scared of what will happen to them... will they really just not... exist? will they really just be basically asleep for ever? will death be just like it was before we were born? just nothing?
i live in fear of dying to the point where it ruins my life so much that I wish I could just kill myself, but I can't, cause that's the one thing I'm horrified of lol! it's like a horrible cycle I can't get out of - i can't kill myself, i can't live, sometimes i can't even do anything without that black sludge of death filling my mind. (& times where I'm ok, and laughing or even in pain - sometimes even afterwards I'll think about how much I'll miss laughing or feeling pain, when I'm dead & feeling nothing - that thought just ruins the moments for me every once in a while)
one of the few things that calms me down during a full blown panic attack now is laying on the floor, a cold one. i listen to my dog's heart beat sometimes too. (hopefully no one's there to witness my 'episodes' ((i keep my anxiety super private)), but if someone is, i'll try to focus on talking to them.) anything to distract me, really. and then after a full blown panic attack, my body is so exhausted from being so tense & freaked out, that it's almost like someone shot me with a tranquilizer, & if all goes well, I'll fall asleep.
but is sucks now, for a good four or five years, I didn't have any serious panic attacks cause I thought I learned how to stop them, but lately these newer ones come & it just... it's like my old younger self going through it again, except now it's evolved into something almost worse. even during the day now sometimes, when I'm just being around people or living life, i'll start asking myself how the people around me can go through everyday knowing their inevitable end, and how they can be so brave that they don't dwell on the nothingness that comes after death, every single second; like what they do to keep themselves distracted, or what they think is worth the little time on earth that they have, I guess - ugh, I don't even like typing about it cause i feel that static in my head buzzing, so I think I'm going to stop honestly.
thanks for the video, even though I don't know how to stop this anxiety crap completely - it still makes me feel a little less anxious knowing i'm not completely alone with these thoughts & feelings & symptoms. i stay away from caffeine, cause that can make my panic worse than it is, I've noticed... but I hope you get through it, & hope all of us dealing w/ this can figure out a way to enjoy time, rather than dwell on it.
professor coke broke ..... This is exactly word for word how I feel so glad to not feel alone
MISS Diaz same here its so depressing
You worded my thoughts correctly. I go through the same experience, and glad to know I’m not alone. Ever since my panic attacks, this has been happening to me. When I was in school these experiences never happened to me, but now that it’s summer and I’m not doing anything but on social media at night looking at negative things, I get these negative thoughts of death. I was able to keep myself together a few nights because I wasn’t thinking negative. It’s mostly the mind thinking these things, but reality you’re just fine. Panic attacks symptoms mimic heart attacks, so that’s why I started thinking negative. I’m going into therapy to get help, and to stop thinking so negatively. It all starts with you to stop thinking, and sometimes I can be strong and get over negative thoughts. Anyone who goes through this, just know that we can get through this and fight anxiety and negative thoughts. We’re strong, and can fight this. It’s time for us to defeat anxiety and negative thoughts and never let it bother us again.
professor coke broke Thanks for Sharing. I think if you Seek God and Seek Answers from Jesus Christ. When God sent Jesus Christ to Diie on the Calvary Cross for Our Sins and the 3rd day " Jesus Christ" Rose Alive from the Dead. When we Believe in Jesus Christ we will Rise too from the Dead. Read the King James Bible or go get the C.D. of the King James and it explains what Heaven is like. I am Very Sick now and I am Suffering. I Fear Suffering More then Death. Try to Enjoy life to the fullest too. Do things to try to Prepare for your or loved ones Death. I Undrrstand.
This is exactly what I go through and I’ve never seen it typed out so accurately. I’m so glad that other people get how I feel. I try to explain it to people in my life and they just don’t get it. I get so jealous of others who do not have to deal with this and don’t constantly have to think of their life as meaningless and fleeting. I so wish I was religious but I just can’t get there. It seems unfair that we’re all just here without any say in the matter and then once we get a chance to live, we have no say in the time that we have to leave. I sometimes feel like being a human and being aware of these things is a curse. It’s the worst feeling of being trapped here with no where to go.
Watching this video and seeing all of your comments makes me feel way better. I've been dealing with anxiety since 2011 ever since the Japan Earthquake. ( idk why but it started since then) . But lately it's been so bad. I'm terrified of a loved one dying . And it's been specifically through cancer. It seems like everyone is getting it ! It gets so bad to the point where I'm like " what's the point of living if we're all going to die anyways!" I stopped cleaning my room, I struggle to exercise, I'm terrified of being happy and enjoying my life bc I'm ALWAYS afraid something will go wrong. The worst part is when people think you can easily turn anxiety off. Or they don't take you seriously :(
Hi I just saw your comment and I am going through the exact same thing. I just want to know if it gets better?
@@alondra3513 how are you right now? Im struggling with it:(
@@mikechrist9699 hi, since then I have recovered from my depression. Not so much my anxiety it's not as bad as before but I still get those thoughts. I just meditate every morning, drink tea or decaf coffee, focus on my self, clean my space, and spend time with family. Dont have too much time to think negative.
@@alondra3513 good to hear that you're doing better! I hope you can overcome your anxiety
I feel the exact same way except about my own death more so than others. You're not crazy. I pace around, I get fast heart rate and I get triggered by nothing and everything. Thanks for sharing your experience, helps me knowing that there are other people out there.
Lucy, you are such a brave woman. I don't think you realize what you did in your video. You actually put into words exactly what so many people suffer with. Never before have I been able to describe in detail what the feelings I was dealing with. You just did it for me. Night time has always been the worst time for me when trying to sleep. Worrying thoughts just race through my brain and throw me into a panic. I have learned a few things to do when this is happening. First I remember to breathe. Take slow deep breaths. I try closing my eyes and visualize a large red stop sign coming at my face. Also, I close my eyes and I count backwards from 100 visualizing each number. Doing these things forces my brain to change my train of thought. Thank you Lucy, for easing part of my stress of not being able to explain how I feel.
I have this death thoughts too and then I feel bad that my brain makes up stories in my head... I now it doesn't makes sense but I know how you feel!
thelionsoul im exactly the same
Exactly the same.
ruclips.net/video/ApkfLMUIZL0/видео.html you should try this
how are you right now? Im struggling with it:(
So, I feel like all of us here who commented on this video have the same thoughts, we see other people who don;t or don;t realize they have these ideas and we think we're alone. You just realized that this is absolutely normal, what you feel is normal, it's just that you don;t really need to interpret those thought anymore, and you just really need them to go through you w.o them leaving a mark on you. Keep yourself busy, make everyday count, try to love everything around you and make future plans. Don;t waste time, or wait for it to pass, make a list of what you want to do and do it, it will hep so much, not just that you need to keep urself busy, but to actually try things, to prove urself you can do anything and you will be so happy after. For example I thought I'd never quit smoking and one day I did, you won;t imagine what happened, each time I was having a bad day I would think, wow I went through this and wow, I made it happen, I'm no longer a smoker, and damn that feels so good to focus on something you accomplished. I had some awful times with anxiety, I'm in therapy right now, but I'm doing so much better and I'm so damn strong. What you need to know is that everyone goes through the same things as you, just try to live your life, be safe, try to stay out of trouble, exercise and try to eat as healthy as possible, but don;t exagerate that unhealthy food is part of life, that laziness is also part of life, thinking of loved ones dying proves you truly love and are loved, so let;s try to embrace our fears, let them run through us and get pass them every time. If I helped at least 1 person with my comment then I;m happy. Be safe guys!
Hello Lucy, a quick solution for the effect that is anxiety is to slowly exhale air out of the lungs and then hold it there as long as you can. The mind will quickly snap out of any negative pattern and focus itself on what you are doing and in that moment you will feel the mind stimulated and awake to the present. Of course then you will breathe again but most importantly you will breathe deeply and this will relax the body. The cause is in the subconscious but don't fear, as you get older you will find a solution to dealing with it so that triggers no longer control you.
This video is sooooo important!! Thank you for opening up. I also deal with it. You're not alone!!
This is so me. I stay up late every single night and think about dying. The process, family and friends I will leave behind, everything. It worries me to the point of me getting a headache, sweating, and pacing throughout my house.
My kind of anxiety with death is I’m afraid of what will happen during death or what I would feel, and I am afraid of what it would be like not breathing anymore or what all happens, I know it might sound silly but it really takes over my mind, and it makes my life very stressful, if anyone else has a same experience plz let me know, I feel like I’m the only one who feels this😢 and the sad thing is I’m only 12 having to deal with this😭
This is so me
This is meee exactlyyy and no you’re not alone🥺We can definitely get through this🤞🏾
@@matidajikineh2154 Thx so much, we got this🥺🤞
If it helps anyone I had a constant fear of death a couple of years ago and it got bad, but I managed to overcome it, so it's not necessarily permanent? I found whenever I found my Brain going to a bad place I just forced myself to mentally sing the chorus of No Scrubs and for some reason that worked, lol
Hahaha I'll try that next time :D "Hanging out the passenger side of his best friend's ride, trying to holler at me!"
Wow genius
Were you in your early 20's?
I'm going to try this now c:
Thanks for this!! 😂
I totally understand the brain fighting itself. I have quite mastered anxiety through years of dealing with it. Nowadays I meditate everyday and that helps a lot
All of us is here for the same thing. My anxiety of death hits me every single second. I went to psychiatrist and they did nothing than talk with me. I am so scared of dying. I’m scared of the pain. I will tell myself “girl you will die now” every single time. i cant even sleep. i’ve been sleeping at 6 am for months now.
Im only 15.
My anxiety is so bad i burst into tears when left alone.
One day ill die and ill never see anything or anyone again.
Ill never love or be loved again.ill die alone and be alone...
I dont know what is beyond death..
You don’t know that
I was going through something similar. I guess there are many factors which contribute to this fear. Like not living a fulfilling a life, you guys are very young and you probably haven't experienced the life yet so it's pretty obvious to feel this way. Even when you die you won't be alone, because everyone is going to die eventually. So why fear the inevitable? And may be your life has got monotonous, but remember situations change. Life has so much to offer. Meditate and set a goal that you wanna complete in this life. What helped me the most is accepting the thought and letting it be there in the background while you go through your daily life. Death is gonna come eventually but you gotta learn to live right now. In this moment.
My mom and I both have trouble talking to strangers. If we are in the store and need to ask where something is we'll usually end up in an argument over whose turn it is to go ask. Also phone calls are the worst. I have to write out everything I want to say, otherwise I panic and leave out basic information like my name. It's so irrational--ironically I do not get stage fright.
+DiKi Same!!! I'm ok with giving presentations but talking to someone one on one- nope. I think it has to do with feeling like I'm invading someone's space & time, which is super silly when it's their job to help me
DiKi I hated phonecalls when I was a kid. At adolescence I was terrified of taking a bus or going to the supermarket. All I can say is the way it got better is facing the fears. Also I got a dog, someone told me it helps improve confidence when walking on the street (it would make me nervous to be alone on the street and also felt like I forgot how to walk and was acting all weird) self conciousness in that way sucks
Loepsie I feel the exact same way all the time. if you read my comment up at the top, it explains it all.
Same as well. I absolutely hate making phone calls such as calling back my work even if I know it's some simple question they want answered. But I can make intercom announcements no problem, gah!
I have the same issues, and I do the same thing, writing out what I need to say before a phone call.
Sometimes I’m just going to sleep and sit and and I’m like, god I’m gonna die one day and start crying, also went through a phase where I would not go to sleep and had a constant racing heart because I was constantly thinking of death 😩
What made me overcome my fear of death is this song:
M.O.P - Dead and Gone
Really focus on the lyrics, it's therapeutic!
My life right there. I'm 31 and I think wow, Least 30% of my life has passed..
That is me since 5 days but we'll try the hardest as we can to get over it if you did ??
A J I found going to sleep with background noise helps to prevent these kind of thoughts before sleeping
I do, too.
I've had death anxiety for about 7 months now, out of nowhere I just started having nightmares and panic attacks just before I go to sleep. I'll go to try and sleep and I'll think about not being around anymore and the idea of infinity and no control over dying, just the fact that you can't stop it and one day I'll just stop. I've had this every single day for the past seven months and genuinely I need it to stop. I haven't been diagnosed with anxiety and I'm 17, it's just insane. I have no idea what to do about it and when I try and tell my mum she just tells me it's because I worry about my family but it's not that at all. I don't know why my brain does this to me it's like it just switches. I've never watched a video that I've related to more except it's my own death more than my families.
If you have someone you trust enough, try talking about your thoughts, fears, and nightmares with me. Sounds really cliche, but talking does help. I’ve had this anxiety my entire life and I didn’t start talking about it til a year ago, but it seriously helped to get these things off my mind.
My brain does that too.
@@idc4163 will try
This fear and anxiety has literally destroyed my life, relationships, and really just myself. It changed who I was and not in a good way. If anyone reading this has started to feel this way recently, get help! Be open and honest with your therapist. If you keep all your thoughts in your head, they’ll only grow. That’s why you need to talk about them when you get them.
This was really brave of you. Thank you for sharing it!
I am so happy that you made this video. I struggle with pretty much the same issues, although my anxiety is about my loved ones getting hurt or sick. At one point I could literally spend 3 hours straight colouring the relaxing colouring books, waiting for my BF to come home from his horse riding trainings that I found dangerous (do I have to mention I ride horses too, on the exact same level? And I have NO problems with MY own trainings. I never fear something could happen to ME.), until my back was so sore from bending upon my desk, that I could not sit anymore. BTW, I also think distraction is the best way possible to handle this. I also can't stand rapid changes, and "spontaneous" parties, trips or whatever have always been a torture for me. Any changes in my set plans drive me mad. The funniest thing is that no one even knows what I am going through, because the only way I can deal with it in front of the others is putting on a "tough girl" mask. Paradoxically, I constantly hear how strong and confident I am. And if I had not been forcing myself to just go out and do things, being a bit of a ruthless "policeman" to myself, if I only allowed myself to give in to my fears, I would never be where I am now.
It's kinda comforting but sad to see so many people feeling something similar to me, it's nice to know you're not the only one struggling with things like this~
I’m 28 and this anxiety just kicked in for me a few weeks ago. It’s so good to know you can all relate. I wish I could go back to not having this. I love you all.
I'm watching in 2019, today I just got this awful feeling in my mind that I'm going to die one day my husband too and my children I start crying out of nowhere and my husband freaks out, and ask why I'm crying I tell him and he says why r you thinking of this. And I said idk I just thought of it. It's super scary when you think of this I'm crying right now because of it thank you so much for sharing. That's why I can't watch any TV series that have end of the world or death, like the walking dead, the 100 ect scares me and my heart hurts everytime.
You are not alone. I'm the same way. I'm 56 and worry about myself dying almost everyday. I've ended up in the ER with panic attack.
What made me overcome my fear of death is this song:
M.O.P - Dead and Gone
Really focus on the lyrics, it's therapeutic!
I am the same way
If you can’t stop it face it there’s no life without death accept what can’t be stopped
You are not alone and are not crazy. I experience all the same things and more ! Stay strong. Thank you for this.
Right now since the Christmas break started, I started to overthink my death and being scared that my life will end... I dont know why but now I am so aware of dying it just makes me so sad. I've also thought of my family dying but when I was about 5-7 which is weird thoughts when you are young. Now I'm 14 but I never ever had this feeling in a long time. The way it effects me is just me imaging it in my head, if I am happy I am not thinking about it but when I go back to my thoughts it comes back and I hate it to the point I was crying so hard.... I have a problem I never told anyone I knew, I always overthink things negatively like something bad is going to happen in a situation I'm in but I still fight my thoughts at this moment and try as hard to forget it(it was so weird that before I used to watch criminal shows, and not being afraid to die but now my thoughts are deep) This video made me feel less lonely about thinking I was the only one....
A J It will Help you if you Seek God..Seek Jesus Christ. If you have " Faith" in Jesus Christ God will Reward you with Eternal life. God Saves Us by his " Grace" through our " Faith" in Jesus Christ. Jesus loves Us and we love Jesus. Read or listen to the King Janes Holy Bible.
me too:(
I have very very similar anxieties to you. Thank you for this video :) It made me feel less alone.
As someone who’s been dealing with this since I was 8, I find that if I think about my death as something I control, usually killing my self, death doesn’t seem as bad because there’s an aspect of control. This is the only thing that’s helped me besides just distracting myself.
I'm laughing....not because it's funny, but because of how this is EXACTLY what I go through and it's comforting to know I'm not the only one.
This is exactly how I feel but for some reason I've become way more emotional than normal. Like if I watch or hear anything touching, sweet, or sensitive I will just burst into tears. I recently watched Arthur (the cartoon) and started crying and I was just so perplexed by it lol
natwixterthan18 : Tender ❤💔. Not really unusual for a woman. Do you write or keep a journal?
I used to but I stopped because I live with a number of people who don't know the meaning of privacy. I've thought about creating a journal on my computer though. I've just been really afraid someone will find it and read it.
Keep it in your car, if you have to : ) Get these things outside you and on paper.......it helps SO much. Also consider making a short story of them...... GOD bless!!!
You're probably right, I will try it. Thank you!
you're not alone! i feel exactly the same.
Everyday when I lay in bed just before I fall asleep I get an anxiety attack. The moment the begin fase begins my head just can’t stop it (even though I am fighting it). My brain starts with randomly thinking about dying. Then my brain is in 10x speed just showing pictures, emotions and the constant feeling of you cannot stop the thing you fear the most. I am thinking how about my life isn’t forever. The moment all those things go trough my head many things can happen. Normally I just go from my lay position to my sit position in the fastest reflection ever. Then I scream/cry to get it out of my head or when It is real worse I scratch my arms or neck (this happends out of my control) and in the worst case I jump out of my bed run to a door or a wall and punch my head with my fist or a wall to get it out. After I got this I just start crying not knowing what to do.
Sorry if my grammar isn’t that good, I am a bit new to English
You explained how I feel perfectly I thought I was alone but it’s kind of comforting in a way that someone else understands
I have aniexty, because I was treated so badly at the hospital last year, I have a feeling of dread most of the time, but I fight on through, exercise is a great help. Fear of death it does happen to everyone. I've such a big fear of it, even though I'm a Christian. The thought of my dad leaving me one day, I just can't even think of that. X
I am only eleven and I always suffer from anxiety it is almost exactly the same but I also get it about me dying too. I often think about how we were brought I to this world and there is nothing we can do about it we have to go through breakups, our family dying and us dying and our life is worthless . I normally have a panic attack or cry sooo much Xxx ❤
struggling really bad with my fear of death lately, came to RUclips to get some free therapy. glad I found you. feel a lot less alone. thank you.
I literally fear of my own death and loved ones. There are times where I lay in bed and think that one day when I die I will literally know nothing, see nothing and remember nothing. And cry for hours
definitely NOT crazy!! i just watched this video and it was the first of yours i have seen and i am definitely going to watch more. i can completely relate i have only extreme panic attacks when i think about death also, i have an extreme fear of death, not just for my family but me too, it's everyone dying that worries me and that it's inevitable and makes me cry i always have done it and would cry at night thinking about it as a little girl, probably like 10 when i noticed it. i hope you have found some coping skills!! and if so do share, i am the only person i know who has this fear and it makes it hard to do life normal and i never talk about it with people, people i love have been dying recently a lot... and i don't have any good coping skills still but still trying to stay composed. blah anyway i really appreciate this video even if it was almost a year ago :P thank you Loepsie!!!
Jadeite Tellurian I Undrrstand. I am Very Sick now. And I have Suffered Alot from.my Sickness. I might have Fatal Familial Insomnia. I have NOT slept in 2 Months. So I Fear " Suffering" More then Dearh. If you Read or listen to the King James Bible especially the New Testament and the Psalms it gives Us Courage and " Faith". We are " Saved" by God's " Grace" through Our " Faith" in Jesus Christ. Jesus Died on the Cross and Rose again to show Us the way to Heaven. I may REALLY be Dying right now. It is the Suffering from this Sickness that Upsets me. But Death is a Relief from Suffering. I wish I had Died of my Uterine Cancer years ago so I would Not have to face this Terrible Sickness. I am having Symptoms I said of Fatal Familial Insomnia. And there is NO Cure. I am having Anxiety just dealing with this Strange Sickness. I Question " WHY" God allowed me to get this. But that is part of being Human, we keep questioning things. Pain, Physical and Emotional PAIN is Horrible. God says that " Perfect love Casts Out Fear". Yes God's Perfect love. Also it Costs money to get certain Hospital tests my Health Insurance does Not cover all. I am a Women and I HATE to have Fears about my Possible Terminal Terrible Illness. I wish I can find a Support Group to discuss Fears about maybe having Fatal Familial Insomnia or other Terminal things. Like my Dear Friend said he Feared Suffering from his Terminal Illness. He said he did NOT Fear Death But he did Believe in God! I only have 1 Friend who I Realky Opened up this about. This Fatal Familial Insomnia is Hard to prove. By the time you can prove you have it your TOO Weak to get Help. There is No Cure for FFI. I am just in Shock that I may have this. One Day God in Heaven or Jesus Christ can explain WHY I got an Terrible Illness that causes Great Suffering. I am Not afraid to Die! I am Afraid to Suffer from this Terrible Illness. So MANY Go through Fears Secretly toi when their Sick or Dying. There must be some Deeper Meaning for Our Suffering. Some People Die Quick so do NOT Dwell on it. I would say try to Prepare for your own or loved ones Death. This was my Mistake. I did Not prepare for my Mom or my Death. I should have started getting my House and my Mom's House in order Many Years ago. Now I am Overwhelmed. Thanks for listening. Seeing this Video and reading your Comments helps. Thanks.
I recently started feeling like this and it’s every day and when I think about dying I freak out and I wanna cry, it’s soo uncomfortable I want it to stop. I’ve been having constant anxiety I hate it
are you okay now ?
recently I was robbed and that triggered anxiety. I can't be alone at home that it starts. Your video helped me a lot! it's really brave of you talk about it!Kisses from Brazil
I feel exactly the same way and I thought I was crazy. I’m sooo glad you shared this!! Thank you and I hope its gotten better for you!!
Wow you’re just like me 😂 I’m so happy that I found someone like you cause I thought I was the only oneee. 😔
I feel the same, the fear is very intense. Thanks for sharing
Bless you! I have the same fear...and also deal with anxiety and panic attacks. My symptoms have been hot flashes, tingling, dizzy, vomiting and sweating....it feels like DEATH. You are definitely not alone!! ((Hugs))
Ever since my panic attacks, it’s been a huge fear. It worries me to the point where I get no sleep. The doctors tell me everything is fine, and I believe them because I survive everyday. It’s just when my anxiety symptoms kick in, I think negative. Getting rest helps cure, but I can’t get it together. I got it together a few times, but when symptoms kick in, it starts to happen.
I have congestive heart failure.. my heart skips a beat or stalls frequently nowadays. I’ve done well to follow doctors medical advice and take my medications. Even so, my heart has stopped several times; suddenly and unexpected.
Every time my heart skips a beat or my blood pressure drops I panic.
I’m terrified because death is constant lingering over me.. 😭
Hi.. How are you now? I hope you’re ok.. did your heart got better?
I have this too... I feel so much better im not alone ... 💜
What made me overcome my fear of death is this song:
M.O.P - Dead and Gone
Really focus on the lyrics, it's therapeutic!
This is my life everyday. I try to pray to God to heal me. Some days are terrible. Some days are manageable. I feel as if I'm going to manifest it sooner supposed to. :(
No you won’t!!! You a warrior!!! Rise up
Mi’Angel Love I’m free from death anxiety! I gave it all to God in January and he delivered me. Prayers to everyone suffering with this. You don’t have to live with it.
The problem is that I can't get used to it every time is like.."this is the time, i will die now"
I also have anxiety and your description sounds very familiar. It feels like I'm suffocating and like I just can't live. For me it's usually not about death but more about having to deal with some impossible situations or everything going somehow horribly wrong. Sometimes my fears are somewhat real, sometimes not so much.
+Hollowkatri That sounds familiar. I can imagine the worst case scenario for any situation in a split second, haha! Let's think of it as a remarkable skill ;) We should work in security 😂
Hollowkatri me too!
No one can survive or escape death. Once you accept that, you will be at peace.
Remember, this is a cold world where innocent people are constantly suffering, dying, murdered or tortured.
One advantage of death is that you will never suffer from this cruel world. You have escaped it and are now in an eternal sleep of beautiful peace.
Dr Gong Shank Tha Chef There’s no peace in a scenario where you have no consciousness. Coma patients aren’t at peace. Peace is a state of being and you can’t have that if you don’t exist or likewise can’t experience it. Death will be like how it was before you were born. Absolute nothingness to the point where you can’t even give it a tangible name like “nothingness”. Terrifying but I guess recently I’ve been telling myself I’ve technically been dead or know that life existed before I did and died all the same. Which brings up the question. After the present you is finally gone. What’s to say a new life, from an ant to alien, doesn’t start with you in the driver’s seat. Am I to be so narcissistic as to believe my “soul” is truly unique and everything will end forever bc this life has ended? Idk personally. I like the idea that while it may not be the same soul. When you see your last sights, new sights with no connection or knowledge of before that occur. The state of simply being is to exist so what’s to say we won’t be something else immediately.
@@kevinmadigan4479
But I felt at peace before I was born.
No inconvenience, just resting in an empty void of non-existence...
Dr Gong Shank Tha Chef You’re entitled to have that self affiliated opinion. And if that’s helps you cope I hope that it works in comforting you. Fact is, however, “feeling” is born from existence and you can’t feel without existing. Sleeping is generally a state of peace. You relax your body and you experience the peace of it and feels the effects of it when you wake up. Death isn’t peace bc you will not experience anything. No relaxation or stress. Pain or pleasure. (This is my opinion as well but I believe it has plausible scientific explanation). At the end I just hope it’s peaceful slipping into that nothingness. Maybe dying is peaceful but I just can’t force myself to believe death itself is.
@@kevinmadigan4479
I respect your opinion
I just believe death is peaceful because peace means no suffering to me, just resting in non-existence forever...
@@kevinmadigan4479
I hope your beliefs work for you too
Lately ive been experiencing different types of anxiety. An lately ive been terrified of death. My death, or loved ones. Terrified. I do almost the same thing as you.. I start by thinking of someone inna good or way or just a normal way an then my mind just like flips a switch and starts thinking of what if i got a call telling me someone i love died or is fixing to die. You know when u get nervous and you get "butterflies" in ur stomach? I get those in my chest an heart and it gets to a pretty intense feeling and then my arms start tingling and i start breathing hard and start crying from thinking of it and then it feels like my heart is slowly coming out of my chest. And then i freak out thinking im having a heart attack. And i know people are gonna die its apart of life but that dont make it any better for me. And then i start thinking about how one day you are here and the next ur just gone. Complete darkness and a feeling overcomes my body and mind and makes me panic. Im terrified of dying i dont want to die i dont want the people i love to die and knowing that everyday that passes is just another day towards the day i loose someone i love or the day i die it makes me feel like its pointless. I also get freaked out of what happens after. Whether its forever darkness, or theres a burning hell with unimaginable pain that lasts forever, or if theres a forever peace. Its terrifying.
I have the same feeling it started few days ago but I didnt know why. I just started overthink what if I die or what will happen to my family. It is a hard situation but we'll get through it , think positive💖
I have had death anxiety ever since I was a little child and now, in my 20s, I just lost my uncle. And on top of my "I am going to disappear, I am not going to exist, I will die and all my loved ones will die." I now have the grief of my uncle's death which I think my partner, who I live with, expected to have been a passing thing. But at this point I don't even want to talk to him, to let him touch me or to be near anyone because the death anxiety is growing much stronger and my uncle's death won't leave my head. The fact that I lost someone and one day it will be me and I will slowly lose everyone I love and I am not even in the same country and couldn't be there for my family.
I just feel like running from everything.
Really wish medication would be doing something. It isn't helping much.
Sorry for the ramble, writing about it helps, so I ended up writing way too much.
Thank you so much for sharing this! People (including my family) still don't quite understand anxiety or how it affects emotionally sensitive people. This type of anxiety is very similar to what I struggle with, but sometimes I worry more about having a serious disease or dying myself. Would you loop that into this type of anxiety or something different?
Transformations Artistry i have the same as this
I watched "five feet apart" which is an amazing movie and there was one part were it said something like, death is like birth you don't know what's going to happen. So when we were in the womb we had no idea what was going to go on and its the same with death, it could lead to another life!
Guys if youre scared of what'll happen after death, read this.
Okay, so just so you know, you aren't alone. I am terrifyed about everything that has to do with death, and I am in one of my calmer states right now and not having a panic attack so I will try to make others feel better right now. This will be me ranting about why you shouldn't be scared of death even though I am.
Nobody really knows what will happen, but my theory is that there is reincarnation. One reason why I think this is because our universe is too complex to have nothingness after death. Also, it is called the Circle of Life for a reason. I know that plants come back to life if they die, so I assume that we might also. And once our universe ends, it'll have a Big Bang all over again! Our universe is just so so so so so complex it is hard to know. And even if there is nothing, there are THOUSANDS of people who couldn't describe how amazing it was to be dead. Many of those people actually wished that they would continue to have not been alive. There is also a good chance of something similar to heaven. I am not saying that there is some dude sitting up there controlling everything, but there might be an afterlife. I know that death sounds scary, but think about it. Dying is overall a scary sounding word. ALSO THIS IS A BIG ONE, WE WERE NOT ALIVE BEFORE WE WERE BORN, SO IT OBVIOUSLY WASN"T THAT BAD!!!
If you still dont feel good, then I can talk with you in the reply section.
Wow. I just want to say to everyone here thanks so much for sharing. I felt so alone growing up with this fears and no one understanding. I truly felt like a freak.
At 17 I was fobbed off by a doctor who I went to see for complicated grief, anxiety and depression and labelled me as selfish and said if I was her daughter she would of thrown me out by now. So I continued struggling alone.
I got some help eventually and started coping quite well until my dad was murdered last year, I’m struggling but somehow getting through the days.
Your comments and this video made me cry. I wish you all the best. It’s awful but we’re in this together.
I have beliefs as I’ve had what I’d call spiritual experiences but I still get scared so I think it’s just anxiety not that we are faulty or stupid or wrong.
So much love to you all 😪❤️
Super dapper dat je hier zo open over praat! Je bent sowieso niet 'gek', ieder brein heeft zo zijn eigenaardige dingen :)
Als psychologiestudent vind ik het altijd vreselijk om mensen hun 'horrorervaringen' met psychologen te horen, en dit is ook weer zoiets... Van een uitspraak als "I think you're way too happy to be here", krijg ik echt kippenvel! Het klinkt alsof je jezelf veel hebt aangeleerd om het onder controle te houden, en dat is super. Ik hoop dat die nare ervaring uit het verleden je in de toekomst niet zal tegenhouden om hulp te zoeken wanneer het evt. wel nodig is! (Laten we ook vooral hopen dat het niet nodig zal zijn, of laten we stiekem hopen dat je er ooit gewoon helemaal van verlost raakt ^_^)
Also, ik begrijp compleet wat je zegt over niet 'het systeem' in willen gaan en een label krijgen. Dat is ook het grootste probleem dat ik heb met de moderne GGZ in Nederland. Je gaat erin, krijgt een diagnose opgeplakt en de therapeut zoekt in de DSM welke behandeling daarbij hoort. Maar die diagnose kan er bij jou heel anders uitzien als bij een ander (kijk naar alle vragen over verschillende soorten anxiety die je kreeg, maar die totaal geen betrekking hebben op jou), en daar wordt volgens mij te weinig rekening mee gehouden, met name omdat elke patiënt zo snel mogelijk genezen moet zijn van de verzekeraars. (Ugh, als ik hier eenmaal over begin kan ik uren doorgaan...)
Anyway, ik vind het cool dat je deze video gemaakt hebt! Liefs!
I want a collab between you & Annika Victoria , you guys look so much alike!!!
I have had the same fear since I was five years old, and I remember crying to my parents at night telling them I'm scared. I have never spoken to anyone about this, because even when I was a kid, I used to tell myself that everybody dies, so it's inevitable. I just need to remember that I love them.
Lucy, I have always found you very relatable, but this video was really touching. It felt good to know there are people going through the same things, having the same thoughts, and this is a good way to help each other out.
Thank you for being so unique, yet so generally relatable. I'm glad to have subscribed to your channel several years ago. All your videos are worth a watch.
Keep doing what you're doing!
Lots of love. :)
You are not alone! I totally sympathise with your fear of death and your situational anxiety! I get this when I get thrown into a social setting unexpectedly (I just forget how to even do small talk sometimes). Interviews and first dates suck for me because I sometimes freeze and blank, so I'll get anxiety anticipating the anxiety that I think I will experience when I need to do these things. I don't think I have SA generally speaking, but there are a couple of things that put me on edge and cause these similar feelings. It's all getting better as I get older -- less and less. Thanks for sharing. Love from the Pacific Northwest of Washington State!
I'm only 12! And I'm scared of death and possesion and lots of other stuff plz help
Could you share the physical exercises? Thanks for sharing your experience and you/we are not crazy. Sorry I wrote many comments, I commented while watching to not forget
This Video You did Makes Me so Happy because I thought I was the only one . But Mine is Worrying about My kids which throw me into anxiety & panic attacks. Thank You So Much for Sharing this Means so much to Me . You dont even know so thank you again ❤
Oh man. I get the same thing! And I have children. So I get the worst images of what the worst that could happen if I lost them or any of my other family, even my pets. Hang in there! It’s the worst.
What made me overcome my fear of death is this song:
M.O.P - Dead and Gone
Really focus on the lyrics, it's therapeutic!
loepsie u r best
You literally explained my panic attacks all my attacks are based around this. I found this just by cooking in my kitchen with music and then full blown crying and fearing death...
I've been feeling this way for the past month now. But, my parents told me I shouldn't be worrying about death. And I still have a bright future up head of me. I'm going to the doctors soon. If they knew there was something wrong with me, they would have taking me to the doctors immediately. I hope I can be happy, smiling, laughing and goofy again like how I was before
I've had terrible social anxiety pretty much all my life. What hurts most is when I opened up to people in my life about it in an attempt to let them to understand my behavior, they just don't get it. I don't blame them because they don't issues with any type of anxiety, but when I have an episode they're just not empathetic or seem to try to be at all. They tell me even though I have social anxiety I had no reason to have that kind of response which really isn't helpful. They basically just give a response along the lines of,"get over it-it's not that hard". The only person who didn't make me feel bad about how I acted was someone who also had social anxiety.
That was liberating to listen. I feel that since I was a little girl and so understood by what you just shared. I have lost many loved ones lately and can tell you (taking the positive), that this previous stress helped me to be more serene once it really happened. Psychologists help, but family for me was the key to feel better gradually.
Anxiety is horrible, my mom got scared sometimes while I had a crisis but knew the right words to soothe as most moms do, she passed away recently and I miss her dearly. Strangely, this experience has left me feeling stronger and more able to front face difficulties, as my mom was one of the people I was most scared to loose.
Seeing I’m not the only one constantly anxious and thinking about this makes me feel a little bit better. ❤️ I hope I can get through this and just stop overthinking... because it’s been months now and I’m tired.
“Don’t let the sadness of your past and the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present.”
Dear Lucy, first of all - I've been battling with anxiety and panic attacks myself for years, and I think it's very brave of you to be so open about it. Your story sounds a lot like mine! However, you don't have anxiety under control - it rather controls you. I do 100% respect your way and choices in dealing with your symptoms, since I know how hard it can be, although I think that alone without pofessional help, we often don't get past dealing with the symptoms, rather than getting to the source. And trust me, there IS a source! You might not see it yet, but once it's found it will feel like the most obvious thing ever. I feel like a lot of people don't realise that anxiety CAN actually be cured, and handled very well when treated in therapy. Even if you need to find the RIGHT one for YOU, since it's a very personal and sometimes very vulnerable thing to talk about it - please don't suffer if you wouldn't need to (exept maybe you need to - not in the sense of beeing an attention whore, but maybe needing it to get the attention and care you actually deserve and wouldn't get without it!) Therapists apparently are sometimes very hesitant when it comes to diagnosing teenagers (pretty much the same happened to me, and the second try in my early twenties with a different therapist brought the actual breakthrough) Take care, Lucy, and please don't settle with your anxiety because you think no one will help you - you are NOT alone, and you WILL shake this, even if it takes a fight!
Ok here’s the thing... Like most people, I am not scared of dying but I’m scared of what happens after I die. It’s like I want to exist after my death but I don’t want live forever. I always wonder why I was created just to die but then I’m glad I get this chance to live. I feel so conflicted. I mean who would want to live forever and who would want to die. Every time I think about death, my heart drops and then I have this empty feeling inside me. I also feel like we can be reincarnated because I can’t help but think that maybe I had another life. I know it sounds crazy but I can just feel it. Or maybe we actually go to heaven and we are finally at peace with our family and friends but we would still exist in a way and I don’t want to exist. Or maybe after we die, there is just darkness and we won’t know we are dead because our consciousness would be gone. That’s what scares me the most. It’s like I want to exist and I don’t want to exist. I’ve been obsessing over this lately and it’s giving me anxiety, I never knew I had. When I was younger I used to not give a care about death, thinking “oh I can’t wait to be in heaven with my family when I die.” I’m 13 now and I became more aware of death and lately it’s all I’ve been thinking about. I know I’m 13 and I know should be living my childhood while it lasts because after your an adult time goes by fast but that doesn’t really help my case. I’m almost 14 and I feel like I’m getting closer to death. And if I’m not obsessing over what happens after I die then I’m obsessing over the fact that my family members are going to die one day. I think about how I’m going to continue on with my life after my family dies. I feel like after my family dies then I will never be able just to continue on with my life. Everyone is like “they are in better place now” but I can’t live without my family. I know I’m 13 and I shouldn’t be thinking about something that is inevitable but I can’t be at peace with death until I know what happens after death. So here I am, commenting this, thinking maybe someone can help me be at peace with death. Until then I will try to distract myself with school work or talking to my friends and family, but in the back of my head I’m going to be thinking about the inevitable.