A man and his social media!
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- Опубликовано: 5 окт 2024
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Probably the most HONEST and humble dating coach out here.
he's not only a dating coach, he's a WHOLE life style!
Yep
Facts
A man and his phone in general! Hiding it, face down, taking it to the bathroom, in his pocket, on Do not Disturb! Let me count the ways... a mess! A grown boy mess!
Yes going through it now
All..the...damn...time.... and went through this with multiple men in past dating!!!
Hahaha!
Yes…. all’at foolishness sis!
@@ShinySilverBunny goshhhh....I give up!!!
“If you want to cheat, if you want sleep ‘round, then just be single, and that way you just got to answer to God.” TG
Married men sleep around more then single men
I'm also gonna add just get a roommate and be secure without that, because most men are married for the benefits of not having to do it all on their own. SMH!
Amen!
I deleted my Facebook and never post on IG. The man I date and marry won't have a social media. Social media is for folks who like to look and keep their options open!!
You live in la la land. Ger ur cats because every man has social media
@@LA-wv7gf agreed 👍 I do have a backup Facebook but I don't even use it hardly anymore. I was using it for private financial and health groups only.... didn't think it was worth mentioning... but anyway yes I can look them up if needed and I'm no stranger to background checks either. I will say also I have so much more peace since I left it. Facebook is extremely toxic and a distraction to a fulfilling life in reality. Social Media is a breeding ground for Narcissists. The kind of man I'm expecting to come in my life is all about running his business because a grown man doesn't mess with Social media. They are too busy cutting deals with clients and making profit than wasting time looking at pics. Seriously I think those platforms are for adult children. If he's on there I'd be less likely to date him TBH because a real man is about his business.
@@Kareena1988 why?? Because you are the type of boy trolling womens social media... sorry to disappoint you young man but you are not the target. Go focus on yourself and stop acting so feminized and trolling women in comments it's very unattractive and immature. Not very exciting.
In the 21st century, many men along with many women do use social media for productive work -- so, a man who has no social media may be at a disadvantage in providing for his family. I would not be with a man who demanded I shut all my social media down, because he would be messing with income and advancement coming to the family over his insecurities.
The key is, get the skills to ASSESS a man's usage of social media -- you see foolishness, you block, delete and move on, but don't insist a man cut off a powerful source of connections and income.
@@ShinySilverBunny stupid. Im a woman.
Gaslighting is so real, and a red flag you have an immature man who isn't ready for a relationship.
A man will just get a woman who is “confident” or okay with it instead of maturing and being respectful and stopping.
I don't think they want a confident woman because that's too much for them. They want a full blown dummy
They want someone who wants them more and sees them as the sole prize, because then she’ll put up with anything.
And my bf tells me if I get any plastic surgery he will leave me but then he is liking all these booty pictures n following strippers you can never win. Men claim to hate women like that but be secretly lusting over them I just can’t with this society anymore.
girl, if you listen to society you will go crazy. so many double standards and hypocrites. can't please um
How long will you put up with this Sis?
right
He don’t want you to look good for other men. Then he gotta step it up because men and gonna be ON YOU!! Sounds like a manipulator be careful sis. Pay attention to his actions and not words
Facts !!! My ex is messing with the type of women he would always say was fake and do too much . I’m natural and wear natural /light make up and lashes when I do . He went for the total opposite that he claimed he didn’t like . Not natural hair , very long lashes and lots of make /beat face . ( not saying anything is wrong with it but I’m just the complete opposite and he claimed he didn’t like women who beat their face everyday and wear long eye lashes )
I'll never deal with a man without sexual self control again. Tony isn't lying.
"if you just want sex, then stay single".
Nothing more succinct than that. Don't be expecting someone else to cook, clean, and do everything else for you just because you don't want to be bothered with growing up and taking care of your own self.
There is nothing sexier than someone who can own their own life, and have enough left over to be with another person on a deeper level.
He was "liking" everything else that was not her. Sheesh, this hit. Remember feeling this way that I wasn't enough for him.
@@LA-wv7gf oh my goodness! Glad to hear that you caught yourself knowing your worth sis!
@@LA-wv7gf My ex husband did it that's why hes my ex thank Jesus he trying his best to come back ,but I dont want him back so he cant come back ever he made me feel so ugly ,Glad I have the strength to walk away.
Anytime a man say he don't care if she do it he lying he just don't care about you enough to stop doing what he doing and is trying to justify what he does. If it was the woman he would go crazy and might even try to kill you especially when he didn't expect that behavior from you.
Right.... Can dish but can't take it !!!
I just ended a relationship because of social media 🙃
Im sorry to hear that. Ive ended 2 relationships because of social media. People must have some level of respect. You will find some one else that will value you.
I just ended a long term relationship over this. He has nothing but only fans girls on his ig, Twitter only follows pornstars and only fans, Tik Tok majority is thirst trap videos booty shaking talking about how they like sex. He REFUSED to stop. So he basically chose a bunch of women that probably don’t even know he exists over the one women that is faithful yo him an respects him at all times 🤷🏽♀️. An I’m sitting here crying wondering why I had to actually leave someone who I love who o thought was my best friend over something like this. It really does mess with your mind.
@My Vlogs yes my ex would get angry when I would bring it up too. An I wouldn’t even fuss I would just try to explain to him how it was making me feel an how it wasn’t right. His response was “get over it” this last conversation and when I started to cry because I couldn’t believe he said that he started mocking me crying. Which made me immediately stop, an I just didn’t say another word. I hung up the phone an blocked him an that’s it.
Yup this stuff adds up over time. Divorce Fuel.
You dodged a major bullet. Thank God you saw his truth before you got married or has kids by him!!!
I left an older man who was like that. Take this as an example of how men will always be looking around at other women and will never have enough. I am 26 the man I was dating was 45 .....you would think that because Im younger than him, he would have been more mature or there would be some sort of willingness to be respectful...Boy was I wrong. I went through his like history on tiktok and all of these videos of women in bikins shaking their ass. Something wasnt adding up so I checked his search history and all the porn he was into was of older women...even his porn search was “older women”....we will never be enough since men cant never get enough. They get a younger woman, theyll cheat with on her with an older woman...they get the older woman, they’ll cheat on her with the younger. Im realizing men will never be monogamous...even if they are physically “monogamous” through their eyes they wont. They will still look at other women regardless. Ive come to the conclusion that men will only love what we do for them not love us. Take out sex, food, cooking, looking pretty for them, or even catering for them out of the equation lets see how many will still stay.
🥳celebrate. God showed u,he's trash. never deserved u👸. that's why he didn't treat u right. it happened to me too im abstinent til marriage bc these grown boys are degenerate & i need to stay laser focused
This is like 96% of men sadly. Thanks for the talk Tony
I agree a 100% ,this ain't no simp ish,I tell brothers all the time,you want multiple women,just be single,less trouble,simple as that,and also if u do cheat,be ready for it to come back to,and trust me brothers,we can't take it when its our turn
As usual the blatant truth from Mr Gaskins… good work Tony!!!
My ex used to do the same thing. I stayed so long hoping he would change. Ladies don’t waste time with a man who doesn’t respect and honor you. Now I use my books and RUclips channel to help other women. Great video Tony.
These men use their FB etc.. to have women on stand by. When their mad with who their with they jump in your inbox. But it's all up to women to shut it down and stop grinning because a man show you attention because you are not the only one. These men be married or in relationships with their women as a profile and still be disrespectful. I feel like if your in a serious relationship both parties need to come off social media and use your energy in real life to work on y'all
Delete and block
This comment is straight facts!
@@stilljocelyn4166 Thank you
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I've had some message me with their wives/girlfriends booed all up in the pics together. I laugh because they are just showing me how low down and dirty they are. If they do that to their wives/girlfriends then what makes me think they won't do it to me. Just pathetic and if their women only knew. Sadly in many cases the women do know.
When they say you "insecure" thats to get you to back down....because who wants to be called insecure....stay on him....he doing something.................. INSECURE = INTUITION .....IJS
I chose to stay single for the whole year again.. My life changed tremendously.. I've realized what I want for my future, career wise and where I want to stay forever without having to stress about a boyfriend that will leave me in a few months..
It's a blessing to be single.. No doubt.. The one will come at the right time when I got my stuff together. I'm only 22 I need to be selfish with my years right now
These comments and this video is a reminder of why I am happy being just me, myself and I !
If you want to be a player, just be single. THAT PART👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾!!!
Social media is a drug for a lot of these men. They are some sad cases.
This IS a serious problem. Do NOT let him tell you you’re tripping. My man was doing that to other women and that opened it up to him cheating. So I did it to get him back. Other dudes slide right into my DMs with a quickness and make it easy for me to cheat with no effort on my part. See how that jumps off? Even my man’s friends were trying to get at me because they saw what he was doing. So check your dude if he thinks he can try you as you see it. It will get out of control like a fire and everyone involved will add fuel. The is the truest thing I’ve ever seen of RUclips 💯
I hope you mean ex-man at this point. Because cheating or giving your body to a man who doesn’t invest in you by marrying you is just as problematic as a man cheating on you.
Your timing is creepy but thankful for it 😂
That's God 🙌🏽🙏🏽
Tony has another video about men and their social media. Check it out sis.
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Exactly! God’s timing!
Tony works for the Lordt!
i just stopped dating a man for consistently posting other women on his story. he tried to make me seem very insecure for caring, but any reasonable person would find his lusting innapropriate. ready to build my confidence back.
That's why I broke up with someone who was doing this after 2 months. Most guys are just disgusting and jealous of women.
It's true it's gotta come from a weird competition and need to control women.
This was good!! Vet those social media accounts early and fast. My ex was a whole mess. On all the apps, stayed on social media allllllllllll the time, and would flat foot argue with women in comments on IG and Twitter. You can learn a lot about the mindset of a man from his social media activity.
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Not the arguing with women in the comments 🤭🤭🤣🤣 oh lorddd
Social media makes me question my sanity. Thanks for putting this out there.
If leveling the playing field was a person 🙌🏾🤙🏾🙏🏾
I'm soo glad this is coming from a MAN as this is EXACTLY what I've been saying! They know EXACTLY what they are doing! It's not so much about being insecure; it's about RESPECT! Those "likes" can and do turn into linkups. And what gets me is that they will like all these other women pictures, but as soon as you post a picture there's no like.🤔
Tell them Tony, cheating is for insecure immature males.
You betta know it is !!!!
A man reaps what he sows Tonyyyyyy! Dishonesty for dishonesty. You’re speaking facts ✔️
Thank you lol . The fact I ever had to have a conversation with my ex about why I was not pleased he was liking his ex’s thirst traps among other former classmates blows my mind . But yet if I were to post anything remotely similar im a “ thot “ LOL make it make sense .
He was trying to keep you from being seen by other men too. He wanted to keep you off to the side while liking all the women out front. Men know what draws men, and they want their cake and to be able to eat it too.
Tony is so right “She is someone’s daughter”! I have said this to someone to make it hit home to what he was playing at.
Self control and self discipline. Preach Tony!
Yes my fiancé is CONSTANTLY on ig liking other women’s photos, following them etc. He doesn’t like any of my photos. The women he likes and follows are the opposite of me. They have their bodies done, extensions, tats, extra everything not me. I don’t understand it. When I ask him why, he says that’s what ig is for...liking photos and I’m being extra. It makes me feel less desirable to him all the time. I’m in shape, no kids, make my own money, I’m just not enough for him.
I understand and went through the same emotions.
@@purposedpatience6597 I’m sorry to hear that. I don’t understand why they treat us that way
I don't understand.... Why are you calling this dude your fiancé and he's lusting after booty in your face. You must be really depressed or have low self esteem. He doesn't respect you or love you.
He already setting the stage for what you'll have to deal with, and marriage isn't going to change that.
It isn't that you aren't enough. If he's disrespecting you like that, then the void is within him, not within you.
You hit it spot on Tony. Its alarming how many men are delusional thinking there is always someone better out there for them and the fear of missing out is real when in reality, they should be focusing on the people in front of them, look in the mirror and bringing themselves back to planet earth. It also shows a huge level of immaturity and lack of respect for a girlfriend/wife's feelingsZ
folks lack respect nowadays and it’s very unfortunate. Thank you for sharing
A lot of people are gonna reject this because they know it’s truth and a lot of times want to live a double standard. Well said Tony! 👏🏽👏🏽 But this message truly requires maturity to be received.
Oh boyyyy. I took a two year sabbatical from social media and I’m newly divorced. I do not look forward to the new new dating.
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try to remain positive. i hope it works out for you!!
@@MsChantae Thank you!
The guy I was talking to but not anymore, refused to come off social media. Glad I'm nomore with him. Plus he was liking other female pics, i found out and questioned him about it, his response was that 'there were just friends' Oh please! He think he talking to a 2 year old. 😂🤭
Talk about it TG like I said they don’t want to accept accountability period 🤔
Social media really affects relationships 😔
Face-only pictures are just as bad…..it makes you feel like that guy could like her romantically. Ugh. Especially if it’s consistent. Like dude, you like ALL her pictures?! Are you waiting for her to post?? 😤😤
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1.) and yes, hurts when the girls don’t look like you.
2.) Hurts if he doesn’t even like your pictures as well
I hate when guys say “social media doesn’t matter.” It really does, unfortunately
Yep, had an ex who not only had half-naked celebrities on his phone lock-screen, but even had his mom saying I was being insecure. 👎🏾
I divorced my ex for this exact reason. Preach Tony!!🙌🏽🙌🏽
Tony continues to make it all the way plain!! I receive this word ✍🏼 🔥
Same, sis!
So true, either they're cheating with her, want to cheat with her, or used to deal with her
The woman in the picture is also someone's wife/girlfriend. A cycle continues...
Finally some truth from a man of god !
Hope you had a great Father’s Day Tony!
Appreciate the wisdom.
Needed this. Going through it as this plays and he shares the photos with his friends to get their input. Deeply hurt right now.
Wow! My situation is Identical to yours. Scary! We’ve been married for 12 years now.
@@SheliyahShalom Then he flips it on me and tells me that I’m always looking for a reason to be upset with him. I’m so mentally and emotionally drained. It’s taking an affect on my health. I’m so sorry about what you’re dealing with as well. I know it hurts terribly.
@Coach GloriAnn I keep wondering am I insecure or expecting too much out of men these days because so many seem to do what he’s doing! He thinks because he proposed, that should be enough to show me how serious he is about “only wanting me!”
@@Shonda_Fit_Vegan If you allow him to treat you in a way that makes you feel drained and sad, then sweetheart you're teaching him that him proposing marriage to you IS enough to keep you around.
Tony I ran across this video, thank God! I had this conversation with LDR boyfriend. He is just playing games with me. He needs his so called ego boosted from his so called opposite friend where he lives now, love hearts, comments etc….. this is very eye opening for me! Thank you!
I believe I dodged a bullet . I was dealing with a guy in and off for a year hoping I got picked to be his girl . Well he picked another girl . Confronted him for leading me on (I honestly wasted my own time )and he put his hands on me . Fast forward a month later I see he is on social media not posting her and following lots of naked women . I’ve always told him he has ways of cheater but couldn’t call him one cause we weren’t together . Idc what nobody says .. you following naked women in a relationship is a form of cheating cause if you had the opportunity to sleep with them you would . GOD protected me.
Best Relationship Coach in the World! Period 👏🏽👏🏽
Feminine divine is protected so stay strong ladies and stay single!!! F these men. Not worth it. Life is too good. Just let all their toxic drama go.
Tony you are absolutely right, I treat social media just like real life, If I don’t speak to you outside Facebook, we are not going to be friends on Facebook. It’s just that simple, I’m not going to have you seeing what I may be posting online. I don’t even talk to men on no social media site, that’s a rule I made for myself, and still consider that to be online dating. If I have not met you in the flesh then you are out of luck.
@@LA-wv7gf appreciate that love, I’m just so tired of the drama with these incomplete men, who were raised, but wasn’t taught anything, or most likely were taught and just choose to be the way they are. I’m sick of it to the core, it’s now time for us as women to take a stand and build stronger bonds with one another instead of hating one another. There’s a younger generation of women coming up under us, and they are going to need US as women to teach them not mislead them, not be weak in front of them, God is stirring something up, I can’t reveal it all right now, but it will come to light.
I'm here for tea. Speak on it TG
Thank you Brother Gaskin this really gave me clarity. I went through this before and I’m over it now. I was able to move pass it. I told the guy to move on with his life and wish him the best. I couldn’t tell him the reason I really locked him off but what you said was the reason why.
Get yourself together....its called discipline.
Thank you!!! My ex and his weird ass momma used to say I was insecure for telling him I felt uncomfortable and did not like the fact he was liking half naked female pictures… he also said he wouldn’t care if I liked naked guys pictures 😐 moral of the story left his nasty ass biggest blessing ever!
Wtf his mom backed him up!? He's married to his mom.i had the same thing.dump his ass. They can't handle it if the roles were reversed
Omg I dealt with the same thing for 8 months.
He would tell his mom about how I would get jealous because he followed thirst traps on IG and watched porn and his mom would be like, "I don't understand why she's like that. I'm sure you treat her better than any guy she's been with"
The whole relationship I was constantly being gaslighted and told I had insecurity issues and to work on them because if we can't have trust then we can't have anything at all.
Eventually he dumped me because he said I was too much work.
He wanted to marry me and would make all these promises yet he couldn't stop engaging in behavior that was jeopardizing our relationship.
@@lisadev7563 ughhhhh, that's absolutely disgusting. It means he didn't want to marry you. These little boys think they want what they want come up but they don't know how to show up properly to get what they want. And a lot of times they are raised by baby boomer moms who dealt with their husbands cheating left and right on them and doing the same thing so they think it's just a woman's job to deal with that kind of behavior. Easiest way to know whether something is right or wrong is just roll reverse, see how quickly boundaries come up.
@@kristabistaify His mom still kept her ex husband and ex girlfriend around. I'd find it kind of weird how both would come to the house like nothing. I thought to myself is this normal behavior?
She even had another ex husband who is married now and my ex told me about how that guy was in the hospital and she wanted to visit him but she was afraid of what his wife would think and he said he even encouraged her because he didn't see how there was anything wrong with that.
I was like, "Are you fucking kidding me? Why should your mom's feelings matter more than his wife! That marriage ended over 20 years ago she has absolutely no fucking business getting in contact with him"
Heck, this ex was even close friends with his best friends baby mama and tried to justify it all the time yet would complain about how his best friend would always try to impress every girl he dates.
I could go on about all the crap I put up with but I was love bombed and manipulated so much I thought I was the one with the problem.
But i feel relieved knowing I'm not crazy.
They having socialmediaships no real connections just friends with benefitships
There are books and programs that tell you how all of this works. Some people wanna call you a conspiracy theorist. I have over 8,000 books and quite a few of them are about how social media works. Whew people! 😌
My ex husband would never add me on his social media! Should have seen the signs... ☹😞
Be blessed!!!
PREACH it louder uncle Gaskins.🗣️📢
This right on, Tony!! I have had this experience wirh a few men and I am not with them now, I had enough! Thank you for speaking to this! 🏵️
You're a blessing to us Tony . Your legacy will forever live on! God bless you and your wonderful family.
A playground for grown boys...💯😏😒
Yes, flip the script 😳. You in there.
K michelle say it right All these men dont know nothing bout love one woman is never is enough.
Very true insight brother G. Something that we need to keep in our minds as men on social media
Confirmation, Confirmation! Life Coach Extraordinaire always speaking facts. Stay Blessed! 🙏🏼
Thank you for your channel Tony, watching your videos over the past 3 years raised my standards so much and helped me to see that I used to accept so much trash behavior in my last relationships
Men need to wake up and stop treating women like object's, as you said if they're going to be in women's DM and like women's pics and watch porn etc..be alone stop wasting good women time!
Some men are really just meant to be single. Women just need to recognize the red flags early and stop enabling by staying
Happy Belated Father’s Day and may GOD continue to Bless The Queen you and the rest of your family.
“The innaneck” 😂
This the whole truth.
Im so sick of SM....Im not on it....but I know ppl that marriage ended over DM's.....its a shame 😢
I already know what Tony going to say
Facts 🤦🏾♀️ tired of the games
Listening.
This couldn’t have come at a more opportune time. I didn’t mean to find something but someone popped up on my IG suggestion & something told me to look. It made me sick to see my man commenting on her half naked booty pictures. Of course he gaslighted me. Now I’m realizing just as Tony says is I have to live up to my own standards. By trying to “convince” him this is wrong & disrespectful to me, I should convince MYSELF that this man isn’t worth my time & my heart. I’m gonna reflect some more on this and stop wasting my breath cuz it’s showin this man that I don’t respect myself.
Thank you Tony! Because I never understood this concept why men get to do certain things but a woman can’t.....
Tony
Good job thanks..
Stay blessed
This is off subject but still concerning social media..but I am curious to know why a man will have more than one child with more than one woman yet only chooses to post select children on Social Media to brag about and send birthday wishes...is it shame? Does it have anything to do with the mother? Or is he just trying to maintain an image by hiding the other children?
He treats the children according to the feelings he has or doesn’t have for their mother. If he don’t mess with the mom, he likely don’t mess with the children. That’s why they say get married first, then have children. Being a baby mama doesn’t keep the man around unless he wants to be kept.
@@laurenroberts1404 Sometimes it's also pain, grief and good old lack of access to them. Plenty of men want to be good fathers and get involved with hellish women who do everything to spite them via the children.
That’s a question you would have to ask him or an answer to that he would only know and want to keep to himself. If he has multiple baby mama’s that is something to be ashamed about. I wouldn’t get caught up in questioning if it’s favoritism or not though.
Men …..most not all….like things simple. If the mother of your child is still giving up the goods or is willing to look past the way you treated her in the past it makes things cordial /easy for him to be around his child/children. On the other hand….if a man….I use that term lightly…….knows that he was treating his ex/ child’s mother wrong and she now knows her worth he will be reluctant to engage in a regular relationship with his off spring out of shame / having to communicate with someone who knows they are a f boy…….
@@MsBlkbarbii Some of us contribute to how men treat you, by being a baby mom for a man who has several baby momas. Ted flags
Yes!
God Bless you & your family Tony!!!
Thank you Tony.
Exactly, it’s real simple. That’s right Tony. These men need to understand its corny, overplayed & go head and contract that HIVvvvvv & go n the corner and dry up . If it’s worth dying for just do that and don’t commit. Play the game with your life not others . Oooo and when that karma return on those daughters , they get it then .
Preach those facts Mr. Gaskins!!!
Thank you Tony! So true SO of 1 1/2 years cant keep track of his own lies trying to cover up dms. So juvenile for a grown ass male.
Sports,
Man can’t help but to have games on the mind, 🏀 season right after that is ⚾️ than it 🥊 etc… Quality time have to be scheduled bc that take precedent. SM created a whole new monster of toxic interaction that clean courting is a thing of the past.
Praise the Lord in Jesus Holy Name. Bless this video and May GOD Bless you and yours too.
I stop taking men serious on social media through Tony teachings. ITS NOT REAL therefore Its important for none of us to take a man serious until he show us and then marry us after committing to God first. Listen to Tony, he really will help out your dating life!
But he just said it’s real in this video though 🤷🏾♀️
I appreciate you Sir!
Great topic. Thanks Tony.
Hahaaa I love it when Tony gets into the role play scenes 🤣 too funny! Nothin but TRUTH!
12:36 man you on point . Men can be so ignorant to nothing
Listening
Amen!
God bless you!
Thanks for making this video Tony! 👍🏽✨👌🏽