My former bff and I moved in together while working at the same law firm, in the same dept that essentially consisted of just us 2. She had a terrible issue with drinking which I'm not shaming as I understand addiction is a disease. But when you're both responsible for showing up and doing your job and you're the only one who is while knowing your roommate is just extremely hungover was difficult to say the least. One day I couldn't find one of my cats so I had to open roommate's bedroom door...OMG. There was moldy food in my dishes everywhere(which I suspected as they weren't in the kitchen, but confirmed), mountains(yes plural)of empty wine boxes, and trash everywhere. Literally not 1 sq foot of floor showing. She had to move out and back in with her parents due to medical issues and I've refused to get a roommate since. We remained "friends" in the sense we wish each other a happy birthday. She recently asked to stay here with a dog that her ex gave her along with that ex, his brother and his cousin, none of whom I know. I said no because I have 2 cats, am a woman who lives alone and now she won't speak to me. I've realized that she wasn't really ever my friend. It's sad but necessary. Protecting my peace at all costs these days and that means no toxicity in my home.
I'm absolutely that flatmate who cleans only her dishes. Once you start cleaning after the others, you'll never go from there. Everyone should be respectful and clean their messes.
And then once the pile gets so high of dishes you did not made you tell them if they don't clean the mess in 24 hours you will put it in a trash bag and offer to either leave it in their room or outside. She's probably still mad about that and I don't feel bad about it at all. :)
Completely agree. At the beginning I wouldn’t mind washing my roommates dishes if there were just a few but once I noticed that they would rely on me to clean literally EVERYTHING, I stopped cleaning their mess because they should be responsible too and I was not their maid. I eventually came to the realization that they only liked me around because I would clean for them and not because they actually liked me.
I did the cleaning for the whole house for two weeks after I moved in. After I noticed my three other roommates would never make a consistent effort to clean while also leaving messes after I had just picked up (and playing the blame game when asked to clean up, like children) I stopped cleaning entirely aside from my room and the half bath.
Yeah if I just have like a plate and a coffee cup to wash, you're damn right I'm going to wash them without disturbing the ecosystem of two-day-old dirty dishes already threatening to escape the sink. You'd have to pay me to deal with that kind of mess lol
I think everyone has moments of not being a great roommate. I went through a big depressive episode and totally slacked on cleaning, which was so unfair to my roommate. She addressed it one day after she got off work and was doing dishes, and I let her know about what I was dealing with mentally. From then on, I worked on being better at cleaning and she was understanding of my mental health. It wasn’t perfect by any means but we made it work!
You hit the nail on the head - while a living situation might not be ideal, communication between the people occupying the same space often shrinks the problems from large to small. I'm glad you had such an understanding roomie, and that you were able to talk to her openly about what was going on with you mentally and emotionally - that's hard enough to do when you're having a GOOD day. Kudos to you.
@@hilarymol6607 It's great that the roommate compromised. I went through intesnse depression but didn't explain myself or seek compromise from my chore-police roommate. She was an unapproachable beyotch. Her preferred method of communication was to do things like put a sign on the dishwasher that said "Why is Annie the only roommate I've met? Do other humans live here? Because more than one person's dishes get put in me." (FYI there were 4 roomies. Me, Annie and 2 other girls. I worked as a manager at Panera so I didn't use dishes. Food from work was free, and being a broke-ass 21 year old I just ate there or brought stuff home in to-go containers.) Annie even bought a dry erase board and created an f*ing gold-star chore chart. The catalyst was another roommate who left clothes in the dryer because she got called in to work while it was running. Oh damn, I just remembered this! One roommate woke up super late one morning and didn't take out the trash on her way to class. She took care of it immediately after getting home that day, but that didn't matter to Annie. This event sparked a formal house meeting which was actually all of us listening to Annie bitch for an hour. BTW, the time between forgetting the trash and dealing with the trash was about 1.5 hours. Well that was a rant! Lol, sorry 😞
I just want you to know that my husband and I watch you together all the time and quote you on a daily basis. We literally say goodbye to each other by yelling, "Subscribe!" in the Charlotte way! Thank you for all the effort you put in to your channel💟💟
Omg I think you just blew my mind. I had a huge detergent spill in my house and I never thought to just soak it up with the dirty towels that needed to be washed anyway 🤦🤯
My experiences with flat sharing were so horrendous that I refused to let my children share when they went to university, especially after my eldest daughter's experience with a flatmate who trashed the flat and was so threatening she had to barricade herself in her room. I paid for them to have their own self-contained accommodation to protect their mental health. Best investment ever. Being miserable and resentful in what should be your home is not worth it. The best thing is knowing that your space will be as you left it when you come back.
@@crystalh450 yes I agree with this. Being "protected" from having to ever deal with anyone will make it incredibly hard for them when they actually do move in with a partner. There are also many times when they'll have to accommodate others in their workplace, as well. And yeah, having a roommate can also be good as a backup emergency contact.
I totally can relate. Thankfully, my Mom paid extra for me to have my own dorm room, after a bad experience. Was the best thing for me and opted to stay roommate free the rest of my college years, even after getting my own apartment my last year in college. I was able to socialize when I wanted, but also had my own safe and peaceful space to retreat to. ....have been happily married for 17 yrs; Hubby and I didn't live together until after we got married and never having a roommate, but that 1 time, has had no ill effect on me.
@@crystalh450 I agree also. I just wrote about my unbelievably horrible experience but I know God put them in my life for a reason. Dealing with them has trained me in learning to cope with the unavoidable a-holes out there, incl co-workers. It also has motivated me even more to get my sh&t together and get the f out of here...esp bad because it is for ppl with mental and/or physical disabilities (physical for me but had a bout with PK problems but that turned out to be very good because I do a LOT of work on myself...I think there are TONS of ppl who need to be in recovery-group therapy, indiv therapy, rehab perhaps, AA meetings, whatever). Well, will have a LOT to discuss in Group tomorrow after what happened this Christmas finding out how much one roommate has been stealing on Christmas same day I found out ex-BF has someone new and my hopes of reconciliation are shot.
@Misha Minute pain killers. Unavoidable with all the med probs but can get out of hand. Doing great BC of all the heavy work I do. Not letting Christmas from hell stuff make me relapse so very happy about that. God takes care of me but also God helps those who help themselves, so I work hard at this. Not emb to discuss-I hope others will do what they have to do because there is so much help available, incl other ppl who have the disease. Thanks for asking
I lived with a roommate once. Once. Vowed never to live with a roommate ever again. She left her clothes everywhere, didn't do any cleaning, would take my car anytime she wanted (I worked in a different town and would often discover I had no fuel to drive the half hour to get to work and that was usually after having to track down my car pre-cell phone days). She'd have parties with all the "local" kids (14-17 yr old - all males - we were 18) - and never on weekends but during the week, only on days I had to be at work by 6 am. She ate all the food I bought and fed all these kids. Trashed my stereo system. Used my towels when her own car developed an oil leak (Yes, she had her own car but would use MINE instead). She was rude, condescending, tried getting into my purse but when I caught her she said "Just doing some cleaning. Maybe put this away." (Yeah right. You don't clean!!!) She quit her job and informed me 2 days before rent was due - so I told the landlord as I handed her my half of the rent - landlord allowed me to come up with the other half by the middle of the month but told me "DON'T tell HER! Just tell her you have to move because rent isn't there!" Funny how quickly SHE came up with half the rent when I said we had two weeks only - and looked at me with a sneer and said "I have MY half. Where's YOURS?" Too bad, so sad, but I had already told the landlady I'd be moving at the end of the month. I didn't tell the roommate so at the end of the month she was shocked when she discovered all my belongings in my locked car and a friend there with a truck to pick up my bed and living room furniture. I left her with her clothes and bed. Everything else was mine. She even tried to tell me that it would go on my record for skipping rent without giving the land lady notice - yeah...about that...Land lady has known for 4 weeks now. I'm renting a one bedroom off her down the road. Oh, and by the way, power, heat, water, sewer and phone are all in MY name and being switched over to my new place as of...(Lights go off)...Now...Bye bye. Lived in that house until I moved in with my boyfriend a year later - and he's been far better roommate for the last 33 years. Our son is 20 and was offered a place with a few of his friends and he told us "I really like them, but I know what they are like. I can tolerate their messiness when they are in their own places. I wouldn't be able to tolerate their messiness if I lived with them. Mom, when they came over and spent the weekend here? They left pizza boxes all over the basement with pieces of pizza crust all over! Even ON THE COUCH! I spent a week cleaning up their mess! Nope. I'll just keep paying you $500 a month for rent and food and have a clean space because I clean up my own mess and you and Dad clean up your messes!" So I'm guessing until he can afford an apartment all on his own, he will be living with us. (And, btw, we aren't "mean parents" - we put that $500 in a secret account for him - so one day, we will surprise him with a nice little downpayment for a house for himself.)
That 500 dollar thing is so good! Because you're not actually taking the money from him but are still teaching him what all these horrible roommates haven't learned
I’ve been lucky in the roommate department so far. Just little things that annoyed me. Now my Gma lives with me which is actually about the perfect setup. She’s hard of hearing and can sleep through anything so I don’t have to tiptoe around when she’s asleep. We both don’t like people around and she unloads the dishes every morning and I load and start the dishes every night.
My last roommate (F and much older than me) decided that I would be the male in the house. I’d work full time, and she’d stay home cooking, cleaning, laundry (my. . . stuff 😬) I did what any responsible adult in this situation would do, I moved out! She took my decision like a first time girl friend who was getting dumped. “You can’t leave me. What am I supposed to do?” ~ “Be an adult and get a job. Figure it out. It’s not my problem anymore.” I’m roommate free on purpose.
Lived on my own for years and then one day was convinced by a close friend to move in to a new place together for cost saving reasons. Within a couple of months I saw her true character (a narcissistic control freak!) and rued the day I agreed to move in with her. On a positive note I hated being at home while she was there so much I would leave and either go to the gym or for a jog around the neighbourhood...my arse had never looked so good! 😂 Needless to say we are no longer friends & I've never had another roommate EVER! 😣
My ex roommate never cleaned.. And when she did dishes, they were only the ones she'd used. She would get mad if I didn't use my free meal a day (I was a server and got a free meal per eight hour shift) to feed her. She never bought groceries. She also said it was my job to clean her bathroom and bedroom. We had a two bed/two bath apartment. She thought I should clean hers when I did mine. She once caught the kitchen on fire and told the landlord I'd pay for the damages.. I didn't. I only lived with her for about four nightmarish months.
This is why I never get roomates and always rent apartments all alone. Maybe I pay more when I do, but at least I can decorate eveything the way I want, nobody steals my food or borrow my stuff without asking, and the house is always clean and quiet. Also uninvited guests are not welcome. Introvert life is the best life, peace is too precious xD!
I once lived with 4 other people in a 3 story house, one bathroom on each floor and only used the top floor bathroom since my bedroom was on the top floor and also my bathroom stuff was in that one. One night before I went on a trip to California for 3 weeks, literally the next morning, they had a massive Halloween party. Someone had apparently projectile vomited in the bathroom on the 2nd floor. And instead of cleaning it up they closed the bathroom door and left it there for the entire 3 weeks I was gone. When I got back it had become flaky and I ended up being the one to clean it up. I moved out a month later.
I once got locked out of my bathroom for the entire night by my house-mate as she had gotten drunk and passed out on the floor. I also discovered the bathroom carpet had been ripped up and shoved halfway out the window coz she had thrown up all over it! (I forgave her...still best friends 25 yrs later!LOL).
Yikes! That's horrible! I hope Charlotte does a companion video to this about landlords from Hell. I've had a few. One of the worst used to come by and let himself inside the house when we weren't home. He tried to make us pay for new carpet because the former tenant had dogs that destroyed the carpet in the bedroom. We had no dogs. I had taken lots of pictures before we leased the place, proving that damage was there previously, and wrote him a letter describing all the damage we found before we moved in. I took a photo of the letter next to that day's newspaper, proving that he was aware of the problems before we even signed a lease. He accused me of trying to "trick" him. We changed the locks on the doors (something I always do when moving into a new place) and he pitched a fit about that, erroneously claiming he had a right to let himself in any time he felt like it.
There's too much risk and drama with having a roommate! I had only one decent roommate whom I'm still friends with today. If she hadn't gotten married, we'd still be roommates. I own a 3 bedroom 2 bath house now, and hell no I'm not getting a roommate!! I even tried helping out family by letting my young nephew move in with me so he could save money, he wanted to eat all my food, not do any chores and then boss me around! I said "get the F out"!! He went crying to mommy and hasn't spoken to me since because I won't apologize. It's so peaceful living alone!!
The worst tenants we ever had was one family, that had 5 dogs living inside, and had brought several family members,without notice, to live with them. In total there were 12 people and 5 dogs living in a 4 bedroom house. The worst thing is that, when they left, the whole house was covered in dog poo, the restroom had never been washed in a year, there were holes in the walls, window by the door was broken and they even dug up a dead dog, they had initially buried, and left, decomposing, in a bag, at the front door. Needless to say, they didn’t get their deposit back.
...and that is why as a landlord, I refuse people with pets (even though I'm a huge animal lover myself and have my own dogs). Unfortunately I just know all too well how many other people don't know how to clean up after their pets or get them house trained to begin with. I also tend to favor people with no kids or only 1-2. I had a tenant leave recently after being there for almost 5 yrs. They had 4 kids and always had different family members over, many had their own small kids. It took 3 MONTHS to clean and fix everything that got destroyed. The walls were drawn all over with PERMANENT marker so had to paint everything. The carpet had a lot of places that had sticky crap stuck to it that I had to cut out. One of the drains was clogged extremely badly...among so many other things. People don't realize just how bad being a landlord can be many times as many people don't care what they do to a place if they don't own it. It's freaking annoying as hell!!😡😤🤬
In college when we had to move out at the end of the year, they had us split up the cleaning between everyone. Each of us wrote down what room they would be responsible for cleaning. I took living room, one took kitchen, and the other 2 had bathroom (it was split between 3 different rooms so it was fair). The 2 that were doing the bathroom basically just up and left without cleaning shit, all they did was sweep up the hair and leave it in a pile in the middle of the floor. They also forgot to write their names on the cleaning sheet, so we gladly wrote down their names for them and turned it in when we left. Usually if it's not cleaned, the specific person will be fined.
I never washed any of my roommates dishes except for this one time my friend was coming over unexpectedly so i washed everything. My roommate would have DEFINITELY taken advantage of me if i had done that. When she left there was a sink full of deeply crusted dishes that i could tell was all dishes just sitting in her room for weeks/months. I remember her saying we should get a juicer and split the price and i politely refused. I could only imagine what a shit show that would have been to deal with when she moved out, had we went half and half on anything. I could write pages on how aweful it was. I swear living with my roommate probably took years off my life 😩
I'm literally telling my roommates I'm moving out 5 months early today... they're horrible at communicating their issues and lash out at me over the littlest things. I once left crums on the counter and my roommate messaged me at one in the morning saying that she's tired of cleaning up after me (she had never mentioned anything about this before). Then when I came home a day early they were incredibly upset because their friend came by to feed the fish and "I scared her"... IT'S MY HOUSE
@@hilaryc3203 not my house as I own it, my house as in I pay half the rent. I moved in with them in September and they've never treated me like an equal. Nothing in the livingroom is mine, and if I tried to add something they would put it on the top of the cabinets. We have two parking spaces for the three of us and they've made it clear that I'm not supposed to park there. They enter my room when I'm not there... they've taken in foster dogs without telling me, they put up a "doggy cam" without telling me. They never tell me when they're having people over and then wonder why I spend all my time in my room.
I had a roommate that was such an absolute slob! She'd leave plates with half eaten food right behind the chair to my computer (she had her laptop set up on a side table behind my computer chair so she could hook into the router since her wifi didn't work anymore). Wouldn't do the dishes, take the grbage out, or pick up after herself. My mom and a friend were coming to visit me and I had to mad scramble to try and get the apartment cleaned up without help while she just messied it up again behind me as I went. It was terrible. Never again.
The CORE responsibility for this lies with parents. You NEED to teach your children how to a) clean b) budget c) be mindful of others and your personal impact on others d) read contracts. It's interesting that it appears that most of the people being complained about are male. Do parents (i.e. mothers) let them get away with it at home? It's selfish, rude and thoughtless. If you absolutely HAVE to live in a shared situation, make sure you are on the lease, understand the conditions of the lease and have the 'rules' in writing. Watching Charlotte is hilarious but underneath all of these stories is a bunch of miserable people. Sad.
Some of these could also be the result of a traumatic childhood. I have a lot of trouble throwing stuff away, even if I havent used it for years. This is most likely a result from how my parents treated me as a child and how I've grown attached to material things, cause they cant hurt me. I have most of it packed away in boxes, but I can see how someone might let it get out of control, if they dont have help to deal with these traumatic experiences.
Yes. My parents seem to think children past age 4 can raise themselves and learn discipline and all important life skills on their own, for the most part. I remember my mother trying to get us clean our room (pick toys etc.) about that age but later, they just... gave up. Mother didn't clean much at all from what I remember, she was mainly focused on her career and neglected a lot of other things that should've been important. My father did clean certain parts of the flat (especially the kitchen) cos he couldn't stand it but his approach was to just do it himself (easier) than being an actual parent and teach your kids you have to clean after yourself (harder). From the outside, normal family, no violent abuse, no drinking problems or anything like that. My grandma (my mother's mother) came in weekly to vacuum the flat and other cleaning too, I guess she felt bad about the situation and couldn't just watch it. I guess neither of my parents were embarrassed by this? I've struggled to create new habits, not just cleaning but in general cos the main thing my parents managed to teach me is to be passive and if you wait long enough, somebody's gonna do it on your behalf in the end (well, nobody will anymore when you're an adult). The last time I visited, my sister's own room (she's a working adult) looked like a hoarder's room - except she's not a hoarder. Empty water bottles, clothes ect. everywhere all over the floor, the bedsheet visibly dirty in the spot where she sat reading books in her free time... I consider this as as an attest to the great job my parents did and while she's an adult (so now it's just her problem) I can't understand how they can be so blind and not see how they have helped to create this (and not feel embarrassed). Their parents from both sides, neither live or lived like this.
I am so happy I've had only good roommates....Four of us women lived together for 3 years in college because we liked each other so much. Then my next set of roommates, 4 new people including one guy, it was so much fun and thankfully our male roommate was able to have a room with an attached bathroom so we could all respect each others privacy. Thankful for kind, respectful, mature roommates who cleaned up after themselves and didn't leave passive aggressive notes.
I've had a couple nightmare roommates, and every time I find myself wishing I had someone else living with me I remember them. And am instantly fine with being roommate-free. One of those nightmare roommates never ate anything except Jell-O or instant rice with cream of chicken soup poured on top. Directly from the can. Uncooked. And she never washed her grotty dishes. She had a really nice boyfriend, but I had a hard time being around him because he had green fur growing on his teeth. Seriously, no exaggeration. Nice guy, couldn't look anywhere near him.
Hilary Mol - Your roommate and her boyfriend, birds of a feather. Easy to be nice when you don't have/take responsibilities for yourself. Her diet may have had something to do with financial reasons? I remember being so broke for a while (living alone) and eating cream of something soups and rice just to fill my belly. And Jell-lo is a very inexpensive "dessert." Not trying to minimize the nightmare of that room mate, but pondering the cause of her diet, and possible lack of cooking skills. Or, some people are just lazy.
I am extremy pecky with my first roommate now. Is still not the best thing but I need the extra help with bills and rent :((, I am trying to safe really hard to buy a apartment....
@@jengsci8268 Actually, she was well taken care of by her family. Her parents paid for her half of the house (it was a house cut into two halves, creating side-by-side not-really-a-townhome apartments). She was the youngest, so she was really mollycoddled. Her nightmare sister lived in the other apartment and hated the fact that her little sister was allowed to have a roommate (the older sister's half was paid for, too, but only if she didn't have roommates). Essentially my rent was extra spending money for her, and I got to live in a tiny bedroom with an entire apartment's worth of furniture (mine) because she wouldn't let me put any of my things anywhere else in the house. Oh, and the food thing? She was just really, really picky and hated nearly everything but those three foods. I'm surprised I got out of there with any sanity left. I still can't look at a can of cream of chicken soup without shuddering.
I throughly enjoyed my early 20's roommate situation. Huge house, 5 people, no messes, no drama, parties every weekend.... then a woman showed up with a baby claiming it was the main guy's kid.... we were all forced to find a new place so he can become a dad. Good for him tho, honestly, he stepped up and no hard feelings.
My first apartment out on my own was a cheap studio apartment. I moved in with a friend that I had known for over 5 years and we just turned the living room into a second bedroom for me. First two months or so everything went very smoothly. Then on the third month he just started always being short on his share of rent and utilities. Finally after being short for multiple months in a row he came to me with a proposition. He told me that if I continued to spot him every month for the money that he was short when he got his income tax in the springtime he would give it all to me and we would be even. (He had gotten a new car and claimed the payments were what got him behind to begin with.) This sounded like a fair deal to me and as I said this was someone I knew for 5 years so like an idiot I agreed. Fast forward to spring. He gets his income tax and then while I'm out visiting my parents he moves out of the apartment, steals almost everything I own and uses his tax money to get his own place. This was years ago. I'm now 29 and well off but having to eat 6+ months of rent and utilities set me way back. I had to move back home for 8 months just to get back on feet.
I lived with bits and pieces of all of this for 12 years with my ex… never split the rent, never paid his half of the utilities on time- literally all of the ones he was in charge of were at least 2 months behind, never cleaned up after himself, always made a mess with meat grease right after I would clean the kitchen, never did his own laundry, I had to teach him to shower every day and to use deodorant, occasionally took out the trash (we had trash valet at our apartment- it was right in front of the front door) and occasionally cleaned the cat’s litter box and would hold it over my head whenever I asked him to at least clean up after himself… before we moved in together he had a trash closet… I thought I was in love and that maybe one day he would grow up- turns out I just had really low self worth bc on top of how disgusting he was, he was abusive too- emotionally, psychologically and sometimes physically… he also believed he was healthy when he drank 2 liters of soda and smoked a pack of cigarettes over two days and thought eating quiche with some spinach in it was eating vegetables… he also threw a temper tantrum one Christmas bc I got two more gifts than he did (from my employer at the time)… it’s been three years since I broke up with him and even on my worst, most exhausted days, my house is clean and smells good, the cats are clean and happy, I’m not broke all the time (only sometimes), the bills are always up to date and I’m healthy (no longer living in the hospital for a month and a half out of the year) and I’m in therapy (bc I can afford it now) and I’m so much happier for it… seriously, don’t let people like this guilt you about their disgusting behavior- kick them out, even if they say they have no place to go- your life is not worth making up for the shortcomings of people who refuse to be responsible for themselves!
The moment I saw, “Before we moved in together he had a trash closet.” I was like 🚩! But I’m glad that you don’t have to deal with that anymore. No one wants to be their partners parent!
@@linnforfreedom Ditto. Yet finding out Christmas he had moved on was like a punch in the stomach, same day I found out roommate I treated like a little sis has been stealing from me and other roommate and playing us against each other (I wrote a long story above. Glad Christmas is over. Well, lots to talk about in group therapy tomorrow. Hope you had a nice Christmas and will have a very happy New Year.
I had a roommate that was soooooo unbelievably messy and dirty. Whenever I would do the dishes , she would yell at me and tell me not to do them bc “how did I expect them to learn how to do them if I was always cleaning them?” So I stopped doing them and they began to pile up. 2 weeks later they still weren’t done and there were actual bugs in the sink because of it. When I went on vacation with my mom, my other roommate texted me and told me that roommate 1 was constantly in my room and she was bringing boys into my room and having sex with them on my bed. When I got home I went into my room to find it completely trashed. I asked her to clean it up and she destroyed my bed spread. When I asked her to replace it, she said no and that cleaning up was more than enough for her. It’s because of her that I refuse to have roommates now.
When my kids were little, I had let a co-worker friend move in with us cause I felt sorry for her. Things were great for awhile until she started having bf problems. They'd fight, break up, get back together. Fight, break up, get back together. Then late one night he came over super drunk, pounding on my door, screaming for her, that he was going to kill her etc. She was terrified. I called the police. But there was nothing they could do. She wasn't on the lease and she refused to press charges against him so they had to let him go. He never even left the property. They restrained him in the police car and once she said she wasn't going to do anything about it, they were forced to let him walk away. I was livid! So the next time she was gone over at that same bf's house, a friend came over, we packed up all of her shit and went and dropped it off on his front lawn. She came out screaming and crying that she couldn't kick me out, she didn't have a place to live. And he was screaming cause how dare I just drop her shit off at his place. I said, sorry but I'm done, got back in the car, drove away and never looked back.
People like this are why I would rather live in a hole in the ground than with other people. I can’t imagine being stuck in that situation for the rest of the lease.
When I got divorced a woman from work and I decided she would move in and it would be great. Day 2 of her living there her boyfriend moved in. I had explained to her that there was an issue with my bank because of said exhusband but not to worry I was paying all the utilities cash to avoid issues. The apartment was quirky and to keep my room warm enough to exist in you had to put the heat pretty high and then crack a window in the other room. She knew and accepted this when she moved in. She also knew I had 4 cats and there could be no more animals. Within a week of bf moving in he was changing the heat in the middle of the night so I would wake up frozen, literal see your breath, tried calling both my bank and the utilities pretending to be me and left a straight up aggressive note, while I was in the other room, that he wanted a full account of all of my spending, Then he brought home a pair of kittens for her. That was it. I talked to the landlord who I knew really well and let him know I wanted to dump them and needed to break my lease and move to a cheaper place. He was awesome. I gave them 30days notice. They then tried calling him and talking shit and saying I was committing fraud by not paying the utilities (they were paid) and that my cats had trashed the apartment. I had rented 3 other units from him in the past with the same 4 cats, he said he had nothing to do with them and if I said out they best GTFO they had 30 days. I will NEVER have roommates again. Nope. I would rather live in a tiny hovel of an apartment then have to deal with the BS other people rain down.
Should take all the ignorant roommates and put them together. Whenever buddy says(in that goof voice) "asshole kicked me out", don't let them move in. There's a reason why he/she was kicked out. Or the famous "I just need a place for two weeks". You never see housing advocates offering their place for bums like this.
Need a place for two weeks, go to a hostel not my house. Although I have had friends let me stay at their homes when i got off active duty but i at least cook and clean and help with kids. Not everyone does that unfortunately.
Moved into a flat with two friends and it was an utter midden! The rent was next to nothing, comparatively. We cleaned it up; painted and spruced it up; saved up and we all moved on, after two years. The landlady - who was a gem - doubled the rent for the tenants who followed us. So, I would like to thank the skanky, stinking sewer-rats who turned a nice flat into a disgusting 'crack-den'. You saved me a fortune!
After living alone for my undergrad, I am now living with 3 other guys for grad school. I hate it. One of them had their gf move in without telling anyone anything. I gave up on cleaning the kitchen because it's always a mess and I stopped throwing away trash because no one else will do it. They leave their dirty dishes in the sink for weeks and then use my stuff which I wash everytime. Guess we'll see the state of it after I come back from 2 weeks of holiday break. 😐
Lmfao that sink one hit TOO CLOSE!! Literally left Friday afternoon (130pm) and then came back Saturday night (6pm) came home to a full sink with egg residue on the spatula, two forks, and Two plates..( I’m allergic to them and cats) and now we have fruit flies ALL AFTER I ( me, myself and I) washed all dishes, dusted, swept, vacuumed and mopped 4 times (hot water last two times). LOL.
I had a flatmate who got sacked from her job at a pub for drinking too much. She spent her last pay on a CASE of 24 beers, sausages and onions....then couldn't pay her rent. I paid it but said I would need the money returned by the Monday and I would be telling all the other people involved because it wasn't acceptable. I invited a friend over at the time she was due to pay, and she angrily flung the money at me. We told her she had to move out the following week after discussing her attitude. She was shocked. She was 21 years old and a chronic alcoholic.
Just in time! I grabbed a coffee and now it's time for my daily Charlotte therapy session. I just recently discovered you and I bingewatch all of your videos! Love you so much
I've had so many bad roommate experiences. One of my current roommates rinses out their "recycling" and leaves it in the sink. Basically, our sink is full of trash mixes with dishes. Whenever I empty the sink to fill the dishwasher, I throw out the trash. I have ADHD and depression, so I know how difficult executive dysfunction is, but...seriously
I get rinsing out the recycling, I do the same so we don't have bugs crawling around in the recycling, but put it in the recycling once you're done rinsing. That's all part of the same chore.
Ugh it's getting to be i can't hear the word "recycling" without getting irritated. Upon moving in my roommate insisted we have a separate recycling bin that she would just throw in her car and take to the recycling center across the street from her work. She does take it...sometimes...once every 2 months or so... most of the time it's in a huge pile that I eventually get sick of and throw away. Drives me nuts but other than that she's actually great to live with.
@@katedevlin9425 here in Finland recycling is so easy bc it is mandatory to have recycling bins in every apartments yard. Like we have paper, card box, metal, glass, bio and plastic. And we recycle all most 100% all our bottles and soda cans too (I recall it´s like 98%) ,because there is this little money deposit on every returnable bottle /soda can. It helps a lot that you don´t have to get your s*it and drive any where else for recycling. And it should be easy bc we people are lazy as f* :D
Clean before and after messing with raw meat of any kind! Imagine the bacteria from the meal prepared there before. That counter made me wanna skip dinner 😂
Miscommunication between roommates happens a lot, but cleaning / distribution of chores need to be sorted out from the start. Otherwise, one person will end up being the parent.
Like me, EVEN when in a walker recovering from surgery! Or else place would be filthy and I worried about germs, bacteria, viruses etc. with healing from one surgery (hip replacement 1), breaking femur, then hip on other side which needed a replacement ANYWAY but not so fast.
Hope everyone is having an amazing christmas. I wish for the new year the end of this pandemic, lots of love and success for all of us. And this Channel deserves one million subscribers. At least...lol ❤️🎄
I went further and moved to a different country to live with friends and two years later we're no longer friends and I ended up moving with another friend who I barely knew and ended up being the best housemate I've ever had, so I wasted almost a year and a half trying to keep others happy but myself. Something we do is that we split payment on almost everything we buy, whenever I decide to move out I'll just get my half of what I paid for those things.
The only time I've had a roommate was when I was in the USAF and lived in the barracks, so no choice there. Sloppy, pig pen people. One had foot odor so bad I had to leave whenever he took off his boots. Once I made enough rank (money) I moved off base and NEVER looked back. I would live on the street rather than ever getting a roommate again!!
Charlotte, this was quite a collection! For the brief time I had someone staying in my house, she cost me money up one side and down the other. She didn't want to take the soiled litter from the cat box out to the garage, so she thought she'd pour it down the toilet. Do you know how much plumbers charge to come out and remove a toilet & snake the line on a Sunday? Another time, she got pi**ed off because the edge of the lineoleum at the doorway to the laundry room had curled up, and rather than put some vinyl adhesive on it and weight it down, she got 2" construction staples and hammered them through the flooring, the subfloor, and into the tubing that carries hot water around to warm the floors. Yep - another huge plumbing/HVAC bill. When she was packing to move out, I noticed my favorite cast iron skillet missing. I went hunting around and found she had secreted it away in one of the drawers of an armoir (mine) in the family room. The weight of it had broken the bottom of the drawer so it was difficult to open and close. Clearly she had intended taking it with her on moving day. To say I rejoice in living alone is an understatement.
I have had roommates who would cook something & leave their dishes & pans in the sink for WEEKS. I didn't wanna clean up after them, so I left it there. Not only that, a roommate that I shared a bathroom with would say that I leave the bathroom a mess, when I really didn't. The icing on the cake was the driveway battles. We had spots for four cars, two in the garage & two in the driveway. They'd tell me to park in the street to which I replied I'd get towed if I did that. They said it wasn't their problem. Heck one roommate, literally said she'd tow me out of the driveway. Fun fact, all the bills were in MY NAME!
My college roommate thought I was her only friend and assumed that meant she was mine…when she learned otherwise girl lost her mind. Sooooo. She locked me out of my room. She stalked me after I moved out, destroyed everything I owned, smashed my TV, and turned in 3 assignments + a at home exam before I could even start them. Got away with all of it because her daddy was one step away from governor of our state. Was so fun.
The main thing I learnt was to never live with friends. Moved in with my bestie, and she got a boyfriend, didn't like him and had the rule that he wasn't at the house without her. They broke that so fast, their rule was that The dogs weren't allowed inside with supervision. They broke that and when one of them destroyed the remote she tried to blame me. I may have had depression, but I followed our agreed upon rules, and she tried to always blame me. Lesson learnt: never live with friends
We had a Roommate From Hell in 2020 of all years to have one. He smoked in his room (we specifically told him no smoking in the apartment), always had random women over (pretty much had two roommates most of the year where one stayed for free), and he was feeding these women with the groceries I bought (I was ready to fight this dude over some chicken nuggets)! I felt bad for my fiancé because he finally got to witness a new level of hellish rage that my 5'0" gremlin spirit was able to release against that crap of a roommate. My fiancé told me that our roommate was terrified to ask me for anything after that night. The best part about crawling out of 2020 and moving back to our home state in early 2021 was finally getting rid of that dude! Me to my fiancé - "NO MORE ROOMMATES!!!"
I lived with my bff right after we got of HS. We went to college together and she was just the dirtiest person I've ever met. I guess her mom would clean when she lived with her because she would not move to help me clean our apartment. I ended up usually just having to beg her to help me. I was going to school for 18 hours, went to work 8 hours a day, and then came back and had to clean up the mess she'd make during the day because she would not help 🙃 Fist and last time I've ever talked/lived with her and I feel so sorry for whoever ends up with her.
In first year of college, I shared /rented a room with 8 others. It was interesting and chaotic at the same time. I was pondering of moving to a new boarding house after 3 months until one day, after classes, I went straight to home only to discover a used feminine napkin on my bed. I was shocked and speechless for a few minutes. When that wore off, I was disgusted. I left the boarding house as soon as I found a new place. In 2nd year of college, I rented a bed in a boarding house and there were 4 beds in a room. 3 of us are neat and the 4th, "Z" was not messy but she leaves her shoes everywhere. One time, she left her new & unused sandals on top of my study desk. She picks it up when you ask her to but won't if no one tells her to. One of our roommate "A" was fed up with her and the constant reminder to keep her shoes in her space. The last draw was when she left it in the middle of the room and was muddy. I saw A pick up the shoes by the laces, swing it over her head like a cowboy then threw the shoes against the wall then shoes dropped down on the bed of Z. Mud was on the wall and the sheets on the bed. Of course, both had a very loud argument and Z had to leave. Afterwards, A talked to us and explained that she's ocd about cleanliness and 6 months of seeing the shoes out of its place left her stressed. 6 months was the longest she could take it. After college, I enrolled for a 2 week class for cocktail mixing. They rented out rooms for students but you have to share it with 3 others. My boyfriend dropped me off the site and asked the lady guard if it was OK if he can bring my huge bag to the room and she said it was OK. When we opened the door, there were 3 women inside. The 2 were the same age as I (sewing class) while the other one was 15 years older than me (she was taking classes on automatic maintenance) . The first week with the older lady was hell. She felt like a boss and kept telling us what she didn't like in us like how long we use the bathroom or what time we use the bathroom. It's like she wanted us to adjust to her schedule. I didn't care. I said "first come first serve". I said wake up earlier if she wanted to use the bathroom first. She hated that the other boarder was eating chips in the room or that they talk too much at 7pm. She said they were too loud. She also hated that I set my alarm at 7am. My classes starts at 8am. We tried to ignore her for as long as we can by not talking to her for obvious reasons. Apparently, that made her even more mad. One time I was studying, she decided to set her alarm at the loudest volume non stop. So I yelled at her to stop it. I said, if you got a problem with me, talk to me or come at me. That's when we realize she was a coward. She turned off the alarm then slinked into her bed without looking at me. The next day, I said hi to the lady guard on my way to class. The lady guard was apprehensive at first then decided to tell me something. Apparently, the older roommate was always reporting all our "offenses" to the lady guard. She Even reported the part where my bf brought the luggage to our room and that was the first day. The lady guard was asking if I threatened her because that's what she told the lady guard. I said, "no, I just gave her options". Told her the story and she understood. The 3 other boarders classes last for 3 months. I left after 2 weeks but I kept in touch with the 2 boarders. They said they didn't like how the other boarder treated me so they got even for me. The older hangs her underwear to dry in the bathroom. Everytime she hangs a new underwear, they apparently dunk the underwear in the toilet or use it as a rag to wipe the toilet. They said they've been doing it for a month and they plan to do it till their last day of their stay. I said, you do what makes you happy and just laughed. Yeah, I never shared a space with another roommate after that. It's not worth to deal with difficult people to save a few money for rent. Unless you really have no choice, I wouldn't recommend sharing a rental space with anyone.
Something I WISH I knew when I was younger (in my twenties or whenever). These experiences, though perhaps not traumatic as such, do COMPOUND in life. So the next time you experience something similar, you experience the psychological effects of not just the one happening but also the Ines before and so on it goes. Until you reach a stage of experiencing the effects of 10 of these things when 1 is actually happening later in life. Later in life you have also a fraction of the energy to deal with these things. So my STRONG advice is, don't put up with sh*t because it seems easier than just moving or getting rid of someone because, at the time it seems to be the easier thing to do. The consequences long term will be waaaay worse. Just get ahead and do the smart thing while you are young and get those toxic people OUT of your life asap! Please! I WISH I'd known this earlier in my life. Learn from my mistakes.
Seriously. I said in another comment that I've had so many bad roommate experiences. It's easier to notice the red flags now. I even lived in a co-op where we had to have weekly meetings and interviews to vet new people. Even then, toxic people slipped through because "they were having a hard time." I'm no longer in a co-op. My current toxic roommate said that they wanted someone to be direct with them when there was an issue. Every time I am, they implode/explode. (Like hit themselves and yell.) I just want to move out every time. I can't afford it. Their former roommates were super passive aggressive...i wonder why.
my rules with having a roommate when i get one: 1. dont break any of my stuff please (that are probably expensive) 2. tell me when there is a party in our room so i can know 3 help clean dishes 4. dont be a roommate from hell
My one roommate experience was awesome! She was a clean freak and I worked harder to keep the common spaces clean so she would be more comfortable. She was happy and I got better at cleaning! Then I got married and had kids 😑😑😑
My roommates have taken years off my life. I just know it. They left dishes and trash everywhere, even knowing I had recently broken both my hands and I had told them I'll do my own but I'm buying us a dishwasher because hand washing is very painful for me. So naturally they refused to wash their own dishes for two and a half years and after I blew up crying about it two years in to one of them, they all claimed they had no idea it was bothering me and I should have just told told them to, doling chores out like their mother I GUESS, but then the excuse became that my being so tense and upset about doing everybody else's dishes while in pain (while my employer was also ignoring my doctor's notes and causing even more pain) that 'I PUT THEM IN A BAD MOOD' and that made it harder for them to function. They barely even saw me because I worked ALL the time (even while they were unemployed they wouldn't clean) so they may have heard me walking above them but I don't stomp so idk how they claim to know I was upset when they just said they had no idea I was upset and should've told them sooner 🤦 so I'm the ass hole..... For cleaning up after them without a frown or an unkind word for two years. And I shared my weed with those dicks. Never again.
I was so broke a couple of times during a rough year financially. I was working, but my job would sometimes take 8 weeks to pay me so I would be scrambling to pay my bills. I had to choose between groceries and paying rent a couple times. One week I literally only ate a loaf of bread for all my meals. My roommates noticed my cupboard was empty and offered to share their food until I got paid. I made up for it later and bought them groceries to make up for it when I got money. They were awesome roommates. These roommates also cleaned!
I had roommates who pulled me through a tough mental health situation. Those people are gold, and they probably don't even realise how big a difference they made 💜
I had a messy roommate. She had a special skill of using every single clean dish possible to make one meal and not cleaning up after herself. One day I came home to find to my surprise the kitchen looked clean for once! Keyword: Looked. Imagine my disappointment when I find dirty dishes in the cupboard and trash in the dishwasher (and not, you know, the garbage can). When I asked why she said she had friends coming over and wanted the place to look nice so she hid the mess. SMH
I can relate to you Char. A while back I was washing clothes and my younger brother then proceeded to take my clothes out of the washer and dryer then put everything on the floor. I was beyond pissed. Later on he left and I proceeded to put crayons in every pants pocket that he had in the dryer and turned on the dryer. It was funny to see him try and put things in his pocket as they were melted together. #badroommate #pettygoddess.
I've had multiple flat mates leave piles of dirty dishes in the kitchen. The solution of picking up all their dirty shit and leaving it in a pile outside their bedroom door for them to unknowingly step in/trip over when they come out usually worked quite well
I had soo many bad roommates! The top two were these two girls one threatened to punch me in the face if I touched her stuff and accused me of abusing my dog and the other never cleaned. She dyed her hair in a carpeted room when she was less than 2 feet from the tile kitchen. She left her dishes in the sink for over a month when she did decide to leave nasty food water in the sink for a week until I had to stick my hand is foul smelling water and let it out. She wasn't very happy when I decided throw her dishes away!
Another great video Charlotte! I'm sorry that topic of roommates always pull out your roomie PTSD and despite that you keep us entertained anyway. You're such a sweetheart . Have awesome end of the year! ❤️
Happy Holidays! 🎉🎁🥂🎉🎁🥂🎁 That garbage one.... It truly burns my biscuits when people see a obviously FULL garbage can and puts MORE garbage in it! Stop being freaking lazy and take it out instead of waiting for someone else to do it!
Had a roommate who was passive aggressive and a bully, and another who never cleaned up her mess after cooking, trimming her boyfriend's hair, left the lights on ALL THE TIME, would never take the garbage out and would never clean. and did so many other things. The garbage thing went for most of my roommates except for my last roommate of three months. First time living with roommates was awful and I never want to again.
I am sorry to say that I was in a desperate place mentally and moved into the grossest situation of a house that was a former meth user’s and the brother wasn’t much better (he was my roommate along with 2 others who had roomed with him before). They left old dog shit everywhere in the house. I lived there for two months and when he threatened my life and my family’s life after a night of drinking and gambling away the rent money I gave him, I called the police and my parents who lived in town, and moved out in under 2 hours. There was still dog shit piles in the sun room the day I left. The other two roomies were female and male, and neither cared about him threatening my life because they had lived with him before. They also didn’t care about the shit and cockroaches either, and used my nice dishes and never washed them after we all were told ‘house rules’..I was the only one who wanted them followed. A dark place in time for me. And the police never followed up with me after that day even though they said they would. I spent the next year with my head on a swivel in case that asshole ambushed me at work or my parents’ house. I still say F**k you to him and the two roomies every time I think of them.
I am sorry. Living in a place for ppl with mental &/or physical issues. Had to clean up while in walker or it did n't get done. Found out roomie J playing roomie D and I against each other saying the OTHER one was a thief. Roomie J (who gets dangerous past a certain point of anger) away for Christmas , D & I talked a LOT & found all this out. I posted a long thing above. Christmas was awful-I treated J like a little sis & she was stealing from me, stealing from D and blaming it on me, I mean, EVERYTHING she thought I wouldn't notice because I was at my then-BFs. Found out Christmas Day HE had moved on and no hope of reconciliation, like we used to get back together after a break-up. Waiting for J to return. Gotta get better and get the f out of here and back to a normal life. D and I have to get J out of here by telling the Agency what has happened, and J NOW, finally, needs to move to a higher level of care
Lol i played this video soo loud because everything Charlotte said about "just pick it up", "be an adult", etc., just hit on point for me!!! I say these to my 31 yr old bf every single day. He is absolutely disgusting. Literally we fight about this ALLLL the time... irresponsible, gross, disrespectful.
Dump him ... unless you are going to only a housewife and not work ... because he will not change , and will expect you to work all day a+d. Then come home and do all the housework also... because housework is women's work .. ** your doing it now **
Before Chad and I got married, we shared a three bedroom apartment with four other people. We paid our part of the rent every month and for a few months everything was fine. Then we came home one day to find an eviction notice on the door. Things were straightened out that time, but it happened again the following month. Since we had proof we had paid our part, Chad and I called the landlord and showed him. He let the two of us out of the lease and we moved out before the others knew that. We haven't had roommates since and I couldn't be happier! They had also left food out all the time and other than our room the place was disgusting. I was so happy to get out of there.
Charlotte has really been through some hideous experiences in her life . 🤔 . Happy that she never has go through this situation again . I stayed with a group only for the first 1 year when I was in a new city . After that , took an affordable place about 2 hours from my workplace . The up and down travel was bearable compared to my ex- roommates .
@@creativetamara1326 we were all single 22-25 year old males who had come to a new city . The first burst of freedom from living with our families and all of us (including me shamefully ) took to enjoying as if there was no tomorrow . Imagine compressing all the wild things you do in college and afterwards into 1 year of madness . I still shudder about it even though it has been more than a decade . Afterwards never a roommate . I can at least sleep on the bus and come home to a clean house not smelling of vomit , piss and worse .
two of my roommates in college last year moved out after the fall semester and left a bunch of trash in the common room for me and my other roommate that stayed to clean up.
Thank you for this post, Charlotte! My roommate from hell was - at that time - the ex girlfriend of my boyfriend. Yes, I agreed for her to live with us temporarily, short story she said “she had a break in.” My then BF took pity and soon realized that the break in was probably one of the many men she met on Craigslist. Different man every night! Fearing for my safety - I quickly moved out. This saga didn’t end here… I also walked in on her and my then BF taking a shower together. Traumatizing.
What made you agree to have the ex move in in the first place.. I'm sorry but the quote "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me" fits you perfectly you sound like a pushover. Pls don't let people take advantage of you like that ever again.
I once rented a room out in my house and it specified in the lease that there is an additional $50 a month fee for maid services. I gave my roomies a chance to have the fees dropped if they'd keep the house to my standard. Three months in and they have stopped complaining about the fees because they didn't even know you have to take apart lighting fixtures to clean them, scrub baseboards, dust behind furniture, or wash trash cans regularly. People these days, I swear!
You sound like a nightmare to live with. I just make sure my roommate never leaves dishes in the sink and empties the dryer lint and I thought I was strict.
@@isaT No. Only people who want to be allowed to force others to live in their filth have a problem with someone enforcing cleanliness standards. If they don't like it they can go live in a pig sty with the other pigs.
Thank you for uploading so regularly especially during the holidays. I look forward to your videos everyday. I already binged watched your entire RUclips library so you uploading daily makes me so happy.
@@MamaPinks, Hello there, friend❣So nice to see you again. I'm not so great, but I'm getting through it. I miss chatting with you. I hope you're doing great. 🤗❤🌞
@@Trista072 I'm doing pretty good. Bad leg days the past couple, but they've been doing great the last couple of weeks! Miss you too my friend. Have you heard from Gay Danger Noodle? I hope he's/she's well!
I learned so MUCH about learning how to communicate and set healthy, understandable boundaries when I had roommates. And Charlotte, I am sorry to say that I was guilty of only washing my dishes at one point. I would highly recommend for everyone to live with roommates at some point in their life. You learn so much.
I could write PAGES about one roommate I had... Literally. Pages. And, he was there less than 2 months. Never, ever met someone so entitled, selfish, passive aggressive... He once told me his "brother tried to drown him" when he was yonger. By the end, I was on his brother's side.
I'd trade any of these roommates for the one who started doing cocaine and among other things smashed the TV (originally his so fine), ripped my bedroom door off the hinges and punched me in the face all over the course of the month I had already put in my 30 day notice to leave.
My roommate went home for a month and I did all the laundry she left including her towels, bedsheet and pillow case just so she'll come back with clean sheets and all. She didn't ask me to do it as well. I do it whenever she's leaving at least a week or more because she works too much
Ohh I relate to all of these so much! Probably why I am such a clean freak. I cringed at a lot of these, I think the best was the rats in the fridge, even after the snake passed away. 🤣 I think Charlotte died a little. Congratulations on hitting 750k Subscribers, and almost 500k on your FB page. I hope everyone had a great Christmas and has a great Sunday!!!
@@janasmith1682 🤦🏻♂️ My bad, that makes it even worse. I get it if you are going to bury them, but that's why you have a separate freezer. They do not belong with your food.
That's some real horror-show level crap right there! I couldn't sleep in the same house with a person who thinks putting dead pets in the fridge is okay. How hard is it to just bury the things??? We consider our pets to be family and have a pet cemetary on our property (it's a 20 acre ranch, so there's a horse, several goats, cats, dogs...) When my son's beloved kitty died in his arms, he was unconsolable. We had a memorial service for his best friend of 17 years. He put his body in my favorite antique 1940s Samsonite suitcase for burial, an antique worth over $100. Although I was cringing on the inside, I shut the hell up and told him it was a good choice, and also gave him a nice soft blanket to wrap Puff in. That sweet kitty deserved no less.
My first year of college I had one roommate who said her brothers were going to come down from their hometown and kill me because I accidentally locked her out of the apartment, I thought she had her keys. Another was super religious to the point of saying that I was possessed because I wasn't her religion and if none of my friends were her religion they couldn't come and visit. She'd also leave her dirty dishes in the sink until they molded, didn't flush the toilet, didn't take her garbage out before Christmas break and the whole apartment smelled of I don't even know what. I had to call my other two roommates to get their permission to go into their bedrooms and open the windows to air it out.
Have a wonderful day Potato Queen 👑 I hope your Christmas was good. Stay safe and have an awesome New Year! Hopefully 2022 is better than 2020/2021❤️ I look forward to see what you have in store for us this coming year
I had a horrible roommate I grew up with and she let me move in. Little did I know she was doing drugs and came after me with a knife one night when we got into a disagreement, and my first reaction was to grab the knife and throw it, then beat her ass. She then put a restraining order on me and kept all my belongings. 🤦🏼♀️
My former bff and I moved in together while working at the same law firm, in the same dept that essentially consisted of just us 2. She had a terrible issue with drinking which I'm not shaming as I understand addiction is a disease. But when you're both responsible for showing up and doing your job and you're the only one who is while knowing your roommate is just extremely hungover was difficult to say the least. One day I couldn't find one of my cats so I had to open roommate's bedroom door...OMG. There was moldy food in my dishes everywhere(which I suspected as they weren't in the kitchen, but confirmed), mountains(yes plural)of empty wine boxes, and trash everywhere. Literally not 1 sq foot of floor showing. She had to move out and back in with her parents due to medical issues and I've refused to get a roommate since. We remained "friends" in the sense we wish each other a happy birthday. She recently asked to stay here with a dog that her ex gave her along with that ex, his brother and his cousin, none of whom I know. I said no because I have 2 cats, am a woman who lives alone and now she won't speak to me. I've realized that she wasn't really ever my friend. It's sad but necessary. Protecting my peace at all costs these days and that means no toxicity in my home.
I'm absolutely that flatmate who cleans only her dishes. Once you start cleaning after the others, you'll never go from there.
Everyone should be respectful and clean their messes.
And then once the pile gets so high of dishes you did not made you tell them if they don't clean the mess in 24 hours you will put it in a trash bag and offer to either leave it in their room or outside. She's probably still mad about that and I don't feel bad about it at all. :)
Me too. Unfortunately they are my pots and pans so I often have to clean them as I hate my expensive cookware rotting in my sink.
Completely agree. At the beginning I wouldn’t mind washing my roommates dishes if there were just a few but once I noticed that they would rely on me to clean literally EVERYTHING, I stopped cleaning their mess because they should be responsible too and I was not their maid. I eventually came to the realization that they only liked me around because I would clean for them and not because they actually liked me.
I did the cleaning for the whole house for two weeks after I moved in. After I noticed my three other roommates would never make a consistent effort to clean while also leaving messes after I had just picked up (and playing the blame game when asked to clean up, like children) I stopped cleaning entirely aside from my room and the half bath.
Yeah if I just have like a plate and a coffee cup to wash, you're damn right I'm going to wash them without disturbing the ecosystem of two-day-old dirty dishes already threatening to escape the sink. You'd have to pay me to deal with that kind of mess lol
I think everyone has moments of not being a great roommate. I went through a big depressive episode and totally slacked on cleaning, which was so unfair to my roommate. She addressed it one day after she got off work and was doing dishes, and I let her know about what I was dealing with mentally. From then on, I worked on being better at cleaning and she was understanding of my mental health. It wasn’t perfect by any means but we made it work!
You hit the nail on the head - while a living situation might not be ideal, communication between the people occupying the same space often shrinks the problems from large to small. I'm glad you had such an understanding roomie, and that you were able to talk to her openly about what was going on with you mentally and emotionally - that's hard enough to do when you're having a GOOD day. Kudos to you.
@@ZoeAlleyne Oh no not underwear 🤢🤢🤢
Exactly how any good relationship would work... 😊
@@hilarymol6607 It's great that the roommate compromised. I went through intesnse depression but didn't explain myself or seek compromise from my chore-police roommate. She was an unapproachable beyotch. Her preferred method of communication was to do things like put a sign on the dishwasher that said "Why is Annie the only roommate I've met? Do other humans live here? Because more than one person's dishes get put in me."
(FYI there were 4 roomies. Me, Annie and 2 other girls. I worked as a manager at Panera so I didn't use dishes. Food from work was free, and being a broke-ass 21 year old I just ate there or brought stuff home in to-go containers.)
Annie even bought a dry erase board and created an f*ing gold-star chore chart. The catalyst was another roommate who left clothes in the dryer because she got called in to work while it was running.
Oh damn, I just remembered this! One roommate woke up super late one morning and didn't take out the trash on her way to class. She took care of it immediately after getting home that day, but that didn't matter to Annie. This event sparked a formal house meeting which was actually all of us listening to Annie bitch for an hour. BTW, the time between forgetting the trash and dealing with the trash was about 1.5 hours.
Well that was a rant! Lol, sorry 😞
@@ZoeAlleyne dang, I thought I was the only one this had happened to…twice!! And one was a male roommate!🥴
I just want you to know that my husband and I watch you together all the time and quote you on a daily basis. We literally say goodbye to each other by yelling, "Subscribe!" in the Charlotte way! Thank you for all the effort you put in to your channel💟💟
"Subscribe!" Thats hilarious!
‘’ah yes’’
This is cute 😍
Husband and I do the “I love that for you” in the Charlotte way lol
I've seen 4 different people say this exact same comment on different videos of hers...
You don't clean up spilled laundry detergent with a paper towel. You use dirty laundry.
Brilliant!
Omg I think you just blew my mind. I had a huge detergent spill in my house and I never thought to just soak it up with the dirty towels that needed to be washed anyway 🤦🤯
OMG you are a genius!
Exactly!!! I thought I was the only one who did this lol 😂
Yeeessssss......
My experiences with flat sharing were so horrendous that I refused to let my children share when they went to university, especially after my eldest daughter's experience with a flatmate who trashed the flat and was so threatening she had to barricade herself in her room. I paid for them to have their own self-contained accommodation to protect their mental health. Best investment ever. Being miserable and resentful in what should be your home is not worth it. The best thing is knowing that your space will be as you left it when you come back.
@@crystalh450 yes I agree with this. Being "protected" from having to ever deal with anyone will make it incredibly hard for them when they actually do move in with a partner. There are also many times when they'll have to accommodate others in their workplace, as well. And yeah, having a roommate can also be good as a backup emergency contact.
I totally can relate. Thankfully, my Mom paid extra for me to have my own dorm room, after a bad experience. Was the best thing for me and opted to stay roommate free the rest of my college years, even after getting my own apartment my last year in college. I was able to socialize when I wanted, but also had my own safe and peaceful space to retreat to. ....have been happily married for 17 yrs; Hubby and I didn't live together until after we got married and never having a roommate, but that 1 time, has had no ill effect on me.
Good mother 🏆
@@crystalh450 I agree also. I just wrote about my unbelievably horrible experience but I know God put them in my life for a reason. Dealing with them has trained me in learning to cope with the unavoidable a-holes out there, incl co-workers. It also has motivated me even more to get my sh&t together and get the f out of here...esp bad because it is for ppl with mental and/or physical disabilities (physical for me but had a bout with PK problems but that turned out to be very good because I do a LOT of work on myself...I think there are TONS of ppl who need to be in recovery-group therapy, indiv therapy, rehab perhaps, AA meetings, whatever). Well, will have a LOT to discuss in Group tomorrow after what happened this Christmas finding out how much one roommate has been stealing on Christmas same day I found out ex-BF has someone new and my hopes of reconciliation are shot.
@Misha Minute pain killers. Unavoidable with all the med probs but can get out of hand. Doing great BC of all the heavy work I do. Not letting Christmas from hell stuff make me relapse so very happy about that. God takes care of me but also God helps those who help themselves, so I work hard at this. Not emb to discuss-I hope others will do what they have to do because there is so much help available, incl other ppl who have the disease. Thanks for asking
I lived with a roommate once. Once. Vowed never to live with a roommate ever again. She left her clothes everywhere, didn't do any cleaning, would take my car anytime she wanted (I worked in a different town and would often discover I had no fuel to drive the half hour to get to work and that was usually after having to track down my car pre-cell phone days). She'd have parties with all the "local" kids (14-17 yr old - all males - we were 18) - and never on weekends but during the week, only on days I had to be at work by 6 am. She ate all the food I bought and fed all these kids. Trashed my stereo system. Used my towels when her own car developed an oil leak (Yes, she had her own car but would use MINE instead). She was rude, condescending, tried getting into my purse but when I caught her she said "Just doing some cleaning. Maybe put this away." (Yeah right. You don't clean!!!) She quit her job and informed me 2 days before rent was due - so I told the landlord as I handed her my half of the rent - landlord allowed me to come up with the other half by the middle of the month but told me "DON'T tell HER! Just tell her you have to move because rent isn't there!" Funny how quickly SHE came up with half the rent when I said we had two weeks only - and looked at me with a sneer and said "I have MY half. Where's YOURS?" Too bad, so sad, but I had already told the landlady I'd be moving at the end of the month. I didn't tell the roommate so at the end of the month she was shocked when she discovered all my belongings in my locked car and a friend there with a truck to pick up my bed and living room furniture. I left her with her clothes and bed. Everything else was mine. She even tried to tell me that it would go on my record for skipping rent without giving the land lady notice - yeah...about that...Land lady has known for 4 weeks now. I'm renting a one bedroom off her down the road. Oh, and by the way, power, heat, water, sewer and phone are all in MY name and being switched over to my new place as of...(Lights go off)...Now...Bye bye. Lived in that house until I moved in with my boyfriend a year later - and he's been far better roommate for the last 33 years. Our son is 20 and was offered a place with a few of his friends and he told us "I really like them, but I know what they are like. I can tolerate their messiness when they are in their own places. I wouldn't be able to tolerate their messiness if I lived with them. Mom, when they came over and spent the weekend here? They left pizza boxes all over the basement with pieces of pizza crust all over! Even ON THE COUCH! I spent a week cleaning up their mess! Nope. I'll just keep paying you $500 a month for rent and food and have a clean space because I clean up my own mess and you and Dad clean up your messes!" So I'm guessing until he can afford an apartment all on his own, he will be living with us. (And, btw, we aren't "mean parents" - we put that $500 in a secret account for him - so one day, we will surprise him with a nice little downpayment for a house for himself.)
That 500 dollar thing is so good! Because you're not actually taking the money from him but are still teaching him what all these horrible roommates haven't learned
I’ve been lucky in the roommate department so far. Just little things that annoyed me. Now my Gma lives with me which is actually about the perfect setup. She’s hard of hearing and can sleep through anything so I don’t have to tiptoe around when she’s asleep. We both don’t like people around and she unloads the dishes every morning and I load and start the dishes every night.
My last roommate (F and much older than me) decided that I would be the male in the house. I’d work full time, and she’d stay home cooking, cleaning, laundry (my. . . stuff 😬) I did what any responsible adult in this situation would do, I moved out! She took my decision like a first time girl friend who was getting dumped. “You can’t leave me. What am I supposed to do?” ~ “Be an adult and get a job. Figure it out. It’s not my problem anymore.” I’m roommate free on purpose.
She was born a century later than she wanted to be.
Wow!
Lived on my own for years and then one day was convinced by a close friend to move in to a new place together for cost saving reasons. Within a couple of months I saw her true character (a narcissistic control freak!) and rued the day I agreed to move in with her. On a positive note I hated being at home while she was there so much I would leave and either go to the gym or for a jog around the neighbourhood...my arse had never looked so good! 😂 Needless to say we are no longer friends & I've never had another roommate EVER! 😣
My ex roommate never cleaned.. And when she did dishes, they were only the ones she'd used. She would get mad if I didn't use my free meal a day (I was a server and got a free meal per eight hour shift) to feed her. She never bought groceries. She also said it was my job to clean her bathroom and bedroom. We had a two bed/two bath apartment. She thought I should clean hers when I did mine. She once caught the kitchen on fire and told the landlord I'd pay for the damages.. I didn't. I only lived with her for about four nightmarish months.
This is why I never get roomates and always rent apartments all alone. Maybe I pay more when I do, but at least I can decorate eveything the way I want, nobody steals my food or borrow my stuff without asking, and the house is always clean and quiet. Also uninvited guests are not welcome. Introvert life is the best life, peace is too precious xD!
I once lived with 4 other people in a 3 story house, one bathroom on each floor and only used the top floor bathroom since my bedroom was on the top floor and also my bathroom stuff was in that one. One night before I went on a trip to California for 3 weeks, literally the next morning, they had a massive Halloween party. Someone had apparently projectile vomited in the bathroom on the 2nd floor. And instead of cleaning it up they closed the bathroom door and left it there for the entire 3 weeks I was gone. When I got back it had become flaky and I ended up being the one to clean it up. I moved out a month later.
I once got locked out of my bathroom for the entire night by my house-mate as she had gotten drunk and passed out on the floor. I also discovered the bathroom carpet had been ripped up and shoved halfway out the window coz she had thrown up all over it! (I forgave her...still best friends 25 yrs later!LOL).
That's fucking disgusting. I'm so sorry
Yikes! That's horrible!
I hope Charlotte does a companion video to this about landlords from Hell. I've had a few.
One of the worst used to come by and let himself inside the house when we weren't home. He tried to make us pay for new carpet because the former tenant had dogs that destroyed the carpet in the bedroom. We had no dogs.
I had taken lots of pictures before we leased the place, proving that damage was there previously, and wrote him a letter describing all the damage we found before we moved in. I took a photo of the letter next to that day's newspaper, proving that he was aware of the problems before we even signed a lease. He accused me of trying to "trick" him.
We changed the locks on the doors (something I always do when moving into a new place) and he pitched a fit about that, erroneously claiming he had a right to let himself in any time he felt like it.
Who raises people like this?
@@LazyIRanch wow ...
There's too much risk and drama with having a roommate! I had only one decent roommate whom I'm still friends with today. If she hadn't gotten married, we'd still be roommates. I own a 3 bedroom 2 bath house now, and hell no I'm not getting a roommate!! I even tried helping out family by letting my young nephew move in with me so he could save money, he wanted to eat all my food, not do any chores and then boss me around! I said "get the F out"!! He went crying to mommy and hasn't spoken to me since because I won't apologize. It's so peaceful living alone!!
Good for you for standing up for yourself.
The worst tenants we ever had was one family, that had 5 dogs living inside, and had brought several family members,without notice, to live with them. In total there were 12 people and 5 dogs living in a 4 bedroom house. The worst thing is that, when they left, the whole house was covered in dog poo, the restroom had never been washed in a year, there were holes in the walls, window by the door was broken and they even dug up a dead dog, they had initially buried, and left, decomposing, in a bag, at the front door. Needless to say, they didn’t get their deposit back.
Mierda.
...and that is why as a landlord, I refuse people with pets (even though I'm a huge animal lover myself and have my own dogs). Unfortunately I just know all too well how many other people don't know how to clean up after their pets or get them house trained to begin with. I also tend to favor people with no kids or only 1-2. I had a tenant leave recently after being there for almost 5 yrs. They had 4 kids and always had different family members over, many had their own small kids. It took 3 MONTHS to clean and fix everything that got destroyed. The walls were drawn all over with PERMANENT marker so had to paint everything. The carpet had a lot of places that had sticky crap stuck to it that I had to cut out. One of the drains was clogged extremely badly...among so many other things. People don't realize just how bad being a landlord can be many times as many people don't care what they do to a place if they don't own it. It's freaking annoying as hell!!😡😤🤬
In college when we had to move out at the end of the year, they had us split up the cleaning between everyone. Each of us wrote down what room they would be responsible for cleaning. I took living room, one took kitchen, and the other 2 had bathroom (it was split between 3 different rooms so it was fair). The 2 that were doing the bathroom basically just up and left without cleaning shit, all they did was sweep up the hair and leave it in a pile in the middle of the floor. They also forgot to write their names on the cleaning sheet, so we gladly wrote down their names for them and turned it in when we left. Usually if it's not cleaned, the specific person will be fined.
I never washed any of my roommates dishes except for this one time my friend was coming over unexpectedly so i washed everything. My roommate would have DEFINITELY taken advantage of me if i had done that. When she left there was a sink full of deeply crusted dishes that i could tell was all dishes just sitting in her room for weeks/months. I remember her saying we should get a juicer and split the price and i politely refused. I could only imagine what a shit show that would have been to deal with when she moved out, had we went half and half on anything. I could write pages on how aweful it was. I swear living with my roommate probably took years off my life 😩
I'm literally telling my roommates I'm moving out 5 months early today... they're horrible at communicating their issues and lash out at me over the littlest things. I once left crums on the counter and my roommate messaged me at one in the morning saying that she's tired of cleaning up after me (she had never mentioned anything about this before). Then when I came home a day early they were incredibly upset because their friend came by to feed the fish and "I scared her"... IT'S MY HOUSE
So if it's your house, why are you the one moving?
@@hilaryc3203 not my house as I own it, my house as in I pay half the rent. I moved in with them in September and they've never treated me like an equal. Nothing in the livingroom is mine, and if I tried to add something they would put it on the top of the cabinets. We have two parking spaces for the three of us and they've made it clear that I'm not supposed to park there. They enter my room when I'm not there... they've taken in foster dogs without telling me, they put up a "doggy cam" without telling me. They never tell me when they're having people over and then wonder why I spend all my time in my room.
@@sylviayoung149 Time to leave then. Good luck to you
Ugh, reminds me of the time my SIL almost became violent with me because of toast 🙄
I had a roommate that was such an absolute slob! She'd leave plates with half eaten food right behind the chair to my computer (she had her laptop set up on a side table behind my computer chair so she could hook into the router since her wifi didn't work anymore). Wouldn't do the dishes, take the grbage out, or pick up after herself. My mom and a friend were coming to visit me and I had to mad scramble to try and get the apartment cleaned up without help while she just messied it up again behind me as I went. It was terrible. Never again.
The CORE responsibility for this lies with parents. You NEED to teach your children how to a) clean b) budget c) be mindful of others and your personal impact on others d) read contracts. It's interesting that it appears that most of the people being complained about are male. Do parents (i.e. mothers) let them get away with it at home? It's selfish, rude and thoughtless. If you absolutely HAVE to live in a shared situation, make sure you are on the lease, understand the conditions of the lease and have the 'rules' in writing. Watching Charlotte is hilarious but underneath all of these stories is a bunch of miserable people. Sad.
Right! Home training is essential. Also roommate addendum come in handy too. Specially for the younger ones.
Just a quick edit. Parents (i.e. mothers, fathers, etc)
Some of these could also be the result of a traumatic childhood. I have a lot of trouble throwing stuff away, even if I havent used it for years.
This is most likely a result from how my parents treated me as a child and how I've grown attached to material things, cause they cant hurt me. I have most of it packed away in boxes, but I can see how someone might let it get out of control, if they dont have help to deal with these traumatic experiences.
Yes. My parents seem to think children past age 4 can raise themselves and learn discipline and all important life skills on their own, for the most part. I remember my mother trying to get us clean our room (pick toys etc.) about that age but later, they just... gave up. Mother didn't clean much at all from what I remember, she was mainly focused on her career and neglected a lot of other things that should've been important. My father did clean certain parts of the flat (especially the kitchen) cos he couldn't stand it but his approach was to just do it himself (easier) than being an actual parent and teach your kids you have to clean after yourself (harder).
From the outside, normal family, no violent abuse, no drinking problems or anything like that.
My grandma (my mother's mother) came in weekly to vacuum the flat and other cleaning too, I guess she felt bad about the situation and couldn't just watch it. I guess neither of my parents were embarrassed by this?
I've struggled to create new habits, not just cleaning but in general cos the main thing my parents managed to teach me is to be passive and if you wait long enough, somebody's gonna do it on your behalf in the end (well, nobody will anymore when you're an adult).
The last time I visited, my sister's own room (she's a working adult) looked like a hoarder's room - except she's not a hoarder. Empty water bottles, clothes ect. everywhere all over the floor, the bedsheet visibly dirty in the spot where she sat reading books in her free time... I consider this as as an attest to the great job my parents did and while she's an adult (so now it's just her problem) I can't understand how they can be so blind and not see how they have helped to create this (and not feel embarrassed).
Their parents from both sides, neither live or lived like this.
Food in the sink is an absolute dealbreaker for me. Brings back all sorts of childhood trauma.
Same. I hear you.
I am so happy I've had only good roommates....Four of us women lived together for 3 years in college because we liked each other so much. Then my next set of roommates, 4 new people including one guy, it was so much fun and thankfully our male roommate was able to have a room with an attached bathroom so we could all respect each others privacy. Thankful for kind, respectful, mature roommates who cleaned up after themselves and didn't leave passive aggressive notes.
I've had a couple nightmare roommates, and every time I find myself wishing I had someone else living with me I remember them. And am instantly fine with being roommate-free. One of those nightmare roommates never ate anything except Jell-O or instant rice with cream of chicken soup poured on top. Directly from the can. Uncooked. And she never washed her grotty dishes. She had a really nice boyfriend, but I had a hard time being around him because he had green fur growing on his teeth. Seriously, no exaggeration. Nice guy, couldn't look anywhere near him.
Ewwww!
Hilary Mol - Your roommate and her boyfriend, birds of a feather. Easy to be nice when you don't have/take responsibilities for yourself. Her diet may have had something to do with financial reasons? I remember being so broke for a while (living alone) and eating cream of something soups and rice just to fill my belly. And Jell-lo is a very inexpensive "dessert." Not trying to minimize the nightmare of that room mate, but pondering the cause of her diet, and possible lack of cooking skills. Or, some people are just lazy.
How does fur on teeth even happen? Now I'm going to have to google it and see the awfulness because I'm stupid curious.
I am extremy pecky with my first roommate now. Is still not the best thing but I need the extra help with bills and rent :((, I am trying to safe really hard to buy a apartment....
@@jengsci8268 Actually, she was well taken care of by her family. Her parents paid for her half of the house (it was a house cut into two halves, creating side-by-side not-really-a-townhome apartments). She was the youngest, so she was really mollycoddled. Her nightmare sister lived in the other apartment and hated the fact that her little sister was allowed to have a roommate (the older sister's half was paid for, too, but only if she didn't have roommates). Essentially my rent was extra spending money for her, and I got to live in a tiny bedroom with an entire apartment's worth of furniture (mine) because she wouldn't let me put any of my things anywhere else in the house. Oh, and the food thing? She was just really, really picky and hated nearly everything but those three foods. I'm surprised I got out of there with any sanity left. I still can't look at a can of cream of chicken soup without shuddering.
I throughly enjoyed my early 20's roommate situation. Huge house, 5 people, no messes, no drama, parties every weekend.... then a woman showed up with a baby claiming it was the main guy's kid.... we were all forced to find a new place so he can become a dad. Good for him tho, honestly, he stepped up and no hard feelings.
My first apartment out on my own was a cheap studio apartment. I moved in with a friend that I had known for over 5 years and we just turned the living room into a second bedroom for me. First two months or so everything went very smoothly. Then on the third month he just started always being short on his share of rent and utilities. Finally after being short for multiple months in a row he came to me with a proposition. He told me that if I continued to spot him every month for the money that he was short when he got his income tax in the springtime he would give it all to me and we would be even. (He had gotten a new car and claimed the payments were what got him behind to begin with.) This sounded like a fair deal to me and as I said this was someone I knew for 5 years so like an idiot I agreed. Fast forward to spring. He gets his income tax and then while I'm out visiting my parents he moves out of the apartment, steals almost everything I own and uses his tax money to get his own place. This was years ago. I'm now 29 and well off but having to eat 6+ months of rent and utilities set me way back. I had to move back home for 8 months just to get back on feet.
I lived with bits and pieces of all of this for 12 years with my ex… never split the rent, never paid his half of the utilities on time- literally all of the ones he was in charge of were at least 2 months behind, never cleaned up after himself, always made a mess with meat grease right after I would clean the kitchen, never did his own laundry, I had to teach him to shower every day and to use deodorant, occasionally took out the trash (we had trash valet at our apartment- it was right in front of the front door) and occasionally cleaned the cat’s litter box and would hold it over my head whenever I asked him to at least clean up after himself… before we moved in together he had a trash closet… I thought I was in love and that maybe one day he would grow up- turns out I just had really low self worth bc on top of how disgusting he was, he was abusive too- emotionally, psychologically and sometimes physically… he also believed he was healthy when he drank 2 liters of soda and smoked a pack of cigarettes over two days and thought eating quiche with some spinach in it was eating vegetables… he also threw a temper tantrum one Christmas bc I got two more gifts than he did (from my employer at the time)… it’s been three years since I broke up with him and even on my worst, most exhausted days, my house is clean and smells good, the cats are clean and happy, I’m not broke all the time (only sometimes), the bills are always up to date and I’m healthy (no longer living in the hospital for a month and a half out of the year) and I’m in therapy (bc I can afford it now) and I’m so much happier for it… seriously, don’t let people like this guilt you about their disgusting behavior- kick them out, even if they say they have no place to go- your life is not worth making up for the shortcomings of people who refuse to be responsible for themselves!
The moment I saw, “Before we moved in together he had a trash closet.” I was like 🚩! But I’m glad that you don’t have to deal with that anymore. No one wants to be their partners parent!
omg my story is so simmilar it's scary.
I'm so glad you're in a happier and healthier place now! That sounds awful, but I'm glad you're doing better and in therapy to heal ❤
@@linnforfreedom Ditto. Yet finding out Christmas he had moved on was like a punch in the stomach, same day I found out roommate I treated like a little sis has been stealing from me and other roommate and playing us against each other (I wrote a long story above. Glad Christmas is over. Well, lots to talk about in group therapy tomorrow. Hope you had a nice Christmas and will have a very happy New Year.
I'm so glad you're no longer in that situation. No one deserves to be treated like that.
When Charlotte had that full-body freak out over the rats in the freezer!!! I 💯 FELT THAT!!!
So did I
Yes, those dead rats could pay my share of the rent because I would have to move.
I had a roommate that was soooooo unbelievably messy and dirty. Whenever I would do the dishes , she would yell at me and tell me not to do them bc “how did I expect them to learn how to do them if I was always cleaning them?” So I stopped doing them and they began to pile up. 2 weeks later they still weren’t done and there were actual bugs in the sink because of it. When I went on vacation with my mom, my other roommate texted me and told me that roommate 1 was constantly in my room and she was bringing boys into my room and having sex with them on my bed. When I got home I went into my room to find it completely trashed. I asked her to clean it up and she destroyed my bed spread. When I asked her to replace it, she said no and that cleaning up was more than enough for her.
It’s because of her that I refuse to have roommates now.
I'm going to call all my roommates from college. I am now thankful that they were all grown-ass adults and I never experienced crap like this.
When my kids were little, I had let a co-worker friend move in with us cause I felt sorry for her. Things were great for awhile until she started having bf problems. They'd fight, break up, get back together. Fight, break up, get back together. Then late one night he came over super drunk, pounding on my door, screaming for her, that he was going to kill her etc. She was terrified. I called the police. But there was nothing they could do. She wasn't on the lease and she refused to press charges against him so they had to let him go. He never even left the property. They restrained him in the police car and once she said she wasn't going to do anything about it, they were forced to let him walk away. I was livid! So the next time she was gone over at that same bf's house, a friend came over, we packed up all of her shit and went and dropped it off on his front lawn. She came out screaming and crying that she couldn't kick me out, she didn't have a place to live. And he was screaming cause how dare I just drop her shit off at his place. I said, sorry but I'm done, got back in the car, drove away and never looked back.
People like this are why I would rather live in a hole in the ground than with other people. I can’t imagine being stuck in that situation for the rest of the lease.
Whole? Hole? 🕳 yes, me too!!
@@starlingswallow yeah my bad I meant hole 😂😂
When I got divorced a woman from work and I decided she would move in and it would be great. Day 2 of her living there her boyfriend moved in. I had explained to her that there was an issue with my bank because of said exhusband but not to worry I was paying all the utilities cash to avoid issues. The apartment was quirky and to keep my room warm enough to exist in you had to put the heat pretty high and then crack a window in the other room. She knew and accepted this when she moved in. She also knew I had 4 cats and there could be no more animals. Within a week of bf moving in he was changing the heat in the middle of the night so I would wake up frozen, literal see your breath, tried calling both my bank and the utilities pretending to be me and left a straight up aggressive note, while I was in the other room, that he wanted a full account of all of my spending, Then he brought home a pair of kittens for her. That was it. I talked to the landlord who I knew really well and let him know I wanted to dump them and needed to break my lease and move to a cheaper place. He was awesome. I gave them 30days notice. They then tried calling him and talking shit and saying I was committing fraud by not paying the utilities (they were paid) and that my cats had trashed the apartment. I had rented 3 other units from him in the past with the same 4 cats, he said he had nothing to do with them and if I said out they best GTFO they had 30 days. I will NEVER have roommates again. Nope. I would rather live in a tiny hovel of an apartment then have to deal with the BS other people rain down.
Should take all the ignorant roommates and put them together. Whenever buddy says(in that goof voice) "asshole kicked me out", don't let them move in. There's a reason why he/she was kicked out. Or the famous "I just need a place for two weeks". You never see housing advocates offering their place for bums like this.
Need a place for two weeks, go to a hostel not my house.
Although I have had friends let me stay at their homes when i got off active duty but i at least cook and clean and help with kids. Not everyone does that unfortunately.
@@loryndabenson2118 You are a rare person, thanks for helping.
@@crushingvanessa3277 it's my pleasure. Those people who let me stay for free are why i am where I am now.
Moved into a flat with two friends and it was an utter midden! The rent was next to nothing, comparatively. We cleaned it up; painted and spruced it up; saved up and we all moved on, after two years.
The landlady - who was a gem - doubled the rent for the tenants who followed us.
So, I would like to thank the skanky, stinking sewer-rats who turned a nice flat into a disgusting 'crack-den'. You saved me a fortune!
After living alone for my undergrad, I am now living with 3 other guys for grad school. I hate it. One of them had their gf move in without telling anyone anything. I gave up on cleaning the kitchen because it's always a mess and I stopped throwing away trash because no one else will do it. They leave their dirty dishes in the sink for weeks and then use my stuff which I wash everytime. Guess we'll see the state of it after I come back from 2 weeks of holiday break. 😐
I suggest you lock your room up with everything you don't want to get dirty...
@@nee_username871 Or stolen/sold for money... not like that hasn't happened before.
Too many roommate horror stories to list. After college when I got my first apartment by myself, I did the Dance of Joy in every room.
Happy Boxing Day, Charlotte!!
Lmfao that sink one hit TOO CLOSE!! Literally left Friday afternoon (130pm) and then came back Saturday night (6pm) came home to a full sink with egg residue on the spatula, two forks, and Two plates..( I’m allergic to them and cats) and now we have fruit flies ALL AFTER I ( me, myself and I) washed all dishes, dusted, swept, vacuumed and mopped 4 times (hot water last two times). LOL.
I had a flatmate who got sacked from her job at a pub for drinking too much. She spent her last pay on a CASE of 24 beers, sausages and onions....then couldn't pay her rent. I paid it but said I would need the money returned by the Monday and I would be telling all the other people involved because it wasn't acceptable.
I invited a friend over at the time she was due to pay, and she angrily flung the money at me.
We told her she had to move out the following week after discussing her attitude. She was shocked. She was 21 years old and a chronic alcoholic.
1:09 My respect for you has shot through the roof after using 'The IT Crowd' clip! Well played, Charlotte, well played.
🤣 your videos are a treat! Thanks for constantly making me laugh!
I love Charlotte and her way of saying things straight out loud! 🤣🙈❤ "you're an adult, take responsebility!" 😂😂😂😂
Just in time! I grabbed a coffee and now it's time for my daily Charlotte therapy session.
I just recently discovered you and I bingewatch all of your videos! Love you so much
I've had so many bad roommate experiences. One of my current roommates rinses out their "recycling" and leaves it in the sink. Basically, our sink is full of trash mixes with dishes. Whenever I empty the sink to fill the dishwasher, I throw out the trash. I have ADHD and depression, so I know how difficult executive dysfunction is, but...seriously
I get rinsing out the recycling, I do the same so we don't have bugs crawling around in the recycling, but put it in the recycling once you're done rinsing. That's all part of the same chore.
Ugh it's getting to be i can't hear the word "recycling" without getting irritated. Upon moving in my roommate insisted we have a separate recycling bin that she would just throw in her car and take to the recycling center across the street from her work. She does take it...sometimes...once every 2 months or so... most of the time it's in a huge pile that I eventually get sick of and throw away. Drives me nuts but other than that she's actually great to live with.
@@katedevlin9425 here in Finland recycling is so easy bc it is mandatory to have recycling bins in every apartments yard. Like we have paper, card box, metal, glass, bio and plastic. And we recycle all most 100% all our bottles and soda cans too (I recall it´s like 98%) ,because there is this little money deposit on every returnable bottle /soda can. It helps a lot that you don´t have to get your s*it and drive any where else for recycling. And it should be easy bc we people are lazy as f* :D
Clean before and after messing with raw meat of any kind! Imagine the bacteria from the meal prepared there before. That counter made me wanna skip dinner 😂
Miscommunication between roommates happens a lot, but cleaning / distribution of chores need to be sorted out from the start. Otherwise, one person will end up being the parent.
Like me, EVEN when in a walker recovering from surgery! Or else place would be filthy and I worried about germs, bacteria, viruses etc. with healing from one surgery (hip replacement 1), breaking femur, then hip on other side which needed a replacement ANYWAY but not so fast.
Hope everyone is having an amazing christmas. I wish for the new year the end of this pandemic, lots of love and success for all of us.
And this Channel deserves one million subscribers. At least...lol
❤️🎄
I went further and moved to a different country to live with friends and two years later we're no longer friends and I ended up moving with another friend who I barely knew and ended up being the best housemate I've ever had, so I wasted almost a year and a half trying to keep others happy but myself. Something we do is that we split payment on almost everything we buy, whenever I decide to move out I'll just get my half of what I paid for those things.
The only time I've had a roommate was when I was in the USAF and lived in the barracks, so no choice there. Sloppy, pig pen people. One had foot odor so bad I had to leave whenever he took off his boots. Once I made enough rank (money) I moved off base and NEVER looked back. I would live on the street rather than ever getting a roommate again!!
Best take away from Charlotte ; “Be a grown ass adult and pay for it , make it happen ! “ 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Charlotte, this was quite a collection! For the brief time I had someone staying in my house, she cost me money up one side and down the other. She didn't want to take the soiled litter from the cat box out to the garage, so she thought she'd pour it down the toilet. Do you know how much plumbers charge to come out and remove a toilet & snake the line on a Sunday? Another time, she got pi**ed off because the edge of the lineoleum at the doorway to the laundry room had curled up, and rather than put some vinyl adhesive on it and weight it down, she got 2" construction staples and hammered them through the flooring, the subfloor, and into the tubing that carries hot water around to warm the floors. Yep - another huge plumbing/HVAC bill. When she was packing to move out, I noticed my favorite cast iron skillet missing. I went hunting around and found she had secreted it away in one of the drawers of an armoir (mine) in the family room. The weight of it had broken the bottom of the drawer so it was difficult to open and close. Clearly she had intended taking it with her on moving day. To say I rejoice in living alone is an understatement.
I have had roommates who would cook something & leave their dishes & pans in the sink for WEEKS. I didn't wanna clean up after them, so I left it there.
Not only that, a roommate that I shared a bathroom with would say that I leave the bathroom a mess, when I really didn't.
The icing on the cake was the driveway battles. We had spots for four cars, two in the garage & two in the driveway. They'd tell me to park in the street to which I replied I'd get towed if I did that. They said it wasn't their problem. Heck one roommate, literally said she'd tow me out of the driveway. Fun fact, all the bills were in MY NAME!
My college roommate thought I was her only friend and assumed that meant she was mine…when she learned otherwise girl lost her mind.
Sooooo. She locked me out of my room. She stalked me after I moved out, destroyed everything I owned, smashed my TV, and turned in 3 assignments + a at home exam before I could even start them. Got away with all of it because her daddy was one step away from governor of our state. Was so fun.
The main thing I learnt was to never live with friends.
Moved in with my bestie, and she got a boyfriend, didn't like him and had the rule that he wasn't at the house without her. They broke that so fast, their rule was that
The dogs weren't allowed inside with supervision. They broke that and when one of them destroyed the remote she tried to blame me.
I may have had depression, but I followed our agreed upon rules, and she tried to always blame me.
Lesson learnt: never live with friends
I'm pushing 60. I've learned. Cat gives "conditional" love. (Feed me,clean litter box, pet me when I say). Huh, best roommate EVER. 🙀😺
You make videos 24/7 when do you sleep 😭😭 thank you for entertaining me, the boyfriend and the two pups!
Sticks tongue out “wñahlahlahblaahlahlah” 🤪
We had a Roommate From Hell in 2020 of all years to have one. He smoked in his room (we specifically told him no smoking in the apartment), always had random women over (pretty much had two roommates most of the year where one stayed for free), and he was feeding these women with the groceries I bought (I was ready to fight this dude over some chicken nuggets)! I felt bad for my fiancé because he finally got to witness a new level of hellish rage that my 5'0" gremlin spirit was able to release against that crap of a roommate. My fiancé told me that our roommate was terrified to ask me for anything after that night. The best part about crawling out of 2020 and moving back to our home state in early 2021 was finally getting rid of that dude!
Me to my fiancé - "NO MORE ROOMMATES!!!"
when charlotte screamed at the 6 dead rats, i started to laugh with asthma..
I lived with my bff right after we got of HS. We went to college together and she was just the dirtiest person I've ever met.
I guess her mom would clean when she lived with her because she would not move to help me clean our apartment. I ended up usually just having to beg her to help me. I was going to school for 18 hours, went to work 8 hours a day, and then came back and had to clean up the mess she'd make during the day because she would not help 🙃
Fist and last time I've ever talked/lived with her and I feel so sorry for whoever ends up with her.
In first year of college, I shared /rented a room with 8 others. It was interesting and chaotic at the same time. I was pondering of moving to a new boarding house after 3 months until one day, after classes, I went straight to home only to discover a used feminine napkin on my bed. I was shocked and speechless for a few minutes. When that wore off, I was disgusted. I left the boarding house as soon as I found a new place.
In 2nd year of college, I rented a bed in a boarding house and there were 4 beds in a room. 3 of us are neat and the 4th, "Z" was not messy but she leaves her shoes everywhere. One time, she left her new & unused sandals on top of my study desk. She picks it up when you ask her to but won't if no one tells her to. One of our roommate "A" was fed up with her and the constant reminder to keep her shoes in her space. The last draw was when she left it in the middle of the room and was muddy. I saw A pick up the shoes by the laces, swing it over her head like a cowboy then threw the shoes against the wall then shoes dropped down on the bed of Z. Mud was on the wall and the sheets on the bed. Of course, both had a very loud argument and Z had to leave. Afterwards, A talked to us and explained that she's ocd about cleanliness and 6 months of seeing the shoes out of its place left her stressed. 6 months was the longest she could take it.
After college, I enrolled for a 2 week class for cocktail mixing. They rented out rooms for students but you have to share it with 3 others. My boyfriend dropped me off the site and asked the lady guard if it was OK if he can bring my huge bag to the room and she said it was OK. When we opened the door, there were 3 women inside. The 2 were the same age as I (sewing class) while the other one was 15 years older than me (she was taking classes on automatic maintenance) . The first week with the older lady was hell. She felt like a boss and kept telling us what she didn't like in us like how long we use the bathroom or what time we use the bathroom. It's like she wanted us to adjust to her schedule. I didn't care. I said "first come first serve". I said wake up earlier if she wanted to use the bathroom first. She hated that the other boarder was eating chips in the room or that they talk too much at 7pm. She said they were too loud. She also hated that I set my alarm at 7am. My classes starts at 8am. We tried to ignore her for as long as we can by not talking to her for obvious reasons. Apparently, that made her even more mad. One time I was studying, she decided to set her alarm at the loudest volume non stop. So I yelled at her to stop it. I said, if you got a problem with me, talk to me or come at me. That's when we realize she was a coward. She turned off the alarm then slinked into her bed without looking at me. The next day, I said hi to the lady guard on my way to class. The lady guard was apprehensive at first then decided to tell me something. Apparently, the older roommate was always reporting all our "offenses" to the lady guard. She Even reported the part where my bf brought the luggage to our room and that was the first day. The lady guard was asking if I threatened her because that's what she told the lady guard. I said, "no, I just gave her options". Told her the story and she understood. The 3 other boarders classes last for 3 months. I left after 2 weeks but I kept in touch with the 2 boarders. They said they didn't like how the other boarder treated me so they got even for me. The older hangs her underwear to dry in the bathroom. Everytime she hangs a new underwear, they apparently dunk the underwear in the toilet or use it as a rag to wipe the toilet. They said they've been doing it for a month and they plan to do it till their last day of their stay. I said, you do what makes you happy and just laughed.
Yeah, I never shared a space with another roommate after that. It's not worth to deal with difficult people to save a few money for rent. Unless you really have no choice, I wouldn't recommend sharing a rental space with anyone.
"Charlotte getting triggered for almost 12 minutes" should be the title of this video. 🤣
Anytime I think about the expenses of paying rent & other bills by myself, I hear stories like these & instantly feel better about living alone 😋
Something I WISH I knew when I was younger (in my twenties or whenever). These experiences, though perhaps not traumatic as such, do COMPOUND in life. So the next time you experience something similar, you experience the psychological effects of not just the one happening but also the Ines before and so on it goes. Until you reach a stage of experiencing the effects of 10 of these things when 1 is actually happening later in life. Later in life you have also a fraction of the energy to deal with these things. So my STRONG advice is, don't put up with sh*t because it seems easier than just moving or getting rid of someone because, at the time it seems to be the easier thing to do. The consequences long term will be waaaay worse. Just get ahead and do the smart thing while you are young and get those toxic people OUT of your life asap! Please! I WISH I'd known this earlier in my life. Learn from my mistakes.
Seriously. I said in another comment that I've had so many bad roommate experiences. It's easier to notice the red flags now. I even lived in a co-op where we had to have weekly meetings and interviews to vet new people. Even then, toxic people slipped through because "they were having a hard time."
I'm no longer in a co-op. My current toxic roommate said that they wanted someone to be direct with them when there was an issue. Every time I am, they implode/explode. (Like hit themselves and yell.) I just want to move out every time. I can't afford it.
Their former roommates were super passive aggressive...i wonder why.
my rules with having a roommate when i get one:
1. dont break any of my stuff please (that are probably expensive)
2. tell me when there is a party in our room so i can know
3 help clean dishes
4. dont be a roommate from hell
My one roommate experience was awesome! She was a clean freak and I worked harder to keep the common spaces clean so she would be more comfortable. She was happy and I got better at cleaning! Then I got married and had kids 😑😑😑
My roommates have taken years off my life. I just know it. They left dishes and trash everywhere, even knowing I had recently broken both my hands and I had told them I'll do my own but I'm buying us a dishwasher because hand washing is very painful for me. So naturally they refused to wash their own dishes for two and a half years and after I blew up crying about it two years in to one of them, they all claimed they had no idea it was bothering me and I should have just told told them to, doling chores out like their mother I GUESS, but then the excuse became that my being so tense and upset about doing everybody else's dishes while in pain (while my employer was also ignoring my doctor's notes and causing even more pain) that 'I PUT THEM IN A BAD MOOD' and that made it harder for them to function. They barely even saw me because I worked ALL the time (even while they were unemployed they wouldn't clean) so they may have heard me walking above them but I don't stomp so idk how they claim to know I was upset when they just said they had no idea I was upset and should've told them sooner 🤦 so I'm the ass hole..... For cleaning up after them without a frown or an unkind word for two years. And I shared my weed with those dicks. Never again.
Note to self: do not, ever, never watch Charlotte's videos while eating...
How come?
I was so broke a couple of times during a rough year financially. I was working, but my job would sometimes take 8 weeks to pay me so I would be scrambling to pay my bills. I had to choose between groceries and paying rent a couple times. One week I literally only ate a loaf of bread for all my meals. My roommates noticed my cupboard was empty and offered to share their food until I got paid. I made up for it later and bought them groceries to make up for it when I got money. They were awesome roommates. These roommates also cleaned!
I had roommates who pulled me through a tough mental health situation. Those people are gold, and they probably don't even realise how big a difference they made 💜
I had a messy roommate. She had a special skill of using every single clean dish possible to make one meal and not cleaning up after herself.
One day I came home to find to my surprise the kitchen looked clean for once! Keyword: Looked. Imagine my disappointment when I find dirty dishes in the cupboard and trash in the dishwasher (and not, you know, the garbage can). When I asked why she said she had friends coming over and wanted the place to look nice so she hid the mess. SMH
Nope, I would of chose violence.
7:09 I love your editor!!!! I literally died from laugher to your reaction + editing
I can relate to you Char. A while back I was washing clothes and my younger brother then proceeded to take my clothes out of the washer and dryer then put everything on the floor. I was beyond pissed. Later on he left and I proceeded to put crayons in every pants pocket that he had in the dryer and turned on the dryer. It was funny to see him try and put things in his pocket as they were melted together. #badroommate #pettygoddess.
While it's a terrible thing to do, damn! I like it! That was awesome revenge. But did he learn from it?
I've had multiple flat mates leave piles of dirty dishes in the kitchen. The solution of picking up all their dirty shit and leaving it in a pile outside their bedroom door for them to unknowingly step in/trip over when they come out usually worked quite well
I had soo many bad roommates! The top two were these two girls one threatened to punch me in the face if I touched her stuff and accused me of abusing my dog and the other never cleaned. She dyed her hair in a carpeted room when she was less than 2 feet from the tile kitchen. She left her dishes in the sink for over a month when she did decide to leave nasty food water in the sink for a week until I had to stick my hand is foul smelling water and let it out. She wasn't very happy when I decided throw her dishes away!
Another great video Charlotte! I'm sorry that topic of roommates always pull out your roomie PTSD and despite that you keep us entertained anyway.
You're such a sweetheart . Have awesome end of the year! ❤️
Happy Holidays!
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That garbage one....
It truly burns my biscuits when people see a obviously FULL garbage can and puts MORE garbage in it! Stop being freaking lazy and take it out instead of waiting for someone else to do it!
Had a roommate who was passive aggressive and a bully, and another who never cleaned up her mess after cooking, trimming her boyfriend's hair, left the lights on ALL THE TIME, would never take the garbage out and would never clean. and did so many other things. The garbage thing went for most of my roommates except for my last roommate of three months. First time living with roommates was awful and I never want to again.
I am sorry to say that I was in a desperate place mentally and moved into the grossest situation of a house that was a former meth user’s and the brother wasn’t much better (he was my roommate along with 2 others who had roomed with him before). They left old dog shit everywhere in the house. I lived there for two months and when he threatened my life and my family’s life after a night of drinking and gambling away the rent money I gave him, I called the police and my parents who lived in town, and moved out in under 2 hours. There was still dog shit piles in the sun room the day I left. The other two roomies were female and male, and neither cared about him threatening my life because they had lived with him before. They also didn’t care about the shit and cockroaches either, and used my nice dishes and never washed them after we all were told ‘house rules’..I was the only one who wanted them followed.
A dark place in time for me. And the police never followed up with me after that day even though they said they would. I spent the next year with my head on a swivel in case that asshole ambushed me at work or my parents’ house. I still say F**k you to him and the two roomies every time I think of them.
I am sorry. Living in a place for ppl with mental &/or physical issues. Had to clean up while in walker or it did n't get done. Found out roomie J playing roomie D and I against each other saying the OTHER one was a thief. Roomie J (who gets dangerous past a certain point of anger) away for Christmas , D & I talked a LOT & found all this out. I posted a long thing above. Christmas was awful-I treated J like a little sis & she was stealing from me, stealing from D and blaming it on me, I mean, EVERYTHING she thought I wouldn't notice because I was at my then-BFs. Found out Christmas Day HE had moved on and no hope of reconciliation, like we used to get back together after a break-up. Waiting for J to return. Gotta get better and get the f out of here and back to a normal life. D and I have to get J out of here by telling the Agency what has happened, and J NOW, finally, needs to move to a higher level of care
I had a roommate from hell and still haven't gotten over it 30 years later. She was a terrible human being with an even worse boyfriend.
Lol i played this video soo loud because everything Charlotte said about "just pick it up", "be an adult", etc., just hit on point for me!!! I say these to my 31 yr old bf every single day. He is absolutely disgusting. Literally we fight about this ALLLL the time... irresponsible, gross, disrespectful.
Dump him ... unless you are going to only a housewife and not work ... because he will not change , and will expect you to work all day a+d. Then come home and do all the housework also... because housework is women's work .. ** your doing it now **
Dump his ass. He is 31, this is him adulting.
If you don't mind me asking...why do you put up with it?
break up. why are you still with him
You need a new bf.
Before Chad and I got married, we shared a three bedroom apartment with four other people. We paid our part of the rent every month and for a few months everything was fine. Then we came home one day to find an eviction notice on the door. Things were straightened out that time, but it happened again the following month. Since we had proof we had paid our part, Chad and I called the landlord and showed him. He let the two of us out of the lease and we moved out before the others knew that. We haven't had roommates since and I couldn't be happier! They had also left food out all the time and other than our room the place was disgusting. I was so happy to get out of there.
Charlotte has really been through some hideous experiences in her life . 🤔 . Happy that she never has go through this situation again . I stayed with a group only for the first 1 year when I was in a new city . After that , took an affordable place about 2 hours from my workplace . The up and down travel was bearable compared to my ex- roommates .
Wow , when a 4 hour commute is better than roommates ... they're bad .. Wow, really bad ... sorry
@@creativetamara1326 we were all single 22-25 year old males who had come to a new city . The first burst of freedom from living with our families and all of us (including me shamefully ) took to enjoying as if there was no tomorrow . Imagine compressing all the wild things you do in college and afterwards into 1 year of madness . I still shudder about it even though it has been more than a decade . Afterwards never a roommate . I can at least sleep on the bus and come home to a clean house not smelling of vomit , piss and worse .
two of my roommates in college last year moved out after the fall semester and left a bunch of trash in the common room for me and my other roommate that stayed to clean up.
Live in the smallest closet if possible, as long as it’s alone!
Same here.
Love the I.T Crowd edit! 😂 My favourite scene from the show
Thank you for this post, Charlotte! My roommate from hell was - at that time - the ex girlfriend of my boyfriend. Yes, I agreed for her to live with us temporarily, short story she said “she had a break in.” My then BF took pity and soon realized that the break in was probably one of the many men she met on Craigslist. Different man every night! Fearing for my safety - I quickly moved out. This saga didn’t end here… I also walked in on her and my then BF taking a shower together. Traumatizing.
What made you agree to have the ex move in in the first place.. I'm sorry but the quote "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me" fits you perfectly you sound like a pushover. Pls don't let people take advantage of you like that ever again.
@@yuria2175 she was being a nice person...and she let her live with them once, and she moved out.. None of what you said was right or even necessary.
I swear, you could do a whole video with just the "looks" you give to situations! Your eyes speak volumes! Keep up the AMAZING videos!
I once rented a room out in my house and it specified in the lease that there is an additional $50 a month fee for maid services. I gave my roomies a chance to have the fees dropped if they'd keep the house to my standard. Three months in and they have stopped complaining about the fees because they didn't even know you have to take apart lighting fixtures to clean them, scrub baseboards, dust behind furniture, or wash trash cans regularly. People these days, I swear!
Wait, what? You expect people to routinely disassemble electrical fixtures? The most cleanly person I know washes baseboards once or twice a year.
You sound like a nightmare to live with. I just make sure my roommate never leaves dishes in the sink and empties the dryer lint and I thought I was strict.
@@isaT No. Only people who want to be allowed to force others to live in their filth have a problem with someone enforcing cleanliness standards. If they don't like it they can go live in a pig sty with the other pigs.
@@KillAudioLove How, pray tell, do you "make" them? You're not their mom and you shouldn't be treating them like children.
Thank you for uploading so regularly especially during the holidays. I look forward to your videos everyday. I already binged watched your entire RUclips library so you uploading daily makes me so happy.
Back for my dose of positive mood boost. Charlotte and #tatertots, I hope you had a wonderful Christmas and Holiday. 🌞❤
Amen to that Sister!😘 How are you my friend! 🥰🥔👑
@@MamaPinks, Hello there, friend❣So nice to see you again. I'm not so great, but I'm getting through it. I miss chatting with you. I hope you're doing great. 🤗❤🌞
@@Trista072 I'm doing pretty good. Bad leg days the past couple, but they've been doing great the last couple of weeks! Miss you too my friend. Have you heard from Gay Danger Noodle? I hope he's/she's well!
Hi Trista. Trust you had an awesome Xmas with family and friends. Hope 2022 is better for all of us 🌈 All hail our Potato Queen!
@@tanyabreet5081, Thank you. Very well said. I did. So wonderful to see missed family members. Hope yours was amazing, too. All Hail Charlotte!! ❤
I learned so MUCH about learning how to communicate and set healthy, understandable boundaries when I had roommates.
And Charlotte, I am sorry to say that I was guilty of only washing my dishes at one point.
I would highly recommend for everyone to live with roommates at some point in their life. You learn so much.
I could write PAGES about one roommate I had...
Literally. Pages.
And, he was there less than 2 months.
Never, ever met someone so entitled, selfish, passive aggressive...
He once told me his "brother tried to drown him" when he was yonger.
By the end, I was on his brother's side.
Love starting each day with the amazing Charlotte Dobre!!!
I'd trade any of these roommates for the one who started doing cocaine and among other things smashed the TV (originally his so fine), ripped my bedroom door off the hinges and punched me in the face all over the course of the month I had already put in my 30 day notice to leave.
My roommate went home for a month and I did all the laundry she left including her towels, bedsheet and pillow case just so she'll come back with clean sheets and all. She didn't ask me to do it as well. I do it whenever she's leaving at least a week or more because she works too much
I do the same but when one of my two roommates has cancer and is in the hospital for 10 days at a clip.
Ohh I relate to all of these so much! Probably why I am such a clean freak. I cringed at a lot of these, I think the best was the rats in the fridge, even after the snake passed away. 🤣 I think Charlotte died a little. Congratulations on hitting 750k Subscribers, and almost 500k on your FB page. I hope everyone had a great Christmas and has a great Sunday!!!
It wasnt after the snake died lol. There never was a snake. It was her dead pet rats 🤮😂
@@janasmith1682 🤦🏻♂️ My bad, that makes it even worse. I get it if you are going to bury them, but that's why you have a separate freezer. They do not belong with your food.
That's some real horror-show level crap right there! I couldn't sleep in the same house with a person who thinks putting dead pets in the fridge is okay. How hard is it to just bury the things???
We consider our pets to be family and have a pet cemetary on our property (it's a 20 acre ranch, so there's a horse, several goats, cats, dogs...)
When my son's beloved kitty died in his arms, he was unconsolable. We had a memorial service for his best friend of 17 years. He put his body in my favorite antique 1940s Samsonite suitcase for burial, an antique worth over $100. Although I was cringing on the inside, I shut the hell up and told him it was a good choice, and also gave him a nice soft blanket to wrap Puff in. That sweet kitty deserved no less.
My first year of college I had one roommate who said her brothers were going to come down from their hometown and kill me because I accidentally locked her out of the apartment, I thought she had her keys. Another was super religious to the point of saying that I was possessed because I wasn't her religion and if none of my friends were her religion they couldn't come and visit. She'd also leave her dirty dishes in the sink until they molded, didn't flush the toilet, didn't take her garbage out before Christmas break and the whole apartment smelled of I don't even know what. I had to call my other two roommates to get their permission to go into their bedrooms and open the windows to air it out.
Have a wonderful day Potato Queen 👑 I hope your Christmas was good. Stay safe and have an awesome New Year! Hopefully 2022 is better than 2020/2021❤️ I look forward to see what you have in store for us this coming year
Also... every time I hear ridiculous...I say it as the spell from Harry Potter too lol.... love it
I had a horrible roommate I grew up with and she let me move in. Little did I know she was doing drugs and came after me with a knife one night when we got into a disagreement, and my first reaction was to grab the knife and throw it, then beat her ass. She then put a restraining order on me and kept all my belongings. 🤦🏼♀️
That thing full of food and garbage was a closet. Lol.