I love the baby whisperer, I read all her books, I have recommended her to people and they have definitely taken it the wrong way as if I am judging there parenting skills or abilities lol I am just recommending some great tips
Hello Kristina! :) I’ve been hearing you say that dreamfeed needs to happen between 10-11pm and that dreamfeeds have to be done properly, will you post a video about it too? Or happy if you will give me a quick summary of that :) Super thanks!! 💕💕💕
A dreamfeed video is a great idea - I'll have to do one soon! Doing a proper dreamfeed is more about the time you do it. The action of dreamfeeding itself is pretty simple, and just involves trying to keep your baby to sleep while you feed them (some babies may need to be woken up a bit to take in an efficient feed). Between 10 and 11 is the perfect time for 3 reasons: 1. It's usually 3-4 hours after your baby's last feed. A bedtime feed at 7pm is pretty standard starting at 4 weeks, and lasting (for some kids) up to 1 year! Doing this feed 3-4 hours after bedtime means that your baby's stomach is empty enough to take in a full feed, which will ideally last them the whole night until 7am. 2. It's when your baby is in their deepest stage of nighttime sleep. Doing the dreamfeed at this time will not wake them up much or even sleep deprive them. 3. For parents who do not do a dreamfeed, they will end up with a 3am feed when their baby starts to sleep 8 hours, which of course, continues to contribute to our exhaustion as parents! 10-11pm is the range in which we as adults may naturally get tired, so if we do a dreamfeed before we head off to bed, we can help ourselves get the 8 hours of sleep we need to be well-rested. Hope that helps!
Hi, thank you so much for your Videos! I have read the book but one question remains unanswered for me: if your baby wakes up early from their nap (especially when they’re under 5 months old) do you still feed them right away because the EASY schedule suggests feeding right after they wake up? Let‘s say the last feeding just happened 2 hours ago, i wonder if you‘d create a snacking problem. Would you wait to feed the baby until „it‘s time“ for the feed, even if that means it‘s closer to the end of the wake time?
Thanks for commenting! When your baby wakes up early from a nap, ideally, you will try to help them get back to sleep until the end of their planned naptime. So if your baby is under 4 months old, you would use the shush pat to help them get back to sleep. If older than 4 months, you would use Pick Up Put Down to help them get back to sleep. If they do not go back to sleep, then you just continue to use whichever method until the end of the nap. This is the best way to stop short naps from happening and to teach your baby to nap independently and to link sleep cycles together. So if you commit to helping them get back to sleep till the end of the nap, then you will just feed them at the planned time, when the nap is over. However, I know that things don't always work out perfectly, so if you do have to end the nap early for whatever reason, I would recommend not feeding your baby until the planned time, even if it is later in the wake window. The bigger issue here is more of the fact that ending naps early will throw off the routine for the entire day. If you always feed after the end of an early nap, then you will be feeding your baby more often during the day (since you will probably also have to add in another nap before bed to make up for all the lost naptime) and you run the danger of creating the snacking problem. But even if you do wait until the planned feed times, nap times will get askew and you'll end up with a more confusing and disorganized day (possibly even with a nap happening during feed time). But if you fix the short nap problem, then you won't have to deal with the snacking problem. Hope that helps!
Thank you so much for your response! It really helped. My 7 month old naps really well, I was just wondering how this will look like with a second baby because then I won’t be able to spend a long time trying to extend a nap. My first only did 45 minute naps until around 4-5 months and it always threw off the routine like you mentioned. So I‘m hoping the second baby will be able to connect sleep cycles sooner!
@@MichelleRoss-x3o That's definitely where it gets more complicated! I just had my second baby 9 months ago and my whole pregnancy I was wondering how naps would go! I started with the 4 S routine in the hospital and got my baby on EASY as soon as I could. It honestly went so well, it was life changing! I was exhausted in every way with my first daughter but with my second daughter on EASY from day 1, I felt like I was getting so much sleep and I always had the energy to play with my toddler or do chores or even cook. When it came to naps, I had my husband's 8 weeks of paternity leave to get my baby used to the 4 S Routine before he went back to work and couldn't watch our toddler while I did naps. By 8 weeks, my baby was pretty good at napping (and was already sleeping through the night!) but we definitely had a good number of naps that were too short. Not everything was perfect, but it was a giant leap in the right direction. Once we got to 4 months and could do PUPD, my baby didn't need it and was able to start sleeping independently (give or take like 3 total sessions of PUPD, but none even happened in the first 2 days we started it). All that to say, I spent a lot of time worried about how I was going to do naps, but since I was already committed to EASY on Day 1, it helped immensely and gave me sanity. My toddler (who was 20 months when my baby was born) adjusted well to the fact that I had to spend the time helping our baby get back to sleep, and she would often just sit next to me in their room while I shush pat. I made some videos about the whole transition, so you can check them out below! Putting my Baby Down w My toddler Around: ruclips.net/video/F4_DJE4_02Q/видео.html EASY w a 4 Month Old: ruclips.net/video/DYnhTdj1-Os/видео.html 5 Tips for the First 2 Weeks: ruclips.net/video/wv0RpRVVfeQ/видео.html 3 Problems in the First 8 Weeks: ruclips.net/video/aJjYkmm_61g/видео.html
Wow thanks! That’s encouraging. I‘m really excited to implement the Baby Whisperer from Day 1 with my next baby. (I found out about the book when my first was already 4 months old) When were you able to go for 3h between feedings with your second? Because I‘d love to have a routine as soon as possible but her sample schedule says it‘s meant for a 4 week old baby, so I was wondering if for the first few weeks you‘d need to feed on demand?
@@MichelleRoss-x3o The first week or so was 2-3 hours during the day, till the evening when it was every 2 hours to cluster feed before bed. Then it was every 3 hours at night (and she often did at least 1 4-hour stretch or more at night as well!). It was a definite every 3 hours by 4 weeks, but with a cluster feed in the evening to tank her up as much as possible. By 8 weeks, she was sleeping 8 hours at night and always did 3 hours during the day! (I'm sure there was a night here or there where she woke up once randomly for a feed but that definitely didn't happen anymore after 10 weeks!)
Good question! First, make sure he is taking a dreamfeed. A dreamfeed between 10 and 11pm at this age should help him last until 7am. If you aren't doing a dreamfeed, and his last feed is at 7pm, then he won't be able to last till 7am until he's 7 months old. Adding in that dreamfeed will help extend his sleep so he wakes up at the proper time. At this age, he should be able to go 8-9 hours without a feed as long as he is getting enough calories during the day. Second, make sure that your baby is actually hungry if waking up at 5 or 6. It's pretty normal for infant sleep to get lighter this early in the morning and he may just be having trouble falling back asleep. If it's not true hunger, then definitely don't feed! If he still can't last until morning, the best way I have found to eliminate that 5/6am feed is to still always feed at 7am. If he wakes up around 5 or 6, you can feed him and put him back to sleep until 7 when his day starts. You can try to make the early feed as short as possible so he isn't hungry, and then do your best to do a full feed at 7. Eventually, he should learn to rely on the 7am feed and will slowly be able to make it to that time. There's a 30-minute grace window with that 7am wakeup though, so if he wakes at 6:30, then you can consider that his 7am wakeup. This actually happened to me this morning with my 4-month old but it doesn't happen often. Additionally, with that grace window, it can go the other way. So if he takes a 6am feed and he's back down by 6:30ish, then you can wait until 7:30 at the latest to feed again (just to be sure he will eat more at that point). Obviously you want to try your best to get to 7 as close as possible, but it may be a slow inching game to help them get there. Hopefully all of this helps! Let me know if you have any more questions!
My baby was good until the 4 month regression hit him. To this day he is 10 months old he doesn’t 2 straight hours. Please help am not sure how I can employment 10 months old bay that I cosleep with
Hi, I recommend checking out my video on Pick Up Put Down, which is Tracy Hog’s method of sleep training. If you don’t have her book, I recommend it as well, since it has all the information you need to teach your baby to sleep independently!
Also, at what age were you able to make your baby sleep through the night for 7-8hrs? My 7wk old boy can only last for 3hrs at the moment and wakes up to eat.
Both of my babies slept 8 hours for the first time at 7 weeks. They were more consistent with it at 8 weeks. 3 hours isn't very long at night at that age (especially if your baby was not premature). My biggest tip for helping him go longer at night is to make sure he is eating enough during the day. You'll need to feed him every 3 hours during the day, and even if he is sleeping, you need to wake him up to eat. I have a video I posted where I mention some other tips that might be helpful to you: ruclips.net/video/aJjYkmm_61g/видео.htmlsi=dBGqTa73LhUNAok8 If you have any further questions, let me know!
@@jenniechong2240 There are definite dangers if you do feeds before sleep and more benefits to feeding at the beginning of the wake window - - Your baby will be more likely to take a full feed at the beginning of their wake window, when they are the most alert - They can use their energy from a feed to play better during their activity time. - If your baby eats before sleep, they may associate the two together and be dependent on a full belly in order to sleep. - You may be more likely to use feeding as a sleep prop in order to get your baby to sleep. ...and I'm sure there are a few more reasons I can't quite think of! Start in the morning when your baby wakes up (set an official wake-up time and always wake your baby up then!), they will always need a feed first thing in the morning (no matter when they fed last at night). Do your best not to feed before naps - if he is taking in a full feed in the morning, then he will not need to eat for 3 hours. If feeding him puts him to sleep, wake him up! Especially if he just woke up in the morning. Babies are a bit sleepier in the mornings and more alert in the evenings, but they still need to have full wake windows that are age-appropriate, or else they will wake up at night and have them then. If he's 7 weeks, you are probably looking at a wake window between 1-1.5 hours long. Make sure he gets that length, because then he will sleep better for naps and bedtime sleep, and wake up needing a full feeding.
I did quite a bit in the early months! For babywearing during naps, as babies get closer to 3 months, it becomes more important for them to take their naps in their crib/bassinet as they become more aware of their surroundings. Before 3 months, I wouldn't recommend more than 1 nap a day taking place in a carrier, but it's especially helpful if you know you'll be out of the house for a nap. For babywearing during wake times, I don't think there's any limit to it, but obviously we want to make sure we are still promoting independent play time for our babies. It will just be more difficult for us down the road if their 'normal' becomes being on us all the time.
Thanks for making this! I am just starting to read the book now and it is great to see how others implemented it. ❤
I love the baby whisperer, I read all her books, I have recommended her to people and they have definitely taken it the wrong way as if I am judging there parenting skills or abilities lol I am just recommending some great tips
Hello Kristina! :) I’ve been hearing you say that dreamfeed needs to happen between 10-11pm and that dreamfeeds have to be done properly, will you post a video about it too? Or happy if you will give me a quick summary of that :) Super thanks!! 💕💕💕
A dreamfeed video is a great idea - I'll have to do one soon!
Doing a proper dreamfeed is more about the time you do it. The action of dreamfeeding itself is pretty simple, and just involves trying to keep your baby to sleep while you feed them (some babies may need to be woken up a bit to take in an efficient feed).
Between 10 and 11 is the perfect time for 3 reasons:
1. It's usually 3-4 hours after your baby's last feed. A bedtime feed at 7pm is pretty standard starting at 4 weeks, and lasting (for some kids) up to 1 year! Doing this feed 3-4 hours after bedtime means that your baby's stomach is empty enough to take in a full feed, which will ideally last them the whole night until 7am.
2. It's when your baby is in their deepest stage of nighttime sleep. Doing the dreamfeed at this time will not wake them up much or even sleep deprive them.
3. For parents who do not do a dreamfeed, they will end up with a 3am feed when their baby starts to sleep 8 hours, which of course, continues to contribute to our exhaustion as parents! 10-11pm is the range in which we as adults may naturally get tired, so if we do a dreamfeed before we head off to bed, we can help ourselves get the 8 hours of sleep we need to be well-rested.
Hope that helps!
Hi, thank you so much for your Videos! I have read the book but one question remains unanswered for me: if your baby wakes up early from their nap (especially when they’re under 5 months old) do you still feed them right away because the EASY schedule suggests feeding right after they wake up? Let‘s say the last feeding just happened 2 hours ago, i wonder if you‘d create a snacking problem. Would you wait to feed the baby until „it‘s time“ for the feed, even if that means it‘s closer to the end of the wake time?
Thanks for commenting!
When your baby wakes up early from a nap, ideally, you will try to help them get back to sleep until the end of their planned naptime. So if your baby is under 4 months old, you would use the shush pat to help them get back to sleep. If older than 4 months, you would use Pick Up Put Down to help them get back to sleep. If they do not go back to sleep, then you just continue to use whichever method until the end of the nap. This is the best way to stop short naps from happening and to teach your baby to nap independently and to link sleep cycles together.
So if you commit to helping them get back to sleep till the end of the nap, then you will just feed them at the planned time, when the nap is over. However, I know that things don't always work out perfectly, so if you do have to end the nap early for whatever reason, I would recommend not feeding your baby until the planned time, even if it is later in the wake window.
The bigger issue here is more of the fact that ending naps early will throw off the routine for the entire day. If you always feed after the end of an early nap, then you will be feeding your baby more often during the day (since you will probably also have to add in another nap before bed to make up for all the lost naptime) and you run the danger of creating the snacking problem. But even if you do wait until the planned feed times, nap times will get askew and you'll end up with a more confusing and disorganized day (possibly even with a nap happening during feed time).
But if you fix the short nap problem, then you won't have to deal with the snacking problem.
Hope that helps!
Thank you so much for your response! It really helped. My 7 month old naps really well, I was just wondering how this will look like with a second baby because then I won’t be able to spend a long time trying to extend a nap. My first only did 45 minute naps until around 4-5 months and it always threw off the routine like you mentioned. So I‘m hoping the second baby will be able to connect sleep cycles sooner!
@@MichelleRoss-x3o That's definitely where it gets more complicated! I just had my second baby 9 months ago and my whole pregnancy I was wondering how naps would go!
I started with the 4 S routine in the hospital and got my baby on EASY as soon as I could. It honestly went so well, it was life changing! I was exhausted in every way with my first daughter but with my second daughter on EASY from day 1, I felt like I was getting so much sleep and I always had the energy to play with my toddler or do chores or even cook.
When it came to naps, I had my husband's 8 weeks of paternity leave to get my baby used to the 4 S Routine before he went back to work and couldn't watch our toddler while I did naps. By 8 weeks, my baby was pretty good at napping (and was already sleeping through the night!) but we definitely had a good number of naps that were too short. Not everything was perfect, but it was a giant leap in the right direction. Once we got to 4 months and could do PUPD, my baby didn't need it and was able to start sleeping independently (give or take like 3 total sessions of PUPD, but none even happened in the first 2 days we started it).
All that to say, I spent a lot of time worried about how I was going to do naps, but since I was already committed to EASY on Day 1, it helped immensely and gave me sanity. My toddler (who was 20 months when my baby was born) adjusted well to the fact that I had to spend the time helping our baby get back to sleep, and she would often just sit next to me in their room while I shush pat.
I made some videos about the whole transition, so you can check them out below!
Putting my Baby Down w My toddler Around: ruclips.net/video/F4_DJE4_02Q/видео.html
EASY w a 4 Month Old: ruclips.net/video/DYnhTdj1-Os/видео.html
5 Tips for the First 2 Weeks: ruclips.net/video/wv0RpRVVfeQ/видео.html
3 Problems in the First 8 Weeks: ruclips.net/video/aJjYkmm_61g/видео.html
Wow thanks! That’s encouraging. I‘m really excited to implement the Baby Whisperer from Day 1 with my next baby. (I found out about the book when my first was already 4 months old)
When were you able to go for 3h between feedings with your second? Because I‘d love to have a routine as soon as possible but her sample schedule says it‘s meant for a 4 week old baby, so I was wondering if for the first few weeks you‘d need to feed on demand?
@@MichelleRoss-x3o The first week or so was 2-3 hours during the day, till the evening when it was every 2 hours to cluster feed before bed. Then it was every 3 hours at night (and she often did at least 1 4-hour stretch or more at night as well!). It was a definite every 3 hours by 4 weeks, but with a cluster feed in the evening to tank her up as much as possible. By 8 weeks, she was sleeping 8 hours at night and always did 3 hours during the day! (I'm sure there was a night here or there where she woke up once randomly for a feed but that definitely didn't happen anymore after 10 weeks!)
Hi! I want to wake my 3 month old baby at around 7am but he usually has a feed around 5 - 6am. Any tips on how I use the EASY method here?
Good question!
First, make sure he is taking a dreamfeed. A dreamfeed between 10 and 11pm at this age should help him last until 7am. If you aren't doing a dreamfeed, and his last feed is at 7pm, then he won't be able to last till 7am until he's 7 months old. Adding in that dreamfeed will help extend his sleep so he wakes up at the proper time. At this age, he should be able to go 8-9 hours without a feed as long as he is getting enough calories during the day.
Second, make sure that your baby is actually hungry if waking up at 5 or 6. It's pretty normal for infant sleep to get lighter this early in the morning and he may just be having trouble falling back asleep. If it's not true hunger, then definitely don't feed!
If he still can't last until morning, the best way I have found to eliminate that 5/6am feed is to still always feed at 7am. If he wakes up around 5 or 6, you can feed him and put him back to sleep until 7 when his day starts. You can try to make the early feed as short as possible so he isn't hungry, and then do your best to do a full feed at 7. Eventually, he should learn to rely on the 7am feed and will slowly be able to make it to that time.
There's a 30-minute grace window with that 7am wakeup though, so if he wakes at 6:30, then you can consider that his 7am wakeup. This actually happened to me this morning with my 4-month old but it doesn't happen often.
Additionally, with that grace window, it can go the other way. So if he takes a 6am feed and he's back down by 6:30ish, then you can wait until 7:30 at the latest to feed again (just to be sure he will eat more at that point).
Obviously you want to try your best to get to 7 as close as possible, but it may be a slow inching game to help them get there.
Hopefully all of this helps! Let me know if you have any more questions!
My baby was good until the 4 month regression hit him. To this day he is 10 months old he doesn’t 2 straight hours. Please help am not sure how I can employment 10 months old bay that I cosleep with
Hi, I recommend checking out my video on Pick Up Put Down, which is Tracy Hog’s method of sleep training. If you don’t have her book, I recommend it as well, since it has all the information you need to teach your baby to sleep independently!
Also, at what age were you able to make your baby sleep through the night for 7-8hrs? My 7wk old boy can only last for 3hrs at the moment and wakes up to eat.
Both of my babies slept 8 hours for the first time at 7 weeks. They were more consistent with it at 8 weeks.
3 hours isn't very long at night at that age (especially if your baby was not premature). My biggest tip for helping him go longer at night is to make sure he is eating enough during the day. You'll need to feed him every 3 hours during the day, and even if he is sleeping, you need to wake him up to eat.
I have a video I posted where I mention some other tips that might be helpful to you: ruclips.net/video/aJjYkmm_61g/видео.htmlsi=dBGqTa73LhUNAok8
If you have any further questions, let me know!
In EASY, but do you see any harm if Sleep comes after Eat? Coz my baby follows ESYA apparently, he’s just so sleepy always after feeding.
@@jenniechong2240 There are definite dangers if you do feeds before sleep and more benefits to feeding at the beginning of the wake window -
- Your baby will be more likely to take a full feed at the beginning of their wake window, when they are the most alert
- They can use their energy from a feed to play better during their activity time.
- If your baby eats before sleep, they may associate the two together and be dependent on a full belly in order to sleep.
- You may be more likely to use feeding as a sleep prop in order to get your baby to sleep.
...and I'm sure there are a few more reasons I can't quite think of!
Start in the morning when your baby wakes up (set an official wake-up time and always wake your baby up then!), they will always need a feed first thing in the morning (no matter when they fed last at night). Do your best not to feed before naps - if he is taking in a full feed in the morning, then he will not need to eat for 3 hours. If feeding him puts him to sleep, wake him up! Especially if he just woke up in the morning. Babies are a bit sleepier in the mornings and more alert in the evenings, but they still need to have full wake windows that are age-appropriate, or else they will wake up at night and have them then. If he's 7 weeks, you are probably looking at a wake window between 1-1.5 hours long. Make sure he gets that length, because then he will sleep better for naps and bedtime sleep, and wake up needing a full feeding.
Did you baby wear at all?
I did quite a bit in the early months! For babywearing during naps, as babies get closer to 3 months, it becomes more important for them to take their naps in their crib/bassinet as they become more aware of their surroundings. Before 3 months, I wouldn't recommend more than 1 nap a day taking place in a carrier, but it's especially helpful if you know you'll be out of the house for a nap. For babywearing during wake times, I don't think there's any limit to it, but obviously we want to make sure we are still promoting independent play time for our babies. It will just be more difficult for us down the road if their 'normal' becomes being on us all the time.